I was 27 and fainted at work. The doctor congratulated me, before any test. I told him I wasn't active and then the ultradound show a cyst the size of a pomegranade.
@@cherrysmilesodaFar worse than that. Studies used to only be done on men in early medicine and so things like heart attacks are only accurate for men, women heart attacks have very different symptoms. I can excuse that cause it was early medicine and they didn’t know… what I can’t excuse is they were doing a recent study on women’s pain in the Uk, I believe, and the courts forced them to include trans women which means any results of that study are now useless
@@Catherine.Dorian. I know right??? I love to be a woman but my god its insane what we have to face in 2024 and counting. Even in cars, they were(?) tested on mens bodys which is why woman are more likely to be hurt in crashes. I could speak about it for hours but sadly that wont change anything. Its a long and exhausting way til we get anything close to equality
Happened to me as well (I was 27 too) my cyst was large. I mean 8.3 inches in diameter, large. The only thing setting me off was random sharp pains near my belly button, so I thought it was a hernia and told both my doctor and gynecologist about it. They gave me an ultrasound and had me on the first available surgery for removal of it. Thankfully, it was just 3 litters of water and tension of my cyst that was causing it. I couldn't do heavy lifting ( which is mainly what I do in my job), no sneezing, coughing, jumping, bending over, nothing. Why? My cyst was so big that it was close to rupturing. They barely caught it on time. I had it removed and went hone that same day... truthfully, I wanted to go to work, but my boss scolded me. I went the next day and so on, though. I hate not doing anything. She gave me light work but still work nonetheless.
@@Seto_KaibaX you got out the next day?! I had to have a fibroid removed, which I just consider a larger cyst… I was given a surgery like a c-section and could barely do anything for six weeks. It’s still a weak area
No there's a possibility of contamination of sperm into the vagina during certain sexual acts. Sperm can swim and live in the female body for up to three days.
It's scary how many commenters here have obviously not had any proper sexual education. This is definitely possible, albeit exceedingly rare, and is definitely taught in proper sex Ed classes. Should the semen get near the vaginal opening, the sperm WILL do their best to reach and fertilize an egg.
Well, most people in the us, the last decade+ have been taught "abstinence only sex education" so they don't have proper sex education. It's sickening and sad what they teach. My niblings were taught "condoms and birth control aren't effective against pregnancy and STIs, the only 100% effective prevention is abstinence" directly from the syllabus and the ONLY part of the curriculum that touches on condoms and birth control. I went thru the slide shows from the class and it was nothing like I was taught! So I sat them down and taught them what I learned about condoms and birth control and the boy was so smug with "yeah I know" with talking hand motions till I warned him to never double bag a condom and his face dropped. Apparently his buddy told him it would "double the protection" People need to start having this talk with their kids, the schools aren't doing it for them here anymore.
@@sammieh9695Don’t know where you are from but I am 58 and had sex ed when I was eleven. A few more times through high school in biology. Born and raised right here in the USA. Are you Amish or something like that.
@mrsw2923 the person you replied to said exactly what I was taught. I'm 23 and live in the US. This is standard and you get taught that same thing 4 times in school, once in 5th grade, again in 6th, then in 8th once more, and lastly in high school, I think either sophomore or junior year. However, my classes were just "health" with a unit on sex ed that was similar to that scene in Mean Girls. Basically "you have sex, you get pregnant and die" is how it's taught. Might be different in less conservative states but I unfortunately live in a VERY conservative state and this is all that's taught. Everything else I know I had to learn myself from online sources.
@@ReverieOfThorns I grew up in a conservative area and they didn't even teach about sex they told you about the part you had and that's the extent of your sex ed
Get a DNA test , then tests for tumors. Especially for the cancerous type. If you are pregnant and it is his then take him to court for child support. Even if he doesn't want anything to do with you or your baby.
Ya uh you can't take 16 year Olds to court over child support 😐 they are both technically none adults yes legal age to yk consent but not legal age to be a technical adult. At most the bf can give up his rights and the gifs family take the baby or the gf gives up her rights and the bf family take the baby, or they agree to put the baby up or adoption. Between 16-17 if you get prego and keep it and your partner is also under 18 but still legal age to consent neither of you can ask for child support since your still considered children by the time your both 18 either you've worked it out or one of you gave up your rights and when you give up rights it's legally not your kid their for no child support. Your both children in the situation yes children who can give consent but still children none the less the court system will throw out own of you filing for child support because the other person is a legit child and still in school and you can't force grandparents to give child support for a kid that's not theirs. Instead of jumping to sueing people read the law and learn the people's ages
@@SamanthaMesser-f3eif the child is emancipated he will have to pay. If the child isn’t, then his parents will have to pay child support. And once he turns 18 he will have to pay as well.
I read the full story. She's pregnant of her boyfriend, like the doctor said, it was because of the proximity of their encounters. She got her family support and managed to fix the relationship with her boyfriend. In the end the girl ab0rt3d and everything was okay
I think the best thing you can do here is be calm, and understand where he's coming from. Have a conversation with him and offer to get a DNA test. Typically, if you offer and don't resist it calms things, and when it comes back and shows you never cheated, he'll likely calm down himself and begin to understand things more.
@@nickyjadee2519 if I didn't know how those things worked and had never done penetrative with my partner my first thought would probably be 'there must be another man' as well. And I'm a woman.
She's telling the truth. I'm the result of such one of those babies. My mom never went all the way, but they did other stuff. A certain time and placement of things and I found my way in 🤣
You're very true, Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
You need to tell your parents asap! Take his butt to the doctor with you so that she can explain the situation to him. You are going to need of help and support!
Possible😂 if the semen or any fluid from man include sperm flows to v area which is filled with arousal fluids of women . That sucker will swim to designated place🤷🏻♀️
Yeah, just googled it, it’s not possible. Unless they had “sex” where some semen somehow managed to get inside her vulva, it’s not possible. This isn’t a Virgin Mary situation.
I heard it can happen if the guy touches her with jizz on him and some of it gets inside. I mean it would be so rare that I don't even blame the boyfriend for not believing her lol
Its possible. Say your girlfriend goes down on you and you know bust in her mouth. You two kiss and then you go down on her. The sperm from her mouth can go into your especially if you tounge kiss and then when ydiwno down on her the sperm can go into her. It happens. It's very rare but it happens. Also if you say bust say anywhere near her and she whips it off in down towards her it can get in that way to.
It can be possible because nature always find a way, principally if they do it regularly, it depend if he c*m next to the vag*na or the vag*nal canal too, so not impossible. That's why sex education is important!!!
But How would that happen she was a virgin, plus where would his semen be? On the table? It's extremely unlikely because for it to enter her vagina he would need to be brought there.
@@myrla9745..listen again... op says they never went all the way, but gotten closer ..third base... meaning they did everything except penetration..may be ejected near the vagina...
The scariest thing about this story is the comment section. People, you CAN get pregnant even if there was no vaginal penetration! All it needs is some sperm on your hands or other body parts. If you get too close to the vaginal area it is completely possible that you end up pregnant. And anal isn't safe either. Please use protection!
The story explains what the doctor told her, that it is very rare but you can get pregnant without actually doing the deed if sperm has been in proximity to your female genitalia. As for what she should do about her boyfriend, she needs to put him on blast for not listening to her explanation or going to the doctor with her. It won’t be too hard for her to get a paternity test. If she wants him to hear it, she needs to scream it from the rooftops or tell her dad and have him kicked down her boyfriend‘s front door getting his little girl pregnant and refusing to own it because he’s too ignorant to listen to her explanation.
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Proximity pregnancies have happened before so it’s possible…either way back to the doctor and more tests. As for bf, break up with him and if you’re pregnant get a dna test(you can still do that even if you have an abortion) and show him that you never cheated. Then never take him back because he showed his true colors not even bothering to listen to you.
