0:00 Podcast style videos 0:56 Life outside of RUclips & DDS progress 3:07 Black men mad at the hoes they created 4:48 When exoticals burn them they become "black women" 8:31 Dr. Dre's estranged wife wants $2M a month 11:13 Be smart with hypergamy, don't fumble the bag 13:35 Naomi Campbell sued by billionaire ex 16:25 Married women bragging about low value husbands 27:38 Andrew Gillum & women okay with marrying bi men 36:19 Jessica Krug: yall late to the redefine blackness party
Lol I love how men will lure gold diggers out of the wood work by waving around their money and saying they only want the “finest and baddest” chicks out there, but then turn around and get big triggered when these women are shallow and want them only for their money. Lmao! Guess they should’ve “cHoSeN bEtTeR!” 😂😂😂😭🤣
Exactly, the baddest chicks always wants money, that's why most BM are mad when they can't get the baddest chick because they can't afford them, they just do not want to admit that. That's why they settle for the pick med and build a bear chick, but once he's got his money together, that's when they leave the pick mes and get the women they really want which. The games is real. And I do not blame these women when they ask for a massive divorce settlement good on them.
Eccentric introvert, they go with those women when they have money. Because they have money. They pertinently know that those women could never give them a look if they didnt have money. Those women dont want them any more when they gathered enough money to leave those dusties and run away to their real love Chad and Brad.
I am a married black woman in an intraracial hypergamist relationship and the most hate I get is from black men too. These men collectively hate us all...whether we marry black or not. Please don't let that go above any of your heads.
Because they see that black women are no longer willing to be their narcissistic supply so they're scared. They know nobody else will put up with what we put up with and do for them what we do for them. It's misguided anger in the form of fear.
Offset is now saying Cardi B embarrassed him because she was a married woman talking about sex. Yet he was talking about sex in his songs AND CHEATING ON HER.
@Rat Dusty Idk what yall you're referring to, I'm white btw and would hope that the standard is a little higher than that tbh for any woman regardless of colour. Cardi is so nasty even community dick doesn't want her. What does that tell you?!
I just ended a 3 year relationship with low value man who was a narcissist. For the past 2 years, I felt I didn't live up to the standards in this channel, but I was already in the relationship. Now that he's gone I'm working on me.
Honey I have a cousin just like what Chrissy described. Been with her guy 7 years, had 2 babies (had 1 before him) and now been forever engaged and love to brag. I just look smh and say nothing. I let her live in her bubble🥴🥴.
I know someone who was with a man 10+ years before he put a ring on it. This man treated her like a rug.....HE COMPLETELY WALKED ALL OVER HER. He’s had outside children on her, he’s given her std’s, he’s beat her, he’s left her for White women, and that’s just off the top of my head. She swears up and down he married her because she’s the best woman he’s had.....lady bye.....GTFOH!
I have friend who has been with the same man since high school and she brags about it even though they both have stepped out of their relationship🙄The thing is, she has been taking care of him since we were 16 with part time jobs. Buying him clothes and shoes, she had now upgraded that to buying cars as an adult. He’s my cousin and I have told her that she can do way better. They have 3 kids and I always tell her that she has 4 sons if she counts her man LOL.
"I am my own company." - this statement hits so hard. I'm a natural recluse/introvert and this is the mentality most days out the year. I really gotta check up on my friends and family more :(
I know you guys are young. If you get married than have kids you'll see why its wise to seek a good man that can be depended on. I was very independent but after our second child, now going on 3rd, I have no choice but to rely on my husband's income. Children need alot of attention and caregiving from mothers and a woman has to be in a secure, stress-free environment to mentally handle kids all day. I tried that way before and I was always stressed out and my baby didn't see me so much. A man's position will always be different from women so its nothing wrong with depended on your husband.
Chrissie thank you I just graduated with 2 degrees and I lost so much weight over the past 2 years. My cousin that's a year older than me got married to a dusty and people keep asking when I am getting married (I am only 21) lol and I get annoyed because I don't date dusties and my boyfriend always pays and paid for my Invisalign last year which was 6 thousand and he bought me a few Gucci bags and I have never bought him anything and he refuses to accept anything from me. I say this because the audacity why do people praise women that get married to dusties lol . I just graduated and I refuse to marry anyone that doesn't make my salary I only spend money on my mother and siblings and Idk why it bothers people lol
Yasss 💕people are just jealous. This is how I'm planning on living after college lol. I'm only 19 in nursing school (graduate 2022) and don't want to settle down till late 20s. Between then I'm only dating men of value and letting them spoil me. Black or not. 🤷🏾♀️
@@mimia.4810 Sis advice never be a pick me and always stick with men that love you more than you love them and keep your guard up black women with degrees are always targeted by dusties
Me and my husband got married just two years ago after being together for 8 years. I met some dusties and high value who didn't want to pay my bills and left them alone (i didn't have time to waste), Finally met my husband when we were both still young, he was not high value, but he was high quality and always wanted to provide, so I waited for him to be at high posistion before saying yes. We just had a baby and i stay at home now. Moral of the story: don't settle for less or while he's still grinding.
@Onuorah Ikechukwu for me he has to want to do it, even if i can do it myself. It's about wanting to care for me and provide for me. Edit: i said dusties AND high value who wouldn't care to provide
@Onuorah Ikechukwu definitely. I think you have to be high value and high quality too, meaning being able to provide for yourself if the man is not around and a woman with a range of qualities just like a man.
@Lulu Grace you don't have to tell them. Providers WANT to do it and it comes across organically. It starts with little things: -He's taking you out to eat, he insists to pay -you are out together and you see something you like, he gifts you -you are out of credit or gas, he takes the wheel -he starts to ask to take care of the bills if you haven't done it yet You don't ask for it, he asks to do it cos providers naturally wants to take care of everything. For example if a man takes you out for a date and he expects you to pay your part, just do it (that's why i say you have to be able to take care of yourself) but that should be his first and last date with you.
I wish these dudes would start dating each other, and just drive each other crazy 😜. Why do they think bw like Naomi, Tyra and Oprah need the validation of a man? Some women are ok by themselves.
I've had married women give me the evil eye thinking I'm a threat to their men! First of all I'm not an adulterer and secondly why would I want your overweight, low earning husbands?!? Plus, they know my lifestyle and it would be at odds with that struggle.
I am married and I also support CHRISSIE 10000%. I am a plus size in my early 50's and I married a low value man (salary) and I'm tell you it affects your entire life. I wish I had this channel 20 years ago, I would have understood how weight affects life choices...... It is important to be equally yoked in the financial area. To preserve my marriage I don't shout my salary because I am making 80,000 more than my husband. That is a BIG DIFFERENCE.....He is a nice person, I have no drama with outside kids/women.......as of today...GOD willing this will continue.......BUT.....I can only imagine how much my life would be different if my spouse was bringing home a similar salary. To enjoy my life...at my age......., I don't discuss salary differences. I learned early on, people can't give what they don't have. It is no need to argue about .....you can't pay this....I just have him pay key bills and I pay the extras/key bills..........YOUNGER Ladies please listen, get your weight down, choose who you have kids with wisely....try and do things to improve your options.....
❤️ Please make sure to tell this to your own daughters, nieces, female cousins, etc... You don’t have to call your husband’s name, but definitely tell them to date up. I find that there are a lot of BW who only like to talk about and showcase the good in everything, but never the bad.
Every woman has a hypergamous desire, but in reality, it is impossible to happen to all women. This can happen in only 1 way. All Men Make Money, And No Women Make Money. In 2020, 2/3 of all new college graduates are women. This is even worst in the black community. All women MUST support themselves financially no matter their relationship status. There are no other choices. The system was built for that. You should tell your daughter that even if she's hypergamous in a marriage, her chance of lasting past 10 years is less in such marriage than 25%. The more she needs the man financially, the lower her chance. Now what? If more women are getting higher degrees, more than 50% of women should expect to become the breadwinner. Actually, in about 75% of black households, a woman is the breadwinner. This stat is screwed because of so single mothers and simply single households in our community. But single households is the point. Normality is the higher percentage of anything. Be it a good thing, or a bad thing. YOUR MARRIAGE IS NORMAL. The speaker is preaching a fantasy, which statistically will happen for only 25% of women in a 10 year relationship. YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE MAJORITY. Please don't look down on yourself. From as far As I can tell, you're doing great.
You had me at “black men mad at the hoes they created” Exactly about defining blackness... I don’t care how good someone dances and does whatever and here they let “oH tHey cAN cOMe tO tHe cOokOut” I’m sick of it... Like okay that’s cool but that’s all it is... We are or black pepper can be so inclusive... Like they just can’t accept they we will only be accepted up to a certain extent no matter how much we do for them and we need to take pen to paper. Write some notes get on code and act accordingly... Because white people even hispanic or latino will let us know at some point that we are black and can’t do that... We need to give that same energy...
