Indeed. Besides evening attire now and then, dress well each day for no other reason that to celebrate the joy of being alive! I will be with you in spirit on the evening of November 1st! -- Sartorial Greetings from Michigan, USA
I love wearing black tie (or white tie). I feel 8 feet tall. Dressing well? Self respect, respect for others and respect for the place or institution. Nice video. Wish I could be in the UK for the November event!
Today I wore brown brogues, khaki chinos, a blue oxford shirt and navy blazer with a light blue patterned pocket square. What did I do? I got a hair cut and ran a couple of small errands. Nothing fancy, but everyone I met treated me like a VIP. It’s like magic.
Isn't it sad, in a way, that you already stand out so prominently just by wearing normal clothing, like a jacket and tie? I wish we would blend in a little more.
@@uglukthemedicineman5933 That's what I mean. But isn't that awful? I don't necessarily *want* to stand out, but I'm forced to, and I take the challenge. But deep down I want other people to dress normal too. Just look at old fotos: normal people, dressing nicely. I'm always happy when I meet a likeminded chap in the street. Suit, tie, hat, nice shoes. That's all it takes.
@@PotsdamSenior Indeed. But we live in an age of decadence. Society was more healthy and natural in the past so people dressed normal. Now society is dysfunctional and there is no community anymore, so people just wear what they find comfortable. I don't blame them but I wish they would dress up too.
My wife and I are going out for a work-related evening event tomorrow and I will have one of my rare opportunities to wear my best suit (although not a black tie/tuxedo - I don’t have one of those), and I am looking forward to it. I would love to join you for your November event, but sadly it is beyond my budget to fly there from Vancouver. I’ll raise a silent toast to you on that day as I think about you.
A great video and explains to the dullards who say "oh what's the point". Health, wellbeing, self expression, positivity! See you on the 1st November Chaps!🎉
My mom modeled for DIOR in Paris In the 1950's.... A Beautiful lady from florence, Italy......she used to say.... Class never goes out of style. I'm a Cardiologist and I dress in suits and bowties daily It is shocking how many women come up and talk to me here even on the streets of NYC. Its also odd that everyone calls me.... sir...even young girls...Im getting older but I take that as compliment...I never looked at myself as a "sir"
Wow, your mother sounds like a classy dame! I haven't been to the Big Apple since I was a child, but it holds a special place in my heart and I am very happy to hear you keep the place looking smart.
I suffer from clinically diagnosed depression and anxiety, Ash, and the efforts I have made to dress like a chap in the last two years have made a remarkable difference in not only how I am perceived by others, but also in how I perceive myself. Many thanks for all your excellent advice, and for sharing your knowledge and insights.
Dressing up or just well for the day to day can definitely change your mood it helps me a bit when I'm feeling down to take that extra care. Good content as always Ash. Cheers.
I’m off to a party in London this weekend. I’m wearing black tie with a burgundy velvet dinner jacket. My wife said “You realise no one else will be in black tie?” But for me you can never be overdressed.
Your video ❤ deserves a standing Applause 👏 the art of Simply Dressing Up is so Important - Kings Queens and People of All Ranks in the Services to their Countries - Men & Women - We Salute You for protecting & Standing Tall in Uniform! Ditto for Us All who take Time & Effort to Dress Well ❤️🩹 - every day 😊
Great content, Ash. Thank you for sharing this with us. You actually gave us six reasons. If I might expand on No.5 (the subtle signal to others), making the effort to dress well for an event, even if it is just for an informal social gathering, is a mark of respect to the host(s) and fellow guests (who may equally be members of your social circle). It signifies that you value sharing their company and acknowledges the appreciation that they also value yours. If the event is at a theatre or concert, dressing well shows your respect for the performers and musicians.
I won't be attending your event in London. But just like the gentleman from Michigan I will join you in spirit, by "dressing up" for an evening at the theatre in Berlin. Let the "Nirwana Club Night" span around the globe! Greetings from Potsdam, Germany
Love the videos Ash. I must apologize for always commenting with a story😊. A childhood friend’s dad was a house painter by trade and worked very hard. He told me that 2-3 times a year he and his wife would get dressed up and go out to dinner at a high end restaurant. A place that required men to wear a jacket. He said that it was a nice reward for the hard days in the elements and created something to look forward to. He was a military veteran and was a successful business owner. He told us “learn to dress up…you won’t always be running around with a skateboard under arm.”
