What Happens When Empaths Are Pushed Too Far? Empaths are naturally kind, selfless, compassionate, patient, and understanding individuals. They have challenges saying "No" to other people because they do not want to reject them. Due to Empaths' selfless nature, other people tend to exploit them for personal gain. However, their patience has certain limitations, especially when they have had enough abuse. 🙏🙏🙏Please support my work and buy me a coffee through this link: bit.ly/3s0RFPO ☕☕☕ If you enjoyed this video, hit the LIKE button and make sure to SUBSCRIBE! I really do appreciate your support. 🙏 ⏱️⏱️VIDEO CHAPTERS⏱️⏱️ Introduction 00:15 10 THINGS THAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN EMPATHS REACH THEIR LIMITS 00:25 Number 1 EMPATHS WILL SHUT THEIR EARS. 00:31 Number 2 EMPATHS WILL CLOSE THEIR MINDS TO COMPREHENSION. 01:27 Number 3 EMPATHS WILL HOLD BACK THEIR HELPING HANDS FROM OTHERS. 02:39 Number 4 EMPATHS WILL MINIMIZE THEIR SENSITIVITY LEVELS. 04:00 Number 5 EMPATHS WILL MIRROR THEIR ABUSERS. 04:51 Number 6 EMPATHS WILL LOSE CONTROL OF THEIR TEMPERS. 05:52 Number 7 EMPATHS WILL TURN OFF THEIR LIGHT. 03:39 Number 8 EMPATHS WILL SAY WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. 07:18 Number 9 EMPATHS WILL NO LONGER CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS. 08:05 Number 10 EMPATHS WILL BECOME SARCASTIC AND BITTER. 08:59 Thanks for Watching! How did you find this video? Feel free to share and like our content and invite others to subscribe to this channel. We're branching out to other compelling topics, so stay tuned. 🔔🔔🔔SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE VIDEOS: ▸ ruclips.net/channel/UCkopSR5Cyy7h7rTUK6Wz9Dg #discoverempaths #empath #empaths #narcissists
All you're demonstrating is that so called Empaths are the same as everyone else. True Empaths don't hold back, shut people out, refuse to help people, be abusive and call it "mirroring", etc etc etc. They also don't call themselves Empaths for clout and admiration. You are describing a vindictive person, that's all. This Empath scam is pathetic. The worst most f'd up dangerous people I know call themselves Empaths.
Man I am lost for words still love with a woman she was totally narcissistic I think I was crazy and still think maybe I'm the one but I don't think so I'm more than our soul as a relationship she never cared about me. Should be gone four days in my car or truck record Vehicles didn't even care I'm just lost in all this I think we're over we got to be over I've been doing this for five years and she I know where flips everything on me everything
I now say NO very easily. The game is over. I do not care about their lives or their problems. When you push me too far I block you,I cut you off,and I act as if you never existed. When you aren't reciprocating the same energy back,then there's the door.
Facts. I DESPISE EVIL IN EVERY INCARNATE ESPECIALLY THE BANALITY OF EVIL THOSE WHO SIT IDOL AND IMPOTENT whilst EVIL occurs within their midst. Those who turn a blind eye and those who take pleasure in it. EVIL can only exist if good men do nothing.
Definitely a lifetime Empath who has had enough, is totally disgusted with ‘family’ expecting, never giving back, am slowly removing myself from everyone and everything!! I hate this!!
@@karenblum6185 it the gift that only feels like a curse because you are around a bunch of vampires feeding off your light. Don't feel bad about cutting people off. Do i instantly and surround yourself with people such as yourself as soon as you are able. The others will never learn from their mistakes. You can't fix them but you can fix YOU. Funny thing about getting rid of a bunch of people aka problems. As soon as you drop them suddenly YOU FLOAT TO THE TOP. The weights and heavy are lifted off your back off your heart and off your soul. All at once. And PEACE, TRANQUILITY, BALANCE hits your life. Then you have time to focus on you, fix yourself because we are self healers. And things will immediately get better. See THOSE PEOPLE will continue to make the same mistakes OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. They never learn. 20 years can go by and those Same people are STILL DOING THE SAME THING. Let them go live their lives and you do the same. I had to learn this a long time ago and I LEFT. I joined the military and got away from them completely and I live on the other side of the country and only visit when I WANT TO. Sadly Strangers will appreciate you more than flesh and blood.i have a saying. Not all flesh and blood are FAMILY and not all FAMILY is FLESH and blood. Your family are those who support you, surround you, there for you when you need them, through the good times and the not so good times. 5hose who laugh when you do, and cry when you do and can make you laugh when you want to cry, and cry from happiness because they knew how to get you through whatever it is you were going through. Those other people are selfish light vampires and happiness sponges. Where ever they go, they SOAK the happiness right out of the area 🤔 they go. AVOID THOSE PEOPLE AT ALL COST. Take a step back and see who's actually concerned about you, and not what you can do for them. Separate the users and the a users from those that really matter and then set your boundaries. User's and abusers, dump them completely. You don't have to be accommodating, or please everyone. Stand up for yourself and if anyone has a problem with that then they are someone you should eliminate from your life. Those that support you you allow on a case by case basis. Once you get this down you will begin to be at YOUR NATURAL peaceful, loving and empathic state. We have a higher purpose than the rest of them. We are light workers. Ment to fight against the ultimate evil. We were chosen to be born now at a time of great peril and darkness. The final battle for good and evil is upon us. Wicked rulers seek to enslave and zero carbon life humanity. We must stop them. When the heart's of men grow cold. Its us empaths who have enough love and hope to save the world. Its us that can awaken humanity's souls and hearts from their own darkness. But we must be strong within ourselves. And with the creator. He gives us direction. Let him lead you to you higher purpose. Let his will be your will and you will instead of feeling all the negative and hurt and feeling like a curse absorbing everyone else's emotions overwhelming you. Sickening you, dimming you. You will instead EXUDE AND PROJECT YOUR OWN EMOTIONS AND RADIATE YOUR SOUL OUT AROUND YOU like force field and beacon. Driving away vampires and evil currupt people will flee from you once you attain you full potential. And you will be able to use your abilities to help and to heal those who need it, and to give counsel to those who seek wisdom and answers. You have to be strong and seclude, and isolate yourself from those things that bring you negativity and unhappiness. And surround yourself with true friends and family and people like yourself healers and givers of light. To the rest of them fuck em. Lolol let them figure it out without you.
You speak a lot of truth. Once the empath realizes their gift and learns all about narcissism, then he or she becomes empowered. No longer will the empath tolerate any toxic behavior from a narcissist.
Amen to that!! Once you stand your ground, they will try to gain a way back into your life. No way !! I turned 74 yesterday (in years😊) Life is to short to allow people like that to make you miserable. It’s doesn’t mean it’s ok at any age, you never know when it’s your time. ❤
This is so true. I'm 58 and now live alone so I don't have to deal with the world anyway. I've spent my life giving as much of me as I could only to be taken advantage of and abused to many times. Now I take care of myself and I have stopped trying to solve the world's problems. I've learned it's impossible to do that. I have finally found the peace that I have looked for all my life by creating my world for myself
I'm 70 honey and I went through the same thing and it took me till I was about 50 to get it straight in my head. But you've got this far and things will get much better. Good luck with the rest of your life and hopefully everything goes well for you. I do have a suggestion for you. I have studied stoicism for quite a while now and it seems to help me more than anything on these issues.
I’ve had moments of telling people who they are which shocks the toxic person. It actually terrifies them and they believe I’m the evil one. The truth will always be revealed when being pushed to the limit.
And when it involves a power differential as in a doctor or professor this can cause problems.. Empaths can see behind the outer masks of Gurus of any kind. Doctors, teachers, politicians. We are a threat and when you tell them who they are you can be met with their fury at being exposed.
I am an empath and have just gone thro an energy draining Narc. I could feel my soul dying. My reactions were dead on in this video. I've had to "retreat" from people and take care of my emotional well being. I thought i would never get back my "love" and empathy for others!! Take care my fellow empaths. XO
After twenty years of kind, loving, support to my family and being mistreated, I snapped and cut everyone off. Its been a couple of years now and it was the best decision I made. I'm now onto phase two which is to get a new number and only check my main phone number once at the end of each day. Don't mess with empaths
Well you are preaching to the choir. The same thing happened with me. I was 37 when one July day in 1991 I snapped, almost strangled my sibling to death. I left and cut the whole family off for 25 years. No contact. NONE. Years later Spirit demanded I go back. I resisted. In 2015 I got really sick. The closeness of death made me comply. Here's the deep part. Narcissists DO NOT change. Everybody in the family made nice for three years. In 2019 my youngest sister who I had tried to strangle when I snapped in 1991 reverted to type by trying to gaslight my sister Kathy into believing I slandered her. I remained calm. From then till 2021 she kept up a campaign of constantly trying put downs, bellitling-the usual shtick when I would visit. Didnt work. Two days after Christmas there was a little group assembled. Suddenly everyone's mask dropped or slipped-especially my youngest sister. I could SEE how truly evil she was and still is. That inner demon in her recognized my insight and tried to ďrop a cover over her but again it failed. It also showed her as the ringleader and I could SEE the threads and webs she weaved in other lives as well. The others DID NOT know they were showing themselves. I did reconcile with the other sister but it took a year with her to realize she had been manipulated and gaslighted to once again destroy our relationship-just because of sheer narcissitic evil. Did another year of alienation because of Normas mad evil manipulation. I flew back to California and realized Spirit sent me back to SEE who they really are and why I had to leave in the first place- NOT to reconcile. There can be NO reconciliation with EVIL. When I left the first time I was too young and inexperienced to KNOW and SEE them and understand that type of evil or evil in general and certainly didn't expect it in my own birth family. But years of meditation, prayer, yoga and spiritual study opened the third eye of discernment. My sister Norma is truly evil and so are most of my birth family and the family she married into. I wish you well in your new life without those we are taught and conditioned are supposed to love and nurture us. A lot of time it just ain't so. And remember a scripture says a mans enemies will be those of his own household. Matthew 10:36. Peace
Can you not block their numbers. I just broke contact with a toxic sister again after being denied the right to choose my own preferred spot for a grave in a Naturecemetery and being accused i had an oitbursr, whilst she had, i remained calm and assertive. She then said vile things to my oldest sister that i overheard, which triggered me into a fullblown traumastate. Emergency consult with homeopath released so much heartbreak i feared a heartattack. Now calmer. Be strong, be brave.
@@gertrudevanvoorden1416 Understood. The same tging happened when I went back. I had times where I couldn't breathe and I knew I was close to having a heart attack. That would have given the narcissists exactly what they really wanted. Me dead. Didnt happen. I am even stronger and more empowered than ever before. They hate that I can calmly LAUGH at them. at least I could. Now I just don't bother with them and I told the other sister that they are,BORING because they stuck in the same old game.🤣🤣🤣 Stay strong. I suggest you use cord cutting meditations found here on YT coupled with solar plexus meditation for power and control.
I am an empath. I can't tell you how many times I've felt like it's a burden that I'm tired of carrying. The basic civility and decency that we give to everyone is rarely if ever appreciated or reciprocated. Reading the comments makes me realize there are many of you feelings the same way. I wish I could have met another empath in life but sadly I never have. We need support groups with each other.
I'm thinking it should be a check box on job apps👍SERIOUSLY,CAUSE EVEN WHEN YOUR AWARE...SOMETIMES THERES JUST THAT ONE THAT EFFECTS YOU ,I PRAY FOR THEM ,BUT DAMN THEY MAKE A MISERABLE DAY...SO IT'S GOOD TO KNOW YOUR ONE,THATS FOR SURE CAUSE IT HELPS,CAUSE THEN YOU LEARN HOW TO HEAL FROM THEIR ENERGY...BUT IT STILL SUCKS 😅😅🙏AN KIDS THAT DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT IT MEANS IF THEY'RE FEELING THESE THINGS TOO,THEY ALL THINK IT'S " JUST DEPRESSION " AND IT'S SO SAD,BECAUSE ADULTS AND PARENTS AREN'T AWARE OF IT ENOUGH...🙏🌈👍GOD BLESS ALL💝LOVE,LOVE,LOVE.AND ALOT OF BREATHING,LMAO😘🙏✝️
I am sure you have met many without realising it. I believe a true empath is capable of analytic thought, and is therefore able to compartmentalize things/people/events that warrant consideration or not. Then there is the perhaps/maybe situation. This will take time and a little more thought. But you will be unscathed because of your ability to either store, act upon, or dismiss as you see fit. Never, ever forget the key, intuition. Never question it. As long as it doesn't mean any danger, trust it!!!
Unfortunately most empath support groups get swamped by fake-empaths, either narcissists looking for prey as a “funny joke,” or people who think that being a people-pleaser and abuse-enabler makes them empathic when they often have little heart for truly loving and healthy people. It’s pretty lonely trying to find others like ourselves.
