"You are Mourning A Life That Was Never Yours" is hilarious and wonderfully well-written, Julie. I bet I have never met ONE person who didn't make that EXACT mistake. So funny, and pretty darn clever as well!
Yeah, I have definitely called myself out on this exact thing before. But it is still hard! It is hard to look back (especially to times when I was ignorant or not in control of the situation) and realize that I will never be able to have what I missed out on. It is ok to be sad about things, the important part (which is what I'm stuck on) is not getting hung up on what could have been but instead to enjoy what is
@@albertlassiter8608 100%! I find I like to make things or buy keepsakes to remember things I used to do. Now that's not some new revelation or anything, but what I have found is that when I make something that reminds me of a fun adventure I went on, or buy a keepsake or something, it helps me kind of keep that memory ANCHORED in reality and not some rose-colored glasses version of what really happened. I have a large collection of these keepsakes, and it always makes me smile remembering some dumb thing I used to do with friends or some adventure I took off somewhere. And always fondly. Never wishing I could go back and do it again. I think somehow the keepsakes help me not pine for a time when I was younger and or wish I had done something differently, like I missed out.
"reality slap" is the only two words I can think of in connection with that... Another problem, one's not only lost to the outside world, but that "partner time" is also severely curtailed. Unless you're comfortable with outsourcing child rearing to outsiders to sniff coke off the toilet seat...
It fits the character, but it is a little uncomfortable seeing a drunk pregnant woman. Even when you know it's fake drunk. But what's she going to do, NOT have mirror Julie drinking?
Oh no!!! That poor baby. It'll be off screen crying and mirror Julie will be yelling at it... Poor thing. Will mirror social services come? Arghhh, now I'm worried
"If you want to do coke off a toilet seat you can do it, you just have to get a babysitter first." - the moral of this video. Mirror Julie always with the great insights.
She wrote a bunch of "pregnant" sketches and literally went all the way to bring them to life instead of stuffing a pillow under her shirt. That's dedication!! She's probably got a bunch of "mom" sketches ready to go 🙂
Thank you for validating every single question that has popped in my brain since I became a mom. Best advice I got from a fellow mom is just be yourself. It's ok to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them - most importantly, you will be a god to them for a good number of years. It's ok to be you. Your kid gets to enjoy YOU.
I was too tired for the first year to have a crisis lol. I was in survival mode for the first 6 months and almost survival mode for the second 6 months. Crisis came my second year and I've made it my goal to recommit myself to my old hobbies and activities. It's going well so far and has helped me get back in touch with myself.
Oh please don’t. Don’t exploit your child for views. Here and there yes it’s fine. But internet is dangerous. And, Julie, you don’t need to show your child. We would still watch and enjoy your videos even if there was no child in them.
I'm looking forward to frazzled Julie that hasn't slept in 36h. Those videos are going to be hilarious. Also don't hold back after giving birth, talk about all the unglamourous bits of motherhood that get overlooked. We are all here for you Julie!
I was watching her through my pregnancy, So yes please do!!! Lol! And I don't listen to most of my music anymore.... It's all Baby Shark now. Lol! But I wouldn't change for the world 🤱💝
I'm afraid to hear from Mirror Julie not holding back, she already made a very unglamorous comment on how much Julie might tear. But it'll be hilarious.
Honestly as a woman who wants to have children soon it’s so nice to see representation of motherhood from a RUclipsr that isn’t just family vlogging (ugh) or weird stereotypical bullcrap that reduces women who are mothers to just…well, only motherhood. The messaging seems to be you can either be fun and cool and childless, or a non-person blob of Motherhood (TM). So seeing someone as cool as you becoming a mom and rejecting that narrative is super validating. (In other words thanks for just being you lol.)
Motherhood is pretty important. You become the most important person in the world to your child. The media has spent decades trashing motherhood to young women and its worked. I'm glad there are still women out there that want to be moms, I just wish there were more independent minded women out there that didn't let the media think for them.
@@olliefoxx7165 I am the oldest of five children and a child and family therapist. I did not need the media to tell me that having a child comes with significant downsides that IF ANYTHING are downplayed by friends, family and social media as well. That doesn't mean that it doesn't have its upsides, but my experience is that motherhood is glorified in our culture to an extent that greatly overshadows any woman who dares to critically examine the impact of motherhood on women.
So, the media and major segments of feminism are constantly telling us that motherhood is what a woman does when she fails at everything else. They push the rewards of careers, but traditionally only men had careers...and only men had a midlife crisis. A midlife crisis is the realization that no matter what your career is, at some point, someone is going to put all of your accomplishments in a box and ask you to have a nice retirement. You are replaceable. Your mother is your mother forever. Nobody hands their mother a box and says, okay, you are done, here, have a nice retirement.
If you haven't followed them you might like Connor and Liana. I think that's how you spell it. They just had a baby but I wouldn't call them family bloggers. They're currently building out a van so they can travel with their baby. Also Jessica Kellgren-Fozard. She's a deff lesbian disability activist and they had baby about a year ago. Maybe a bit of a different perspective on motherhood altogether as there's two moms. I guess I recommend these to you because they're both very honest with her feelings and their struggles but haven't lost the original intent of their channel, which is overwhelmingly positive. Basically great moms who love being mom's but that's not their whole life.
@@junipersages Then you have some kind of deep-rooted bias for whatever reason. Motherhood is not glorified in our culture and the fact that you believe otherwise means that there's an issue with your perception.
It’s not monetizing your child if you’re just bringing them into your life. Monetizing your child is when you make it all about them and make them do crazy stuff just to get clicks. I don’t see Julie doing that.
In all honesty and without any creeper vibe whatsoever: You radiate beauty. You have this energy and warmth that eminates from you now. I have never really noticed this in expecting mothers before (I'm a retired RN), but on video it is so easy to see it in you. So proud of all your accomplishments in this crazy venue. Best wishes to you and yours and keep up the great quality content!