A good question, Darius! My thoughts: Nimrod or Herne could wear a hunting style, Headless Horseman or Mad Hatter in morning dress or such, Jekyll and Hyde or Dorian Grey in Victorian/Edwardian, the phantom of the opera is a pretty dapper chap too. Maybe Jack the Ripper, Corpse Groom, Baron Samedi?
As an introvert. I suddenly become Bond when wearing Grey and Black suits. Truly Effortless when it comes to interacting with everyone. Other male folk are shocked by the sudden presentation when I walk in alone at a social function. Women leave their "dates and husbands" and approach me . Other "confident" Gentlemen offer drinks and suddenly invite me to join their 'circle' of conversation.
I appreciate the idea of free events, but I find that often people will decide not to show up if they haven’t paid. I wonder if an event could impose a $20 registration fee that is returned upon check-in as a way to maintain it being free for those who attend, but also provide motivation for registrants to actually show up. (It also gives the attendee cash for the bar if one is available)
I was on a cruise last week on Royal Caribbean and there were 2 "formal" nights and I did black tie on both occasions. OK, I was sat across the way from a chap with a baseball cap and a t-shirt with an American eagle on it, but I don't care, who am I to judge, it was a wonderful evening.
Good video. A little experiment us men - us chaps - can play. Walk through, say, a crowded railway station, wearing casual clothing. Count the number of attractive women giving you the eye. Repeat in 'jacket & tie'. And again in a suit. The suit will win.
Thank you for the amazing videos you put together. The last point is one of the most important ones for me. Although I'm living the busiest time of my life, with a toddler and newborn baby and a job I feel passionate about, I've gotten more and more formal in my clothing. Basically the only social occasions I have are commuting to work, so I invest more in my office clothing. The less time I have for my hobbies and myself, clothes and dressing up has become my outlet for self-expression and creativity. It just that small boost to get connected with myself, and showing my personality to the world, all while staying professional. Instead of selecting clothes for the day feeling like a chore, it's become a source of energy. Just the ritual of a clean shave, pressing my trousers and ironing a shirt, and selecting a necktie give me the extra pep and confidence to get through the day. Never in a million years would have I thought of wearing a tie, but that's basically become a cheat code for putting together great outfit with little to no effort. You can even get away with wearing the same tailoring two days in a row, when you simply do not have the time or energy to think about outfits.
Nice one Ash ! Catching up with you last week's output as we await disembarkation from this cruise This was a very high opportunity situation to dress up .As a "traine to the well dressed world " I do believe I pulled it off rather well !Sadly many others didn't and I feel some feel out their depth !Hey semi rant over great work 100%with you on your sage advice reflections
Dressing up is great. But with todays lifestyle, it makes it impractical and not to mention expensive with the dry cleaning to follow. Ash, for those of us not in London, can you post videos of the Nirvana club talks on this channel.
The US offers very few opportunities to wear black tie, but it has numerous places to dress up. You should always wear a suit to a wedding, funeral, or some religious rite that is important to someone in your family or friend. If you go to the opera or a theater play, then you should wear a suit. That includes memorial services or remembrances. For Sunday Mass or services, you should at least wear a sport jacket. If participating in the rite, that includes a tie. If you go to school to meet your child’s teacher, sport jacket and likely a tie. Dressing up is wearing one level above the norm. Black tie is too high a threshold and can be an excuse to do nothing. Instead, take the opportunity to dress up several times a week for events that occur in every day life.
