Spice Girl Mel B on domestic abuse
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- Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2018
- In 1994, Melanie Brown was one of 600 hopeful young women who auditioned to join the Spice Girls - a group that became the world's most famous young female band of all time.
Since then Mel B - or Scary Spice - has been performing and presenting and has now turned her hand to writing and campaigning, becoming a patron of the Domestic Abuse charity, Women's Aid.
Her memoir which has just been published is entitled "Brutally Honest" and addresses her ten-year marriage which ended in a bitter divorce last year. Her former husband denies her allegations of abuse and says he'll be answering them in full. Minnie Stephenson went to meet her.
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Narcissistic abuse is real. Narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths are everywhere and a lot more people than you would think are living lives with these people and being abused by them.
are you one of them?
Agreed, Mel B is totally narcissistic and obviously was abusive to her ex husband. I totally agree 👍
Her book is so good. I am so proud of you her! It's scary at the beginning and then going through everything. ugh. If you are in a bad relationship, get out, you are not alone.
people making negative comments about her own story of abuse have obviously all had the privilege of never being in an abusive relationship
MEL B you are so strong. Don't stop talking about your story. I am a victim of emotional and physical abuse by my sister Cheryl. She has also emotionally abused my dad and his wife. She thought my dad's 3rd wife was poisoning him. My brother and i didn't believe her. When she tried to get my dad out of the assistant living facility because my brother and i were involved in his care, she assaulted the doctor and a staff worker. She went to court. Because my brother is dead now,
i don't know what in court. A family member said that she might have been sued. Please pray for my sister Cheryl who has been receiving social security disability for 6 to 7 years.
Very happy she told her story. Great job and helping others in same situation. It's truly scary mental and physical abuse. Well loved by all .. Mel b.. love you!!❣💕💖
I love her from the bottom of my heart. You, reading this comment' are incredible!
You are incredible and that is THE TRUTH 😘
Why do ppl have a problem if she has the courage to tell her story
Her story ain't necessarily the truth. Remember she dropped the charges against him because he had evidence against her. (porno with her kids nanny) don't say he made her do it. She's had lots of lesbian affairs. All her kids are to different men. She's broke so any sensationalism will sell her book.
Kanye did a song about her
mel b is a champion of abused women for speaking out and having so much courage!!!!!!!
Because the truth is painful to hear that is why.
Because shes a liar and takes advantage of people herself. She takes away from the real victims of domestic violence. She tried to lie in divorce court about her husband being abusive and lost her child for it. Tell your story but label it the fiction it so obviously is.
To all the nasty comments here - time to look in the mirror. You either don't like this because (a) you are a controller or abuser yourself and don't want people waking up to who you are; or (b) you are BEING abused and this is far too close to home and you're not able / ready to do anything about it.
Its really good that shes not only telling her story, shes encouraging people to get help / seek support / find a refuge etc. If you get away from an abuser and try to just continue with business as usual you will just need to deal with it in the future
Mel B's own mother tried to protect her from that man but she fell out with her mother instead.
This is classical in a abusive relationship!
That is the control in an abusive relationship. It is mind control to let the victim think that the disconnection from family is their own doing.
because she was scared of him
I don't know if I am the only one feeling it, but it is so hard thinking and haring Melanie, this incredible woman, and a lot of women, are still living domestic violence.. Melanie is so strong to take control of the situation and talk about it, I don't have the ords to describe her. A lot of strength for her and all the women who suffer every type of abuses!
First time i hear the term 'coercive behaviour', very helpful, thank you
It takes courage to ask for help...
Continued success Mel B.
Unless you’ve been in a relationship like this you can’t imagine the devastation and the sadness in suffering that you become- also you become trauma bonded to these assholes and it makes it so hard to leave or realize what’s going on !! I’m a survivor too and I never thought me being the woman I am would have ever gone through this myself- it’s so hard but I’m so proud of myself and all women who have gotten thru this and thrived!!!
Good on ya Mel B, it's great to see you happy and comfortable. Have a brilliant tour. Lots of love xxx
And get more cocaine
@@ep9421 The world needs more righteous finger pointers and superior beings like you: where would we be if those of you without sin ever ceased to cast the first stone at the vulnerable and the unhappy.
