It’s genuinely good to hear both of them having this mindset. There’s so much hook up culture & it’s refreshing to have people my age that are in it for more of that long term Vs hook up.
Amen to this! Single going on 7 years, why? Personal choice because most guys my age seem to be just interested in some fun and done shit. I can wait for the right one to come my way.
I'm sure it's more common with men, and it sadly does happen on both sides. 'Being Well' podcast and the book 'How To Be An Adult' should be mandatory. If we collectively got better at healing core attachment wounds and trauma, our societies would be way better. People wouldn't be so afraid of committing -- hookup culture would most likely become less of a thing as a result. Sex is so much better when it's with a partner with real connection. Hookups seem shallow imo (which is why I've never been for it).
As a 20 year old woman who honestly finds hookup culture and the normalization of cheating to be beyond disgusting and horrible, it’s genuinely refreshing to see that there are still men in this world today who have good values and actually want to fall in love, get married and have a family
No , don't get it twisted. By high standards we mean high standards not just hookup culture . Hookup culture is beyond DISGUSTING . My family is rich and wont accept a woman with poor family , and i wouldn't either . I want her to have a rich family but she shouldn't work and do the woman's role in house . And certain certain looks that i desire , that's what standards are . Low body count is the bare minimum , i myself have a low body count .
Finally! A guy saying anytime your having sex, it takes a piece of you! Emotional intelligence is Priceless!! Just fir starters, glad I saw this,needed it👍
Guy admit a girl is out of his league? Have you seen those cat callers? Even guys off the streets are audacious! It depends on how good looking a person is, the more good looking the weirder the response. Both genders are guilty of over estimating themselves.
I think some guys feel they don't have anything to lose so they go for it and just handle rejection better. But also, maybe they use a tactic that's actually quite off-putting so when rejected, they can play it off like it was nothing.
Nah ur avg guy does admit certain girls are out for their league like Istg I can’t rmb a time where a girl said “he’s too good for me” or “he’s out of my league” cat callers don’t make up the majority of men
@@doernbecherr I think girls generally talk about these things amongst themselves, so it makes sense why you wouldn't have heard it if you're a guy. As a girl, I can say we talk about feeling inadequate and whatnot quite often.
One thing I have been noticing is that when a man is desired by some women, and these women say good things about said man, other women tend to follow and find him attractive too, without much critical thinking too…
I'm a woman whose a Christian with traditional views and I've been rejected by men. But in hindsight I'm very thankful they did because they weren't the right one for me. After all that rejection God did bless me with my husband ❤
Being married is the absolute best thing ever!! To wake up next to your best friend every day and know that they love you know matter what….there’s nothing like it.
Amen. I've been married almost 11 years and I love hanging out with my husband and kids! I'm a stay at home mom who homeschools my entire life in centered around my husband and kids and sometimes I just wonder what I did to get so blessed.
I disagree. Bearing children and raising them is the best, your partner is an adult, no one completes you. The institution of marriage is made to benefit men, you marry 2 entities, your parter and the government, its a business. of course none of this is laid out when you are young and naive, but once you go through family court and larne the laws of marriage, you realize that the state can take your kids away and parents and partners have very little rights, the government wins. It's a con and more people, specially ladies who want to be empowered should educate themselves with a divorce attorney before they get married, THEN they'll know what they're really getting into. If the partnership lasts a lifetime, bless them, mind you I never once spoke about happiness. The best partnerships Ive seen are the ones where the expectations are Clear cut and the 'business' arrangement of who is responsible for what are clear and so are the consequences. humans are flawed and temptation is everywhere.
This is refreshing. As someone who’s wanted marriage and a life with someone and have only run into men who are more into hook up and situationships it’s exhausting. It’s so nice to hear this perspective and you guys are so deserving. Matt is a well rounded person and I’ve just recently maybe a month ago found his comedy videos 10/10 guy for sure.
He's a mature, intelligent "old soul." That's why his mindset is different. He's attractive but he doesn't have his head up his ass and he's a genuine person. He's also mentioned that he was a late bloomer and it gave him a chance to form a personality.
Instead of sleeping with multiple people to have different experience’s just for fun- it is SO fkin fun to be able to have someone you trust and are able to have multiple experiences with because you’re comfortable, trust them, and you get to keep it exciting while still feeling at home
He is so right about men's reaction. My first time watching was that 1 hour special, and I was like "this dude is too good looking for stand up, I will give him 5 minutes only", then he wins me over and became one of my favourites. Keep going Matt you're a comedy genius
dude same. I started thinking oh he is over of women's chocolate boys...women pleaser with liberal values and hates fellow men. But no! What a role model he is to me now!
