Things that I've learned in my 30's: 1. (In the dating scene) No one can play you, you can only play yourself. 2.Your opinion is valuable, even if other people don't think so. 3. You are not too old to do things you like to do. 4. You cannot be friends with someone with a trifling spouse.
I’m now 41, and the things I’ve learned in my 30’s were: Move at your OWN pace Challenge yourself Take care of your health Increase your wealth Pray Count your blessings, cut your losses Energies are real!
Things I've learned in my 30s: 1.) Trust your instincts. Some people aren't good for you no matter how long you may have known them, family included. Fighting yourself trying to work things out with people who don't matter is not good for you. 2.) Accepting that I needed help for my mental state and that seeking therapy is not a sign of weakness, but actually it's a sign of strength. 3.) Being alone is not as bad as society has taught us it is. 4.) Some things are just not for you and that is perfectly okay.
What I’m learning in my 30s: Silence is golden. Sometimes it’s MUCH better to stay quiet and observe rather than speaking everything on your mind. My grandma would always say, “be quiet and watch.”
It’s interesting that we as Christians are told about having a "spirit of discernment" but then are forced out of trusting our gut in certain situations and dealing with certain people just to not cause a fuss or make others uncomfortable. That can be dangerous… part of why so many things get swept under the rug I think 🤔
I watched this episode...the weekend before I was scheduled to have an interview for a major promotion that I was talking myself out of. I dont have enough experience, they dont want me. Then when Angel dropped that 💎. It gave me the push I needed to go on the interview. I went through all this training and got all of this education....for what? To be useless?
What I learned… Had I listened to my Mom when she told me to put at least 20$ aside per paycheck in an effort to build a savings, I would not have struggled financially, for so many years.
I wish I could go back to 17 when I got my first job and listened to every word my mother told me about savings and finances. Now I'm trying to dig myself out.
I'm 47 so I have been out of my 30s for a "minute" but what I learned then and is STILL learning now is: Protect your peace... When people are willing to walk out of your life, help them find their comfy shoes and turn your location off!!
@@karenmyrie6215 hahahahaha...I know that's right! As long as the person leaving knows how to get in contact with you, they will ALWAYS try to circle back around
i'm 43 and what i learned in my 30s is to trust my gut no matter what others say ( family and so-called friends and to appreciate every moment giving to me
I NEEDED this today. Side note: I have been noticing how sharp/smart Cam is. As a cool nerd (self proclaimed), I really enjoy hearing his interjections!
Marcus was in his bag this episode with the analogies , self awareness and revelations! I sincerely appreciated his contribution. I hear the confidence and wisdom. Everyone did phenomenal. Such a confirming conversation for my place in life right now.
I laughed entirely too hard at this lol and as a woman halfway through her 28th year of life I learned so much from it. The lesson I'm currently learning is that it's okay to walk away from people that don't make you feel good no matter how long you've been allowing the negative behavior. Thank you guys!
I'm 36. I'm learning alot about my negative traits, unlearning bad habits and replacing them with good ones. Also I'm a season where my friendships look different. Either friends have become associates or we don't talk as much or we're more honest with each other. Also re: single and dating. I'm not interested in dating someone I don't really like just to avoid being alone. Still figuring out my career. I don't want to work for a corporation anymore.
Angels story about the envelope and anthrax is really how Crafts and Cocktails began 😂🤣😂. How you doing all that arts and crafts to make a fake envelope and it actually work! 🤣🤣🤣 the pre-internet/dawn of the internet days were truly the best time to be alive!
Lol, them spicy noodles were giving the fellas the blues, but the gems were dropped! Kev's "why he really got fired & Angel's grad school delay" stories were hilarious! "Follow it thru my boy....sometimes you gotta just follow the lie all the way through" hahahaha!! This was hilarious..
What I learned is for the sake of my peace and sanity not everyone will have access to my life. I learned that I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me and that's okay. I am called to love you not to like you. And just like "Yes" is an affirmation so is "No". Tfs
Here I am at 31 now doing all the things that I know I need to start this decade off with a bayang!!! This was the motivational speech I never knew I needed!
Listen! @Melissa Fredericks! I am 44 years old and you spoke the exact words from my very being! Everything you said from being seen and not heard and growing up in the church. I relate to what you said 1000%.
