How I went from Transphobe to Trans Ally
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- A video essay about my personal journey to accepting, supporting, and respecting queer culture.
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your loud allyship in spaces where its either quiet, or even hostile,, means a lot to the community. hundreds of thousands of people thank you!!
❤️
@@greynotchristian Like how pathetic you're acting right now? Grow up.
@@greynotchristian you seem to be fun at parties 🙃
@@greynotchristian
His allyship is loud, in spaces that are quiet or hostile. Not "A quiet loud allyship."
Learn to read challenge.
@@greynotchristian says the one using the "I thought we left x in 2015" phrase 🤣
I had a pretty transphobic phase back when I was a teenager because my thought process was "if everyone is allowed to just change their gender won't all guys just transition to be women" then I realised that not all guys want to be a woman and that I am actually a trans woman 😅
I don't remember ever having a homophobic/transphobic phase that lasted for more than a month, and I thought "all boys would be a girl if given the chance, right?" turns out no, and I'm actually non-binary.
That’s a fuckin awesome and hilarious story
Happens to a lot of trans people in denial
@@30000beesinatrenchcoat "well no my character having no genderr has nothing to do with me, thats just what I imagine for that type of character. gender doesnt even matter that much, we all know that. we all know that, right guys? guys?" genderfluid.
it took you a minute, but you got there all right. Stay strong, and I wish you a good life
people seem to forget that transphobia and homophobia hurt everyone, even straight people. my brother who is straight was bullied as a kid for being gay when he wasn't. nobody deserves to be treated badly for their sex or identity. and there are countless videos of cis women being attacked for "being trans "
Lmfao yeah, those 'transvestigators' that always shout "we can always tell" (they can never tell)
@@ExilaArika for real.. the woman this one group of people attacked was cis and repeatedly told them she isn't trans. they still dragged her on the ground and beat her though
you wanna know the tragic part? friendly fire is 100% intentional. they are very deliberately trying to make *everyone* be fucking terrified of doing anything that *might* cause them to be percieved as queer, in order to enforce conformity and pressure everyone into being "normal". its overwhelmingly frustrating
@@ExilaArikaThe MatPat post where someone said they're transmasc and a transphobe is like "tell your sister to stop being delusional" unaware MatPat isn't trans
Show me one video where actual women get accused of being men cosplaying as women, please.
My father was a low level transphobe. Until my brother transitioned. He decided that love should always win and asked my brother questions. He wanted to understand and know how to love my brother. I’m proud of how far he has come
Umm. That was something preventable by your father. Maybe he didn't give your bro enough attention or smth.
@@montee3766 Hi! I get plenty of attention from my dad and I am trans. Science has repeatedly proven that we exist and that our feelings are legitimate. Just because you’re small minded and low intelligence doesn’t mean you have to linger on our videos, thank you. 🥰
@montee3766 i dont get how you can reply to a post about a father loving and accepting his child for who they are like, 'actually he's a terrible father'
@montee3766montee thats not how it works. God makes you as you are, mind, body, spirit. You come here with a mission. I believe all trans people are here to demonstrate an extreme act of self love. We are spiritual beings.
God (whether you believe in God in the christian sense or not - I dont) is a reflection of all of us because we were made in their image, therefore God themself isn’t even man/woman.
In history, trans people were spiritual leaders like shamans who could walk both sides of the line.
We’ve always been here. We will always be here, and we are divinely placed.
I hope you can learn from our acts of self love and reflect that teaching onto others
That's so wholesome ❤
I'm pretty sure most men that are homophobic are afraid of men treating them the way they treat women. I'm sorry for that negative experience you had, but glad you took it as a lesson to grow.
Now imagine the hygiene of most straight men, especially when it comes to washing your privates... and I mean _all of your privates_ not just in those front. Let me tell you, there's barely any.
I've heard of "touching your ass is gay" which connects to "how could you ever think that guy's ass is attractive or want to f... it? What a freak".
What I'm trying to say is: the math actually maths. You always go basing your truths from your own body, your own perspective, your own preferences. You judge and consequently mistreat others if it these things feel distant to you in any way.
Anyway, I wish men were a bit more touch with their emotions.
Right? Except they haven't connected the dots, maybe! I only could quite a while after hooking up with other men.
(I’m try to start a cool conversation about generalizations TAKE 2) generalizations are bad (thank you for coming to my ted talk)
@@kazum1809 why is this comment irresponsible? It’s actually a very apt observation.
First off, they said “most men who are homophobic” this means out of all men we’re looking at specifically homophobic men. Out of this group of men we’re now looking specifically at men who dehumanized and abusive women. So that’s a % of a % of all men. This is not generalization. This is observing a very specific small group of men.
And I think some (not all) of those very specific men don’t want to be treated the way they treat women because they’re so cruel to them.
If you’re looking at most men who are gentlemen and lgbtqia allies, it doesn’t apply. Like taking about how being blind affects you but only looking at fully sighted people, y’know?
@@Shadow1Yaz yeah I saw that after I posted but I’m not gonna delete it. One Cause I’m lazy and two I think it’s still a good point again generalization so yeah it’s my fault but the point is still valid thanks for the response tho
I was bullied and called "gay" a lot, and in the long run it has made me an ally to the lgbt community. Because I learned that I need to be mad at the bullies, not lgbt people. When I see adult homophobes and transphobes I see bullies, and it's them who I resent, not queer people.
I’m sorry this happened to you, if we’d have known each other I would have sticked up for you and your view shows me that you are a strong person because those negative people couldn’t change your morals and good heart!
You're beautiful, thank you
Would it be remiss to think that bullies can change? I try to remember that at some point a bully isn’t a bully until they were hurt at some point. Hurt people hurt people you know? Yes people make me angry but I still try to be patient and teach them. It’s more effective in producing the desired outcome I want to see happen, than criticizing is alone
i remember being called gay a few times too,,, joke on them, they were _right!_
Exactly! Fight the real enemy!
Brenda told this guy her name and pronouns and he just went like "oh ok" and treated her how she asked. Bro I cannot explain how ungodly easy it is to be kind to trans people, but this is a good example...
@@Infinite_Manifest hey bud, gender identity is not an adult's kink fantasy, we all experience gender and seek ways to explore our gender identity through gender expression. It is not an adult's kink fantasy, it is a person's identity throughout the entirety of their life. When you get your hair cut, groom yourself, buy your clothes, get ready for the day in a way that correlates with who you are, that is an essential thing for children to witness and understand. Those activities I listed are the things every person does that involves gender affirming care, we must provide our children with the tools to be free to be whoever they are, free to express it and most importantly unafraid or intimidated by their parents influence. Your children are a reflection of you, when the media covers transgender issues, hostility and bullying increases the next day at school because of the misinformation spread from unknowing adults to their children. We must educate our children to be kind and accepting of others, as this is not only essential for their social life but also it will allow them to be kind and accepting of themselves, whoever they grow up to be. Please do not forget that the people you speak about are real people, we have real experiences and are currently facing backlash for merely existing. Please be empathetic towards those who are held back by your misunderstandings. This video beautifully explains the reality that we are in, and it's that we are a diverse race of 8,000,000,000 individuals, with our own pain, our own joys, our own families and our own identities. I am a trans man and proud to be one. I have done as most wish and remained silent for a long time, hiding my identity, confining myself inside a societal role that lead me to a deep depression and complete disconnect from reality. I came out, in my bubble, once I became an adult. Daily I read or hear comments like yours discussing people like me when I did nothing to you. I feel sorry for you because it must be hard to live in a world without diversity in your life. There's so much beauty and joy in everything. I will no longer hide in the shadows, if you would allow me, I would like to join you under the sun. We have no reason to dislike each other's communities, I have openly accepted yours and your culture, please consider accepting mine and billions of others experiences in the reality that we share. Thank you for reading, I hope you have a wonderful week
@@Infinite_Manifest There are structural differences observed between the brains of men and women, and so someone being transgender tends to occur when the biological sex of the body mismatches with the actual gender of the brain during fetal development. And thus the existance of transgender people is a very real and proven thing, not some kind of 'kink fantasy'.
@@Infinite_Manifest Nobody is asking you to lie to their children or talk about kinks. Why strawman?
@@Infinite_Manifest bro, what? "An adult's kink fantasy" isn't trans thing. Why would you ever think that?
@@Nijinja 1- Please show proof of said stuff. I've exhaustively heard about it yet havent seen a single proof about it other than homophobic rethoric thinking that anything related to gender identity and who you're attracted to is inherently sexual unless it is heterosexual and cisgender.
2- If a child tells you their preffered name and pronouns, you respect them and act like a decent human being with kindness. And if they aren't out to their parents then there must be a reason to that, or would you preffer a child being kicked out of their house by their transphobic parents only for being who they are?
3- So you're going to ignore that most of said cases are false or spread with incomplete information, and how not respecting your child's IDENTITY is abuse, wether you like it or not. It's not about if you think it's wrong or right, it's about children's LIVES being allowed to be who they are without fearing bullying, being kicked out, or death just because they arent what most people think X or Y gender should be.
Grew up catholic. "Gay people aren't bad people, and we have to treat them right, but their behavior isn't good in the eyes of god" is what I was taught growing up.
Nowadays I'll fck everything that moves
Times change
😂
character development
Times change, people change but our creator never does.
@@neverettebrakensiek8771 Your creator doesn't exist :)
absouletly hilarious
15:38 "Some trans women love their penis, and aren't as concerned about fitting into the 'man, penis; woman, vagina" box, y'know? I apologize if I'm offending anyone for the sake of simplicity"
Nah dude. As a nonbinary person who doesn't really fit into those boxes either, it felt really fuckin good to hear you recognize that. This shit's complicated and it's awesome when someone who doesn't have the direct firsthand experience with it still gets that we all have totally different relationships to it.
Haven't ridden in years, not even sure how I got recommended this but I'm subscribing, you're funny and cool
Thanks! We’ll get you back into bikes and my discord is always available for help
I completely agree. I'm a trans woman, and I'm proud to have a "girl cock", and I love telling bigots that I as a woman have a bigger dick than they do.
yeah, it's an awful stereotype and misconception that we all "wanna chop off our genitals," while some of us do have insane bottom dysphoria, not all of us even want surgery. it's like everytime i mention i'm trans, somebody always brings up surgery or the "axe wound" line. i'm also a minor so that's just a weird ass thing for a random adult to ask me abt. the farthest i plan to go is HRT. but that in itself is a huge challenge..
Agreed, as a nonbinary trans woman (I know, it's confusing, but you can be both) I personally don't mind my junk and I'm actually happy to see someone state it so clearly.
Right? I appreciate he's straight forward and doesn't pussy-foot around the terms too because it's best to talk in terms the average person understands. Its prevents people from feeling belittled and makes concepts very clear.
My father is naturally straight and cisgender (to an FtM child now adult), and is the same when someone negatively mentions adult trans woman.
Not a motorcycle person, the algorithms just recommended this video, and I just wanted to say thank you for being an ally in spaces where being an ally may not do you any favors.
Same 💁♀️
Well said :P
Same!
Ditto
same, about the first part as i have no clue why the second part i have no clue why its here
I wonder just how many transphobe-to-ally stories can be boiled down to "and then I actually met one." That was certainly my experience. I had been on a Ben Shapiro phase from 13-15 years old, and then on a random Discord server I was in, I stumbled into a conversation with a trans girl, and they were just the absolute sweetest. I didn't learn much about it from her directly, but it did inspire me to both learn more and eventually explore my own identity. Nowadays I'm any/all, with a moderate preference towards she/her.
I’ve met plenty. I still know that you can’t change your gender, which is okay. I don’t treat any of the ones I have met with any sort of disrespect, they’re people and I respect them. I do not agree with their whole “trying to be another gender” however. That is simply fantasy with today’s technology. Perhaps in the future we can completely alter someone’s cellular structure as well as genetic makeup, to make a man a real woman, and a woman a real man, but we are far off from that with any of todays tech, sadly. I for one, would love to temporarily switch genders to see what it’s like.