Girl I feel you... I have been single and celibate for years and it’s so liberating. I can be with someone if I want to but I don’t. I’m going back to school and I’m so excited! I’m glad God had me go through certain things so I can help others. I’m not happy about being played lol or cheated on but the lessons I learn in my last relationship are going to help others and I’m glad I went through that with one person and not many. Because there are people who keep going through the same things with different people. But anyway. I feel beautiful and well rested. My skin cleared up, I dropped weight, my heart is lighter, because I was operating in masculine energy and I didn’t want to be in that position. The black men that I’ve talked to and dated one. They never supported me with goals or anything. Always want to hold me back and baby trapping me. Glad I never gave my body to them. I was smart and they got mad. Not all women want to be married and have babies and black men are always trying to lock me down for the wrong reasons. Then there are the ones that don’t want to spend money or go anywhere or travel. Or just have fun. Or they want me to spend money on them and court them and chase them. No thank you! I’m fine! I consider myself to be a beautiful person because of my passion and heart and it shines on the outside and that’s what makes me attractive or beautiful. Because for the longest I had very low self esteem due to my father and men always talking about my body and me being educated. White men and Latin men have always supported me. If I decide to date again. I will date outside of my race because although I love black men, they don’t love me an sin tired of the disrespect because I won’t put out or be a baby mama or a side chick. They know I’m not a hoe but they want me to be easy for them. No thank you!
Honestly, I would love to hear the response to a BW if she sang about loving her a “fair skin” man with green eyes. If a singer did that, she would be held to the fire!! The misogynoir of it all 🤦🏾♀️
CoralScorpion it’s not enough lol if she spoke about only non black men, it would be a different story. And when she was cuddled up G Eazy, folks tried to take away her “black card” instead of “inviting G Eazy to the bbq” like they would do if a NBW got with a BM.
Yes! And apparently, Dee Barnes still faces lasting effects from the injuries that Dre gave her when he assaulted her. He’s an absolute piece of human garbage, so I’m glad he’s getting robbed.
MartianBlues right I remember when straight outta Compton came out in theaters they completely blocked out Michele and all the abusive things Dre Dre just to focus on his current wife who’s fighting hard to snatch away his billionaire status
My boyfriend is in the milli club (thanks to the advice from you and chloe haha) and people mainly women try to shame me for being with him and reduce our relationship to I’m a “sugar baby”. I honestly think these type of women are just envious they can’t attract or don’t have the confidence to at least try to attract men or means so they try to convince themselves that it doesn’t matter or it’s “shallow” to have these types of standards. Then don’t get me started on the scare tactics these women truly believe that if a man has money he’s bound to be abusive and controlling and a cheater. Most black women aren’t with high earning men yet are still getting abused cheated on and manipulated... so where is this correlation coming from It’s so ridiculous to me.
If he's a good man, stay with him. They're just jealous and either trying to get you out of the way so they can have him or to bring you down to their level.
@Ozzy Mandias Unless they have an arrangement, she’s not a sugar baby. Sugar babies and sugar daddies are well aware that the relationship is transactional
We are too damn gorguess not to be treated like goddamn queens . Cant imagin not being treated like royalty . If they insist , pity them and walk away you WILL get something better
If you’re so happy with a low value man.. why even complain about someone who wants a high value man? Most women who are truly happy in their marriage could care less about another’s relationship. They observe and mind their business. 🤷🏽♀️
Before I watch the video I just wanted to say thank you for uploading at the time you did. I’m 17 and my whole day has literally gone down hill and getting a video notification from you no matter what topic just made my day a little better. Keep up the great work ❤️
Dear Brave I really wish I could but everyone I even thing about my problem I just start to cry. The only thing I’ll say is please don’t have kids if you’re selfish and still mentally a child yourself
I don’t know why a married black woman would have an issue with hypergamy. I’ve been married for 12 yrs and would have moved a little different had I been aware of a lot of this in college. My husband is a great man but came from a broke family (he married up) but I was lucky enough to meet him in college and he lived up to the potential I knew he had (which he did because he wanted me and yes if a real man wants you he’ll get himself right for you). However women having a great man in a higher tax bracket would have made life easier earlier on. If you can do it, I say do it Sis. These men do use us just the same only in a different way. Love is always added to the equation later.
Same here. My husband and I have been married 8 years, I got married at 20 and we were both in the military. I pursued higher education and he did not because he was sold that the military was forever.. fast forward and now he’s trying to complete his bachelors degree now, but that could’ve been done some time ago.
Dr Dre literally beat up a woman, and got to keep his career with practically no repercussions. Hell, he approved a JOKE about it in a song. Even Chris Brown got more consequences. He could lose every damn dime and I still wouldn't feel sympathy.
He sold his soul not only that he lied in his movies and interviews he has alot of power and resources he's been in this game longer more money and power thats why he gets away with it
I’m a married woman, childless and married to aHigh value man. I think the married women complaining are Projecting their insecurities as they realize they married beneath them or settled for less than they deserve. Hypergamous life ONLY ladies. You can have it ALL! Know that. 💯
@@nikennao listen, after getting into physical altercations with women who I ThoughT! were side pieces only to find out I was the ho in the situation and the dudes was either married to them or was living with them and had kids together. After the third time....they can call me all kinds of phobic I don't care!
@@alexanderjames7057 Damn. We gay guys get a little thinking we've turned them to our side but they're just playing us! At the end of the day, it's the hetero life that they want on display and the gay side is the dirty little secret.
I’m a bi- sexual BW and I would NEVER settle down with a bi-sexual man! And Chrissie you are right, Bi-sexual men tend to have more of an urge to be with men more than women.
I heard that before from a gay man so yes im gonna agree. "Bisexual" men only go for women when they're super horny and need hole to fill for the moment
@@potofgoldseeker4248 but gay men think bi men are using them for sex and marry and date women out in the open. So I guess the truth is somewhere in between.
@@alexanderjames7057 just curious Do gay men find it difficult to date bisexual men because of this? I've heard this from gay(stud) women so I was wondering how similar the dynamic is.
I always dated men with good careers and money but I ended up marrying someone with less than what I had. A project. Never again 🙅🏽♀️. Don’t do it ladies. Thankfully, I make a really good living so I can spoil myself but it shouldn’t be that way 😭. I used to believe in marrying for just love but not anymore.
Thank goodness you were able to get out of that situation because you deserve better. My father taught us to never settle for anything less in a relationship because it will only cause problems for us.
I agree, my mom got married and had me in her 30's, still married. People always question her when am I going to 1) have a child and 2) get married. I'm in my mid 20's and we're both sick of it 😩😩
Chrissy, I'm so lucky to have stumbled upon your channel. As a 17yr old black girl who's trying to build her self up, I'm so blessed to have you. You're like my big sis❤️❤️❤️
My husband is a little older but he has a 6 figure salary. Me on the other hand, I was in school before we met but he told me not to work so I can focus on school which he is paying for and next December I will have my bachelors degree in health services administration. I already have my AA, AA in health services administration, and two technical certifications as a biotechnology specialist & biotechnology laboratory specialist. There is absolutely nothing wrong with hypergamy. We just want stability, protection/security not gold digging and only love the money an not that man. Please don’t settle BW, we all deserve better.
Chrissie, there is something that I have kind of noticed and I don't know if it is just me over-reading things, I have always been a "choose the best man for you" kind of girl regardless of their race, and recently with the increase in black women open to dating outside of their race, I feel like some of them are just doing it so that black men feel bad and jealous. You can not see a post about a dark skin woman in an interracial relationship without seeing multiple comments trying to drag black men into it, like can we just be happy that the woman is happy and not care what men have to say about it. It honestly seems like a case of pick me where we(them) are still trying to get the attention of black men and it is embarrassing.
Sapphire97 exactly I hate the worship they do. Just be happy she happy, no need to say anything about black men. I’m not for the tit for tat but that happiness I love to see. It’s like they are praises whiteness instead of character just to “one up” or “get back” at BM. That can have a negative effect on those of us who date non black men. Can’t count how many non black men first question to me is if this is just something I’m “just doing” or if I’m serious. 🤦🏽♀️
The building together motto can be a trap. Don't build from the ground up. Level up yourself and meet a man who is already building himself. Last thing u want is a man still working at dairy queen 🍨
I’m a divorced mom. I encourage unmarried women to embrace their autonomy as single women first, then only date/marry high value men. Don’t waste your time. If you have to leave, leave better than you came into it.
I agree with most of what u said but let's be real this isnt just a black thing. My white co worker was married and told me if she had to do it over, she would marry for money because one the love faded and although she is pretty and classy and keep her weight nice, he stayed on "work trips"... women all over the world have been the subject of abuse since the beginning of time. All women are waking up in that regard
OMG....I had a neighbor who married a dusty and swears everyone wanted him. She was miserable and jealous yet she was the one bragging about her dusty.