I only wish that I could go back 30 years and have you most inspiring people as friends. I honestly admire you all so very much for your ambition and drive. It seems the only thing I'm passionate about are long naps. Not because I'm lazy. I'm an intelligent and talented woman without a dream. Yes, that rare human being with no idea what I'm supposed to be doing. I love listening to you all so VERY much. I'm like a proud auntie when I watch/listen to you. I
I liked the conversation around careers, I think whether you are self-employed or work for a corporation, there has to to a level of fulfillment....I was encouraged years ago to create a personal mission statement for my life (career included) which has allowed me to always ensure I am contributing to society in a way that creates impact and allows me to be completely satisfied 💕
I just need all of you all to know, we luvs ya out chea. Keep em coming. You saved us during 2020 and keep us motivated. You needed a national shutdown to highlight your gifts
33:40 this response here is me…. THANK YOU Malissa! You have opened up my eyes to realize “why” I do not believe I can succeed in doing something outside a 9 to 5
Great conversation. I am well pasted my 30s and have learned alot during the decades. What I see in each of you guys is greatness. Melissa: It is clear Melissa isn't a social media girl. But I wonder what is it about social media she doesnt like. However she can still be a powerhouse in any room she occupies because she is intelligent, thoughtful, and just a breath of fresh air. Marcus can do big things if he is allowed the space to be himself because is talented, skilled and funny. Kevin is definitely the Executioner. He gets stuff done and that is a great quality to have. Still, sometimes you can be busy executing all of your ideas and not realizing you are leaving a ton of destruction on the road behind you (Who is gonna clean that up?!). Patience. Angel is phenomenal and I agree she is THAT girl. I want to see her on big stages and screens because she is so talented as an actress, comedian, mother and overall woman. It's good to realize that while you can do ALL of the things, you can't DO all of the things with just the two hands you have. Finding balance is hard sometimes.
I'm in tears listening to Kev's story leading up to him being fired and Angel's heading to grad school 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Can we contact Kev's old boss??? I just wanna hear his thoughts
Turning 30 next month so I really appreciate hearing this conversation at this time in my life. Thank you all for your insight and willingness to be transparent with us.
Ohhhhh, Liss you just put concise words to my experience, 4:44. I say that I grew up in a household culture that promoted “when I say jump, you say how high”. That environment wasn’t great for encouraging trust in my own perspective. My personality operates best when believing in itself and that was actively smoked out as a child before age 9. My mom used to tell me that guiding myself would get me in trouble after I’d stepped off course from what she said and I got burned. She was saying I told you to listen, but I heard “my thoughts are dangerous for me” and that my thoughts are incorrect.
I’m so excited to watch this! I just began my thirties and already love this version of myself that I’m building and appreciate what I’ve experienced prior to this point. Still listening && learning 👂🏾🙌🏾💓
Melissa hit the nail on the head. I too grew up churchy and experienced the some of the same things she did. It is a struggle. I'm definitely learning to go with my gut. As well as the still quite voice of the Holy Spirit.
Melissa gworl ...when I say you just came right on in HOT. I thought I was speaking, literally this is my WHOLE entire story! If "what she said" was a person. 😆 ive only watched this part. Marcus too. This was good.
So far I'm 3 years into 30, I've learned 3 different things 1. Trust yourself - you'll never steer yourself wrong. 2. Accountability - you are an active participant in life, nothing just happens even doing nothing is a choice. 3. Therapy - I need it to grow and learn more about myself. Facing yourself.
Things that I've learned in my 30's:
1. (In the dating scene) No one can play you, you can only play yourself.
2.Your opinion is valuable, even if other people don't think so.
3. You are not too old to do things you like to do.
4. You cannot be friends with someone with a trifling spouse.
That, that, that AND THAT! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
#4 is a Word!!!!
Amen to #4
#4...childdddd, let me add people that have children that are unruly and might need a swift kick in the...!
Wow. I'll be sure to keep #4 in mind
No one is even phased anymore when kev takes his shirt off 😂😂 it’s so normal now 😂😂
I’m phased. Me and Marcus. Lol.
We all just like "Uh, here he go" 😳🙄😂
Swear i was thinking the same thing!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
I was hollering!!!!
I’m now 41, and the things I’ve learned in my 30’s were:
Move at your OWN pace
Challenge yourself
Take care of your health
Increase your wealth
Pray
Count your blessings, cut your losses
Energies are real!
Things I've learned in my 30s:
1.) Trust your instincts. Some people aren't good for you no matter how long you may have known them, family included. Fighting yourself trying to work things out with people who don't matter is not good for you.
2.) Accepting that I needed help for my mental state and that seeking therapy is not a sign of weakness, but actually it's a sign of strength.