I actually had the reverse experience. Im not transphobic but I am extremely against the ease of getting "gender affirming care" with little to no questions asked, young girls are getting hurt. There needs to be more mental health care, surgery and HRT should not be the first response to this issue, please listen to more detransitioners!
@@Trailmixxed amen
@@SegularRpork Gender =/= sex. Read a dictionary.
@@Trailmixxed No, they are not. It is illegal in most places to get that as a minor. You're falling victim to scare tactic fake news.
It warms my heart sorting by new and seeing you actively responding to transphobic comments. Of course it's sad that there are transphobic comments, but it's nice to see you care enough to take the time and respond to them, being relatively civil most of the time too. It's nice to see you try to correct misinformation and really shows how much you've grown to care. Your past is a reflection of yourself, either who you are and have been and who you've always been, or who you've grown into. Man how you've grown
(not physically though rip being a 5'8 guy trying to go into sports)
Just gotta find the right sport. Motorcycles racing is for short kings.
I'm gonna be real with you my dude - I don't give a single fuck about motorcycles. But you earned a subscriber today. You're one hell of an ally. Major props.
This is me right now. Don't give a shit about motorcycles but I will support this channel because of the short about the flag and this video
i agree. i love this guy for the funny content and being such an ally!
Im into motorcycles now bc of this video lmao
As a lesbian transgender woman seeing this... Brings tears to my eyes. That there is light in this world that can be ever so dark. I also don't give a fuck about motorcycles but I'll happily stand with this man.
There have been so many bad trans related news lately, so getting this video in my recommended was refreshing to say the least
I’m glad to hear that
@@lowe8778 not news. Propaganda.
@@dancoots8225 what do you mean when you say propaganda?
Probably anti-trans propaganda, it’s been everywhere lately.
@@Rayblov made up bullshit from the right
Hi folks I'm a queer elder ( sounds cooler than old queer) I'm so proud of younger creators actively speaking up for LGBTQ folks.
the world is so fucked idk if that means you're 35 or 85.
Queer elder is such a cool term bro
I'm a queer elder, too, and also a creator speaking up for LGBTQ folks! He's an inspiration to us all!!
sounds like a ancient mage
thats fucking cool
You have moved up the ranks and become the Elden Queer
Thanks! Just caught this video and wanted to tell you how amazing I think you are especially in the context of your past sexual assault. You could have formed a lifetime negative impression of queer people based on that experience but ultimately realized that there are queer predators just like there are so many straight ones. This fact does not acknowledge the vast majority of queer and straight people who would never think to engage in such behavior. I was fortunate not to have been bullied in high school despite discovering my gayness along the way. Maybe the fact that one of my best friends was the high school first string quarterback had something to do with that. Keep up the great work and know that changing a single mind to a more enlightened viewpoint is a big win for all of us.
Thank you! ❤️
it is ungodly how common it is for transphobes to become trans people. coming from someone who had transphobia in his blood and now has trans pride in her heart.
Internalized transphobia unfortunately is pretty common. Wasted around 15 years because of that and finally came out with 32 :/
internalized transphobia and homophobia is incredibly common.
i've got experience
@@Tuntor689 that transition (pun unintended) from his to her is perfect.
I think in in that field. Idk yet
The last line was actual poetry
I (26yr old trans woman) dont wanna change the world. I just wanna world where I can be left alone to live peacefully without fear of getting assaulted or harassed in public.
I'm gonna add this edit as a clarification: what I want has nothing to do with what needs to happen. A need is different from a want. I don't want to have to fight for the bare minimum. No one does. Being an adult however means doing things you don't wanna do. So do I want to change things? No, but I have to. We have to. Without that needed change, what I and so many others want (That is to say the minimum from the world we live in) will never happen. So I'll fight, I'll stand, I'll kick, and cuss and throw hands and debate in a civil manner until that better world, where we can be left alone to be peaceful, is here.
Valid
same, except I'm twice your age. I'm horrified by the whole "trans activist" nonsense, it's actively and I often think deliberately harming transgender people.
I've finally found a job where I'm accepted as I am, rather than being shunned as a "freak", THAT took years.
@@jwenting what's wrong with trans activism? There's still so much work that needs to be done
@@msjkramey I think based on OPs comment and CaptainDuckman's response it's a difference in priorities and their definition of "activism" rather than actually disagreeing with it
@CaptainDuckman every transperson has to be an activist. We literally had nothing without activism. With actions in MO designed to push us back in the closet and right wing acceptance of unmasked hate against us ala kid rock's dogwhistle machine gun attack, this is no time to let the haters go unchecked. Trans activism doesn't have to mean you support no restrictions for transwomen. To give some perspective of what i mean is that I dislike lia thomas more than Matt walsh
I almost fell for the transphobic retoric, i was raped when i was 13 and even though im an adult now im still lowkey scared of being too close to men, so when i first got exposed to the idea that transwomen were invading women spaces to be perverts it struck a very sensitive nerve in me and it sturred up paranoia didnt have before
I luckily have the pleasure of having a transwoman friend, and she was willing to talk about it and explain why its a stupid lie
She didnt judge me, she always made it clear its reasonable to be afraid given my past and she knew i wasnt transphobic
Her encouradgment gave me motivation to work on understanding it better, and now looking back i feel like an idiot for questioning that stuff in the first place
It was a process and im glad i went through it, this video was very nice to watch, its nice to know im not the only one out there who didnt immideatly get it out of the gate
Happy to say my friend is finaly out of the closet to everyone and not just me, and im the one who gets to have the pleasure of buying her her first dress
Thats sweet!
😂 love the pfp! The elusive bread bearing cycad, almost unchanged since the Mesozoic!
those rhetorics prey on people like you. i'm glad you were able to overcome it and i hope that you're doing better :c
I get that. I had some traumatizing experiences as a child, too, and the first time I saw a man (what looked like a cis-het man who didn't want to wait the other bathroom was empty) in a women's bathroom with just me, I panicked. When I moved to Japan and realized how private and clean and secure the bathrooms are, I thought the real issue is: the public stalls in the US are so dirty, flimsy and easy for a predator to hurt other people. What we really need is safety and privacy for everyone! It's nothing to do with trans people who are often more likely to be hurt in the first place.
i fr just got tears of joy when you said "pleasure of buying her her first dress"
so fucking wholesome omg
I made the "attack helicopter" joke once in elementary school, simply because I had no idea what it meant. Never again.
why not? comedy is supposed to make fun of stupid ideas. with the many current pronouns it's even better.
@@montee3766 you are in the wrong place to be spewing hate. The joke was offensive and I regret saying it.
@@soupy_cat but... how is that considered spewing hate? Im just sharing my opinions on comedy. There's lots of people who enjoy Dark humor and we shouldnt judge them the same way we don't judge ppl who enjoy bdsm. I swear its Like you can't even exchange opinions
@@montee3766you’re on every comment trolling for attention and it’s clear you have some feelings about this. Whatever the fuck it is you’re dealing with, you need to talk about with a therapist. It’s unhealthy and you’re obsessed with trans people. Get help.
@@montee3766
It's because the joke exists to invalidate a person.
You wouldn't walk up to a black person and say, "it's a nice day... to pick cotton". It sounds funny on paper, but in reality you'd get a, "bro what the fuck" & a death stare. If you talk to a skilled comedian they can give a breakdown of why a joke like this doesn't work or land because they likely told a similar one once and it alienated part of their audience and brought out an us Vs. them vibe.
There's ways to make LGBTQ+ jokes, dark ones too because attack helicopter isn't dark comedy. Dark comedy is more like 9/11, Nazi Germany, gay conversion therapy, and suicide because dark comedy exists to joke and bring to light very serious subjects . The attack helicopter one isn't that funny to begin with and it's a low effort attempt to virtue signal that you're anti- LGBTQ and it creates that perception to anyone you say it to. It has the same Facebook vibe as haha wife bad *LAUGH*.
I'm Russian, and when I was younger I heard the phrase that was pretty popular (and still is at some point): "If gays don't touch me then I'm okay with them". I repeated it every time anyone asked me what I thought about gays until I realized how actually stupid it was. If a straight person doesn't fall in love with any person of the opposite gender they see around them, then why are gay people supposed to fall in love with any person of their gender? That's how I became less homophobic and a few years later realized I was bi
the same gender is not supposed to fall in love with each other. It says it in the Bible.
@@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcgg That is a mistranslation. the original Hebrew text says "Man shall not be with boy", which refers to pedophilia. Then some german fuck mistranslated it into "Man shall not be with man" later on
@@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcgg nobody cares
@@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcgg OK, so why do I need to listen to a book of fairy tales?
@@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcggChristianity isnt universal. There are hundreds of other religions. Also, even if you were correct, you would still have to treat LGBTQ+ with respect. The bible says that all sin is equal, and that EVERYONE sins. It also says that you should treat literally everyone with respect
"A cancerous tumor hanging between her legs that's slowly killing her."
These are the words I've been looking for to describe what I feel, thank you.
farfooper is a legendary pfp
YESSS
I don’t know how else to make my empathy for you clear in a non-patronizing way besides saying that I see you, I wish you a bright tomorrow.
ME TOO
I've described it almost exactly like that so it definitely resonated with me too. Really spot on there
I'm a trans dude. I like bikes. I've honestly been avoiding channels like yours because I've seen a lot of communities like this end up hating me. But then I saw the flags, I saw this video, heard your story. Thank you so much for being an ally. It's exhausting just existing because I feel like I and other LGBTQ+ people are the only ones fighting most days. You're already changing the world. Thanks for sharing the burden.
It's horrible how we gotta moderate ourselves to stay safe, ain't it? Wonderful to know gems like these exist to break the silence and stigma
@@deaqi Context, hon. He said 'I feel like I and other LGBTQ+ people are the only ones fighting most days', while talking about a specific battle and a specific conflict, not globally.
He *_isn't_* saying that he feels like they're the only ones fighting at all, anywhere, or for anything. One glance at the news makes it obvious that people are slaughtering each other for money, oil, and power, every day, all over the world.
He's saying that on _his_ battlefield, where he's been fighting only for basic human rights and mutual respect, it regularly feels like the only people on _his_ side of _his_ battle are those who are directly affected and disempowered _by_ the opposition.
In every conflict, no matter how large or small or peaceful or violent it may be, support from those who _aren't_ directly under attack is vital to making progress and minimizing casualties. Not having that is a _serious problem_ and it destroys lives.
Saying "suck it up, because your life could be _more_ destroyed and some people have it much worse" is an argument invented and popularized by those who have the _most_ wealth and power and the _fewest_ hardships, in order to make as many people as possible see _every_ conflict as either 'too far away' to support, 'not important enough' to support, or 'too huge for me to make a difference', to ensure that _everyone_ who's suffering receives as little help and support as possible. This ensures that the wealthy and powerful will always get what they want, even at others' catastrophic expense.
@@deaqi and? what can you do about it? nothing. what can you do about transphobia? be empathetic. Was slavery ever ok just because its war times? think about it
@@jumphigh7453 That's the thing, it's not transphobia or homophobia, you guys can do whatever tf you want, it's your life. We are tired of is the narcissistic feeling you have around all this, you got equality, acceptation and respect so why a month to celebrate pride? While the veterans have a DAY
Educate ppl instead of letting MINORS watch grown men exposing themselves in schools, that's grooming.
It is the indoctrination and the push of and agenda that's being feed to all of us, especially to vulnerable kids and teens that do not even know what they want in life bc they are NOT capable of thinking rationally.
*ITS OK, we accept you, we hear you, we respect you* BUT when you offer someone your hand, and they grab your arm, it's crossing the line don't you think? Books full of pornography in SCHOOLS, pledge alliance to the Pride flag instead of US FLAG, exposing themselves doing public bondage and exhibitionism during the day in a public street that kids and teens use to get to their homes, punishing kids that misgender some snowflake (honest mistake that their ego cant accept), and that's just some things that are happening rn.
