Wonderful, articulate, illuminating candour. No idea about this stuff, being so passive by nature, but I am beginning to learn at the behest of my hard headed woman. (Cat Stevens reference) This was very helpful, and I feel confident that my skills can be honed to high calibre assuming I can find good information in that direction. Thanks for this.
Thank you so much for this video it has helped me tremendously. I am a 43yr old male who is not naturally a dom (my wife, who is very submissive, says I’m a soft dom for whatever it’s worth). My wife & I got very very very lucky meeting a gorgeous couple at our gym (33M & 30F) who are both submissive and want a dom for group play + occasional 1 on 1s without partners/swapping. I’ve been honest with them about not really being a dom dom but am open to doing it. For the most part I’ve just been being myself but being more assertive than usual and kinda feel like I may not be fulfilling their fantasies or doing it correctly but from what you’re saying I am. I love that you said doms don’t need to be infallible bc I’ve run into that problem in the past where if I wasn’t like perfect then I wasn’t doing good enough for the sub. When I feel like someone wants me to be infallible I find that to be a major turnoff - like it’s an unrealistic fantasy + makes me not desire to pleasure that person bc it feels like it’s my job instead of pleasure. Another issue is in my head because I feel silly being a dom with the guy bc he’s 6’4 and looks like a Greek god & I’m 5’10 with a dad bod (tho I do workout 6 days a week & in the best shape of my life). Anyways thanks again for this video! This will most certainly lead to us having better sex with those 2 & not be stuck in my own head the whole time :)
Your videos are always wonderfully entertaining & informative, Awesome Ariel ! Thanks so very much for sharing with us....and spanks for the memories !
VERY informative video, Ariel! And I LOVE your sweet personality and subtle humor! I’ve liked and subscribed, and I look forward to future presentations! Be careful out there, Sweetie! ❤
This was extraordinarily fascinating and informative, thank you!! As you said, I think many of these would likely be shared by a lot of submissives, and in a way, some of them are what might be seen as positive/appealing traits in anybody - being polite, observant, trustworthy, appreciative, inquisitive, honest about fallibility, a feminist and such - and I can imagine that the appeal and importance of those things can be heightened within the context of a BDSM relationship and/or play session when you're sharing your yourself, your mind and your body and the maximal vulnerability that goes with it. I love being able to understand someone's mind and thought process, no matter the topic at hand, and why they like what they like and why they don't like why they don't like, so this was tremendously interesting and helpful and I have taken many notes! And I have no doubt that this will be very helpful to new and experienced dominants alike because no matter how experienced one is there is always the capacity to learn something new, the capacity to adapt and the capacity to improve. Not least because, as you listed, there's something to be said for taking the time and effort to learn how to do something!
Hi there ! New subscriber here. I just wanted to say, it was incredible to listen to someone who is so grounded and confident in who they are and what they like. If communication is key in relationships and life, then you hold a master-key ! I have experienced the opposite often and I'm certain that's a reflection of my own failures .... I'm hoping to learn much from your channel !
Wow I’d of thought all the things you’ve said would be basic cleanliness or as you say two humans providing a service for the other human to the best of their abilities Loved 8 & Manners Makes the man 👍🏻🫡 😝🥰😍 great overview and openness ❤
Very nice! Why do you say “really really really old”? I’m confused a bit because your attitude, appearance and demeanor do not make me think of anything very “senior”. I spent 3 years in England (Suffolk County) in the Air Force and was always attracted to the youthful exuberance of British women. You are very beautiful. I only wish I was still there in England. Good luck in all you do!
Everyone I’ve ever played with has been because of 100% honesty. I knew what I wanted, they were eager to try, we talked through what we both wanted to try, and had an amazing time. I find that they ladies I’ve been with were looking more for the turmoil of learning and trying then simply being “helpless and horny” (which, funny enough, is what most people thought I wanted when we started, but in the end, had a better understanding not only of my fetishes, but theirs in turn).