I realize this isn't exactly what the sketch was about, but I just graduated from college and am anxious for being a whole-ass adult with a job and stuff. I also kind of recently developed a retroactive FOMO for tailgates and parties and stuff I didn't do much of bc I'm a huge introvert, but in the last year I've gained the confidence and energy to start tolerating some of it. Your line "you are mourning a life that was never yours" was exactly what I needed to hear today, thanks! It's really put me at ease and made me more optimistic for what my future holds. Big thanks to Mirror Julie, and good luck to irl Julie! I'm sure you'll make a great mom 😊
Everybody feels that way when they graduate and enter the "real world." You feel phony, like you are just _playing_ adult rather than being one. The hyper-boring conversations your coworkers have about television shows and moles they are having removed make you want to quit and backpack around South America or something. The problem is that you have to grow up sometime. You don't have to like the conversations about TV. Find some cool younger people at work and form a community safe from health problem talk.
I was terrified and excited at being a Mum because it was all so different. My lovely daughter is a teenager now and she is a good decent kid. I struggled with postnatal depression and found bonding difficult. I was upset I couldn't feed her because I lost too much weight. We have been through so much my daughter and me. She is a gift from God and we are best friends. You can do this Julie. Love the sketch. Xx❤
@@julienolke YES! The child labour laws are stupid, my four year old niece agrees with me. Well she'd better if she wants my help getting her out of that chimney.
You'll never be boring I suspect you'll be an awesome mother. And can have kids that won't forget how to be happy and playful through that their entire lives. Thank you for caring us through the pandemic I wonder what the pandemic person would say today
@@king_halcyon Someone once said to me that kids are overwhelming and understimulating at the same time. I love my kids and they love me AND a lot of hands-on motherhood is incredibly boring.
Julie you just keep creating the most amazing videos. This was so great. The way your personas work through real issues about anticipating motherhood is really fun to watch. Thank you.
I know plenty of creators who are also parents, Julie - you're gonna be just fine! 😄I mean, the first few months are going to suck, but that's just a baby being a baby, you'll survive that too ♥Love that mirror Julie is still living her wildly irresponsible pregnant life, and I don't know just how far along you are but I'll take this opportunity to say an ahead-of-schedule congratulations! So excited to see your Mom Era 😊
Thank you for being willing to share your fears in such an entertaining way! This is what everyone fears when they have kids. The harsh truth is yes, we all become irrelevant. That, however is independent of having kids. Having kids allows us to face that painful truth, and have someone to pass the torch of revelance on to. Without which, our own personal race of life just comes to an ubrupt end, instead of continuing on.
"There are no rules on how to be a parent" -- absolutely correct -- Also, if you give over your whole life to being a mom and you lose yourself then when your kids grow up you are an empty shell. Keep your interests, find new ones, live your life, support your kids. You've got this.
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder (solo mama) and have a 'Mirror Julie'. She is real and gives the tough love. Honestly..your sketches help me get better insight on my alters cause some will be like, 'YUP! That's how I FEEL!" We love your content:)
Oh Julie, I feel this. I’m 34, and my son is 4 and a half months. But don’t worry, you’re going to be amazing and are still as cool, hot and hilarious as ever!
As long as you always stay you, you will never get boring but will only get more interesting. It’s the people who stopped being themselves who got boring as they got older.
As a Mom and a RUclipsr, I love this on a personal level. We don't have to change who we are. We don't have to lose ourselves and only have the identifyer of Mom. I have a whole world of thoughts and multiple hobbies that don't include my kids. And I make time for them and my wonderful partner in life makes sure I get me time to be creative and vlog and podcast and cut up cereal boxes and glue random collages on them because it makes me happy and I can be just me. I love my kids of course. But I'll never be one of those moms that watches their kids sleep. I got stuff to do! I also identify with the "have never been sexy" thing. Of course Julie is a whole snack but mirror Julie is a lot harsher of a critic than I am.
Julie you’re having it all. A joy to the world on the macro and a mother to your child on the micro. You are a blessing to all of us. Now you a getting one more fan!
Julie (and, I suppose, anyone else in the same situation): You *were* cool before. Now you're cool AND building a human - that's *actually* cool. Your relevance doesn't fade, it just shifts: Now you can do parenting jokes (a bloody goldmine of material). Can't wait for you and Mirror Julie to swap parenting tips! In the meantime, remember: your sense of humour was directly responsible for getting you where you are today (in all respects), and it will continue to be one of your biggest strengths. Play to it, and we'll all keep lapping it up like the suckers we are 😂 A few pointers... - Don't do coke off toilet seats, too many germs - Keep laughing at boring people: if they're smart, they'll thank you for the humour (thanks, by the way), if not, they're too dull for you to worry about. - Yes. You still got it. - Mirror Julie *will* steal your secret "mummy's happy grape juice" stash. Hide it well You'll be fine. You looked after all of us during lockdown(s), one more babbling, confused human is nothing (at least this one won't be able to type comments for a few years!). Thank you for the laughs, and good luck with everything
The quiet "I could have" about the dust on the toilet seat is HYSTERICAL. Great video as per usual. Also, yes, cool, yes, hot, & yeah you'll be a cool parent. done & done. Have a great day.
Everything youre saying, is exactly wha my women friends vented to me about when they became pregnant. It's really great youre able to creatively express yourself in a fun way while still validating the realistic psychological stress of a changing lifestyle. Remember, you're more than just a mom.
You’re absolutely fine, Julie! 😄 Parenting doesn’t have to be boring. And you are still beautiful! 💙 Let us know if you ever plan to come to Cobh in Ireland! 😄
You can do most of the same things you're doing now with your child in-tow! After giving birth and dealing with major PPD, it helped me A LOT to just get out and do what I wanted to do, with my baby along for the ride. Just leaving the house helped a ton. And then as your kid gets older, you get to start going to lots of fun playplaces and relive your childhood through them and it's a really beautiful experience. I know people who decided that they had to stop living their lives and stay in the house all the time as soon as their baby was born because they had to put their baby on such a strict schedule. They are not doing well mentally. Leave the house, do what you enjoy, and talk to a doctor if you get PPD. Sending lots of love your way! I know you're gonna do great, even if it feels hard for awhile!
