After watching Caraline's story several times I've come to the conclusion that PARENTING is not for everyone. There are ppl out there that shouldn't be parents. They do not know how to love or take care of another human being bc they can't hardly do that for themselves. Every person's trauma has a base in childhood. Every single one of them and that's a fact. So if anyone around here is thinking about becoming a parent, make sure that it is for the right reasons. Otherewise this sad story of neglect and abuse will go on and on. If you don't want kids, don't have them and If you already have them then ask someone else to look after them and give them all the love that they deserve.
This was so hard to watch, seeing a beautiful young woman sentencing herself to death because of all the ugly inside. But the things she said were so insightful. Not agreeable, but insightful to understand what was going on inside her. I hope that those who counsel people with this disease watch this and see how deep the pain goes. It's not about self-starvation or binging and purging...that's just the symptom. It's all about the pain that existed long before the eating disorder did.
I'm 62 and the closer I get to my end the less strength I have to deal with the hand I've been dealt. I understand the feeling of wanting it to be done with. R.I.P. Caraline...you deserve it.
It's so sad that she was so frail, mentally and physically, seeing her lose the fight. Such an articulate, eloquent young woman. She seemed to be rare in that the insight into her condition was quite profound I think that's what is so heartbreaking, the tragedy of seeing her trapped in her body. R.I.P Caraline - an extraordinarily brave young woman, I just wish you'd got the help you deserved.
These videos really humble me. Before I heard all that Caraline has been through, I thought *I* had a hard life. I just realize how small my problems are compared to some.
I've watched this doc a few times. And every time it makes me so sad. Caraline has had so much hurt and abuse in her life. It also makes me angry that the NHS didn't section her under the mental health act. She may not have liked it but being tube fed, and working though some of her problems. She may have been alive now and able to find some sort of acceptance for herself. RIP Caraline.
I recall this when it was first aired. She lived above a pub opposite Brighton Station. I only live minutes from where she lived and think of her sometimes as I walk pass it. A shocking doc.
rmatmcam, as I said in my other comment in responce to you, that was a very kind and loving thing you did. I'm numb and without words. The busy world going on outside while Caraline was inside dying a bit at a time hit me, but that bit of story at the end true did me in. hugs
Rest in peace, beautiful Caraline. This world failed you. Children must be heard and protected. I myself have had an eating disorder for around 30 years. I have managed to get better, but it's always there, lurking. My heart is broken for her and what she endured on this earth. This world failed you.
God Bless Caraline. She sounds so young, so vulnerable there. Anorexia nervosa will eventually take the lives of 1 in 5 of its sufferers. I wish i could make a difference there.
Those of you asking why the filmmakers didn't intervene: There was nothing they could do, at this stage of malnutrition she would have simply been waiting to die, with no chance of any kind of recovery. Her entire insides were fucked up from being starved of the nutrients they need to function. Hopefully this heartbreaking video will encourage other sufferers to seek help before it's too late. RIP Caraline, she's in a far better place now, no doubt about it.
I am imploring if anyone knows more about the family history,events and who filmed this,I would really appreciate the information. It's personal. Thank you,Gloria.
No child should go unheard Every childs problem MUST be taken seriously Because this was a reality Thank God that poor poor woman is finally at peace now, if only she had been helped sooner.
almost speechless with sadness, dont know how i even came across this vid. but do want to say .. there is NO better place than being ALIVE and HERE with loved ones. I speak on behalf of only those i have loved and lost. tho RIP Caraline, clearly this lovely soul was a tortured soul.
this documentary was so sad and made such and impresssion on me..i hope she is in peace now..it horrifies me to think that anorexia could control ur life to that extreme.i just pray tht those who are sick find help because they do matter and are humans who deserve to live and be controlled by this disease.
no she is both, she goes a while without eating and then binges and purges, they don't show her starving obviously because that would just be footage of her sitting there doing nothing. and besides, every single anorexic binges and purges once in a while if not often. the body can't help it, it craves food and that's when you go out and have these binge/purge cycles
rmatmcam, sorr if this sounds strange but, I think you've a lovely voice for reading onto tape. Ever think o reading books on audio for the blind? Here in U.S. we've talking books provided by the library of congress and I've read them for years and I know UK has a program like that for their blind. you would be good at it. Also sweet of you to record that sure it was much comfort to Caraline.
