Jennette McCurdy - “I’m Glad My Mom Died” | The Daily Show
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2022
- Author Jennette McCurdy discusses how her relationship with her mother is far more common among child stars than is known, why she believes the message in her memoir “I’m Glad My Mom Died” is worth sharing despite potential backlash, and her return to the entertainment industry as a writer, podcaster, and director. #DailyShow #Comedy
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This is why Trevor has won awards as an interviewer! He actually read the book, was prepared and asked all the right questions. Then on top of everything he knew how to make Janette comfortable so she was able to share. 10/10 Trevor!
I was thinking the same thing. Trevor is obviously very familiar with the book.
It's also the empathy that I don't feel from other interviewers. Trevor really feels like he has thought about it in his own lens and then so he has these very deep questions that are not the usual stuff from like The Today Show or other talk shows.
Yes I initially did not think he could replace Stewart. Now I can't imagine the show without him.
He's the best! Also he actually does CARE! Makes all the difference...
Totally agree
It made me cry how sensitive and thoughtful and caring he was to her. He’s the perfect interviewer for this book
Me too. He handled this with such grace.
honestly he was so sweet and gracious
He's so gifted. ❤️
I thought it was just me who noticed. I immediately felt emotional. This is excellent
Ok now I don’t feel as bad for crying after this interview! Both such genuine souls.
She was so surprised that he went that deep in thought. She knew he could never have asked such questions without delving deep into her story. It also seemed like she realized more from their conversation. It was real.
Every piece of media I’ve seen Trevor in makes me respect him more and more. One question I think would have been interesting to ask would be about her earrings. As someone who’s worked with children, I noticed they’re very ‘play-skool’ style plastic chains and I wonder how conscious of a choice that was for her to wear them.
That's the difference between Jennette's appearance here and the other ones she did for this book. Trevor knows how to get the people he's interviewing to elaborate but not cross the line into being intrusive, where other interviews she's done have felt intrusive.
@@waynepolo6193 uh no? She has enough to think about without having to worry about what she wears. They were there to discuss her work NOT psychoanalyze her fashion - that would have been SUPER intrusive to ask. That's for her therapist to bring up IF AT ALL. Geez, go watch Wendy Williams to get your jollies from making people uncomfortable.
To be honest, I’m not surprised that she was surprised, because I think press tours can get grueling. You get a lot of the same questions over and over AND OVER again.
There’s a wonderful interview I love to watch of Mila Kunis that highlights this. The interviewer was brand new to the job and incredibly nervous, and in stumbling through the interview made Mila laugh a bunch. She was clearly expecting the same ole questions she’d been getting, but upon hearing him apologize she said “No please continue, this is so much fun!”
This interview of Trevor’s has a very different feel, but elicits a similar response. “Oh, you’re talking to me off script. This is nice!”
I’m glad for that, makes for an enjoyable experience for everyone.
i love jennette so much!❤
"The book is about dealing with THE IDEA OF A MOM and your ACTUAL mom"... I'll share that with my therapist as my own words and I'm sure she'll be proud 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Your next therapy session will be about dealing with THE IDEAS YOU STOLE FROM JENNETTE MCCURDY and your ACTUAL ideas.
😭 Only kidding, go for it. If those words nail what you feel, you should use them!
😂
🤣🤣🤣
That comment is a gut punch realization. I think everyone grapples with the ideal image of their mom versus recognizing that they're not perfect and may have hurt you.
😂😂😂
Trevor is hands down, the best interviewer on tv. He let's his guests feel out the question, gives them the complete platform, and makes jokes when they're appropriate and well fitted. He doesn't feel the need to have the camera on him at all times and make everything funny all of the time. It's an honest conversation, focused on the guest instead of him shadowing and looking for an easy way to interrupt, so refreshing. You can always tell that he's at least read a few chapters out of the guest's books, too, if not the whole thing. I saw clips of when she went on Jada Smith's show with Williow and the mother, and Jennette read her mom's viscous email insulting her and even though it's vile and always shocking to think that someone's own parent could intentionally abuse their child like such, they all reacted like it was their first time hearing it, like none of them read the book, which just doesnt allow for them to ask more vulnerable and deeper questions concerning the topic!
He actually read the books the authors write, unlike many host.....and it shows.
And to think Trev is not even some humanities graduate/post yet so incisive in his probing.
I had the same reaction when seeing that part of the red table talk. However, I will say they mentioned it was sold out/hard to get ahold of at that point and wondered if that was why…?