Fantastic script! I think this one is not only good for helping give good perspective to people who are going through similar things, but also for opening the eyes of others who don't know or understand what they're going through. Public services that are also funny are the best kind
I didn’t know Julie was pregnant I have been so out of the loop! IM A LONG TIME FAN SINCE YOU WERE BACK ON SNAPCHAT FOR TASTY OR WHOEVER I DONT EVEN REMEMBER!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! I doubt you’ll recognize the user I used to comment all the time. Glad I saw this video I’m fully back in! 😎
The brutal honesty at the heart of your comedy is what keeps me coming back. 😅 Motherhood is a trip. Can't wait to see it through the Julie Nolke filter.
Julie, "You are the same person you were before." Indeed! funny as ever!!! Mirror Julie on the other hand... she never took a swig of that beer (maybe it was tea.) She is changing.
Hey Julie, have loved your skits since I found them, like most, during pandemic! Not sure about your age, so I'm assuming you're becoming a parent about the same time I did, a few years ago. Maybe it's just the skit, but just in case: I was unsure, scared, and didn't know what to think, so I'll tell you something that I found was never enough for me to hear: You'll be perfectly fine. And listen to mirror-you. You're ADDING parent to your resume, not subsituting anything. You're still a person, a woman, a friend, a spouse, etc. You're just... also a parent now. Wish you and your family the best!
Flawlessly hilarious😂. You are still sexy, cool and one of the best comedians, not just on the platform, but in the world. I think you're going to be a great mom too!🎉
Being sexy (even for girls) is not only about how you look. I met semi-ideal women who looked super hot both in instagram and real life - and gosh, how boring or even irritating they were when I had a conversation with them. And there were girls who maybe looked like a general person who went out to buy some vegetables in nearby shop in home clothes but after spending 10 minutes with them they became super attractive with their smiles, open mind, their interests and energy.
You’re so lucky you get to be a mom. My Husband and I have been trying to have a baby for years. Also, you’re very fun and talented. I was thinking about you the other day when I was remembering your series on explaining the pandemic to your past self.
Great shit. Im a young man, feeling a little pressured of becoming a father but also being afraid of it because of the mentality you portrayed here - this video helped. Im one step closer, whichever direction, but I surely am.
Wise decision! Three Decades of Hell The future goes something like this. The next 3 to 5 decades are going to be apocalyptic. Beyond everyone's comprehension. Corona-panic will seem like a birthday party. The 2030s will be the decade climate change gives us a really good smack to the head. Floods and fires will be non-stop. Cities will flood, countries will drown, crops washed away and whole regions go up in smoke. Heat domes will turn crowded cities into concrete crispy crematoriums. As a result economies will crash, jobs will be lost, just in time supply chains will be distant memory. Societies social cohesion will implode into dystopian regimes the way America, UK and other "democratic lol" nations are already experiencing. The 2040s will be the decade when mass extinction gets real. Coral reefs and all the life dependent on them Gone!. There will be far far more plastic in the oceans than fish.. Hundreds of millions of peoples primary food sources Gone. Having ripped the bottom out of nature’s great chains, they will topple over, and collapse in on themselves. Who’s going to turn the soil when the insects are gone? Who’s going to clean the rivers when the fish have vanished? Who’s going to nurture the forests when the bees disappear? Bang! In the blink of an eye, even bigger collapses begin to happen. Our systems of civilization begin to fail, catastrophically. Whole economies. Whole industries. Whole sectors. Entire regions. The things we take for granted now food chains, water tables, air to breathe, soil to plant crops in, harvests to till, raw materials to extract and deplete will all begin to simply disappear. 400+ nuclear power plants will start to meltdown as they won't be able to be cooled down anymore and the people capable of servicing them lost to the economic collapse. Cities will be abandoned and massive migration (attempts) will be forced upon all nations. Brutality and cruelty will be the new legal systems. The 2050s the Final Goodbye. The planetary biosphere will transition into a phase not seen in many many millions of years. Hothouse earth. Glaciers and their rivers will have vanished replaced by horrific run-offs of super storm driven events that sweep the toxic landscape into the already pollution saturated oceans. Jellyfish, and cockroaches will be the main species left. Nothing will be able to evolve fast enough
What an amzing talent Julie has to weave comedy and therapy into one package, while at the same time laying bare her own vulnerabilities in order to help herself through tough times. Pure genius!
I relate to Julie, about becoming old and irrelevant. Even though I am literally fourteen. “You are mourning a life that was never yours.” I will be taking that motto to my grave. Thank you. (P.S.: Julie, I think you’re awesome really funny and I really enjoy your content. It brightens my day :D)
Wow😂😂. You’re literally the last person here who could say they feel old. You’ve literally got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t worry and enjoy the ride
I'm glad you picked up on that motto, it's incredibly true. You can be full of confidence one day and feeling irrelevant the next, with zero confidence your peers think you're cool (whatever that means) and then feeling super the next week, thinking you've figured out your problems (ha). It's not being a teenager, it's being anyone older than a child and younger than dead. It can be tougher as a teen cause you're not used to it (and yeah, the hormones) but it comes with growing up. But don't misread me, the ups are always a lot more than the downs, there's a lot of fun to be had. Also: If life gives you lemons - get used to it, life has *lots* of lemons.
I have two kids and I still feel this way. I was never cool (and very aware of it). It's such a weird trip, being a mum but also being a human with a different identity.
there coud be no bigger feeling than giving birth to a baby, feeding them, and letting them grow, being their mothers... nothing can compare to that...
