SO-OCD Recovery
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- Опубликовано: 18 янв 2023
- Nick takes a look at recovering from Sexual Orientation OCD, what irrational beliefs are at play and what core fears are behind the fear cycle.
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I struggled with ROCD for a long time and now it’s switched to SOOCD. It feels super real and my mind comes up with all sorts of scenarios. I’ve never questioned my sexuality before- even in the midst of ROCD. It feels like another OCD tactic to try get me to leave my relationship. But I don’t feel super anxious like I used to- I feel almost used to it but it is uncomfortable. Is it quite common to get ‘used to’ anxiety so not feeling it so much?
Hey Shan! Absolutely, when we have been anxious for so long we tend to think, "eh I can live with this" - but it's usually in a form of coasting and not wanting to continue facing discomfort to get better.
Also I would add to Nick's comments - if you were to do an exposure right now, you'd probably not feel so 'used to' it. I would imagine the trigger response will be felt significantly.
hey shan, ive recently just been going through the exact same thing. i would love if you got this and dropped your instagram or facebook just so i could ask a few things and get a little reasurrancr amd tips. it would be really helpful. thank you
It feels so extremely real to me at the moment... Trying not to do too much compulsions but freaking out again.
What’s the worst case scenario if you were?
I'm Straight, Engaged to my Mrs & Getting married to her & This HOCD is a nightmare! (I cant even say the G word by the way Cause every time I say it it triggers me) Everyday I have intrusive thoughts about my Male best friends trying to hit on me. & every time That happens I have to think about my time with my Mrs, Whether that is kissing her, & knowing what she looks like to make sure that that thought will stay with me. & lt also affects me when I'm putting on Clothes Like when I put a t shirt on If the Male best friends thought Image pops in my brain, I have to take it off & put it on again & Think of my Mrs & if the thought of her Stays in there I can keep my T Shirt on. Shopping's Worst as well, like when I pick out an item (Lets say a Pint of Milk) If the thought of my male friends pop up, then I have to Put the item back & Pick out another one while thinking of my Mrs then I can keep the Item. The Same thing can happen with buying Clothes as well. This has only just started happening for a weeks now, Like before It use to happen when it was like watching tv soaps like: EastEnders, Coronation street, Emmerdale, Hollyoaks you name it When 2 Men scene is happening I Cant watch That scene cause it will trigger me. If it was 2 Girls kissing it wouldn't bother me cause It felt like having to kiss 2 Girls with me there. What made me speak about this is because a Girl was going through this & a Black man who was going through the same thing on Tiktok & I was happy that I wasn't the only one suffering with this. If the Bisexual Word popped in my head then, That Means still Like Girls & I will only date Girls. But Being Bi isn't what I want & Only Heterosexual is all I want to me & will always Be Straight. But I just Want all these Homo (Also know as the G word) & My male best friends trying to hit on me thought images gone from my head, & Go back to Living my Life with My Mrs, Get Married to her & have a Family Together. I feel like when I become a Dad I Feel Like it will make it easier for me cause I want everyone to know that, Oh look at him spending time with his son/Daughter & His Wife Now that's a perfect Family. The amount of Times I've cried & anxiety I've had over these past few weeks Has not been easy for me. Another Thing as well is that I felt like I can only have female friends, I know anyone with HOCD is different About this but, Whenever I hanged out with Females including my Mrs. It made me feel like the guy who can get all the Girls & Is a Ladies man. Also I watched a lot of Lesbian Or Sexy Thick Girls Corn Hub (With a P instead of a C) And see a Downstairs Growing Response and I still did to The Thick Girls on there. Which I Still felt happy about it, But I didn't want Corn (With a P instead of a C) To be the recovery, So when I spend Quality Time with my Mrs, I feel like that helped me Cause I Can just look at her & See How Beautiful she is. I told my Mrs about The HOCD & She said They are just Thoughts & You Will always Be Straight & Your not gonna Become another Sexuality & She Will Spend as Much Time with me to help you get better. I hear a lot of people say the best Recovery is to Ignore the images & thoughts, which I tried that but it just kept coming back, The TV Actors one I learned to Ignore, But The Thoughts & Images about my best mates Is the one that kept triggering me & being stuck in my head. Another way People say is EPR Therapy, But I'm Scared that They will Judge me. I watched RUclips Videos About the People going through This, & I feel Like I can talk to them & They can talk to me, Because they will not Judge & and I will Not Judge them, cause they have been through this intense Battle. If Anyone has any Recovered Properly & Knows any Big Tips & Best ways to put a stop to This suffering Progress, Please Let me know & Reply to This.
We will get Through This & You are not alone in all This.
You are a Legend if you've read all this!
Thank You!
Another great video which I struggle with a lot. is it possible to have SO ocd merge with real event OCD? as I have real event/false memory intrusive thoughts about homosexual acts which lead to me having SO OCD.
Absolutely Fynn! We work with that combination quite a bit - I am glad you enjoyed the video!
@@aguywhohikes1271ah okay, so it’s common for Themes to merge then? as I also have Pocd merge with real event false memory, the same way SO ocd merges with real event false memory. do the same rules apply with merging themes in regards to unconditional acceptance and breaking down core fears ?
@@fynnive7211 Doesn't matter how many themes you have at the same time - the underlying fears and irrational beliefs mostly boil down to the same things.
Hi,
I am so confused as I am in therapy for hocd/SOCD.
And my therapist says anyone who is straight who has hocd is not Gay or bisexual.
They said hocd isn’t denial, same sex attraction but can someone have HOcD and actually realise they are Gay
Yes it’s possible.
Which I tend to think and believe it’s not hocd tbh.
Hocd doesn’t turn somebody gay and has nothing to do with one’s actual sexual orientation.
Hocd is not a sexual orientation identity crisis either.
So people who “turn” gay after dealing with this. theres a lot more going on there tbh. That’s why you RARELY ever see someone “turning” gay.
People who are gay and know their gay get similar experiences and what I mean by that is the anxiety.. the thoughts.. the avoidances etc etc. but to separate you from them and that these people who “turn” gay are already experiencing stuff from their past and tbh probably having anxiety of just coming out and being accepted. I’m dealing with right now.. and I can almost promise you as real as it seems and as much confusion and doubt and constant hocd thoughts/images.. I know I don’t want any of this. No matter how much you tell yourself or convince yourself ocd will still make you question and doubt. You have to have some self awareness though.. and separate yourself from this disorder I know it’s hard but you have to try.
Im almost 30. Mine was almost like an attack it happened one day while I was at work and last 3 months have been terrible it’s a dark cloud that follows me everywhere.
Before all of this never felt weird or uncomfortable to be around men at stores gym work etc ! Never had these thoughts or images. Never felt this internal feeling of just emotions and constant feeling of what is happening.. it’s brain malfunction this is OCD your going to be fine. I’m staying strong praying and you should too. everyday. Because god has the power to free you.
Let him be your therapist.
Cry out to him he knows exactly what you are going through right now I promise you.
@@Dub_97 Yes, you can't become what you've never been overnight, but some people want people to believe it's possible.
I have this ocd .
how r u now
@@haydensmith-se3ii medication helped me lot bro ... i have fine now
What if your intrusive thoughts are telling you that you are in denial?
Hey Gabrielius - Always remember OCD will make us doubt everything and from every angle.