These questions are for this woman in the video. Most women will slap your face for these questions but if that's what you like, this video is for you.
I just want to point out how refreshing it is to see a video is just one take, verbal mistakes and all. This feels so much higher quality than creators that have 500 snips worth of monologue awkwardly stitched together to make one full sentence that you can tell wasn't spoken in real life.
Depending on the relationship one has with his/her ...wife/husband will drive the type if question asked. Of course, both parties must be open-minded and non judgmental.
She did a swell job of spitting the questions out very quickly... did she tell allthe guys at the beginning to gat a pen and a piece of paper.... See if you can copy and paste this to make your life easier... LEVEL ONE: 1. What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy? 2. Are you the type of person who likes public affection? 3. When was your first kiss, and how did you feel about it? 4. What’s your favorite way to flirt with a guy? 5. What is the Ultimate Dream date for you?? 6. Have you ever had a crush on someone you worked with or someone you shouldn’t have? 7. What do you think is the key to a successful relationship? LEVEL TWO: 1. Do you consider yourself a sexual person? 2. What do you think makes a good lover? 3. If you could pick one thing that makes you feel sexy, what would it be? 4. Have you ever had a Friend with Benefits? 5. When was the first time you had sex? 6. Do you feel comfortable trying new things in the bedroom? 7. Do you like to be more dominant or submissive in the bedroom? LEVEL THREE: 1. Where is the craziest place you've ever had sex? 2. How long do you think you can go without sex? 3. What is something that secretly turns you on? 4. What the hottest thing a guy can do during sex? 5. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try in the bedroom but haven’t tried? 6. What’s your favorite type of foreplay? 7. Have you ever had a one-night stand? 8. Do you think women masturbate more than men? Happy Searching ;)
Thanks for the cliff notes. Level 2, question #5. But just don't blurt it out, you have to have her head in the fun zone first. - If she still backs off and says that's creepy, say .... "I don't know, I think it's edgy. My first time was in the back of the room in 8th grade English class. But we have to define what first time means..." This shows you like to have fun, on a couple of levels.
*These questions aren’t just about escalating the conversation but also about understanding her level of comfort and interest. The real skill lies in reading her responses and body language, making sure things stay light and fun while gauging her reaction.*
Questions 1. Level 1 - Light a. What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy b. Are you the type of person who likes public affection c. When was your first kiss and how did you feel about it d. What's your favorite way to flirt with a guy e. What's the ultimate dream date for you f. Have you ever had a crush on someone you worked with or someone you shouldn't g. What do you think is the key to a successful relationship 2. Level 2 - More intimate a. Do you consider yourself a sexual person b. What do you think makes a good lover c. If you could pick one thing that makes you feel sexy what would it d. Have you ever had a “friend with benefits” e. When was the first time you had sex f. Do you feel comfortable trying new things in the bedroom g. Do you like to be more dominant or submissive in the bedroom 3. Level 3 - Highly Intense a. Where's the craziest place you've ever had sex b. How long do you think you could go without sex c. What's something that secretly turns you on d. What's the hottest thing a guy can do during e. What's one thing you always wanted to try in the bedroom but haven't tried f. Have you ever had a one-night stand
I have a question. How comfortable are most couples actually are with each other? I heard that most couples are actually shy around each other and don't like getting naked around each other, so they avoid getting naked around each other. Most couples will never be naked around each other. I heard that most couples actually are not comfortable around each other, and I heard that most couples don't actually have sex due to how shy they are around each other. Most couples are too embarrassed to be naked around each other and have sex with each other.
If she answers “no” to the “do you consider yourself a sexual person” or says a number greater than “one year” for “how long could you go without sex”…those are huge red flags for “future sexless relationship “.
@fandafanta4183 assuming you’re a person with a low sex drive yourself, that makes sense, if you’re not, you’re in for a world of hurt. However there’s no *right* answer, as long as that works for both of you.
Actually it's the opposite. Virgins have an 80% success rate in marriage. The more promiscous a woman is the more she feels and acts like a whore and the more she's destroyed her ability to pair bond. It's a well known fact, if she fucks like a pornstar before she's married, she'll act like a nun once she gets the ring.
On the contrary. It is a good sign, because it shows that the woman hasn't slept with hundreds of people and there will be a good chance that she will be truthfull in a relationship and not cheat on you. A woman who is run over by half the city will never be loyal and be gone as soon as she finds somebody who tinkles her boxes better.
@@wedgeantilles8575 it means sex isn’t important to her. So yes, she won’t run around banging the whole town, but, after a while she won’t bang YOU, either. To be fair there is a balance to be had, sure…but if she explicitly gives the kinda of answers I said above you end up in a sexless relationship. Once the allure of the honeymoon phase is over, she doesn’t want sex nor does she “want to want it” so your efforts to keep her sexually interested fall on deaf ears, so to speak.
Ok, here is an example of a good answer if you’re monogamally inclined: “Do you consider yourself a sexual person”? “Yes, definitely, but for me only in the context of a loving, committed, trusting relationship “.
Make any women laugh within minutes or seconds of meeting them you can go straight in with the more intimate questions. Just start off by saying you'd been discussing it with your mates and seek their view. Especially if you've just started talking to them.
Me: Are you into individual sports" Her: What are you getting at? Me: OK... are you into Team Sports? Her: OK, again, what are you getting at? Me: Do you like baseball? Her: Yes, I do. Me: What’s your favorite position? Her: Outfield, I guess. What's yours? Me: Doggystyle...
Wow, this lady is very good at the hard sell. She knows all the tricks, like the best grifters. But her advice is actually good! It took me decades to learn some of this stuff, and if I had known it 20 years ago, the women in my life would have been a lot happier. I've been thinking about this, and the difference in her advice vs manosphere and PUA guys is subtle but interesting. They basically think of women as robots and tell you how to manipulate them. Marni's advice comes from a place of understanding that women are agents with their own wants and desires, and sometimes she does tell you how to manipulate them, but it's a kind of manipulation that women are often aware of and even like. It's playful rather than creepy.
"and if I had known it 20 years ago, the women in my life would have been a lot happier" that says everything about you that one has to know. you are still a bootlicker. a nice guy. you put others needs in front of yours. "and if I had known it 20 years ago, i would have been a lot happier with the women in my life" this is what it is supposed to be like. you fulfill YOUR needs. when they are fulfilled and sated, you become very stable, like a rock. many ladies like those rocks since they themself are not like that. then you look if your interests go hand in hand with one of these ladies, and bingo. but it is NOT about pleasing others. if you believe that, you still have a long way to go. your bad picture of PUA compared to the girl in the video says alot too. she is a PUA too btw. "no more m.r nice guy" from robert glover. read it. hes a counselor who worked with men who are like you. you are not lost, but you have to do something. nice guys cannot make a woman happy, with their various psychological issues, like placing woman before themselves. its definetly worth a read.
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? Sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. Why don't humans just remove sex from this world? Women can still get pregnant without sex (there's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex including artificial insemination). Sex is unnecessary.
@@searain1573 Um, I'm going to respond as if this is a sincere question rather than a joke, although I think that's unlikely. People LIKE sex. A LOT. People CRAVE sex, like they crave food. People experience sexual ATTRACTION, which feels a bit like a food craving but it's a craving to have sex with a specific person. Most people would say that they enjoy good sex more than anything else. And the ones who don't say that probably have never had good sex. Sex fosters bonding and emotional intimacy, so much that it's common wisdom among couples therapists that once the sex is gone, the relationship is likely doomed. NOT having sex leads to low mood and self-esteem, and depresses your immune system, leading to increased risk of many diseases, including CANCER. Sex is only unnecessary in the way that FOOD is unnecessary. At the beginning of the space program, astronauts ate nutrient-rich food substitute goo out of tubes. That was okay for a day or two, but on longer missions people needed the experience of tasting and chewing actual food, or it interfered with their mental health and ability to do their jobs. BTW, if you're a child, you probably shouldn't be watching this channel.
