People in the comments converting the naira to usd or pounds and somehow comparing it with how much they spent in their currency, making statements like “It’s not that expensive” PLS STOP. It may not be worth a buck to you but to an average Nigerian 1m, 5m in our currency is BIG MONEY.! Stop being insensitive, This video is about Nigerians living in Nigeria 🇳🇬 and we know it might be a good deal to you in terms of the service rendered but not necessarily to us, It’s pricey in Naira. Thanks.
People not understanding relative costs…ugh. I wonder how much is avg monthly and yearly salary of Nigerians? That makes understanding much easier but I would think 1M would be a lot to almost anyone…
I am Kenyan and have attended a few Nigerian weddings, often wondering where Nigerians get the money to fund such lavish celebrations. I always assumed it was probably due to the country’s oil wealth. I never imagined that some people take out loans for these weddings-this comes as a surprise to me.👩🏾💻
No one should ever put themselves in debt unless it’s something that can appreciate in value like education, buying land, a business, or health care. These days people take out debt for weddings, traveling, vacation, shopping, cars and even food. Its insane, I really had to learn the hard way how to handle my finances and I’m still learning it’s a never ending process.
Unfortunately for a lot of Nigerians, financial management knowledge is out of the window when discussing matters of pleasure. Weddings, cars, the whole 9 yards.
Well, as she also mentioned, there is usually expense for the guests and wedding party as well, which is similar to Western weddings where guests bring gifts, brides maids often pay for their matching outfits and even shoes, travel costs, etc. The main cost is for the couple, but still cost for the guests, especially if attending many weddings. But at least in the West…it is personal preference of the couple. Some choose big fancy weddings, some modest weddings, some just elope/have a private Court ceremony.
Well, as she also mentioned, there is usually expense for the guests and wedding party as well, which is similar to Western weddings where guests bring gifts, brides maids often pay for their matching outfits and even shoes, travel costs, etc. The main cost is for the couple, but still cost for the guests, especially if attending many weddings. But at least in the West…it is personal preference of the couple. Some choose big fancy weddings, some modest weddings, some just elope/have a private Court ceremony.
The major reason I think Nigerian weddings are so expensive is the number of invites and expected guests, too much people because if we are honest and think carefully everything is to show off to those guests and please them basically
Na them get their weddings oo....But my own wedding,I tell you,I won't stress my head,I don plan am for my head sef,I cannot even dance infront of people😅so what is d point of holding big wedding.And I no kukuma know my Papa family members sef😅,my mum already know me so she gat my back. At the end of it all,Na me and my Husband go remain after d whole paparazzi.
Young lady, I don't know how this popped up but I thoroughly enjoyed it. Well done. I'm a 58 year old Nigerian woman and these wedding's are gbese for many.
Symptomatic of the misplaced priorities and inverted value systems in our country. We spend so much on weddings yet have the highest poverty and maternal mortality rates in the world. Doesn’t make sense…
Sorry to say this , but the ppl that are spending so much are not the ones you going through this issues, it's the middle to high income working class and the elites. In fact that wedding industry is providing jobs and encouraging entrepreneurship, but I do get your point
@@wiintxrberryI mean that jobs could go to healthcare instead you seriously need proffesional midwifes,doctors,nurses and hospitals if maternal mortality is high. A hospital has a lot of workers,lab technicians,repairmen, cleaners,midwifes,doctors,nurses,security etc.
In the United States they did , a survey on couples and wedding cost and they noticed that the more people spent on the wedding the less likely the couple was to stay together .
In my family we call that the “Allen and Katy” effect, named after relatives who eloped and were happily married for 60 years. I have heard that too and it generally holds true in my experience. Maybe people who are uncertain try to overcome that feeling through a big public ceremony, or maybe some rush into marriages because they want their “big day.”
People are free to live and do as they please. I myself can’t relate to this .. we went to the courthouse here in Atl paid $45 married in 15 minutes 11 years ago. We didn’t want to do what we couldn’t afford to do. But every year we do go to Hawaii for our anniversary.
Exactly, Many of the people who take loans for lavish weddings have ways to get that money in the wedding. From things like gifts, money sprayed and aso ebi, it's possible to pay the loan and even have leftover to start your married life
However, is it their fault that it's not benefitting our people. Who sent Nigerians to not create their own make-up brands, or make their own fabrics and decorations?? When Nigerians entered the event planning, interior design, baking, catering, dj, tailoring industries.. did they not benefit from the lavish weddings?? So basically, the lavish weddings aren't the problem, Nigerians who haven't entered the necessary fields in various industries are the ones who did this to themselves. It's like getting angry that Nigerians using fuel too much is problematic because the refineries being owned by Ghanaians means that fellow Nigerians won't benefit from the oil money. Like, is it supposed to be the fuel users fault that their fellow Nigerians didn't go work in or own a refinery???
Wow this was GOOD CONTENT!! I’m Ghanaian and I didn’t want a big wedding because many who are coming doesn’t even wish your union success. So we decided to invite close family and friends. Thank you for this. New Subbie here.
