Im a 50 y o male. Video rec by yt. Suffocating in clutter. As my family members have passed ive ended up with their stuff. Most recently Mom - which means a house full of all she kept - a lot. Its all way too long and the dynamics complex to fully understand. All i want is more free time and a very simple life. To wake up when my body says its ready (not an alarm clock), eat when im hungry (not because i better eat now), have the luxury of putting my head down for a power nap (instead of sitting there bobbleheading it). Its a process.
You will make it. Everyone is different on the best way to declutter, but the method I used and still am using is multiple passes. The first pass, just got rid of obvious garbage. That cleared the home enough that it was easier to think about more and more progressively difficult items. Each pass got a little harder, but I spent the time to question why I should keep it or get rid of it. Eventually, in pass maybe 5 or 6 I started getting into the really tough items, and those items I really take my time with. Old military items, family heirlooms and the like. I doubt I will ever get rid of all of that stuff, but I do know that at some point I will no longer be here, and I only want my children to have to go through those things that I feel they might benefit from going through. It is the tough work, but I think it is work that we all must try to do. Every time that I got rid of more stuff my life has gotten easier, so that has been evidence to me that I am on the right path.
Thank you for devoting a section to imperfection. Minimalism and rigidity often go hand in hand, and there’s a lot of pressure to always make the “right” decision, the “right” purchase, etc. It’s important to remind ourselves that minimalism is a mindset that is intended to support us, not another thing to beat ourselves up over for not doing perfectly. I’ve given myself the space to apply minimalism only to the aspects of my life that are served by it. That has kept me from becoming anxious and puritanical about the whole thing.
I got rid of my instant pot and in the beginning of my minimalist journey, and then soon after my air fryer broke. I had every intention of buying a new one, and I thought I would miss it but I do not. I have instead focused on cooking on my oven and grill and using my cast iron pans, and I am getting so much joy from using them.
funny what we can get used to and normalized to isn't it? and then all the sudden you find yourself happier without all the gadgets and extras you thought you needed!
I grew up in England and emigrated to the US a long time ago. I remember there was always a lot of thought into what we purchased whether it was clothing or household items because everything was expensive, which on looking back was a way of not getting overwhelmed by stuff. Then when I moved to the US everything was cheap, at that time I felt how great it was to be able to purchase an item when I thought I needed it, then several years later the reality of the abundance of stuff was more than overwhelming, I knew I wanted a much simpler life. Since then I have worked hard to minimize everything, clothing, household items, even food items. We eat simply, no processed foods, only extremely nutritious foods, because 8:57 of this I’ve minimized shopping time all around, giving me more time to exercise and spend time with family and friends, no longer a slave to the house. I’ve got time for interests and learning new things, something I’m really interested in is fermented foods, which I’ve been cultivating so I can pass on to friends and family. Life is more precious than material things. Eat well and laugh a lot. 😁
Honestly I never viewed decluttering as separating your favorites from the rest! I really think your on to something here 😄 thank you very much! I am gonna try this right away 😘
So helpful as always! 😍 we live in a small house & we’ve been wanting to get pregnant with our third baby, but our house felt „too small“. But we don’t want to move into a bigger house, So since then I’ve started another round of decluttering but this time with the question „what am I decluttering for?“ so „decluttering to make space for baby nr 3“ made it a lot easier parting with things that I was holding onto where I realised „I won’t need that“ or even „I won’t even have time for that with three little ones“ . Kind of helped as well to let go of this fantasy self I’ve been holding onto, that I don’t even wanna be any more. Long story short, super Video, again! Thank you that you keep sharing these with us 🥰 have a good day ✨🌻
YES. I've been doing this too lately, just thinking more about what I could make more space for in my life with less chaos and less to manage. it's so tangible in. my house/life what clutter does to our family culture and how present I am with the kids.
Kind of related to wants vs needs but I write down things I want to buy the following month then try to set aside a time one day to buy everything (normally a few random things). To me this is kind of like how in the past people used to go into town once a week or once a month to buy stuff. My current approach is helpful because buying at once means the packages arrive around the same time and I can process everything efficiently: breaking down boxes or reusing them for donation boxes, process returns in one errand, etc. it also removes some mental load from constantly wanting to not forget buying something. It goes on my list and I will evaluate if I still need it later.
The bullet journaling as far as listing your wants/needs is a great idea. Once I get something down on paper I can let it go from thinking it over and over in my mind.
Love your videos! Would love to also see videos of items in each room that you find high value or multipurpose use. , and why you chose these things. Maybe a room/house tour.
After watching one of your videos yesterday, I was so inspired that even 9 months pregnant (will be induced Thursday if I don’t go into labor on my own) I started declutterring our basement last night. taking a whole Tahoe load full of stuff to our local ‘Swap & Shop’ & at least 5 or 6 trash bags full of stuff! I moved all my pantry/ kitchen storage to shift it to work better for me. I am so pleased & inspired and can’t wait to watch more of your videos
First time to bump into your channel. I love how you mentioned that we should focus on what we love and want to keep rather than focus on what we should declutter. ❤
Thanks for all the tips- I especially loved the one about separating in your mind what you need room for. It made me think of the minimal moms idea for how she Declutters the closet- laying everything she needs on the bed- finding the gaps, and removing the rest of the stuff.
You might already have a video aboit this but where did you begin with your decluttering process? Did you donate? Sell? How long did it take you? If you have a video will you link it for me. I'm feeling so overwhelmed lately.
