How To GET The Girl Or Guy Of Your DREAMS W/ Matthew Hussey | Aubrey Marcus Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024
- I sat down with dating and relationship ninja Matthew Hussey for this episode of the Aubrey Marcus Podcast. We kick it off by reminiscing on our recent trip to Poland with Wim Hof and his breathing techniques and then venture down the path of modern dating. He is an amazing human that taught me a lot in this episode. Dating these days is incredible hard, but Matthew has a ton of tips and advice on how to navigate modern love, romance and relationships. We talk about dating apps, the idiocy of Negging, and how to reframe your story to become the hero you are waiting to be. Matthew also gives relationship advice as it pertains to online dating, getting out of your comfort zone as it relates to making a good first impression, along with specific relationship advice as it directly pertains to either women or men to get the guy or girl you've always wanted.
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Timestamps:
5:00 Wim Hof Personal Experience
11:10 Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone
35:00 Going With the Flow
43:00 General Relationship Advice
1:00:00 Confidence in Relationships
1:11:00 Online Dating Advice
1:25:00 Importance of Making a Great First Impression
1:33:00 Getting Your Crush to Notice You
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Founder of Onnit and modern philosopher Aubrey Marcus asks the important questions: How do we find our purpose, wake up to who we truly are, have a few more laughs, and human being a little better?
The Aubrey Marcus Podcast brings in world-class guests from the fields of athletics, health, business, fitness, science, relationship and spirituality, and asks them to open up about the failures and successes that define their wisdom and character.
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❤ feeling totally accepted when being fully vulnerable / transparent is that feeling. It’s a rare and beautiful gift.
Confidence is a byproduct of competence. Competence isn't a by product of confidence, it's a by product of action and that can be done without confidence by using courage and / or discipline. Forget aiming for confidence. Aim for competence.
I'm only 18 (turning 19 in a couple days) but seeing videos like this is really inspiring me to be great AND happy. You guys are the most self-aware people I've ever heard discuss things that I've been considering for the last year of my life.
Thank you, Matthew, for noticing the trash cans at Disney world! You just made my day and gave me a sense of purpose I’ve been craving. I design the trash cans at Stanford and wonder sometimes if anyone out there appreciates my attention to the details. Great analogy with the trash cans and dating too. :)
We appreciate it !
@@legit1095 i.am gonna do that breathing style thank you both
Matthew you came out a new man from that experience. There’s something in your eyes and smile that speaks you’ve found a sense of meaning in life. Your energy is just so refreshing and inspiring!
It’s also so new to see Aubrey looking for deeper and more meaningful relationships and becoming a positive force to someone’s life than the ‘transactional’ relationship ... something soulful did really happen on your trip to Poland!
And two men I really admire talk about vulnerability and crying and being in touch with your deeper self! Goodness. We need more men like you.
Loreen Buenavista I see the same thing!! It’s fantastic and inspiring
@@GENESIASICRESICREDESIGNS Agreed and it’s a dynamic not seen often enough for men,particularly in western culture
Listening to someone as extraordinary as Aubrey struggle a little bit with online dating is wonderful to watch. I love the vulnerability in this conversation.
Isn't he married though? :) everybody has struggles. Its all a learning curve.
@@Tes73792 i think during this podcast he was single but as of right now I believe he’s married
This is not the first time I am watching this. But this time It is hitting on a different level. As I am getting to know someone I really like, I am using all the obsessive thoughts and the emotions as indicators to know where I need to work on myself instead of projecting it on a potential partner and overwhelm them or run to other numbing drugs. It's a delicate dance :)
I had similar experience with women. This summer I spent 7 days with other women by the seaside. We had meditations on the beach, dances, lectures about female line. During this time we were sharing a laugh, crying and having quality time together. It was so amazing experience that when I came back home my family and friends thought I fell in love😀 Regards from Poland😘
Wow, Matthew is truly glowing in this interview! The joy of life is just oozing out of him! I love that he's a fan of Spirited Away!
these are the parts i love: 51:18 56:35 (he talks about his dad and then his mom and wow it's so valuable and vulnerable all at once. he admits he has his own anxious voice and needs that parent figure to calm him. and his moms answer to him asking her how do you know who you are? and she replied so truthfully: "i know who i am by what i've done, and what i'm comfortable with" and then he dives deeper into how we can evolve beyond our current self through confidence and competence, but then also necessity of life. that was so cool to listen to, his self-awareness and gentleness is beyond anything i've ever seen in anyone i know.)
after listening to this i realize how many lovely men have probably wanted to get to know me better when they were asking me how my night was going or something similar..... i just thought they were freindly guys so only gave them one word answers and a smile. such a great conversation!!
