When Mom and Dad Move In
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- Опубликовано: 26 май 2015
- The ladies of “The Real” share why they would or wouldn’t want their parents to move in. While Tamar loves living with her mom, Adrienne says she likes her family close, but not in the same house.
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"and I be getting offended like, uh, whatchu wanna go home for?" lmfaooo Tamar is hilarious
This is soooooooo me!!!! I hate when my mom leaves....she came to stay by me while they renovated her house and 2 months later she was bout to leave and I was in full blown tears 😂😂😂😂
@@taymatthews6108 thats so so cute❤️🥺
It's a cultural thing to have your parents live with you when you get older. Americans just don't get it, that's why you have so many nursing homes in North America.
***** Yes that's a valid point as well. I think there is a difference between the Palliative care facilities and straight luxurious nursing homes.
***** did you just compare daycare to nursing homes? I am hoping you can differentiate the two.
No way my parents are going to a nursing home no way
***** I am indifferent towards nursing homes (I don't see them as neither negative nor positive), but I think the main distinction between putting your parents in someone else's care vs. putting your children in someone else's care is that for the latter, you really have no choice if work prevents you from looking after your children yourself. But for your parents-- they took care of you your whole life, brought you into their home and nurtured you; it just doesn't seem right to disallow them from living in your home, and instead, force them to live and be cared for by strangers. Babies don't mind being coddled by strangers because they're babies-- they make friends easily. But at an older age, having a stranger coddle you and cater to you gives off a different vibe. Of course, there are cases where the elderly have medical issues or don't have anyone to take them in, so they have no choice but to live alone or in a nursing home. I guess it differs on a case-by-case basis.
Work wasnt a burden to my parents when they raised me, so its not gonna be a burden for me when I care of them. I always knew I was going to care for them. I make sure my life plans include it. just like you do when planning to have a baby.
"let me tell y'all about FRANCIS! " - Loni.. I died
Tamar's impersonation of Miss Evelyn is so on point! lmaoooooo
***** not everyone's experience with their mother is like yours. You just have to understand and respect that.
I imagine Loni's family to be like Madea's
lol
Lmaooooooo
I'm weak 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂 shade 😂😂😂
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Tamar definitely wouldn't have a problem with her mother living with her. Have you guys seen her and Vince's home? It's damn near the size of a small castle!
Loll I was thinking the same thing
Brandon Hunter where did you see her house?!
kat m Tamar and Vince have a show together too
kat m on WE tv there is a reality show called the Braxton Family Values showcasing all the Braxton sisters and their lives. Tamar got a spin off on the same channel called Tamar and Vince, where it follows their life as a couple. These two shows are really what put Tamar on the map and got people behind her!
Well i live in europe they have castles here that are smaller than Tamar beautifull house 😍🙏🏽
There is NOWAY I'm letting my parents grow old in a retirement home. They gave me life, fed me and took care of me. I cant believe people can just leave their parents alone like that. (I can understand for broken family lods, kids that never grew up with parents etc) but if you grew up and were raised by them really. Do your part.
If someone can afford to keep them in a nursing home they can afford to get them a house with some help
Jermaine Jackson If your parents have certain diseases or illnesses, it sometimes is best to have them in a nursing home where they can get the proper medical care. Plus, having an ill parent live with you or having a nurse regularly visit can be incredibly pricey and the average person probably doesn't have the money.
tsuyayaka1 Had I been seriously ill as a child growing up, my parents wouldve taken care of me all the way. Id do the same for them. I planned my future to be with them. Just as any family would plan to have and support a child. That is how my culture is raised.
Ps- i know there are people that get the nursing home and visit everyday. This comment does not pertain to them.
+Asanas Moses lol
Jeannie's in her mid 30s?? she could pass for mid 20s.
Asian don't raisin
+Russell Luc Exactly what I was thinking....She's 36 and she looks like she could pass for 23 o.o
Didn't say say she was 39 on so surprised I thought she was 23-25 like she looks young
she looks good! and I think it's her personality too!
