In the past, I was a benefit to everyone else other than myself. At this time in my life I am in a "do not care" demeanor and its working for the better. start saying no and it only gets better.
It's possible to be nice and still have boundaries. Here's how: 1) Put value to your time. 2) Be 'nice' but not naive. Yes, they may use you once. Never let them do it twice. Never. Ever. 3) Speak your mind. Call bullshit out if needed. It's amazing how much women seek you out if you call out their bullshit. Never thought it worked, until I tried. 4) Upgrade your knowledge more than your phone's OS.
When you're a nice guy, remember these two things...... 1) When you show other people that you come 2nd, that becomes the norm to them! 2) People never remember the million things you do for them. They only remember the one thing that you didn't do for them!
That is so true my mind is blown. I did everything for my ex. Looked out for her in every way and all i would hear is "oh remember xx years ago when you didnt do this for me or that for me. I'm so done with that!
Nice guy here. Been a nice guy my entire life. So many wasted years. Now facing divorce and trying to move forward. I have realized the damage that I have done to my life. At age 49 and in my age group, 75% of men in my position commit suicide. If you are reading this, fix yourself, if you are a nice guy. I'm going to try and fix myself. If you are a young man reading this, it is imperative that you fix yourself. Your time has so much value and the world will only take advantage of your nice guy attitude. Don't waste the years that I have wasted. It is a huge mistake to be a nice guy. There is so much information to correct this shortcoming of what it means to be a man. I wish that I had paid more attention.
happened to many, that's life. It is very true that a young man should inspect his self thoroughly, most do not, I only started at 40 to critically inspect myself due to a crisis. But the prefrontal cortex of the brain, that is the seat for responsible awareness and behaviour, only fully develops at or even past the age of 30. so we might as well cut ourselves some slack and not be too harsh.
This, no matter how big or bad or infamous I am, nothing shakes the pathetic feeling of being alone in life and that careless manipulator that can turn your success story into a suicide dive in short order
Been a nice guy most of me life, got friend zoned by women over the years, now I don't entertain them, I be polite but id rather put me energy into the gym and me career...being nice to the majority will only hurt yourself
traditional women want a considerate alpha, not a 'nice guy'. I hope that George or another channel can discuss the nuance between these two things because I think some men are still confused between the extreme difference in the two and why real women want one and not the other.
@@eladbari true talk. But how do the assholes they usually end up with- what the heck do they whisper in their ears??? I'd luv to know....really. i got a friend who.ended up wt this guy who now emotionally abuses her, yet she rejects the couple guys that treated her wt so much respect amd like a real lady. What does she do? She ignores & uses them conveniently...so messed up
Theres nothing intrinsically wrong with being in the friendzone as long as you accept thats the place youre going to be. Iv had female friends before. It doesnt mean i cant also persue my own agendas eleswhere at the same time hell make those female friends the sholder to cry on and see how they like it when youre telling them about your latest conquest lol. The last one wasnt so keen and outright hated my other half to the point of accusations (jealousy is a bad thing).....so naturally she had to go.........the friend i mean....not the other half lol.
There's power in saying NO!!! I used to lend & give money to people including relatives. Then I noticed that I was being disrespected my some. Then I changed. I've never felt so good & the respect is slowly coming back.
My iron rules are: 1) Put yourself first. 2) Don't be afraid to say 'no.' 3) Don't be afraid to let other people help you, be willing to accept help. 4) Don't tolerate the intolerable. 5) Don't blame other people for a situation you created. 6) Balance work and personal time, don't burn yourself out. You cannot have respect for others unless you first have respect for yourself.
My best friend's dad taught him "treat a woman like shit and she'll love you forever". They are right when it comes to damaged women. There is a balance. Be yourself. Dont be a dick but dont be a doormat. Do not allow people to disrespect you. Do not let people take advantage of you. Do not take advantage of others. Do not lie, even if it hurts you in the short term. Be a good man, not a nice guy. Sometimes you need to be gracious, loving, patient, caring, selfless. Sometimes you need to break another person's face.
Just like that. And relationships need to come for 2 sides. So don't throw all your arrors on a girl who doesn't like you. Or is just afraid to be more. Better to be single then. Sometimes I am still to nice but I am aware of it.
This was me (and to a certain degree still is). However, after being burned, deceived, done wrong, cheated on, etc over the years now I know when to put my foot down. I still struggle with being selfish, but in a world full of narcissists and jezebels I am learning how to be consistent in standing on my square. My "learned" motto is now; "I stay away from anyone or anything that is not going to keep my blood pressure down."
I struggled with this my whole life. I was an introvert, depressed, struggled with drugs and alcohol, had little success with women. As an adult, I became a construction worker. I got picked on at work all the time and didn’t know how to stand up for myself. Finding the manosphere has invigorated me to change my life, and stop living such a pathetic life. Thanks for the video George, I wish I had a mentor like you growing up! Better late than never.
Yolo Maserati david deida " the way of the superior man" ... do not cave-in to feminazi emasculation, whatever you do. its a loosing street... you will not be attractive to hot girls, and will be used by female.supremacists.
I read this book years ago. It was one of the things that changed the course of my life. I integrated many of the concepts in this book into my life. I was in a sexless marriage with a very strong willed woman. I found that the stronger I became, the "nicer" she became. All along, it was my weakness and passivity that evoked her vapid and horrible behavior toward me. All women secretly desire their men to be strong. I stayed with my wife until my daughter graduated college, then we divorced. After my divorce, I found that my options for relationships were limited and disgusting. I now live in South America. I moved away from the USA because I found that many cultures abroad can be more conducive to satisfying relationships with women. The women are generally more feminine, beautiful, sweet and attentive to my needs. I have much more choice in whom I spend my time and resources with. I realize that most men could not make the drastic move that I have made, but the culture in the United States is just too poisonous for me anymore.
American culture is focussed on tough guys, as for. ex. E. Hemingway. Americans are testosteron and sex obsessed, far more then other people in the world
@@cosmonucleus7076 I live in Colombia. I have a beautiful 30 year old Venezuelan woman living with me. I love living here but Im a little bored of retirement.
My savage side always terrified me so I ended up being a "nice" guy. I have resorted to passive-aggressive tactics because I saw that as preferable to assault and possibly man slaughter. My masculinity has been so self-suppressed that it's literally like a split personality. I'm ordering this book. I know I need integration. Thank you for this video.
I think this is generally how most self proclaimed nice guys feel on the topic, its that urge to run away from your true self because you're too scared to accept that there is a beast within. Its time to embrace the beast and use that energy to make positive strides in life. Peace and love my g
@@KingCajete bro the world today in general makes masculinity out to be wrong. I mean i get we cant just rape girls if they say no lol but we have to draw the line somewhere. We all have that primitive drive within us. Yea on some things we cant/shouldnt act on but others its more of knowing how to use it. In a way its kinda like a superpower. Mainly, one thing ive learned is: Be assertive, fuck it just do it...that is unless youre sure to get shitcanned for it. In that case find find a new job first THEN commence assertion lololol. But seriously. Women especially, will react postively to it. Even if they act otherwise...along long as its within the realm of reason of course
Don't repress your masculinity. It's the only thing youve got. Do something dangerous. Take risks, be bold, take action. Be more aggressive towards what you want in your life. Stop caring about other people. Don't be afraid to look people in the eye. Never whine or complain, accept the responsibilities and hardships forced upon you. Be willing to say NO. To anyone. Keep your emotions private and for when you're alone. Never show weakness to people, they'll use it against you and you'll lose their respect. Don't shy away from advisory, use it as an opportunity to learn about yourself. Knowledge of self is critical for your personal development. Never lie to yourself, destroy all self delusions. This is your life, don't let others decide how you should live. Take control. At the end of the day, we are apes. We are animals, beasts. This is a biological fact. The more you pretend this isn't the case, the worse off you'll be.
I always attributed my nice and submissive side to strength, ironically. Weaker people want their way and they typically want to make a fuss about it, and I just feel I'm strong enough to burden and endure and tolerate it and yield it to them and be done with it so long as it doesn't compromise me in a significant way. Make no mistake, I have no problem getting together with my friends and putting my foot down on the evening's activities or what we watch if we watch something, but I think there's something to those men who have arrived somewhere selfless in their maturity. I don't know. This is a fascinating subject, George. Thank you for the book recommendation!
Thats the key : )) . There are different kinds of nice guys. Another key is this: I do what I'm good at, this way I can lead people in the sphere I'm moving in naturally, without trying to get my way in minor aspects of life wich I would not enjoy anyways as this sphere belongs to others. In a group it is important for a nice guy to be connected to the leader of the group, to converse with him, this way a nice guy gets to be co-leader without getting involved with others too much. The problem of the nice guy isn't that he is a doormat in my opinion, rather he is another species whole together and the more one observes others and oneself one can see that it is all rightly divided, let those who want to have power over minor things, have it, let leaders be leaders, its not as fun as one may imagine it. Not that a nice guy can't be a leader, but it depends on the people he leads, a nice guy needs a nice or intelligent group, while a bad guy needs ppl who are more into instincts and fun.
Truly strong character people can be genuinely nice AND 100% assertive at the same time. No contradiction. Reminds me of a boss I had who was a nice guy, but he was also an ex special forces guy. If people need to be an asshole to get their way, it's because they're a bully, not because they're tough. And bullies are cowards. Strong people never need to have power over others, they just ARE.
''I have no problem getting together with my friends and putting my foot down on the evening's activities or what we watch if we watch something,'' that's what masculine men do. :)
I have suffered from the "nice guy" syndrome over the years. However in recent years I have gotten a bit tougher as I have gotten to know myself better. Recently I showed a girlfriend the door after she had broken her word to me. I think she was really shocked at my reaction, but she had made me quite mad. She may no longer like me, but I do think she respects me. I have learned at times you do have to be a bit of a s.o.b. in this life.
Its funny after you do that they always want you back but its too late. But when they first meet you they see what they can get away with. Not all of course
Absolutely correct! A cpl years after my divorce my big heart took over for a girl I met and I moved her in hoping to make a new start. It wasn't long at all til I saw what I just got out of coming back. Thats when I kicked my big hearts ass and told her to get down the road and take your cat with you! Now I enjoy my single life and thats the way its gonna stay! Come and go as I please and its nice and quiet here!🤗
Been there, done that, Its a very bad idea. I self sabotaged, lost my business home and nearly my life, I'm trying now to get it back together again. I ticked every box.
