This is the worst time of man to marry and have kids with. He's mad that he had to take the kids out by himself once while she has to be around them literally everyday. I'm so tired of men acting like a secondary parent.
I'm currently in a relationship similar to this. We fight all the time and I find him to be very controlling and verbally abusive!!after watching this video and knowing how things turned out for Tamara its giving me a hope that there is someone out there that will treat me better. Tamara thank you for showing me and other women in similar relationships that there are better men out there and we don't have to put up with this kinda abuse!
I hope you got out of this. Life is so short please live for yourself ❤️ never let a person control you. I've been there and I've never been happier I couldn't imagine living life like that again.
Oh hunnie I hope you got out off this, there is always someone out there who will treat you how you deserve to be treat, men like this have you believing you cant live without them and that you wouldnt make it on your own, well sweetie Yes You Will 😘
He wanted a 50s housewife but wasn’t providing like a 50s husband ! I think that also must have had a huge impact on his ego because he wasn’t working /making money and the roles were kinda reversed abit with Tamra making money on the show. His fragile little ego couldn’t handle it and he started to try and put her down and gaslight/control her because he knew deep down he wasn’t good enough for her anymore. I also think she was a bit of a gold digger when she met him. Maybe not necessarily marrying him for money as such but I don’t think had he of been poor when they first got married she would have been with him. Then again I’m not a huge RHOC fan so can’t talk really as only seen clips but she’s always come across shallow and money obsessed
He just started on her made her feel like shit telling her she’s changed. This is the biggest thing my ex said that to me all time it’s so controlling, then cuddling her and telling her he loves her like he didn’t just upset her
These two probably had a MASSIVE fight before they walked out the house and started filming this scene. Tamra was over enthousiast, trying to cover up what just happened and simon wasnt having it😏
I remember the episode before they left the house he made her change her dress because “it was too slutty”. He was too controlling and abusive. He didn’t trust her at all
Crikey it’s like watching my husband.......sorry my ex husband to be as from a week ago, I can feel her when he’s hugging her and how tense she is urgh it’s awful!!!
He makes a joke about bitch slapping her. "Get in, otherwise i'll bitch slap you." Displaying that he has control over her in in front of the other guy. Then he talks about how it bothers him that Vicki "tells his wife what to do", and what he says Vicki is saying sounds like encouragement, that she needs to stand up for herself... So he doesn't like that one of his wives friends tries to boost her confidence because he sees that as making her more difficult for him to control. Then he tells her she is a bad mother. Relating any independence she expresses as having a negative effect on her ability to be a mother. Then when she is upset he desperately professes his love to her but all while he is saying things like "you need to wear your ring, look at me, kiss me, you just need to get your priorities straight" He is telling her he loves her but never without a "But", I love you.. but you just need to...Be 100% compliant with how I want you to act. Every single thing he says to her is controlling. Literally every single thing.
Be careful if they're the kind of kids who use this information against you because that means they don't know how to cope when things don't go their way and you've made too many promises that they now believe they're entitled to everything. Plus they'll turn out like little manipulators like this man...eugh! No thanks!
S D I am talking. about creating trust with your children, You, so they can always realy on YOUUUUUUU.We are talking about how YOU educate YOUR kids. YOU kids education.
He clearly was over her. He had no love for her whatsoever in his demeanour! He was just pretending too care when they arrived at their destination, but clearly he didn’t atually give two shits you could see that in the limo! Glad she divorced him
Everyone is saying hes a terrible person but noone is mentioning that she said to the driver 'can i take u home with me tonight'... wtf?? Is he supposed to just be cool with that? Imagine if he said to a female waitress 'can i take u home with me tonight'. Then you would all have something to say
Yep! My thoughts EXACTLY! she was deliberately winding up Simon by flirting with the black guy! It’s like it’s totally fine that she first told the black guy there might be some bitch slapping and she needed HIM not her husband to protect herRIGHT IN FRONT IF HER HUSBAND! That’s why he made the get in or I’ll bitch slap ya remark. Said in anger not really a threat. I can imagine how he must have felt going from having a wife and mother to someone who was out drinking and having a good time, he was probably frightened he was loosing her and didn’t know how to stop it. She wore very slutty clothes too and he didn’t like other men eying up the goods. There’s always two sides.