i never really understood how the effects of abuse could manifest itself through an eating dosorder. I could never get that concept, how the hell being sexually abused as a kid has anything to do with starving yourself. ....Now i know. RIP Caroline
Yeah, her flat seemed very dark, depressing and oppressive. Terrible atmosphere. The sense I got from Caraline all along was just one of hopelessness. Very, very sad- it shouldn't have came to this at all.
@MissPonderosa I think it is appropriate to mention yourself in these comments. Caraline is someone who found no refuge in her environment and had to look to herself to scrape together any means of emotional regulation because there wasn't any available to her anywhere else. This doesn't mean that those who suffer from anorexia and haven't suffered from the things she did are less worthy of pity.
Yukio were her parents ever convicted of abuse and frankly manslaughter? I'm curious where could I find references to this documentary? Is this the BBC? I would greatfully thank you for any information pertaining to this.Please if you could get back to me I would be quite honored.Thank you Gloria.
@Joanna Standing does her father still alive today ? I hope your brother is doing OK and the abuse I can understand it happened to me as a child and its only made want to protect my children more. Your sister was an is a beautiful soul 🙏
She could've just signed out voluntarily, perhaps. Sometimes a person needs to be placed in against their will, and sadly, Caraline didn't have anyone who gave enough of a damn for her to do such a thing.
@rmatmcam What I mean is a cat would not watch it`s owner and become bulimic / anorexic. A cat that throws up after eating often is something entirely different. That`s all.
I wonder why therapy and mental health did not help poor Caralines down hill spiral. Why did the medical team let this this get so bad ?I think she should've been in hospitol. The isolation and ritual purging. Why did the professionals not help her with a feeding tube? instead of 25 pounds per day to get food to throw it all up. Did she not have that choice ( for a feeding tube)She needed behavioral and cognative intervention and not enabeling? RIP.
Oh God, I feel so sorry for her. I must admit it scared me though- because I can relate to her. How did she die? What happened to her? Poor girl, RIP Caraline. xoxoxoxox
Whilst Caroline's story is terribly sad, I don't think encouraging her to show her 'routine' (of binging and being sick) was a good idea. If anything, it was almost an instruction film on how to be bulimic/anorexic. I have to say, I agree with paschen2219 about the depressive atmosphere in the flat. Having a TV on or music playing can help to lift spirits a little - having something (even something as trivial as a favourite TV show) to focus on must be better than sitting in silence.
this is such a horrible disease, you only have any real hope of getting better if you stop it in time but once youve had the disease for longer if affects your brain, your brain cant function like a normal person because it needs healthy fats to function so its kind of hopeless at that point since you cant think straight its impossible.
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... Emotions for the sufferer are dangerous enough that they must be first forcedly dealt with through tangible means. This, in anyone with any problems, is tragic in its own right.
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... It is a sad fact that we aren't trained to deal with our anxiety, sadness, anger, sense of injustice, or fear through means which do not exacerbate these feelings. People tell us, in so many ways, that food will make us happier, that being physically appealing will help us, that our sadness is from not owning x, y, and z. And we believe.
@MissPonderosa My post was *supporting* you. I agree that there wasn't anything wrong with your post. I was responding to your apology for referring to your issue; saying that I don't think you need apologize because it is so pertinent to the video. I never thought you said that others should not have pity at all! Golly, what a misunderstanding. My comment was that you may not have been hurt like her, but I don't think you're a pathetic coward. You must have felt hurt, too.
@india9 They may seem petty to people who are not in those girls' heads. Being a little bit Worried about your weight is how this hell starts. Lets help them BEFORE they are like Karoline. Otherwise they will go to even greater lenghts to show that they mean business if no one believes they are hurting!