I am a 'victim' of psychological abuse from my mother. She causes me psychological pain. I am not passive aggressive but very upset by her manipulative and cold hearted tactics.
Just remember that all the fear that you feel about disappointing others actually comes from you. It's a mind game; you against you. You created the fear and you can destroy it too.
I've been married for 25 years now. Of course we have had and still do have our conflicts, but overall it's a great marriage. I've found that you have to have a line in the sand sometimes. You have to sometimes relay that you are willing to walk away. There is always going to be forgiveness that we must exhibit to each other. We all know when someone is trying to take advantage of us, don't allow it. Be nice, be pleasant, but recognize when we are being taken for granted and call it out. Don't be afraid of conflict, embrace it. Struggles give strength, just like weight training. There are boundaries to conflict. I avoid as best I can to not name call or belittle. I don't want to have to apologize for specific things I say. In other words, a conflict with my spouse does not turn into mortal combat. Emotions can run high and get out of hand, but show restraint, words are not easily forgotten.
@@jayoakland4042 It's not about never being nice, it's about not being a push over in your body language, words and actions. Only a complete jerk is never nice or polite and that will never get you anywhere in life, but the extreme other end of that stupid scale is being a doormat. All it means is, be firm in your decision making, don't take other people's crap and call them out on it (even if it's in a lighthearted way, just let them know you realize their shit) and don't be predictable. One thing the nice are is predictable and that equals, you guessed it, boring. And nobody wants to be around boring for too long. Don't seek to please others, but stand your ground in confidence and don't just take everything they give you lying down. That's a start at learning how to grow a pair, and it works! When you get to the place that you don't always get everyone's acceptance or soft sounding words but you get their respect, you've arrived. Welcome to real manhood.
Might be well to remember one thing. Some people like to hurt and emotionally abuse others. Putting such a person on a pedestal, and willingly being a doormat for them, is giving them carte blanche to do what they want. A toxic relationship of any kind is unhealthy. Nobody is worth being a doormat for. Find real friends, and find someone real to love. Leave toxic people to find other toxic people.
Nice guys are spirituality closer to God because he feels and expresses love and empathy towards others. When he passes away they will say he was a nice guy. Let no one shame or ridicule you because you are a nice guy. It's better to be on the right side of God than the wrong side of God. Love yourself as you would love others.
Being nice really doesn’t get you anywhere. Be kind instead. Being a nice guy generally comes down to abandonment issues in childhood left unsolved. I feel sorry for any man that hasn’t woken up and realised this.
I have been a nice guy most of my life but thankfully I have a gift of reading people when meeting them so it's easier for me to see who's truthful and honest or who's bullshiting me love the advice you can give to all us men. Peace out brother
Well, your gift has failed you this time around. This guy has to be the biggest bullshitter I have ever listened to. He is starting to sell out as his channel is growing. Watch some of his old stuff and watch these more recent ones. A completely different person. I would love to listen to him in person so I can call him out on his bullshit. Pay closer attention. You'll realize how ridiculous this guy is.
Ahhh reading people is one of the best traits I have... Like this guy for instance, he knows his shit but he’s reading it from a book and the book has some truth and some lies which can be very dangerous.
As someone who's been subjected to this atmosphere my entire life growing up it's difficult to change. Slowly been coming out of it and looking out for myself, been attacked and shammed by family calling me selfish for looking after myself, but I've had enough of it and need to look out for myself. Being near family actually drains and demotivates me.
Bro I’m going through the same thing. Always put your self and mental health first . They don’t rlly love you if they can’t understand you’re trying to save yourself!!! Much love bro you not alone 🙏🏼
Clayton Bouldin Hahahaha Yeah, hope you've got your snowboots on.... Then I would drive away, start feeling bad, turn around and pick them back up... I wouldn't want to leave anybody stranded... But sometimes you've got to say to yourself, That's it! I'm done, Bye... It's bite the hands that feed ya situation.
Yes same here! Walt had been a doormat his entire life until that one near death experience and the brush with mortality. Then he became the Heisenberg
Definitely getting this book. Several things you quoted hit home with me. Difficulty setting boundaries with people has been a major problem in my life and has created many problems for me over the years. I'm currently in the process of setting that right with two major headaches in particular that I've put up with for much too long. Great vid George, thank you. 👍
No More Mr Nice Guy has been a game changer for me. A definite read for any guy going into 2019 and looking to get unstuck, also with a heavy dose of GB too. The quote that spoke to me most and is "Being integrated means being able to accept all aspects of one's self. An integrated man is able to embrace everything that makes him uniquely male: his power, his assertiveness, his courage, and his passion as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, and his dark side"
This resonated with me. I’ve been very nice my entire life even to the point of neglecting myself so someone else could be more comfortable. Being nice has never gotten me anywhere. I now am withdrawn from society and very untrusting of people mostly women because they are ruthless and mean as hell.
ABSOLUTELY!! Be polite and straight to the point and speak your mind to deter those who try to manipulate you for their own gains. It works as long as you do it in a respecful manners....
I embrace being an introvert, it does not mean i'm afraid to interact with others.. Just prefer enjoying my own company rather than large crowds. I have more time to grind, hit the gym , study and continue on my purpose. Most of all, while rechargeing my batteries alone, i reflect more since i was that nice guy for so many years. The rest of 2019 is going to be awesome . By concentrating on myself, slowly but surely women are noticing my confidence returning.
The way I approach this, as I use to have trouble with this. You can't expect others to be as nice as you are. If you do not set your boundaries, a lot of people will NOT reciprocate what you are doing. The saying "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" has to be put into the proper perspective. Not only that, but the "keeping the peace" can also lead to even worse non-peace. You have to condition your mind to have a proper foundation of being nice. A foundation where EVERYONE takes a piece eventually crumbles below you, so you have to set the boundaries.
Another term for "nice guy" is "a good man". In other words, you're a utility for others. Now, when your begin to break out of that cycle, there is a lot of extra effort by those that you're a utility for to put you back in that place. One has to fight constantly to get out of that space.
Key observation here - thanks for posting. I had one those "last straw" moments regarding being too nice about a year ago. When I started to change somewhat, I experienced exactly what you are talking about here - especially at work. I don't see any quick fixes here - it's a big battle to take on, but worth it.
That’s why having values and boundaries are so bloody important. Having them from the start of meeting people makes them easier to live by. I struggle to hold my boundaries with people I’ve known for years because they just assume I’m the ‘nice guy that’ll come out drinking with me and listen to my bullshit’
@@CT-pv9gu You've got to have boundaries. I respect orher people, and I expect the same from them. Equally, when it comes to friends and acquaintances, I make time for people who make time for me. Being a lot older and wiser, I've been through all this so am more confident. I just don't have time for people with issues or agendas or game playing.
I watch the Dr. Robert Gover interview twice in a row. And as you said, both times it brought some tears to my eyes. Thank you for putting such powerful and important message to the world.
I've been a nice guy and a self driven guy. Being self driven doesn't mean you are selfish.You have to learn to be self-sufficient and be able to get the job done as a self made man!
Fuck, I have most of these traits. No wonder I was bullied by every social group I was ever a part of growing up. Now I'm a dude in his mid twenties at the position in life I should have been in at 18. I give people a lot, even if I'm on my last ten bucks and get myself some food I'll share a little.... but I always ask my friends to help me out, especially those I help. I'm arrogant in my own head. I shut off my emotions and every now and then have a mental breakdown when all my rage comes out. I've always thought, in my own head, that everyone loves me because I'm so generous and kind and have been proud of that. I consistently look for validation with my friends from asking questions like "do you think this shirt looks stupid" or "am I doing anything to annoy you?" in my apartment. When I do something wrong or even, come into a problem which could be conceived by someone as me being a bad person, I immediately start worrying and my anxiety levels go through the roof that I don't get any sleep. Wow..... so now I know... I have mental characteristics that ideal partners don't have. No wonder I quit so early into something when the going gets tough, no wonder I isolate myself and watch hours of youtube a week. At one point, my best friend/roomie came to me towards the end of 2018 and said "hey man, are you all good? You've locked yourself in that room for a while". So I'm a guy with bipolar, add, a traumatic upbringing and nice guy syndrome (not to be one of those guys who give themselves labels to feel better or look for sympathy). At least I now know my own issues and can think about rectifying them, maybe retraining myself gradually to be less nice guy and more capable guy. I'm at a loss for words. I need time to think. Thank you George, I don't agree with everything you say but I love most of your videos.
I can agree with some of this but not all of it, i am most definitely an introvert but i would be considered one of those nice guys. The only reason i am a nice guy is because i have been through it all, i have been through fosterhomes, grouphomes and grew up in a zoo like exhausting childhood. I never had a childhood at all, it was destroyed and taken away from me, i have seen rock bottom and have experienced it, so anyone going through some shit, i understand what youre going through. I was locked into my room at night time where i had to knock on the door to take a piss or needed a drink of water. It was a prison, it didnt feel like freedom at all, but it opened my eyes to the ones who actually matter to me and gave me an awakening call, it gave me an open heart for my loved ones, and really made me realize how seriously fucked up some people really are, how cold they can be.
I fit the descriptions very well. I was raised by controlling mother and weak father to be a "no trouble/no conflict" kid. Emasculated, bullied, also a step father ... the whole package. I reached the point of my life where I cannot longer live with myself. The solution is to change myself not being "nice guy" anymore, even if this cost me my marriage. Otherwise it will cost me my life!
Man.... hearing you read that felt like a punch to the gut. I’m such a nice guy, it was like I was hearing my autobiography. I’ll most definitely be getting this book. Thank you for this, sir.
A lot of these are over generalizations. Part of the problem is when society changes and demonizes those who try to do the right thing, it becomes a survival of the fittest situation, which at one point, humanity rose above, but has clearly fallen below.