You got this Julie! A few months after baby comes you'll be back to an even better version of you. It's going to be amazing, but DO NOT sit and read all the parenting blogs and posts. They can rarely be helpful, mostly just terrifying. Find a great pediatrician, and some good friends and family that are parents and you're all set! Much love on your new journey!
Moms rule the world! We all owe everything to them, period, end of statement. Julie, I love your comedy. I discovered your content when pandemic started and your sketches cheered me up during that very depressing time in our world. Thank you for that! I can tell you from personal experience that my greatest hero in my life is the woman who birthed and raised our children! My wife is my hero! There is absolutely nothing about being pregnant that makes you less sexy, less important, or less valuable. In fact, it's the complete opposite!
This is hilarious. No, you will not be the same person. You will change. You will not want to do the same things as you did before. You will be happier and broader and deeper for it. It's all good. And hard. And wonderful. And tiring as all hell. You'll love it.
Hotness tends to wane with age, but beauty can last well into old age. Also one can be fun before and after becoming a mom (or dad). When you have kids, one tends to care more for your children than one cares for whether random people want to have children with you. That's a kind of vanity we should probably put aside anyway. I think we should focus on whether we're the kind of people others love to have around... not because we're attractive, but because we're good friends and parents.
Congratulations, please, please, please, keep us posted as you move forward with your new job, trust me, it's a wonderful, beautiful, exhilarating, and exhausting job ❤❤❤
As a parent of two teenagers, I can confirm that Julie is making a huge mistake. (j/k, sorta) I'm impressed that mirror Julie still drinks like a fish while pregnant. She's like a character out of Mad Men.
@@Dragonryder-iv6vi Maybe it was apple juice. Then it must have been the jello shots she was doing off camera that made her talk in her usual tipsy manner.
These were the same doubts I had while being pregnant and new mom 😅... Am I old and no longer cool? Mourning the lost of possibilities and a life I wasn't even interested in 😂. Your content is so relatable and funny! And it will be even better once your baby is there. Can't wait!!
Mirror Julie reading out loud the part for becoming a Patreon member is probably one of the best "ads" I've seen on RUclips. I was about to close this video's tab when she caught my attention.
"You are Mourning A Life That Was Never Yours" is hilarious and wonderfully well-written, Julie.
I bet I have never met ONE person who didn't make that EXACT mistake.
So funny, and pretty darn clever as well!
Yeah, I have definitely called myself out on this exact thing before. But it is still hard! It is hard to look back (especially to times when I was ignorant or not in control of the situation) and realize that I will never be able to have what I missed out on.
It is ok to be sad about things, the important part (which is what I'm stuck on) is not getting hung up on what could have been but instead to enjoy what is
Yeah... I felt ATTACKED by that line, and I'm not even a parent. X_X
@@albertlassiter8608 100%!
I find I like to make things or buy keepsakes to remember things I used to do. Now that's not some new revelation or anything, but what I have found is that when I make something that reminds me of a fun adventure I went on, or buy a keepsake or something, it helps me kind of keep that memory ANCHORED in reality and not some rose-colored glasses version of what really happened.
I have a large collection of these keepsakes, and it always makes me smile remembering some dumb thing I used to do with friends or some adventure I took off somewhere. And always fondly. Never wishing I could go back and do it again.
I think somehow the keepsakes help me not pine for a time when I was younger and or wish I had done something differently, like I missed out.
Julie - the person, not the internet meme - is multifaceted.
I'm sure this kid will turn out just fine.
A perfect and succinct line that really helped me! Thank you for being the perfect therapist today! 🙂
As a parent of three I can honestly say I've enjoyed your content and look forward to seeing you again in eighteen years
"reality slap" is the only two words I can think of in connection with that...
Another problem, one's not only lost to the outside world, but that "partner time" is also severely curtailed.
Unless you're comfortable with outsourcing child rearing to outsiders to sniff coke off the toilet seat...
You will never be uncool, Julie! Also, I'm a little terrified for mirror Julie's baby.
Oh no... I never even thought about mirror Julie's baby. I cannot wait.
It fits the character, but it is a little uncomfortable seeing a drunk pregnant woman. Even when you know it's fake drunk. But what's she going to do, NOT have mirror Julie drinking?
Mirror Julie's baby will come out with a drink in its hand!
Oh no!!! That poor baby. It'll be off screen crying and mirror Julie will be yelling at it... Poor thing. Will mirror social services come?
Arghhh, now I'm worried
Would be the most sarcastic yet wise baby ever
"If you want to do coke off a toilet seat you can do it, you just have to get a babysitter first." - the moral of this video. Mirror Julie always with the great insights.
Could have cut to Mirror Julie on the toilet drinking Coke 🤣
Notice she didn’t say “you never did Coke”
some ppl like buffalo, some like teriyaki
I love that Julie is making as many videos as possible while she's still pregnant. She must plan out her sketches WAY in advance!
LMAO!
I literally spit my tea all over myself when I read this. Good job. +15 internet points
She wrote a bunch of "pregnant" sketches and literally went all the way to bring them to life instead of stuffing a pillow under her shirt. That's dedication!! She's probably got a bunch of "mom" sketches ready to go 🙂
So we thinking she got preggo just to clear out the backlog of pregnant sketches she had written over the years, but didn’t have the bump to pull off?
@@runrig97 🤣🤣
I love "Mirror Julie" being real and helping Pregnant Julie through the crisis.
Thank you for validating every single question that has popped in my brain since I became a mom. Best advice I got from a fellow mom is just be yourself. It's ok to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them - most importantly, you will be a god to them for a good number of years. It's ok to be you. Your kid gets to enjoy YOU.
There's nothing wrong in being a mom. In fact it can make you even better...
I was too tired for the first year to have a crisis lol. I was in survival mode for the first 6 months and almost survival mode for the second 6 months. Crisis came my second year and I've made it my goal to recommit myself to my old hobbies and activities. It's going well so far and has helped me get back in touch with myself.