@@searain1573 Sex IS gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting, although those words all mean the same thing so you only made one objection and not four. Every child feels this way until they hit puberty and begin to experience feelings of sexual attraction and desire. Then they try something like kissing with tongue--IMHO the grossest and most unsanitary sex act you will see outside of hardcore porn--and find out it feels GREAT. After that, quite a lot of people (most of them women) start to find the nastiness a turn-on. You'd be amazed how many young women find the idea of being forced to lick the floor supremely hot. I used to think it was just a porn thing, but nope! Yes, asexual people exist. But most people who THINK they're ace have either experienced sexual trauma, or never had good sex, or even never met the right person. One of my philosophy professors from way back likes to tell the story of how she was on the way to becoming a nun when she fell in love with a man for the first time, at age 50. They're still happily married 25 years later, as far as I know. Heartwarming.
@@MilesDashing I don't see how some people think sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing. What's so beautiful about it? Sex has a lot of risks and dangers to it. Sex has the risks of STDS, infections, and unwanted pregnancy. Sex is an ugly thing. It isn't beautiful at all. I don't see why humans haven't stopped having sex yet. Humans would be happier without sex.
I have tried your very direct approach to women with sexual questions. This has led to several altercations in the supermarket. Do you have any advice on how to act during police interviews?
1. "What brand of handbag do you want me to buy you?" 2. "How big do you want the diamond on your engagement ring?" 3. "Do you prefer me to pay with cash or credit?"' 4. "Would you like me to take care of your rent, phone bills and groceries?" 5. "Will you be my sugar baby?" 6. "What should I put you as in my will?" 7. "What's your champage of choice?" 8. "Want some beluga caviar with that lobster?" 9. "How about I take you to a 5 star restaurant?" 10. "Why would I ever make you pay for anything?" 11. "How are you always perfect?" 12. "What do you you need, princess?" 13. "Why would I ever tell you no since you're always right?" 14. "How can I better take care of you?" 15. "How could your ex not treat you like a princess?" 16. "Is six figures enough for you, princess?" 17. "Will you please spend my money without telling me?" 18. "How are you always right?" 19. "Can we just do whatever you want?" 20. "How can I change everything about myself that you don't like?" 21. "How am even I worthy of even speaking to you as a man?" Dating in 2023...
Indeed, Extremely good looking American girls are often nasty rotten spoiled material princesses, stay away unless you look like Brad Pitt. That being said expect any woman worth her salt (fearless) to be looking for a strong provider. Go for a small town gal who had a good relationship with (and loves and respects) her father. A gal who is in touch with her spiritual side (not religious) unless you enjoy a super-limited care-taking role. It only takes one, there are billions and they can't all be bad. I see now in my 50's all the ones that eventually got dumped and are now single or divorced for being too demanding and unrealistic. Don't settle for someone who depletes you, must be authentic and mutually beneficial to last. (says the single man also looking). Good luck and I can relate to your frustrations!
$100 says the previous guy isn’t with us anymore. Not all Girlfriend’s fault and not all his. Just the path that leads down that way. Marni is one voice calling us back into the fray. Thank you, Marni.
I think some of the questions I just wouldn’t ask purely because I feel like they’d give off the wrong vibe “Have you ever had a one night stand” If this is my first date with a woman she’s just going to think “okay he only wants sex” Which is fine! But surprising her with that question after finding out what her dog’s favourite colour is would be a sharp left turn
Ha. I should have given guidance on HOW to incorporate these into conversation. The truth is you have to have to ask these with confidence and insert them when they make sense. BUT if you are too afraid to "go there" in any kind of PG way then that's going to hurt you in the long run. Cause if you're cautious about moving to these topics, you'll most likely stay friendly and neutral the whole time which means no flirty vibe is made.
I agree, some of these questions feel invasive. Also I don't know if specific questions about her past experiences, would just remind her of last relationships that she misses, to which she might compare you, or doesn't want to be reminded of.
i agree. some questions here are almost like asking her : haave you ever done more than 1 guy at the same time ? orgy ? you like it in the back door? do you swallow? i could go on.
I ask that question to either disqualify the woman if they seem like they are a decent woman now who is actively looking for a relationship and had made a mistake or to put them in the "for fun" box because they have no awareness and their actions, communication, etc has communicated that they just want to have fun.🤣 Personally, I'll never take a woman seriously if they have had a one night stand. I usually ask women if they have had a one night stand after the 1st date during a video call and once the 2nd date is already secured. It's important to be able to see at least their face. It gives away important queues. I actually did this yesterday. First date was Monday and the 2nd date is set for Sunday. In my experience, you don't ask a fish how to catch a fish... I had to stop watching the video after about 4 minutes because it is rubbish. Decided to check out the comments and not too surprised to see this thread here.
New here. Got to know of your videos and blog through your course ad. Wow surprised at the amount of value you give out here. Looking forward to going down the youtube rabbit hole ☺️
Keep going, even if the video isn't a topic your dying to know about, Marni tea he's the Micro, with Macro in mind. She is amazing! I hope you enjoy your journey as much as I have enjoyed the rabbit hole!
@@703Tyme You really hit the nail on the head. I'm not dating anymore, just watched the video out of curiosity, but I can confirm everything she said. I also like to steal from old movies. The Don Juan DeMarco finger trick never fails. And stolen Humphrey Bogart quotes have broken the ice many many times for me.
I find that if I give a young woman I have just met (e.g. while traveling) kind attention in a normal conversation, about half the time she will naturally discuss relationships, dating, and sexuality. sometimes it's subtle, but the opening for the questions in today's lesson is there when you look for it, ready-made. by the way, I am old, ugly and broke AF. but I carry myself well and show genuine interest. it really does seem like women of all ages are starved for genuine IRL connection.
This is hillarious 😂 These are like questions from survey or research. Or maybe clinic would ask. To ask a woman/girl especially just getting to know. She even predicts how combatant this would make a woman in conversation towards end of video! This is like satire! 🤣
Marni, you're simply genius! You're so socially and psychologically aware. This video describes how I met my wife of 20 yrs. I saw her and was smitten, and pursued. I was friend zoned almost immediately, but I didn't trip about it cuz I was confident and not going away that easy, so I stayed there, my intentions clear all along. She wasn't physically attracted to me at that tyme, and was gonna go back to school after break, so I don't think she saw a future, she saw a number, probably. (Good ? To ask now) She wasn't interested in a bed post notch, so she was conservative and we started hanging out daily. Then, the day came when her and her friend and I got into this exact conversation about your video. We had already kissed, and cuz I was clear in my intentions, she knew I wanted her, she didn't know she wanted me, that is until that conversation. She left that convo aroused, I do know that, and doubt she wanted the notch, but hey, she would be here all summer, maybe a fling is just what I need, I believe was her thought. So, she ended up making 1st move cuz she knew I was in, so she thought tonight's the night, but it wasn't. We kissed and I just touched her, everywhere but privately and I looked at her breasts, down her shirt, pulling her bra back, didn't touch. I pulled her panties down just far enough so I could see, I was literally basking in her beauty, but didn't touch. It wasn't the right place or tyme, so I told her how sexy she was and how excited she made me, but your friends couch while ur 3 other friends are sleeping won't due. Come over tomorrow and I'll cook you dinner and if u want, you can stay as long as you like. It worked so well, she's in bed right now sleeping. ALSO, I was confident in my bedroom game and knew enough about her past relationships to know I wasn't competing with Johnny Sins, so I knew she wouldn't be disappointed. I wanted to share this story because it encompasses so many of the points you have made throughout watching hundreds of ur videos, so many tactics you say, I used before I heard you say them, and that's how I got my wife and 2 awesome kids, and I still feel blessed. I still look at her like the 1st tyme I saw her, I'm still wildly attracted to her and when 10 yrs feels like 5 and the spark is still there, you got a real one, just open ur eyes. I hope you read the whole story and see how so many of ur tips are valued and I'm still learning from you how to be a better husband, so that I'll be able to maintain forever that I was right and went the route I was supposed to! Thank you for everything Marni, your such a gem, u drop nothing but jewels, and I wonder how many men are still clueless. Usher couldn't steal my wife, not even for a dance, she would rather dance with me🤷♂️🤣🤣🤣🙏
Make sure you smell good and have fresh breath. If it’s noisy lean in to her but don’t talk to loud she will instinctively lean in to hear better. Make sure to have eye contact when she is taking, she is the only person in the world. If everything seems to be going good let her catch you smelling her perfume and hair. She should fidget a little bit as she is very turned on. This works for spouses, girlfriends and strangers. 😊
WAIT! Before you start asking her these questions, you need to know what her past partners were like. Ask her this first. If they betrayed her or did something awful, you're gonna make her think about them and she's not gonna have a good time. Ask her questions that will make her think more about you or how she is on a deeper level if that's the case. Some of these are still good.
