I know we don't want to struggle financially. We don't want to be alone. But we must step away from people that are dark, dangerous, and detrimental to us.
Ladenna Young ...you have a point. Struggle is not a bad thing if you understand how it can be used to fuel motivation and progress in the right direction.
The males perpertrating these crimes dont need counseling or understanding they need severe consequences. Treat them as if they had assaulted a stranger on tje street.
The problem is when people dont take peoples threats seriously. When someone pulls a gun on you in front of a child they are not playing. It is time to wake up and seek help.
Shelia Scott-Gray I’ve seen that 1st hand with my mom. She was dealing with a man just like that. Who would beat her in front of friends and her children. One day, he came to our house and pull a gun out in her face, in front of her children and others ppl’s children. After that, my mom left and didn’t look back.
A Man Name Solo I’m glad to hear that your mom had enough strength to move on and forward. To not allow a man to only put her life in danger but as well as her children. These situations are life-changing. A woman should always feel protected but a lot of times, we also forget mental illness is real. God protected us all from being another New’s headline!
M Lane Crazy thing is I didn’t see it growing up. Being naive and not thinking someone who claim they love you would really pull the trigger. Thank God he didn’t tho!
My kids father was abusing me the same way. He would call me names, beat on me and l was destroyed and defeated. I knew l didn't deserve it but l was weak and he seemed loud and powerful. I began to think thoughts of death in my head. I found the strength to come up with a escape plan. I took my kids and l left him. I never looked back. As a women who was once abused the 1st thing you do is get away from any contact with the abuser.....make it so that he or she can have no contact with you period.
RAIN DROPS You’re absolutely right. My cousin was doused with gasoline and set on fire by her ex-husband after having on-again, off-again contact with him. She had a five month baby at the time. Abusive men are psychologically broken; beyond repair. Controlling and abusing women is the only thing in life that makes them feel alive and empowered. You must run for your life and permanently server all ties with them.
RAIN DROPS , you are absolutely correct! I am proud of you for finding the courage to take your children and get away. It takes a lot of courage to talk about it privately - to be able to discuss it publicly, you’re a Warrior - no longer a victim. Keep Going!💜
Olivia H It’s sad 😞 You would not understand unless ur in that Situation. I’ve been there but through God’s Grace and Mercy I was saved. May this young Lady rest peacefully😇
Leaving is also dangerous, but necessary. Make sure when you do, you work with experienced domestic violence advocates. There's national hotlines that can direct you to them.
I bet she is the one who came up with the $2k bail money... She probably put her house up. Women (and men) need to learn the warning signs of being groomed by an abusive man (and woman). The grooming or mind control starts long before the physical abuse. LEARN THE SIGNS AND FLEE.
Not available exactly! The stupid mother certainly had A LOT to do with this heinous crime. She enabled him to do harm ! After he pulled out a gun in front of the kids that would have been a tipping point ! I can only imagine how scared the victim was and that’s why I believe she asked her half sister to come over . That wasn’t really to hang out she wanted someone else there . Gosh I wish that sister would have just met up somewhere and went back home . Breaks my heart ❤️ 😢😢😢
Good Music everything is wrong with her!! Trust me she wouldn’t cared if had gunned down the poor young lady in front of her. His birther is most likely the BIGGEST ENABLER to the violence that lead to this senseless deaths . Shame Shame on her ! She raised a Beast!
Let's stop blaming mothers for everything. I think the absent fathers need to share the burden of blame here. How come every time a black man does something, it's blamed on a black woman?
Very sad story... the half sister was an innocent victim... And this is why I don’t go to family or friends house who have drama filled lives and they sure as hell are not allowed at my house!! I act like I’m not home when people pop up without an invitation🙃🙂
And Womb abuse.. I had 11 children at my foster care shelter all from the same mom and dad. The dad didn’t want the mom on birth control and all the children were stair step ages. I didn’t understand why they took the kids when the mom was clearly a victim. She and her children should have been at our domestic violence apartment unit rebuilding their lives away from dad
Suffered from mental and verbal abuse for years, afraid to leave because he supported us financially, and I didn’t have that. He wanted me home to control me.
Ladies....when a man disrespects you and verbally abuses you end the relationship because the hitting will come next...it's an escalation...for the sake of you and your children get out now....you will end up a victim or may end up killing him either way you lose...learn to love yourself first.
That is what I told my sister she is in somalia when she was 7 months pregnant he hit her on the face and now she give birth to her son he is 11 days old and now she is going back with him she is 22 years old sometimes you just can’t help people who are dear to you if they don’t want to listen to you sad world😢
Man😥 I grew up watching my father torture my mom,My father killed himself but my mother lived,that was almost 30 years ago and I'm still affected by it I won't let a man come close me out of fear it may happen to me. prayers to her babies she left behind!
I can relate growing up my dad beat my mom, and me as well it hurts too have black eyes, bruises by your own dad.. I'm 40 and single I can't date because I have anger build up from this. But my heart goes out too this family
im not shock blk men dont respect blk women my own mom was abuse when i was little and im 48 this month and sometimes it still haunts me the bastard died when i was 8 it was the best thing he could ever did
Because they stupid and date them kind of dumb ass men thinking it's cute until they get a gun in their face. He had an extensive record of criminal history and she chose to date him and have his kid. What do women expect from that kind of man.
Toushia Mason I agree. But in some cases they can hide it for years and out of the blue hit or kill you. Now in this case that man shouldn’t have even been out of jail from his last case. I think she was just used to and comfortable with him to go elsewhere which is sad
@@TM-pj7yu funny you say they date this type of man that's why this happens. I just watched a series of documentaries about nice polished successful BLACK businessmen who killed they're girlfriends usually to hide a double life or avoid being dumped. It's dumb to victim shame.
James Mabrie She lied to the judge and asked that he be released to come home. She loved him more than her children. This isn’t new. Judges get sick and tired of women filing paper work, not appearing in court and down playing the facts. She was too young to have so much drama in her life. Where was her mother? What examples of women did she have in her life? I hurt for the children. It’s a cycle of viciousness that continues to repeat.
@@keepthechange1 But the Prosecutor finally admitted that the state needs to quit deciding whether or not to prosecute based on the victim's stance, and prosecute based on the likelihood of him continuing to be a public threat. So the legal system definitely plays its part in perpetuating that cycle too. That judge could have given him no bail, based on his criminal history. The judge said the right things, but made the wrong decision.
@@lql1094 prosecutors get paid by sending ppl to get jail and that bond money go to the courts and the prosecutors nibble for that too, so i wont put much into what they have to say.
I left three days ago. In a year and a halfs time I've been slapped in my face, exploited over social media secretly, I've been abused financially, I've been verbally attacked consistently, I've had black eyes, contacts knocked out of my eyes, I've been chocked repeatedly and sometimes for nothing at all, I've been accused of horrific things like prostitution, I've had guns pressed against me, been hit in my nose, I've had my hair ripped out several times. , I've been accused of intimacy with relatives and Pastors, I've become accustomed to being called out of my name, I've had my home destroyed, I've been hit in my head countless times, I've had my car stolen for extended periods of time, I've had sludge hammers pressed against my face, I've had irons pressed against my face. I've been pushed and held down, I've had food thrown at me, and I've even had foot spit in my face. But three days ago I simply had enough. In a drunken rage he threw a liquor bottle at the windshield and the glass richorcheted off and cut my hands, I was chocked, held at gun point and not allowed to leave the home we shared. Luckily I broke free and he chased after me attempting to break the window with the butt of the gun. I was able to get away. And once I was free I called the police . Soon he'll be in custody. It's a hard process ladies. Because we finally make the decision to choose us over them but we've gotta do it. If we don't this very story could be our fate. Praying for everyone in similar situations
@@Treethickkk everyone has different triggers and different breaking points. Be strategic in your leaving. When they feel like they're losing power or they feel like you're gonna leave they panic and do everything to keep everything to keep you from leaving. Which gets dangerous
@Brittney Berry you are a strong woman so hold you head high. I commend you for leaving cause sometimes it can be hard but be true to your healing process and don't look back. Love yourself, build your confidence and raise your self-esteem. You are not damage goods or broken so lift your head high and stand like the Queen you are. A lot of women would speak on certain things about what they would/wouldn't do but some women stay in relationships cause they need help financially, don't want to be alone, have low self-esteem, seen some of the same things going on in their household growing up or it can be other reasons. Some woman go through the same the thing but are afraid to speak on it. If you know a woman or suspect that she going through Domestic Violence please reach out, be a support or help seek the help a woman needs even if she doesn't want it cause Domestic Violence is real and so are the statics. @Brittney Berry if you need ANY kind of support please reach out to me.