Tamra was probably cheating at this time with eddie. Simon probably knew too but tamra always knew what to say. He popped off and gave her a reason to scream divorce..
Their daughter Sidney’s decision to stick by her father in spite of his narcissistic behaviour has always confused me. If he could behave like this on camera (with a crew sitting opposite), can you imagine what he was like in private. I’m sure Sidney saw this…..yet stood by him anyway!! Now Tamra may not be my favourite HW but my heart broke for her. Simon was so toxic, he nearly destroyed her. I’m so happy that she left his marriage and found Eddie. Eddie lifts her up and loves her personality. Simon shut her down.
Must be something about the name Simon... mine was a total prick, controlling, shallow and superficial - good riddance!! Onto the next chapter, but loving being single for 4 years. It’s awful - the panic before going into that party of complete desperation of not feeling a way out and suffocated by someone who doesn’t know the meaning of love 💔
I know exactly what type of relationship this is because I'm in one kind of just like it he is an narcissist that likes to verbally mentally abuse her. Then tries to love bomb her and the cycle continues where he points everything you do wrong and he never is accountable for his own actions. It's horrible.
Always 2 sides to a story and probably a lot we don't see. Let's be honest most of these women marry for money. These men need to find non celeb down to earth gals that love them for them . Glad she's met eddy he's perfect for her
My mum is with a narcissistic and an ego-tistic man like this, knows exactly what he’s saying when it’s just them two around and does exactly this before they’re around people I pray everyday she leaves him soon.
This shows so good,what happens when someone else get there between husband and wife. Fight....But there is still those issues between them,but it's not nobody's busines.
She’s the first housewife who used the show to blow up her marriage. It was necessary. She might be doing that again though and her current husband doesn’t deserve it.
I think that she just wanted him to support and he couldnt give her that he wanted an old fashion woman and he was jealous of her success.temmra is way better of without him.its just a shame how it want out with the children you know that her kids doesnt want to talk to her . if he was a good parent he would make sure that his ex and his daughter were on good terms instead he brainwashed the girl that her mother is bad .
She asked him a question...he answered ...and she then twists the SHIT out of his words...Simon may have some flaws like everyone...but come on..tamra can be disloyal.. horribly inappropriate...vicious and dishonest
The realest Housewives moments happen in the back of limousines and party buses...
LOL
YOU STOLE MY GODDAMN HOUSE!
"YOU ARE SICK AND YOU ARE AN ALCOHOLIC"
this reminds me of the scene where Kyle is in the back of a limo with Taylor and Taylor lights a cigarette backwards and is a total mess lmao
sho'll do!
This was really sad to watch. He is a controlling and manipulative chauvinist.
Simon was such an aggressive person, I don't even like Tamra but she dodged a bullet with that one!!!! That guy makes my skin crawl.
Yet everyone hates slade
can't believe he got pissed at the thought of her being a strong independent woman
He was so disgusting thank goodness she divorced him
How does Simon make a living?
How does Simon make a living?
Why did she marry him then?
@@patkeeler6645 merc sales man last he appeared
So is she
He knew he was losing control of Tamra that's why he was trying to hug on her and play nice. So happy she moved on with her life and is happy now.
happy?
@@reddiamondbutterfly337 Yeah it's a feeling. Opposite of sad.
@@87L.V she is not a happy person, you dimwit
@@reddiamondbutterfly337 No need for that.
That "I'll btch slap you" was enough! What kind of man says that to his wife?!
That disgusting bitch was flirting with the black guy in front of him
💯
Relax. It was a joke.
@@Steven-jh3whit just goes too far with him. It just always goes too far.
@@Steven-jh3whYeah and the fact that he’s comfortable to joke about something like that says a lot about him…
He's the type of guy who will beat his wife and then go "See what you made me do?!"
Absolutely disgusting and manipulative.
Wow the gaslighting is so obvious. She says one thing and he acts like she's being hysterical.
The best thing tamra ever did was sign those papers for divorce ! Look how happy she is now .
This is the worst time of man to marry and have kids with. He's mad that he had to take the kids out by himself once while she has to be around them literally everyday. I'm so tired of men acting like a secondary parent.