That's right, when civilisation and morality are taken out, people are no longer human but animals, and so the "strongest animal" wins, not the most righteous, constructive and benevolently disposed person. It becomes all about the individual, about outward appearances, visible accomplishments, visible social status, person gain, dominance and control, instead of helping society as a whole and people in general. "Might is right" (Satanic principle) instead of Love and charity (Christian principle). Women have been programmed by the social engineers to go for powerful men regardless of character, and not men of good character, regardless of power. The theory of evolution itself is a scientific fraud serving a Satanic agenda to destroy the family, and thus society, and thus humanity, by destroying good men. Survival of the fittest = "might is right". The Synagogue of Satan has been clamping down hard on society in these last days.
David the Maverick dont confuse being used by others and not daring to disagree with virtue. ... being generous, by all means, but self generosity is also important. also one needs a degree of cynicism with western women, who often lie.through their teeth , use nice guys and sleep with tough vin diesel types. girls from other cultures can be less robotic and have more heart.
thank you so much for this post- I could only watch it partially last night and could not sleep because everything you shared from the book seemed to pierce through my soul. I finished the video and ordered the book. I feel like I wasted so much of my life being someone who I really am not in order not to cause conflict, not to be a burden, not to be hard and cruel. So glad the algorithm. I hear to improve myself as a person, as a man, as who I really am.
You might want to look up the definition of meek for when it was written in the bible. It's exactly the opposite of what it means today. That's why that particular passage is so misunderstood & also why the bible is misconstrued so often.
In the Bible that passage "meek" means "teachable and patient under suffering" gotta remember the Bible wasnt written in English to begin with, so there's other words used in different languages you can use to cross reference as to interpret a more concise context or meaning. 😅
Former NiceGuy here. Went to work today told my boss I'm not her personal assistant when she asked me to get her a coffee, but I'd show her how to make and get her own coffee like an adult. Then she doubled down and asked me to print off her emails so again I said you know what I'll teach you how to print your own emails. Came back to my desk to find a box and she said I hired you to be my assistant so pack your stuff up and go but since we're no longer co-workers call me because this new badboy turns me on. So I no longer have my job but my former manager is my new girl and she works all day while I stay at home playing video games. That's what being a Former Nice Guy is all about thanks for the advice!
Women or men, it doesn't matter. You can't have interpersonal relationships of any meaning and value if you don't know your standards, purpose, and boundaries.
Son of a single mother. I was raised to keep quiet and my needs aren’t really a thing. Worry about helping others and being kind. Some aspects were admirable in theory but this mindset definitely put me behind the 8 ball once I entered adulthood. I’ve had to learn to break so many old “good little boy” habits. Now I’m scene as an asshole, narcissistic bad boy; for conducting myself as an actual man.. it’s such a shame, the mistake moms make raising boys, and usually dad is too whipped, too tired or just too damn beta to be bothered with interfering. Men, DO NOT LET YOUR WOMAN RUN THE SHOW, you’re doing your little boy a huge disservice. Wake up and lead.
So, I use to be a nice guy and I attracted many women strangely but I found that the women always had a bad attitude with me and became more difficult the nicer I became! After a few ruined relationships I found the 'right way' to be and my life changed completely! I took time out from relationships and focused on myself in one year I achieved so many things and improved and became much more valuable as a person! The secret in my view is , take time to learn yourself and who you are and what you want in a partner and in life in general. Now , I tell everyone what I really think good or bad , I tell beautiful women the truth if they have an attitude problem and I don't care if they like it or not! I disqualify women that do mot fit in with what I'm looking for politely ,no hard feelings! Now , I have women chasing me and I never thought this would be the case lol
IT'S ALWAYS BEEN MY WEAKNESS THAT I THINK ABOUT THE WELFARE OF OTHERS MORE THAN MYSELF, LOVE OTHERS GENUINELY AND PUT PEOPLE FIRST ESPECIALLY WHEN I SEE OTHERS WITH URGENT NEED, IT'S DIFFICULT FOR ME TO SAY NO, IF I CAN'T HELP BUT THEY END UP DISAPPOINTING ME. FEEL SYMPATHY, EMPATHY SO EASILY UNTIL I FIND OUT THAT AM BEING MANIPULATED THEN I STAND FIRM. NOW AM LEARNING TO GIVE ATTENTION TO MYSELF AND TO BUILD MYSELF FIRST BEFORE OTHERS. PEOPLE WOULD ALWAYS WANT TO STEP ON OTHERS HEAD TO MAKE ADVANCEMENT IN LIFE.
There is truth to this. It’s not easy to always do , but I can confirm with my experience , I’ve never gotten laid more than when I’ve been distant ,cold , and unavailable to women. My conclusion is that they like a chase/challenge. Completely baffling to me. Not saying be a jerk , but as though I couldnt care less if I was with them or not. It works guys
5:15 pretty much describes fake nice guys. And here lies the real issue. Genuinely nice guys are misunderstood by most woman and some men who mistake them as the fake ones, but for them the fake ones are the only one that exists... When I'm being nice to someone who I believe deserves it, it's because I like to, not having a motive behind my actions.
If you are kinder to yourself more than other, you will know how to deal with others. Most “nice guys” I see are too hard on themselves and others take advantage of it.
I'm a huge fan of Gorilla Mindset too. I've recently started the carnivore diet and am loving all your content. Thank you for the wisdom and nuance. Coming from a recovering former 'nice guy'.
The most dangerous people on earth are nice people who are taken the red pil. Believe me when i say....heard a woman once..and she said...."i went back to the nice guy so i i can fix something of him...i had really a big problem this time which could cost my life...the nice guy said....what do you expect from me? The way he looked at me...i swear a devil was looking at me"
omg.. u dont know how many comments and inboxes and replies i get daily from Red Pill community about me being shipped off to the middle east to get beat and raped so id remember just how good i had it with them.. xb im pretty promiscuous myself... right.. not ashamed of it.. butt lots of the Red Pill guys... especially among the mgtow/MRA groups... they will condemn me for my promiscuity call me a slut... whore.. u name it.. then under the same breath will advocate to each other "pumping and dumping" which literally is them engaging in promiscuous casual sex with women.. which again is the same activity(casual sex) they just thrashed women for.. 🤔 they are so toxic and hostile they blatantly disregard that double standard and many others... they are extremely vindictive to the point they will do and say anything.. distorting and twisting things... what ever is necessary to make all women look bad so they can be the victims and justify their hypocritical actions.. they are literally polar counter extreme to feminist extremist... one side cries ALL MEN and the other side cries ALL WOMEN...
@@InanisNihil well if youre not in a relationship then its whatever floats yer boat. If you are in one though and screwing around its pretty messed up and helps create an endless, toxic, cycle of untrusting HUMANS who feel like everyone does that therefor they had better beat the other to it haha. Unless of course, its a concurrent open relationship. Just my opinion on the way MANY, NOT ALL of the world's human interactions seem to go... Also what are "red pill guys"? People who have come to believe the world is corrupt and the illuminati type control it? Or is it like all women are secretly cheaters sorta thing? Honest question
@@sdmfbastard if u make and agreement with someone... it should be honored.. so if ur monogamous and u get into a relationship with another monogamous person then yes u should not cheat... i agree... butt remember there are poly amorous people around too.. in fact there are many monogamous people that have and or do display poly amorous traits as well... the MAJOR difference between Monogamous and poly amorous people is how they view love and sex... poly amorous people are realistic.. they separate the two.. love and sex are not the same... the fact is u can sex with someone u dont love... love someone u dont sex... and love someone u have sex with.. sex someone u love.. lol monogamous people what both in one... sex and love start to have blurred lines....most monogamous people before they got married.. in action/practice contradicted their own values.. they engaged in non monogamous casual sex.. most of them do it... love and sex had no connection when they were doing it yet still held that standard as if it does towards other people.. BUTT then they get married and apply made up shit and fuse the two together... no offense... people repress their natural non inherently bad sexual nature... people end up cheating or feeling "caged" men say it all the time to other men "once u get married ur life is over" or things similar to that... we heard and hear stuff like this all the time... its not said for no reason.... lol as a poly person myself.. and others i know of... the biggest issues to our own relationship come not from us.. butt from monogamous people.. the shame.. the judgement... the hate... own families looking down on them... this is the number one reason why poly amorous relationships come to an end... monogamous people... out idea of love is just far more expansive and broader.. just due to the nature of our lifestyle we're more open and sexually educated/responsible.. it just comes with what we do.. they dont go around shaming and condemning people the way monogamous people do.. so that "cycle of untrusting" will come from monogamous people not poly people.. as for red pill guys - once delusional who via the internet became "woke" to some "super secret knowledge" that everyone else lacked so they now have to "bible thump" their message to wake others up..!!! i have not issue with the traits.. butt they ooz religious like fervor.. its literally a movement trying to get men to act and behave a certain way... its like a damn religion.. humans have always been bullshitting since they evolved.. aint nothing new here... if someone is just now "coming" to believe that... then i dont know what koolaid they been drinking this whole time to not have realized that naturally... 🤔 u wont find a single adult on earth regardless of belief and views that dont realize humans do shitty things... unless they have some kind of mental damage or defect that prevents them from said capabilities all these "traits" these so called red pillers hold.. that shit aint new.. thats just natural shit tons of guys since humans walked upright have always been displaying... today they acting like they discovered that shit.. 😂
Being very nice could be attributed to being so sensitive, hence; we develop this nice personality in order to avoid conflicts with other people as our sensitivity is so exhausting for us....
I think you're onto something to. I think that highly sensitive persons (HSPs), as men, are more vulnerable to the whole nice guy thing ultimately because they are DIFFERENT to neurotypicals on the genetic level. Neurotypicals may benefit from being "normal", but it's doesn't necessary mean they're always good people either. If everyone was truly nice, then being a nice guy would not be a sexual liability. In short, we're screwed because we're living in a fallen world, where we can't always be "nice" because the people we're dealing with are not nice. In other words, confrontation, to a degree, is necessary simply to get by in the social (and sexual) world, to protect ourselves from disrespect, neglect and abuse, no matter how subtle and insidious. Us HSPs are just not inclined to stand up for ourselves as quickly and easily as neurotypicals do. So perhaps this can make us not only nice guys, but also passive-aggressive as well, because of our chronic doormat syndrome aka chronic lack of assertiveness, which, when exploited by others, causes us emotional torment and frustration and pain.