Appart from what people are saying on the comments, people tend to forget that if your genitals are close when he eyaculates and some of the sperm goes into her, she can still get pregnant. How did they do the "third base" it's actually important?
Updates for those who care: UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated. [long] i don’t use reddit much so i’m not sure if i was supposed to make this into a separate post or just edit the original, but you can find the og on my account. hi guys!! i’m SO sorry it took a couple of days to update. things have been moving wildly slow and i didn’t want to create a whole post for each small thing i had to update. so much has happened. first off i just want to specify a couple of things, misconceptions as well as some key aspects i didn’t do a good enough job explaining: no, my boyfriend didn’t yell at me/call me names. he was angry, you could tell, but it was an extremely short conversation and he was primarily silent. that’s the type of person he is, though we’ve had very few arguments, he usually goes quiet when he’s mad. i’m not saying it was the right way to act at all but it was understandable imo as the possibility of this happening was entirely new and confusing to the both of us. he also never spread ‘rumors’ about me as some people were saying, i want to make that clear!! he told his best friend, who told another one of their close friends, and you know how that works. toxic gossip train. a few of our mutual friends that are generally closer with him / knew him first stopped talking to me. again, that hurts a lot, i’m not saying it doesn’t, but i know that if i thought someone had cheated on my friend i would drop ties with them INSTANTLY. i understand things like this seem a lot worse to adults who maybe forget what it’s like to be young and immature, because i mean we’re sixteen and that’s what we are. i think people also forget that i was making this post very shortly after all of this had happened. he came to my house the morning after i made the post and apologized, explaining that he’d done a lot of research and felt bad for accusing me. he said he still didn’t know if he fully trusted me but wanted to at least help with me while i went through this because if anything, we’ve been best friends since we were small. he came over and we told my parents together, explaining that i didn’t know if it was pregnancy/illness and i needed to get further testing done. they seemed disappointed that i hadn’t told them i was sexually active, but my mom said she was more disappointed in herself for not teaching me about reproductive health. they’re being as supportive as they can. so that all happened. flash forward to the next day (monday) i went to the doctor to get more blood testing done. i wanted to update then, but i had to wait until i got the results back (today). so far, after a full blood panel, all signs are still pointing to me being pregnant. the comments kind of got my hopes up thinking it was most likely something else. my doctor explained that there was actually a slightly higher chance of me being pregnant than there was of a false positive, because it’s generally men with cancer who receive those. i don’t know if he was going off of statistics or personal experience, though. i’m not sure since there’s still not a *positive* way to know if it’s really a pregnancy, so i have an ultrasound scheduled for this thursday as it was the earliest appointment available. that will be the only way to properly confirm. if the ultrasound confirms that i’m pregnant then i’m also gonna ask about getting DNA testing as a form of paternity test. finally i want to disclaim something: i’ve lied about a lot of things before, everyone has. but pregnancy isn’t something i would ever ever touch. there are so many women in this world that want kids but are unable to have them, and i can’t imagine what it’s like for them to constantly see other people getting pregnant. it feels disrespectful and borderline offensive to lie about something like that, and i would never. i also want to say that i completely understand the people (primarily the ones from tiktok, hi guys) that think i cheated and this is all a cover up story. i’m not gonna try and win people over because your opinions genuinely don’t matter to me, all i’m gonna say is that this is a throwaway account that no one i know follows or has access too, so there would be no reason for any of that. if i actually wanted to ‘convince’ people then i would’ve posted it on my main which my boyfriend and several other friends follow. again, no one else but my boyfriend and my parents knows about this at all, and i don’t want them to. on a more positive note! i’d really like to thank all of the supportive comments and messages i got. they outweighed the negatives by far and it’s incredibly heart warming and honestly surreal. i didn’t expect this at all, but thank you. truly. i had multiple people message me and offer to pay for things like paternity tests, abortion access, and general expenses and with each and every message i cried. i cant believe there are such kind hearted people in the world, but thank you. me and my parents have this covered but the offer is enough and i’m truly grateful for all of it. hope to keep you guys posted, that’s all for now :) EDIT: update 2 won’t post, so here it is (summarized): there’s not much to say. i got an ultrasound and yes, confirmed the pregnancy. i was still holding onto a bit of hope that it might be something else lol. my doctor gave me a referral to go straight to a blood work lab (i have no idea what they’re actually called) so me and my boyfriend could do a prenatal paternity test. i’d never gotten a referral that quickly, usually you have to wait at least a day, but she sent me over for an appointment just an hour after the ultrasound, which was really great. we did the blood test/saliva swab and now we just have to wait about a week for the results. most likely getting an abortion but still figuring out the safest way to do that out of state. thank you to the people who have been supportive :) FINAL UPDATE POSTED FINAL UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated. hey guys, sorry it’s been a while but i had to wait for results. i tried my best to respond to comments + messages, even on the places this was reposted, but there were lots. thank you very much to the polite people! paternity test *just* came back and yes, like i kept saying, it was his. the only way it wouldn’t have been was if it had been SA which there was an extremely low chance of, but even so i’m very grateful that nothing happened to me in my sleep, as some people had suggested. we found a great program that several of you had recommended to me called Plan C. they help provide women in no-abortion states with abortion pills…it was very mentally difficult for me to go through with, but just this morning the pills came and we used a Telehealth doctor to help. i now officially had an abortion woohoo! i was very on the fence about it and honestly i’m not doing too well now, but i know it was the right choice. now to answer some questions: no, i’m not a bot. i’m also not old. i write well because i want to be an author, writings something that’s interested me since i was in elementary school and it’s something i work very hard at. i took AP lang last year and am taking AP lit this up coming year, so i’m well educated in that subject. obviously not so well educated in sex ed lol. i think some of you are wildly underestimating how articulate teens can be, we’re not entirely clueless. also, i got the paternity test because i could. some people said it was strange to get one even though i was most likely getting an abortion, but i don’t think so. personally i believe it was very necessary, and honestly wasn’t as expensive as i thought it would be. my parents covered it. no, my boyfriends parents never found out about any of this and we don’t ever want them to. they’re not very good/stable people and my boyfriend plans on going no contact pretty much as soon as he turns eighteen. also - we’re both seventeen now! anyways, thank you all for the support on this journey, it’s been rough but i know this all helped so much. even now, i’m still getting DMs of people offering to help both financially and mentally, and genuinely that’s amazing. i’ll still be responding to comments if there are any, but when it comes to posting - goodbye :):)
There is so many possibilities here. Proper sexual education should be taught because parents aren’t doing a good job. Or she could have been drugged and assaulted.
This is why immature people who aren't capable of understanding basic anatomy should remain completely abstinent . Tell your paarents so they can talk to his parents.
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
@@reneelittylikeakitty i didn't say it was did I? No. I am of the Christian faith, BUT I think the LGBTQ+ is just something you can identify with. People an do as they please. I don't have right to say something to the people that DO identify with LGBTQ+ because im not them, BUT you don't have to put words in my mouth because I DIDNT say it was bad
Honey get a DNA test done. It's either you're assaulted and the bf is lying to escape the responsibility and blaming you on top of it so he can play victim and gain sympathy from everyone or you have cancer or if the DNA tests comes out and it says the child has your DNA only, well congrats you're the new mother Mary
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Or c) Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
That is not at all how biology works not actually possible you can’t ejaculate near the vagina and knock somebody up. You actually have to do it inside the vagina. Sorry, if you prefer the world of cotton candies and rainbows, but that’s not reality
Reason number one thousand why kids need proper sex education. My parents told us this once we were old enough, always be careful, always wear protection, be sure of who you're with and it's best to be with someone who is long term that also understands there's always a possibility of pregnancy even if you're really careful.