I was an ally, and honestly I feel bad for the LGB group, but this got out of hand too quick.
So yeah I'm proud to say that I was there to listen and help her when she almost got brainwashed by the delusional people, she's very happy now and loves herself and her body being what she's always having been, a girl.
@@deaqi What is your point? My gay brother is in the military :) Thank him for his service or suck his dick :)
The next time I’m challenged to define a woman I’ll say “I have concepts of a woman.”
I NEED this to be the top comment
he had 8 years and he has concepts lol
@@bionicleguy32 its almost like americas changed a lot in 4 years and there are so many groups with different beliefs, wants, and needs that it's impossible to come up with a proper plan while your not in office.
@@TerrawayYT Shoulda spent those 4 years not getting arrested then
so you have 'concepts' of something that already has a rock-solid definition? that's like saying 'I have concepts for what a table is'.
I used to be a shitbag "Its a mental illness" spouting asshole. Until i actually met someone who was part of the LGBT. Meeting him is eventually what got me to realize it's not a mental illness. To look in on myself and see the fact that I'm bisexual and what has ultimately led me to having a non-binary partner of 1 year now. Seeing this video makes me wonder if there's others in my community that I can help understand people like me and my partner.
I don’t know you but I’m proud of you.
It is literally 99% a mental illness the neon haired fuckbags make the 1% of a .015% of gen pop of real transitioned people look awful and hurt their plight.
@@SuperOmegaBerserker so you’re just admitting to being a shitbag who is yet to grow up?
@@BirdaeBlue Love Bomb.
So you are gay? Non Binary is a nonsense label. Is your partner a male or female?
I started as a self hating, anti-queer, borderline nazi guy right out of highschool. Learned a lot from my family and youtube in 2016. After getting out of what I now understand was a toxic environment, I'm happy. I'm trans, I have passions again, I've made friends, all things I've never thought i'd do just a few years ago. Crazy how fast perceptions can change.
2016 was also a big political awaking for me and laid a lot of the groundwork for future growth
nah you have mental problem get checked
Good redemption arc
Same thing here zenvi lmao
I started out as a weirdly homophobic, transphobic, conservative, sexist teenage girl who hated thr concept of non conformity and ended being a masc lesbian
Gay is not the same as trans, you people need to stop conflating them
As a Trans rider... Thank you.
You almost got me choked up with tears at the "those are my people."
I also agree.... I'd rather die on my motorcycle than anything else.
Thank you for being an Ally.
"I don't have a pension fund, I have a very powerful bike" 🤣
“Take me to the junkyard in my Cadillac”
Same here.
trans too.
video made me cry.
Trans too. Also cried 💙💖💙
My friend coming out to me specifically as being trans forced a 180 on my understanding. Once my understanding took hold it changed my interpretation of people in general. I remember wrestling with “How do I treat my friend after they have transitioned to a woman?” Which organically evolved into having to ask myself: “How do I treat women?”
Point about John:
That's harassment, plain and simple. If you were a woman, and he behaved that way towards you, nobody would hesitate to call it that. It's messed up that nobody else called him out for it. It's not okay -- and to call it out is not homophobic.
That said, I'm glad you're in a better place now.
I have to say if any guy did that to me (the pants pull), I could probably have a similar reaction. I wouldn't do that to a woman, because, "never hit a woman".
Is it right to commit violence, no. I can't deny that I might have that reaction though. I might also not report it and try to think of some snappy comeback, but since I've been typing this for several minutes and haven't thought of one...
Most likely, I would either be too stunned to speak, or just yell, "dude what the ."
Yeah, for too long people have found it totally normal to expect predatory behavior from men, as if it’s acceptable for men to sexually harass whoever they want. It’s a legacy of male privilege that we need to deconstruct. It’s not ok for anyone to sexually harass anyone, and it absolutely happens between same gendered people too, and is never ok! Doesn’t matter what their orientation is!
Honestly, dude, there’s no difference between threatening to hit a woman or a man in that kind of situation. The idea that it’s uniquely bad to hit a women as a man comes from a place of wanting to prevent domestic violence, but it inevitably ends up leaning into the idea that woman are fragile and pure. It puts them on a pedestal in a way that separates them from everyone else, and is a bit dehumanizing in that way.
S*Assault doesn't discriminate in who it comes from or who it can be directed at. I'm sorry that you had an experience that no one should have to deal with.
I am trans myself, I was raised AFAB but actually born genetically 45XO and impossible to medically determine, so my parents were given the choice. Thus, I am intersex and transmasculine. You probably notice trans women more often because us trans men usually look like middle school aged boys when we start to transition. I was getting documents to change my legale name, and during a 3 hour period I had 3 seperate locations each address me differently. One called me sir, another called me ma'am, and the third asked where my parents were. I was 35 at the time.
You know, it's interesting. A lot of people who get over transphobia have stories like this guy's where they become friends with a trans person or a family member transitions; something personal and emotional. I learned about intersex people in a college genetics course. I also learned about their struggles with doctors/parents forcing them to be male or female. Just by listening to intersex people talk about how shitty that practice is and how often their assignment is wrong just made something click: if transitioning/being non binary is valid for intersex people, why can't it be for others? Why should you have to have a sex chromosome aneuploidy or androgen insensitivity to be allowed to get gender affirming care? Why can't we just let people be their true selves?
I hope you continue to share your experience. It might show idiots like me the error of our ways and make us more compassionate!
Alternatively, very early on we can tend to look like butch lesbians if we haven't started HRT yet.
afab is such a stupid fucking term, just acknowledge that youre mentally ill, quit dancing around it
The ending made me laugh ngl. But I am still not sure I fully understand who or what trans people are. I don't despise them or anything but I just haven't had any experience with them and it seems kinda foreign to me but still I have a lot of time left so hopefully I will understand them better someday
@@chinnudanturi9730 I get that, it's not a usual thing to have to deal with. At a generous 2% of the world population, we are rare. The internet and the ever growing population of humanity, coupled with modern science and ethical human considerations make it much easier for us to "congregate" and share our experiences.
Let me see if I can give you some comparisons and info that might help.
It can be somewhat considered to be a mental state. Not as in mental instability, no, but in general behaviours and thought patterns. There is medical evidence for trans people sharing the same cognition patterns as the gender they identify with, in short trans men are men because mentally we think in the same ways (same for trans-femmes).
My own personal understanding involves a bit of religion (I grew up in a very religious household). Being trans is a disconnect between the soul and the body, the soul being one gender, the body being another.
Gender is also considered by many to be a spectrum rather than a coin, so like a rainbow or a colour wheel that bleeds colour to colour and each becomes a distinctly different one, we all have a spectrum of gender, most fally into a "pure" category, but some fit in the bleeding.
Also scientifically, there are in utero factors early on, such as the health of the mother and other environmental factors can affect the gender of the fetus during gestation. A female person with XX chromosomes can develop into a male fetus if there are enough danger signals coming from the mother during pregnancy. A large family of boys can have a gay younger male as an evolutionary stop to over population.
The reasons for a person being trans can come from a wide variety of inputs, but the core remains that they themselves identify with the feminine or masculine in themselves and what aligns to that in our modern society.
PS I laughed too, it was hilarious to me.
usually people who accept trans people will call themselves allies for that fact alone. I'm glad I was wrong when I thought you were that kind of person. it makes me really happy (it even brought me to tears) to see someone like you, a true ally, someone who would stand up for us, someone who wants to make a change, and is actually making it. I hope you're really proud of yourself, because I am, I'm proud of you
oh my goodness yes! its terrible the ammount of brainwashing that is in this world. Its insane that people can think that they can be whatever they want and then have a ton of people affirm to them that they are what they believe! Its insane that is the reality!
I don't feel confortable calling myself ally for that reason. I can't go to marches and provides a lot of supports as a minor but i support LGBT movements and try to make transphobic people change their minds but there's not a lot i can do.
and the fact that i am a straight white cisgender man doesnt help
@@Stormix9 that's fair
@@Stormix9 The fact that you are a straight white cisgender man actually helps a lot. People tend to listen to those that they perceive are the most like them, and reject those that are different. You are perfectly positioned to help change minds where they need changing the most - your peers.
Hi, trans person here. I've always been a firm believer that most bigotries are taught behaviours, and most can be grown out of with enough effort. So it warms my heart deeply to see someone explain their growth and how they overcame those bigotries to eventually be a better person. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Having a cishet white man voicing this is, unfortunately by design, infinitely more likely to change hearts than if the target of that hate tries to voice these same things.
As a trans person, seeing anti-trans shit all over the internet every day (especially in YT shorts) can really get to my head. When I come across one of your videos though and see that flag, suddenly I don't feel quite so invalid or alone. So I guess I just wanna thank you for being such a great ally and using your platform to help combat discrimination. Folks like you really help keep me going.
Also I've literally never ridden or considered riding a motorcycle in my life, but you're slowly convincing me to try it.
Got a new rider section in my disc for people exploring the idea
I'm sorry you have to see that disgusting shit everyday, I know it can be hard to see through it all sometimes but I have to believe there are a lot more of us (Allies) than there are of them(transphobes). I'm cis gendered male but everyday I find myself calling state reps, talking to LGBTQ friends, and doing the small things like educating co-workers and family members everyday because I know that this could quite possibly be the most important fight we have ever had yet, they won't stop at trans people.. These people are absolute psychos most of whom are christian fundamentalists trying to force the world to bend to their whim. You are not alone
@@bmo61950 ??? The only reason its different is because u freaks keep bothering us about it. Like just let us exist in peace and stop having ur feelings hurt that trans people exist. Its not hard.
@@bmo61950 good for you. Keep clinging to that.
@@bmo61950 me pre lobotomy:
I used to be lowkey transphobic because it just seemed unfair to me that trans women actually got to be women. I did eventually figure it out that there's nothing stopping me from just being a woman as well, so yea...
I like to think figuring myself out and realizing I am trans made me a much better person
Omg I love this comment so much 😭 and I’m proud of you 🏳️⚧️
I HAD THE SAME THING WITH TRANS MEN
I thought it was so unfair that they got to change their names and take testosterone and get top-surgery. figured it out eventually
haha same thing happened to me
I had the EXACT same thing happen to me and looking back I absolutely hate what I used to be like
Lol same
THIS is what an ally looks like. Thank you! I’m one of those “hot girls that rides motorcycles”. I’m also trans. I’ve had some awful rejections from potential dates after I told them. Like scared they’d run me off the road if we met up for a ride awful. Motorcycle culture is chock full of transphobic people, but there are some surprising ally’s too (older Harley guy who’s all about personal freedom and supporting your fellow riders kinda thing).
Anyway I really appreciate the support and using your platform to stand up for us. Much love!!!
I am a straight dude. I’ve never met any gay person or a trans person in my whole 23 years on this planet. Probably because I come from a small town in Germany. But I personally also couldn’t care less about them. Like for me you are just another person. A random person who I couldn’t care less about.
I don’t understand you and I probably never will because I have no idea how you feel. I can som what understand other straight man. But even then they all have their own stories and I can’t really understand them completely.
I personally can’t get why people would be angry at dating a trans person. I mean I would also reject you because I don’t float that way but I would not hate you or be mad. I get why people tend to not disclose that detail right at the start. Because of hate and discrimination.
So yeah I guess they all really were assholes and I wish you the best in life and that you my find a person that accepts you and loves you.
Bets of luck for your life ^_^
@@Manie230 thats because rural germany hasnt been touched by this bullshit american culture. people make their sexual preferences their whole personality here in america. its really sad. people think its important to talk about sexualities and our feelings in america. everyones gotten soft
trans guy here, i've always wanted to get into motorcycles but many channels sorta run through that subtly anti-queer vibe. But its good to know theres some cool folks out there! I remember one time i was working at a shop (im a cashier) and met a big burly guy. not sure how, but we ended up talking about trans people. he mentioned how he was part of a bike crew and how one of his members left for a while and returned with a new name! he said how they were still good friends :))
@@Manie230 you've obviously met a gay person, you just didn't know because they didn't talk about the fact that they're gay...