I wish someone had taught me! I was way to forgiving to women who didn’t deserve it an I was harmed in some way every time. Women are just as bad as these men, they’ll even recruit a man to hurt you. Miserable
The red that is so true !! Being with people that have different life choices than you do is never good! I’m so sad these ladies lost their lives. I wish that sister would not have gone to that apartment! Oh Lord!! So so sad
That's crazy, she needed him to help pay bills I would rather live in my childhood bedroom at my parents house with all three of my kids vs going back to a man that pulled a gun out on me. My heart breaks for the kids.
Meme..You Are Sooo Right...She partially set herself up..To be murdered ..The poor little sister, had nothing to do with it.. May they rest in peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️
There are signs of abuse before the actual physical abuse begins. I remember a guy that I was dating told me shut up and I was out. Talk to his ex wife months later and she said that he abused her and her children. My point is, things start off small and then they grow. RIP to these beautiful young ladies.
You’re correct, that’s exactly how it happens. And most women don’t leave when it’s “just” disrespectful. A looong time ago, I left my first marriage because of disrespect (and many people thought I was nuts because he manipulated others into believing he was such a “good guy”) and now he’s in prison for murdering his ex girlfriend. Women need to learn to leave anyone that is disrespectful to them OR others. That is NOT what love looks like and contrary to what many women want to believe, ya can’t “fix them”.
@@The-Oneness11 Me too, I feel so badly for the women that stay and don’t make it out alive OR just as bad, they give themselves a miserable lifetime by staying - thinking that it’s the honorable thing to do. There is nothing honorable about staying in the abuse (even marriage vows are no longer applicable).
Mistake number one , don’t ever go back to what God protected you from. No judgement , in her case it’s understandable. Idk if she actually thought , him grabbing the gun was for jokes & giggles. You don’t get nor do I allow chances with me like that , no exceptions when it comes to violence it always escalates. Rip
It is unfortunate. Most people don't think that person would go that far. Also unfortunately she was worried about being able to pay her bills. We need to pray against this. Judgement is not needed at all.
The judge had it in his power to keep the man in jail without a bond. Inspite of the facts the judge put forth himself, he still gave the msn a bond. The judge erred in doing that. He didn't need the victim's agreement to hold the without bond.
I know this may sound cold, and sorry if I hurt anyones feelings, but this is one of the many reasons why I mind my business. I'll try to help one time, but if you still call, go where that person lives, invite him/her in the house, facetime them, etc., I'm sorry but I'm done. They turn on you. I love you but I'm done.
@@reece1929 its because they suffer from Stockholm syndrome and if you never been in the situation you will never understand. Its hard to leave because thata when things get deadly
They failed to realize the psychological dynamics of domestic violence. As a survior I know the confusion and fear that comes with standing in the courtroom with your abuser. The court should've overwritten her request, DV does something terrible to your mind and she was not speaking from a point of sanity. You often become numb to abusive episodes and want to believe it did not happen or wasn't that bad. Everyone failed these young ladies.
Yep. She normalized what happened. I was with a narcissistic person that was emotionally and psychologically abusive. I didn’t recognize it as abuse until 4 years later when I learned about narcissism.
Ladies, your life is in danger if you keep company with someone who is involved with a man who is a batterer. Separate yourself from them; you can’t help them.
I had to learn this! I would always come to my friends rescue and I would lose sleep worrying about her. She would always go back! I had to cut her off!
TERYA VONTRELL Yes! It took my a very long time to cut her off.... I didn’t even realize how stressful it started becoming for me. I still care about her but I can’t do it.
Wait... so she dropped the charges that allowed him to get away? Then this coward killed himself so that he didn't have to do time for 2 murder charges. Smh...
Eternity with Christ isn’t that the truth!! The nerve of his mother to try and stop her from calling the police. That tells you where that self hate. Anger and disgusting behavior came from . He was damaged long before he met the victim and his mother was likely his BIGGEST Enabler!
Unfortunately our men don't see how much the enemy is using them to kill, steal, and destroy. The devil is a lie. I bind the hand of the enemy in Jesus name. We need to come to ourselves.
That's ridiculous ... this man was of sound mind ... he killed those women ...nobody pushed him...yhere was no enemy but themselves ... Stop making excuses when our black men do these things ...omg
Man i remember being in an abusive relationship...i called the police 12 times in one year...smh. I felt so alone i remember just praying to God for a. Whole hour straight one day...and one day i got the strength to break free...ive been no contact for 2 yrs never looked back...i cnt believe how close i came to death...im so grateful to be loved and saved by God...God bless their souls
Ladies be careful out there. If you want a good man. Check out his mind, see what he's thinking and particularly if he doesn't bring up THE MOST HIGH in his conversations at all. Run!
Sadly, nowadays, these men fake it til they make it. They'll pretend to know & love God. Some of them are so evil. They'll convince you they are your Knight in shining Armor when they're just a nightmare
You are absolutely correct. Had a female that would do whatever I told her but after some time those instant yes became a yes with a slight hesitation. Oh it infuriated me and made me become possessive. Left her alone and stayed single to better myself. More people need to learn to be alone and better themselves before being in a relationship.
This is for every woman and man that reads this comment when people show you who they are believe them been in and out of relationships like this and God always provide a way for me to get out even when I went back God protected me and gave me chance after chance and I thank God for that these men and women that abused people are demonically possessed and they have a mission to kill you I plead the blood of Jesus over all who are sacred and afraid ask you to come out that pit and call upon Jesus name for Deliverance and protecting for you and your children and trun to no man but God for everything you need God is love
He would have eventually gotten out with the light sentences they give for domestic violence cases and would have been even more enraged with her because he's a coward taking out his aggression on a woman. Who show's up with their mom to fight a woman? Her ass should be locked up for being an accessory to the crime. He's a coward
I've had my 2 boyfriend abuse me. The last one that did I began having nightmares, as if God was showing me( I always have had strong intuition) what was to come. I planned my escape. I moved overnight, by the time he got back, he called me threatening my Death. Younger girls don't argue. Plan a escape plan. Don't go on social media, argue in their face. Quietly escape .
African American Men should treat African American Women like Queens treat and them with Love and respect because African American Women has gone through a lot in life.
@@rebekahkissel7629 domestic violence doesn't discriminate no matter what skin the color of the skin or type it's wrong on so many levels. I am a domestic violence counselor. There are judges, police man, doctors and lawyers even fireman and preachers of any race who commit this horrible act
Prayers to the family and friends this is a total mess I wish the judge would have stood on what he was reading in this mans record. Life is so precious and should be taken serious hitting, cursing, yelling, screaming and etc isn't love real love and true love never hurts.. Abuse is never ok because someone always either gets hurt or killed in the process...
Amanda Armstrong awww. Thank you so much. It was very hard for them, and I’m sure it still is. Something you can never get over. And yes, I’d be willing to bet he’s STILL burning in an forever eternal fire!
Stories like this are always complicated. 1. Where are the fathers of the girls? 2. Why do these a lot of women choose these dirty bama type dudes? When women choose these dudes they put their lives,children, and family at risk. But even all of this speaks to a deeper level of issues. Clearly this bama had his own emotional issues and this young girl had her own unresolved issues. People..You have to heal from any issues from your past or you will go through life making bad decisions. It will take God to heal the brokenness within.
