I Should’ve Done It Different
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
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What’s *one* thing you regret spending so much of your time and energy on-and how do you deal with it?
I regret not saving money when I was younger. We were a very lower middle class family, and when I was young there never seemed to be much extra money at all. If one of my parents got sick (which happened yearly) and couldn't work, they didn't get paid, and that put them in a hole. My parents struggled so hard to try to build a healthy savings fund, with four children. I never learned well how to build wealth, because for years I worked but had a low income. I've just turned 65. I have enough money to live on, thank goodness, due to a pension, but I regret not being smarter with money.
Now, I'm focused on getting out of debt, and so excited to do it!
On dreams and fantasies instead of the present moment... I didn't 'get' anywhere..
TK gave me chills. It spoke so true to me with my own hypothetical demons, and having it explained in such a way instantly made me feel lighter ❤️
I’m 67 and can attest to not wasting time or energy on what’s happened in the past…learn from it and move on. In fact I would say to Martina, you figured this out early in life-celebrate!😆
"This didn't happen TO me- it happened FOR me" Woah. Exactly.
Another fantastic episode, guys! I really needed to hear about the Hypothetical Demon. I've faced many forks in the road over the years & have often wondered how things might have turned out if I'd made different choices in various areas of my life. I need to trust that I made the best decisions I could, based on who I was & what I knew--and didn't know, through no fault of my own--at the time. No more wasting time & energy on What-ifs or Should'ves. Thanks for the insights!
TK giving the most comforting way to look back on your life 👌🏻
I moved around a lot for 30 years for jobs and career. When I came home to retire expecting to pick up where I had left off, everyone had moved on. I still had old memories fresh in my mind but I was a stranger. Facing the present took me a while but accepting the new present made everything just fine.
It’s so weird to go “back home” and find things are different. You have this memory of how things were when you left, and you kind of expect them to be frozen in time. When they’re not, it can be quite disconcerting.
Thank you for addressing the hypothetical past…the regrets that
I feel like we have all beat ourselves up over. I see things in a new light now thank you TK. Being true to ourselves in the moment does shape who we are now.
Ah, TK giving a name to it. Time to slay the hypothetical demon.
This was awesome!!! T.K. thank you for that, very wise of u
Guurrlll, you need to let go. That's definitely shame and guilt. For me, 12 steps is helping me.
" You did the best you could with the tools you had at the time "
Really needed to hear this tonight. Been feeling a lot of regret lately over my past choices because I am not living a life right now that is in alignment with who I am and I am struggling to move forward and continue to hold onto past mistakes and beating myself up for them.
Thank you, this was really helpful. Going through some grief right now but didn't expect shame, guilt and regret to creep in with it.
Hey Ryan, TK, & Josh! Great discussion!
When you know better, you can do better.
This was exactly what I needed right now!! I’m currently grieving the separation of my first and so far only real love. We split up more than a year ago already but it was so painful for me that I worked really really hard on myself the past year and changed a lot in my life. I was hoping to get back together with him and getting another chance of loving him the way he needed to be loved. Now it’s clear this isn’t gonna happen anymore and I need to learn to forgive myself for the mistakes I made and trust that someone will come around where I can practice what Ryan has said: just doing it better now that I know better 🙏🏼
Love the way Ryan responds to this question, he has such a raw wisdom and authentically shares. Thank you
Ohhh TK, you nailed it 🙌
I've been struggling with this so much lately and I had no idea what I could search or read to help and then this happened across my suggested videos and you guys may have just saved me/set me in a better direction. Thanks a lot, for real.
"Hypothetical Demon" that's brilliant!!!
05:21 That is such a powerful insight... It so reminds me of the Tao Parable.
Rings true. Thank you, gentlemen.
From RZA: "Don't start your day with broken pieces of yesterday. It will definitely destroy your good today and ruin your great tomorrow."
Ryan is back! 😁😁😁 hope you had a wonderful vacation, but it's so good to have you on the show again. Virtual hug 🫂 🤗 and God bless 🙌🏽
You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.
This was an exquisite conversation…thank you ❤️
There is so much wisdom here. Thank you! You just reinforced my thoughts on several issues.
Love your channel! Mind blowing information that is so timely for becoming the best version of ourselves! Often we compare our best selves to others worst. We also do the same with ourselves! Let that goooo! Love your work guys! ♥️😎
Excellent episode! Wise advice. Thank you all for what you do for everyone. ❤
I also wonder if humanity in general is clinging to the past (history) teaching it to children. What if that doesn't let us move on...?
Omg!! It's Ryan! 😃
Oh my goodness! You are 30! You are young! You are simply learning! I didn't get this info until I was 65! You are fine!
Loved the hypothetical daemon!
I live today not tomorrow or yesterday but today
All we have to do is to live one day at a time -floyd mayweather.
Insert living one day at a time enjoying one moment at a time
I don't really have regrets at least not for long They are brief held onto as I beat myself up for the latest stupid thing I did then I will ask what lesson did I learn from this latest dumb thing it I am reflective type person and think about "how could I have done this better" and then I try to improve This kind of helps to be OK with myself as an imperfect being in a school called living on earth where we are meant to be learning lessons and becoming beings of authenticity and somewhat improved versions of ourselves It also helps to realize that we are all geniuses (According to Albert Einstein) and at the same time we are all stupid too There is no one that is not both a genius and stupid So we can cut each other more slack hopefully!
Very helpful. And timely for me. Thank you
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So is it wrong to of not listened to advice when we were younger and only realise when we are older that maybe we should of done?
Maybe we need personal letdowns to grow into the people we are now?