How had I not realised this? Where the heck was I when this news was broken! - finally finding the time to let the news sink in - it's never the fault of the survivor, and it can literally happen to anyone, so many are caught in sick situations like this, praying for hope + hopefully will read her book soon
I look forward to reading the book. So proud of her. I hope you heal fast.
She was right it starts out slow and builds and build and more and more little dapples of restrictions isolations and acceptance of patterns of worse and worse abuse. They see they can keep going. Very scary. Cool to hear not alone
I am against domestic abuse. I support peace and liberty.
I support feminism, and equality for women.
Women should have freedom and choice.
Women should never suffer domestic abuse.
Women, children, and men should be free from domestic abuse, free from bullying, and free from sexual abuse.
Good men and good women should stand up for victims.
Protect women from abusers.
I always thought there was something not right about her husband Stephen, like her mother and sister were cut off and knew he wasn’t right. The reality show her ex always had such a cold demeanour about him.
Reema Miah most thoughts exactly!
There was always something cold about him from the first time i saw him photographed with Mel when they first got together like he was dead behind those eyes.
Amethyst Pisces Greaves thing was no one new what he did, apparently he was a producer or worked in entertainment but yet no body knew who he was.
@@kidcreole9421 that's a sociopath.
Mel B's own family labeled her as a Narcissist - who would not visit her father even when dying of cancer. Her story is whatever she wants it to be.
She did visit him. That's where she reconnected with her mother and her sister and realized that her marriage was just not worth it. Her mother and sister have said as much in interviews.
He isolated her from her family
Anyone that is in a domestic violence relationship will only know why it's not easy to just walk away. There's NO such thing or accidentally hitting or it only happening 1 time. Get out! because it will scar you not just physically but emotionally and mentally. There's so much help out there for women, men and children in households that live to tell about it...but far to many that it's just to late. Keeping children in an environment where they hear and witness violence will cause them too...a whole entire life of emotional and mental trauma 💔 Some people believe that the children are to young and either don't know what's going on or won't remember it...trust me children know alot more than we give them credit for. I pray 🙏with every ounce of my spiritual strength...that you get out and find a safe place 🙏
I agree 100% I witnessed DV growing up and over 20 years later I'm just now reslising how bad it was and how much damage it does. The problem is people just don't understand how sneaky and manipulative DV abusers can be when it comes to controlling and abusing irs never obvious and always done subtle and sneaky
Courage as a Lady, good luck on all in time 💖.
yes - I hope her come back tour is successful and she makes lots and lots of money... which... lets face it... is what this is all really about.
such an important issue, but the interviewer doesn't seem to be taking it seriously.
Domestic violence sucks 👎👎👎👎
So many negative comments hope it never happens to you lot....it happens to anyone and you don't always see it coming......instead of knocking people down try being supportive and build everyone him sad state when people can't even make a positive comment. No wonder the world the state it in. Well done Mel b for talking about it. ME TO!
Unfortunately for Mel she met the wrong geezer
I listened to her book and she details things she allowed that POS to do to her children. Sitting on the floor to eat, kicking the child’s dog etc.
She allowed it for herself. To allow it for her kids is unforgivable.
I love Mel B. Back when the Spice Girls were huge Geri was always my favorite but I feel MEL B definitely leads the way for me now. And, I love her for always advocation the girls union!
I hope one day I can meet you. As a 14 year old girl I can scream from the rooftops that you are my shining light that helps me get through my own horrible problems and you always will be. I love you so much Mel xxxxxxxxxxxx
I got this on audiobook. There's absolutely no mention of when she moved in with Patsy Kensit in the early 2000s.
Beautiful mel b proud of you keep going doing amazing stay safe stay strong sending love from UK takecare shining kiddo x
Bless you xxx
Mel B you are so wonderful and you are one of the judges in X Factor I admired and loved so much continue glowing and I wish that you and Eddie will be back together
Still love Mel she still as cool as ever, one of the most coolest girl bands members of all time.
I met her once in a petrol station up about 15 years ago or longer , she had a Range Rover Mel B number plate,
I still didn’t recognise,
She so beautiful face to face ,
I remember thinking when she was in the queue behind me My God this lady is beautiful,
Later I found out it was Mel B spice girls ..
