Thank you for this story time. I left, block phone and all social media from my narc manipulating toxic man. I’ve gained peace and loving myself to pieces. I deserve to be loved and cherish right and not through a delusional love bombing. Thank you for this love lesson 🙏🏽❤️🏃🏽♀️🙌🏽🥰
Love bombing is a sign of narcissistism. A narc does this to you ,so you will lower your guard because of flattery . That way they can use you. I learned the hard way.
Dag I need the name of that therapist. You must have put that good good on him but he would have to burn the road up regardless how good it was Don't let anyone use you ever again. Always remember everything that shine ain't gold
Thank you for sharing. I was married to a man exactly like that for 18yrs and didn’t know what a narcissist is, so I thought, like you, I was triggering his wounds, so I made excuses. One day, it all clicked and I was done. No contact now for 11 months, and he calls weekly trying. Ladies, don’t waste years like I did making excuses for the disrespect. The disrespect is the closure!!
As a person who has had patterns of attracting people like this, the biggest lesson for me was learning to love myself enough that I don’t desire people who mistreat me.
This person is trying to do them same thing to me. Texting me calling me sweet names. And I recognized his lies. Trying to tell me that's he's coming back to see about this job. But I believe that he thinks he Wants's to live in the same state that I live in. I never seen him in person, but he keeps looking at Mt pics on facebook. All he's doing is trying to manipulate and see how far he can get with his lie's. All I can say is trick no good.
Am I the only that think the tip about taking a picture of a date’s driver’s license sending it to a friend/family is great! I wonder if that would deter some of the crazies🙏
Heck no that's not crazy. I ask from the start will he have an issue with both of us doing a background check on each other and if he jumps in a negative way I leave him alone instantly. Most people aren't living under a rock these days and That they are crazy people out there. If that person has good intentions, you taking a picture of their driver license should not be an issue.
I understand completely.. I went through this for 5 years. I had a heart attack, and he finally left me when I was no use to him any longer. My life is better since he left me. That was 2 years ago.. I went to therapy and finally found myself.
This triggered me.. less than two years free from that monster. I cried a couple times. But I’m grateful to you MJ for sharing this. It gave me strength. Thank you 🙏🏽
Great story! I was glued to my seat! Im in my 50'sI've been through that with several men years ago. We didn't know the term for it back then, but I have learned my lesson. My elders just called them a NO GOOD MAN!Once those narcissists were gone, my life was so peaceful! I now know the signs. Thank you so much for sharing!
Im 53 , left my last narcissist going on 3 years this July , ive had a few didn't know it was a narcissist until my 3 children father I spent my 5 1/2 years of my life with, finally left him and a year later ended up with another narcissist, omg never again, ive done so much reading , researching my personality and why I've been attracted to these individuals 💔, now I know and will never fall again for another narcissist
I just told a friend that we didn’t know what a narcissist was back in our day but now OMG it’s like they are almost everywhere! the love bombing the lies the anger outburst the manipulation. It’s all so surreal.
What an incredible story! The background music adds to the emotions, making it feel like a Lifetime movie. I really enjoyed listening to your story. Unfortunately, so many people have been hurt and taken advantage of by narcissists.
YOU ARE A GREAT STORY TELLER. YOU KNOW HOW TO KEEP YOUR AUDIENCE ENGAGED. I'VE PASSED ON SOME OF YOUR SAFETY GEMS TO MY DAUGHTER. I SHOW GRATITUDE TO YOU FOR SHARING YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES & SHOWING ACCOUNTABILITY SO OTHERS CAN LEARN FROM YOU. I HOPE YOU'LL FIND THE RIGHT PARTNER WHO WILL VALUE ALL OF WHAT YOU'RE WORTH....IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY. ONELOVE🇯🇲
That therapist was a blessing! She helped you find your power, which helped mold you into the inspirational person you are today! Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for this. When we are young we don’t know better but when we are fully grown and wise user’s cannot hurt us. Old and alone is better than stuck with a user and loser! Dogs and cats are great company, besides, when you get old you have enough to do taking care of yourself. No worries taking care of someone else.
Blissings to you MJ for sharing this powerful message. Anyone going through this trauma because of trauma, love yourself with everything you’ve got and save yourself. I’m 4 years older and wiser after the narcissist in my life passed away from cancer , on my watch as a hospice nurse. I couldn’t believe then the life of abundance and happiness I am experiencing as a widow, still single.. He left me with nothing except his last name and memories of what I thought he could have been. With that I’m experiencing a beautiful lyfe on 1000x. Peace 💫
I just got out of a relationship like you were talking about. He is a narcissist, and I kept going back like a fool. Finally, I sent him a text and told him he had effed up one too many times and never to call or text me. I know that in a few months, he will try again. He once told me that whenever he wanted me, he would throw out the fishing pole and reel me back in. I almost went crazy. I went from 140 lbs down to 104 in a matter of a couple months. I couldn't eat or sleep. Now, I feel so much better. I moved away from that State and moved in with my son in another State to help him out. Thank you so much for your story. You are always such a help.
