Freedom After a Homosexual Lifestyle w/ Kim Zember

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  • Опубликовано: 22 ноя 2024

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  • @therdinazinastina3000
    @therdinazinastina3000 Год назад +555

    1:28:56 "The opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality. It's holiness. The opposite of any sin is turning back to God who is sinless."

    • @roselove2983
      @roselove2983 Год назад +9

      Absolutely amazing, I love that Kim said this!! ❤

    • @RainbowTrash06
      @RainbowTrash06 Год назад +4

      I have been raised catholic my whole life but it is videos like this and comments like yours that make me turn against the catholic faith, catholics talk a lot about love and happiness and love thy neighbour but they never practise it, God loves everyone regardless of race, gender, sexuality etc, if love is a sin then send me to hell

    • @user-bv4sj2gq7g
      @user-bv4sj2gq7g Год назад

      Sy Rogers always said that. So very true.

    • @roselove2983
      @roselove2983 Год назад +1

      @@krabbypatty5333 My head is spinning I can’t seem to make heads or tails of your comment.

    • @Dienekes678
      @Dienekes678 Год назад +10

      @@RainbowTrash06 You are totally mistaken, I'm afraid. God does indeed love all of us, more than we can comprehend! He hates sin though. If we are told that two men laying together is an abomination, that's not language that is open to interpretation.

  • @classicworks0316
    @classicworks0316 Год назад +821

    I'm a Catholic dude with SSA and I gotta say I LOVE Kim. Her testimony helps me know I'm sane and following the right path.

    • @angelalemos9811
      @angelalemos9811 Год назад +55

      Keep going brother 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 God bless

    • @racheljames7
      @racheljames7 Год назад +38

      You're awesome. Keep strong, brother.

    • @kellibuzzard
      @kellibuzzard Год назад +27

      Bless you, brother!!

    • @JH-xu4du
      @JH-xu4du Год назад +25

      Same here @classicworks0316. God really is speaking to us all through her 💜

    • @lumenaperpetua
      @lumenaperpetua Год назад +13

      So glad you're here!

  • @stangerling9412
    @stangerling9412 10 месяцев назад +20

    I cried from this discussion. I am a 29-year old Catholic man struggling from SSA since I was a boy. Probably a contributing factor was that my father was distant and my older brother bullied me for being effeminate when I was young. As I turned 29 this month, I was suddenly enveloped with a deep sense of sadness and anxiety as I approach my thirties still struggling with SSA. Though I have never had a boyfriend or had sexual contact with a man, I am still struggling with pornography and masturbation. I still have strong physical attraction to men. I may probably never get married and have children to take care of me when I'm old. And people in their heads are probably confirming their suspicions already that I'm a "sissy" since I've never had a girlfriend before. So I could relate to a lot of what Kim said. However, I would really like to follow God. I don't know what the next step is and where things could go from here. Please pray for me that I eventually know and follow God's plan for me 🙏🙏 thank you Kim for your honesty, you are an inspiration to struggling Christians and for sure not only those with SSA. God bless!

    • @dan-ch8kr
      @dan-ch8kr 8 месяцев назад +6

      I'll be praying for you, brother 🤍

    • @RCGWho
      @RCGWho 6 месяцев назад +3

      There's an author named Joe Dallas you might look up. And Becket Cook.

    • @ynesrivero5470
      @ynesrivero5470 5 месяцев назад

      Check on Dr Joseph Nico!osi

  • @karenglenn2329
    @karenglenn2329 Год назад +432

    I am 78 years old. I have been sober for 34 years. Everything this woman said moved me. I was "loved" by alcohol. The craving to be loved in how we are made.

    • @melanieannette3781
      @melanieannette3781 Год назад +8

      Yes, isn’t it interesting the similarities? We all are sinners and should rejoice when repentance occurs without ever looking down on anyone for a particular sin. We are to pray with one another and recognize our own weaknesses.

    • @karenglenn2329
      @karenglenn2329 Год назад +5

      @@melanieannette3781 Thank you for the comment. But for the grace of God has real meaning. One day at a time. Peace

    • @octuple505
      @octuple505 Год назад +7

      I've never heard it put this way, loved by alcohol.

    • @karenglenn2329
      @karenglenn2329 Год назад +6

      @@octuple505 lt was all l could think about. It killed the pain. "It was my best friend. It ...was my everything". I did not not know how l could ever live without it.

    • @BitsyBee
      @BitsyBee Год назад +5

      Agreed! The great truths here are for everyone, not just those facing SSA.

  • @juanruelas9008
    @juanruelas9008 Год назад +403

    I am a man who has SSA, I lived a homosexual life style that lead me to a life of sin in addiction and promiscuity and in my pride I egotistically told God I don’t need you I have made a life for myself without your help so if you can do something that I can’t bring it on. And the Lord listened and delivered in a very powerful way. A family member attempted to take his life in front of me and my knees gave out, and screamed “Lord, I can do many things but I cannot bring someone back from the dead!!” This family member recovered and I was able to reconcile myself with my history and the church and saw the power of prayer and God’s unconditional love for me. Fast forward, God sent me a Catholic woman that I respected in our courtship, and am now married and have a baby boy! The Lord is faithful and I love this conversation because we need more people who have SSA who have had an encounter with Christ to give their testimony. Blessed be God!!!

    • @lynncrf
      @lynncrf Год назад +9

      I hope you don't mind me asking, but if you felt you were gay how did you have a sexual relationship with a woman? The gay people I know say that they are repulsed by sex with the opposite sex in the way I am at the thought of having sex with a woman. No worries if that is too personal a question.