This kinda irrelevant but my brother’s the hotep type and we were watching tv and he stated how he’s noticed how more bw are in commercials with non bm now. And he was kinda pressed about it too, I didn’t even know he paid attention to that type of stuff.
The only reason he and other men are paying attention to it now is because they're scared. They're losing their narcissistic supply and once black women burn the cape for good, they'll be shit out of luck.
I saw a dark skin Black woman on Twitter LAUGHING and critiquing Naomi for her billionaire ex being spiteful. A lot DSBW are super happy to be catty to each other
Wow I tend to withdraw a lot too. To the point where I can not talk to my mom or friends for weeks and still be ok. I'm kinda scared of this because I don't want to be and emotionally distant adult 😭
I've dated hypogamously pretty much my entire dating life and I'm honestly over it! The sad part is that I've had to work through the guilt that I felt for putting my own needs and wants ahead of 'black love' but hey, I'm cool now. As far as the bi-sexuality issue, in my opinion, alot of men, when caught having sex with men, seem to throw the bi-sexual card out because it makes it more palettable. My gay best friend told me a long time ago that bisexuality isn't a real thing. He said that if you check it out both bi-sexual men and women always end up with men. A bi-sexual woman can marry a man and be perfectly happy in her life going forward. When a bi-sexual man marries a woman, chances are that he's still having sex with men!
I cannot imagine marrying a low value can make any woman happy. I haven't seen any in my 27 years of life and I am raised by a woman who married low value, low quality and I had to check her the other day for waiting 2 decades for a ring she will never get because he has no interest in marrying her EVER. she is always stressed out, has so many illnesses as a response to it and has gained weight. This is the same for all the other black women I personally know and see in these circumstances.
I got in to it with another black woman (light skin) about this Dr. Dre thing. She was defending him and I had to remind her about how he beat the fuck out of black women and women period during his career. It's just like the Chris Brown situation black women are the first ones to defend and support these abusers. I just don't get it!
Married woman here and though I didn’t necessarily have a hypergamous relationship (met my husband when I was breaking into my career and he was opening his first restaurant, now he has 3), I knew my worth and made sure I choose someone with ambition, integrity and who absolutely was head over heels for me and respected my spirit. Out of all of the engineers and “rocket scientists”I’ve dated (exposed to them because I work with them), only 1 of them were black. They all wanted light bright and white. I respect the hypergamous movement however that will not be the main lesson I teach my biracial daughter. A lot of these black men obsess and see them as “possessions” and yeah they may be living the high life but they aren’t happy. I will always teach her to go for the educated, smart men that value her character and brain. Being able to take care of her will definitely be the standard but respect is incredibly important too. She will learn to make her own money and have her own career that way she’s not hoarding gifts and money if it eventually fails.
Dr. Dre is supposedly taking her name off certain things that were supposed to earn her/them money. So that 2 million dollars per month shes asking for is basically demanding her money back, not asking for him support
Anna Nicole taught us, get the money before they die! If you work it out and manage to date up or marry a wealthy man make sure you get that money before the relationship ends. Especially if they have greedy in-laws who don't want to see you get a dime or if they are bitter Brads. If they have the money why not ask for an apartment building or rental property and make sure you are the only person on the deed? Instead of trinkets for birthday gifts ask for stocks and bonds in a company of your choosing.
@@intoodeepstl314 There are lessons to be learned even in failure. No where in my statement did I say anyone should follow her path. I said I learned a lesson from her experiences. Even though her experiences were negative I still learned something from them. When relationships end that is when the nastiness comes out. Why not get what you think is your due when these men are happy to give it to you. I in no way shape or form told anyone to become a meth head.
@Ted Tillman There are people who do not want to marry and/or have kids and are perfectly happy with their lives. I'm not sure why black American men would think that dating and/or marrying and having kids with someone outside of the US would be less complicated if the relationship ends. Is it that you think the laws are going to be favorable you men or that the women less demanding?
@Ted Tillman Interesting...Do you think that women who live in oppressive cultures like living like that? If a woman from an oppressive society marries a man from an open society they could be fully expecting to gain the rights and freedoms of the women in the open society. Maybe that is why they are marrying outside of their culture. The grass isn't always greener.
I like this style of video Chrissie. Essentially what you do is already similar to a podcast. I don’t watch the slides, I listen while I’m doing other things. Love the format Chrissie 😊
I’m married to a black man with a MBA degree , but the most important thing is he is kind and hard working, and a good husband and father. His degree is great and I’m proud of him for achieving it and having a great career, but the other things I mentioned makes him a high value man.
As a light skin black woman, ill be the first to say that for some black men its not even about skin tone its about saying their partner is non black. So when things like this happens... im low key satisfied 😏
Facts.. I'm lightskin, my Hispanic side of family are afro Latino.. this dude was so shocked he thought my family was gone look Eva Longoria or some lol. The crazy part about it my black (A.D.O.S) grandmother is lightskin like Beyonce skin tone and the Latino grandmother is dark skin like 50 cent skin tone. Dude was so shocked that my ppl was black. Lol
My boyfriend is broke because he just finished graduated university. He treats me like a queen so I am happy. Things can always turn around but an asshole will remain and asshole.
Yes! It’s an exchange. WM get it and don’t complain when it goes south... BM are the only ones who cry foul. WM pay them their money and move onto the next. They wanna be the WM so much, well here you go BM.
I am a dsbw, have been married almost 20 years and I absolutely am for and go out of my way to mentor young queens in my life circle on the benefits and advantages of hypergamy. I am also pro black man and stay on the young men in my life circle to live up to their highest potential. I love this channel Queen, so needed in this age
I agree with getting out and living. I just been investing into myself and career so much this year. But it is hard to go out and live life and explore with the pandemic in the way. However, I’m not letting it stop all of my investments into myself.😁
This is off topic but... I’ve been binge watching girlfriends. I would love if you could do some kind of review or specifically just talk about Toni and Monica. They’re both so feminine, beautiful, darkskin and hypergamous.
Just Passing Through absolutely they are still gorgeous today! I was 11 when it came out and I loved it too. Of course now at 32 I can relate to their issues lol.
Chrissie. You could talk about topics like this and make a RUclips video of 9+ hours and id watch it all. You’re like one of the few I could actually sit down and listen to for literally ever.
I’m new to hypergamy, and I’ve been watching you for a while. You have no idea how comforting it is to have my wants/opinions validated by others lol It sounds silly, but I always though I was wrong for feeling how I do. Which landed me in piss poor dating situations. Knowing I can have a man who is high value AND high quality makes me excited about dating again. Plus, I get to undergo a transformation and those are always fun 😊 Thank you for putting us on game!
I really enjoyed this podcast style, it was varied which was more entertaining. It felt like a real girlfriend brunch chat! 😂 I’m here sipping my tea like yes girl!
“You can’t shame women who don’t want your life” - Chrissie can we all take this quote and apply it? Can we all just mind our business and stop worrying about what the next woman is doing with her body and her life. Also can we just accept Chrissie is a content creator and either her content will apply or it won’t and you do have a choice on whether to engage with her or not. Y’all really be exhausting.
Can you stay out of this Chanel then because we Chrissie followers know that it not shaming but educating. Black women have a lot to learn so you mind your own damm business
Lindy Thefirst and enter in the exhaustion.... no where do I claim Chrissie is shaming anyone. It’s very clearly for informative purposes. My comment actually refers to all of y’all under her vids shaming other people for their choices. The second part is about those complaining about the content she chooses to create.
What’s funny is I recently watched a video of cthagod doing a interview with the cast of girlfriends they tamales about how the show was ahead of it time with tackling black issue on the show and I noticed 2 things : 1. When they brought up someone of the issues faced in the black community that the show tackled the woman that played Toni started to mentioned about how her character struggled with being darkskinned and before she could finish the actress that played Lynn cut her off to talk about yeah and how Lynn struggled with being mixed I purposely told the writers to change Lynn from being a light skinned black woman to being mixed like me since that not something I’ve seen represented on tv often at that time 2. Then the actress that played Joan talks about how she’s always played a “black woman” even though she’s mixed Both of those moments made me think about what Chrissie said in past videos of how Mixed Women don’t see themselves as the same as black women they see themselves as mixed. Which I have no problem with becuase i always thought it was weird for people to force someone to choose a sides when they half of something and both half’s are equally important to them. So they should be proud to mixed with both sides. It creates identity issues that many grow up with. Sometimes they may even look black but lean more towards their white side and now they’re told they’re black only and should accept it. Mixed people as whole should just have their own category or race. They have their own struggles so let them create their own category. I think black peoples don’t want that because then that because they thought that will push black people down the totem pole even further. It’s a race of people we created that’s closer to being white than we are and will have more Privelege because of it.
