I agree with Alyssa .. Vacation is staying at a resort / hotel not with family . If you wait any longer to take your kids to vacation after they grow up it will be too late for poor Allie !
Also, John wanting to wait until the children are older is crazy. There are so many great vacations you could do as a family now. Also, your kids are a wide age range. If you wait until Rhett is older, Ali will be a teenager. You will be missing out on so many family memories.
Yes, Alyssa is right. When we were kids the only time we went anywhere was to visit family. Our time was dictated by what the family is doing. A vacation is going to a destination for the destination, not to visit family.
Word to the wise that I wouldn’t spend money on experience vacation wait until they’re 5. I was amazed ADHD child made it to Cancun at age 5 or 6. I would imagine that the older girls would love time with mom and dad. A vacation could be as simple as renting a like beach air b&b. Being in the middle of the USA we like to rent out lakeside cabins John; sorry but Alyssa is right.
I asked my entire family, and we all agree, you have only been on family trips. A family vacation is VERY different!! Alyssa did a very good job explaining the difference between the two. This isn't even a gray area, this discussion is very black and white when when differentiating between a family trip and a family vacation. We love you and your family. You are the best mom ever, Alyssa! 💗
I think you two are extremely gracious and humble to answer questions like this. Personally I think you guys are living in God’s blessings and grace and you are doing an awesome job!!👏👏 Praying always for your family! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! ❤
Vacations are the best gift you can give your kids. My daughter has been all over her short time already at 3 years old. It establishes good growth and character.
I’m old…our family vacations when I was a child was tent camping. 5 kids plus mom and dad. Often. Affordable and honestly I have the best memories! ⛺️ 🎣 🏊♂️ campfire, floating the river. I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
I have to agree with Alyssa. I think there is a difference between a family vacation and a "trip" with kids to visit family. This was a fun Q&A!! Cracked up when John was telling about Rhett's manly grunt....too funny. You two are the cutest. I always enjoy your content.❤
I love seeing John's personality really show in these vlogs. And I enjoyed hearing more about Rhett's personality. I had never seen that side of Rhett show through on the vlogs. I love your family and your weekly vlogs.
Alyssa is correct about the family vacations. Visiting family is NOT a vacation. Even though you’re in another state or away from home, and having fun visiting family. But that’s not what vacation is! 😂
I agree with both of you!! As long as you are away from the house and out of Florida you are on vacation!! Dont wait. Make memories now!! Allie is getting older and shouldn't have to wait.
I think the speculations meant like taking kids to zoo, trampoline park or fun activities besides coop and church classes ! Something as a family you all could enjoy
Hi John, hi Alyssa, it’s aunt Christi. I’m Gill‘s third cousin twice removed (in my head) I’m here to weigh in on the topic of defining a vacation As a woman who has been married for 33 years, I have some pretty solid opinions about vacations When my husband worked for United States border patrol, he was at work, literally all the time. If he got more than three days off together, we would have to do the absolute most with it. And because we lived away from both of our families, and we were the couple with no little kids, we were always the ones to travel and see everybody Technically, at work that time is called vacation time and yes, technically we did leave town and go someplace. And technically, we would plan fun little things to do here and there during those travel trips, but the trips themselves had a dual purpose. As obligatory family commitments. It took us 23 years to finally treat ourselves to a real actual “leisure“ vacation with no other agendas, besides disconnecting from the daily stress and being at ease As a woman for me, that means staying somewhere that I am treated. I love a hotel or a resort. For me, it is such a treat to be in a nice space that I am not responsible for cooking anything, cleaning anything, And doing all of those things that I do every single day at home. Which is why I have always resisted the urge that many of my peers have given into of buying or even renting a motorhome for vacations. This is a trap, Alyssa. Basically, you’re just going to be doing the exact same full list of chores as you do at home only with different scenery out the window. This is not a vacation for you at all. Please take me to a hotel with complementary clean towels that I don’t have to wash. Extra pillows that I can pile as high as my little heart desires. Delicious food that I don’t have to plan the meal shop for the ingredients prepare the meal, do the dishes, etc. etc. etc. For a woman, these are only a couple of examples of a true vacation.