Again he took a big risk because Viacom CBS owns both Nickelodeon and Comedy Central which means they own Trevor's show I really hope he doesn't get cancel
@@thinkingoutloud3358 I would think if she's going on the show they would have all been provided with a copy by the publisher- possibly even ahead of the actual release date. I know they send advanced copies out to libraries early, sometimes even 6 months early, if my librarian friend is to be believed. But it's Hollywood, so who knows.
After finishing the book, I have been watching interviews. This is - by far - the only intelligent, informed, and sophisticated one I have come across that not only brings about a better understanding for readers, but also for McCurdy herself. Trevor Noah deserves every accolade he has received, and Jennette McCurdy deserves all the respect and credit she has received for writing her story.
You should also watch her interview with Drew Barrymore. Their experiences have some parallels and Drew asked some great questions and had great insights. I would say she and Trevor did the best interviews with Jennette.
The Red Table Talk interview is also done very well.
100% agree! Watched various interviews after finishing the book and his approach was by far the best!!
I agree. I just bought it yesterday and am only halfway through it but I'm just so impressed by her bravery and candor. The title caught my eye because I never imagined I'd see the words I think so often in my head. I was not a child star in any sense of the word, but emotionally I'm reading my own story.
agree
This interview is ALMOST as incredible as the book itself. Highly recommend the audiobook version with Jennette reading it. You can tell this interview helped heal some remaining wounds for her , it felt like we just witnessed a therapy session. 10/10 Trevor
I listened to the audiobook and I want to listen again. I loved hearing her narrate.
wow i was reading the book myself but may buy the audiobook
@@stormchii it's totally worth it!
that's how i plan to read the book the second time when i finally finish it. to hear it in her voice is going to be riveting and therapeutic.
Thank you for the recommendation! Great idea!
She is so eloquently spoken, I’m glad she made the decision to be a writer. both her book and the majority of her interviews make me emotional
One of the things I've learned through processing my own trauma is that there are a subsection of people out there who process trauma through trying to find the right words that accurately describe what it was like to be in that situation because we just really want to be understood.
After reading her book, I believe that McCurdy is probably one of those people too. I read so many metaphors and phrases in that book that echoed the ones I used to try to describe my own narcissistic mother and the abuse I experienced from her, and seeing that on paper in a book that's been so wildly successful and lauded really helps to make me feel my experience can be understood by others.
I have the utmost respect for her for having the mental and emotional fortitude to do what it must have taken to get this book written.
Major Respect to Jennette McCurdy
She kinda annoying
I downloaded her book. It’s next on my queue.
@@msgaileidman6317 asked?
I think we can all agree Trevor was born to do this. It affirms that interview hosts don't have to be all insensitive and brutally intrusive to the guest to achieve the objective. Well done 👍
Yes, a lot of interviewers try to get you emotional and shed a tear or two when discussing these sorts of topics.
1000%
Wow. It’s uplifting that she didn’t become another childhood star tragedy. She’s obviously highly intelligent and simultaneously grounded. I’m glad she got the help she needed.
She did the work.
But I am often blown away by her intelligence & honestly, her whole aura. She’s so emotionally mature…it’s what we’d all hope to strive towards!
I was almost in tears when Jennette had to stop herself and just thank Trevor for his line of questioning. No drama, no pressure for click-baity sound bites, just someone who actually read the book and cares.
Also, her eloquence is something I aspire to have one day. Such a great interview, it could be an hour long and I'd watch it the whole way through.
I’m also glad she’s happy now
Jennette talking about spinning tragedy into comedy reminds me a lot of Trevor's book and standup. Trevor turned police unlawfully destroying his property into a hilarious story. He turned his mom being shot in the head and having no insurance into some of the funniest standup he's ever done.
Some comedians are the sadest people. Somehow I knew this when I was a child watching Robin Williams. I knew deep down that man's eyes were sad af.
I thought of that too. I liked how despite the clear connection he didn't really even mention it though, he just related but didn't make it about his trauma.
@@traceh4693 I find so many similarities between the storytelling in his book and Jennette's, from the comedy down to the impression of their respective mothers in the audiobook. This despite the fact that the stories are COMPLETELY different and the relationship between the author and their mother is the exact opposite.
and props to him for not turning this interview about his experience and letting her share. Super impressed by this interview
Do you mind linking or telling me the title of the vids about Trevor and Police or when he addressed his moms story? I would like to watch.
It is a great message to send because I have a terrible relationship with my mother. And everybody tells me "but she's still your mother"
I used to tell myself that about my mother. It's a terrible message, we put up with far too much because of that mentality.