Wondered with your past if you'd ever try a stretching to splits scene incorporating Dom and pain elements ? (Evan Zimroth style if you've ever caught up with that book) . Really good to have found you posting these. Thank you.
@@ArielsTwilightYears You are beautiful and sophisticated, it takes a lot of intelligence to understand this delicate topic. I cannot stop to listen to you. My fantasies are going wild when I listen.
A really good video, as always. Should be watched by all new dominants. Watching and listening for the reactions to every thing you do is absolutely crucial to my topping. Is the reaction positive, negative or absolutely nothing? How did they move? If a blow was too much or almost too much, the bare feet often show that, even if the sub doesn't vocalise. In 19 years of playing (as a switch) I haven't been safeworded and only get a yellow sometimes with people I haven't played with before. With regards to the top being clean and well presented: of course! Who would want to be up close and personal with someone who smells bad. I would extend this to making an effort with clothing. How many cishet male tops expect their subs to be hairless, corseted and in towering heels, fully made up, but wear jeans and a t shirt? Make a commensurate effort! Praise: after one particular sub mentioned how much they enjoyed when I told them how well they were doing, I make a point of during and post scene giving praise and encouragement. Ok, I have a question: the last favourite comment. "Like an adult". An adult as opposed to what???
An adult as opposed to a child. In the spanking world there's often some element of age play (parental storylines, school storylines) which tends to encourage performers to behave in a different way from how they naturally might IRL. In this case, my play partner was indicating that he wanted the absolute opposite of that, and he found a very hot (to me) way of expressing his desire to cane the 'real' me, rather than the on-screen version of me.
As a Dominant who has constantly studied BDSM scenes, I found your post here very insightful. Want to have cup of tea or coffee, fun conversation and then give you a good spanking OTK!
@@ArielsTwilightYears i have seen the Video with the Interview on TV, i am suprised about your private Story. The Way of Sexuality you have chosen, its a little bit tough. I am not a Yesterday-Man, but i could never treat you like that in a hard Way, because you got such a cute Face. I would feel very uncomfortable that i could hurt you by mistake. You are such a lovely Lady.
I'm always a bit worried about saying even ANYTHING 'to' Ariel because she is wa-a-a-y super-smart and also has strong opinions that she has no fear voicing AT the idiot saying something gratuitous. But... watching this is like watching a hard-core straight Christian ideologue but with the requisite authenticating supernatural powers: 'do to me as you you would have be done to yourself, and -, don't kill me INTENTIONALLY (because hey, after all, after three days)... LOL 'Don't try to kill me intentionally,' right? Hahahaha. Okay. No problem there. I certainly wouldn't. (And then, I had the old Marx Bros scene in my head - 'what's the secret password?' No, not password silly, SAFE word.' Oh. (Just what goes through my head while I watch this).
just beside the point, but I also have a liking or interest in obelisks , or benbens as they are called. But then in the raw material of minerals or rocks like malachite for example.
@@eamonnpotts5063 I'm saying that you needn't feel any pressure because we're not in a relationship. Pleasing me is not something you need to worry about.
@ But that’s what came across in your video! You require trust and that is extremely understandable. You want experience! Isn’t there anything sexy and intimate about a level of innocence, even in seriously physical sex!? I know there would be for me so as to have that level of control/ domination!
@@eamonnpotts5063 1) I said 'skill', not 'experience', and skill is something you can acquire by learning on your own, as many people I reference in this video have done. Furthermore, I literally said, at 2:33, that admitting to not having experience is also v. valuable, & gave an example of how someone without experience impressed me very much. 2) Perhaps you're not aware of my BDSM work, but some of what I do is quite extreme, & therefore potentially dangerous. If I *did* say I required experience from partners (which I did *not*) it'd be perfectly reasonable, because I'm the one who's at risk of dying in an ambitious bondage rig if the rigger makes a technical error. It's reasonable for any submissive to want dominants to have put effort into becoming skilled, in the same way that if you took up abseiling, you'd probably want your partner to be skilled. Cos otherwise you might die. 3) If you want a partner who doesn't care if you know what you're doing or not, then go ahead and find one. You're not going to have a sexual relationship with me, so there's no reason why you should feel pressurised by my tastes. Only *your* potential partners' tastes will be relevant to you.
