Lack of Emotional Intelligence Tore Them Apart | 90 Day Fiancé

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  • Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024

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  • @ladygoodmen7399
    @ladygoodmen7399 Месяц назад +56

    It's a lack of accountability. Her flags were flying high and in her face. He has no problem showing his emotions when it comes to her money. Please!. This dude has an easy mark. This whole conversation was game. You are really giving him way too much credit.❤

    • @spicybsoup
      @spicybsoup Месяц назад +6

      💯

    • @jenduh
      @jenduh Месяц назад +6

      Yeah the tears from him were manipulation, and it was so easy and it worked on the audience as well as Ashley. I don't get where this desire to see the good in him is coming from. Ashley has kind of an excuse because she's put so much time and money into him, but anyone watching this should see that he's trying to g her

    • @ladygoodmen7399
      @ladygoodmen7399 Месяц назад +8

      @jenduh What gets me is he talks to her like she is a fool. He will say what he wants, and then he will let her argue with herself because he never gives her any real answers.

    • @TiffaneSmith-ni9lc
      @TiffaneSmith-ni9lc Месяц назад +1

      Facts

  • @colleenkenny6051
    @colleenkenny6051 Месяц назад +19

    i believe he misses his family but i also believe he’s scamming her..

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +27

    He does not treat her like a wife...

    • @waitingfortheweekend9002
      @waitingfortheweekend9002 Месяц назад +2

      Nope, once he gets established financially he's going to find someone else

  • @iSummer717
    @iSummer717 Месяц назад +41

    He is panicking because he can see Ashley is about done with him.

    • @luisss1210
      @luisss1210 Месяц назад +8

      Exactly he got caught now he crying smh 🤦🏼

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +18

    Hes struggling to get access to her bank account...

  • @OakwiseBecoming
    @OakwiseBecoming Месяц назад +13

    I had an ex who would lie about little and big things. No amount of trying to understand why he was lying, no amount of telling him "I understand you lied because you didn't want to upset me but lying about it makes it worse," no amount of talking to him about his childhood and upbringing and how it's affected him, nothing stopped him from continuing to lie. And the lying turned into cheating and stealing. So I disagree that she should be trying to understand why he lied instead of getting angry. I should have been angry enough to leave the first time and saved myself years of agro! Who cares why he's lying! Point is he is a liar. And a leopard doesn't change his spots. He'll continue to lie and the more she tries to understand him, the more time she'll waste on this toxic situation. If someone lies to you, get angry and leave their arse in the dust!

  • @agenaw2877
    @agenaw2877 Месяц назад +28

    Sorry but this dude has been sketchy from the get-go I mean I'm sorry if someone is ask me for money and you ask why and they say It's none of your business sorry it's my money so it is my business this guy came to this country with absolutely nothing but the clothes on his back no suitcase no nothing he has been sketchy from day one. So he deserves 0 respect because he is not given any to receive it

  • @ErenMora-le4eh
    @ErenMora-le4eh Месяц назад +12

    Crocodile tears...it's just another tactic to get money from her... Manuel doesn't love her ...he's using her ...and it's so sad but Ashley is allowing this .

  • @dorcaskerr6384
    @dorcaskerr6384 Месяц назад +35

    Sorry, don't think this man is deeply in love or committed to Ashley, he feels that way about his kids. If Ash hadnt been in U.S., where he knows he could give his kids a better life, he would NEVER be there with her. That is is motivation more likely than not from what I have seen from him. I don't see any real vibe of love from him for Ashley, I see lust & tolerance. Maybe for him that means love, but it won't be enough to make a marriage.

    • @PetaSherman
      @PetaSherman Месяц назад

      Your response make me feel like you know them personally and that you are a friend of "Ash" (Ashley), if not u have made so many assumptions. Well, i think you should tell her that the biggest mistake she made was to try to resolve her issues with sex, especially in a bathroom that we have to use after they came all over the place. Nobody wants to step in cum.

    • @MsEllaHamilton
      @MsEllaHamilton Месяц назад

      He and his whole family are using Ashley’s low self-esteem as their ticket to the American dream. He is still very much in contact with his children’s mother and she supports the process and considers it a minor sacrifice for their families long term goal.

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +12

    She does not trust him...never really has...she doubts his real intentions...cannot blame her...