I'm not sure why hearing a grown straight man admitting he wants a relationship almost made me cry just for the fact of a grown straight man admitting he wants a relationship but thanks for uploading
Dear Rife, wear your glasses and go to art departments until you meet an MFA gettin' girl who loves history...I could see it happening. That's the kinda girl you deserve; smart, driven, accepts emotions, and will look at you off stage and want you. You deserve that! You deserve love bud, you'll find it :)
Matt is just too perfect in a guy he scares me. And trust me it's totally not because of his looks. He's wholesome. I know exactly what it feels like to want to feel at home. Can be exhausting. It's endearing to hear this coming from this man. 😔
Very inspiring to hear this! I am a dancer who’s single constantly touring alone. It’s very lonely and tempting to have that lifestyle but to have this kind of integrity to hold yourself up to those values really needs a lot of self love and focus! Thank you for this.
It takes character to refrain from those temptations. Indian values must be helping you in this though. Hang in there sis, your husband will be grateful of your right choices❤️
Your spouse should feel like home. You have to be picky. The person you pick, you need to build with. There is no time for jealousy of the spouse's success because the two of you should be building that empire together. You support each other and you grow as a couple, family and run your own business. Your partner should also be your best friend. No relationship is perfect because we all have flaws, but I know I can go to mine, and we will figure it out. Also, as a co-founder of a domestic violence organization in Philadelphia, I can't stress this enough. Be very picky with your partner because they can either build you or destroy you. You could be the best at what you do but having the wrong person in your life, will destroy you in the end. People who are picky, know what they want and most times, it isn't just the looks. Yes, that's the first thing as that's natural but you have to bring more to the table to build this empire. We have one life, and we live that every day. Make sure you live it with someone who brings out the best version of you and together, your possibilities for success are endless. All the best to Matt John, and their teams.
Working in healthcare for 7 years and seeing how hookups were fleeting and ruining so many peoples professional and personal lives completely turned me off from even thinking about trying anything like that. It just isn’t worth it or you realize early on it’s not for you.
Having been painfully aware of being the ugly friend my whole life I'm super aware there are soooo many guys "out of my league" 💁♀️ Anyway, nice to hear honesty.
Girl, I was the funny, chubby friend and I married an ex Army Ranger/engineer. Don't let anything stop you. Just work on being the best version of yourself and be confident. That's what I did and I got the man of my dreams! Been married almost 11 years and have 3 babies, together!
If the other person gives you positive vibes and uplifts you from where you already are they’d be adding to your life not even neutralizing it, or subtracting from it. If they are in any field in their life, your future partner should be one of the top people to ALWAYS cheer you on. 🙂
This makes me feel so much better when it comes to men because for so long I’ve always believed men just want as many women as possible & as a female, it’s a traumatizing thought to believe. So thank you for this. Positive reinforcement when it comes to men with standards and morals.
All the years women spend staying single and waiting for commitment-imagine if men actually liked that, we wouldn’t all be single in our 30s 40s beyond lol
I'd be willing to go on a date with him but I live in Europe 😂 but seriously, Matt seems like a genuinely nice, loving, faithful man and that's very attractive
As a married woman, with two boys with the man I love- being married is so much better than hookup culture. Of course the thing is to pick someone you can grow with, share your good and bad times with and have the same goals for what life looks like together. For instance me and my husband love our children. They are our most favorite people in existence and even when times are hard we always come together and show up for our kids. I’ve been with him since I was 18 years old and now at 24 and hearing other people around my age talk about these exact struggles of dating and wanting to find a special person it does hit me that I’ve truly been blessed. A lot of society makes it sound so fun to just be with random people temporarily and never make connections or have feelings toward anyone. And maybe that’s fine temporarily. But eventually we all want to find home in another person.
Where have you been all of my life?! Lol. @MattRife. Not only that you're charming, intelligent, sense of humor is impeccable. I respect you so much for wanting long term with one, genuine woman instead of "hoeing around" with multiple girls. That ish is rare to find loyal, honest men.
Imagine being the butt of all his "My Wife..." jokes. Devastating. Lovely looking, and very funny, but it would be hard, and with so many other girls throwing themselves at him while he's on the road. And so far it's it's all about him, he wants a wife to feel like 'home', what about feeling like home for his wife. Emotionally immature, the silly girls will love that.
Tell me you're insecure without telling me. Lmao obviously he'd be home to the wife too. It's just he was stating his preferences this time. Yall can't handle the few times guys have standards n expectations.
This was a really heartfelt discussion. I feel for men in this “new” world that revolves around women who think they’re living this empowered life when they’re really just acting entitled.
Casual sex is very draining. I’m not being Bertha Better Than You, I’ve had a bunch of casual but my point is at 38 I know now the transfer of energy with someone you love vs some rando…very important. Some of those people are energy vampires lol joking but not joking. Love you Matt! I hope you find a beautiful, hilarious, humble, flexible wife soon sweetheart ❤
As a fat girl now, i definitely deal more with rejection and wouldn't go for someone out of my league. I feel like people are full of shit when they say not to discount yourself and go after the hot guys. Are there some guys that are into big women? Sure, but they then will have to do the work to make her feel that he's genuinely interested in her
Society's moral compass is so off, people are searching to be loved, but if they can't except that Jesus loves them, then love will be hard to recognize. So instead, they remain shallow in their emotional lives to keep from getting hurt. Too afraid to commit. Intimacy, we need it to feel fulfilled. Even when it's just companionship. Lots of lonely people out there.