Yes, I watched that interview as well and was also cringing regarding Tracy Ross and Persia White being the only ones to comment on "being a black woman" on that show..it was striking that Golden Brooks and Anne Marie were silent, but looking uncomfortable. It angered me that Tracy could be like that because I'd thought better of her as a daughter of Ms. Ross, namely, the daughter of a black woman. I had noticed that the female offspring of mixed parentage where the mother is black, tended to be more accepting that they are indeed mixed, not "black". So to see her plow through the actual black women there, just two of them, rattled my nerves and one of the reasons I've been more vocal on the "tube" when I see comments from mixed ones insisting they're black. No, sorry, you're not. If an actual black woman doesn't have the additional opportunity to recognize their non BLK parentage because they don't have it, how and more to the point WHY do mixed ones get to claim the same identity as an actual black woman? Defies logic. Sorry for this semi-rant but I've a niece who is bi-ethnic with her dark black mother being my sister and father is white American Italian/ Irish mix. She has NO PROBLEM recognizing she's mixed since she was a small child. She's perfectly fine with who she is and not the kind to lord over anyone about her mixed heritage. She's never felt the overwhelming need to identify as black or white. She calls herself brown and has strong relationships with all kinds of people, young and old. She's a very well adjusted young woman in her late teens. Shared all that to say, yes, it is possible for mixed persons to accept their very mixed selves as mixed..
AE3007 I was annoyed by Tracy in that interview too, but too me she seemed to talk too much in general she even butted in once with Persia. It didn’t happen that much because persia really only talked about being mixed and not the other stuff. After that interview and from rumors I heard about Tracy dating married men and growing up in the spotlight it makes me see her different like she maybe self centered. I agree that it is possible for mixed ppl to see themselves as mixed I have a friend who is mixed mother white father black. She grew up hard father wasn’t involved as much and mother was a alcoholic. She told me that was how she viewed herself as both and she hated how ppl tried force her to choose her black side. At first I didn’t understand but I was young and just following what the black community says but at the same time I thought it made sense what she said why should she have to choose. Esp since she could pass as a white woman or Atleast doesn’t look black at all. That could be why she never wanted to only claim her black side. I remember her telling me she also doesn’t check African American or black on applications she checks other. She doesn’t try or feel pressure to be one or other. She also is 15 yrs older than so maybe she it took years for her to get there. Like you said it’s still possible
We definitely need to define blackness fr. I been sayin that, like wtf people always claiming everybody as black? It’s cus we hate who “WE” are and instead want to see ourselves in biracials and lights and brights. It’s sad af. LOVE YOURSELVES. What makes them unique is what “you” already have genetically and naturally. STOP wanting to be in the likeness of light bright and white. Stop longing close proximity to whiteness. You are BEAUTIFUL YOU are the blueprint! 💯
No matter what, men will always view women as the emotional ones so even if an arrangement is made he’ll honestly believe that she must have an underlying feeling of love beneath the surface. Then when when she cashes in on the agreement he’s totally mad to find out that she was never really feeling him like that or at least not enough to stay. Men don’t want to believe that women can be just as savage, if not more, than they are.
I liked the hypergamy part Chrissie I haven't been getting it for years but I think now I understand it and my mom tells me don't give your man some money I have seen women giving man money and it's just painful
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0:00 Podcast style videos
0:56 Life outside of RUclips & DDS progress
3:07 Black men mad at the hoes they created
4:48 When exoticals burn them they become "black women"
8:31 Dr. Dre's estranged wife wants $2M a month
11:13 Be smart with hypergamy, don't fumble the bag
13:35 Naomi Campbell sued by billionaire ex
16:25 Married women bragging about low value husbands
27:38 Andrew Gillum & women okay with marrying bi men
36:19 Jessica Krug: yall late to the redefine blackness party
Chrissie Very helpful thank you!!
Appreciate you 💖🙏🏾
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I didn't skip anything lol.
Lol I love how men will lure gold diggers out of the wood work by waving around their money and saying they only want the “finest and baddest” chicks out there, but then turn around and get big triggered when these women are shallow and want them only for their money.
Lmao! Guess they should’ve “cHoSeN bEtTeR!”
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They tell us to choose better, so we’re finally choosing better
Exactly, the baddest chicks always wants money, that's why most BM are mad when they can't get the baddest chick because they can't afford them, they just do not want to admit that. That's why they settle for the pick med and build a bear chick, but once he's got his money together, that's when they leave the pick mes and get the women they really want which. The games is real.
And I do not blame these women when they ask for a massive divorce settlement good on them.
Comment of the year
Exactly
Eccentric introvert, they go with those women when they have money. Because they have money. They pertinently know that those women could never give them a look if they didnt have money. Those women dont want them any more when they gathered enough money to leave those dusties and run away to their real love Chad and Brad.
“Dating, marrying a six figure man, or being single BEATS marrying a below average man” POWERFUL STATEMENT!! Well said
There's no honor in marrying a broke, going nowhere fast man.
BW get on code--"we have nothing to do with this." #burnthecape
@@mob9428 you mad
Amen to that! 🙌🏾
Sure don't.
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I am a married black woman in a hypergamist interracial relationship. The most hate that I get is from black men.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.
I am a married black woman in an intraracial hypergamist relationship and the most hate I get is from black men too. These men collectively hate us all...whether we marry black or not. Please don't let that go above any of your heads.
Do your thing hunty👏👏
@Like The Wind If she's doing you right, stay with her then.
Because they see that black women are no longer willing to be their narcissistic supply so they're scared. They know nobody else will put up with what we put up with and do for them what we do for them. It's misguided anger in the form of fear.
Offset is now saying Cardi B embarrassed him because she was a married woman talking about sex. Yet he was talking about sex in his songs AND CHEATING ON HER.
But she's a former stripper. She doesn't just turn into a saint when you get married. I'm confused about the way people think
Whaaaaaaat??? The nerrrve.
hey_there and he’s community dick 🤷🏽
@Rat Dusty im confused, is that what you define as a strong black woman? Someone who twerks in streets?
@Rat Dusty Idk what yall you're referring to, I'm white btw and would hope that the standard is a little higher than that tbh for any woman regardless of colour. Cardi is so nasty even community dick doesn't want her. What does that tell you?!
I just ended a 3 year relationship with low value man who was a narcissist. For the past 2 years, I felt I didn't live up to the standards in this channel, but I was already in the relationship. Now that he's gone I'm working on me.
Congratulations 🎉.. let's level up
Go girl
Me to girl!!
Thank you. Ya'll are so incredibly supportive.
You can do it!! 😊
These are also the same women that waited 10 years for a ring and went through hell and back to get it. Nothing to aspire to
Honey I have a cousin just like what Chrissy described. Been with her guy 7 years, had 2 babies (had 1 before him) and now been forever engaged and love to brag. I just look smh and say nothing. I let her live in her bubble🥴🥴.
I know someone who was with a man 10+ years before he put a ring on it. This man treated her like a rug.....HE COMPLETELY WALKED ALL OVER HER. He’s had outside children on her, he’s given her std’s, he’s beat her, he’s left her for White women, and that’s just off the top of my head.
She swears up and down he married her because she’s the best woman he’s had.....lady bye.....GTFOH!
They ALWAYS leave that part out.
@@ClowneryAtItsFinest wow 😳
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Enjoyed the part abt woman with low value men bragging abt being married and sis we don’t envy your marriage
I swear, they're so delusional.
But u can’t tell them that 😒
Does anyone who Chrissie is talking about??I feel like I do but I don't
@@victoriasmith6027 MUSTARD SEED😂😂😂
I have friend who has been with the same man since high school and she brags about it even though they both have stepped out of their relationship🙄The thing is, she has been taking care of him since we were 16 with part time jobs. Buying him clothes and shoes, she had now upgraded that to buying cars as an adult. He’s my cousin and I have told her that she can do way better. They have 3 kids and I always tell her that she has 4 sons if she counts her man LOL.
I'm sick of this "my dusty is better than your dusty" mentality amongst black women.
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@Maip video Especially if it's fuckery. They reign supreme!
Facts lol
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"I am my own company." - this statement hits so hard. I'm a natural recluse/introvert and this is the mentality most days out the year. I really gotta check up on my friends and family more :(
Facts & SAME sis. Same!!👏🤧
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Me: like ☝🏿
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China King gets me every time. So much power in her sooo lol
Exactly! 😂👌🏾
They don’t even date black women but they have so much to say about us it’s like disturbing 🥴
It’s the constant talking crap about our hair & comparing it everyone else for me...even tho they got the same hair we do
They jealous! They know the power we have💅🏽💜
As a woman you should never rely completely on a man. Yeah sure get spoilt and accept the expensive gifts but keep your money.