It is oral and even if they did do the other, the pull out method doesn’t always work and you don’t always have to fully penetrate for the girl to lose her v Card
Third bass can mean sexual stuff and activities ... sex isn't only penetrative ..... also Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
First time I have ever heard of that happening , I would get the doctor ask if they could explain it to him and provide proof it can happen give to said person. This situation is so sad
Yup, Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
to everyone saying she either has cancer or was unknowingly active.. retake a class. proximity is enough to cause pregnancy, as op‘s doctor told her. also, for those thinking the pull-out method is safe.. it only is if nothing happened beforehand or he thoroughly cleaned himself. if you don‘t believe me, don’t hate on me, just retake a class.
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Has these teenagers not been taught basic reproductive biology? Because even if you don’t have penetrating intercourse, if the sperm, if ANY of the sperm lands on or near the vaginal opening, pregnancy is a possible outcome! Their school’s lackluster sex ed completely failed these kids…
She needs to seek further attention because it can very well be a Cyst or tumor or something. A false positive is uncommon but not unheard of. The hormones used in pregnancy tests can be spiked by many other things going on in the body
If he won't get a paternity test, she might accuse him of waiting till she was asleep...If that's not the case, then prove it by taking the test - oh, look - you ARE the father.
ive heard of EXTREMELY rare cases, too rare theres only like 3-4 cases recorded in history or so, maybe more but i rly dont know. that if a woman is on her fertile period, like PEAK ovulation day AND has too much calcium or another nutrient (cant remember which one exactly) she could get pregnant, the baby has a 90% chance of being born with disabilities and itll always be a girl cuz if without a man u cant birth a baby with XY chromossomes only XX aka a girl. she might have that tbf or she has cancer, either way: hospital.
@@leonor___77Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Therefore hymens are not pregnancy prevention!! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant....
Remember when I was in constant pain , had bladder issues ,walking a lot would hurt and make me lightheaded eventually ,same with carrying shit. My mom would constantly joke im pregnant to the point it got annoying. My periods had been funky that time, okay can happen if you stop taking the pill, but after half a year nothing change and then they just stopped for 2months. So I gone to my obgyn who at first also wanted to excuse it with the pill ,until I said that's already over half a year ago. Did an ultrasound and I had a massive cyst I got meds for. Got rid of the cyst baby within a week and the symptoms slowly got better. I probably had that shit for about a year ,at least when the problems started.
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
There is so many possibilities here. Proper sexual education should be taught because parents aren’t doing a good job. Or she could have been drugged and assaulted. Or there could be another medical issue. Just 🤦🏻♀️
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
I have seen the update he apologised to her, but he didn't spread the gossip that she cheated. He told his friends about what happened he was the one that told everyone. Yes, she is pregnant, and both their parents know.
UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated. [long] i don’t use reddit much so i’m not sure if i was supposed to make this into a separate post or just edit the original, but you can find the og on my account. hi guys!! i’m SO sorry it took a couple of days to update. things have been moving wildly slow and i didn’t want to create a whole post for each small thing i had to update. so much has happened. first off i just want to specify a couple of things, misconceptions as well as some key aspects i didn’t do a good enough job explaining: no, my boyfriend didn’t yell at me/call me names. he was angry, you could tell, but it was an extremely short conversation and he was primarily silent. that’s the type of person he is, though we’ve had very few arguments, he usually goes quiet when he’s mad. i’m not saying it was the right way to act at all but it was understandable imo as the possibility of this happening was entirely new and confusing to the both of us. he also never spread ‘rumors’ about me as some people were saying, i want to make that clear!! he told his best friend, who told another one of their close friends, and you know how that works. toxic gossip train. a few of our mutual friends that are generally closer with him / knew him first stopped talking to me. again, that hurts a lot, i’m not saying it doesn’t, but i know that if i thought someone had cheated on my friend i would drop ties with them INSTANTLY. i understand things like this seem a lot worse to adults who maybe forget what it’s like to be young and immature, because i mean we’re sixteen and that’s what we are. i think people also forget that i was making this post very shortly after all of this had happened. he came to my house the morning after i made the post and apologized, explaining that he’d done a lot of research and felt bad for accusing me. he said he still didn’t know if he fully trusted me but wanted to at least help with me while i went through this because if anything, we’ve been best friends since we were small. he came over and we told my parents together, explaining that i didn’t know if it was pregnancy/illness and i needed to get further testing done. they seemed disappointed that i hadn’t told them i was sexually active, but my mom said she was more disappointed in herself for not teaching me about reproductive health. they’re being as supportive as they can. so that all happened. flash forward to the next day (monday) i went to the doctor to get more blood testing done. i wanted to update then, but i had to wait until i got the results back (today). so far, after a full blood panel, all signs are still pointing to me being pregnant. the comments kind of got my hopes up thinking it was most likely something else. my doctor explained that there was actually a slightly higher chance of me being pregnant than there was of a false positive, because it’s generally men with cancer who receive those. i don’t know if he was going off of statistics or personal experience, though. i’m not sure since there’s still not a positive way to know if it’s really a pregnancy, so i have an ultrasound scheduled for this thursday as it was the earliest appointment available. that will be the only way to properly confirm. if the ultrasound confirms that i’m pregnant then i’m also gonna ask about getting DNA testing as a form of paternity test. finally i want to disclaim something: i’ve lied about a lot of things before, everyone has. but pregnancy isn’t something i would ever ever touch. there are so many women in this world that want kids but are unable to have them, and i can’t imagine what it’s like for them to constantly see other people getting pregnant. it feels disrespectful and borderline offensive to lie about something like that, and i would never. i also want to say that i completely understand the people (primarily the ones from tiktok, hi guys) that think i cheated and this is all a cover up story. i’m not gonna try and win people over because your opinions genuinely don’t matter to me, all i’m gonna say is that this is a throwaway account that no one i know follows or has access too, so there would be no reason for any of that. if i actually wanted to ‘convince’ people then i would’ve posted it on my main which my boyfriend and several other friends follow. again, no one else but my boyfriend and my parents knows about this at all, and i don’t want them to. on a more positive note! i’d really like to thank all of the supportive comments and messages i got. they outweighed the negatives by far and it’s incredibly heart warming and honestly surreal. i didn’t expect this at all, but thank you. truly. i had multiple people message me and offer to pay for things like paternity tests, abortion access, and general expenses and with each and every message i cried. i cant believe there are such kind hearted people in the world, but thank you. me and my parents have this covered but the offer is enough and i’m truly grateful for all of it. hope to keep you guys posted, that’s all for now :) EDIT: update 2 won’t post, so here it is (summarized): there’s not much to say. i got an ultrasound and yes, confirmed the pregnancy. i was still holding onto a bit of hope that it might be something else lol. my doctor gave me a referral to go straight to a blood work lab (i have no idea what they’re actually called) so me and my boyfriend could do a prenatal paternity test. i’d never gotten a referral that quickly, usually you have to wait at least a day, but she sent me over for an appointment just an hour after the ultrasound, which was really great. we did the blood test/saliva swab and now we just have to wait about a week for the results. most likely getting an abortion but still figuring out the safest way to do that out of state. thank you to the people who have been supportive :) FINAL UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated. hey guys, sorry it’s been a while but i had to wait for results. i tried my best to respond to comments + messages, even on the places this was reposted, but there were lots. thank you very much to the polite people! paternity test just came back and yes, like i kept saying, it was his. the only way it wouldn’t have been was if it had been SA which there was an extremely low chance of, but even so i’m very grateful that nothing happened to me in my sleep, as some people had suggested. we found a great program that several of you had recommended to me called Plan C. they help provide women in no-abortion states with abortion pills…it was very mentally difficult for me to go through with, but just this morning the pills came and we used a Telehealth doctor to help. i now officially had an abortion woohoo! i was very on the fence about it and honestly i’m not doing too well now, but i know it was the right choice. now to answer some questions: no, i’m not a bot. i’m also not old. i write well because i want to be an author, writings something that’s interested me since i was in elementary school and it’s something i work very hard at. i took AP lang last year and am taking AP lit this up coming year, so i’m well educated in that subject. obviously not so well educated in sex ed lol. i think some of you are wildly underestimating how articulate teens can be, we’re not entirely clueless. also, i got the paternity test because i could. some people said it was strange to get one even though i was most likely getting an abortion, but i don’t think so. personally i believe it was very necessary, and honestly wasn’t as expensive as i thought it would be. my parents covered it. no, my boyfriends parents never found out about any of this and we don’t ever want them to. they’re not very good/stable people and my boyfriend plans on going no contact pretty much as soon as he turns eighteen. also - we’re both seventeen now! anyways, thank you all for the support on this journey, it’s been rough but i know this all helped so much. even now, i’m still getting DMs of people offering to help both financially and mentally, and genuinely that’s amazing. i’ll still be responding to comments if there are any, but when it comes to posting - goodbye :):)
paternity tests can be done as early as 8 weeks. it may be worth it to find the money from any source and get that done. edit* 8th week of pregnancy, so quite soon
there was 2 updates after this, her boyfriend apologized and they did more tests, they did a prenatal paternity test and it was positive, they decided to get an abortion.