I almost couldn’t finish watching this because the generalizations are off the charts lol but I have mad respect for Matt’s character. He sees the pointlessness of hooking up. It’s great to hear. It’s the same as being addicted to porn. It’s not good for the soul. And it’s also mentally taxing. Every person you meet has something messed up going on with them and it’s not good to just go around collecting all that insanity in your psyche. Pick one crazy person to appreciate and move on 😂 sex always happens when it’s dark anyway, it’s not THAT exciting to have new partners all the time.
Um, sex always happens when it's dark? Huh, I better tell my SO. He's not gonna be pleased when he has to start taking care of his morning wood all by himself.....😂 Idk, I'd say it's not THAT exciting to only have sex in the dark - kinda like saying we can only have sex in bed, at night, missionary style, only while ovulating on Wednesday evenings after the kids have been asleep for 2hrs......🤣 Ok, so I'm being a bit extreme and silly but I'm sure I've kinda made my goofy point.
In this hook up and don't ask questions culture, I can really appreciate guys your ages who really value a relationship and how great being with THAT person can be. Matt, but picky as you need to be. You're situation needs to be protected from women who are looking for the gorgeous, well-off guy to take advantage of. You are much better than that!!
Marriage and settling down is x1,000 better than the single life and dating. Dating and hook ups are full of heart ache, exhaustion, and bad news. Maybe not in the moment, but that stuff affects you down the road too. I’m so stoked that being an influential comedian right now, he’s stepping out and sharing this opinion.
I tell my kids the same thing when looking for a good person to be in a relationship with: “If I were trying to make myself a better person unselfishly, where would I go?” That is precisely where you will find them. For example: volunteering at an animal shelter, helping out at a soup kitchen, joining a fundraiser for a local charity to fight cancer…. Worst case scenario none of the participants at that event hit it off with you, but you did something good anyway. The next event you might have better luck but again it’s all good for your soul.
This makes me respect Matt Rife so much more. I don't know much about him, but I've seen some of his comedy on RUclips over the past couple months.... I guess I just assumed, from the way females in his audience sometimes interact with him and the type of jokes he has sometimes, that he was the type of guy to just sleep around. But I'm intrigued to find out that he is so picky and looking for the right type of girl for himself, not just anyone who will throw themselves at him. It's honestly very refreshing to see someone famous and 'good looking' respect themselves enough to look for a respectable woman. I hope he finds someone good that will love him for himself and not his money or fame. 🙌 I wish more men thought like this. I love my boyfriend, but he hasn't yet fully matured past this way of thinking, that men who get with lots of women are 'high quality', etc.... I see things the opposite, that those men are actually lower quality imo, not ideal partners in anyway, and that good men are the ones who go for quality versus quantity and have strong values. 🤔🤷🏻♀️
I've always felt that being with people you do give a piece of yourself, I've protected that even when I have friends not of the same mind. I'm a woman but it's nice to hear men think in a similar way.
The difference between you guys and the single 50yo what I call rock n roll lifestyles, is that you guys have MORALS. Real women love men that have morals.
Im a female and I don’t necessarily agree with the rejection part. In my experiences (not saying this applied to everyone) of rejecting the guy it backfires to something being wrong with me. These are friendships that I put boundaries for or dating potentials that didn’t go well. In being rejected, I understand im not their cup of tea. Am I an outlier because my friends are like this too?
Here's the thing. I think Matt has a bit of a different view because on the inside he is the guy he was a few years ago. The outside changing for him didn't change who he is as a person. It was a bit of an extreme change and while it's probably nice in some ways, it's also probably exhausting and frustrating in others. I think he has dealt with the change and fame rather well all-in-all, I'm sure having a good sense of humor and being able to laugh at yourself helps. So good for him looking for a girl who is beautiful inside and out. Unfortunately in LA that's almost impossible. I'm sure the kind of girls he would be interested in aren't out at the same events he is, and I think this is probably true of a lot of people in entertainment. Good luck to you both and wishing only the best!
Most fboi descusion ever. Every player I know, "wants to be wifed up." And then finds some Seinfeldian reason to break up. I just have high standards. She was a slow talker. Just something about her mom dynamic. She had 2 cats and I have a 1 cat max. Which is fine.
The fact he says he doesn't want to hookup with women on tour, a whole bunch of women are going to take that as a challenge LOL. They are like Challenge accepted!
I think the Internet, especially social media and dating apps, have made men and women blur the lines of what they want versus what they qualify for. And that is why you have so many bitter people creating posts and podcasts. They are eagles and self-esteem is bruised from being invisible to the people they really want
It's awesome that men seem to be realizing this about sleeping around, but the fact that he pointedly many times said it wasn't due to Christianity or a belief in God - why, though? Why would that be wrong? Why is that so bad? There is nothing wrong with having some faith, morality and believing in something greater than yourself.....