Asian don't raisin
She was born 1979
"Lemme tell bout Francis!"
Tamar's alter ego is her mom, lol that was perfect! ♥
I am a Pacific Islander. And we dont believe In putting our parents in a nursing home. Majority of us that is. It just doesnt look right to us.
Tyler Mauga *high-five* I'm a pacific islander as well and wouldn't dare do this to my parents lol
right?!?! its just in our nature i guess lol but teach its own
+Tyler Mauga alot of these ppl commenting are just trash and were not raised right,smh if ur parents did their best & were good to you. why not take care of them 😕 this is why i say beat ur kids alot while young so whn u get old u cn think back on all those beatings & laugh. beat them for every rude thing they will say once they r grown 😂😂😂
Ku'u I'm sorry for your loss
Tyler Mauga w
I love to see Tamar and Jeanine agree on anything. So to hear and see them have moment , I was here for that❤
Bea Marks me too! "Finish your story girl.."
+Bea Marks because they're celebrities people want everyone to be in one accord, but we may have relationships that are day and night. They view thing differently but it doesn't there isn't the same amount of stuff they come together on.
"Real freeloader style, but that's ok, finish what you sayin girl!" -Tamar
I felt like Tamar and Jeannie were having a moment! It was giving me life ♡
love tamar and tameras relationship.. "real freeloader style but thats okay" hahaha
Let me tell y'all bout Francis 😂😂😂
+Cj Hamilton had me weak!
😂😂😂😂😂
I would spoil my parents so much they would never want to leave. They sacrificed so much for me so I can't wait to give them everything❤️
Daisy MeRollin Allah bless you with paradise, for you and your parents... much love
Lol the title says mom and dad but nobody's talking about dad 😂😂
I was thinking the same thing!
If it ever happens I'm gunna tell them the same thing they told me, "My house, my rules or get out".......lol, nevermind, I don't wan't to be killed.
Lmao
Lol. I'd go for the "don't touch" or "you break it, you buy it" line.
Your comments are always funny and/or insightful. I look forward to reading them everyday. :) pretty pic btw.
Sandra Mutonono thank you. I try to be truthful here ♥
Lashaun Gordon LOL!
As a middle eastern person, there is no way in our culture that we leave our parents, when theyre all grown and cant take care of themselves, in a care facility. We actually find it incredibly rude when we see people (especially in western countries) leave their parents in a home for the elderly and visit them once a while. Those people spent their life taking care of you, like whatchu mean??!
Ps: i live in The Netherlands so im not sure if home for the elderly is the proper term right here lol but i hope you got what im trynna say.
Jackie Hearts Eevee I agree. East African here. It is soo disrespectful to me that people leave their parents in nursing homes. They ship them off there when they get old after the parents have spent most of their lives caring for them. Def an American thing.
Jackie Hearts Eevee I'm an American and I will say that leaving them in a nursing home and visiting them every once in a while does happen but it's not like that all the time. You have some people who may be the only child and have to work all day and it's too risky to leave them home alone so they put them in a nursing home and see them multiple times a week. You also have some people who know they can't properly care for their parent(s) so they put them with people who can. I will also say I disagree with putting them there just so you can have your space because like you said they spent their life taking care of you. I'm only 17 but I told my mom whenever I buy my house she will have the basement(I'll fix it up so it's like its own apartment)
***** Obviously there are exceptions, like the ones you pointed out, but I meant what i said in a more general way ;o
Jackie Hearts Eevee I live in the Netherlands too. To be honest I don't think my mother would want this. My great grand mother went to a home for the elderly and she actually loved it. She made friends there and played cards. I think if she moved in with one of her kids she would've been more isolated and she would've hated it. I think people from other cultures misunderstand the concept of a nursing home. You don't leave your parents alone. You can still visit them. While they get specialised care and make friends with people their age.