Well said , we weren’t meant for this World 🌎. But you can learn to navigate through it. I did but it took years and you most definitely have to be 100% comfortable with yourself. Every little thing you have to embrace it and own it. That’s where the fun starts.
Totally agree cause once they say no all of the sudden they are the bad one or abusive but a so called bad boy it isn’t labelled the same way as far as I’m concerned niceness has its limits being respected vs taken advantage of it’s about balance
Wow you just described me, I’m honestly frightened when I hear put so bluntly and honestly. I’m working on myself now, getting the book and subscribed. Thank you
The secret to not being a nice guy or a Dbag is to be respectful to everyone BUT never allow anyone to disrespect you, or force you to put your needs aside for them. Never be afraid to say no. Your needs and your time should be your #1 priority because if you don’t stand up for yourself someone out there will be the author of your life, and only YOU have your best interest for yourself, not others. If someone disrespects you it’s best to just cut all contact with them. Don’t give in and fight, just leave. The best way to show how much self respect you have is to simply give them the cold shoulder and walk away. Forgive if you want but never let your guard down.
Saif ismail may i recommend the book by David deida " the way of the superior man". i found it very useful. also adventure sports...Mountain biking or sailing or whatever.
In Spain we have a say: "this is Canela en Rama" (This is Cinnamon in the Branch) to say something is absolutely amazing. So my dear Cosmic Ripped Uncle George, this advice is, once again, Canela en Rama.
I am 23 and this vlog and ones like it have helped me tremendously. I am ordering this book very soon. As a man raised mostly by a woman I have had no way to articulate certain feelings I have had over the years. Please for the sake of every man who lacks masculine guidance in his life please don't stop making these videos. Being "Nice" was a cry for help but if I am being honest I just didn't want to be the "Bad" guy. What does that really mean though...? It means whatever Women view as bad. It's almost as though every man was somewhat "Bad," simply for existing or embracing his Masculinity. Why are men treated like we are defective Women? I am teaching myself to be a Man in every sense of the word but someone should have been teaching me this early on. We are different. Women have shaped my view of Men and myself. I am not happy with the result. The time for change is Now.
Much success on your journey my friend , growing into the best version of yourself you want to be. It'll be tough but remember, sometimes the hardest part of any journey is realizing you are worth the trip.
Santiago World good on you. ignore the female supremacists and read David deida " the way of the superior man". date non western women a bit, or hang out with... eg south American. .. they are sweet and dont try to compete with men , unlike.a lot of the brainwashed robots with vaginas that are western women.
I read the book over a decade ago at 35yrs old. It felt like someone kicked me in my emotional balls. The book had described me to a "T." Before then, I had no idea. I have slowly grown and matured since that time. The process continues.
Isn't a coincidence that the word "nice" before the 20th century was used to describe "a person of unsound mind" in other words, "a stupid person", a "docile idiot". The word "nice" evolved from the Latin word "nis-cere" with the "nis" prefix implying 'a negation or a negative state; empty and void. "Cere" in the other hand means "wheat" as the result of harvesting and processing the fruits of labor, that's why we have the words "cere-al", but also "cere-brum" (latin for brain). The brain is the "bran" given to cattle and they also feed people with that thing disguise as "cereal" and true high pack nutrient "cere-al" is no longer available as it was for our ancestors. "Nice to meet you", "so nice to see you", "what a nice guy". Knowing now such, how many words had devolve in time having a centuries old meaning, and now became an empty shell disguised as other but implying the same?
Deirien Dairuth It merely reflects society as a whole and where humanity is at. I can tell you that it’s not looking to well and it’s only going to get worse.
Got the book in January 2023. It answered questions I have had all along. Read it three times already and will still read it over again. Great book that changed my life for better.
It 100% is a negative trait. Team work and social systems keep us living comfortable lives. You don't get to be alone, and it's pathetic and weak to be afraid of social interaction. Don't come at me with some bull shit.. I lived 32 years of my life thinking I was an introvert. Nope, I was a little bitch. You have to leave your village and slay the dragon if you want greatness in your life... Jesus fucking Crist, it's philosophy 101.
Clark Fluegel Ok, team work doesn't have to to anything with being an introvert. Who said introverts are affraid of social interaction? They just do not enjoy it, but that doesn't mean they are affraid. You're saying you thought you were an introvert. Oh my God. People know that themselves at an early age. They don't asume. You're too aggressive, passive aggressive, having strong need to impose your opinion as the only one that is correct. So sad, but irritating as well. Who gave you right to judge me or anybody as such? You should work on your attitude. After all, I'm a decade older, which is totally irrelevant, because people don't change. Some are bitches for their entire life. You know who that might be, right?
It's a great thing to be introvert..I'm very introverted meaning I don't enjoy crowded places and I love being alone..but I am not shy at all..I even think I'm more confident than most extroverted I know..introvertes people don't need to interact with others to gain energy as it is for extroverts..our energy replenishes when we spend time alone or with other introverts..I even see the extroverts as being funny, always needing to be around others to feed off their energies..
@John Doe yeah that's all true. But I bet you they weren't little pussies about it. They choose to be introverted so they could focus on their purpose. Not because they get crippling social anxiety lol. So many people now a day's refuse to face their fear and just say they're introverted and being a loner.
Bought the book a week ago and couldn't put it down, WOW what an eye opener! It has already changed my mindset and I feel things that seemed out of reach are attainable now. Been a "Nice Guy" all my life and certainly related to most everything in this book. Do yourself a favor, and the women in your life, and get this book. It's my manual now and I will refer back to it often if I fall back into my old lame ways. Cheerz!
Be a kind person, but if you find someone is trying to step on you, let them know your boundaries. If they refuse you cut them off with no going back. 1 chance that's it. This is 2019 and that's how it has to be.
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Nice guys aren't nice to themselves.
Aaaand it shows
not always
Right on the....good one
Thats a classic noce guy behavior
In the past, I was a benefit to everyone else other than myself. At this time in my life I am in a "do not care" demeanor and its working for the better. start saying no and it only gets better.
It's possible to be nice and still have boundaries. Here's how: 1) Put value to your time. 2) Be 'nice' but not naive. Yes, they may use you once. Never let them do it twice. Never. Ever. 3) Speak your mind. Call bullshit out if needed. It's amazing how much women seek you out if you call out their bullshit. Never thought it worked, until I tried. 4) Upgrade your knowledge more than your phone's OS.
The word you're looking for is "good" not nice
@@KingDayDayDay00 Not looking for any specific word or semantics Just learning from my own behaviour patterns and experiences.
@Varun Arora. 100% spot on, man.
varun arora Exactly. And you learn more about yourself, and the b’s around you, then you can call a spade... a spade.
Thank you for sharing the knowledge.
When you're a nice guy, remember these two things......
1) When you show other people that you come 2nd, that becomes the norm to them!
2) People never remember the million things you do for them. They only remember the one thing that you didn't do for them!
So when do we do in that 2nd scenario? stop doing things for them?
Dont let the woman dominate your calender....be on equal ground...your friends passion and hobbies are of equal importance in a relationship !
#2 is so true.
That is so true my mind is blown. I did everything for my ex. Looked out for her in every way and all i would hear is "oh remember xx years ago when you didnt do this for me or that for me. I'm so done with that!
This applies to being a employee as well.
Nice guy here. Been a nice guy my entire life. So many wasted years. Now facing divorce and trying to move forward. I have realized the damage that I have done to my life. At age 49 and in my age group, 75% of men in my position commit suicide. If you are reading this, fix yourself, if you are a nice guy. I'm going to try and fix myself. If you are a young man reading this, it is imperative that you fix yourself. Your time has so much value and the world will only take advantage of your nice guy attitude. Don't waste the years that I have wasted. It is a huge mistake to be a nice guy. There is so much information to correct this shortcoming of what it means to be a man. I wish that I had paid more attention.
Thanks, I'm the nice guy and I'm 17.. I have been used alot of times just of my nice guy attitude... I'm lonely aswell, I will change
J F thanks really appreciate don't worry reincarnation is real it's not your last roll of the dice
happened to many, that's life. It is very true that a young man should inspect his self thoroughly, most do not, I only started at 40 to critically inspect myself due to a crisis. But the prefrontal cortex of the brain, that is the seat for responsible awareness and behaviour, only fully develops at or even past the age of 30. so we might as well cut ourselves some slack and not be too harsh.
You can’t just fix who you are.
This, no matter how big or bad or infamous I am, nothing shakes the pathetic feeling of being alone in life and that careless manipulator that can turn your success story into a suicide dive in short order
Been a nice guy most of me life, got friend zoned by women over the years, now I don't entertain them, I be polite but id rather put me energy into the gym and me career...being nice to the majority will only hurt yourself
shout my man!! couldn't agree more
traditional women want a considerate alpha, not a 'nice guy'. I hope that George or another channel can discuss the nuance between these two things because I think some men are still confused between the extreme difference in the two and why real women want one and not the other.
@@eladbari true talk. But how do the assholes they usually end up with- what the heck do they whisper in their ears??? I'd luv to know....really. i got a friend who.ended up wt this guy who now emotionally abuses her, yet she rejects the couple guys that treated her wt so much respect amd like a real lady. What does she do? She ignores & uses them conveniently...so messed up
Do not be ANYONE'S doormat, if anyone challenges you for being you and trying to get shit done, then they are the pieces of shit
Theres nothing intrinsically wrong with being in the friendzone as long as you accept thats the place youre going to be. Iv had female friends before. It doesnt mean i cant also persue my own agendas eleswhere at the same time hell make those female friends the sholder to cry on and see how they like it when youre telling them about your latest conquest lol. The last one wasnt so keen and outright hated my other half to the point of accusations (jealousy is a bad thing).....so naturally she had to go.........the friend i mean....not the other half lol.
There's power in saying NO!!! I used to lend & give money to people including relatives. Then I noticed that I was being disrespected my some. Then I changed. I've never felt so good & the respect is slowly coming back.
Same happened to me
Same here
Most people who ask you to loan them money have no intention of paying you back. They get angry when you tell them to pay you.