  • @ME-sm6cn
    @ME-sm6cn Месяц назад +7

    With all of Ashley's supposed WITCHING skills of tarot cards, readings, and psychic guide practices, she still can't see the obvious in herself and in Manuel. SMH

  • @angellight9500
    @angellight9500 Месяц назад +18

    they also seem to have nothing in common.

    • @sharonbecker2851
      @sharonbecker2851 Месяц назад +2

      Exactly!! Thank You!! I've been trying to comment this many times, but could not. I agree with you, too!!😮😅. Help me out here, Madzie!!

    • @Momma766
      @Momma766 Месяц назад +1

      Nobody knows anything about Manuel so its hard to say. We know he has kids, he has a large family in NY and he doesn't believe in witchcraft.

  • @AtlChica883
    @AtlChica883 Месяц назад +19

    Maddie is right but you’re a huge point: a woman can’t respect a man she is financially taking care of. That’s how we relate to our children. (I love my child but I don’t value her input as equal to mine because she’s a child.) He is not carrying his weight or putting into their relationship as an equal. (This is different when a man is a stay at home parent and his input into the home and children equals the other partner’s financial contribution.)

  • @tflenderson9636
    @tflenderson9636 Месяц назад +8

    Bye, whenever Ashley has been upset about something she's been right. She gave him 1k and now he's looking for another 300 dollars cause he stashed the 1000? This is the same man who saved nothing because he was moving to the states. Ashley's mistake is being desperate

    • @stacyjohnson6627
      @stacyjohnson6627 Месяц назад

      Her mistake is marrying the guy along with being desperate.

  • @ThobekaShangase-ft5zv
    @ThobekaShangase-ft5zv Месяц назад +3

    Ashley has spoken about her trauma of her father abandoning her as a child, when that happened she didn't have the capacity to speak up or figbt for herself. To Ashley all she sees is this man doing the same and her alarm systems are firing off. She may see him struggle but she doesn't have the capacity to soften, she dives into self preservation mode. Because all she sees is yet again another person doing whatever they want to her but this time she has a say and is saying it. They're both hurt and due to lack of trust. She doesn't trust him enough to soften towards him because he is moving weird and sets off the crazy bell, he doesn't trust her enough to be honest and open and vulnerable because she is acting crazy.

  • @annicklagace7414
    @annicklagace7414 Месяц назад +12

    She always needs other people involved .. because she thinks she so right and hes so wrong ..
    Sad thing is, her people lack common sense ..
    Her friends from their last season were so so wrong in their views and approach ..
    Her family, is the same ..
    Acting this way about the baby momma was just wrong.. cuz the baby momma is with the kids.
    U dont want him speaking to his kids ??
    What kind of woman would want a man who doesnt speak to his kids ?
    As a single mom whos experiencing this ..if i met someone and he said he had kids , and wasnt in contact with them , thats a automatic dealbreaker

    • @TiffaneSmith-ni9lc
      @TiffaneSmith-ni9lc Месяц назад

      Ashley is a very immature, insecure, and financially irresponsible period. If Ashley had a very high emotional iq and actually got to know her husband she should have showed her husband respect for his children period. Ashley should not feel like she is in competition with his ex-wife or ex-girlfriend just because she is the mother of his children. Manuel need to get a job and divorce Ashley for good period.

  • @lucybridle2375
    @lucybridle2375 Месяц назад +5

    Very insightful Madzie! Its alwsys interesting to hear a mans perspective

    • @keepitreal007
      @keepitreal007 Месяц назад

      Madzie is giving an excellent forensic analysis of this couple's relationship.
      They're just not a match

  • @majortruth217
    @majortruth217 Месяц назад +26

    Ashley shuts down Manuel every time he starts to talk, she does not take input well. She does not accept other people's opinion on anything. She pushes him away with all her self induced crazy thoughts. Their sexual activity is not enough to keep them together! 🧐🤫🤭😵‍💫

    • @Kym633Blessed
      @Kym633Blessed Месяц назад +4

      Neither of them should be together.
      She wants to run everything, he wants someone to take care of him and his Family.
      They will never work.

    • @brianawhittaker8152
      @brianawhittaker8152 Месяц назад +3

      I think it's wild that at one point most of us have been so focused on their other issues (mainly bc there's so many) but it's suddenly turning into they feel bad for Manuel when he's clearly still with the mother of his kids and mooching off ashley to support them bc he doesn't wanna work.

    • @CarlaRosales-vw2wx
      @CarlaRosales-vw2wx Месяц назад

      ​@@brianawhittaker8152it's not that he doesn't want to work, he can't legally work until the US government says so. She agreed before he came here to send money to his family until he can work.

