Yeah, it's also not helpful advice for guys either. I feel all current dating advice is about hypergamy, looks, status and money. "Ok, I need to become a top 1% guy" but.... how is that helpful? By definition only one in a hundred can get there!!!!
Yes, they speak broadly hoping that 1% of those men that they desire will get the hint and take action, not realizing that those men don't want to go near these type of women
women want this, women want that, women want, women........want want want. Have you noticed the amount of mens improvement videos, and how men should cater to women ? Yet there are never any videos on how women should treat a man or better themselves ?. Only for what they should expect from men.
@stuwilldoo7035 I get frustrated with this too. Generally, men and western society as a whole tends to have lesser standards and expectations for women.
That's because women hold all the leverage in the courtship process. Of course they're going to hold that over us to get as much as they can. If it were the other way around, we would do the same.
haha shit, i was going to comment the same thing...yeah i dont really care about all these dating "coaches" who have recylced others reframed and what not, either shes with it, or not. I`m not going to jump through all these "Wants", when she knows what i want, then i´ll talk with her... Stop catering to females!
I'm certainly no expert on women, but the 20 or so years of experience I have with them has taught me one thing. It all comes down to attraction. They're either into you or they're not. It's that simple. Sure there are probably some things you can do to make a woman more attracted to you, but there's not much you can do to screw it up if they already are. A guy she's attracted to who comes up and says nothing has a better chance than the guy she's not attracted to who says all the right things. This should be common sense, but we all know how common that is...
If I was to make a video on Attraction this would be it… if she’s attracted to you she will make it easy as possible to approach her and talk to her! Obviously you can still mess it up, but she will give you multiple signs to approach her over months … Even if she’s with someone else ! 👍🏾💯
From the moment boys are born they are feed the lie that all you have to do is just be nice. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Attraction can’t be negotiated, it can’t be purchased. It doesn’t matter how much you simp over a woman, it’s not going to make her attracted to you, if you look like a slob. Looks are everything. You would be amazed at what women will let guys get away with, when they are attracted to them. You can be a serial killer and women will make excuses for you when you’re attractive. That’s way the first thing any guy should do that is struggling with women, is fix your appearance.
@@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd I have to disagree. I've personally screwed up with women that were attracted to me, and seen it happen to a few other guys. I was too generous with the compliments, my gifts, and my time, and they would get cold.
I also have to disagree. When women don't know you, they are attracted to a fantasy they create of you. It's pretty easy to talk too much on a first date. You need to very slowly introduce them to the real you, otherwise, abruptly shattering their fantasy can break the initial attraction. Luckily, it's easy to let them do 80% of the talking on the first few dates.
i know love is important. But trying to find it via getting good at 'dating' is like trying to find polar bears in the sahaara. Wrong place, wrong task. Love is about friendships and self acceptance. This is a game of being comfortable with who you are not on convincing everyone you are worth their time. When was the last time you made a friend because you took friendship making advice courses where you said all the right things and had all the body language to convince them you are worth their time. You didn't. People over value good looks and under value being unique and we find ourselves trying to play the wrong game because the wrong game is what everyone cares about in their youth. No old person at the end of their life is thinking about anything other than the value of friendship with their partner. thats real love.
It's a lot like a fish trying to give advice about fishing techniques and recommending to just toss the bait into the water with no idea how the hook, line and rod work lol
Yes, NEVER tell a woman she is beautiful. This comes off as weak and unimaginative. I have always commented that she “looked interesting”. This often elicits a question or conversation in response.
you cant give a away the information, that you want her, even without knowing a single thing about who she is . I think that is a big killer of attraction. She needs to know that you are the kind of guy, who is willing to walk off if you dont like how she behaves.
I wouldn’t stress over it fellas, if the opportunity is there make the approach and see if she’s interested, if not no biggie. Focus on being the best version of yourself and being successful, cuz if you are women will be automatically drawn to you. If you’re broke and not putting in the work she’ll eventually leave you for someone better anyway.
I've got an idea for a pick-up line in public. When approaching a woman, pointe at any other random woman and say, my sister tells me you are too hot not to talk to," because women care more about what other women think than they care about what men think. Men make the mistake of thinking women are looking for their admiration, when in fact they want other women's admiration. Guys have no idea how hard their facade is to create, so compliments from women, who do understand the effort of building a facade, have far more impact.
@bigheadrhino the lie is not for no reason, unless you make it a habit of never going out in public without a chick, it's to break the ice with them on an emotional high, because they literally care more about what other women think than what men think. You could say, don't look now but that chick over there was checking you out hard. Is that better for you? It's not even a lie, because if she's hot you know the other chick was checking her out. They dress up for each other not for us.
It's getting old but "never ask the fish" and this is the reason. Women really don't understand what they are talking about most of the time. Women coaches just pray on unacknowledged weak men.
@@WealthWeaves Steve Jobs basically said you have to tell people what they want. This is why Apple is so feverishly successful, at least during the iPod and iPhone eras
These insights are on point. I spent over a decade figuring out attraction as a short Chinese guy in Toronto. Tried a lot of different things to increase my success in dating. Learned the most when I got a job at a night club; seeing how social proof, an abundance mindset, tons of exposure to lots of women on a regular basis sets a solid foundation for what works. On the flip side, leading with money, over complimenting and chasing dries ladies right up. Thanks.