Just a thought.... Take the three oldest on a mini vacation (3-4 days) and let the 2 youngest stay with family. (Like Dollywood, Seaworld, etc...) The oldest will prize those memories and the two little ones will love the extra attention. All to often I see older children as adults say they felt like they missed out on doing things because of their younger siblings. It is surprising to see how this influences their life choices as adults... It sticks with them.
Mom of 5 kids here, I 100% wanted each and everyone and would have more if I could 😅 but there are negatives sometimes and the biggest one is being needed by them all constantly, and not always being able to meet the needs the way I want. It’s dividing myself by 5 and always wanting to give more and be more for each child. Honestly my biggest reason for being done, it’s hard to be stretched thin. Also why I think bates family is so interesting to people, Kelly jo and Gil seem so good at being there for all their kids and I’m in awe of that.
I love that her & John’s family get together every week. I wish they wasn’t so shy it’d be awesome to see more of his godly family hanging out with the kids in the vlogs. ❤
Being a Sr. Gran, I have moved several times in my life. If you have a comfortable size home, my advice is to stay put. Aside from housing market being way too expensive, you will blink + your kids will be leaving the nest. Comes so, so fast. Do those family vacations at appropriate time making lifetime memories. Middle age happens + mild health things start to appear such as a bad knee etc. You will become inlaws + Grandparents...life will continue to be very busy + you dont want a huge house to take care of + maintain. -Another tip... keep things decluttered thru life...your so organized Alyssa I imagine you already do. So many people rent storage units...why? Stuff just sits there. A rambling Sr. 😀
as far as the downside of having 5 kids- as a mom of 5 myself- I think what Alyssa meant was its good FOR THE KIDS when they're close in age but its harder FOR THE MOM when they're close in age lol. I always say the same thing. mine are 16, 13, 19, & 25 months apart so they're VERY close in age- 5 kids born in 6 years. its heartwarming seeing them play the same games, like the same toys, watch the same shows, they all go to the same school, they share friends, etc, so in that respect its awesome having them close together but its obviously much harder having 3 kids in diapers, 3 potty training, learning to walk, talk, crawl, etc. as someone who is an entire generation 10 years removed from my siblings I knew I would prefer to have my own kids close together. but there's defiantly certain trade offs you make with either choice.
It's not a vacation when you go to visit family. So yes, I agree with Alyssa. A vacation is when you take a trip to do something just for the sole purpose of enjoying an outing, like to the mountains or the beach.
Girl you got a loft and open space above the girls school room. You have plenty of space to add 2 more rooms!!! Do it! PS. Love your family and the positive content you put out into the world!! Hugs from CA!
Visiting family can be a vacation if it’s for leisure. If you're helping out and have responsibilities like Alyssa said, that's not a vacation but it's still nice family time. It depends on the purpose of the visit.
We did it a lot from WY to CA where both sides of the family were. It was wonderful real vacations. I’m 72 & there was a real dining room with glass dishes & beautiful observation decks. Not like today with microwave meals on paper plates. We loved it (6 kids). Many beach trips, going to Disneyland when it didn’t cost an arm & leg to get in. Seeing cousins, etc.
I agree with John. I grew up in a family of 8. The only vacation we ever went on was to visit family out of town, but we always considered that family vacation.
I'm with John, definitely counts as vacation. My family is (& was when I was a kid) spread all over & now i have fam in another country. I don't remember going on any vacations that didn't involve seeing family (some family member, usually was aunt/uncle ...but not always). We often stayed at whoevers family members house. We may not have stayed at their house the whole time. But we definitely incorporated family into almost all our vacations. Dad/mom would have us go off & see/do things (with & without those fam members) away from their house. So to me seeing family, when visiting them requires significant travel (like more than just a couple hrs drive) definitely counts as vacation. But I have also been told our fam was different in that we had so many spread out across so many states 🤷♀️. So if we don't count those times visiting family, guess then I've never been on vacation 😂.