You are wonderful , enjoy listening to you. A person that paints a beautiful picture . A truly Special, Special person. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
You can't tell me I didn't just watch a movie. I pictured every single part you described. Oh wow! So glad you got out of that without being physically hurt. Well done!!
So glad you made it out of the love bombing situation. Thank you for being open & sharing your experiences. These are great tips and lessons that show us what to look for. May God continue to richly bless you & your family more and more.
The one that makes you feel butterflies and you're nervous and you want them want them want them and and and....yeah...that's NOT the one. It's the one that makes you feel completely calm and collected the first time you meet them. That's the one
Im glad you got rid of him. Narcissistic men are out of control. Mj you are a great person! Dont EVER accept less than you deserve! Therapy is a great teacher! Stay on point girlfriend! I enjoy your stories! Stay strong!
Thank you so much for putting the information out there because so many of us are in a toxic relationship but find it hard to walk away. I’m very happy that you found the strength to stand up for yourself and walk away.❤❤
So many people are dealing with narcissist right now. Your video and story was perfect. So sorry you went through that horror. I've been there done that! ✔️ Lesson is all about how to truly love ourselves. ❤️
It hurt me so much when I had to realize that my ex husband was an opportunist im still healing and loving myself a lot more I don't ever want to be with anyone who doesn't have integrity amongst other attributes that don't align with me .
Your story sounds like what I have been dealing with my child’s father for 15 years. It’s very difficult. Thank you for sharing, I needed to hear this.
This is one of the first signs of abuse - they want to move in with you, to be in your personal space and control you. Once they are in your space you no longer have your privacy. It happened to me. I learned my lesson the hard way💩
It broke my heart! First time in my life I had to leave the love of my life! I was still in love for 5 1/2 years after we broke up! My heart was in love but my mind knew better to love myself first! Best decision I ever made was to leave. Haven't been in love since, now going on 13yrs smh..I now look forward to being in love again! I'm a better person/partner and I know myself .
@@Jacqdee15 I feel you and can relate to it so much. I listen to pastor rc Blakes to have a healthy masculine role model to have faith. Send you love and light 🙏🌹💙 faith moves mountains 🏔️
Gaslighting at it finest. Narcissism at its worst. Codependency and enabling from toxic history. So glad this was a young experience you learned from and grew from. Thanks for sharing it with such vulnerability. It will help many.
You just dk how BAD I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS! You have consoled & help heal me all in 1, w/o even knowing just through YOUR story! I love you thank you for being so open & REAL ❤️
I have experienced this myself. It is something terrible to go through especially if you are a caring, giving person. I have been studying way and actions of a karmic. I hope and pray that I will not encounter another one. I knew this man from 1995 until 2020 when I made up my mind this is it. I have not seen him sense. He has started calling me and I will not answer because I am through. I can also show him better than I can tell him
Today I found ur vid in my timeline. Today I listen to this vid while I was n the shower. Today I realized I have to let go. Thank you so much angel in disguise
This is like a therapy session for me😭 I've loved my narcissist for 9yrs, and we’ve been off and on for 9yrs. We have a child together. I’m trying to be strong this time and not allow the cycle to continue. It’s not easy… I’m also in therapy now and had my first session yesterday. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You have a great way of storytelling. The background music is giving my favorite movie, waiting to exhale! Whew! Plz, do more storytimes ❤
Omg who is this therapist she sounds like a very dedicated professional that actually does her job well. Is a blessing to have people who are able to listen to you and give you good advices without making you feel bad !
My thoughts exactly. That was some amazing therapy! I've been to many therapists and only one was anything like that, lost so much time on blah therapy.
Yes, I been loved bombed! I didn't know it at the time, but when l learned what is and found an understanding about it. I can detect it whenever it comes my way again! Narcissisticism is also highly linked to love bombing too. Thank you for highlighting this message to your listeners! No joking! You deserve special accommodation of all the RUclips content creators. Your message got across!
This storytime was GOOD!!! I cleaned the bathroom, kitchen, myself a good brunch, and ate it starring at the scream like a lifetime movie. I even teared up and cheered at the end!! Ginna even make my teen daughter watch it. Very empowering! Very!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The title alone made me scream!! Literally just learned about “love bombing” this year and recently walked away from a situationship because of it!!! I know I made the right decision. And his crazy behind thinks I would be dumb enough to still have intercourse with him. Boy bye!!! I’m worth too much to settle for crumbs. Side note: A lot of what you went through I can totally relate from my experience with him.
Glad you left. I just recently left my situationship too. I’m glad I left him alone. I know God didn’t want to give me all my blessings with someone like that in my life.