@@DustyyBoi maybe. But now that you’ve said it I remembered that I have met at least two bi people.
But I am thinking real hard right now and I don’t remember any person that is gay. But I’ve just probably forgotten about it cause I couldn’t care less.
I heavily consider the content I watch around my teenage sons, and they will definitely call me out if they think something I’m watching is toxic. They are both cis het males. They kept asking where the direction of this video was going to go, and by the end of it they felt very validated to hear you speak up as an ally. They aren’t even 18 yet and they are passionately supportive of their friends who are trans and gay. I really appreciate your video, it’s brilliant in so many ways. I’m so glad it popped up in my feed today. Thank you for sharing your story.
One of my sons is huge into cars and is surrounded by homophobes. Your level of humanity is the only way our species should continue.
Love from Ohio.
As a gay man, I am flabbergasted. I never thought I would find a straight man doing so much good for the LGBT community! You really are changing minds. I was abused since childhood because my father hated gay people and could not accept me. It took me years of my life until I was about eighteen to truly accept myself. Now that I'm out of the closet, nothing could make me go back. I try to be open with everyone to show that I want the same things straight people do. Thank you for all of your hard work!
Well the thing is there’s nothing you can do that a straight person can’t. The lgbt community acts as a detriment to society like for example pride parades. Why should you be proud for something you seemingly can’t control? As a bisexual man I don’t see the rationale here so I am hence forth anti pride and anti lgbt.
There are more straight men who are allies than you know. It can be hard to see the good. But I know quite a few straight men who would stand up for a person of character regardless of their social identity. They do the good that they can in small ways.
@@tanyaosterman do the good that they can? What do you mean by that?
@@Everything-mh4bp I mean we all have within our power to treat others respectfully and as individuals, without prejudice. That's true no matter one's social position, status or wealth.
I thought it was self-explanatory.
@@tanyaosterman well I’m all fine with respecting the individual and all that’s ok but I don’t find that the lgbt community spreads harmful rhetoric
As an old straight white guy from Indiana, kudos for a great video. Be a little careful on your bike--you're the kind of person we all need.
As a trans person, whenever I see a pride flag, I feel so much safer. Navigating through life, knowing you've got about a 50/50 chance of every stranger you meet hating/mocking you, is extremely scary. It makes every single day more complicated. Stuff like this is really important to my day to day life
According to a 2020 poll, 80% of the population (around 90% of left wingers and around 55% for right wingers) support trans people. It's just the vocal minority that wants us all dead. Always remember, VOTE VOTE AND VOTE SOME MORE! We can't let the facists win!
That’s just called being paranoid. You don’t have to tell someone that you’re trans, unless you have intent to befriend them/get into a relationship with them.
Im gay and I’d much rather see an American flag than a pride flag, mainly because the American flag represents freedom and liberty. The constitution. My rights as a gay man to exist under that constitution.
@@PilotGuava Buddy, I dont mean to be condescending. But you do know that most trans people cant pass right? People know we're trans weather we want them to or not. Some people can blend in with cis people to the point people cant tell. But many more are very visibly trans, especially transfemine people. Our voice doesn't change, and remains deep even with voice training. Body hair requires years of laser hair removal (something many people cant ever afford). Plus wide shoulders, height, genitals etc. All things that easily tip people off that we're transgender.
Telling trans people theyre "paranoid" about transphobia when youre not trans, is like telling a person of color they're "paranoid" about racism. Or a woman theyre "paranoid" about sexism.
Just because you cant see their struggles, doesnt mean they dont exist. Being transgender has made my life 100x harder and more complicated in so many areas. And looking on from a distance and saying "no its not" is very dismissive and just plain wrong. You've never walked a day in my shoes, so please dont assume we're just 'being paranoid' when youve never experienced life from our point of view.
@@PilotGuava
"American flag represents freedom and liberty"
how's that boot taste buddy?
@@PilotGuava I agree, thank you for this comment
I think it's great that instead of turning to violence *ON BOTH SIDES*, we can all just chill n talk it out. That is touching.
I'm just following wise words of 'judging people by the contents of the character'.
As a white, cis, straight man that works in a hyper masculine profession....this video really hits home. I followed pretty much the exact same path you did to arrive at my current place. At the end of the day you're 100% right. People like us are best positioned to help make the world a better more tolerable place. So whenever I see abhorrent or ignorant actions I speak up about them. Not in a condescending or combative way but in one of friendly education. If you can just get 1 of every 10 to possibly open their eyes you've done a lot. Thank you for your video brother 👍
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I am also a straight cis man and I happened to start to have to do with a community that mostly consists of queer people (actually every single person I talked with was queer there, and I know that because they mention it pretty often whatever their orientation is or as whatever they identify as, which I find a bit encroaching) and one thing I fucking hate is, that they use almost every chance they get to blame whatever bad thing on cis men and it's fucking annoying. Also with some queer friends the often say all men are shit or something, and if I say well no, you are generalizing, they get mad and say if I feel addressed, that I am part of the problem, but obviously I will feel adressed if someone says all men, I am a man, what bullshit logic is that, then if I generalize in the other way, like all women (which I only do to show the hypocrisy) apperantly they say it's wrong to generalize, but it's ok if it's just against men.
@@MisterPyOne I've legit never had anything close to that experience. Most I've had is gay guys hitting on me which I take just like a woman hitting on me, it's a compliment. With that said, I do realize that the world was lately built with me in mind. I understand that being good looking, white, cis, and straight means that I am privileged. Not in the sense that I'm rich or anything. But in the sense that I don't have to compromise myself in any way to live life. Whereas marginalized populations don't see that kind of ease.
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How do you strike the balance of saying something without being condescending? I'm trying to work on that haha
tbh, i was transphobic not even that long ago, around 2 months ago, and even at the time i knew deep down that my arguments against them were flawed
i think i was just insecure about my own gender dysphoria
internalised transphobia my friend. good luck dealing with that shit
@@thatisaduck we're all happy you're here. Let's change the world a little at a time together ,:>
Hope you can figure yourself out and most of all be happy x
Snaps to that
many such cases
I love that you have a trans flag up in your motorcycle videos. I'm a bi cis woman but I have a daughter who is trans. One of the things that made me fall in love with my current partner was him coming back from a friend's house and telling me his friend had a rainbow flag sticker on his truck. He said he had always known his friend as straight and was going to tease him about it but stopped himself and said, "what if that's his way of coming out to us?" The fact that he could be that thoughtful about something seemingly innocuous made me love him. I think having a man's man who other hetero men can relate to display acceptance and allegiance with marginalized groups lends better understanding among straight men. Thank you for this.
Your daughter is a good person. I hope she excels in the positive environment you seem to want to create for her.
my experience growing up i just wanted to be a girl so i’d just go to school and not pay attention to anything or anyone. and i knew it was bad because without telling anyone. because my dad was mocking me asking am i “fruity” or does he have three daughters (little did he know). anyway i finally told my mom when i was 16 and she said she loved me but i couldn’t transition till i was 18. my dad didn’t accept that or even before that when he found out i liked boys or wore makeup. and we had disagreements before about it but i specifically remember christmas of 2019 i was 17. he sat me down and told me how god didn’t make me this way, that i’m a glorified drag queen, and that i’m a psychopath. still to this day even tho i’ve tried multiple times and gave him multiple chances he hasn’t came around. i stopped talking to him because i can’t keep that negativity around me. tbh i’m not necessarily a trans person that people look at me and see “man”. but seeing the online discourse about us being “predators” and “molesters” is truly weird to me because i’m a hopeless romantic and all i wanted since i was little was to find a Noah to my Allie. also the sexism men have too like my dad lets my 16 yo brother have sex and smoke weed and gang bang. but me a virgin who doesn’t do drugs or illegal activities I’m satan because i wanna get a sex change. and my little sister who’s 14 is scolded for even having a boyfriend and can’t wear makeup….like sir.
I’m a teenage trans gay boy. My name is Mikey, not [deadname]. Thank you so much for making this video. In all honesty I started out homophobic and transphobic. My family doesn’t know that I am transgender, gay, none of it. And seeing someone who actually went from a homophobic piece of shit (Idk how else to put it, I don’t hold it against you at all) to being so supportive and kind and accepting just makes me so happy. Like genuinely I’m tearing up (there goes my rock hard masculinity lol) but in the good way. I needed to see this. Thank you. Thank you so much.
Mikey, you're a champ mate. A lot of us start out with that hatred and that's part of what keeps us in the egg. Glad you grew to accept yourself there brother, even more glad you could get to that point so soon, it's harder to get there as a teen, you're not equipped with the self reflection techniques that usually make that possible. Be proud yourself man, crying is strength and a strong man isn't afraid of his vulnerability, or so my old man always told me.
As an adult trans bi guy, wishing you luck! Shit will sometimes be hard as FUCK but you'll pull through. I'm glad you felt safe enough to come out here.
Also, Mikey's a great name. Not sure I've heard other trans guys pick it before but they should because it rocks.
Good luck Mikey! We're behind you :D
you're gonna have the greatest coming out conversation.
"dad, i might be homosexual."
"so you like girls?"
"well not exactly..."
but in all seriousness all the best to you and i hope it goes well if and when you decide to come out.
as a genderfluid person, I wish you best of luck on your journey. Mikey is a good name choice too.
also may I ask if you're Hungarian (based on your surname/username)? it's always nice to see fellow Hungarians in comment sections😊
Hey Mikey, I’m also a gay trans guy. It’s tough out here man, but let’s keep pushing and survive against all odds. I see you my brother.
Oof. Amazing video but it really was difficult to get through some of it. I'm a child of a trans woman and hearing you talk about the stares at the store, the gawking , it's all too familiar for me. Me simply holding hands with my own mother in public got whispers and stares from so many. My mother is incredibly strong, one of the ones in the front lines protesting and fighting for what is right! She's already come home injured from attacks, but she never backed down. What I'm trying to say is that I have the utmost respect for people like her, and people like you.
I’m so sorry you had to experience that, but so glad your mother powered through. I really do respect the tremendous effort that was needed to be openly queer for the generations before me.
As someone who is a deconstructing ex-christian, and unlearning a lot of phobic behaviors, and striving for courage and to be more active in fighting for human rights for the sake of my future children, your mom is literally my role-model. Tell her she's amazing. 🌟
i'm still uncomfortable around gay dudes and trans folk, but no, people is people. i try as hard as i can not to transfer my discomfort to them. they don't deserve it. it is my problem not theirs.
@rickymcdicky1469 my interpretation of their comment was less that they disagreed with the ideology and more that they struggle with the feelings of discomfort that were ingrained from their environment or childhood which is difficult to overcome, I could be wrong though
@@jonathanard7885 you sir are correct.
mad respect for both acknowledging that AND working against it, the world needs more ppl like u bro :)
@@rickymcdicky1469the “ideology” is wanting acceptance if you don’t agree with the “ideology” you aren’t accepting
@@rickymcdicky1469 hey, bucko. being transgender is *not* an ideology. it’s something that you are, that you live as. equating other people to a set of values, to a THING, is very dehumanizing.
The absolute character development you show is amazing.
There's a very important lesson in life: always be kind, to everyone, including yourself.
(Sometimes being kind to yourself implies being mean to people who want to hurt you, don't tolerate intolerance)
Glad to see when people understand
Never lose hope
Commenting to boost this in the algorithm. Im not gay nor trans but as someone who cares about their wellbeing, its nice to see a dude like you promote a good cause.
I'm trans and saw this video on my recommended. It worked :)
@NJP-Supremacist Actually, when you look up "why im not transphobic anymore", there are way more videos being transphobic than there are videos like this?
@NJP-Supremacist why the fuck would I count if the ratio was 1 to every singe other video.