Hey I'm in toronto and afraid of toronto girls lol, any advice? I don't do night clubs and my friends are all getting married so i can't go out with them to meet people. I want to approach myself but idk something about toronto girls kinda scare me like they would respond with a no embarrassingly loud
@@rjgn4054 without knowing more about your situation, I would start by taking a look at myself first to optimise your chances. There's a lot to unpack there; you need to consider appearance, body language, speech, confidence, etc. Be the best version of yourself possible. Then be aware of the woman and the environmental context you are encountering her. On line dating is a no-go for the vast majority of men, and cold approach is possible, but very difficult unless the conditions are right and you really stand it in a positive way. Meeting people through other people works well, as in it pre-qualifies you as not being a creep. Meeting through activities, classes, or work gives you an organic reason to engage in conversation. There are countless sources of wisdom on RUclips that tackle various aspects well. This channel seems to be sensitive to our unique situation pretty well. I found in my experience that Asian women are most receptive racially to Asian men. I've had luck with other erhnicies, but the ratio isn't even close. I'm going to recommend "OrionTaraban" for psychology, "Austin Summers" for cold approach, "Charisma on Command" for social skills, and "Michael Sartain" on insights into how a lot of women think. Full disclosure, I've been married for since 2010, and still very much love my wife. I'm still fascinated with attraction and relationships, that's why I still love this type of content. Good luck, brother.
Most female dating coaches provide idealistic, surface-level advice without any attempt to delve even slightly more deeply, and useful only to those who don't even need it.
Their advice is tailored to their demographic, simps. Dating coaches make money off long term clients who keep failing. Simps want female dating coaches because female coaches will tell them exactly what they want to hear. Be soft, be nice. Male dating coaches..."You are fat AF. Eat this diet. 1 hour of cardio everyday, weights every other day."
My sister told me i should give gifts to women on first dates cuz “its cute that she remembers she got that gift on a first date”. After i asked her if she ended up in a relationship with any guy that gave her a gift, she said no. When i asked her if a guy giving her a gift raised her attraction toward him she said no
ya, men have to do all the learning, trial and error, in order to know how to date, how to meet and attract someone, reminds of a comment discussion i saw going on instagram and i agree with it, it went like this: "why aren't there accounts like these for girls? it seems guys have to do all the learning" and a guy said "women just exist and dudes line up for her" and it continued: "women don't have to learn game, let alone almost do anything to get guys. They just go out, be there, just be there, look pretty and get attention, options for just existing. Unfortuneately, we as guys have to learn this crap to get women into our lives. Getting girls is a skill that has to be practiced repeatedly" i thought that summed it up perfectly, ya for guys, men, getting women is a skill, but for women, getting guys is not a skill, but not the other way around, never was a fan of how reality has to be this way, oh well, it will never change sadly.
Excellent breakdown dude. It's good to know that you're giving constructive criticism...recognizing the good and bad in her advice, rather than most people who would tear it down and berate her, this is the way 👏
Relax guys, don´t think about it too much. Be yourself. Get rid of the thought that you could lose something when you approach a woman. There are sooo many women on this planet. If it is not this one, then it´s the next one. Just treat them like you don´t need them because guess what: you don´t need them. You get rejected? Her miss and she will never know what she´s missing.
I don’t have an issue with her advice about keeping things simple. Too many guys overcomplicate the approach. That said, I have often gotten positive responses from women and have even been approached on several occasions. I listened to this podcast of her and what I found frustrating was her dismissal of the significance of rejection. Yes it happens to all of us, but it clearly shows how little she understands the male perspective.
@jaguar1383 there's been periods of my life when I was a scrawny kid, periods when I was a bit overweight, and periods when I'm walking around at 10-15% bodyfat. There's a vast difference in how women treated me in each of these different stages. Some of the guys I see complain put zero effort into their body, their clothes, their hair, or their money.
I think one of the biggest misconceptions and piece of advice women give to guys about dating is “make her laugh”. I don’t know how many people I have seen say “if you can make her laugh, she yours”, but they never mention the most important part. She wants the guy she’s already attracted to make her laugh, not the invisible average guys. If she’s not attracted to you but you can make her laugh hysterically, congratulations, you’ve just bought a first class ticket to the Friendzone as her own private jester. However, I will admit that if she’s already attracted to the guy and that guy makes her laugh hysterically, he does indeed have her. All this is to say that the advice women give very much needs to caveat of “she wants the guy she is already attracted to to have *insert quality*, not the average guy at Walmart”. Keep up the great work!
Misunderstanding of the rule. The point is that if she likes you she will laugh at pretty much anything you say. So the purpose is not to make her laugh, but to use her laughing or not laughing as a gauge of whether she likes you.
Your closing statement perfectly describes game, never had someone break it it down with such clarity and authenticity. Keep up the good work. Also, I just got your book.
People need to stop using the fishing analogy. No fish WANTS to be caught, obviously they won't tell you how to catch them. Women, at a basic level, generally do.
You didn't understand the point of the analogy. It wasn't that fish wants to be caught, but the fact that fish doesn't know how to catch other fish (or even itself).