That makes me glad that I never discussed my own difficult relationship with my mother with other people, when it was ongoing. Because in my place of clarity now, looking back, that's a real "no hope" thing to say to someone.
I'm stuck on that need for forgiveness. To me forgivness it's for someone who is sorry.
I could have forgiven in a second with one apology. I can make sense of forgiveness freeing you. I don't think every single person has to forgive to be freed and heal themselves.
I felt freed already when I came to understand her mental instability and issues with her own childhood.
Just because your own pain is real, that not excuse your behavior that wounded me.
It does explain your behavior.
Meaning that all this time, it was always your problem.
Not mine.
I did nothing to deserve your behavior towards me.
That light bulb moment of realization instantaneously
freed me.
@@eileencastillo6323 forgiveness is the relief of the victim's pain, it is not a permission slip for the wrongdoer.
People does NOT understand that not ALL mothers are loving ones.
Only the people that have complicated and not loving parents understand this issue.
Do not expect people to understand what you are talking about .
@@spider-woman9482 it can be and it can be toxic too
Yasss she’s normalizing that not all of us have this big love for our parents/family
"Yasss she's normalizing" 💀
@@kr6productions humor is a coping mechanism
@@kr6productions We have to laugh lest we be miserable for the rest of our lives
FINALLY! His questions were exactly what she's been waiting for! A clear understanding of the book (showcasing that he has read it and grasped what she was trying to express) as well as questions that allow her to delve deeper into her thoughts and understanding as opposed to answering the same tired questions about the title of the book and why the industry is hard to manage. Loved this! and her :)
She is so well spoken. Great interview.
and it always comes across so gracefully and relatable even if your own situation differs drastically from her situation. Goodness
Great interview. I love the moments where you can tell she was impressed and grateful for Trevor’s questions and genuine insight. I also thought the meme he described was hilarious!
I was going to say precisely that…may be a slightly different way. Now that you have it covered, I’m going back to brushing my teeth🤣
@@muferihatabduljelil3518 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@muferihatabduljelil3518 🤣
@@muferihatabduljelil3518 Legend has it that you're still brushing your teeth! 😅
@@itsafunnyoldworld 🤣🤣
Jeez...I could not be more blown away by her...such emotional intelligence and self-awareness. She's going to be so successful as a director, a completely unique perspective ❤
she actually directed a short film (i think it’s called Jerry?) it can be found on her yt!
What makes you think she's emotionally intelligent?
@@dasein9980 The interview you just watched might be the reason for that, I can’t tell for sure.
She felt so heard and seen by him. Incredible interview! ❤
Wow, this interview is something different. Not only Trevor's eloquent questions, but Jenettes answers and explanations are so honest, mindful, funny and for a TV show unusually vulnerable.
I went through this too. It takes a long time to not take my parents personally, emotionally. It was their issues. My sister and I support each other, and we use lots of humor. I am glad she wrote this book!😊
ruclips.net/video/pr22GzCT5vU/видео.html is final here
Im going through the same and you are so right, I always have to kinda remind myself that its my mothers issue and not mine. Im an adult now, and not the child that was living under her influence. Glad your sister and you can support eachother, sure gives more strength. My sister is exact the same as my mom and sometimes they come both against me, to my brother I lost contact through my own will. But I have my own family now and that gives me alot of peace. Even though Im still progressing everything.
@@Lanadya same situation love, older sister is basically same as my mom...black sheep
Wishing all kindred spirits peace
This is an EMMY AWARD winning interview. Trevor created an environment that we all wish for! He made it so safe for her. I dare say it's PRICELESS to feel seen with this type of humanity!Lessons so deep ... Insightful, thoughtful, and mindfulness. He actually made me feel included and invested in really understanding her story. So often I've wanted to know the answers to those questions, but didn't feel safe enough to ask without feeling that I really didn't have the right to ask....
With tears of joy I say thank you @TrevorNoah.
Abusive mothers are more common than we would like to imagine.
Great interview! 👏🏾
True because no one is perfect especially mothers and so any mistake they make with us can be considered abuse or toxic in a way in our minds
@@telikaandfam not “in a way” or “in our minds” allot of times it’s actual abuse.
So very true
@@telikaandfam
No, there's a real difference on moms making mistakes because no one is perfect and abuse and people like you with comments like this are part of the problem not many dare to talk about it and name things what they are.
@@telikaandfam gross. You just called abuse "a mistake" and "in our minds". There are new parent mistakes then there is forgetting that kids are PEOPLE not just toys/pets/accessories. Stop invalidating abuse survivors. Or are you deflecting from personal experience of being called out youself?
