As a man who went through this - it’s an absolute blessing. I would feel bad for the new guy, he will find over time there isn’t any value in a partner like this.
I feel bad for her husband also, but I think this is fixable. The grass is greener on the other side, but the grass is greener wherever we water it. It just looks greener on the other side.
If you ever find yourself about to destroy your life to fan some flame, just remember that your relationship with your spouse probably started out the same way. At one time, your heart quickened whenever he called and every touch sent a shiver up your spine. That is how virtually every marriage starts. It’s the launch sequence that gets your relationship off the ground. Eventually, if you allow it to happen, the fireworks mature into something better. Real love that has stood the test of time because it’s based on respect and commitment is very comfortable and sweet. If you dump your spouse to chase the flame and by some miracle it actually turns into a real relationship, just understand that the fireworks you’re feeling right now are on a countdown. That won’t continue, and by the time it dies down, you will have broken your husband’s heart, destroyed the lives of your children, and will probably end up alone anyway. The way this woman is cackling about setting fire to her life like a silly teenage girl doesn’t sound promising. Her poor husband is the victim here.
The giggling and the fact that she knows if she lit up the “Hot Now” sign he would show up feels much more like a prelude to action than addressing how to move forward and manage these feelings. If I were the husband and heard this call, I’d likely be out because I don’t hear any concern or regrets, she seems to be enjoying this way too much.
We don’t see each other and my husband is such a hard worker, working long hours supporting our family, so to show my appreciation I’m going to go have a fling… wow. This lady needs to grow up.
Right ! This is totally how she said it too ! I didn’t hear a single bad thing , not he is addicted to blah blah blah and doesn’t show me time or any of that , she just said he works hard and he is great .. this girl is so dumb if she cheats. Blowing up her life over someone who will turn out to not be perfect ! No one is
I find her to be disgustingly nonchalant about betraying her husband and destroying her children’s family and home life. Take responsibility for your urges and snap out of it. You won’t fix your marriage by running to another man and stop laughing about it as you talk about it. Your husband and kids deserve better.
That's what gets me...the children. For a "cute guy"? Unreal. She is worried she "won't be able to stop herself". What completely and total nonsense. Just DONT DO IT. Good lord.
I can totally understand finding someone attractive in a marriage, BUT DON'T validate feelings of having a crush. A crush is major different. She might even be past crush. Please just leave him. Or see this, my guy. She is probably going to do this. RUN!!!
It’s funny, I listen, I get triggered…. And then I realize the bliss of being single and not having to waste my life with someone like this. True peace.
Her playful attitude tells me she doesn't want to have an affair because of the consequences of what she may lose. Not because of wanting to fulfill her covenant of marriage by being faithful.
“My husband is great, and this guy seems great.” She’s gonna regret this if she loses her husband. A guy who is willing to sleep with another man’s wife is not “great”, no matter what he SEEMS to be.
She's rationalizing him being great, she's just physically attracted to him and wants to scratch that itch. If she goes through with it he won't want anything to do with her as she cheated on her husband. She will lose everything and she will find out single life as an older women is where she will end up. Her husband might want to think about this relationship. Men or women don't want to be with a cheater in a monogamous relationship.
I try so hard not to be too judgmental of people I don't personally know, but damn this woman just irritates me SO MUCH. The entitlement, the giggling, the whole attitude... yugh.
I think many married people become attracted to other people at one time or another… it’s how you act and what you do with that. She said herself that she was enjoying the fantasy of who he might be, etc…. A lot of the time, it’s the attention and the fact that a new person is looking again that gets people caught up. In the end, it’s best to keep yourself focused on your marriage and why you love your partner. This is how affairs happen if people get carried away.
I feel sorry for the husband. He works hard to provide for his wife and keeps himself in shape … all so that she can flirt with and fantasize about this other dude.
@@jh26pt2 that’s exactly what you made this call to be about in your comment. Thus I replied to your comment. Insecurity in people especially men is gross no way around it and if a man can’t handle the fact that his wife gf or whatever thinks another man or woman is attractive it speaks to that man’s inability to respect himself and respect his significant other as a person. She’s hasn’t acted in anything it’s all in her mind. Why would anyone try and fight with a fantasy? That’s like tryna box with God. It’s simply a waste of time and energy. Focus on what you can do better. That’s it that’s all
she literally said she's sick and tired of the daily routine of marriage and family life. She's not only gonna cheat, but if she were younger and beautiful, she'd be a flight risk. She would leave it all if there were a man who would adopt her.
Oh the life of this husband. Work super hard to build a life for your family and then your wife gets lonely because your not around so then she starts thinking about cheating and then you have to stop working out ( which is probably how you stay mentally healthy as well as physically) so that you can do even more work that she doesn't want to do so that she doesn't leave you and take half of everything you worked so hard for. Sounds like the dude shoukd have picked a better wife, .but i guess not everyone can be as blessed as me, thank you lord for what youve given me.