I dont think this documentary was instructional in any way. I assume your talking about her binging and then drinking water to help void her stomach as 95% of the rest of the video is her talking about her feelings & past. One does not need to be instructed on how to induce vomiting, thats a no brainer. As far as the drinking of water, I drank water to lessen the dry heaves of morning sickness whilst pregnant. No one needed to tell me that it would help to drink water, its just common sense.
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... Eating disorders are tragic for so many complicated reasons. One that first hits an outside viewer of a sufferer, perhaps first with feeling without words, is the perverse connection between food and control and feelings. It is perverse because it means there is no perceived way to directly deal with the emotion itself.
WOW... I said that because I thought maybe it was just my computer and whats wrong with you? Why do you feel the need to swear? I mainly wanted to know about her and her story. And what's wrong with me saying I can't hear her talk? Does it bother you?
I don't understand why the grocery store keeps letting her continue the ritual of spending $36 per day, or for that matter why appropriate interventions are not taking place. She seems stronger than she should in that state also. She stands when she purges and sits up most of the time. As a migraine sufferer I must lay down quite often and I am at a normal weight. One would think she would not be strong enough to shop, prepare food, sit up and stand while purging.
@Fool1100 I wish i could have spoken to her . I wish i could have helped :( it makes me so sad ... one of my subscribers said i was following the exact same path as her :/ I dont think anyone has ever followed the same path as her :( x
@india9 You can never know what those people you're mocking have been through! Even though they might not be in the condition Caraline was in, it doesn't mean that they don't need help and to be taken seriously. Posting self-harm pictures in youtube does not make that person an idiot but one in need of help. I had anorexia. Weighed 36 kg
Forgive me for being logical about this situation because this is a very emotional and sad case BUT the narrator said she weighed 3 1/2 stone. That equates to 49 pounds. That can't be right given how tall she is and looking at her body. Also, is if she eats two days worth of food in one evening I don't think she got rid of that much. I suffer from migraines and sometimes it makes me vomit and I can tell you just one meal makes me eliminate WAY more than she did, unless we did not see all.
Shut up. I went down to 88lbs by binging and purging 5-6 times a day, drinking water helps to get rid of it ALL. Ppl shouldn't fkn speak like they know what an ED is if they never had one, period.
@m0sas I would have done the same. I want to hold her so bad, let her know shes beautiful. She really was. Hold her hand and show her that you can be happy. I wish she was still here..
sorry but this completely goes to show, idle hands make devils work. she sat in her room, moping all day. didnt do a single physical thing. didnt even watch anything to make her laugh, enjoy life. notice how she didnt listen to any music the entire time, and no television. she ENJOYED being miserable, and thats a fact. i dont want another goddamn excuse about not understanding. she had camera/crew and couldve asked for help. only god can judge her, but she wasted her life.
After watching Caraline's story several times I've come to the conclusion that PARENTING is not for everyone. There are ppl out there that shouldn't be parents. They do not know how to love or take care of another human being bc they can't hardly do that for themselves. Every person's trauma has a base in childhood. Every single one of them and that's a fact. So if anyone around here is thinking about becoming a parent, make sure that it is for the right reasons. Otherewise this sad story of neglect and abuse will go on and on. If you don't want kids, don't have them and If you already have them then ask someone else to look after them and give them all the love that they deserve.
This was so hard to watch, seeing a beautiful young woman sentencing herself to death because of all the ugly inside. But the things she said were so insightful. Not agreeable, but insightful to understand what was going on inside her. I hope that those who counsel people with this disease watch this and see how deep the pain goes. It's not about self-starvation or binging and purging...that's just the symptom. It's all about the pain that existed long before the eating disorder did.
I'm 62 and the closer I get to my end the less strength I have to deal with the hand I've been dealt. I understand the feeling of wanting it to be done with. R.I.P. Caraline...you deserve it.
It's so sad that she was so frail, mentally and physically, seeing her lose the fight. Such an articulate, eloquent young woman. She seemed to be rare in that the insight into her condition was quite profound I think that's what is so heartbreaking, the tragedy of seeing her trapped in her body. R.I.P Caraline - an extraordinarily brave young woman, I just wish you'd got the help you deserved.
i hope you have finally found peace caraline x you were a beautiful soul x
These videos really humble me. Before I heard all that Caraline has been through, I thought *I* had a hard life. I just realize how small my problems are compared to some.