You are absolutely right. She was broken and did not know her worth. So probably showed her the kind of love she only know or what she think should be love. In the beginning like with so many cases he was probably very nice, and charming then started to show his true colors. The problem is, is that women dont take it seriously when they are threatened, or some feel like they have the strength to fight them off and you dont. Once they get locked up you go seek help from a domestic violence program and they can help you move and everything, they also have counseling for women to help you see where you are going wrong. They were both so young and he felt he had the right to take their lives, which is so damn selfish and he threw his life away also.
I'm a survivor of being in a domestic violence relationship I was in a 10year relationship. I came to the breaking point I got out and never look back.
This is so sad. Two beautiful ladies dead. Women teach your sons to walk away. Mother’s teach your daughter their value and how to spot the signs of abuse. Lady please never tell a man you’re leaving. Because it always leads to something horrible. If a man hits you he will kill you.
The problem is that these men think they can put their hands on a woman...they do not have the right to put their hands on a woman ..I don't care what she does and he deserves to be in jail the rest of his live. Period...
I live in Maryland and everyone who heard about this sad case were horrified. A victim always says let them come home. Their conditioned to always do what's best for their abuser not themselves so it's up to the courts to not listen to their opinion on whether the abuser should come home or not. Put them in jail!!!!!
He pulled a bone the first time and I live you don't get a second. Yes I'm scared and take it very seriously. No thug love or money worth my life and child.
Domestic violence must be removed from our vocabulary. Call it what it is. Felony assault or attempted murder and murder. The term domestic violence is conjures.up a small slap or a shove which isnt taken seriously. Men can get away with more evil.
I was a witness to a situation like this. I was an innocent sister home from college 18 years ago, visiting my sister. Her child's father showed up with threats. I called the cops. Her children's father shot her several times, killed the cop, tried to kill me and ultimately killed himself. God blessed me to not be physically harmed that day. Til this day, it hurts. Women need to learn to be strong to leave these men and take those threats and abuse seriously!
This is so so sad. It’s so important to recognize the signs of crazy and not to be afraid to walk away. I am still haunted by a man I dated almost 20 years ago. He threatened my life, had someone jump me and he stalked me, followed me , kept calling me. I was so young and I didn’t know what to do. I filed a report but that’s all I could do until he actually did something. When he found me on Facebook some years ago , I freaked completely out. No one should have to go through this. Again, recognize the signs and leave.
I don't mean to sound insensitive I really do not, but the victim was playing with fire ! I hate it when women look past certain disturbing behaviors, cause this is usally the result sadly.
Self-Love 1st and Choose Kind People with Integrity. Be In God and allow God to be your bestest Friend. Only be around people who truly Love, Respect, and mean you well❤
That was probably the case. He probably treated her that way during the honeymoon phase which can last up to a year. It usually starts with Love, Respect and Trust and then it they take each away one by one.
I work emergency 911 dispatch. Ladies, you have no idea how common domestic homicide truly is. Maybe you already know it’s pretty common, but you don’t even know HOW common. Be safe, be vigilant, have a plan, you can do this! The moment you break free from his isolation and control is the moment he loses almost all control. Don’t trust a protective order. I’ve seen these documents actually escalate the danger in some cases. Don’t depend on a chance moment for you to call for help or run out the door, don’t depend on the police to get there in time, don’t depend on your neighbors to call for help when they hear you screaming, don’t believe the lie you tell yourself about not being able to dig yourself out of this hole WITHOUT him, don’t assume he wouldn’t hurt your babies, do NOT assume he won’t kill you! If he has been violent, coercive, controlling, or has access to a firearm, your risk of being a homicide victim immediately go through the roof. You are more intelligent, more capable, more beautiful, and much more worthy than he ever wants you to realize you are. Isolation makes it hard to break the spell. Just wait for an open door and TAKE IT. Take your chance no hesitation, lay low, give it time, and *don’t look back.* You can do this!
My heart goes out to these ladies and everyone affected...I worked on a job that did surveys for abused women and the first question we asked was has a man ever verbally disrespected you in public....any woman that answered yes would always end up answering yes to the questions about being physically abused..it woke me up and help me leave my situation...they dont get better over time ...no matter how much they say they changed...never go back...I have ten stitches from a stab wound to remind me....Love yourself!!
My son's father showed me all the signs that he was abusive. This could have been me! He hit me and hurt me badly. I definitely told the judge to keep him in jail. As much as I may have loved him, I love myself and my kids much more! He's still in jail on two charges. No bond. I pray for him! Thank you God for giving me life!
Glad you step away from that relationship or marriage. Be blessed and treat your Kids and yourself for now. When time is right I'm pretty sure another Guy be wanting sweep off your feet .
I was in a somewhat situation like this when I was younger with older children's father... For two years, he thought he was my father, yelling and pushing me at will. One day I had enough, we squared up, because one of my child was involved. That was the last day I would ever let a man even think he could cross the line. We parted ways, and he died years later. I moved on a got with my now spouse, and we've been together for nearly 29 years. I established it early: I have one father, if he didn't hit you will not either.... I don't have a problem with 3 hots and a cot, if you don't... My mom will raise my children, and your mom will be putting roses on your grave.... We had a little altercation early on in our relationship, I was pushed, and he was introduced to 'sting'. We never had a problem after that.. don't touch me if you don't want to be touch back.
My parents didn't let me date. They warned me about bums. So when I got older, I steered clear of no-good bums. Young women, I issue you a warning. Stop associating with people who will take your life. God doesn't let you walk into these situations without giving you a warning. If you walk with God and pay attention, you will know when someone has evil intentions toward you or others. It's a Spirit of Death operating through that person to bring destruction. Don't become intimate with those kinds of people. Get away from that person ASAP. Wait on God to bring you together with the right kind of person. God can take care of your bills. RIP. Praying for God's comforting for this family.
I am a domestic violence survivor as well. I got black eyes and broken bones and still stayed like a idiot but I was scared and just was young and my abuser was older than me and manipulated me. The best thing I did was move me and my kids in another house and never looked back. God has been blessing me and my family ever since 🙌🏾
My Bf/sister was beat almost to death by a guy she was renting a apartment from after he figured she didn’t want to be bothered with him anymore he stomped her unconscious in front of her children,her liver fell she was blessed to find a donor but unfortunately about 4 years later she died her liver was rejecting I miss her every day ladies please get out before it’s to late 😭😭I love you Lawanda🙏🏽🙏🏽
So sad that she changed her story when it got to court! This lady may well be alive if she had not protected her abuser! What a sorry piece of trash he was!! She thought she needed him to pay the bills but really she needed to run for her life .
Let's talk about the mothers of some of these abusive man, they going to take their side no matter what. I blame the mothers of some of these abusive man for not teaching them right.
How thee hell they let him out after all that was said in court despite what she said? How did the judge not make the proper decision atleast for a month he could’ve sat even if his motive was to kill her maybe one of them could’ve lived ijs
Jalisa, I miss you so much and I love you even more than that. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Several years later, and it STILL hurts the same as the moment I first heard the news. 🥺💔 RIP baby girl.
I was never physically beaten but my self esteem took a pretty huge hit and my confidence was shattered from emotional and verbal abuse.. It had become so bad at one point I started thinking if he didn’t react in that familiar manner of abuse that he had stopped caring until I realized I had some things mentally broken within and needed some therapy.. I then realized it was time to fight hard to free me from myself and who I had allowed myself to become.. I still struggle sometimes with certain things but I know that as humans we all struggle with something from time to time regardless of what it may be so I am no different but my processing skills have become different.. Now I see me before I see anyone else when folks start acting like their presence is a blessing to me.. You all take care and be safe out here.. Seek help and even relocate to a new state if you have to when you find yourselves in these situations. Your kids and your loved ones need you here with them🙏🏽
The court gave her what she wanted. She told them he wasn’t a threat and she wasn’t afraid. I did the same thing went to court for my abusive ex husband. He got a year in prison when he should’ve gotten 10-15 years for attempted murder. It’s not worth it ladies. You owe it to yourself and your children to protect yourself and them. Get out immediately and don’t look back.