Both my parents died young my dad 40yo my mom 56yo…3 siblings 1 died at birth my only brother..2 sisters who I have now cut off…and also a spouse..I have 2 sons but only am close to one..the other married twice and his 2nd controls him…and he lives out of state..it is interesting that they don’t understand why you are at their beck and call any longer….I am too old for their games…
I am an empath. It took 67 years just to hear about this and the role narcissists play. I had a narcissist mother and a narcissist husband. All those things have happened to me. I crashed and had to pick myself up. That’s when I found my boundaries and started taking care of me. I write to warn the young empaths out there to research this like your life depends on it, because it does. Find out all about how narcissists act and believe it, especially if you choose to date one or be friends with one. Boundaries are necessary and a line in the sand that says, “that’s too much.” It will help.
Took me way too long also.. My mother, MIL and husband are narcissistic.. Since my MIL passed away my husband has been better.. I have also set a lot of boundaries with the help of a good counselor who has now passed away..Takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally and physically..
❤ thank you so very much for your comment. I'm 52and just now learning that I am not a weirdo but a beautiful person who has allowed too many too help destroy EVERYTHING in my life. But God is Good, and I am learning more about this every day and I am learning about boundaries but a bit scared to enforce them. But I'm getting there quickly. 🎉❤ Much of God's Beautiful Love to you. Be BLESSED 🙏.
You seem right on target. The biggest challenge comes when the narcissistic husband gets a incurable diagnosis and the empath stays until the end. Although it's rare, getting an apology or confession of inappropriate behaviors can happen on the narcissists' death bed. In some ways it's a relief in other ways it's almost like a final jab from the narc. Almost as if he was saying "yes I hurt you but you were foolish enough to stay all these years, so it's not all my fault. You abused yourself." Ugh, it's hard to swallow your anger when he's on his last breath. But what else would an empath do? It's taken years, but I've slowly regained my footing & feelings.
We were born this way, the Narcs were born there's. I grew up with one who played our Parents easily. I became the rebellious kid,he the one that made them proud for being such great parents. I left home as soon as I could very angry & confused. Immature & trusting knowone I struggled for years. But I helped others as a 'need' to do so,yet despising myself for the compulsion! Eventually maturity,rational & thinking befriending other empathic folk sorted me out. I became a professional Care giver. I try to be a compassionate person to all. Its the best of me & I'm grateful for it. But when I'm confronted by a Narcissist I can be as ruthless & cruel as they are & what scares me is that I enjoy it !
This video is honestly accurate. As an empath, I've dealt with a lot of bullshit because I wanted to help people because I genuinely cared about them and even wanted to be their friend. Unfortunately, from experience there are more cruel people than kind people. I've been hurt so many times by so many others and it got me to the point where I don't even want friends (because I don't trust people and I don't feel happy around others as much anymore) and I'm trying to force myself to not give a fuck about others. I want to care, I really do, but after constant abuse that has made me develop various persisting mental/emotional disorders, I'm done. I didn't want this bullshit. Only I wanted to be kind to people and have that kindness returned. People are assholes. Fuck them.
Same boat friend. Mmy advice is to erect healthy boundaries, and develop strong standards for the people you allow into your life. You deserve the best, because you give your best 110% of the time! Don't give up on people, but learn to stop enmeshing yourself into EVERY stranger's problems, you know? Apathy is abusive in a normal person's hands, but it's a life saving tool in the hands of an empath. You can only give so much, and when you have everything taken from you, you are left with nothing to give.
No no no. Trying to get what you need from others by treating them as you want to be treated will work with a few people. Love them all but let the users toddle on.😂
I read a quote that said " there was a nice person they said fuxe this shit & they lived happily ever after " learning to say NO..... set boundaries & when u know ur being manipulated and controlled get away fast❤❤❤❤
This checks all the boxes for me. I used to be empathetic. Two toxic marriages and half a lifetime of being taken advantage of by narcissists and sociopaths have ruined me. I relate to every point in this video. Sometimes I think I feel sad about the people I could potentially be helping and caring about. But lately my default reaction to that idea is "screw that."
Same. I kicked several people out of my life, having regarded them as very dear to me before that. Somehow I attract people that just want to dump their shit on me and use me for their advantage. Don't want this any longer. I'm fine living for myself only.
@@amable111The sooner you get to that screw that phase the better. Your emotions and mental well being needs to always be your number 1 priority. Once you can get to that stage, where you learn that you need to respect yourself more to not let toxic people harm you, the better.
When you’ve given 200% to a relationship only to find you’ve been wasting your precious time it can be so emotionally draining that you must distance yourself from it all for a while to process it all. We do this not because we don’t care, but in the interest of self preservation.
I'm a true empath and my light has burned out. I no longer seek other's to help. There is no longer a reason to want to help other's. It might have to do with relationship I'm in that has stolen my light. Hopefully my light will return to me before my next life.
Only you can change this... Take responsibility for your part and move on... Easier said then done I know... But if nothing changes, nothing changes... Much light n love to u.
Now is the time for you.. go to a tranquil place in your mind, and your light will come back.. Your innocence wont come back, but the wise light will be back. 💖
Remember, these freaks couldnt wait to take your light. Keep what you have and do not share it again. Your purpose is YOU now whatever it is. Not the next life. That comes when it comes. Bathe is your OWN power it will make a difference! ML
I lose complete interest in people who are selfish and give nothing. I do not lose my temper because they are not worth the effort. Moving on is more intelligent. I accept people as they are. If over time they make no effort and are not compatible, it is okay. We just drift apart. I also do not do well with people who lie and manipulate. They are immature and try to control others as well. You have to accept who people are in order to live your life according to your values. I will not live with or sleep with someone I do not like.
Yes!! Effort is KEY!! My older brother is a narcissist, but he does actually make an effort to be human sometimes. That’s the one and only reason I’ll communicate with him. I keep him at arm’s distance, however.
At first I was shocked at learning about NPD because it answered all the problems I had been having with a few people. Then after almost 3 years of living with that knowledge and them only getting worse and more abusive I went COLD. I don't like what I turned into, no longer joyful and smiling, happy-go-lucky. My face is falling from the sadness and turmoil. I have been packing in between the f'ed up love bombing that is obviously fake; he just doesn't want to lose his cook, maid, etc. Now I find this video and am kinda shocked to see how many are in this "I've had ENOUGH " ship. We are truly never alone even tho we feel like we are ❤
It's a normal process ... renew your mind and heart with the word of God and His Love for you.. I've been through it myself... I couldn't think straight.. drained so much until I couldn't take anymore.. and I left.. the best thing I ever did❤... another word for Narcissist is either being influenced by a demonic entity assigned to torment and try to destroy your true Empath qualities... Jesus was an Empath.. but look how He talked to the church leaders of His day.. ❤❤❤❤❤
Yes! This never gets spoken about. I had a very complicated childhood, and had to learn to be an empath to feel remotely safe. The love that I did experience touched me to the core, shaped who i am today, and made me see the value in being an empath as well. That being said, I later found something out about myself that no one likes to acknowledge, but to heal we have to confront these things so I'll be honest. An empath in the extreme is a people pleaser and feels safe and satisfied when the people around them are safe and satisfied. That being said, when they are pushed to the edge, deep inside the reciprocal can grow as well. I discovered that in the same sense that I love giving to and loving those I love, unfortunately i also deeply enjoy hurting those that I hate, which true hatred for me has only truly arose a few times in my life, but it feels the exact same, and just as intensely pleasurable as loving those i love. For the record, I don't pursue these feelings, and know they're wrong, but in the moment they can be very convincing. I didn't realize how perfectly mirrored and inseparably dichotomous the psychology of it was, but if you think about it abstractly, it only makes sense. I was made this way by sadists, and even though what became consciously expressed was positive empathy, i think i got bit by the bug too... Broken people make broken people. I'm old enough to understand this and break the curse, and you can too. Please don't be hard on yourself if you feel this too. This wasn't your fault, and the hand you are dealt doesn't have to determine how you play the game. Follow Love, and overcome ❤
I align with everything you articulated. The swing of the pendulum has wrought harsh self- judgment for being too much of a people pleaser (read: weak), then morphing into a snarling wolf. I can now accept that it is part and parcel of being a super-empath. Thanks for your sincerity, for the courage to integrate your shadow (as Jung's teaches...), for revealing to me that the other side of the pendulum swing is not a character flaw, nor is the first side. I feel that now I can embrace both; enjoy the gift of giving, knowing that the she-wolf is not a beast but a natural protector. ❤💫
Yes I agree because I am 69 and now have the time to look back on a life of good positive experiences and some negative ones too, one thing that has shocked me not to judge people too harshly is discovering that about 95% of the problems that I encountered in my life with various family members were influenced by a dna reaction to gluten, this has had a dreadful negative effect on the physical, mental and emotional well-being of six of my closest family over three generations, it’s a long painful and tragic history and I am still in shock as to how much damage these allergies can cause, not to mention how much damage this may be causing in the wider community.
I am a 66 year tired old man. This video describes me EXACTLY. I really don't know if being an empath is a blessing or a curse. It seems that for my whole life all those around me received the blessing, and I received the curse... until I blew my stack sky high and shocked them all and myself for acting so out of character.
I know how you feel. I did the same. I also picked myself back up went out and found a better place. A lot what I was experiencing is at the present employer I’m with. That’s all changed I start my new one next week. At first I wasn’t going to give a notice, I was just going to pick up and walk out. On a professional level it wouldn’t look good on my end. But still I’m glad I’m getting out of there.
I am an empath and when I lost my temper really lost it. I told the people exactly how I felt I was like a volcano going off to the point my husband had to get me and leave I was shaking I was so mad. He then didn't talk to them for a few months. I came home and wrote out everything on a couple of pages a paper because not only am I observant I have a good memory. He looked at me and said you aren't going to send this are you. I told him no I just had to get it out so I could calm down. It gave me peace to write it in a letter to them even though It was never sent.
I am the same way ! I have to get it out or I will explode! When I have had enough I will explode and lose my mind if you push me to far ! Example I have been married to my husband for forty two years for those forty two years his younger siblings have tried to annoy and bully me and others his younger sister. Refuses. To treat me or her nieces. Like family ! Well one day she was rude again with our daughter walk by our daughter like she did not exist and this shit has gone on for forty two years ! Well my daughter told her Aunt she was done that there would be no more abuse and she would not bother. Her anymore ! Which after Forty two years and her doing the ignorant behaviour of acting like we are not that important to her , I blew up and told her what I thought of her and her brother who were two of the biggest narcissists and find it necessary to constantly abuse ! But same thing I would write letters and not send go over things in my mind But when your mind finally says enough it explodes ! And it actually felt so good to say what I had to say but than being a empath I all ways feel guilty for losing my temper but I have allowed my self to get angry and I actually feel better ! I love my husband but I told him for my own mental health I can not see his family anymore. And he is fine with this because he is a empath also and he has had his own issues with his family
I did the same thing, except I sent the letter. - I was told, and I quote, "I don't think this letter warrants a response." This is from my sister, who was 9 when I was born, and she has hated me all her life...simply because I was born and being an empath made it even worse for me (I could feel all the hate but couldn't process it as a child) and for her ("You're such a goodie-two-shoes!)
Absolutely. I'm the same. I am super patient & kind. But......... Enough is enough. Don't make me loose my cool. You won't like it when I do. I will give one warning for you to quit your BS, your deliberate antagonism. I'll ask you to shut up & back off............... but the warning is always ignored! What do the Americans say?......... "Don't poke the bear"
Being an empath without knowing that I’m an empath.. only realized very recently, and also realized that I’ve been desensitized due to being “abused” and simply refused to keep absorbing all the negative things people dump on me. This also explain why my husband and I lived so well together because we’re both empaths and we’re both on the same wavelength.
@@adarshmahajan6796Did you grow up feeling like the emotions of others had a heavy impact on your own emotions? I remember in jr high or highschool, a girl was crying her eyes out in class because something tragic happened in her life and I couldn't help but want to cry just as much because I felt so bad for her. Im constantly trying to be very considerate of other peoples feelings and how what I do or say affects those around me.
I am an empath person, i think at this point of time i reached the #11. I just stopped caring anyone and anything, i get tired of others manipulative, gaslighting, controlling, demanding, treatment from others. Self healing is in still in progress.
You still care or you wouldn't be watching this. You have just finally established boundaries. Unfortunately for empaths, we have a hard time with a middle ground. It is usually all or nothing.
Being a highly or hyper sensitive empath, I can surely attest to this precise short video. I wished I would have been self aware if this as a young teenager to learn sooner how to develop a balanced and healthy defense mechanism. Cheers
Being an empath can be a blessing or can feel like a curse. Be careful with absorbing negative energies and possibly giving the best of yourself to a narcissist. Use your ability to protect your own energy and heal others. 💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Believe me I'm in shutdown mode. I am holding very little back with what is on my mind. As Al Capone said it best " never mistake my kindness for weakness for I am kind everyone I meet and if someone is unkind to me weakness will be the last thing you will remember me for"
I totally agree, I've been forgiving, suffered at the hands of a narcissistic person, I showed compassion, but after being trampled, disgarded, disrespected so many times by that person, I decided to point out the truth about their behaviour, amazingly they acted like they were the victim but infact they were the perpetrators of their evil way's, they know not to mess with me again
I can understand how challenging it must have been to deal with a narcissistic person and to finally speak out about their behavior. It's important to stand up for yourself. Have you found any strategies that were particularly effective in dealing with this situation, and what advice would you offer to others facing similar challenges?
