Awhile back, I ran across a meme that relates to this topic, and I saved it for future use. I can't post the meme - I guess there's some sort of RUclips block against doing that - but here's the text: "Being in a relationship is about solving problems together. Problems you wouldn't have if you were single." My sentiments, exactly. I haven't been in a relationship for about 20 years, and haven't missed the stress at all.
I am loathe to say how much I love being single. I was married for 30 years & this is better. Too much pressure & drama. That was too often f-cking hell, this is bliss.
I think our society just needs to reevaluate how we feel about being single. We used to be pushed into marriage and starting a family. It's not the same anymore. You can be perfectly happy single and everyone is just finding this out.
my mom always used to tell me, "You'll never get married because you're too fussy." I would tell her that I'd rather be alone then LONELY in a relationship. I was lucky to find my husband rather later in life (we were both 35 when we met). Now that I'm widowed, I have NO desire to be out in that dating world again.
Im really glad I heard someone else say that dating and relationships are pretty much a thing of the past. I've felt this way about that intuitively since 2021. Ever sense I started working again in society in 2021 It just feels different, The majority of people are torked, twisted, and unpredictable.
I dated one guy two years after my divorce and he turned out to be an alcoholic. I just don't have the time or energy for that. I have a freaking lawn to mow. I've been pretty good going it on my own. The most I really yearn for anymore is just really long hugs.
I used to miss the hugs too, intimacy with a man, but I'm old school, old, with health problems, have a few men friends but get my hugs from daughters, grandkids, friends and sometimes strangers and dogs! Works for me! I know what ya mean though! 😊❤
You know what's crazy? I got divorced after 34 years in February and while i wasn't looking for anyone else, i thought i would be better off. I think my ex did too. We're getting old and now my ex is looking for a home for us to be roommates in. I told him he can't bring women to the house and to my amazement, he said he's not worried about other women 😂. Maybe you should have had this mindset decades ago 😂. I do appreciate him for realizing that I deserve better and he's trying to keep me safe but my goodness. We could have stayed where we were.
Honey, think carefully about this. It takes time to heal from a divorce. You need your be healed and feel fine with being alone before you move back in with your ex. I hope this works out for you.
@CarrieLovesLife. I'm trying but I have failed. I thought my siblings would be there for me but oh boy I was wrong. I had to stop communicating with them because of trump. I know it's a crazy situation but I'm disabled and I can't make it on my own. My ex knows that we will be roommates and nothing more.
61 years old over here and very happy that romance is behind me. It was a lot of fun while it lasted, but my time is done. Like many others, I have damage, and have finally realized I'm happier and healthier as a singleton. Best wishes to anyone still in the game. It's a lot scarier now. Bw careful.
79yo. Stopped "dating" at 53. I decided to stop actively looking but to remain open to meeting someone. I didn't choose well and it became apparent it was too risky in every aspect. I love being single and appreciate quality people to hang with. Life is more serene and fun this way. No entanglements.
It’s the Wild West out there for dating. I’ve been so happy being single but occasionally I look at Bumble just to see who’s out there and it’s frightening. Bathroom pics, fish pics, gym pics, messy/dirty home pics, poor grammar, uneducated, apolitical, or wildly Trumpist (when I have stated don’t even knock, but they don’t read profiles so it shouldn’t be as annoying as it is),and bios that seem oblivious to the intention of getting a date. It’s confusing and alarming and a hard no. A reminder that I love being single.
My 2nd husband left me + my kids for another woman ( he was a drunk + abusive) that was over 20 yrs ago -- i never dated again-- do i get lonely , yes , do i miss sex, yes-- ut at least i hav stability and peace!