I respect this lady so much she wasn’t only worried about an interview she was worried about the mother and knew it wasn’t the right time she waited till she was ready. Others try and get an interview hours after a tragedy and ask questions like “What u gonna miss about this person” or “how u feel right now” smfh I truly applaud u it’s not easy at all.
I was in an abusive relationship. I almost died myself. The man one day, will never forget, was holding me borderline hostage in my huge walk-in closet. So I was trying to leave and he kept grabbing all on me, yanking me, etc. So I had enough and I pushed him off of me..that's when he grabbed my head and slammed it into the wall. My legs went numb, and my eyes were wide open but I couldn't see! Now what really scares me about the situation is...right where my head was slammed, right next to that spot was a nail sticking straight out! I could have died! Smh thinking about this scares me till this day smh
every 9 seconds a woman is assulted or beaten in the us... i wonder how many times its the SAME WOMAN and WHY IN THE WORLD DO THEY NOT LEAVE THE BAD SITUATION???? then they fam wanna come out and say the police failed or some other person fault yet the loved one stayed until they are killed BY THE ONE THEY LOVED!!!
This really struck a nerve, my 23 yo great niece was killed by her ex boyfriend 3 months ago. He shot her while she was on her job. I pray for all loved ones involved! #Justice4Atiyeh #Stop DV
I know we don't want to struggle financially. We don't want to be alone. But we must step away from people that are dark, dangerous, and detrimental to us.
Ladenna Young ...you have a point. Struggle is not a bad thing if you understand how it can be used to fuel motivation and progress in the right direction.
I agree! I chose to struggle with my kids rather than stay in a marriage bcz it would have led to this. Struggle brings strength and character
The males perpertrating these crimes dont need counseling or understanding they need severe consequences. Treat them as if they had assaulted a stranger on tje street.
Also stop letting the wife dictate that she wants her loser husband home. She is in no.position.
Helix Moore yes. Let the state press charges.
The problem is when people dont take peoples threats seriously. When someone pulls a gun on you in front of a child they are not playing. It is time to wake up and seek help.
My ex pulled one on me twice. The third time I never opened the door again. Shouldn’t have taken me twice to realize it was real.
Shelia Scott-Gray I’ve seen that 1st hand with my mom. She was dealing with a man just like that. Who would beat her in front of friends and her children. One day, he came to our house and pull a gun out in her face, in front of her children and others ppl’s children. After that, my mom left and didn’t look back.
A Man Name Solo I’m glad to hear that your mom had enough strength to move on and forward. To not allow a man to only put her life in danger but as well as her children. These situations are life-changing. A woman should always feel protected but a lot of times, we also forget mental illness is real. God protected us all from being another New’s headline!
M Lane Crazy thing is I didn’t see it growing up. Being naive and not thinking someone who claim they love you would really pull the trigger. Thank God he didn’t tho!
Yes...
My kids father was abusing me the same way. He would call me names, beat on me and l was destroyed and defeated. I knew l didn't deserve it but l was weak and he seemed loud and powerful. I began to think thoughts of death in my head. I found the strength to come up with a escape plan. I took my kids and l left him. I never looked back. As a women who was once abused the 1st thing you do is get away from any contact with the abuser.....make it so that he or she can have no contact with you period.
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Thank God it worked out. Stay💪✌️
RAIN DROPS
You’re absolutely right. My cousin was doused with gasoline and set on fire by her ex-husband after having on-again, off-again contact with him. She had a five month baby at the time. Abusive men are psychologically broken; beyond repair.
Controlling and abusing women is the only thing in life that makes them feel alive and empowered. You must run for your life and permanently server all ties with them.
RAIN DROPS , you are absolutely correct! I am proud of you for finding the courage to take your children and get away. It takes a lot of courage to talk about it privately - to be able to discuss it publicly, you’re a Warrior - no longer a victim. Keep Going!💜
Thank God you got away & Never looking back!!
He should’ve stayed in jail. She was concern with him helping pay bills smh I’ll go broke first
Girl 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Olivia H It’s sad 😞 You would not understand unless ur in that Situation. I’ve been there but through God’s Grace and Mercy I was saved. May this young Lady rest peacefully😇
Golden Child it was more than that!! You had to do your part as well I’m sure.💕
TERYA VONTRELL You’re absolutely right!!
@@goldenchild4089 Unfortunately she didn't have God's grace and mercy then?
As a domestic violence survivor this story is heartbreaking 💔😢 RIP to the victims and their families 🙏 #LOVE DOESN'T HURT 💜
I survived domestic violence from my father. I always feared that this would happen to my mom. Thankfully I did not.
As a survivor of domestic violence, you can make it out. It's hard , it's scary but the peace is COMPLETELY worth it.
lottalove407 God bless! 🙏🙌
Leaving is also dangerous, but necessary. Make sure when you do, you work with experienced domestic violence advocates. There's national hotlines that can direct you to them.
Same here. You are soooo right.
And don't tell him you are leaving. That would be a death sentence. I left with the clothes on my back. I'm a survivor too.
Yes I'm a survivor as well best thing that I did or I'd be dead now scary but worth it to leave
Kevin's mother should have been arrested too!
YESSSSSSSS SHE SHOULD OF BEEN ARRESTED
I bet she is the one who came up with the $2k bail money... She probably put her house up.
Women (and men) need to learn the warning signs of being groomed by an abusive man (and woman). The grooming or mind control starts long before the physical abuse. LEARN THE SIGNS AND FLEE.
I agree
Not available exactly! The stupid mother certainly had A LOT to do with this heinous crime. She enabled him to do harm ! After he pulled out a gun in front of the kids that would have been a tipping point ! I can only imagine how scared the victim was and that’s why I believe she asked her half sister to come over . That wasn’t really to hang out she wanted someone else there . Gosh I wish that sister would have just met up somewhere and went back home . Breaks my heart ❤️ 😢😢😢
Good Music everything is wrong with her!! Trust me she wouldn’t cared if had gunned down the poor young lady in front of her. His birther is most likely the BIGGEST ENABLER to the violence that lead to this senseless deaths . Shame Shame on her ! She raised a Beast!
His mother was ugh. She was probably a narcissist. That in turn raised a narcissistic son. This is apart of the problem.
If my husband raped and killed kids his mother would be on his side a flat out demon
@@tanganyikarichardson6589 I would turn mine in
Ladenna Young I dealt with a narcissist and the family I’m glad it’s over god removes people for a reason
Let's stop blaming mothers for everything. I think the absent fathers need to share the burden of blame here. How come every time a black man does something, it's blamed on a black woman?
Natassia Consciously because it makes no sense to blame someone who wasn’t there😬
Very sad story... the half sister was an innocent victim... And this is why I don’t go to family or friends house who have drama filled lives and they sure as hell are not allowed at my house!! I act like I’m not home when people pop up without an invitation🙃🙂
Exactly
Yes ma'am. Same here!
You are so right!
Lmao, pretend you're not home. I get it though
@Sharon Brown Amen, me too. My daughter is now 39 with 3 small children. They cant spend the night over anybody house.
Love doesn't hurt ladies, please remember that. When you see red flags don't ignore them! Get out!
You are so, so, so, so right
Amen!!!!!!
Biomoo
The only we need in this world is the love of Jesus Christ.
Until recently I thought domestic violence is only physical but it can also be psychological and financial
And Womb abuse.. I had 11 children at my foster care shelter all from the same mom and dad. The dad didn’t want the mom on birth control and all the children were stair step ages. I didn’t understand why they took the kids when the mom was clearly a victim. She and her children should have been at our domestic violence apartment unit rebuilding their lives away from dad
The mental abuse is horrible. ✌🏼💖🕊
It can be emotional and sexual too. It's not uncommon for victims to be raped by their abuser.