My iron rules are:
1) Put yourself first.
2) Don't be afraid to say 'no.'
3) Don't be afraid to let other people help you, be willing to accept help.
4) Don't tolerate the intolerable.
5) Don't blame other people for a situation you created.
6) Balance work and personal time, don't burn yourself out.
You cannot have respect for others unless you first have respect for yourself.
My best friend's dad taught him "treat a woman like shit and she'll love you forever". They are right when it comes to damaged women. There is a balance. Be yourself. Dont be a dick but dont be a doormat. Do not allow people to disrespect you. Do not let people take advantage of you. Do not take advantage of others. Do not lie, even if it hurts you in the short term. Be a good man, not a nice guy. Sometimes you need to be gracious, loving, patient, caring, selfless. Sometimes you need to break another person's face.
I like the idea of breaking faces open
Just like that. And relationships need to come for 2 sides. So don't throw all your arrors on a girl who doesn't like you. Or is just afraid to be more. Better to be single then. Sometimes I am still to nice but I am aware of it.
Hahahah I love this comment
Easier said than done especially at home 😀
I'm not a nice guy. I'm a great guy. I don't ever allow women to control me.
And dont allow men to bully you either.
This was me (and to a certain degree still is). However, after being burned, deceived, done wrong, cheated on, etc over the years now I know when to put my foot down. I still struggle with being selfish, but in a world full of narcissists and jezebels I am learning how to be consistent in standing on my square. My "learned" motto is now; "I stay away from anyone or anything that is not going to keep my blood pressure down."
Love you’re honesty
I struggled with this my whole life. I was an introvert, depressed, struggled with drugs and alcohol, had little success with women. As an adult, I became a construction worker. I got picked on at work all the time and didn’t know how to stand up for myself. Finding the manosphere has invigorated me to change my life, and stop living such a pathetic life. Thanks for the video George, I wish I had a mentor like you growing up! Better late than never.
Yolo Maserati david deida " the way of the superior man" ... do not cave-in to feminazi emasculation, whatever you do. its a loosing street... you will not be attractive to hot girls, and will be used by female.supremacists.
That book is worth a read. Its not by George
That sucks mate that you had to endure that kind of abuse at work by a bunch of insecure wannabe bullies. Hope you are doing ok now mate
I read this book years ago. It was one of the things that changed the course of my life. I integrated many of the concepts in this book into my life. I was in a sexless marriage with a very strong willed woman. I found that the stronger I became, the "nicer" she became. All along, it was my weakness and passivity that evoked her vapid and horrible behavior toward me. All women secretly desire their men to be strong.
I stayed with my wife until my daughter graduated college, then we divorced. After my divorce, I found that my options for relationships were limited and disgusting. I now live in South America. I moved away from the USA because I found that many cultures abroad can be more conducive to satisfying relationships with women. The women are generally more feminine, beautiful, sweet and attentive to my needs. I have much more choice in whom I spend my time and resources with. I realize that most men could not make the drastic move that I have made, but the culture in the United States is just too poisonous for me anymore.
May I ask what country did you go to?
@@richjohn11 Colombia. Land of beautiful women.
American culture is focussed on tough guys, as for. ex. E. Hemingway. Americans are testosteron and sex obsessed, far more then other people in the world
That was 4 years ago,m when you wrote that. How has your life changed?
@@cosmonucleus7076 I live in Colombia. I have a beautiful 30 year old Venezuelan woman living with me. I love living here but Im a little bored of retirement.
My savage side always terrified me so I ended up being a "nice" guy. I have resorted to passive-aggressive tactics because I saw that as preferable to assault and possibly man slaughter. My masculinity has been so self-suppressed that it's literally like a split personality. I'm ordering this book. I know I need integration. Thank you for this video.
Bro this comment hit me hard. This is how I feel... It's like I'm not actively trying to be nice but instead I'm trying to keep my savagery contained.
This comment hit me hard too. I have been suppressing the hulk for too long
I think this is generally how most self proclaimed nice guys feel on the topic, its that urge to run away from your true self because you're too scared to accept that there is a beast within. Its time to embrace the beast and use that energy to make positive strides in life. Peace and love my g
@@KingCajete bro the world today in general makes masculinity out to be wrong. I mean i get we cant just rape girls if they say no lol but we have to draw the line somewhere. We all have that primitive drive within us. Yea on some things we cant/shouldnt act on but others its more of knowing how to use it. In a way its kinda like a superpower. Mainly, one thing ive learned is:
Be assertive, fuck it just do it...that is unless youre sure to get shitcanned for it. In that case find find a new job first THEN commence assertion lololol. But seriously. Women especially, will react postively to it. Even if they act otherwise...along long as its within the realm of reason of course
Don't repress your masculinity. It's the only thing youve got. Do something dangerous. Take risks, be bold, take action. Be more aggressive towards what you want in your life. Stop caring about other people. Don't be afraid to look people in the eye. Never whine or complain, accept the responsibilities and hardships forced upon you. Be willing to say NO. To anyone. Keep your emotions private and for when you're alone. Never show weakness to people, they'll use it against you and you'll lose their respect. Don't shy away from advisory, use it as an opportunity to learn about yourself. Knowledge of self is critical for your personal development. Never lie to yourself, destroy all self delusions. This is your life, don't let others decide how you should live. Take control.
At the end of the day, we are apes. We are animals, beasts. This is a biological fact. The more you pretend this isn't the case, the worse off you'll be.
The older I get the less I give a damn about others opinions. It took me a long time. No more Mr. Nice guy.
Often, other people’s opinions are not based on looking at the whole picture.
I always attributed my nice and submissive side to strength, ironically. Weaker people want their way and they typically want to make a fuss about it, and I just feel I'm strong enough to burden and endure and tolerate it and yield it to them and be done with it so long as it doesn't compromise me in a significant way. Make no mistake, I have no problem getting together with my friends and putting my foot down on the evening's activities or what we watch if we watch something, but I think there's something to those men who have arrived somewhere selfless in their maturity. I don't know. This is a fascinating subject, George. Thank you for the book recommendation!
Thats the key : )) . There are different kinds of nice guys. Another key is this: I do what I'm good at, this way I can lead people in the sphere I'm moving in naturally, without trying to get my way in minor aspects of life wich I would not enjoy anyways as this sphere belongs to others. In a group it is important for a nice guy to be connected to the leader of the group, to converse with him, this way a nice guy gets to be co-leader without getting involved with others too much. The problem of the nice guy isn't that he is a doormat in my opinion, rather he is another species whole together and the more one observes others and oneself one can see that it is all rightly divided, let those who want to have power over minor things, have it, let leaders be leaders, its not as fun as one may imagine it. Not that a nice guy can't be a leader, but it depends on the people he leads, a nice guy needs a nice or intelligent group, while a bad guy needs ppl who are more into instincts and fun.
Truly strong character people can be genuinely nice AND 100% assertive at the same time. No contradiction. Reminds me of a boss I had who was a nice guy, but he was also an ex special forces guy. If people need to be an asshole to get their way, it's because they're a bully, not because they're tough. And bullies are cowards. Strong people never need to have power over others, they just ARE.
''I have no problem getting together with my friends and putting my foot down on the evening's activities or what we watch if we watch something,'' that's what masculine men do. :)
Simon Vance good response
Pos dem great response
I have suffered from the "nice guy" syndrome over the years. However in recent years I have gotten a bit tougher as I have gotten to know myself better. Recently I showed a girlfriend the door after she had broken her word to me. I think she was really shocked at my reaction, but she had made me quite mad. She may no longer like me, but I do think she respects me. I have learned at times you do have to be a bit of a s.o.b. in this life.
I Think She Doesn't Like You Anymore But I Do Blieve She Respect You Because You Showed Her That You Have Balls...So You're Good.
Its funny after you do that they always want you back but its too late. But when they first meet you they see what they can get away with. Not all of course
Absolutely correct!
A cpl years after my divorce my big heart took over for a girl I met and I moved her in hoping to make a new start. It wasn't long at all til I saw what I just got out of coming back. Thats when I kicked my big hearts ass and told her to get down the road and take your cat with you! Now I enjoy my single life and thats the way its gonna stay! Come and go as I please and its nice and quiet here!🤗
Boundaries.
Dave S
And because of that in time she may well reach out to you again.
She will never be happy no matter what she has!
Been there, done that, Its a very bad idea.
I self sabotaged, lost my business home and nearly my life,
I'm trying now to get it back together again.
I ticked every box.
Damn, bro.
Tell us what happened.
Do not mistake my Kindness for weakness.
I feel that
I feel this in my soul.
Givers need to learn to say no because takers never will.
I am a 'victim' of psychological abuse from my mother. She causes me psychological pain.
I am not passive aggressive but very upset by her manipulative and cold hearted tactics.
I'm ashamed of myself because he described me perfectly in the book. No wonder I'm a loser.
It's never too late to change your ways, put the you back in yourself. You may not see instant results but you'll be at peace with yourself.
Just remember that all the fear that you feel about disappointing others actually comes from you. It's a mind game; you against you. You created the fear and you can destroy it too.
I've been married for 25 years now. Of course we have had and still do have our conflicts, but overall it's a great marriage. I've found that you have to have a line in the sand sometimes. You have to sometimes relay that you are willing to walk away. There is always going to be forgiveness that we must exhibit to each other. We all know when someone is trying to take advantage of us, don't allow it. Be nice, be pleasant, but recognize when we are being taken for granted and call it out. Don't be afraid of conflict, embrace it. Struggles give strength, just like weight training. There are boundaries to conflict. I avoid as best I can to not name call or belittle. I don't want to have to apologize for specific things I say. In other words, a conflict with my spouse does not turn into mortal combat. Emotions can run high and get out of hand, but show restraint, words are not easily forgotten.
TheOnlyRevanTheGreat
I know that one mate!
Man this our year damnit!!!!!!no more mr nice guy bullshit!!!!!
People, especially females, use a doormat at every opportunity...✌️😎
Really only women. All the men I know, including myself, prefer to get their own shit. I don't hang with dudes that are losers
@@markalton4610 you might learn from them dont be too proud its blinding.. maybe you hate "losers" because they have traits you recognize personally..
