We truly do not know the real consequence of having love children. Beyond cultural shame we face, there is more to it and i feel that the conversation on this topic should be talked about in Nigeria…. we are still ignorant of how best to manage and strive through it because its a lifetime commitment whether we like it or not. From my personal experience of having a love child after separation and going back to my husband i will tell you for free its a mess u wouldn’t want to indulge intentionally if you care so much about your life. I honestly do not recommend it to anyone. Having kids with your legal spouse is above all the best bet. And if u need to be a single mom so bad try adoption
I love how you analyzed. I remember dating a guy and I later realized he was about getting married to an Igbo girl and he claimed it was an arranged marriage 😂 currently I’m married to an Anambra man that had a fight with his dad and openly told him if he won’t attend his marriage in Akwa-Ibom he will pay someone to play the role for him on that day, surprisingly my father-in-law showed up with his people with extra buses and we are very close now🤣 Wo! When a man wants you, nothing can stop him and that’s PERIOD 😂😂😂
Has Queen stated that lord lamba will not be in the childs life? The chiñdren look for thier fathers but recognize the fact thst, they have two dads, sometimes step dads are even more appreciated that biological dads, the children value the daddy that actually raise them up, than the one that only impregnated thier mums or was a sperm donnor, in cases where biological dads and step dads did a great job in the childs upbringing. The child balances up well and ends up appreciting both dads, remember, the child will grow up from being a child to an adult, and can trully appreciate who was a proper or better dad. Trust me being a good dad is more than just impregnating a lady.
ADAEZE I am seeing your video for the first time and you already won..... This is because I am naturally attracted to intelligent/analytical people (I think they call it being "sapiosexual" or something). In a generation where people are encouraged to be overly emotional and often rewarded for being so, it is not very common to see people who reason and analyse things with evidence , line upon line
Thank you Adaeze. I'm Abia married to Anambra. My mum is even from Bayelsa and i grew up in Lagos, just imagine my mixture but i still married Anambra man. So all this "my mother said" excuses is just that EXCUSES!!! The man DOESN'T WANT TO MARRY THE GIRL.
True talk Adaeze, 10 years married to an Anambra 1st son and I am Rivers. Was is it an easy journey, no but my husband proved to my amazing inlaws that he wants me and they fell in line and now we are all inlove with ourselves and they are the best inlaws ever and same for them. And by the way we dated for 10 years before now 10 years married. if its you he wants, he will make it work!
I am kalabari married to anambra...my husband has never told me my mother said...but my journey isn't easy with inlaws...great thing I live far from naija...I respect everyone...my boundaries are firm too...my husband no dey gree for any1 Normally. We also were friends for 10yrs...and married for about 11...21yrs together...
Ladies, please don’t beat yourself up. We all find ourselves in a crazy situation sometimes. Mistakes happen and sometimes people are so good at pretending to be who they are not. Not every man leaves red flags around. You have a child right? You no longer love the man or he doesn’t treat you well or maybe you finally saw him under the veil, is okay. Don’t ever stay with such a person because it seems like an easier option. Lucky for me I had a child with a good man not perfect. It didn’t work out and I moved on. I am happy and treated so well. We are at peace but if you are in the same space as me, I pray for you. Trust me everything will be okay but never stay with someone you no longer love all in the name of Child.
Maybe the guy that proposed has been helping her and the baby. They have known each other for long...So, proposing to her really shows that the queen is a child of grace. Many women are being dumped like that
Ada you're 100% correct about that Anambra issue, I am 100% Anambra and I always feel pity for any lady that falls for that LAMBA because I know the truth that it's an easy use and dump excuse. In as much as Anambra parents are tough nuts to crack, they absolutely accord huge respect to their sons for the most part, and seem to be tougher on the daughters in terms of marrying outside of the state, but even at that I still married outside the state, together with my sister, haha
And on the issue of Igbo tradition regarding 'ownership* of a child, people are getting it very wrong. The Correct culture in Igbo traditions says that if a lady gives birth to a child while still in her father's house i.e. unmarried, the child belongs to the parents of the lady, until the man comes to do the rites and marry her. If the lady decided to marry someone else, the child still belongs to the parents until they can speak for themselves/reach age of consent. The new father can only play the role of step father unless they decide to go for a legal adoption, which the parents still have to consent to as the original legal guardians of the child. That being said, the question is who keeps to these rules these days?