It seems like your speaking about the flow of conversation and demeanor. Yes, be calm and if it doesn't flow just move on. I've been told I have a salesman approach which I can agree. My attitude is simply don't chase the wind.
Fantastic! I love theese kind of questions because it opens another level of communication. If the girl dont like this kind of talk she simply just not for me. ❤
I am an outlier here and everywhere...Women who 'fall' for these outlandish questions and banter from a total stranger, would not make my list of ladies to consider dating. You want to build up to some playful banter once you have gotten to know someone, with a few outings. In reality I don't chase women, women chase me. Meaning I get to know someone, I have an awesome sense of humour, always make them laugh. I am entertaining, knowledgeable about many things, intelligent, and i am exceptionally polite. If I ring her bell, she will push to move things along. I don't take well to soft cues, so sometimes I miss out. That is OK. It is better than being the douche, that asks a girl about masturbation. Marni will disagree, plenty of guys will brag how many more they have bagged than me, but ladies? Your thoughts? - Cheers
I agree with you, Sir. Getting to know someone w/o it being sexual right off the bat is best. And, for the record, this list of questions aren't designed to get to know a woman better. They are a sexual interrogation tactic that is seen as good only by men who are not worthy of a woman of quality. But then these questions aren't geared toward seeking quality.
Great comment. This is basically how i've always conducted myself and it works. I actually never ask a sexual question rather just ask more generalised questions and if she feels relaxed with you the conversation will just gradually work it's way into that area.
While the premise of this video is correct (you want to get a woman thinking about sex when she is interacting with you if you are looking to be more than friends with her), the example questions at all levels are horrible. The only good questions she gives are in the stories she uses to introduce the video (both of them were decent). The only other one that was halfway decent was "Where is the craziest place you've ever had sex?" However, that question is double-edged as she will follow it up by asking you the same thing. If she has a wild story, and yours is tame by comparison, she will view you as less adventurous. On the flip side, if hers is tame and you have a wild one, she may be intimidated. Keep in mind the purpose of these questions is to get her brain associating interactions with you and sex. You do not want to introduce the thought of you being either "too vanilla" or "way too wild" in the ice breaker. Some examples of better questions that have worked well: - If you could choose only one, would you rather be able to pee standing up or be able to have multiple orgasms? - Would you rather be able to have a "good" orgasm every time you have sex, or mind-blowing multiple orgasms 10% of the time? - (This one only works if you are in halfway decent shape) Which type of girl are you? The type that is into arms, shoulders, or abs? - What is your ideal "dad bod"? - Which do you think is better: giving and receiving oral at the same time, or taking turns? In general, these types of questions are only used as ice-breakers. After the conversation starts, it is just a matter of keeping it light with flirtatious banter.
I suggest the adding the following question: “if you accept that four significant parts of a relationship are intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual parts, how would you rank them in terms of importance and why?”
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I'm not sure about many of these. They bring up soecific memories with oast lovers, that she'll either start comparing you to, or that she wishes to forget. They seem oddly intrusive. They could be replaced with forward thinking questions
All of the dating advice I ever received said to NEVER bring sexual stuff up until way later. In fact the advice I was always given was to keep even the compliments G Rated
@@ripsaw7521 Eventually you reach a point where you realize that quality is better than quantity. A super high quality woman may not go for that kind of explicit talk, at least not at the beginning.
Exactly. She is contradicting herself explicitly. I just lost respect… I’m not exactly sure why because I usually love fun sexually charged conversations, but the hypocrisy is just so blatant and cringe. I’m not clicking your second link girl, I’m glad you found it useful, and no you won’t see me next week.
Some of these things why would you want to know.... not everything about sexual history needs to be shared. You can more than easily share what you like without even alluding to past partners (even if you know you like it from past partners)
One of the few sexual questions I asked my wife while we were first dating before we started having sex was "Did you ever watch the TV show Eight is Enough?" She said, yes....and I replied..."Well, is it?" she looked puzzled at first...then blushed and started giggling.
All of those questions are good, but do not ask her about when is the first time she had sex if you are a virgin. Also stay away from Level 3 unless you think that she is so comfortable with you to the point that she may not care whether or not you are experienced in bed. If you are super confident and can make a girl not care, then go for it. If you are not, then don't do it. Stick with Level 1 first because those are terrific questions and see if you can gradually work your way up to Level 2. It's okay to ask her if she had a one night stand or friends with benefits though. That's a great way to show a woman that body count matters without telling her that. And Marni is right, don't ask her all of them.
Still time to ask if we succesfully past the first sex step ? (but i had to leave 6 weeks and she waiting for me -3 weeks left - and we text sometimes)
I also have a problem. My former girlfriends got really jealous after a while. Certainly not in the beginning. So I think I know why. I am a free soul, a bit like a wild Mustang. I can be very sweet and gentle, romantic... On the other hand, I have my own ambitions, goals, and career and need my FREEDOM. That makes me a bit unpredictable. Saying NO, arriving late. I never cheated. However, my exes thought I was. It's not because I have a girlfriend. I can not talk to other women. We have a saying in Dutch. "It's not because you are on a diet. You can not look at the menu." The strangest part is that I heard of a friend that 1 ex confessed. She never felt like this with any other guy??? For now I am staying single. Focusing on my career, friends, family...
None of these questions would work in the current market, sorry ... the difference between *romantic* vs. a *creepy stalker* is? Whether she is physically attracted to the guy. Simple.
That's a false dichotomy - when I asked my wife how she felt about me when we first met, she didn't say she felt physically attracted, she said "You seemed INTERESTING" - bam! There is no need to be the Mr. Ideal - she isn't my perfect type either, I just really enjoyed the conversation over tea with her and on our way out I decided to ask her, if she had enjoyed the evening and if she wouldn't mind pushing it to another level with no strings attached and she said maybe - as that means clear NO is out of the equation I grabbed her and kissed her passionately - 12 years later we have 2 awesome boys and 7 years of happy marriage :) Do not look for an ideal match, do not think women need ideal match either - proper love is BUILT over the years - your looks play much lesser role than you think :)
Who cares what she thinks. Who cares if someone calls you creepy, if someone calls you a loser, or calls you a dork. Are you actually a creep seeking to hurt her or gRape her? No. So who cares what she thinks.
But you see, that is still considered sexual assault. If a dude were to do that now a days and the girl wasn't attracted to him, she could get him in ALOT of trouble. Yea, that may have worked for you 12 years ago. But doing it today is just to much of a risk.
These lines of questioning largely depend upon the intention and the ultimate "relationship" goal. "I just want to 'get to know you better'", or, "I just want to know 'the *real* you-" while basing the entire Q&A around sex and sexuality doesn't at all communicate an interest in "the person" as much as it does just *wanting to have sex with* that person". People build relationships upside these days, and then can't seem to figure out why their "relationships" feel so empty or fall apart again and again.
Thanks for the video, Marni! Quite useful as usual. But may I give you a tip? Please, be slower when giving the actual material) Dunno how the others, but I just had no time to sense and feel what you're telling. What I mean is that the things you're teaching guys here is not just some dictionary of vocabulary stuff which just needs to be listed, memorized (and then reproduced in practice mechanically). There needs to be a sense of that. And as with actual conversation: you can't just jump to level 3 in a matter of seconds, almost same is with teaching these things) Haven't I yet started to "chew" and realize the "level 1", but we are at level 3 already. Thanks)
Here's a question I wanna ask and tell me if this is too much. Question: When your lover goes down on you and then comes back up for a kiss, are you repulsed or do you like the taste of your love juices?
You possess more than just decency; your performance in your videos speaks volumes, showcasing your true excellence. However, the question arises: does your teaching prowess translate into real-life situations? Many can articulate words effectively, yet lack the energy and body language to truly connect. Teaching goes beyond imparting knowledge; it's about instilling the skills needed for optimal performance in every aspect of life. Maybe for your future video. How to be the man.