I've watched this doc a few times. And every time it makes me so sad. Caraline has had so much hurt and abuse in her life. It also makes me angry that the NHS didn't section her under the mental health act. She may not have liked it but being tube fed, and working though some of her problems. She may have been alive now and able to find some sort of acceptance for herself.
RIP Caraline.
So heartbreaking. So much pain...everyday...every second...I just wanted to hold her. I cry for her because I cannot cry for myself. R.I.P. Caraline.
I recall this when it was first aired. She lived above a pub opposite Brighton Station. I only live minutes from where she lived and think of her sometimes as I walk pass it. A shocking doc.
Rest In Peace Auntie Caraline
This makes me so, so sad. I can't imagine the pain she suffered.
Rest in peace, Caraline.
That is... intense. I'm moved. amazing documentary
rmatmcam, as I said in my other comment in responce to you, that was a very kind and loving thing you did. I'm numb and without words. The busy world going on outside while Caraline was inside dying a bit at a time hit me, but that bit of story at the end true did me in. hugs
Rest in peace, beautiful Caraline. This world failed you. Children must be heard and protected. I myself have had an eating disorder for around 30 years. I have managed to get better, but it's always there, lurking. My heart is broken for her and what she endured on this earth. This world failed you.
Peace at last. Rest well beautiful girl. Such a fragile,and gentle soul.
Caused by her childhood trauma, feelings of worthlessness, low self esteem, terrible waste of a good person
absolutley heartbreaking a whole life ruined i hope that whereever she is she is at peace
God Bless Caraline.
She sounds so young, so vulnerable there. Anorexia nervosa will eventually take the lives of 1 in 5 of its sufferers. I wish i could make a difference there.
Those of you asking why the filmmakers didn't intervene: There was nothing they could do, at this stage of malnutrition she would have simply been waiting to die, with no chance of any kind of recovery. Her entire insides were fucked up from being starved of the nutrients they need to function. Hopefully this heartbreaking video will encourage other sufferers to seek help before it's too late. RIP Caraline, she's in a far better place now, no doubt about it.
What a beautiful person, and what a cruel life you were dealt.
Rest in Peace. I hope to meet you on the other side.
I am imploring if anyone knows more about the family history,events and who filmed this,I would really appreciate the information. It's personal. Thank you,Gloria.
No child should go unheard
Every childs problem MUST be taken seriously
Because this was a reality
Thank God that poor poor woman is finally at peace now, if only she had been helped sooner.
almost speechless with sadness, dont know how i even came across this vid. but do want to say .. there is NO better place than being ALIVE and HERE with loved ones. I speak on behalf of only those i have loved and lost. tho RIP Caraline, clearly this lovely soul was a tortured soul.
R.I.P. Caroline. I pray to god you found piece in the afterlife.
May God take you in his arms and heal you you poor wee soul xx
Thank's for sharing .
Btw, why did they record it and didn't take her to the hospital ?
Hugs !
this documentary was so sad and made such and impresssion on me..i hope she is in peace now..it horrifies me to think that anorexia could control ur life to that extreme.i just pray tht those who are sick find help because they do matter and are humans who deserve to live and be controlled by this disease.
is that an excerpt from alice in wonderland at the end? it sounded familiar but i may be way off.
no she is both, she goes a while without eating and then binges and purges, they don't show her starving obviously because that would just be footage of her sitting there doing nothing.
and besides, every single anorexic binges and purges once in a while if not often. the body can't help it, it craves food and that's when you go out and have these binge/purge cycles
rmatmcam, sorr if this sounds strange but, I think you've a lovely voice for reading onto tape. Ever think o reading books on audio for the blind? Here in U.S. we've talking books provided by the library of congress and I've read them for years and I know UK has a program like that for their blind. you would be good at it. Also sweet of you to record that sure it was much comfort to Caraline.
i never really understood how the effects of abuse could manifest itself through an eating dosorder. I could never get that concept, how the hell being sexually abused as a kid has anything to do with starving yourself.