ive been widowed for 5 years after 28 years married to my husband...im absolutely ok being single and will neverrrrrrrr everrrrr go near a dating app yuk gross scary unsafe horrific no no hell no art, gardens, animals, good food, music, movies, gym, lots of family and friends...allll the things i love and if i meet a person in "real" life i will , if not im okay with that to, but im enjoying my life now and being single is liberating, dating apps are a hard NO, thks for bringing up the subject
Lol, you are cracking me up. I'm a widow in my 60's, I love, love, love being single. Once, I did venture into a singles app. Yikes is the world full of perverts. One of the guys sent me a dick picture. After I got over the shock what came to mind was TMI, buddy. 😂
@@49reasonsits almost as if they think they way women are portrayed in p*rn is how we really are in life. Its clueless. They worship their own weenie so much they cannot believe that women won’t be equally enthralled by it. NO we are not 😂
I don’t think that’s true at all. It’s just about finding the right person. I never thought I’d ever be in a relationship again after dealing with multiple toxic relationships in a row, and almost driven to suicide, but I found a woman who doesn’t treat me like crap, and I’m happy.
@ I never got into a relationship just to not be single. The problem I had was when I first met the women who ended up being psychopaths they manipulated me into believing that they were good people, but they weren’t, and unfortunately no one who knew them knew how they really were because they played a character around everyone else pretending to be saint like, so every single time something bad happened that they caused themselves they played a victim, and everyone else believed it. They’re all narcissists and sociopaths. I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I found the woman I’m with now.
You are absolutely right. The dating world is insane and I agree I would not in a million years go on a dating app to meet somebody. For peace of mind and no drama still single.
Have been down that DIRT ROAD twice , the only good thing came from the first marriage - my daughter ! Now a Lt. in a P.D. who will be retiring in @least a yr. or sooner !!!!
I did online dating a year after my first husband died. I hadn’t been single since 1990 when I was 20. I think online dating after 50 is the island of broken toys. Something bad happened to each of us for us to end up here and we’re missing parts that are obsolete now. Plus we’re gen X nihilists, so we’re not that fun to live with. I did find my matching broken toy on bumble. He’s my date to watch the end of the world. We’re going to go out like Bonnie and Clyde before we’re getting on a damn train.
I've been married since 1987, I'll always love her. She goes & I plan to shortly follow. What's the point without her. My only regret is I wasted so much time serving capitalist over lords for pennies on the dollars of my time that should have been with her.
Ooof, online dating was rough. I quit twelve years ago. I really prefer the old fashioned way. If it's meant to be we will become undeniable to each other. I feel too many have misplaced their roles, somewhat too. That Bravo comment was very funny. Those bitches slay me. I watch it for the architecture and furnishings w the volume off.
Isn't life great when you truely like yourself and your life enough not to need those unhealthy distructive codependent relationships I see everywhere!
I'm nearing 70, single for 24 yrs, divorced for nearly 20, went on a dating app once, met one man, liked him as a person but then he was too serious too fast for me and thought the man should be in control. No thanks! My 50 and 48 yr old daughters are single; 38 yr. old daughter in a relationship. I don't envy the young folks, or old codgers either. I'm good too! 😁👍
I love being single. I only have to take care of myself...i know how to do my own laundry and load the dishwasher by myself. I also can carry my own trash out and cut my own grass. Its glorious!
If, I felt I needed a long lasting relationship, the internet is the last place I'd look, if ever. I only ever had two things to look for when I looked into another human beings eyes, empathy and civility. Both seem to be severely lacking in almost all societies, around the world. I'm good too. Married 51 years and two grown people who seem to be good too--one in a stable relationship, the other happily single. Both experienced a community of friends that didn't see dating as an essential part of their teenage and young adult years.
I did the dating apps for 15 mins and it was insanity. No offense to the three lovely dates I had, it is just not how I date people. I need to know someone a solid year before I can date them. These apps are just not for people like me.
61, never married, now almost 25 years past even considering a relationship with anyone. And my life has been much happier since giving up on trying to fit into mold that doesn't fit me. Not all of us were meant to be coupled up.
I've been widowed for 10 years, and people sometimes ask me if I will date again (I'm 68). I say, "Been there, done that; he was my Cosmic Soulmate and I feel lucky that I found that ONCE"). I have a dog, I have my daughters, I have my friends, and I am content.