This is one of your best stories yet MJ!! Painful!!! Yet highly informative. Everyone can learn from a wise man but a wise man learns from everyone. I’m learning so much from you as a 30 year old female. I’m scared of dating because I don’t want to go through these things. My first relationship traumatized me 😢 I’m afraid to love 💕 but I find healing in listening to you. Thank you!
Thank you so much for watching! No need to fear dating. Just take your time, trust your instincts, and only give your time to people who respect your boundaries!
@@MJHarrisSpeaks I'm so grateful, although this reminds me of painful times, but this gave me strength to choose me today. Today is the beginning of my therapeutic journey back to me. Love you MJ. Thank you!
This story sounds familiar and so much like some of my experiences. The gaslighting, saying he told me about something when he didn’t. The good loving, and the love bombing. All that.
Thank you for sharing MJ. It's sad how common this is. Don't matter how discerning you think you are, some humans use folks' hearts and kindness against them.
Wow bravo on the storytelling so proud for the fact that you were able to overcome the situation and also to the therapist who was clearly doing her job and was there to guide you along the way!!!!
Thank you so much for opening up to us ,I was so devastated listening to this because I just replayed everything that happened to me and it took me months to get over him and I'm still unable to move forward mentally or physically but trying my best .
Yes that silent treatment is abuse. I remember my ex use to go silent on me for days. I didn’t know what I was dealing with until years later. I am so glad I finally walked away. I am slowly gaining my peace back.
This is deep MJ I’ve been there with being emotionally manipulated because I felt I needed the person until God helped me to love myself and know that I don’t need those people emotionally because they also knew how to treat me by observing me and therefore keeping me stringing along
@MJ these are ALL NARCISSISTIC facts! Also, fyi this could happen to anyone at any age…people pretend well. William Earl Jones was my narc lesson and I had to love myself more and completely end it…sooooo many lies. I’m happy that you eventually got out of that situation. 🙌🏽🙌🏽💜
Thank u soooo much M.J. for sharing that. That was ME about a Lil over 2 1/2 years ago! I was with NARCISSIST who verbally abused me & gaslight me & manipulated me all of the above that you mentioned. I literally felt like an addict HE WAS MY DRUG. It was the hardest most painful thing I've ever went thru other then losing my husband in 2009. He definitely love bombed me then devalued me then lastly discarded me. Shortly after I discovered he was with someone else it had only been about a month after we ended. I was soooo shocked after everything he said to me about how much he cared about me and no matter what ALWAYS wanted ME to be a part of his life. So thank u for confirming what I already knew but started having doubts about. IM AN EMPATH. So I know I wasn't the problem HE was. Thank God he shut that door my life has been so much more peaceful praise God!🙏😃
I definitely dated a narcissist. Though it was an unpleasant experience to endure, I’m glad that I was able to walk away. The freedom you feel is really A1.
Wow MJ I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I went through something so similar and I couldn’t understand the behavior at the time, the experience left me so hurt, broken and confused. Thank you for your transparency, now I have a better understanding of what kind of person I was up against. Thank you for choosing to turn you’re pain into purpose and educating us all ❤
Your therapist was good. She understood that a person in your situation needs to trust her and she used your sessions with her when you would vent about him to gather enough details to be able to show you the repetitive cycles you were in so that your eyes could be open. I'm so happy she helped you stop the cycle. Thank you for sharing
I am happy you shared this story. I feel so proud of you for being so detailed too. I love you and all the emphasis you applied so eloquently. Many persons are going through this cycle and do not even know it. It is so cruel that these beings go around as if they are hurting you and they are very much aware. Great job on dropping the news of being done with him. You deserve so much better, we all do.
You were so brave MJ. I am glad you got the strength to stand firm. I am glad you shared your story. It will help so many people. I am glad i got in here got in here got in here.❤
Baby your life experiences have caught all my attention. You are beautiful from the inside out!! Thank you for sharing your love encounters. You should dabble in making some short stories they will be amazing 🎥🏆🔥
Thank you MJ. I’m 26 and just got out of a love bombing relationship. We’re supposed to meet up later this week so I can get my stuff. I kept blaming myself for everything and apologizing when I did nothing wrong. This video gave a lot of strength to walk away and not go back. Thank you!!
Whew Chile I've felt with a narcissists and EVERYTHING you said is absolutely correct. This brought back memories for me BUT it also made me member when I stood up for myself
You of the best stories they you told, so emotional and heart breaking. So happy that you left that toxic relationship. Narcissist are very toxic evil people. The best thing is for anyone dealing with them is to walk away, and heal and live a happy peaceful life.
Mr MJ If you're reading this , Your story hits home on some many levels we as men deserve better in our Love life guess it's true what they say hurt people hurt people thank you for sharing your story ! Feeling that robe you wore in the clip ! You slay all day MJ work it !