I wish more women would get their hormones checked by a specialist, not their regular doctor. These mid-life crisis thoughts are most of the time directly related to our hormones dropping in our mid 30’s-40’s. She is looking to feel like she used to and this is the first thing that came along and she’s probably been gaslighted by doctors and just told to lose weight. GET. YOUR. HORMONES. CHECKED. Life changing!
100% she's already emotionally cheating. This would damage the husband tremendously if she was transparent with him, but she's not. She's a selfish self absorbed woman child.
“I’m trying to stay faithful to my husband” That tells me what I need to know. You don’t have to “try” you are either a faithful person or you are not.
@@V31lCl0udListen very carefully to her. She has already made up her mind to cheat and has called Dr John to encourage her out of the action. The number of times she says to Dr John's questions or statements 'I did not think of that' tells you that she has already made up her mind to cheat and that she will think on what Dr John has said and see if it impacts her initial decision to cheat.
The fact that she KNOWS this other guy finds her attractive means they've had some sort of conversation about it, which to me is already being unfaithful... This very much seems like she's already having an emotional affair and I'm kind of surprise that was never mentioned. Hopefully she realizes this is *her problem and she needs to get her focus back on her marriage and family and move on from this fling and put in the work with the man she chose to live her forever with.
When I clicked, I wanted to appreciate the woman calling for admitting something hard. But to get away talk about another man. To have zero shame in your voice to the point of giggling and laughter talking about the idea of cheating on your devoted husband. Then you want to turn around and cry that he's at work a lot? She did a pretty good job of manipulating in this call. I wish John had been more harsh
I find many guys attractive I’m a straight guy very secure in his sexuality. Finding people attractive is very human feeling but when you start to find it very hard to not go to a hotel room it means that you have imagine and day dream every single situation and possibility with the other person.
Why is this so hard for people.... "it's so hard to not get the hotel room and have an affair"... No, it's bloody easy to not book a hotel, certainly easier to no book than it is to book.
Not that I'm condoning their actions... but they're sway by their emotions. I have ex-friends who cheated on their partners because they become infatuated easily, which then guides them to affairs. They definitely need a lot of self work because they expect others to complete them.
She is trifling for sure. The fact that she would even entertain the idea shows that her relationship isn't what she thinks it is. People who are committed and happy do NOT fantasize about other people, let alone an entire life with another person. Husband would be dodging a bullet to divorce this woman. She will act on her untoward urges sooner or later.
As a man married for 33 years, this call absolutely terrifies me because it could be my own. It's also why I have a spot picked out ahead of time in case I need to dump a body on short notice.
Divorced and married to the 2nd one 45 years, but I know that as a woman she has the option of destroying my life on a whim, I'm with you.I can see why men today are not getting married, it makes sense.
When John posited a description of how the husband possibly had let himself go and wasn't physically attractive anymore, or as attractive as the new guy, she said something like 'no, that's more me than him that's gotten less attractive.' Maybe she's the key to why there's no romance in their relationship. Maybe she needs to work on herself to make herself sexier or more attractive to her husband. Maybe he's being a faithful, caring, hard-working family man in spite of her letting herself go. She's all wrapped up in herself, and that makes a very small package!
@@BENR8108 Well, I'm a modern woman, and I accept and acknowledge that a woman can just as easily be the problem rather than the man. It would be foolish not to understand that the individual can be the root of the problem rather than the gender. But you're right...there are a lot of foolish people these days.
Starts off with “I’m trying to be faithful…..” Dr. Delony should have told her that her husband can probably do better than her. Heck, even staying single is WAY better than being married to someone like this.
Well that's stupid. What would be point of calling and having a discussion about something that already happened? Anyone that listens to him even for a bit knows that he is not going to recommend anything immoral. It's not like she was expecting him to say "sure, sleep with him!"
Right? She's just constantly finding ways to be alone with him and flirting with him and somehow knows with 100% certainly that this guy finds her attractive, wants her and would meet her at a hotel... Nah that's not crossing the line at all.
Feeling physical attraction to other people is normal. Voicing it to your husband/wife or acting on it in any way is wrong. I.E. opening or continuing communication with the person is wrong. Fantasizing about having a life with the other person is also very wrong. The grass always looks greener, and it rarely is. Entertaining those fantasies will lead to nothing but ruin. If I was this chick's husband, I would leave her. She is clearly not committed to her marriage and is not trustworthy.
Those are the calls that get clicks, so those are the calls they put through. It might not be representative of the real world, but it is representative of what viewers want.
She's already cheating -- she's talking about wanting to go get a hotel room with this guy she's flirting with. What a terrible person. I feel bad for the family she's debating on if she should destroy.
Operative word is "fantasy". Love is a drug and you are tripping! Cool your jets and go love your husband and family unit. Rent-a-grenade was a great analogy. An affair is great in the moment, but not usually long-term. Mid-life crisis comes to mind. Your family has value, a cute guy is a flash in the pan. Keep the family, skip the fantasy.