    • @peaceandlove544
      @peaceandlove544 Год назад +6

      Wowwwwwwwwww Juan you are fighter and survivor. As my grandpa said "One of the most important virtues is to have definition in our lives in everything that pleases our Lord that made us"
      I didn't understand it until older and meet a few couples that I could tell were gayish both or one of them but loved each other and had families. And you could tell they made a decision for the traditional family instead of the SSA life. Even know several SSA men that chose a celebat life and to help their families instead of the gay life. There is no inner peace in the gay life one told me.

    • @juanruelas9008
      @juanruelas9008 Год назад +51

      @lynncrf I acknowledge that it is different for everyone. I have racked my brain over this throughout out my life because I was abused as a child from 5-8. I actually grew up hating men and really only had friendships with women because the person that abused me was a man. I sought out spiritual direction after the encounter I had with the Lord through this family member and I realized that what I sought was masculinity, strength, something that I didn’t think I could ever posses. I wanted security and I wanted to be protected instead of being the protector. You could say that my longing was misplaced in homosexuality. It is horrible to say but deep down inside, I wanted to posses the men I was with in an almost obsessive way. So when I said yes to the Lord I became open to whatever path he wanted for me. I prayed for my vocation, and I spoke very freely with the Lord. I said “If you want my vocation to be marriage send me the woman you created for me.”
      I of course was afraid, but at the same time willing to do the Lord’s will. And he sent me my wife, the only woman that I’ve experienced to be completely honest with me. She opened up about her history as a radical feminist and how she was anti life and helped me to be open about my past struggle even the lack of physical attraction. So all this to say that the Lord made me new, I fell in love with my wife’s soul first and then everything else came afterwards.

    • @lynncrf
      @lynncrf Год назад +20

      @@juanruelas9008 Oh wow. That would make an amazing book/story. I follow a non religious gay man (Disaffected podcast) who says he will likely remain single for life because of what you talk about. He says that most gay men are traumatised and broken and that that is why the rates of promiscuity are so high in that community.
      God bless you, your wife, and child. I am so sorry that you were abused. ♥️♥️

    • @juanruelas9008
      @juanruelas9008 Год назад +30

      @lynncrf I felt loved unconditionally by the Lord through my wife, and not to say this was a one way street, my wife also attests to being loved by the Lord through me. I stopped putting my sexuality first and started putting my identity as a Beloved child of God first.
      I know this might sound abstract, but I leave you with these words that I received.
      “You want to have an encounter with God? Do you want to see your life radically changed in the Light of Christ’s unconditional love? Do you want to see a miracle? Then ask the Lord, right now, drop to your knees or even just mentally ask Him. I can not bring someone back from the dead. Lord I am dead in the world, in sin. You died on the cross and were buried. You descended into Hell, I am there, let me rise with you on the third day. Let me see that my history is perfect and that you have always been present. Lord Jesus Christ son of the Living God, have mercy on me a sinner. Amen.”
      I pray that you may encounter the Lord and know that when He sees you, He is not repulsed, He loves you and wants to do wonderful things in you life! Courage!!

  • @GigaMoth
    @GigaMoth Год назад +295

    I’m not a Catholic and grew up in a Protestant Christian home. A few years ago I struggled with ssa and started down a very confusing and spiritually dark path. God saved me not just spiritually but physically and mentally. Kim’s testimony touched me in a way no other testimony has. I am so thankful for her and her ministry.

    • @roselove2983
      @roselove2983 Год назад +9

      I could agree more with you!! ❤

  • @ThinkLuckyThink
    @ThinkLuckyThink Год назад +64

    Beautiful testimony. I myself have the burden of having SSA. It's hard. Very hard. When I tell people about my struggle they just tell me how it's normal and I should just accept myself. For a long time I did accept myself. I was proud to be bisexual. But I soon asked myself, "Is this what God wants for me? To have this sinful life style?" And he didn't. So now whenever I have urges I turn them off and think about something else. It's better to struggle and follow God then to be comfortable while rejecting God

  • @SilverCottage
    @SilverCottage Год назад +108

    I was a Tom Boy also, and people were always asking me if I was gay. Finally, I wondered if they saw something obvious that I was not aware of, so I tried to be gay but it just didn't "work" for me. I was still attracted only to boys! This was decades before I was baptized and then became Catholic. I wish people would not push that "gay" label on others, just because they don't appear to be a typical frilly female. It turns out that I was more attracted to GOD than anything else in the world. I was meant to be a nun. I've been a religious hermit for 20 years and am perfectly happy.

    • @fragwagon
      @fragwagon Год назад +4

      Thank you for your vocation!

    • @MARLA116
      @MARLA116 Год назад +2

      Amen. You are an inspiration.

    • @celestial-mq9sc
      @celestial-mq9sc Год назад +4

      This is a beautiful story. Let’s all try to be attracted to God first and foremost! Bless you!

    • @MARLA116
      @MARLA116 Год назад +2

      God bless you. I admire you. TY for your story.

    • @mR-dc4oq
      @mR-dc4oq Год назад +3

      I resonate with what you wrote. Nice to read from someone I understand and I believe would understand me. We humans are ge really baffled in our lives, or that’s how I experience it; we are complex beings. This life can be so confusing.