Dear Madi, yes, buying right away the right thing instead of what's cheaper has been a huge shift in my purchasing habits, allowing me automatically to have to save and wait for that item.... Also, knowing that for every not necessary thing, means moving away from my goal of keep being a stay at home mom..... and this alone is what keeps me going😊
I love these videos and have adopted many of your methods to keep our home enjoyable for everyone. The hardest part for me is the gifts. I’ve had the conversations even given lists to relatives for the kiddos and when I say they receive a ton of cheap stuff they won’t play with I mean a TON! Like we have a mid size SUV and it takes TWO car loads to bring it home from Christmas. It causes so much anxiety for all of us. The only solution we have found is to let each kid pick their favorite toy (or two) and put the rest in the basement. Then come spring whatever is left gets donated or sold. It’s still a lot to deal with but just a suggestion for anyone in a similar circumstance.
As you mention quality items, in my kitchen I have quality tongs, pizza cutter, knives, cutting boards and have had them for years. They were a bit more expensive but, they have not broken and I may never have to replace them. That is value. I use them. They fit in my space.
I have a arm injury from work, the operation failed me so I no longer can work but since watching you sunshine ☀ ive done my main bathroom, then my laundry so I have 2 clean spaces that give me pleasure, especially now when I have a bath, I just love it.. so this week, ive gone through my pantry.. its a big job so a day I do a shelf. im chipping away with it. then it will be my ensuite and wardrobe.. not looking forward to it but it will get done now.. im determined.. thank you for all your assistance too..
All of these sound amazing. I love making wants and need lists and goals. I think the first few years are the hardest for family members to accept a way of life of minimalism and not really wanting stuff. My mom and mom-in-law ask things I need from time to time because they know I won't enjoy them just giving me things if I won't be able to use them. I had an instant pot when I got married 19 years ago, used it once three years later, and donated it when I realized that I probably wouldn't use it again. . .and I haven't. I like that it is "What do I really want?" that you have asked here. That is the number one question everyone should ask on a regular basis. That and "What am I going to need to use regularly?"
Wow thank you this was SO encouraging and a great reminder of why I started my minimalism journey. I’ve fallen off track over the last 2 years and now I’m stuck feeling overwhelmed looking around wondering “how did I get here again?” Slowly decluttering again 🧡 Also your video quality and voice were so calming! Subscribing now 🥰
Girl me too- the insta pot was not at all what it was cracked out to be! Tried to use it, and nothing turned out. So it’s me making broth on the stove and yogurt on the counter 😂
I'm probably going to be an enabler, but you should hold out for linen light filtering curtains if you're concerned about the heat but don't want a dark room. I switched from heavy cotton/viscose room darkening curtains to white IKEA Dytag curtains, and it was amazing how much heat was reflected away from the room. It blocks more heat than my blackout curtains (probably because it reflects rather than absorbs infrared light), and way better than a set of polyester light filtering curtains. It's even slightly better at blocking heat than my 1 inch polyester cellular shades.
It would be so easy if I lived in a hot weather country to have less clothes, in UK we need warm stuff jumpers/jeans/jackets/coats/scarves/hat/cooler clothes. I find it so hard to have less clothes in a cold very rarely hot country. Im slowly trying to sell clothes and books.
Your videos add such value to my day, perched on my windowsill in Te Waipounamu/South Island NZ as I do my dishes. I homeschool 3 young children and am constantly seeking inspiration on not only how to unburden myself from "stuff" but fill my life with the richness of little moments fully enjoyed. Your encouragment is uplifting, thank you ❤
I am 40 years young, and I am awed at how wise and confident you are. To live your truth with such fervor and sweetness is a wonderful gift. With my gained wisdom, the mother of four beautiful girls, I now only give my time and attention to those I find are worth my time and attention. You are one of them. Can I be you when I grow up? I have too many thoughts and questions now after watching this: 1) I have never understood journaling, with four kids I never have time to sit and write without someone "helping" or interrupting, but the wants/needs list suggested exercise might be just what I need to stop me from buying clothing and jewelry off second hand platforms. Post-partum with #4 at 39 has been the hardest to get strong and healthy again. As my body changes or my emotions about my body fluctuate, I find shopping for the potential of feeling beautiful to help feel more in control. Especially since working out is a daily challenge. Did I mention we live in an RV while my husband takes contracts as an RN? Even in this tiny space, I have managed to acrue too much. Again. And most of it doesn't work for my body or my life. I am gonna re-watch your journal video again and put those emotions into an action to strengthen my patience and discipline. 2) HOW are you NOT using your AC? I just recently cut off all my hair because I was so hot. Yay to post partum hormones. Really, how do you make it manageable and stay sane, especially while cleaning and cooking? Even with short hair, I couldn't imagine going without the AC. 3) Please share how you have your fiddle leaf fig thriving? Mine is more like a fickle leaf fig, almost as persnickety as my orchids. Definitely not as big as yours. 4) Activated charcoal has SO many uses, doesn't it? I use it with my toothpaste, my face/body/scalp for a deep clean, and for deodorant as well. Love to support small, clean companies, so thanks for sharing. 5) Thanks again for the Dandyblend suggestion. I can't tolerate lots of coffee like I used to and it really is a great substitute. I give myself one cup of coffee every morning. When I get halfway from finishing I make a iced hybrid of my coffee with the Dandyblend. Sometimes I will add a mushroom coffee to it, but the Chai vibes aren't always my thing. Maybe in another month or two. I don't think I could give up coffee completely but now I feel healthier limiting to what I have. And it was a nice lesson to my girls that dandelions aren't the weeds people now believe them to be. We now hold them in higher regard and plan to make dandelion salve later this year as a school project. Thanks for supporting us out there trying to be the change we need in this world. Sometimes it's a lonely walk. We need you to help share. ❤
Really love this. The idea of coming from abundance was so life changing for me. My husband said once “it’s ok to spend money on things, we deserve nice stuff” and I was just like 🤯 not sure where this is instilled into so many peoples minds, the idea that we must “save money” Anyhow, thanks for all your work!