This the most common thing that could have happened. If you speak out about narcissist and expose him for being a narcissist, they will manipulate you into feeling like you are the one to blame. A mind perfectly designed and accustomed to feed on other people’s energy will remain this way in the name of survival, unless they do something about it themselves, which is super difficult, since they’re trapped like an addict in that pattern. Just leave, as an empath you are narcissist’s food. Don’t be. It is on them to seek help and finally face the reality of their true self, it is on them, not on you.
I'm an empath who has hit a lot of these points over the last few years. I've snapped at some, almost caused brutal harm to others, and closed myself off to some who I never thought I would.
You don't sound the least bit Empathetic to me. There's no such thing as an Empath in clinical terms. It's a term coined in a Star Trek episode. Why do you need to give yourself special labels? You sound like someone who needs an excuse for unhealthy behaviors. One that leaves you Pure and Superior. That seems to be the TRUE definition of an "Empath" based on my experience and the comments here. Sounds like another way to manipulate and control others, that's all.
@@genemagnette5483. Why? Because some people claim to be special so it’s their job to correct everyone, cause they say so? This Empath bit is just another Narcissist mask, worn to be awarded special consideration and privileges. Someone has to tell you about yourselves. Right?
@@genemagnette5483 Which proves that you have no clue what Empathy is. Do you? Or maybe clear things up and define it for us, demonstrating how it is identified, and how being the party pooper aligns with the definition? You can't can you? Nor do you even believe that you should, correct? Too busy telling yourself how special and gifted you are. Right?
This is exactly what happened to me when I reached my breaking point with my toxic ex. I don't even feel like myself most days. Started my healing process and can't wait to get back to myself. 😔
Definitely!!!! I listened to this and literally sat down and checked off EVERY THING she described. My mother and I used to discuss these very things before she passed. She was a hyper empath. She saw it in me. When I used to tell her how much I changed from a nice person who cared to an at times bitter, curt person. She said “It’s not that your a bad person, you’ve finally become tired of all of the abuse you’ve endured from others! You’ve gone from not ever speaking up to what you perceive is the opposite!”
@@synthiamiller5990It is ACCURATE to the 💯 🙏🏽 Experienced ALL OF THESE. It Made me Wonder About Myself Also; but I am Learning Now and Realizing What Happened to Me ❤ Thanks be to the ALMIGHTY GOD 🙏🏽 He Is OUR HEALER & STRENGTH ❤🙏🏽❤️
I am an empath that had a narc mother and husband. I agree with all these statements on how we behave when we are DONE. Once I am really done there is no going back from that no matter what. The problem is we still beat ourselves up later and maybe for years wondering what WE could have done differently.
It took over 50 years and weight loss down to 85 pounds for me to finally get that all of the people that I was helping, firstly didn’t care that I was literally starving to death, yet still working full time, for some reason I thought that others would see that helping me would help solve the problem. No , nothing changed, so I had to, I had to set boundaries, emotional and financial. I had to shut out specific people, I had to realize those people need the drama, they resent your answers, they just want you to sympathize. When an empath had had enough, especially after years of abuse, the explosion is real and potentially very dangerous.
I can't tell you what I did the last time I lost my cool. I'm not proud of it. After watching countless videos on narcissists and narcissistic behavior, then happening upon this video, it opened my eyes to a lot more than I imagined. Putting yourself in someone else's shoes is something that I have always done. With my own life experiences and what's going on in the world around me it's overwhelming to say the least. There's too much pain in this world. You cannot escape it, it's everywhere.
Sometimes it is good to put some one else in YOUR shooes for a change. Imagine that SOME ONE ELSE, your friend, your child, your dog is treated in the same way that you have been treated. What would you tell to that person? Probably you would tell her/him to leave the person that is treating you/her so horribly. So why do we stay in such a relationship?
I also put myself in someone else's shoes. I drove 6 hours to see a friend that is sick. I tried everyday for four days to see her. She didn't want me to come said she's not up to company. But her cleaning women was there. The plumber and the air duck men were coming the next day. I drove back to my home😢
What really sucks is when you've spent much time with this individual and have come to know them on a level few have. Knowing that makes it hard to break away because it made you feel as if you made some headway. But after some time you wake up and realize the relationship is one sided.. I am not in the habit of thinking "what have you done for me?" Then on top of that, you notice that they are no longer putting any effort into YOU at all anymore, just taking you for granted 😢... Then yes, I got pissed off and acted in a way that I didn't realize I was capable of. I didn't like that me. So again, I became an open book but no time was spent by my abuser to care to even listen to what i was trying to share. If you see these signs, RUN. Run before it's even harder to break away and you find yourself down on their level acting like a child. How distasteful! 💫🥀✨️
I got hit by a car last year and had severe injuries. No one called me or checked if me and my kid needed anything. Besides the pain and scars, it’s the best thing that ever happened to me, I’m done putting other people’s interest ahead of mine. Even in my worst days I was still offering my help and giving advice, but then too much output with no input became evident. The rest of my life is a miracle, a gift that I will cherish and I have no problem being alone with my children, I’m done being over tolerant.
Too accurate. I became a social worker because of my empathetic nature. I became a sarcastic bitter mess because of being in a personal romantic relationship with a narcissist. It severely impacted my abilities as a social worker for a time and I nearly gave up social work because of the empathic burnout my romantic relationship caused left no room for me to bring empathy to the relationships with my clients. So I finally had enough, got angry about my personal life, exploded about the abuse, let go of he relationship and took back my life and ability to help others. I'm calmer and happier, more at peace than I have been in a long time since I put myself first for once. I've gotten better at forming a balance between helping others with my empathy and taking the time to recharge myself.
Men always told me I wasn't like other women.. now I realize it's because I was an empath... because of this I was a magnet for narcissists and yes you do get bitter because narcissists take everything you have but return very little. The narcissists always wanted to marry me because I was Grade A supply... but I always left them because of their selfishness...People don't understand empaths because they are so selfless and they think it's fake... they don't think anyone is like that... Life is difficult as an empath as you said eventually you shut down and don't care about anyone.
You get it! People think I'm a fake! It's one certain personality type that I have most of the trouble with. They can't understand caring about others simply because I do, wanting nothing in return. And these skeptics have tried to squash my light so many times, at this point, I want to shove it up their derriere! Enough!
This is all true. When you are pushed beyond your limit, when the narcissist crosses the red line of abuse, you just cut off the whole line of support and suply and you watch him squirm and beg. When it's him or you, choose YOURSELF. ❤
This is so true, I thought I was becoming a bad person and heartless. I was so empathic towards everyone. But i didn’t realize that I have suffered with narcissistic abuse in my life and when you said “they turn off their light “ & “they start prioritizing their own feelings” It explained EXACTLY how I was feeling. Every things you said in this video is true. I’m not a bad person I’m just caring for myself for once
When I went through that, I was told by the person being narcissistic that "I've cut off my empathy." You don't wanna be horrible back but you also have to allow yourself to not feel so hurt, protect yourself etc, again it's probably a balance.
@@saintessa yes I understand that definitely, I thought I was too because I want reacting anymore to other people’s pain and problems. But I realize because I was trying to heal myself
Super empath here, everything definitely hits close to home. One of the hardest things I've had to learn is how to forgive other people, for they do not know what they are doing(even if they should Jesus style)! Fighting the urge to be bitter and teach them using your words even if they wont listen is the path towards enlightenment for yourself and necessary if we want to grow as humans.
I'm at that point right now. I have come to learn that most people will not return the kindness, love , and compassion we give to others on a daily basis. There comes a time when you have to pretty much tell someone to 🤬 off when being polite about not wanting to be messed with doesn't work. Usually when I have had enough of other's abuse, I will stay more to myself and do things that I like to do to help me cope with the stress of another's abuse towards me.
heyoka empath here!!!☺️(not that label is important) I just want to thank u for giving importance to how we feel❤️it inspires us to keep goin’ on healin others. but on the hind side,just want to reassure u also that empaths r tough by nature.we’re made for this kind of a job.unfortunately some empaths feels abused.it’s bcoz they need to learn how to hone their gifts.it’s like a warrior that needs to be trained and learn fighting skills in order to be effective…love and light to u and ur viewers❤️
Me too. You have to learn how to "be" and empath. One must learn how to differentiate their energy from others, how to self-care, and how to say no. I have been an extreme empath my whole life, therefore narcissists are attracted to me. I had to learn about empaths, what kind I am, and narcissism to keep my energy and self safe.
This is so true.. I can't stand being gaslit,and knowing as it's happening and still there it is. It's like being in the Twilight zone, with a narcissist. Talk About stressful!! I've tried to use the tactical way's to put up protection barriers.If I'm with one past a certain point my barriers are let down and I'm screwed. That's no way to be , it's like wanting to be besties with someone who only wants you for their amusement or until something better comes around. It's not getting a backbone, it's getting to know myself and setting boundaries.
Whelp… there goes the lightbulb above my head. I’m a disabled since birth empath with divorced parents who stuck their children in the middle. I have reached a point where I find myself irritable angry and focused more on myself than others who have ignored my empathetic nature. I’ve sat here watching narcissism videos wondering if growing up around narcissistic behavior made me into one. I think I’ve concluded now that I am still an empath through and through but I’ve reached my limits and realized how much I need to focus on myself.. this video was very enlightening
THIS is the BEST explanation I have ever heard to describe my journey as a, now 66-year-old woman, empath. I always wondered HOW I did those things, but now I understand I did them simply because I am an empath, and it's what we do to survive. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this video, and share your insights and knowledge! Now I completely understand the things I did in the past that always made me ask myself, what the fuck is wrong with me. I don't have to wonder anymore. God bless you!! 💜💜💜💜💜
Damn I feel like this video describes my stages of depression and anger. Always been a good listener, now I'm numb and I anger way easy. I would rather be alone than around others cuz I can't take it anymore.
This hits HOME. 🎯 A lot of us suffer from depression as well, it's kind of a package deal with those of us who have extra sensitivities. Gotta get your boundaries for those Energy Vampires out there!! If something feels too much or uncomfortable in ANY way, SAY NO & value yourself, EV's are EVERYWHERE!! Blessings, Peace & Love to you all! ✌🏻💗
It is funny to hear someone else call them that. I always call them energy vampires. 😢 Because that is exactly what they do. They suck the energy right out of you and drain it all if you are not careful. I try to avoid those people and situations at all costs.
It took me a long time to learn how to disengage from toxic people and become selective with who I associate with. Even though I no longer have empathy for certain toxic people, I still have empathy for other people.
Wow. This video had me shed tears. I guess I would be considered an empath and I was subjected to 8 years of an narcissistic abusive marriage by my ex wife. Everything in this video was lockstep with all of my behavioral responses to her. Thank you for putting this together! 🙏
I’m feel this 100%. It’s hard giving you all and getting nothing in return. I’m always putting my self in other peoples shoes only for them to not understand. No one checks in on me but I constant make sure everyone around me is ok. I’m always last but put everyone else first. Being an empath is hard 😢
You must know. Don't be harsh to yourself, you are doing the right thing, the thing that every normal human being must do in his lifetime. The most and very important thing: Don't change yourself, don't put it on yourself and don't lose hope.
6:41 Yes. I actually lost mine the other day. It rarely happens with me, but when it does I can’t do anything about it, and I really don’t want to. It’s extremely hard to be a strong empath, and be married to someone who doesn’t believe in my capabilities.
I have shut ALL PEOPLE out !!! I moved from Boston Massachusetts to West Virginia. I know no one and don't care to any longer .Am 57 and just packed up and left . I have peace for the first time in my life . I have 2 Pit bulls & I have never been happier. This world is not my world anymore.
I consider myself an empath. I have my limits, too. If someone becomes too much to handle I will quickly distance myself from them rather than blow up at them. I don't want to look back upon words I would later regret saying, so I figure that communicating my frustrations will only cause further discomfort for me, especially when my requests only fall on deaf ears. I endeavour to pull out any weeds of bitterness out of my soul before they poison me. If the person is in need I will only love from afar.
for the first time in my life, i heard a description of my true inner self in words that make sense to me and that resonate on a conscience and sensory level. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH I am eternally grateful for the light you shed.
This is definitely me. I found out how to have boundaries and I’m much better in myself now. I hope all you other empathy learn to look after yourselves. ❤ it can be done. ❤ xxxx
This is correct. I'm proud of myself for being an empathy, even though it's hard. I was beaten for years, I spoke my truth but I left the abusers in a better place and never tried to destroy them. I think Grace is the ultimate teacher.
Amen. Im an empath am soft-spoken. I also choose my words carefully so as I'm understood and dont offend with my words. But when I've been used and abused, then the gentleness in tone is gone and is now hardened. They can be weeping & wailing about their woes and in my hardness I will not listen, and will completely ignore them.