And woman need to make smarter choices with who they choose to have kids with
"I want a divorce" -Tamra
"you should wear your ring"-Simon
Why is it when the wife mentions the word "divorce" the husband always 'apologises'
Apologising won't change anything
Cos he knew he was about to lose her
He wants a submissive wife who listens to everything he says.
He acts like a HIGHSCHOOL BOYFRIEND!
man the way he hugs her is soooo controlling
Fiona Hamilton it only looks controlling because she’s not hugging him back. One sided hugs tend to look controlling
Damn right. Treats her like she is his kid. The way he said "look at me"
You are a feminist, aren’t you? Show me a man that you like, who you believe is good role model.
@@goldewl You're literally the only person to say something so ignorant
yeah, lets just ignore the fact she is playing a victim
I'm currently in a relationship similar to this. We fight all the time and I find him to be very controlling and verbally abusive!!after watching this video and knowing how things turned out for Tamara its giving me a hope that there is someone out there that will treat me better. Tamara thank you for showing me and other women in similar relationships that there are better men out there and we don't have to put up with this kinda abuse!
I hope you got out of this. Life is so short please live for yourself ❤️ never let a person control you. I've been there and I've never been happier I couldn't imagine living life like that again.
Oh hunnie I hope you got out off this, there is always someone out there who will treat you how you deserve to be treat, men like this have you believing you cant live without them and that you wouldnt make it on your own, well sweetie Yes You Will 😘
You need to treat you better
Would you allow your daughter y6o be treated by men that way.
It’s a lot easier when you have money . Try leaving with nothing, no money equals no options.
If I was the driver I would be having a field day listening to the argument live it would make my day.
the driver was like ooooooooohhhhhhhhhh shiiiiet in his head at 0:13 when Simon was like, "otherwise ill bitch slap you"
Well he wanted a 50s housewife and she wanted to be a modern housewife
Men need to stop marrying women who are one way and expect them to change into another way. Your wife isn't your dog to mold and change.
Im not saying things are better now but can you imagine how many centuries women have been treated as little kids by their husband.
He wanted a 50s housewife but wasn’t providing like a 50s husband ! I think that also must have had a huge impact on his ego because he wasn’t working /making money and the roles were kinda reversed abit with Tamra making money on the show. His fragile little ego couldn’t handle it and he started to try and put her down and gaslight/control her because he knew deep down he wasn’t good enough for her anymore. I also think she was a bit of a gold digger when she met him. Maybe not necessarily marrying him for money as such but I don’t think had he of been poor when they first got married she would have been with him. Then again I’m not a huge RHOC fan so can’t talk really as only seen clips but she’s always come across shallow and money obsessed
She deserved so much better and she got it! Eddie is a amazing guy that has helped her grow.
he is such a bullying control freak
this dude is vile!! So controlling and verbally abusive!
Barbara Valentina
Verbally abusive??? I saw one person who was verbally abusive in that video and it was not him.
“ Do I have to be a medicated person who just looks down at the the ground” 😂😂😂
He just started on her made her feel like shit telling her she’s changed. This is the biggest thing my ex said that to me all time it’s so controlling, then cuddling her and telling her he loves her like he didn’t just upset her
Bravo is soooo extra with the slow motion edit. 😂😂 had to laugh... awkwardly of course!!
Daching Queen LMAOOO i know its so dramatic! It looks like shes arriving at a funeral 🤣
This was the moment when she didn’t care and she decided to stand up for herself and decided on happiness.
The love bombing after the limo is somehow even worse than the limo
Am I crazy or is this like seeing a narcissist do what he would to his victim, it’s sooooooo scary.
Oh, Tamra thank GOD every day for helping you to divorce this man!!! Pathological narcissist. I have been there.
These two probably had a MASSIVE fight before they walked out the house and started filming this scene. Tamra was over enthousiast, trying to cover up what just happened and simon wasnt having it😏
I remember the episode before they left the house he made her change her dress because “it was too slutty”. He was too controlling and abusive. He didn’t trust her at all
I believe this moment happened after a party where Simon had been pissed at Tamra for spending time with Vicki and Tamra just had enough...