Yup 👍
For real. Because when you don't have your own money and yu depend on them, they like to act a certain that aint it
That true Melisa, how can you entirely depend on a person that so lame. Anything can happen to them, we humans anything can happen, men or women .
I know you guys are young. If you get married than have kids you'll see why its wise to seek a good man that can be depended on. I was very independent but after our second child, now going on 3rd, I have no choice but to rely on my husband's income. Children need alot of attention and caregiving from mothers and a woman has to be in a secure, stress-free environment to mentally handle kids all day. I tried that way before and I was always stressed out and my baby didn't see me so much. A man's position will always be different from women so its nothing wrong with depended on your husband.
Period!
Chrissie thank you I just graduated with 2 degrees and I lost so much weight over the past 2 years. My cousin that's a year older than me got married to a dusty and people keep asking when I am getting married (I am only 21) lol and I get annoyed because I don't date dusties and my boyfriend always pays and paid for my Invisalign last year which was 6 thousand and he bought me a few Gucci bags and I have never bought him anything and he refuses to accept anything from me. I say this because the audacity why do people praise women that get married to dusties lol . I just graduated and I refuse to marry anyone that doesn't make my salary I only spend money on my mother and siblings and Idk why it bothers people lol
Isma Congratulations Sis!!!!
Yasss 💕people are just jealous.
This is how I'm planning on living after college lol.
I'm only 19 in nursing school (graduate 2022) and don't want to settle down till late 20s. Between then I'm only dating men of value and letting them spoil me. Black or not. 🤷🏾♀️
You go girl! Don’t listen to the haters!
Yesss! Girl where'd you find him lol
@@mimia.4810 Sis advice never be a pick me and always stick with men that love you more than you love them and keep your guard up black women with degrees are always targeted by dusties
Me and my husband got married just two years ago after being together for 8 years. I met some dusties and high value who didn't want to pay my bills and left them alone (i didn't have time to waste), Finally met my husband when we were both still young, he was not high value, but he was high quality and always wanted to provide, so I waited for him to be at high posistion before saying yes. We just had a baby and i stay at home now. Moral of the story: don't settle for less or while he's still grinding.
@Onuorah Ikechukwu for me he has to want to do it, even if i can do it myself. It's about wanting to care for me and provide for me.
Edit: i said dusties AND high value who wouldn't care to provide
This needs to be more popular
@Onuorah Ikechukwu definitely. I think you have to be high value and high quality too, meaning being able to provide for yourself if the man is not around and a woman with a range of qualities just like a man.
I am happy for you sis. Good work.
@Lulu Grace you don't have to tell them. Providers WANT to do it and it comes across organically. It starts with little things:
-He's taking you out to eat, he insists to pay
-you are out together and you see something you like, he gifts you
-you are out of credit or gas, he takes the wheel
-he starts to ask to take care of the bills if you haven't done it yet
You don't ask for it, he asks to do it cos providers naturally wants to take care of everything.
For example if a man takes you out for a date and he expects you to pay your part, just do it (that's why i say you have to be able to take care of yourself) but that should be his first and last date with you.
I hope Dr Dre’s wife takes every last penny. I hope he’s left in the gutta. Without a pot to pis* in or a window to throw it out of 😝
jacpppp That part!!!!!!! He’s on record as an abuser. I say take him to the cleaners!!!
ChastityJaye let the church say “amen” 🥰
His karma after Michele
Lolol
I cackled and sipped my Cab Sav. Karma is my favorite show these days.
Sounds like dusties kicking up dust.
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Its definitely the dust hour.
Lmmfao ok!
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Best comment 💯🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm 42yrs old and single, my longtime girlfriend is divorcing after 13yrs of marriage and has nothing to show for it but two sons. Love is not enough.
Love don’t pay the bills either
I wish these dudes would start dating each other, and just drive each other crazy 😜.
Why do they think bw like Naomi, Tyra and Oprah need the validation of a man? Some women are ok by themselves.
I've had married women give me the evil eye thinking I'm a threat to their men! First of all I'm not an adulterer and secondly why would I want your overweight, low earning husbands?!? Plus, they know my lifestyle and it would be at odds with that struggle.
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Same. Lol women have tried to fight me over they broke dusties. Lol
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“I have a best friend who’s gay y’all stay out my business” 😂😂😂
I hollared🤣🤣😂😂
Kenyatta Crews that moment was hilarious, if these podcasts are gonna have “Chrissie after dark” elements, I hope she does more ✨🙌🏾
Misfortunate w I hope so her commentary is phenomenal👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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Pretty much her stance on the situation lol🤷🏿♀️
I am married and I also support CHRISSIE 10000%. I am a plus size in my early 50's and I married a low value man (salary) and I'm tell you it affects your entire life. I wish I had this channel 20 years ago, I would have understood how weight affects life choices...... It is important to be equally yoked in the financial area. To preserve my marriage I don't shout my salary because I am making 80,000 more than my husband. That is a BIG DIFFERENCE.....He is a nice person, I have no drama with outside kids/women.......as of today...GOD willing this will continue.......BUT.....I can only imagine how much my life would be different if my spouse was bringing home a similar salary. To enjoy my life...at my age......., I don't discuss salary differences. I learned early on, people can't give what they don't have. It is no need to argue about .....you can't pay this....I just have him pay key bills and I pay the extras/key bills..........YOUNGER Ladies please listen, get your weight down, choose who you have kids with wisely....try and do things to improve your options.....
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Please make sure to tell this to your own daughters, nieces, female cousins, etc...
You don’t have to call your husband’s name, but definitely tell them to date up. I find that there are a lot of BW who only like to talk about and showcase the good in everything, but never the bad.
Every woman has a hypergamous desire, but in reality, it is impossible to happen to all women.
This can happen in only 1 way. All Men Make Money, And No Women Make Money. In 2020, 2/3 of all new college graduates are women. This is even worst in the black community.
All women MUST support themselves financially no matter their relationship status. There are no other choices. The system was built for that.
You should tell your daughter that even if she's hypergamous in a marriage, her chance of lasting past 10 years is less in such marriage than 25%. The more she needs the man financially, the lower her chance. Now what?
If more women are getting higher degrees, more than 50% of women should expect to become the breadwinner. Actually, in about 75% of black households, a woman is the breadwinner. This stat is screwed because of so single mothers and simply single households in our community. But single households is the point.
Normality is the higher percentage of anything. Be it a good thing, or a bad thing. YOUR MARRIAGE IS NORMAL. The speaker is preaching a fantasy, which statistically will happen for only 25% of women in a 10 year relationship.
YOUR MARRIAGE IS THE MAJORITY. Please don't look down on yourself. From as far As I can tell, you're doing great.
@@stanleydadaille Thank you Stanley for your words of knowledge.
”It don't pay enough.”
-Chrissie
You had me at “black men mad at the hoes they created”
Exactly about defining blackness... I don’t care how good someone dances and does whatever and here they let “oH tHey cAN cOMe tO tHe cOokOut” I’m sick of it... Like okay that’s cool but that’s all it is... We are or black pepper can be so inclusive... Like they just can’t accept they we will only be accepted up to a certain extent no matter how much we do for them and we need to take pen to paper. Write some notes get on code and act accordingly... Because white people even hispanic or latino will let us know at some point that we are black and can’t do that... We need to give that same energy...
Thank you 👏🏾
Calling them black men is where we blk women make the mistake
We have to back off and let the hoes keep the boys and praise the real kings
Yes and how we accept people no one will accept. “Cookout” is such a black American thing...
right??? lmao at this point the cookout gon be 90% nonblack
I swear Dr Dre and Omari Hardwick love some strong face women😩😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 face as solid as a rock
I always feel like if they were dark skin with the exact same features, they would call them ugly
God loves Couture you already know it. I guess to them anything is acceptable as long as it’s not dark skin.
@@browneyeblues12 both these women look like Captain Planet in the face tho
@@livewell-xt5xr 🤭🤣
Naomi definitely strikes me as the type that doesn’t want marriage and kids. Just be fabulous and free forever.
Thats what I want: Luxury and freedom
nothing wrong with being fabulous and free
Girl I feel you... I have been single and celibate for years and it’s so liberating. I can be with someone if I want to but I don’t. I’m going back to school and I’m so excited!
I’m glad God had me go through certain things so I can help others. I’m not happy about being played lol or cheated on but the lessons I learn in my last relationship are going to help others and I’m glad I went through that with one person and not many.
Because there are people who keep going through the same things with different people. But anyway. I feel beautiful and well rested. My skin cleared up, I dropped weight, my heart is lighter, because I was operating in masculine energy and I didn’t want to be in that position.