Yes, it usually starts off as verbal/emotional/psychological to get you off guard (confused) or test your temperature then progress to physical.
Suffered from mental and verbal abuse for years, afraid to leave because he supported us financially, and I didn’t have that. He wanted me home to control me.
Ladies....when a man disrespects you and verbally abuses you end the relationship because the hitting will come next...it's an escalation...for the sake of you and your children get out now....you will end up a victim or may end up killing him either way you lose...learn to love yourself first.
Lydia Graham, ❤️
That is what I told my sister she is in somalia when she was 7 months pregnant he hit her on the face and now she give birth to her son he is 11 days old and now she is going back with him she is 22 years old sometimes you just can’t help people who are dear to you if they don’t want to listen to you sad world😢
Tuuney Abdullah
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I am working on loving me. I feel lost.
Once is enough twice is too many. Love yourself ladies. I promise there is a prince out there that will treat and love you like a queen you are ❤💯
Need to b like texas. They don't care, u want to drop charges u can but the great state of texas WILL pick them up...
D DeWitty especially if you are in the military tryna play those reindeer games.
Facts and one or both going to jail.
Exactly Texas gives no fucks
Idk about ‘great ‘ but I agree with the rest
@@kjwsmother2647 they was being sarcastic
That noise is so distracting. This is such a serious issue. The sound effects weren’t necessary.
Yes. Super annoying
Yesss obnoxious as hell
Right!! At first, it was ok and then all that clock ticking sound was annoying
I 100% agree
was searching the comments for this lmfao. so fuckin annoying.
*I WISH THEY WOULD STOP USING THAT DAM CLOCK SOUND WHEN THEY SWITCH FROM SCREEN TO SCREEN VERY ANNOYING AS HELL.😡👎*
Calm down champ! Pay attention to the story. Lol!
Andre Jones I agree
@@opinionatorX you can't with that clock sound & the talking going in & out.
@@justice4896 @S Jack They tryna let all the abusers know how much time they will do in prison. Lol!
It is annoying asf lol 😂
Man😥 I grew up watching my father torture my mom,My father killed himself but my mother lived,that was almost 30 years ago and I'm still affected by it I won't let a man come close me out of fear it may happen to me. prayers to her babies she left behind!
🤗🤗🤗💕💕sent you a hug Ebonee P
I pray you are one day at complete peace! So sorry and I understand.
Prayers.
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I can relate growing up my dad beat my mom, and me as well it hurts too have black eyes, bruises by your own dad.. I'm 40 and single I can't date because I have anger build up from this. But my heart goes out too this family
And what’s even sadder than the black women dying that often is the main people killing them are black men 😢😒
im not shock blk men dont respect blk women my own mom was abuse when i was little
and im 48 this month and sometimes it still haunts me the bastard died when i was 8 it was the best thing he could ever did
imanii moore I’m so sad you had to go thru that and I hope you don’t let it bother you in anyway today. Thankfully he’s rotting in hell☺️
Because they stupid and date them kind of dumb ass men thinking it's cute until they get a gun in their face. He had an extensive record of criminal history and she chose to date him and have his kid. What do women expect from that kind of man.
Toushia Mason I agree. But in some cases they can hide it for years and out of the blue hit or kill you. Now in this case that man shouldn’t have even been out of jail from his last case. I think she was just used to and comfortable with him to go elsewhere which is sad
@@TM-pj7yu funny you say they date this type of man that's why this happens. I just watched a series of documentaries about nice polished successful BLACK businessmen who killed they're girlfriends usually to hide a double life or avoid being dumped. It's dumb to victim shame.
Never tell a crazy man you are leaving him! God bless her family.
They never should have let him out of jail this should have kept him in jail and threw away the key
James Mabrie She lied to the judge and asked that he be released to come home. She loved him more than her children. This isn’t new. Judges get sick and tired of women filing paper work, not appearing in court and down playing the facts. She was too young to have so much drama in her life. Where was her mother? What examples of women did she have in her life? I hurt for the children. It’s a cycle of viciousness that continues to repeat.
@@keepthechange1 But the Prosecutor finally admitted that the state needs to quit deciding whether or not to prosecute based on the victim's stance, and prosecute based on the likelihood of him continuing to be a public threat. So the legal system definitely plays its part in perpetuating that cycle too.
That judge could have given him no bail, based on his criminal history. The judge said the right things, but made the wrong decision.
Was he killed or did he commit suicide?
@@keepthechange1 she was GROWN sis. Her mother can't do a damn thing.🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️
@@lql1094 prosecutors get paid by sending ppl to get jail and that bond money go to the courts and the prosecutors nibble for that too, so i wont put much into what they have to say.
I left three days ago. In a year and a halfs time I've been slapped in my face, exploited over social media secretly, I've been abused financially, I've been verbally attacked consistently, I've had black eyes, contacts knocked out of my eyes, I've been chocked repeatedly and sometimes for nothing at all, I've been accused of horrific things like prostitution, I've had guns pressed against me, been hit in my nose, I've had my hair ripped out several times. , I've been accused of intimacy with relatives and Pastors, I've become accustomed to being called out of my name, I've had my home destroyed, I've been hit in my head countless times, I've had my car stolen for extended periods of time, I've had sludge hammers pressed against my face, I've had irons pressed against my face. I've been pushed and held down, I've had food thrown at me, and I've even had foot spit in my face. But three days ago I simply had enough. In a drunken rage he threw a liquor bottle at the windshield and the glass richorcheted off and cut my hands, I was chocked, held at gun point and not allowed to leave the home we shared. Luckily I broke free and he chased after me attempting to break the window with the butt of the gun. I was able to get away. And once I was free I called the police . Soon he'll be in custody. It's a hard process ladies. Because we finally make the decision to choose us over them but we've gotta do it. If we don't this very story could be our fate. Praying for everyone in similar situations
@@Treethickkk 🙏💜💆♀️🤝
Damn y’all ruining my day with these stories 🤎🙏🏾💐 from one woman to the next you are Amazing find your peace. And keep it close to you
@Amanda Armstrong thank you so much.
@@Treethickkk everyone has different triggers and different breaking points. Be strategic in your leaving. When they feel like they're losing power or they feel like you're gonna leave they panic and do everything to keep everything to keep you from leaving. Which gets dangerous
@Brittney Berry you are a strong woman so hold you head high. I commend you for leaving cause sometimes it can be hard but be true to your healing process and don't look back. Love yourself, build your confidence and raise your self-esteem. You are not damage goods or broken so lift your head high and stand like the Queen you are. A lot of women would speak on certain things about what they would/wouldn't do but some women stay in relationships cause they need help financially, don't want to be alone, have low self-esteem, seen some of the same things going on in their household growing up or it can be other reasons. Some woman go through the same the thing but are afraid to speak on it. If you know a woman or suspect that she going through Domestic Violence please reach out, be a support or help seek the help a woman needs even if she doesn't want it cause Domestic Violence is real and so are the statics. @Brittney Berry if you need ANY kind of support please reach out to me.
Kevin was a coward. Period.
Straight ass punk..
And a thug!
Yep, he didn't want to do that prison time so he took himself out
her life choices got her half sister killed, this is why i teach lil girls to stay away from women like this risky
The Red Keep Winterfell truth!
I wish someone had taught me! I was way to forgiving to women who didn’t deserve it an I was harmed in some way every time. Women are just as bad as these men, they’ll even recruit a man to hurt you. Miserable
Truth
@@HeyitsBri_ -Exactly. Women are behind a lot of violence. They use simp-men to do their bidding.
The red that is so true !! Being with people that have different life choices than you do is never good! I’m so sad these ladies lost their lives. I wish that sister would not have gone to that apartment! Oh Lord!! So so sad
That's crazy, she needed him to help pay bills I would rather live in my childhood bedroom at my parents house with all three of my kids vs going back to a man that pulled a gun out on me. My heart breaks for the kids.
