SPOT ON. I wondered why I was such a loner for such a long time. This is why. It was just easier to be alone with shitty boundaries. Thank you so much for doing this work.
People are so narcissistic and toxic these days, I just can't handle that energy. And I'm tired of catering to everyone else. Just finally done. And I can so relate to always being hypervigilant and thinking I'm not ready yet!
Oh my God. This is me. I’ve been craving for healthy relationships in my life, but I’ve been avoiding it. Because my last friendship was damaging and I’m afraid to lose myself again. This is a sign for me to do boundary work.
I saw this video a few years ago and i understood, but wow today 3 years later I see this dynamic WAY more clearly my god. Its so obvious and clear now.
Wow. I never comment but this really hit me hard. I avoid meeting my bestes friends and family often, even though on the otherside i want to spend time with them and make memories. But i am so afraid of not being able to seht my boundaries and already feel exhausted before meeting them. Thank you so much for explaining:)
Thank you 🙏🏻 You are helping me find the pieces to my puzzle that I thought I would never find. I feel hope. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 😭🙏🏻❤️
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, Candace, for being one of the few people that I can relate with on such a deep level. I'm sliding deeper into depression and I'm trying to figure out why. I'm realizing that inner work never ends and that it just might be my ticket to freedom. I♥CVD
Thank you for this vid! So clear and clarifying. What you said on responsibility really hit home. If you could talk a bit more about a fear of responsibility I would love to hear your thoughts. 💗
So I know that I am doing this, what does a healthy boundary look like when you’re with somebody who feels almost codependent upon you for their emotions? I feel exhausted by this person, but I also really love and care for them. Their problems in life feel suffocating to me and I don’t want to deal with it. How can I deal with it in a better way than leaving them feel ignored?
Excellent content. Yeah if you are desired by people, it can be a constant double edged sword, if you speak to them they escalate and want more contact. If you ignore or put them off they bad mouth and harass you. This led to my ACTING avoidant. I hold my frame and give no fucks. It was exhausting having people think they could abuse me and take me as a “Spinner”
SPOT ON. I wondered why I was such a loner for such a long time. This is why. It was just easier to be alone with shitty boundaries. Thank you so much for doing this work.
Hahaha makes so much sense!! ❤BOUNDARIES are the key 🔑
I'm too tired to deal with people. It's easier to be avoidant, albeit a little lonely.
I understand. With some more inner and energetic boundary work, I bet you could savor more energy when around others 😊
People are so narcissistic and toxic these days, I just can't handle that energy. And I'm tired of catering to everyone else. Just finally done. And I can so relate to always being hypervigilant and thinking I'm not ready yet!
Oh my God. This is me. I’ve been craving for healthy relationships in my life, but I’ve been avoiding it. Because my last friendship was damaging and I’m afraid to lose myself again. This is a sign for me to do boundary work.
Yes!! BoundAries bootcamp course is amazing for this reason 😊
Your authenticity is beautiful to me, that's the least I can say.
#grateful
I saw this video a few years ago and i understood, but wow today 3 years later I see this dynamic WAY more clearly my god. Its so obvious and clear now.
I'm extremely avoidant. So much so that I've never even been in a relationship. Everything just feels like to much work.☹️
Boundaries will help you so much with this!! I have a crash course in this for you. It’s called Boundaries Bootcamp
Wow. I never comment but this really hit me hard. I avoid meeting my bestes friends and family often, even though on the otherside i want to spend time with them and make memories. But i am so afraid of not being able to seht my boundaries and already feel exhausted before meeting them. Thank you so much for explaining:)
Thank you 🙏🏻 You are helping me find the pieces to my puzzle that I thought I would never find. I feel hope. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 😭🙏🏻❤️
Thanks for helping me understand myself better.
It is my pleasure 😇
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks, Candace, for being one of the few people that I can relate with on such a deep level. I'm sliding deeper into depression and I'm trying to figure out why. I'm realizing that inner work never ends and that it just might be my ticket to freedom. I♥CVD
Thank you. This is the exact video I've been looking for.
Anxious lean in, avoidant leans back 🎢 while secure meet others in the middle. 💝⚖️💝
Yes! I’m avoiding meeting new people and love being single! I just don’t want any of the drama that comes with a relationship
I understand however with strong bad ass boundaries you can have it all and keep YOU in the process
So True. For Me Relationship Means Self-Abandonment. You Means No Me. The Roots Of My Avoidant Nature?
Thankyou so much. Everything starts to make sense to me now more clearly. ❤
I been avoidant most of my life. I hated dealing with pressure to make friends cause I don't know how to be a good friend/girlfriend.
This couldn’t be more true 😭🫶🏻💚
I'm so avoidant. Never feel secure. I was a parent to my parents. Jobs, friends, relationships are exhausting.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much.
Very welcome ❤
True a become a parent when i was seven.
Thank you so much Candace!!
Thank you so much!!💗💗💗 Divinely spoken!!😊😊😊
I resonate with this so much
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Outstanding Candace. Thank you! I love this video - thank you for Patreon option, it’s perfect for me. Cheers! Shane
🙏🏻❤️✨ miss you and Jack! Thanks for watching
Thank you so much for sharing, you hit it right on the nail. I always love to hear your wisdom, much love xo
Thank you for this vid! So clear and clarifying. What you said on responsibility really hit home. If you could talk a bit more about a fear of responsibility I would love to hear your thoughts. 💗
Good message, rings true for me. Thanks!
🙏🏻✨🙏🏻
自分の心を信じて生きてきました💕
その考え方はとても正しかった事でした💕
🔶誰もが産まれた時に創造主の思考をもって産まれてきます🔶
その思考をそのまま出して生きるだけの事です♥😊♥
Exactly that!
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This is me ❤
So I know that I am doing this, what does a healthy boundary look like when you’re with somebody who feels almost codependent upon you for their emotions? I feel exhausted by this person, but I also really love and care for them. Their problems in life feel suffocating to me and I don’t want to deal with it. How can I deal with it in a better way than leaving them feel ignored?
I had to mother my own mother so that I could feel connected and safe as a child, now I don't need to do that with my partner anymore
Excellent content. Yeah if you are desired by people, it can be a constant double edged sword, if you speak to them they escalate and want more contact. If you ignore or put them off they bad mouth and harass you.
This led to my ACTING avoidant.
I hold my frame and give no fucks.
It was exhausting having people think they could abuse me and take me as a “Spinner”
Thank you so much Candace!