Two of my top 5 favorite thought leaders of this time, teaming up. Yes 🤙
Love seeing Matthew’s expansion into more of a spiritual context. Love seeing Aubrey’s increasing grounded-ness in romance & relationships. You two complement each other SO well. So DOPE.
Gosh, guys..... It was so male-ish intimacy revealed. I love the flow of this kind of conversation, without show elements, felt unprepaired though complete. You were so understanding to eachother, so supportive. Essential of male - human psyche. ❤️
true, a dating profile is not giving off the energy of any person. Energy is in person, smell, showing vulnerability, the story, and effort. A real person will show their story, it is rare that someone share themselves in text
This is my 1st time listening to Aubrey's channel.. LOVE the honesty and vulnerability.
Truly refreshing and makes me feel more connected as a woman who is experiencing many parallels.
Bless you all
The honesty and vulnerability in this is something else. ♥ Fascinating and important conversation.
So my question is, how do we attract more of these conscious relationships into our lives? It could be attributed to a limited belief, maybe, but I feel it is difficult to find people who have this level of emotional, mental, and spiritual awareness. I want to attract a conscious man into my life, sure, but how do we build a community of people where we can just “be,” as Matthew said. I’ve experienced this. I know how great it feels. And I also know there is difficulty in trying to find that feeling in everyday life. What steps have you taken to realize more of this in your day to day life? How do you connect romantically with someone who has a depth like this, too? It’s not something you can feel about a person through a dating app or over a text.
Sorry I’m late
Is is rather rare. And moreover, some people know the "jargon", but in reality it is only a coat they wear that covers their selfishness.
These guys are too developed for the average person. I love it. This is what I need to surround myself with
I LOVE the organic discussions like this one between the two of you! Thank you! 🤗
Also, I agree with MH that the “neg” doesn’t work if you want a woman who is smart with confidence. She’ll see right through it that you’re insecure, unkind, and trying to manipulate her. A lightly worn confidence with humility is highly attractive and can be spotted a mile away.
right away
Wim Hof's technique is amazing! Because of Wim, I was able to get my health and confidence back.
My internal work radiated out. I was asked out by a man 14 yrs my Jr. I am enjoying life right now.
I used to live my life in debt too, and also have felt that I haven’t dealt with it the best. It really is all about constantly trusting and letting go. 🙏🏻🙌🏻
I love how I understand the deepness of this podcast
I am deeply touched listening to this podcast. To see these two evolved , aware men bearing their soul. Showing bravely their weakness, as men to world. For women to see, giving us faith that there are men out there, who are seeking and wanting , wishing for the same things we are seeking. Thank you so much. For the raw honest vulnerability shown. My heart is so thankful. Thank you
I am happy to surround myself ... even only with youtube ... people who have chosen awareness, have chosen authenticity, truth and self-work. I am happy that I am not alone in this.
Hell Yes!! I’ve been tracking both of you Aubrey Marcus and Matthew Hussey for a long time. You guys are an awesome combination. This is magic and we need more podcasts combos like this! ❤️
Great dynamic between the two of you
It's crazy to sit here and listen to these two talk about insecurities when approaching women. The last two people who probably need to be insecure. I have approached men with more confidence knowing he might not happen be interested to me. I'll keep this conversation in mind when I am out in the world. I always approach people like I am genuinely interested in saying "Hi how are you" (and sincere about it and mean it) not what if I am rejected by this person. It makes everything much easier.
Thank you for posting this video! I know I am late to the party, but I just found it. It was very surprising to me to learn that good-looking men would ever feel nervous about approaching a woman! I truly had no idea. I always thought if I saw a hot guy and he didn't make a move on me, he just wasn't interested. Like most girls, I was trained, too, to never approach a guy first. Haven't been in the dating world for years. I guess now if I see a guy I want to talk to, I'm going to have to get brave just in case! Makes me wonder how many guys I missed out on in the past......hmmmm.
This was such a volnurable and open hearted conversation! Noone does deep conversations like Aubrey! This was a different angle than what Matt normally covers. Really really good you guys! ❤️
I love it anytime the Kybalion and Thoth are quoted! "Where fall the footsteps of the Master, the ears of those ready for his Teaching open wide." And again: "When the ears of the student are ready to hear, then cometh the lips to fill them with wisdom."
Listening to this shows the age. Two very young men who have a lot to learn. But show themselves as expert's. That's another thing with letting anyone have a channel. Shaking my head.