True. I’m from Anambra (both parents) and I married Delta (Igbo) 😂😂 my parents wanted to bring that leg but I shut it down 😂😂😂😂😂 But I know they would have preferred Anambra. Lol 😅😅.
I don’t know a lot of the people Ada and nezeville talk about but na so when you’re addicted to everything they do and just enjoy the content and their fine face Plus by the end you feel like you know the people because she doesn’t cheat us on giving us the essential background information to help those of us that live under a rock feel a part of something lol
This Anambra marrying Anambra matter eh.. I'm not sure how and where it started. I have 7 sibblings o and SEVEN of them married Anambra spouses, and then there is me about to introduce my Abia State fiance to my family, I'm 32 and still thinking of how to shape mouth and present it🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. And yes, Nobody will stop you from marrying who you want at all, that She's not from Anambra gist na wash pure wash
To me posting the child is not the big problem here the biggest problem is posting her passport was that really necessary???what kind of father does that?
That Lamba is just wicket and selfish, so he wants to live his life and keep the child in hiding but want Queen to pause her own life and stay and take care of the child. Why did he only decide to post the child when Queen got engaged. Selfish human with a bad mother
I am Igbo so I will say the things I have heard. One will meet a guy and while trying to know on the surface level why their past relationship didn't work only to hear that the girl was from another tribe and his people didn't support it and I am like did you not know her tribe before toasting her ehhhh and you are here sounding heartbroken. Because I am a woman and I know how some men can do anything to have a lady so I tend to sympathize with the lady because the excuse was just flimsy
Hiiii Ada!!!! I just found your channel! Omg you are so funny! I loveee your story telling and how down to earth you seem! Well as for the Anambra topic, I’ll be proud to say that I am dating a guy from Anambra state and I myself I’m not IGBO, Nor am I even NIGERIAN! I’m not Nigerian nor am I Igbo but he cares and genuinely like me for who I am! Even tho he says if I was Nigerian I would fit for an Igbo girl 🥰 but I am mixed My dad is African American mixed with Liberian and Caribbean and my mom is Mailian mixed with Liberian so I am a mixed mud….and I’m here dating a Nigerian which by the way My 3 only boyfriends I’ve ever had were all Nigerian’s two of them Igbo! So I agree my parents married each other and they were from different backgrounds so If a person loves you and want you they will go beyond to have you! GOD bless you sis Ada! Hope to connect with you! I’ll need all the help wisdom I can get as I’m dating your Anambra brother lol 😂 @adaeze
I don't know what behind the scenes that is if he can't convince his mum to love that child. We are giving too much credence to someone that clearly doesn't deserve that. He should go joor.
I'm confused. Is he trying to make the argument that a child would be better off with a single philandering father, who may or may not live with or close to his mother who doesn't like the mother of his child and doesn't acknowledge the child, than with the child's mum who looks after her and who is also about to marry a dude who is choosing her mother knowing that she comes with a kid he will also have to care for?
And I don't even understand why he's telling us about not having acces to the child, without first stating that he bothered to plan ahead and make a schedule with the mum for what days or weeks or rotations are his? Because it just sounds like another attempt at disruption
I personally know someone that had little say over where to marry from other than the prospective wife being ibo and preferably from his state. Last I heard, sadly, his marriage has crashed. Guys, please pray for your own, God's best for you
Sha i wont blame Queen, things happen. I remember she was always talking about getting married or have a child immediately after BBN, so when i read she was pregnant, it wasnt a shock to me. Just as Adeze said, i now recall my former colleague who dumped 2 beautiful souls because he claimed his mother said he must marry from their home town😮. Mind you, one among the ladies was an Anambra bonified born😅. About 2yrs ago, he married a delta lady😂. See life, so he really didnt love these ladies.
He can not just come out and claim the child just like that, he has not pay any Kobo on the child's head, you understand what means Again let him go and marry from his strip 😅😅
After getting to hear from the guy, i don't blame him biko. His reasons are valid. The only person I have a problem with is this story is his mother, if that story about her is actually true, she's w!cked. I hope queen stops seeking social media validation, wondered why the engagement happened twice and she was acting surprised the second time, to me, it's probably because the first wasn't "social media worthy", and the rest of the put up, it's not necessary. I'm happy for her, I just hope she and her husband to be focus on themselves without having to seek SM validation.