Love the part about speaking honestly to family. I think sometimes we forget to declutter the excess intangible things in our lives. I decluttered the need to be “in” everything… every conversation, every opinion, every group chat. I save my energy for the things that make me smile!
I've been looking for another channel like a few others I follow of fellow mama and decluttering and simple living and so glad yours popped up today. I'm pregnant with my third and been teaching my boys (2 and 4) about having less and enjoying more experiences and giving back. So thank you for being another enjoyable fellow mama to follow along in this journey!
Love ❤ I have started decluttering for a more stress free life, more time to relax with my daughter then always tidying or trying to decide what to do. Agree with having less but having more quality items, that has helped alot. I think simple things and not always needing a plan is great for my mind. ❤
@@MadisunGray Your ideas about slow living and slowing down help aswell 💗, as I feel time is going so quickly & then my little one is at school soon and I can't slow down time and saviour it anymore then you can.
I grew up in a cluttered, almost hoarder home and now after getting married and moving out with my husband, our house is very minimalistic. I have clutter and get actually stressed from it. If things aren't in place I get the urge to out them back. God has helped me to not get obcessive with it and some days it does get more messy and thats OK, also pregnant with our 1, 7 weeks, so also keeping things minimal for baby. Having a small apartment makes it also easier to be minimal haha
Quality is my focus thanks to your ideas and I am downsizing my clothes…oh boy!!! I have way too much….never too old to make these changes…the more I have the more I need to take care of things
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Hey there! Our children are grown so we are in the place of life where we are looking at inheriting full households of things. We already have my husband’s parent’s things. We bought a smaller house. My parents literally have 3 houses. That amount of possessions caused me to, in a kind of panic, start getting rid of so much. Now I am calm enough to curate the life we are striving to build and create space for it to unfold. So much more chill and sane. Thanks for the perspective encouragement.
Always a joy to hear what you have to say. It’s so hard to go from collecting things I don’t really use to giving myself the freedom to let it go and know that it actually in reality makes my life a whole lot fuller. It takes time to switch this mentality, but I’m slowly getting there. Love you and your advice so so much. ❤😊
Your last point about how a small change can lead to a significant trajectory change in our lives was such a great visual for me and so inspiring! Thank you!
The curtain example 😂😂😂 This was us some days ago when we were in the high 90s to 100 degrees. And then *poof* we have a bad autumn after one night with 57 degrees and curtains might better keep the cold outside when the heating is still turned off 😅
I love my instant pots! I have a large one for beans and soups when I don't have the time to cook on the stove, and a small one for making rice and soy or coconut yogurt.
I love my instant pot too, it really is the most used kitchen item I have. The only thing I have used the air fryer for is bacon....easy clean up (put the bacon grease in a jar and into the fridge then wash the basket) no splatter...but I could live without it. I don't think I can give up the instant pot though LOL
I have a wish list of fair trade, organic and eco-conscious items that I would like to have in the home. They can be on there for awhile due to the cost which is relatively higher for my income and sometimes I might have to wait for them to go on sale which is fine. I also make a lot of products from scratch at home: food, cleaning and skin care items. My sister calls me cheap for doing so but for me it is living within my means and not buying things that I have the skills to make .
Love this message and it’s the perfect message to share on my social with friends and family to understand mine and my family’s ways a little better without being confused or offended and hopefully becoming respectful of our lifestyle! Will be sharing this! 🤍🥰
I find it so hard when people come over and give my kids things. My in-laws bring something over every single time they come over. Usually it's just absolute junk... 🤦🏼♀️ I tell them all the time that the kids want to see you they don't need something every time but they persist 🫠
Thank you. 🤗. I just want to mention something that is not related to this video. I have noticed when you do the voice over parts of your videos, I find you very soothing, comforting and compassionate. I have been meditating for three years and I find it difficult to find meditations by women that feel real like you. I usually listen to men because they are relaxed but not floaty(?). I think you would be really good at it and you could bring the lessons that you teach your viewers, to the meditations. Just a thought. 🥰May you find joy in your day. 💖💖💖
Your voice is so nice to listen to. I have an huge shopping problem and i wish i was minimalistic like you. In my household i am rather minimalistic but not in my (or my Childs) closet 🙈
I also purchased the instant pot and couldn’t get the hang of it I felt it was a real waste of money and every time I saw a you tuber using one I would try it again but I’ve admitted defeat and got rid !