What is it about our words that offend?! I've always thought it was my plain-spokeness, my lack of tact. Maybe it's something else. I never, ever mean to offend, but I do! What is it?
When I have done all I can do, I’ve learned to leave individual swhere they are! As an empathetic person our first job is to protect ourselves so our light won’t be put out! We must know when to hold and when to fold I have learned to remove myself anyone who know me will tell you I can drop people like a hot potato! Keep smiling peeps.despite others!❤
It's essential to prioritize your own well-being as an empathetic person. Knowing when to distance yourself from negativity can help protect your inner light. Self-care is key. 😊 How do you maintain your positivity in challenging situations? ❤️
I am human the best thing for me is too acknowledge the challenge, ignoring does not work! Spending time focusing on the solution and honoring who I am helps, meaning being true to my core being based in love and peace as I look to surround myself with others of light! Peace and Love
I am going thru this now... I cant take it anymore. I know I am turning off my emotions and it conflicts within myself. But I am trying to protect myself from the people I love who are just draining me inside. I am definitely giving back what I am getting. I am also staying quiet and this is getting their attention more than me treating them as they are treating me. They don't deserve my words anymore, as my words are the most precious thing I have and can control. Silence is golden.
I would love to know if there is any Empath group where we could lift up each other. Everytime i had enough usually i try to hurt myself.. or just get numb. Wish you all a good 2023. Ill stay at home cause i cant handle crowds.
Hi empath, just reaching out to you as an empath as well, I hate crowds myself, am also looking for what I call my spiritual family which are other empaths, you can hit me up anytime if you need someone to talk to, you know we're all healers as empaths right. Sandra is my name
You have nailed it well with me as a empath. I am all about harmony and calm but absorb people even when I don't want it. It's an everyday battle, sometimes more intense than others. Good points made in the video. I am spiritually connected with God the Father and the Son Jesus Christ. I feel it is one of my gifts to help others and for healing also.
I so agree with you! I have been shut down for a lot of years with mental issues because of mean people!! I am now trying to heal with the help of God and Jesus! Otherwise, I am lost! I have no friends any longer. I'm terrified of having any. Wow! I'm glad to learn, at least I'm not alone!! GOD bless all of you here!
I felt that all of those apply to me. I’m currently feeling exhausted and bitter that I’m always there for my family, but whenever I need someone, all backs are turned and I’m literally told to sort it out myself. I got tired of being walked over so turned my back. Oh boy, did that go down well! I am a person, not a tool to be used then discarded.
Empaths are usually created through a trauma response called hyper vigilance, now that doesn't mean that there aren't those who are naturally more sensitive but a lot of Empaths are created not born.
This tutorial helped me understand and confirm exactly how I felt. Every point expressed was what I went through for years… I finally broke down. Now on the road to recovery!
This resonated deeply with me 🥹 “The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His face on you and give you peace.” ( Numbers 6:24-26)
I am. This is true, we do need to take care of ourselves. The key is to find a balance. It’s like anything, everything needs balance, just like a garden. I sat back for years and took all the crap and still tried to help and be understanding. When you have been dealing with Narcissistic Sociopaths in your family, it can and will make you crazy. I had been standing up to my daughter, then when she went for my Granddaughter I was raising, I went ballistic!! You don’t go after me as a Mother !! Especially after you’ve been less than perfect!! I itemized it for her, take a look at yourself before you come after me for no good reason. This was a huge eye opener for her. I also let her know to completely stay out of my life permanently. I cannot allow her, daughter or not, to wreak havoc in my life. I can’t fix her and I didn’t cause her to be like this. Im determined to have some peace and happiness in my life. Treat me with respect, love, and dignity, or you do not have a place in my life. There are times when we really have choices to make for our on mental health. I can help those in need and also do volunteer work. It doesn’t take long to see thru someone, just let them talk and go by your Go given instincts. Then you go by the Covid rules!! 😂😂😂
I wish this was explained to me when I was a child , teenager, young adult ! I now a have a child of my own and know they are empathic , I hope to guide and them understand how this can be for them bc it wasn’t explained or guided for me until much older
If you want to prove to yourself that you are going to be a narcissist 1. When you become over reactive try to be conscious that there are no things in this world to become over reactive. It just means we are into the clutches of negative vibrations. Just knowing it helps to overcome it. 2. Dont do anything when asked to do which morally doesnt fit . This way good side prevails over lower category. 3. Try to bring strength and speak out yourself when required and not through others.
I am an empath who is currently dealing with someone for which I have reached my limits. This is spot on and nice to have the situation I am currently dealing with validated.
This is pretty accurate!! I’ve always been an empath.. I will always shine my light/love on those around me.. but when I’m pushed too far I will not allow that negative energy to be part of my life any longer!! ☀️✨💓
I certainly have learned my limitations with people whom abuse me, especially when I have gone to the ends of the earth to help others..I am in the phase of turning the care I've given to others onto myself. Yes if ever I've exploded it shocks others. The very same others we have over the years had exploit us thinking we are soft...wrong and a big mistake our abusers make is to challenge us, at the end of the day we are super sensitive human beings whom are deeply misunderstood by others...that's when life gets real and we see the real and ugly side of others and their true nature's. Then the very same people cut up nasty when they have tried to get the better of us. These people must remember we are not the ones with hidden agendas, they are ...❤
When an empath stops being your friend or talk to you as deep as they used to.... Know that "they 've had enough of your bullshit and about to shock you, especially GHOST YOU"!!!
Yeah,I have went through to number 9, I am numb now,and don't feel their feelings. Taking care of mine now. I have saved two lives this summer,where I live. People overdosing,dehydrated,..... I am tired,need break. It's mentally exhausing....
And since you mentioned narcissists, I can't recommend enough using the phrase, "I understand that's how you feel". It stops them in their tracks. No more abusive ranting!!!
i'm an Empath and a professional counsellor. I also get professional supervision from a senior counsellor which cover everything from my professional work and my personal life. I also take plenty of breaks and holidays, this ensures that I stay healthy both professionally and personally. As a professional and an empath it is important for me to look after myself so that I can continue to support others
Yes, I am an empath. You cant stop from feeling other's pain, either physical or emotional. It becomes your weight to cary on top of your own, and trying to separate yourself from this to be internally stronger is the toughest thing to do
When the empaths understand narcissists, they would not put up with narcissists's BS. Then they fully understand their sufferings and live fully with unconditional self love.
As a Empath and I endorse this video. This is me to a T! Empaths are very powerful and underestimated. Unlike narcissists, when we are finally done, we’re done forever. A majority of our abusers learn the hard way and realize they lost a great person.
💯 percent true. When I cut people off they continue trying to pry their way back in. Saying how much they miss me and how comforting I was as a person, to please come back. Now they cry about how cold I am. Never once did they even ask how the situation effected me or even apologize. They were just saying what they thought I wanted to hear so that the selfish spirit inside them could go back to using me. Which shows me that they had never listened to anything I said during our relationship.
I'm an empath and cancer zodiac so I'm sensitive all the way around. What is like to share because I find it amusing is that when I'm mad I'll speak more of the truth than normal. Everyone seems to think I say things out of anger but infact I just don't hold back n all that I was trying to say in tact (be polite) I just bluntly say it as harsh as it may be. I won't say things that are untrue but I just let out how I truly feel completely.
I'm a therapist and an empath...big shocker LOL Took me years to learn about boundaries and how to implement them without feeling I was "hurting" someone. I'm great as a therapist, feeling what people are going through, etc. but personally I was a train wreck, also not uncommon for a lot of therapists. If you feel taken advantage of, I suggest working on it, getting help with therapy, emotionally healthy friends, reading about how to create boundaries and even 12 step programs are helpful. Don't stay stuck in that people pleasing mode, you can get out and feel ok at the same time. Don't let it go on until you are resentful, or have stopped caring, we need empaths! On the other hand, some people have to reach that point to take action. It is ok to care for yourself, you can't really care for others if you don't love yourself first.
Well, let's see, almost 30 years of being licensed, working with people in all walks of life and situations and 68 years of my own life experiences, I have to respectfully say you are wrong. No, not wrong, I just disagree with your opinion, and it is an opinion. Being licensed has nothing to do with it. But, instead of arguing with a stranger who thinks they know someone because of one comment, I'll just say have a great life and your comment says much more about you than it does me. It also says you don't understand what an empath is. So go somewhere else to bait someone into an argument. Why do people have to insult people they don't even know? We could all make this world so much better if we were just a bit nicer. Again, have a wonderful life!! @@waypay1
@@renegadetherapist5664 It's not my opinion. It's a fact. An actual therapist would have some modicum of knowledge about psychology and would know that there's no such thing.
I'm an empath and last Friday one of my colleagues pushed me a step too far because she's a control freak and was speaking to me like I was a child and incapable of learning how to do something properly. I blew my top ans shouted - "stop speaking to me like I'm a child!!!" She denied it of course but now I intend to tell her the truth, that she is a two faced hypocritical control freak who is incapable of being a reliable team leader if the opportunity should present itself one day. The thing is the people I work with and myself were a lot happier when she wasn't around and now that she is the team spirit has started to diminish. I hope and pray I can cut her down to size once and for all and make sure she learns her place and when to back off.
I really admire you for standing up that person. I was bullied at work by two toxic bosses , and they made my working life a misery. I complained to my Union but they were no help. I am away from there now thank God, but I have experienced the same bullying control freak behaviour from close relatives since and I am fed up with it. I really resent them for their amoral behaviour. I am still suffering the consequences of it , while they got away with their mistreatment and abuse of me. I don't forgive and I don't forget.
After a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, I finally snapped, lost patience, and left. That’s what this empath did. No bitterness or sarcasm for me, I will not go down that road to self abandonment. I turned inward and got clear that I need me, if I give, it will be with careful discernment from now on.
What Happens When Empaths Are Pushed Too Far? Empaths are naturally kind, selfless, compassionate, patient, and understanding individuals. They have challenges saying "No" to other people because they do not want to reject them. Due to Empaths' selfless nature, other people tend to exploit them for personal gain. However, their patience has certain limitations, especially when they have had enough abuse.
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⏱️⏱️VIDEO CHAPTERS⏱️⏱️
Introduction 00:15
10 THINGS THAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN EMPATHS REACH THEIR LIMITS 00:25
Number 1 EMPATHS WILL SHUT THEIR EARS. 00:31
Number 2 EMPATHS WILL CLOSE THEIR MINDS TO COMPREHENSION. 01:27
Number 3 EMPATHS WILL HOLD BACK THEIR HELPING HANDS FROM OTHERS. 02:39
Number 4 EMPATHS WILL MINIMIZE THEIR SENSITIVITY LEVELS. 04:00
Number 5 EMPATHS WILL MIRROR THEIR ABUSERS. 04:51
Number 6 EMPATHS WILL LOSE CONTROL OF THEIR TEMPERS. 05:52
Number 7 EMPATHS WILL TURN OFF THEIR LIGHT. 03:39
Number 8 EMPATHS WILL SAY WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES. 07:18
Number 9 EMPATHS WILL NO LONGER CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FEELINGS. 08:05
Number 10 EMPATHS WILL BECOME SARCASTIC AND BITTER. 08:59
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All you're demonstrating is that so called Empaths are the same as everyone else. True Empaths don't hold back, shut people out, refuse to help people, be abusive and call it "mirroring", etc etc etc. They also don't call themselves Empaths for clout and admiration. You are describing a vindictive person, that's all. This Empath scam is pathetic. The worst most f'd up dangerous people I know call themselves Empaths.
Man I am lost for words still love with a woman she was totally narcissistic I think I was crazy and still think maybe I'm the one but I don't think so I'm more than our soul as a relationship she never cared about me. Should be gone four days in my car or truck record Vehicles didn't even care I'm just lost in all this I think we're over we got to be over I've been doing this for five years and she I know where flips everything on me everything
I now say NO very easily. The game is over. I do not care about their lives or their problems. When you push me too far I block you,I cut you off,and I act as if you never existed. When you aren't reciprocating the same energy back,then there's the door.
Amen!! I’m at that point now !! I’m over it . Bye ✌🏽
I feel you
Wow just what i needed. I am angry about it.I have always felt like a second class citizen and all those energy drainers continue.. I’m done.😮
The essence of empathy is caring about others. Why do you call yourself an Empath? What do you get out of that?
I agree 100%👍
A true empathy will recognize over time how petty and small and evil most people really are.
Indeed
Facts.
I DESPISE EVIL IN EVERY INCARNATE ESPECIALLY THE BANALITY OF EVIL THOSE WHO SIT IDOL AND IMPOTENT whilst EVIL occurs within their midst. Those who turn a blind eye and those who take pleasure in it. EVIL can only exist if good men do nothing.
Definitely a lifetime Empath who has had enough, is totally disgusted with ‘family’ expecting, never giving back, am slowly removing myself from everyone and everything!!
I hate this!!