3.) Being alone is not as bad as society has taught us it is.
4.) Some things are just not for you and that is perfectly okay.
I’m 33 but my recent lesson is to remain in my happiness and let others find their own!
Yes same!!! I am 33 too.
And let others find their own!!!! A WHOLE WORD!! I receive that Sis!!
What I’m learning in my 30s: Silence is golden. Sometimes it’s MUCH better to stay quiet and observe rather than speaking everything on your mind. My grandma would always say, “be quiet and watch.”
...your grandmother is/was a wise woman
It’s interesting that we as Christians are told about having a "spirit of discernment" but then are forced out of trusting our gut in certain situations and dealing with certain people just to not cause a fuss or make others uncomfortable. That can be dangerous… part of why so many things get swept under the rug I think 🤔
SO sad, SO TRUE!
Yea the whole idea contradicts itself
Jesus made ppl unconfortable ALL OF THE TIME. So...
Angel I caught that jewel you dropped ! “Being a perpetual student, eventually all that training adds up to something “ 💎💎💎
I watched this episode...the weekend before I was scheduled to have an interview for a major promotion that I was talking myself out of. I dont have enough experience, they dont want me. Then when Angel dropped that 💎. It gave me the push I needed to go on the interview. I went through all this training and got all of this education....for what? To be useless?
What I learned…
Had I listened to my Mom when she told me to put at least 20$ aside per paycheck in an effort to build a savings, I would not have struggled financially, for so many years.
I wish I could go back to 17 when I got my first job and listened to every word my mother told me about savings and finances. Now I'm trying to dig myself out.
I'm 47 so I have been out of my 30s for a "minute" but what I learned then and is STILL learning now is:
Protect your peace...
When people are willing to walk out of your life, help them find their comfy shoes and turn your location off!!
That last sentence needs to be on a 👕 @Brangee
@@karenmyrie6215 hahahahaha...I know that's right!
As long as the person leaving knows how to get in contact with you, they will ALWAYS try to circle back around
i'm 43 and what i learned in my 30s is to trust my gut no matter what others say ( family and so-called friends and to appreciate every moment giving to me
Whomever suggested this topic - THANK YOU because when they weren't choking on spicy 🥵 ramen 🍜 😂 TBTB was DROPPING GEMS!!! 💎💎💎💎
7 min in and Pastor Melissa is giving me a word lol
@@thetakeactionbook1984 A 👏🏾 WHOLE 👏🏾 WORD! 👏🏾
@@thetakeactionbook1984 ppp
FOR THE WIN 🥇 💯🫶🏽‼️
I NEEDED this today. Side note: I have been noticing how sharp/smart Cam is. As a cool nerd (self proclaimed), I really enjoy hearing his interjections!
Marcus was in his bag this episode with the analogies , self awareness and revelations! I sincerely appreciated his contribution. I hear the confidence and wisdom. Everyone did phenomenal. Such a confirming conversation for my place in life right now.
I laughed entirely too hard at this lol and as a woman halfway through her 28th year of life I learned so much from it. The lesson I'm currently learning is that it's okay to walk away from people that don't make you feel good no matter how long you've been allowing the negative behavior. Thank you guys!
Angel's story about getting into Grad School was hilarious!!!
Listen if your friends don't lift you..stretch you..get rid of them. This is so good. Thanks for sharing
I love how Liss really agrees with Kev’s brilliance. And so sincere. And yet not afraid to call him out. 🥰
Marcus: I don't wanna see another man with his shirt off
Kev: why? Let's all take our shirts off
Melissa: Let's not do that 😭😂
😆😆😆 I wonder if Tank be the dude with a shirt on at the pool 🤔😄
@@tenyathomas6065 Nah…On their vlogs he has his shirt off at the pool…
@@tenyathomas6065 Tank is professional 😅
Seeing Kev start going through it off of the ramen 🍜 I was like “He need some milk” 🤣😂🤣😂
It was the putting the napkin on the forehead for me 😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣
I'm 36. I'm learning alot about my negative traits, unlearning bad habits and replacing them with good ones. Also I'm a season where my friendships look different. Either friends have become associates or we don't talk as much or we're more honest with each other. Also re: single and dating. I'm not interested in dating someone I don't really like just to avoid being alone. Still figuring out my career. I don't want to work for a corporation anymore.
Angels story about the envelope and anthrax is really how Crafts and Cocktails began 😂🤣😂. How you doing all that arts and crafts to make a fake envelope and it actually work! 🤣🤣🤣 the pre-internet/dawn of the internet days were truly the best time to be alive!