Its a fine line. Many if us men who are dominate dont feel respected by feminist women. Heck regular men in general dont feel respected by feminist. Im talkig about healthy men who dont have an ego complex or hate women or anything like that. So lets be clear on that If a women disrespects me using feminist rhetoric it sure seems like she is now trying to dominate me. Now im not going to let that bother me or anything, and I love seeing women thrive, however Id politely excuse myself from that situation and find a girl who was less concerned with feminism and more curious about learning how to enjoy each other's company in the bed room.
On one hand you appear to be in the same situation as me. I don't want to play with anyone who's sexist. You don't want to play with anyone who's sexist. On the other hand, being 'concerned with feminism' is something that's vitally important to many women, given rates of sexual violence perpetrated towards us, by men, and our culture's history of being denied equality in terms of work, mortgages, the right to vote, and reproductive rights. So dismissing it out of hand feels to me to be disrespectful in itself towards women, and is the sort of viewpoint that would stop me from being interested in a prospective play partner.
@ArielsTwilightYears I appreciate your thoughtful response. I would like to clarify that I dont dismiss feminism out of hand and I certainly dont disrespect women as a whole as you were suggesting. I will leave you with this and I do so appreciate your time. Its my love for my mother, my daughter, my sister, and my lover that has me raising my eye brow and asking this nuanced question. 👇 Can it be possible that 1st and 2nd wave feminism tremendously helped my mother and sister? Yes of course! Are 3rd and 4th wave feminism on track to seriously harm my daughter? Also Yes of course Perhaps where we differ is that I believe that answer to both of those questions is yes. I dont want to assume I know what your answer would be as making assumptions about someone you dont know isn't wise. Although you seemed more than comfortable making a few assumptions about me which also raises my eyebrow. That being said there is no need to quibble about little insignificant things like that in my opinion. I enjoy your channel and even though I disagree with you on some things I will continue to like and support your work of course because I learn more from people I disagree with more than people I agree with all the time. Keep up the great work!
@@alexleggett6270 Thank you. Exactly what assumptions do you think I'm making of you? You made a statement about yourself, not feeling respected by feminist women. Furthermore, you asserted that 'regular men in general' don't feel respected by feminists. I *am* a feminist. Given that the only mention of feminism in this video is my stating my preference for play partners who don't think men are inherently superior to women, or that women are all naturally submissive (which is hardly a controversial position at this point in history), it suggests to me, that you take issue with this statement. Cos it's the only one here. So either you're using the comments of my video to complain about women who aren't me, who hold positions that you're not disclosing, and with which you disagree (which would seem rather peculiar of you) or you're using the comments section to express disagreement with my *own* feminist statement in this video. Which, to be clear, is simply that I want women to be treated as equals by men unless they specify an interest in being sexually submissive. If it's the case that you're uncomfortable with this statement, then I'd have to say that sounds pretty much like 'dismissing feminism out of hand', as I said. The desire for something like equality is a very normal social instinct, which does not by any means equate to 'not respecting men'. If it's the case that you *don't* have an issue with my own feminist statement in this video (that I want men to treat women as equals, rather than as naturally subservient to them), then you're here to argue with something else that some feminist unknown to me has done to annoy you. Since I'm not that feminist, it means you're treating me as though I was one of a homogeneous mass of women who all think the same. Which would also feel disrespectful in itself towards women, as I said. I'm sorry to be argumentative, but whenever I mention any kind of feminism on RUclips, there'll be a man in the comments, complaining about feminists. And I simply cannot imagine going and seeking out men's rights activist creators (for example) on RUclips, and commenting, as a woman, to tell them I don't agree with them. If the video talks about men's issues, then that part of the video isn't really for me, and while I might be interested in listening to it, I don't think it'd be massively appropriate of me to start disagreeing with it in the comments. I'm a woman. I don't know what it's like to walk through life as a man, however many male friends I might have, or however many men I love. If you're familiar with my work, you'll know that I'm an escapee from a patriarchal cult, and a survivor of sexual violence (by a man) I have every reason in this world to be concerned about sexual equality; the lack of it has hurt me personally.