I have been a minimalist since 2019. I agree to write a list and wait to see if you really need or want items. Usually, I end up buying only 20 percent of the items on the list. I also use this with children Christmas List. I have them give me a list months in advance. Every so often, I ask them again what they want. The items they ask for thats a repeat are the items we usually buy :)
I’ve learned several very helpful things from this short video. Really glad I clicked on it first thing on a Saturday morning. Thank you! I really love what you wear in the video. Do you mind sharing where you like to buy clothes from?
I was just saying how I wanted to ditch my “natural deodorant “ that supports mindsets that I don’t anymore and that I needed to find a better option…Camber sounds great, I definitely will give it a try!😎 Love these tips thank you, you are inspirational to own and want less.
I have the same thoughts about the electric pressure cooker / multi-cooker. The only thing I consistently use it for is the sous vide function (I've had great success with sous vide meats and fish) and the pressure cooker function for bone broth (which, for over 20 years prior to getting one, I made just fine either on the stove top or in a slow cooker). I've been considering ditching the multi-cooker and just buying a sous vide wand that goes into a pot I already have and use. I really enjoy cooking and baking ... I have a collection of kitchen gadgets that I'm whittling down. 95% of the time, I will reach for my high-quality chef's knife and cutting board over a "time-saving" gadget. Gadgets often have multiple parts that need assembled before using, and then disassembled, cleaned, and dried before storing ... and there they sit, waiting for the 5% of time that I actually might grab one of them. It's a long process of removing the layers.
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I love my Camber that I bought because of your recommendation. I love the pine and cedar scent. It makes me smell like a cool, natural, forest dweller. Lol
Madi, you inspire me to live a more simple life. Thank you so much for your content❤ I would love to see an example of your wants/needs bullet journal!
I always love your videos. Minimalism is such a PRACTICE and while I’ve been at it for years, your content is always helpful for me to stay on track and refreshing. Also I am not with the instant pot or air fryer either 😅 my “lack” of air fryer has been questioned an odd amount by people! Haha
I moved into a small house, I don't have a lot of storage. I had to donate tons of stuff, I didn't realize I didn't need all the stuff. I'm trying to help a friend declutter it's so hard for her to let go.
What about keepsakes? Like your children’s favorite toys or holiday items? How did you possibly go through & pick & choose? These are a few of my problem areas…..
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Im a 50 y o male. Video rec by yt. Suffocating in clutter. As my family members have passed ive ended up with their stuff. Most recently Mom - which means a house full of all she kept - a lot. Its all way too long and the dynamics complex to fully understand. All i want is more free time and a very simple life. To wake up when my body says its ready (not an alarm clock), eat when im hungry (not because i better eat now), have the luxury of putting my head down for a power nap (instead of sitting there bobbleheading it). Its a process.
Yeh
Prayers 🙏 and so sorry about your mom I can’t imagine
You will make it. Everyone is different on the best way to declutter, but the method I used and still am using is multiple passes. The first pass, just got rid of obvious garbage. That cleared the home enough that it was easier to think about more and more progressively difficult items. Each pass got a little harder, but I spent the time to question why I should keep it or get rid of it. Eventually, in pass maybe 5 or 6 I started getting into the really tough items, and those items I really take my time with. Old military items, family heirlooms and the like. I doubt I will ever get rid of all of that stuff, but I do know that at some point I will no longer be here, and I only want my children to have to go through those things that I feel they might benefit from going through. It is the tough work, but I think it is work that we all must try to do. Every time that I got rid of more stuff my life has gotten easier, so that has been evidence to me that I am on the right path.
Ironic how your name is gray when you are such a bright light ☀️ thank you for your videos and your channel. You really have changed my life. ❤
aw thank you so much!!! 😭
She has sun in her name ☀️
Thank you for devoting a section to imperfection. Minimalism and rigidity often go hand in hand, and there’s a lot of pressure to always make the “right” decision, the “right” purchase, etc. It’s important to remind ourselves that minimalism is a mindset that is intended to support us, not another thing to beat ourselves up over for not doing perfectly. I’ve given myself the space to apply minimalism only to the aspects of my life that are served by it. That has kept me from becoming anxious and puritanical about the whole thing.
Love that!
I got rid of my instant pot and in the beginning of my minimalist journey, and then soon after my air fryer broke. I had every intention of buying a new one, and I thought I would miss it but I do not. I have instead focused on cooking on my oven and grill and using my cast iron pans, and I am getting so much joy from using them.
When I moved, I left behind my microwave. I have never looked back, and I do not miss it one bit! I'm perfectly fine with my stove and oven.
funny what we can get used to and normalized to isn't it? and then all the sudden you find yourself happier without all the gadgets and extras you thought you needed!
Garage sales and Marketplace have so many air fryers, instapots, bread makers. You're not alone.
I grew up in England and emigrated to the US a long time ago. I remember there was always a lot of thought into what we purchased whether it was clothing or household items because everything was expensive, which on looking back was a way of not getting overwhelmed by stuff. Then when I moved to the US everything was cheap, at that time I felt how great it was to be able to purchase an item when I thought I needed it, then several years later the reality of the abundance of stuff was more than overwhelming, I knew I wanted a much simpler life. Since then I have worked hard to minimize everything, clothing, household items, even food items. We eat simply, no processed foods, only extremely nutritious foods, because 8:57 of this I’ve minimized shopping time all around, giving me more time to exercise and spend time with family and friends, no longer a slave to the house. I’ve got time for interests and learning new things, something I’m really interested in is fermented foods, which I’ve been cultivating so I can pass on to friends and family. Life is more precious than material things. Eat well and laugh a lot. 😁
Honestly I never viewed decluttering as separating your favorites from the rest!
