Your video struck a chord(in a good way). I was 12 when I started being 'active' in adult scenarios. Talking inappropriately, sharing photos, and generally acting how i thought adults did. How tv told me romance was. And everyone who witnessed it turned a blind eye to it. Hell, one of my middle school friends thought it was COOL that i had an 18-19 year old boyfriend. The guy had had a moment where he went 'this is wrong', but i convinced him it was okay. That I was old enough and 8 years isn't really that big of an age gap. And he listened, and we continued. And I was convinced I was in love because he was older than me and he was cool and he knew everything. I was pissed when one of my other friends told on me and my parents took away my phone. They never told me why it was bad or anything, but they told me that i can't be doing that and it was wrong. My father told me I should have known better. And I was angry because they didn't understand. I continued to have experiences where people(up to 35 years old when i was like 13) would talk to me sexually. I was 15 or 16 when a snapchat person threatened to leak my photos to my entire school, and when I told my dad, he told me it was my fault. That I should know better and that we've been through this before. But looking back, now at 19 , it wasn't my fault. None of it was. I was 12 and I looked up to those people and they took advantage of it. I shouldn't have had to see or do the things I did, and it has messed me up for a long time. Even now, I have trouble figuring out issues related to age gaps. I guess what I'm saying is I get what you mean. At that age, having people that are older than you shower you with praise and say that they care, it's like the best thing. You feel special. And they know that and they use it to get what they want. It isn't your fault. It was NEVER your fault. You were a child and you trusted them, and that trust was violated and used against you.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm not going to say anything about healing because I personally don't believe that trauma can ever be healed, but I wish you happiness. You're very brave for speaking out.
Hey, i'm so sorry for what you've been through, i'm so glad to know other people are coming together to share their experiences. Honestly, i wish someone would have said these things to me when i was engaging in troublesome and explicit chats online, around the same exact age as you. To all victims, quit before it gets worse, you will always find a helping hand out there, you're never alone.
hey, it’s not your fault. from one victim to another, you just wanted someone to pay attention to you. i was groomed by a family member my entire life up until now, i didn’t have anyone but them, they were the only one who cared about me, and we all want someone to care about us. you didn’t deserve this, thank you for sharing your story. (i’ll be subbing :3)
My mother was raped as a child. Though I am not a victim of r@pe, I completely understand where your coming from. I also knew Someone younger than me that was in the same side of the internet as you were, they thought those things were ok as well. (They were a proshipper, but a minor) I was friends with them because I wanted to understand them better, to understand “well, why do they even have this mindset?” I eventually landed in the same hellhole, but I found the fanfics they sent me comical and dumb, and also uncomfortable and weird. I hope their ok still. It’s not their fault in any way. I am the same age as you (15), and what you went through is fucking insane, it’s insane that people have this mindset that it’s ok for people to groom and exploit minors. It’s insane that they gave that mindset to YOU. No one deserves this, no matter what you’ve done, and I hope the world heals soon. Thank you so much for spreading this message. 🫶🫶 sending love, blessed be.
As a victim of grooming I understand that it is hard to not blame yourself. I was 12 when I was introduced into this kind of stuff. I was caught by my sibling and instead of helping me and treating me like a victim they hurt me and blamed me and said it was my own fault and now I can't even see the good in people. I'm now 16 and from the age of 12 to 15 I was in multiple relationships with people from thr ages if 16 to 57. These men and women groomed me and gave me lots of attention and praise. This led me to failing in multiple classes at school and neglecting myself. I never told people what happened to me. I was forced to send pictures and videos that they used to blackmail me over and over again. I had a man stalk me when I was 13 and he tried to kidnapped me but he backed off when I was "too old". I had another man buy my things that made me believe that love is nothing but sexual. This is the only positive attention I ever got during this time because my parents were gone all the time and my sibling abused me. I thought this was a healthy outlet at the time but now realizing it I need to run. Thank you for making this and that you shared your personal experience and helped so many others with this.