@ArielsTwilightYears I have subscribed to your channel today. I genuinely am here to learn from someone that has very different world views than myself. Although I disagree with you on some issues it doesnt mean I am questioning your moral character or that I have a dislike for women because I think feminism can go to far. I feel its appropriate to end the conversation here on a positive note and will support you as best I can with views and likes. I stand firmly by what I said in my previous comments and I have no doubt if we were to have this conversation at a dinner party a level of mutaul respect in the room would indeed be palpable even though we disagree. I would ensure we would both be able to leave the table with both our heads held high. I look forward to listening to more of your content. Cheers !
I have never enguaged in BDSM ,but you mentioned suffering for someone and NOT having sex in the process or at the end. How could you or the dom really enjoy this,you having given so much of yourself and neither wanting to pleasure each other in the end? Seems it would be anticlimactic,and dissatisfying.🎉
I mean, just cos you might not be having sex, it doesn't mean no one's having orgasms. People are just wired differently I think, so the end goal for an encounter will differ according to that. And 'pleasuring each other' doesn't necessarily have to mean an orgasm, either. For some people, the scene might be complete without sexual climax, because the focus of the experience is perhaps primarily psychological, or maybe even spiritual.
Dear God, thank you for making it so I found a husband who’s not threatened by my intellect. Do you think Eve ate the apple so she wouldn’t have to live eternally with Adam whining endlessly about her thinking? Thanks, God!
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Wonderful, articulate, illuminating candour. No idea about this stuff, being so passive by nature, but I am beginning to learn at the behest of my hard headed woman. (Cat Stevens reference) This was very helpful, and I feel confident that my skills can be honed to high calibre assuming I can find good information in that direction.
Thanks for this.
This woman gives very good advice. These are lessons /knowledge we should know as young people to have respectful relationships.
Every submissive is special. A gift to be appreciated.
What a lovely way of thinking!
This is such a great instalment and fills me with confidence as a kind dom that asks questions ahead of a scene
Oh thank you!
Thank you so much for this video it has helped me tremendously. I am a 43yr old male who is not naturally a dom (my wife, who is very submissive, says I’m a soft dom for whatever it’s worth). My wife & I got very very very lucky meeting a gorgeous couple at our gym (33M & 30F) who are both submissive and want a dom for group play + occasional 1 on 1s without partners/swapping. I’ve been honest with them about not really being a dom dom but am open to doing it. For the most part I’ve just been being myself but being more assertive than usual and kinda feel like I may not be fulfilling their fantasies or doing it correctly but from what you’re saying I am. I love that you said doms don’t need to be infallible bc I’ve run into that problem in the past where if I wasn’t like perfect then I wasn’t doing good enough for the sub. When I feel like someone wants me to be infallible I find that to be a major turnoff - like it’s an unrealistic fantasy + makes me not desire to pleasure that person bc it feels like it’s my job instead of pleasure. Another issue is in my head because I feel silly being a dom with the guy bc he’s 6’4 and looks like a Greek god & I’m 5’10 with a dad bod (tho I do workout 6 days a week & in the best shape of my life). Anyways thanks again for this video! This will most certainly lead to us having better sex with those 2 & not be stuck in my own head the whole time :)
Hi Ariel,
I'm impressed, really! I listened for the entire 22 minutes. It was very exciting to hear.
Excellent advice! There’s a lot here that you have brought out.
Your videos are always wonderfully entertaining & informative, Awesome Ariel ! Thanks so very much for sharing with us....and spanks for the memories !