None of this matters if you're not in the top 20% of looks. Even if you do make an approach and it goes well, there's the high probability she's either taken or isn't looking to date right now. Then say you do get her number, there's a good chance she won't respond to your first message or if she does it'll be short responses. You also have to get her out on the date without flaking which is highly likely to happen anyway due to all the other guys she's talking to. Thing with approaching is ANY woman you go up to has a whole roster of men trying to get with her. Guys at work, the gym, school, exes, random dms on socials, other guys who approach her, in her friend zone, the guy she is sleeping with but won't commit etc. This is all without her using any dating apps. I just find it very hard to believe any of it is worth it just for some box and companionship which may not even last anyway. Juice is not worth the squeeze.
@@TheBraunzone I disagree with respect bro! Dress in style , show confidence etc and pre select her and she will give you approval signals, some people call them mating signals! Once you have that , you then approach! Hardly any Women will approach men , plus why do you want her to approach you! As a man you want to approach her… If she approaches you it’s over before it’s even started as far as I’m concerned… 💯👍🏾
The most important insight is actually that people don’t typically behave the way they tell you they will behave in a given situation so surveying like this is nearly pointless.
Spot on with the body language clusters (women looking away can be good sign) and only smiling for the first 2-3 seconds. Not only does the smile come across fake, it’s also just creepy.
This chick said she couldn't help me; literally won't take my hard earned dollars as I told her I have mental illnesses. She was very nice about it and I thanked her for her opinion that I needed to work on myself first before dating. I've been divorced and single for 10 years; I've raised my children, they are in college now or graduated college. I want and need Love. Don't I deserve love? She doesn't think I'm ready for love. I am. I NEED love. I am so LONELY. But she is ok with me staying lonely because I have a mental illness. Ok, I see her point. But I still need love and I think love will help my mental illness. I wfh, I see noone. I have friends but I live alone and I am alone a lot. I Just Want A Partner! I Do Not Want to Die Alone. Does she understand that or care? Probably not but that's ok. She is an ok person. I think. I am just lonely and alone and she doesn't need to care. Thanks for reading. All the Best for All of Us Single People out here that lonely and alone. TY! - Lou
For clarification: I am on the apps, I'm in Los Angeles, and I have no problems whatsoever gettting matches and women to go on a first date with me. It's the getting a SECOND date, or SEX, that I do not get. I've been on so many of these dates, and they are always a f'n INTERVIeW. IT"S SO FRUSTRATING. UGH! I am apparently an egomaniac and I'm not interested enough in them. Ok, Fair. Most women are not interesting.... I am very interesting and can talk for hours about anything....
Honestly just be authentic and genuine. Don’t try to act differently than your normal behavior because you will feel uncomfortable and they will probably notice that. Where if you’re just genuine, you may unintentionally be funny which they like rather than you “trying” to be funny and it doesn’t land.
12:25 - also people smile when they feel really nervous. the guy might not even realize it. But people can see that and know you are not confident in yourself especially women can read that.
I don’t think they’re good at explaining attraction because they usually don’t even know themselves but they are pretty good for getting ideas on how a date should go.
The part at the end is so true. It was trending over ten years ago, I remember being young and thinking that way before I snapped out of it. Also, I generally might start with 'We don't know each other' - which is good because it's a disqualifier in a way, and points out the context, showing social awareness. What do you think?
"we dont know each other" is not a good disqualifier, every other guy who's thinking about this is doing this as a "level 1 trick". A good disqualifier is something that's real and shows you're not putting her on a pedestal. For example, she says, "why are you talking to us?", to which I would reply, "I came up because I liked your style, I'm not selling anything relax... just new in town". A disqualifier is something you say when the women is not showing strong interest, or giving you a hard time. You're giving yourself a chance to re-engage, even if its just making a new friend. If she's mean to you after a genuine disqualifier I usually just say "have a nice day" and move on. Sometimes she will say, "oh sorry, Im just having a bad day". One time I had a girl tell me "sorry, some random guy was following me around and I got really wound up. What was your name again?"
@@HighIntegritySkills Ahh, that clarifies things. I guess I wasn't really using it as a disqualifier , more as an opener. But it has a kind of downward feel to it if you get me 😂
I'm really good at talking to people; I'm the NICE guy! I suck at getting girls to sleep with me or go on a second date with me because I am too cerebral on dates and talk too much and I'm not generating the "Feelings" apparently and making them HOT and touching and doing all the good flirting actions she talks about, before even ME TOO I was scared to be too aggressive with women that way, but I was also married for 14 years to a hot woman who is now married again to a multi multi millionaire: I am so Happy for her and we are great co parents to our children. I am a little jealous that she has found love and I have not. I've been single for 10 years. I co raised two great kids. I put time into them and one graduated UC Santa Barbara and the other is a student at UC Santa Barbara. So I did well with them and I'm doing well in Biz where I am making more $ than I ever have. I just bought a House in Los Angeles. I drive a BMW. I don't get sex. I don't get second dates. I do not know what to do. I get first dates, I get interest, I am funny and interesting, witty, and intelligent. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? WILL I DIE ALONE?????