I’m a survivor myself and I’m about to turn 25, it’s coming up on eight years since I escaped my groomer. I was 16-17 and he was 24-25 throughout our relationship. I hope the years bring you healing and happiness as they brought have me. You are strong and you are brave, thank you for sharing your story. ❤
it breaks my heart into pieces to know how prevalent this still is. i was groomed when i was 11 by an 18 year old and it still affects me at the grown age of 23. i had really hoped things would've gotten better as time passed but it's gotten so much worse. i think even now you're being too hard on yourself for this. when you're younger it's easy to view things in black and white but even after the intervention when you continued contacting this person, it wasn't as though this curse was lifted and yet you chose to go back. you've spent so much time with this person and wanted to believe they want the best for you and after theyve given you more attention and "love" than those people, you cut them way more slack than they deserved. it's still not your fault, you were being manipulated. i'm glad you got out. you're thoughtful, well-spoken, and a very talented artist. i wish you the best as you move forward. i promise life doesn't end after being groomed. it's hard, but it's more than possible, and i know you have a bright future ahead of you :)
im not much of a commenter on vids but from one victim to another, you are not alone. it literally breaks my heart to know that people have and still are experiencing these awful things, my heart goes out to you and all of those who have suffered at the hands of literal filth. please dont ever blame yourself for the horrible actions of other people who are intentionally doing malicious things. hearing the hurt and pain in your voice absolutely breaks me. i was 12 with a 28 year old, your pain is unfortunately known. though you dont know me, i am here for you. please don't be harsh on yourself and i hope you're in a better situation now and are healing well.
I was groomed by a 20-something year old when I was 13... we met in a Pokemon facebook group... I was a kid who had just gotten Pokemon X and this grown man thought it was okay to flirt with. I knew no better. I was a kid. And I only got out of the """relationship""" when I was 17. *It wasn't our fault...* gross adults like this will mess up someone's life forever, and it is NEVER the child's fault. You're not alone...
this really touched my heart since I was almost a victim of grooming. it’s awful I felt so scared and alone but growing up in this generation I always open up to my parents about everything and they helped me through it.
Thank you for sharing, must be hard to speak about this experience. Don’t blame yourself, you where a only a child, a victim. Stuff like that can really linger. It is scary how accessible internet has made it for predators to get in contact with children. And any adult that did this to child, only deserves the worst.. I hope you are doing good nowadays and best wishes for you. 💛
This is in no way your fault. You can’t be blamed at all, you were groomed by disgusting grown adults who know it’s wrong but CHOOSE to continue. This goes for ALL victims, you should never feel guilty, the perpetrators are disgusting and vile. I hope you can get the support you need and can heal. You are a good person, deserving of real love from people who genuinely care about you.
I’m a victim of Online grooming, which I’m not sure is the same as in person grooming so I’m not sure how much validity I have in this compared to other commenters…but, the video title really spoke out to me, and I’m sorry for your experience.. those adults who did such horrible things are at fault not you. After being groomed there is so many long term effects you just can’t get away from for years and it’s Terrifying… it’s almost like the groomer programed a system into you you can’t break away from, hypersexuality being the most commonly talked about.
As a 15 y/o grooming victim myself, this video has struck a chord with me in a way that not even other videos discussing this topic have. My only regret after watching this was that I did not watch it sooner. Thank you Cassidy.
Please don’t blame yourself, it’s not your fault at all. You are brave to share your experience and so is everyone in this comment section. I pray for you be at peace and pray that those disgusting people can burn away. No one should have to go through this, and again you are very very brave to be able to talk about this as not many are able to but I’m proud of you and others be able too. I hope you have a good rest of your day or night! I wish the best.
jesus man, i know weve talked a bit about this before but i had no idea it went that deep please dont put any of the blame on yourself though, its not your fault- none of it is im sorry i was so late to get to this, and im sorry i dont have anything else to say that hasnt been said a million times better by anyone else here but i got your back, bro im always here for whenever you need to talk
I've listened to your story all the way to the end, what happened to you was not your fault, before I clicked on this video I had only heard of this more commonly happening to young girls but never really contemplated much about what this situation is like for those apart of the LGBT, sharing these things can be very vulnerable and you're so brave for sharing this as it can help to raise awareness and share that we're not alone, I could even hear the passion and regret as you explained --also unrelated but your voice paired with the semi-distorted microphone sounded so atmospheric and sad TuT Sending love and support from Aotearoa New Zealand 💙
i myself am i not a victim, but my sister is, she had contact with a former youtuber, though its been a few months now, i feel guilty that i couldnt help her to escape before it happened
I feel so bad for your sister, just know that she’s lucky to have you, and to please listen to her when she tells you something like that is happening. You shouldn’t put yourself down for this, you didn’t know.
After I exposed him he went onto groom his 15 year old step sister, right now he's not in jail and still grooming her. I hate it, I wish I could step in and save her like I wish someone would step in and save me.
I’m here with you, nobody should go through that. I wish I could be there to help, but for now just imagine me there with you. Hope it goes along way, you know
Your video struck a chord(in a good way). I was 12 when I started being 'active' in adult scenarios. Talking inappropriately, sharing photos, and generally acting how i thought adults did. How tv told me romance was. And everyone who witnessed it turned a blind eye to it. Hell, one of my middle school friends thought it was COOL that i had an 18-19 year old boyfriend. The guy had had a moment where he went 'this is wrong', but i convinced him it was okay. That I was old enough and 8 years isn't really that big of an age gap. And he listened, and we continued. And I was convinced I was in love because he was older than me and he was cool and he knew everything.
