Awww, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that!!! 😢 It really was so rude of him to let you wait around all day and then to not message you anymore!! BUT you have to keep in mind that this is not your fault at all! It doesn't have anything to do with how you acted or anything else! When I listened to the story I got the impression that he really wanted to meet you but he was getting afraid and postponing the date and then he got afraid again. That was not on you! The problem was him!!!! Maybe he didn't tell you something about him and then got afraid to meet you! YOU have to know that it wasn't your fault! It's frustrating and it's sooooo sad and I know how bad that must have been for you! But as long as you don't know his motives it's soooooo important that you know that it wasn't your fault! Don't let it get you down!! Sending you hugs!!! 🫂🫂🫂
I'm sorry for these bad experiences :( Guys can have a completely different mindset with online dating, and a lot less courtesy! They will show their lack of care early on through their actions. The second guy sounds like he had red flags, not setting a time to meet initially and his ambiguity around the date shows a lack of consideration for your time on his end. I know the anxiousness is a real thing when you haven't heard back or confirmed plans, especially if their words say one thing and their actions say another. Our minds will spin a million excuses for them. But, I would recommend not waiting around for any guy and not texting again to check-in with them. It's hard to set these boundaries, but you don't deserve this behavior! If they are inconsistent, it shows a lack of respect on their end. It is hard to adapt to this mindset, but it is good to realize that not every man deserves your kindness, thoughts and consideration. If you are feeling anxious over their actions or lack thereof, 9/10 they are not the man for you. A decent man will not have you guessing his intentions. Sending you love and encouragement and hoping things get better!
Just some advice, but unless a guy has explicitly told you a time, a date, and a place, just assume that no date is taking place. Don’t bother waiting around all day for a guy to ~maybe finalise plans with you. Just go about your day as you want to, and if he’s interested, he will organise something with you. But let him do that, don’t try and push for a date with a guy that can’t be bothered to plan anything. That way you’ll avoid disappointment in future. Hope you find someone lovely that treats you right:)
The last guy you mentioned that unmatched you after asking to hang out the next day reminds me of one guy I talked to that accused me of leading him on when he asked to “hang out sometime” and I said “sure! I’m already booked this weekend but I am free all week next week.” He sent me paragraphs about how he’s not going to let me lead him if I’m never planning to meet in person. Mind you, it was Thursday night when he told me he wanted to “hang out sometime” and I was telling him that I was free as early as the following Monday so it wasn’t like I was putting him off for a really long time lol. I think sometimes people get burned on the apps and then they take it out on people who were not planning to hurt them and I feel like maybe that was the case with your last guy 😂 in any event, you probably dodged a bullet if he’s going to quit that fast
Awww, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that!!! 😢
It really was so rude of him to let you wait around all day and then to not message you anymore!!
BUT you have to keep in mind that this is not your fault at all! It doesn't have anything to do with how you acted or anything else!
When I listened to the story I got the impression that he really wanted to meet you but he was getting afraid and postponing the date and then he got afraid again. That was not on you! The problem was him!!!! Maybe he didn't tell you something about him and then got afraid to meet you!
YOU have to know that it wasn't your fault!
It's frustrating and it's sooooo sad and I know how bad that must have been for you!
But as long as you don't know his motives it's soooooo important that you know that it wasn't your fault! Don't let it get you down!!
Sending you hugs!!! 🫂🫂🫂
I'm sorry for these bad experiences :( Guys can have a completely different mindset with online dating, and a lot less courtesy! They will show their lack of care early on through their actions. The second guy sounds like he had red flags, not setting a time to meet initially and his ambiguity around the date shows a lack of consideration for your time on his end.
I know the anxiousness is a real thing when you haven't heard back or confirmed plans, especially if their words say one thing and their actions say another. Our minds will spin a million excuses for them. But, I would recommend not waiting around for any guy and not texting again to check-in with them. It's hard to set these boundaries, but you don't deserve this behavior! If they are inconsistent, it shows a lack of respect on their end. It is hard to adapt to this mindset, but it is good to realize that not every man deserves your kindness, thoughts and consideration. If you are feeling anxious over their actions or lack thereof, 9/10 they are not the man for you. A decent man will not have you guessing his intentions. Sending you love and encouragement and hoping things get better!
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Just some advice, but unless a guy has explicitly told you a time, a date, and a place, just assume that no date is taking place. Don’t bother waiting around all day for a guy to ~maybe finalise plans with you. Just go about your day as you want to, and if he’s interested, he will organise something with you. But let him do that, don’t try and push for a date with a guy that can’t be bothered to plan anything. That way you’ll avoid disappointment in future. Hope you find someone lovely that treats you right:)
The last guy you mentioned that unmatched you after asking to hang out the next day reminds me of one guy I talked to that accused me of leading him on when he asked to “hang out sometime” and I said “sure! I’m already booked this weekend but I am free all week next week.” He sent me paragraphs about how he’s not going to let me lead him if I’m never planning to meet in person. Mind you, it was Thursday night when he told me he wanted to “hang out sometime” and I was telling him that I was free as early as the following Monday so it wasn’t like I was putting him off for a really long time lol. I think sometimes people get burned on the apps and then they take it out on people who were not planning to hurt them and I feel like maybe that was the case with your last guy 😂 in any event, you probably dodged a bullet if he’s going to quit that fast