The ironic thing is Justin Waller (that ginger red pill guy that hung out with andrew Tate) promoted the exact same advice 😂. “I’d be furious with my self if I didn’t come over and talk to you” smh
Thx, I got better looking as I aged and learned about style, fixing my teeth, skin etc. But I spent 23+ years alone so I know what it feels like to start at the bottom.
Unfortunately all the ones I know are retired from in-field work. Kezia used to do them as did Marni Winggirl but they are both in their 40s now and dont go out as wing girls anymore. The new women on tik tok are not going out in field and doing the work like we used to. They just give opinions on tik tok / reels without actual field work, which leads to bad advice. IMHO.
The concept that due to online dating women "have more options" is hilarious. Like suddenly more tall, good looking and wealthy starting springing out of the ground when Tinder was released. Seem like women just lost a filter: society and reputation. Now that it's all looks they can't help themselves, like a diabetic at a cake buffet.
a fish teaching how a fish to catch a fish. Controlling your emotions that's something i can't do. I went insane with my last girl. I'm still healing. NO PUA coach can fix mental.
"coach" just be attractive and talk to her..The bar is for meeting women to have short term fun with. I have never had long term relationship from a woman I met at a bar or club. Whatever you enjoy doing meet women in this environment. Or just talk to the attractive woman you bump into at the grocery store. The key to interest from women is confidence whatever the environment. Just remember it's not all about them and don't put them on a pedistal. She's interested.. cool if not then that's cool as well.
She wants the validation of being pursued. She knows there's no burden on her to initiate and you doing so makes her feel wanted/desired. But she doesn't want you.
@@SuperhumanCyberRyfacts. I’d be lying if I haven’t done that but also because I may find her average attractiveness and I’m curious to see if she has personality.
@@HighIntegritySkills I've literally made a profile as a "white" guy and realized it was a cheat code....it was a master key that unlocked access to ALLLLLL women because they all wanted to qualify themselves to be with me as a "white" guy. That was eye opening and depressing for two years. Using a "white" guy to have conversations and interact with women on the apps when I felt lonely. BRUH lol.
a few months ago I gathered all the courage left inside me to approach a very cute girl beside me in a train.. I thought I was doing alright but she was so uncomfortable n looked at me in disgust.. that really hurt me real bad that same night I sub to bumble n got a lot of dates w a lot of cute n smart girls, n I did so well w all of them that I now have to be like a “player”, which is an area where I’m not familiar with but my main goal now is to just keep it flowing so I don’t have to be desperate focusing on one girl until I could call one of them my gf
Hey bro loving your content, its been a game changer. I noticed you have a text game video for online dating. Would you be able to make a video on text game from DMs (insta, facebook etc.) It seems to have a different approach, would love your perspective on this.
what women always leave out: they want those behaviors from guys they’re already attracted to. which doesn’t help 90% of guys.
Yeah, it's also not helpful advice for guys either. I feel all current dating advice is about hypergamy, looks, status and money.
"Ok, I need to become a top 1% guy" but.... how is that helpful? By definition only one in a hundred can get there!!!!
Yes, they speak broadly hoping that 1% of those men that they desire will get the hint and take action, not realizing that those men don't want to go near these type of women
@@ulizez89 easy, strike to BECOME that 1%, jeebus, it's not rocket science, the strive alone will get ya there wit women
@@phabeondominguez5971 By definition, being in that 1% is hard.
I have no issues getting women to go out on a "First" date. It's the SECOND dates and SEX that I NEVER GET
Women only give advice to guys they are already attracted to 😂
This comment.
Yep thats why they say stuff like " just be yourself."
women want this, women want that, women want, women........want want want. Have you noticed the amount of mens improvement videos, and how men should cater to women ? Yet there are never any videos on how women should treat a man or better themselves ?. Only for what they should expect from men.
@stuwilldoo7035 I get frustrated with this too. Generally, men and western society as a whole tends to have lesser standards and expectations for women.
That's because women hold all the leverage in the courtship process. Of course they're going to hold that over us to get as much as they can. If it were the other way around, we would do the same.
haha shit, i was going to comment the same thing...yeah i dont really care about all these dating "coaches" who have recylced others reframed and what not, either shes with it, or not.
I`m not going to jump through all these "Wants", when she knows what i want, then i´ll talk with her...
Stop catering to females!
cake and eat it too apparently
I'm certainly no expert on women, but the 20 or so years of experience I have with them has taught me one thing. It all comes down to attraction.
They're either into you or they're not. It's that simple.
Sure there are probably some things you can do to make a woman more attracted to you, but there's not much you can do to screw it up if they already are.
A guy she's attracted to who comes up and says nothing has a better chance than the guy she's not attracted to who says all the right things.
This should be common sense, but we all know how common that is...
If I was to make a video on Attraction this would be it… if she’s attracted to you she will make it easy as possible to approach her and talk to her! Obviously you can still mess it up, but she will give you multiple signs to approach her over months … Even if she’s with someone else ! 👍🏾💯
And they make up their mind in an instant of seeing you.