I don't believe in religion because of the pedophilic practices that religious people had in the past. 30-40 year old men marrying 13 year old girls etc. If there was a religion that didn't support that then I would be there for it
I get that his comedy thing is his job and is an act. But honestly, this real talk is 100% more attractive. Single men should be working on themselves and how they see women. Get your addictions straight, go to therapy if needed, etc. Don't bring so much baggage into a relationship. It hurts women. Which is why there are so many single girls these days.
Haha well Matt 😂 you got a cutie pie who IS an actress and dancer, so never say never. She seems super grounded and supportive, they make a beautiful couple. Blessings!
I have always said that once you hook up with someone, a piece of you is left with them. Its so refreshing knowing that I'm not alone in thinking that way.
Being picky isn’t a bad thing, if you’re looking to wife someone up they should have the qualities you want in them since you’ll be living the rest of your life with them. But on the flip side you have to be the best you can possibly be so you have more options to choose from
I want to husband up but no one out there is ready for commitment. 100% loyalty and to have a best friend. They'll come eventually but I ain't looking. I have high standards and that's what I deserve. Never settle for less.
Good for you, Matt! I am dating, and every guy wants to have an intimate night. I used to tour with a band and people view a person differently. I am so proud that you have those standards. It gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.
Nigel the comedian said the girls on the road were like those bars' swing doors, coming and going. Glad he now found someone he feels stable with... Good luck to them in finding someone special...
Can't speak for other women but I met a guy while I was in Istanbul, Turkey. Gorgeous!!!!!!! Smelled of money. He overheard me talking to a friend and he came and introduced himself and gave me his number. I never called....I thought he was way out of my league.
He definitely uses wrong words sometimes... provide solidarity for you? Not what you mean... You mean someone who's going to hold things down... someone who is going to provide a solid foundation to his chaotic life. Solidarity is more about kinship, having common interests, being one for a common cause... It's a little different.
It’s genuinely good to hear both of them having this mindset. There’s so much hook up culture & it’s refreshing to have people my age that are in it for more of that long term Vs hook up.
Right?!! But I'm 42 and even at this age, it is hard finding men with this mindset. It is aggravating. 10 years single.
Men in their 50’s and 60’s are still bouncing and hooking up!
I loved the “feels like home to me!” That is awesome 👏
Amen to this! Single going on 7 years, why? Personal choice because most guys my age seem to be just interested in some fun and done shit. I can wait for the right one to come my way.
I agree
I'm sure it's more common with men, and it sadly does happen on both sides. 'Being Well' podcast and the book 'How To Be An Adult' should be mandatory. If we collectively got better at healing core attachment wounds and trauma, our societies would be way better. People wouldn't be so afraid of committing -- hookup culture would most likely become less of a thing as a result. Sex is so much better when it's with a partner with real connection. Hookups seem shallow imo (which is why I've never been for it).
The fact that they recognize that hooking up takes a piece out of you is hopeful. Religious or not. It really does! This gives me hope.
Same! I'm a Christian, but i wholeheartedly believe this in a non religious sense too
Matt is young, but completely gets what a relationship should be. Your significant other is “ home”. Love this so much. ❤
As a 20 year old woman who honestly finds hookup culture and the normalization of cheating to be beyond disgusting and horrible, it’s genuinely refreshing to see that there are still men in this world today who have good values and actually want to fall in love, get married and have a family
No , don't get it twisted. By high standards we mean high standards not just hookup culture . Hookup culture is beyond DISGUSTING .
My family is rich and wont accept a woman with poor family , and i wouldn't either .
I want her to have a rich family but she shouldn't work and do the woman's role in house . And certain certain looks that i desire , that's what standards are . Low body count is the bare minimum , i myself have a low body count .
giving me (a 29 year old man) a bit of hope, right now
I admire his maturity ! Hats off to his mom and grandpa for raising an amazing human!
As what? Are you saying you're mature?
Finally! A guy saying anytime your having sex, it takes a piece of you! Emotional intelligence is Priceless!! Just fir starters, glad I saw this,needed it👍
Guy admit a girl is out of his league? Have you seen those cat callers? Even guys off the streets are audacious! It depends on how good looking a person is, the more good looking the weirder the response. Both genders are guilty of over estimating themselves.
I think some guys feel they don't have anything to lose so they go for it and just handle rejection better. But also, maybe they use a tactic that's actually quite off-putting so when rejected, they can play it off like it was nothing.
Nah ur avg guy does admit certain girls are out for their league like Istg I can’t rmb a time where a girl said “he’s too good for me” or “he’s out of my league” cat callers don’t make up the majority of men
@@doernbecherr I think girls generally talk about these things amongst themselves, so it makes sense why you wouldn't have heard it if you're a guy. As a girl, I can say we talk about feeling inadequate and whatnot quite often.