I’ve been single for about 10 years. Not once did I have any desire to pursue another relationship. Dealing with 2 young boys as a single father after catching her cheating I had all the “worrying about other people’s emotional well-being” that I could possibly want and more. Im now 47 and I’m good too.
I was widowed at 40 so i was suddenly single, not by choice. I thought it was aweful. My friends decided that i needed to date. I found out very fast that being single is awesome.
I've been single for 15 years now. I have enjoyed some 'lovers' over these years - but no actual 'relationships' - due to the fact that I have not been able to meet a man that I can realistically be in a 'relationship' with. I wish I could, I truly do. I am not lonely - but I did enjoy having a 'partner' in life - and I would again - but I no longer believe it is possible. I love my life - but I would enjoy sharing it with someone (because it's awesome!) - but I do not see that will ever happen - and I am okay with it, it is what it is.
I'm 49 now and was single (well more or less) for like 25 years, now I am in an open relationship for 2 years, and I like it that way, and most important, we do not live together, so a lot of friction isn't there. Dating? No way I would do that shit again.
Been single for 10 years. I am now 58. Like you I have heard the horror stories on both sides. Nope, not interested. I gave, I am done. I am happy doing my own thing.
There ARE great people out there, but is it worth the risk of wading through trash and exposing yourself to the worst humanity has to deal offer? NOPE. 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫 be safe, y’all.
In all my life I have never met a decent man to marry, just settling with a bf….and hes of repug sway….which is tough sometimes. I dont think after the 50’s no one has been on the track of being a decent partner. I miss being single and having my castle to myself….hate sharing with someone who does not pull their weight…but I have some health issues and no friends now…useless repukes, and my sole cousin never ever communicates with me..hes of repug sway too. Seems trying to be a good person is not the plan for 95% of the people in the world….been noticing for a long time, people are in it for themselves….since the internet it showed in thousands of comments, nasty and stupid comments…….insidious…..just trying to get through the backside of this life is tough!
And maybe that is what is wrong with some of the men who are Trump supporters. They don't want to be better human beings, but they want to set women back into the days where they did not have a choice but to put up with them .
I’ve been single for almost 10 years after I ended my 30+ year marriage and I’m happier and physically and mentally healthier than I’ve been since my 20s…Never again will I give up my freedom 🫶🏻✊
Being single is glorious!
yeah, still lonely but I've been that way for a long time
Agree.🎉
I agree with Hawk, happy being single.😊
I'm alone but never lonely, loving life💜
Yessssss!!!!
You are absolutely correct! Thank you for this and all of your messages!
Awhile back, I ran across a meme that relates to this topic, and I saved it for future use. I can't post the meme - I guess there's some sort of RUclips block against doing that - but here's the text: "Being in a relationship is about solving problems together. Problems you wouldn't have if you were single."
My sentiments, exactly. I haven't been in a relationship for about 20 years, and haven't missed the stress at all.
Thank you for my first laugh out loud today! Amen!
Ditto
It isn't worth the drama anymore, mentality and financially.
I also like being single. The less people trying to boss me around, the better.
I am loathe to say how much I love being single. I was married for 30 years & this is better.
Too much pressure & drama. That was too often f-cking hell, this is bliss.
I think our society just needs to reevaluate how we feel about being single. We used to be pushed into marriage and starting a family. It's not the same anymore. You can be perfectly happy single and everyone is just finding this out.
my mom always used to tell me, "You'll never get married because you're too fussy." I would tell her that I'd rather be alone then LONELY in a relationship. I was lucky to find my husband rather later in life (we were both 35 when we met).
Now that I'm widowed, I have NO desire to be out in that dating world again.
Im really glad I heard someone else say that dating and relationships are pretty much a thing of the past. I've felt this way about that intuitively since 2021. Ever sense I started working again in society in 2021 It just feels different, The majority of people are torked, twisted, and unpredictable.
Happy to be single and doing things I like to do.
I dated one guy two years after my divorce and he turned out to be an alcoholic. I just don't have the time or energy for that. I have a freaking lawn to mow. I've been pretty good going it on my own. The most I really yearn for anymore is just really long hugs.