Have you ever been love bombed or manipulated by someone you love? 😭💔
Yes I have MJ
Yesss it’s not a good feeling when they attempt to do so I had outsmarted a guy recently on this & called him out he got mad and hung up
Yes it hurts, you believe them and they pull you in then crush you
Thank you for telling my story. It has been 7 months,I found the courage to walk out.
Thank you for this story time. I left, block phone and all social media from my narc manipulating toxic man. I’ve gained peace and loving myself to pieces. I deserve to be loved and cherish right and not through a delusional love bombing. Thank you for this love lesson 🙏🏽❤️🏃🏽♀️🙌🏽🥰
Love bombing is a sign of narcissistism. A narc does this to you ,so you will lower your guard because of flattery . That way they can use you. I learned the hard way.
Thissss
As a therapist accurate & well said❤.
💯!
I think you have too many letters in narcissism.
Dag I need the name of that therapist. You must have put that good good on him but he would have to burn the road up regardless how good it was
Don't let anyone use you ever again. Always remember everything that shine ain't gold
Thank you for sharing. I was married to a man exactly like that for 18yrs and didn’t know what a narcissist is, so I thought, like you, I was triggering his wounds, so I made excuses. One day, it all clicked and I was done. No contact now for 11 months, and he calls weekly trying. Ladies, don’t waste years like I did making excuses for the disrespect. The disrespect is the closure!!
The final act of disrespect was closure for me.
Glad you got out alive and safe❤
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Whoa I needed to hear that!!!!
stay strong!
Narcissist don’t have feeling. They don’t care about anyone but their self
As a person who has had patterns of attracting people like this, the biggest lesson for me was learning to love myself enough that I don’t desire people who mistreat me.
Hope everyone has got enough info to recognize the red flags
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The world needs a whole lot more women like you go girl.
This person is trying to do them same thing to me. Texting me calling me sweet names. And I recognized his lies. Trying to tell me that's he's coming back to see about this job. But I believe that he thinks he Wants's to live in the same state that I live in. I never seen him in person, but he keeps looking at Mt pics on facebook. All he's doing is trying to manipulate and see how far he can get with his lie's. All I can say is trick no good.
@@Lorrainsimon And there are ALWAYS red flags.
Exactly that is the truth.
Silence is kryptonite to a narcissist!!!!
Love this statement. Ganna borrow it, coz it is so sound
I had to stop the video when he said this. JESUS!
It’s kryptonite but it then makes them resent you and they then seek revenge towards you. The best thing to do for a narcissist is walk away.
@@Ladonay huh?
Your stories are soooo good!!! 🤎🤎🤎🤎
Am I the only that think the tip about taking a picture of a date’s driver’s license sending it to a friend/family is great! I wonder if that would deter some of the crazies🙏
Heck no that's not crazy. I ask from the start will he have an issue with both of us doing a background check on each other and if he jumps in a negative way I leave him alone instantly. Most people aren't living under a rock these days and That they are crazy people out there. If that person has good intentions, you taking a picture of their driver license should not be an issue.
I’ve always been taught to take a picture of the license plate, room number if you’re going out of town, location, wherever just for safety.
Safety first! ❤️❤️❤️
Ha, car make/model, tag, Instagram, FB, etc. You can't be too careful nowadays
I send info to a friend always. Take pictures of car plates send social media pictures. Can never be too safe.
“They try to train you into not holding them accountable “ whewwwwwww preach!
That Part 💯
He didn’t blame but I blamed myself 🤦🏽♀️ he sure did a number on me
Never argue with your intuition, gut instincts. They’re always right!
Keep keepin that light BRIGHT MJ❤❤❤
@USlisa50 You are 💯% right. That intuition is EVERYTHING if we just listen to it and follow our intuition.👍🏾😊
Truth!
Trust 💯
MJ you are a true African. You have inherited the unique story telling traits of our ancestors. I have been in similar situations.
MJ is the best storyteller on RUclips hands down, so many gems dropped and I can literally envision everything
YES He is!🤭
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Hello Mj❤❤❤
I mean sucked me right on in, had me turned my neck and snuggling like it was my story. 😔😂😂😂
Yes!
I went through the same thing for 23 years! Finally left when I was 45 years old. Best thing I ever did besides having my son!!
It’s a mask and it was starting to slip off😮
I understand completely.. I went through this for 5 years. I had a heart attack, and he finally left me when I was no use to him any longer. My life is better since he left me. That was 2 years ago.. I went to therapy and finally found myself.
Sometimes letting go of the devil allows you receive your angel with open arms.
Amen Sis
YAH Lord Amen
Honayyy, you are right on point!! Nothing isn’t incorrect about what you have said!!! Resist the devil and he will flee!!