@@nkULTRA007 Especially when guys expect slim thicc with a tucked in p****, hairless, and whatnot.
@@MomoSimone22 handle rejection better?? if you ignore a cat caller, they get mad and call you ungrateful or a b*tch.
Whomever he chooses for his wife will be so blessed! ❤❤❤ He genuinely seems so perfect for a husband and a father. One of a kind rare gem!
Yeah he’s gorgeous, smart and has a sense of humor. Not to mention a great job
Seems. You don’t know him. I’m not saying he is bad thou but you know how human are.
One thing I have been noticing is that when a man is desired by some women, and these women say good things about said man, other women tend to follow and find him attractive too, without much critical thinking too…
What?! Nooooooo ……. 😂😂
And his girlfriend looks like just another futile woman on Instagram... maybe it's just looks... anyway...
I'm a woman whose a Christian with traditional views and I've been rejected by men. But in hindsight I'm very thankful they did because they weren't the right one for me. After all that rejection God did bless me with my husband ❤
Being married is the absolute best thing ever!! To wake up next to your best friend every day and know that they love you know matter what….there’s nothing like it.
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Amen. I've been married almost 11 years and I love hanging out with my husband and kids! I'm a stay at home mom who homeschools my entire life in centered around my husband and kids and sometimes I just wonder what I did to get so blessed.
I disagree. Bearing children and raising them is the best, your partner is an adult, no one completes you. The institution of marriage is made to benefit men, you marry 2 entities, your parter and the government, its a business. of course none of this is laid out when you are young and naive, but once you go through family court and larne the laws of marriage, you realize that the state can take your kids away and parents and partners have very little rights, the government wins. It's a con and more people, specially ladies who want to be empowered should educate themselves with a divorce attorney before they get married, THEN they'll know what they're really getting into. If the partnership lasts a lifetime, bless them, mind you I never once spoke about happiness. The best partnerships Ive seen are the ones where the expectations are Clear cut and the 'business' arrangement of who is responsible for what are clear and so are the consequences. humans are flawed and temptation is everywhere.
You are wrong marriage is the worst thing ever
@@anonymous-cx7ng many would disagree with you
This is refreshing. As someone who’s wanted marriage and a life with someone and have only run into men who are more into hook up and situationships it’s exhausting. It’s so nice to hear this perspective and you guys are so deserving. Matt is a well rounded person and I’ve just recently maybe a month ago found his comedy videos 10/10 guy for sure.
He's a mature, intelligent "old soul." That's why his mindset is different. He's attractive but he doesn't have his head up his ass and he's a genuine person. He's also mentioned that he was a late bloomer and it gave him a chance to form a personality.
He's mature for 28. Old soul for sure
Instead of sleeping with multiple people to have different experience’s just for fun- it is SO fkin fun to be able to have someone you trust and are able to have multiple experiences with because you’re comfortable, trust them, and you get to keep it exciting while still feeling at home
He is so right about men's reaction. My first time watching was that 1 hour special, and I was like "this dude is too good looking for stand up, I will give him 5 minutes only", then he wins me over and became one of my favourites. Keep going Matt you're a comedy genius
dude same. I started thinking oh he is over of women's chocolate boys...women pleaser with liberal values and hates fellow men. But no! What a role model he is to me now!
More emotionally intelligent, self aware men saying things like this please and thank you.
More such women too please...Women these days are so weak in character and promiscuity...This comment section is refreshing as a guy
I'm not sure why hearing a grown straight man admitting he wants a relationship almost made me cry just for the fact of a grown straight man admitting he wants a relationship but thanks for uploading
It's refreshing. Because so many people have so much fear in speaking on the desires of the heart.
Dear Rife, wear your glasses and go to art departments until you meet an MFA gettin' girl who loves history...I could see it happening. That's the kinda girl you deserve; smart, driven, accepts emotions, and will look at you off stage and want you. You deserve that! You deserve love bud, you'll find it :)
Nah humanities girls are politically charged toxic feminists. He'll do better.
Matt is just too perfect in a guy he scares me. And trust me it's totally not because of his looks. He's wholesome. I know exactly what it feels like to want to feel at home. Can be exhausting. It's endearing to hear this coming from this man. 😔
This is the most refreshing conversation I have listened to in a long time! 🙏
Very inspiring to hear this! I am a dancer who’s single constantly touring alone. It’s very lonely and tempting to have that lifestyle but to have this kind of integrity to hold yourself up to those values really needs a lot of self love and focus! Thank you for this.
It takes character to refrain from those temptations. Indian values must be helping you in this though. Hang in there sis, your husband will be grateful of your right choices❤️
Your spouse should feel like home. You have to be picky. The person you pick, you need to build with. There is no time for jealousy of the spouse's success because the two of you should be building that empire together. You support each other and you grow as a couple, family and run your own business. Your partner should also be your best friend. No relationship is perfect because we all have flaws, but I know I can go to mine, and we will figure it out. Also, as a co-founder of a domestic violence organization in Philadelphia, I can't stress this enough. Be very picky with your partner because they can either build you or destroy you. You could be the best at what you do but having the wrong person in your life, will destroy you in the end. People who are picky, know what they want and most times, it isn't just the looks. Yes, that's the first thing as that's natural but you have to bring more to the table to build this empire.