The black men that I’ve talked to and dated one. They never supported me with goals or anything. Always want to hold me back and baby trapping me. Glad I never gave my body to them. I was smart and they got mad. Not all women want to be married and have babies and black men are always trying to lock me down for the wrong reasons.
Then there are the ones that don’t want to spend money or go anywhere or travel. Or just have fun. Or they want me to spend money on them and court them and chase them. No thank you! I’m fine! I consider myself to be a beautiful person because of my passion and heart and it shines on the outside and that’s what makes me attractive or beautiful. Because for the longest I had very low self esteem due to my father and men always talking about my body and me being educated.
White men and Latin men have always supported me. If I decide to date again. I will date outside of my race because although I love black men, they don’t love me an sin tired of the disrespect because I won’t put out or be a baby mama or a side chick. They know I’m not a hoe but they want me to be easy for them. No thank you!
*She has a daughter now*
Honestly, I would love to hear the response to a BW if she sang about loving her a “fair skin” man with green eyes. If a singer did that, she would be held to the fire!! The misogynoir of it all 🤦🏾♀️
Megan thee Stallion talks about having white and non-black men on her dating platter (Phony Ppl - Fckin around). It's already started.
CoralScorpion it’s not enough lol if she spoke about only non black men, it would be a different story. And when she was cuddled up G Eazy, folks tried to take away her “black card” instead of “inviting G Eazy to the bbq” like they would do if a NBW got with a BM.
@@AlexisSamone They got upset over that? A kiss? That's crazy.
CoralScorpion yes! So crazy
@@AlexisSamone What would G Eazy have to do to be accepted at the BBQ?
i always remember michele and all the black women who exposed dre dre for physically assualting them when i think of his wife wanting all his money
Yes!
And apparently, Dee Barnes still faces lasting effects from the injuries that Dre gave her when he assaulted her.
He’s an absolute piece of human garbage, so I’m glad he’s getting robbed.
MartianBlues right I remember when straight outta Compton came out in theaters they completely blocked out Michele and all the abusive things Dre Dre just to focus on his current wife who’s fighting hard to snatch away his billionaire status
StarZoom of course he wouldn’t obviously but I can still call it out bc it’s doesn’t make it a real biopic
Love does NOT pay the bills. I cannot be happy if I’m broke. People need to get real.
Exactly I rather be single and broke I don't want to be with a man and struggling
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@Nicole Little I was just like that in my20s too but I'm older and wiser now
@Nicole Little Yes, same! Never, not again!
My boyfriend is in the milli club (thanks to the advice from you and chloe haha) and people mainly women try to shame me for being with him and reduce our relationship to I’m a “sugar baby”. I honestly think these type of women are just envious they can’t attract or don’t have the confidence to at least try to attract men or means so they try to convince themselves that it doesn’t matter or it’s “shallow” to have these types of standards. Then don’t get me started on the scare tactics these women truly believe that if a man has money he’s bound to be abusive and controlling and a cheater. Most black women aren’t with high earning men yet are still getting abused cheated on and manipulated... so where is this correlation coming from It’s so ridiculous to me.
If he's a good man, stay with him. They're just jealous and either trying to get you out of the way so they can have him or to bring you down to their level.
They just want your spot
@Ozzy Mandias Unless they have an arrangement, she’s not a sugar baby. Sugar babies and sugar daddies are well aware that the relationship is transactional
Just trash. Are you going to marry him? If not, you're a sugar baby.
@CoralScorpion he is a very good man. Treats me like a queen. Some of these comments are just what I'm talking about.
I'm very happily married and I'm not mad at these girls trying to be Hypergamous! Go for it ladies, you deserve happiness and SAFETY.
We are too damn gorguess not to be treated like goddamn queens . Cant imagin not being treated like royalty . If they insist , pity them and walk away you WILL get something better
@@mob9428 mad
we are haha
@@mob9428 more like y'all lied to us that we weren't jackass
so just because you look good you should be treated like a queen?
danger zone good looks are a state of mind so yes
If you’re so happy with a low value man.. why even complain about someone who wants a high value man? Most women who are truly happy in their marriage could care less about another’s relationship. They observe and mind their business. 🤷🏽♀️
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Before I watch the video I just wanted to say thank you for uploading at the time you did. I’m 17 and my whole day has literally gone down hill and getting a video notification from you no matter what topic just made my day a little better. Keep up the great work ❤️
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I pray for strength and comfort in your life. Take care♥️
Dear Brave I really wish I could but everyone I even thing about my problem I just start to cry. The only thing I’ll say is please don’t have kids if you’re selfish and still mentally a child yourself
@@blehbloop6363 I'll keep that in mind thanks for the advice. No disrespect but I suppose this has to do with an unfaithful dusty?
I don’t know why a married black woman would have an issue with hypergamy. I’ve been married for 12 yrs and would have moved a little different had I been aware of a lot of this in college. My husband is a great man but came from a broke family (he married up) but I was lucky enough to meet him in college and he lived up to the potential I knew he had (which he did because he wanted me and yes if a real man wants you he’ll get himself right for you). However women having a great man in a higher tax bracket would have made life easier earlier on. If you can do it, I say do it Sis. These men do use us just the same only in a different way. Love is always added to the equation later.
Same here. My husband and I have been married 8 years, I got married at 20 and we were both in the military. I pursued higher education and he did not because he was sold that the military was forever.. fast forward and now he’s trying to complete his bachelors degree now, but that could’ve been done some time ago.
Dr Dre literally beat up a woman, and got to keep his career with practically no repercussions. Hell, he approved a JOKE about it in a song. Even Chris Brown got more consequences. He could lose every damn dime and I still wouldn't feel sympathy.
He sold his soul not only that he lied in his movies and interviews he has alot of power and resources he's been in this game longer more money and power thats why he gets away with it
I’m a married woman, childless and married to aHigh value man. I think the married women complaining are Projecting their insecurities as they realize they married beneath them or settled for less than they deserve. Hypergamous life ONLY ladies. You can have it ALL! Know that. 💯
I want to be you!! I'm on my way!!
ANNYOMOUS ANNYOMOUS #childfree&married thats what I'm manifesting
"Don't fumble the bag."
As a gay black man, I absolutely co-sign what you said about bisexual men. I don't play with those men no more!!!
Same here. As soon as I hear the words "I'm bi" from guys I think, 🙄 oh here we go😒
@@alexanderjames7057 I've been called "biphobic" just for simply calling out their messy behaviour
@@nikennao listen, after getting into physical altercations with women who I ThoughT! were side pieces only to find out I was the ho in the situation and the dudes was either married to them or was living with them and had kids together. After the third time....they can call me all kinds of phobic I don't care!
@@alexanderjames7057 Damn. We gay guys get a little thinking we've turned them to our side but they're just playing us! At the end of the day, it's the hetero life that they want on display and the gay side is the dirty little secret.
Some people don't know the difference between bisexuality vs polygamy 🤷🏾
Covering multiple topics that don’t require videos is an excellent idea since we are so eager to hear your views on these topics 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
I like this setup! Thx for the time stamps!
I’m a bi- sexual BW and I would NEVER settle down with a bi-sexual man! And Chrissie you are right, Bi-sexual men tend to have more of an urge to be with men more than women.
I heard that before from a gay man so yes im gonna agree. "Bisexual" men only go for women when they're super horny and need hole to fill for the moment
@@potofgoldseeker4248 but gay men think bi men are using them for sex and marry and date women out in the open. So I guess the truth is somewhere in between.
@@alexanderjames7057 Really I've actually never heard it from that perspective so thank you for educating me.
@@alexanderjames7057 just curious Do gay men find it difficult to date bisexual men because of this? I've heard this from gay(stud) women so I was wondering how similar the dynamic is.
I agree with you 100% on everything Chrissie...
I always dated men with good careers and money but I ended up marrying someone with less than what I had. A project. Never again 🙅🏽♀️. Don’t do it ladies. Thankfully, I make a really good living so I can spoil myself but it shouldn’t be that way 😭. I used to believe in marrying for just love but not anymore.
Thank goodness you were able to get out of that situation because you deserve better. My father taught us to never settle for anything less in a relationship because it will only cause problems for us.
I agree, my mom got married and had me in her 30's, still married. People always question her when am I going to 1) have a child and 2) get married. I'm in my mid 20's and we're both sick of it 😩😩
Chrissy, I'm so lucky to have stumbled upon your channel. As a 17yr old black girl who's trying to build her self up, I'm so blessed to have you. You're like my big sis❤️❤️❤️
My husband is a little older but he has a 6 figure salary. Me on the other hand, I was in school before we met but he told me not to work so I can focus on school which he is paying for and next December I will have my bachelors degree in health services administration. I already have my AA, AA in health services administration, and two technical certifications as a biotechnology specialist & biotechnology laboratory specialist. There is absolutely nothing wrong with hypergamy. We just want stability, protection/security not gold digging and only love the money an not that man. Please don’t settle BW, we all deserve better.