  • @tinygold772
    @tinygold772 Год назад +56

    I have been in deep depression and suicidal thoughts daily for 3 years I’ve been listening to this podcast constantly and with this interview I actually began to believe that I am a beloved daughter and I heard “arise” and I had to google where exactly I read that in the Bible and it’s Ephesians 5:14
    “Wake up sleeper! Arise from the dead and the Messiah will shine on you” - for the first time in 3 years I feel like I have something to get up for… to start living like I am a beloved daughter

  • @gigifontanilla6288
    @gigifontanilla6288 Год назад +138

    I am only halfway of this podcast and I just bawled for 20 straight minutes. I don't struggle with same sex attraction but I was sexually abused in the past and I experienced other forms of abuse too and the after affects nearly killed me. I am blessed to be alive. So a lot of what Kim says about identity really resonates with me. I am a Daughter of the Most High God. That is my identity and that alone is my identity

    • @lisamurphy3291
      @lisamurphy3291 Год назад +7

      😥❤🙏 So glad you are healing from the abuse and that you know you're a Beloved Daughter of the Most High God. Your witness is inspiring to others. 👍

    • @theresem7140
      @theresem7140 Год назад

      Amen!

    • @giorgiaalexanderactingothe1892
      @giorgiaalexanderactingothe1892 Год назад

      Same here. Amen

  • @Mom-os9sp
    @Mom-os9sp Год назад +74

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I cannot say it enough. I am a mother, 2 of my children have told me they are homosexual. One "no longer believes in God" the other doesn't go to church at all. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I cried almost the entire time. So often we either told to accept them exactly as they are, no questions or drill it into them that it is a sin. Kim also helped me remember, they know what truth is, I do not need to drill them with it. All I need to do is love them, bear it with them, pray and trust God. Thank you for all of the resources, these are exactly what I have been looking for.

  • @BriD2119
    @BriD2119 Год назад +8

    Im a Christian guy who struggles with SSA 😞. My parents are narcissists so 🤷 im a survivor of narcissistic parents. Im now 39 but thankfully Holy Spirit filled.

  • @rl2388
    @rl2388 Год назад +168

    I am in my early 30's, Male with a Catholic and Asian upbringing. Having SSA (closeted) and porn addiction. Emotionally distant from my father. Started reading the bible half a year ago with the protestant community. Doing a confession last month, telling the priest everything I've never told to anyone. Similar to Kim, although I have never had a sexual relationship, I was always fond of seeing older males. When an older male is talking to me, giving me suggestions, and teaching me kinds of stuff, I am experiencing this "loving father" and I love him being around. Perhaps I was only looking for something that I have never received from my father but for some reason, this sexual desire emerged. My heart cried when I realised my little brother, who is 10 years younger than me is having this SSA (accidentally saw it from his phone but we've never actually talked about this since I have never told anyone). I just can't comprehend why this happened to two people in my family. I am starting to blame myself. I hope you can pray for me to be able to carry up the cross and be closer to God.

    • @luzclara3855
      @luzclara3855 Год назад +31

      🙏 Please, do not despair. God will help you. Praying for you and your brother, with much love. ❤

    • @lionheart5078
      @lionheart5078 Год назад +33

      the first step is to kick the porn addiction and of course up your prayer life. As u mentioned a lot of the SSA has to do with the fact that you are hungry for male attention and approval but then this gets mixed with sexual desire etc. You have to try and seperate these things and not make everything sexual. Its difficult but God will help you. God bless.

    • @rl2388
      @rl2388 Год назад +8

      @@lionheart5078 Thank you, God bless!

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Год назад +23

      Sexual sin has saturated our entire society and culture. It is NOT your fault that this “happened” to two people in your family. It is simply an effect of our sin filled society. For myself it was being molested as a small child and again as a very young teen of 12/13, for others it was pornography, or some other perverse sin…

    • @shlamallama6433
      @shlamallama6433 Год назад +7

      Praying

  • @gloriaperreault309
    @gloriaperreault309 5 месяцев назад +6

    My 39 year old daughter is going through the same thing. She's an awesome and spiritual person. It bothers me very much but I also love her very much. She thanks me every day for my unconditional love. I either love her or lose her. She lived for 9 months near my heart. No matter what she is or does, I could never not love her. All I can do is pray for her like St. Monica did. ❤

  • @kellibuzzard
    @kellibuzzard Год назад +37

    Praise Jesus Christ! This woman is fantastic! God, glorify yourself in this beautiful sister. Use her to minister to millions. Protect and provide for her.

  • @bernadetteyarbrough7275
    @bernadetteyarbrough7275 10 месяцев назад +2

    I love her testimony, I don’t struggle with homosexuality but I have struggled in the same way in my life with the opposite sex, finding myself and self worth. Her story has pointed out things that happened in my life that I knew I struggled with but didn’t recognize I was seeking out connections and love in the wrong way. I feel hopeful in my relationship with the lord now, and to know someone who’s struggled in a similar way that I’m not the only one.

  • @aeb_captain4857
    @aeb_captain4857 Год назад +45

    This was POWERFUL. Even for someone who does not struggle with same sex attraction, Kim brought so much truth that anyone in any situation can relate to. Ive got some new things to pray on!

  • @oldskola3634
    @oldskola3634 Год назад +35

    I’m a Latter Day Saint. Honestly I’m still in the middle of this episode, I live it so much! So much pure gospel here! This woman has an amazing a beautiful story, and a beautiful testimony to share.

    • @squishy8758
      @squishy8758 Год назад +3

      Maybe try giving a catholic mass a shot?? You can just sit in the back and not talk to anyone, just sit and watch

  • @jazamaraz8029
    @jazamaraz8029 Год назад +27

    Holy cow! I'm halfway through this video and I now understand much better than ever before the phrase 'tongues of fire'. This chick's words are on fire and they're creating a burning desire in me to have a deeper love for God and to know his heart more intimately.
    Thank you, Kim. And thank you PWA.