John is right. My kids are grown. Their best memories of our family vacations growing up are our yearly trips to visit family, and playing with their cousins. We went on other trips too, Disneyland, ocean trips, etc., but the family trips win out.
Really enjoyed this..I do agree with Alyssa on the vacation thing..looking forward to seeing you all next video..till then will enjoy your Instagram ..this old mamaw loves your sweet family ❤
When father was ill.. the Only Regret was… NOT Enough Family Vacations‼️ it’s not fair to your oldest to have to wait until the others get older.. and what is your definition of “older”?..
Agree. Poor oldest receives the disciple the baby goes with the flow. That’s why most babies of the families are light hearted, fun loving best adjusted imo.
I believe John is correct, going on Vacation, Holiday, a break away, is going away from your home town, We grow up visiting family, going away with family, definitely a Vacation , a Holiday, Bless you guys
John is right on, as.a Navy brat our family vacations were always going to see our family in Washington State, where both my parents were from. My dad would take his 30 days a year at once and we’d go see them. Dad was stationed in SanDiego so we spent a lot of time going to Disneyland, Sea World, the Zoo and the beach, Mission Bay. When dad retired we moved to Washington and saw Mt. Saint Helens blow. We went skiing all the time and went to the beach, go rafting. So the only family trips we would take was going to see family and we did that once a year.
You guys crack me up! I love your videos. Both of your personalities really shine through. I think it’s hysterical all of these misconceptions ppl have about you just from snippets you post on social media. Ps. When I was little, my parents idea of a “vacation” was visiting my family in NJ bc they lived near the beach so I can see where John’s coming from 😂
I've never seen a "live" conversation with you both. This is cool. I'm not able to watch now, but I wanted to say "hello" from Valrico, Florida. God bless you all.
I find it very fascinating about the question of hanging out with people none Christian. I'm from CA & my friends are different nationalities & religion. I don't just hang out with church people from my catholic church. I would say (my pov) looking from the outside most of ur family/siblings hang with their church people, just sayin! My parents raised us to be open to ALL nationalities & religion.🤷♀️
John is half correct. If you are going to help someone out as a family, then that is not a vacation. But if you're going to visit family, that is a family vacation/holiday. Because you get to catch up and have a break from normal life. Plus people are helping out with your kids. So that is a family vacation.
My parents never took my sister and I on vacation because they had the same disagreement, and the result: A lot of family memories were missed out on and my parents regret their decision to "wait until they're older" and "visiting family is like a vacation". No, visiting family is NOT a vacation unless they travel with you to the destination.....NOT just staying in a family member's house. Now my parents have too many health problems to go with me somewhere, and I'm 41 and I've only been on one 4-day vacation to Galveston beach for my 40th birthday. It was the best gift from my husband and those memories will last forever regardless of how old our son is! We took our one son Jared to east Texas occasionally for the Christmas lights in Marshall, TX, and even though my son was a baby, toddler, and preschooler, he still remembers the awesome Christmas lights and wants to go places (he's autistic but that would never stop us!). John, please take the children to the beach or something for a few days for a vacation. Sure, it's a lot of work (kids normally are no matter where you're at), but it's VERY well worth it! Please don't wait because you're missing out on all those memories....and you can't go back and redo it later down the road.
Love your family! Thank you for sharing them with us. And John you're hilarious during these videos. I laugh every week. God bless you & your family.❤😊
I agree with Alyssa on vacations. However, I can see combining an event with seeing the area either before and after, like if you go out of town for a wedding.
Vacations are never easy with young children but the memories are priceless. Don’t wait too long to start having vacations as a family. The years of parenting kids at home goes very fast.
I love that yall dress up for church!!! I agree to each his own. However, I was raised to give my best to the Lord. So for me, personally, I still dress up for church.