My own is that I don’t want crowd in my wedding. I want to enjoy my special day with the selected few that are important in my life. Nigerian weddings have become more like competition to show who can throw the biggest baddest party ever 😂
This popped up in my feed. You have the face and voice for this form of content and really think you should tap into expose/breakdown videos. Great work.
@@sakurachan9088 Thank you ☺️ I use AI images at times to put across a point visually, I find it convenient also as a way to ward off copyright issues as much as possible.
@@Fabtieeoh I’m just seeing your reply. I understand, it’s just that the use of generative AI is quite unethical for various reasons eg the effect it has on climate. If you use real images and reference the source of the image, this copyright issue shouldn’t be a problem. You’re doing amazing btw, keep up the good work
The worst thing is that you may not be able to wear the aso ebi anywhere else as they are not everyday wear and are coordinated for the specific occasion. If your friend, for instance, chooses peach and vanilla as the aso ebi colours, the likelihood of other friends choosing those same colours is practically zero. No one wants their wedding to be like a friend’s clone! So, you’ll have to buy new ones for each friend/cousin/ neighbour/colleague/family friend … We have big families, wide social circles and multiple community involvements. So, unless you rip yourself away, you will have engagements requiring one aso ebi or the other every week, sometimes several in a week. Some people have learnt to be assertive in saying No and selective about when to say Yes. But as a collectivist people, it’s a battle. You will either please others and hurt yourself or get good at suiting yourself and damning the consequences. After all, you can’t ‘come and dai.’
I have watched a lot of my Nigerian friends get married and post on their socials, the wedding is a WHOLE EVENT!! I love the way the ladies EAT up their looks, but the extravagance is too much lol 😂
Africans living abroad would take loans for their weddings when they come back to America/Europe they have to work hard to pay those loans. Many people won’t talk about this they’ll just focus on the joy the wedding brought.
If they are working, they can convert their money and pay for everything. If people that live in Nigeria do not take loans, why will people that earn dollars
I know this is a video about unreasonable and excessively costly weddings, but I selfishly enjoy seeing how beautiful they are and how happy everyone looks. It's like every bride and groom is a celebrity.
I love that for Nigerians. I have seen only a few ethnic groups throw down for weddings and that is middle eastern, Indian, and upper class Jewish people go ALL OUT. Nigerian fabrics, themes, details, music, vibe, fashion is on another level. It’s not a wedding it’s a movie 💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
Surprised that this popped on my feed but makes sense since I have Nigerian friends and watch a lot of Nollywood movies. I was always fascinated by the weddings but I had no clue it was this much. I only knew about making sure you pick the right EVERYTHING for one wedding, no clue it was 3. Whew, thank you for the deep dive
@OluseniIsaacsI tire o, speaking of "people entering debt" like are we sure we're talking about Nigerians?? I can agree about them taking loans but ending up broke or in debt is rarely part of the story. Does she even know how much money the wedding itself generates😂???
I don't know much about Nigeria and its culture so after this insightful and lovely expose, I started researching. I didn't understand how a wedding industry was considered big once I converted to my currency, but further reading gave a more clear perspective on Nigeria. As someone who has not had a wedding with the belief that most weddings in my country are expensive, I get it. Currency/economics in each country is vastly different so comparisons really shouldn't be made, especially with varying facets of countries (I have degrees in finance and public policy with economics so I find this quite interesting!). All of that to say, thank you for sharing your perspective and humor :)
My mum is an event planner and decorator.. One thing i love about her when it comes to dealing with clients is that she always advices them not to break the bank, especially young couples..sometimes I question her,are u couples counsellor or are you here to make money?😂😂 But really, a lot of these people are influenced by social media and the likes and tend to forget that they have a new life ahead after the whole glamorous wedding sorry festival!! Ladies and girls nowadays now need guidance ,cause even some parents now turn their childrens wedding to competitions forcing the children and theirselves to break the bank and take loans:(. I have seen a case where the mother forced her children to give her exchange naira for dollars just so she could" pepper" her friends.😮 All in all may God help ussss❤
i gotta say the nigerian dresses and fashion is STUNNING you have such a beautiful voice loved this video thank you for sharing much love from switzerland 💐💓🙋♀
Unfortunately in our country Zambia, the wedders wants to put all the costs on friends to contribute towards that wedding. Plan a wedding within your means
Me too. My 2 eldest siblings had very big weddings. But the rest of us told our parents to do it small. I personally find a huge crowd very draining and exhausting. I told my parents just give me d cash and pay for our honey moon.