I really think your on to something here 😄 thank you very much! I am gonna try this right away 😘
simple but it helps! xo
Patience! "The person who waits doesn't lack anything. "
The only thing we need to collect more of is Maddisun Gray’s wisdom.
😂 lolol
So helpful as always! 😍 we live in a small house & we’ve been wanting to get pregnant with our third baby, but our house felt „too small“. But we don’t want to move into a bigger house, So since then I’ve started another round of decluttering but this time with the question „what am I decluttering for?“ so „decluttering to make space for baby nr 3“ made it a lot easier parting with things that I was holding onto where I realised „I won’t need that“ or even „I won’t even have time for that with three little ones“ . Kind of helped as well to let go of this fantasy self I’ve been holding onto, that I don’t even wanna be any more.
Long story short, super Video, again! Thank you that you keep sharing these with us 🥰 have a good day ✨🌻
YES. I've been doing this too lately, just thinking more about what I could make more space for in my life with less chaos and less to manage. it's so tangible in. my house/life what clutter does to our family culture and how present I am with the kids.
I have been swapping my plastic containers for glass ones. Replacing hard plastic kitchen tools for wood and steel ones.
It’s hard to pick a fav video that you’ve made but this has to be in my top 5. Beautifully stated & documented.
hannah that means so much to me! thank you friend! 🤎
Agreed !
Kind of related to wants vs needs but I write down things I want to buy the following month then try to set aside a time one day to buy everything (normally a few random things). To me this is kind of like how in the past people used to go into town once a week or once a month to buy stuff. My current approach is helpful because buying at once means the packages arrive around the same time and I can process everything efficiently: breaking down boxes or reusing them for donation boxes, process returns in one errand, etc. it also removes some mental load from constantly wanting to not forget buying something. It goes on my list and I will evaluate if I still need it later.
The bullet journaling as far as listing your wants/needs is a great idea. Once I get something down on paper I can let it go from thinking it over and over in my mind.
Yes!
"Separate the excess from stuff that is adding value" I love this... Thank you!
Love your videos! Would love to also see videos of items in each room that you find high value or multipurpose use.
, and why you chose these things. Maybe a room/house tour.
After watching one of your videos yesterday, I was so inspired that even 9 months pregnant (will be induced Thursday if I don’t go into labor on my own) I started declutterring our basement last night. taking a whole Tahoe load full of stuff to our local ‘Swap & Shop’ & at least 5 or 6 trash bags full of stuff! I moved all my pantry/ kitchen storage to shift it to work better for me. I am so pleased & inspired and can’t wait to watch more of your videos
Your “why” is exactly what I’m thinking thank you for this!!
I've started sitting on purchases and the wait really does make such a difference! I buy less and want less.
me too! I love it!
First time to bump into your channel. I love how you mentioned that we should focus on what we love and want to keep rather than focus on what we should declutter. ❤
Welcome ❤️
Such a good point to look at a space as “what you want” rather than the overwhelm from all the things. Will definitely take that with me ❤
Thanks for all the tips- I especially loved the one about separating in your mind what you need room for. It made me think of the minimal moms idea for how she Declutters the closet- laying everything she needs on the bed- finding the gaps, and removing the rest of the stuff.
Yes I love Dawn!
You might already have a video aboit this but where did you begin with your decluttering process? Did you donate? Sell? How long did it take you? If you have a video will you link it for me. I'm feeling so overwhelmed lately.
Yes! Coming from a place of abundance rather than scarcity is a huge shift in the whole process. As always, love your videos so much Madi! ❤❤
it is! still not got it all down 🤎🤎🤎
Dear Madi, yes, buying right away the right thing instead of what's cheaper has been a huge shift in my purchasing habits, allowing me automatically to have to save and wait for that item....
Also, knowing that for every not necessary thing, means moving away from my goal of keep being a stay at home mom..... and this alone is what keeps me going😊
I'm a pressure-cooker failure too.
I love these videos and have adopted many of your methods to keep our home enjoyable for everyone. The hardest part for me is the gifts. I’ve had the conversations even given lists to relatives for the kiddos and when I say they receive a ton of cheap stuff they won’t play with I mean a TON! Like we have a mid size SUV and it takes TWO car loads to bring it home from Christmas. It causes so much anxiety for all of us. The only solution we have found is to let each kid pick their favorite toy (or two) and put the rest in the basement. Then come spring whatever is left gets donated or sold. It’s still a lot to deal with but just a suggestion for anyone in a similar circumstance.
As you mention quality items, in my kitchen I have quality tongs, pizza cutter, knives, cutting boards and have had them for years. They were a bit more expensive but, they have not broken and I may never have to replace them. That is value. I use them. They fit in my space.
I have a arm injury from work, the operation failed me so I no longer can work but since watching you sunshine ☀ ive done my main bathroom, then my laundry so I have 2 clean spaces that give me pleasure, especially now when I have a bath, I just love it.. so this week, ive gone through my pantry.. its a big job so a day I do a shelf. im chipping away with it. then it will be my ensuite and wardrobe.. not looking forward to it but it will get done now.. im determined.. thank you for all your assistance too..
All of these sound amazing.
I love making wants and need lists and goals.