Lol I agree with both John and Alyssa about the vacation debate!! John's version of vacation is what I like to call a "mini vacation" because you're packing up, staying somewhere, socializing and still having fun! Alyssa's version is what I call a "big vacation" because we could be flying somewhere and spending a ton of money to have fun! So...yes...both count as vacations! 🤗🤣
I have to agree with Alyssa! Visiting family is not a vacation! My husband thought the same because they had family in another state. So that was their vacation time. My family went on a vacation every year. We still vacation with our grown children! They know what vacation really is.
Oh, totally agree with Alyssa! A family vacation is when just you as a family go somewhere together. Otherwise you are using your vacation time to just visit family. There is a definite difference.
I agree with Alyssa! Our kids are now adults and when they were young we only traveled to see kids and they will tell you we never went on family vacations, we traveled to visit family.
Vacation is when you go and visit family that lives in another state and it is also a planned trip to a destination with planned activities, it can also be just a spontaneous trip just to relax. As long as you have your children and/or family there it is a family vacation.
I agree with Alyssa!
Trip = travel to see/stay with family
Vacation = travel to a destination
I agree with Alyssa .. Vacation is staying at a resort / hotel not with family . If you wait any longer to take your kids to vacation after they grow up it will be too late for poor Allie !
Also, John wanting to wait until the children are older is crazy. There are so many great vacations you could do as a family now. Also, your kids are a wide age range. If you wait until Rhett is older, Ali will be a teenager. You will be missing out on so many family memories.
I agree with Alyssa. Visiting family is not a vacation.
Why not? A vacation is what you make it
Sorry John...but Alyssa is right when it comes to what a family vacation is.
@@bethzimmerman3760 no
Yes, Alyssa is right. When we were kids the only time we went anywhere was to visit family. Our time was dictated by what the family is doing. A vacation is going to a destination for the destination, not to visit family.
Word to the wise that I wouldn’t spend money on experience vacation wait until they’re 5. I was amazed ADHD child made it to Cancun at age 5 or 6.
I would imagine that the older girls would love time with mom and dad. A vacation could be as simple as renting a like beach air b&b. Being in the middle of the USA we like to rent out lakeside cabins
John; sorry but Alyssa is right.
Alyssa is right.
He's so adamant that that's vacation... sorry it's not dude!
I asked my entire family, and we all agree, you have only been on family trips. A family vacation is VERY different!! Alyssa did a very good job explaining the difference between the two. This isn't even a gray area, this discussion is very black and white when when differentiating between a family trip and a family vacation. We love you and your family. You are the best mom ever, Alyssa! 💗
I think you two are extremely gracious and humble to answer questions like this. Personally I think you guys are living in God’s blessings and grace and you are doing an awesome job!!👏👏 Praying always for your family! Thank you for sharing your journey with us! ❤
Why wait until your kids are older? Make memories now! You can plan something that will be good for all ages. You can go to a beach gateway.
They do
@@shionajoseph3248no they don’t. They visit family. That’s different then going just them as a family
@@nancyfarkas3592 they said they take a beach vacation with John’s side of the family every year, that’s not visiting family
Vacations are the best gift you can give your kids. My daughter has been all over her short time already at 3 years old. It establishes good growth and character.
I’m old…our family vacations when I was a child was tent camping. 5 kids plus mom and dad. Often. Affordable and honestly I have the best memories! ⛺️ 🎣 🏊♂️ campfire, floating the river. I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
Alyssa Is Right. Alyssa How Is Papa Bill Doing? I'm PRAYING For Him And The Family 🙏
Alyssa is right about Vacation! Sorry John!
Alyssa is right about vacations. For vacations you are staying in a hotel/Airbnb and not worrying about cleaning up or cooking.
I have to agree with Alyssa. I think there is a difference between a family vacation and a "trip" with kids to visit family.
This was a fun Q&A!! Cracked up when John was telling about Rhett's manly grunt....too funny.