Jackie Hearts Eevee Well yeah in a general way you are more than correct. I just hope putting your parents in a nursing home just for the hell of it does become a trend and if we do put them there it's for all the right reasons.
They really need longer girl chats because 15 minutes is not enough for me
Asia Neloms In season 2 I ask for 3 things:
1) A 6th panelist, preferably someone who is DIVERSE (I would like to see an indian/ brown woman.)
2) LIVE shows (I HATE when they talk about celebrity news from 3 weeks ago)
3) LONGER girl chat and get rid of some of these useless segments.
galemoy Amen to the longer girl chats and ridding of segments, but why is DIVERSE capitalized? The panel's already diverse. Adding a brown woman would diversify it more not create diversity.
african Odyssey Idk. I feellike even thought it IS diverse,it isnt balanced. I feel like Tamar and Loni hog all of the speaking time. Also, there are 2.5 black women. I feel like Loni could be replaced. Just my personal opinion :)
Yeah the balance is way off. I would actually love to have an Indian woman represent since they're so rarely on tv and when they are it's just stereotypes. She could even replace Loni! :)
african Odyssey forreal. The indian woman would bring a new perspective and could even help bring out Jeanie a bit, so Jeanie would have someone else to compare immigrant parent stories with. Or MAYBE even a British or Australian woman. There is this black Australian woman with a youtube channel (Nicki and Jamie) and someone like her would be GREAT! Yes, she is black, but SUCH a different perspective than Tamar and Loni. Jamie andNikki is their channel. Wouldn't she be amazing for something like this?
Moms and dads are blessing you dont know how valuable they are till you lose one of them.
I love that Tamera blamed Tahj's and her moms relationship on not living with her parents again. Well done 😂😂
VONiiE8 ok?
hinnies, I'm confused.
VONiiE8 hinnies1 was agreeing with you. "Ok" is another way of saying, "I know that's right" or just like saying "Right? I agree."
Nothing better than homemade biscuits FROM SCRATCH!! You better tell em Tamar
I used to love my mom's homemade biscuits it was real nice and fluffy tastes like heaven
I love how Tamar loves her mama.
I’m laughing cus everybody paused for a second like … ‘nah we good!’ 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love my momma to pieces, but she can stay where shes at. Spending the weekend over and stuff is good, the bonding is so genuinely sweet and priceless, but to wake up everyday and having to deal with constantly her nagging about something, nah Im good. I enjoy my privacy and dont want to worry about her judging me lol. However, if it gets to that time where she is wild old and/or needs to be under someone's care, shes coming with me! Momma not fena be in no nursing home.
I couldn't have said it better myself.
I wld really be happy to see Tamara'S mommy cz she must be a very sweet soul for bringing up such wonderful n beautiful ladies .
Lmfao Tamar's face at the end when Loni told Logan not to move in with her, lol I died laughing!!
I love Tamar's hair like this!
and the way she was respectful to Jeannie letting her speak for a change and even telling her to finish DAMN she lookin even more glamorous to me today! LOVE IT
I'm the oldest of 7, and I always tell my siblings. She was my mother first. Haha I win. We literally fight over our Ma.
You know her the longest haha
in islam it's a child's duty to take care of there parents when they can't take care of themselves. "Jannah (paradise) lies under your mother's feet"
+tototi95 yup, same in hinduism!
Yup, parents are super important :)
Same in Christianity
+tototi95 I don't think it is just religion. I think it is culture mostly.
But yes, religion does combine with culture.
Idk if I am making sense.
It is not one particular religion. :)
hyacinthdibley honestly I feel like taking care of the parents is the only thing culture and religion can agree on.
"biscuits on fleek!" best line ever! love Tamar :)
I never believe Loni's stories for some reason.
I never believe them either because I just think she just lies. I guess it's the comedian in her, but her stories are nothing but BS.