That kids, is why you dont touch one another. Especially dont touch his part then your part. Even if he wipes his hand on his pants befire he rubs you, youre at risk
Nah not really..Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
When I was a kid, a doctor told me that I could get pregnant by holding a boy's hand, and he insisted that I was pregnant. I was 12, and my mother took me to the hospital because I was bleeding and in so much pain that I was unresponsive. The ER doctor ran actual tests and discovered a cyst complicated with severe endometriosis. The original doctor claimed that i lost the baby because I refused to let him look at me downstairs. I was a virgin for a very long time after all that.
Also in this story it's just possible... Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
I mean if a doctor says you don’t have to go that far to get pregnant then you should probably trust the doctor and not break up with your girlfriend. Especially in a time like this (in a situation like this)
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Therefore hymens are not pregnancy prevention!! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant....
Or you can educate yourself.. Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
It happens, it happened to one of my friends and she was +25 years old at the time. She had a night with an ex boyfriend and they did not go all the way but she got pregnant from that night. They got back together cause of the pregnancy
Bad sex education. If he is not willing to listen without judging and accusing and shaming you in front of others to ruin your life - he is not worth your time, let alone much else. Have an abortion if you can, or give birth and give up the baby for adoption. Don't worry too much about immature fake friends and a boyfriend who is completely self-centered. Move on.
Not always ... Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
I heard about this when I was way younger and so I always got scared even if it was just like fingers or pre. It’s totally possible and it’s really unlucky. Sure some people lie but this one sounds real
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Actually I have heard (there’s a whole thing on scrubs about this)that you it is possible for outercorse to lead to pregnancy. Rare. But not impossible
I was 27 and fainted at work. The doctor congratulated me, before any test. I told him I wasn't active and then the ultradound show a cyst the size of a pomegranade.
Woman in healthcare..
I think its shocking how often symptoms get "justified" with being pregnant or smth like that without further testing
@@cherrysmilesodaFar worse than that. Studies used to only be done on men in early medicine and so things like heart attacks are only accurate for men, women heart attacks have very different symptoms. I can excuse that cause it was early medicine and they didn’t know… what I can’t excuse is they were doing a recent study on women’s pain in the Uk, I believe, and the courts forced them to include trans women which means any results of that study are now useless
@@Catherine.Dorian. I know right??? I love to be a woman but my god its insane what we have to face in 2024 and counting.
Even in cars, they were(?) tested on mens bodys which is why woman are more likely to be hurt in crashes.
I could speak about it for hours but sadly that wont change anything. Its a long and exhausting way til we get anything close to equality
Happened to me as well (I was 27 too) my cyst was large. I mean 8.3 inches in diameter, large. The only thing setting me off was random sharp pains near my belly button, so I thought it was a hernia and told both my doctor and gynecologist about it. They gave me an ultrasound and had me on the first available surgery for removal of it. Thankfully, it was just 3 litters of water and tension of my cyst that was causing it. I couldn't do heavy lifting ( which is mainly what I do in my job), no sneezing, coughing, jumping, bending over, nothing. Why? My cyst was so big that it was close to rupturing.
They barely caught it on time. I had it removed and went hone that same day... truthfully, I wanted to go to work, but my boss scolded me. I went the next day and so on, though. I hate not doing anything. She gave me light work but still work nonetheless.
@@Seto_KaibaX you got out the next day?! I had to have a fibroid removed, which I just consider a larger cyst… I was given a surgery like a c-section and could barely do anything for six weeks. It’s still a weak area
If the V card is true, she was either
drugged & SA'd or,
this girl has cancer.
Go back to the hospital girl.
He came on his hand or near her vagina and then fingered her. Stop thinking the weird part first.
Yes. There was even one time my friend got a pregnancy test(out of fun.) she was 12.
Turned out it was cancer.
No there's a possibility of contamination of sperm into the vagina during certain sexual acts. Sperm can swim and live in the female body for up to three days.
No, as stated, she could have gotten pregnant from fooling around without actual penetration.
She said it was "outercourse" which means he rubbed up against her without fully sticking it in before finishing.
It's scary how many commenters here have obviously not had any proper sexual education. This is definitely possible, albeit exceedingly rare, and is definitely taught in proper sex Ed classes. Should the semen get near the vaginal opening, the sperm WILL do their best to reach and fertilize an egg.
Well, most people in the us, the last decade+ have been taught "abstinence only sex education" so they don't have proper sex education. It's sickening and sad what they teach.
My niblings were taught "condoms and birth control aren't effective against pregnancy and STIs, the only 100% effective prevention is abstinence" directly from the syllabus and the ONLY part of the curriculum that touches on condoms and birth control. I went thru the slide shows from the class and it was nothing like I was taught! So I sat them down and taught them what I learned about condoms and birth control and the boy was so smug with "yeah I know" with talking hand motions till I warned him to never double bag a condom and his face dropped. Apparently his buddy told him it would "double the protection"
People need to start having this talk with their kids, the schools aren't doing it for them here anymore.
@@sammieh9695Don’t know where you are from but I am 58 and had sex ed when I was eleven. A few more times through high school in biology. Born and raised right here in the USA. Are you Amish or something like that.
@@mrsw2923no this is actually accurate they don't teach it anymore not as much as I should
@mrsw2923 the person you replied to said exactly what I was taught. I'm 23 and live in the US. This is standard and you get taught that same thing 4 times in school, once in 5th grade, again in 6th, then in 8th once more, and lastly in high school, I think either sophomore or junior year. However, my classes were just "health" with a unit on sex ed that was similar to that scene in Mean Girls. Basically "you have sex, you get pregnant and die" is how it's taught. Might be different in less conservative states but I unfortunately live in a VERY conservative state and this is all that's taught. Everything else I know I had to learn myself from online sources.
@@ReverieOfThorns I grew up in a conservative area and they didn't even teach about sex they told you about the part you had and that's the extent of your sex ed
Do a ultrasound test. Bcz it's common to mix up the tumor symptoms with pregnancy
Edit: mom I'm famous
Yes. Do usg.speak with ur parents. Ur boyfriend its the last thing u should be worrying about.