Yeah i remember he told her to change clothes before they left
When she stuck her finger up behind his back had me howling
That was her trying to sneak a little independence in before he saw 😂
Good on tamera leaving Simon he is a control freak
He was treating her so badly. I am glad that she met Eddie
Wow, talk about gaslighting. She's got issues but he makes her look like angel. So cringe-worthy.
Lol that middle finger at the end xd.
He is evil no wonder that daughter has been brainwashed by him and refuses to see her mother not a fan of tamra but he is awful
3.22 she was about to kick the shit out of him there 😂😂😂 then she remembered the cameras
haha these people are legit still living in 1995 - thats some COOL style haha
2010 Southern California white people
that looks straight up 2005
The bitch slap comment he said!! Uummmmm
Gaslighting at it's finest simon is deffo a narc
_'THAT'S MY OPINIIIIION!'_
lol sorry I just had to
Imagine being a child and seeing your parents on TV and having this all played out for entertainment worldwide.
Crikey it’s like watching my husband.......sorry my ex husband to be as from a week ago, I can feel her when he’s hugging her and how tense she is urgh it’s awful!!!
Simon: "Get in the car or I'll bitch slap you"
Also Simon: "I've always been respectful"
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
He makes a joke about bitch slapping her. "Get in, otherwise i'll bitch slap you." Displaying that he has control over her in in front of the other guy.
Then he talks about how it bothers him that Vicki "tells his wife what to do", and what he says Vicki is saying sounds like encouragement, that she needs to stand up for herself... So he doesn't like that one of his wives friends tries to boost her confidence because he sees that as making her more difficult for him to control.
Then he tells her she is a bad mother. Relating any independence she expresses as having a negative effect on her ability to be a mother.
Then when she is upset he desperately professes his love to her but all while he is saying things like "you need to wear your ring, look at me, kiss me, you just need to get your priorities straight" He is telling her he loves her but never without a "But", I love you.. but you just need to...Be 100% compliant with how I want you to act.
Every single thing he says to her is controlling. Literally every single thing.
I am so glad she left him .
Hi your a big guy!!
Wow 😳🤣
Then it started lol
Darsh Walding this comment deserves much more like lol
That comment was so out of place.
Glad Tamara married Eddie. Some men don't know how lucky they are to have a good wife. At least Tamara as a good man now xxxx
Why is the jangly jewellery kinda like asmr to me😭
Be carefull if you promise something to childeren you should folow up because they never forget.
Be careful if they're the kind of kids who use this information against you because that means they don't know how to cope when things don't go their way and you've made too many promises that they now believe they're entitled to everything. Plus they'll turn out like little manipulators like this man...eugh! No thanks!
S D I am talking. about creating trust with your children, You, so they can always realy on YOUUUUUUU.We are talking about how YOU educate YOUR kids. YOU kids education.
Imagine marrying Tamra
All the noise of her fake jewelery back then annoying...!!! But she is on point now.. excuse my writing im from Holland
“Look at me” 😡
He clearly was over her. He had no love for her whatsoever in his demeanour! He was just pretending too care when they arrived at their destination, but clearly he didn’t atually give two shits you could see that in the limo! Glad she divorced him
"Look at me," because I want to stare you down and control the situation.
He was extremely jealous of her he manipulated her .he had very bad insecuritys .he is a control freak .
I think they both played a part
Everyone is saying hes a terrible person but noone is mentioning that she said to the driver 'can i take u home with me tonight'... wtf?? Is he supposed to just be cool with that? Imagine if he said to a female waitress 'can i take u home with me tonight'. Then you would all have something to say
Yep! My thoughts EXACTLY! she was deliberately winding up Simon by flirting with the black guy! It’s like it’s totally fine that she first told the black guy there might be some bitch slapping and she needed HIM not her husband to protect herRIGHT IN FRONT IF HER HUSBAND! That’s why he made the get in or I’ll bitch slap ya remark. Said in anger not really a threat. I can imagine how he must have felt going from having a wife and mother to someone who was out drinking and having a good time, he was probably frightened he was loosing her and didn’t know how to stop it. She wore very slutty clothes too and he didn’t like other men eying up the goods. There’s always two sides.