There’s a HUGE difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone. I’m happily newly married to my amazing and gorgeous wife, and find PLENTY of other women attractive. There’s not a cell in my body that is attracted TO anyone else. Ana De Armas and Margot Robbie are out of this world attractive, hell so are Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds. Finding others attractive is human nature and there’s nothing remotely wrong with it, being attracted to someone else is a whole different thing
Fantasies are easy. Blowing up your life over it is hard and a path full of regret. She knows this. Tap into your adulthood, and figure out why you're letting adolescent fervor claim an outsized role in your brain. He'll be less cute when he's leaving his underwear on the floor, not taking out the trash, chewing too loud... When you're not with him, it's easy to pretend it's all upside. It's not. To quote a terrible movie, beware the 80/20 rule. A good marriage can only deliver 80% of what you want in life (no one can be 100% for you), and then you meet 20% and it seems like the missing piece in your life. Next thing you know, you've traded 80% for 20%, and it sucks. Redirect your thoughts to imaging the "cute" guy burping at the dinner table and being annoying. Kill the fantasy.
What would it feel like to have a life with him. She is very immature! I can’t believe this woman wants a fling while married. Unreal. I can’t believe her husband has to deal with this ! She would be calling John and telling him how attracted she is to this OTHER guy. While In a relationship with this guy she’s so attracted to NOW. That’s why only mature people can be married or in a serious relationship.
Also, the other guy is not a good guy. He knows what he's doing and willing to sleep with a married woman not caring about the consequences of destroying a family.
Oh she is going to cheat, she enjoyed this conversation WAY too much. Giggling & laughing the entire time, this is cute & funny to her. She loves thinking about this other guy & has completely immersed herself in the fantasy.
I've been honest about being attracted to other people in my life in recent relationships in my life and it did not go well. For the record, I have never cheated on any partner I've ever been with, but I've been cheated on but all 3 of my long term relationships. All lasted about 3 years
Yeah she thinks grass is greener on the other side. She needs to talk to her husband about how she feels like a plain Jane. Get a feel for where he is too 14 years into marriage!
Hated this chick in the beginning then finished through the episode and enjoyed her vulnerability and honesty and willingness to work through this and accept her part taking accountability
Do this and you will be your own worst enemy. And you will never forgive yourself. I hope you don’t go through with it. Your husband deserves the respect of you at least leaving him so you can go do what you want.
The poor selfish judgement she has. The poor children always pay the price. If she chooses the fling. Not not put in the effort to make new magic in this marriage. to the man that fell in love with her the same way along time ago
I wonder if she’s ACTUALLY attracted to her husband. I think a lot of people “panic” and end up settling for people they normally wouldn’t even keep dating. This is one of the reasons why one of the first things you want to find out in the first few dates is whether you are BOTH into each other and each other’s “type”. Because even if you end up married, they will still want their “type”. I feel sorry for her husband, though.
She will, probably, not be respected by him for abandoning her family. She doesn´t know how he´s gonna behave or treat her latter. Cuteness is not equal love, respect or capacity for keeping a relationship in a long term.
At the time she was getting married she wasn’t attracted to the other guy. Attractions to other people happen… both male and female….it’s unreasonable to assume that married people never find anyone else attractive. It’s acting on it and being impulsive that has terrible consequences.
It's normal to feel attracted to someone else besides your partner. It's the choices you make when you interact with this person is what matters. I think it's normal that partners tend to take eachother for granted once they've been together for a longer period of time and you live with them within the mundane. For me... I don't think I've ever been attracted to another person (beyond just looking at someone and thinking "that person is physically nice looking". But I've never once thought "this person is worth ruining what I've built with my core person". Johns spot on. Acknowledge the truth (and totally normal feelings of attraction). Don't feel guilty over finding someone attractive. Just acknowledge it ... and make changes it the way you interact with this person, as well as acknowledge maybe the desire for some spice and fire within your marriage. Just put the focus on yourself and your marriage, off this other person.
This show is becoming bothersome for me not because of John he is fantastic i watch allot of his videos listen to his podcasts and have his book But the mass of people putting themselves in situations like this is extremely disappointing
I don’t understand why you would get married. Just go be with that man and leave your husband and being treacherous out of it. Where was this man before you married your husband? She’s going to regret it.