She could have been drugged and assaulted and just doesn’t remember??? Idk sounds unlikely tho.
No, they did nonpenetrative... Rubbing and some of the semen went inside her... We need netter sex education because yeah, that's possible.
Unlikely but the most believable answer
They did stuff to each other
You dont have to penetrate to get pregnant
Srsly sex ed needs to be upgraded and widespread 😟
@@FayeriBlademost believable answer is they where playing, he came on his hand (could be by accident some was left) and then fingered her.
Reddit fam probably fake. My guess is it’s copying the plot or Jane the Virgin.
Get a DNA test , then tests for tumors. Especially for the cancerous type. If you are pregnant and it is his then take him to court for child support. Even if he doesn't want anything to do with you or your baby.
Ya uh you can't take 16 year Olds to court over child support 😐 they are both technically none adults yes legal age to yk consent but not legal age to be a technical adult. At most the bf can give up his rights and the gifs family take the baby or the gf gives up her rights and the bf family take the baby, or they agree to put the baby up or adoption. Between 16-17 if you get prego and keep it and your partner is also under 18 but still legal age to consent neither of you can ask for child support since your still considered children by the time your both 18 either you've worked it out or one of you gave up your rights and when you give up rights it's legally not your kid their for no child support. Your both children in the situation yes children who can give consent but still children none the less the court system will throw out own of you filing for child support because the other person is a legit child and still in school and you can't force grandparents to give child support for a kid that's not theirs. Instead of jumping to sueing people read the law and learn the people's ages
You really need to listen to the ages these people are before jumping to sueing people
@@SamanthaMesser-f3eif the child is emancipated he will have to pay. If the child isn’t, then his parents will have to pay child support. And once he turns 18 he will have to pay as well.
@SamanthaMesser-f3e it doesn't matter how old he is!! If he can't pay the child support bc he's in school....then HIS PARENTS WILL HAVE TO PAY!!
turns out it was his child, and they decided to abort.
this is the plot for jane the virgin fym 😭
I was thinking that too
Or like
The Bible
@@me4_prez Yes, maybe an angel will appear to the boyfriend and convince him not to break up with her 😂
Ummmmm, no. Jane The Virgin was artificially inseminated by an incompetent doctor.
@@rachelmaddowswife8713💀💀
I read the full story.
She's pregnant of her boyfriend, like the doctor said, it was because of the proximity of their encounters.
She got her family support and managed to fix the relationship with her boyfriend.
In the end the girl ab0rt3d and everything was okay
😭😭
Doesn’t she say her boyfriend is female though?
@@damnyankeesdaughter5427 no, the boyfriend is a male, the OP os a female.
@@damnyankeesdaughter5427 no age. She meant age.
@@damnyankeesdaughter5427same age, reading comprehension shouldn’t be hard
I think the best thing you can do here is be calm, and understand where he's coming from. Have a conversation with him and offer to get a DNA test. Typically, if you offer and don't resist it calms things, and when it comes back and shows you never cheated, he'll likely calm down himself and begin to understand things more.
But if Ur first though is they cheated when to so adamant they didn't further illumination needed
@@nickyjadee2519 if I didn't know how those things worked and had never done penetrative with my partner my first thought would probably be 'there must be another man' as well. And I'm a woman.
And who gives that same grace towards her?
And what of all the people he told she cheated and all the friends she lost? DNA test won’t fix that
@@nickyjadee2519 They never actually did the p in v deed, so neither expected pregnancy. In this particular case, I get why he thinks she cheated.
She's telling the truth. I'm the result of such one of those babies. My mom never went all the way, but they did other stuff. A certain time and placement of things and I found my way in 🤣
You're very true, Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
There's a certain tumor that can cause similar symptoms to those of pregnancy.
And so can pregnancy.
Just get a DNA TEST when the baby is born via c section
Via c section? Why would it be born that way instead if naturally?
@@desertdweller9255, why can't it be born like that?
Because if it’s born via C-section she’ll still be a virgin!!!
@@silviaflorez-ramey6350, I'm assuming this is a joke 🤣
But then she’ll still have to go through the pregnancy all alone while losing friends and her reputation
You need to tell your parents asap! Take his butt to the doctor with you so that she can explain the situation to him. You are going to need of help and support!
How in the fuck is that possible. This story cant be real
Possible😂 if the semen or any fluid from man include sperm flows to v area which is filled with arousal fluids of women . That sucker will swim to designated place🤷🏻♀️
Yeah, just googled it, it’s not possible. Unless they had “sex” where some semen somehow managed to get inside her vulva, it’s not possible. This isn’t a Virgin Mary situation.
I heard it can happen if the guy touches her with jizz on him and some of it gets inside. I mean it would be so rare that I don't even blame the boyfriend for not believing her lol
It is actually possible if semen is in any sort of proximity to your uterus, it’s pretty rare but it can happen without penetration
Its possible. Say your girlfriend goes down on you and you know bust in her mouth. You two kiss and then you go down on her. The sperm from her mouth can go into your especially if you tounge kiss and then when ydiwno down on her the sperm can go into her. It happens. It's very rare but it happens. Also if you say bust say anywhere near her and she whips it off in down towards her it can get in that way to.
It can be possible because nature always find a way, principally if they do it regularly, it depend if he c*m next to the vag*na or the vag*nal canal too, so not impossible. That's why sex education is important!!!
They never had actual sex, so my guess is it ended up near her vulva/vaginal canal.
With the amount of comments contesting the outercourse reason its extremely needed!
But
How would that happen she was a virgin, plus where would his semen be? On the table?
It's extremely unlikely because for it to enter her vagina he would need to be brought there.
She said they never had sex. I'm pretty sure that means they never made any love so no it makes no sense except if they are really stupid
@@myrla9745..listen again... op says they never went all the way, but gotten closer ..third base... meaning they did everything except penetration..may be ejected near the vagina...
“16, female, and so is my bf “ 😂💀
The scariest thing about this story is the comment section.
People, you CAN get pregnant even if there was no vaginal penetration! All it needs is some sperm on your hands or other body parts. If you get too close to the vaginal area it is completely possible that you end up pregnant. And anal isn't safe either. Please use protection!
The moment she said "I was 16, female and so is my boyfriend" got me almost misunderstood 🤣🤣
The story explains what the doctor told her, that it is very rare but you can get pregnant without actually doing the deed if sperm has been in proximity to your female genitalia.
As for what she should do about her boyfriend, she needs to put him on blast for not listening to her explanation or going to the doctor with her.
It won’t be too hard for her to get a paternity test.
If she wants him to hear it, she needs to scream it from the rooftops or tell her dad and have him kicked down her boyfriend‘s front door getting his little girl pregnant and refusing to own it because he’s too ignorant to listen to her explanation.
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
The hymen is not a barrier to sperm. It's true ask a doctor.
It can't be an impenetrable barrier to sperm or pathogens but allow menstrual blood to exit the body, not how it works, it does contain an opening.
This is why sex ed is important
Proximity pregnancies have happened before so it’s possible…either way back to the doctor and more tests. As for bf, break up with him and if you’re pregnant get a dna test(you can still do that even if you have an abortion) and show him that you never cheated. Then never take him back because he showed his true colors not even bothering to listen to you.
Appart from what people are saying on the comments, people tend to forget that if your genitals are close when he eyaculates and some of the sperm goes into her, she can still get pregnant. How did they do the "third base" it's actually important?
Third base can be non penetrative sex... can be humping can be oral
Updates for those who care:
UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated.