There is nothing wrong with her posting her joy. Why does her happiness trigger you people? Secondly, as Ada stated, he can't use culture when it benefits him, because according to said culture, he has no right to the child. So what valid reasons 🙄. I hope she spreads her joy on SM loudly
All those states you and your family married from are still from the Eastern part.. Queen is from Akwa Ibom.. so maybe if she was from the East even though not from Anambra, maybe she would have been accepted.
We truly do not know the real consequence of having love children. Beyond cultural shame we face, there is more to it and i feel that the conversation on this topic should be talked about in Nigeria…. we are still ignorant of how best to manage and strive through it because its a lifetime commitment whether we like it or not. From my personal experience of having a love child after separation and going back to my husband i will tell you for free its a mess u wouldn’t want to indulge intentionally if you care so much about your life.
I honestly do not recommend it to anyone.
Having kids with your legal spouse is above all the best bet.
And if u need to be a single mom so bad try adoption
Well said! Thank you for your comment
I love how you analyzed. I remember dating a guy and I later realized he was about getting married to an Igbo girl and he claimed it was an arranged marriage 😂 currently I’m married to an Anambra man that had a fight with his dad and openly told him if he won’t attend his marriage in Akwa-Ibom he will pay someone to play the role for him on that day, surprisingly my father-in-law showed up with his people with extra buses and we are very close now🤣
Wo! When a man wants you, nothing can stop him and that’s PERIOD 😂😂😂
Your husband is amazing 👏🏾👏🏾
They almost sold me this lamba, lol. I 😂😂😂😂😂😂 and walked.
Your analysis are always without bias and it's adorable.
I enjoyed watching.
Thank you
Has Queen stated that lord lamba will not be in the childs life? The chiñdren look for thier fathers but recognize the fact thst, they have two dads, sometimes step dads are even more appreciated that biological dads, the children value the daddy that actually raise them up, than the one that only impregnated thier mums or was a sperm donnor, in cases where biological dads and step dads did a great job in the childs upbringing. The child balances up well and ends up appreciting both dads, remember, the child will grow up from being a child to an adult, and can trully appreciate who was a proper or better dad. Trust me being a good dad is more than just impregnating a lady.
ADAEZE I am seeing your video for the first time and you already won..... This is because I am naturally attracted to intelligent/analytical people (I think they call it being "sapiosexual" or something). In a generation where people are encouraged to be overly emotional and often rewarded for being so, it is not very common to see people who reason and analyse things with evidence , line upon line
Exactly!! keep same energy you have ever since the child was born …..
"Queen's genes is very very strong and that is all I'm going to say" 😂😂 that got me!
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May God protect us from wicked men.
Thank you Adaeze. I'm Abia married to Anambra. My mum is even from Bayelsa and i grew up in Lagos, just imagine my mixture but i still married Anambra man. So all this "my mother said" excuses is just that EXCUSES!!! The man DOESN'T WANT TO MARRY THE GIRL.
I agree 👌🏽
Anambra culture states if you are not married to the mother of the child then you don’t have rights. So they can’t pick and choose as they wish
Well 🤷🏽♀️
@@realitycheckwithadaeze I know right
My mum confirmed this. They don’t have rights.
That's the Igbo culture so they need to choose their madness well.
"we love a consistent Lord" had me in stitches 😂😂😂
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True talk Adaeze, 10 years married to an Anambra 1st son and I am Rivers. Was is it an easy journey, no but my husband proved to my amazing inlaws that he wants me and they fell in line and now we are all inlove with ourselves and they are the best inlaws ever and same for them. And by the way we dated for 10 years before now 10 years married. if its you he wants, he will make it work!
I am kalabari married to anambra...my husband has never told me my mother said...but my journey isn't easy with inlaws...great thing I live far from naija...I respect everyone...my boundaries are firm too...my husband no dey gree for any1 Normally. We also were friends for 10yrs...and married for about 11...21yrs together...
@gracebriggs1904 that's amazing. We are on the same boat and have husbands that know what they want! Welldone sis.
That's amazing. You both married good men ❤️
you are a good story teller
Ladies, please don’t beat yourself up. We all find ourselves in a crazy situation sometimes. Mistakes happen and sometimes people are so good at pretending to be who they are not. Not every man leaves red flags around.
You have a child right? You no longer love the man or he doesn’t treat you well or maybe you finally saw him under the veil, is okay.
Don’t ever stay with such a person because it seems like an easier option.
Lucky for me I had a child with a good man not perfect. It didn’t work out and I moved on. I am happy and treated so well.