I feel for this woman Her husband has checked out and not meeting her needs over YEARS People are judging this woman without knowing all the details of her husbands part in this marriage. She is SO courageous being honest. Don’t pick up stones unless your life is perfect
As much I love John and whenever a person calls with a same problem he forgets to say the following big point: You go for this other person, you get divorced or break up the relationship (depends on situation). Then you start something new with the new person. Whats the chance that couple years down the road you wont end in the same exact situation youre currently in? Another good looking "Jon Doe" will come and you want a piece of him. This other person does not know you. Neither you know them. You just spend a fraction of the day with them acting like whoever you wanna be, both wearing a mask and showing as your best selves. You'll get used to everything novel this person brings in your life. The way they behave, move, talk, laugh, their bad and good sides, EVERYTHING. Just like you got used to everything your partner has and is. This feeling alive thing and attraction is an escape from the difficult relationship repairing conversations that need to take place. When you are attracted to another person doesnt mean you gotta act to it. You wanting to act to it means you gotta change something in your relationship and breaking up should be your last option.
She’s gonna end up cheating on her husband. All that advice went in one ear and out the other. I wish John would have been more stern with her and told her to stop laughing because what she wants to do is no laughing matter. She’s ready to blow up her and her children’s world over some stupid crush.
Kudos to her for recognizing that this guy is the proxy of her loneliness during their busy season, and I think this has a chance of making it work if she can keep those boundaries and they can adjust to quell some of those desires in this busy time before it's the down season where they can make that marriage stronger than ever
My husband is in healthcare. Half of his male patients over 40 have some kind of ED, and an alarming amount of both sexes have VD. Cheating isn't worth the risk for anyone.
I feel bad for her husband
Yep married to a jezebel who does not live him
She's talking like her marriage is just like a job that she can easily shift to another one. Why marry when be this non serious.
Yeah she’s horrible. Hope he finds someone who actually cares about him
As a man who went through this - it’s an absolute blessing. I would feel bad for the new guy, he will find over time there isn’t any value in a partner like this.
I feel bad for her husband also, but I think this is fixable.
The grass is greener on the other side, but the grass is greener wherever we water it. It just looks greener on the other side.
She doesn't seem to take this seriously at all
She sounds childish pinning a lot on some lust.
Her laughing was seriously making me 😡
This chick is going to ruin her relationship with her husband, kids, family, herself, etc for a one night stand
Don’t be surprised, this is MOST modern women.
@@danielyoung7458you’re hanging around the wrong women if you believe that’s most women.
Absolutely despicable
@@danielyoung7458I'm not part of "modern women"
@@danielyoung7458 And many old-fashioned and modern men.
Being single ain't so bad
The best decision!
The path of kings
😂😂😂
If you ever find yourself about to destroy your life to fan some flame, just remember that your relationship with your spouse probably started out the same way. At one time, your heart quickened whenever he called and every touch sent a shiver up your spine. That is how virtually every marriage starts. It’s the launch sequence that gets your relationship off the ground. Eventually, if you allow it to happen, the fireworks mature into something better. Real love that has stood the test of time because it’s based on respect and commitment is very comfortable and sweet. If you dump your spouse to chase the flame and by some miracle it actually turns into a real relationship, just understand that the fireworks you’re feeling right now are on a countdown. That won’t continue, and by the time it dies down, you will have broken your husband’s heart, destroyed the lives of your children, and will probably end up alone anyway. The way this woman is cackling about setting fire to her life like a silly teenage girl doesn’t sound promising. Her poor husband is the victim here.
Bingo
All good in theory, but more than half of all marriages end in divorce so clearly it doesn’t work more than it does work.
100% ✅️
Couldn't have said it better myself 💯
It’s completely normal to find other people attractive. But starting off with “I’m trying to stay faithful” indicates bad intentions
Yeah. Plus her laughing and sounding REALLY happy every time she talks about this guy
Hope her man hears this and does a pre-emptive strike with divorce papers.
The giggling and the fact that she knows if she lit up the “Hot Now” sign he would show up feels much more like a prelude to action than addressing how to move forward and manage these feelings. If I were the husband and heard this call, I’d likely be out because I don’t hear any concern or regrets, she seems to be enjoying this way too much.
I think she already did it.
fully agree! I felt sick for the husband, listening to her lack of empathy
We don’t see each other and my husband is such a hard worker, working long hours supporting our family, so to show my appreciation I’m going to go have a fling… wow. This lady needs to grow up.
Right ! This is totally how she said it too ! I didn’t hear a single bad thing , not he is addicted to blah blah blah and doesn’t show me time or any of that , she just said he works hard and he is great .. this girl is so dumb if she cheats. Blowing up her life over someone who will turn out to not be perfect ! No one is
@ Exactly! And the way she giggled and laughed over it all.
I find her to be disgustingly nonchalant about betraying her husband and destroying her children’s family and home life. Take responsibility for your urges and snap out of it. You won’t fix your marriage by running to another man and stop laughing about it as you talk about it. Your husband and kids deserve better.
That's what gets me...the children. For a "cute guy"? Unreal. She is worried she "won't be able to stop herself". What completely and total nonsense. Just DONT DO IT. Good lord.
not her pouring salt in wound by saying "he's so cute" talking about another man. gross
Yup. She’s enjoying this. Instead of putting energy into her relationship.