“Being a god to them” is such an interesting way to put it
You will be a god if is a boy to the age of 12, 9 if it’s a girl. Good luck!
Julie is amazing. I forget she’s playing both roles cause of how flawless her interactions are. ❤
Remember, you aren't just "having a baby" -- you are birthing new content!!
haha basically the same as having twins
That's cheesy and kinda basic. But deep down, we all know that "cheesy and basic" means "pleasant and good".
My wife prefers, “Character spawn point”.
Oh please don’t. Don’t exploit your child for views. Here and there yes it’s fine. But internet is dangerous. And, Julie, you don’t need to show your child. We would still watch and enjoy your videos even if there was no child in them.
And a future teenager…😮
I'm looking forward to frazzled Julie that hasn't slept in 36h. Those videos are going to be hilarious. Also don't hold back after giving birth, talk about all the unglamourous bits of motherhood that get overlooked. We are all here for you Julie!
I was watching her through my pregnancy, So yes please do!!! Lol!
And I don't listen to most of my music anymore.... It's all Baby Shark now. Lol! But I wouldn't change for the world 🤱💝
I'm afraid to hear from Mirror Julie not holding back, she already made a very unglamorous comment on how much Julie might tear. But it'll be hilarious.
Honestly as a woman who wants to have children soon it’s so nice to see representation of motherhood from a RUclipsr that isn’t just family vlogging (ugh) or weird stereotypical bullcrap that reduces women who are mothers to just…well, only motherhood. The messaging seems to be you can either be fun and cool and childless, or a non-person blob of Motherhood (TM). So seeing someone as cool as you becoming a mom and rejecting that narrative is super validating. (In other words thanks for just being you lol.)
Motherhood is pretty important. You become the most important person in the world to your child. The media has spent decades trashing motherhood to young women and its worked. I'm glad there are still women out there that want to be moms, I just wish there were more independent minded women out there that didn't let the media think for them.
@@olliefoxx7165 I am the oldest of five children and a child and family therapist. I did not need the media to tell me that having a child comes with significant downsides that IF ANYTHING are downplayed by friends, family and social media as well. That doesn't mean that it doesn't have its upsides, but my experience is that motherhood is glorified in our culture to an extent that greatly overshadows any woman who dares to critically examine the impact of motherhood on women.
So, the media and major segments of feminism are constantly telling us that motherhood is what a woman does when she fails at everything else. They push the rewards of careers, but traditionally only men had careers...and only men had a midlife crisis. A midlife crisis is the realization that no matter what your career is, at some point, someone is going to put all of your accomplishments in a box and ask you to have a nice retirement. You are replaceable. Your mother is your mother forever. Nobody hands their mother a box and says, okay, you are done, here, have a nice retirement.
If you haven't followed them you might like Connor and Liana. I think that's how you spell it. They just had a baby but I wouldn't call them family bloggers. They're currently building out a van so they can travel with their baby.
Also Jessica Kellgren-Fozard. She's a deff lesbian disability activist and they had baby about a year ago. Maybe a bit of a different perspective on motherhood altogether as there's two moms.
I guess I recommend these to you because they're both very honest with her feelings and their struggles but haven't lost the original intent of their channel, which is overwhelmingly positive. Basically great moms who love being mom's but that's not their whole life.
@@junipersages Then you have some kind of deep-rooted bias for whatever reason. Motherhood is not glorified in our culture and the fact that you believe otherwise means that there's an issue with your perception.
It's not first-person "normal" Julie that's changed, it's moustache-bleaching mirror Julie. That was almost wholesome!
I love how you process your serious thoughts and worries in your artwork.
Julie's not just having a baby; she's training a future crewmember right from the get-go.
I hope not. Monetizing a child? Just because it's normal or common doesn't mean it's right or okay.
It’s not monetizing your child if you’re just bringing them into your life. Monetizing your child is when you make it all about them and make them do crazy stuff just to get clicks. I don’t see Julie doing that.
In all honesty and without any creeper vibe whatsoever: You radiate beauty. You have this energy and warmth that eminates from you now. I have never really noticed this in expecting mothers before (I'm a retired RN), but on video it is so easy to see it in you. So proud of all your accomplishments in this crazy venue. Best wishes to you and yours and keep up the great quality content!
I realize this isn't exactly what the sketch was about, but I just graduated from college and am anxious for being a whole-ass adult with a job and stuff. I also kind of recently developed a retroactive FOMO for tailgates and parties and stuff I didn't do much of bc I'm a huge introvert, but in the last year I've gained the confidence and energy to start tolerating some of it. Your line "you are mourning a life that was never yours" was exactly what I needed to hear today, thanks! It's really put me at ease and made me more optimistic for what my future holds. Big thanks to Mirror Julie, and good luck to irl Julie! I'm sure you'll make a great mom 😊
Everybody feels that way when they graduate and enter the "real world." You feel phony, like you are just _playing_ adult rather than being one. The hyper-boring conversations your coworkers have about television shows and moles they are having removed make you want to quit and backpack around South America or something. The problem is that you have to grow up sometime. You don't have to like the conversations about TV. Find some cool younger people at work and form a community safe from health problem talk.
"That's not a question" got me haha. Everything will change.
I was terrified and excited at being a Mum because it was all so different.
My lovely daughter is a teenager now and she is a good decent kid.
I struggled with postnatal depression and found bonding difficult. I was upset I couldn't feed her because I lost too much weight.
We have been through so much my daughter and me.
She is a gift from God and we are best friends.
You can do this Julie.
Love the sketch.
Xx❤
The only thing that can stop you being who you want to be is you…and the baby…and the nappies…and the curlers🍼
I disagree. I refuse to change on little bit. Baby's gonna have to learn how to hold a camera
@@julienolke Oh, you'll change all right. Diaper after diaper after diaper...
@@julienolke YES! The child labour laws are stupid, my four year old niece agrees with me. Well she'd better if she wants my help getting her out of that chimney.
