Just be direct, say what you want. Don't play games. I know it's not considered as mind games by women, but it is to guys. No matter how many years you've been together, don't expect your man to know everything that is in your mind or everything that you want. Should have gotten a male guest for this episode because women understand women better and whatever you gals say or ask, it will most likely be agreed with by your guest.
As a woman, I also agree though. I have guy friends who really struggle to understand what their partner wants so I think it's just okay to tell the truth as well haha. I think playful banter is OK if the girl is actually fine with whatever the guy responses. BUT if you don't want him to misunderstand your gestures or "hints", don't play games.
The need to be read just means someone: 1. Doesn't understand himself/herself enough to know what he/she is feeling or what he/she wants or 2. Is bad at communicating In both cases that's a red flag.
Yea, it should be a bonus that someone can read you, but it shouldn't be the expectation, good god. Imagine getting upset over something you didn't even open your mouth about...wtf? Then imagine the guy does the same? I can read it sometimes, but as mentioned, it's a bonus.
i'm the type that will tell him directly "I don't want any flowers for V-Day because I'm lazy to maintain it and it's a waste of money when it dies" but at the same time also will add-on a suggestion like "why not spend the money on eating something we like instead" so he doesn't get the wrong idea and does the opposite thing. this is just how I prefer to communicate.
28:05 But the problem is guys don't know when you're just bantering and when you're being serious. And even when you're bantering, it can suddenly become serious and the guy doesn't even know that it has become serious. I've witnessed it happen in front of my eyes.
All I can say is know who u r talking to. Not everyone can take jokes. If u know the person can't take jokes lightly then don't bother to play around. Yes, it will suddenly become serious if the answer has passed the questioner's expectation. Or not smth within her threshold. Always think twice before u ans with quick analysis. Know your girl, thats the key.
Finally, an episode where I disagree with a lot of things (I love Hush Podcast btw). It's really unfair when women make men play the guessing game and then gwt angry when the men get it wrong or if the hint flies over the head. Imagine receiving unclear instructions and getting scolded when you get it wrong. Another thing is how you all sometimes have one logic for yourselves and another for us. If a man is being all hint-y and ambiguous to a woman like how women are towards their significant other, women are definitely going to have a problem with it.
10:18 lmao, me too :< 11:10 imo '"do whatever you want" can end in a meaningful way, where the advice has been considered (respectfully) but may not be how he chooses to proceed. 14:15 This actually can relate lmao, am a guy but I feel the same when I find great deals HAHA. Me and my sis get excited about each other's hauls :
Guys can be difficult to understand too. The limited things they shared and Ben Ben yes. Woman wants man to understand and know what they want rather than asking for it. Similar for guys, they too want their partner sayang them on bad day instead of telling them.
When i say "im ok", "have fun" i do really mean it though as a women. When i say im cold just hug me or put a shoulder over me trying to provide some warmth. No idw a jacket just some physical touch as a physical touch person. So know ur love language is very impt. I use emoji to express my emotions when i have doubts etc. I guess thats enough in giving the opp for the other party to explain without actually asking.😅 So it really depends on the type of a girl u have. communicate to identify. On the other hand, when my bf says he is ok, he is often not n gets upset when i didnt do anything. That frustrates me. Becuz how hard is that to just say what u feel n tell me wat u want.. hahha 😅 i prob just feel bad not knowing what to do. Yes do a decode for man pls. 🙏 Haaa 😅
Going around woman nowadays is like walking around landmines for a guy. 1. When they ask how old you think they are .. best say the original age less 5 years. 2. When they ask you what you wana eat , never say anything or up to you. 3. There is never a woman who doesn’t like nice surprises 4. When they say they are okay the fact is they are not okay. 5. No car your chances of getting attached lesser. For all guys out there better to keep your money then to invest on dating woman. Spend only if is your wife and your mom. Make sure you choose wisely , get married easy few dollars only get divorce half your assets gone.
6:14 "dude you should've known" is expecting people to read minds ~ and an excuse to put the blame if people can't 13:58 who is going to develop? because even females don't even have their own definitive answer 😅 20:48 straight up works best for guys 👍
Ladies. Love your podcast, but it is cute that you think that this is relatable to anyone who is not in your industry. As a not-too-pretty, non-celebrity woman, I do not have the luxury of acting too coy with my man and still expect him to come groveling after.
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Just be direct, say what you want. Don't play games. I know it's not considered as mind games by women, but it is to guys. No matter how many years you've been together, don't expect your man to know everything that is in your mind or everything that you want. Should have gotten a male guest for this episode because women understand women better and whatever you gals say or ask, it will most likely be agreed with by your guest.