Or when she mentioned him looking like a good kisser... Bro what? I thought you were calling in to save your marriage not gush about another man.
People would rather cheat than have these conversations and everyone knows it.
I can totally understand finding someone attractive in a marriage, BUT DON'T validate feelings of having a crush. A crush is major different. She might even be past crush. Please just leave him. Or see this, my guy. She is probably going to do this. RUN!!!
How old did they say she was? She's sounding like a child who doesn't want to be an adult.
A crush is just the absence of information. Credit to @ashleyduckworthyt3224 for this statement because it’s so true.
Crushes are just fantasies.
It’s funny, I listen, I get triggered…. And then I realize the bliss of being single and not having to waste my life with someone like this. True peace.
Because no one likes you. Get real.
Her playful attitude tells me she doesn't want to have an affair because of the consequences of what she may lose. Not because of wanting to fulfill her covenant of marriage by being faithful.
Lol..ok
She’s already lost the main battle… the battle ground in her heart.
“My husband is great, and this guy seems great.” She’s gonna regret this if she loses her husband. A guy who is willing to sleep with another man’s wife is not “great”, no matter what he SEEMS to be.
She's rationalizing him being great, she's just physically attracted to him and wants to scratch that itch. If she goes through with it he won't want anything to do with her as she cheated on her husband. She will lose everything and she will find out single life as an older women is where she will end up. Her husband might want to think about this relationship. Men or women don't want to be with a cheater in a monogamous relationship.
I try so hard not to be too judgmental of people I don't personally know, but damn this woman just irritates me SO MUCH. The entitlement, the giggling, the whole attitude... yugh.
I think many married people become attracted to other people at one time or another… it’s how you act and what you do with that. She said herself that she was enjoying the fantasy of who he might be, etc…. A lot of the time, it’s the attention and the fact that a new person is looking again that gets people caught up. In the end, it’s best to keep yourself focused on your marriage and why you love your partner. This is how affairs happen if people get carried away.
she's laughing about it and fantasizing ON AIR about how this person would be in bed. She will cheat if she hasn't already.
Lol..she's definitely gonna cheat! Wake up!
Self control is a gift of the Holy Spirit. She needs God.
only way
Imagine if this call were a married man saying this about another woman…
Nobody would bat an eye
This happens all the time on this show and finally it's a woman and you're crying.
Everybody would be saying "that's normal. Men are visual creatures. We can't help who we're attracted to" 😒
I'd be calling that dude a creep lol
@theflower a creep is someone with a crush on their teenage kids friend. This other thing is normal.
Imagine her husband finds this video and recognizes her name, voice, and city😬
I feel sorry for the husband. He works hard to provide for his wife and keeps himself in shape … all so that she can flirt with and fantasize about this other dude.
If the husband is insecure about his wife thinking another man might look better than him then maybe he’s the problem.
@@stevendavis5095 That wasn't the issue in this call, but thank you for that strawman.
@@jh26pt2 that’s exactly what you made this call to be about in your comment. Thus I replied to your comment. Insecurity in people especially men is gross no way around it and if a man can’t handle the fact that his wife gf or whatever thinks another man or woman is attractive it speaks to that man’s inability to respect himself and respect his significant other as a person. She’s hasn’t acted in anything it’s all in her mind. Why would anyone try and fight with a fantasy? That’s like tryna box with God. It’s simply a waste of time and energy. Focus on what you can do better. That’s it that’s all
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@@stevendavis5095I honestly don't think people think before they type stuff. Look at your response 🤦♂️
She is gonna cheat lol
100%
And her husband probably knows it. Disgusting.
she literally said she's sick and tired of the daily routine of marriage and family life. She's not only gonna cheat, but if she were younger and beautiful, she'd be a flight risk. She would leave it all if there were a man who would adopt her.
Oh the life of this husband. Work super hard to build a life for your family and then your wife gets lonely because your not around so then she starts thinking about cheating and then you have to stop working out ( which is probably how you stay mentally healthy as well as physically) so that you can do even more work that she doesn't want to do so that she doesn't leave you and take half of everything you worked so hard for.
Sounds like the dude shoukd have picked a better wife, .but i guess not everyone can be as blessed as me, thank you lord for what youve given me.
I wish more women would get their hormones checked by a specialist, not their regular doctor. These mid-life crisis thoughts are most of the time directly related to our hormones dropping in our mid 30’s-40’s. She is looking to feel like she used to and this is the first thing that came along and she’s probably been gaslighted by doctors and just told to lose weight. GET. YOUR. HORMONES. CHECKED. Life changing!
She's already cheated
100% she's already emotionally cheating. This would damage the husband tremendously if she was transparent with him, but she's not. She's a selfish self absorbed woman child.
“I’m trying to stay faithful to my husband”
That tells me what I need to know. You don’t have to “try” you are either a faithful person or you are not.
Sometimes I can’t take these callers and have to stop listening
Talk about already committing adultery in your heart…people need Yeshua and to start keeping Gods commandments again.