From the moment boys are born they are feed the lie that all you have to do is just be nice. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Attraction can’t be negotiated, it can’t be purchased. It doesn’t matter how much you simp over a woman, it’s not going to make her attracted to you, if you look like a slob. Looks are everything. You would be amazed at what women will let guys get away with, when they are attracted to them. You can be a serial killer and women will make excuses for you when you’re attractive. That’s way the first thing any guy should do that is struggling with women, is fix your appearance.
@@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd I have to disagree. I've personally screwed up with women that were attracted to me, and seen it happen to a few other guys. I was too generous with the compliments, my gifts, and my time, and they would get cold.
I also have to disagree. When women don't know you, they are attracted to a fantasy they create of you. It's pretty easy to talk too much on a first date. You need to very slowly introduce them to the real you, otherwise, abruptly shattering their fantasy can break the initial attraction.
Luckily, it's easy to let them do 80% of the talking on the first few dates.
i know love is important. But trying to find it via getting good at 'dating' is like trying to find polar bears in the sahaara. Wrong place, wrong task. Love is about friendships and self acceptance. This is a game of being comfortable with who you are not on convincing everyone you are worth their time. When was the last time you made a friend because you took friendship making advice courses where you said all the right things and had all the body language to convince them you are worth their time. You didn't. People over value good looks and under value being unique and we find ourselves trying to play the wrong game because the wrong game is what everyone cares about in their youth. No old person at the end of their life is thinking about anything other than the value of friendship with their partner. thats real love.
It's a lot like a fish trying to give advice about fishing techniques and recommending to just toss the bait into the water with no idea how the hook, line and rod work lol
THERES A LOT OF FISH TRYNA GIVE ADVICE ABOUT FISHING TECHNIQUES YOO THATS A BAR! Someone need to tattoo that somewhere 😭
@@prism223 fishing is less stressful don't take that from me
@@isaaacc1 fishing is perfection if you don't care about the results
Yes, NEVER tell a woman she is beautiful. This comes off as weak and unimaginative.
I have always commented that she “looked interesting”. This often elicits a question or conversation in response.
Only if you're unattractive.
If you're attractive, a good and specific compliment goes a long way and is the best standard opener.
@ Mali, the problem with that is women only find 5% of men attractive. Women also believe 80% of men are ugly or creepy.
@@Malibluu Pick something in her outfit. Works like a charm.
you cant give a away the information, that you want her, even without knowing a single thing about who she is . I think that is a big killer of attraction. She needs to know that you are the kind of guy, who is willing to walk off if you dont like how she behaves.
"95% of anything is crazy." Priceless statement considering she isn't referring to 95% of men.
95% of women want to be approached by top 5% men.
@@anisenkrill6179 women don’t even see 95% of men. Those guys are invisible to them.
Women literally see a "study" that confirms their ideas and dont even consider trying to disprove it. They just run with it.
I wouldn’t stress over it fellas, if the opportunity is there make the approach and see if she’s interested, if not no biggie. Focus on being the best version of yourself and being successful, cuz if you are women will be automatically drawn to you. If you’re broke and not putting in the work she’ll eventually leave you for someone better anyway.
I've got an idea for a pick-up line in public. When approaching a woman, pointe at any other random woman and say, my sister tells me you are too hot not to talk to," because women care more about what other women think than they care about what men think. Men make the mistake of thinking women are looking for their admiration, when in fact they want other women's admiration. Guys have no idea how hard their facade is to create, so compliments from women, who do understand the effort of building a facade, have far more impact.
Please don't, that's such a bad idea!
Why are you lying for no reason though? Kind of a bad place to start, unless it’s meant as a joke.
Please don’t use this. It is unnatural and may come off as disturbing
@bigheadrhino the lie is not for no reason, unless you make it a habit of never going out in public without a chick, it's to break the ice with them on an emotional high, because they literally care more about what other women think than what men think. You could say, don't look now but that chick over there was checking you out hard. Is that better for you? It's not even a lie, because if she's hot you know the other chick was checking her out. They dress up for each other not for us.
Retired coach here - Good call man, I've thought this about the content for a very long time.
Most female dating content. 95% of female advice.
It's getting old but "never ask the fish" and this is the reason. Women really don't understand what they are talking about most of the time. Women coaches just pray on unacknowledged weak men.
@@WealthWeaves Steve Jobs basically said you have to tell people what they want. This is why Apple is so feverishly successful, at least during the iPod and iPhone eras
These insights are on point. I spent over a decade figuring out attraction as a short Chinese guy in Toronto. Tried a lot of different things to increase my success in dating. Learned the most when I got a job at a night club; seeing how social proof, an abundance mindset, tons of exposure to lots of women on a regular basis sets a solid foundation for what works. On the flip side, leading with money, over complimenting and chasing dries ladies right up. Thanks.
Hey I'm in toronto and afraid of toronto girls lol, any advice? I don't do night clubs and my friends are all getting married so i can't go out with them to meet people. I want to approach myself but idk something about toronto girls kinda scare me like they would respond with a no embarrassingly loud
@@rjgn4054 without knowing more about your situation, I would start by taking a look at myself first to optimise your chances. There's a lot to unpack there; you need to consider appearance, body language, speech, confidence, etc. Be the best version of yourself possible. Then be aware of the woman and the environmental context you are encountering her.