    • @annicklagace7414
      @annicklagace7414 Месяц назад +3

      ​@brianawhittaker8152 speaking to her once a month.. or more if needed , means he's still with his ex ?? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
      That makes 0 sense ..
      And he ain't mooching.. he can't work right now.. and this is the agreement they had ..
      Because he's always supported his family and his kids for 20+ yrs , he wasn't gonna just move to america and stop that ..
      If he wasn't calling them, that should be the issue.. cuz no real woman wants to be with a man who's got kids he ain't supporting

    • @IloveKurtCobain-z5k
      @IloveKurtCobain-z5k Месяц назад

      So true

  • @pokeyninjafun
    @pokeyninjafun Месяц назад +4

    Literally I feel more for him, she should have seen through the red tape of red flags.
    Everyone warned her like feeling bad for is like impossible.

  • @tiffers1003
    @tiffers1003 Месяц назад +5

    Ashley emasculates Manuel. There are red flags for both of them and this relationship is just not strong or healthy. I still question how genuine Manuel showing vulnerability really was. Just a script for TLC? I'd say this couple needs counseling but it wouldn't work because Ashely doesn't do anything to help them grow.

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +4

    Has she filed for the annulment yet...

  • @stacyjohnson6627
    @stacyjohnson6627 Месяц назад +2

    This is the wrong relationship to critique as to what to do or what not to do in a relationship. This is NOT that relationship. You have Ashley who lacks the maturity for an adult relationship and you have Manuel whose actions show that he isn’t with Ashley for a relationship. Manuel hasn’t been transparent since day one when he didn’t tell his family he was moving to the U.S. and marrying Ashley. The lack of transparency has caused a lot of friction in their relationship. I feel that Manuel’s lack of transparency has less to do with feeling safe & more to do with his job of getting to the money. Ashley gave him $1000. It was Manuel who came back asking for more money w/o explaining to Ashley why more was needed. When you have nothing to hide, an explanation isn’t difficult. A bigger question would be why Manuel didn’t use the $1000 he had in the bank to send the $300? Manuel’s actions have he isn’t with Ashley for a relationship. He’s just bidding how time until he gets what he really wants. And MovingMad, it’s the responsibility of all participants in the relationship to create a safe haven where one will feel comfortable to be vulnerable. Creating a safe haven is not solely the women’s responsibility. That’s why they’re called relationships.

  • @ericw8478
    @ericw8478 Месяц назад +4

    Emotional intelligence is an oxymoron. Like jumbo shrimp.

    • @Hateforce
      @Hateforce Месяц назад

      Yes especially if you’re purposefully being obtuse.

  • @rosemarythornton9054
    @rosemarythornton9054 Месяц назад +2

    Manuel is just telling Ashley what she wants to hear....which is giving him money to send back home..
    Ashley should buy Manuel a one way ticket back to Ecuador and say see ya!!!!!!
    He dont love Ashley, only what Ashley can do for him and his family

  • @Momma766
    @Momma766 Месяц назад +1

    What's his is his - end of story. He has been oppositional in every way with regards to any form of transparency, and when outright confronted with very serious evidence of foul play, Miguel resorts to childish antics like running away or laughing APPARENTLY to avoid his emotions being trivialized by ball-busting Ashley. I think now that the air has been cleared and he is free to share his emotions in open forum he should say "Ashley, you are here to serve me, not I to serve you. You are not entitled to any of my privacy and I want you to continue minding your business and giving me free access to OUR finances and stop bothering me with your equality. I am embarrassed by you and if you don't stop harassing me, I will find someone else to is less combative which I may already be in the process of. I married you to secure money for my family but to be frank I just can't stand you as a human being and I hate this position I am in"

  • @Theseareopinions
    @Theseareopinions Месяц назад +2

    Yes both Ashely and Manuel suck at communication but I think Manuel is in it for the money and his family. I have seen him dismiss Ashley and laugh at her when she tries to talk to him. He also often make demands on her money and I believe he sees her as a bank .

  • @marlenebryant4250
    @marlenebryant4250 Месяц назад +5

    They are together for totally different reasons. Neither is in this relationship for love. That’s very obvious. TLC just likes to put on weddings, and these are in no way celebrating a marriage. Just a party. Ashley for a possibly better looking child, Manuel for a green card. Period!