Armed robbers usually stalk these places unfortunately, this is Nigeria, there are bad and Fiendish actors around, especially when the police are corrupt 😮
@@Walley28You are not okay oh , because what nonsense are you saying? You are not even Nigerian going about spouting nonsense about a country And if you are a Nigerian spouting rubbish you are not normal at all for say nonsense about your own country…
to be fair I think the people who can afford all the luxury should go for it, but I know some people can’t afford to but yet want the glitz and glam, and would break bank just for the wedding and wanting to be the talk of the town. but people need to live within their means tbh. I’ve seen Nigerian weddings where it’s just setting up a canopy in the family compound and I’ve seen the luxury weddings, like both are still meaningful. but those people all have different economic statuses. people just need to be comfortable with paying for what they can afford, working within their budget constraints and not trying to put up appearances. like personally I would invest more towards my post-wedding lifestyle than the wedding itself, especially if I’m in the working class or lower class, why would I spend money I don’t have on one day, as if life ends after the wedding lmao
Don't these people think ahead? What's the point of going into debt cause you want people to think you've arrived? What if you want to start a family? Your kids' future? Your future?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
You captured everything in detail while also being concise, I enjoyed the video very much and I hail people getting married in the last 2-3yrs, the economic downturn turn has affected everything. My 17m wedding of 2018 would be double if not triple today.
Please sis I’m Ghanaian and we are also headed in the same direction…. To on coming traffic🙃🙃🙃I’m sorry because of all this nonsense I have decided not to attend if we are not close. Thinking about this is just making me hot 🥵 it’s too much going on for one day. I cannot be bothered with having myself be inconvenienced to go get myself ready and then come and also give a monetary wedding gift on top of that…..I got married during covid and I am so thankful we did saved so much and I don’t regret it one bit
And we generally covered everything hotels., buses back n forth..catering service.. security.. I’ve watch my cousin spend $100k dollars on her wedding she made in back during the 3 days party!
This was a great video, I have always been curious about Nigerian weddings and hope to go to one one day, although even as a guest, it will cost a pretty penny. I do wish that you touched on what guests normally give as gifts! You talked about how much guests spend to go to the wedding, but that’s all before they give a gift
How many? Compared to the number of successful ones. There's a wedding every weekend but divorce doesn't happen as frequently. Negativity always makes the news
@@Freddvibzey She is only trying to make a point. Even if it is 10 people spending 200 million naira and divorcing, it is still too much. Afterall, the video should not be generalised. The context she focuses on are of wealthy and upper middleclass nigerians.
@@LawStudentofSouthAfrica2024 It is none of your business how other people want their wedding day to look like. You are simply calling for the destruction of the wedding industry which employs hundreds of thousands of Nigerians. How much you spend during your wedding is a personal choice. That choice should be respected.
I'm ivoirian. Your video was in my recommandation and it's not the same culture but yes weddings are so expensive here too, all that to show off to people who barely care about you. And debt for a lavish ceremony instead of a house is insanity ! Life continue outside the wedding. A new subscriber I love your style 🩷👏🏽
I saw a video of an American woman who was saying that her daughter was celebrating her 2nd wedding anniversary. This meant that she (the mother) only had 18 more years of payments for the wedding. She had taken a 20-year loan to pay for her daughter’s wedding. 😳
I’m not Nigerian I am only the mixed descendant of one but I love how beautiful the affair is but this exposé reminds me of how American weddings were costing people $40,000 to the hundreds of thousands (and this are regular people) taking loans, going into debt for one single night but it seems Americans are moving past these extravagant weddings in steed of using that money as a house down payment
We currently planning our wedding in America and the place we looking at is 30,000. But it includes the ceremony/ reception venue, decoration, wedding planner, on a waterfront, services, cake/desert table, ice sculpture, and it’s by a museum. We absolutely fall in love with it. We thought it was worth the price.
even if am a billionaire I won't appreciate an extravagant wedding I don't like too much crowd I just like something small n simple,Cameroon 🇨🇲copying Naija wedding style
Girllll the editing and style of this video is so gooooooddd. I already know I’ll love every video you make.Just subscribed , praying your channel gets all the success you want.
back in those days I remember invitations putting colour code. When that time reach for me i am taking it back to the old days. Aso-ebi only for family and friends, guest come in the colour code, no after party, no excessive sewing of dress, make up done by me and cake will be for me and dessert will be served. I don't like stress, loud noise and I get tired easily. i will cut cost where possible please i am not the first to marry.
The wedding culture is very expensive. White weddings are well. People are getting into debt. I think what makes it worse for african weddings is that people are struggling and don't even have money for essentials but are willing to spend so much in the weddings.
All that money spend on weddings could be used to fund basic infrastructure😊 Fix the roads, public transport etc.. But it seems we prefer hedonistic pursuits over a functioning society💁🏾♀️
It is true that weddings are too expensive but it is not the duty of private individuals to fix roads and develop infrastructure. That is the job of the government, that is why citizens pay taxes.
So it's the responsibility of tax paying citizens to do the job of the government? Getting married is a "hedonistic" pursuit? As opposed to creating broken homes I guess. You people need to stop with your fake intellectualism and actually use your brain before making stupid statements like this.