[long] i don’t use reddit much so i’m not sure if i was supposed to make this into a separate post or just edit the original, but you can find the og on my account.
hi guys!! i’m SO sorry it took a couple of days to update. things have been moving wildly slow and i didn’t want to create a whole post for each small thing i had to update. so much has happened. first off i just want to specify a couple of things, misconceptions as well as some key aspects i didn’t do a good enough job explaining:
no, my boyfriend didn’t yell at me/call me names. he was angry, you could tell, but it was an extremely short conversation and he was primarily silent. that’s the type of person he is, though we’ve had very few arguments, he usually goes quiet when he’s mad. i’m not saying it was the right way to act at all but it was understandable imo as the possibility of this happening was entirely new and confusing to the both of us. he also never spread ‘rumors’ about me as some people were saying, i want to make that clear!! he told his best friend, who told another one of their close friends, and you know how that works. toxic gossip train. a few of our mutual friends that are generally closer with him / knew him first stopped talking to me. again, that hurts a lot, i’m not saying it doesn’t, but i know that if i thought someone had cheated on my friend i would drop ties with them INSTANTLY. i understand things like this seem a lot worse to adults who maybe forget what it’s like to be young and immature, because i mean we’re sixteen and that’s what we are. i think people also forget that i was making this post very shortly after all of this had happened. he came to my house the morning after i made the post and apologized, explaining that he’d done a lot of research and felt bad for accusing me. he said he still didn’t know if he fully trusted me but wanted to at least help with me while i went through this because if anything, we’ve been best friends since we were small. he came over and we told my parents together, explaining that i didn’t know if it was pregnancy/illness and i needed to get further testing done. they seemed disappointed that i hadn’t told them i was sexually active, but my mom said she was more disappointed in herself for not teaching me about reproductive health. they’re being as supportive as they can.
so that all happened. flash forward to the next day (monday) i went to the doctor to get more blood testing done. i wanted to update then, but i had to wait until i got the results back (today). so far, after a full blood panel, all signs are still pointing to me being pregnant. the comments kind of got my hopes up thinking it was most likely something else. my doctor explained that there was actually a slightly higher chance of me being pregnant than there was of a false positive, because it’s generally men with cancer who receive those. i don’t know if he was going off of statistics or personal experience, though. i’m not sure since there’s still not a *positive* way to know if it’s really a pregnancy, so i have an ultrasound scheduled for this thursday as it was the earliest appointment available. that will be the only way to properly confirm. if the ultrasound confirms that i’m pregnant then i’m also gonna ask about getting DNA testing as a form of paternity test.
finally i want to disclaim something: i’ve lied about a lot of things before, everyone has. but pregnancy isn’t something i would ever ever touch. there are so many women in this world that want kids but are unable to have them, and i can’t imagine what it’s like for them to constantly see other people getting pregnant. it feels disrespectful and borderline offensive to lie about something like that, and i would never. i also want to say that i completely understand the people (primarily the ones from tiktok, hi guys) that think i cheated and this is all a cover up story. i’m not gonna try and win people over because your opinions genuinely don’t matter to me, all i’m gonna say is that this is a throwaway account that no one i know follows or has access too, so there would be no reason for any of that. if i actually wanted to ‘convince’ people then i would’ve posted it on my main which my boyfriend and several other friends follow. again, no one else but my boyfriend and my parents knows about this at all, and i don’t want them to.
on a more positive note! i’d really like to thank all of the supportive comments and messages i got. they outweighed the negatives by far and it’s incredibly heart warming and honestly surreal. i didn’t expect this at all, but thank you. truly. i had multiple people message me and offer to pay for things like paternity tests, abortion access, and general expenses and with each and every message i cried. i cant believe there are such kind hearted people in the world, but thank you. me and my parents have this covered but the offer is enough and i’m truly grateful for all of it. hope to keep you guys posted, that’s all for now :)
EDIT: update 2 won’t post, so here it is (summarized):
there’s not much to say. i got an ultrasound and yes, confirmed the pregnancy. i was still holding onto a bit of hope that it might be something else lol. my doctor gave me a referral to go straight to a blood work lab (i have no idea what they’re actually called) so me and my boyfriend could do a prenatal paternity test. i’d never gotten a referral that quickly, usually you have to wait at least a day, but she sent me over for an appointment just an hour after the ultrasound, which was really great. we did the blood test/saliva swab and now we just have to wait about a week for the results. most likely getting an abortion but still figuring out the safest way to do that out of state. thank you to the people who have been supportive :)
FINAL UPDATE POSTED
FINAL UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated.
hey guys, sorry it’s been a while but i had to wait for results. i tried my best to respond to comments + messages, even on the places this was reposted, but there were lots. thank you very much to the polite people!
paternity test *just* came back and yes, like i kept saying, it was his. the only way it wouldn’t have been was if it had been SA which there was an extremely low chance of, but even so i’m very grateful that nothing happened to me in my sleep, as some people had suggested. we found a great program that several of you had recommended to me called Plan C. they help provide women in no-abortion states with abortion pills…it was very mentally difficult for me to go through with, but just this morning the pills came and we used a Telehealth doctor to help. i now officially had an abortion woohoo! i was very on the fence about it and honestly i’m not doing too well now, but i know it was the right choice.
now to answer some questions: no, i’m not a bot. i’m also not old. i write well because i want to be an author, writings something that’s interested me since i was in elementary school and it’s something i work very hard at. i took AP lang last year and am taking AP lit this up coming year, so i’m well educated in that subject. obviously not so well educated in sex ed lol. i think some of you are wildly underestimating how articulate teens can be, we’re not entirely clueless.
also, i got the paternity test because i could. some people said it was strange to get one even though i was most likely getting an abortion, but i don’t think so. personally i believe it was very necessary, and honestly wasn’t as expensive as i thought it would be. my parents covered it. no, my boyfriends parents never found out about any of this and we don’t ever want them to. they’re not very good/stable people and my boyfriend plans on going no contact pretty much as soon as he turns eighteen. also - we’re both seventeen now!
anyways, thank you all for the support on this journey, it’s been rough but i know this all helped so much. even now, i’m still getting DMs of people offering to help both financially and mentally, and genuinely that’s amazing. i’ll still be responding to comments if there are any, but when it comes to posting - goodbye :):)
There is so many possibilities here. Proper sexual education should be taught because parents aren’t doing a good job. Or she could have been drugged and assaulted.
This is why immature people who aren't capable of understanding basic anatomy should remain completely abstinent . Tell your paarents so they can talk to his parents.
The plot of “Jane the Virgin”
Sounds like a case for dr house
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
"Neither of us had ever gone all the way"
Could still have been enough for her to get pregnant. You don't need to "go all the way" for that
UHHHHHH "im 16 female and my boyfriend is to" WHATTTTTT
A JOKE
??
How's that bad?😭
Not possible
@@reneelittylikeakitty i didn't say it was did I? No. I am of the Christian faith, BUT I think the LGBTQ+ is just something you can identify with. People an do as they please. I don't have right to say something to the people that DO identify with LGBTQ+ because im not them, BUT you don't have to put words in my mouth because I DIDNT say it was bad
She means her bf is 16 too… geez people have like 20 total brain cells I swear.
Honey get a DNA test done. It's either you're assaulted and the bf is lying to escape the responsibility and blaming you on top of it so he can play victim and gain sympathy from everyone or you have cancer or if the DNA tests comes out and it says the child has your DNA only, well congrats you're the new mother Mary
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Most likely
A) you were assaulted and just don’t know it because you were unconscious.
B) you actually have a tumour.
C) he came and sperm got in her vagina baceause they wheren't carefull.
Or c) Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Or just hear me out, things happened like she described them, they fooled around and life found a way. Sometimes it’s not that deep
@@raptorjesus7436 What kind of stupid ass school did you go to for biology?
That is not at all how biology works not actually possible you can’t ejaculate near the vagina and knock somebody up. You actually have to do it inside the vagina.