Yeah cause she lie too much
I thought was the only one
naahid mohamud lol I love my parents too but that doesn't mean I want them staying with me some people just need space that's all
Same
Parents aren't a burden to put in a home once they're no longer able. My parents gave life to me, fed me, loved me and sacrificed for me. My dad worked 6 days a week and 3 nights on top of that, just to ensure my sister and I would always have everything we wanted. When I was sick and ill my parents would stay up all night by my side and do everything in their power to help me. So when the time comes and their bodies slow down I will have both my parents live with me and do everything I can do, to ensure they have a comfortable old age. The people who work in these homes are just staff, sure some will be great, but some wont be and at the end of the day who else is going to love your parents and care for them better than you? They're not a burden, they're your parents and the reason you are everything you are today.
I miss all the girls together. Their energy was undeniable. They just...worked! I bet they all go back and watch old episodes of the Real just like we do and be like "Man I miss those days"😔😍
Ms E is so awesome! I love her BFV.
My favorite episodes are the ones with Tam and Tamar.
I like having my personal space and I Like my privacy so I love living by myself. I would only let my parents live with me if they were really sick and is unable to take care of themselves then I will let them come live with me and I will take care of them. Other than that I like living by myself without my parents around. And BTW, I really do not understand why Loni feels the need to lie and make up stories so much. I guess that's the comedienne in her.
As an African I just feel like that's the norm. As soon as you have a baby or your parents get older, they move in I didn't think it was even a question tbh ain't no nursing homes in Kenya lol
Exactly. As an African, I was taught to look after my parents once they get old. even if they are sick or not. After everything they did for me it wouldnt be right to just put them in a nursing home. its not even a question.
#growingupghanaian
But whose parents? Live with yours,or husbands?
Latina moms always I mean ALWAYS MOVE IN with one of their children when they start to get old, nursing homes are a big NOPE and a smack to the face. You take care of your mom
That is so true!!! I could never leave my mother in a nursing home!!! Ella se queda conmigo!!! lol
The other day I was joking around and told my mom Iv been looking for some nursing places for her.
She str8 up told me " COMA MIERDA" and she aint even spanish rotfl I DIED.
Her new latina friend been teaching her just the right amount of things I see!
Anyone watching in 2021? Adrienne talking about relocating her family to the west coast... the opposite happened lol
huge in Asian culture; having my grandparents around growing up was the BEST
biscuits on fleek! 😂 lol I ❤ tamar
I bet Vince’s lawyers are going through every episode of this show to find the lies you tell Tamar. 😂
Lmaoooo i love how tamar impersonate her mother
I pray I get financially stable, so that I can buy my Mom a house. I would rather do that. Then to be have her in my house. Especially if I have a husband and kids. It will just be too many people in one house
U see?! Tamar let jeannie speak and stuff she luves her
I get what Tamar and Jeannie are saying.....how & ever.....#TeamNoMaam
Me and my mother are TOO much alike to live next door each other or under the same roof!! Ok? She would ride my nerves too bad. Our relationship works best over the phone and periodic visits. Keeping in mind, that I am a mama's girl, but that's what works well for us.
girl yes! exactly how I feel
lol
I totaly get you. I'm seeing someone for my anxiety and she noticed my mom and I feed off of eachothers fears. She's hypocondriac and has generalised anxiety so she tries to transfer it to me and it plays with my nervs and subsequently affects my mariage and kids. Problems with being too much like mommy hehe.
It’s weird, i never knew my grandmother apparently she was a bitch, but my momma tells me I’m just like her vs her. And I always lived with momma.
@HLOG Sometimes we inherently pick up traits of unknown origin to us, because we feel like we're just living life as we know how. I've only known majority my mama's side of the family, and I've always been certain where some of my personality traits came from. 🤣 Sheesh! It's good and bad, but I wouldn't trade it. It's what makes us US!! 🥰
I love living on my own!! For so long I just wanted my own place for just me! Though I love my family close, but I really love my space and clarity!!
Agreed
Lmao Tamara impression of her mom was too funny. I love ms. Evelyn!