I used to miss the hugs too, intimacy with a man, but I'm old school, old, with health problems, have a few men friends but get my hugs from daughters, grandkids, friends and sometimes strangers and dogs! Works for me! I know what ya mean though! 😊❤
You know what's crazy? I got divorced after 34 years in February and while i wasn't looking for anyone else, i thought i would be better off. I think my ex did too. We're getting old and now my ex is looking for a home for us to be roommates in. I told him he can't bring women to the house and to my amazement, he said he's not worried about other women 😂. Maybe you should have had this mindset decades ago 😂. I do appreciate him for realizing that I deserve better and he's trying to keep me safe but my goodness. We could have stayed where we were.
Honey, think carefully about this. It takes time to heal from a divorce. You need your be healed and feel fine with being alone before you move back in with your ex.
I hope this works out for you.
@CarrieLovesLife. I'm trying but I have failed. I thought my siblings would be there for me but oh boy I was wrong. I had to stop communicating with them because of trump. I know it's a crazy situation but I'm disabled and I can't make it on my own. My ex knows that we will be roommates and nothing more.
61 years old over here and very happy that romance is behind me. It was a lot of fun while it lasted, but my time is done. Like many others, I have damage, and have finally realized I'm happier and healthier as a singleton. Best wishes to anyone still in the game. It's a lot scarier now. Bw careful.
Ditto. Exactly.
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Thank you Hawk, I really love your videos !!
Me too!...
"I'm happy being Single..."
Say it one more time - for the back of the room
62, Single and just fine...
Love your holiday lights, it looks so cheery.
Ive been a widow for 23 years and im 57... celibate for 13 years and I'm good. No dating for me, too stressful!
Who needs the drama? Not me!
79yo. Stopped "dating" at 53. I decided to stop actively looking but to remain open to meeting someone. I didn't choose well and it became apparent it was too risky in every aspect. I love being single and appreciate quality people to hang with. Life is more serene and fun this way. No entanglements.
It’s the Wild West out there for dating. I’ve been so happy being single but occasionally I look at Bumble just to see who’s out there and it’s frightening. Bathroom pics, fish pics, gym pics, messy/dirty home pics, poor grammar, uneducated, apolitical, or wildly Trumpist (when I have stated don’t even knock, but they don’t read profiles so it shouldn’t be as annoying as it is),and bios that seem oblivious to the intention of getting a date. It’s confusing and alarming and a hard no. A reminder that I love being single.
My 2nd husband left me + my kids for another woman ( he was a drunk + abusive) that was over 20 yrs ago -- i never dated again-- do i get lonely , yes , do i miss sex, yes-- ut at least i hav stability and peace!
I choose to be alone. Alone is not lonely. No more dating for me. Makes life too complicated. Friends are great!
I think I need to take you for coffee to discuss this further . 😅
Fun fact: on my smart TV,I get to swipe right and select you every day . 😅
🤣 Good one! I can see why you'd make the suggestion, though - Hawk is very cute. 😉
@@49reasonsindeed.
I’m 70, I’ve been single all my life. I don’t regret it at all.
ive been widowed for 5 years after 28 years married to my husband...im absolutely ok being single and will neverrrrrrrr everrrrr go near a dating app yuk gross scary unsafe horrific no no hell no art, gardens, animals, good food, music, movies, gym, lots of family and friends...allll the things i love and if i meet a person in "real" life i will , if not im okay with that to, but im enjoying my life now and being single is liberating, dating apps are a hard NO, thks for bringing up the subject
Lol, you are cracking me up. I'm a widow in my 60's, I love, love, love being single. Once, I did venture into a singles app. Yikes is the world full of perverts. One of the guys sent me a dick picture. After I got over the shock what came to mind was TMI, buddy. 😂
I have never understood why a man would send a woman such a picture, or why he might think a woman would want to receive it. 😵💫
@@49reasonsits almost as if they think they way women are portrayed in p*rn is how we really are in life. Its clueless. They worship their own weenie so much they cannot believe that women won’t be equally enthralled by it. NO we are not 😂
I don’t think that’s true at all. It’s just about finding the right person. I never thought I’d ever be in a relationship again after dealing with multiple toxic relationships in a row, and almost driven to suicide, but I found a woman who doesn’t treat me like crap, and I’m happy.