We have one life, and we live that every day. Make sure you live it with someone who brings out the best version of you and together, your possibilities for success are endless. All the best to Matt John, and their teams.
Working in healthcare for 7 years and seeing how hookups were fleeting and ruining so many peoples professional and personal lives completely turned me off from even thinking about trying anything like that. It just isn’t worth it or you realize early on it’s not for you.
Having been painfully aware of being the ugly friend my whole life I'm super aware there are soooo many guys "out of my league" 💁♀️ Anyway, nice to hear honesty.
Girl, I was the funny, chubby friend and I married an ex Army Ranger/engineer. Don't let anything stop you. Just work on being the best version of yourself and be confident. That's what I did and I got the man of my dreams! Been married almost 11 years and have 3 babies, together!
I love this. Its good to hear there are still ones out there with good morals and standards.
If the other person gives you positive vibes and uplifts you from where you already are they’d be adding to your life not even neutralizing it, or subtracting from it. If they are in any field in their life, your future partner should be one of the top people to ALWAYS cheer you on. 🙂
This makes me feel so much better when it comes to men because for so long I’ve always believed men just want as many women as possible & as a female, it’s a traumatizing thought to believe. So thank you for this. Positive reinforcement when it comes to men with standards and morals.
Every girl on the planet just spontaneously becoming single 😍😂
All the years women spend staying single and waiting for commitment-imagine if men actually liked that, we wouldn’t all be single in our 30s 40s beyond lol
Latina here but also a nerd so I never ever think dudes are flirting with me lol. I'm always like dude is out of my league.
This is the most shell-shockingly random combo of people
Imagine Matt Rife choosing you because your actually a good girl.. I would Die 💀
I'd be willing to go on a date with him but I live in Europe 😂 but seriously, Matt seems like a genuinely nice, loving, faithful man and that's very attractive
As a married woman, with two boys with the man I love- being married is so much better than hookup culture. Of course the thing is to pick someone you can grow with, share your good and bad times with and have the same goals for what life looks like together. For instance me and my husband love our children. They are our most favorite people in existence and even when times are hard we always come together and show up for our kids. I’ve been with him since I was 18 years old and now at 24 and hearing other people around my age talk about these exact struggles of dating and wanting to find a special person it does hit me that I’ve truly been blessed. A lot of society makes it sound so fun to just be with random people temporarily and never make connections or have feelings toward anyone. And maybe that’s fine temporarily. But eventually we all want to find home in another person.
LOVE these two! So happy John is in a serious relationship too😊
Where have you been all of my life?! Lol. @MattRife. Not only that you're charming, intelligent, sense of humor is impeccable. I respect you so much for wanting long term with one, genuine woman instead of "hoeing around" with multiple girls. That ish is rare to find loyal, honest men.
Imagine being the butt of all his "My Wife..." jokes. Devastating.
Lovely looking, and very funny, but it would be hard, and with so many other girls throwing themselves at him while he's on the road.
And so far it's it's all about him, he wants a wife to feel like 'home', what about feeling like home for his wife.
Emotionally immature, the silly girls will love that.
Tell me you're insecure without telling me. Lmao obviously he'd be home to the wife too. It's just he was stating his preferences this time. Yall can't handle the few times guys have standards n expectations.
@@tromboner6061 Lol, standards and expectations!!! I'm guessing you're either single or a control freak.
I just remembered the simpsons episode when Homer says human emotions don't work that way to a statement similar to yours.
@@nurhesen That made no sense whatsoever
@@TM-tx9ct wym? Haven't you watched that episode?
This was a really heartfelt discussion. I feel for men in this “new” world that revolves around women who think they’re living this empowered life when they’re really just acting entitled.
Casual sex is very draining. I’m not being Bertha Better Than You, I’ve had a bunch of casual but my point is at 38 I know now the transfer of energy with someone you love vs some rando…very important. Some of those people are energy vampires lol joking but not joking. Love you Matt! I hope you find a beautiful, hilarious, humble, flexible wife soon sweetheart ❤
As a fat girl now, i definitely deal more with rejection and wouldn't go for someone out of my league. I feel like people are full of shit when they say not to discount yourself and go after the hot guys. Are there some guys that are into big women? Sure, but they then will have to do the work to make her feel that he's genuinely interested in her
Right! And there's a high chance of us being fetishized😅
@@jennakeith5711 Yep!
Society's moral compass is so off, people are searching to be loved, but if they can't except that Jesus loves them, then love will be hard to recognize. So instead, they remain shallow in their emotional lives to keep from getting hurt. Too afraid to commit.
Intimacy, we need it to feel fulfilled. Even when it's just companionship. Lots of lonely people out there.