@@karenblum6185 it the gift that only feels like a curse because you are around a bunch of vampires feeding off your light. Don't feel bad about cutting people off. Do i instantly and surround yourself with people such as yourself as soon as you are able. The others will never learn from their mistakes. You can't fix them but you can fix YOU.
Funny thing about getting rid of a bunch of people aka problems. As soon as you drop them suddenly YOU FLOAT TO THE TOP. The weights and heavy are lifted off your back off your heart and off your soul. All at once. And PEACE, TRANQUILITY, BALANCE hits your life. Then you have time to focus on you, fix yourself because we are self healers. And things will immediately get better.
See THOSE PEOPLE will continue to make the same mistakes OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. They never learn. 20 years can go by and those Same people are STILL DOING THE SAME THING. Let them go live their lives and you do the same.
I had to learn this a long time ago and I LEFT. I joined the military and got away from them completely and I live on the other side of the country and only visit when I WANT TO.
Sadly Strangers will appreciate you more than flesh and blood.i have a saying. Not all flesh and blood are FAMILY and not all FAMILY is FLESH and blood. Your family are those who support you, surround you, there for you when you need them, through the good times and the not so good times. 5hose who laugh when you do, and cry when you do and can make you laugh when you want to cry, and cry from happiness because they knew how to get you through whatever it is you were going through. Those other people are selfish light vampires and happiness sponges. Where ever they go, they SOAK the happiness right out of the area 🤔 they go. AVOID THOSE PEOPLE AT ALL COST.
Take a step back and see who's actually concerned about you, and not what you can do for them. Separate the users and the a users from those that really matter and then set your boundaries. User's and abusers, dump them completely. You don't have to be accommodating, or please everyone. Stand up for yourself and if anyone has a problem with that then they are someone you should eliminate from your life.
Those that support you you allow on a case by case basis. Once you get this down you will begin to be at YOUR NATURAL peaceful, loving and empathic state.
We have a higher purpose than the rest of them. We are light workers. Ment to fight against the ultimate evil. We were chosen to be born now at a time of great peril and darkness. The final battle for good and evil is upon us. Wicked rulers seek to enslave and zero carbon life humanity. We must stop them.
When the heart's of men grow cold. Its us empaths who have enough love and hope to save the world. Its us that can awaken humanity's souls and hearts from their own darkness. But we must be strong within ourselves. And with the creator. He gives us direction. Let him lead you to you higher purpose. Let his will be your will and you will instead of feeling all the negative and hurt and feeling like a curse absorbing everyone else's emotions overwhelming you. Sickening you, dimming you. You will instead EXUDE AND PROJECT YOUR OWN EMOTIONS AND RADIATE YOUR SOUL OUT AROUND YOU like force field and beacon. Driving away vampires and evil currupt people will flee from you once you attain you full potential. And you will be able to use your abilities to help and to heal those who need it, and to give counsel to those who seek wisdom and answers.
You have to be strong and seclude, and isolate yourself from those things that bring you negativity and unhappiness. And surround yourself with true friends and family and people like yourself healers and givers of light.
To the rest of them fuck em. Lolol let them figure it out without you.
This is a MOUTHFUL.. THANK YOU.. I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS JUST LIKE THAT.. DEM BIG GIRL PANTIES GON COME IN HANDY..
You speak a lot of truth. Once the empath realizes their gift and learns all about narcissism, then he or she becomes empowered. No longer will the empath tolerate any toxic behavior from a narcissist.
Amen to that!! Once you stand your ground, they will try to gain a way back into your life. No way !! I turned 74 yesterday (in years😊) Life is to short to allow people like that to make you miserable. It’s doesn’t mean it’s ok at any age, you never know when it’s your time. ❤
@@kayjohnson5524 Happy birthday!🎁🎊🎂🎈
I totally agree. Freedom is wonderful thing, especially freedom from narcissistic abuse.
Yesss to this.
Truth. One tiny single red flag is a good bye.
@@kayjohnson5524Thank you for your post beautiful soul ❤ namaste 🙏🕊
This is so true. I'm 58 and now live alone so I don't have to deal with the world anyway. I've spent my life giving as much of me as I could only to be taken advantage of and abused to many times. Now I take care of myself and I have stopped trying to solve the world's problems. I've learned it's impossible to do that. I have finally found the peace that I have looked for all my life by creating my world for myself
I'm 70 honey and I went through the same thing and it took me till I was about 50 to get it straight in my head. But you've got this far and things will get much better. Good luck with the rest of your life and hopefully everything goes well for you.
I do have a suggestion for you. I have studied stoicism for quite a while now and it seems to help me more than anything on these issues.
Congratulations! You deserve it.
@@janetbaker7848 the stoics were on top of everything! Love Ryan Holiday!
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I’ve had moments of telling people who they are which shocks the toxic person.
It actually terrifies them and they believe I’m the evil one.
The truth will always be revealed when being pushed to the limit.
Narcissist don’t know they are narcissist or they do most importantly people who FEAR being narcissistic aren’t narcissistic
And when it involves a power differential as in a doctor or professor this can cause problems.. Empaths can see behind the outer masks of Gurus of any kind. Doctors, teachers, politicians. We are a threat and when you tell them who they are you can be met with their fury at being exposed.
I am an empath and have just gone thro an energy draining Narc. I could feel my soul dying. My reactions were dead on in this video. I've had to "retreat" from people and take care of my emotional well being. I thought i would never get back my "love" and empathy for others!! Take care my fellow empaths. XO
Take care
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Sorry for your problems I know because I am in a marriage with a narcissistic person it sucks
Have decided to do my own thing and enjoy my life and be positive that's who I am and I like it and me
I am becoming dark and I DONT LIKE PEOPLE
After twenty years of kind, loving, support to my family and being mistreated, I snapped and cut everyone off. Its been a couple of years now and it was the best decision I made. I'm now onto phase two which is to get a new number and only check my main phone number once at the end of each day. Don't mess with empaths
Well you are preaching to the choir. The same thing happened with me. I was 37 when one July day in 1991 I snapped, almost strangled my sibling to death. I left and cut the whole family off for 25 years. No contact. NONE.
Years later Spirit demanded I go back. I resisted. In 2015 I got really sick. The closeness of death made me comply.
Here's the deep part. Narcissists DO NOT change. Everybody in the family made nice for three years. In 2019 my youngest sister who I had tried to strangle when I snapped in 1991 reverted to type by trying to gaslight my sister Kathy into believing I slandered her. I remained calm. From then till 2021 she kept up a campaign of constantly trying put downs, bellitling-the usual shtick when I would visit. Didnt work. Two days after Christmas there was a little group assembled.
Suddenly everyone's mask dropped or slipped-especially my youngest sister. I could SEE how truly evil she was and still is.
That inner demon in her recognized my insight and tried to ďrop a cover over her but again it failed. It also showed her as the ringleader and I could SEE the threads and webs she weaved in other lives as well.
The others DID NOT know they were showing themselves.
I did reconcile with the other sister but it took a year with her to realize she had been manipulated and gaslighted to once again destroy our relationship-just because of sheer narcissitic evil. Did another year of alienation because of Normas mad evil manipulation.
I flew back to California and realized Spirit sent me back to SEE who they really are and why I had to leave in the first place-
NOT to reconcile. There can be NO reconciliation with EVIL.
When I left the first time I was too young and inexperienced to KNOW and SEE them and understand that type of evil or evil in general and certainly didn't expect it in my own birth family.
But years of meditation, prayer, yoga and spiritual study opened the third eye of discernment.
My sister Norma is truly evil and so are most of my birth family and the family she married into.
I wish you well in your new life without those we are taught and conditioned are supposed to love and nurture us. A lot of time it just ain't so.
And remember a scripture says a mans enemies will be those of his own household. Matthew 10:36.
Peace
Can you not block their numbers. I just broke contact with a toxic sister again after being denied the right to choose my own preferred spot for a grave in a Naturecemetery and being accused i had an oitbursr, whilst she had, i remained calm and assertive. She then said vile things to my oldest sister that i overheard, which triggered me into a fullblown traumastate. Emergency consult with homeopath released so much heartbreak i feared a heartattack. Now calmer. Be strong, be brave.
Cut my family off four years ago and honestly I don’t miss the burden of them
@@gertrudevanvoorden1416 Understood. The same tging happened when I went back. I had times where I couldn't breathe and I knew I was close to having a heart attack. That would have given the narcissists exactly what they really wanted. Me dead. Didnt happen. I am even stronger and more empowered than ever before. They hate that I can calmly LAUGH at them. at least I could. Now I just don't bother with them and I told the other sister that they are,BORING because they stuck in the same old game.🤣🤣🤣
Stay strong. I suggest you use cord cutting meditations found here on YT coupled with solar plexus meditation for power and control.
Im right there with you
I am an empath. I can't tell you how many times I've felt like it's a burden that I'm tired of carrying. The basic civility and decency that we give to everyone is rarely if ever appreciated or reciprocated. Reading the comments makes me realize there are many of you feelings the same way. I wish I could have met another empath in life but sadly I never have. We need support groups with each other.
I'm thinking it should be a check box on job apps👍SERIOUSLY,CAUSE EVEN WHEN YOUR AWARE...SOMETIMES THERES JUST THAT ONE THAT EFFECTS YOU ,I PRAY FOR THEM ,BUT DAMN THEY MAKE A MISERABLE DAY...SO IT'S GOOD TO KNOW YOUR ONE,THATS FOR SURE CAUSE IT HELPS,CAUSE THEN YOU LEARN HOW TO HEAL FROM THEIR ENERGY...BUT IT STILL SUCKS 😅😅🙏AN KIDS THAT DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT IT MEANS IF THEY'RE FEELING THESE THINGS TOO,THEY ALL THINK IT'S " JUST DEPRESSION " AND IT'S SO SAD,BECAUSE ADULTS AND PARENTS AREN'T AWARE OF IT ENOUGH...🙏🌈👍GOD BLESS ALL💝LOVE,LOVE,LOVE.AND ALOT OF BREATHING,LMAO😘🙏✝️
It's sad that you've never interacted with another human in your life.
I am sure you have met many without realising it. I believe a true empath is capable of analytic thought, and is therefore able to compartmentalize things/people/events that warrant consideration or not. Then there is the perhaps/maybe situation. This will take time and a little more thought. But you will be unscathed because of your ability to either store, act upon, or dismiss as you see fit. Never, ever forget the key, intuition. Never question it. As long as it doesn't mean any danger, trust it!!!
I used to think that I'm alone in this world...till today and I'm 32 years old
Unfortunately most empath support groups get swamped by fake-empaths, either narcissists looking for prey as a “funny joke,” or people who think that being a people-pleaser and abuse-enabler makes them empathic when they often have little heart for truly loving and healthy people. It’s pretty lonely trying to find others like ourselves.
Enough is enough!When we’ve had enough, we’re done. Happy to move on and be alone with peace ❤️
This is exactly how I am. Once I'm done with someone everyone is so confused, because they didn't listen to the warnings.
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Exactly!!!
Both my parents died young my dad 40yo my mom 56yo…3 siblings 1 died at birth my only brother..2 sisters who I have now cut off…and also a spouse..I have 2 sons but only am close to one..the other married twice and his 2nd controls him…and he lives out of state..it is interesting that they don’t understand why you are at their beck and call any longer….I am too old for their games…
Empaths can go from a superhero to a supervillain. That’s when you know you’re screwed.
Love this 😅 I definitely have a dark side and it’s not something people want to be on! 😂😈
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Why are you screwed?
I am an empath. It took 67 years just to hear about this and the role narcissists play. I had a narcissist mother and a narcissist husband. All those things have happened to me. I crashed and had to pick myself up. That’s when I found my boundaries and started taking care of me.
I write to warn the young empaths out there to research this like your life depends on it, because it does.
Find out all about how narcissists act and believe it, especially if you choose to date one or be friends with one. Boundaries are necessary and a line in the sand that says, “that’s too much.” It will help.
Took me way too long also.. My mother, MIL and husband are narcissistic.. Since my MIL passed away my husband has been better.. I have also set a lot of boundaries with the help of a good counselor who has now passed away..Takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally and physically..
❤ thank you so very much for your comment. I'm 52and just now learning that I am not a weirdo but a beautiful person who has allowed too many too help destroy EVERYTHING in my life. But God is Good, and I am learning more about this every day and I am learning about boundaries but a bit scared to enforce them. But I'm getting there quickly. 🎉❤ Much of God's Beautiful Love to you. Be BLESSED 🙏.
You seem right on target. The biggest challenge comes when the narcissistic husband gets a incurable diagnosis and the empath stays until the end. Although it's rare, getting an apology or confession of inappropriate behaviors can happen on the narcissists' death bed. In some ways it's a relief in other ways it's almost like a final jab from the narc. Almost as if he was saying "yes I hurt you but you were foolish enough to stay all these years, so it's not all my fault. You abused yourself."
Ugh, it's hard to swallow your anger when he's on his last breath. But what else would an empath do?
It's taken years, but I've slowly regained my footing & feelings.
Redrose.... I, too, share a similar situation. My 47 yr marriage is over! My husband is a Narc! I ended the relationship! Free at last!