I am 70. Been single 28 years. way above average looks, income, nice guy, great shape, etc. I would ask, “Are you into intimacy?” Their reaction will tell you. Many women ARE not! It doesn’t work anymore! And they KNOW it. You will see the look on their face when you ask.
You should do a show regarding men who are in marriages that are sexually dull and what to do with the opportunity to have a friend with benefits outside the marriage .
She lost me on the first one - 6:49 What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy? I would never ask that - it seems insecure and needy. Just proceed under the assumption that she is attracted to you....and behave in ways that generally attract women.
@@PetterIvarsson I think a woman's answer to what attracts her is unreliable....she may say honesty and character when it's really money, facial hair, stylish clothes, height, etc....things she doesn't want to admit.
Most of the questions are like 5th date and on. Men are from Mars and women from Venus thing is going on here. So, I wouldn't walk up to a group of women and ask anything like you are saying. Rather, asks some of these questions or my own questions when I got to know her a little better.
I remembered asking a woman I just met, "Length or girth?" She nervously laughed and went into a whole discussion about method, orgasms, intimacy, etc. Four years later, she's now one of the best friends I've ever had in my life and we still talk about sex every chance we get! Love this video!
Hey Marni, Several months back I ask a good friend (not girl friend) who was having many problems, how long it had been since she had an orgasm? She gasp and said that is really personal. I said yes, how long? Answer, years. That opened a long discussion.
I'm sure sweetie is more than capable of making her voice sound impossible to resist by the savviest, coolest, seasoned, most discerning civilised gentlemen.😊
ISTP introvert here. I WOULD say that this would have been very helpful to have, 'lo those many years ago (as in before cellphones and the widespread Internet), but I wonder even with the knowledge if I could have implemented. You have to combine with good signal reads to avoid the "police" scenario (ISTPs are worst of the 16 types at signal reads) and then you have to roll out the question in a natural way (overriding self-awareness and burning much more energy than an extrovert would need). And have faith you'll get better with practice because it'll seem excruciating until then. I'd probably use as practice subjects those whom I had low interest in and could get slapped by and ruin any chances, out of fear of blowing it with a high-interest person. But then if one of the low-interest ones hits and if it were on a space like a campus, that could get in the way with the high-interest one. I'm probably overthinking this, but it's what some people do. Long story short, Thailand and the Philippines worked better, starting years before everyone went. Though an unexpected side effect was to totally deflate motivation for doing anything further in the U.S.
Guys, don't get yourself arrested asking girls questions like this. Let HER approach, and let HER steer the conversation. It's not worth going to jail. Least in the 1970/80s, we had the local roller skating rink to watch and talk to girls. 1990s we had AOL chat rooms.
It has rather less to do with being easy or the way the woman got raised! It's the way you ask and the words to use! Nr 1 Who on earth would walk to a group of girls and ask 'Hey, what's your favorite masturbation toy" (not to mention that some girls would call for their brothers, and they would teach you what is or what is not appropriate to ask a group of girls!
This is good advice. 👍 My trick with dating is to pretend not to be interested in her sexually. So the girls do the first step at the third date. The exeption is, when there is almost a kind of sexual tension before meeting the first time. Then I'm verry aggressive and turn her mind into spicy stuff. Btw never ask a woman If she ever had a ons. The answer could be yes or no and can end the conversation. Always ask questions she could not answer with only one word.
Impolite to answer a question with a question. Bad manners sure indication of poor upbringing. 😁 if she’s not interested in you she’s not going to care what you think. If she’s repeating your question back to hear your opinion, then you may have just scored 😁👍Practicing a conversation that may never take place doesn’t work for me. Preparing a place to take her . Clean, comfortable uncluttered , usually helps me to focus on her, conversation flows smoothly, honestly without effort. As it should, before inviting her over for , snacks, drinks, fireworks
Thais are pretty transactional and there may even be a Thai boyfriend to the girl upcountry who doesn't mind because encounters with farangs are seen as totally transactional (even if the guy wants to keep her as a live-in!) Filipinas, OTOH, can really get to you. People think it's because they speak much better English and are a little closer culturally, but the guys who go to these places are generally NOT the most verbal and certainly don't have the best "game"
Followed your advise. Was a bit awkward, my grandma didn't want to talk about masturbation. She ignored me for the rest of the funeral.
She was probably menstruating
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Best comment EVER 😂😂😂😂😂😂
You too?
Advise??? Lol. You proved what a fool you are
Actual video starts @06:40
Thanks
Half of it is a waste of time and the other half isn't much better . . .
Nah, the entire video is the first 25 seconds of the video. No need for the rest, honestly.
These questions are for this woman in the video. Most women will slap your face for these questions but if that's what you like, this video is for you.
@@garybankston9319Maybe yeah. Some could be danger.
I just want to point out how refreshing it is to see a video is just one take, verbal mistakes and all. This feels so much higher quality than creators that have 500 snips worth of monologue awkwardly stitched together to make one full sentence that you can tell wasn't spoken in real life.
Depending on the relationship one has with his/her ...wife/husband will drive the type if question asked. Of course, both parties must be open-minded and non judgmental.
Underrated comment
Theres tons of cuts are you blind
Yeah, this was definitely not one take 😂
She did a swell job of spitting the questions out very quickly... did she tell allthe guys at the beginning to gat a pen and a piece of paper.... See if you can copy and paste this to make your life easier...
LEVEL ONE:
1. What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy?
2. Are you the type of person who likes public affection?
3. When was your first kiss, and how did you feel about it?
4. What’s your favorite way to flirt with a guy?
5. What is the Ultimate Dream date for you??
6. Have you ever had a crush on someone you worked with or someone you shouldn’t have?
7. What do you think is the key to a successful relationship?
LEVEL TWO:
1. Do you consider yourself a sexual person?
2. What do you think makes a good lover?
3. If you could pick one thing that makes you feel sexy, what would it be?
4. Have you ever had a Friend with Benefits?
5. When was the first time you had sex?
6. Do you feel comfortable trying new things in the bedroom?
7. Do you like to be more dominant or submissive in the bedroom?
LEVEL THREE:
1. Where is the craziest place you've ever had sex?
2. How long do you think you can go without sex?
3. What is something that secretly turns you on?
4. What the hottest thing a guy can do during sex?
5. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try in the bedroom but haven’t tried?
6. What’s your favorite type of foreplay?
7. Have you ever had a one-night stand?
8. Do you think women masturbate more than men?
Happy Searching ;)
👏👍👏💥👏👍👏
Thank you!
Think of how many minutes this man has saved for all of us, may blessings come to you my friend.
Thanks for the cliff notes. Level 2, question #5. But just don't blurt it out, you have to have her head in the fun zone first. -
If she still backs off and says that's creepy, say .... "I don't know, I think it's edgy. My first time was in the back of the room in 8th grade English class. But we have to define what first time means..." This shows you like to have fun, on a couple of levels.
What if the person you are dating is a virgin and waits for marriage?
The fact that nobody talks about the book Casanova Optimization of Attraction speaks volumes about how people are stuck in their dating life
Oh yeah, AI generated content. Truly what we need way more of. This is going to be pure quality I'm sure of it.
@@millanferende6723yep, i don't listen and open my mind to the advise of relationship experts, so i keep getting either dumped or friendzoned.
Worst book ever. A complete nice guy manual
Cassanova's dead
Yeah... because the book doesn't exist. Fuck off AI.
*These questions aren’t just about escalating the conversation but also about understanding her level of comfort and interest. The real skill lies in reading her responses and body language, making sure things stay light and fun while gauging her reaction.*
There may be no “right” time to ask a sexually charged question. But there is definitely a wrong time. For example, don’t do that at work.
Don't ask them these at funerals.
Probably not when their husband is there.
@@johannes6760why not? In some cultures, people do like to have sex after the funeral.
@@garvinsmith4555I agree, I've had so many dead f*cks in my life it was like being at a funeral in my bedroom anyway!
Every kid who thinks people shouldn't meet at work should ask their parents where they met. Grow up and get over yourselves.