Sorry, if you prefer the world of cotton candies and rainbows, but that’s not reality
Took the “life finds a way” to a whole new level damn
"Im 16 female, so is he." Right
"I'm 16, female, and so is my boyfriend" 🤨🤨
Reason number one thousand why kids need proper sex education. My parents told us this once we were old enough, always be careful, always wear protection, be sure of who you're with and it's best to be with someone who is long term that also understands there's always a possibility of pregnancy even if you're really careful.
wtf is third base if it’s not sleeping together?
Its oral.
So in that case the child is more than likely his they probably just didn't clean up very well if you know what I mean
It is oral and even if they did do the other, the pull out method doesn’t always work and you don’t always have to fully penetrate for the girl to lose her v Card
Third bass can mean sexual stuff and activities ... sex isn't only penetrative ..... also Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
@@boogalooloo Holy shit man thank you totally did your homework
Outer course can cause pregnancy in rare cases because sometimes sperm can still get into the vagina if there is sperm on the outside of it.
First time I have ever heard of that happening , I would get the doctor ask if they could explain it to him and provide proof it can happen give to said person. This situation is so sad
Yup, Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
CHAT this is the basically Jane The Virgins plot line 💀🙏🏻
Sexual education is important. Rule number 1: It only takes one.
DAWG I NEED THE REST OF THE STORY WHERE'S THE PARAGRAPH GUY 😢
Jane the Virgin!?!?!
"16 and Pregnant" what a joke!😂😂
I don't care if it was consensual
to everyone saying she either has cancer or was unknowingly active.. retake a class. proximity is enough to cause pregnancy, as op‘s doctor told her.
also, for those thinking the pull-out method is safe.. it only is if nothing happened beforehand or he thoroughly cleaned himself.
if you don‘t believe me, don’t hate on me, just retake a class.
I got so confused when she said I’m female and 16 and so is my boyfriend. I thought he was female lol
If an ultrasound confirms the pregnancy, God invented paternity tests for a reason 😅😂
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
“Im 16 female so is my boyfriend” 💀💀💀
Has these teenagers not been taught basic reproductive biology? Because even if you don’t have penetrating intercourse, if the sperm, if ANY of the sperm lands on or near the vaginal opening, pregnancy is a possible outcome! Their school’s lackluster sex ed completely failed these kids…
She needs to seek further attention because it can very well be a Cyst or tumor or something. A false positive is uncommon but not unheard of. The hormones used in pregnancy tests can be spiked by many other things going on in the body
If he won't get a paternity test, she might accuse him of waiting till she was asleep...If that's not the case, then prove it by taking the test - oh, look - you ARE the father.
16 and female and so is her boyfriend that confused me so much lolll
The boyfriend checked out already. I'm not sure why this girl is hanging onto him instead of ending her pregnancy.
ive heard of EXTREMELY rare cases, too rare theres only like 3-4 cases recorded in history or so, maybe more but i rly dont know. that if a woman is on her fertile period, like PEAK ovulation day AND has too much calcium or another nutrient (cant remember which one exactly) she could get pregnant, the baby has a 90% chance of being born with disabilities and itll always be a girl cuz if without a man u cant birth a baby with XY chromossomes only XX aka a girl. she might have that tbf or she has cancer, either way: hospital.
its most likely not true so pls search before u comment cuz it might not be real cuz i read that online too.
@@leonor___77Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Therefore hymens are not pregnancy prevention!! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant....
Ah the fertility of the teenagers, they don't even have to try and boom pregnant
DNA test for him. Then he can't accuse you.
Remember when I was in constant pain , had bladder issues ,walking a lot would hurt and make me lightheaded eventually ,same with carrying shit. My mom would constantly joke im pregnant to the point it got annoying.
My periods had been funky that time, okay can happen if you stop taking the pill, but after half a year nothing change and then they just stopped for 2months. So I gone to my obgyn who at first also wanted to excuse it with the pill ,until I said that's already over half a year ago.
Did an ultrasound and I had a massive cyst I got meds for.
Got rid of the cyst baby within a week and the symptoms slowly got better. I probably had that shit for about a year ,at least when the problems started.
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Get someone to give him a letter telling it again and offer him a paternity test if he doesn't believe you
He’s gonna look like an idiot when he find out the truth
Outercourse can make u pregnant… this is why we need better X education.
Not sure if she'll see this, but,
Drop off a note if you can to him & ask him to meet you at your Drs where they can best help explain 🌼
There is so many possibilities here. Proper sexual education should be taught because parents aren’t doing a good job. Or she could have been drugged and assaulted. Or there could be another medical issue. Just 🤦🏻♀️
Or Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Hymens don't prevent pregnancy
I have seen the update he apologised to her, but he didn't spread the gossip that she cheated. He told his friends about what happened he was the one that told everyone. Yes, she is pregnant, and both their parents know.
"I am 16 female, and so is my boyfriend" HOLD ON WAIT A MINUTE
"I'm 16, female, and so is my boyfriend"
YOUR BOYFRIEND IS A 16 Y/O FEMALE???!!!
UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated.
[long] i don’t use reddit much so i’m not sure if i was supposed to make this into a separate post or just edit the original, but you can find the og on my account.
hi guys!! i’m SO sorry it took a couple of days to update. things have been moving wildly slow and i didn’t want to create a whole post for each small thing i had to update. so much has happened. first off i just want to specify a couple of things, misconceptions as well as some key aspects i didn’t do a good enough job explaining:
no, my boyfriend didn’t yell at me/call me names. he was angry, you could tell, but it was an extremely short conversation and he was primarily silent. that’s the type of person he is, though we’ve had very few arguments, he usually goes quiet when he’s mad. i’m not saying it was the right way to act at all but it was understandable imo as the possibility of this happening was entirely new and confusing to the both of us. he also never spread ‘rumors’ about me as some people were saying, i want to make that clear!! he told his best friend, who told another one of their close friends, and you know how that works. toxic gossip train. a few of our mutual friends that are generally closer with him / knew him first stopped talking to me. again, that hurts a lot, i’m not saying it doesn’t, but i know that if i thought someone had cheated on my friend i would drop ties with them INSTANTLY. i understand things like this seem a lot worse to adults who maybe forget what it’s like to be young and immature, because i mean we’re sixteen and that’s what we are. i think people also forget that i was making this post very shortly after all of this had happened. he came to my house the morning after i made the post and apologized, explaining that he’d done a lot of research and felt bad for accusing me. he said he still didn’t know if he fully trusted me but wanted to at least help with me while i went through this because if anything, we’ve been best friends since we were small. he came over and we told my parents together, explaining that i didn’t know if it was pregnancy/illness and i needed to get further testing done. they seemed disappointed that i hadn’t told them i was sexually active, but my mom said she was more disappointed in herself for not teaching me about reproductive health. they’re being as supportive as they can.
so that all happened. flash forward to the next day (monday) i went to the doctor to get more blood testing done. i wanted to update then, but i had to wait until i got the results back (today). so far, after a full blood panel, all signs are still pointing to me being pregnant. the comments kind of got my hopes up thinking it was most likely something else. my doctor explained that there was actually a slightly higher chance of me being pregnant than there was of a false positive, because it’s generally men with cancer who receive those. i don’t know if he was going off of statistics or personal experience, though. i’m not sure since there’s still not a positive way to know if it’s really a pregnancy, so i have an ultrasound scheduled for this thursday as it was the earliest appointment available. that will be the only way to properly confirm. if the ultrasound confirms that i’m pregnant then i’m also gonna ask about getting DNA testing as a form of paternity test.