I lost my mom last year and we had a very very complicated relationship. I’ve been dealing with so many conflicting emotions that Jennette expressed that she also went through. I’ve felt alone and like something was wrong with me for not being able to forgive my mom and that maybe everything was even my fault. Thank you so much Jennette for writing this book.
It is all karmic. We were all born to resolve past karma. Forgiveness is the first step to illumination and liberation.
Aum!
You’re not alone. There are many of us.
I identify. It is a long journey..esp when they die
Trevor is the best at interviewing. Having the guest wow his questions. Shows other host not to be afraid to ask tough questions or think of better questions not just softballs. I enjoy Trevor asking the questions I would imagine a lots is us would like to hear and that makes us know the human side and how celebrities really are in real life
He and Chris Van Vliet are my favourite interviewers to watch. Very intellectual and articulate. They know what and HOW to ask the right questions that don’t make their guests uncomfortable or offended.
He's a Pisces.... we (I'm a Pisces of course)have a knack for at least trying to understand another person's point of view!!
This interview just… you can tell he was asking all the right questions. That moment where she tells him she respects him had me crying. The whole interview had a very tender tone ❤
I had a toxic mom (although not as bad as hers) and by biggest takeaway from therapy was this: “The only person you owe forgiveness is yourself.”
Our culture seems to have conflated forgiveness and absolution. I NEVER have to have a relationship my mother again. I can make peace with what she put me through without involving her at all. I never have to be ok with that person to progress in my life and my healing.
thank you for sharing, it meant a lot
Finished the book a few days ago. All I have to say is; major respect to Jeannette McCurdy for being so courageous in writing this book. It was equal parts raw and brought an insight into a show I enjoyed watching as a kid. Also respect her for not taking the 'hush money'.
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Hope she's doing much better now.
You can see very clearly that she was not expecting to have an actual, honest conversation about HER story. Which I assume to be because a lot of talk shows have taken this book as an opportunity to get her to talk about "the creator" and Nickelodeon, and kind of glossing over the deep, personal stuff. Great interview, and I'm super happy to see her open up in this.
I listened to her interview on Andy Richter's podcast and it was almost comical how little he knew about her story, having not read the book. But it was still an interesting interview, and over an hour so that was cool. Nothing like this one though.
I don't usually take time out of my life to bother to know anything about anyone in show business. However, her book title caught my attention for a variety of reasons. It is nice to see SOMEONE within "that world" behaving like a typical person. Normally it is a lets see if I can make people love me, hate me, be jealous of me vibe you get from nearly everone. McCurdy is a breath of fresh air.
2 very intelligent human beings. I wish them nothing but the best
I've watched many interviews with her, and this was by far the best.
Edit: I've already watched the one with Drew Barrymore. I just like this interview with Travor better.
Whitney Cummings had a wonderful interview with Jennette, a great mix of somber and funny.
Watch the one with Drew Barrymore!
Check out her interview with Drew barrymore!
He's a better interviewer-makes sense.
I burst into tears reading the book, I related so much to it in how complicated my relationship with my mom is. Im so glad she shared it with us
💖💔🙏
She had amazing answers to all the questions and you can tell she really has a sense of clarity about life. I really appreciate her outlook and reflextion of her past situation and she clearly has a great therapist.
Jenette is such an intelligent and eloquent person. She’s not only hilarious and she is also so emotionally intelligent and offers brilliant observations of the world. I am so excited to see what she does next and I sincerely hope that people will continue to support her journey and show her the same amount of love she’s getting now.
Excellent interview. Trevor's insightful questions and Jennette's genuine appreciation of that insight, along with the personal and honest responses was really special to watch. It made me want to read the book and I had no intention of reading it prior to watching the show. Again excellent interview.
Me too, definitely want to read that book now.
@@elizabethwade9615 Cool! I already referred it to a friend and she's stoked to read it too!
I read the book in a day and I definitely recommend! It was really entertaining and which is unbelievable for a book where she’s telling such a painful story
I Love that this took place. Trevor is such a great interviewer. And I know he said in the past he really truly does read the books before the person gets interviewed. He reads them cover to cover before the interview and it shows because he actually knows what he's talking about it doesn't ask simple questions that you can get the answer to from the inside flap and he always ask very interesting questions and keeps it still light and enjoyable. I really liked that she was genuinely impressed and grateful for the questions he was asking and I can tell that he was genuinely impressed and interested in doing this interview with her. I've been waiting for her to be on his show for a while now since the book came out this is cool I'm so happy with this I wish there was a longer version of this interview that they did together that would be even better I would totally watch a full hour of the an interview between the two of them
honestly that's my favorite thing about Trevor's interviews. you can _tell_ that he has actually read the book, because he has very thoughtful questions and commentary that just wouldn't be possible if he was only going off the quick summary from whatever intern read it for him. it shows how much respect he has for his guests.