We were born this way, the Narcs were born there's. I grew up with one who played our Parents easily. I became the rebellious kid,he the one that made them proud for being such great parents.
I left home as soon as I could very angry & confused. Immature & trusting knowone I struggled for years. But I helped others as a 'need' to do so,yet despising myself for the compulsion!
Eventually maturity,rational & thinking befriending other empathic folk sorted me out. I became a professional Care giver.
I try to be a compassionate person to all. Its the best of me & I'm grateful for it. But when I'm confronted by a Narcissist I can be as ruthless & cruel as they are & what scares me is that I enjoy it !
This video is honestly accurate. As an empath, I've dealt with a lot of bullshit because I wanted to help people because I genuinely cared about them and even wanted to be their friend. Unfortunately, from experience there are more cruel people than kind people. I've been hurt so many times by so many others and it got me to the point where I don't even want friends (because I don't trust people and I don't feel happy around others as much anymore) and I'm trying to force myself to not give a fuck about others. I want to care, I really do, but after constant abuse that has made me develop various persisting mental/emotional disorders, I'm done. I didn't want this bullshit. Only I wanted to be kind to people and have that kindness returned. People are assholes. Fuck them.
Thank you❤️
I know exactly how you feel...and it hurts. It hurts me that I feel this way and it's hurts me to know you feel the same way. Yeah, it's fucked😒😒
Same boat friend. Mmy advice is to erect healthy boundaries, and develop strong standards for the people you allow into your life. You deserve the best, because you give your best 110% of the time!
Don't give up on people, but learn to stop enmeshing yourself into EVERY stranger's problems, you know? Apathy is abusive in a normal person's hands, but it's a life saving tool in the hands of an empath. You can only give so much, and when you have everything taken from you, you are left with nothing to give.
No no no. Trying to get what you need from others by treating them as you want to be treated will work with a few people. Love them all but let the users toddle on.😂
I read a quote that said " there was a nice person they said fuxe this shit & they lived happily ever after " learning to say NO..... set boundaries
& when u know ur being manipulated and controlled get away fast❤❤❤❤
This checks all the boxes for me. I used to be empathetic. Two toxic marriages and half a lifetime of being taken advantage of by narcissists and sociopaths have ruined me. I relate to every point in this video. Sometimes I think I feel sad about the people I could potentially be helping and caring about. But lately my default reaction to that idea is "screw that."
Same. I kicked several people out of my life, having regarded them as very dear to me before that. Somehow I attract people that just want to dump their shit on me and use me for their advantage. Don't want this any longer. I'm fine living for myself only.
You can't help the blind pretty much. It is a rare occasion to make them see again.
Same, but I'm not at the "screw that" phase yet.
@@amable111The sooner you get to that screw that phase the better. Your emotions and mental well being needs to always be your number 1 priority. Once you can get to that stage, where you learn that you need to respect yourself more to not let toxic people harm you, the better.
@@kasuraga, I agree. I am at the age where I would rather just be alone.
When you’ve given 200% to a relationship only to find you’ve been wasting your precious time it can be so emotionally draining that you must distance yourself from it all for a while to process it all. We do this not because we don’t care, but in the interest of self preservation.
I'm a true empath and my light has burned out. I no longer seek other's to help. There is no longer a reason to want to help other's. It might have to do with relationship I'm in that has stolen my light. Hopefully my light will return to me before my next life.
There is no other life. This is it. Except for life with Jesus.
Only you can change this... Take responsibility for your part and move on...
Easier said then done I know... But if nothing changes, nothing changes... Much light n love to u.
Only if you are obedient
Now is the time for you.. go to a tranquil place in your mind, and your light will come back..
Your innocence wont come back, but the wise light will be back.
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Remember, these freaks couldnt wait to take your light. Keep what you have and do not share it again. Your purpose is YOU now whatever it is. Not the next life. That comes when it comes. Bathe is your OWN power it will make a difference! ML
I lose complete interest in people who are selfish and give nothing. I do not lose my temper because they are not worth the effort. Moving on is more intelligent. I accept people as they are. If over time they make no effort and are not compatible, it is okay. We just drift apart. I also do not do well with people who lie and manipulate. They are immature and try to control others as well. You have to accept who people are in order to live your life according to your values. I will not live with or sleep with someone I do not like.
Yes!! Effort is KEY!! My older brother is a narcissist, but he does actually make an effort to be human sometimes. That’s the one and only reason I’ll communicate with him. I keep him at arm’s distance, however.
As an empath. I can honestly say that this is very true! i’m just waiting to get out of this bitter stage now🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
You will
At first I was shocked at learning about NPD because it answered all the problems I had been having with a few people. Then after almost 3 years of living with that knowledge and them only getting worse and more abusive I went COLD. I don't like what I turned into, no longer joyful and smiling, happy-go-lucky. My face is falling from the sadness and turmoil. I have been packing in between the f'ed up love bombing that is obviously fake; he just doesn't want to lose his cook, maid, etc. Now I find this video and am kinda shocked to see how many are in this "I've had ENOUGH " ship. We are truly never alone even tho we feel like we are ❤
@shan
But don't forget the lesson.
@@christinemccoy4471👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
It's a normal process ... renew your mind and heart with the word of God and His Love for you.. I've been through it myself... I couldn't think straight.. drained so much until I couldn't take anymore.. and I left.. the best thing I ever did❤... another word for Narcissist is either being influenced by a demonic entity assigned to torment and try to destroy your true Empath qualities... Jesus was an Empath.. but look how He talked to the church leaders of His day.. ❤❤❤❤❤
I’m so tired now. 😥 Thank you for this explanation. It fits. In a world ruled by darkness it is sometimes hard to find the light switch. ❤️
Yes! This never gets spoken about. I had a very complicated childhood, and had to learn to be an empath to feel remotely safe. The love that I did experience touched me to the core, shaped who i am today, and made me see the value in being an empath as well. That being said, I later found something out about myself that no one likes to acknowledge, but to heal we have to confront these things so I'll be honest. An empath in the extreme is a people pleaser and feels safe and satisfied when the people around them are safe and satisfied. That being said, when they are pushed to the edge, deep inside the reciprocal can grow as well. I discovered that in the same sense that I love giving to and loving those I love, unfortunately i also deeply enjoy hurting those that I hate, which true hatred for me has only truly arose a few times in my life, but it feels the exact same, and just as intensely pleasurable as loving those i love. For the record, I don't pursue these feelings, and know they're wrong, but in the moment they can be very convincing. I didn't realize how perfectly mirrored and inseparably dichotomous the psychology of it was, but if you think about it abstractly, it only makes sense. I was made this way by sadists, and even though what became consciously expressed was positive empathy, i think i got bit by the bug too... Broken people make broken people. I'm old enough to understand this and break the curse, and you can too. Please don't be hard on yourself if you feel this too. This wasn't your fault, and the hand you are dealt doesn't have to determine how you play the game. Follow Love, and overcome ❤
I align with everything you articulated. The swing of the
pendulum has wrought harsh self- judgment for being too much of a people pleaser (read: weak), then morphing into a snarling wolf.
I can now accept that it is part and parcel of being a super-empath.
Thanks for your sincerity, for the courage to integrate your shadow (as Jung's teaches...), for revealing to me that the other side of the pendulum swing is not a character flaw, nor is the first side.
I feel that now I can embrace both; enjoy the gift of giving, knowing that the she-wolf is not a beast but a natural protector.
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Yes I agree because I am 69 and now have the time to look back on a life of good positive experiences and some negative ones too, one thing that has shocked me not to judge people too harshly is discovering that about 95% of the problems that I encountered in my life with various family members were influenced by a dna reaction to gluten, this has had a dreadful negative effect on the physical, mental and emotional well-being of six of my closest family over three generations, it’s a long painful and tragic history and I am still in shock as to how much damage these allergies can cause, not to mention how much damage this may be causing in the wider community.
I am a 66 year tired old man. This video describes me EXACTLY. I really don't know if being an empath is a blessing or a curse. It seems that for my whole life all those around me received the blessing, and I received the curse... until I blew my stack sky high and shocked them all and myself for acting so out of character.
I think it is a CURSE. We get drained and used so much. Its a hard existence
The hardest obstacle is the GUILT WE FEEL WHEN WE PULL AWAY AND LEAVE SOMEONE CLOSE TO US in order to save ourselves.
Ditto
Yep.
And it can be just a little thing too, like the straw that broke the camel's back.
I know how you feel. I did the same. I also picked myself back up went out and found a better place. A lot what I was experiencing is at the present employer I’m with. That’s all changed I start my new one next week. At first I wasn’t going to give a notice, I was just going to pick up and walk out. On a professional level it wouldn’t look good on my end. But still I’m glad I’m getting out of there.
I am an empath and when I lost my temper really lost it. I told the people exactly how I felt I was like a volcano going off to the point my husband had to get me and leave I was shaking I was so mad. He then didn't talk to them for a few months. I came home and wrote out everything on a couple of pages a paper because not only am I observant I have a good memory. He looked at me and said you aren't going to send this are you. I told him no I just had to get it out so I could calm down. It gave me peace to write it in a letter to them even though It was never sent.
I am the same way ! I have to get it out or I will explode! When I have had enough I will explode and lose my mind if you push me to far ! Example I have been married to my husband for forty two years for those forty two years his younger siblings have tried to annoy and bully me and others his younger sister. Refuses. To treat me or her nieces. Like family ! Well one day she was rude again with our daughter walk by our daughter like she did not exist and this shit has gone on for forty two years ! Well my daughter told her Aunt she was done that there would be no more abuse and she would not bother. Her anymore ! Which after Forty two years and her doing the ignorant behaviour of acting like we are not that important to her , I blew up and told her what I thought of her and her brother who were two of the biggest narcissists and find it necessary to constantly abuse ! But same thing I would write letters and not send go over things in my mind But when your mind finally says enough it explodes ! And it actually felt so good to say what I had to say but than being a empath I all ways feel guilty for losing my temper but I have allowed my self to get angry and I actually feel better ! I love my husband but I told him for my own mental health I can not see his family anymore. And he is fine with this because he is a empath also and he has had his own issues with his family
Be thankful that u have ur partner …and that they’re normal….
I did the same thing, except I sent the letter. - I was told, and I quote, "I don't think this letter warrants a response." This is from my sister, who was 9 when I was born, and she has hated me all her life...simply because I was born and being an empath made it even worse for me (I could feel all the hate but couldn't process it as a child) and for her ("You're such a goodie-two-shoes!)
I can take other people's shit for a long time, but when I've had enough, I've had enough. And they didn't like it when they forced me to explode.
Absolutely 💯
Absolutely.
I'm the same.
I am super patient & kind.
But......... Enough is enough.
Don't make me loose my cool.
You won't like it when I do.
I will give one warning for you to quit your BS, your deliberate antagonism.
I'll ask you to shut up & back off...............
but the warning is always ignored!
What do the Americans say?.........
"Don't poke the bear"
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i learned to move faster and leave people, who aren’t interested or friend to me.
@@faragraf9380, same as me.
100 percent me. Can be a very
brutal world. Its like people mistake kindness for weakness.
Being an empath without knowing that I’m an empath.. only realized very recently, and also realized that I’ve been desensitized due to being “abused” and simply refused to keep absorbing all the negative things people dump on me. This also explain why my husband and I lived so well together because we’re both empaths and we’re both on the same wavelength.
I'm soooooooooooooo envious. I've got a narc.
How do I confirm if I'm an empath or not? Is there any particular test to know it?
@@adarshmahajan6796Did you grow up feeling like the emotions of others had a heavy impact on your own emotions? I remember in jr high or highschool, a girl was crying her eyes out in class because something tragic happened in her life and I couldn't help but want to cry just as much because I felt so bad for her. Im constantly trying to be very considerate of other peoples feelings and how what I do or say affects those around me.
You are so lucky. I always believed that would happen to me, but....
@@deep-pond I only got lucky in my 40’s.. so keep praying, you never know when it’ll happen and keep believing.
I am an empath person, i think at this point of time i reached the #11. I just stopped caring anyone and anything, i get tired of others manipulative, gaslighting, controlling, demanding, treatment from others. Self healing is in still in progress.
You still care or you wouldn't be watching this. You have just finally established boundaries. Unfortunately for empaths, we have a hard time with a middle ground. It is usually all or nothing.
May you heal and time remove the sorrow that has bought you to these conclusions. I wish you peace and consolation
Being a highly or hyper sensitive empath, I can surely attest to this precise short video. I wished I would have been self aware if this as a young teenager to learn sooner how to develop a balanced and healthy defense mechanism. Cheers
I feel the exact same way you do, if only I had known this at a younger age, well baby I know it Now ❤ and they better be careful...be Blessed
Being an empath can be a blessing or can feel like a curse. Be careful with absorbing negative energies and possibly giving the best of yourself to a narcissist. Use your ability to protect your own energy and heal others. 💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Well said
Very true. We also have to heal ourselves
I don't believe in goddesses or queens.