SHEESH!!! Marcus!!!!! The flatline stability/ dead-end Job. That was an amazing visual and metaphor Homie!!!
Lol, them spicy noodles were giving the fellas the blues, but the gems were dropped! Kev's "why he really got fired & Angel's grad school delay" stories were hilarious! "Follow it thru my boy....sometimes you gotta just follow the lie all the way through" hahahaha!! This was hilarious..
Whew baby that spicy ramen is tearing them up 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Marcus out here with the analogies lol he needs be a pastor!!!! He be teaching!!!!
What I learned is for the sake of my peace and sanity not everyone will have access to my life. I learned that I am not for everyone and everyone is not for me and that's okay. I am called to love you not to like you. And just like "Yes" is an affirmation so is "No". Tfs
Here I am at 31 now doing all the things that I know I need to start this decade off with a bayang!!! This was the motivational speech I never knew I needed!
Listen! @Melissa Fredericks! I am 44 years old and you spoke the exact words from my very being! Everything you said from being seen and not heard and growing up in the church. I relate to what you said 1000%.
The last 15min of this was comedy gold! All 4 of you hilarious! 🤣❤️
3 minutes in… I am Melissa, she is me…. I am Self-doubt Sally
I only wish that I could go back 30 years and have you most inspiring people as friends. I honestly admire you all so very much for your ambition and drive. It seems the only thing I'm passionate about are long naps. Not because I'm lazy. I'm an intelligent and talented woman without a dream. Yes, that rare human being with no idea what I'm supposed to be doing. I love listening to you all so VERY much. I'm like a proud auntie when I watch/listen to you. I
Don’t feel bad I’m in the same boat! 61 and clueless! I’m retired, and it’s sad over here!
@@lynnayesmith-winters7922 sending a virtual hugl As my dad used to say, "Just keep holding on".
I liked the conversation around careers, I think whether you are self-employed or work for a corporation, there has to to a level of fulfillment....I was encouraged years ago to create a personal mission statement for my life (career included) which has allowed me to always ensure I am contributing to society in a way that creates impact and allows me to be completely satisfied 💕
I love that. May ask what your mission statement is?
Melissa is my kindred spirit
I just need all of you all to know, we luvs ya out chea. Keep em coming. You saved us during 2020 and keep us motivated. You needed a national shutdown to highlight your gifts
33:40 this response here is me…. THANK YOU Malissa! You have opened up my eyes to realize “why” I do not believe I can succeed in doing something outside a 9 to 5
I just love ya'lls chemistry together! Another good one. Keep em coming!
Great conversation. I am well pasted my 30s and have learned alot during the decades. What I see in each of you guys is greatness. Melissa: It is clear Melissa isn't a social media girl. But I wonder what is it about social media she doesnt like. However she can still be a powerhouse in any room she occupies because she is intelligent, thoughtful, and just a breath of fresh air. Marcus can do big things if he is allowed the space to be himself because is talented, skilled and funny. Kevin is definitely the Executioner. He gets stuff done and that is a great quality to have. Still, sometimes you can be busy executing all of your ideas and not realizing you are leaving a ton of destruction on the road behind you (Who is gonna clean that up?!). Patience. Angel is phenomenal and I agree she is THAT girl. I want to see her on big stages and screens because she is so talented as an actress, comedian, mother and overall woman. It's good to realize that while you can do ALL of the things, you can't DO all of the things with just the two hands you have. Finding balance is hard sometimes.
I'm in tears listening to Kev's story leading up to him being fired and Angel's heading to grad school 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Can we contact Kev's old boss??? I just wanna hear his thoughts
Wow! Melissa hit that ish! Literally what I been saying! I’m 37
Turning 30 next month so I really appreciate hearing this conversation at this time in my life. Thank you all for your insight and willingness to be transparent with us.
As someone soon entering into my 3rd decade of life in a couple months this came right on time! Thank you 💜
We’ve missed the mukbangs!
The 1st 20 mins is just hilarious to me😂😂😂 it’s a lot going on. Kev shirt off😂😂😂😂😂
I wish Angel was still selling that jewelry. That ring she is describing sounds wonderful 💕
No because I’m dying hearing about Angel’s mail scheme for grad school 🤣
Not me getting a kev spectrum commercial on a thatchickangel episode !! Ain’t god good
It's a shame that quitting social media is such a big deal. It has taken over our lives and its not even reality.
I miss these! I mean I love MAFS but these my fav!