I have 2 jobs. If necessary I'll work 3. My life is too precious to me to allow some crazy sorry man run or ruin it! Be strong for yourself ladies!
Meme..You Are Sooo Right...She partially set herself up..To be murdered ..The poor little sister, had nothing to do with it.. May they rest in peace 🕊️🕊️🕊️
There are signs of abuse before the actual physical abuse begins. I remember a guy that I was dating told me shut up and I was out. Talk to his ex wife months later and she said that he abused her and her children. My point is, things start off small and then they grow. RIP to these beautiful young ladies.
You’re correct, that’s exactly how it happens. And most women don’t leave when it’s “just” disrespectful. A looong time ago, I left my first marriage because of disrespect (and many people thought I was nuts because he manipulated others into believing he was such a “good guy”) and now he’s in prison for murdering his ex girlfriend. Women need to learn to leave anyone that is disrespectful to them OR others. That is NOT what love looks like and contrary to what many women want to believe, ya can’t “fix them”.
You can't tell these chic's that
.. Oh, he ain't mean it... Then, she looking at the roof of the church months later
@@Julia-b9x Wow! Glad you left when you did.
@@The-Oneness11 Me too, I feel so badly for the women that stay and don’t make it out alive OR just as bad, they give themselves a miserable lifetime by staying - thinking that it’s the honorable thing to do. There is nothing honorable about staying in the abuse (even marriage vows are no longer applicable).
Mistake number one , don’t ever go back to what God protected you from. No judgement , in her case it’s understandable. Idk if she actually thought , him grabbing the gun was for jokes & giggles. You don’t get nor do I allow chances with me like that , no exceptions when it comes to violence it always escalates. Rip
I agree
That judge tried to help her by warning the woman bt she did not listen
Facts
It's refreshing to hear the judge using great descretion and wisdom.
Alot of times I get disappointed and discouraged in the judicial system.
It is unfortunate. Most people don't think that person would go that far. Also unfortunately she was worried about being able to pay her bills. We need to pray against this. Judgement is not needed at all.
He really did,omg, he could have been a judge who didn't care but he did, and SHE didn't listen and took her sis down with her, SAD
The judge had it in his power to keep the man in jail without a bond. Inspite of the facts the judge put forth himself, he still gave the msn a bond. The judge erred in doing that. He didn't need the victim's agreement to hold the without bond.
She killed her own self when she told the court that she was not in fear of him and wanted him back home! 🧐
Agreed! I hate she took her sis with her💔
I know this may sound cold, and sorry if I hurt anyones feelings, but this is one of the many reasons why I mind my business. I'll try to help one time, but if you still call, go where that person lives, invite him/her in the house, facetime them, etc., I'm sorry but I'm done. They turn on you. I love you but I'm done.
@@reece1929 its because they suffer from Stockholm syndrome and if you never been in the situation you will never understand. Its hard to leave because thata when things get deadly
lethu fulani Yep! And everything good around her!
lethu fulani she was stupid
They failed to realize the psychological dynamics of domestic violence. As a survior I know the confusion and fear that comes with standing in the courtroom with your abuser. The court should've overwritten her request, DV does something terrible to your mind and she was not speaking from a point of sanity. You often become numb to abusive episodes and want to believe it did not happen or wasn't that bad. Everyone failed these young ladies.
Yep. She normalized what happened. I was with a narcissistic person that was emotionally and psychologically abusive. I didn’t recognize it as abuse until 4 years later when I learned about narcissism.
1. I’m afraid 😟 she failed herself too.
2. Blinded of what was going on in her own personal life; invited her innocent sister over to her apartment.
Ladies, your life is in danger if you keep company with someone who is involved with a man who is a batterer. Separate yourself from them; you can’t help them.
I had to learn this! I would always come to my friends rescue and I would lose sleep worrying about her. She would always go back! I had to cut her off!
Natasha Parker I bet that took a lot for you to do that too😭💕
TERYA VONTRELL Yes! It took my a very long time to cut her off.... I didn’t even realize how stressful it started becoming for me. I still care about her but I can’t do it.
So his mom took her phone and said don’t call on him 🤬... I’m not surprised
When I was in an abusive relationship his mom said the same thing smh tried to fight me because I called the police on him for hitting me.
Most mothers are scared of their sons sad
Marilyn M, yup!
This is why I hate momma boys. 10 out of 10 their mothers are narcissistic witches. He’s you son not your man.
She’s definitely a typical ass momma smh
Wait... so she dropped the charges that allowed him to get away? Then this coward killed himself so that he didn't have to do time for 2 murder charges. Smh...
Eternity with Christ isn’t that the truth!! The nerve of his mother to try and stop her from calling the police. That tells you where that self hate. Anger and disgusting behavior came from . He was damaged long before he met the victim and his mother was likely his BIGGEST Enabler!
Punk ass
So who is raising the babies? We have to do better!!!! Destruction of the American family, that’s what this is.
Unfortunately our men don't see how much the enemy is using them to kill, steal, and destroy. The devil is a lie. I bind the hand of the enemy in Jesus name. We need to come to ourselves.
That's ridiculous ... this man was of sound mind ... he killed those women ...nobody pushed him...yhere was no enemy but themselves ... Stop making excuses when our black men do these things ...omg
Ladenna Young Amen 🙏.
I think we should bless our homes more and pray.
Amen 🙏
Man i remember being in an abusive relationship...i called the police 12 times in one year...smh. I felt so alone i remember just praying to God for a. Whole hour straight one day...and one day i got the strength to break free...ive been no contact for 2 yrs never looked back...i cnt believe how close i came to death...im so grateful to be loved and saved by God...God bless their souls
Ladies be careful out there. If you want a good man. Check out his mind, see what he's thinking and particularly if he doesn't bring up THE MOST HIGH in his conversations at all. Run!
Judah Fleming even if he brings up God you have to test him on that by his actions because people use God as a form of manipulation
U never can know what a person is thinking unless u asked them and who's to day if its the truth
Sometimes if they do mention the Most High, they can still be nuts!
Sadly, nowadays, these men fake it til they make it. They'll pretend to know & love God. Some of them are so evil. They'll convince you they are your Knight in shining Armor when they're just a nightmare
A lot of men use god to lure women in to abuse them
The problem with domestic violence is that the people think they own their partners.
The problem with domestic violence it's a dangerous situation. Families get destroyed.
You are absolutely correct. Had a female that would do whatever I told her but after some time those instant yes became a yes with a slight hesitation. Oh it infuriated me and made me become possessive. Left her alone and stayed single to better myself. More people need to learn to be alone and better themselves before being in a relationship.
Exactly! It's because they don't know how to let go. My auntie was shot in the face by her ex. He told her if he couldn't have her - no one would.
This is for every woman and man that reads this comment when people show you who they are believe them been in and out of relationships like this and God always provide a way for me to get out even when I went back God protected me and gave me chance after chance and I thank God for that these men and women that abused people are demonically possessed and they have a mission to kill you I plead the blood of Jesus over all who are sacred and afraid ask you to come out that pit and call upon Jesus name for Deliverance and protecting for you and your children and trun to no man but God for everything you need God is love
Why do they spend so much time asking questions? Ping the phone and get there quickly if that's possible!
He would have eventually gotten out with the light sentences they give for domestic violence cases and would have been even more enraged with her because he's a coward taking out his aggression on a woman. Who show's up with their mom to fight a woman? Her ass should be locked up for being an accessory to the crime. He's a coward
The Coi his mother was no where around when the shooting happened
Exactly! Taking someone's phone while they are trying to call the police is a felony where I live.
The system helps them not you
If a man hits you there is no love for his self which means never love for you
This is my cousin Tareeka..This still break my heart!!
Sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss, honey...
So sorry for your family's loss , prayers for all
@@lashondawilliams171 thank you!