  • @sweetsea4337
    @sweetsea4337 Год назад +54

    Oh boy this really spoke to my heart. I found myself shocked when Kim started explaining her life and I’m faced with my own life story (with our differences of course, I don’t believe I have ssa but I’ve never been attracted to any person in that way regardless of gender or at least never let myself be). That longing for a safe friend is one that I’ve known most of my life and which still haunts me. I’m not sure what this means for me now as I am continuing to find new wounds and I’m not sure how to handle them. I feel dumb for sharing this on RUclips and I’ll probably regret it when I get over myself in a few hours and go to bed but Matt has been talking about vulnerability so much and that coincidentally (which let’s face it there is no coincidence) was my prayer last time I went to adoration so who knows maybe this isn’t as dumb as I think. I don’t ask for prayers much but if y’all wouldn’t mind praying for me, I’ve come to the realization that I can’t take care of myself and I am praying that my Heavenly Father will Father me in this way, I would really appreciate it. Anywho thank y’all so much for everything you do❤️

    • @dentellier
      @dentellier Год назад +3

      Praying for you. Hang in there and keep being honest 💜

    • @adriennejohnson1756
      @adriennejohnson1756 Год назад +2

      Pray the Surrender Novena. God bless. 🙏

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Год назад +1

    • @Dienekes678
      @Dienekes678 Год назад +4

      It's not dumb to share your feelings at all! /hugs!
      Try to remember that you have a guardian angel beside you who loves you dearly 24/7.
      God bless!

    • @jacksonbaker5375
      @jacksonbaker5375 Год назад

      Bless you for sharing your feelings, it's so wonderful that you've had the courage to open yourself up to strangers. I'll pray that God guides your experience of self-discovery and keeps you close to Him during it, and that God may send you a true friend who will be a comfort to you.
      May Jesus bless you!

  • @tonymorris3378
    @tonymorris3378 Год назад +36

    I love this woman. Not many/enough are so infused with grace and interpersonal intellect as she is. So much she said has me realizing I need to rewatch this more than once to unpack all the spiritual gems she just threw out there. Thank you both for this!! I have much to learn from this.

  • @Featherfinder
    @Featherfinder Год назад +73

    I haven’t even started watching yet but I *salute Kim’s extraordinary courage in speaking about this publicly*. I can think of two people who have been heavily persecuted by the Human Rights Campaign and other parties simply for speaking about their own private experiences and their deepening conversion to Christ. Her speaking here is an act of great love. I’m praying for her.

  • @marywright2005
    @marywright2005 Год назад +17

    Absolutely amazing interview! I love how Kim breaks down the identification. Every person deals with this. I used to self-harm and I never understood why I would make that my identity though people insisted I did. Why do we insist on identifying with our fallenness and yet balk at identifying as children of the most high? God bless you and thank you for this amazing testimony!

  • @jajohnson7809
    @jajohnson7809 Год назад +70

    I've watched this twice, and am holding back tears. I knew I had SSA some 30 years ago as a teenager. It's been a painful road. On top of SSA, I struggled with depression and anxiety as well as other things, still do. Unlike Kim, I did leave Christianity, and by God's grace, came back after 10 years. I've felt great consolation from God, the saints, and my church community, but the pain and loneliness have gotten to the point where I'm barely functional, though I do hold a job. There are so many times when I want to end it when I reflect on the years of heartache and struggle, as well as on the knowledge I will have to fight this battle for life--and also, that I'm never going to know the intimacy married couples do. There's a definite mourning process in accepting that it's my lot to be single. I do not pretend that others don't have struggles of their own, but Kim expressed it so well when she said, we want to be heard and seen, as well as loved. We are human, after all. I've seen the wonders God's capable of, and I pray God will strengthen me to carry on, as exhausting and difficult as it can be. I know God is with me, even in my darkest hours. He's with all of us. Thank you, Matt and Kim.

    • @adriennejohnson1756
      @adriennejohnson1756 Год назад +4

      Praying for you. God loves you and you are worthy.

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Год назад +1

      Much love to you❤️

    • @paulina6826
      @paulina6826 Год назад +2

    • @carolinpurayidom4570
      @carolinpurayidom4570 Год назад +5

      I recommend finding a SSA girl who is Catholic and pursuing chastity like you and live together as roomates and platonic duo so that you won't have to be alone or pray for one. Or find a roomate pursuing holiness in general.

    • @MarySmith-sv1zh
      @MarySmith-sv1zh Год назад +1

      @@carolinpurayidom4570 I would not do this, but yes, pursue good friendships with faithful Catholics. Find a good, more traditional Catholic church that tells the truth in love. Institute of Christ the King? FSSP? St. John Cantius? Get involved in parish life. Coffee dates, movies, picnics...

  • @patrickturner91
    @patrickturner91 Год назад +45

    Matt I’ve been watching you for years, I’ve seen a ton of guests come through, I’ve supported you on Locals, but THIS was the greatest interview I think I’ve ever seen.
    Kim is such a wonder, and she’s real, and she’s vulnerable and beautiful, and her testimony really touched me profoundly. 10/10.

  • @anahermenegildo251
    @anahermenegildo251 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for this conversation. As someone who's recently converted and still struggles with same sex attraction, your testimony has helped me fill some blanks in my journey. When all I knew was sin, I lived in constant chaos, but ever since I accepted Jesus into my life He showed me a type of peace and joy that I had never experienced. God bless you.