Yep this is exactly correct. I am in an interracial 👩🏾❤️👨🏼 relationship and having two weddings. Traditional and white wedding. One in the Uk and one in Nigeria. Thankfully most things are catered for and NOT by me.😂
According to google, the median salary in Nigeria is 339,000 NGN per month. So if you had to spend $250,000 NGN on a single wedding, that's nearly a full month of income, which is totally crazy!! And I thought weddings in the USA were expensive!! Thank you for sharing this perspective!
I think many nd most people are capable of planning an exortic. Fabulous wedding difference is many will not put themselves in debt niether are they interested in debt competitions
People in the comments converting the naira to usd or pounds and somehow comparing it with how much they spent in their currency, making statements like “It’s not that expensive”
PLS STOP.
It may not be worth a buck to you but to an average Nigerian 1m, 5m in our currency is BIG MONEY.!
Stop being insensitive, This video is about Nigerians living in Nigeria 🇳🇬 and we know it might be a good deal to you in terms of the service rendered but not necessarily to us, It’s pricey in Naira. Thanks.
And there the American inserting there opinion on why their “right” 🤓
Too much Competition nd always wanting to outsmart eachother.
@@MTJCC100% just to show off nd competition
People not understanding relative costs…ugh. I wonder how much is avg monthly and yearly salary of Nigerians? That makes understanding much easier but I would think 1M would be a lot to almost anyone…
Maybe these people should go to Nigeria for their weddings? They'd get a good deal, and the Nigerian wedding industry wold get a new income stream.
Loans never crossed my mind, I thought all of these families were rich!
You and I both. I thought their weddings were lavish because the families are wealthy and can afford it.
I am Kenyan and have attended a few Nigerian weddings, often wondering where Nigerians get the money to fund such lavish celebrations. I always assumed it was probably due to the country’s oil wealth. I never imagined that some people take out loans for these weddings-this comes as a surprise to me.👩🏾💻
@@AJ-B-25many of them actually do have crazy money to spend. But others do take loans and that’s just silly and unnecessary
Wait ooo, let remember that anyone taking loan can afford to repay it, am a Nigerian wedding and married is a big thing to us
ikr
No one should ever put themselves in debt unless it’s something that can appreciate in value like education, buying land, a business, or health care. These days people take out debt for weddings, traveling, vacation, shopping, cars and even food. Its insane, I really had to learn the hard way how to handle my finances and I’m still learning it’s a never ending process.
💯👍🏿
Unfortunately for a lot of Nigerians, financial management knowledge is out of the window when discussing matters of pleasure. Weddings, cars, the whole 9 yards.
People partying and eating AT YOUR EXPENSE! 😂
and they with ridicule the serving sizes while you stay in debt 😪
@@nompumelolo
It’s a personal choice, besides you can as well decide to get married with just your family too and not invite outsiders.
Well, as she also mentioned, there is usually expense for the guests and wedding party as well, which is similar to Western weddings where guests bring gifts, brides maids often pay for their matching outfits and even shoes, travel costs, etc.
The main cost is for the couple, but still cost for the guests, especially if attending many weddings.
But at least in the West…it is personal preference of the couple. Some choose big fancy weddings, some modest weddings, some just elope/have a private Court ceremony.
Well, as she also mentioned, there is usually expense for the guests and wedding party as well, which is similar to Western weddings where guests bring gifts, brides maids often pay for their matching outfits and even shoes, travel costs, etc.
The main cost is for the couple, but still cost for the guests, especially if attending many weddings.
But at least in the West…it is personal preference of the couple. Some choose big fancy weddings, some modest weddings, some just elope/have a private Court ceremony.
It happens in Jamaica too!!
The major reason I think Nigerian weddings are so expensive is the number of invites and expected guests, too much people because if we are honest and think carefully everything is to show off to those guests and please them basically
It is because we love it big and we fund it with Aso Ebi.
I agree! I’m Nigerian but I prefer a small wedding with close family and friends. Not one aunty I’ve not seen since my naming ceremony.
Na them get their weddings oo....But my own wedding,I tell you,I won't stress my head,I don plan am for my head sef,I cannot even dance infront of people😅so what is d point of holding big wedding.And I no kukuma know my Papa family members sef😅,my mum already know me so she gat my back.
At the end of it all,Na me and my Husband go remain after d whole paparazzi.
Competition
Unfortunately 😭😭
Young lady, I don't know how this popped up but I thoroughly enjoyed it. Well done. I'm a 58 year old Nigerian woman and these wedding's are gbese for many.
Thank you ma😇
Same here. Got a new subscriber.
Real Gbese oooo mummy😅
Same, popped out of nowhere, but I'm not mad at it.
Symptomatic of the misplaced priorities and inverted value systems in our country. We spend so much on weddings yet have the highest poverty and maternal mortality rates in the world. Doesn’t make sense…
Well said!!!
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Gbam 😂😂
Sorry to say this , but the ppl that are spending so much are not the ones you going through this issues, it's the middle to high income working class and the elites. In fact that wedding industry is providing jobs and encouraging entrepreneurship, but I do get your point
@@wiintxrberryI mean that jobs could go to healthcare instead you seriously need proffesional midwifes,doctors,nurses and hospitals if maternal mortality is high. A hospital has a lot of workers,lab technicians,repairmen, cleaners,midwifes,doctors,nurses,security etc.