Love this. I had an abusive mother and know exactly what she's talking about with the societal stigma vs. the reality, and the confusion that creates. So glad she shared her story. 🙏
The grace she is walking with is beautiful! My father is a narcissist and my mom has high narcissistic traits - and the journey of healing is so incredibly intense and hard to describe to someone who doesn’t get it. Regardless of show business or not, healing from childhood trauma is huge. Much love to this sister.
iCarly was one of the shows I watched most as a kid. It wasn't a masterpiece (and it wasn't trying to be) but it was entertaining and made me laugh. It's been really upsetting hearing all the things that Jennette had to go through and the toxic environment she was subjected to. There have been allegations for years about the showrunner being abusive and sexualizing the children. But having Jennette write a book and do interviews all about it is really brave of her. I was sad to hear that she stepped away from acting and wouldn't even appear in the new iCarly, but I don't blame her one bit. While disappointed that I won't get to see her on screen anymore, I'm much more relieved that she's prioritizing her mental health and appearing to find herself. Really proud of her
My daughter grew up on iCarly and she is feeling much the same way about all of this. There should definitely be more child advocates in Hollywood.
There's alot of toxic things in Dan Schneider's shows that are suspicious that hint at the sexualization of kids.
Again this is why I say Trevor took a really big risk in doing this interview and that's because Viacom CBS owns both Nickelodeon and Comedy Central. Which means Viacom owns Trevor show I really hope he doesn't get canceled
@@mayflower7811 he won't get canceled. Dan Schneider is owerful but he can be canceled if Trevor gets canceled.
@@mariee.5912 If that's the cast then all of Viacom should be canceled
Powerful book title.
You’re a survivor Jennette
I hope your healing process continues
I’m so glad Jennette is a writer especially after her mom discouraged her from pursuing it growing up, you can tell she’s worked very hard and I’m glad she’s here today
An interview where the host asks meaningful questions and then actually listens and doesn't interrupt. Very well done Noah
Trevor is really underrated as an interviewer - this was great! (I've seen a couple of interview with her for the book and I think this was the most insightful by far).
I.love how he handled Kellyanne.
This one and the one she did with Amanpour & Co. were fantastic, in the other one she was also blown away by the depth and thoughtfulness of the questions. It's also longer and goes a little more in-depth, but no one brings the humor quite like Trevor Noah can.
@@opthomas09 will have to check it out :-)
Yes; he asks deeply thoughtful questions.
Trevor’s got that knack for sincerity that’s rare to find in others.
I think all show hosts are capable of it. Colbert when he talks to Anderson Cooper, even Corden when it's about England or football, Kimmel about his son's health issues and healthcare in general. But you're right in that Trevor can be sincere in more flexible situations
When you have a parent like that, death sets you free from them. Amazing interview
I absolutely loved the book, it moved me immensely. I don’t have much in common with Jennette, but I did have a complicated relationship with my dad (who was very religious and passed away when I was 29), and I can definitely relate to feelings of being set aside, while other people were allowed to shine. It’s something I still struggle with to this day. Jennette’s book made me feel less alone, less “selfish” for wanting things for myself, you know?
I’m glad Trevor treated her so well and respectfully. 🥰
Also. I’m so impressed with Jennette, her responses are so emotionally intelligent and well-formulated. Like, I get that she’s a writer and that she obviously is very articulate - she wrote a whole book - but still. She’s not floundering or trying to be funny about all this, she’s so cool. ❤
She's so brilliantly articulate.
Great interview
Trevor is such a genuine and classy interviewer. I always love his guest segments. 👏
McCurdy is correct. Abusive mothers toward daughters are far more common than we would want to admit. The abuse extends beyond show business. Sometimes forgiveness never comes -- I'm 70 -- and still waiting.
Hugs
I've pretty much seen every Interview on Jennette's press tour and this is by far the best interview. Trevor asked question nobody else thought of and, more importantly, let her speak! She has such an amazing mind and is an incredibly strong person and he helped her truly shine. Loved this
This is why I adore and respect Trevor Noah. So nuanced and empathetic and articulate with so many difficult situations
He was truly the right pick to follow Jon Stewart, and I'm grateful for his insight into the world
I watched this video on accident and Im so glad I did. I really feel like Trevor has found his flow. Such a great interviewer
Well said.