You two are the cutest. I always enjoy your content.❤
I love seeing John's personality really show in these vlogs. And I enjoyed hearing more about Rhett's personality. I had never seen that side of Rhett show through on the vlogs. I love your family and your weekly vlogs.
Alyssa is correct about the family vacations. Visiting family is NOT a vacation. Even though you’re in another state or away from home, and having fun visiting family. But that’s not what vacation is! 😂
Alyssa is right about family vacations. I love your family! God bless you all! 🙏❤
I agree with both of you!! As long as you are away from the house and out of Florida you are on vacation!! Dont wait. Make memories now!! Allie is getting older and shouldn't have to wait.
I think the speculations meant like taking kids to zoo, trampoline park or fun activities besides coop and church classes ! Something as a family you all could enjoy
Vacation is different than visiting family.
That depends.
My husband and I have two different definitions of Vacations! I am with John anytime we leave the house and spend the night it is a vacation!
Alyssa is right about vacations! :-)
Sorry John, you’re out numbered here 😅. I agree with Alyssa. A family vacation is just you, Alyssa and the kids. What’s your definition of “older”?
Hi John, hi Alyssa, it’s aunt Christi. I’m Gill‘s third cousin twice removed (in my head)
I’m here to weigh in on the topic of defining a vacation
As a woman who has been married for 33 years, I have some pretty solid opinions about vacations
When my husband worked for United States border patrol, he was at work, literally all the time. If he got more than three days off together, we would have to do the absolute most with it.
And because we lived away from both of our families, and we were the couple with no little kids, we were always the ones to travel and see everybody
Technically, at work that time is called vacation time and yes, technically we did leave town and go someplace.
And technically, we would plan fun little things to do here and there during those travel trips, but the trips themselves had a dual purpose. As obligatory family commitments.
It took us 23 years to finally treat ourselves to a real actual “leisure“ vacation with no other agendas, besides disconnecting from the daily stress and being at ease
As a woman for me, that means staying somewhere that I am treated. I love a hotel or a resort.
For me, it is such a treat to be in a nice space that I am not responsible for cooking anything, cleaning anything, And doing all of those things that I do every single day at home.
Which is why I have always resisted the urge that many of my peers have given into of buying or even renting a motorhome for vacations. This is a trap, Alyssa.
Basically, you’re just going to be doing the exact same full list of chores as you do at home only with different scenery out the window. This is not a vacation for you at all.
Please take me to a hotel with complementary clean towels that I don’t have to wash. Extra pillows that I can pile as high as my little heart desires.
Delicious food that I don’t have to plan the meal shop for the ingredients prepare the meal, do the dishes, etc. etc. etc. For a woman, these are only a couple of examples of a true vacation.
I totally agree with Alyssa 😊 Family visits are definitely not vacations but, family visits are sweet 🎉🎉
I agree with Alyssa. Vacation is going somewhere besides families homes.
A Vacation is traveling somewhere and staying in either a hotel or an Airbnb. Not staying w family. 😂😂
I agree with Alyssa about what a vacation is. 😂
Don’t wait for a real vacation, it’s not fair to Ally. She’s half grown already!
Agreed. They're missing beautiful childhood memories. I will ALWAYS cherish seeing my kiddo grow and enjoy vacations
Just a thought.... Take the three oldest on a mini vacation (3-4 days) and let the 2 youngest stay with family. (Like Dollywood, Seaworld, etc...) The oldest will prize those memories and the two little ones will love the extra attention. All to often I see older children as adults say they felt like they missed out on doing things because of their younger siblings. It is surprising to see how this influences their life choices as adults... It sticks with them.
I would love to see some episodes about how you manage meals and snacks and what your families favorites are!
Mom of 5 kids here, I 100% wanted each and everyone and would have more if I could 😅 but there are negatives sometimes and the biggest one is being needed by them all constantly, and not always being able to meet the needs the way I want. It’s dividing myself by 5 and always wanting to give more and be more for each child. Honestly my biggest reason for being done, it’s hard to be stretched thin. Also why I think bates family is so interesting to people, Kelly jo and Gil seem so good at being there for all their kids and I’m in awe of that.