Edit: I've humored you. To get to this video under the lookup term "why I'm not transphobic anymore" on a private window (not affected by my own algorithm), I had to scroll through 21 videos. So I looked at 22 in total. 17 of them where cisgender people being transphobic. 4 where transgender people reacting to transphobia, of which 3 disagreed with the statements and 1 agreed somewhat.
Finally, this video was the only one made by a cisgender person who was not transphobic.
So, what part does the algorithm promote?
Especially since "I'm not transphobic anymore" is a very biased statement.
@@NotFeelingBlauw your right I agree with you people are transphobic for not wanting to date trans people they say they aren't real women
@@NotFeelingBlauwYeah not to mention the amount of money anti-trans ads throw out making sure their ads get thrown in front of like every even kinda trans related video. Like, I'll click on a video from a literal trans person and get a transphobic ad.
All I'm saying, is that I've never seen a trans cop.
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I technically know/knew one. At least, she _wanted_ to be a cop. She was cool as hell and I met her in a right-leaning libertarian/pro-gun discord that later got nuked.
Anyway, after watching this video, I've kinda decided that it's my favorite video of the type and that you're likely one of the best people to have been the face/voice of it. But man, human beings are so WEIRD, because I, myself loved everything about it and was giving it its fair shake up until the George Floyd protests part. Then I "auto-corrected" it to riots and kinda shook my head for a minute before thinking about it from your perspective as well as the general persepective.
Yeah, there was a LOT of stupid shit that went down during that and that has stemmed FROM that, but at the same time, given my libertarian roots and understanding of the severe and actual LACK of accountability within the government as a whole... Those protests kinda have a point. It doesn't matter if I personally haven't experienced something like that in my life, or if George Floyd actually WAS a bad person or DID die from an OD... The cops, prison system, and enforcement in general here is much more tyrannical and disgusting than it has any business being.
Especially since we're supposedly (and supposed to be) the country and culture that's "the best" at everything.
So I just wanted to say, whatever our differences in opinion, thanks for this video, thanks for your general videos, and I hope the all help some people and bring some self awareness and dynamic thinking about society and things to someone out there.
For a good reason.
@@Drunken_Hamster bro I'm glad to hear you say that but I seriously recommend asking more people that actually went to Black Lives Matter protests what they were like. Never forget the media sells anger and fear. There wasn't "some dumb shit that happened," there'd be like, a little dumpster fire somewhere, and suddenly all the literally millions of people across the country that are mostly just walking around quietly with signs or at most standing in front of their city hall chanting are now associated with "riots." The BLM protests were almost entirely boring and mundane. Even the ones that "kicked off" in Oakland were tame, for example spray painting the wooden boards businesses were putting up. The one time in Oakland someone popped off smashing windows, a bunch of us pulled them to the side like wtf are you doing, and they turned out to be trump supporters that had driven in two hours and just wanted to stir some shit. Crazy how fast they admitted it lol they were basically desperate for a fight.
I'm glad though that you get the jist of why it happened. It really doesn't matter what George Floyd was, bear in mind that the cops had only one piece of information when they showed up: someone described over the telephone is being accused of using fake cash. The cops try to identify the person based on that description, and then before any evidence was presented in court, before the justice system could verify that the accusation is even true, they handcuffed a guy and then choked him. To death. Is that the kind of justice system you want in your country? That's the justice system you have. You just been lucky to not have to deal with it because there's 300 million people and you been getting good dice rolls. But black or white the American justice system will fuck you if you're in the wrong place at the wrong time, and that was the point of the BLM protests, to say enough is enough.
Imo they didn't go far enough, basically nothing has changed.
Perfect timing no less for this video😅
I grew up transphobic. I was raised in a fairly traditional Christian household. We had one gay guy in my school who came out in elementary school in the 90’s/early 00’s. People, including me, avoided and ridiculed him for a very long time. By high school he pretty much had three girls he hung out with, and only talked with other people to roast them ( he had developed a very sassy system of comebacks from years of being picked on). I mostly avoided him because he weirded me out. We had a few girls come out as lesbian or bi in high school, and the conventionally pretty ones were largely just treated normal while the others were also made fun of.
After two years of college I joined the navy. By the time I had gotten to my ship, they came out with the policy allowing trans people in the military and allowing people serving to transition. We were all forced to attend training, which was very ineffective. They didn’t really have a good grasp of what the policies were, and the chiefs presenting were largely homophobic. They didn’t outright badmouth the policies or trans people, but they did give us that impression. We made jokes about transitioning for easier prt standards, sitting in female birthing with our testicles hanging out of thongs, and identifying as Apache attack helicopters, or Thor god of thunder, and as such needing to be stationed is Asgard.
Around that same time I was on the phone with my sister who I am very close with and generally agree with on everything. She shocked me by her support of gay and trans people, and her disdain for my incivility.
Vast forward about a year, and she was engaged. Her fiancé’s mom had added my wife and I on Facebook, and one day my wife saw she had written an article about raising a trans child. My wife was surprised, thinking that the fiancé’s sister must be trans. Reading a bit more, she found that the child’s birth name was Leah, which wouldn’t make sense unless my sister’s fiancée was the trans person. She stalked some old photos and discovered he had transitioned at 13. She was upset, not about the fiancée being trans, but that nobody told us. She texted my mom and asked why they were keeping secrets from us. Unfortunately nobody in my family knew. My sister had met him after he had been stabbed by a friend in a parking lot after they found out he was trans, and together they decided it best not to tell anyone, since my family was so traditional. My parents got upset, with my dad even questioning going to their wedding(to be clear, she is his little princess and no matter what she does he will always find a way to make her right in his heart). My wife felt terrible, and after a week, we were finally able to get a hold of my sister and her fiancée to apologize, and talk about it. We asked all of the wrong questions (what parts do you have, how do you think you are a man if you have xx chromosomes, etc…). They were fairly patient with us, particularly given the circumstances. My dad read some books, and some articles, and came to his senses. It was at this point my entire family figured it out, that how people see themselves, and how they feel, is not always in alignment with what society says about their biological sex. Now I’m a huge ally, and I have been whittling away at the old conservative Christian men that I work with.
I am ashamed of the way I treated people before, and how I thought that my world view was acceptable. I always figured that because I believed the Bible to be inerrant, that any gay or trans people must be wrong about themselves, confused about reality, and that they must get right with god. I later realized that that view is barely consistent with Christian ideology, and that I additionally no longer believed anyways.
We need more former transphobes to be the people who change straight culture. We need more straight people who will not stand for mistreating other human beings for their orientation or identity. We should instead judge people on their personality, and try to learn from their experiences and perspectives.
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Thank you for sharing your story, and that of your family's. It's so important to hear the journeys that some people take to get from fear, to knowledge, to questioning, to understanding, and eventually to acceptance and love. It's never easy to expose the parts of our lives when we weren't at our best, but every one of us has those moments in our past. They may not be the same as others have, but it's the path that we take when we learn to accept others as they are.
I've had people tell me that they don't understand being trans, and I have to admit to them that I don't completely understand how it happens, or why. I just know that it does. ❤
Thank you so much for posting this. As a straight, cis man who was raised in a traditional, conservative, christian family in the midwest, I unfortunately used to be, well, a far right, slightly transphobic/homophobic person (largely for religious/cultural reasons). I also had a confederate apologist phase.
None of that is easy to admit, as now I can fully realize how much harm all of those ways of thinking cause. You'll be happy to know that I'm now pretty much as far away from any of those things as a person can be. Anyways, so yeah, your story, while different than mine in many ways, still spoke to me.
Now, I am comfortable with being a straight, cis white guy who drives a truck and wears boots etc; while also accepting people for who they are. I wish I could express how much this means to me; thank you. Let's change the world.
ouch not the confederate apologist phase 😬 so glad you grew out of that
@genericyoutubecommenter589 Yeahhh...me too. Thanks for that. I can much more easily actually care about people who are different from me now that I've escaped that culture. I'm much better now. It's weird cause I never really intended to be racist or anything; I fell for the "It was about tariffs not slavery" argument 🤦♂️ We live and learn I guess, or at least some of us. So glad I got out. 💙
Trans/NB queer person here. I just want to thank you for helping restore a little bit of my faith in humanity.
Just wanting to let you know that the term NB while commonly used for non-binary people, is also used for “non-black” by white supremecists. I’m sure you meant absolutely no harm but it’s better to know than not-a fellow trans/enby person
@@Chaotic-v4x maybe we should just not use abbreviations anymore.
@@delablo 🤍🤗🥰
I didn’t know that, that’s interesting. I actually am non binary/trans myself and usually use the word “enby” since it’s quick and well, sounds the same! 🤍
@@Chaotic-v4x Well sure, but context matters.
it's insane how much hope this video actually made me feel as a trans person in the USA right now. like maybe we aren't completely alone in this fight
Define what you think a cult is?
I know a lot more trans allies than I do trans people, basically everyone I know. You’re far from alone 🩷
mabey because it isnt a fight? Its a mindset you have put on yourself that blocks the facts and only listens to what you feel is correct.
@@TheRealBeanEnthusiastHi, there are a lot of cult survivors who feel offense to these types of comparisons. So please dont.
@@oofuwu2666 sorry, i commented that on the wrong thing.
As a queer kid myself, I really do appreciate you having the pride flags in your backgrounds to make me feel safer and teaching me about motorcycles. I appreciate you.
why do the flags influence how safe you feel watching a video 💀 not everything has to be about that... (I am queer myself)
@Lyulf it is about knowing that someone supports me and other kids like myself. it isn't about the flags, but the flags help me identify friends from not.
@@Lyulffmaybe if you thought bout it for more than 10 seconds you'd realise
@@fl3m1n9o4 Well, not really. If I watch a RUclipsr, I don't really care about every single political opinion, it's just who I am, if I was straight I also wouldn't care that they were pro-straight, it's just not even on my mind, I'm watching a RUclips video
I get being /uncomfortable/ if they're actively being against it, of course, but I don't watch videos with the fact that I'm gay in mind like what
my username used to be "edgyfuckboi900"
not edgy anymore
not even a boy anymore
@@some-jk4nx welcome, fuck900
nice. :)
@@lapsiluco LMAOOOO
As a person who has gone from transphobe to trans ally to trans I can say that almost the entire process you laid out resonated with me. Please keep on trying to save the world!
I’m also an ally and this gives me hope to see comments like this because I always assumed these beliefs are so deeply engrained and can’t be changed which may be true for some but it’s nice to see there’s still people like you. This just shows what a great person you are with a good heart and you always had this!
Ayyy I did the same.
Self repression is a hell of a drug, hey
props to you bro, from a fellow trans person to another
That sounds like a harrowing journey, I'm glad you made it.
Yeah, I grew up being more or less forced into transphobic. Then I started feeling worse dysphoria in my late teens after I stopped trying to fake everything and just do and wear what my parents wanted. I had a couple gay friends in high school, but no one was trans (or at least not out) until a few classmates I met in university. I'm glad I can be my own person now, but I'm still scared of my parents even though I don't live with them.
As a trans person getting into motorcycles, I appreciate your unwavering support for queer people. It makes it a lot less scary knowing that there are people here that I don’t have to worry about my identity around
Stay safe friend :-)
so you're autistic?
There are a lot more queer bikers than you might think! Groups like Dykes on Bikes exist, for example. There’s a similar club for gay guys as well. Trans women and non-binary people are super welcome in a few groups i’ve interacted with too, and i can only assume there are groups that are cool about trans men too (i have zero experience with that though)
I found the motorcycle groups (that aren't, like, outlaw MCs) I've been involved with are quite possibly the most trans accepting communities I've ever been a part of. I think since riding a motorcycle in the west, especially in the US, is already a niche group and we're all out there doing something that 99% of people would never do, that level of open mindedness and boldness is just part of the personality needed to ride a bike.
@@adafrost6276 Yeah, I found that out when I went to actually get my license. The teacher saw the F on my driver's license, and immediately ignored the fact that I was the tallest person in the class by several inches. Everyone in my class treated me as one of the girls, because I am.