Had an event some time ago and afterwards a few of us planned to meet up at a local dive bar. I decided not to look like a complete dick head so I ditched the jacket and tie. So now Im just wearing a contrast collar button-down with French cuffs which were rolled up, slacks and a shiny pair of Cheaneys. I stroll up to the bar door and as I’m about to open it and walk in a completely wasted and covered in something yellowish….gent goes to open it to leave. Well, I beat him to and hold the door open for him. He takes one up and down look at me and in his drunkest and most exuberant voice yells “wow you’re a real gentleman!” and shakes my hand and says thanks! The joy and respect I had and gave that guy was my greatest reward. He felt like he was ten feet tall just because some dude wearing his rent held the door open for him and gave him a honest smile and look of no judgment. The power we have as well dressed men to make someone feel better and possibly respected should not be underestimated. Use your powers for good gentlemen👊
Dear Ash, I'm bit surprized by your outfit and you untraditional way to wear/complete it. 1) why would your (very unusual, but very nice) dinner jacket have two buttons instead of one? (OK, this is probably how you found it in the thrift store or wherever you found it, not your "fault" at all), BUT 2) why would you close the bottom button?!? 3) why would you wear a steel sporty watch on a steel bracelet with this outfit?!?
Do not get too drawn into the world of ‘shoulds’, ‘oughts’ and ‘musts’ when it comes to clothing. I will let you into a secret, I was not at an actual dinner party - I was just filming a video. Being overly prescriptive with clothing sucks away all the joy.
Indeed. Besides evening attire now and then, dress well each day for no other reason that to celebrate the joy of being alive! I will be with you in spirit on the evening of November 1st!
-- Sartorial Greetings from Michigan, USA
I love wearing black tie (or white tie). I feel 8 feet tall.
Dressing well? Self respect, respect for others and respect for the place or institution.
Nice video. Wish I could be in the UK for the November event!
I try to look good/professional for work, 5 days/week, and I am noticed…☺️👍
Today I wore brown brogues, khaki chinos, a blue oxford shirt and navy blazer with a light blue patterned pocket square. What did I do? I got a hair cut and ran a couple of small errands. Nothing fancy, but everyone I met treated me like a VIP. It’s like magic.
I experienced being treated like royalty at a local store by the staff.
All because I wore what I felt like that day, my chinos were grey though.
Isn't it sad, in a way, that you already stand out so prominently just by wearing normal clothing, like a jacket and tie? I wish we would blend in a little more.
@@PotsdamSenior blending in today means dressing ugly.
don't try to fit in, you were born to stand out.
@@uglukthemedicineman5933 That's what I mean. But isn't that awful? I don't necessarily *want* to stand out, but I'm forced to, and I take the challenge. But deep down I want other people to dress normal too. Just look at old fotos: normal people, dressing nicely. I'm always happy when I meet a likeminded chap in the street. Suit, tie, hat, nice shoes. That's all it takes.
@@PotsdamSenior Indeed.
But we live in an age of decadence.
Society was more healthy and natural in the past so people dressed normal.
Now society is dysfunctional and there is no community anymore, so people just wear what they find comfortable.
I don't blame them but I wish they would dress up too.
You get less messed up when you get dressed up.
My wife and I are going out for a work-related evening event tomorrow and I will have one of my rare opportunities to wear my best suit (although not a black tie/tuxedo - I don’t have one of those), and I am looking forward to it.
I would love to join you for your November event, but sadly it is beyond my budget to fly there from Vancouver. I’ll raise a silent toast to you on that day as I think about you.
This genuinely the type of video I watch this channel for.
A great video and explains to the dullards who say "oh what's the point". Health, wellbeing, self expression, positivity! See you on the 1st November Chaps!🎉
My mom modeled for DIOR in Paris In the 1950's.... A Beautiful lady from florence, Italy......she used to say.... Class never goes out of style. I'm a Cardiologist and I dress in suits and bowties daily It is shocking how many women come up and talk to me here even on the streets of NYC. Its also odd that everyone calls me.... sir...even young girls...Im getting older but I take that as compliment...I never looked at myself as a "sir"
Wow, your mother sounds like a classy dame! I haven't been to the Big Apple since I was a child, but it holds a special place in my heart and I am very happy to hear you keep the place looking smart.
A bow tie always looks the part!
Almost every day is a Mr Ben day for me. It gets me through.
Great for those in U.K. who can attend an event like this....
I suffer from clinically diagnosed depression and anxiety, Ash, and the efforts I have made to dress like a chap in the last two years have made a remarkable difference in not only how I am perceived by others, but also in how I perceive myself.