On line dating is a no-go for the vast majority of men, and cold approach is possible, but very difficult unless the conditions are right and you really stand it in a positive way. Meeting people through other people works well, as in it pre-qualifies you as not being a creep. Meeting through activities, classes, or work gives you an organic reason to engage in conversation.
There are countless sources of wisdom on RUclips that tackle various aspects well. This channel seems to be sensitive to our unique situation pretty well.
I found in my experience that Asian women are most receptive racially to Asian men. I've had luck with other erhnicies, but the ratio isn't even close.
I'm going to recommend "OrionTaraban" for psychology, "Austin Summers" for cold approach, "Charisma on Command" for social skills, and "Michael Sartain" on insights into how a lot of women think.
Full disclosure, I've been married for since 2010, and still very much love my wife. I'm still fascinated with attraction and relationships, that's why I still love this type of content.
Good luck, brother.
@@angryrn toronto is a terrible city to date if ur a short chinese guy.
If you're tall and attractive it's hard to fail.
@@angryrn toronto is a terrible city to date if ur short and Asian
Most female dating coaches provide idealistic, surface-level advice without any attempt to delve even slightly more deeply, and useful only to those who don't even need it.
EXACTLY
Their advice is tailored to their demographic, simps. Dating coaches make money off long term clients who keep failing. Simps want female dating coaches because female coaches will tell them exactly what they want to hear. Be soft, be nice.
Male dating coaches..."You are fat AF. Eat this diet. 1 hour of cardio everyday, weights every other day."
My sister told me i should give gifts to women on first dates cuz “its cute that she remembers she got that gift on a first date”.
After i asked her if she ended up in a relationship with any guy that gave her a gift, she said no. When i asked her if a guy giving her a gift raised her attraction toward him she said no
Yea, terrible advice. I took advice from my college roommates gf with a girl I liked and it completely backfired hard.
Diabolical advice lol
Man soooooo happy to see this response. I watched this interview and it was painful. 👏👏👏
ya, men have to do all the learning, trial and error, in order to know how to date, how to meet and attract someone, reminds of a comment discussion i saw going on instagram and i agree with it, it went like this:
"why aren't there accounts like these for girls? it seems guys have to do all the learning" and a guy said "women just exist and dudes line up for her"
and it continued:
"women don't have to learn game, let alone almost do anything to get guys. They just go out, be there, just be there, look pretty and get attention, options for just existing. Unfortuneately, we as guys have to learn this crap to get women into our lives. Getting girls is a skill that has to be practiced repeatedly"
i thought that summed it up perfectly, ya for guys, men, getting women is a skill, but for women, getting guys is not a skill, but not the other way around, never was a fan of how reality has to be this way, oh well, it will never change sadly.
Excellent breakdown dude. It's good to know that you're giving constructive criticism...recognizing the good and bad in her advice, rather than most people who would tear it down and berate her, this is the way 👏
Relax guys, don´t think about it too much. Be yourself. Get rid of the thought that you could lose something when you approach a woman. There are sooo many women on this planet. If it is not this one, then it´s the next one. Just treat them like you don´t need them because guess what: you don´t need them. You get rejected? Her miss and she will never know what she´s missing.
All these females coaches do is copy what men coaches do and say. There not saying anything new. Issue is they never can contextualize information
I don’t have an issue with her advice about keeping things simple. Too many guys overcomplicate the approach. That said, I have often gotten positive responses from women and have even been approached on several occasions. I listened to this podcast of her and what I found frustrating was her dismissal of the significance of rejection. Yes it happens to all of us, but it clearly shows how little she understands the male perspective.
yeah, its hard for her and other women coaches to understand the rejection process and how to process those emotions that men experience.
Says Based Gym Chad lol if you're a chad, of course a simple approach works!!! 😂
@jaguar1383 there's been periods of my life when I was a scrawny kid, periods when I was a bit overweight, and periods when I'm walking around at 10-15% bodyfat. There's a vast difference in how women treated me in each of these different stages. Some of the guys I see complain put zero effort into their body, their clothes, their hair, or their money.
The amount of mental and emotional energy guys have to put into this vs girls who do nothing. It is so one sided.
I think one of the biggest misconceptions and piece of advice women give to guys about dating is “make her laugh”. I don’t know how many people I have seen say “if you can make her laugh, she yours”, but they never mention the most important part. She wants the guy she’s already attracted to make her laugh, not the invisible average guys. If she’s not attracted to you but you can make her laugh hysterically, congratulations, you’ve just bought a first class ticket to the Friendzone as her own private jester. However, I will admit that if she’s already attracted to the guy and that guy makes her laugh hysterically, he does indeed have her. All this is to say that the advice women give very much needs to caveat of “she wants the guy she is already attracted to to have *insert quality*, not the average guy at Walmart”. Keep up the great work!
Misunderstanding of the rule. The point is that if she likes you she will laugh at pretty much anything you say.
So the purpose is not to make her laugh, but to use her laughing or not laughing as a gauge of whether she likes you.
Your closing statement perfectly describes game, never had someone break it it down with such clarity and authenticity. Keep up the good work. Also, I just got your book.