Questions
1. Level 1 - Light
a. What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy
b. Are you the type of person who likes public affection
c. When was your first kiss and how did you feel about it
d. What's your favorite way to flirt with a guy
e. What's the ultimate dream date for you
f. Have you ever had a crush on someone you worked with or someone you shouldn't
g. What do you think is the key to a successful relationship
2. Level 2 - More intimate
a. Do you consider yourself a sexual person
b. What do you think makes a good lover
c. If you could pick one thing that makes you feel sexy what would it
d. Have you ever had a “friend with benefits”
e. When was the first time you had sex
f. Do you feel comfortable trying new things in the bedroom
g. Do you like to be more dominant or submissive in the bedroom
3. Level 3 - Highly Intense
a. Where's the craziest place you've ever had sex
b. How long do you think you could go without sex
c. What's something that secretly turns you on
d. What's the hottest thing a guy can do during
e. What's one thing you always wanted to try in the bedroom but haven't tried
f. Have you ever had a one-night stand
Thanks man, appreciate it
Level 3
e1. What's your favourite type of foreplay
You forgot about the foreplay question...I hear that is extremely important...
@@TommonSenseProit is and it number 1 thing to do with women get her really hot fire ip and very wet down below between her legs every time
thanks bro
I’ve done all 3 levels with a few female friends lol. They actually love it. I call it verbal foreplay
Friends....
I have a question. How comfortable are most couples actually are with each other? I heard that most couples are actually shy around each other and don't like getting naked around each other, so they avoid getting naked around each other. Most couples will never be naked around each other.
I heard that most couples actually are not comfortable around each other, and I heard that most couples don't actually have sex due to how shy they are around each other. Most couples are too embarrassed to be naked around each other and have sex with each other.
FWB?
I am a 60 yrs young and I love this.
If she answers “no” to the “do you consider yourself a sexual person” or says a number greater than “one year” for “how long could you go without sex”…those are huge red flags for “future sexless relationship “.
@fandafanta4183 assuming you’re a person with a low sex drive yourself, that makes sense, if you’re not, you’re in for a world of hurt.
However there’s no *right* answer, as long as that works for both of you.
Actually it's the opposite. Virgins have an 80% success rate in marriage.
The more promiscous a woman is the more she feels and acts like a whore and the more she's destroyed her ability to pair bond.
It's a well known fact, if she fucks like a pornstar before she's married, she'll act like a nun once she gets the ring.
On the contrary.
It is a good sign, because it shows that the woman hasn't slept with hundreds of people and there will be a good chance that she will be truthfull in a relationship and not cheat on you.
A woman who is run over by half the city will never be loyal and be gone as soon as she finds somebody who tinkles her boxes better.
@@wedgeantilles8575 it means sex isn’t important to her. So yes, she won’t run around banging the whole town, but, after a while she won’t bang YOU, either. To be fair there is a balance to be had, sure…but if she explicitly gives the kinda of answers I said above you end up in a sexless relationship. Once the allure of the honeymoon phase is over, she doesn’t want sex nor does she “want to want it” so your efforts to keep her sexually interested fall on deaf ears, so to speak.
Ok, here is an example of a good answer if you’re monogamally inclined:
“Do you consider yourself a sexual person”?
“Yes, definitely, but for me only in the context of a loving, committed, trusting relationship “.
Make any women laugh within minutes or seconds of meeting them you can go straight in with the more intimate questions.
Just start off by saying you'd been discussing it with your mates and seek their view. Especially if you've just started talking to them.
So, Craig Ferguson them.
Here’s my icebreaker…
Me: Do you like baseball?
Her: Yes, I do.
Me: What’s your favorite position?
Her: On my tummy.
That seems more like a dialogue, than an icebreaker. But if you can lure women with that line, then more power to you, I guess.
@@wylierichardson-tu6zsit’s a joke read the room
Me: Are you into individual sports"
Her: What are you getting at?
Me: OK... are you into Team
Sports?
Her: OK, again, what are you getting at?
Me: Do you like baseball?
Her: Yes, I do.
Me: What’s your favorite position?
Her: Outfield, I guess. What's yours?
Me: Doggystyle...
@ Sounds like a Key and Peele skit.
Wow, this lady is very good at the hard sell. She knows all the tricks, like the best grifters. But her advice is actually good! It took me decades to learn some of this stuff, and if I had known it 20 years ago, the women in my life would have been a lot happier.
I've been thinking about this, and the difference in her advice vs manosphere and PUA guys is subtle but interesting. They basically think of women as robots and tell you how to manipulate them. Marni's advice comes from a place of understanding that women are agents with their own wants and desires, and sometimes she does tell you how to manipulate them, but it's a kind of manipulation that women are often aware of and even like. It's playful rather than creepy.
"and if I had known it 20 years ago, the women in my life would have been a lot happier"
that says everything about you that one has to know. you are still a bootlicker. a nice guy. you put others needs in front of yours.
"and if I had known it 20 years ago, i would have been a lot happier with the women in my life"
this is what it is supposed to be like. you fulfill YOUR needs. when they are fulfilled and sated, you become very stable, like a rock. many ladies like those rocks since they themself are not like that. then you look if your interests go hand in hand with one of these ladies, and bingo.
but it is NOT about pleasing others. if you believe that, you still have a long way to go. your bad picture of PUA compared to the girl in the video says alot too. she is a PUA too btw.
"no more m.r nice guy" from robert glover. read it. hes a counselor who worked with men who are like you. you are not lost, but you have to do something. nice guys cannot make a woman happy, with their various psychological issues, like placing woman before themselves. its definetly worth a read.
I have a question. Why do people still have sex? Sex is very gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting! I don't see how sex is a good thing. Why don't humans just remove sex from this world? Women can still get pregnant without sex (there's a lot of ways women can get pregnant without sex including artificial insemination). Sex is unnecessary.
@@searain1573 Um, I'm going to respond as if this is a sincere question rather than a joke, although I think that's unlikely.
People LIKE sex. A LOT. People CRAVE sex, like they crave food. People experience sexual ATTRACTION, which feels a bit like a food craving but it's a craving to have sex with a specific person. Most people would say that they enjoy good sex more than anything else. And the ones who don't say that probably have never had good sex.
Sex fosters bonding and emotional intimacy, so much that it's common wisdom among couples therapists that once the sex is gone, the relationship is likely doomed. NOT having sex leads to low mood and self-esteem, and depresses your immune system, leading to increased risk of many diseases, including CANCER.
Sex is only unnecessary in the way that FOOD is unnecessary. At the beginning of the space program, astronauts ate nutrient-rich food substitute goo out of tubes. That was okay for a day or two, but on longer missions people needed the experience of tasting and chewing actual food, or it interfered with their mental health and ability to do their jobs.
BTW, if you're a child, you probably shouldn't be watching this channel.
@@searain1573 Sex IS gross, nasty, messy, and disgusting, although those words all mean the same thing so you only made one objection and not four. Every child feels this way until they hit puberty and begin to experience feelings of sexual attraction and desire. Then they try something like kissing with tongue--IMHO the grossest and most unsanitary sex act you will see outside of hardcore porn--and find out it feels GREAT. After that, quite a lot of people (most of them women) start to find the nastiness a turn-on. You'd be amazed how many young women find the idea of being forced to lick the floor supremely hot. I used to think it was just a porn thing, but nope!
Yes, asexual people exist. But most people who THINK they're ace have either experienced sexual trauma, or never had good sex, or even never met the right person. One of my philosophy professors from way back likes to tell the story of how she was on the way to becoming a nun when she fell in love with a man for the first time, at age 50. They're still happily married 25 years later, as far as I know. Heartwarming.
@@MilesDashing I don't see how some people think sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing. What's so beautiful about it? Sex has a lot of risks and dangers to it. Sex has the risks of STDS, infections, and unwanted pregnancy. Sex is an ugly thing. It isn't beautiful at all. I don't see why humans haven't stopped having sex yet. Humans would be happier without sex.
I have tried your very direct approach to women with sexual questions. This has led to several altercations in the supermarket. Do you have any advice on how to act during police interviews?
Thanks Marni ! love your vids - it's really helping. sometimes men thought they knew everything but you're really adding
Thanks for these ❤. I asked these questions to my girl, and we had a good time.
1. "What brand of handbag do you want me to buy you?"
2. "How big do you want the diamond on your engagement ring?"