Tough soic to go through all that for 10 years
Always true to yourself your the winner mel x
I WILL HAVE TO READ HER BOOK AGAIN.
Andrew turvill. I'm sorry you had a bad time with your partner. I hope you will find happiness. Keep strong and remember you are worth it! All the best xx
The way The US deny stuff scares me u can tell she is telling the truth it’s in her eyes/ but if ur in this sitch just run away no matter what 9 times out 10 it will get worse
Im Steve from Australia i was bash up by my father and my 2 brothers and I'm very glad that got out of my mother and father home and i don't look back what happen to me and i every good wife that understand what i when thought and i have 8 lovely daughters help me get thought things and to see things and i have the very best sport now but not back when i was very young and now im very glad that i can talk about what i went through and you are the ever 4 person that i have open up to ok and thank you i love you as a very good friend
What's horrible about all violence against woman is that if u aren't in a 'relationship" the police can't help u. So it's almost like u are forced to take things into ur own hands. Awful world we live in when a man can abuse woman and subject children to violence drugs and harm and get away with it.
Just in time for the reunion tour.
vdotme 😂😂😂❤️
Me Too.
I met her in the gallery in Leeds in 96 or 95 it's daz majid Boland
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR MBE.
Her minge was kicking out a right pong
Mel b you are super strong woman
Strong powerful Mel B I salute ❤️
Beautiful
What I dont understand is why a worldly strong mature woman with 2 ex husbands can be caught up in this mess?? I believe her 3rd husband was abusive but I dont think the situation can be entirely blamed on him. I think she was probably just as abusive and she was abusing drugs. ,Its almost like some women seek out these relationships. A normal sensible, responsible man is just too boring for them. They are attracted to bad boys and bad boy behaviour, its exciting for them. Its a well known phenomenon of girls liking bad boys.
We need to get to the bottom of it.
tubester4567 Women who had emotionally absent fathers gravitate towards men who emotionally remind them of their fathers in an attempt to reconcile the original trauma - ie probe they are lovable.
She has only been married twice, to Jimmy Gulzar and the Stephen "Belafonte". Her abusive 2nd husband found and ingratiated himself in her life right after she had been through a public, bruising break up with Eddie Murphy. She wasn't in the best head space when they met and he took advantage.
No one has a problem with her telling her story. However, she need to come out and tell the truth. She is a pathological liar. Period!
no she isnt there is prove out there she IS telling the truth
yeah because you know her so well and obviously you were living in the same house with her husband...get a life!!
Yes l know her so well from her days as a member of the spice girls group as a pathetic human being. Ok.
U are making me come back to this after 1 year of my initial comment. I said a lot about this in my comments a year ago and engaged in debate with many people. Am not interested in engaging u or go back to this in 2020. I have got other important things to do.
Thank u and goodbye
@@oluakinwale4859 yet you did come back to it an respond. 😆
Lack of judgement, problem as old as time.
Geoff Brooks subconscious programming- tale as old as time. No exception.
Richard Ramirez, has been terrorizing Me, too long! Dixie Motel #11!
HOPEFULLY HE IS IN PRISON.
Pay gap isn't real but Love sent out to Mel B
Its sad tho that shes victim. Of abuse yet he won the court case he won rights to see his daughter wonder why abuse victim don't go to police no more or take it to court cos they don't get believed anyway so sad
I do believe it was a toxica abusive relationship however something does not seem genuine with her body language..her timing and she does not look interviewers in the eye or listen to people ..she speaks over people as if she has a monologue she rehearsed. Her husband's a wacko though in fairness
Mel B.
Bullies pooheads your strong amazing lady well done proud of you keep going sending love from UK takecare x
I feel u melb they like to say u see what u make me do is your fault
Mel B ❤
Mel b you are a beautiful bubbly women with beautiful daughters. I'm so glad you're out of your nightmare marriage. You will find someone who loves you and respects you. You can pick and choose you're a good looking women. I wish you every success with the spice girls reunion. I'm 58 and I still love the spice girls. Xx
You are saying all these because you are a woman. You have let emotions overcome your sense of judgements. Where is the evidence he abused her. Nothing was presented in court. Nothing. She blocked access to her hospital records because she knew it would expose all her lies. She is a drug addict and this was proven in court. She tried to hide it from the public but was forced to admit it. She then put the blame on Belafonte that he was the person that introduced her to drugs. She is a liar and there are many things she lied about. Women like you are the causes of misfortune. Stop defending women like Mel who destroy men for their own selfish reasons. Come on! Wake up!