You mean letting go of homosexuality?
When you call narcissist out they absolutely hate it!!
This triggered me.. less than two years free from that monster. I cried a couple times. But I’m grateful to you MJ for sharing this. It gave me strength. Thank you 🙏🏽
I get triggers as well it's scarey
Great story! I was glued to my seat! Im in my 50'sI've been through that with several men years ago. We didn't know the term for it back then, but I have learned my lesson. My elders just called them a NO GOOD MAN!Once those narcissists were gone, my life was so peaceful! I now know the signs. Thank you so much for sharing!
i WATCHED THE WHOLE THING LIKE I WAS WATCHIN' A NETFLIX MOVIE!!
Im 53 , left my last narcissist going on 3 years this July , ive had a few didn't know it was a narcissist until my 3 children father I spent my 5 1/2 years of my life with, finally left him and a year later ended up with another narcissist, omg never again, ive done so much reading , researching my personality and why I've been attracted to these individuals 💔, now I know and will never fall again for another narcissist
I just told a friend that we didn’t know what a narcissist was back in our day but now OMG it’s like they are almost everywhere! the love bombing the lies the anger outburst the manipulation. It’s all so surreal.
Your storytelling abilities are AMAZING❤ I completely lost track of time, and it felt like I was seeing everything
It was amazing 🎉🎉🎉
This sinks in way better when it’s told as a story instead of a lecture . Thank you ❤
What an incredible story! The background music adds to the emotions, making it feel like a Lifetime movie. I really enjoyed listening to your story. Unfortunately, so many people have been hurt and taken advantage of by narcissists.
YOU ARE A GREAT STORY TELLER. YOU KNOW HOW TO KEEP YOUR AUDIENCE ENGAGED. I'VE PASSED ON SOME OF YOUR SAFETY GEMS TO MY DAUGHTER. I SHOW GRATITUDE TO YOU FOR SHARING YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES & SHOWING ACCOUNTABILITY SO OTHERS CAN LEARN FROM YOU. I HOPE YOU'LL FIND THE RIGHT PARTNER WHO WILL VALUE ALL OF WHAT YOU'RE WORTH....IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY.
ONELOVE🇯🇲
THERE IS POWER IN LETTING GO AND CHOOSING YOURSELF BABY!!!!!!
Yessss and I’m gainin my power BAAAACK
Definitely 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That therapist was a blessing! She helped you find your power, which helped mold you into the inspirational person you are today! Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for this. When we are young we don’t know better but when we are fully grown and wise user’s cannot hurt us. Old and alone is better than stuck with a user and loser! Dogs and cats are great company, besides, when you get old you have enough to do taking care of yourself. No worries taking care of someone else.
If someone is walking past you licking his lips at you, that’s your first red flag.
Enemy prowling to see whom he can devour..
ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY!!!
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Blissings to you MJ for sharing this powerful message. Anyone going through this trauma because of trauma, love yourself with everything you’ve got and save yourself. I’m 4 years older and wiser after the narcissist in my life passed away from cancer , on my watch as a hospice nurse. I couldn’t believe then the life of abundance and happiness I am experiencing as a widow, still single.. He left me with nothing except his last name and memories of what I thought he could have been. With that I’m experiencing a beautiful lyfe on 1000x. Peace 💫
❤️❤️❤️❤️
CHANGE YOUR LAST NAME IT'S A START OF YOUR REBIRTH
I just got out of a relationship like you were talking about. He is a narcissist, and I kept going back like a fool. Finally, I sent him a text and told him he had effed up one too many times and never to call or text me. I know that in a few months, he will try again. He once told me that whenever he wanted me, he would throw out the fishing pole and reel me back in. I almost went crazy. I went from 140 lbs down to 104 in a matter of a couple months. I couldn't eat or sleep. Now, I feel so much better. I moved away from that State and moved in with my son in another State to help him out. Thank you so much for your story. You are always such a help.
You are wonderful , enjoy listening to you. A person that paints a beautiful picture . A truly Special, Special person. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
@gu
Coming out of one right now
👏 👏 I know this is your story, I felt like I was watching a movie. Thank God you found your voice and strength 🙏❤
Me too
Me too, and this is my first on this channel
@@veronicadavis8755 God is in every mess and that’s the message
Amen
IKR 😢
“My silence is me building up strength!” My my!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
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You can't tell me I didn't just watch a movie. I pictured every single part you described. Oh wow! So glad you got out of that without being physically hurt. Well done!!
You just blessed over 5,000 people keep doing these great videos!
This entire story was playing like a love story movie in my head😌😊you detailed this so beautiful
So glad you made it out of the love bombing situation. Thank you for being open & sharing your experiences. These are great tips and lessons that show us what to look for. May God continue to richly bless you & your family more and more.