@@chiefcaptn1922 nope
Peter Kotsovos
I always carry a broom with me at all times...
PETER+ IT'S TRUE, SAD BUT TRUE.....WOMEN WANT WOMEN...THEY PRETEND TO HAVE BF, JUST FOR THE BENEFITS
Etymologically, The word nice means foolish... So the powers that be got us on that one.
test me on some etymology.......I got it ;)
That just blew my mind completely.
Yes Really Beautiful statement my friend. I will certainly meditate on this, thanks again.
Yea but then how do u get respect or atension if u can't be nice
@@jayoakland4042 It's not about never being nice, it's about not being a push over in your body language, words and actions. Only a complete jerk is never nice or polite and that will never get you anywhere in life, but the extreme other end of that stupid scale is being a doormat. All it means is, be firm in your decision making, don't take other people's crap and call them out on it (even if it's in a lighthearted way, just let them know you realize their shit) and don't be predictable. One thing the nice are is predictable and that equals, you guessed it, boring. And nobody wants to be around boring for too long. Don't seek to please others, but stand your ground in confidence and don't just take everything they give you lying down. That's a start at learning how to grow a pair, and it works! When you get to the place that you don't always get everyone's acceptance or soft sounding words but you get their respect, you've arrived. Welcome to real manhood.
Killing me softly... This is my 2019 goal... You described me.. I need that book. Have a great day George.. Wow this one hit hard
J-F Nadeau NahDo
I love that song
Might be well to remember one thing. Some people like to hurt and emotionally abuse others. Putting such a person on a pedestal, and willingly being a doormat for them, is giving them carte blanche to do what they want. A toxic relationship of any kind is unhealthy. Nobody is worth being a doormat for. Find real friends, and find someone real to love. Leave toxic people to find other toxic people.
Nice guys are spirituality closer to God because he feels and expresses love and empathy towards others. When he passes away they will say he was a nice guy. Let no one shame or ridicule you because you are a nice guy. It's better to be on the right side of God than the wrong side of God. Love yourself as you would love others.
Being nice really doesn’t get you anywhere. Be kind instead. Being a nice guy generally comes down to abandonment issues in childhood left unsolved. I feel sorry for any man that hasn’t woken up and realised this.
Shut up bitch
Raw T how do u know that it comes from abandomnement ? Really interesting ? Do you have any ressources or more infos about that ? Thanks a lot
@Default User not long enough!
ock rent get the book this guy is talking about. ‘No more mr nice guy’
@@CT-pv9gu suck you!
I have been a nice guy most of my life but thankfully I have a gift of reading people when meeting them so it's easier for me to see who's truthful and honest or who's bullshiting me love the advice you can give to all us men. Peace out brother
Well, your gift has failed you this time around. This guy has to be the biggest bullshitter I have ever listened to. He is starting to sell out as his channel is growing. Watch some of his old stuff and watch these more recent ones. A completely different person. I would love to listen to him in person so I can call him out on his bullshit. Pay closer attention. You'll realize how ridiculous this guy is.
Ahhh reading people is one of the best traits I have... Like this guy for instance, he knows his shit but he’s reading it from a book and the book has some truth and some lies which can be very dangerous.
As someone who's been subjected to this atmosphere my entire life growing up it's difficult to change.
Slowly been coming out of it and looking out for myself, been attacked and shammed by family calling me selfish for looking after myself, but I've had enough of it and need to look out for myself. Being near family actually drains and demotivates me.
Bro I’m going through the same thing. Always put your self and mental health first . They don’t rlly love you if they can’t understand you’re trying to save yourself!!! Much love bro you not alone 🙏🏼
When I'm nice and find out that I'm being taken advantage of, I'm not so nice.
So I get pissed ,tell em off and then feel miserabley guilty......
Clayton Bouldin
Hahahaha
Yeah, hope you've got your snowboots on....
Then I would drive away, start feeling bad, turn around and pick them back up...
I wouldn't want to leave anybody stranded...
But sometimes you've got to say to yourself,
That's it! I'm done, Bye...
It's bite the hands that feed ya situation.
This is one of the reasons why Breaking Bad fascinates me. "Chemistry is the study of change..."
And drugs ;)
Yes same here! Walt had been a doormat his entire life until that one near death experience and the brush with mortality. Then he became the Heisenberg
Curt's Clocks fr
I am an ex nice guy
MGTOW and Redpill got me to finally admit ALL women are based on EMOTION and Female nature
Transactions, what you have to offer a woman. Social status, money, great looks. No one gives a shit about anyone.
Definitely getting this book. Several things you quoted hit home with me. Difficulty setting boundaries with people has been a major problem in my life and has created many problems for me over the years. I'm currently in the process of setting that right with two major headaches in particular that I've put up with for much too long. Great vid George, thank you. 👍
"The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a Fuck" Oh my, that tile had me rolling! I have reached that point in my life to a fault!
No More Mr Nice Guy has been a game changer for me. A definite read for any guy going into 2019 and looking to get unstuck, also with a heavy dose of GB too.
The quote that spoke to me most and is "Being integrated means being able to accept all aspects of one's self. An integrated man is able to embrace everything that makes him uniquely male: his power, his assertiveness, his courage, and his passion as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, and his dark side"
Be Good NOT nice. There is a distinction...
Time and place for both
exactly Kinjo51.
exactly....good in moderation
Well said.
Best comment..!!
I'm a nice guy and I got a great Wife in return. She can't stand douchebags. Being a nice kind person is different than being a doormat.
Right, alot of this is total bollocks
Ford ST they are using the term nice in a different way , if you read the book you will understand
Ted Bundy was a nice guy too
@John Doe spot on!
no friend. you got lucky. that is the difference right there.
You could still be nice but firm and assertive when needed.
This resonated with me. I’ve been very nice my entire life even to the point of neglecting myself so someone else could be more comfortable. Being nice has never gotten me anywhere. I now am withdrawn from society and very untrusting of people mostly women because they are ruthless and mean as hell.
ABSOLUTELY!! Be polite and straight to the point and speak your mind to deter those who try to manipulate you for their own gains. It works as long as you do it in a respecful manners....
I embrace being an introvert, it does not mean i'm afraid to interact with others.. Just prefer enjoying my own company rather than large crowds. I have more time to grind, hit the gym , study and continue on my purpose. Most of all, while rechargeing my batteries alone, i reflect more since i was that nice guy for so many years. The rest of 2019 is going to be awesome . By concentrating on myself, slowly but surely women are noticing my confidence returning.
The way I approach this, as I use to have trouble with this. You can't expect others to be as nice as you are. If you do not set your boundaries, a lot of people will NOT reciprocate what you are doing. The saying "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" has to be put into the proper perspective. Not only that, but the "keeping the peace" can also lead to even worse non-peace. You have to condition your mind to have a proper foundation of being nice. A foundation where EVERYONE takes a piece eventually crumbles below you, so you have to set the boundaries.
Another term for "nice guy" is "a good man". In other words, you're a utility for others. Now, when your begin to break out of that cycle, there is a lot of extra effort by those that you're a utility for to put you back in that place. One has to fight constantly to get out of that space.
Key observation here - thanks for posting. I had one those "last straw" moments regarding being too nice about a year ago. When I started to change somewhat, I experienced exactly what you are talking about here - especially at work. I don't see any quick fixes here - it's a big battle to take on, but worth it.
That’s why having values and boundaries are so bloody important. Having them from the start of meeting people makes them easier to live by. I struggle to hold my boundaries with people I’ve known for years because they just assume I’m the ‘nice guy that’ll come out drinking with me and listen to my bullshit’
@@CT-pv9gu You've got to have boundaries. I respect orher people, and I expect the same from them. Equally, when it comes to friends and acquaintances, I make time for people who make time for me.
Being a lot older and wiser, I've been through all this so am more confident. I just don't have time for people with issues or agendas or game playing.
I find myself sliding back into utility occasionally, I just stop cold and they do for themselves or go.
Being 'nice guy' and 'good guy' are different traits..
I watch the Dr. Robert Gover interview twice in a row. And as you said, both times it brought some tears to my eyes. Thank you for putting such powerful and important message to the world.
I've been a nice guy and a self driven guy. Being self driven doesn't mean you are selfish.You have to learn to be self-sufficient and be able to get the job done as a self made man!
Fuck, I have most of these traits.
No wonder I was bullied by every social group I was ever a part of growing up.
Now I'm a dude in his mid twenties at the position in life I should have been in at 18.
I give people a lot, even if I'm on my last ten bucks and get myself some food I'll share a little.... but I always ask my friends to help me out, especially those I help.
I'm arrogant in my own head. I shut off my emotions and every now and then have a mental breakdown when all my rage comes out.
I've always thought, in my own head, that everyone loves me because I'm so generous and kind and have been proud of that.
I consistently look for validation with my friends from asking questions like "do you think this shirt looks stupid" or "am I doing anything to annoy you?" in my apartment.
When I do something wrong or even, come into a problem which could be conceived by someone as me being a bad person, I immediately start worrying and my anxiety levels go through the roof that I don't get any sleep.
Wow..... so now I know... I have mental characteristics that ideal partners don't have. No wonder I quit so early into something when the going gets tough, no wonder I isolate myself and watch hours of youtube a week. At one point, my best friend/roomie came to me towards the end of 2018 and said "hey man, are you all good? You've locked yourself in that room for a while".
So I'm a guy with bipolar, add, a traumatic upbringing and nice guy syndrome (not to be one of those guys who give themselves labels to feel better or look for sympathy).
At least I now know my own issues and can think about rectifying them, maybe retraining myself gradually to be less nice guy and more capable guy.
I'm at a loss for words. I need time to think. Thank you George, I don't agree with everything you say but I love most of your videos.
check out the work of Dr David Tian, you might find it very helpful in growing and healing too
can you lmk what part you dont agree with (it'll help me understand better)
Excellent points raised. After watching this I sat down and thought how much of that applies to me.
Safe to say I need to shape up.