Believe me I'm in shutdown mode. I am holding very little back with what is on my mind. As Al Capone said it best " never mistake my kindness for weakness for I am kind everyone I meet and if someone is unkind to me weakness will be the last thing you will remember me for"
I totally agree, I've been forgiving, suffered at the hands of a narcissistic person, I showed compassion, but after being trampled, disgarded, disrespected so many times by that person, I decided to point out the truth about their behaviour, amazingly they acted like they were the victim but infact they were the perpetrators of their evil way's, they know not to mess with me again
I can understand how challenging it must have been to deal with a narcissistic person and to finally speak out about their behavior. It's important to stand up for yourself. Have you found any strategies that were particularly effective in dealing with this situation, and what advice would you offer to others facing similar challenges?
This the most common thing that could have happened. If you speak out about narcissist and expose him for being a narcissist, they will manipulate you into feeling like you are the one to blame. A mind perfectly designed and accustomed to feed on other people’s energy will remain this way in the name of survival, unless they do something about it themselves, which is super difficult, since they’re trapped like an addict in that pattern. Just leave, as an empath you are narcissist’s food. Don’t be. It is on them to seek help and finally face the reality of their true self, it is on them, not on you.
I'm an empath who has hit a lot of these points over the last few years. I've snapped at some, almost caused brutal harm to others, and closed myself off to some who I never thought I would.
You don't sound the least bit Empathetic to me. There's no such thing as an Empath in clinical terms. It's a term coined in a Star Trek episode. Why do you need to give yourself special labels? You sound like someone who needs an excuse for unhealthy behaviors. One that leaves you Pure and Superior. That seems to be the TRUE definition of an "Empath" based on my experience and the comments here. Sounds like another way to manipulate and control others, that's all.
You won!! ✌+❤
Maybe, but it never feels that way.
@@genemagnette5483. Why? Because some people claim to be special so it’s their job to correct everyone, cause they say so? This Empath bit is just another Narcissist mask, worn to be awarded special consideration and privileges. Someone has to tell you about yourselves. Right?
@@genemagnette5483 Which proves that you have no clue what Empathy is. Do you? Or maybe clear things up and define it for us, demonstrating how it is identified, and how being the party pooper aligns with the definition? You can't can you? Nor do you even believe that you should, correct? Too busy telling yourself how special and gifted you are. Right?
This is exactly what happened to me when I reached my breaking point with my toxic ex. I don't even feel like myself most days. Started my healing process and can't wait to get back to myself. 😔
Just remember that you will find yourself in a new version of yourself, not so much returning to yourself but more like you version 5.0.
Focus on your own healing. And conserve your energy.
It will be like a transformation. You will be a different version of "you". Refined and more whole. Healthier. Stronger. Happier.
One day at a time
One of the best explanations I have ever heard about what happens and how we feel when pushed to our limit :/
Definitely!!!! I listened to this and literally sat down and checked off EVERY THING she described. My mother and I used to discuss these very things before she passed. She was a hyper empath. She saw it in me. When I used to tell her how much I changed from a nice person who cared to an at times bitter, curt person. She said “It’s not that your a bad person, you’ve finally become tired of all of the abuse you’ve endured from others! You’ve gone from not ever speaking up to what you perceive is the opposite!”
Thank you 💛💛
@@PsychBuzzyalso the healing from guilt takes a long time. This should be discussed more.
@@synthiamiller5990It is ACCURATE to the 💯 🙏🏽 Experienced ALL OF THESE. It Made me Wonder About Myself Also; but I am Learning Now and Realizing What Happened to Me ❤ Thanks be to the ALMIGHTY GOD 🙏🏽 He Is OUR HEALER & STRENGTH ❤🙏🏽❤️
I am an empath that had a narc mother and husband. I agree with all these statements on how we behave when we are DONE. Once I am really done there is no going back from that no matter what. The problem is we still beat ourselves up later and maybe for years wondering what WE could have done differently.
It took over 50 years and weight loss down to 85 pounds for me to finally get that all of the people that I was helping, firstly didn’t care that I was literally starving to death, yet still working full time, for some reason I thought that others would see that helping me would help solve the problem. No , nothing changed, so I had to, I had to set boundaries, emotional and financial. I had to shut out specific people, I had to realize those people need the drama, they resent your answers, they just want you to sympathize. When an empath had had enough, especially after years of abuse, the explosion is real and potentially very dangerous.
I can't tell you what I did the last time I lost my cool. I'm not proud of it. After watching countless videos on narcissists and narcissistic behavior, then happening upon this video, it opened my eyes to a lot more than I imagined. Putting yourself in someone else's shoes is something that I have always done. With my own life experiences and what's going on in the world around me it's overwhelming to say the least. There's too much pain in this world. You cannot escape it, it's everywhere.
you can strength your selfconvident and stay nearby yourself, not in need for others.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger? If that helps.
@@faragraf9380 is that
Sometimes it is good to put some one else in YOUR shooes for a change. Imagine that SOME ONE ELSE, your friend, your child, your dog is treated in the same way that you have been treated. What would you tell to that person? Probably you would tell her/him to leave the person that is treating you/her so horribly. So why do we stay in such a relationship?
I also put myself in someone else's shoes. I drove 6 hours to see a friend that is sick. I tried everyday for four days to see her. She didn't want me to come said she's not up to company. But her cleaning women was there. The plumber and the air duck men were coming the next day. I drove back to my home😢
People will only treat you the way you allow them to. You have the right to your feelings. Stand up and firm.
What really sucks is when you've spent much time with this individual and have come to know them on a level few have. Knowing that makes it hard to break away because it made you feel as if you made some headway. But after some time you wake up and realize the relationship is one sided.. I am not in the habit of thinking "what have you done for me?" Then on top of that, you notice that they are no longer putting any effort into YOU at all anymore, just taking you for granted 😢... Then yes, I got pissed off and acted in a way that I didn't realize I was capable of. I didn't like that me. So again, I became an open book but no time was spent by my abuser to care to even listen to what i was trying to share.
If you see these signs, RUN. Run before it's even harder to break away and you find yourself down on their level acting like a child. How distasteful!
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I got hit by a car last year and had severe injuries. No one called me or checked if me and my kid needed anything. Besides the pain and scars, it’s the best thing that ever happened to me, I’m done putting other people’s interest ahead of mine. Even in my worst days I was still offering my help and giving advice, but then too much output with no input became evident.
The rest of my life is a miracle, a gift that I will cherish and I have no problem being alone with my children, I’m done being over tolerant.
Too accurate. I became a social worker because of my empathetic nature. I became a sarcastic bitter mess because of being in a personal romantic relationship with a narcissist. It severely impacted my abilities as a social worker for a time and I nearly gave up social work because of the empathic burnout my romantic relationship caused left no room for me to bring empathy to the relationships with my clients. So I finally had enough, got angry about my personal life, exploded about the abuse, let go of he relationship and took back my life and ability to help others. I'm calmer and happier, more at peace than I have been in a long time since I put myself first for once. I've gotten better at forming a balance between helping others with my empathy and taking the time to recharge myself.
Great! Thanks for sharing
Men always told me I wasn't like other women.. now I realize it's because I was an empath... because of this I was a magnet for narcissists and yes you do get bitter because narcissists take everything you have but return very little. The narcissists always wanted to marry me because I was Grade A supply... but I always left them because of their selfishness...People don't understand empaths because they are so selfless and they think it's fake... they don't think anyone is like that... Life is difficult as an empath as you said eventually you shut down and don't care about anyone.
And they return very little to nothing. It sucks.
You get it! People think I'm a fake! It's one certain personality type that I have most of the trouble with. They can't understand caring about others simply because I do, wanting nothing in return. And these skeptics have tried to squash my light so many times, at this point, I want to shove it up their derriere! Enough!
This is all true. When you are pushed beyond your limit, when the narcissist crosses the red line of abuse, you just cut off the whole line of support and suply and you watch him squirm and beg. When it's him or you, choose YOURSELF. ❤
This is so true, I thought I was becoming a bad person and heartless. I was so empathic towards everyone. But i didn’t realize that I have suffered with narcissistic abuse in my life and when you said “they turn off their light “ & “they start prioritizing their own feelings”
It explained EXACTLY how I was feeling. Every things you said in this video is true. I’m not a bad person I’m just caring for myself for once
When I went through that, I was told by the person being narcissistic that "I've cut off my empathy." You don't wanna be horrible back but you also have to allow yourself to not feel so hurt, protect yourself etc, again it's probably a balance.
in fact there was a time I wasn't sure if I was actually a psychopath :( but i am not
@@saintessa yes I understand that definitely, I thought I was too because I want reacting anymore to other people’s pain and problems. But I realize because I was trying to heal myself
Once you get re harged you will be back. Walk the ground barefooted lay your hands on a tree
Super empath here, everything definitely hits close to home. One of the hardest things I've had to learn is how to forgive other people, for they do not know what they are doing(even if they should Jesus style)! Fighting the urge to be bitter and teach them using your words even if they wont listen is the path towards enlightenment for yourself and necessary if we want to grow as humans.
Sometimes they do know what they're doing
I'm at that point right now. I have come to learn that most people will not return the kindness, love , and compassion we give to others on a daily basis.
There comes a time when you have to pretty much tell someone to 🤬 off when being polite about not wanting to be messed with doesn't work. Usually when I have had enough of other's abuse, I will stay more to myself and do things that I like to do to help me cope with the stress of another's abuse towards me.
heyoka empath here!!!☺️(not that label is important) I just want to thank u for giving importance to how we feel❤️it inspires us to keep goin’ on healin others. but on the hind side,just want to reassure u also that empaths r tough by nature.we’re made for this kind of a job.unfortunately some empaths feels abused.it’s bcoz they need to learn how to hone their gifts.it’s like a warrior that needs to be trained and learn fighting skills in order to be effective…love and light to u and ur viewers❤️
Me too. You have to learn how to "be" and empath. One must learn how to differentiate their energy from others, how to self-care, and how to say no. I have been an extreme empath my whole life, therefore narcissists are attracted to me. I had to learn about empaths, what kind I am, and narcissism to keep my energy and self safe.
This resonates all day long with me. When enough is enough, that's it. It's still hard on an empath to reach this level..
Especially when the brutal truth hurts everyone around you. But sometimes it’s necessary, people won’t listen sometimes.
Thank you. As an empath, I appreciate that. It's exactly what I'm going through. It's like rivers of living water to have someone speak this.
Wonderful!
This is so true.. I can't stand being gaslit,and knowing as it's happening and still there it is. It's like being in the Twilight zone, with a narcissist. Talk About stressful!! I've tried to use the tactical way's to put up protection barriers.If I'm with one past a certain point my barriers are let down and I'm screwed. That's no way to be , it's like wanting to be besties with someone who only wants you for their amusement or until something better comes around. It's not getting a backbone, it's getting to know myself and setting boundaries.
Whelp… there goes the lightbulb above my head. I’m a disabled since birth empath with divorced parents who stuck their children in the middle. I have reached a point where I find myself irritable angry and focused more on myself than others who have ignored my empathetic nature. I’ve sat here watching narcissism videos wondering if growing up around narcissistic behavior made me into one. I think I’ve concluded now that I am still an empath through and through but I’ve reached my limits and realized how much I need to focus on myself.. this video was very enlightening
Yep this is me. I no longer allow people places or things to take me into bitterness.
THIS is the BEST explanation I have ever heard to describe my journey as a, now 66-year-old woman, empath. I always wondered HOW I did those things, but now I understand I did them simply because I am an empath, and it's what we do to survive. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this video, and share your insights and knowledge! Now I completely understand the things I did in the past that always made me ask myself, what the fuck is wrong with me. I don't have to wonder anymore. God bless you!! 💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you
I am an empath, and recently just fell into full blown depression after excessive abuse. Now on the mend thanks to therapy.
Stay safe and strong
I am an empath and this is so true...i would let things go and then BOOM! but only when pushed past the point of no return!
Damn I feel like this video describes my stages of depression and anger. Always been a good listener, now I'm numb and I anger way easy. I would rather be alone than around others cuz I can't take it anymore.
Glad you can relate to this
This hits HOME. 🎯
A lot of us suffer from depression as well, it's kind of a package deal with those of us who have extra sensitivities.
Gotta get your boundaries for those Energy Vampires out there!!
If something feels too much or uncomfortable in ANY way, SAY NO & value yourself, EV's are EVERYWHERE!!
Blessings, Peace & Love to you all! ✌🏻💗
It is funny to hear someone else call them that. I always call them energy vampires. 😢
Because that is exactly what they do. They suck the energy right out of you and drain it all if you are not careful.
I try to avoid those people and situations at all costs.
trust in your light, the strongest power on this planet!
It took me a long time to learn how to disengage from toxic people and become selective with who I associate with. Even though I no longer have empathy for certain toxic people, I still have empathy for other people.