This is one of favorite Q & A vlogs yet. I love your honesty and sincerity.
I love that her & John’s family get together every week. I wish they wasn’t so shy it’d be awesome to see more of his godly family hanging out with the kids in the vlogs. ❤
Being a Sr. Gran, I have moved several times in my life.
If you have a comfortable size home, my advice is to stay put. Aside from housing market being way too expensive, you will blink + your kids will be leaving the nest. Comes so, so fast.
Do those family vacations at appropriate time making lifetime memories.
Middle age happens + mild health things start to appear such as a bad knee etc.
You will become inlaws + Grandparents...life will continue to be very busy + you dont want a huge house to take care of + maintain.
-Another tip... keep things decluttered thru life...your so organized Alyssa I imagine you already do. So many people rent storage units...why? Stuff just sits there.
A rambling Sr. 😀
as far as the downside of having 5 kids- as a mom of 5 myself- I think what Alyssa meant was its good FOR THE KIDS when they're close in age but its harder FOR THE MOM when they're close in age lol. I always say the same thing.
mine are 16, 13, 19, & 25 months apart so they're VERY close in age- 5 kids born in 6 years.
its heartwarming seeing them play the same games, like the same toys, watch the same shows, they all go to the same school, they share friends, etc, so in that respect its awesome having them close together but its obviously much harder having 3 kids in diapers, 3 potty training, learning to walk, talk, crawl, etc.
as someone who is an entire generation 10 years removed from my siblings I knew I would prefer to have my own kids close together. but there's defiantly certain trade offs you make with either choice.
It's not a vacation when you go to visit family. So yes, I agree with Alyssa. A vacation is when you take a trip to do something just for the sole purpose of enjoying an outing, like to the mountains or the beach.
Alyssa is right about the vacation
Praise the Lord your health has been restored!
Girl you got a loft and open space above the girls school room. You have plenty of space to add 2 more rooms!!! Do it! PS. Love your family and the positive content you put out into the world!! Hugs from CA!
A vacation is any time away from home I’m with John. People even do staycation in the same state just doing things you don’t often do.
Alyssa is 💯 correct. Family trips are not vacations! They are fun and allow to get away from the everyday mundane. But a vacation is different.
Visiting family can be a vacation if it’s for leisure. If you're helping out and have responsibilities like Alyssa said, that's not a vacation but it's still nice family time. It depends on the purpose of the visit.
I agree with John - vacation is going away from home to enjoy new experiences together. Even traveling to see family out of town is a vacation guys.
Sorry John, agree with Alyssa on this! Family trip is definitely different than a vacation!
Definition of vacation……. an extended period of leisure and recreation, especially one spent away from home or in traveling
I am older and I agree with John. When I was young I went to my cousin's house for a week in the summer. It was definitely my vacation.
Agree w Alyssa. You're going on a family TRIP, but no it's not a vacation.
I agree with John … YES it is family vacation even when you go to family in TN and SC
I would like to see a vlog of you all visiting with Chad & Erin at their place.
I agree with John. That is vacation. Ya’ll go away way more then our family gets to. 😂
OK here's the deal from my experience-- Traveling with your kids is not a vacation, it's a TRIP!!!
We did it a lot from WY to CA where both sides of the family were. It was wonderful real vacations. I’m 72 & there was a real dining room with glass dishes & beautiful observation decks. Not like today with microwave meals on paper plates. We loved it (6 kids). Many beach trips, going to Disneyland when it didn’t cost an arm & leg to get in. Seeing cousins, etc.
Should have said on the train. My dad was geologist with Union Pacific railroad.
Not true. You can vacation with kids. You just need to adjust your expectations!
I agree with John. I grew up in a family of 8. The only vacation we ever went on was to visit family out of town, but we always considered that family vacation.
I'm with John, definitely counts as vacation.