In the United States they did , a survey on couples and wedding cost and they noticed that the more people spent on the wedding the less likely the couple was to stay together .
In the US
In my family we call that the “Allen and Katy” effect, named after relatives who eloped and were happily married for 60 years.
I have heard that too and it generally holds true in my experience.
Maybe people who are uncertain try to overcome that feeling through a big public ceremony, or maybe some rush into marriages because they want their “big day.”
@@nickeni3050True, but guess who lives in the US? People from around the world and from many cultural backgrounds, including many Nigerians.
People are free to live and do as they please. I myself can’t relate to this .. we went to the courthouse here in Atl paid $45 married in 15 minutes 11 years ago. We didn’t want to do what we couldn’t afford to do. But every year we do go to Hawaii for our anniversary.
U r living THE LIFE
Priorities right there 👌🏾
Exactly, Many of the people who take loans for lavish weddings have ways to get that money in the wedding.
From things like gifts, money sprayed and aso ebi, it's possible to pay the loan and even have leftover to start your married life
@@nickeni3050this is not true for the majority of them. Many actually end up fighting about money after their lavish weddings
Did the same..had a private Court wedding only, but had savings after and plenty leftover for a nice Honeymoon trip.
This wouldnt be so much of a problem if it was our people benefiting from this.
But no, makeup imported, decor imported, clothing imported........
Couldn't have said it better. The people that give the service get the crumbs
And then they have the nerve to be saying traditional clothing when 90% of the fabric if not 100% is imported from China, Switzerland, India etc😂😂
@@ifeifesi Exactly, the fabric looks like the same thing they use for prom dresses in America. Its definitely not ours😂
However, is it their fault that it's not benefitting our people.
Who sent Nigerians to not create their own make-up brands, or make their own fabrics and decorations??
When Nigerians entered the event planning, interior design, baking, catering, dj, tailoring industries.. did they not benefit from the lavish weddings??
So basically, the lavish weddings aren't the problem, Nigerians who haven't entered the necessary fields in various industries are the ones who did this to themselves.
It's like getting angry that Nigerians using fuel too much is problematic because the refineries being owned by Ghanaians means that fellow Nigerians won't benefit from the oil money. Like, is it supposed to be the fuel users fault that their fellow Nigerians didn't go work in or own a refinery???
@@nickeni3050there are many Nigerian makeup brands though
Nigerian wedding cost an arm and a leg 😂
Some brideprice cost a fortune 😂
Wow this was GOOD CONTENT!! I’m Ghanaian and I didn’t want a big wedding because many who are coming doesn’t even wish your union success. So we decided to invite close family and friends.
Thank you for this. New Subbie here.
Some of us are waiting for the marriage supper of the lamb.
😂😂😂
Ameeen 🙏🏾
Right there!
Period! We shall not miss it by the grace of God, in Jesus Name!
My own is that I don’t want crowd in my wedding. I want to enjoy my special day with the selected few that are important in my life. Nigerian weddings have become more like competition to show who can throw the biggest baddest party ever 😂
Honestly
What happened to privacy, in the name of "tell the world" absurdity?
This popped up in my feed. You have the face and voice for this form of content and really think you should tap into expose/breakdown videos. Great work.
@@ednutowaoa Awww🥰 Thanks for this wonderful feedback 💕
I’m so glad to see a Nigerian video essayist as a video essay lover and this is a great topic. But quick one, why the use of AI generated images?
@@sakurachan9088 Thank you ☺️
I use AI images at times to put across a point visually, I find it convenient also as a way to ward off copyright issues as much as possible.
It does look good I am not complaining oh.
@@Fabtieeoh I’m just seeing your reply. I understand, it’s just that the use of generative AI
is quite unethical for various reasons eg the effect it has on climate. If you use real images and reference the source of the image, this copyright issue shouldn’t be a problem. You’re doing amazing btw, keep up the good work
@@sakurachan9088 Thank you for this.
The worst thing is that you may not be able to wear the aso ebi anywhere else as they are not everyday wear and are coordinated for the specific occasion. If your friend, for instance, chooses peach and vanilla as the aso ebi colours, the likelihood of other friends choosing those same colours is practically zero. No one wants their wedding to be like a friend’s clone! So, you’ll have to buy new ones for each friend/cousin/ neighbour/colleague/family friend … We have big families, wide social circles and multiple community involvements. So, unless you rip yourself away, you will have engagements requiring one aso ebi or the other every week, sometimes several in a week. Some people have learnt to be assertive in saying No and selective about when to say Yes. But as a collectivist people, it’s a battle. You will either please others and hurt yourself or get good at suiting yourself and damning the consequences. After all, you can’t ‘come and dai.’
You CANNOT repeat the aso ebi!!!! Hava
At least for another year.