Many thanks for all your excellent advice, and for sharing your knowledge and insights.
I am so pleased that dressing well has aided your self care regime. As I often say, it is about much more than mere clothing.
Dressing up or just well for the day to day can definitely change your mood it helps me a bit when I'm feeling down to take that extra care. Good content as always Ash. Cheers.
I’m off to a party in London this weekend. I’m wearing black tie with a burgundy velvet dinner jacket. My wife said “You realise no one else will be in black tie?” But for me you can never be overdressed.
Good video. You look SHARP!
Thank you!
Your video ❤ deserves a standing Applause 👏 the art of Simply Dressing Up is so Important - Kings Queens and People of All Ranks in the Services to their Countries - Men & Women - We Salute You for protecting & Standing Tall in Uniform! Ditto for Us All who take Time & Effort to Dress Well ❤️🩹 - every day 😊
Excellent presentation!
Thank you kindly!
Great content, Ash. Thank you for sharing this with us. You actually gave us six reasons. If I might expand on No.5 (the subtle signal to others), making the effort to dress well for an event, even if it is just for an informal social gathering, is a mark of respect to the host(s) and fellow guests (who may equally be members of your social circle). It signifies that you value sharing their company and acknowledges the appreciation that they also value yours. If the event is at a theatre or concert, dressing well shows your respect for the performers and musicians.
Bond style is always great
I won't be attending your event in London. But just like the gentleman from Michigan I will join you in spirit, by "dressing up" for an evening at the theatre in Berlin. Let the "Nirwana Club Night" span around the globe!
Greetings from Potsdam, Germany
Fantastic as always. I will be dressed up on that evening, but elsewhere! Looking forward to the next.
Thoroughly looking forward to the Autumn extravaganza. Hopefully my kit hasn't shrunk in the wardrobe.
🫡
Love the videos Ash. I must apologize for always commenting with a story😊. A childhood friend’s dad was a house painter by trade and worked very hard. He told me that 2-3 times a year he and his wife would get dressed up and go out to dinner at a high end restaurant. A place that required men to wear a jacket. He said that it was a nice reward for the hard days in the elements and created something to look forward to. He was a military veteran and was a successful business owner. He told us “learn to dress up…you won’t always be running around with a skateboard under arm.”
Great advice indeed.
I much prefer the term ˋdress well´ dressing up infers a costume party.
Not in the UK. Costume parties are considered best for the unruly youth.
thx!
Since Halloween is coming, would you ever consider to make a video about costumes that incorporate classic men style?
Dracula wears a tuxedo.
Frankenstein's Monster wears a sportscoat ;)
@@uglukthemedicineman5933considering the fit, I think the Wolfman wears Tom Ford
A good question, Darius! My thoughts: Nimrod or Herne could wear a hunting style, Headless Horseman or Mad Hatter in morning dress or such, Jekyll and Hyde or Dorian Grey in Victorian/Edwardian, the phantom of the opera is a pretty dapper chap too. Maybe Jack the Ripper, Corpse Groom, Baron Samedi?
@@uglukthemedicineman5933 not to mention that Dracula from the hammer films wears a four button black suit and black cape with red lining.
@@Olyfrun lmao, I hate those slim suits.
Tom Ford made James Bond look like an idiot
Great looking dinner jacket.
Excellent idea Ash!
As an introvert. I suddenly become Bond when wearing Grey and Black suits. Truly Effortless when it comes to interacting with everyone. Other male folk are shocked by the sudden presentation when I walk in alone at a social function. Women leave their "dates and husbands" and approach me . Other "confident" Gentlemen offer drinks and suddenly invite me to join their 'circle' of conversation.
Looking smart Ash!!
Thank you!!
I appreciate the idea of free events, but I find that often people will decide not to show up if they haven’t paid. I wonder if an event could impose a $20 registration fee that is returned upon check-in as a way to maintain it being free for those who attend, but also provide motivation for registrants to actually show up. (It also gives the attendee cash for the bar if one is available)
Excellent video ❤
I was on a cruise last week on Royal Caribbean and there were 2 "formal" nights and I did black tie on both occasions. OK, I was sat across the way from a chap with a baseball cap and a t-shirt with an American eagle on it, but I don't care, who am I to judge, it was a wonderful evening.