....Now i know.
RIP Caroline
Yeah, her flat seemed very dark, depressing and oppressive. Terrible atmosphere. The sense I got from Caraline all along was just one of hopelessness. Very, very sad- it shouldn't have came to this at all.
believe in yourself dear. you can pull thru.
That was a very sweet thing for you to do for her.
*hug*
x x x
Thanks. I knew I wasn't the only one.
@MissPonderosa I think it is appropriate to mention yourself in these comments. Caraline is someone who found no refuge in her environment and had to look to herself to scrape together any means of emotional regulation because there wasn't any available to her anywhere else. This doesn't mean that those who suffer from anorexia and haven't suffered from the things she did are less worthy of pity.
Yukio were her parents ever convicted of abuse and frankly manslaughter? I'm curious where could I find references to this documentary? Is this the BBC? I would greatfully thank you for any information pertaining to this.Please if you could get back to me I would be quite honored.Thank you Gloria.
I can give you details as her sister
@Joanna Standing does her father still alive today ? I hope your brother is doing OK and the abuse I can understand it happened to me as a child and its only made want to protect my children more. Your sister was an is a beautiful soul 🙏
i really can't hear whatshe said in all videos but what a sad life really.
I can't hear her talk I don't know anything about her.
Is there somewhere I can read about her?
She could've just signed out voluntarily, perhaps. Sometimes a person needs to be placed in against their will, and sadly, Caraline didn't have anyone who gave enough of a damn for her to do such a thing.
Wow something in tears
@rmatmcam What I mean is a cat would not watch it`s owner and become bulimic / anorexic. A cat that throws up after eating often is something entirely different. That`s all.
I can´t hear what she says. Too bad quality. I wish somone could do subtitles to this documentary.
im sure if i made it out, but does drinking water make her sick??, or did she mention anything else that she uses, something like ipecac
The Alice in Wonderland extract made me cry!... :(
x x x
RIP
xxx
I wonder why therapy and mental health did not help poor Caralines down hill spiral. Why did the medical team let this this get so bad ?I think she should've been in hospitol. The isolation and ritual purging. Why did the professionals not help her with a feeding tube? instead of 25 pounds per day to get food to throw it all up. Did she not have that choice ( for a feeding tube)She needed behavioral and cognative intervention and not enabeling? RIP.
I think there's no camera crew. It's her own homecam.
Oh God, I feel so sorry for her. I must admit it scared me though- because I can relate to her. How did she die? What happened to her? Poor girl, RIP Caraline. xoxoxoxox
Rest In Peace
What a sad, sad story.
What else can one say?
Whilst Caroline's story is terribly sad, I don't think encouraging her to show her 'routine' (of binging and being sick) was a good idea. If anything, it was almost an instruction film on how to be bulimic/anorexic.
I have to say, I agree with paschen2219 about the depressive atmosphere in the flat. Having a TV on or music playing can help to lift spirits a little - having something (even something as trivial as a favourite TV show) to focus on must be better than sitting in silence.
johartuk you don't get it. Do you think It's a choice? If it was that simple, don't you think the world would be different?
what pills/tablets was she taking?
this is such a horrible disease, you only have any real hope of getting better if you stop it in time but once youve had the disease for longer if affects your brain, your brain cant function like a normal person because it needs healthy fats to function so its kind of hopeless at that point since you cant think straight its impossible.
You ar butifule it is so hard to watch I hope your pane is gone rip angle ❤️ sleep tight 💖
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... Emotions for the sufferer are dangerous enough that they must be first forcedly dealt with through tangible means. This, in anyone with any problems, is tragic in its own right.
Does anyone know what really happened with her? Is she really dead?
Yes I sadly lost my beautiful sister 😪miss you did, big hole in my 💓
I'm not lazy and not stupid.
I already did that when I saw the video.
Love how I did that and got like nothing.
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... It is a sad fact that we aren't trained to deal with our anxiety, sadness, anger, sense of injustice, or fear through means which do not exacerbate these feelings. People tell us, in so many ways, that food will make us happier, that being physically appealing will help us, that our sadness is from not owning x, y, and z. And we believe.