If you find the right relationship, that’s wonderful, but I think the main thing is to not get into a relationship just in order to not be single.
@ I never got into a relationship just to not be single. The problem I had was when I first met the women who ended up being psychopaths they manipulated me into believing that they were good people, but they weren’t, and unfortunately no one who knew them knew how they really were because they played a character around everyone else pretending to be saint like, so every single time something bad happened that they caused themselves they played a victim, and everyone else believed it. They’re all narcissists and sociopaths. I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I found the woman I’m with now.
I've been single for 15 years, and I love it !❤, I'm not looking for anyone,been there,done that
You are absolutely right. The dating world is insane and I agree I would not in a million years go on a dating app to meet somebody. For peace of mind and no drama still single.
Have been down that DIRT ROAD twice , the only good thing came from the first marriage - my daughter ! Now a Lt. in a P.D. who will be retiring in @least a yr. or sooner !!!!
You said Bravo 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I quit dating. It's insane on the dating apps now. I"m 54 and happy being single.
I’m for one am grateful for algorithms…they sent you to me today. New sub here 👋🏻. Love your content.
I did online dating a year after my first husband died. I hadn’t been single since 1990 when I was 20. I think online dating after 50 is the island of broken toys. Something bad happened to each of us for us to end up here and we’re missing parts that are obsolete now. Plus we’re gen X nihilists, so we’re not that fun to live with. I did find my matching broken toy on bumble. He’s my date to watch the end of the world. We’re going to go out like Bonnie and Clyde before we’re getting on a damn train.
These days I'm keeping it down to really low key friends with benefits. Much happier.
I like your band/drumming videos😊
I'm 40 and have no intention of being in another relationship for the rest of my life.
I've been married since 1987, I'll always love her. She goes & I plan to shortly follow. What's the point without her. My only regret is I wasted so much time serving capitalist over lords for pennies on the dollars of my time that should have been with her.
Ooof, online dating was rough. I quit twelve years ago. I really prefer the old fashioned way. If it's meant to be we will become undeniable to each other. I feel too many have misplaced their roles, somewhat too. That Bravo comment was very funny. Those bitches slay me. I watch it for the architecture and furnishings w the volume off.
Me too! 😂👏
I think your right, sad but true.
Isn't life great when you truely like yourself and your life enough not to need those unhealthy distructive codependent relationships I see everywhere!
YAAAASSSSSS. The Horror! I've learned to be alone. AND LIKE IT!
Married for 8 months...single for 42 years...retired for 5 years...God I love it!
I told my husband if anything ever happened us I am never getting married again!
I’m 19 and this couldn’t be more accurate
I'm nearing 70, single for 24 yrs, divorced for nearly 20, went on a dating app once, met one man, liked him as a person but then he was too serious too fast for me and thought the man should be in control. No thanks! My 50 and 48 yr old daughters are single; 38 yr. old daughter in a relationship. I don't envy the young folks, or old codgers either. I'm good too! 😁👍
Relationship ---- too much drama, too toxic, too much insecurities, too much selfishness, lack of communication, etc...
I can do better by myself. 😊
I love being single. I only have to take care of myself...i know how to do my own laundry and load the dishwasher by myself. I also can carry my own trash out and cut my own grass. Its glorious!
💯.. I think we need to blaze a trail for younger people to let them know that it's fun & fine being single.
If, I felt I needed a long lasting relationship, the internet is the last place I'd look, if ever. I only ever had two things to look for when I looked into another human beings eyes, empathy and civility. Both seem to be severely lacking in almost all societies, around the world. I'm good too. Married 51 years and two grown people who seem to be good too--one in a stable relationship, the other happily single. Both experienced a community of friends that didn't see dating as an essential part of their teenage and young adult years.
I did the dating apps for 15 mins and it was insanity. No offense to the three lovely dates I had, it is just not how I date people. I need to know someone a solid year before I can date them. These apps are just not for people like me.