@@julienolke And a mirror…and a microphone…and a giant book of ideas.
@@julienolke will the baby have a mirror friend one day?
Everyone remember… Julie found a way to make adult braces sexy… so I’m sure she can pull off motherhood as well! 😂
Step 1. Be attractive.
You'll never be boring I suspect you'll be an awesome mother. And can have kids that won't forget how to be happy and playful through that their entire lives. Thank you for caring us through the pandemic I wonder what the pandemic person would say today
Being a mom is never boring. It's tough, but it is filled with joys! And imagine all the new content you can have!!
Why will it be boring? Wtf
@@king_halcyon Someone once said to me that kids are overwhelming and understimulating at the same time. I love my kids and they love me AND a lot of hands-on motherhood is incredibly boring.
I put the odds at 50% that she names the baby Content 😏
Thank you for articulating the inner dialogue we all go through on this parenting journey. Does more for my mental health than a glass of wine.
I like how Julie has figured out a way to get paid for therapy
“There was never enough room for my moves” Thank you Julie. That was the laugh I needed today.
Nobody does that subtle dismay/disappointment as well as Julie.
Julie you just keep creating the most amazing videos. This was so great. The way your personas work through real issues about anticipating motherhood is really fun to watch. Thank you.
Happy pregnancy Julie! May Gods bless you with a wonderful child.
Also, you definitely look very well just like before.
I know plenty of creators who are also parents, Julie - you're gonna be just fine! 😄I mean, the first few months are going to suck, but that's just a baby being a baby, you'll survive that too ♥Love that mirror Julie is still living her wildly irresponsible pregnant life, and I don't know just how far along you are but I'll take this opportunity to say an ahead-of-schedule congratulations! So excited to see your Mom Era 😊
Thank you for being willing to share your fears in such an entertaining way!
This is what everyone fears when they have kids.
The harsh truth is yes, we all become irrelevant. That, however is independent of having kids.
Having kids allows us to face that painful truth, and have someone to pass the torch of revelance on to. Without which, our own personal race of life just comes to an ubrupt end, instead of continuing on.
"There are no rules on how to be a parent" -- absolutely correct -- Also, if you give over your whole life to being a mom and you lose yourself then when your kids grow up you are an empty shell. Keep your interests, find new ones, live your life, support your kids. You've got this.
Child Protection Services would disagree. There are definitely rules on how to be a parent.
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder (solo mama) and have a 'Mirror Julie'. She is real and gives the tough love. Honestly..your sketches help me get better insight on my alters cause some will be like, 'YUP! That's how I FEEL!" We love your content:)
Qut making excuses for yourself dude.
Oh Julie, I feel this. I’m 34, and my son is 4 and a half months. But don’t worry, you’re going to be amazing and are still as cool, hot and hilarious as ever!
As long as you always stay you, you will never get boring but will only get more interesting. It’s the people who stopped being themselves who got boring as they got older.
As a Mom and a RUclipsr, I love this on a personal level. We don't have to change who we are. We don't have to lose ourselves and only have the identifyer of Mom. I have a whole world of thoughts and multiple hobbies that don't include my kids. And I make time for them and my wonderful partner in life makes sure I get me time to be creative and vlog and podcast and cut up cereal boxes and glue random collages on them because it makes me happy and I can be just me. I love my kids of course. But I'll never be one of those moms that watches their kids sleep. I got stuff to do! I also identify with the "have never been sexy" thing. Of course Julie is a whole snack but mirror Julie is a lot harsher of a critic than I am.
Julie you’re having it all. A joy to the world on the macro and a mother to your child on the micro. You are a blessing to all of us. Now you a getting one more fan!
Julie (and, I suppose, anyone else in the same situation): You *were* cool before. Now you're cool AND building a human - that's *actually* cool. Your relevance doesn't fade, it just shifts: Now you can do parenting jokes (a bloody goldmine of material). Can't wait for you and Mirror Julie to swap parenting tips! In the meantime, remember: your sense of humour was directly responsible for getting you where you are today (in all respects), and it will continue to be one of your biggest strengths. Play to it, and we'll all keep lapping it up like the suckers we are 😂 A few pointers...
- Don't do coke off toilet seats, too many germs
- Keep laughing at boring people: if they're smart, they'll thank you for the humour (thanks, by the way), if not, they're too dull for you to worry about.
- Yes. You still got it.
- Mirror Julie *will* steal your secret "mummy's happy grape juice" stash. Hide it well
You'll be fine. You looked after all of us during lockdown(s), one more babbling, confused human is nothing (at least this one won't be able to type comments for a few years!).
Thank you for the laughs, and good luck with everything
New parenthood as eschatology. Love it! Julie may be many things, may become many things, but I seriously doubt she will ever be "boring"
"That's not a question"! 😆
The quiet "I could have" about the dust on the toilet seat is HYSTERICAL. Great video as per usual. Also, yes, cool, yes, hot, & yeah you'll be a cool parent. done & done. Have a great day.
Everything youre saying, is exactly wha my women friends vented to me about when they became pregnant. It's really great youre able to creatively express yourself in a fun way while still validating the realistic psychological stress of a changing lifestyle.
Remember, you're more than just a mom.
Although even being Just A Mom is the most important job in the world. And can be all-consuming.
She really is in a class of her own.
Such well conceived, brilliantly written and acted, comedy.
Well Conceived....oh, I get it🤪
You’re absolutely fine, Julie! 😄 Parenting doesn’t have to be boring. And you are still beautiful! 💙
Let us know if you ever plan to come to Cobh in Ireland! 😄
You can do most of the same things you're doing now with your child in-tow! After giving birth and dealing with major PPD, it helped me A LOT to just get out and do what I wanted to do, with my baby along for the ride. Just leaving the house helped a ton. And then as your kid gets older, you get to start going to lots of fun playplaces and relive your childhood through them and it's a really beautiful experience. I know people who decided that they had to stop living their lives and stay in the house all the time as soon as their baby was born because they had to put their baby on such a strict schedule. They are not doing well mentally. Leave the house, do what you enjoy, and talk to a doctor if you get PPD. Sending lots of love your way! I know you're gonna do great, even if it feels hard for awhile!