I love y'all's honesty. The real trick is to be the vibration no matter the situation
Two of my most favourite men speaking with so much integrity and authenticity! 💙💙💙
As a woman, I honestly am so happy that you both talked about feelings and emotions and how you care about each other as men. SO REFRESHING ANNNDDD attractive!
I think Matthew is right I have trouble with boundaries because I’m to kind
I....I can not imagine myself to put out my most inner feelings in front of others. I kinda feel you are authentic, honest, guys.
So awesome to listen to this video. I've been practicing and teaching Transformational Breathwork for 25+ years, a powerful self-healing breathing process. I have heard of Wim Hoff's method, but I've never experienced it. Breathwork is so powerful. Good for you fellas!
So much brilliant insight in this! I really loved the entire show, even when they were just talking about meditation and breathing exercises. They summed it up well, be the person you want to be including taking time for yourself and your friendships; and you ll find better people to date, be a better person to date, and be in the practice of feeling abundant, thus attracting on that level.
The people that are knocking these men on their breath work might be looking for someone to complete them...which is a dangerous place to be. When you are already complete you compliment and have something to bring to the table. (By focusing on what makes you peaceful and feel good and proud of yourself) When you look for someone else to complete you, you think you aren’t enough, and you ll attract people who validate those thoughts or put you down.
It's awesome to see two gentlemen with such great insight! Brought tears to my eyes!
Two of my favorite guys talkin it out about one of my favorite topics, being my own hero? I'm in!
Gabrielle Angel Lilly same thoughts, and same name ;)
damn matthew.... listening to you speak about life and the things you know and what type of people we should want to be, it's so interesting and real. i was imagining and applying your words to my life/future and the fact that it even applies in general, and you don't know a thing about me, you're really so wise. thank you for the insight.
God I love to hear men talking about connection. It is all there is. Love. Kindness. Connection. Acknowledging the soul inside another human being. Have you heard any Ram Dass podcasts?
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im so happy to hear about Poland. my lovely country
Have been a fan of Matthews work for a long time now that I see him one of my friends its crazy, however as for Aubry It’s the first time that i come across him but i am surprised that such a vibrant good looking man would have a very high level of emotional intelligence and eloquence, I am really glad I watched this really interesting convo between you two :)
Both guys are just adorable. I've re-listened to this a couple of times. Would be great to hear both meet up again
why can't there be 30 second shorts of these vids on ESPN or somewhere men would actually see this content??? look at the comments on any of these, it's 90% women, how do we spark an interest in men to improve communication and look within??? have been listening to both of y'all for a while on here and podcast, please keep bringing it?!? you are both making a difference!!!! XOXO's :)
I usually can't listen to podcasts longer than an hour but this one ended before I knew it. Thanks for sharing. Valuable life lessons and reflections.
yes!! Really glad to see you got Matthew Hussey on the podcast! I remember requesting it when you guys posted pics from the Wim Hof retreat. Really looking forward to this conversation. Much love to both and thank you for everything!
The vibe both of these guys have In this podcast is amazing, it’s my second time watching and the way that they show solutions to everyday fears of both sexes and how they paraliza us but make it look like there’s a better way of doing things and it’s quite possible to improve. I love how they don’t make it this major thing like most of us make it in our own mind especially towards dating
Such a practical episode. I saw this dude on when they were sitting around the circle in Poland with Wim Hof, this is the first time I’m seeing him other than that. This was such a great episode. Aubrey thanks.
This was awesome. Excellent advice, close down space and compliment someone without expectation of outcome just deposit light in the world. Both ypu and them will benefit from nice interaction.
when you say 'bring the girl you're going to sleep with' as a routine, it sounds like something you're doing to yourself. You already decided the reason she was there for.
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Yeah, all he thinks about is sex when he sees women
I'm still early in this discussion, I have watched 20' and can't help but feel from both the anxiety of losing connection with the high awareness that we are all wired in.
It's OK to lose connection at times and desperate measures bring desperate results.
What only is required is consistency.
Consistency of word and practice.
That's the one thing that needs to be done from the people that need it.
I need it too so I can still stay on track and remain sober.
So it takes a serious amount of discipline.
Discipline must be present daily.
I think what we often do while trying to reach out and meet a new partner is that we are looking in all the wrong places. This includes dating apps. We select profiles of people who may not be interested back in us, and this may be happening for a huge variety of reasons, including, but not only, unrealistic expectations, low standards/poor boundaries, a skewed perception of other people and society, self-sabotage, etc. For example, I was shocked watching this to hear Aubrey saying he was often rejected on dating apps, being so incredibly hot and smart. Just how. What kind of women was he swiping right on? Shouldn't there be a swarm of girls following him everywhere? I am only starting my take on online dating and I'm a little anxious about what will be happening in my case, because man that's a triggering situation. However, I have been binge-watching Matthew's channel to support myself through that process.