Agree
Life is so tiresome. Occasionally for fun is okay. Often, it becomes annoying
As a woman, I also agree though. I have guy friends who really struggle to understand what their partner wants so I think it's just okay to tell the truth as well haha.
I think playful banter is OK if the girl is actually fine with whatever the guy responses. BUT if you don't want him to misunderstand your gestures or "hints", don't play games.
Thats what happens when Hazel is not around haha. Hazel always balances things really nicely
The need to be read just means someone:
1. Doesn't understand himself/herself enough to know what he/she is feeling or what he/she wants or
2. Is bad at communicating
In both cases that's a red flag.
Yea, it should be a bonus that someone can read you, but it shouldn't be the expectation, good god. Imagine getting upset over something you didn't even open your mouth about...wtf? Then imagine the guy does the same? I can read it sometimes, but as mentioned, it's a bonus.
i'm the type that will tell him directly "I don't want any flowers for V-Day because I'm lazy to maintain it and it's a waste of money when it dies" but at the same time also will add-on a suggestion like "why not spend the money on eating something we like instead" so he doesn't get the wrong idea and does the opposite thing. this is just how I prefer to communicate.
28:05 But the problem is guys don't know when you're just bantering and when you're being serious. And even when you're bantering, it can suddenly become serious and the guy doesn't even know that it has become serious. I've witnessed it happen in front of my eyes.
All I can say is know who u r talking to. Not everyone can take jokes. If u know the person can't take jokes lightly then don't bother to play around.
Yes, it will suddenly become serious if the answer has passed the questioner's expectation. Or not smth within her threshold.
Always think twice before u ans with quick analysis. Know your girl, thats the key.
Finally, an episode where I disagree with a lot of things (I love Hush Podcast btw).
It's really unfair when women make men play the guessing game and then gwt angry when the men get it wrong or if the hint flies over the head. Imagine receiving unclear instructions and getting scolded when you get it wrong.
Another thing is how you all sometimes have one logic for yourselves and another for us.
If a man is being all hint-y and ambiguous to a woman like how women are towards their significant other, women are definitely going to have a problem with it.
Hope there is a follow up episode to decode MAN hahahha
hahahahaha we love this! Recommend us men that we can invite!!
Sooo... basically a youtube short? 😂
@@itsclarityco just don't bring Avery lol.
10:18 lmao, me too :<
11:10 imo '"do whatever you want" can end in a meaningful way, where the advice has been considered (respectfully) but may not be how he chooses to proceed.
14:15 This actually can relate lmao, am a guy but I feel the same when I find great deals HAHA. Me and my sis get excited about each other's hauls :
Yes. Period.
Guys can be difficult to understand too. The limited things they shared and Ben Ben yes. Woman wants man to understand and know what they want rather than asking for it. Similar for guys, they too want their partner sayang them on bad day instead of telling them.
When i say "im ok", "have fun" i do really mean it though as a women.
When i say im cold just hug me or put a shoulder over me trying to provide some warmth. No idw a jacket just some physical touch as a physical touch person. So know ur love language is very impt.
I use emoji to express my emotions when i have doubts etc. I guess thats enough in giving the opp for the other party to explain without actually asking.😅
So it really depends on the type of a girl u have. communicate to identify. On the other hand, when my bf says he is ok, he is often not n gets upset when i didnt do anything. That frustrates me. Becuz how hard is that to just say what u feel n tell me wat u want.. hahha 😅 i prob just feel bad not knowing what to do. Yes do a decode for man pls. 🙏 Haaa 😅
I believe this is a prime example of the complaints men have about Singaporean women's 'princess' behavior.
Going around woman nowadays is like walking around landmines for a guy.
1. When they ask how old you think they are .. best say the original age less 5 years.
2. When they ask you what you wana eat , never say anything or up to you.
3. There is never a woman who doesn’t like nice surprises
4. When they say they are okay the fact is they are not okay.
5. No car your chances of getting attached lesser.
For all guys out there better to keep your money then to invest on dating woman.
Spend only if is your wife and your mom.
Make sure you choose wisely , get married easy few dollars only get divorce half your assets gone.
6:14 "dude you should've known" is expecting people to read minds ~ and an excuse to put the blame if people can't
13:58 who is going to develop? because even females don't even have their own definitive answer 😅
20:48 straight up works best for guys 👍
Ladies. Love your podcast, but it is cute that you think that this is relatable to anyone who is not in your industry. As a not-too-pretty, non-celebrity woman, I do not have the luxury of acting too coy with my man and still expect him to come groveling after.
42seconds ago is crazy