We are at peace but if you are in the same space as me, I pray for you. Trust me everything will be okay but never stay with someone you no longer love all in the name of Child.
Loved your unbiased analysis . Loved the way you say F instead of it's the word. Well done gal
Adaeze says, "he should go and meet 2face his mentor." 😅
Baba collected stray bullet 😂😂
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@@chichi5800😂😂😂 unknowingly moreover
Adaeze, your channel name really fits you. You tell it like it is and funny too😆😆
Thank you 😂
You have said it all
Thank you for sharing this. You are really intelligent.
Thank you
I just subscribed. You are awesome.
Maybe the guy that proposed has been helping her and the baby. They have known each other for long...So, proposing to her really shows that the queen is a child of grace. Many women are being dumped like that
You're right. Maybe
Finally someone spoke reasonably 😊
Ada you're 100% correct about that Anambra issue, I am 100% Anambra and I always feel pity for any lady that falls for that LAMBA because I know the truth that it's an easy use and dump excuse. In as much as Anambra parents are tough nuts to crack, they absolutely accord huge respect to their sons for the most part, and seem to be tougher on the daughters in terms of marrying outside of the state, but even at that I still married outside the state, together with my sister, haha
And on the issue of Igbo tradition regarding 'ownership* of a child, people are getting it very wrong. The Correct culture in Igbo traditions says that if a lady gives birth to a child while still in her father's house i.e. unmarried, the child belongs to the parents of the lady, until the man comes to do the rites and marry her. If the lady decided to marry someone else, the child still belongs to the parents until they can speak for themselves/reach age of consent. The new father can only play the role of step father unless they decide to go for a legal adoption, which the parents still have to consent to as the original legal guardians of the child. That being said, the question is who keeps to these rules these days?
I loveeeeeeeeeeGilmore,very relatable guy if u re not careful u will piss on ur body laughing at simple relatable stories from him’ogunmepon’😂😁
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My aunty is Korean and married my Anambra uncle in the 70s. Abeg my mum is from Imo. I’ve never heard this Anambra thing.
You are right..if anambra guy love you Otilo...whether his parents stand behind o beside or not o...he will marry you...and protect you.
True 👌🏽
Women, it’s not all men you open leg for! Like Queen + Lamba how????? What was she thinking now🤦🏽♀️
Life is full of lessons and we learn especially when we pass through pain...so I can't judge Queeen ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
In hindsight, she didn't know better. So we forgive her for that 😀
Exactly what I thought like how thought she was bigger than that 🤦
Be classist; be discriminatory; be ruthless.
This lady is easy to listen to and looks great.
Love your reviews❤️
😂😂😂😂its the intro for me
I love this channel and the way Adaeze gives it hot hot 😂❤
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A consistent Lord steady giving Lamba 😅😅
It’s best to call you Dr Ada😂 I love the way you are diagnosing this case🙌🏾
You are spilling facts 💯💯
That 2face part got me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
True. I’m from Anambra (both parents) and I married Delta (Igbo) 😂😂 my parents wanted to bring that leg but I shut it down 😂😂😂😂😂 But I know they would have preferred Anambra. Lol 😅😅.
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The intro is so funny😂😂😂😂😂
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I think the issue of him posting is because it’s was literally 5 minutes after she posted
Adaeze, you are hilarious 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂
I don’t know a lot of the people Ada and nezeville talk about but na so when you’re addicted to everything they do and just enjoy the content and their fine face
Plus by the end you feel like you know the people because she doesn’t cheat us on giving us the essential background information to help those of us that live under a rock feel a part of something lol
😂
I swear. I watch everything they both post.
This Anambra marrying Anambra matter eh..
I'm not sure how and where it started.
I have 7 sibblings o and SEVEN of them married Anambra spouses, and then there is me about to introduce my Abia State fiance to my family, I'm 32 and still thinking of how to shape mouth and present it🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
And yes, Nobody will stop you from marrying who you want at all, that She's not from Anambra gist na wash pure wash
All the best dear😂
I’ll be praying with you
Give me updates 😂
@@AkosuaSerwaa- 😂😂😂sure
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To me posting the child is not the big problem here the biggest problem is posting her passport was that really necessary???what kind of father does that?