I was pissed when one of my other friends told on me and my parents took away my phone. They never told me why it was bad or anything, but they told me that i can't be doing that and it was wrong. My father told me I should have known better. And I was angry because they didn't understand.
I continued to have experiences where people(up to 35 years old when i was like 13) would talk to me sexually. I was 15 or 16 when a snapchat person threatened to leak my photos to my entire school, and when I told my dad, he told me it was my fault. That I should know better and that we've been through this before.
But looking back, now at 19 , it wasn't my fault. None of it was. I was 12 and I looked up to those people and they took advantage of it. I shouldn't have had to see or do the things I did, and it has messed me up for a long time. Even now, I have trouble figuring out issues related to age gaps.
I guess what I'm saying is I get what you mean. At that age, having people that are older than you shower you with praise and say that they care, it's like the best thing. You feel special. And they know that and they use it to get what they want. It isn't your fault. It was NEVER your fault. You were a child and you trusted them, and that trust was violated and used against you.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm not going to say anything about healing because I personally don't believe that trauma can ever be healed, but I wish you happiness. You're very brave for speaking out.
Please don't blame yourself, you were a victim. The blame lies only on those depraved adults and I wish them nothing but the worst.
I hate victim blaming. How could an innocent child protect themselves? Anyone who doesn't blame the adult is very very wrong
Hey, i'm so sorry for what you've been through, i'm so glad to know other people are coming together to share their experiences. Honestly, i wish someone would have said these things to me when i was engaging in troublesome and explicit chats online, around the same exact age as you. To all victims, quit before it gets worse, you will always find a helping hand out there, you're never alone.
hey, it’s not your fault. from one victim to another, you just wanted someone to pay attention to you. i was groomed by a family member my entire life up until now, i didn’t have anyone but them, they were the only one who cared about me, and we all want someone to care about us. you didn’t deserve this, thank you for sharing your story. (i’ll be subbing :3)
As a victim to another, it's not your fault and it never will be.
My mother was raped as a child. Though I am not a victim of r@pe, I completely understand where your coming from. I also knew Someone younger than me that was in the same side of the internet as you were, they thought those things were ok as well. (They were a proshipper, but a minor) I was friends with them because I wanted to understand them better, to understand “well, why do they even have this mindset?” I eventually landed in the same hellhole, but I found the fanfics they sent me comical and dumb, and also uncomfortable and weird. I hope their ok still. It’s not their fault in any way. I am the same age as you (15), and what you went through is fucking insane, it’s insane that people have this mindset that it’s ok for people to groom and exploit minors. It’s insane that they gave that mindset to YOU. No one deserves this, no matter what you’ve done, and I hope the world heals soon. Thank you so much for spreading this message. 🫶🫶 sending love, blessed be.
As a victim of grooming I understand that it is hard to not blame yourself. I was 12 when I was introduced into this kind of stuff. I was caught by my sibling and instead of helping me and treating me like a victim they hurt me and blamed me and said it was my own fault and now I can't even see the good in people. I'm now 16 and from the age of 12 to 15 I was in multiple relationships with people from thr ages if 16 to 57. These men and women groomed me and gave me lots of attention and praise. This led me to failing in multiple classes at school and neglecting myself. I never told people what happened to me. I was forced to send pictures and videos that they used to blackmail me over and over again. I had a man stalk me when I was 13 and he tried to kidnapped me but he backed off when I was "too old". I had another man buy my things that made me believe that love is nothing but sexual. This is the only positive attention I ever got during this time because my parents were gone all the time and my sibling abused me. I thought this was a healthy outlet at the time but now realizing it I need to run. Thank you for making this and that you shared your personal experience and helped so many others with this.
I’m a survivor myself and I’m about to turn 25, it’s coming up on eight years since I escaped my groomer. I was 16-17 and he was 24-25 throughout our relationship. I hope the years bring you healing and happiness as they brought have me. You are strong and you are brave, thank you for sharing your story. ❤
it breaks my heart into pieces to know how prevalent this still is. i was groomed when i was 11 by an 18 year old and it still affects me at the grown age of 23. i had really hoped things would've gotten better as time passed but it's gotten so much worse.
i think even now you're being too hard on yourself for this. when you're younger it's easy to view things in black and white but even after the intervention when you continued contacting this person, it wasn't as though this curse was lifted and yet you chose to go back. you've spent so much time with this person and wanted to believe they want the best for you and after theyve given you more attention and "love" than those people, you cut them way more slack than they deserved. it's still not your fault, you were being manipulated. i'm glad you got out.