My family is (& was when I was a kid) spread all over & now i have fam in another country. I don't remember going on any vacations that didn't involve seeing family (some family member, usually was aunt/uncle ...but not always). We often stayed at whoevers family members house. We may not have stayed at their house the whole time. But we definitely incorporated family into almost all our vacations. Dad/mom would have us go off & see/do things (with & without those fam members) away from their house. So to me seeing family, when visiting them requires significant travel (like more than just a couple hrs drive) definitely counts as vacation. But I have also been told our fam was different in that we had so many spread out across so many states 🤷♀️.
So if we don't count those times visiting family, guess then I've never been on vacation 😂.
That’s so nice John that you were able to go on vacation to your parent’s house when the power went out.😂
Jk, couldn’t resist.😁
I agree with Alyssa about the “vacations”.
Thank you for not having the loud music playing in the background over you talking… it makes it so much easier to hear you talking.
John is right. My kids are grown. Their best memories of our family vacations growing up are our yearly trips to visit family, and playing with their cousins. We went on other trips too, Disneyland, ocean trips, etc., but the family trips win out.
John your wrong. Family vacation is when you go off and you don’t have to cook and clean!!!
Really enjoyed this..I do agree with Alyssa on the vacation thing..looking forward to seeing you all next video..till then will enjoy your Instagram ..this old mamaw loves your sweet family ❤
Alyssa, what do you do for yourself, ( activities, go out with girl friends,)? You are always taking care of everyone else.
Awww take them now!! That’s where the memories start. Take them to the beach for a week. They’ll LOVE it and talk about it for years to come.
When father was ill.. the Only Regret was… NOT Enough Family Vacations‼️ it’s not fair to your oldest to have to wait until the others get older.. and what is your definition of “older”?..
Yes, life isn’t fair is it. These kids have a great life. Unselfish, loving parents.
Agree
I loved having space as I had time with each one. 4 five yrs apart.
Agree. Poor oldest receives the disciple the baby goes with the flow. That’s why most babies of the families are light hearted, fun loving best adjusted imo.
My Father was aJudge. You honor the Court and The church the same
I believe John is correct, going on Vacation, Holiday, a break away, is going away from your home town,
We grow up visiting family, going away with family, definitely a Vacation , a Holiday,
Bless you guys
I'm with Alyssa on the definition of vacation vs trip to visit family!
John is right on, as.a Navy brat our family vacations were always going to see our family in Washington State, where both my parents were from. My dad would take his 30 days a year at once and we’d go see them.
Dad was stationed in SanDiego so we spent a lot of time going to Disneyland, Sea World, the Zoo and the beach, Mission Bay.
When dad retired we moved to Washington and saw Mt. Saint Helens blow. We went skiing all the time and went to the beach, go rafting. So the only family trips we would take was going to see family and we did that once a year.
You guys crack me up! I love your videos. Both of your personalities really shine through. I think it’s hysterical all of these misconceptions ppl have about you just from snippets you post on social media.
Ps. When I was little, my parents idea of a “vacation” was visiting my family in NJ bc they lived near the beach so I can see where John’s coming from 😂
I've never seen a "live" conversation with you both. This is cool. I'm not able to watch now, but I wanted to say "hello" from Valrico, Florida. God bless you all.
I find it very fascinating about the question of hanging out with people none Christian. I'm from CA & my friends are different nationalities & religion. I don't just hang out with church people from my catholic church. I would say (my pov) looking from the outside most of ur family/siblings hang with their church people, just sayin! My parents raised us to be open to ALL nationalities & religion.🤷♀️
Sorry John...I agree with Alyssa... beach trip, theme parks, cabin in the woods etc...
I SO agree with Alyssa regarding the vacation. My partner is 57 and has never seen snow either.
I always consider going somewhere including families as a vacation
Great Q&A! I love watching your videos...thank you so much for sharing your faith and family! You are all a blessing!