Glad you like them!
VERY informative video, Ariel!
And I LOVE your sweet personality and subtle humor!
I’ve liked and subscribed, and I look forward to future presentations!
Be careful out there, Sweetie! ❤
This was extraordinarily fascinating and informative, thank you!! As you said, I think many of these would likely be shared by a lot of submissives, and in a way, some of them are what might be seen as positive/appealing traits in anybody - being polite, observant, trustworthy, appreciative, inquisitive, honest about fallibility, a feminist and such - and I can imagine that the appeal and importance of those things can be heightened within the context of a BDSM relationship and/or play session when you're sharing your yourself, your mind and your body and the maximal vulnerability that goes with it. I love being able to understand someone's mind and thought process, no matter the topic at hand, and why they like what they like and why they don't like why they don't like, so this was tremendously interesting and helpful and I have taken many notes! And I have no doubt that this will be very helpful to new and experienced dominants alike because no matter how experienced one is there is always the capacity to learn something new, the capacity to adapt and the capacity to improve. Not least because, as you listed, there's something to be said for taking the time and effort to learn how to do something!
Thank you Tom, I very much appreciate that!
Hi there ! New subscriber here. I just wanted to say, it was incredible to listen to someone who is so grounded and confident in who they are and what they like. If communication is key in relationships and life, then you hold a master-key ! I have experienced the opposite often and I'm certain that's a reflection of my own failures .... I'm hoping to learn much from your channel !
Thank you so much, that's very kind!
GOOD HINTS, cheers from Italy, Ariel !
I insist on Honesty and being able to listen by both play partners.
Welcome back ARIEL!!!!
Thanks !
@@ArielsTwilightYears You’re welcome Big Sister! 🤗
Wow I’d of thought all the things you’ve said would be basic cleanliness or as you say two humans providing a service for the other human to the best of their abilities Loved 8 & Manners Makes the man 👍🏻🫡 😝🥰😍 great overview and openness ❤
Thank you!
Very nice! Why do you say “really really really old”?
I’m confused a bit because your attitude, appearance and demeanor do not make me think of anything very “senior”. I spent 3 years in England (Suffolk County) in the Air Force and was always attracted to the youthful exuberance of British women. You are very beautiful. I only wish I was still there in England. Good luck in all you do!
Everyone I’ve ever played with has been because of 100% honesty. I knew what I wanted, they were eager to try, we talked through what we both wanted to try, and had an amazing time. I find that they ladies I’ve been with were looking more for the turmoil of learning and trying then simply being “helpless and horny” (which, funny enough, is what most people thought I wanted when we started, but in the end, had a better understanding not only of my fetishes, but theirs in turn).
I'm very glad!
I will say, as a romance author trying to create big, sexy, dominant male characters, this is INCREDIBLE information to have. Thank you for sharing!
Ahh am so happy to hear that! Thank you!
Get the book "Dangerous Men Adventurous Women" don't recall specifics but it has 4 authors.
Helpful information in some circles.
damn that was interesting, informative and influential
Thank you so much!
Wondered with your past if you'd ever try a stretching to splits scene incorporating Dom and pain elements ? (Evan Zimroth style if you've ever caught up with that book) . Really good to have found you posting these. Thank you.
I have done that! For FutileStruggles. It was great fun!
I really hope you get published in the US. Your book is impressive and important, and well read.
Thank you! It's being published there in December '24.
Great lecture! You are really special.
Wow, thank you!
@@ArielsTwilightYears You are beautiful and sophisticated, it takes a lot of intelligence to understand this delicate topic. I cannot stop to listen to you. My fantasies are going wild when I listen.
Totally unrelated - Engel's Coach shop RUclips channel used the exact same intro music on a lot of their Borax wagon restoration videos.😅
A really good video, as always. Should be watched by all new dominants.
Watching and listening for the reactions to every thing you do is absolutely crucial to my topping. Is the reaction positive, negative or absolutely nothing? How did they move? If a blow was too much or almost too much, the bare feet often show that, even if the sub doesn't vocalise.