Agreed. I remember his first appearance as the new host. It didn't feel natural. But then again, stepping into those big shoes can't feel natural. I'm so glad I gave him the benefit of the doubt. There were so many negative comments back then but looking at him now.. I dare say, he's John's equal if not his superior.
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Thanks for the recommendation I've been trading by
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This book was just… perfection. So well balanced. Devoured in two days by me.
Jennette has come so far in her healing and it's wonderful to see. I'm so glad she wrote the book to share with us her journey, and to make trauma a bit less shameful. Also, props to Trevor for his questions.
I have so much respect for Jennette. I grew up with a narcissistic mother who tried to live vicariously through me and my sister. Although her goals were all about going out drinking and finding a rich husband to then cheat on and take all of his money. It was like the movie Heartbreakers. So I understand what it's like to have a mother who wasn't actually a mother figure.
❤
I have been WAITING for this duo
My only complaint was that it was too short!
I’m almost done with the audiobook of I’m Glad My Mom Died, read by Jeannette McCurdy. There was a line where she kept the recording of her becoming hit with emotion as she reads about her 22-year-old self beginning to recognize her mom as not the perfect person she was always taught to view her as and you can hear the tears welling up in her voice. Such a raw thing to include and just makes me want to give her a hug. 😢
That part stuck with me too! 😢
Trevor Noah: Were you worried that people would turn on you?
Jennette: Even if they did, it was a message worth sharing.
That's a fantastic answer!
It has been 12 years since my mom passed. Although I wasn’t a teen star, I have many similarities to Jennette. I had to keep quiet about it for a long time because everyone. “Loved” who they thought she was and it was hard. I eventually came to a place of accepting my conflicting feelings towards her and my being glad is because it freed me up to exist outside of her shadow and expectations.
My mom passed in July. I did her funeral. I was amazed seeing her through other’s eyes. She was an absolute saint in her relationships with others and helped a lot of people. It’s part of the narcissist personality disorder. I’m able to forgive her because I understand her mental health issues didn’t allow her to truly see her own behavior with her children. Forgiving doesn’t take the hurt away it just puts everything in perspective.
Her bravery is so amazing. She is so strong and kind and passionate and intelligent. She has had to put up with so much cruelty and dehumanization/objectification. Its such a relief to see her free and able to sit up tall and smile with her eyes :)
Well wishes to Jennette
I just finished the book. It was…whoa!!! Eye opening. And, I love how Jennette expressed the complexities.
After seeing, like, one interview about this book, I've been actively avoiding all interviews on it, because I knew that they'd all just be trash focused on the sensationalist details. As soon as I saw this interview, I couldn't click fast enough. Trevor is an incredibly intelligent and compassionate person, and that's absolutely crucial when handling this sort of content. He recognized that Jeanette had something worth saying, and he gave her the opportunity to say it. You can see how excited she is, finally talking to someone who actually understands the real significance of what she's trying to tell us.
Great interview! Trevor I love how you express empathy with your questions. By far the best interviewer I’ve seen!!
I have seen a few interviews with her and I am glad to see her interviewed by people who are compassionate and thoughtful like Trevor was here. 💕
Watching a conversation between the authors of my two favorite books (both of which caused me to fundamentally change as a person) genuinely brought me to tears.
I love her, there is not enough material about the life some children live not realizing they were in abusive relationships with their parents, and even if the parent was abusive there is still that mutual care and feeling of being loved, it is so complex, because if you say you can't outwardly say you hate your parents because a part of you does not, you can't, not everything was bad and awful and yet there is so much hurt and resentment.
Trevor is an amazing interviewer. It's so difficult to ask the hard and deep questions without making the guest feel uncomfortable. Shoutout to Jennette for speaking up
At first I thought it was gonna mirror my situation where my mom was a beautiful soul, who was suffering for so many years with home dialysis, losing bothers and being stuck in her hospital bed for so many years... it was a conflicting time when she died and my step-dad and I who did her at home dialysis really struggled with the relief when she died. Grief of course for our loss but also glad that her suffering was over. :-(
That's another really complicated experience that isn't spoken about enough. It's so hard to grapple with the guilt of feeling like death is the preferable outcome for a loved one. I know the "relief" you're speaking of.
Your relief is different. It's relief based on love that your mom didn't have to suffer anymore. I missed my mom terribly when she died but was happy there was no more pain for her.