I have watched a lot of my Nigerian friends get married and post on their socials, the wedding is a WHOLE EVENT!! I love the way the ladies EAT up their looks, but the extravagance is too much lol 😂
People now hire content creator asides from photographers
The outfit change was so funny 😂😂😂 sis said ya gon see this outfit 😂😂
Yes😙
Not when I have over 200 in my wardrobe. Yall gon see it.
@@Fabtiee😂
Africans living abroad would take loans for their weddings when they come back to America/Europe they have to work hard to pay those loans. Many people won’t talk about this they’ll just focus on the joy the wedding brought.
If they are working, they can convert their money and pay for everything. If people that live in Nigeria do not take loans, why will people that earn dollars
@@ibiyeomieibidavids4552many take loans for weddings. I don't understand where you're getting your info
I was just talking about the insanity of this with my bestie.
Love this analysis, keep going sis.
Thank you 🙏
I know this is a video about unreasonable and excessively costly weddings, but I selfishly enjoy seeing how beautiful they are and how happy everyone looks. It's like every bride and groom is a celebrity.
I love that for Nigerians. I have seen only a few ethnic groups throw down for weddings and that is middle eastern, Indian, and upper class Jewish people go ALL OUT. Nigerian fabrics, themes, details, music, vibe, fashion is on another level. It’s not a wedding it’s a movie 💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
You know those fabrics are imported?
@@mariej6962
*Some. Asooke are made in Nigeria, Yorubaland
The fabrics are imported from China.
They are made in Nigeria@OluseniIsaacs
@@mariej6962nope made in 🇳🇬
Surprised that this popped on my feed but makes sense since I have Nigerian friends and watch a lot of Nollywood movies. I was always fascinated by the weddings but I had no clue it was this much. I only knew about making sure you pick the right EVERYTHING for one wedding, no clue it was 3. Whew, thank you for the deep dive
Lol I’m a Naija girl living in the US! Funny enough, I paid the least amongst my friends ☺️
Hey girlll I know you☺️
Thanks for your video😘 Really eye opening from the US perspective 😅
You can donate and help people ?that can't afford expensive Weddings.❤❤❤❤
@@FabtieeYou don’t even live in naija. Pls stop making these videos. I’m embarrassed as a Nigerian American.
@OluseniIsaacsI tire o, speaking of "people entering debt" like are we sure we're talking about Nigerians??
I can agree about them taking loans but ending up broke or in debt is rarely part of the story. Does she even know how much money the wedding itself generates😂???
@@nickeni3050 Exactly 👍
I don't know much about Nigeria and its culture so after this insightful and lovely expose, I started researching. I didn't understand how a wedding industry was considered big once I converted to my currency, but further reading gave a more clear perspective on Nigeria. As someone who has not had a wedding with the belief that most weddings in my country are expensive, I get it. Currency/economics in each country is vastly different so comparisons really shouldn't be made, especially with varying facets of countries (I have degrees in finance and public policy with economics so I find this quite interesting!). All of that to say, thank you for sharing your perspective and humor :)
My mum is an event planner and decorator.. One thing i love about her when it comes to dealing with clients is that she always advices them not to break the bank, especially young couples..sometimes I question her,are u couples counsellor or are you here to make money?😂😂
But really, a lot of these people are influenced by social media and the likes and tend to forget that they have a new life ahead after the whole glamorous wedding sorry festival!!
Ladies and girls nowadays now need guidance ,cause even some parents now turn their childrens wedding to competitions forcing the children and theirselves to break the bank and take loans:(.
I have seen a case where the mother forced her children to give her exchange naira for dollars just so she could" pepper" her friends.😮
All in all may God help ussss❤
The more wealth inequality a nation has, the greater the ostentatious displays of wealth and spending.
i gotta say the nigerian dresses and fashion is STUNNING
you have such a beautiful voice
loved this video thank you for sharing
much love from switzerland
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Thank you for your kind words! I appreciate you watching 😊
@@Fabtiee 💗💗💗
500 guest is crazy 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ 700? That is indeed the whole entire village
500 hundred is small. That is just you extended family and villages people from both sides. 😅
That's small. I have seen Nigerian weddings with 2000 people.😂
I loved this video. I love your storytelling. Please do more videos talking about Nigerian culture and how much so much has changed
Thanks, you bet! Stay tuned for more 👀
Good idea❤❤
Unfortunately in our country Zambia, the wedders wants to put all the costs on friends to contribute towards that wedding. Plan a wedding within your means
Typical theme in Tanzania and I hate it.
Especially chilanga mulilo it's getting out of hand mwe. I don't do those groups
Im doing it SMALL. Extravaganzas make me nervous, i'm already sweating shaa😅
Me too. My 2 eldest siblings had very big weddings. But the rest of us told our parents to do it small. I personally find a huge crowd very draining and exhausting. I told my parents just give me d cash and pay for our honey moon.
Why do they need body guards ? Does one become famous after the engagement !