finally i want to disclaim something: i’ve lied about a lot of things before, everyone has. but pregnancy isn’t something i would ever ever touch. there are so many women in this world that want kids but are unable to have them, and i can’t imagine what it’s like for them to constantly see other people getting pregnant. it feels disrespectful and borderline offensive to lie about something like that, and i would never. i also want to say that i completely understand the people (primarily the ones from tiktok, hi guys) that think i cheated and this is all a cover up story. i’m not gonna try and win people over because your opinions genuinely don’t matter to me, all i’m gonna say is that this is a throwaway account that no one i know follows or has access too, so there would be no reason for any of that. if i actually wanted to ‘convince’ people then i would’ve posted it on my main which my boyfriend and several other friends follow. again, no one else but my boyfriend and my parents knows about this at all, and i don’t want them to.
on a more positive note! i’d really like to thank all of the supportive comments and messages i got. they outweighed the negatives by far and it’s incredibly heart warming and honestly surreal. i didn’t expect this at all, but thank you. truly. i had multiple people message me and offer to pay for things like paternity tests, abortion access, and general expenses and with each and every message i cried. i cant believe there are such kind hearted people in the world, but thank you. me and my parents have this covered but the offer is enough and i’m truly grateful for all of it. hope to keep you guys posted, that’s all for now :)
EDIT: update 2 won’t post, so here it is (summarized):
there’s not much to say. i got an ultrasound and yes, confirmed the pregnancy. i was still holding onto a bit of hope that it might be something else lol. my doctor gave me a referral to go straight to a blood work lab (i have no idea what they’re actually called) so me and my boyfriend could do a prenatal paternity test. i’d never gotten a referral that quickly, usually you have to wait at least a day, but she sent me over for an appointment just an hour after the ultrasound, which was really great. we did the blood test/saliva swab and now we just have to wait about a week for the results. most likely getting an abortion but still figuring out the safest way to do that out of state. thank you to the people who have been supportive :)
FINAL UPDATE: i’m pregnant as a virgin and my boyfriend thinks i cheated.
hey guys, sorry it’s been a while but i had to wait for results. i tried my best to respond to comments + messages, even on the places this was reposted, but there were lots. thank you very much to the polite people!
paternity test just came back and yes, like i kept saying, it was his. the only way it wouldn’t have been was if it had been SA which there was an extremely low chance of, but even so i’m very grateful that nothing happened to me in my sleep, as some people had suggested. we found a great program that several of you had recommended to me called Plan C. they help provide women in no-abortion states with abortion pills…it was very mentally difficult for me to go through with, but just this morning the pills came and we used a Telehealth doctor to help. i now officially had an abortion woohoo! i was very on the fence about it and honestly i’m not doing too well now, but i know it was the right choice.
now to answer some questions: no, i’m not a bot. i’m also not old. i write well because i want to be an author, writings something that’s interested me since i was in elementary school and it’s something i work very hard at. i took AP lang last year and am taking AP lit this up coming year, so i’m well educated in that subject. obviously not so well educated in sex ed lol. i think some of you are wildly underestimating how articulate teens can be, we’re not entirely clueless.
also, i got the paternity test because i could. some people said it was strange to get one even though i was most likely getting an abortion, but i don’t think so. personally i believe it was very necessary, and honestly wasn’t as expensive as i thought it would be. my parents covered it. no, my boyfriends parents never found out about any of this and we don’t ever want them to. they’re not very good/stable people and my boyfriend plans on going no contact pretty much as soon as he turns eighteen. also - we’re both seventeen now!
anyways, thank you all for the support on this journey, it’s been rough but i know this all helped so much. even now, i’m still getting DMs of people offering to help both financially and mentally, and genuinely that’s amazing. i’ll still be responding to comments if there are any, but when it comes to posting - goodbye :):)
paternity test, take him to court
paternity tests can be done as early as 8 weeks. it may be worth it to find the money from any source and get that done. edit* 8th week of pregnancy, so quite soon
there was 2 updates after this, her boyfriend apologized and they did more tests, they did a prenatal paternity test and it was positive, they decided to get an abortion.
That’s just being flat on immature on the boyfriends end, he should’ve listened to her.
Solution is DNA test.
That kids, is why you dont touch one another. Especially dont touch his part then your part. Even if he wipes his hand on his pants befire he rubs you, youre at risk
All of these comments show the ignorance of so many people on how a woman”s body works. Sex education does not cause pregnancy it helps to prevent it.
Uh holy Mary?
Nah not really..Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
"16 female, so is my boyfriend" wait your boyfriend is a girl
First, have an ultrasound to make sure you are indeed pregnant. If you are, paternity test. Then court for child support.
If you go through with the pregnancy, he will be pissed once he finds out the baby is his with a paternity test and was an ahole for no reason
When I was a kid, a doctor told me that I could get pregnant by holding a boy's hand, and he insisted that I was pregnant. I was 12, and my mother took me to the hospital because I was bleeding and in so much pain that I was unresponsive. The ER doctor ran actual tests and discovered a cyst complicated with severe endometriosis. The original doctor claimed that i lost the baby because I refused to let him look at me downstairs. I was a virgin for a very long time after all that.
Also in this story it's just possible... Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
I thought of Jane the virgin 😭
It could be worse. It’s like a Jane the virgin story/ Mary and Joseph story.
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
I mean if a doctor says you don’t have to go that far to get pregnant then you should probably trust the doctor and not break up with your girlfriend. Especially in a time like this (in a situation like this)
This exact thing happened to my grandparents,my mom was born out of a (not so) dry hump 💀
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Therefore hymens are not pregnancy prevention!! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant....
Yup it happens
Paternity test.
Or you can educate yourself.. Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
"I'm sixteen, female and so is my boyfriend " How tf is that possible?
She meant the bf is 16
@@Kavedelf_Kivler Ik
It happens, it happened to one of my friends and she was +25 years old at the time. She had a night with an ex boyfriend and they did not go all the way but she got pregnant from that night. They got back together cause of the pregnancy
Bad sex education. If he is not willing to listen without judging and accusing and shaming you in front of others to ruin your life - he is not worth your time, let alone much else.
Have an abortion if you can, or give birth and give up the baby for adoption.
Don't worry too much about immature fake friends and a boyfriend who is completely self-centered. Move on.
update..op had an abortion after proving that the child was boyfriend's
Well a paternity test will believe you, he has to take care of his child
Pathernity test is easy and available nowadays.
I hope she goes to another hospital and get properly tested because something feels off.
Not always ... Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
Get a paternity test or ultrasound. I need a part two
I heard about this when I was way younger and so I always got scared even if it was just like fingers or pre. It’s totally possible and it’s really unlucky. Sure some people lie but this one sounds real
I’m 16, female and so is my boyfriend- lady that’s not a boyfriend
In the back of my brain I think the bf doesn't want to deal with the pregnancy or her health problems. How does one do that?
At first I thought this was a story of Mary and Joseph?
Get the paternity test. It's not that he can legally reject the child. He is obliged to support you.
Look up the hymen shapes.... most hymens have holes in them to begin with so that your period will come out and not be trapped in your body, and if sperm were to enter through these holes, you'll be a pregnant virgin! Tadaaaa!!! Now there is a type of hymen that is called imperforate hymen which has no holes and has to be opened up medically for periods to come through it and with that type it's impossible to get pregnant
"I AM 16 , FEMALE AND SO IS MY BOYFRIEND" WTFFFFF
Yeah.. he’s trans. Female to male?
@Moxxie_The_Artist 😭
I'm not seeing the comment with the rest of it, so since I've heard this before.
She was actually pregnant
It was actually the boyfriend's baby
Actually I have heard (there’s a whole thing on scrubs about this)that you it is possible for outercorse to lead to pregnancy. Rare. But not impossible
take a paternity test and prove that ass wrong!!
"16 female and so is my boyfriend"
what?
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