    • @annicklagace7414
      @annicklagace7414 Месяц назад +1

      For a better looking child ?? Huh 😮

    • @Kym633Blessed
      @Kym633Blessed Месяц назад +3

      You sound ridiculous!
      She's $100k in Debt.
      Taking care of a Man and his Family.
      But your takeaway: Is a Better looking Child?
      Whoo whee some people are just lost 😞

    • @brianawhittaker8152
      @brianawhittaker8152 Месяц назад +5

      Ashley has more feelings for him than he does for her. He's only in it to take care of his family in the laziest way possible. I think he's only opening up bc he's trying to gain more of her trust so he can keep using her. It has nothing to do with loving her and I think she just doesn't wanna be alone.

  • @lc7169
    @lc7169 Месяц назад +1

    @MovingMAD! Completely agree with everything you said. And I’ve been in a good solid marriage for 18 years. 💯🙌

  • @LanroyHudson
    @LanroyHudson Месяц назад +1

    Moving mad you are teaching me thanks so much ❤

  • @autumn7031
    @autumn7031 Месяц назад +2

    Neither one of them have any money!! He didn't even bother to save any money before he came here to at least pay for a meal once in a while and she has done absolutely nothing to address her massive debt, instead she's using that money to fund trips and perks for the both of them. This is a Huge irresponsibility and beyond emotional immaturity. It's entitlement and absolute ignorance on both of their part. It is a deluded thought to believe he is in love with her, he came here to get money, doesn't care how or from who, and he assumed she had it because she funded him for 7 years or however long. We teach others how to treat us. IF they were both honest individually, they wouldn't have to lie to each other right? Their "relationship" is built on lies. So... what could go wrong? lol
    She makes money and Chooses to spend it on the both of them so she is just as irresponsible as he is. It's not even about either of them listening to each other, it's about how both of them are exactly the same. Entitled, selfish and irresponsible. This relationship is transactional with benefits, not romantic. If neither of them individually are concerned with paying her debt or paying his child support by having jobs in their own country to pay their own bills, then how in the world would either one of them form a healthy union where they thrive as a married couple? They can't be listening if they are both Only interested in talking about their own gain and being Right. It's a Fail. And fast.

    • @ericw8478
      @ericw8478 Месяц назад +1

      None of the foreign partners it seems ever have the foresight to have money of their own saved up even tough they know months in advance that they're gonna be coming to USA or UK.

    • @autumn7031
      @autumn7031 Месяц назад +2

      @@ericw8478 Yes! How come they Never bring that up? It's SO obvious that they don't contribute they just expect to be taken care of because they are making a sacrifice to come here, well then don't come here. They choose it, want to be on tv show about it, but then whine and complain the moment they get here. Why would anyone logically assume that you could live completely free anywhere in the world?

  • @catherinehardin6286
    @catherinehardin6286 Месяц назад

    She’s not secure enough in herself to be with a man who is actually taking part in his kids life, both financially and emotionally. And he knows this. Ashley kept saying, “it’s not that I mind him talking to his baby-mama” like, girl, YES YOU DO MIND!

  • @msoptimistic4365
    @msoptimistic4365 Месяц назад +1

    He feels embarrassed depending on her
    Knowing he has to depend on her for his minor kids suppor that has to go through his ex.

  • @cozmowiz5593
    @cozmowiz5593 Месяц назад +10

    I am disapointed by Ash because she seems so intellegent. Often that can backfire with emotional inventory. If you dont have a goal or a plan then his lies might bypass your suspect file.

    • @CarlaRosales-vw2wx
      @CarlaRosales-vw2wx Месяц назад +2

      She is intelligent but she has serious daddy issues 😂

    • @autumn7031
      @autumn7031 Месяц назад +3

      Intelligence doesn't equate to common sense or emotional intelligence

    • @cozmowiz5593
      @cozmowiz5593 Месяц назад

      @@autumn7031 Of course, those are three entirely different things but the concept of intellect is that of awareness and clear pathways into bliss. She fell flat on her face and let sexual needyness become her focus. That is where almost all women make a huge mistake.

  • @lorrie2649
    @lorrie2649 Месяц назад +1

    Or afraid to lose his meal ticket

  • @donnaknowles4107
    @donnaknowles4107 Месяц назад

    Often a man needs to feel extremely secure and safe to open up. As a wife theres nothing my husband can't talk to me about because I listen and take his feelings as safe as I want mine taken

  • @Jennifer-gd1xj
    @Jennifer-gd1xj Месяц назад

    Ashleys coflict resolution in a relationship is " go bang it out" somewhere/anywhere in her own words....so no surprise here.