I'm a 52 year old Spanish guy, straight (not that it matters). I am so glad to see more people supporting human condition. It is refreshing to see a fearless dude talking freely, honestly, and, above all, with kindness and empathy. Thank you, stay strong and screw bigotry.
I love all humans, but you can't call me a bigot because I respect natural law and the fact men have penises and women have a vagina. It's simple to be honest.
@@user76978 "being honest" would mean agreeing with the medically recognized difference between gender and sex. "Being honest" would mean understanding that you are NOT an expert and do not know trans/nonbinary/agender/etc people better than they know themselves. And claiming to love all people while invalidating their existences? Yikes.
You are a bigot hiding behind a flimsy "b-b-but biology!" shield. Actively ignoring scientifically and psychologically recognized facts is not "respecting natural law;" it's disrespectful to the decades of research put into these fields. Grow up, recognize the holes in your logic, and do better.
@@user76978hey bud, intersex people exist, please do some research
@@user76978 "natural law" (biology, i assume??) has become a lot more complicated than it may have been taught to you in school. science changes as new studies happen. it's not as simple as man peen woman vagene anymore lol (but seriously, the things we know about the human body and sex nowadays are incredible. open your world view and read some recent studies about it :) )
@@JackKendaddy_tangerine An anomoly is not exception to the rule. 99.99% of people are as I stated.
It’s so important for us as a society to be respectful and not fear each other but listen to each other. Thank you.
This video made me cry like 4 times, holy shit dude. As a person who falls under the trans umbrella and was raised by very liberal parents, I never really had to experience homophobia and transphobia as a young child. But as I got older and more open about my queerness, I got mercilessly bullied. I had slurs said to my face and my friends (all of my friends were and still are queer), had people doxxing me saying I was going to hell and so much more. There was one kid who called me the f slur on several occasions. I moved away from that town and forgot about that kid. A month ago I learned that the kid who had called me the f slur had come out as gay and had started a petition at my school for more gender non-conforming bathrooms at that town’s high school. Change is fucking possible.
'Change is fucking possible' goes hard. I hope that someday everyone can accept these words.
That feel when RUclips recommends someone new that's really good.
I probably won't stick around. Motorcycles aren't my thing. Which meant I really want to tell you now while I could how much this was appreciated.
I'm a transwoman and I am exausted. The comment about "Why do you have the pedophile flag up?" is exactly the kind of thing I have to deal with, constantly. Not just on the internet. A refrain my friends are used to hearing from me at this point is, I'm tired of my existance being political. But I feel like I can never back off, because if we trans people aren't protecting ourselves who is? We've got allies in the rest of the LGBTQ, but even among ourselves theres the "LGB without the T" movement. I feel like I have to constantly defend myself and, more importantly, others. Even when I feel like I can't, I also feel like I cant afford to not.
And then RUclips served me up this. "These are my people" made me cry. Thank you so much. It means the world to me just to know you exist. Maybe I'll feel like I can take care of my own mental health sometimes.
You're amazing. Thank you.
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I hear you. I'm disgusted by what people are doing to young trans people especially, but if we don't fight against the hate, we are sunk. I just want to live my life and make my little corner of the world a better place. I very much like the approach of this video. I like to be the reasonable one in a conversation, although sometimes I hit back when hit with blatten hate. Allies are not won that way though. Shame on anyone who has been crapped on who turns around and does it to someone else. LGB groups,, I'll never understand that stance. Anyway, hugs to you, stay safe, strong, and take care of yourself.
So I'm sure you are not waiting around for people to say this but I felt compelled to. As a cis lesbian woman, the LGB people in the community are wrong. They straight up are and as a marginalized group themselves they should know better and I will never get why they can't extend empathy to our trans siblings.
You all are in my heart and I hope if anything this might make you smile and give you some respite. The trans members of our community were always the strong ones fighting for others and as such I will fight for them. Stay safe and may you live long and prosper
i feel for you. i am a lesbian that lives in a country where most of the population is devoted to outdated traditions and holds Islam as the absolute truth in life. i am tired of having to constantly prove to others that i am a human too and that i did not choose to be this way. i deeply relate to the trans community, and it's sad to see how many people from our community, which should be a safe space for everybody, start to reject trans people. it is so stupid and just unfair.
@@arrahhed5402 You got me smiling, thank you!
I’m a trans woman, and I’ve never watched any of your videos. I don’t even like motorcycles! But I was recommended this video by the algorithm, and I’m so fucking glad I watched it. This story was powerful. Apparently I can reach empathy level impossible, because I remember “gay” being an insult back in elementary, I remember having those negative feelings about myself as a kid, and I remember coming out and loosing friends because they were too rapped up in the bs to get it. Thank you, for this video. If we have a few more people like you, maybe we can save the world. One friend at a time.
Happy pride, godspeed (but not too fast, can’t have any unintentional unaliving on those bikes) ❤🏳️⚧️
@Proud American Patriot you're not a real christian and you never will be until you get a grip on reality
@Proud American Patriot Sin is a made up concept to control the ignorant.
@Proud American Patriot your name is literally Proud American Patriot
@YourLocalPatriotSo is your pathetic account name. 🤡
@Proud American Patriot if I blindly follow what my parents tell me I'd tell you your entire religion is a sin because you believe in a holy trinity. So let's not play the bigot game, because nobody wins.
What a nice recommendation. I don’t know ANYTHING about you but I’m glad this was my first experience.
Thank you for doing the right things and treating people with respect. Much love
As a trans dude i really appreciate the safe space you have created in your chanel
It's nice being able to engage in more "traditionaly" masculine media without feeling unsafe
@BradynLee Pride flags are more than 20 years old, if you wanna blame someone then blame millennials lol
@BradynLee Haha, you said "flafs"! Now as per internet culture, you can't hold those opinions anymore.
@BradynLee minor spelling mistake? tsk-tsk-tsk. your opinions is now invalid.
@BradynLee that is literally what they’re doing I don’t even know what you’re complaining about
@BradynLee Literacy is an important skill, I hope you can learn it some day
The difference between you and people who hold on to their hate is simply humility. The humility to say "I could be wrong."
Humility is a sign of intelligence. It allows one to question one's own assumptions.
Humility is the root of all goodness.
@@UseYourBrain-bh5zn I could be wrong about everything.
You say that and I will agree that you are humble.
@@UseYourBrain-bh5zn think your misunderstanding. it’s not that he was wrong and is now right that makes him good. It is that he is open minded and kind. regardless of if you agree or not you think the opinion is right or wrong you must be open to the concept that you do not know anything. because we’ll frankly no one can know anything for certain “I think therefore I am “ and that is all anyone can ever know.
@@UseYourBrain-bh5zn admit you could be wrong once challenge, go
also stop making Alabama look bad for the rest of us who want to do whatever we want
@@austinbrooks2982 Actually, if you assume "Cogito, ergo sum," then you don't exist in the moments when you're not thinking.
@@UseYourBrain-bh5zn Regarding using fear of women being cancelled or attacked, or kids mutilated: fairness and reason require a case-by-case basis. Some biological men aren't as strong as some women. Some people need more time and counseling before transitioning. Etc. It's stereotyping, otherwise. And that's not okay in either extreme.
By the way, don't stereotype me.
Knowing the limitations of what you know actually helps a lot. It helps to always be aware of what you are assuming! When you drive around a corner, do you assume there won't be a car parked there? It also helps to understand the difference between facts (basic math), opinions (whether to feed animals) and truth (whether reality really exists).
Speaking of science, nothing is ever proven. There is only (empirical) evidence and even laws of nature must be open to revision if further evidence contradicts them.
I just think you haven't challenged yourself enough yet to get to the part where you understand that truth is contradictory.
Who am I kidding? You're either wilfully or unwittingly part of an agenda to take away civil rights.
Regardless of whether you know it or not, you could be wrong about everything. I just happen to know I could too, and that means I see us as equals. That's my strength.
My tolerance stops where your intolerance starts.
And you really should learn to question your assumptions. It's not "he," but "she"! If you're so concerned about gender, you should try to get it right!
I'm a 50 yr old straight white guy and all I got to say is awesome video. It takes more courage and strength to stand up and defend what is right, to support people who are being mistreated. Kicking people who are down, punching those who are marginalized and disenfranchised is cowardice, weakness and reprehensible. Bigotry, discrimination and intolerance are disgraceful and should not be condoned in our society. You are a warrior. Keep up the good fight.
Well said and brilliantly put. We could use more people with that wisdom.
@@BB-gs5rs Gender dysphoria is an actual diagnoses.
@@BB-gs5rs I am a minor and I haven't gotten any surgeries. Taking hormones is fine as long as it's an informed decision. I'm not pushing it, I just want it to be clear that for anyone who IS experiencing it, that they are okay.
@@BB-gs5rs Why do so many people say that, who exactly is pushing minors to change their sex? That isn't a thing.
@@BB-gs5rs As far as I'm aware of, there has never been a confirmed case where parents applied pressure to their child to undergo a transition the child did not want. If such cases exist, they are _extremely_ rare. More notably, when a child chooses to transition and parents support that, mental health outcomes have been among the best and most-positive on record, for persons who have been diagnosed with dysphoria.
In contrast, there have been millions of well-documented and confirmed cases of unstable parents pressuring their child to *_not_* transition. _Those_ cases have overwhelmingly led to broken families and increasingly-severe cases of depression and anxiety, all-too-often escalating into domestic violence, child abuse, and/or suicide. This is not just true today, but has been true for decades and centuries past, so these awful outcomes have nothing to do with the LGBTQIA+ movement which has risen in the last half-century.
Even setting aside the support in biology and genetics for trans identities being natural, a key difference between gender dysphoria and _real_ delusion disorders is that _real_ delusion disorders require the delusion _itself_ to be dangerous or prone to escalation. 'Everyone but me is possessed by evil spirits and only cleansing fire will set their souls free' is a dangerous delusion that should not be supported. 'Aliens steal me away and torture me every time I sleep' is a dangerous delusion. 'I can see the future, therefore I never make mistakes and cannot possibly die before my appointed time' is a dangerous delusion.
'I want to live, look, and act more like those normal, healthy people over there, instead of how society expects me to live, look, and act' is _not_ a dangerous idea. Frankly, wanting to cross cultural lines like that is completely normal and healthy, and even at its most tenuous extremes, is no more delusional than believing that money has value and nations exist.
People just freak out very easily about the gender line specifically, because people tie it so strongly to sex that they often forget that _most_ of the features of gender, especially in our culture, are mostly or completely platonic. Because of that, many people brand it as some sort of sexual fetish, rather than a general lifestyle choice like political philosophy, religious beliefs, or personal preferences for fashion, food, transportation, etc. Because of that, people who have very little familiarity with the queer community, (and therefore don't hear the platonic sides of the conversation very often), tend to panic when children are allowed to witness or participate in discussions of gender. Especially when the media is willing to straight-up _lie_ about it to scare people and get more views.
It's also worth noting that the most popular transition tool provided to minors (puberty blockers) is temporary and entirely reversible.
Lmao Seattle jumpscare, didn't expect to see someone talking about my friends and community when I clicked onto this video. Thanks for doing this!
I once had a nightmare where I was in the body of a girl being a cis man that felt really scary and when I woke up I thought "it was just a nightmare but imagine having to go through that every day of your life" after that I am very empathetic with trans people
had a similar moment like this happen to me as a cis woman. about two years ago, i was a tenor in my school's choir. it read in the dressing guide that tenors and bases were supposed to wear pants, so i did. apparently there was an unspoken rule that all female tenors were supposed to break that rule, because when i showed up, all the female tenors were in dresses. i literally started panicking, thinking i looked too masculine and that people would perceive me as a boy. later the next day, it clicked in my mind that that must be exactly how trans people feel when theyre forced to present as the wrong gender.