Just came from finishing her audiobook. I’ve already seen this interview, but seeing it again after hearing her story from her own words makes it even more intriguing.
I am gonna miss Trevor doing interviews. He really reads the books and does his research. Also his way of asking questions and talking to his guest. He is my favourite late night host for this reason and his humour. I could watch him doing interviews for hours. I feel like values his guests so much.
She's a very intelligent and perceptive woman. Notice how she made a pause to praise Trevor and state her respect for him before describing the interview with a guy full of make up. So Trevor would not take it personal
Thanks. So happy to see Jennette on TDS. Her book is amazing and her survival story needs to be shared. Love her.
"...you dealing with the idea of a mom and how that competes or conflicts with your actual mom." Gold.
This interview made me cry for so many reasons. I have an abusive mother that I no longer have a relationship with, and her name happens to be Jeanette. So seeing Jennette, someone I admired growing up, I couldn't have imagined she went through what I did and this reality that has made me feel so isolated for so long. It's just so. so. so. amazing to feel like I'm not alone and feel like my experience can be part of a larger conversation rather than something to be ashamed of and hide. And seeing her gratitude for Trevor put me over the edge. I've seen some of the other interviews she's referring to and yes, they don't fully "get" her message and the way they even approach the topic puts her on the defensive, reasonably. So for Jennette to feel seen and understood and be approached by Trevor with compassion while talking about her journey is so beautiful to see. This conversation honestly role models a way to engage with someone sharing something vulnerable not only for journalists but for everyone.
I am so happy you brought her on the show! The subject she presents of mothers being on a sometimes undeserving pedestal is something that needs to be brought up. I feel for her, and I hope she is still continuing to heal.
I was waiting for Jennette to appear on a ViacomCBS show. I was wondering if there would be a company-wide mandate to not book her, but I'm so glad it seems that there's not. This interview is important.
this lady did what her mom didnt want her to do and thats GROW UP now that her mom is gone shes living her truth...PERFECT TITLE Bless her
You can see when someone really cares about the interviewee and not the “clickbait” moments like asking about the ariana grande things that aren’t really the point. Trevor really just proves what a great interviewer he is again and again.
Her book is incredible, I just finished listening to it. Hearing the book from her voice makes you really understand her.
Agreed. The part towards the end where she nearly breaks down in tears is something I've never heard in a autobiography audiobook.
@@mezzodave Yes, so true. She's absolutely right, we all have such different relationships with our parents and we have to be honest with ourselves when they're toxic to and for us.
This has to be one of my favorite interviews of Trevor’s. Just great vibes on both sides of the desk and such great questions
She is so amazing and is honestly truly making me want to go back to therapy. The way she speaks and her emotional intelligence is really inspiring for someone who has been through trauma
I'm so glad that you interviewed her. This is the first interview I'm seeing of her since reading her book. I'll never know what the showbiz world is like, but I was able to relate to so many of the experiences that she recounts in her book with her mom and other scenarios. The book brought me to tears several times and was very cathartic to me in many ways. I'm so grateful that more people are sharing their stories like this, it really helps many people feel less alone and more confident to share their own stories as well.
I've seen a few of Jennette's interviews but no one asked the kind of meaningful questions Trevor asked and you can tell she really appreciated this type of Q&A. Great interview.
A breath of fresh air. Such an amazing interview. Future reporters take note.
DUDE~ your empathy is as deep as the universes! TY for being raised by that sweet grandmother & for being an amazing human. Jennette McCurdy understood you understood her & I send her extra amazing vibrations for sharing her hurt and hope she continues to share and heal! (PS this interview made me realize it was time to read her book!)
One of the things I so appreciate about Jeannette McCurdy is that she makes it a point to thank the interviewer for their thoughtful questions. I’m sure she is aware of the difficulty of the topic and she makes it clear that the questions are okay and valuable to ask. It’s a rare gift and a compliment to how hard she has worked in therapy. Bravo Jennette!!! ❤
So glad I had the opportunity to see her tonight! She was so incredibly genuine that I totally forgot she was a celebrity
Trevor really is one of greatest, if not the best, interviewers in a generation. He's so thoughtful and asks such deep questions.