3. "Do you prefer me to pay with cash or credit?"'
4. "Would you like me to take care of your rent, phone bills and groceries?"
5. "Will you be my sugar baby?"
6. "What should I put you as in my will?"
7. "What's your champage of choice?"
8. "Want some beluga caviar with that lobster?"
9. "How about I take you to a 5 star restaurant?"
10. "Why would I ever make you pay for anything?"
11. "How are you always perfect?"
12. "What do you you need, princess?"
13. "Why would I ever tell you no since you're always right?"
14. "How can I better take care of you?"
15. "How could your ex not treat you like a princess?"
16. "Is six figures enough for you, princess?"
17. "Will you please spend my money without telling me?"
18. "How are you always right?"
19. "Can we just do whatever you want?"
20. "How can I change everything about myself that you don't like?"
21. "How am even I worthy of even speaking to you as a man?"
Dating in 2023...
So true! Lol 😅🤣😂
Are you ok bro?
This is more accurate!
Indeed, Extremely good looking American girls are often nasty rotten spoiled material princesses, stay away unless you look like Brad Pitt. That being said expect any woman worth her salt (fearless) to be looking for a strong provider. Go for a small town gal who had a good relationship with (and loves and respects) her father. A gal who is in touch with her spiritual side (not religious) unless you enjoy a super-limited care-taking role. It only takes one, there are billions and they can't all be bad. I see now in my 50's all the ones that eventually got dumped and are now single or divorced for being too demanding and unrealistic. Don't settle for someone who depletes you, must be authentic and mutually beneficial to last. (says the single man also looking). Good luck and I can relate to your frustrations!
I am afraid you might get a slap in the face when you ask her question number 3. ; )
$100 says the previous guy isn’t with us anymore. Not all Girlfriend’s fault and not all his. Just the path that leads down that way. Marni is one voice calling us back into the fray. Thank you, Marni.
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Every Guy Should want a Marni
I think some of the questions I just wouldn’t ask purely because I feel like they’d give off the wrong vibe
“Have you ever had a one night stand”
If this is my first date with a woman she’s just going to think “okay he only wants sex”
Which is fine! But surprising her with that question after finding out what her dog’s favourite colour is would be a sharp left turn
Yeah most of these questions would make a girl think that lmao
Ha. I should have given guidance on HOW to incorporate these into conversation. The truth is you have to have to ask these with confidence and insert them when they make sense. BUT if you are too afraid to "go there" in any kind of PG way then that's going to hurt you in the long run. Cause if you're cautious about moving to these topics, you'll most likely stay friendly and neutral the whole time which means no flirty vibe is made.
I agree, some of these questions feel invasive. Also I don't know if specific questions about her past experiences, would just remind her of last relationships that she misses, to which she might compare you, or doesn't want to be reminded of.
i agree. some questions here are almost like asking her :
haave you ever done more than 1 guy at the same time ? orgy ?
you like it in the back door?
do you swallow?
i could go on.
I ask that question to either disqualify the woman if they seem like they are a decent woman now who is actively looking for a relationship and had made a mistake or to put them in the "for fun" box because they have no awareness and their actions, communication, etc has communicated that they just want to have fun.🤣
Personally, I'll never take a woman seriously if they have had a one night stand.
I usually ask women if they have had a one night stand after the 1st date during a video call and once the 2nd date is already secured. It's important to be able to see at least their face. It gives away important queues.
I actually did this yesterday. First date was Monday and the 2nd date is set for Sunday.
In my experience, you don't ask a fish how to catch a fish...
I had to stop watching the video after about 4 minutes because it is rubbish. Decided to check out the comments and not too surprised to see this thread here.
New here. Got to know of your videos and blog through your course ad. Wow surprised at the amount of value you give out here. Looking forward to going down the youtube rabbit hole ☺️
Keep going, even if the video isn't a topic your dying to know about, Marni tea he's the Micro, with Macro in mind. She is amazing! I hope you enjoy your journey as much as I have enjoyed the rabbit hole!
@@703Tyme You really hit the nail on the head.
I'm not dating anymore, just watched the video out of curiosity, but I can confirm everything she said.
I also like to steal from old movies. The Don Juan DeMarco finger trick never fails. And stolen Humphrey Bogart quotes have broken the ice many many times for me.
I find that if I give a young woman I have just met (e.g. while traveling) kind attention in a normal conversation, about half the time she will naturally discuss relationships, dating, and sexuality. sometimes it's subtle, but the opening for the questions in today's lesson is there when you look for it, ready-made. by the way, I am old, ugly and broke AF. but I carry myself well and show genuine interest. it really does seem like women of all ages are starved for genuine IRL connection.
These are such great suggestions! Thanks Marni! from a fellow Canuk !
This is hillarious 😂 These are like questions from survey or research. Or maybe clinic would ask. To ask a woman/girl especially just getting to know. She even predicts how combatant this would make a woman in conversation towards end of video! This is like satire! 🤣
Simply own the shit out of everything you think, say, and do, and never apologize. Sex never comes after an apology
Confidence is a sexual magnet for women. But not cocky. That's a turn off
"Own the shit?"
@@medusamooney815 what's the difference?
@@milascave2
Confidence is backed up by what you’ve done and can do.
Cocky is just you running your mouth assuming you’re great.
@@milascave2 The first is comfortable in your own skin. Cocky is just plain arrogant to cover up personal insecurity.
instructions unclear. Pls bail me out from the police station.
Great content as always Marni! (I love the way you say ‘buddon’. as in ‘just press that buddon… 😍
Marni, you're simply genius! You're so socially and psychologically aware. This video describes how I met my wife of 20 yrs. I saw her and was smitten, and pursued. I was friend zoned almost immediately, but I didn't trip about it cuz I was confident and not going away that easy, so I stayed there, my intentions clear all along. She wasn't physically attracted to me at that tyme, and was gonna go back to school after break, so I don't think she saw a future, she saw a number, probably. (Good ? To ask now) She wasn't interested in a bed post notch, so she was conservative and we started hanging out daily. Then,
the day came when her and her friend and I got into this exact conversation about your video. We had already kissed, and cuz I was clear in my intentions, she knew I wanted her, she didn't know she wanted me, that is until that conversation. She left that convo aroused, I do know that, and doubt she wanted the notch, but hey, she would be here all summer, maybe a fling is just what I need, I believe was her thought. So, she ended up making 1st move cuz she knew I was in, so she thought tonight's the night, but it wasn't. We kissed and I just touched her, everywhere but privately and I looked at her breasts, down her shirt, pulling her bra back, didn't touch. I pulled her panties down just far enough so I could see, I was literally basking in her beauty, but didn't touch. It wasn't the right place or tyme, so I told her how sexy she was and how excited she made me, but your friends couch while ur 3 other friends are sleeping won't due. Come over tomorrow and I'll cook you dinner and if u want, you can stay as long as you like. It worked so well, she's in bed right now sleeping. ALSO, I was confident in my bedroom game and knew enough about her past relationships to know I wasn't competing with Johnny Sins, so I knew she wouldn't be disappointed. I wanted to share this story because it encompasses so many of the points you have made throughout watching hundreds of ur videos, so many tactics you say, I used before I heard you say them, and that's how I got my wife and 2 awesome kids, and I still feel blessed. I still look at her like the 1st tyme I saw her, I'm still wildly attracted to her and when 10 yrs feels like 5 and the spark is still there, you got a real one, just open ur eyes. I hope you read the whole story and see how so many of ur tips are valued and I'm still learning from you how to be a better husband, so that I'll be able to maintain forever that I was right and went the route I was supposed to! Thank you for everything Marni, your such a gem, u drop nothing but jewels, and I wonder how many men are still clueless. Usher couldn't steal my wife, not even for a dance, she would rather dance with me🤷♂️🤣🤣🤣🙏
Awesome and well done !!!
A short story?
Congratulations. Well done.
Keep going and soon even Usher would rather dance with you...
Make sure you smell good and have fresh breath. If it’s noisy lean in to her but don’t talk to loud she will instinctively lean in to hear better. Make sure to have eye contact when she is taking, she is the only person in the world. If everything seems to be going good let her catch you smelling her perfume and hair. She should fidget a little bit as she is very turned on. This works for spouses, girlfriends and strangers. 😊
She is sooooo right !! That's some great pro-level advices right there - for free !!!