But most of them dont have that feeling. They just feel bad because in young age people often have identity problems because it is hard to be in a group for many children. And than a teacher and social media influencer brainwashes them that it is because they are trans. The teaches often gives children hormone blockers that is the same drug that is used for chemical castration. And the parent does not know about it. If you have identity issue and search on google if you are trans the answer will be most likely yes. The LGBTQ movement brainwashes the youth.
@@mroselli anorexia has nothing to do with being trans, and anorexia also has nothing do to with gender. this person has also said that he's cis (as in not trans) and dreamt they were in the body of the opposite gender. it made him uncomfortable because that is not his gender identity as a cis man. as in everyone, including cis people, including you, do not like being perceived as the wrong gender. do you get the point now.
@@mroselli being trans is not a syndrome. and neither is anorexia LOL anorexia is an eating disorder. look up what a syndrome is before you start arguing something is one. also, no, believe it or not, being trans is NOT directly correlated with having gender dysphoria. you can be trans and be completely fine with the body you're in because gender is social and psychological, not physical. saying youre right doesn't make it true. facts over feelings!!
@@mroselli Etymology*, also, before you do that one, whats the english definition of gender? secondly, how does this connect to you point? (oh and before you make an argument about biology and chromosomes and physical sex, im a fresh bio major and have taken accelerated courses in human bio, biochem, and got a 5 on the AP bio exam, so you will lose that argument.)
Came for the riding tips, stayed for the overwhelming empathy and kindness towards others
Came for the inclusivity, stayed for the physics lessons on motorcycles, myself lol That's pretty rad! This dude is doing something right for sure 😊
Cheers!
@@sethx9659 this is a beautiful comment. As someone who has hate directed at her on pretty much a daily basis, seeing people embrace empathy, acceptance, and even love for people they don't even know, and will probably never meet brings tears to my eyes.
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I was an incel a few years back, hated women slowly got seduced by far right idologies. One day I saw a blatently racist discussion in a discord I was on, and it felt wrong. I started questionning everything I belived in. Today I'm out of it fighting for all human rights, I'm no longer single and I'm way happier than before.
Glad to have you with us, bud
Congratulations my friend, I hope a lot of others will find their way.
If you make a video / blog telling your story, I'll spread it to as many people as I can.
@@atomharcos99 you’re a thin-skinned coward, more accurately.
@@atomharcos99 LGBTQI+ is not a cult, maybe that group of people were.
There are going to be bad people who get offended quickly in any kind of group.
its so amazing that even though this video was made over a year ago, you're still to this day hearting and replying to comments (also this video made me lowkey tear up lol)
I’m trans, and I’m scared. The USA puts my life up for debate, I mean we’re already on stage 7/8 of genocide- but this video gave me just a bit of hope. Thank you dude, and thank you to guys like you.
From a fellow trans anarchist you aren’t alone.
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I hate what is happening in the USA to people like you and me (trans agender). I am thankful I live in a location where I am not at risk of those rights being ripped away from me and am about to approach my GP for surgery after getting supporting documentation from my psychologist and psychiatrist. Just knowing I will get it in the next 12 months has made me feel so good, cause now I know my hatred of a particular part of my body has an expiry date and will not be permanent. It is so empowering. I hate that not all trans people who need surgery of heck even just HRT will be able to get it in the USA. They won’t have the money to go elsewhere to get it (it is already expensive without travel if I wasn’t living with my parents who accept me it would not be an option for me). It will cost so many lives and the lives that aren’t lost will drastically reduce in quality when they don’t need to with the technology we have. It is a step backwards in making it easier for trans people to live as equal people. I am not saying we aren’t equal, because we more than certainly are, but we aren’t always treated that way by society when we should be. I know that even though my country is inclusive, I still had to fight for years for my medical conditions (some to do with being AFAB and bad luck, some specifically trans and sometimes not taken seriously on unrelated issues because they knew I was trans) to be taken seriously.
" stage 7/8 of genocide" ??
Sorry, your LIFE? You mean an experimental injection that hasn’t existed until very recently in human history? GENOCIDE? You mean people not wanting KIDS TO DO THIS, YET???
I'm not the two intended audiences, but I get a lot of emotional healing from this. Seeing people learn and grow and share that is everything. Especially when they grew to be kind to people like me.
@@Jane-oz7pp you were the secret third intended audience
Even with all these lovely and hopeful and loving comments, you probably don't realize how many people you have positively impacted with this video. Thank you
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i love the straight to the point aspect of this video, absolutely no hate in this video just fact and growth! very honest and candid
As a non-binary motorcyclist, I always have to stay a little wary when interacting with the community. Seeing outspoken allies like you in the community is not just refreshing, but heartwarming. Thank you for using your platform to promote tolerance in a digestible manner to those who need it the most ♡
you cannot be "non-binary". The whole universe is binary. By declaring yourself: "Non-binary" means you are declaring yourself non-existent.
Nonbinary?
@@hydropuppy1 there is no such thing as non binary. It is a totally imaginary condition.
The first trans person I interacted with ever was a woman walking down the street while I was on a religious mission. We stopped and talked with her and she politely told us she didn’t think she was our target audience. But she also seemed really anxious about walking alone during the evening in a very religious area of the U.S. so I asked if we could walk her wherever she was going. We walked her to her job at Wendy’s and she was grateful. Later a member of our church who saw us walking her to work asked why we were walking with a t-slur. My companion, who was really conservative and still had a lot of homo/transphobia, said “we figured that’s what Jesus would have done.”
The first trans person I ever knew complexly is one of the worse people I ever met and to this day low key abuses a very close friend she’s in a relationship with. I know that’s just because she’s a bad person not because she’s trans. The second trans person I got to know complexly only comes to our magic the gather nights if I’ll be there because she knows I’ll complain to the game store’s manager if anyone is being toxic. I’m not a white knight but transphobes seem to shut up and leave when a cis white dude says so, so I just try to do what Jesus would do.
That´s a very nice sentiment
This. That is what Christianity is meant to be. Not a reason to oppress someone else but a reason to love and care for others. You sir are the kind of people we need more of in this world
Yes! Yes! Okay okay. For starters im an atheist, i try my best to be kind to religious people and not let my beliefs and theirs clash. I really don't see many treat me kindly once they learn about me being nonreligious. I live in the bible belt and commonly gets harassed by some members of my community and for a while it really really stained my perception of religion as a whole. But eventually i met a friend, and their family, who were very religious yet very accepting. They told me they didn't agree with me but it wouldn't stop them from being kind and loving. And although i haven't met many that show me that kindness ive seen from them It still made me feel incredibly different about religious people.
People like you make a difference, seriously. Religion still isn't my favorite but if it were to be taught in the way you believe I truely believe it would be much more popular and treated much mlre kindly by other nonreligious people (sadly many of us are rather disrespectful). Anyways, just know that i respect you for your actions and it makes a difference.
(Im not the best at explaining this but i hope you get my gist)
@@moonmanjam9897 completely agree with you. I think you could have worded it better as to not offend anyone but I understand and completely agree with what you said. If only people could remember that their religion may condone homosexuality but it above all encourages love and acceptance.
@@Victoria_Huot or a reason to act out a genocide/crusade
As a bi intersex person, thank you so much for supporting us. It means a lot, and honestly, we just want to live life.
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What is intersex?
@@Wheagg when someone is born with both genders, even biologically.
@@baconiumo ...I'm confused. How does that work?
@@Wheagg People can, due to chromosomal composition or because of the way they developed in the womb, have both or neither of the genitals, or a combination/ morph between both. Sometimes, even if they don't have anything identifiably different about them during birth, they can start developing atypically during puberty. Intersex people are estimated to be around 2-3% of the human population. You can be intersex and go your entire life without knowing it.
This is so beautiful honestly. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest!
I’m a non-binary person, and this made me cry. There is so so so much hate for trans people right now that I find myself only being able to trust other queer people or leftist commentators. Seeing just a regular dude give such complete support, going beyond casual “I’m fine with it” to wishing to stand up for our rights, means a lot. Thank you
Not a single piece of evidence whatsoever or any substantive facts... gender theory was invented in the 60s by a man named john money who molested two boys to prove his gender theory which people now espouse... If gender is distinct from sex, why use the terms "trans man" and "trans women"? Why not make your own words? Also, why do "trans women" belong in womens sports if womens sports is for biological females? Taking hormones doesn't turn you into another sex either....
None of the evidence supports gender theory or transgenderism.... And no, these foreign cultures with a so-called "third gender" don't actually consider them a gender at all.. it's a societal role, like a eunuch in ancient times. It's just not true.
No there is not hate for trans people or lgbt people. We don't hate you, we just want you to stop being authoritarians and controlling what other people can say and think. You cannot force people to ignore the reality of chromosomes. You are not non-binary, you are the sex you were born as. This isn't hate. I don't hate you.
@@AR15andGOD
1. Lol, tell that to Michael Knowles who said “transgenderism needs to be eradicated from public life.” If you were a trans person, you would know that we cannot exist online without being harassed. I don’t care whether or not you “feel” hate in your heart for me. If your bigotry comes from a “neutral” place, that just shows me you have so little empathy for trans people that you’re willing to be passively bigoted without caring about our well-being. It doesn’t affect you, so you don’t care the damage you are doing.
2. Calling me “authoritarian” while telling me what I am and what I am not is ironic as hell. I’m leaving a comment on a video supporting me, I haven’t spoken to you at all, and you have the gall to tell me what I am. But that’s not “authoritarian”? I have never denied what my sex is. Non-binary is my gender, not my sex. I have never forced anybody to use my name and pronouns. I’m not even out to most people. If somebody disrespects my identity, yeah, I wouldn’t want them around me, but those are my boundaries, and boundaries are healthy, not “authoritarian.”
3. Chromosomes are not the only indicator of sex. You likely do not know what your chromosomes are; it is possible to have chromosomes that don’t match your outward sex. They used to test chromosomes for Olympic athletes, but they stopped, because the female athletes would, more frequently than they expected, have XY chromosomes. Look up Santhi Soundarajan, Caster Semenya. Both have a vagina from birth and XY chromosomes. Raised as women, because, of course. Their chromosomes were not tested at birth. Which one do you go with for them? Which one are they “allowed” to identify as? Sex is not as black and white as you would like it to be.
@@AR15andGOD Actually, John Money was trying to prove that if you gave somebody different genitals, they would psychologically become that gender. His research was undoubtably fucked up and terrible to those poor kids, but he removed the child’s genitals to prove that if the parents raised him as a girl, he would become a girl. That, of course, didn’t happen, and that boy was miserable. Ironically, he proved the opposite of what he was intending to do, which is that gender identity is innate and cannot be changed by forcing someone to be different.
@@AR15andGOD No there is not hate for God or religious oligarchs/followers. We don't hate you, we just want you to stop being authoritarians and controlling what other people can say and think and do. You cannot force people to do what the bible says or stop doing what you don't like. You are not the foundation that was based off of a book written by dead people to promote peer pressure. This isn't hate. I don't hate you.
Can't say my story is more interesting than yours, but I too was once very transphobic. I openly said "Yeah if you are biologically a girl then you can call yourself that, but you can't play *fucking dress-up*"
Eventually I simply grew up past the age of 15, and also spoke to a trans person on discord. She spoke to me about my problems, and while I was still very transphobic, I was also very non-confrontational, so I just humored her. Then she talked more and I humored her more, and more, until I started to actually grow some empathy. My support for her became less fake and more genuine the more I talked to her, until eventually I vowed to always stay by her side until she was happy.
I essentially tricked myself into being a huge trans rights activist lmao. And of course, since I've always been a boy of science, all the mountains and mountains of scientific and medical evidence validating trans people helped convince me too.
The radical kindness of trans women will absolutely change the world
Very based self transformation
finally, someone who says it just science and then actually listened to science. to often people just say that to make themselves look like the reasonable party in a discussion, but will then immediately disagree if you bring up actual science zo disprove them. it's always nice to see someone who puts their money where their mouth is and actually is willing to listen and change.