Amen! She’s laughing and giggling and I’m disgusted with this woman.
Jesus’s wife was a hooker. Stop it lmao
This woman is deplorable…seems like she’s asking for permission to cheat 😒
Wrong. She’s calling for help! You dolt.
@@V31lCl0udno she didn’t she is calling for permission, validation , she is going to cheat no matter what is said today
@@V31lCl0udshe called to have her feelings validated and to be told she’s not crazy. She doesn’t want help.
She’s nasty
@@V31lCl0udListen very carefully to her. She has already made up her mind to cheat and has called Dr John to encourage her out of the action. The number of times she says to Dr John's questions or statements 'I did not think of that' tells you that she has already made up her mind to cheat and that she will think on what Dr John has said and see if it impacts her initial decision to cheat.
Wow, everyone contemplating an affair should listen to this episode!
If I heard this from my wife I would not be able to handle it ☠️
The fact that she KNOWS this other guy finds her attractive means they've had some sort of conversation about it, which to me is already being unfaithful... This very much seems like she's already having an emotional affair and I'm kind of surprise that was never mentioned. Hopefully she realizes this is *her problem and she needs to get her focus back on her marriage and family and move on from this fling and put in the work with the man she chose to live her forever with.
When I clicked, I wanted to appreciate the woman calling for admitting something hard.
But to get away talk about another man. To have zero shame in your voice to the point of giggling and laughter talking about the idea of cheating on your devoted husband.
Then you want to turn around and cry that he's at work a lot? She did a pretty good job of manipulating in this call.
I wish John had been more harsh
I find many guys attractive I’m a straight guy very secure in his sexuality. Finding people attractive is very human feeling but when you start to find it very hard to not go to a hotel room it means that you have imagine and day dream every single situation and possibility with the other person.
Why is this so hard for people.... "it's so hard to not get the hotel room and have an affair"... No, it's bloody easy to not book a hotel, certainly easier to no book than it is to book.
Not that I'm condoning their actions... but they're sway by their emotions. I have ex-friends who cheated on their partners because they become infatuated easily, which then guides them to affairs. They definitely need a lot of self work because they expect others to complete them.
Righhhttt! Its Also not easy to set up a time to meet at the hotel and figure out when it would be possible to "hook up"...this call blew my mind
Us men have emotions too. It's a fortune thing that men do not act out intrusive thoughts, or it would be a more dangerous world.
This husband is in for a brutal divorce.
She obviously does not care AT ALL.
Only concerned about how she’s going to look to everyone else.
I feel bad for her children and her husband some people are very selfish
People are so selfish. It never ceases to amaze me.
She is trifling for sure. The fact that she would even entertain the idea shows that her relationship isn't what she thinks it is. People who are committed and happy do NOT fantasize about other people, let alone an entire life with another person. Husband would be dodging a bullet to divorce this woman. She will act on her untoward urges sooner or later.
As a man married for 33 years, this call absolutely terrifies me because it could be my own. It's also why I have a spot picked out ahead of time in case I need to dump a body on short notice.
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Divorced and married to the 2nd one 45 years, but I know that as a woman she has the option of destroying my life on a whim, I'm with you.I can see why men today are not getting married, it makes sense.
Next, she will say, I'd like to go out with him, just once. It will spice up our marriage...
Thot behavior
Yep
Pump and dump.
Is that a word just for women?
@ nope
She belongs to the streets
When John posited a description of how the husband possibly had let himself go and wasn't physically attractive anymore, or as attractive as the new guy, she said something like 'no, that's more me than him that's gotten less attractive.' Maybe she's the key to why there's no romance in their relationship. Maybe she needs to work on herself to make herself sexier or more attractive to her husband. Maybe he's being a faithful, caring, hard-working family man in spite of her letting herself go. She's all wrapped up in herself, and that makes a very small package!
Convincing a woman that she’s maybe the problem ??? That’s accountability and what modern woman accepts that?
@@BENR8108 Well, I'm a modern woman, and I accept and acknowledge that a woman can just as easily be the problem rather than the man.
It would be foolish not to understand that the individual can be the root of the problem rather than the gender. But you're right...there are a lot of foolish people these days.
Starts off with “I’m trying to be faithful…..”
Dr. Delony should have told her that her husband can probably do better than her. Heck, even staying single is WAY better than being married to someone like this.
I came for the comments!
Yeah me too! and they are pretty Judgemental the people....nobody is perfect but all these people commenting seem to be....
She’s already smashed this dude
I think you are right.
That's what I was about to comment but didnt want to be cynical. And I would have added the word "probably"
@ she 100 percent already didn’t dirt ….( my opinion) she’s just looking for justification.
Well that's stupid. What would be point of calling and having a discussion about something that already happened? Anyone that listens to him even for a bit knows that he is not going to recommend anything immoral. It's not like she was expecting him to say "sure, sleep with him!"