  • @trussme3210
    @trussme3210 Год назад +35

    "If we knew how to love one another we wouldn't need therapists...." How true! In the past year I started seeing a therapist, now I'm doing great but in the middle of all my issues I had this overwhelming feeling that there were only two people in the world who listened to me, one was my wife and since divorce isn't an option she kinda had to listen. The other was my therapist, and she got paid quite well to listen..... that's a terrible place to be in and it reflects badly on the church and the elders/leaders whatever you want to call them. One of the goals of my life is to be a good listener, no one should experience the extreme loneliness I have gone through, utterly alone in the crowd is an emptiness almost to great to bear.

    • @josephososkie3029
      @josephososkie3029 Год назад +1

      You would be a good listener because you are aware of the necessity. And you would gently move them to be open toward God.

  • @MeaningToMatter
    @MeaningToMatter Год назад +75

    Dude.... Kim is ON FIRE!!!! 🔥🔥🕊️🔥🔥 She is such a gift!!!

    • @MeaningToMatter
      @MeaningToMatter Год назад

      @Fog 🕊️🔥

    • @juanortiz2937
      @juanortiz2937 Год назад

      agree

    • @Strive1974
      @Strive1974 Год назад +4

      Fire of the Holy Spirit is good flaming

    • @kellibuzzard
      @kellibuzzard Год назад +1

      Truly! Her logic and words are Scriptural. We would do well to follow her example...!

  • @winter-wb7cf
    @winter-wb7cf Год назад +38

    As someone who doesn’t experience SSA, this was absolutely incredible in every way. I feel more confident in my dignity in Christ and the expansiveness of God’s love. I will be sharing this!

  • @Eliza-cn5ii
    @Eliza-cn5ii Год назад +12

    Kim is so inspiring. I struggle with self gratification and the parallels of temptation are insightful.
    "Love is giving and receiving" and so many words of wisdom in this convo. May God bless her and grant us all the grace to live virtuously for His glory!

  • @dentellier
    @dentellier Год назад +29

    As a heterosexual woman, my relationships with men have been just as broken and fraught with sadness, disappointment, and codependency as the relationships that Kim describes having with women. Seems to me that the biggest issue here is when we love our romantic partner more than we love God and this partner becomes a substitute for God’s love.

    • @Jennifer-gr7hn
      @Jennifer-gr7hn 11 месяцев назад +1

      And, have to tackle childhood issues...it's ALL from there,than we try to find it in man, society, etc.

  • @chase.23
    @chase.23 Год назад +28

    “Don’t pretend that it [our feelings] doesn’t exist ❤️. That is beautiful and right where I’m at

  • @PaxChristi7
    @PaxChristi7 Год назад +17

    1:36:18 “We may have come to the end of ourselves but that’s when we come to the beginning of God” what a quote. Can absolutely relate to that.

    • @pax9864
      @pax9864 Год назад

      Yes! So much of our lives in a nutshell!

    • @kellyklingbeil5802
      @kellyklingbeil5802 Год назад +1

      It's been said that "God cannot use anyone until he has crushed them to powder first "

  • @ABock4
    @ABock4 Год назад +72

    These are the types of stories that I’ve been looking for lately. Wonderful people like Kim are huge weapons in the fight to free as many people from the LGBT ideology as we can. Bless her! ❤

  • @catholickirby
    @catholickirby Год назад +22

    God bless her, she is very honest and has really solid insights too. Thanks for this discussion.

  • @cherylg8073
    @cherylg8073 Год назад +8

    Kim is incredible!! I could not take my eyes and ears away!! Agree COMPLETELY that Jason & Kim together would take over the world (in such an amazing way!!)

  • @generalquoti3304
    @generalquoti3304 Год назад +18

    This is so beautiful. Brought me to tears. I have a loved one whom i dearly love. She has SSA. She is not "out" but i know that she has SSA cuz i found out somehow, by accident. It broke my heart to a million pieces when i found out and i never confronted her. Lately, i have sent hints via messages that i know about her SSA and that I am just here if she wants to talk. Pls pray for her conversion. I wish i could send her this video but it myt seem confrontational. So i am just going to do what Kim said, to bear the burden with her should she come out to me and i will love her for the sake of Christ. And find ways, words, occasions, by the help of the Holy Spirit, to remind her that she is a beloved daughter of God. ❤❤❤

  • @MsCzechqueen
    @MsCzechqueen Год назад +4

    Kim you just told me something so important I needed to hear! Im a recent reconvert and my boys (9, 7) are coming into faith exactly with the dos and donts instead of Christs love! 😮 They recently told me they dont think of Him during the day at all. I have to help them build a relationship and put the breaks on the rules a bit. And I need to share more woth them of how I am building my own relationship with God and what it means in every day life. I needed to hear this! Thank you and God bless!!!
    Matt thank you for this interview! God bless!

  • @WilsonAcres
    @WilsonAcres Год назад +30

    KID YOU NOT at the start of this I thought "Man we really need a Saint for our time who struggled with SSA, maybe it's Kim"
    NO PRESSURE KIM 😂 so much love for this. It's so relevant because so many of us, arguably all of us, have experienced sexual perversion to some degree. Thank you for your honesty and fire for GOD!