I think the first few years are the hardest for family members to accept a way of life of minimalism and not really wanting stuff. My mom and mom-in-law ask things I need from time to time because they know I won't enjoy them just giving me things if I won't be able to use them.
I had an instant pot when I got married 19 years ago, used it once three years later, and donated it when I realized that I probably wouldn't use it again. . .and I haven't.
I like that it is "What do I really want?" that you have asked here. That is the number one question everyone should ask on a regular basis. That and "What am I going to need to use regularly?"
yes! and it's so different for everyone which makes it so inspiring to hear/see other people's minimalism trajectories. thanks for watching!
Wow thank you this was SO encouraging and a great reminder of why I started my minimalism journey. I’ve fallen off track over the last 2 years and now I’m stuck feeling overwhelmed looking around wondering “how did I get here again?” Slowly decluttering again 🧡
Also your video quality and voice were so calming! Subscribing now 🥰
Welcome 😘
Girl me too- the insta pot was not at all what it was cracked out to be! Tried to use it, and nothing turned out. So it’s me making broth on the stove and yogurt on the counter 😂
😂 I don’t know what it is about that.
I'm probably going to be an enabler, but you should hold out for linen light filtering curtains if you're concerned about the heat but don't want a dark room.
I switched from heavy cotton/viscose room darkening curtains to white IKEA Dytag curtains, and it was amazing how much heat was reflected away from the room. It blocks more heat than my blackout curtains (probably because it reflects rather than absorbs infrared light), and way better than a set of polyester light filtering curtains. It's even slightly better at blocking heat than my 1 inch polyester cellular shades.
It would be so easy if I lived in a hot weather country to have less clothes, in UK we need warm stuff jumpers/jeans/jackets/coats/scarves/hat/cooler clothes. I find it so hard to have less clothes in a cold very rarely hot country. Im slowly trying to sell clothes and books.
Your videos add such value to my day, perched on my windowsill in Te Waipounamu/South Island NZ as I do my dishes. I homeschool 3 young children and am constantly seeking inspiration on not only how to unburden myself from "stuff" but fill my life with the richness of little moments fully enjoyed. Your encouragment is uplifting, thank you ❤
this makes me so happy ❤️
I am 40 years young, and I am awed at how wise and confident you are. To live your truth with such fervor and sweetness is a wonderful gift. With my gained wisdom, the mother of four beautiful girls, I now only give my time and attention to those I find are worth my time and attention. You are one of them. Can I be you when I grow up? I have too many thoughts and questions now after watching this:
1) I have never understood journaling, with four kids I never have time to sit and write without someone "helping" or interrupting, but the wants/needs list suggested exercise might be just what I need to stop me from buying clothing and jewelry off second hand platforms. Post-partum with #4 at 39 has been the hardest to get strong and healthy again. As my body changes or my emotions about my body fluctuate, I find shopping for the potential of feeling beautiful to help feel more in control. Especially since working out is a daily challenge. Did I mention we live in an RV while my husband takes contracts as an RN? Even in this tiny space, I have managed to acrue too much. Again. And most of it doesn't work for my body or my life. I am gonna re-watch your journal video again and put those emotions into an action to strengthen my patience and discipline.
2) HOW are you NOT using your AC? I just recently cut off all my hair because I was so hot. Yay to post partum hormones. Really, how do you make it manageable and stay sane, especially while cleaning and cooking? Even with short hair, I couldn't imagine going without the AC.
3) Please share how you have your fiddle leaf fig thriving? Mine is more like a fickle leaf fig, almost as persnickety as my orchids. Definitely not as big as yours.
4) Activated charcoal has SO many uses, doesn't it? I use it with my toothpaste, my face/body/scalp for a deep clean, and for deodorant as well. Love to support small, clean companies, so thanks for sharing.
5) Thanks again for the Dandyblend suggestion. I can't tolerate lots of coffee like I used to and it really is a great substitute. I give myself one cup of coffee every morning. When I get halfway from finishing I make a iced hybrid of my coffee with the Dandyblend. Sometimes I will add a mushroom coffee to it, but the Chai vibes aren't always my thing. Maybe in another month or two. I don't think I could give up coffee completely but now I feel healthier limiting to what I have. And it was a nice lesson to my girls that dandelions aren't the weeds people now believe them to be. We now hold them in higher regard and plan to make dandelion salve later this year as a school project.
Thanks for supporting us out there trying to be the change we need in this world. Sometimes it's a lonely walk. We need you to help share. ❤
Thanks for taking the time to comment ❤️
Same, instant pot gone. Too much work and I spewed red liquid all over kitchen with the steam release. Glad it's gone. :)
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Really love this. The idea of coming from abundance was so life changing for me. My husband said once “it’s ok to spend money on things, we deserve nice stuff” and I was just like 🤯 not sure where this is instilled into so many peoples minds, the idea that we must “save money” Anyhow, thanks for all your work!
YES. it’s okay to have nice things, just don’t let your things have you. ❤️
You are just the best! Thank you for making this content & for fostering a love for less! ❤
oh gosh thank you!
Love the part about speaking honestly to family. I think sometimes we forget to declutter the excess intangible things in our lives. I decluttered the need to be “in” everything… every conversation, every opinion, every group chat. I save my energy for the things that make me smile!
I've been looking for another channel like a few others I follow of fellow mama and decluttering and simple living and so glad yours popped up today. I'm pregnant with my third and been teaching my boys (2 and 4) about having less and enjoying more experiences and giving back. So thank you for being another enjoyable fellow mama to follow along in this journey!