I am taking this video very personly. Thank you for this
I can agree with some of this but not all of it, i am most definitely an introvert but i would be considered one of those nice guys. The only reason i am a nice guy is because i have been through it all, i have been through fosterhomes, grouphomes and grew up in a zoo like exhausting childhood. I never had a childhood at all, it was destroyed and taken away from me, i have seen rock bottom and have experienced it, so anyone going through some shit, i understand what youre going through. I was locked into my room at night time where i had to knock on the door to take a piss or needed a drink of water. It was a prison, it didnt feel like freedom at all, but it opened my eyes to the ones who actually matter to me and gave me an awakening call, it gave me an open heart for my loved ones, and really made me realize how seriously fucked up some people really are, how cold they can be.
I fit the descriptions very well. I was raised by controlling mother and weak father to be a "no trouble/no conflict" kid. Emasculated, bullied, also a step father ... the whole package. I reached the point of my life where I cannot longer live with myself. The solution is to change myself not being "nice guy" anymore, even if this cost me my marriage. Otherwise it will cost me my life!
Do what you have to do. You have only one life, and it's shorter than you think
Same here. 55 and now it’s MY time. Some people are in for a shock 😂
Damn man, hit me right on the head in a lot of ways. Gonna take control of my life and start living for myself more.
Don’t deny, delay…best emotional response.
Stoicism
I'm nice until I'm pushed into a corner that I don't want to be in. Then I get mean and fight my way out of it.
I never felt I had a partner, they always become a dependent, feeding on me emotionally.
Man.... hearing you read that felt like a punch to the gut. I’m such a nice guy, it was like I was hearing my autobiography.
I’ll most definitely be getting this book. Thank you for this, sir.
A lot of these are over generalizations. Part of the problem is when society changes and demonizes those who try to do the right thing, it becomes a survival of the fittest situation, which at one point, humanity rose above, but has clearly fallen below.
That's right, when civilisation and morality are taken out, people are no longer human but animals, and so the "strongest animal" wins, not the most righteous, constructive and benevolently disposed person.
It becomes all about the individual, about outward appearances, visible accomplishments, visible social status, person gain, dominance and control, instead of helping society as a whole and people in general.
"Might is right" (Satanic principle) instead of Love and charity (Christian principle).
Women have been programmed by the social engineers to go for powerful men regardless of character, and not men of good character, regardless of power.
The theory of evolution itself is a scientific fraud serving a Satanic agenda to destroy the family, and thus society, and thus humanity, by destroying good men.
Survival of the fittest = "might is right".
The Synagogue of Satan has been clamping down hard on society in these last days.
David the Maverick dont confuse being used by others and not daring to disagree with virtue. ... being generous, by all means, but self generosity is also important. also one needs a degree of cynicism with western women, who often lie.through their teeth , use nice guys and sleep with tough vin diesel types. girls from other cultures can be less robotic and have more heart.
Yup, that's me! I spent my entire life blending into the background I barely left a footprint in my past.
Been there Bro but you can make your mark here in the now.
Lycans World
your footprints there, friend.
don't lie to yourself.
Well now you know. I hope you walk over all your fears as soon as possible!
thank you so much for this post- I could only watch it partially last night and could not sleep because everything you shared from the book seemed to pierce through my soul. I finished the video and ordered the book. I feel like I wasted so much of my life being someone who I really am not in order not to cause conflict, not to be a burden, not to be hard and cruel. So glad the algorithm. I hear to improve myself as a person, as a man, as who I really am.
I’m going to leave this here and call it a day.
“The meek and humble shall inherit the earth.”
You might want to look up the definition of meek for when it was written in the bible. It's exactly the opposite of what it means today. That's why that particular passage is so misunderstood & also why the bible is misconstrued so often.
Amen the Bible is always right
In the Bible that passage "meek"
means "teachable and patient under suffering"
gotta remember the Bible wasnt written in English to begin with, so there's other words used in different languages you can use to cross reference as to interpret a more concise context or meaning. 😅
The more you say yes, the more they will take from you and the more they will disrespect you. Sad, but true.
Guns N Roses said: Niceboys dont play rock n roll...
Former NiceGuy here. Went to work today told my boss I'm not her personal assistant when she asked me to get her a coffee, but I'd show her how to make and get her own coffee like an adult. Then she doubled down and asked me to print off her emails so again I said you know what I'll teach you how to print your own emails. Came back to my desk to find a box and she said I hired you to be my assistant so pack your stuff up and go but since we're no longer co-workers call me because this new badboy turns me on. So I no longer have my job but my former manager is my new girl and she works all day while I stay at home playing video games. That's what being a Former Nice Guy is all about thanks for the advice!
LMAO! I bet you're still nice but just smarter....good 4 u man!
Women walk all over Nice guys
Nice guys don’t finish last. They get run over and left for dead.
Women or men, it doesn't matter. You can't have interpersonal relationships of any meaning and value if you don't know your standards, purpose, and boundaries.
Son of a single mother. I was raised to keep quiet and my needs aren’t really a thing. Worry about helping others and being kind. Some aspects were admirable in theory but this mindset definitely put me behind the 8 ball once I entered adulthood.
I’ve had to learn to break so many old “good little boy” habits. Now I’m scene as an asshole, narcissistic bad boy; for conducting myself as an actual man.. it’s such a shame, the mistake moms make raising boys, and usually dad is too whipped, too tired or just too damn beta to be bothered with interfering. Men, DO NOT LET YOUR WOMAN RUN THE SHOW, you’re doing your little boy a huge disservice. Wake up and lead.
Yep I can relate
Also, Dads can be mostly absent
So, I use to be a nice guy and I attracted many women strangely but I found that the women always had a bad attitude with me and became more difficult the nicer I became! After a few ruined relationships I found the 'right way' to be and my life changed completely! I took time out from relationships and focused on myself in one year I achieved so many things and improved and became much more valuable as a person! The secret in my view is , take time to learn yourself and who you are and what you want in a partner and in life in general. Now , I tell everyone what I really think good or bad , I tell beautiful women the truth if they have an attitude problem and I don't care if they like it or not! I disqualify women that do mot fit in with what I'm looking for politely ,no hard feelings! Now , I have women chasing me and I never thought this would be the case lol
You should be allowed to be yourself and if they don't like it they can lump it!
@@bonk352 exactly 💯 👏
IT'S ALWAYS BEEN MY WEAKNESS THAT I THINK ABOUT THE WELFARE OF OTHERS MORE THAN MYSELF, LOVE OTHERS GENUINELY AND PUT PEOPLE FIRST ESPECIALLY WHEN I SEE OTHERS WITH URGENT NEED, IT'S DIFFICULT FOR ME TO SAY NO, IF I CAN'T HELP BUT THEY END UP DISAPPOINTING ME. FEEL SYMPATHY, EMPATHY SO EASILY UNTIL I FIND OUT THAT AM BEING MANIPULATED THEN I STAND FIRM. NOW AM LEARNING TO GIVE ATTENTION TO MYSELF AND TO BUILD MYSELF FIRST BEFORE OTHERS. PEOPLE WOULD ALWAYS WANT TO STEP ON OTHERS HEAD TO MAKE ADVANCEMENT IN LIFE.
I don't feel anything anymore
hahaha
Lmao I'm dead
There is truth to this. It’s not easy to always do , but I can confirm with my experience , I’ve never gotten laid more than when I’ve been distant ,cold , and unavailable to women. My conclusion is that they like a chase/challenge. Completely baffling to me. Not saying be a jerk , but as though I couldnt care less if I was with them or not. It works guys
5:15 pretty much describes fake nice guys. And here lies the real issue. Genuinely nice guys are misunderstood by most woman and some men who mistake them as the fake ones, but for them the fake ones are the only one that exists... When I'm being nice to someone who I believe deserves it, it's because I like to, not having a motive behind my actions.
If you are kinder to yourself more than other, you will know how to deal with others.
Most “nice guys” I see are too hard on themselves and others take advantage of it.
I'm a huge fan of Gorilla Mindset too. I've recently started the carnivore diet and am loving all your content. Thank you for the wisdom and nuance. Coming from a recovering former 'nice guy'.
You nailed it!! I know the difference between a nice guy and a good person.
The most dangerous people on earth are nice people who are taken the red pil. Believe me when i say....heard a woman once..and she said...."i went back to the nice guy so i i can fix something of him...i had really a big problem this time which could cost my life...the nice guy said....what do you expect from me? The way he looked at me...i swear a devil was looking at me"
You cant write tho
omg.. u dont know how many comments and inboxes and replies i get daily from Red Pill community about me being shipped off to the middle east to get beat and raped so id remember just how good i had it with them.. xb
im pretty promiscuous myself... right.. not ashamed of it..
butt lots of the Red Pill guys... especially among the mgtow/MRA groups... they will condemn me for my promiscuity call me a slut... whore.. u name it.. then under the same breath will advocate to each other "pumping and dumping" which literally is them engaging in promiscuous casual sex with women.. which again is the same activity(casual sex) they just thrashed women for.. 🤔
they are so toxic and hostile they blatantly disregard that double standard and many others... they are extremely vindictive to the point they will do and say anything.. distorting and twisting things... what ever is necessary to make all women look bad so they can be the victims and justify their hypocritical actions.. they are literally polar counter extreme to feminist extremist...
one side cries ALL MEN and the other side cries ALL WOMEN...
@@InanisNihil well if youre not in a relationship then its whatever floats yer boat. If you are in one though and screwing around its pretty messed up and helps create an endless, toxic, cycle of untrusting HUMANS who feel like everyone does that therefor they had better beat the other to it haha. Unless of course, its a concurrent open relationship. Just my opinion on the way MANY, NOT ALL of the world's human interactions seem to go...
Also what are "red pill guys"?