  • @vivachristorey4777
    @vivachristorey4777 Год назад +8

    This conversation touched me so much. I’ve never been ssa, but struggle with how much God loves me. This has taught me so much because we are all sinners, especially judgement of others. I was three-fourths through this video when at a friends house, a young man came over dressed in a woman’s bathing suit and seems to be struggling with gender dysphoria. After listening to most of the podcast I totally looked at this young man with compassion. The Lord worked quick yesterday to help me not judge, but to be kind and pray for him. I’m couldn’t believe it. God works in mysterious ways.

  • @bethedoG...gohome
    @bethedoG...gohome Год назад +10

    Awesome!!! I really believe that no matter what our particular struggle is, Kim's insights are spot on!!! May God give each and every one of us the grace to see and address our own particular "notGod" choices so that, like Kim, we can begin the journey of truly finding Him.

  • @tolkienlewis6887
    @tolkienlewis6887 Год назад +42

    I'm a heterosexual woman and this was so helpful at gaining some insight tbto ssa. Great interview. Thanks.

  • @guesswho22peekaboo
    @guesswho22peekaboo Год назад +3

    1:02:00 professional musician here! I think Kim gave me a beautiful revelation. I identify too much with "being a musician" as a primary part of my identity, and it puts undo pressure on me when I create. I need to reidentify myself more strongly as a child of God. You're not just helping the LGBs, Kim...thank you so much for this 🙏❤ Love you, and God bless.

  • @nancyherrity2172
    @nancyherrity2172 Год назад +3

    I listened to the entire podcast while cleaning my house. I am going to watch the entire podcast again so I can write down some of the quotes, scripture verses, books, comments that were referenced...it was THAT informative . I could relate in a similar way. I am separated for the last 19 years and I am continuing to live out my marriage vow. I loved the many references to strength from God. Honesty breeds honesty. You both have helped more people than you can imagine. If the people that call us haters would here this, they would understand and a lot of the tension would end.

  • @MajestyHammond
    @MajestyHammond Год назад +15

    I feel like the love and wisdom of Jesus flowing from this conversation can be physically felt. 💛

  • @Jesusgirl00
    @Jesusgirl00 Год назад +124

    Ive never had same sex attraction, but this is prabably the best talk ive ever heard.🙏

    • @dgathome4345
      @dgathome4345 Год назад +7

      She says so many profound truths that can be applied to our own particular sins. We all sin differently, and we all have our own attachments, but the love of God is what saves us all.

    • @MarySmith-sv1zh
      @MarySmith-sv1zh Год назад +1

      Agreed. Identity as a daughter of God...only. Love.

  • @toddgruber5729
    @toddgruber5729 Год назад +16

    Kim is awesome. Completely love her.

  • @mizzscoots68
    @mizzscoots68 Год назад +18

    I NEEDED to hear this! love this! for myself, and my daughter! thank you! thank Jesus for your heart! thank you!

  • @TexanSecession
    @TexanSecession Год назад +10

    Oh my. That was so good. I have a few people close to me I am sharing this with. She was amazing and clearly filled with the Holy Spirit. Her advice on bearing the burden with others in love without correction really hit home. As a father, this is one of the hardest lessons to learn. Just wow. Thank you for all that you have both done for me.

  • @DavidMorales-hm3cg
    @DavidMorales-hm3cg Год назад +4

    Was listening and at 1:07:42 Kim says a Priest asked her "What is Truth?" And I immediately thought about how those are the words of Pilate when he turns his back on Jesus who is truth incarnate!!! God was trying to show this priest he was in error and it flew out of his mouth and over his head! Lord have mercy on us!

  • @Shesobold
    @Shesobold Год назад +10

    So many amazing sound bites in this conversation that can be applied to any sin that we struggle with. Great dialogue ❤

  • @cortneyholmes3839
    @cortneyholmes3839 Год назад +17

    ❤️❤️❤️ I wish the whole world could hear your testimony. ThankYou!!! 🙏🙏

  • @chanman201
    @chanman201 Год назад +25

    Thanks for sharing Matt. I hope to love my daughters and support them the through the love and compassion of Christ against the forces of this evil age.

  • @truegirl2anna
    @truegirl2anna Год назад +77

    This can also be applied towards any other sexual sin, particularly pornography. Such an amazing conversation!!! ❤❤

    • @Free1inhim
      @Free1inhim Год назад

      Even to any inordinate affection even food.

    • @Jaimmmiee
      @Jaimmmiee Год назад

      P o 20:24 😊 Thanks moThanks m😊😊Iki I nniii😊😊.

  • @lizsteving2054
    @lizsteving2054 Год назад +19

    What a powerful conversation for ALL of us Sinners! ❤

  • @dadfirstalways3578
    @dadfirstalways3578 Год назад +2

    Had to put it out here. I'm Mormon, however the power of the messages on this channel keeps bringing me back. Love you all!!

  • @troubledguest7401
    @troubledguest7401 Год назад +7

    Holy cow. This woman. This was SO powerful!!

  • @Kima344
    @Kima344 Год назад +18

    I feel so validated listening to her. Very similar situation

  • @gannonleonard
    @gannonleonard Год назад +8

    This was such a beautiful talk to watch and listen to. Thank you both so incredibly much sharing, opening and allowing everyone to listen. Thank you dearly for all of this! God bless!

  • @leacadia8791
    @leacadia8791 Год назад +8

    Thank you, Kim, for how beautifully vulnerable you are! This was such a wonderful interview!

  • @SuperSaiyanScandinavian
    @SuperSaiyanScandinavian Год назад +6

    this is truly a beautiful woman, sister, and daughter of Christ. your message is incredible and i will share it with my gay brother when i feel like the time is right. God bless you!