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I have started decluttering for a more stress free life, more time to relax with my daughter then always tidying or trying to decide what to do. Agree with having less but having more quality items, that has helped alot. I think simple things and not always needing a plan is great for my mind.
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so good! I love this so much 🤎
@@MadisunGray Your ideas about slow living and slowing down help aswell 💗, as I feel time is going so quickly & then my little one is at school soon and I can't slow down time and saviour it anymore then you can.
I grew up in a cluttered, almost hoarder home and now after getting married and moving out with my husband, our house is very minimalistic. I have clutter and get actually stressed from it. If things aren't in place I get the urge to out them back. God has helped me to not get obcessive with it and some days it does get more messy and thats OK, also pregnant with our 1, 7 weeks, so also keeping things minimal for baby. Having a small apartment makes it also easier to be minimal haha
Wonderful reminder of what is truly important in life. Thank you Madisun!
Thank you ❤️
Quality is my focus thanks to your ideas and I am downsizing my clothes…oh boy!!! I have way too much….never too old to make these changes…the more I have the more I need to take care of things
YES 🙌🏾
@@MadisunGray tell everyone about LaVanilla deodorant...the white sports one smells soooo fab...its online and also at Winners...its the best natural deodorant I have ever used, the minis are great for the handbag when its super hot out...💕😊
Hey there! Our children are grown so we are in the place of life where we are looking at inheriting full households of things. We already have my husband’s parent’s things. We bought a smaller house. My parents literally have 3 houses. That amount of possessions caused me to, in a kind of panic, start getting rid of so much. Now I am calm enough to curate the life we are striving to build and create space for it to unfold. So much more chill and sane. Thanks for the perspective encouragement.
yes yes yes 🤎🤎🤎
When you talked about the decluttering buying cycle, Taylor Swift's Anti-Hero started playing because I am the Problem. It is me.
Always a joy to hear what you have to say. It’s so hard to go from collecting things I don’t really use to giving myself the freedom to let it go and know that it actually in reality makes my life a whole lot fuller. It takes time to switch this mentality, but I’m slowly getting there. Love you and your advice so so much. ❤😊
❤️❤️ it does take time.
I'm trying to declutter it embarrassing ..we need to stop buying and Enjoy Life! ❤.
Your last point about how a small change can lead to a significant trajectory change in our lives was such a great visual for me and so inspiring! Thank you!
So glad 😃
A good deal is only a deal if you love it and use it.
YES 🙌🏾
The curtain example 😂😂😂 This was us some days ago when we were in the high 90s to 100 degrees. And then *poof* we have a bad autumn after one night with 57 degrees and curtains might better keep the cold outside when the heating is still turned off 😅
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Don't wait. I hired a skip...and filled it. My home is now so fresh and airy.
I love my instant pots! I have a large one for beans and soups when I don't have the time to cook on the stove, and a small one for making rice and soy or coconut yogurt.
I love my instant pot too, it really is the most used kitchen item I have. The only thing I have used the air fryer for is bacon....easy clean up (put the bacon grease in a jar and into the fridge then wash the basket) no splatter...but I could live without it. I don't think I can give up the instant pot though LOL
I love our air fryer/convection oven too!
I have a wish list of fair trade, organic and eco-conscious items that I would like to have in the home. They can be on there for awhile due to the cost which is relatively higher for my income and sometimes I might have to wait for them to go on sale which is fine. I also make a lot of products from scratch at home: food, cleaning and skin care items. My sister calls me cheap for doing so but for me it is living within my means and not buying things that I have the skills to make .
Good things to contemplate and incorporate. 🤔 Thank you!
Love this one. Think of all the things you love and get rid of the rest.
I keep decluttering. keep having bags to donate. feels so good to get rid of things.
Love that!
same about the instapot! Didnt work for me... love my slow cooker/crockpot though!
Love this message and it’s the perfect message to share on my social with friends and family to understand mine and my family’s ways a little better without being confused or offended and hopefully becoming respectful of our lifestyle! Will be sharing this! 🤍🥰
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I find it so hard when people come over and give my kids things. My in-laws bring something over every single time they come over. Usually it's just absolute junk... 🤦🏼♀️ I tell them all the time that the kids want to see you they don't need something every time but they persist 🫠
I know it’s hard.
Just my opinion but I’d just let them. It brings them joy. The kids can play with it a bit and then you can toss it in a few days.
@@flamingofan5411 yeah you're right. It's just hard because my eldest now expects something when they come over because they have set this expectation
Madisun❤. I NEEDED this encouragement THANK YOU ❤
aw thank you dana!
Thank you. 🤗. I just want to mention something that is not related to this video. I have noticed when you do the voice over parts of your videos, I find you very soothing, comforting and compassionate. I have been meditating for three years and I find it difficult to find meditations by women that feel real like you. I usually listen to men because they are relaxed but not floaty(?). I think you would be really good at it and you could bring the lessons that you teach your viewers, to the meditations. Just a thought. 🥰May you find joy in your day. 💖💖💖
Just found your channel and love your refreshing approach. New subscriber! 😊😊
Girl. I just found your channel at a perfect time in my life. Currently binging all of your videos…
Thanks for the inspiration!!!