In the beginning, Aubrey compares his usual social activity with the experience in the retreat and says"the occasional girl I sleep with", I find it downgrading for women. Women should be sought for as well and especially for that deep connection you had with the boys in the retreat. The Core Problem of women nowadays is right this one and the reason why dating coaches are making millions out of us. Please, men, look for that deep connection with us as well. The sex will be a thousand times better too.
This line has made me cringe 😬 too
Literally women teach men what they find acceptable by the boundaries they create. What is wrong with people sleeping around if that is their choice? Not everyone wants to sleep around with variety but some do. Men and women.
@@accountability1057 If you look at the success rate of dating coaches for women, at the top Matthew, and their message, it looks like most of the time is not the women's choice to have hookups. Sure, they should set boundaries. That's basically what/how most of the dating coaches like Matthew are teaching women to do. The issue is that nowadays more than ever men and women ( even though I believe most women don't really want that, they mainly do it because of fear of losing the man to another woman who is doing it) have made casual sex the norm and so become incapable to really connect, taking away, in my opinion, the real beauty of sex. Sex has been devalued so much from its deep connection sense that it is now comparable to eating a piece of bread. As Matthew says in the video, it is like a sugar shot whose pleasure disappears quickly afterward. The connection he had in the retreat was endurable. In my opinion, the hookup culture, largely favored by dating apps, is unlearning women and especially men how to deeply connect. I think it will be tough for men and women, who grew up in this casual dating scene, one day to have meaningful connections as they won't have the connection muscle ( as Matt refers to when it comes to social skills) and it might be too late to build it. The sugar shot effect explains also the growing cravings for deep connections which is the reason why dating coaches at least from women's side are being so successful. My point in my original comment was that men should not split sex and so women from this deep connection Matt and Aubrey experienced in the retreat and that the nowadays hookup culture tends to encourage them to do it.
@@silviazac7492 sounds like a heavy burden on your shoulders there. Not all hook ups are heartless and not all monogamous relationships have heart. Less 'shoulds' in the world could do it some good. Everyone wants different things and love/attraction aren't the only things required for compatability
Yeah, I totally agree with your statement, it just comes to show you, that even emotionally intelligent men and women can still use people to fulfill their physical needs. If there is a mutual acknowledgement that, it is what it is (sexual comfort) then fine. But it seems more times than not, it's not the case. He said it very clearly" why did I spend all that time trying to have sex with that girl?". "When I could have been more fulfilled hanging with friends or family" 😬 I can't make the assumption that all she wanted was sex as well. But it does sound like that was his only goal.
Thank you Aubrey Marcus. I've been binge watching. I appreciate you
i love this conversation, very decent and learned a lot!
Cant believe I listened for 2hrs
I don't regret a minute of it 😊
this is bromance
Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈
The depth of this conversation is hot. I find the growth mindset very attractive. I could blame my disability for my dry love life but I learned a long time ago that able bodied and even drop dead gorgeous people struggle. I am working towards removing the road blocks in my love life. Actually i am working on deepening my relationships in general. Thanks for such an enlightening conversation gentlemen. Brightest of blessings! 💜
wow that intro of those mens introspective quotes got me hooked.
Aubrey, thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🙏🏻 Amazing connection made when you spoke to giving according to a soul's higher need, even if that's a boundary, and even if it equates loss of relationship at that point. Just what I needed to hear.
This is amazing. I have been hooked listening and watching this. I appreciate the vulnerability and honesty. It’s so inspiring and helpful.
When u r bi and listening to Matthew for a year now.... Yeahhh finaly girlsss tooo!!!
Hey mans thanks for convo on nice topic, rare to hear dudes bring this up! I found it due to the short hehe while having dinner and skipped through, but like very very strong podcast, very bold looking into ourselves and our impulses, and figuring out what we want to create actually vs what we previously demanded! LOVE AND PEACE BRETHEREN STAY STRONG AND CUT ALL EVIL TIES WITHIN OURSELVES OUT AND GROW THE PURITYY YEEEE BOIIII
Great interview with two great guys! Words of wisdom in this interview! 👌🏻🙌🏻
This is so enriching. Thank you for this conversation!
The fact that Aubrey has a high rejection rate on dating apps makes me feel so much better about my own lol
That makes two of us 😂😂
I love you both. And Wim! Such a great conversation. Thank you.