  • @MsCzechqueen
    @MsCzechqueen Год назад +2

    I am a one!!!! Now I listened to the rest of this and yes - I am one of those ones!!! You made me realize that in this journey I am stuck in fear and it’s been paralyzing me and pushing me away from Him, not to Him. I don’t know how yet, but I need to find His love so I can help my kids find it. Thank you for sharing all this.

  • @erravi
    @erravi Год назад +9

    I love Eden Invitation. What they are doing is so deeply needed in the Church today ❤️‍🔥

  • @timdillon8841
    @timdillon8841 Год назад +21

    I have been struggling intensely with SSA. I was touched when I was younger by another man and that perverse seed has stuck in my being.

    • @jacobecklund717
      @jacobecklund717 Год назад +9

      Praying for you Tim!

    • @roselove2983
      @roselove2983 Год назад

      God bless you, I will pray for your healing! ❤❤❤

  • @philipwiley273
    @philipwiley273 Год назад +4

    That talk about the struggle and desire to be unconditionally loved cuts right to the heart

  • @SL-es5kb
    @SL-es5kb 7 месяцев назад +2

    I relate so hard to her innate discomfort of taking on identities. It’s always been hard for me to even write a resume or professional bio cause it always felt wrong or not accurate!

  • @javierrubio343
    @javierrubio343 Год назад +3

    Can’t find words to this testimony! Maybe brutally honest and filled with the power of the Holy Spirit. I pray many listen to Kim with an open heart 🙏🏼

  • @DAmend3
    @DAmend3 Год назад +4

    Kim's take on our false identity and labeling is beautiful and rings to me as spot on. 🎉 I will try to emulate this.

  • @annforrer8445
    @annforrer8445 Год назад +17

    This testimony spoke to me about so many different things in my life....none of them about sexuality....but nonetheless....GOD SPOKE THROUGH THIS! Thank you Kim for allowing Jesus to take over....and boy is it BEAUTIFUL! ❤

  • @PAT201000
    @PAT201000 Год назад +6

    LOVE the phrase, "Weep for them before you speak with them."

  • @michaelpower6546
    @michaelpower6546 Год назад +6

    Dear lovely fellow Catholics she shows us the spiritual charismatic gifts are real in our church Too

  • @jamesgilbert7841
    @jamesgilbert7841 Год назад +1

    This is a great interview. I am moved by how Kim Zember is grounded in Scripture.

  • @kirkmulhearn7931
    @kirkmulhearn7931 Год назад +2

    One of the best interviews, yet. Great job here…Kim’s honesty and transparency was refreshing and really important at this key point in the gender scandal storm going on right, now,

  • @Matt_Reinhart
    @Matt_Reinhart Год назад +26

    I was most moved by Kim talking about how she wish she had been loved when she was younger. I'm sure her mom did her absolute best that she could. Whatever capacity of love that I'm lacking in I want to work on that so that my kids aren't hurt by me

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Год назад +1

    • @cargopilotguy305
      @cargopilotguy305 Год назад

      I honestly think she’s just a narcissist. By her own account it sounds as though she was loved very much by her family AND her ex husband. She just didn’t care. She wanted to have sex with women more.

    • @Matt_Reinhart
      @Matt_Reinhart Год назад +3

      @@cargopilotguy305 I think she might agree with you. Although I think by your definition we would all be narcissists. After all, we do all have wounds that we chose to try to fill with things besides God. But that is an interesting take nonetheless.

    • @cargopilotguy305
      @cargopilotguy305 Год назад +1

      @@Matt_Reinhart she met a man and when she met him she was sleeping with women. Then she dated him and kept sleeping with women. Then she confessed she cheated but intentionally lied to his face about being gay. Then she married him and never wanted to have sex with him or have children. Then she violated two marriages. Then, while admittedly carrying on a full dating relationship with a married woman, leaves her husband.
      She toyed with that man’s life so cruelly. I can hardly imagine a more selfish and cruel sequence of acts.
      And then what finally makes her realize she’s been doing something wrong is when the woman she cheated on her husband with, who was also cheating on her own husband, cheated on Kim a year later.
      It’s just…it’s unbelievable. She’s an actual nightmare.

    • @alvinmarshall9446
      @alvinmarshall9446 Год назад

      Her mom had two boys and a tomboy and a husband to care for. Definitely she couldnt possibly be everything to everyone.

  • @marabarnet6789
    @marabarnet6789 Год назад +3

    Amazing lady, incredible interview, God bless her and help her spread her healing message.

  • @mbfelty
    @mbfelty Год назад +1

    Thank you! This was such a great discussion. Kim, your advice will help us more lovingly navigate discussions on SSA with our adult children in the future. Please keep speaking out in love, kindness and truth! God Bless!

  • @PraiseofMercy
    @PraiseofMercy Год назад +26

    Preach it, girl! I wish I could give this 100 likes! THIS is the message that needs to permeate the whole Church and world!

  • @undolf4097
    @undolf4097 Год назад +10

    I don’t have SSA but many of these lessons connect with other parts of my life and I find this inspiring and reassuring that they are overcomable with God

  • @paulbrooks539
    @paulbrooks539 Год назад +3

    I was watching this video, and when she gave her testimony of when she gave her life to God, I chose to save this video. I clicked the link and it said “saved.” Thank you.

  • @sara_haines1328
    @sara_haines1328 Год назад +1

    Kim thank you so much. What a beautiful soul. Thank you for so openly and poignantly sharing on identity!