Good video.
A little experiment us men - us chaps - can play. Walk through, say, a crowded railway station, wearing casual clothing. Count the number of attractive women giving you the eye. Repeat in 'jacket & tie'. And again in a suit. The suit will win.
Thank you for the amazing videos you put together.
The last point is one of the most important ones for me. Although I'm living the busiest time of my life, with a toddler and newborn baby and a job I feel passionate about, I've gotten more and more formal in my clothing. Basically the only social occasions I have are commuting to work, so I invest more in my office clothing. The less time I have for my hobbies and myself, clothes and dressing up has become my outlet for self-expression and creativity. It just that small boost to get connected with myself, and showing my personality to the world, all while staying professional. Instead of selecting clothes for the day feeling like a chore, it's become a source of energy.
Just the ritual of a clean shave, pressing my trousers and ironing a shirt, and selecting a necktie give me the extra pep and confidence to get through the day. Never in a million years would have I thought of wearing a tie, but that's basically become a cheat code for putting together great outfit with little to no effort. You can even get away with wearing the same tailoring two days in a row, when you simply do not have the time or energy to think about outfits.
You’ve cracked the sartorial secrets sir. Bravo!
Nice one Ash !
Catching up with you last week's output as we await disembarkation from this cruise
This was a very high opportunity situation to dress up .As a "traine to the well dressed world " I do believe I pulled it off rather well !Sadly many others didn't and I feel some feel out their depth !Hey semi rant over great work 100%with you on your sage advice reflections
Hope you enjoyed it!
You forgot October 31st ! More candy or else! LOL.
Dressing up is great. But with todays lifestyle, it makes it impractical and not to mention expensive with the dry cleaning to follow. Ash, for those of us not in London, can you post videos of the Nirvana club talks on this channel.
😊
The US offers very few opportunities to wear black tie, but it has numerous places to dress up. You should always wear a suit to a wedding, funeral, or some religious rite that is important to someone in your family or friend. If you go to the opera or a theater play, then you should wear a suit. That includes memorial services or remembrances. For Sunday Mass or services, you should at least wear a sport jacket. If participating in the rite, that includes a tie. If you go to school to meet your child’s teacher, sport jacket and likely a tie.
Dressing up is wearing one level above the norm. Black tie is too high a threshold and can be an excuse to do nothing.
Instead, take the opportunity to dress up several times a week for events that occur in every day life.
Had an event some time ago and afterwards a few of us planned to meet up at a local dive bar. I decided not to look like a complete dick head so I ditched the jacket and tie. So now Im just wearing a contrast collar button-down with French cuffs which were rolled up, slacks and a shiny pair of Cheaneys. I stroll up to the bar door and as I’m about to open it and walk in a completely wasted and covered in something yellowish….gent goes to open it to leave. Well, I beat him to and hold the door open for him. He takes one up and down look at me and in his drunkest and most exuberant voice yells “wow you’re a real gentleman!” and shakes my hand and says thanks! The joy and respect I had and gave that guy was my greatest reward. He felt like he was ten feet tall just because some dude wearing his rent held the door open for him and gave him a honest smile and look of no judgment. The power we have as well dressed men to make someone feel better and possibly respected should not be underestimated.
Use your powers for good gentlemen👊
Being well dressed is a minor superpower.
Dear Ash, I'm bit surprized by your outfit and you untraditional way to wear/complete it.
1) why would your (very unusual, but very nice) dinner jacket have two buttons instead of one? (OK, this is probably how you found it in the thrift store or wherever you found it, not your "fault" at all), BUT
2) why would you close the bottom button?!?
3) why would you wear a steel sporty watch on a steel bracelet with this outfit?!?
Do not get too drawn into the world of ‘shoulds’, ‘oughts’ and ‘musts’ when it comes to clothing. I will let you into a secret, I was not at an actual dinner party - I was just filming a video. Being overly prescriptive with clothing sucks away all the joy.
Chaps without a clue will attend looking like Kurt Cobain. Wasn't this the Nirvana club?