Armed robbers usually stalk these places unfortunately, this is Nigeria, there are bad and Fiendish actors around, especially when the police are corrupt 😮
@@Walley28You are not okay oh , because what nonsense are you saying?
You are not even Nigerian going about spouting nonsense about a country
And if you are a Nigerian spouting rubbish you are not normal at all for say nonsense about your own country…
its the Bride's chaperone for me lol!
to be fair I think the people who can afford all the luxury should go for it, but I know some people can’t afford to but yet want the glitz and glam, and would break bank just for the wedding and wanting to be the talk of the town. but people need to live within their means tbh. I’ve seen Nigerian weddings where it’s just setting up a canopy in the family compound and I’ve seen the luxury weddings, like both are still meaningful. but those people all have different economic statuses. people just need to be comfortable with paying for what they can afford, working within their budget constraints and not trying to put up appearances. like personally I would invest more towards my post-wedding lifestyle than the wedding itself, especially if I’m in the working class or lower class, why would I spend money I don’t have on one day, as if life ends after the wedding lmao
Don't these people think ahead? What's the point of going into debt cause you want people to think you've arrived? What if you want to start a family? Your kids' future? Your future?
Who told u they dont have plans
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
@@aeiou0123 Yeah, sure. Taking millions of loans for a one-time wedding is a plan. A bad plan. You do know debt increases the more time goes by, right?
Nigerian 🇳🇬 traditional and cultural attires are bespoke and royalty, nothing beats a Nigerian weeding or party.
Indeed 😽
You captured everything in detail while also being concise, I enjoyed the video very much and I hail people getting married in the last 2-3yrs, the economic downturn turn has affected everything. My 17m wedding of 2018 would be double if not triple today.
Your lip combo is to die for.
Please sis I’m Ghanaian and we are also headed in the same direction…. To on coming traffic🙃🙃🙃I’m sorry because of all this nonsense I have decided not to attend if we are not close. Thinking about this is just making me hot 🥵 it’s too much going on for one day. I cannot be bothered with having myself be inconvenienced to go get myself ready and then come and also give a monetary wedding gift on top of that…..I got married during covid and I am so thankful we did saved so much and I don’t regret it one bit
Foolishness in spending!
😂some of us just wanted husband, great video i see why Nigeria weddings look the way they look,😂from 🇰🇪 Kenya
This is a job well done girrrl, truly an eye opener. Hope many people will learn from this. Love this ❤😂
I loved how you explained everything especially the cultural aspects. Just subscribed. Much love from Ghana🥰
And we generally covered everything hotels., buses back n forth..catering service.. security.. I’ve watch my cousin spend $100k dollars on her wedding she made in back during the 3 days party!
I’ve always been fascinated by Nigerian fashion and culture, and weddings in general! I needed this, thank you!!!
This was a great video, I have always been curious about Nigerian weddings and hope to go to one one day, although even as a guest, it will cost a pretty penny. I do wish that you touched on what guests normally give as gifts! You talked about how much guests spend to go to the wedding, but that’s all before they give a gift
New subscriber here!
Peer pressure will not kill Nigerians.
@@The_Abasiama ❤️❤️
Enjoyed this! Very well presented 😊
Only to get divorced 4 years later 😂
How many? Compared to the number of successful ones. There's a wedding every weekend but divorce doesn't happen as frequently. Negativity always makes the news
99.9% of Nigerians are still in their first marriages. Stop misrepresenting our people here.
Nah not Nigeria. Divorce rates aren't much
@@Freddvibzey She is only trying to make a point. Even if it is 10 people spending 200 million naira and divorcing, it is still too much. Afterall, the video should not be generalised. The context she focuses on are of wealthy and upper middleclass nigerians.
@@LawStudentofSouthAfrica2024 It is none of your business how other people want their wedding day to look like. You are simply calling for the destruction of the wedding industry which employs hundreds of thousands of Nigerians. How much you spend during your wedding is a personal choice. That choice should be respected.
Young lady, Thanks for presenting us with your African Royal Beauty 😍.
@@chicfini Thanks for having me😍
I'm ivoirian. Your video was in my recommandation and it's not the same culture but yes weddings are so expensive here too, all that to show off to people who barely care about you. And debt for a lavish ceremony instead of a house is insanity ! Life continue outside the wedding. A new subscriber I love your style 🩷👏🏽
@@mandyfleuriedroitlifestyle2421 Just seeing this💕 welcome my Ivorian sis😘
I saw a video of an American woman who was saying that her daughter was celebrating her 2nd wedding anniversary. This meant that she (the mother) only had 18 more years of payments for the wedding. She had taken a 20-year loan to pay for her daughter’s wedding. 😳
just found u today and am obsessed thanks for keeping it real
What's the purpose of bridesmaids if there is a bride chaperone?
They’re there to look cute now
@@sayitasis8326 😆
Both of your outfits were super pretty!