  • @ann5028
    @ann5028 Год назад +12

    I can’t tell you how much I appreciate people like Kim. Absolutely no BS and so real.
    I have such a hard time taking the fluffy “Matthew Kelly” Catholics seriously. No shade I just find it so fake

  • @maryfitzpatrick6179
    @maryfitzpatrick6179 Год назад +4

    Wow, an amazing interview/ talk. Thanks Matt for inviting Kim on your show. God Bless you both. Kim you are a beautiful daughter of Christ who loves you. 🙏❤

  • @SenorJungle
    @SenorJungle Год назад +7

    Kim said something that snuck in around 2:02:20. “It’s not on your shoulders (on sitting with someone/comforting them) God wants them more than you do”. Beautiful to stop and really ponder on.

  • @ladyj3474
    @ladyj3474 Год назад +1

    GREAT!! Thank you so much Kim Zember, you are a MAVERICK and so needed now. God bless you.

  • @thetorinado2697
    @thetorinado2697 Год назад +9

    Matt, I’m so thankful you had Kim on the show ❤️ she’s one of my very favorite people and role models.

  • @diannewinfordart
    @diannewinfordart Год назад

    Kim's emphasis on true identity is so important. I know that after this conversation, I will be passing on this inner necessity more to my grandchildren. As a widow, my companionship with Christ, which grew greatly over many years, has so mitigated the difficult spectrum of feelings that come after the death of a close one. One cannot always be connected or married, so it has been the greatest of comforts that Christ is my constant and that he is enough for me. I am not a Catholic, but really love these discussions on Pints.

  • @jensmith9009
    @jensmith9009 Год назад +16

    Thank you for this! I'm going through this right now.

    • @catholicmurph7707
      @catholicmurph7707 Год назад +3

      Right on. God bless you. I know it can be difficult to overcome temptation and desire, but all things are possible with Our Beloved Lord. I hope the very best for you in all your struggles and triumphs.

    • @roselove2983
      @roselove2983 Год назад +2

      God bless you ❤❤❤

  • @clarad7669
    @clarad7669 Год назад +2

    I am loving this conversation. Still have an hour to go and really glad there is more to listen to. So much truth and about God's love. So helpful.

  • @lrdmrs
    @lrdmrs Год назад +7

    Thank you Matt for this interview! As a woman with SSA I find that most of the ressources online are more centered around male homosexuality, so it is refreshing to hear another woman’s perspective and life story regarding SSA! God bless you both xx

  • @charlottejorge1495
    @charlottejorge1495 Месяц назад

    I'm also from Fallbrook. I was shocked when you said you lived there. No one knows where it is, and it is beautiful.

  • @izabelablawat6107
    @izabelablawat6107 Год назад +3

    Kim I Love You I am happy to hear Your testimony..thank You so much ❤❤❤ God is so good!!!!!!!!!

  • @jonboatwright7777
    @jonboatwright7777 Год назад

    Powerful interview! Raw and uplifting. Love Kim so much. Glory to Jesus Christ.

  • @TheCathyWAFFLE
    @TheCathyWAFFLE Год назад +6

    Great show as always! Ordered some Sacred Heart stickers and so disappointed that they never arrived, trying to work with Spring hasnt helped too much 😢 Just wanted some stickers to give to my husband for Fathers Day.

  • @Gonts64
    @Gonts64 Год назад +1

    Excellent conversation!
    I will be re-listening to this one, then sharing with a loved one.

  • @timrichardson4018
    @timrichardson4018 Год назад +4

    On the point about finding God's love in a protestant church, I feel that. I'm a new Catholic convert from protestantism. I may be saying this out of sympathy for my protestant upbringing, but I think many protestants have the heart of the gospel completely right, more than many Catholics in some cases. But the Catholic Church holds the fullness of the gospel (even if it has been a poor communicator of it at times), and the authority of Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit who leads it into all truth. I am Catholic because I became convinced about Christ's authority in the Catholic Church. But man, I truly think the people of the Church could learn much from our protestant brothers and sisters.

  • @rachellewood813
    @rachellewood813 2 месяца назад

    This is such a great conversation! I can connect with so many things she says! God is good! ✝️
    May the Lord bless and keep you both 🙏🏽

  • @SacredXypna
    @SacredXypna Год назад +3

    I used to be bisexual and non binary but since accepting Jesus that all just kinda fell away, though that could have also been the fear of God's judgement. It might have been both, love and fear. I'm a woman and my first "love" was with a woman who was a mentally ill spirit channeling median, though looking back it was a close loving friendship that was twisted by lust, and I truly think the spirit of lust came into me through that relationship. We were only romantic for 3 months before she broke it off but it permanently altered me and the spirits we summoned together attached to me and controlled me for years. She hurt me badly and unknowingly left me to the spirits to be tormented. Anger, addiction, depression, anxiety, paranoia, witchcraft, and lust all ruled over me for years. It was only after being saved...which is it's own long story involving the actual devil coming into my life...and learning about influencing spirits that I realized that I was never really bisexual or non-binary or a sexually perverse person but someone who was traumatized and taken over by dark spirits.

  • @undergrace_6.14
    @undergrace_6.14 Год назад +2

    Kim...thank you for sharing your beautiful testimony and journey 🙌🏻 ❤ 🙏🏻

  • @christianstephens7213
    @christianstephens7213 Год назад +2

    Kims testimony is incredible , how do you begin to live this out in a Catholic context .

  • @gailmiller5226
    @gailmiller5226 Год назад +2

    Thank you…this Kim is amazing and expresses herself so succinctly😊❤️🙏🏻