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That Lamba is just wicket and selfish, so he wants to live his life and keep the child in hiding but want Queen to pause her own life and stay and take care of the child. Why did he only decide to post the child when Queen got engaged. Selfish human with a bad mother
😅
I am Igbo so I will say the things I have heard. One will meet a guy and while trying to know on the surface level why their past relationship didn't work only to hear that the girl was from another tribe and his people didn't support it and I am like did you not know her tribe before toasting her ehhhh and you are here sounding heartbroken.
Because I am a woman and I know how some men can do anything to have a lady so I tend to sympathize with the lady because the excuse was just flimsy
Hiiii Ada!!!! I just found your channel! Omg you are so funny! I loveee your story telling and how down to earth you seem!
Well as for the Anambra topic, I’ll be proud to say that I am dating a guy from Anambra state and I myself I’m not IGBO, Nor am I even NIGERIAN! I’m not Nigerian nor am I Igbo but he cares and genuinely like me for who I am! Even tho he says if I was Nigerian I would fit for an Igbo girl 🥰 but I am mixed My dad is African American mixed with Liberian and Caribbean and my mom is Mailian mixed with Liberian so I am a mixed mud….and I’m here dating a Nigerian which by the way My 3 only boyfriends I’ve ever had were all Nigerian’s two of them Igbo! So I agree my parents married each other and they were from different backgrounds so If a person loves you and want you they will go beyond to have you!
GOD bless you sis Ada! Hope to connect with you! I’ll need all the help wisdom I can get as I’m dating your Anambra brother lol 😂 @adaeze
I don't know what behind the scenes that is if he can't convince his mum to love that child. We are giving too much credence to someone that clearly doesn't deserve that. He should go joor.
I'm confused. Is he trying to make the argument that a child would be better off with a single philandering father, who may or may not live with or close to his mother who doesn't like the mother of his child and doesn't acknowledge the child, than with the child's mum who looks after her and who is also about to marry a dude who is choosing her mother knowing that she comes with a kid he will also have to care for?
And I don't even understand why he's telling us about not having acces to the child, without first stating that he bothered to plan ahead and make a schedule with the mum for what days or weeks or rotations are his? Because it just sounds like another attempt at disruption
Well done ❤
You spoke alot of Sense Adaeze and I agree with what you said 💯💯💯
This is not CNN news😅
😅
I personally know someone that had little say over where to marry from other than the prospective
wife being ibo and preferably from his state. Last I heard, sadly, his marriage has crashed. Guys, please pray for your own, God's best for you
A baby outside marriage? The trouble never ends
If you can’t practice abstinence, kindly go for proper birth control method. Don’t embarrass yourself
Sha i wont blame Queen, things happen. I remember she was always talking about getting married or have a child immediately after BBN, so when i read she was pregnant, it wasnt a shock to me. Just as Adeze said, i now recall my former colleague who dumped 2 beautiful souls because he claimed his mother said he must marry from their home town😮. Mind you, one among the ladies was an Anambra bonified born😅. About 2yrs ago, he married a delta lady😂. See life, so he really didnt love these ladies.
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Wisdom
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
He can not just come out and claim the child just like that, he has not pay any Kobo on the child's head, you understand what means
Again let him go and marry from his strip 😅😅
I don’t agree, Children don’t look for a useless father it’s only in Nollywood movies.
okay
The beginning 😅
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Ask his mentor 😂😂😂
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Allegedlayyyyy 😂
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This is not CNN news 😂😂😂😂😂
After getting to hear from the guy, i don't blame him biko. His reasons are valid.
The only person I have a problem with is this story is his mother, if that story about her is actually true, she's w!cked.
I hope queen stops seeking social media validation, wondered why the engagement happened twice and she was acting surprised the second time, to me, it's probably because the first wasn't "social media worthy", and the rest of the put up, it's not necessary.
I'm happy for her, I just hope she and her husband to be focus on themselves without having to seek SM validation.
There is nothing wrong with her posting her joy. Why does her happiness trigger you people?
Secondly, as Ada stated, he can't use culture when it benefits him, because according to said culture, he has no right to the child. So what valid reasons 🙄.
I hope she spreads her joy on SM loudly
Foolish mummy's boy 😡😡
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Adaeze!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
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This story is just funny to me somehow 😂
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😂😂😂😂❤
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So much disrespect
All those states you and your family married from are still from the Eastern part.. Queen is from Akwa Ibom.. so maybe if she was from the East even though not from Anambra, maybe she would have been accepted.
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This reminds of how I spent 4years with one Yoruba boy and the mom said she doesn't want an international wife in my face😂😂😂.
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