In 19 years of playing (as a switch) I haven't been safeworded and only get a yellow sometimes with people I haven't played with before.
With regards to the top being clean and well presented: of course! Who would want to be up close and personal with someone who smells bad. I would extend this to making an effort with clothing. How many cishet male tops expect their subs to be hairless, corseted and in towering heels, fully made up, but wear jeans and a t shirt? Make a commensurate effort!
Praise: after one particular sub mentioned how much they enjoyed when I told them how well they were doing, I make a point of during and post scene giving praise and encouragement.
Ok, I have a question: the last favourite comment. "Like an adult". An adult as opposed to what???
An adult as opposed to a child. In the spanking world there's often some element of age play (parental storylines, school storylines) which tends to encourage performers to behave in a different way from how they naturally might IRL. In this case, my play partner was indicating that he wanted the absolute opposite of that, and he found a very hot (to me) way of expressing his desire to cane the 'real' me, rather than the on-screen version of me.
@@ArielsTwilightYears Thankyou for the clarification.
As a Dominant who has constantly studied BDSM scenes, I found your post here very insightful. Want to have cup of tea or coffee, fun conversation and then give you a good spanking OTK!
Remarks of high intelligence.
Thanks, Ariel.
Thank you!
Lucky the man, who is your Lover !. You are a beautiful Lady.
Thank you!
@@ArielsTwilightYears you are welcome !.
@@ArielsTwilightYears i have seen the Video with the Interview on TV, i am suprised about your private Story. The Way of Sexuality you have chosen, its a little bit tough. I am not a Yesterday-Man, but i could never treat you like that in a hard Way, because you got such a cute Face. I would feel very uncomfortable that i could hurt you by mistake. You are such a lovely Lady.
really wonderful video, helps me understand things from the opposite point of view.
Thanks so much!
Wise, entertaining, hot; thanks for this!
Glad you enjoyed it!
ARIEL A. OMGGGGG YOU HAVE A RUclips CHANNEL 🤩🥰🤩🥰🤩🥰🤩
YES I DO
this is excellent information
Glad you think so!
So hot hearing you say your favourite thing.
Wow!
Thanks!
Where did you get the pictures on the wall? Are they out of a book?
I bought them on eBay, and had to collect them from a house in the West Midlands somewhere, I think!
Don't worry .... Daddys here. 😊
A very interesting and informative video. I was wondering have you ever tried erotic hypnosis or Master/Slave hypnosis?
I work for Lex at Entrancement UK, but that's my only experience of it.
@@ArielsTwilightYears Wow. I love his work. Do you think it's something you would like to do more of?
How about when they ask you "Do you want another gevulde koek?"
That is the very best thing of all.
age is just a number for ya
Hi Ariel your so interesting xx
Thank you, I try!
I'm always a bit worried about saying even ANYTHING 'to' Ariel because she is wa-a-a-y super-smart and also has strong opinions that she has no fear voicing AT the idiot saying something gratuitous. But... watching this is like watching a hard-core straight Christian ideologue but with the requisite authenticating supernatural powers: 'do to me as you you would have be done to yourself, and -, don't kill me INTENTIONALLY (because hey, after all, after three days)... LOL 'Don't try to kill me intentionally,' right? Hahahaha. Okay. No problem there. I certainly wouldn't. (And then, I had the old Marx Bros scene in my head - 'what's the secret password?' No, not password silly, SAFE word.' Oh. (Just what goes through my head while I watch this).
LOL do not worry!
@@ArielsTwilightYears Thanks kiddo. We luv ya ya know this. (I think I'm older than you so I can get to say that kind of thing).
Is real strength a turn on? Herculean physique
Not especially for me; as long as I think they're stronger than me (which is easy cos I have hardly any upper body strength, lol) I'm perfectly happy!