Journalist was very blasé when she spoke of another human being’s suicide attempt
I adore Mel B...
Massive pay gap... Lol. Then she talks about ppl being ignorant.
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I just love her. What a wonderful human
Really! You don't know what you are talking about.
Facelift
No just too many fillers
will always be a powerful girl!
Mel b unedited
A male should never be abused physically emotionally and mentally by any male. But let's be honest women staying with guys that treats them horribly isn't shocking it happens all the time.
She's so arrogant and self-centered I don't believe a word she says she believes her own lies
My favorit artisch is mel b
I thought for a hot second that it was posh spice and David Beckham was on my kill list!
i feel sorry for the fella, anyone trying to put up with mel b deserves an award speech and dinner
I can’t stand her and don’t believe her at all! sorry but I can see it on her eyes
Don't be an asshole . Who would want to lie about that? You nor i was there. We dont know what happened
Just a wee bit too much arm waving.
whats that got to do with it?
I genuinely feel bad for domestic violence victims I do. However there is something about Mel B I'm just not buying. I know I'm judging but I genuinely feel this guy has got dirt on her and that's why she stayed so long and in order to save her neck that's why she's playing victim. I believe the abuse happened however I feel she's done some dirt that she don't want the public knowing. Classic narcissist destroy the other persons character by any means necessary
The more interviews she gives,the more it means she is trying off load her own culpability.
flicking her fingers at waiters. Yes this ones forgotten where it came from. So sad when humans turn out like that. Anyway mel death awaits you just like it does for us all !at least your not to good enough for that. God bless you. '
why did she put up with the abuse for 10 years?
Abuse is a spiral that is hard to get out of. There is shame, guilt, fear, isolation, and more that chain people to abusers. She had been isolated from friends and family, gaslighted to the point of being dependent on him, and he continued to blackmail her with sexually explicit videos that he coerced her to make.
Why have the other four Spice Girls doing "okay" when yours went down the drain?
ecause they are diff people everyone has diff private lives
Nice pair of big ears...
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lol this woman was outed as a child abuser by her former nanny, yet she's the victim!
She has nothing to promote since all the tickets for the spice girls' show have been sold out.
@@ignacioignaciogomez8030 Her book.????
@@stringer-ik1pc well... The book deals with the things she's been talking about.
Is she telling the truth? She got a very strong personality how come her ex husband abused her ??!!!
If you do not believe her story then that's your problem and not hers nor ours. Such an unnecessary comment why won't you face your jealousy?? 😕😞😑
anyone can be abused strong personality or not
It can happen to anyone, It's not about how strong someone is. This type of abusers prey on people chip away at them slowly bit by bit its all wrong. Its awful so many women and men end up in this situations like this sadly ):
Believe all wamen always , even with no evidence or else you are a .........insert slurs .
I believe her though. Because I have seen her ex's disgusting behavior on Instagram. (Screenshots of it, that is.)
Thank you.
Don’t trust her
Kayli Sousa why?
Two sides to every story......put them in a room, both attached to lie detectors, and let the experts determine what the REAL TRUTH is.... was Mel a serial cheater, was she always a faithful wife, did she every lie to her husband about her motives and activities? There are many ways to be an abusive partner, but only some are recognised by the law.
When your husband/boyfriend is middle eastern
@Kbreezi well I hope he doesn't beat you
@Adam Abdelaziz statisticallly I'm right soo
youre mum doesnt think so. shes known as "the bike" to middle eastern men - everyones had a ride
Mel B's ex-husband isn't Middle Eastern, he is mixed race like she is, half Black/half White.
Never seen her look so good.
Fake news
how do you know?
What do you say to a woman with two black eyes ?
Nothing . You already told her twice .
Rohypno tist hurrr durrr good one 🤤🤤🤤🤤 Hope you end up in an abusive relationship
@@lillallelillalle Thanks , that's sweet . I hope you end up in a healthy one .
Matilda Jane I’m not the one joking about giving women black eyes, am I?
You think violence against women is a joke?
I dont believe her, where is her proof?