I so agree. I am terrible about my hateful self talk. It seems so ingrained in my soul. Lots of negative comments that must be healed. Never good enough no matter how much I try. I wished I would have heard this video 30+ years ago. But thank you Michele for some of the best videos on codependency. I'm close to 60 years old and my parents were negative comments as their total go to. I don't remember every being praised and I'm starving for it. I married a mid range narc 34 years ago. We've raised 5 kids, and they all have issues. Why wouldn't they?' They grew up in a volatile, not a stable household. I'm so very sorry for them. I realize how much work is involved in our healing process but it's got to be today.
Hey Kelly! I'm so glad you found me and t's been helpful. Yeah there is a lot to do in relationship self-esteem recovery but having the right support makes a huge difference - :)
One I found easier for myself to ease into was to say to myself “I am no more and no less worthy of love as everyone else” it felt more true to where I was at at the time and then change it later to “I am lovable”
Yes! I talked about that in another video - sometimes adding the words “maybe” or “people think I’m….” Before affirmations can ease our minds into believing it!
@@MichelleFarrismft thank you so much! Ive been recently binging on videos about this and trauma bonds having just gotten out of one and going thru it. I love your channel btw, thanks again!
Fantastic information!! You are very talented in the way you express the ways our lives become more fulfilling. Believe totally in the value of self talk, and you have added additional knowledge of this subject. Thank you!!!!
Ditto. Ultra critical, explosive home life and hyper religious - abusive schooling. My self talk can be very very mean. This is such a helpful video. Thank you.
I keep criticizing and comparing myself almost all the time 🙈 Guess it has to do with the bad grades I got at school and with having been rejected and left by women often.. and difficulties at my work place. Love your work Michelle! Greetings from Germany ☀️
The bonus tip is great. Internalize the compliments we receive. I usually say thank you and move on. Today I had a transgender woman flirt with me. She said I was cute and adorable. I went to my doctor's office to change my insurance and there she was in the reception area, flirting mightily with me. I did not know what to make of her, but I was gracious and polite and briefly talked. Tried not to stare and process at the same time. Only the second one I have ever encountered. Both men to women.
Wow amazing. Your example of the trip is what is happening to me now. I’m scared we will get covid on the trip but it’s really nothing I can control. Help me change the narrative of my trip! I want to enjoy it and not have negative thought.
Just found your channel! You give such practical information and are so assuring. Looking forward to watching more of your videos for insights to improve my relationships and personal life❤❤
You’re a great therapist you really know how to talk to people you have really helped me so far I used to have a lot of self-esteem issues because of a fact and they call psychiatrist but today they call him psychologist she would say to me, Dana you have great concentration, but you are slightly retarded, and then I took the Kleenex and I wipe my nose lumen nose then I threw it against the wall. If we were today I would’ve thrown it at her. I was so angry and sad at the same time nobody ever calls me retarded ever again they don’t use that word anymore they now use mentally impaired or Please..
Dana, hope Howard writes I’m a talk aboliic, it’s a difficult thing to learn the keep quiet, and went to listen. Do you have a saying they’re on anxiety like to hear that please!
@@MichelleFarrismft ok yea i googled you and seen that do you except debit cards from FSA? The flex pay? I plan to use half cash and the other have with that!
That makes sense Tom because I'm guessing that makes you feel happy right? When we are engaged in activities we enjoy - that increases our sense of fulfillment and peace. LOVE that!
Dana, hope Howard writes I’m a talk aboliic, it’s a difficult thing to learn the keep quiet, and went to listen. Do you have a saying they’re on anxiety like to hear that please!
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Yes! Ditto! The idea of "why are you holding onto someone else's thoughts?" I love that! I've never framed it like that before.
So glad that made sense to you! Thank for watching Michelle - great name BTW :)
I so agree. I am terrible about my hateful self talk. It seems so ingrained in my soul.
Lots of negative comments that must be healed. Never good enough no matter how much I try. I wished I would have heard this video 30+ years ago. But thank you Michele for some of the best videos on codependency. I'm close to 60 years old and my parents were negative comments as their total go to. I don't remember every being praised and I'm starving for it. I married a mid range narc 34 years ago. We've raised 5 kids, and they all have issues. Why wouldn't they?' They grew up in a volatile, not a stable household. I'm so very sorry for them. I realize how much work is involved in our healing process but it's got to be today.
Hey Kelly! I'm so glad you found me and t's been helpful. Yeah there is a lot to do in relationship self-esteem recovery but having the right support makes a huge difference - :)
One I found easier for myself to ease into was to say to myself “I am no more and no less worthy of love as everyone else” it felt more true to where I was at at the time and then change it later to “I am lovable”
Yes! I talked about that in another video - sometimes adding the words “maybe” or “people think I’m….” Before affirmations can ease our minds into believing it!
@@MichelleFarrismft😮I would like to watch that video, what’s the title so I may look it up?
@@deathuponusalll here you go Affirmations & Solutions for How to Not Take Things Personally
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@@MichelleFarrismft thank you so much! Ive been recently binging on videos about this and trauma bonds having just gotten out of one and going thru it. I love your channel btw, thanks again!
Thank you SO much!@@deathuponusalll
Fantastic information!! You are very talented in the way you express the ways our lives become more fulfilling. Believe totally in the value of self talk, and you have added additional knowledge of this subject. Thank you!!!!
You are very welcome Steve! Thanks for watching!
I have learned So much from You,Michelle, about how to make important changes in my life… Thank You 🕊️💖🤙🏻🙏
Thank you so much for that Charlie!! ❤️
Ditto. Ultra critical, explosive home life and hyper religious - abusive schooling. My self talk can be very very mean.
This is such a helpful video. Thank you.