I'm happy you woke up to it also and made it out! ❤️
The one that makes you feel butterflies and you're nervous and you want them want them want them and and and....yeah...that's NOT the one. It's the one that makes you feel completely calm and collected the first time you meet them. That's the one
The Last Hurrah!!!!😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉 I UNDERSTAND…. You wasn’t trying to hurt him….A good piece is hard to find!!! BRAVO 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Wow humans can be so cruel. That man 's behaviour is the pits. How can someone behave like that. Thanks to God for His mercies and His love.
Exactly! If you're done you're done. Don't look back ever!
Im glad you got rid of him. Narcissistic men are out of control. Mj you are a great person! Dont EVER accept less than you deserve! Therapy is a great teacher! Stay on point girlfriend! I enjoy your stories! Stay strong!
They make you feel like you're the only person in the world until you find out you're not. They hate to get a taste of their own medicine! 💪🏽💥🔥
Heartbreak is not a good feeling, it takes courage & strength. So happy you were able to leave that situationship.
Thank you so much for putting the information out there because so many of us are in a toxic relationship but find it hard to walk away. I’m very happy that you found the strength to stand up for yourself and walk away.❤❤
Brilliant story teller 🧡
Thank you!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Another book on the way cous?... LoL. @@MJHarrisSpeaks
@@MJHarrisSpeaksvery relatable.
Cash app wasn't around in our 20s. 🤔 And we're the same age.
@@iAmDrQuinmhhmmm My first thoughts but I just.. 🤐
So many people are dealing with narcissist right now. Your video and story was perfect. So sorry you went through that horror. I've been there done that! ✔️ Lesson is all about how to truly love ourselves. ❤️
It hurt me so much when I had to realize that my ex husband was an opportunist im still healing and loving myself a lot more I don't ever want to be with anyone who doesn't have integrity amongst other attributes that don't align with me .
This story is FANTASTIC.
All girls/ladies/women the world over MUST WATCH.
It’s required for this life.
...and men in reverse too. Not just women..
Your story sounds like what I have been dealing with my child’s father for 15 years. It’s very difficult. Thank you for sharing, I needed to hear this.
This is one of the first signs of abuse - they want to move in with you, to be in your personal space and control you. Once they are in your space you no longer have your privacy. It happened to me. I learned my lesson the hard way💩
Happened to me too. Never again!
Lesson definitely learned
Ooooh Child
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Exactly! Once they figure out that they can not control you, they then FLEE!
So happy that I woke up from my love bomb nightmare! Never ever again! 😊
I'm happy you woke up to it also! ❤️
@@MJHarrisSpeaks thank you 🙏 and I always prefer the ugly true before the pretty lie. Love you ♥️
It broke my heart! First time in my life I had to leave the love of my life! I was still in love for 5 1/2 years after we broke up! My heart was in love but my mind knew better to love myself first! Best decision I ever made was to leave. Haven't been in love since, now going on 13yrs smh..I now look forward to being in love again! I'm a better person/partner and I know myself .
@@Jacqdee15 I feel you and can relate to it so much. I listen to pastor rc Blakes to have a healthy masculine role model to have faith. Send you love and light 🙏🌹💙 faith moves mountains 🏔️
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Gaslighting at it finest. Narcissism at its worst. Codependency and enabling from toxic history. So glad this was a young experience you learned from and grew from. Thanks for sharing it with such vulnerability. It will help many.
You just dk how BAD I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS! You have consoled & help heal me all in 1, w/o even knowing just through YOUR story! I love you thank you for being so open & REAL ❤️
I have experienced this myself. It is something terrible to go through especially if you are a caring, giving person. I have been studying way and actions of a karmic. I hope and pray that I will not encounter another one. I knew this man from 1995 until 2020 when I made up my mind this is it. I have not seen him sense. He has started calling me and I will not answer because I am through. I can also show him better than I can tell him
This is the best store you ever told.. And when you are alone' It doesn't mean you're lonely..❤
I went to dinner today at a upscale restaurant. I told the maître d’. it’s me i’m ALL ONE !!! Never alone! Shyt i’ve got me !!!!!
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I love that sage robe.
Me too.
Ain't it 🔥🔥🔥 he needs to give the tea on that hunty
Yes, I like the robe also. Where can I purchase one?
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That happened to me. Beautiful the first 4 months! The last 3 were hell😫Glad I decided to leave.
I'm glad you left also!! ❤️❤️❤️
4 months for me too💐
lol..sis.😊
3 months for Mee too😢😢😢😢 I loved him to death. But he changed tremendously 😢😢😢😢😢
Today I found ur vid in my timeline. Today I listen to this vid while I was n the shower. Today I realized I have to let go. Thank you so much angel in disguise
Let. Go!!!!!!!! You can do it🫂 been there.....take care
@@tarsheilamathews7697 respect ✊🏾
Could you get any cuter. Your smile is EVERYTHING! A ray of sunshine, you are my friend.