Chrissie, there is something that I have kind of noticed and I don't know if it is just me over-reading things, I have always been a "choose the best man for you" kind of girl regardless of their race, and recently with the increase in black women open to dating outside of their race, I feel like some of them are just doing it so that black men feel bad and jealous. You can not see a post about a dark skin woman in an interracial relationship without seeing multiple comments trying to drag black men into it, like can we just be happy that the woman is happy and not care what men have to say about it. It honestly seems like a case of pick me where we(them) are still trying to get the attention of black men and it is embarrassing.
I agree and we should stop because its simalar to what BM do and its annoying on both sides
True that
Ugh I always get secondhand embarrassment
Also the man in an irr shouldn't be celebrated, but we should celebrate the fact that a bw is happy + being taken care of
Sapphire97 exactly I hate the worship they do. Just be happy she happy, no need to say anything about black men. I’m not for the tit for tat but that happiness I love to see. It’s like they are praises whiteness instead of character just to “one up” or “get back” at BM. That can have a negative effect on those of us who date non black men. Can’t count how many non black men first question to me is if this is just something I’m “just doing” or if I’m serious. 🤦🏽♀️
How can I hit the like button one million times? I'm so passionately agreeing and I can't express it enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The building together motto can be a trap. Don't build from the ground up. Level up yourself and meet a man who is already building himself. Last thing u want is a man still working at dairy queen 🍨
😂😂😂😂😂😂For real! The only thing he can build is a sundae! Nah, bruh. I NEED more than that!
Exactly
Right!
I’m a divorced mom. I encourage unmarried women to embrace their autonomy as single women first, then only date/marry high value men. Don’t waste your time. If you have to leave, leave better than you came into it.
I don't blame dr dre ex wife
me neither . I’m happy for her ! 🙂🥳🤩
I agree with most of what u said but let's be real this isnt just a black thing. My white co worker was married and told me if she had to do it over, she would marry for money because one the love faded and although she is pretty and classy and keep her weight nice, he stayed on "work trips"... women all over the world have been the subject of abuse since the beginning of time. All women are waking up in that regard
Yup.
OMG....I had a neighbor who married a dusty and swears everyone wanted him. She was miserable and jealous yet she was the one bragging about her dusty.
This kinda irrelevant but my brother’s the hotep type and we were watching tv and he stated
how he’s noticed how more bw are in commercials with non bm now. And he was kinda pressed about it too, I didn’t even know he paid attention to that type of stuff.
Why
I was downtown a couple of days ago and the hoteps/Israelites were talking about Black women dating out and how it’s genocide
@@Brandiisbeloved how it genocide
@@Brandiisbeloved but not the shitton of bm dating out and their kids being raised by racist
The only reason he and other men are paying attention to it now is because they're scared. They're losing their narcissistic supply and once black women burn the cape for good, they'll be shit out of luck.
Lol! Chrissie went IN on this one. She don’t want your lil funky ring or your little funky man. 😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣
Black Women Who Still Wear The Cape:
What are you getting as a collective for wearing said cape? List the benefits.
Being called queen😂😂😂😂lol
3 hours, I'm still waiting
@@nothingtoseehere299 Girl....I get us some popcorn and soda. This gone be a minute.
@@vernoniqueomosanya8931 Yeah, getting called "Queen" with NONE of the royal treatment!
@@Bloombaby99 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I saw a dark skin Black woman on Twitter LAUGHING and critiquing Naomi for her billionaire ex being spiteful. A lot DSBW are super happy to be catty to each other
Naomi and this particular ex broke up because he didn’t want her to work anyone, he’s been bitter about it ever since.
Wow I tend to withdraw a lot too. To the point where I can not talk to my mom or friends for weeks and still be ok. I'm kinda scared of this because I don't want to be and emotionally distant adult 😭
Find someone who respects that. You're only emotionally distant to someone who needs their partner around alot
Nah sis ain’t nothing out there but different energies that you have to shed yourself from. Enjoy your alone time.
I've dated hypogamously pretty much my entire dating life and I'm honestly over it! The sad part is that I've had to work through the guilt that I felt for putting my own needs and wants ahead of 'black love' but hey, I'm cool now. As far as the bi-sexuality issue, in my opinion, alot of men, when caught having sex with men, seem to throw the bi-sexual card out because it makes it more palettable. My gay best friend told me a long time ago that bisexuality isn't a real thing. He said that if you check it out both bi-sexual men and women always end up with men. A bi-sexual woman can marry a man and be perfectly happy in her life going forward. When a bi-sexual man marries a woman, chances are that he's still having sex with men!
Facts
I cannot imagine marrying a low value can make any woman happy. I haven't seen any in my 27 years of life and I am raised by a woman who married low value, low quality and I had to check her the other day for waiting 2 decades for a ring she will never get because he has no interest in marrying her EVER. she is always stressed out, has so many illnesses as a response to it and has gained weight. This is the same for all the other black women I personally know and see in these circumstances.
I got in to it with another black woman (light skin) about this Dr. Dre thing. She was defending him and I had to remind her about how he beat the fuck out of black women and women period during his career. It's just like the Chris Brown situation black women are the first ones to defend and support these abusers. I just don't get it!
30,000 is better than zero ! 👏🏾 ladies be smart , always keep a stash periodt
Always love you 🤩
Married woman here and though I didn’t necessarily have a hypergamous relationship (met my husband when I was breaking into my career and he was opening his first restaurant, now he has 3), I knew my worth and made sure I choose someone with ambition, integrity and who absolutely was head over heels for me and respected my spirit. Out of all of the engineers and “rocket scientists”I’ve dated (exposed to them because I work with them), only 1 of them were black. They all wanted light bright and white. I respect the hypergamous movement however that will not be the main lesson I teach my biracial daughter. A lot of these black men obsess and see them as “possessions” and yeah they may be living the high life but they aren’t happy. I will always teach her to go for the educated, smart men that value her character and brain. Being able to take care of her will definitely be the standard but respect is incredibly important too. She will learn to make her own money and have her own career that way she’s not hoarding gifts and money if it eventually fails.
Desperation disguised as "acceptance": It is a black woman's downfall EVERY time.
Dr. Dre is supposedly taking her name off certain things that were supposed to earn her/them money. So that 2 million dollars per month shes asking for is basically demanding her money back, not asking for him support
I don't think you should ever show your face.
You can tell Chrissie is the type that sits back and watches EVERYTHING lol.
Anna Nicole taught us, get the money before they die! If you work it out and manage to date up or marry a wealthy man make sure you get that money before the relationship ends. Especially if they have greedy in-laws who don't want to see you get a dime or if they are bitter Brads. If they have the money why not ask for an apartment building or rental property and make sure you are the only person on the deed? Instead of trinkets for birthday gifts ask for stocks and bonds in a company of your choosing.
lovecate1 yeeessssssss!!!!
@@intoodeepstl314 There are lessons to be learned even in failure. No where in my statement did I say anyone should follow her path. I said I learned a lesson from her experiences. Even though her experiences were negative I still learned something from them. When relationships end that is when the nastiness comes out. Why not get what you think is your due when these men are happy to give it to you. I in no way shape or form told anyone to become a meth head.
@Ted Tillman There are people who do not want to marry and/or have kids and are perfectly happy with their lives. I'm not sure why black American men would think that dating and/or marrying and having kids with someone outside of the US would be less complicated if the relationship ends. Is it that you think the laws are going to be favorable you men or that the women less demanding?
@Ted Tillman Interesting...Do you think that women who live in oppressive cultures like living like that? If a woman from an oppressive society marries a man from an open society they could be fully expecting to gain the rights and freedoms of the women in the open society. Maybe that is why they are marrying outside of their culture. The grass isn't always greener.
I like this style of video Chrissie. Essentially what you do is already similar to a podcast. I don’t watch the slides, I listen while I’m doing other things. Love the format Chrissie 😊
I think I like these types of videos better. I just love hearing you talk, your voice🥰😍
I’m married to a black man with a MBA degree , but the most important thing is he is kind and hard working, and a good husband and father. His degree is great and I’m proud of him for achieving it and having a great career, but the other things I mentioned makes him a high value man.
As a light skin black woman, ill be the first to say that for some black men its not even about skin tone its about saying their partner is non black. So when things like this happens... im low key satisfied 😏
Facts.. I'm lightskin, my Hispanic side of family are afro Latino.. this dude was so shocked he thought my family was gone look Eva Longoria or some lol. The crazy part about it my black (A.D.O.S) grandmother is lightskin like Beyonce skin tone and the Latino grandmother is dark skin like 50 cent skin tone. Dude was so shocked that my ppl was black. Lol
Vanessa Martinez LMBO 🤪
He’s an imbecile!