Wow. This video had me shed tears. I guess I would be considered an empath and I was subjected to 8 years of an narcissistic abusive marriage by my ex wife. Everything in this video was lockstep with all of my behavioral responses to her. Thank you for putting this together! 🙏
I’m feel this 100%. It’s hard giving you all and getting nothing in return. I’m always putting my self in other peoples shoes only for them to not understand. No one checks in on me but I constant make sure everyone around me is ok. I’m always last but put everyone else first. Being an empath is hard 😢
You must know. Don't be harsh to yourself, you are doing the right thing, the thing that every normal human being must do in his lifetime. The most and very important thing: Don't change yourself, don't put it on yourself and don't lose hope.
And then when you've given everything you had, they say you haven't given enough.
6:41 Yes. I actually lost mine the other day. It rarely happens with me, but when it does I can’t do anything about it, and I really don’t want to. It’s extremely hard to be a strong empath, and be married to someone who doesn’t believe in my capabilities.
I have shut ALL PEOPLE out !!! I moved from Boston Massachusetts to West Virginia. I know no one and don't care to any longer .Am 57 and just packed up and left . I have peace for the first time in my life . I have 2 Pit bulls & I have never been happier. This world is not my world anymore.
This is so true 👍🏼 it's a block party over here! After you get so mistreated, we just shut down and show you no mercy 💯 We leave it to God to handle 🙏
I consider myself an empath. I have my limits, too. If someone becomes too much to handle I will quickly distance myself from them rather than blow up at them. I don't want to look back upon words I would later regret saying, so I figure that communicating my frustrations will only cause further discomfort for me, especially when my requests only fall on deaf ears. I endeavour to pull out any weeds of bitterness out of my soul before they poison me. If the person is in need I will only love from afar.
Yes. Love from afar.
for the first time in my life, i heard a description of my true inner self in words that make sense to me and that resonate on a conscience and sensory level. THANK YOU SO SO MUCH I am eternally grateful for the light you shed.
This is definitely me. I found out how to have boundaries and I’m much better in myself now. I hope all you other empathy learn to look after yourselves. ❤ it can be done. ❤ xxxx
This is correct. I'm proud of myself for being an empathy, even though it's hard. I was beaten for years, I spoke my truth but I left the abusers in a better place and never tried to destroy them. I think Grace is the ultimate teacher.
Amen. Im an empath am soft-spoken. I also choose my words carefully so as I'm understood and dont offend with my words. But when I've been used and abused, then the gentleness in tone is gone and is now hardened. They can be weeping & wailing about their woes and in my hardness I will not listen, and will completely ignore them.
People mistake soft spoken as a weakness.
What is it about our words that offend?! I've always thought it was my plain-spokeness, my lack of tact. Maybe it's something else. I never, ever mean to offend, but I do! What is it?
As an Empath I completely agree with this!!!🎉❤🎉
Thanks!
I am in my seventies, and I simply had to tell you that your talk on empaths nailed it, spot on !!!!!
When I have done all I can do, I’ve learned to leave individual swhere they are! As an empathetic person our first job is to protect ourselves so our light won’t be put out! We must know when to hold and when to fold I have learned to remove myself anyone who know me will tell you I can drop people like a hot potato! Keep smiling peeps.despite others!❤
It's essential to prioritize your own well-being as an empathetic person. Knowing when to distance yourself from negativity can help protect your inner light. Self-care is key. 😊 How do you maintain your positivity in challenging situations? ❤️
I am human the best thing for me is too acknowledge the challenge, ignoring does not work! Spending time focusing on the solution and honoring who I am helps, meaning being true to my core being based in love and peace as I look to surround myself with others of light!
Peace and Love
I am going thru this now... I cant take it anymore. I know I am turning off my emotions and it conflicts within myself. But I am trying to protect myself from the people I love who are just draining me inside. I am definitely giving back what I am getting. I am also staying quiet and this is getting their attention more than me treating them as they are treating me. They don't deserve my words anymore, as my words are the most precious thing I have and can control. Silence is golden.
I would love to know if there is any Empath group where we could lift up each other.
Everytime i had enough usually i try to hurt myself.. or just get numb.
Wish you all a good 2023.
Ill stay at home cause i cant handle crowds.
Hi empath, just reaching out to you as an empath as well, I hate crowds myself, am also looking for what I call my spiritual family which are other empaths, you can hit me up anytime if you need someone to talk to, you know we're all healers as empaths right. Sandra is my name
You have nailed it well with me as a empath. I am all about harmony and calm but absorb people even when I don't want it. It's an everyday battle, sometimes more intense than others. Good points made in the video. I am spiritually connected with God the Father and the Son Jesus Christ. I feel it is one of my gifts to help others and for healing also.
I so agree with you! I have been shut down for a lot of years with mental issues because of mean people!! I am now trying to heal with the help of God and Jesus! Otherwise, I am lost! I have no friends any longer. I'm terrified of having any. Wow! I'm glad to learn, at least I'm not alone!! GOD bless all of you here!
You explained it perfectly! Unfortunately I have been through so much I am now a sarcastic introvert. The world is almost unbearable now!
I felt that all of those apply to me. I’m currently feeling exhausted and bitter that I’m always there for my family, but whenever I need someone, all backs are turned and I’m literally told to sort it out myself. I got tired of being walked over so turned my back. Oh boy, did that go down well! I am a person, not a tool to be used then discarded.
Empaths are usually created through a trauma response called hyper vigilance, now that doesn't mean that there aren't those who are naturally more sensitive but a lot of Empaths are created not born.
That sounds like my life I'm 75 and in a nursing home and am still going through this🙏❤️
This tutorial helped me understand and confirm exactly how I felt. Every point expressed was what I went through for years… I finally broke down. Now on the road to recovery!
Wow! I can relate to everything you said! Being an empath sometimes feels like a curse!!!
This resonated deeply with me 🥹
“The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His face on you and give you peace.”
( Numbers 6:24-26)
Shutup God lying word
I am. This is true, we do need to take care of ourselves. The key is to find a balance. It’s like anything, everything needs balance, just like a garden. I sat back for years and took all the crap and still tried to help and be understanding. When you have been dealing with Narcissistic Sociopaths in your family, it can and will make you crazy. I had been standing up to my daughter, then when she went for my Granddaughter I was raising, I went ballistic!! You don’t go after me as a Mother !! Especially after you’ve been less than perfect!! I itemized it for her, take a look at yourself before you come after me for no good reason. This was a huge eye opener for her. I also let her know to completely stay out of my life permanently. I cannot allow her, daughter or not, to wreak havoc in my life. I can’t fix her and I didn’t cause her to be like this. Im determined to have some peace and happiness in my life. Treat me with respect, love, and dignity, or you do not have a place in my life. There are times when we really have choices to make for our on mental health. I can help those in need and also do volunteer work. It doesn’t take long to see thru someone, just let them talk and go by your Go given instincts. Then you go by the Covid rules!! 😂😂😂
I wish this was explained to me when I was a child , teenager, young adult ! I now a have a child of my own and know they are empathic , I hope to guide and them understand how this can be for them bc it wasn’t explained or guided for me until much older
Exactly the same😊
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If you want to prove to yourself that you are going to be a narcissist
1. When you become over reactive try to be conscious that there are no things in this world to become over reactive. It just means we are into the clutches of negative vibrations. Just knowing it helps to overcome it.
2. Dont do anything when asked to do which morally doesnt fit .
This way good side prevails over lower category.
3. Try to bring strength and speak out yourself when required and not through others.
Thanks for sharing this insight
I am an empath who is currently dealing with someone for which I have reached my limits. This is spot on and nice to have the situation I am currently dealing with validated.
This is pretty accurate!! I’ve always been an empath.. I will always shine my light/love on those around me.. but when I’m pushed too far I will not allow that negative energy to be part of my life any longer!! ☀️✨💓
You are so welcome
I certainly have learned my limitations with people whom abuse me, especially when I have gone to the ends of the earth to help others..I am in the phase of turning the care I've given to others onto myself. Yes if ever I've exploded it shocks others. The very same others we have over the years had exploit us thinking we are soft...wrong and a big mistake our abusers make is to challenge us, at the end of the day we are super sensitive human beings whom are deeply misunderstood by others...that's when life gets real and we see the real and ugly side of others and their true nature's. Then the very same people cut up nasty when they have tried to get the better of us. These people must remember we are not the ones with hidden agendas, they are ...❤
❤ Very true it is unavailable how many times an Empaths used by brutal abusers let self love be with you ❤😊.
When an empath stops being your friend or talk to you as deep as they used to.... Know that "they 've had enough of your bullshit and about to shock you, especially GHOST YOU"!!!
Yeah,I have went through to number 9, I am numb now,and don't feel their feelings. Taking care of mine now. I have saved two lives this summer,where I live. People overdosing,dehydrated,..... I am tired,need break. It's mentally exhausing....
And since you mentioned narcissists, I can't recommend enough using the phrase, "I understand that's how you feel". It stops them in their tracks. No more abusive ranting!!!
I relate to this video a lot and it's hard to be calm while you're near your limit
i'm an Empath and a professional counsellor. I also get professional supervision from a senior counsellor which cover everything from my professional work and my personal life. I also take plenty of breaks and holidays, this ensures that I stay healthy both professionally and personally. As a professional and an empath it is important for me to look after myself so that I can continue to support others
Yes, I am an empath. You cant stop from feeling other's pain, either physical or emotional. It becomes your weight to cary on top of your own, and trying to separate yourself from this to be internally stronger is the toughest thing to do
#tammyhilts- Ditto! Same here!
When the empaths understand narcissists, they would not put up with narcissists's BS. Then they fully understand their sufferings and live fully with unconditional self love.
As a Empath and I endorse this video. This is me to a T! Empaths are very powerful and underestimated. Unlike narcissists, when we are finally done, we’re done forever. A majority of our abusers learn the hard way and realize they lost a great person.
💯 percent true. When I cut people off they continue trying to pry their way back in. Saying how much they miss me and how comforting I was as a person, to please come back. Now they cry about how cold I am. Never once did they even ask how the situation effected me or even apologize. They were just saying what they thought I wanted to hear so that the selfish spirit inside them could go back to using me. Which shows me that they had never listened to anything I said during our relationship.
I'm an empath and cancer zodiac so I'm sensitive all the way around. What is like to share because I find it amusing is that when I'm mad I'll speak more of the truth than normal. Everyone seems to think I say things out of anger but infact I just don't hold back n all that I was trying to say in tact (be polite) I just bluntly say it as harsh as it may be. I won't say things that are untrue but I just let out how I truly feel completely.
I'm a therapist and an empath...big shocker LOL Took me years to learn about boundaries and how to implement them without feeling I was "hurting" someone. I'm great as a therapist, feeling what people are going through, etc. but personally I was a train wreck, also not uncommon for a lot of therapists. If you feel taken advantage of, I suggest working on it, getting help with therapy, emotionally healthy friends, reading about how to create boundaries and even 12 step programs are helpful. Don't stay stuck in that people pleasing mode, you can get out and feel ok at the same time. Don't let it go on until you are resentful, or have stopped caring, we need empaths! On the other hand, some people have to reach that point to take action. It is ok to care for yourself, you can't really care for others if you don't love yourself first.
Thx.
Thanks. That's a big truth
If you were a licensed therapist, you'd know there's no such thing as an empath. 😂
Well, let's see, almost 30 years of being licensed, working with people in all walks of life and situations and 68 years of my own life experiences, I have to respectfully say you are wrong. No, not wrong, I just disagree with your opinion, and it is an opinion. Being licensed has nothing to do with it. But, instead of arguing with a stranger who thinks they know someone because of one comment, I'll just say have a great life and your comment says much more about you than it does me. It also says you don't understand what an empath is. So go somewhere else to bait someone into an argument. Why do people have to insult people they don't even know? We could all make this world so much better if we were just a bit nicer. Again, have a wonderful life!! @@waypay1
@@renegadetherapist5664 It's not my opinion. It's a fact. An actual therapist would have some modicum of knowledge about psychology and would know that there's no such thing.
I'm an empath and last Friday one of my colleagues pushed me a step too far because she's a control freak and was speaking to me like I was a child and incapable of learning how to do something properly. I blew my top ans shouted - "stop speaking to me like I'm a child!!!" She denied it of course but now I intend to tell her the truth, that she is a two faced hypocritical control freak who is incapable of being a reliable team leader if the opportunity should present itself one day. The thing is the people I work with and myself were a lot happier when she wasn't around and now that she is the team spirit has started to diminish. I hope and pray I can cut her down to size once and for all and make sure she learns her place and when to back off.
I really admire you for standing up that person. I was bullied at work by two toxic bosses , and they made my working life a misery. I complained to my Union but they were no help. I am away from there now thank God, but I have experienced the same bullying control freak behaviour from close relatives since and I am fed up with it. I really resent them for their amoral behaviour. I am still suffering the consequences of it , while they got away with their mistreatment and abuse of me. I don't forgive and I don't forget.
It was brought up to my attention that I am an EMPATH the more research I do on it, the more I understand MYSELF & my actions 👍
After a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, I finally snapped, lost patience, and left. That’s what this empath did. No bitterness or sarcasm for me, I will not go down that road to self abandonment. I turned inward and got clear that I need me, if I give, it will be with careful discernment from now on.