Ohhhhh, Liss you just put concise words to my experience, 4:44. I say that I grew up in a household culture that promoted “when I say jump, you say how high”. That environment wasn’t great for encouraging trust in my own perspective. My personality operates best when believing in itself and that was actively smoked out as a child before age 9. My mom used to tell me that guiding myself would get me in trouble after I’d stepped off course from what she said and I got burned. She was saying I told you to listen, but I heard “my thoughts are dangerous for me” and that my thoughts are incorrect.
I love the realness and true love in friendship between all of you. Continue to be blessed and live life to the fullest.
Peace is priceless. There is nothing in the world worth my peace
I resonate sooo much with Melissa. This video was much needed! 🙌🏾
Yes me too!
Kev was opening fake accounts well before Wells Fargo🤣
I'm fresh in my 30s and y'all really spoke to me through your experiences thank you for this
Just saying some folks 9-5 is their dream and that's okay. Additionally, not everyone is called to be a CEO and/or entrepreneur and that's okay.
That's right Kev! You enjoy the moment! 😂😂😂
I’m so excited to watch this! I just began my thirties and already love this version of myself that I’m building and appreciate what I’ve experienced prior to this point. Still listening && learning 👂🏾🙌🏾💓
Loved this episode! And I’m exactly like Melissa!!! Omg 👏🏼 TO 👏🏼 THE 👏🏼 T
Great topic, and great discussion. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you guys
Melissa hit the nail on the head. I too grew up churchy and experienced the some of the same things she did. It is a struggle. I'm definitely learning to go with my gut. As well as the still quite voice of the Holy Spirit.
Yall have me crying out here. Kev is so hilarious. Lol
I’ve been waiting for the return of these videos for soooo long😊😊😊
Angel's story at the end! 😂😂
Melissa gworl ...when I say you just came right on in HOT. I thought I was speaking, literally this is my WHOLE entire story! If "what she said" was a person. 😆 ive only watched this part. Marcus too. This was good.
I am Melissa and Melissa is ME! 😭
I just swore the LOVE HOUR WAS OVER LISS!!!! 😂😂😂😂 LAWD you got me again!!! We are the same girl. SHIT! I love you though. THANK YOU!
yo. The ending had me dead 😁
I resonate with so much Melissa is saying from the news paper route as a 13 year old, to listen and believing in my self.
Y’all sweating internally and externally made this episode even more funny.
But I was cringing when Kev talked about forging sigs. Lol
Melissa said everything he does is 1st degree, premeditated. Hahahaha
22:30 I also just then realised that the shirt was back on 😂
The last two minutes had me rolling 🤣🤣🤣
Tank reminds me of Hank Hill
Omgeee! Yes! 🤣
Kevin going through it.. wiping that imaginary sweat and looks of desperation
Loved this episode and it was so helpful in understanding my limitations based on my circumstances.
Loved this episode. ❤️❤️
I'm here for everything Melissa said.
I’ll be 40 in September and the 30s are pivotal years.
lol kev has me crying everytime he says let him tell it 😂
I think, as people it's better to be good at a lot to things that are useful and valuable, but it's also good to master a thing or two if you can.
This episode was so good. Just what I needed!!
I love these videos! THANKS 😊
No one thought to check wether their noodles 🍜 were spicey or not, lol 😂 great show fam lol 😂
Love love love this episode.
So far I'm 3 years into 30, I've learned 3 different things
1. Trust yourself - you'll never steer yourself wrong.
2. Accountability - you are an active participant in life, nothing just happens even doing nothing is a choice.
3. Therapy - I need it to grow and learn more about myself. Facing yourself.
That spice was tearing y'all UP. I felt like I was watching an episode of Hot Ones
Marcus was dropping gems
The progression of this video from beginning to end 😂😂😂
Thank you for doing this!!!
😂😂😂 Kev was the worst employee ever. I’m about to be 32 years old but I’m much better off than my ghetto 20s
Ive missed this! Sooo manny great gems.
This whole show is off the rails 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Derailed by ramen 🍜🤣💯
When they all IMMEDIATELY caught the same vibe when they had the “it’s time for the agitator” moment!….
What I love Most about black folk.
Wow I am Melissa, in regards to how I was raised and how it conditioned me 😭
Angel Grad school come up 🤐 is legendary
This was really good!!! 💕
Great topic guys! Loved it! ❤️
When Angel released that afro and it didn't fall back fully into place 😫🤣
Great insight! 👏🏾👏🏾🤗