WAIT! Before you start asking her these questions, you need to know what her past partners were like. Ask her this first. If they betrayed her or did something awful, you're gonna make her think about them and she's not gonna have a good time. Ask her questions that will make her think more about you or how she is on a deeper level if that's the case. Some of these are still good.
It seems like your speaking about the flow of conversation and demeanor. Yes, be calm and if it doesn't flow just move on. I've been told I have a salesman approach which I can agree. My attitude is simply don't chase the wind.
Fantastic! I love theese kind of questions because it opens another level of communication. If the girl dont like this kind of talk she simply just not for me. ❤
Question:
Does L3 questions work with a Virgin from conservative (Asian - Phillipines, Indian cultures)?
As usual, Marni is awesome, direct and to the point. She doesn’t waste our time
The first 5 min wasted !
WHAT! 6:48 out of a 12.00 video is blabbing and commercials and avoiding the actual 21 questions. That is the opposite of direct and to the point!!!
@@SmallGuyonTopI was about to say that. The video was almost over and she still didn’t get to the point. She’s a master at talking around the bush
Marni needs a name tag to remember what they should call her, is she blonde?
@@SmallGuyonTop., LL no
I am an outlier here and everywhere...Women who 'fall' for these outlandish questions and banter from a total stranger, would not make my list of ladies to consider dating. You want to build up to some playful banter once you have gotten to know someone, with a few outings.
In reality I don't chase women, women chase me. Meaning I get to know someone, I have an awesome sense of humour, always make them laugh. I am entertaining, knowledgeable about many things, intelligent, and i am exceptionally polite.
If I ring her bell, she will push to move things along. I don't take well to soft cues, so sometimes I miss out. That is OK. It is better than being the douche, that asks a girl about masturbation.
Marni will disagree, plenty of guys will brag how many more they have bagged than me, but ladies? Your thoughts? - Cheers
Dude, excellent advice.
I've practically been assaulted by women with that tactic
I agree with you, Sir. Getting to know someone w/o it being sexual right off the bat is best.
And, for the record, this list of questions aren't designed to get to know a woman better. They are a sexual interrogation tactic that is seen as good only by men who are not worthy of a woman of quality.
But then these questions aren't geared toward seeking quality.
Great comment. This is basically how i've always conducted myself and it works. I actually never ask a sexual question rather just ask more generalised questions and if she feels relaxed with you the conversation will just gradually work it's way into that area.
While the premise of this video is correct (you want to get a woman thinking about sex when she is interacting with you if you are looking to be more than friends with her), the example questions at all levels are horrible. The only good questions she gives are in the stories she uses to introduce the video (both of them were decent). The only other one that was halfway decent was "Where is the craziest place you've ever had sex?" However, that question is double-edged as she will follow it up by asking you the same thing. If she has a wild story, and yours is tame by comparison, she will view you as less adventurous. On the flip side, if hers is tame and you have a wild one, she may be intimidated. Keep in mind the purpose of these questions is to get her brain associating interactions with you and sex. You do not want to introduce the thought of you being either "too vanilla" or "way too wild" in the ice breaker.
Some examples of better questions that have worked well:
- If you could choose only one, would you rather be able to pee standing up or be able to have multiple orgasms?
- Would you rather be able to have a "good" orgasm every time you have sex, or mind-blowing multiple orgasms 10% of the time?
- (This one only works if you are in halfway decent shape) Which type of girl are you? The type that is into arms, shoulders, or abs?
- What is your ideal "dad bod"?
- Which do you think is better: giving and receiving oral at the same time, or taking turns?
In general, these types of questions are only used as ice-breakers. After the conversation starts, it is just a matter of keeping it light with flirtatious banter.
I suggest the adding the following question: “if you accept that four significant parts of a relationship are intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual parts, how would you rank them in terms of importance and why?”
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That was a great video!! Keep up the good work!
I'm not sure about many of these. They bring up soecific memories with oast lovers, that she'll either start comparing you to, or that she wishes to forget. They seem oddly intrusive. They could be replaced with forward thinking questions
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Very clever and helpful thank you
You are definitely a beautiful woman & very cool.
I like your energy , openess & willing to help people.
Nice job! This is a really thoughtful and fun approach to learn about a woman and myself. Thanks Marni!
All of the dating advice I ever received said to NEVER bring sexual stuff up until way later. In fact the advice I was always given was to keep even the compliments G Rated
I would tend to agree. I don't think it's wise to bring up the sexy stuff at the beginning.
Im guessing your lay count is well under 100. Be respectful and confident and speaking sexually super charges results
@@ripsaw7521 Eventually you reach a point where you realize that quality is better than quantity. A super high quality woman may not go for that kind of explicit talk, at least not at the beginning.
Exactly. She is contradicting herself explicitly. I just lost respect… I’m not exactly sure why because I usually love fun sexually charged conversations, but the hypocrisy is just so blatant and cringe. I’m not clicking your second link girl, I’m glad you found it useful, and no you won’t see me next week.
How much later is way later?
Some of these things why would you want to know.... not everything about sexual history needs to be shared. You can more than easily share what you like without even alluding to past partners (even if you know you like it from past partners)
If you want to be happy & make your partner happy u HAVE to talk about sex. It makes it so much better for both.
Confidence is important.
This all sounds great, and the foundational principles are rock solid, but this is way more generalized than I'm comfortable with. Apply with caution.
One of the few sexual questions I asked my wife while we were first dating before we started having sex was "Did you ever watch the TV show Eight is Enough?" She said, yes....and I replied..."Well, is it?" she looked puzzled at first...then blushed and started giggling.
The only thing holding me back from the dating world is my poor mental health.
I love how you let your wrong words takes in:):) pretty honest:) nice
Have you ever had a one night stand?... a "level 3"?...I've started conversations with that question 😂
"Can you help me find my car keys I lost in my front pocket?"
Hare Krishna ❤think about present time not thing about past time and donot think about future think about present time ❤
Ok Marni,let’s have your hubby on after comparing joymode and no joymode, we need some ground truth😂
All of those questions are good, but do not ask her about when is the first time she had sex if you are a virgin. Also stay away from Level 3 unless you think that she is so comfortable with you to the point that she may not care whether or not you are experienced in bed. If you are super confident and can make a girl not care, then go for it. If you are not, then don't do it. Stick with Level 1 first because those are terrific questions and see if you can gradually work your way up to Level 2.
It's okay to ask her if she had a one night stand or friends with benefits though. That's a great way to show a woman that body count matters without telling her that. And Marni is right, don't ask her all of them.
Actually rly nice advice I would apologize a lot myself when asking stuff like that but I shouldn’t apologize cuz you are right.
Still time to ask if we succesfully past the first sex step ?
(but i had to leave 6 weeks and she waiting for me -3 weeks left - and we text sometimes)
I also have a problem. My former girlfriends got really jealous after a while. Certainly not in the beginning. So I think I know why. I am a free soul, a bit like a wild Mustang. I can be very sweet and gentle, romantic... On the other hand, I have my own ambitions, goals, and career and need my FREEDOM. That makes me a bit unpredictable. Saying NO, arriving late. I never cheated. However, my exes thought I was. It's not because I have a girlfriend. I can not talk to other women. We have a saying in Dutch. "It's not because you are on a diet. You can not look at the menu." The strangest part is that I heard of a friend that 1 ex confessed. She never felt like this with any other guy??? For now I am staying single. Focusing on my career, friends, family...
None of these questions would work in the current market, sorry ... the difference between *romantic* vs. a *creepy stalker* is? Whether she is physically attracted to the guy. Simple.
Truth!
The disclaimer should be… If you’re a verified 8 then you can ask these questions.
“You obviously don’t have a nice enough car to asking me whether I’ve ever had a friend with benefits.”
That's a false dichotomy - when I asked my wife how she felt about me when we first met, she didn't say she felt physically attracted, she said "You seemed INTERESTING" - bam!