"I haven't crossed the line..." 😅😅 Ah, o.k.
Right? She's just constantly finding ways to be alone with him and flirting with him and somehow knows with 100% certainly that this guy finds her attractive, wants her and would meet her at a hotel... Nah that's not crossing the line at all.
This guy is genuinely great at what he does. Life is really hard
Feeling physical attraction to other people is normal. Voicing it to your husband/wife or acting on it in any way is wrong. I.E. opening or continuing communication with the person is wrong. Fantasizing about having a life with the other person is also very wrong. The grass always looks greener, and it rarely is. Entertaining those fantasies will lead to nothing but ruin. If I was this chick's husband, I would leave her. She is clearly not committed to her marriage and is not trustworthy.
80-90% of the time on these shows it seems women have a hard time with loyalty.
Those are the calls that get clicks, so those are the calls they put through. It might not be representative of the real world, but it is representative of what viewers want.
The fantasy is just that, a fantasy. The handsome fella is human just like the hubby.
If she was married to him she would be contemplating how hot some other guy is lol. She’s immature and can’t be trusted.
She's already cheating -- she's talking about wanting to go get a hotel room with this guy she's flirting with. What a terrible person. I feel bad for the family she's debating on if she should destroy.
Operative word is "fantasy". Love is a drug and you are tripping! Cool your jets and go love your husband and family unit. Rent-a-grenade was a great analogy. An affair is great in the moment, but not usually long-term. Mid-life crisis comes to mind. Your family has value, a cute guy is a flash in the pan. Keep the family, skip the fantasy.
Starting with “I’m trying now to cheat on my husband” tells me everything I need to know 😭
Oh she think it’s a game
John is wonderful. Best adviser for people.
John is a simp
Hmm?idk about that
There’s a HUGE difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone. I’m happily newly married to my amazing and gorgeous wife, and find PLENTY of other women attractive. There’s not a cell in my body that is attracted TO anyone else. Ana De Armas and Margot Robbie are out of this world attractive, hell so are Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds. Finding others attractive is human nature and there’s nothing remotely wrong with it, being attracted to someone else is a whole different thing
Fantasies are easy. Blowing up your life over it is hard and a path full of regret. She knows this. Tap into your adulthood, and figure out why you're letting adolescent fervor claim an outsized role in your brain. He'll be less cute when he's leaving his underwear on the floor, not taking out the trash, chewing too loud... When you're not with him, it's easy to pretend it's all upside. It's not. To quote a terrible movie, beware the 80/20 rule. A good marriage can only deliver 80% of what you want in life (no one can be 100% for you), and then you meet 20% and it seems like the missing piece in your life. Next thing you know, you've traded 80% for 20%, and it sucks. Redirect your thoughts to imaging the "cute" guy burping at the dinner table and being annoying. Kill the fantasy.
What would it feel like to have a life with him.
She is very immature! I can’t believe this woman wants a fling while married. Unreal. I can’t believe her husband has to deal with this !
She would be calling John and telling him how attracted she is to this OTHER guy. While In a relationship with this guy she’s so attracted to NOW. That’s why only mature people can be married or in a serious relationship.
Also, the other guy is not a good guy. He knows what he's doing and willing to sleep with a married woman not caring about the consequences of destroying a family.
Misleading title. She’s literally planning out how to initiate an affair.
Oh she is going to cheat, she enjoyed this conversation WAY too much. Giggling & laughing the entire time, this is cute & funny to her. She loves thinking about this other guy & has completely immersed herself in the fantasy.
I've been honest about being attracted to other people in my life in recent relationships in my life and it did not go well. For the record, I have never cheated on any partner I've ever been with, but I've been cheated on but all 3 of my long term relationships. All lasted about 3 years
She’s for sure going to still cheat
She's already crossed the line
Yeah she thinks grass is greener on the other side. She needs to talk to her husband about how she feels like a plain Jane. Get a feel for where he is too 14 years into marriage!
Wow! She is laughing and sounds WAY too happy about this other guy. I’d say “Red flag!” except she’s more like a field full of red flags!
Recognizing that someone is attractive is not wrong. Fantasizing is very wrong.
she's absolutely still going to cheat.
Hated this chick in the beginning then finished through the episode and enjoyed her vulnerability and honesty and willingness to work through this and accept her part taking accountability
Catching an attraction spark can happen to anyone.
BUT *don't fuel the fire, extinguish it*
Or you'll burn the whole house down.
When she said "Yes" at 2:26 i went "Oh Sh!t!" 😂😂
Do this and you will be your own worst enemy. And you will never forgive yourself. I hope you don’t go through with it. Your husband deserves the respect of you at least leaving him so you can go do what you want.