I would be worried that I could really hurt. It's not in my nature probably
And has your dungeon passed the health and safety checks?
What dungeon?
Sorry imagination running away. Too many Tory MPs 1980s. I'm not frank bough
I like you're foot videos ❤goddess
21:30 Americans being nervous about sexuality??? No way... 😁
LOL exactly.
just beside the point, but I also have a liking or interest in obelisks , or benbens as they are called. But then in the raw material of minerals or rocks like malachite for example.
No pressure then 🤷🏻♂️🤣
Why would you feel pressured? You're not in a relationship with me.
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I’m referring to pleasing you!
@@eamonnpotts5063 I'm saying that you needn't feel any pressure because we're not in a relationship. Pleasing me is not something you need to worry about.
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But that’s what came across in your video! You require trust and that is extremely understandable. You want experience! Isn’t there anything sexy and intimate about a level of innocence, even in seriously physical sex!?
I know there would be for me so as to have that level of control/ domination!
@@eamonnpotts5063 1) I said 'skill', not 'experience', and skill is something you can acquire by learning on your own, as many people I reference in this video have done. Furthermore, I literally said, at 2:33, that admitting to not having experience is also v. valuable, & gave an example of how someone without experience impressed me very much. 2) Perhaps you're not aware of my BDSM work, but some of what I do is quite extreme, & therefore potentially dangerous. If I *did* say I required experience from partners (which I did *not*) it'd be perfectly reasonable, because I'm the one who's at risk of dying in an ambitious bondage rig if the rigger makes a technical error. It's reasonable for any submissive to want dominants to have put effort into becoming skilled, in the same way that if you took up abseiling, you'd probably want your partner to be skilled. Cos otherwise you might die. 3) If you want a partner who doesn't care if you know what you're doing or not, then go ahead and find one. You're not going to have a sexual relationship with me, so there's no reason why you should feel pressurised by my tastes. Only *your* potential partners' tastes will be relevant to you.
I think I love you...
You look & sound very much like Julie Andrews.
Its a fine line. Many if us men who are dominate dont feel respected by feminist women. Heck regular men in general dont feel respected by feminist. Im talkig about healthy men who dont have an ego complex or hate women or anything like that. So lets be clear on that
If a women disrespects me using feminist rhetoric it sure seems like she is now trying to dominate me.
Now im not going to let that bother me or anything, and I love seeing women thrive, however Id politely excuse myself from that situation and find a girl who was less concerned with feminism and more curious about learning how to enjoy each other's company in the bed room.
On one hand you appear to be in the same situation as me. I don't want to play with anyone who's sexist. You don't want to play with anyone who's sexist. On the other hand, being 'concerned with feminism' is something that's vitally important to many women, given rates of sexual violence perpetrated towards us, by men, and our culture's history of being denied equality in terms of work, mortgages, the right to vote, and reproductive rights. So dismissing it out of hand feels to me to be disrespectful in itself towards women, and is the sort of viewpoint that would stop me from being interested in a prospective play partner.
@ArielsTwilightYears I appreciate your thoughtful response. I would like to clarify that I dont dismiss feminism out of hand and I certainly dont disrespect women as a whole as you were suggesting.
I will leave you with this and I do so appreciate your time.
Its my love for my mother, my daughter, my sister, and my lover that has me raising my eye brow and asking this nuanced question. 👇
Can it be possible that 1st and 2nd wave feminism tremendously helped my mother and sister? Yes of course!
Are 3rd and 4th wave feminism on track to seriously harm my daughter? Also Yes of course
Perhaps where we differ is that I believe that answer to both of those questions is yes. I dont want to assume I know what your answer would be as making assumptions about someone you dont know isn't wise. Although you seemed more than comfortable making a few assumptions about me which also raises my eyebrow.
That being said there is no need to quibble about little insignificant things like that in my opinion. I enjoy your channel and even though I disagree with you on some things I will continue to like and support your work of course because I learn more from people I disagree with more than people I agree with all the time.
Keep up the great work!