Hes horrible! The finger at the end lol
Tamra was probably cheating at this time with eddie. Simon probably knew too but tamra always knew what to say. He popped off and gave her a reason to scream divorce..
5:41 haha she flips him
Their daughter Sidney’s decision to stick by her father in spite of his narcissistic behaviour has always confused me. If he could behave like this on camera (with a crew sitting opposite), can you imagine what he was like in private. I’m sure Sidney saw this…..yet stood by him anyway!!
Now Tamra may not be my favourite HW but my heart broke for her. Simon was so toxic, he nearly destroyed her.
I’m so happy that she left his marriage and found Eddie. Eddie lifts her up and loves her personality. Simon shut her down.
Must be something about the name Simon... mine was a total prick, controlling, shallow and superficial - good riddance!! Onto the next chapter, but loving being single for 4 years.
It’s awful - the panic before going into that party of complete desperation of not feeling a way out and suffocated by someone who doesn’t know the meaning of love 💔
❤️
You are right a Simon did a number on me and still have not recovered.
she was 42 here wtf. more like 24 vibes wth 16 first time going out ear rings.
i wish i so brave to tell my husband one day
You will x
❤️
Don't tell him, just leave
I know exactly what type of relationship this is because I'm in one kind of just like it he is an narcissist that likes to verbally mentally abuse her. Then tries to love bomb her and the cycle continues where he points everything you do wrong and he never is accountable for his own actions. It's horrible.
So she has to work but he complains that she goes to work yet enjoys reaping the benefits. He looks a lot like Shannon’s husband
This is why, she is my fav housewive
He pissed off because she talked the black dude! I love you but but her down right in front off the nice black dude
The finger love it. She is pissed
The jangling 😩
Always 2 sides to a story and probably a lot we don't see. Let's be honest most of these women marry for money. These men need to find non celeb down to earth gals that love them for them . Glad she's met eddy he's perfect for her
it felt so good to hear tamra say that !!
He,s not listening to her..not respecting her...blaming her for his own inadequacys....and he wants her to act like that's ok..
My mum is with a narcissistic and an ego-tistic man like this, knows exactly what he’s saying when it’s just them two around and does exactly this before they’re around people I pray everyday she leaves him soon.
She’ll get fed up eventually
What episode and season is this
Yep hes a contol freak i had one many moons ago an he would make u feel shit bfore goin to any event then sucj up last moment
They both brought it on themselves and their children paid the price for their mistakes
everything in the middle finger lol
This was SO dark sided 😍
SO DORKK SAIDED
I love her glasses.
That soooo remind me my ex. Gosh I m so lucky i m on the other side of the world
Things are going so well... Really 😂
“You should wear your ring...”as he shush hugs her lol
Not a fan of Tamra but the Limo scene is painful to watch, as I almost married a person like Simon.
That was intense. 😢
She should not have mentioned him not working
Why not? It was the truth
This shows so good,what happens when someone else get there between husband and wife. Fight....But there is still those issues between them,but it's not nobody's busines.
Nobody got between them. He was looking for a scapegoat and was not taking any responsibility for his own attitude towards Tamra during that marriage.
Why do they wear heels when they can't walk in them?
So staged but I don't I never like that Simon guy he's an absolute ultimate control freak. Tamra is crazy but she's fun to watch.
She’s the first housewife who used the show to blow up her marriage. It was necessary. She might be doing that again though and her current husband doesn’t deserve it.
Abuser! Controling 🤮
Oh dear
Only said sorry and i love you because he didnt want her walking into a party and everyone pointing the finger at him for her tears.
That was some serious talk and they did it with the camera man standing there...
I think that she just wanted him to support and he couldnt give her that he wanted an old fashion woman and he was jealous of her success.temmra is way better of without him.its just a shame how it want out with the children you know that her kids doesnt want to talk to her . if he was a good parent he would make sure that his ex and his daughter were on good terms instead he brainwashed the girl that her mother is bad .
i’m so glad tamra left him.
That man has issues !!
Can’t believe she speaks to her husband that way
She asked him a question...he answered ...and she then twists the SHIT out of his words...Simon may have some flaws like everyone...but come on..tamra can be disloyal.. horribly inappropriate...vicious and dishonest