I have been completely single for the past 5 years. Best 5 years of my adult life as well. I have no intention to put myself out there again either.
61, never married, now almost 25 years past even considering a relationship with anyone. And my life has been much happier since giving up on trying to fit into mold that doesn't fit me. Not all of us were meant to be coupled up.
I've been widowed for 10 years, and people sometimes ask me if I will date again (I'm 68). I say, "Been there, done that; he was my Cosmic Soulmate and I feel lucky that I found that ONCE"). I have a dog, I have my daughters, I have my friends, and I am content.
Yup yup..
I’ve been single for about 10 years. Not once did I have any desire to pursue another relationship. Dealing with 2 young boys as a single father after catching her cheating I had all the “worrying about other people’s emotional well-being” that I could possibly want and more. Im now 47 and I’m good too.
I was widowed at 40 so i was suddenly single, not by choice. I thought it was aweful. My friends decided that i needed to date. I found out very fast that being single is awesome.
My favorite thing about dating profiles is that most men think posing with a dead animal will totally seal the deal. 😂😂
Im a widow for 10 years. No desire to have a relationship. Have my two daughters my 4 grands and my parents are still close.
After watching this, I’m so sad now for my two daughters who have just left their teen years but haven’t even really started dating. 🥺😢☹️💔
Easy peasy 😂😂😂
And the jast shreds of humans ability to relate with others vanished during covid
Yes you are right dating and relationships are dead and buried
I've been single for 15 years now. I have enjoyed some 'lovers' over these years - but no actual 'relationships' - due to the fact that I have not been able to meet a man that I can realistically be in a 'relationship' with. I wish I could, I truly do. I am not lonely - but I did enjoy having a 'partner' in life - and I would again - but I no longer believe it is possible. I love my life - but I would enjoy sharing it with someone (because it's awesome!) - but I do not see that will ever happen - and I am okay with it, it is what it is.
I'm 49 now and was single (well more or less) for like 25 years, now I am in an open relationship for 2 years, and I like it that way, and most important, we do not live together, so a lot of friction isn't there. Dating? No way I would do that shit again.
I hear you Maing! I'm good! If it happens it means God or Buddha or Shiva is directing it! Otherwise Yeah I'm good too!
Been single for 10 years. I am now 58. Like you I have heard the horror stories on both sides. Nope, not interested. I gave, I am done. I am happy doing my own thing.
I love my single life.
My trust is gone !😢
There ARE great people out there, but is it worth the risk of wading through trash and exposing yourself to the worst humanity has to deal offer? NOPE. 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫 be safe, y’all.
I like being single too.
I can't even imagine dating in this day and age. Oh, hell no.
Scary thought..we need to think twice about world war III
In all my life I have never met a decent man to marry, just settling with a bf….and hes of repug sway….which is tough sometimes. I dont think after the 50’s no one has been on the track of being a decent partner. I miss being single and having my castle to myself….hate sharing with someone who does not pull their weight…but I have some health issues and no friends now…useless repukes, and my sole cousin never ever communicates with me..hes of repug sway too. Seems trying to be a good person is not the plan for 95% of the people in the world….been noticing for a long time, people are in it for themselves….since the internet it showed in thousands of comments, nasty and stupid comments…….insidious…..just trying to get through the backside of this life is tough!
Nope. I'm good. I enjoy my peace. Single forevermore.
Same!
I tried 2x with dating apps. Done and don’t care + too old lol😅
I've never been on one! I enjoy being single! Are some of them Traffic ⛔ sites?
And maybe that is what is wrong with some of the men who are Trump supporters. They don't want to be better human beings, but they want to set women back into the days where they did not have a choice but to put up with them .
Okay you went too far, talking about dating apps. Me I just see the good in people 😮
I don’t want to find a relationship like I’m ordering take out🙄🥡🍕🌮
I’ve been single for almost 10 years after I ended my 30+ year marriage and I’m happier and physically and mentally healthier than I’ve been since my 20s…Never again will I give up my freedom 🫶🏻✊