@MissPonderosa My post was *supporting* you. I agree that there wasn't anything wrong with your post. I was responding to your apology for referring to your issue; saying that I don't think you need apologize because it is so pertinent to the video. I never thought you said that others should not have pity at all! Golly, what a misunderstanding. My comment was that you may not have been hurt like her, but I don't think you're a pathetic coward. You must have felt hurt, too.
@india9 They may seem petty to people who are not in those girls' heads. Being a little bit Worried about your weight is how this hell starts. Lets help them BEFORE they are like Karoline. Otherwise they will go to even greater lenghts to show that they mean business if no one believes they are hurting!
What a sad story, a long painful way to die.
where did she live?
I dont think this documentary was instructional in any way. I assume your talking about her binging and then drinking water to help void her stomach as 95% of the rest of the video is her talking about her feelings & past.
One does not need to be instructed on how to induce vomiting, thats a no brainer. As far as the drinking of water, I drank water to lessen the dry heaves of morning sickness whilst pregnant. No one needed to tell me that it would help to drink water, its just common sense.
この動画にレスポンスを付ける... Eating disorders are tragic for so many complicated reasons. One that first hits an outside viewer of a sufferer, perhaps first with feeling without words, is the perverse connection between food and control and feelings. It is perverse because it means there is no perceived way to directly deal with the emotion itself.
I wonder what all those pills were she was taking every night; they sure didn't seem to help her.
WOW... I said that because I thought maybe it was just my computer and whats wrong with you? Why do you feel the need to swear?
I mainly wanted to know about her and her story. And what's wrong with me saying I can't hear her talk? Does it bother you?
I don't understand why the grocery store keeps letting her continue the ritual of spending $36 per day, or for that matter why appropriate interventions are not taking place. She seems stronger than she should in that state also. She stands when she purges and sits up most of the time. As a migraine sufferer I must lay down quite often and I am at a normal weight. One would think she would not be strong enough to shop, prepare food, sit up and stand while purging.
A store can't ban people from groceryshopping, are you insane...
brighton, england
@Fool1100 I wish i could have spoken to her . I wish i could have helped :( it makes me so sad ... one of my subscribers said i was following the exact same path as her :/ I dont think anyone has ever followed the same path as her :( x
Unfortunately you couldn't have helped.
@india9 You can never know what those people you're mocking have been through! Even though they might not be in the condition Caraline was in, it doesn't mean that they don't need help and to be taken seriously. Posting self-harm pictures in youtube does not make that person an idiot but one in need of help. I had anorexia. Weighed 36 kg
Forgive me for being logical about this situation because this is a very emotional and sad case BUT the narrator said she weighed 3 1/2 stone. That equates to 49 pounds. That can't be right given how tall she is and looking at her body. Also, is if she eats two days worth of food in one evening I don't think she got rid of that much. I suffer from migraines and sometimes it makes me vomit and I can tell you just one meal makes me eliminate WAY more than she did, unless we did not see all.
KSitz77 she died.
Shut up. I went down to 88lbs by binging and purging 5-6 times a day, drinking water helps to get rid of it ALL. Ppl shouldn't fkn speak like they know what an ED is if they never had one, period.
@m0sas I would have done the same. I want to hold her so bad, let her know shes beautiful. She really was. Hold her hand and show her that you can be happy. I wish she was still here..
@rmatmcam That`s a bad joke, right?
Maybe thats you but I know a lot of people with ED's that watch tv or listen to music etc ...[natalienyc]
why
@foxgirl100 I was there once...
to-late-for-help
sorry but this completely goes to show, idle hands make devils work. she sat in her room, moping all day. didnt do a single physical thing. didnt even watch anything to make her laugh, enjoy life. notice how she didnt listen to any music the entire time, and no television. she ENJOYED being miserable, and thats a fact.
i dont want another goddamn excuse about not understanding. she had camera/crew and couldve asked for help. only god can judge her, but she wasted her life.
paschen2219 this is literally the stupidest thing I have ever read on RUclips.
The op is a POS