@@bellanies.4726 thank you!
I've had my 2 boyfriend abuse me. The last one that did I began having nightmares, as if God was showing me( I always have had strong intuition) what was to come. I planned my escape. I moved overnight, by the time he got back, he called me threatening my Death. Younger girls don't argue. Plan a escape plan. Don't go on social media, argue in their face. Quietly escape .
@Zhara Moreira thank you so much. Blessings to you as well🤗
Great advice. People talk too much.
I hope you are okay. Don't ever go back to him. Blessings to you sweetheart.
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Yesss I escaped one day when he was at work and even left all my belongings. God kept giving me signs over n over n i also had ad nightmares
African American Men should treat African American Women like Queens treat and them with Love and respect because African American Women has gone through a lot in life.
All men no matter what skin color it doesn't discriminate 💔
@@piscessmith4785right! people out here creating or reinforcing stereotypes.
Everybody needs counseling period, and try to pull away from a romantic relationship. Until they are truly healed and delivered.
@@rebekahkissel7629 domestic violence doesn't discriminate no matter what skin the color of the skin or type it's wrong on so many levels. I am a domestic violence counselor. There are judges, police man, doctors and lawyers even fireman and preachers of any race who commit this horrible act
@@rebekahkissel7629 maybe in the hood but u can also say the same for any other race in the hood.
In all domestic violence situations, everytime you let him come back the stakes get higher!
Prayers to the family and friends this is a total mess I wish the judge would have stood on what he was reading in this mans record. Life is so precious and should be taken serious hitting, cursing, yelling, screaming and etc isn't love real love and true love never hurts.. Abuse is never ok because someone always either gets hurt or killed in the process...
Shronda Smith I see you all over RUclips commenting lol
@@yellababy thanks for your feedback yeah I like different things on You-Tube stay safe and be blessed...
OMG,,,,THAT CLOCK SOUND❌
😂😂😂😂😂
Right! I bet whoever did this thought that would be a nice touch and I'm here like wtf!!
Tareeka was my coworkers neice . So tragically pitiful. 😢
Amanda Armstrong awww. Thank you so much. It was very hard for them, and I’m sure it still is. Something you can never get over. And yes, I’d be willing to bet he’s STILL burning in an forever eternal fire!
I am so sorry.
Small world.. and I’m so sorry for your guys’s loss..
My nephew is the father of two of the girls(I didn’t know that he fathered only two until this documentary)! The little girls are so sweet 😊!!!
@@Tabby.cat2 God bless your nephew and his girls
Stories like this are always complicated. 1. Where are the fathers of the girls? 2. Why do these a lot of women choose these dirty bama type dudes? When women choose these dudes they put their lives,children, and family at risk. But even all of this speaks to a deeper level of issues. Clearly this bama had his own emotional issues and this young girl had her own unresolved issues. People..You have to heal from any issues from your past or you will go through life making bad decisions. It will take God to heal the brokenness within.
opinionatorX On point!👍
You are absolutely right. She was broken and did not know her worth. So probably showed her the kind of love she only know or what she think should be love. In the beginning like with so many cases he was probably very nice, and charming then started to show his true colors. The problem is, is that women dont take it seriously when they are threatened, or some feel like they have the strength to fight them off and you dont. Once they get locked up you go seek help from a domestic violence program and they can help you move and everything, they also have counseling for women to help you see where you are going wrong. They were both so young and he felt he had the right to take their lives, which is so damn selfish and he threw his life away also.
#nofathers #sorrysinglemama
#noselfesteem #anythingforlove #desperateformaleattention
This painful and upsetting to watch. They were so young and beautiful.
I'm a survivor of being in a domestic violence relationship I was in a 10year relationship. I came to the breaking point I got out and never look back.
I get nervous if a man holler at me, I can’t do that domestic violence and I talk to my daughters about that.
Beautiful and Sexy Queen that's understandable. Treat yourself and Kids for now and be blessed. One day the right Dude will sweep off your feet .
That is such a sad story. Rest In Peace ladies 🙏🏽💕.
This is so sad. My condolences go out to the poor children, the mother, grandmother, and the rest of the family.
His mother should also be charged.
I lived this for years... You become so numb and I allowed it to keep happening.. Brainwashed at its finest...
So those three innocent girls have no parents. And lives will never be the same.
This is so sad. Two beautiful ladies dead. Women teach your sons to walk away. Mother’s teach your daughter their value and how to spot the signs of abuse. Lady please never tell a man you’re leaving. Because it always leads to something horrible. If a man hits you he will kill you.
It's always about the money , setting bail which was wrong wit all them chargers prior
@Amanda Armstrong righhhtttt not violent crime's like that
You cant #LOVE 😍 a person that you have to #HIT👊 on
#STOP 🛑 #DOMESTIC 👊 #VIOLENCE 🤼
RIP BABYGIRLS😥😢
The problem is that these men think they can put their hands on a woman...they do not have the right to put their hands on a woman ..I don't care what she does and he deserves to be in jail the rest of his live. Period...
Who cares if she wasn’t fearful of him.
He pulled out a gun.
That annoying “second hand” sound effect is distracting and unnecessary for this story
Omg it annoying me!
RIP BEAUTIFUL LADIES ,,,WHAT A SHAME❤️❤️
I live in Maryland and everyone who heard about this sad case were horrified. A victim always says let them come home. Their conditioned to always do what's best for their abuser not themselves so it's up to the courts to not listen to their opinion on whether the abuser should come home or not. Put them in jail!!!!!
This is such a very sad story. Women please understand this is not love!
He pulled a bone the first time and I live you don't get a second. Yes I'm scared and take it very seriously. No thug love or money worth my life and child.
Domestic violence must be removed from our vocabulary. Call it what it is. Felony assault or attempted murder and murder. The term domestic violence is conjures.up a small slap or a shove which isnt taken seriously. Men can get away with more evil.
Great point. Never thought of it that way; plus it just makes it seem like an isolated incident, therefore, miniscule.
Such a great point.
I was a witness to a situation like this. I was an innocent sister home from college 18 years ago, visiting my sister. Her child's father showed up with threats. I called the cops. Her children's father shot her several times, killed the cop, tried to kill me and ultimately killed himself. God blessed me to not be physically harmed that day. Til this day, it hurts. Women need to learn to be strong to leave these men and take those threats and abuse seriously!
Omg that's terrible. I'm so sorry. How are you doing now?
What was she thinking helping at his bond hearing. He came straight for her.
As a woman with children, she betrayed herself and her children when she declared that she wasn’t in fear of him.
This is so so sad. It’s so important to recognize the signs of crazy and not to be afraid to walk away. I am still haunted by a man I dated almost 20 years ago. He threatened my life, had someone jump me and he stalked me, followed me , kept calling me. I was so young and I didn’t know what to do. I filed a report but that’s all I could do until he actually did something. When he found me on Facebook some years ago , I freaked completely out. No one should have to go through this. Again, recognize the signs and leave.
I don't mean to sound insensitive I really do not, but the victim was playing with fire ! I hate it when women look past certain disturbing behaviors, cause this is usally the result sadly.
Sometimes the woman does all the right things and she still gets transitioned. Order of protection= come and kill me, please.
@@9keykey yeah that's not the case here though
Not based on what she told the judge
@@ellisgrren i was listening and reading comments, so i definitely missed that part. Thanks.
@@9keykey ❤❤❤
@@ellisgrren Back at cha! I pray you and your family is and stays safe.
Self-Love 1st and Choose Kind People with Integrity. Be In God and allow God to be your bestest Friend. Only be around people who truly Love, Respect, and mean you well❤
AMEN! Very well said! I'm only about positive & happy!
That was probably the case. He probably treated her that way during the honeymoon phase which can last up to a year. It usually starts with Love, Respect and Trust and then it they take each away one by one.
This hits close to home , I knew this lady and her girls are my daughters best friends. Much love and continued blessings.