My experience with casual homophobia was pretty similar to his, but I never found the time to judge trans people. Usually I thought it looked kind of odd, but never had thoughts significantly more complex than that. By the time I realized there were no arguments against the rights of gay people it just naturally extended to the rights of trans people. They deserve not only the right to be who they want, but to have society encourage them to be who they want without recourse
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I used to be “transphobic” and “homophobic”. I’m using quotes bc my parents forced that mindset on me when I was young, and even then I simply couldn’t grasp why I had to hate these people. I did, bc I was a kid with zero autonomy, but that mindset was built on confusion and doubt.
Unsurprisingly, I am now entirely supportive of trans people.
And I’m bi.
dude my parents never forced any anti lgbtq ideology on me but they VERY MUCH dont like the gays i didnt know what the difference of trand guy and girl was but then yknow i wished i was a girl and very quickly learned and im bi and my parents dont like it
ayy i lived the same life and am pan and a trans ally, twinsies
I relate to this entire comment
Incredible video. I watch a lot of moto content and had no idea this is you!
Thank you for you visibility, you ARE making a difference.
You're officially my favorite motorcycle RUclipsr. I'm straight but a large part of my friend group is LGBTQ+ and it's refreshing to see someone in our community with your attitude and I hope more people start to have the same point of view.
"Trans women are women"
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Thank you so much for this. As a gay man I am afraid to fly the rainbow flag, my fiance wants to put it outside of our house, but I feel that we would get only trouble, even though there is a Trans flag down the street. Afraid of being called a predator and a groomer and it's sad... You are changing the world one person at a time. Thank you for this.
i was really down this weekend and it was pride here in Sweden. I had read so many anti-lgbtq but especially anti-trans comments online that scared me to my core. People that said they were gonna... well i dont want to exactly write what they said but it was hate crimes. Me and my brother wanted to go to pride parade but i was just sooo down, he wanted to wear all pride colored clothing and have flags and i was jsut.. noo.. lets just go neutral cuz i was honestly scared for our lives.. and especially his cuz he is trans. then when we went to pride parade i was just... i felt like i could breathe. i saw 50k + people all in pride colors and especially the trans flag (ive never seen that many before) and it was such a relief. i was so scared but seeing them, and nothing bad happened just felt like a relief. So many families, elders, children and grownups just celebrating. Now I've put up both the trans flag and the pride flag on our balcony. I'm still a little bit scared sometimes, but i feel more confident.
Why would you guys get in trouble but not the house with the trans pride flag? As a gay trans man (who passes as a cis man 100% of the time now) I’ve received more hate for being trans than for being gay, so I’m careful about who I tell. Is it because you think the trans flag isn’t as well-known? That used to be the case, but now most right wingers know what it looks like. My car used to have a small trans pride heart bumper sticker on it and when I lived in Southern CA, someone smashed the windshield in (presumably because of that sticker). I want to say that we can’t live our lives in fear, but I’m more cautious since experiencing stuff like that. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, but chances are if the house down the street hasn’t been messed with, you guys shouldn’t be either
@@MS-we9gn I think they just meant that they're still scared/uncomfortable even though they have seen other lgbt flags. They don't feel safe to put up a flag on their own despite knowing their neighbor have a flag up and nothing has happened.
You are a predator and a groomer. Children walk the streets, they don't need to know about your sex preferences. Freak.
Ive considered myself an ally for some time now but always thought the pride flag wasnt for me to hang up because it isnt my pride. That it is a very easy way to show people that i am an ally never occurred to me as more important. Ill go buy a pride flag and hang it outside my window.
There's a flag specifically for cis/het allies of the LGBTQ+ community, it's called an ally flag.
ive had the same thoughts about the flag but this video helped me understand that its important to show support! i plan on having them on my car!
Yeah, hang that outside. Any gays that think that is appropriation are idiots! You can get them free from some websites!
I'll tear it down and burn it, child molester. Why be prideful of something you didn't choose? WHITE PRIDE WORLD WIDE am I right??
I walk in my neighborhood a lot, and there's just a couple houses with pride flags outside, and they make me feel so much safer.
"I wanna save the world,do you want to save the world?"
This fucking hits so hard,it roots to even children having the thoughts of being a hero and the dream dying down as they get older.Sure we all dont have super powers but you have a voice and by using it to change the world to be more accepting and loving,that itself feels like more than a superpower.That video of the rally as well,it shows that the protestors aren't evil,its the "protectors" that are truely abusing their powers and role in society. Huge applaud to yous,you earned my sub.
Quick tip to any cis guy allies. You may not realise the power of saying “that’s fugged man” when someone says something transphobic/homophobic
Bro that made me think for a good minute on that, that’s some good ass advice
i always try to press friends and family whenever they say stuff like that, it’s just not okay
that is a simple but so impactful thing for people to do. it can make so much difference for people to even just realise that saying bad stuff like that isn’t actually ok
what’s ‘that’s fugged man’? i’ve never heard of it before
@@intersectionalfeminista it's just a censored version of "that's fucked, man". like "that's fucked up".
I’m a 24 yr old trans guy. Transitioning saved my life. Thank you for advocating for us 💖
I am 22 trans agender. I wouldn’t say it saved my life, but I can see how for some people it more than certainly would. But what I will say is realising and accepting that about myself has improved the quality of my life ten fold at least.
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In my late teenage years I fell for a lot of transphobic rhetoric, but then one of my friends came out as a trans woman and I had to make a decision: do I want to be an asshole, or do I want to be a good person?
The choice was easy.
Based dude here
You chose to be an asshole?
One of my favorite little memories from my school days is when another student called me gay as an insult, I replied with something to the effect of "Yeah, so what if I am?" in a completely neutral and casual tone. Dude froze, stammered something, and left. Never had people use it as an insult since as far as I remember.
I didn't consider myself gay back then, nor do I now, I'm seesawing between bi and ace. But the notion of someone being gay, not hiding it, and not getting defensive or offended when being called gay completely fried the brain of someone who saw it as an insult.
I can relate to this so much...as a Muslim girl being raised in a small town in India...I never really hear much about lgbt+ stuff....i used to be homophobic since i thought they didn't fitted god's plan...Turns out i was just a middle schooler hearing and repeating what my elders told me to without thinking for myself... Now I'm in 1st year of an engineering college and let me tell you this... Everyone fits God's Plan...especially Lgbtq+ community ❤🏳️🌈❤
same except I moved to Vancouver and this shi ass on foe so many brown ppls in the mafia around here.
That is truly remarkable. Our country is massively homophobic and depending on whom you ask, Christians and Muslims compete on who hates the LGBTQ+ more.
Weirdly enough, and you can google this yourself, Hindu Fascist Organisation RSS recently came out saying that they don't have a problem with LGBTQ+ people. This is surprising, world over fascists usually hate LGBT+
They're not going to be very accepting of you or me though, so be vary.
@skankhunt42 I: "cultural marxism" is a fascist dogwhistle
Hate the sin, love the sinner is what they say (except if the sinner is shaytan)
Amazing story
As a gay man I say, "thank you." Sadly in this day and age it's still hard to find inclusiveness in the riding community, which is why I mostly ride with my gay friends.
It’s so fucking sad that it’s like that
Great. Keep it that way. I don't mind gay people, but as long as you identify as a rainbow cultist, ill have nothing to do with you.
"Trans women are women"
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Harley Davidson biker bars always seem pretty gay to me : D
It's cos the trans people keep grooming kids and folk rightly don't like that
I was mormon, completely raised to believe that being queer in any way was one of the worst sins you could commit. It took years of interacting with people in the queer community to realize just how harmful homophobia and transphobia is. Thank you for making videos like this to shake the opinions of those who think their homophobia and transphobia isn't a big deal.
homophobia and transphobia what they want to hide the real truth from these sex freaks.
@NJP-SupremacistI know you're likely just here to spread hate, but you realize that people converting to Christianity due to good interactions with Christians could be seen the exact same way - as people being corrupted by being around corrupted people. I don't believe Christianity or queerness is corruption, just saying your comment isn't making the point you think it is.
@NJP-Supremacistor it's empathy and realizing the humanity of others regardless of how similar or different they are from yourself. I hope you develop that.
@elizatoponce9375 I was also raised Mormon, I totally get where you're coming from. The turning point for me was when I realized that I was a part of the groups I had been told were so evil. My own queerness didn't make sense in the context of how I had been taught to view it and the cognitive dissonance forced me to evaluate why I had been taught to believe so many ignorant things in the first place. I have nothing but respect for people like you who are able to empathize with stigmatized people without needing to be a part of the group first, I sometimes wonder how long it would have taken me to do the same if I hadn't turned out to be part of the queer community myself. Thanks for being an ally ❤
@NJP-Supremacist that is objectively false, ass backwards, and racist AF. There are differences in our genetics, sure, but they don't determine how we think or our value as people. And your race certainly doesn't have any impact on that. There are more differences, genetically speaking, within any given race than there are between any two given races. That's because The lines between where one race ends and another one starts ARE entirely arbitrary and its only significance is in how groups of people have historically been and are currently being treated based upon what they've been arbitrarily categorized into. So, you're right, you're not just missing empathy, you're also missing basic education and have a severely flawed understanding of genetics and psychology if anything at all. Source: I studied biology in undergrad with a focus on evolution and genetics. And feel free to try to guess my race, I guarantee you will be wrong.
As a trans man, I cried watching this. This really boost my hope that there’s still a chance for equality and peace. I may not see it in my lifetime, but, the hope is still there. Thank you for all the support you’ve done and I hope the best for rest of your life
as a trans person you have no idea how much I appreciate this. thank you
as a straight normal person, i like this video because it allows me to get information to back up facts so when im talking to an individual like you, i can knock some sense into you
Watch out bro @adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbctg said he’s gonna knock some sense into you
@@stankunloadeduniversity3726 im very afraid now
@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcgg yeah buddy, sure you will 💀
@@adyyvhbgcfbjjggghbbcggof course you’d immediately get violent
As a trans person I cannot express my absolute gratitude. You are living proof that minds can change for the better and a shining example of what all young, politically conflicted men can be if they reflect on their beliefs and learn to stand up for the people they care about.
Our community appreciates people like you, and everything you represent. Much love, Marina ❤
I second this
I feel like I’ve been that person to some people and I’m glad I could help people learn to love each other
I'm a 6'4 trans woman and I really relate to those stories of being gawked at in stores. I am privileged that I am able to pass now (mostly) so it doesn't happen often anymore, but in the beginning it was genuinely daunting to just go outside, even in my fairly progressive hometown of New York City. I remember being laughed at, being given death stares, and once these two guys even spat at me and started following me. I had to run into a convenience store to avoid them. I still sometimes get stares, but nowadays most of the harassment I get is just the typical harassment that all women face. I appreciate you speaking up as an ally and trying to make change in communities that would never listen to people like me.
Trans woman here too… isn’t it odd when we are glad that our harassment is ‘just’ misogyny as opposed to trans misogyny! One day maybe no harassment full stop but I expect that’s not something that will be experienced by any marginalised people alive today, but one step at a time!! 😊😂
i'm a 5'5" trans guy and i wish we could swap heights
@@nohintshere why did you assume she would like to do that? Maybe she doesn't want to change it anymore. I haven't gotten that energy from her comment.
@@0NeeN0 slow your roll
@@hand13932 wdym? what did i do wrong. I did like their comment and main comment also, I could be wrong with what I wrote but i just pointed out that she didn't communicate that she would like to be smaller. That wasn't hate comment, just something I saw and told to cj-the-cg4y (sorry, comment would get deleted) that she might not be "wishing" to. I just got the vibe that "I wish we could swap heights" means that, that person wishes to be taller and wishes for her to be smaller. Sorry for calling you they/them but I don't know your pronouns and didn't want to be a jerk.
Had this phase where i was just pissed at LGBT people for really no reason. Getting fed only bad examples really didn’t help either. I made a switch and i’m thankful i don’t believe that garbage anymore. Now, i have a few homophobic friends and i hope that i can make them realize that hating on someone for just being who they are is one of the most awful things you can do.