I'm going to sit my daughter's down for us to discuss and reason together over this videos kudos to this lady for this beautiful video
I’m not Nigerian I am only the mixed descendant of one but I love how beautiful the affair is but this exposé reminds me of how American weddings were costing people $40,000 to the hundreds of thousands (and this are regular people) taking loans, going into debt for one single night but it seems Americans are moving past these extravagant weddings in steed of using that money as a house down payment
We currently planning our wedding in America and the place we looking at is 30,000. But it includes the ceremony/ reception venue, decoration, wedding planner, on a waterfront, services, cake/desert table, ice sculpture, and it’s by a museum. We absolutely fall in love with it. We thought it was worth the price.
@@That_girl-l6wloan or savings? Then what after that?
Paying the same price as a down payment for a house on a wedding is crazy work! Priorities out of order!!!!
even if am a billionaire I won't appreciate an extravagant wedding I don't like too much crowd I just like something small n simple,Cameroon 🇨🇲copying Naija wedding style
Ikr I’ve noticed that too. Cameroonians wearing gèle and aso ebi leaves me confused 😂🇨🇲
When she said glass box I thought she was joking ooo 😂😂😂 na true sha
Hi, I really enjoy watching your videos. Keep up the good work!
Girllll the editing and style of this video is so gooooooddd. I already know I’ll love every video you make.Just subscribed , praying your channel gets all the success you want.
back in those days I remember invitations putting colour code. When that time reach for me i am taking it back to the old days. Aso-ebi only for family and friends, guest come in the colour code, no after party, no excessive sewing of dress, make up done by me and cake will be for me and dessert will be served. I don't like stress, loud noise and I get tired easily. i will cut cost where possible please i am not the first to marry.
I need to learn make up ooo, no noise for me too, I get tired quickly, maybe 2 or 3 hrs max.
The wedding culture is very expensive. White weddings are well. People are getting into debt. I think what makes it worse for african weddings is that people are struggling and don't even have money for essentials but are willing to spend so much in the weddings.
We have the same three tier weddings in here South Africa but it is optional and on a smaller scale
Everyone well done. My bills will still be waiting for me after wedding.
You are good at this!!! I enjoyed watching ❤
Please ooo how tailor for see food chop na??😂😂please continue throwing these parties 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
It depends on what the couples want dear!!
Love the channel❤
I love the way you tied your headpiece, it's so beautiful. Could we have a tutorial please 🥹
So happy i stumbled upon this video, thank you so much for the informative and just down-right *good* video!
Will def be coming back!
This video was very well made + communicated. Thank you!
Randomly saw your video, but glad I did. Really enjoyed the content. Gained a new sub x
I enjoyed this content. Well done 👍
Worst part is that some people (women) will mock other couples for having intimate weddings😑
That’s wild…I’ll use that money to buy homes or take a good vacation
You blew me awayyy! You are beautiful 🤍🤍🤍
All that money spend on weddings could be used to fund basic infrastructure😊 Fix the roads, public transport etc.. But it seems we prefer hedonistic pursuits over a functioning society💁🏾♀️
It is true that weddings are too expensive but it is not the duty of private individuals to fix roads and develop infrastructure. That is the job of the government, that is why citizens pay taxes.
So it's the responsibility of tax paying citizens to do the job of the government? Getting married is a "hedonistic" pursuit? As opposed to creating broken homes I guess.
You people need to stop with your fake intellectualism and actually use your brain before making stupid statements like this.
Girl you are good! the content the editing🔥take your 🌹
Well, let’s hope they are happily married forever. Wedding is one occasion, marriage is for life ❤
The AI images were distracting but beyond that this was a very informative and interesting. I’m glad it popped up!
You look gorgeous in your traditional atire❤❤❤
We have people spending so much on their wedding instead of their marriage
We love weddings more than the actual marriage
Faitee, i like your outfit and your presentation. You just earned yourself a subscriber
TIL about Nigerian weddings and they sound exhausting 😢
Very good video. Enjoyed your presentation!
Have a small wedding go on a holiday and buy a house or land. Why spend so much money
This was excellent video!!!
Yep this is exactly correct. I am in an interracial 👩🏾❤️👨🏼 relationship and having two weddings. Traditional and white wedding. One in the Uk and one in Nigeria. Thankfully most things are catered for and NOT by me.😂
Amazing video! Loved this
Me planning my 500k wedding in peace 😂if people like make them no see food chop😂
I am not Nigerian, but in Angola it's very similar. I tell everyone there's no big wedding happening unless they pay.
Her: 700 guests marriage - like its not big deal
Me: sweating to find 5 people to invite to my marriage lol
500 of the 700 is extended family 😅😂
According to google, the median salary in Nigeria is 339,000 NGN per month. So if you had to spend $250,000 NGN on a single wedding, that's nearly a full month of income, which is totally crazy!! And I thought weddings in the USA were expensive!! Thank you for sharing this perspective!
I think many nd most people are capable of planning an exortic. Fabulous wedding difference is many will not put themselves in debt niether are they interested in debt competitions
I enjoyed watching this.