The poor selfish judgement she has. The poor children always pay the price. If she chooses the fling. Not not put in the effort to make new magic in this marriage. to the man that fell in love with her the same way along time ago
I wonder if she’s ACTUALLY attracted to her husband. I think a lot of people “panic” and end up settling for people they normally wouldn’t even keep dating. This is one of the reasons why one of the first things you want to find out in the first few dates is whether you are BOTH into each other and each other’s “type”. Because even if you end up married, they will still want their “type”.
I feel sorry for her husband, though.
Why get married if you want someone else
Because the heart is wicked and emotions are liars
You need to watch this again and actually listen this time.
She will, probably, not be respected by him for abandoning her family. She doesn´t know how he´s gonna behave or treat her latter. Cuteness is not equal love, respect or capacity for keeping a relationship in a long term.
At the time she was getting married she wasn’t attracted to the other guy. Attractions to other people happen… both male and female….it’s unreasonable to assume that married people never find anyone else attractive. It’s acting on it and being impulsive that has terrible consequences.
She didn’t want someone else at the point she got married tommy 🙄
It's normal to feel attracted to someone else besides your partner. It's the choices you make when you interact with this person is what matters.
I think it's normal that partners tend to take eachother for granted once they've been together for a longer period of time and you live with them within the mundane.
For me... I don't think I've ever been attracted to another person (beyond just looking at someone and thinking "that person is physically nice looking". But I've never once thought "this person is worth ruining what I've built with my core person".
Johns spot on. Acknowledge the truth (and totally normal feelings of attraction). Don't feel guilty over finding someone attractive. Just acknowledge it ... and make changes it the way you interact with this person, as well as acknowledge maybe the desire for some spice and fire within your marriage. Just put the focus on yourself and your marriage, off this other person.
This show is becoming bothersome for me not because of John he is fantastic i watch allot of his videos listen to his podcasts and have his book
But the mass of people putting themselves in situations like this is extremely disappointing
Guys, chill. John is doing his job trying to get to the root and help her. This no place for bitter judgement, thank you.
LOL 😂😂
Be quite please 😊
This woman is totally ignorant to what life, marriage, love, and commitment even are.
I don’t understand why you would get married. Just go be with that man and leave your husband and being treacherous out of it. Where was this man before you married your husband? She’s going to regret it.
Because she is a selfish evil witch
I feel for this woman
Her husband has checked out and not meeting her needs over YEARS
People are judging this woman without knowing all the details of her husbands part in this marriage. She is SO courageous being honest. Don’t pick up stones unless your life is perfect
She going to cheat 😢
100%. She thinks she's in a romance novel.
She already mentioned a hotel card. 😮
Yup. Or she already did it
This chick already has her mind made up to cheat and will cheat once this guy makes a move or if she and her husband get into an arguement
As much I love John and whenever a person calls with a same problem he forgets to say the following big point:
You go for this other person, you get divorced or break up the relationship (depends on situation). Then you start something new with the new person. Whats the chance that couple years down the road you wont end in the same exact situation youre currently in?
Another good looking "Jon Doe" will come and you want a piece of him.
This other person does not know you. Neither you know them. You just spend a fraction of the day with them acting like whoever you wanna be, both wearing a mask and showing as your best selves.
You'll get used to everything novel this person brings in your life. The way they behave, move, talk, laugh, their bad and good sides, EVERYTHING. Just like you got used to everything your partner has and is.
This feeling alive thing and attraction is an escape from the difficult relationship repairing conversations that need to take place.
When you are attracted to another person doesnt mean you gotta act to it. You wanting to act to it means you gotta change something in your relationship and breaking up should be your last option.
Run bro run
She’s gonna end up cheating on her husband. All that advice went in one ear and out the other. I wish John would have been more stern with her and told her to stop laughing because what she wants to do is no laughing matter. She’s ready to blow up her and her children’s world over some stupid crush.
Yeah if it's not this guy, it will be some other guy.
Husband gone all the time? Take your wife out more often DUH. It's raining Brad Pitts and Dr Johns lol
That's what cheating chics say all the time
Kudos to her for recognizing that this guy is the proxy of her loneliness during their busy season, and I think this has a chance of making it work if she can keep those boundaries and they can adjust to quell some of those desires in this busy time before it's the down season where they can make that marriage stronger than ever
She has the most fake laugh.
If she thinks this dude is solely attracted to her is gonna find out.
This is so good.
John goes so easy on women...she is so casual about this...what about her children?? For sex??
Can you imagine saying "I do" to someone you think is you life partner and then hearing this? SMH
This comment section is full of people who dont understand what they just heard or saw in this video. Its not about the relationship at all 😂
Yes you are
My husband is in healthcare. Half of his male patients over 40 have some kind of ED, and an alarming amount of both sexes have VD. Cheating isn't worth the risk for anyone.
She’s won’t tell her husband everything because she’s heavy and is afraid he’ll find someone else
It is normal for women to want to upgrade when they find a better mate Lots of videos on this aspect of female psychology.
Situation you already committed adulter ma’am