This is a nice existential crisis video, thank you Julie and Mirror Julie! Also, that's a pretty strawberry shirt on you.
This baby is either gonna have an awesome sense of humour OR be totally confused why mum keeps having conversations with herself 😂
Not sure how difficult the logistics are, but would love to see another collab with Ryan George about pregnancy-related couple things!
First Person to Give Birth: "WTF is going on down there?!"
Fantastic script! I think this one is not only good for helping give good perspective to people who are going through similar things, but also for opening the eyes of others who don't know or understand what they're going through. Public services that are also funny are the best kind
I didn’t know Julie was pregnant I have been so out of the loop! IM A LONG TIME FAN SINCE YOU WERE BACK ON SNAPCHAT FOR TASTY OR WHOEVER I DONT EVEN REMEMBER!! IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! I doubt you’ll recognize the user I used to comment all the time. Glad I saw this video I’m fully back in! 😎
The brutal honesty at the heart of your comedy is what keeps me coming back. 😅 Motherhood is a trip. Can't wait to see it through the Julie Nolke filter.
Julie, "You are the same person you were before." Indeed! funny as ever!!! Mirror Julie on the other hand... she never took a swig of that beer (maybe it was tea.) She is changing.
Wow! I hope Julie reads this. That could be a great development idea. Mirror Julie changing. nice.
I thought she needed a straw (to sneak under the depilatory).
I'm a man who just turned 30 and this video is completely me, thank you for making this.
Yes , yes you are. You never weren't. You are also funny ,talented and intelligent.
Hey Julie, have loved your skits since I found them, like most, during pandemic!
Not sure about your age, so I'm assuming you're becoming a parent about the same time I did, a few years ago. Maybe it's just the skit, but just in case: I was unsure, scared, and didn't know what to think, so I'll tell you something that I found was never enough for me to hear: You'll be perfectly fine.
And listen to mirror-you. You're ADDING parent to your resume, not subsituting anything. You're still a person, a woman, a friend, a spouse, etc. You're just... also a parent now.
Wish you and your family the best!
I think Julie knows me as the guy that only talks about the mic showing up at the end. And I'm ok with it. And to answer your question. Yep. You are.
Glad Mirror Julie is still there being the realest.
Flawlessly hilarious😂. You are still sexy, cool and one of the best comedians, not just on the platform, but in the world. I think you're going to be a great mom too!🎉
Mirror Julie is the GOAT.😂
Being sexy (even for girls) is not only about how you look. I met semi-ideal women who looked super hot both in instagram and real life - and gosh, how boring or even irritating they were when I had a conversation with them. And there were girls who maybe looked like a general person who went out to buy some vegetables in nearby shop in home clothes but after spending 10 minutes with them they became super attractive with their smiles, open mind, their interests and energy.
It's mostly looks for females get real twinkle toes.
@@tommybards3489 Maybe it is for shallow chads like you. Those of us who are wise are looking for women that are beautiful inside.
One of the best RUclipsrs.
Smart who puts funny contents with substance.
You’re so lucky you get to be a mom. My Husband and I have been trying to have a baby for years. Also, you’re very fun and talented. I was thinking about you the other day when I was remembering your series on explaining the pandemic to your past self.
Great shit. Im a young man, feeling a little pressured of becoming a father but also being afraid of it because of the mentality you portrayed here - this video helped. Im one step closer, whichever direction, but I surely am.
I haven’t been here in a while… BABY????
yup. Times have changed
@@julienolke 👍
Brilliant, beautiful, funny. She's still got it. Insightful is another appropriate adjective for her.
I’m late 30’s, no kids and getting my tubes tied next month, and this hits just as much. Thank you 🙏
Hey.
Wise decision! Three Decades of Hell
The future goes something like this. The next 3 to 5 decades are going to be apocalyptic. Beyond everyone's comprehension. Corona-panic will seem like a birthday party.
The 2030s will be the decade climate change gives us a really good smack to the head. Floods and fires will be non-stop. Cities will flood, countries will drown, crops washed away and whole regions go up in smoke. Heat domes will turn crowded cities into concrete crispy crematoriums. As a result economies will crash, jobs will be lost, just in time supply chains will be distant memory. Societies social cohesion will implode into dystopian regimes the way America, UK and other "democratic lol" nations are already experiencing.
The 2040s will be the decade when mass extinction gets real. Coral reefs and all the life dependent on them Gone!. There will be far far more plastic in the oceans than fish.. Hundreds of millions of peoples primary food sources Gone. Having ripped the bottom out of nature’s great chains, they will topple over, and collapse in on themselves. Who’s going to turn the soil when the insects are gone? Who’s going to clean the rivers when the fish have vanished? Who’s going to nurture the forests when the bees disappear? Bang! In the blink of an eye, even bigger collapses begin to happen. Our systems of civilization begin to fail, catastrophically. Whole economies. Whole industries. Whole sectors. Entire regions. The things we take for granted now food chains, water tables, air to breathe, soil to plant crops in, harvests to till, raw materials to extract and deplete will all begin to simply disappear. 400+ nuclear power plants will start to meltdown as they won't be able to be cooled down anymore and the people capable of servicing them lost to the economic collapse. Cities will be abandoned and massive migration (attempts) will be forced upon all nations. Brutality and cruelty will be the new legal systems.
The 2050s the Final Goodbye. The planetary biosphere will transition into a phase not seen in many many millions of years. Hothouse earth. Glaciers and their rivers will have vanished replaced by horrific run-offs of super storm driven events that sweep the toxic landscape into the already pollution saturated oceans. Jellyfish, and cockroaches will be the main species left. Nothing will be able to evolve fast enough
Get the tubes removed, instead! Can't recommend highly enough.