People who have come to believe the world is corrupt and the illuminati type control it? Or is it like all women are secretly cheaters sorta thing? Honest question
@@sdmfbastard
if u make and agreement with someone... it should be honored.. so if ur monogamous and u get into a relationship with another monogamous person then yes u should not cheat... i agree...
butt remember there are poly amorous people around too.. in fact there are many monogamous people that have and or do display poly amorous traits as well...
the MAJOR difference between Monogamous and poly amorous people is how they view love and sex...
poly amorous people are realistic.. they separate the two.. love and sex are not the same...
the fact is u can sex with someone u dont love... love someone u dont sex... and love someone u have sex with.. sex someone u love.. lol
monogamous people what both in one... sex and love start to have blurred lines....most monogamous people before they got married.. in action/practice contradicted their own values.. they engaged in non monogamous casual sex.. most of them do it... love and sex had no connection when they were doing it yet still held that standard as if it does towards other people.. BUTT then they get married and apply made up shit and fuse the two together... no offense... people repress their natural non inherently bad sexual nature... people end up cheating or feeling "caged"
men say it all the time to other men "once u get married ur life is over" or things similar to that... we heard and hear stuff like this all the time... its not said for no reason.... lol
as a poly person myself.. and others i know of... the biggest issues to our own relationship come not from us.. butt from monogamous people.. the shame.. the judgement... the hate... own families looking down on them...
this is the number one reason why poly amorous relationships come to an end... monogamous people...
out idea of love is just far more expansive and broader.. just due to the nature of our lifestyle we're more open and sexually educated/responsible.. it just comes with what we do.. they dont go around shaming and condemning people the way monogamous people do..
so that "cycle of untrusting" will come from monogamous people not poly people..
as for red pill guys - once delusional who via the internet became "woke" to some "super secret knowledge" that everyone else lacked so they now have to "bible thump" their message to wake others up..!!!
i have not issue with the traits.. butt they ooz religious like fervor.. its literally a movement trying to get men to act and behave a certain way... its like a damn religion..
humans have always been bullshitting since they evolved.. aint nothing new here... if someone is just now "coming" to believe that... then i dont know what koolaid they been drinking this whole time to not have realized that naturally... 🤔
u wont find a single adult on earth regardless of belief and views that dont realize humans do shitty things... unless they have some kind of mental damage or defect that prevents them from said capabilities
all these "traits" these so called red pillers hold.. that shit aint new.. thats just natural shit tons of guys since humans walked upright have always been displaying...
today they acting like they discovered that shit.. 😂
@@kaya6940 proud to be a judgmental fuck riding on a high horse of self righteousness...?
Don’t be nice, be kind
or professional?
Bought the book immediately after watching this video. I’ll give you an update once I get a chance to read it. Thanks George.
Being very nice could be attributed to being so sensitive, hence; we develop this nice personality in order to avoid conflicts with other people as our sensitivity is so exhausting for us....
I think you’re on to something
I think you're onto something to. I think that highly sensitive persons (HSPs), as men, are more vulnerable to the whole nice guy thing ultimately because they are DIFFERENT to neurotypicals on the genetic level.
Neurotypicals may benefit from being "normal", but it's doesn't necessary mean they're always good people either. If everyone was truly nice, then being a nice guy would not be a sexual liability.
In short, we're screwed because we're living in a fallen world, where we can't always be "nice" because the people we're dealing with are not nice.
In other words, confrontation, to a degree, is necessary simply to get by in the social (and sexual) world, to protect ourselves from disrespect, neglect and abuse, no matter how subtle and insidious.
Us HSPs are just not inclined to stand up for ourselves as quickly and easily as neurotypicals do.
So perhaps this can make us not only nice guys, but also passive-aggressive as well, because of our chronic doormat syndrome aka chronic lack of assertiveness, which, when exploited by others, causes us emotional torment and frustration and pain.
Well said , we weren’t meant for this World 🌎. But you can learn to navigate through it. I did but it took years and you most definitely have to be 100% comfortable with yourself. Every little thing you have to embrace it and own it. That’s where the fun starts.
Totally agree cause once they say no all of the sudden they are the bad one or abusive but a so called bad boy it isn’t labelled the same way as far as I’m concerned niceness has its limits being respected vs taken advantage of it’s about balance
Nice guys are created by moms who fear masculinity.
Nice guys can unlearn unnatural behavior by being around manly men and taking a few hits!
It does seem to be a bunch of “men” raised by single moms who missed out on having positive male influences.
Wow you just described me, I’m honestly frightened when I hear put so bluntly and honestly. I’m working on myself now, getting the book and subscribed. Thank you
I saw this video, I felt attacked by the title, but I still clicked and liked it, im a nice guy xD
The secret to not being a nice guy or a Dbag is to be respectful to everyone BUT never allow anyone to disrespect you, or force you to put your needs aside for them.
Never be afraid to say no. Your needs and your time should be your #1 priority because if you don’t stand up for yourself someone out there will be the author of your life, and only YOU have your best interest for yourself, not others.
If someone disrespects you it’s best to just cut all contact with them. Don’t give in and fight, just leave. The best way to show how much self respect you have is to simply give them the cold shoulder and walk away. Forgive if you want but never let your guard down.
Hi im from The UAE its middle east country , I learned a lot from you, thank you
Say it's an Arabic country 😉
Saif ismail may i recommend the book by David deida " the way of the superior man". i found it very useful. also adventure sports...Mountain biking or sailing or whatever.
In Spain we have a say: "this is Canela en Rama" (This is Cinnamon in the Branch) to say something is absolutely amazing. So my dear Cosmic Ripped Uncle George, this advice is, once again, Canela en Rama.
The VORTEX METHOD! Where can I get the t-shirt???
Yeah where do we get one?!
I would order that shirt too!
All the bad guys end up broke .in prison. and unable to understand their limitations .
I am 23 and this vlog and ones like it have helped me tremendously. I am ordering this book very soon. As a man raised mostly by a woman I have had no way to articulate certain feelings I have had over the years. Please for the sake of every man who lacks masculine guidance in his life please don't stop making these videos. Being "Nice" was a cry for help but if I am being honest I just didn't want to be the "Bad" guy. What does that really mean though...? It means whatever Women view as bad. It's almost as though every man was somewhat "Bad," simply for existing or embracing his Masculinity. Why are men treated like we are defective Women? I am teaching myself to be a Man in every sense of the word but someone should have been teaching me this early on. We are different. Women have shaped my view of Men and myself. I am not happy with the result. The time for change is Now.
Love women. But never take their advice or try to please them.
Much success on your journey my friend , growing into the best version of yourself you want to be. It'll be tough but remember, sometimes the hardest part of any journey is realizing you are worth the trip.
Santiago World good on you. ignore the female supremacists and read David deida " the way of the superior man". date non western women a bit, or hang out with... eg south American. .. they are sweet and dont try to compete with men , unlike.a lot of the brainwashed robots with vaginas that are western women.
I read the book over a decade ago at 35yrs old.
It felt like someone kicked me in my emotional balls.
The book had described me to a "T."
Before then, I had no idea.
I have slowly grown and matured since that time.
The process continues.
No book will change you.
I used to be a nice guy , but then I took an arrow in the knee.
Not sure if George will get the Skyrim reference, but I did. :p
This gentleman used to be a barber. Now he's a self help guru.
Wrong. Talking out yo Azz again. Therapust for 27 yrs. Part time trade as barber, foo
Isn't a coincidence that the word "nice" before the 20th century was used to describe "a person of unsound mind" in other words, "a stupid person", a "docile idiot". The word "nice" evolved from the Latin word "nis-cere" with the "nis" prefix implying 'a negation or a negative state; empty and void.
"Cere" in the other hand means "wheat" as the result of harvesting and processing the fruits of labor, that's why we have the words "cere-al", but also "cere-brum" (latin for brain). The brain is the "bran" given to cattle and they also feed people with that thing disguise as "cereal" and true high pack nutrient "cere-al" is no longer available as it was for our ancestors.
"Nice to meet you", "so nice to see you", "what a nice guy". Knowing now such, how many words had devolve in time having a centuries old meaning, and now became an empty shell disguised as other but implying the same?
Deirien Dairuth It merely reflects society as a whole and where humanity is at. I can tell you that it’s not looking to well and it’s only going to get worse.
Got the book in January 2023. It answered questions I have had all along. Read it three times already and will still read it over again. Great book that changed my life for better.
Since when being an introvert is a negative trait? I mean...
It 100% is a negative trait. Team work and social systems keep us living comfortable lives. You don't get to be alone, and it's pathetic and weak to be afraid of social interaction. Don't come at me with some bull shit.. I lived 32 years of my life thinking I was an introvert. Nope, I was a little bitch. You have to leave your village and slay the dragon if you want greatness in your life... Jesus fucking Crist, it's philosophy 101.
Clark Fluegel Ok, team work doesn't have to to anything with being an introvert. Who said introverts are affraid of social interaction? They just do not enjoy it, but that doesn't mean they are affraid. You're saying you thought you were an introvert. Oh my God. People know that themselves at an early age. They don't asume. You're too aggressive, passive aggressive, having strong need to impose your opinion as the only one that is correct. So sad, but irritating as well. Who gave you right to judge me or anybody as such? You should work on your attitude. After all, I'm a decade older, which is totally irrelevant, because people don't change. Some are bitches for their entire life. You know who that might be, right?
It's a great thing to be introvert..I'm very introverted meaning I don't enjoy crowded places and I love being alone..but I am not shy at all..I even think I'm more confident than most extroverted I know..introvertes people don't need to interact with others to gain energy as it is for extroverts..our energy replenishes when we spend time alone or with other introverts..I even see the extroverts as being funny, always needing to be around others to feed off their energies..
Dany 42 My man, you just roasted him. Very well said !
@John Doe yeah that's all true. But I bet you they weren't little pussies about it. They choose to be introverted so they could focus on their purpose. Not because they get crippling social anxiety lol. So many people now a day's refuse to face their fear and just say they're introverted and being a loner.
Got the book. don't be a "nice guy". Couldn't agree more. Being a nice guy will make you miserable.
Introverts and loners are nice guys? LMAO Hahahhahha. All serial killers are loners and introverts, and they are very nice aren't they.
Bought the book a week ago and couldn't put it down, WOW what an eye opener! It has already changed my mindset and I feel things that seemed out of reach are attainable now. Been a "Nice Guy" all my life and certainly related to most everything in this book. Do yourself a favor, and the women in your life, and get this book. It's my manual now and I will refer back to it often if I fall back into my old lame ways.
Cheerz!
Be a kind person, but if you find someone is trying to step on you, let them know your boundaries. If they refuse you cut them off with no going back. 1 chance that's it. This is 2019 and that's how it has to be.
Have the courage to treat people with kindness and not be concerned with the results.
I am a nice guy I look like an idiot