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You are true inspiration, bravo 🙌
Your voice is so nice to listen to. I have an huge shopping problem and i wish i was minimalistic like you. In my household i am rather minimalistic but not in my (or my Childs) closet 🙈
You always show in my feed at the perfect time 😊 Enjoyed today’s video ❤
thank you ❤❤❤
Instead of pressing buy for Amazon. I put it in a wish list on Amazon. 'it still gives me the high' but less stuff. Xx
I also purchased the instant pot and couldn’t get the hang of it
I felt it was a real waste of money and every time I saw a you tuber using one I would try it again but I’ve admitted defeat and got rid !
Recently subscribed and am loving your videos. Thanks for taking the time to put them together!
I have been a minimalist since 2019. I agree to write a list and wait to see if you really need or want items. Usually, I end up buying only 20 percent of the items on the list. I also use this with children Christmas List. I have them give me a list months in advance. Every so often, I ask them again what they want. The items they ask for thats a repeat are the items we usually buy :)
I want to do better with this this Christmas! Thanks for the reminder 🤎
I’ve learned several very helpful things from this short video. Really glad I clicked on it first thing on a Saturday morning. Thank you! I really love what you wear in the video. Do you mind sharing where you like to buy clothes from?
Wonderful. Thank you so much. Just know that God is using you for a beautiful work. Everything you shared resonated with me!
😭 THANK YOU
I was just saying how I wanted to ditch my “natural deodorant “ that supports mindsets that I don’t anymore
and that I needed to find a better option…Camber sounds great, I definitely will
give it a try!😎
Love these tips
thank you,
you are
inspirational to own and want less.
Thank you! Camber really is great!
I have the same thoughts about the electric pressure cooker / multi-cooker. The only thing I consistently use it for is the sous vide function (I've had great success with sous vide meats and fish) and the pressure cooker function for bone broth (which, for over 20 years prior to getting one, I made just fine either on the stove top or in a slow cooker). I've been considering ditching the multi-cooker and just buying a sous vide wand that goes into a pot I already have and use.
I really enjoy cooking and baking ... I have a collection of kitchen gadgets that I'm whittling down. 95% of the time, I will reach for my high-quality chef's knife and cutting board over a "time-saving" gadget. Gadgets often have multiple parts that need assembled before using, and then disassembled, cleaned, and dried before storing ... and there they sit, waiting for the 5% of time that I actually might grab one of them.
It's a long process of removing the layers.
What could you make room for with owning less? ❤
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I love my Camber that I bought because of your recommendation. I love the pine and cedar scent. It makes me smell like a cool, natural, forest dweller. Lol
I'm so glad to hear your feedback! Cool, natural, forest dweller is definitely a vibe 😂🤎
LOVE your videos! They’re so calming.
Communicating with family hasn’t yet worked for me… hopefully we will get there!
I hope so too!
Loved the video! I am working on my 10 item wordvod today 🤓 Thank you for the inspiration
YES! love it!
Madi, you inspire me to live a more simple life. Thank you so much for your content❤ I would love to see an example of your wants/needs bullet journal!
Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much for this! Guess what? I don’t like my Insta pot either! The rice sticks things don’t cook evenly I’m hearing you! xxxx
So many people feel the same 😂
Madisun, thanks a lot for sharing your tips 😊 It's really useful! Wish all of us here to live the life full of freedom and only loved things around 💜
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I always love your videos. Minimalism is such a PRACTICE and while I’ve been at it for years, your content is always helpful for me to stay on track and refreshing. Also I am not with the instant pot or air fryer either 😅 my “lack” of air fryer has been questioned an odd amount by people! Haha
Thanks for watching ❤️
I really needed this message and your channel. It showed up at the perfect time. Thank you 💕
Every video you just speak into my soul. Thank you for being here and putting out these beautiful videos!
Gosh thank you ❤️
13:34 it’s so true, I have the same thoughts about minimalism
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Okay. Every video where you’re sitting in your living room, I’m just staring at this green blanket. Lol
Where is this from? I love it ❤
Love your videos Madi!! I always look forward to them!!
thank you kriss! 😘
@@MadisunGray ❤️
I moved into a small house, I don't have a lot of storage. I had to donate tons of stuff, I didn't realize I didn't need all the stuff. I'm trying to help a friend declutter it's so hard for her to let go.
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Love your content so much! Changes my outlook so much. Would love to see more of your day to day vlogs or routines as a minimalist and slower living ❤
thanks so much ❤️
Beautiful. Where was the first section on the beach shot? I really need to plan a decluttering reward trip to wherever that was.
Hello, could you please let me know what you use (minimalist) for skin care and hair care? I want to start using less but better products 💓
Definitely on my video list for upcoming videos ❤️
@@MadisunGray yay 💞💓🥰
Loveeee everything you share and encourage us with!
What about keepsakes? Like your children’s favorite toys or holiday items? How did you possibly go through & pick & choose? These are a few of my problem areas…..
Absolutely love that blanket. Where did you get it??
I love your videos when I can see your talking versus a full voice over. We love your beautiful face!
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Another great video Madisun. You inspire me so much. Thank you
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“Voting with my dollars”. I love this idea!! Purchasing things, intentionally. 🙏🏻💚🌟
Me too!
Great one Madi. I used to be a Gray too. Also have distant family in California.
You have really helped me change my perspective. ❤
I’m so glad you enjoyed ❤️
Thank you for another video!! I’ve enjoyed all your videos so so much!
Wow! Thank you so much ❤️