Team Childfree 🎉
Also got my tubes removed 🎉
Hey ohh! #Teamnokids!! woot!! in my 40's no kids! :)
Enjoy being a mom. You will be a grandma momentarily. Time is awesome, isn't it?
I love the realism in these things. Congrats to Julie and "whomever" on being new parents. I can't wait for Baby Crazy Julie!
Nothing boring about being a Mom - of that you can be certain. lol Congratulations! Got 2 of my own and it's more than amazing.
Praying to find a woman with a sense of humor like this.
What an amzing talent Julie has to weave comedy and therapy into one package, while at the same time laying bare her own vulnerabilities in order to help herself through tough times. Pure genius!
I relate to Julie, about becoming old and irrelevant. Even though I am literally fourteen. “You are mourning a life that was never yours.” I will be taking that motto to my grave. Thank you.
(P.S.: Julie, I think you’re awesome really funny and I really enjoy your content. It brightens my day :D)
Wow😂😂. You’re literally the last person here who could say they feel old. You’ve literally got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t worry and enjoy the ride
Pork chops and....
Apple Sauce.
I'm glad you picked up on that motto, it's incredibly true. You can be full of confidence one day and feeling irrelevant the next, with zero confidence your peers think you're cool (whatever that means) and then feeling super the next week, thinking you've figured out your problems (ha). It's not being a teenager, it's being anyone older than a child and younger than dead. It can be tougher as a teen cause you're not used to it (and yeah, the hormones) but it comes with growing up. But don't misread me, the ups are always a lot more than the downs, there's a lot of fun to be had.
Also: If life gives you lemons - get used to it, life has *lots* of lemons.
One of the best in a while. Thank you.
I have two kids and I still feel this way. I was never cool (and very aware of it). It's such a weird trip, being a mum but also being a human with a different identity.
there coud be no bigger feeling than giving birth to a baby, feeding them, and letting them grow, being their mothers... nothing can compare to that...
Julie might one day become old or any of the other things … but never, ever boring.
You got this Julie! A few months after baby comes you'll be back to an even better version of you. It's going to be amazing, but DO NOT sit and read all the parenting blogs and posts. They can rarely be helpful, mostly just terrifying. Find a great pediatrician, and some good friends and family that are parents and you're all set! Much love on your new journey!
Moms rule the world! We all owe everything to them, period, end of statement. Julie, I love your comedy. I discovered your content when pandemic started and your sketches cheered me up during that very depressing time in our world. Thank you for that! I can tell you from personal experience that my greatest hero in my life is the woman who birthed and raised our children! My wife is my hero! There is absolutely nothing about being pregnant that makes you less sexy, less important, or less valuable. In fact, it's the complete opposite!
Lol the prescription pills in her bathrobe pocket
the writing, acting, and editing is so consistently good with these sketches
This is hilarious. No, you will not be the same person. You will change. You will not want to do the same things as you did before. You will be happier and broader and deeper for it. It's all good. And hard. And wonderful. And tiring as all hell. You'll love it.
"Remember when I was sexy?" "No because it never happened. "
" I'm still cool right?" "You were never cool. "
I can’t wait for the breast pump comedy! There is so much material there waiting for Julie to unleash!
'That wasn't a question' had me rolling. Great job.
Mirror Julie swinging the truth hammer all the time.
U sure?
I think I love Julie more and more all the time. Thank you!!!
Imagine a one year mom Julie talking to a still pregnant Julie
"Explaining motherhood to my past self", could work!
I think this is one of my favorite ones!!
Hotness tends to wane with age, but beauty can last well into old age. Also one can be fun before and after becoming a mom (or dad). When you have kids, one tends to care more for your children than one cares for whether random people want to have children with you. That's a kind of vanity we should probably put aside anyway. I think we should focus on whether we're the kind of people others love to have around... not because we're attractive, but because we're good friends and parents.
Congratulations, please, please, please, keep us posted as you move forward with your new job, trust me, it's a wonderful, beautiful, exhilarating, and exhausting job ❤❤❤
You are 🔥🔥🔥 julie
😘
@@julienolke Totally not hot flashes... Yet!!!! ;-)
Julie from Explaining the Pandemic to my Past Self Part 7
is gonna so shocked when Julie Part 8 comesby
As a parent of two teenagers, I can confirm that Julie is making a huge mistake. (j/k, sorta)
I'm impressed that mirror Julie still drinks like a fish while pregnant. She's like a character out of Mad Men.
It could have been apple juice ... maybe?
@@Dragonryder-iv6vi Maybe it was apple juice.
Then it must have been the jello shots she was doing off camera that made her talk in her usual tipsy manner.
I thought it was iced tea
I can't wait until Mirror Julie starts babysitting Mommy Julie's baby.
These were the same doubts I had while being pregnant and new mom 😅... Am I old and no longer cool? Mourning the lost of possibilities and a life I wasn't even interested in 😂.
Your content is so relatable and funny! And it will be even better once your baby is there. Can't wait!!
Thought mirror Julie was drunk but since she's pregnant, concerned it's something more terminal.
massive tumor
When M.J.s child is born it may be terminal to others, instead of a pacifier it'll have a pipe.
@Julie Nolke By the looks of it not the type that unlocks 90% of the untapped brain...
The final side-eye is fantastic.
If she's putting out these gems now, I can hardly wait to see the content she puts out after she has the baby!
Your dialog is amazing! The little bits, all land.
Mirror Julie reading out loud the part for becoming a Patreon member is probably one of the best "ads" I've seen on RUclips. I was about to close this video's tab when she caught my attention.
I always like the Julie mirror conversations.
Julie will always "still got it" ❤
I’m so glad you moved mirror Julie with you. I love her!
This was entertaining, and also very honest. Best wishes to you and your family!