I almost couldn’t finish watching this because the generalizations are off the charts lol but I have mad respect for Matt’s character. He sees the pointlessness of hooking up. It’s great to hear. It’s the same as being addicted to porn. It’s not good for the soul. And it’s also mentally taxing. Every person you meet has something messed up going on with them and it’s not good to just go around collecting all that insanity in your psyche. Pick one crazy person to appreciate and move on 😂 sex always happens when it’s dark anyway, it’s not THAT exciting to have new partners all the time.
What do you mean by that?
@@raza3168 by what? I said a few things here. Mainly that it’s great that Matt sees the pointlessness of hooking up
Um, sex always happens when it's dark? Huh, I better tell my SO. He's not gonna be pleased when he has to start taking care of his morning wood all by himself.....😂
Idk, I'd say it's not THAT exciting to only have sex in the dark - kinda like saying we can only have sex in bed, at night, missionary style, only while ovulating on Wednesday evenings after the kids have been asleep for 2hrs......🤣
Ok, so I'm being a bit extreme and silly but I'm sure I've kinda made my goofy point.
@@nebabraitis9825 a bit too much detail for the internet
"Culture" wants people to believe men are the opposite of this. At 48 I watched this to see what your thoughts were. That's refreshing to hear.
His response to how he wants to be with someone made him sooooo much more attractive to me🥺❤️
In this hook up and don't ask questions culture, I can really appreciate guys your ages who really value a relationship and how great being with THAT person can be. Matt, but picky as you need to be. You're situation needs to be protected from women who are looking for the gorgeous, well-off guy to take advantage of. You are much better than that!!
I think he means he picky with looks 😂
@@FEEKAP Looks, age, maturity... etc... oh and fake boobies thing 😂
What a hopeful af convo. Hope in humanity
Marriage and settling down is x1,000 better than the single life and dating. Dating and hook ups are full of heart ache, exhaustion, and bad news. Maybe not in the moment, but that stuff affects you down the road too. I’m so stoked that being an influential comedian right now, he’s stepping out and sharing this opinion.
I tell my kids the same thing when looking for a good person to be in a relationship with: “If I were trying to make myself a better person unselfishly, where would I go?” That is precisely where you will find them. For example: volunteering at an animal shelter, helping out at a soup kitchen, joining a fundraiser for a local charity to fight cancer…. Worst case scenario none of the participants at that event hit it off with you, but you did something good anyway. The next event you might have better luck but again it’s all good for your soul.
Thank God we have men with wholesome values
I love these two!!!!!!! Matt is just waiting & she is like umm your hot and famous and probably sleeping with everyone.. when he’s really not
Matt, you’re bound to be blessed with Gods grace, that’s what I feel your seeking. ❤❤❤❤
Very refreshing. Matt is a great guy.
FINALLY....QUALITY MEN THAT HAVE STANDARDS....AND KNOWS WHAT BEING A REAL MAN IS....THESE ARE KINGS💯💯
Well come on Matt.... I'm waiting ❤😂
Yo! What?! This is the crossover I never knew I wanted until now!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏
matts head looks CRAZY in this
This makes me respect Matt Rife so much more. I don't know much about him, but I've seen some of his comedy on RUclips over the past couple months.... I guess I just assumed, from the way females in his audience sometimes interact with him and the type of jokes he has sometimes, that he was the type of guy to just sleep around. But I'm intrigued to find out that he is so picky and looking for the right type of girl for himself, not just anyone who will throw themselves at him. It's honestly very refreshing to see someone famous and 'good looking' respect themselves enough to look for a respectable woman. I hope he finds someone good that will love him for himself and not his money or fame. 🙌
I wish more men thought like this. I love my boyfriend, but he hasn't yet fully matured past this way of thinking, that men who get with lots of women are 'high quality', etc.... I see things the opposite, that those men are actually lower quality imo, not ideal partners in anyway, and that good men are the ones who go for quality versus quantity and have strong values. 🤔🤷🏻♀️
So soothing to listen to this mindset.
I've always felt that being with people you do give a piece of yourself, I've protected that even when I have friends not of the same mind. I'm a woman but it's nice to hear men think in a similar way.
Aww this makes me actually like Matt as a person. Love that ❤
The difference between you guys and the single 50yo what I call rock n roll lifestyles, is that you guys have MORALS. Real women love men that have morals.
So interesting that I have been watching the two and never thought I would see them together!
Name of the beat at the end?
Im a female and I don’t necessarily agree with the rejection part. In my experiences (not saying this applied to everyone) of rejecting the guy it backfires to something being wrong with me. These are friendships that I put boundaries for or dating potentials that didn’t go well. In being rejected, I understand im not their cup of tea. Am I an outlier because my friends are like this too?
Here's the thing. I think Matt has a bit of a different view because on the inside he is the guy he was a few years ago. The outside changing for him didn't change who he is as a person. It was a bit of an extreme change and while it's probably nice in some ways, it's also probably exhausting and frustrating in others. I think he has dealt with the change and fame rather well all-in-all, I'm sure having a good sense of humor and being able to laugh at yourself helps. So good for him looking for a girl who is beautiful inside and out.