Title 100% on point like asking mom how you look n get girls hahah
People need to stop using the fishing analogy. No fish WANTS to be caught, obviously they won't tell you how to catch them. Women, at a basic level, generally do.
Correction: Women ONLY want to be caught by men they ALREADY FIND ATTRACTIVE
You didn't understand the point of the analogy. It wasn't that fish wants to be caught, but the fact that fish doesn't know how to catch other fish (or even itself).
None of this matters if you're not in the top 20% of looks. Even if you do make an approach and it goes well, there's the high probability she's either taken or isn't looking to date right now. Then say you do get her number, there's a good chance she won't respond to your first message or if she does it'll be short responses. You also have to get her out on the date without flaking which is highly likely to happen anyway due to all the other guys she's talking to.
Thing with approaching is ANY woman you go up to has a whole roster of men trying to get with her. Guys at work, the gym, school, exes, random dms on socials, other guys who approach her, in her friend zone, the guy she is sleeping with but won't commit etc. This is all without her using any dating apps.
I just find it very hard to believe any of it is worth it just for some box and companionship which may not even last anyway.
Juice is not worth the squeeze.
Bro I saw that video and I laughed too. Thanks for making this.
Even pretty boy Chris was giving her the side eye.
I felt the same as you, and i also didnt want to being anyone down. Thankyou for sharing
Subscribed.
Thank you So MUCH for this reaction video. I love Chris, and so I was fooled by this chick!
Don't smile. Dress in a high style, and she will approach you.
@@TheBraunzone I disagree with respect bro! Dress in style , show confidence etc and pre select her and she will give you approval signals, some people call them mating signals! Once you have that , you then approach!
Hardly any Women will approach men , plus why do you want her to approach you! As a man you want to approach her… If she approaches you it’s over before it’s even started as far as I’m concerned… 💯👍🏾
The most important insight is actually that people don’t typically behave the way they tell you they will behave in a given situation so surveying like this is nearly pointless.
Spot on with the body language clusters (women looking away can be good sign) and only smiling for the first 2-3 seconds. Not only does the smile come across fake, it’s also just creepy.
This chick said she couldn't help me; literally won't take my hard earned dollars as I told her I have mental illnesses. She was very nice about it and I thanked her for her opinion that I needed to work on myself first before dating. I've been divorced and single for 10 years; I've raised my children, they are in college now or graduated college. I want and need Love. Don't I deserve love? She doesn't think I'm ready for love. I am. I NEED love. I am so LONELY. But she is ok with me staying lonely because I have a mental illness. Ok, I see her point. But I still need love and I think love will help my mental illness. I wfh, I see noone. I have friends but I live alone and I am alone a lot. I Just Want A Partner! I Do Not Want to Die Alone. Does she understand that or care? Probably not but that's ok. She is an ok person. I think. I am just lonely and alone and she doesn't need to care. Thanks for reading. All the Best for All of Us Single People out here that lonely and alone. TY! - Lou
For clarification: I am on the apps, I'm in Los Angeles, and I have no problems whatsoever gettting matches and women to go on a first date with me. It's the getting a SECOND date, or SEX, that I do not get. I've been on so many of these dates, and they are always a f'n INTERVIeW. IT"S SO FRUSTRATING. UGH! I am apparently an egomaniac and I'm not interested enough in them. Ok, Fair. Most women are not interesting.... I am very interesting and can talk for hours about anything....
Honestly just be authentic and genuine. Don’t try to act differently than your normal behavior because you will feel uncomfortable and they will probably notice that. Where if you’re just genuine, you may unintentionally be funny which they like rather than you “trying” to be funny and it doesn’t land.
I love how everyone trying to be clever with the fish catching fish analogy, Patrice O’Neal said this stuff 15 years ago
12:25 - also people smile when they feel really nervous. the guy might not even realize it. But people can see that and know you are not confident in yourself especially women can read that.
I don’t think they’re good at explaining attraction because they usually don’t even know themselves but they are pretty good for getting ideas on how a date should go.
All facts 💯 Well done bro
This was helpful, thanks!
The part at the end is so true. It was trending over ten years ago, I remember being young and thinking that way before I snapped out of it.
Also, I generally might start with 'We don't know each other' - which is good because it's a disqualifier in a way, and points out the context, showing social awareness. What do you think?
"we dont know each other" is not a good disqualifier, every other guy who's thinking about this is doing this as a "level 1 trick".
A good disqualifier is something that's real and shows you're not putting her on a pedestal. For example, she says, "why are you talking to us?", to which I would reply, "I came up because I liked your style, I'm not selling anything relax... just new in town".
A disqualifier is something you say when the women is not showing strong interest, or giving you a hard time. You're giving yourself a chance to re-engage, even if its just making a new friend. If she's mean to you after a genuine disqualifier I usually just say "have a nice day" and move on. Sometimes she will say, "oh sorry, Im just having a bad day". One time I had a girl tell me "sorry, some random guy was following me around and I got really wound up. What was your name again?"
@@HighIntegritySkills Ahh, that clarifies things. I guess I wasn't really using it as a disqualifier , more as an opener. But it has a kind of downward feel to it if you get me 😂
TIME STAMP 24:00 THIS IS THE ADVICE BLAINE GAVE ME!!!