There is no need to be the Mr. Ideal - she isn't my perfect type either, I just really enjoyed the conversation over tea with her and on our way out I decided to ask her, if she had enjoyed the evening and if she wouldn't mind pushing it to another level with no strings attached and she said maybe - as that means clear NO is out of the equation I grabbed her and kissed her passionately - 12 years later we have 2 awesome boys and 7 years of happy marriage :)
Do not look for an ideal match, do not think women need ideal match either - proper love is BUILT over the years - your looks play much lesser role than you think :)
Who cares what she thinks. Who cares if someone calls you creepy, if someone calls you a loser, or calls you a dork. Are you actually a creep seeking to hurt her or gRape her? No. So who cares what she thinks.
But you see, that is still considered sexual assault. If a dude were to do that now a days and the girl wasn't attracted to him, she could get him in ALOT of trouble.
Yea, that may have worked for you 12 years ago. But doing it today is just to much of a risk.
Marni, I love your facial expressions. I’m convinced every girl from Canada is just fine AF. Haven’t seen an ugly one
Open your eyes there's more ugly ones than pretty ones
These lines of questioning largely depend upon the intention and the ultimate "relationship" goal.
"I just want to 'get to know you better'", or, "I just want to know 'the *real* you-" while basing the entire Q&A around sex and sexuality doesn't at all communicate an interest in "the person" as much as it does just *wanting to have sex with* that person".
People build relationships upside these days, and then can't seem to figure out why their "relationships" feel so empty or fall apart again and again.
Rite!? "I just want to know you better... ...how do you feel about one-night stands???" 🤣
Thanks for the video, Marni! Quite useful as usual. But may I give you a tip? Please, be slower when giving the actual material) Dunno how the others, but I just had no time to sense and feel what you're telling. What I mean is that the things you're teaching guys here is not just some dictionary of vocabulary stuff which just needs to be listed, memorized (and then reproduced in practice mechanically). There needs to be a sense of that. And as with actual conversation: you can't just jump to level 3 in a matter of seconds, almost same is with teaching these things) Haven't I yet started to "chew" and realize the "level 1", but we are at level 3 already. Thanks)
Here's a question I wanna ask and tell me if this is too much. Question: When your lover goes down on you and then comes back up for a kiss, are you repulsed or do you like the taste of your love juices?
I would say go for it, because I lick them myself too, occasionally.
Love the taste of my own juice and my partner. 😊
I do enjoy her voice it makes me calm
That’s creepy thing to say. 😂
@@user-pu1xq9ef9u to a creepy person it would be she has a calm voice
You possess more than just decency; your performance in your videos speaks volumes, showcasing your true excellence. However, the question arises: does your teaching prowess translate into real-life situations? Many can articulate words effectively, yet lack the energy and body language to truly connect. Teaching goes beyond imparting knowledge; it's about instilling the skills needed for optimal performance in every aspect of life.
Maybe for your future video. How to be the man.
I am 70. Been single 28 years. way above average looks, income, nice guy, great shape, etc. I would ask, “Are you into intimacy?” Their reaction will tell you. Many women ARE not! It doesn’t work anymore! And they KNOW it. You will see the look on their face when you ask.
Good topic and good questions.
Not the easiest to do in practice 🤔🌈☯️👍🍀?
Will try this. Sounds good. 🤠🐱
You should do a show regarding men who are in marriages that are sexually dull and what to do with the opportunity to have a friend with benefits outside the marriage .
She lost me on the first one - 6:49 What qualities are you most attracted to in a guy?
I would never ask that - it seems insecure and needy. Just proceed under the assumption that she is attracted to you....and behave in ways that generally attract women.
I love that question so I can figure sort out which values are important for here and if that fits my way. ❤
@@PetterIvarsson I think a woman's answer to what attracts her is unreliable....she may say honesty and character when it's really money, facial hair, stylish clothes, height, etc....things she doesn't want to admit.
Most of the questions are like 5th date and on. Men are from Mars and women from Venus thing is going on here. So, I wouldn't walk up to a group of women and ask anything like you are saying. Rather, asks some of these questions or my own questions when I got to know her a little better.
I remembered asking a woman I just met, "Length or girth?" She nervously laughed and went into a whole discussion about method, orgasms, intimacy, etc. Four years later, she's now one of the best friends I've ever had in my life and we still talk about sex every chance we get! Love this video!
My aunt said yes!!!
Hey Marni, Several months back I ask a good friend (not girl friend) who was having many problems, how long it had been since she had an orgasm? She gasp and said that is really personal. I said yes, how long? Answer, years. That opened a long discussion.
I'm sure sweetie is more than capable of making her voice sound impossible to resist by the savviest, coolest, seasoned, most discerning civilised gentlemen.😊
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Much Appreciated Camel!
Fantastic! A gorgeous woman explain what to say to girls!! ❤❤💯👈✌
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I fart a lot. Should I ask if this will dampen the mood during my Netflix and chill sessions?
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Thank you, yes it is very educational and helpful, positive and fun
She said what we men really want 😭😭😂
I found this helpful and thought provoking. Anything that improves communication around sex is hot stuff. Thanks Marni.
ISTP introvert here. I WOULD say that this would have been very helpful to have, 'lo those many years ago (as in before cellphones and the widespread Internet), but I wonder even with the knowledge if I could have implemented. You have to combine with good signal reads to avoid the "police" scenario (ISTPs are worst of the 16 types at signal reads) and then you have to roll out the question in a natural way (overriding self-awareness and burning much more energy than an extrovert would need). And have faith you'll get better with practice because it'll seem excruciating until then. I'd probably use as practice subjects those whom I had low interest in and could get slapped by and ruin any chances, out of fear of blowing it with a high-interest person. But then if one of the low-interest ones hits and if it were on a space like a campus, that could get in the way with the high-interest one. I'm probably overthinking this, but it's what some people do.
Long story short, Thailand and the Philippines worked better, starting years before everyone went. Though an unexpected side effect was to totally deflate motivation for doing anything further in the U.S.
Guys, don't get yourself arrested asking girls questions like this. Let HER approach, and let HER steer the conversation. It's not worth going to jail. Least in the 1970/80s, we had the local roller skating rink to watch and talk to girls. 1990s we had AOL chat rooms.
From Steve. When a boy kisses you do you feel like you want to pass out ?
It has rather less to do with being easy or the way the woman got raised!
It's the way you ask and the words to use!
Nr 1
Who on earth would walk to a group of girls and ask 'Hey, what's your favorite masturbation toy"
(not to mention that some girls would call for their brothers, and they would teach you what is or what is not appropriate to ask a group of girls!
Another excellent video from Marni ! Keep up the great work Beautiful !
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This is good advice. 👍
My trick with dating is to pretend not to be interested in her sexually. So the girls do the first step at the third date.
The exeption is, when there is almost a kind of sexual tension before meeting the first time. Then I'm verry aggressive and turn her mind into spicy stuff.
Btw never ask a woman If she ever had a ons. The answer could be yes or no and can end the conversation. Always ask questions she could not answer with only one word.
The safe way these days is let her ask. There is too much going on these days with sexual harassment. Nah.
Be prepared for every woman to fire these questions back once she's answered without fully opening up 👍
That's a great way to keep the conversation going. Yeah, be ready to answer them yourself, haha!
Impolite to answer a question with a question. Bad manners sure indication of poor upbringing. 😁 if she’s not interested in you she’s not going to care what you think. If she’s repeating your question back to hear your opinion, then you may have just scored 😁👍Practicing a conversation that may never take place doesn’t work for me. Preparing a place to take her . Clean, comfortable uncluttered , usually helps me to focus on her, conversation flows smoothly, honestly without effort. As it should, before inviting her over for , snacks, drinks, fireworks
Awesome set of questions. Good for asking men, too.
Marni that was good. Thank you. I’ll remember you! Cheers
Did you get these questions from Jim Lang's 'The Dating Game'?
at 7:00 the questions start Level 1, Level 2 etc.
Much more easy in Thailand, only need to ask short time or long time and then you are ready to go.
Thais are pretty transactional and there may even be a Thai boyfriend to the girl upcountry who doesn't mind because encounters with farangs are seen as totally transactional (even if the guy wants to keep her as a live-in!) Filipinas, OTOH, can really get to you. People think it's because they speak much better English and are a little closer culturally, but the guys who go to these places are generally NOT the most verbal and certainly don't have the best "game"
Great tips .