  • @donnaknowles4107
    @donnaknowles4107 Месяц назад +1

    Ive been married a long time and seriously how the hell do these idiots dare pretend to have marriages. We talk, we respect, we appreciate, we stand together, we understand each other and we love these idiots don't therefore they don't have a marriage just a piece of paper

  • @ericas5255
    @ericas5255 Месяц назад +2

    Very interesting commentary. Eye opening as a woman.

    • @sehrita
      @sehrita Месяц назад

      Same. Granted these two both have major issues, but Madzie bringing up valid points

  • @red1nurse66
    @red1nurse66 Месяц назад

    He is also wanting money to send home.

  • @sabrinamerrick1271
    @sabrinamerrick1271 Месяц назад

    He's in it for the 'card. Nada más.

  • @KellyAnn1997
    @KellyAnn1997 Месяц назад +1

    They are just a bad fit personality wise. She IS crazy. But he is secretive in a way that is disrespectful. These people need to grow up.

  • @carolhenny2790
    @carolhenny2790 Месяц назад

    Agreed with you everything except that Manuel has any feelings for Ashley.

  • @Kariaires
    @Kariaires Месяц назад

    He is using her! He still hiding something. When he saus he loves her does not seem sincere.He can only help his family if he can afford it. He cannot expect her to do it for him if he does not work. Common sense.

  • @FakeApologize
    @FakeApologize Месяц назад +4

    I see why everyone hates Andrei now. As soon as Miguel turns into a soy boy beta everyone thinks he's the perfect man.

  • @sehrita
    @sehrita Месяц назад

    These two have major issues. But really valid points on how to create safe environment for emotions being discussed.

  • @red1nurse66
    @red1nurse66 Месяц назад +1

    Both are wrong with their emotional issues and how they convey them

  • @tinkerbell8285
    @tinkerbell8285 Месяц назад

    Thank well said❤

  • @annicklagace7414
    @annicklagace7414 Месяц назад

    Ahsley always bugging to be part of his kids life..
    When really she doesnt even want him involved in his kids lives .. what kind of witchery is this seriously .. 😂

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +1

    Mad...some of those scences of distrust were staged by tlc...

  • @sabrinamerrick1271
    @sabrinamerrick1271 Месяц назад

    You have to ask yourself - who is getting the short end of the stick. If its you, you need to rethink the relationship.

  • @Love11904
    @Love11904 Месяц назад +1

    I don’t feel bad for Ashely

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +1

    He needs one or two cash jobs...

  • @happyhannah1422
    @happyhannah1422 Месяц назад

    He's lying to her those immigrants are all married and send moneyhome

  • @IloveKurtCobain-z5k
    @IloveKurtCobain-z5k Месяц назад +1

    My mind is blown. Holy cow.. You are so smart with this stuff. You should really be a marriage counselor. Unreal. I am so glad I found your channel. Even tho I have a new computer with virus protection installed, my banker said not to buy anything online. If I knew you took USD I would have SX a lot longer. Do you have a P.O. Box so I can send you something? This is 1 of your best videos Madzie. I took Psychology, Advanced Psychology & Child Psychology. I learn more about Human relationships than all 3 classes combined. God Bless You. Denise.

  • @reyenad4762
    @reyenad4762 Месяц назад

    How original: women continue to be responsible for a man’s function in their relationship. Shouldn’t the man avail of the wide variety and accessibility of resources to teach them communication skills?

  • @user-wn2di5st4k
    @user-wn2di5st4k Месяц назад +1

    Its either editing or him...he is dishonest...

  • @IloveKurtCobain-z5k
    @IloveKurtCobain-z5k Месяц назад

    Sharing to the FB group The Raw Edition.

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet Месяц назад

    I dunno, I think he’s sketchy, and hiding things. You feel that’s because she’s pretty volatile and has some unusual beliefs. You’re not wrong.
    I don’t have an opinion on these 2 yet

  • @red1nurse66
    @red1nurse66 Месяц назад +1

    I disagree with you.

  • @asheng9949
    @asheng9949 22 дня назад

    They both look slow. But nowhere near as bad as Angela Deem.

  • @Hateforce
    @Hateforce Месяц назад +1

    With all respect madzie, your talking points / generalizations on men and women are embarrassingly beneath you. Just keeping it a buck mate.