I loved her growing up and now having listened to her story on audiobook i can say that I am so proud of who she has become. This book is so powerful for others who have dealt with abuse in their household growing up. Its powerful in the sense we have seen Jennette McCurdy get through her grief and still be here. Several people needed to hear her words. I know that I did. I just hope she knows we all love her and accept her for who she is, and not who she was. I have followed her story for a long time. Ever since she had her issues with Nickelodeon and hearing about the death of her mother when she was barely an adult. And you could tell something more was going on for her. And then she started talking more about her life and doing podcasts and distancing herself from her child work. And I remember seeing the Vine she made, "Look what you did to me." It was sad. We didn't know how bad it was and what she went through. I admire her courage to talk about her personal and professional life like this and I hope that other child stars feel compelled to do the same. She told Nickelodeon no, I don't want your $300,000. All while dealing with a eating disorder as a result of her childhood trauma, which they contributed to making her character an intense lover of food. This woman is an inspiration. We love you Jennette!
when i first read the title, i thought "what an extreme title." and after i actually learned about the contents, i realised how privileged i was to have a decent mum
My gosh! I love how she did grew up and now I admire her as a woman. Kudos Jennette to you for your intelligence and for keeping true to your self even when you were suffering in your personal life. Love to you. Keep strong.
I really know how she feels. It is hard to talk about NOT having a great relationship with your mom to others. They blame you. It is weird when you are just a child. I found it a big taboo, so I stopped. I might write some poetry about it.
It is. I'm lucky. My sister and I can talk. She got the worst of it but neither of us got out undamaged.
Do it. I just finished Jennette's book and one of the important impressions it left me with was that writing can really help you process your issues. I'm determined to continue journaling more and expressing my feelings guilt-free without a filter so I can sort them better. Even when you don't share what you wrote with others, it can help YOU. But I hope you are able to express your experience to others in an environment that encourages your growth. ❤️🌱
Same I stopped complaining about my mum. People don’t want to hear it.
I feel angry towards her family and my dad, because she has always had this weird behaviour but they never corrected her. Now I’m the one who has to deal with her. Her family hardly speaks to her and my dad left her 30 years ago.
i loved everything about this interview. you can tell they are both so thoughtful and intentional with their words and grateful for one another’s time and energy. it’s so enjoyable to watch and learn from.
This right here was the best, most poignant interview I’ve seen thusfar with Jennette. Trevor gets it, he should be studied in all journalism classes in college for how to dig deep. I wish there was more time for him to go in depth with her, but the book is there for that.
My daughter's mother was her biggest bully for years. She told me about an incident once, and when I intervened it made it worse so she never mentioned it again and the bullying went on in quiet throughout her teen years. It only came to a relative end once she graduated high school and was no longer required to adhere to the weekly visitation schedule, finally opened up to me, and started getting therapy.
She's now reading Jeannette's book, and I sent her a link to this clip.
Thanks, Miss McC. 👍
thank you for sharing your interesting experience, I'm sure she is glad to have a dad like you.
@@puneetantaal9272 I'm glad to have a daughter like her.
I hope she's doing much better these days. I had a much better relationship with my dad than with mom. She kept relieving generations worth of trauma on us everyday growing up and was proud of it too. Then a couple of months ago my dad asked my sisters and I to be "friends" with our mom and join her activities. We have lives and families to run. So we said no, and were proud of it.
Everyone comments on this interview and brave author and you’re one of the insufferable people who makes it about them. You’re not unique and definitely not interesting
The thing people ignore is that someone being related to you doesn't mean you owe them your time or your tears. Not even a little. You deserve to protect your own happiness
Sorry your dad is an enabler
Very insightful. I just had an Aha moment. Thanks 🙏🏽
Totally understand where you coming from I hope you and your sister are doing well
Born: June 26, 1992 (age 30 years), she looks like she's 20...
Glad she's doing better now... hope the best for her!
I’m looking forward to reading this book. My dad died 10 years ago and while I love him dearly and miss him so much, I had a huge sense of relief when he died. I felt free. He was narcissistic and had major unprocessed traumas and terrible insight with no coping mechanism. He also was diabetic that was poorly managed because he refused to believe he was sick so between the mental anguish and uncheck sugars he would go into these scary fits of rage and we had to act like nothing happened. It was exhausting. It was also either to blame each other and kind of expect everyone else to give in than for him to apologize, it was a lot. Since he passed, I’ve done a lot of therapy and have gotten married, had a baby, moved out. When he passed I was almost 30, lived at home and was with my now husband at the time for 4 or 5 years and feeling like I was never going to move forward because trying to get my dad on board was going to be too taxing. I know he would’ve appreciated my husband eventually and he would’ve adored my son but the thought of what it would have taken to get there … I’m glad he’s gone too. I’m glad he’s free of his demons, that he’s at peace. I really appreciate Jeanette admitting and openly talking about something that it’s very hard and taboo to admit. I hope all the best for her, she deserves it.