So true! Really good advice. Be comfortable with who you truly are and all other things will fall in place.
This was a great vibe podcast! 🙂
1:23:24 - 1:23:56 ahh, I miss that kind of conversation with someone. I think there's only a couple of people like that in my ife where that happens and they're both gal pals. I don't think that's ever happened with man in my life 🤷
This was so freaking good! Thank you, brothers!
Wow Matthew, I've always recognized the Neg... and your speaking so much truth and insight on females! Very high conciousness that everyone would benefit from!
This was such a good conversation to witness, on so many different levels. I really enjoyed how real and open both of you where here, and how generous you both where in sharing real sh*t about yourselves. This may very well be my favorite podcast episode I've heard so far. May the force be with you both :)
love you aubury (only started watching recently) and the conversations you have.... love the way youre showing young men a new paradigm.... re. the continuous falling back after doing so much inner work.... its the same as working on the physical body and going to the gym or whatever....to maintain and grow we need to have a daily practice....one that works for us. and i'm starting to believe we need fellowship.... totally freaks me out how christian that sounds..... and as much as i'm not into formalised religion i'm beginning to understand the benefit of being with likeminded people a couple of times a week in a formal way.... and bringing in ritual! us humans seem to love ritual.... we develop them in our lives around our daily habits...but i'm beginning to long for ritual involving more people. and the other major thing about fellowship is it involves support.... wanna start the church of aubury??
This was such a great conversation. The perspective Matthew has on dating and relationships is sooo good!
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I’m listening to you guys and keep thinking the way to continue after the Poland experience is “The Walk to Emmaus” but it takes a lot of courage, many will dismiss it because they think they already ‘know’.
Y'all are so cool, I wish we could be friends
Just say whatcha guys doing? Are you having fun?
Awesome to have 2 of my all-time favorite minds join in a podcast.
Bingo. At 1:22:55 it was "almost like an effortless dance" - welcome to 5D. Aubrey head back to your Dispenza interview :). Might it be enough to commit to your alignment , continue to attend to your authenticity, values and what you want to feel in relationship, what qualities you see in a potential life partner embodying. Isn't your frequency magnetic? :) Yes, we are some weave of 3D and 5D and beyond; we are both the narrative and transcendent. Your experience w/Wim was transcendent - yes? How would it feel to create/develop/invite a relationship from there, from that frequency? Dance w/yourself - be the story - kind of a piece of where Matt was pointing. Love you two - your hearts - your intentions. At 1:30 you mention it's hard to approach a woman. I'm curious about that. Aren't men naturally hunters? Full disclosure, I'm a wedding officiant, so I'm talking to couples who actually have found each other and I would say that the thing we call "chemistry" is real - and compelling - and transmutes fear into flow.
2 of my faves 💜💜 so much wisdom and truth
I am glad you are talking about maturity, prioritys, you are wishing another kind of woman now, and that s great! Is not just about sex, there is love, peace, comunity, harmony, share talks, and ideas, share beautiful-wonderful moments. Yes! Explore the adventures of the path 🤗😘❤🙏
We are a lot of wise, beautiful, smart, kind, looking for fullfilment , love and just being alignment with source :)
Damn, I would go on a date with Aubrey. Enjoyed immensely this honest interview.
I haven't listened to such a valuable conversation for a long time. Thank you so much.
Wow! Amazing honest open chat, thanks Guys.
Thank you Aubrey and thank you Matthew
"unhundred percent" is my new favorite. I love you guys and this conversation. Thank you!
Amazing talk! Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us Matthew and loved your talk on confidence!
Commenting 13 seconds in, out of pure excitement for this convo. Will report back with thoughts
Love you both!! So glad you two could get together and chat ❤️
@Matthew Hussey...how come you've been in Poland and I didn't know that. Such a shame for me :) I hope you liked it :)
Thank you both of you
Thank you Sir Matthew I learned a lot from watching your video's 📹
Has anyone found the speech Matthew Hussey did at Howie Lewis' conference center School of Greatness?
great video Aubrey
This was so wonderful! Thank you for talking about this!! ❤️
I would LOVE a date w/ Aubrey Marcus❤
You both come across as being comfortable in your own skin but with the usual vulnerabilities we all experience. I believe in keeping things genuine and real. What you are is what you attract. And if they don’t want you... they are not meant for you. You will both find your life partner by keeping it real.... just don’t over analyse everything. I love just being me, and because of that I’m happy. Matthew you past heartbreak shows. Just be you, and your kind lady will find you, and who knows, she may also enjoy the films like Spirited Away.