BISCUITS ON FLEEK!! 😂😂😂
no way in HELL I'm letting my parents move in with me....it took me a long time to move out. I am not round 2-ing that parental control lifestyle.
The only way I would live with my mom after moving out is if she gets old and can no longer care for herself. I'm not with that nursing home life(ironically my mom works at a nursing home). My mom is African and they believe no matter how old you get your mom still controls you. If I'm paying my own bills I wanna do what I want without running to mother.
YES! I agree 100%. My parents are from Sierra Leone and I see it with how my grandma treats my mom, lord knows I couldn't do it.
Lmao Tamar acting like her mom was on point!!
I can't have my parents living with me sorry but I need my own space maybe they can live down the street from me
dj_oldskool That is how I feel. My parents are deceased, but I'm very close to my Godmother. She lives 3 blocks away from me. That is close enough.
I knew Loni would have started with her mom drinking all the brown liquor. Lol I swear I can never tell if she's lying ("joking") or telling the truth.
No offence but I can't imagine living with my parents when I'm newly married because that's the time I'm gonna be getting it on with my man so when my mom is like right there its not that romantic. Also, they are completely capable of living by themselves, they can come over whenever they want but you don't have to live with us. You have each other and that's enough!
Aurora David completely agree👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Jeannie I have soo much respect for you! there aren't many people in the world like you who want their parents living with them :(
omg I finally understand what Tamar meant about the surgery her mom had! It was in Braxton Family Values! Thank god Ms Evelyn is okay, I love their family like they're my own
Tamar is telling the truth. She stays trying to get Miss Evelyn to move in with her & Vince.
Troy Turner Vince will leave. I would.
Hi edagdwg I lived with my son when I had a stroke and it wasent easy I'm soooooo blessed to be in a nursing home to help me not the greatest but I'm good peace and a loving man in my life at 76yrs old god is soooooo real love is real God is always around Linda j. Peace
2019. Still missing Tamar on The Real! I’m hoping she does a guest appearance.
They had ask .. and she won't come
2020
I love my parents so much. They worked so hard to make me happy I will definitely want them to live with me ♥️♥️♥️♥️ actually, every time I think of the future, I think of them living with me♥️
In an African home, you live with your parents even after you get married, at least I don't have to make an appointment to see my mother
***** It's just like that in my culture, I mean you have a choice to do it or not, but it's very common to live with parents and also I was raised by my mom, so it's always been me and her and maybe that has an influence on how I view this as well lol
I'd want my mom to live close to me but we can't stay in the same house. I need my space and she needs hers but I'd love to have her near me, especially for Sunday dinners and cookouts. Like Tamar said, biscuits on fleek!
"Biscuits on fleek!" lol
The one time Lonis story sounds real and not like a lie.
I love my mama, she can stay with me whenever she wants! I will say though, when you get married and have children etc. You have to consider what they want as well. Id feel some type of way if my future spouse just SHOWED UP with his mama and some suitcases.lol
Tamar is in her 30s she can pass as 19
I always thought she was in her 20s
I hate to talk poorly of someone’s business, but in my Med program we had to visit a lot of nursing homes. That’s not the care I want for my parents. I’d move them in with me, same with my mother in law. All of the parents would be allowed at my house anytime. I would actually insist on it if they needed it. I’m all for adult daycare if they need some socializing in a safe place but full time nursing home… NOPE!
Lol!!! I feel you Loni, what's even funnier is that my mom's name is Frances too, and when u said that name I just bust out laughing! 😂😂😂😂
mama mai and ms.e are one of my most favorite!!!!!
BISCUITS ON FLEEK!!
I'm Italian and Pakistani and both sides are very family orientated, everything is about family. There is no way my parents would want me to move out or live on my own unless I get married, which I'm okay with. I don't think I could ever let my mum or dad just grow old and sick on their own in some hospital or nursing home without me being there.
My parents said they don’t want to live with us. They don’t want us to “parent” them.
Tamar is a good caring person after all.