I work emergency 911 dispatch. Ladies, you have no idea how common domestic homicide truly is. Maybe you already know it’s pretty common, but you don’t even know HOW common. Be safe, be vigilant, have a plan, you can do this! The moment you break free from his isolation and control is the moment he loses almost all control.
Don’t trust a protective order. I’ve seen these documents actually escalate the danger in some cases.
Don’t depend on a chance moment for you to call for help or run out the door, don’t depend on the police to get there in time, don’t depend on your neighbors to call for help when they hear you screaming, don’t believe the lie you tell yourself about not being able to dig yourself out of this hole WITHOUT him, don’t assume he wouldn’t hurt your babies, do NOT assume he won’t kill you! If he has been violent, coercive, controlling, or has access to a firearm, your risk of being a homicide victim immediately go through the roof.
You are more intelligent, more capable, more beautiful, and much more worthy than he ever wants you to realize you are. Isolation makes it hard to break the spell. Just wait for an open door and TAKE IT. Take your chance no hesitation, lay low, give it time, and *don’t look back.*
You can do this!
My heart goes out to these ladies and everyone affected...I worked on a job that did surveys for abused women and the first question we asked was has a man ever verbally disrespected you in public....any woman that answered yes would always end up answering yes to the questions about being physically abused..it woke me up and help me leave my situation...they dont get better over time ...no matter how much they say they changed...never go back...I have ten stitches from a stab wound to remind me....Love yourself!!
so sad. that so called man is a coward. smh
We accept the love, we think we deserve.. ❤️💔
My son's father showed me all the signs that he was abusive. This could have been me! He hit me and hurt me badly. I definitely told the judge to keep him in jail. As much as I may have loved him, I love myself and my kids much more! He's still in jail on two charges. No bond. I pray for him! Thank you God for giving me life!
Glad you step away from that relationship or marriage. Be blessed and treat your Kids and yourself for now. When time is right I'm pretty sure another Guy be wanting sweep off your feet .
I was in a somewhat situation like this when I was younger with older children's father... For two years, he thought he was my father, yelling and pushing me at will. One day I had enough, we squared up, because one of my child was involved. That was the last day I would ever let a man even think he could cross the line. We parted ways, and he died years later. I moved on a got with my now spouse, and we've been together for nearly 29 years. I established it early: I have one father, if he didn't hit you will not either.... I don't have a problem with 3 hots and a cot, if you don't... My mom will raise my children, and your mom will be putting roses on your grave.... We had a little altercation early on in our relationship, I was pushed, and he was introduced to 'sting'. We never had a problem after that.. don't touch me if you don't want to be touch back.
My parents didn't let me date. They warned me about bums. So when I got older, I steered clear of no-good bums. Young women, I issue you a warning. Stop associating with people who will take your life. God doesn't let you walk into these situations without giving you a warning. If you walk with God and pay attention, you will know when someone has evil intentions toward you or others. It's a Spirit of Death operating through that person to bring destruction. Don't become intimate with those kinds of people. Get away from that person ASAP. Wait on God to bring you together with the right kind of person. God can take care of your bills. RIP. Praying for God's comforting for this family.
Also, if you can't along with your girl... Just leave!!! Killing is unnecessary
I am a domestic violence survivor as well. I got black eyes and broken bones and still stayed like a idiot but I was scared and just was young and my abuser was older than me and manipulated me. The best thing I did was move me and my kids in another house and never looked back. God has been blessing me and my family ever since 🙌🏾
Great for you, stay strong!
Smh with his record they let him out
My Bf/sister was beat almost to death by a guy she was renting a apartment from after he figured she didn’t want to be bothered with him anymore he stomped her unconscious in front of her children,her liver fell she was blessed to find a donor but unfortunately about 4 years later she died her liver was rejecting I miss her every day ladies please get out before it’s to late 😭😭I love you Lawanda🙏🏽🙏🏽
MAKE and EARN ya OWN coin Ladies!!!!!!!
So sad that she changed her story when it got to court! This lady may well be alive if she had not protected her abuser! What a sorry piece of trash he was!! She thought she needed him to pay the bills but really she needed to run for her life .
Let's talk about the mothers of some of these abusive man, they going to take their side no matter what. I blame the mothers of some of these abusive man for not teaching them right.
Justice system failed this family
How? She changed her story, called her sister over after he got out and let him in the house.
How thee hell they let him out after all that was said in court despite what she said? How did the judge not make the proper decision atleast for a month he could’ve sat even if his motive was to kill her maybe one of them could’ve lived ijs
Jalisa, I miss you so much and I love you even more than that. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. Several years later, and it STILL hurts the same as the moment I first heard the news. 🥺💔 RIP baby girl.
Lord I’m glad I got out of my situation. I almost died in the hands of my ex boyfriend 😭😭😭
What’s with the volume in and out?
I was never physically beaten but my self esteem took a pretty huge hit and my confidence was shattered from emotional and verbal abuse.. It had become so bad at one point I started thinking if he didn’t react in that familiar manner of abuse that he had stopped caring until I realized I had some things mentally broken within and needed some therapy.. I then realized it was time to fight hard to free me from myself and who I had allowed myself to become.. I still struggle sometimes with certain things but I know that as humans we all struggle with something from time to time regardless of what it may be so I am no different but my processing skills have become different.. Now I see me before I see anyone else when folks start acting like their presence is a blessing to me.. You all take care and be safe out here.. Seek help and even relocate to a new state if you have to when you find yourselves in these situations. Your kids and your loved ones need you here with them🙏🏽
IT'S SERIOUS, MY KING AND QUEENS, I WAS LUCKY BECAUSE I FOUGHT BACK, EVEN THOUGH IT COSTED ME JAIL TIME.🤔🤔🤔
THANK YOU FOR THE RESPONSE.ALTHOUGH,I WAS LOCKED UP, I WAS FREE.!!! FREE FROM ALL OF MY ENEMIES AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I WAS FREE, FROM, ME.💋💋💋💋❤️
LaTonya White Damn Hunni, that was so sweetly deep👏🏾💜
THANK YOU,MY QUEEN,MY HEART IS FULL, RIGHT NOW, I LOVE YOU FOR FREE,💋💋💋💋💋💋🥂
The court gave her what she wanted. She told them he wasn’t a threat and she wasn’t afraid. I did the same thing went to court for my abusive ex husband. He got a year in prison when he should’ve gotten 10-15 years for attempted murder. It’s not worth it ladies. You owe it to yourself and your children to protect yourself and them. Get out immediately and don’t look back.
I respect this lady so much she wasn’t only worried about an interview she was worried about the mother and knew it wasn’t the right time she waited till she was ready. Others try and get an interview hours after a tragedy and ask questions like “What u gonna miss about this person” or “how u feel right now” smfh I truly applaud u it’s not easy at all.
I noticed that too. Respect!
I was in an abusive relationship. I almost died myself. The man one day, will never forget, was holding me borderline hostage in my huge walk-in closet. So I was trying to leave and he kept grabbing all on me, yanking me, etc. So I had enough and I pushed him off of me..that's when he grabbed my head and slammed it into the wall. My legs went numb, and my eyes were wide open but I couldn't see! Now what really scares me about the situation is...right where my head was slammed, right next to that spot was a nail sticking straight out! I could have died! Smh thinking about this scares me till this day smh
Protect. Yourself. Period.
every 9 seconds a woman is assulted or beaten in the us... i wonder how many times its the SAME WOMAN and WHY IN THE WORLD DO THEY NOT LEAVE THE BAD SITUATION???? then they fam wanna come out and say the police failed or some other person fault yet the loved one stayed until they are killed BY THE ONE THEY LOVED!!!
This is so sad.
This really struck a nerve, my 23 yo great niece was killed by her ex boyfriend 3 months ago. He shot her while she was on her job. I pray for all loved ones involved! #Justice4Atiyeh #Stop DV
Sorry for you and your Family loss. Be blessed and may she Rest in Peace.