BW we will not bash these women. Let them get their money in divorce and we will get ours.
Why would any person gay or straight get with person who’s broke? Wouldn’t never be with someone who’s broke and try to use me....
Tribal shaming, the give a brotha a chance attitude.
The lies we’ve been told...😒
My boyfriend is broke because he just finished graduated university. He treats me like a queen so I am happy. Things can always turn around but an asshole will remain and asshole.
It’s ridiculous build yourself up before get in relationship broke people deserve nothing
Melisa i mean no offence hun. But how can someone treat you like a queen with no money? Im genuinely interested
I love this pod style video! Chrissie even when you hit 2 to 5 million subscribers, we still want you to hide your face.
Yes! It’s an exchange. WM get it and don’t complain when it goes south... BM are the only ones who cry foul. WM pay them their money and move onto the next. They wanna be the WM so much, well here you go BM.
They cry because they know what they did was wrong
that's complete bullshit they get pissed of worst
This style is perfect !!! please keep doing it
I am a dsbw, have been married almost 20 years and I absolutely am for and go out of my way to mentor young queens in my life circle on the benefits and advantages of hypergamy. I am also pro black man and stay on the young men in my life circle to live up to their highest potential. I love this channel Queen, so needed in this age
I agree with getting out and living. I just been investing into myself and career so much this year. But it is hard to go out and live life and explore with the pandemic in the way. However, I’m not letting it stop all of my investments into myself.😁
the way you transition from subject to subject is so well done I love this
Dr. Dre's situation is #NotBWsFight
This is off topic but... I’ve been binge watching girlfriends. I would love if you could do some kind of review or specifically just talk about Toni and Monica. They’re both so feminine, beautiful, darkskin and hypergamous.
Just Passing Through absolutely they are still gorgeous today! I was 11 when it came out and I loved it too. Of course now at 32 I can relate to their issues lol.
Just Passing Through yep Toni and Joan can dress! So classy, yet sexy. There’s a lot a black girl can take away from that show.
chrissie uploads and i squeal like a little kid getting candy
prettycute andexpensive 😂😂😂 yeeessss. Chrissie & Chloe are my favorite level up-hypergamous professors lol
FACTS lol
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Chrissie. You could talk about topics like this and make a RUclips video of 9+ hours and id watch it all. You’re like one of the few I could actually sit down and listen to for literally ever.
really like this setup where i can pick the topic i want to listen to. great setup, Chrissie
Chrisse be like... no slides y'all
5 minutes later.... lol
I’m new to hypergamy, and I’ve been watching you for a while. You have no idea how comforting it is to have my wants/opinions validated by others lol It sounds silly, but I always though I was wrong for feeling how I do. Which landed me in piss poor dating situations. Knowing I can have a man who is high value AND high quality makes me excited about dating again. Plus, I get to undergo a transformation and those are always fun 😊 Thank you for putting us on game!
Welcome!
I really enjoyed this podcast style, it was varied which was more entertaining. It felt like a real girlfriend brunch chat! 😂 I’m here sipping my tea like yes girl!
“You can’t shame women who don’t want your life” - Chrissie
can we all take this quote and apply it? Can we all just mind our business and stop worrying about what the next woman is doing with her body and her life.
Also can we just accept Chrissie is a content creator and either her content will apply or it won’t and you do have a choice on whether to engage with her or not. Y’all really be exhausting.
Can you stay out of this Chanel then because we Chrissie followers know that it not shaming but educating. Black women have a lot to learn so you mind your own damm business
Lindy Thefirst and enter in the exhaustion.... no where do I claim Chrissie is shaming anyone. It’s very clearly for informative purposes. My comment actually refers to all of y’all under her vids shaming other people for their choices. The second part is about those complaining about the content she chooses to create.
That part!!
Chrissie: Grass taste bad
Me: omg the queen has spoken!!!
Like really 😂😂😂
What’s funny is I recently watched a video of cthagod doing a interview with the cast of girlfriends they tamales about how the show was ahead of it time with tackling black issue on the show and I noticed 2 things :
1. When they brought up someone of the issues faced in the black community that the show tackled the woman that played Toni started to mentioned about how her character struggled with being darkskinned and before she could finish the actress that played Lynn cut her off to talk about yeah and how Lynn struggled with being mixed I purposely told the writers to change Lynn from being a light skinned black woman to being mixed like me since that not something I’ve seen represented on tv often at that time
2. Then the actress that played Joan talks about how she’s always played a “black woman” even though she’s mixed
Both of those moments made me think about what Chrissie said in past videos of how Mixed Women don’t see themselves as the same as black women they see themselves as mixed. Which I have no problem with becuase i always thought it was weird for people to force someone to choose a sides when they half of something and both half’s are equally important to them. So they should be proud to mixed with both sides. It creates identity issues that many grow up with. Sometimes they may even look black but lean more towards their white side and now they’re told they’re black only and should accept it. Mixed people as whole should just have their own category or race. They have their own struggles so let them create their own category. I think black peoples don’t want that because then that because they thought that will push black people down the totem pole even further. It’s a race of people we created that’s closer to being white than we are and will have more Privelege because of it.
Yes, I watched that interview as well and was also cringing regarding Tracy Ross and Persia White being the only ones to comment on "being a black woman" on that show..it was striking that Golden Brooks and Anne Marie were silent, but looking uncomfortable. It angered me that Tracy could be like that because I'd thought better of her as a daughter of Ms. Ross, namely, the daughter of a black woman. I had noticed that the female offspring of mixed parentage where the mother is black, tended to be more accepting that they are indeed mixed, not "black". So to see her plow through the actual black women there, just two of them, rattled my nerves and one of the reasons I've been more vocal on the "tube" when I see comments from mixed ones insisting they're black. No, sorry, you're not. If an actual black woman doesn't have the additional opportunity to recognize their non BLK parentage because they don't have it, how and more to the point WHY do mixed ones get to claim the same identity as an actual black woman? Defies logic. Sorry for this semi-rant but I've a niece who is bi-ethnic with her dark black mother being my sister and father is white American Italian/ Irish mix. She has NO PROBLEM recognizing she's mixed since she was a small child. She's perfectly fine with who she is and not the kind to lord over anyone about her mixed heritage. She's never felt the overwhelming need to identify as black or white. She calls herself brown and has strong relationships with all kinds of people, young and old. She's a very well adjusted young woman in her late teens. Shared all that to say, yes, it is possible for mixed persons to accept their very mixed selves as mixed..
AE3007 I was annoyed by Tracy in that interview too, but too me she seemed to talk too much in general she even butted in once with Persia. It didn’t happen that much because persia really only talked about being mixed and not the other stuff. After that interview and from rumors I heard about Tracy dating married men and growing up in the spotlight it makes me see her different like she maybe self centered. I agree that it is possible for mixed ppl to see themselves as mixed I have a friend who is mixed mother white father black. She grew up hard father wasn’t involved as much and mother was a alcoholic. She told me that was how she viewed herself as both and she hated how ppl tried force her to choose her black side. At first I didn’t understand but I was young and just following what the black community says but at the same time I thought it made sense what she said why should she have to choose. Esp since she could pass as a white woman or Atleast doesn’t look black at all. That could be why she never wanted to only claim her black side. I remember her telling me she also doesn’t check African American or black on applications she checks other. She doesn’t try or feel pressure to be one or other. She also is 15 yrs older than so maybe she it took years for her to get there. Like you said it’s still possible
I’m not negotiating anything for no bisexual man whether black or white!
We definitely need to define blackness fr. I been sayin that, like wtf people always claiming everybody as black? It’s cus we hate who “WE” are and instead want to see ourselves in biracials and lights and brights. It’s sad af. LOVE YOURSELVES. What makes them unique is what “you” already have genetically and naturally. STOP wanting to be in the likeness of light bright and white. Stop longing close proximity to whiteness. You are BEAUTIFUL YOU are the blueprint! 💯
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No matter what, men will always view women as the emotional ones so even if an arrangement is made he’ll honestly believe that she must have an underlying feeling of love beneath the surface. Then when when she cashes in on the agreement he’s totally mad to find out that she was never really feeling him like that or at least not enough to stay. Men don’t want to believe that women can be just as savage, if not more, than they are.
Imagine being so desperate that you will date a “bisexual” “men” ! For me it’s a gay man not confidence enough or confuse to live his gay life . Sad 🙃
Exactly
They seem to ignore the fact that no matter what community they go to the problems are always the same. Single mothers, cheating, child support etc
I liked the hypergamy part Chrissie I haven't been getting it for years but I think now I understand it and my mom tells me don't give your man some money I have seen women giving man money and it's just painful