you're thoughtful, well-spoken, and a very talented artist. i wish you the best as you move forward. i promise life doesn't end after being groomed. it's hard, but it's more than possible, and i know you have a bright future ahead of you :)
im not much of a commenter on vids but from one victim to another, you are not alone. it literally breaks my heart to know that people have and still are experiencing these awful things, my heart goes out to you and all of those who have suffered at the hands of literal filth. please dont ever blame yourself for the horrible actions of other people who are intentionally doing malicious things. hearing the hurt and pain in your voice absolutely breaks me. i was 12 with a 28 year old, your pain is unfortunately known. though you dont know me, i am here for you. please don't be harsh on yourself and i hope you're in a better situation now and are healing well.
I was groomed by a 20-something year old when I was 13... we met in a Pokemon facebook group... I was a kid who had just gotten Pokemon X and this grown man thought it was okay to flirt with. I knew no better. I was a kid. And I only got out of the """relationship""" when I was 17.
*It wasn't our fault...* gross adults like this will mess up someone's life forever, and it is NEVER the child's fault.
You're not alone...
this really touched my heart since I was almost a victim of grooming. it’s awful I felt so scared and alone but growing up in this generation I always open up to my parents about everything and they helped me through it.
Thank you for sharing, must be hard to speak about this experience. Don’t blame yourself, you where a only a child, a victim. Stuff like that can really linger. It is scary how accessible internet has made it for predators to get in contact with children. And any adult that did this to child, only deserves the worst.. I hope you are doing good nowadays and best wishes for you. 💛
This is in no way your fault. You can’t be blamed at all, you were groomed by disgusting grown adults who know it’s wrong but CHOOSE to continue.
This goes for ALL victims, you should never feel guilty, the perpetrators are disgusting and vile.
I hope you can get the support you need and can heal. You are a good person, deserving of real love from people who genuinely care about you.
I’m a victim of Online grooming, which I’m not sure is the same as in person grooming so I’m not sure how much validity I have in this compared to other commenters…but, the video title really spoke out to me, and I’m sorry for your experience.. those adults who did such horrible things are at fault not you.
After being groomed there is so many long term effects you just can’t get away from for years and it’s Terrifying… it’s almost like the groomer programed a system into you you can’t break away from, hypersexuality being the most commonly talked about.
As a 15 y/o grooming victim myself, this video has struck a chord with me in a way that not even other videos discussing this topic have. My only regret after watching this was that I did not watch it sooner. Thank you Cassidy.
Always here if ya need to talk
I really hope you're okay. You are loved and cared for, i am sorry to hear this has happened to you, don't blame yourself.
Word for word. Thank you for speaking about this cass.
Please don’t blame yourself, it’s not your fault at all. You are brave to share your experience and so is everyone in this comment section. I pray for you be at peace and pray that those disgusting people can burn away. No one should have to go through this, and again you are very very brave to be able to talk about this as not many are able to but I’m proud of you and others be able too. I hope you have a good rest of your day or night! I wish the best.
jesus man, i know weve talked a bit about this before but i had no idea it went that deep
please dont put any of the blame on yourself though, its not your fault- none of it is
im sorry i was so late to get to this, and im sorry i dont have anything else to say that hasnt been said a million times better by anyone else here
but i got your back, bro
im always here for whenever you need to talk
Thanks, brodie
10 and 27:(
I've listened to your story all the way to the end, what happened to you was not your fault, before I clicked on this video I had only heard of this more commonly happening to young girls but never really contemplated much about what this situation is like for those apart of the LGBT, sharing these things can be very vulnerable and you're so brave for sharing this as it can help to raise awareness and share that we're not alone, I could even hear the passion and regret as you explained
--also unrelated but your voice paired with the semi-distorted microphone sounded so atmospheric and sad TuT
Sending love and support from Aotearoa New Zealand 💙
16 and 30 been going on for 2 years didnt finally leave untill i was 18
16 and 43
hey, one victim to another.. It's not your fault and please don't ever blame yourself
i myself am i not a victim, but my sister is, she had contact with a former youtuber, though its been a few months now, i feel guilty that i couldnt help her to escape before it happened
I feel so bad for your sister, just know that she’s lucky to have you, and to please listen to her when she tells you something like that is happening. You shouldn’t put yourself down for this, you didn’t know.
After I exposed him he went onto groom his 15 year old step sister, right now he's not in jail and still grooming her. I hate it, I wish I could step in and save her like I wish someone would step in and save me.
I’m here with you, nobody should go through that. I wish I could be there to help, but for now just imagine me there with you. Hope it goes along way, you know