I'm really good at talking to people; I'm the NICE guy! I suck at getting girls to sleep with me or go on a second date with me because I am too cerebral on dates and talk too much and I'm not generating the "Feelings" apparently and making them HOT and touching and doing all the good flirting actions she talks about, before even ME TOO I was scared to be too aggressive with women that way, but I was also married for 14 years to a hot woman who is now married again to a multi multi millionaire: I am so Happy for her and we are great co parents to our children. I am a little jealous that she has found love and I have not. I've been single for 10 years. I co raised two great kids. I put time into them and one graduated UC Santa Barbara and the other is a student at UC Santa Barbara. So I did well with them and I'm doing well in Biz where I am making more $ than I ever have. I just bought a House in Los Angeles. I drive a BMW. I don't get sex. I don't get second dates. I do not know what to do. I get first dates, I get interest, I am funny and interesting, witty, and intelligent. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? WILL I DIE ALONE?????
The ironic thing is Justin Waller (that ginger red pill guy that hung out with andrew Tate) promoted the exact same advice 😂. “I’d be furious with my self if I didn’t come over and talk to you” smh
Excellent ADVICE🎉
Maybe I'm biased toward Asians, but I think you are pretty good-looking. I'd never thought you could have at least any issues meeting women.
Thx, I got better looking as I aged and learned about style, fixing my teeth, skin etc. But I spent 23+ years alone so I know what it feels like to start at the bottom.
@@HighIntegritySkillsBeing alone isn't starting at the bottom. Having your children taken by a harpy in divorce is starting at the bottom.
@@HighIntegritySkillswhoa 23+. How old are you now mate?
Who are the female in field dating coaches you mentioned around 8:00 ?
Unfortunately all the ones I know are retired from in-field work. Kezia used to do them as did Marni Winggirl but they are both in their 40s now and dont go out as wing girls anymore. The new women on tik tok are not going out in field and doing the work like we used to. They just give opinions on tik tok / reels without actual field work, which leads to bad advice. IMHO.
Very insightful video
Guys, you never ask a fish 🐟 how to fish. You ask the fisherman 🎣
The concept that due to online dating women "have more options" is hilarious. Like suddenly more tall, good looking and wealthy starting springing out of the ground when Tinder was released.
Seem like women just lost a filter: society and reputation.
Now that it's all looks they can't help themselves, like a diabetic at a cake buffet.
95%of woman want to be appoached BUT only if another woman asks them xD
We all plummet back to our own tribe, eventually. The pretty get prettier while the ugly get uglier...
a fish teaching how a fish to catch a fish. Controlling your emotions that's something i can't do. I went insane with my last girl. I'm still healing. NO PUA coach can fix mental.
it sounds like she is helping the 10% , the already wanted guys to pursue the girls.
Soo... If all the 'in-field' clips got taken down... Where are they hidden?
really old obscure products from the early 2010s
"coach" just be attractive and talk to her..The bar is for meeting women to have short term fun with. I have never had long term relationship from a woman I met at a bar or club. Whatever you enjoy doing meet women in this environment. Or just talk to the attractive woman you bump into at the grocery store. The key to interest from women is confidence whatever the environment. Just remember it's not all about them and don't put them on a pedistal. She's interested.. cool if not then that's cool as well.
I don't get why you get a match and AFTER that she decides if she is attracted to me? Why the F did she match me?
She wants the validation of being pursued. She knows there's no burden on her to initiate and you doing so makes her feel wanted/desired. But she doesn't want you.
@@SuperhumanCyberRyfacts. I’d be lying if I haven’t done that but also because I may find her average attractiveness and I’m curious to see if she has personality.
Ask the fisherman not the fish on how to get a catch
If you need to over-complicate and jester during the approach it's already lost.
As a good looking white guy myself, she’s right. Just walk up and say hello. It’s easy mode
congrats lol
@@HighIntegritySkills I've literally made a profile as a "white" guy and realized it was a cheat code....it was a master key that unlocked access to ALLLLLL women because they all wanted to qualify themselves to be with me as a "white" guy. That was eye opening and depressing for two years. Using a "white" guy to have conversations and interact with women on the apps when I felt lonely. BRUH lol.
Something tells CW isn't even buying her 🐎💩
Can you give us advice for us woman that want the guys we find attractive to chase us/ talk to us?
see my other vid on "prizing" :)
They’re just not that smart. Analysis concluded
imagine asking a fish how to fish
13:59 epic red pill moment lol
a few months ago I gathered all the courage left inside me to approach a very cute girl beside me in a train.. I thought I was doing alright but she was so uncomfortable n looked at me in disgust.. that really hurt me real bad
that same night I sub to bumble n got a lot of dates w a lot of cute n smart girls, n I did so well w all of them that I now have to be like a “player”, which is an area where I’m not familiar with
but my main goal now is to just keep it flowing so I don’t have to be desperate focusing on one girl until I could call one of them my gf
Hey bro loving your content, its been a game changer. I noticed you have a text game video for online dating. Would you be able to make a video on text game from DMs (insta, facebook etc.) It seems to have a different approach, would love your perspective on this.
Im actually thinking about writing a book on this topic so will consider the video idea thx