I agree 100% with Alyssa on the vacation disagreement with John
John is half correct. If you are going to help someone out as a family, then that is not a vacation. But if you're going to visit family, that is a family vacation/holiday. Because you get to catch up and have a break from normal life. Plus people are helping out with your kids. So that is a family vacation.
My parents never took my sister and I on vacation because they had the same disagreement, and the result:
A lot of family memories were missed out on and my parents regret their decision to "wait until they're older" and "visiting family is like a vacation". No, visiting family is NOT a vacation unless they travel with you to the destination.....NOT just staying in a family member's house.
Now my parents have too many health problems to go with me somewhere, and I'm 41 and I've only been on one 4-day vacation to Galveston beach for my 40th birthday. It was the best gift from my husband and those memories will last forever regardless of how old our son is!
We took our one son Jared to east Texas occasionally for the Christmas lights in Marshall, TX, and even though my son was a baby, toddler, and preschooler, he still remembers the awesome Christmas lights and wants to go places (he's autistic but that would never stop us!).
John, please take the children to the beach or something for a few days for a vacation. Sure, it's a lot of work (kids normally are no matter where you're at), but it's VERY well worth it! Please don't wait because you're missing out on all those memories....and you can't go back and redo it later down the road.
Love your family! Thank you for sharing them with us. And John you're hilarious during these videos. I laugh every week. God bless you & your family.❤😊
I agree with Alyssa on vacations. However, I can see combining an event with seeing the area either before and after, like if you go out of town for a wedding.
Vacations are never easy with young children but the memories are priceless. Don’t wait too long to start having vacations as a family. The years of parenting kids at home goes very fast.
I agree with Alyssa! Also take that family vacation now! Time fly before you know it.
I love that yall dress up for church!!! I agree to each his own. However, I was raised to give my best to the Lord. So for me, personally, I still dress up for church.
Lol I agree with both John and Alyssa about the vacation debate!! John's version of vacation is what I like to call a "mini vacation" because you're packing up, staying somewhere, socializing and still having fun! Alyssa's version is what I call a "big vacation" because we could be flying somewhere and spending a ton of money to have fun! So...yes...both count as vacations! 🤗🤣
I have to agree with Alyssa! Visiting family is not a vacation! My husband thought the same because they had family in another state. So that was their vacation time. My family went on a vacation every year. We still vacation with our grown children! They know what vacation really is.
I wish John would light up when he talks abt the girls like he does when he talks abt Rhett.
He lights up when talking about the girls more than Alyssa lights up talking about the girls 😭
What john is describing is a family trip, not a family vacation
Alyssa is right about visiting family as a vacation
She needs to go see her grandpa.
Yer she said going to the beach with his family was a vacation!
Oh, totally agree with Alyssa! A family vacation is when just you as a family go somewhere together. Otherwise you are using your vacation time to just visit family. There is a definite difference.
Not really. A vacation is what you make it!
You guys should all go on the Bates family ski trip!
Good questions. Good Answers. Have a blessed weekend John and Alyssa and kids. :)
Alyssa is correct. Vacations and experiences as a small child form who you are as an adult ❤️
Don’t wait! Go and explore near you!
I agree with John. We used to go to our home town to visit extended family. We called it vacation.
Will you get surgery to prevent any more future pregnancies?
Alyssa is totally right about vacations!!!!! ❤😂 We started calling it family “trips” too, because vacation with kids is like an oxymoron! 😂😂
I agree with Alyssa! Our kids are now adults and when they were young we only traveled to see kids and they will tell you we never went on family vacations, we traveled to visit family.
Alyssa’s family is very musical; are any of the kids learning instruments?
How is Allie’s Spanish lessons going?
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I agree with John. Visiting family is a vacation especially when you have to travel.
Sorry John
Alyssa is absolutely right!!!💯
Vacation is when you go and visit family that lives in another state and it is also a planned trip to a destination with planned activities, it can also be just a spontaneous trip just to relax. As long as you have your children and/or family there it is a family vacation.
I hope you will continue with your programs forever. It will be so lovely watching your beautiful daughters get married and also your son.