Unfortunately in LA that's almost impossible.
I'm sure the kind of girls he would be interested in aren't out at the same events he is, and I think this is probably true of a lot of people in entertainment. Good luck to you both and wishing only the best!
Most fboi descusion ever.
Every player I know, "wants to be wifed up."
And then finds some Seinfeldian reason to break up. I just have high standards. She was a slow talker. Just something about her mom dynamic. She had 2 cats and I have a 1 cat max.
Which is fine.
Agreed bro
"not from a Christian thing" yet the reason God warns about that lifestyle is because He knows it "takes a piece of you"
Love Matt...I am 58 years old mother to a 14 year old son....I hope he got to see Matt on stage somewhere onday when he's already at least 18.
So rare! Glad to hear men still have values
This is such a great conversation
Refreshing, great to know that some guys still have a good compass.
The fact he says he doesn't want to hookup with women on tour, a whole bunch of women are going to take that as a challenge LOL. They are like Challenge accepted!
I think the Internet, especially social media and dating apps, have made men and women blur the lines of what they want versus what they qualify for. And that is why you have so many bitter people creating posts and podcasts. They are eagles and self-esteem is bruised from being invisible to the people they really want
Boy did THIS conversation need to HAPPEN. Do we know men any better now, girls? Treat them better and get the better treatment. 😊🎉❤🎉😊
Eh, I only treat men well if they treat women well first. Women are men’s mirrors, not the other way around. These people got it backwards.
Matt, how did you manage to get even more adorable?
It's awesome that men seem to be realizing this about sleeping around, but the fact that he pointedly many times said it wasn't due to Christianity or a belief in God - why, though? Why would that be wrong? Why is that so bad? There is nothing wrong with having some faith, morality and believing in something greater than yourself.....
I don't believe in religion because of the pedophilic practices that religious people had in the past. 30-40 year old men marrying 13 year old girls etc. If there was a religion that didn't support that then I would be there for it
I get that his comedy thing is his job and is an act. But honestly, this real talk is 100% more attractive. Single men should be working on themselves and how they see women. Get your addictions straight, go to therapy if needed, etc. Don't bring so much baggage into a relationship. It hurts women. Which is why there are so many single girls these days.
I'd love to meet Matt! I even tried getting tickets to his show in Miami but it's sold out 😢
A lot of female fans of Matt are unhappy right about now that he doesn't do show hook ups. Lol.
Haha well Matt 😂 you got a cutie pie who IS an actress and dancer, so never say never. She seems super grounded and supportive, they make a beautiful couple. Blessings!
Ugh where are more of you ❤
I have always said that once you hook up with someone, a piece of you is left with them. Its so refreshing knowing that I'm not alone in thinking that way.
Now I ❤❤❤ Matt even more. Very refreshing to hear
Also, when he said "that's an exhausting lifestyle", that is REAL.
I Love Matt's word choice referring to someone he would want to be with...... I hear you 😉
This guys a real one
Being picky isn’t a bad thing, if you’re looking to wife someone up they should have the qualities you want in them since you’ll be living the rest of your life with them. But on the flip side you have to be the best you can possibly be so you have more options to choose from
I want to husband up but no one out there is ready for commitment. 100% loyalty and to have a best friend. They'll come eventually but I ain't looking. I have high standards and that's what I deserve. Never settle for less.
Then I guess he'll change his name to...
Matt *Wife*
.......
Yes, I know where the backdoor is
Two of my favorite comedians! Nice! 💯😎
Good for you, Matt! I am dating, and every guy wants to have an intimate night. I used to tour with a band and people view a person differently. I am so proud that you have those standards. It gives me hope. Thank you for sharing.
Remember to always enjoy where you are and just let it happen!! You are Soo funny and have an amazing future ahead of you!! 🎉❤
Nigel the comedian said the girls on the road were like those bars' swing doors, coming and going. Glad he now found someone he feels stable with... Good luck to them in finding someone special...
That’s awesome Matt ! Love it! ❤️♥️❤️♥️
John did you take over “between two ferns“? 😂
Can't speak for other women but I met a guy while I was in Istanbul, Turkey. Gorgeous!!!!!!! Smelled of money. He overheard me talking to a friend and he came and introduced himself and gave me his number. I never called....I thought he was way out of my league.
You’re weird girl
Love this guy. Wishing I was younger 😊
I love this so much!
He definitely uses wrong words sometimes... provide solidarity for you? Not what you mean... You mean someone who's going to hold things down... someone who is going to provide a solid foundation to his chaotic life. Solidarity is more about kinship, having common interests, being one for a common cause... It's a little different.
He's young. And well on his way to being rich. He'll have no trouble finding a wife. Hopefully, she'll love him for him, though.
This kid is more mature than most grown 50 year old men.