@@alexleggett6270 Thank you. Exactly what assumptions do you think I'm making of you? You made a statement about yourself, not feeling respected by feminist women. Furthermore, you asserted that 'regular men in general' don't feel respected by feminists. I *am* a feminist. Given that the only mention of feminism in this video is my stating my preference for play partners who don't think men are inherently superior to women, or that women are all naturally submissive (which is hardly a controversial position at this point in history), it suggests to me, that you take issue with this statement. Cos it's the only one here. So either you're using the comments of my video to complain about women who aren't me, who hold positions that you're not disclosing, and with which you disagree (which would seem rather peculiar of you) or you're using the comments section to express disagreement with my *own* feminist statement in this video. Which, to be clear, is simply that I want women to be treated as equals by men unless they specify an interest in being sexually submissive.
If it's the case that you're uncomfortable with this statement, then I'd have to say that sounds pretty much like 'dismissing feminism out of hand', as I said. The desire for something like equality is a very normal social instinct, which does not by any means equate to 'not respecting men'. If it's the case that you *don't* have an issue with my own feminist statement in this video (that I want men to treat women as equals, rather than as naturally subservient to them), then you're here to argue with something else that some feminist unknown to me has done to annoy you. Since I'm not that feminist, it means you're treating me as though I was one of a homogeneous mass of women who all think the same. Which would also feel disrespectful in itself towards women, as I said. I'm sorry to be argumentative, but whenever I mention any kind of feminism on RUclips, there'll be a man in the comments, complaining about feminists. And I simply cannot imagine going and seeking out men's rights activist creators (for example) on RUclips, and commenting, as a woman, to tell them I don't agree with them. If the video talks about men's issues, then that part of the video isn't really for me, and while I might be interested in listening to it, I don't think it'd be massively appropriate of me to start disagreeing with it in the comments. I'm a woman. I don't know what it's like to walk through life as a man, however many male friends I might have, or however many men I love. If you're familiar with my work, you'll know that I'm an escapee from a patriarchal cult, and a survivor of sexual violence (by a man) I have every reason in this world to be concerned about sexual equality; the lack of it has hurt me personally.
@ArielsTwilightYears I have subscribed to your channel today. I genuinely am here to learn from someone that has very different world views than myself.
Although I disagree with you on some issues it doesnt mean I am questioning your moral character or that I have a dislike for women because I think feminism can go to far.
I feel its appropriate to end the conversation here on a positive note and will support you as best I can with views and likes.
I stand firmly by what I said in my previous comments and I have no doubt if we were to have this conversation at a dinner party a level of mutaul respect in the room would indeed be palpable even though we disagree. I would ensure we would both be able to leave the table with both our heads held high.
I look forward to listening to more of your content.
Cheers !
Get off the stage and see it real. But did your performance. ❤
IDK what you mean, but ok.
How about your work in progress Half😅❤
How old is she.
I'm 47.
I have never enguaged in BDSM ,but you mentioned suffering for someone and NOT having sex in the process or at the end. How could you or the dom really enjoy this,you having given so much of yourself and neither wanting to pleasure each other in the end? Seems it would be anticlimactic,and dissatisfying.🎉
I mean, just cos you might not be having sex, it doesn't mean no one's having orgasms. People are just wired differently I think, so the end goal for an encounter will differ according to that. And 'pleasuring each other' doesn't necessarily have to mean an orgasm, either. For some people, the scene might be complete without sexual climax, because the focus of the experience is perhaps primarily psychological, or maybe even spiritual.
❤ Simply Delicious ❤
Show me don't tell me
My entire career is literally devoted to that. But this is RUclips.
I want to be your girlfriend ❤
Please God, let men find women who don't overthink
Dear God, thank you for making it so I found a husband who’s not threatened by my intellect. Do you think Eve ate the apple so she wouldn’t have to live eternally with Adam whining endlessly about her thinking? Thanks, God!
@@ArielsTwilightYears Q. E. D.