This is like a therapy session for me😭 I've loved my narcissist for 9yrs, and we’ve been off and on for 9yrs. We have a child together. I’m trying to be strong this time and not allow the cycle to continue. It’s not easy… I’m also in therapy now and had my first session yesterday. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You have a great way of storytelling. The background music is giving my favorite movie, waiting to exhale! Whew! Plz, do more storytimes ❤
Omg who is this therapist she sounds like a very dedicated professional that actually does her job well. Is a blessing to have people who are able to listen to you and give you good advices without making you feel bad !
My thoughts exactly. That was some amazing therapy! I've been to many therapists and only one was anything like that, lost so much time on blah therapy.
@DC She sounds a lot like my therapist. She is a Godsend. ❤❤
@@positivevibe7684 I’m glad you have someone who actually is good the ones I’ve been to don’t even give feedback they just let me talk 😒
@@captainbarbosa6567 I feel you I’ve been through the same situation. Is like they go to work just to sit and do nothing. Free💰
Right! I’m like therapy is definitely her calling!!
Yes, I been loved bombed! I didn't know it at the time, but when l learned what is and found an understanding about it. I can detect it whenever it comes my way again! Narcissisticism is also highly linked to love bombing too. Thank you for highlighting this message to your listeners! No joking! You deserve special accommodation of all the RUclips content creators. Your message got across!
This storytime was GOOD!!! I cleaned the bathroom, kitchen, myself a good brunch, and ate it starring at the scream like a lifetime movie. I even teared up and cheered at the end!!
Ginna even make my teen daughter watch it.
Very empowering! Very!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Girl you kept me glued to your story. Waw. You can never be a fool forever . Glad you woke up before he destroyed you totally.
No one can tell personal experiences like you! It shows how strong you are. 👏👏👏
The title alone made me scream!! Literally just learned about “love bombing” this year and recently walked away from a situationship because of it!!! I know I made the right decision. And his crazy behind thinks I would be dumb enough to still have intercourse with him. Boy bye!!! I’m worth too much to settle for crumbs.
Side note: A lot of what you went through I can totally relate from my experience with him.
I just went through this too I rejected that fool guys are really delusional
Thanks for watching!! ❤️
Glad you left. I just recently left my situationship too. I’m glad I left him alone. I know God didn’t want to give me all my blessings with someone like that in my life.
I thought this was a woman, crap
@@jilllisa5724 ha ha
This is one of your best stories yet MJ!! Painful!!! Yet highly informative. Everyone can learn from a wise man but a wise man learns from everyone. I’m learning so much from you as a 30 year old female. I’m scared of dating because I don’t want to go through these things. My first relationship traumatized me 😢 I’m afraid to love 💕 but I find healing in listening to you. Thank you!
Thank you so much for watching! No need to fear dating. Just take your time, trust your instincts, and only give your time to people who respect your boundaries!
@@MJHarrisSpeaks I'm so grateful, although this reminds me of painful times, but this gave me strength to choose me today. Today is the beginning of my therapeutic journey back to me. Love you MJ. Thank you!
This story sounds familiar and so much like some of my experiences. The gaslighting, saying he told me about something when he didn’t. The good loving, and the love bombing. All that.
Thank you, MJ, for sharing this experience. I am a senior citizen, and I have learned plenty.
Thank you for sharing MJ. It's sad how common this is. Don't matter how discerning you think you are, some humans use folks' hearts and kindness against them.
Wow bravo on the storytelling so proud for the fact that you were able to overcome the situation and also to the therapist who was clearly doing her job and was there to guide you along the way!!!!
This was an amazing genuine acknowledgement of self respect, self awareness ,and self love.
Thank you so much for opening up to us ,I was so devastated listening to this because I just replayed everything that happened to me and it took me months to get over him and I'm still unable to move forward mentally or physically but trying my best .
Me too but take your time baby but when I tell you when you do it's the best feeling everrrrrr! Protect your peace and be kind to your kind ✨🫶🏼 🌱
I thought I was only one😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 and I thought I was crazy you saved my life
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that therapist.
Yes that silent treatment is abuse. I remember my ex use to go silent on me for days. I didn’t know what I was dealing with until years later. I am so glad I finally walked away. I am slowly gaining my peace back.
I loved the whole video but my fav part was the therapist🥺❤
Mj i can hear you talk for hours. Best story teller!❤
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Right. I’ve never heard of therapist being more active and pushing the person to the realization with such vigor .