I'm glad- yeah becoming aware of our self-talk is huge. Have you been able to create a positive statement?
Yes! Ditto! Thank you, Michelle. I am going to watch this again and again so I can keep reinforcing positive self talk.
Yeah positive self-talk makes a HUGE difference! Thanks so much for watching!
I keep criticizing and comparing myself almost all the time 🙈 Guess it has to do with the bad grades I got at school and with having been rejected and left by women often.. and difficulties at my work place.
Love your work Michelle!
Greetings from Germany ☀️
Thanks for sharing - what positive statements could you tell yourself that you BELIEVE? That's where I would start :)
Ditto- Yes
The bonus tip is great. Internalize the compliments we receive. I usually say thank you and move on. Today I had a transgender woman flirt with me. She said I was cute and adorable. I went to my doctor's office to change my insurance and there she was in the reception area, flirting mightily with me. I did not know what to make of her, but I was gracious and polite and briefly talked. Tried not to stare and process at the same time. Only the second one I have ever encountered. Both men to women.
Yeah accepting compliments and using them for positive self-talk can be very helpful.
Wow amazing. Your example of the trip is what is happening to me now. I’m scared we will get covid on the trip but it’s really nothing I can control. Help me change the narrative of my trip! I want to enjoy it and not have negative thought.
YAY! I'm glad it helped - it's amazing how powerful our thoughts can be!
Eye opener. Thanks Michelle.
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!
Just found your channel! You give such practical information and are so assuring. Looking forward to watching more of your videos for insights to improve my relationships and personal life❤❤
Yay!! I’m so glad you found me!
I'm watching that twice a day and that's help me building my self-esteem and self-confidence!!
That’s great! I have a free ebook on confidence which would connect to my list. Any interest?
Yes, how can i get it ?
Yes, how can i gat it ?
@@MendelFarkas-yc7gk Here is the link to sign up counselingrecovery.lpages.co/new-ebook/
Thank you so much for your help very kind!!
YES!!!
Thank you Tina!
Better selftalk, neg-> really helpful Michelle thx!
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Yes!!! It really makes a huge difference.
Ditto!
Thank you!
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Thank you!
I just watched you on with Ande,incredible video. It created so much hope in me, Michelle. I can’t wait to speak with you on Monday.
@@bobbybloomer5266 I'm so glad!!! I'm looking forward to it too!
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Thank you Kim!!!
Yes.
Thanks AnaBelle!
Ditto.....very helpful information
Thanks Dianne! So glad it was helpful!
Ditto!!
Thanks Tom!
You’re a great therapist you really know how to talk to people you have really helped me so far I used to have a lot of self-esteem issues because of a fact and they call psychiatrist but today they call him psychologist she would say to me, Dana you have great concentration, but you are slightly retarded, and then I took the Kleenex and I wipe my nose lumen nose then I threw it against the wall. If we were today I would’ve thrown it at her. I was so angry and sad at the same time nobody ever calls me retarded ever again they don’t use that word anymore they now use mentally impaired or Please..
I’m sorry that happened to you.
Dana, hope Howard writes I’m a talk aboliic, it’s a difficult thing to learn the keep quiet, and went to listen. Do you have a saying they’re on anxiety like to hear that please!
This too shall pass or one day at a time or everything will be okay are all sayings for anxiety. Hope they help!
Yessss
Thank you for watching!
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Thank you!
Yes, DITTO
Thank you!!
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Thank you!
1:50 : told by ancient Indian philosopher Chanakya. Your thoughts become your action and behavior
Well said :) Thanks for watching!
Do you take clients in california?
Yes only in California.
@@MichelleFarrismft do you do zoom or in person therapy sessions and if my insurance is out of network how much for each session?
I do Zoom and unfortunately I don't take insurance - I'm private pay $185 per session. @@MissAnnaDominique
@@MichelleFarrismft ok yea i googled you and seen that do you except debit cards from FSA? The flex pay? I plan to use half cash and the other have with that!
Sister I provide my email but I Didn't get that 4 essensial ways to build confidence
Email me on my website www.counselingrecovery.com and I’ll make sure you get it.
@@MichelleFarrismft I submitted but still can't get yet
I just emailed you.
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Thanks Beth, you are definitely not alone!
Ditto
Hey friend!!!
The thing is,my self esteem improves when I'm able to build a model car successfully.... So I kind of have a dilemma ..
That makes sense Tom because I'm guessing that makes you feel happy right? When we are engaged in activities we enjoy - that increases our sense of fulfillment and peace. LOVE that!
DITTO
Thank you - you're not alone!
Dido
Thank you...you're not alone!
The model car I'm working on is hurting my self esteem ... Maybe time for a new hobby??
Try not to judge yourself for HOW you are doing it - instead focus on the JOY you have in doing it. Hope that helps!
Dtto
Thanks Hilary! I love that you're watching and being committed to your growth!
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Sorry what does that mean?
Yes
Thank you! You’re not alone!
Dana, hope Howard writes I’m a talk aboliic, it’s a difficult thing to learn the keep quiet, and went to listen. Do you have a saying they’re on anxiety like to hear that please!
Sorry not sure what you are trying to say here. Can you clarify?
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Thanks Sharon!
Ditto
Thanks Mark - you're not alone! Thanks for watching :)
ditto
Thank you for watching! I hope you come back soon.
DITTO
You're not alone!
Dido
Yay you watch the second one too!
Yes
Thanks Marcia!
Ditto
Thanks for watching!
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Thanks for watching!
Ditto
Thank you for watching and sharing!! You're not alone!
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YES!
Ditto
Thanks for watching!!
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Thank you for watching!
Ditto
Thanks Laura for watching!
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Thank you!
Ditto
Thanks Sue!
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Thank you for watching and being here!