My uncle lives in Guangzhou with his Chinese wife and their 4 children, and his wife's parents live with them. In China it's custom to have all generations living under one roof, though it's slowly dying out now.
i've been listenning Tay Tays new song #IfIDontHaveYou over and over that i forgot the Real was coming on -__-....#FrenchTamartian
Omg me too!! The song is amazing!!
Yes!!! Love it! Now all I need is for that album release date to hurry and get here so I can buy up ALL DA COPIES!!
Marie Claire Biron OUIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII ! Un quelqu'un de France qui regarde aussi #TheReal !
Marie Claire Biron I listened to it on repeat for 3 hours straight and still didnt have enough. i thought i might make myself crazy so i changed the song lmao.....then switched it right back
blackcdnguy #Tamartians
what I hear the most from the show.. ''yes yes yes","no, oh no, no".😂😂
I would love to say I will never put my mom in a nursing home and I hope I never have to, but if 24 hour care is necessary for some reason idk if I would be able to afford to hire the help required. Hopefully my mom lives a long and healthy life and I won't have to worry about any of that.
I am 26 an my parents live with my fiance, 4yr old daughter and myself❤ theyre both disabled and need a lot of help with things around the house and some finances and i wouldnt want it any other way. It was amazing after i had ny daughter i had so much help!!! And even now! They say it takes a village to raise a kid, well im thankful everyday for my village and everything they do for my little family
I watch my dad and his brothers and sisters sick my grandpa in a nursing home, and that made me feel sad. We (my dads kids) would be the only ones to go and visit him. The look on his face when it was time for us to go, would always break my heart. I vowed then that I would never put my dad I. a home, and that since I am the oldest of the kids, I would be the one to take care of him. If anything happened that he needed care.
See that's the difference, when loni said that tamar's mother knows her space meaning she doesn't over step boundaries. I wouldn't mind my momma living with me, or at least next door because she asks me before she does things to my personal stuff in the house, and on top of that she's polite and respectful to my husband. My MIL on the other hand, over steps her boundaries and disrespects me in my own house. She thinks she can do so, because I'm younger than her and I must only respect her through all the mean behavior and all. Like no, I couldn't have her living with me. So it depends on your parents characters and personalities.
I love how we Hispanics call our whole family "La familia" is so cute like "bitch we are the only family there is "
Tamera my mom did the same thing to me! I barely had the utilities on at my new house and she packed up my stuff and said sooooooo maybe you should send the night at YOUR house.
I'm buying a house with a basement and making that into rooms, kitchen, bathroom and everything needed to live comfortably for when my mom gets older.
I'm sorry, but I can't live with my parents. But I'll never put them in a nursing home. Maybe if I got it like that I'll get them a house next to me. We would be perfect neighbors :)
I miss Tamar on here.
😂I can relate to Loni😂
BISCUITS ON FLEEK!!!
she only wants her mom to move in cause she wants her to cook and clean 😒
Yes, probably
Sunday dinners are serious in my family, if you miss one you get shunned by grandma lol.
We only have a limited time with our parents and I'm not forfeiting any of it, I have too many things to learn from and about them.
"Biscuits on fleek. Home made."Gonna miss Tamar.
Hey & also a thing about having my mom & dad come over even when I had my own apartment & also even my 2 brothers come over in my own apartment but if I've the right time to move into my apartment. I'll may going to fix some food, try to watch some TV you know to spend more time with me & the rest of my family. Just as simple as you can get I'm only in my late 20s?
I would want my parents to live near me but not with me out of a control thing if i have a big house.
I thought this was a cute topic. I'd love to grow old with mom, as long as its understood that we're both adults and we're entitled to our privacy.
Loni is me to the 9th power!!! 🤞🤣🤣
I would love for my parents to move in with me when they get older. But since I moved out of town I dont think they will want to. My grandmother moved in with my aunt for 1 years and moved out into an assistant living complex. She said she miss have her own space. Which is the case some times with older people in the USA
I love how they have a relationship outside of #TheReal