I need her therapist 😢please please help me get in touch with this inspirational woman ❤🙏 God bless all of us ❤
This is deep MJ I’ve been there with being emotionally manipulated because I felt I needed the person until God helped me to love myself and know that I don’t need those people emotionally because they also knew how to treat me by observing me and therefore keeping me stringing along
@MJ these are ALL NARCISSISTIC facts! Also, fyi this could happen to anyone at any age…people pretend well. William Earl Jones was my narc lesson and I had to love myself more and completely end it…sooooo many lies. I’m happy that you eventually got out of that situation. 🙌🏽🙌🏽💜
You captivated me with your ability to narrate your life experience with such details! You are an amazing narrator. Lessons have been learned!
Wow, thank you! 🙏🏾❤️
Thank u soooo much M.J. for sharing that. That was ME about a Lil over 2 1/2 years ago! I was with NARCISSIST who verbally abused me & gaslight me & manipulated me all of the above that you mentioned. I literally felt like an addict HE WAS MY DRUG. It was the hardest most painful thing I've ever went thru other then losing my husband in 2009. He definitely love bombed me then devalued me then lastly discarded me. Shortly after I discovered he was with someone else it had only been about a month after we ended. I was soooo shocked after everything he said to me about how much he cared about me and no matter what ALWAYS wanted ME to be a part of his life. So thank u for confirming what I already knew but started having doubts about. IM AN EMPATH. So I know I wasn't the problem HE was. Thank God he shut that door my life has been so much more peaceful praise God!🙏😃
Wow what a story! I hope you sharing this will help prevent someone else from staying with a Narcissist!!!!
I definitely dated a narcissist. Though it was an unpleasant experience to endure, I’m glad that I was able to walk away. The freedom you feel is really A1.
Wow MJ I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I went through something so similar and I couldn’t understand the behavior at the time, the experience left me so hurt, broken and confused. Thank you for your transparency, now I have a better understanding of what kind of person I was up against. Thank you for choosing to turn you’re pain into purpose and educating us all ❤
This was so touching. Thank you for an eye opening lesson. I hope that someone learns from this. You are a great teacher and narrator.
One of the best storytellers in all of RUclips. Thanks for the lesson, Uncle MJ 💪🏿
I appreciate that!!
Your therapist was good. She understood that a person in your situation needs to trust her and she used your sessions with her when you would vent about him to gather enough details to be able to show you the repetitive cycles you were in so that your eyes could be open. I'm so happy she helped you stop the cycle. Thank you for sharing
You should make your stories into movies. Very good narratives. Love you loads. Keep being you🎉❤
He was so good, I thought, this must me made up. What a story teller. Had me on the edge of my bed. I could not decide on dinner or popcorn.
Your story telling ability is unmatched...I be hooked 😂😂😂
I am so very proud of you MJ. We all have life lessons to learn. I love you and so very very proud of you. Great idea for the therapist.
I hope that wonderful therapist lady gets to see this! 💜 What a wonderful and powerful storyteller you are!
Wow what a storyteller you are. Thanks for sharing your pain so honestly. What a Gem you are!. So precious ❤
I am happy you shared this story. I feel so proud of you for being so detailed too. I love you and all the emphasis you applied so eloquently. Many persons are going through this cycle and do not even know it. It is so cruel that these beings go around as if they are hurting you and they are very much aware. Great job on dropping the news of being done with him. You deserve so much better, we all do.
You were so brave MJ. I am glad you got the strength to stand firm. I am glad you shared your story. It will help so many people. I am glad i got in here got in here got in here.❤
Baby your life experiences have caught all my attention. You are beautiful from the inside out!! Thank you for sharing your love encounters. You should dabble in making some short stories they will be amazing 🎥🏆🔥
Thank you MJ. I’m 26 and just got out of a love bombing relationship. We’re supposed to meet up later this week so I can get my stuff. I kept blaming myself for everything and apologizing when I did nothing wrong. This video gave a lot of strength to walk away and not go back. Thank you!!
Whew Chile I've felt with a narcissists and EVERYTHING you said is absolutely correct. This brought back memories for me BUT it also made me member when I stood up for myself
You of the best stories they you told, so emotional and heart breaking. So happy that you left that toxic relationship. Narcissist are very toxic evil people. The best thing is for anyone dealing with them is to walk away, and heal and live a happy peaceful life.
OMG!! I’m so very grateful for your message. Thank you so very much.
Mr MJ If you're reading this , Your story hits home on some many levels we as men deserve better in our Love life guess it's true what they say hurt people hurt people thank you for sharing your story ! Feeling that robe you wore in the clip ! You slay all day MJ work it !
Wooww MJ!!! I was literally mesmerized by your story! Those are valuable lessons right there!❤
I loved this storytime. You have given me strength to move on. Thank you so much.
The way I needed this right now. Thank you baby. I’m proud of you ❤
MJ , your kind and caring tone is very refreshing. 🎉
edit:::: I had to come back after hearing you describe your therapist.
She sounds beautiful.
That was a powerful story, thanks for sharing your life experiences with us. You are truly a blessing to the world!