I was in this numbness for 6 years... Benjamin you have just described what I went through....I ended up in a psychiatric hospital...but thank God for accepting, walking away, therapy and picking myself up.
What i have learnt from our wise teacher is that it is better to do marriage with the right foundation..no matter how much you try to cover up or repair, the consequences will catch up in the marriage...short cuts are not worthy...delayed gratification may not be glamorous but the amount of peace and joy cannot b explained..let us obey our seasons of life and live right..thank you..lovely as always lily❤❤❤..be blessed
Thanks girl for sharing this piece of wisdom. You’re on point and if we can all take this seriously, setting our relationship/marriage on the right foundation, we shall in deed have experience peace, joy and success. When I realized this, I decided to pursue God and delayed gratification
Thank you Sir. Indeed there should be a show on the women who are not legally married. Most of them u find they did not know better when engaging in such relationships and they have children. For example, a young woman of 21 years old having a relationship with 45 year old man. The young woman can easily be manipulated into trusting this man but later shes mature and knows better, she will also need help to leave this man.
Women need to learn to decentre men and have more confidence in themselves. A man who respects and love his wife would never propose something like this.
That thing is hell.. growing up was never peace at all was 7years but can remember everything, now that dad died there's peace, in terms of emotions you can't satisfy both
Thanks to Benjamin Zulu who is revealing all of this as a man. I really thank you for your sincerity. Actually it had been a year now after I have discovered that many men are possessed by the manipulative spirit and they use that on ladies. Now, ladies be careful have standards don't sacrifice for less, the other person should add value on you, not just a person who wants to fulfill only his needs make sure as well that you are able to gain sth. Can All ladies stop to listen to one-sided information of a man, ensure finding out the hidden agenda about him
Two sides are ok. Benjamin is telling us how men behave in such situations for us to make informed decisions. As ladies we know how we behave in general
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I was in this numbness for 6 years... Benjamin you have just described what I went through....I ended up in a psychiatric hospital...but thank God for accepting, walking away, therapy and picking myself up.
What i have learnt from our wise teacher is that it is better to do marriage with the right foundation..no matter how much you try to cover up or repair, the consequences will catch up in the marriage...short cuts are not worthy...delayed gratification may not be glamorous but the amount of peace and joy cannot b explained..let us obey our seasons of life and live right..thank you..lovely as always lily❤❤❤..be blessed
Well said Friend
Thanks girl for sharing this piece of wisdom. You’re on point and if we can all take this seriously, setting our relationship/marriage on the right foundation, we shall in deed have experience peace, joy and success. When I realized this, I decided to pursue God and delayed gratification
Benjamin’s message is not for the weak! But he makes me laugh so hard and the wisdom is always on point!
Ambiguous loss. I get it. Safeguarding my dignity, peace and safety!
lilly is soo brilliant,i love how you two flow💯
The title of this topic alone got me hooked 🤗
Thank you Mr.Benjamini for the advice.the weak should be strong and make a wise move❤
Benjamin, this is straight talk, let people know the truth. it's a bitter pill to swallow but a reality...You are a genius.
So much truth in this conversation💯 👏🏽👌🏽
I am so happy to watch and listen to this, wisdom overload.
Thank you Sir. Indeed there should be a show on the women who are not legally married. Most of them u find they did not know better when engaging in such relationships and they have children. For example, a young woman of 21 years old having a relationship with 45 year old man. The young woman can easily be manipulated into trusting this man but later shes mature and knows better, she will also need help to leave this man.
The first rule was enough for me thanks BZ 👏🏽👏🏽
I like how straightforward he is
Women need to learn to decentre men and have more confidence in themselves. A man who respects and love his wife would never propose something like this.
That thing is hell.. growing up was never peace at all was 7years but can remember everything, now that dad died there's peace, in terms of emotions you can't satisfy both
This verymuch important ,watching from germany.
The message is so strong wish i knew you earlier
Benjamin I wish I listened to u years back but still it's not too late I surely need to focus on self love first the rest will follow
I wish I know this for 33yr and now I have to start again
God help me for i am in this situation .... any one to help me
Thanks to Benjamin Zulu who is revealing all of this as a man. I really thank you for your sincerity. Actually it had been a year now after I have discovered that many men are possessed by the manipulative spirit and they use that on ladies. Now, ladies be careful have standards don't sacrifice for less, the other person should add value on you, not just a person who wants to fulfill only his needs make sure as well that you are able to gain sth. Can All ladies stop to listen to one-sided information of a man, ensure finding out the hidden agenda about him
Two sides are ok. Benjamin is telling us how men behave in such situations for us to make informed decisions. As ladies we know how we behave in general
Go alone for counseling or therapy! 👏👏👏😯. Thank you.
The abuser makes sure they are with you to know your plans in order to manipulate situations