You’re not missing out on society these days there, Scooby. I’d say you’re what society should be. Fit,smart,accomplished and you making your own airplane is totally on another level that those people in society could never comprehend
I am very mechanical. Most peoples genius lies in other areas but that does not make them either inferior or superior. I have always said that everyone has the same amount of genius, its just that most people never discover what their genius is because its not measured by the very biased IQ test. Genius artists and musicians are not recognized. If these people realized their genius and fostered it rather than banging their head against the wall trying to get better at stupid things they cant change, the world would be a marvelous place.
I said “Hermits unite!” - lol! Didnt sound funny when I said it but when I listened to the video I laughed hysterically. Lets unite … but without talking, communicating or seeing anyone else :) ESP perhaps?
This is great Scooby, being a hermit doesn’t mean you don’t have any social skills whatsoever or hate people, just means that the majority of your hobbies you do on your own. A few good friends are better then 100 acquaintances.
I have Arzbergers and have delt with doubts about myself because I was such an introvert. I agree that time with yourself and family is the best. I would rather have true friends that I know will stay around and enjoy each other's company rather than sitting on our phones. You have inspired me over the years to focus on my own goals.
This is why you're my RUclips dad. My own folks don't understand why I prefer my own company than "going out and making friends" -- as if there is some social failing on my part. I have my own power rack and cardio machine at home, and I doing video editing on the computer. Gym and work. My life is mostly inside, and it's all I need. And I find I have little spare time left, even being inside (food prep takes longer than you think). Shoutout to scoobs for representing this segment of us lonewolf types!
I really needed this advice. 21 now, with very clear goals and interests. No one my age is interested in ultramarathons nor philosophy, so why bother giving those up. I was really scared of this realization, but I feel like you saved many years of my life in a 5' long video. Thank you very much Scooby, you're a legend
100% The world could use less empty chatter. Be honest with yourself is the best advise . When you take that deep honest inventory of your self , suddenly the need for out side approval or acceptance vanishes. Allowing exponential self growth. Making time alone or with a very select few much more valuable.
Thanks for being you Scooby. Been watching you since I was starting in highschool and now I'm 26. you've been a powerful role model and positive wellspring of information and advice in my adult life. Health and happiness to you and yours always.
I have always been like this. I used to be a distance runner...now walking long distance. I like riding my bicycle alone too. I am proud of being a Hermit! I spend enough time with my Wife and Daughters and with co workers...that's enough for me.
I have high functioning autism. People skills have been a lifelong issue I have worked hard to improve on, and of course I still enjoy the solitude and introversion. You summed up everything I wish more people understood and accepted. Thank you for that, and for teaching me to take care of myself better.
Precisely. Embrace individuality. We dont all have to be the center of the attention at parties with crowds hanging on to every word of our “exciting stories”.
I'm a proud Loner. Not everyone can handle this lifestyle and not everyone should. I may be alone, but I'm never bored and never lonely. Music, thinking, reading, learning, writing, laughing, working on home repairs, listening to the world - our source of happiness is closer than most people realize. Those of you who understand this know the joy of spending time alone, getting to know yourself, and becoming a well-adjusted person.
I'm the same way. That's why I love my home gym so much and have really started to love road side walking and biking for cardio. I even saved a turtle today been a good day.
I talk to enough people at work, when I get home, I just want peace and quiet, doing my painting or reading a good book. I try to socialize once a month with my hubby when we go out and have dinner, or maybe have people over for a meal. That is enough for me 😁😁
I feel the same, thanks for this video scooby... sometimes i think that i should be spending time with others, like it's an obligation since i sincerely don't feel like spending too much time doing "nothing"
A bit of a personal story about myself. My entire adult life I thought I was on the hermit side. I preferred doing my own thing, on my own. Add on top loads self consciousness, I just thought I was kinda awkward and different. Add on top of that a long-term relationship that I was continually told I was awkward and couldn't talk to people. So I assumed I was a hermit, I'm unable to connect with people and that's that. But then I moved on from the relationship and found ways to work on me and my self consciousness. Building confidence lead me to not worry so much about how people perceive me and to just be myself. Which, over time, I've learned I'm not actually that awkward or shy, that I do find great enjoyment in connecting with people. I'm still different, but me being my different self and openly pursuing my interests and hobbies that make me different has lead me to build a great number of new friendships. Sometimes people enjoy the hermit lifestyle. Sometimes people are put into a box and through their own self doubts or the words of other people, they stay in that box and accept it as their true identity.
I've found that most of the time when a person is telling you that "you need to be more social" or "you're a selfish person, you need to give more" etc etc, that they have an ulterior morive for you being that way. They have something to gain from you being more social or whatever it is. Also, it's them just highlighting their insecurities. There's very few people we meet in our life who genuinely want us to do better in our lives. Once I disconnected myself from everyone else's perception of what I should be doing with my life, I became much happier.
People need to hear that last part more than anything. Get happy with YOURSELF first, THEN go look for a relationship. I feel like a lot of chaos could be averted worldwide if people follow that advice.
I'm so glad for the internet because it revealed to me that I wasn't so weird after all. I accepted my tendency towards hermitism maybe 8 years ago. I had spent a long time self-punishing because of my 'hermit' ways; thinking I was a 'bad' person for being this way. Family used to call me secretive, Secret Squirrel, Mystery Man, dishonest, and all sorts of less than complimentary names because I wasn't social enough. Then maybe 10 years ago I had a conversation with my mother where she told me that I had ALWAYS been like that; when I was very small and my older siblings were living in Guyana, South America, I was still in the UK with my parents, she used to take me out for walks, and remembers that, while she kept an eye on me, I used to run off at a distance and be completely in my own world and forget about her for ages. Then once I was taken to Guyana to be with the siblings, distinctly remember being alone a lot, especially when they went off to school and I was too young to go yet. I got over that pain and learned to entertain myself and I guess that's why I can spend an inordinate amount of time alone (inordinate to other people I guess) without feeling lonely or uncomfortable. I feel a big contributing factor was the age gap between my siblings and I. It's not that big, but 5 years and up difference when you're very young is significant; especially when they want to be with friends of their age, so I just sucked it up because I had no other choice and then got used to it. But, yes, I was self-critical for years about this until one day I just decided to try and accept it after a few months of introspection and really trying to find out what I enjoy and don't enjoy about life. Ended up (to my surprise) dropping not a few social activities. One of the best moves I ever made. I still get funny looks from people when I tell them I'm not that social; but now I'm unapologetic about it. Some people are confused if you're not willing to be the life of the party; I have my very small circle of friends and enjoy my hobbies (sometimes with them) and interests FULLY, without having to force myself into social activities which I don't particularly relish. Call me selfish? I accept that 100 percent.
*Body builders are the true alternative community* NO ONE understands us and gets us but each other. "Nice triceps bro whats your routine" to a perfect stranger? NO ONE gets that but us hahaha
when I was younger I read a book called "getting things done" all about to do lists, and organization, and all sorts of lists, breaking things down into smaller steps I probably had a to do list with make new friends on it before reading the book and after
Being with others is good for our well-being. What is most important is that it’s people we love and care about not just being with people for the sake of it.
Same thing here! I gave up trying to be a perfect individual and I started to embrace my flaws! I make dumb questions in class about things I don't understand and I constantly make fan of my memory. Embracing one's flaws can be a very good step towards our own realization.
Absolutely correct Scooby, I discovered at 15 or 16 that I really didn't like talking to people that much, and I preferred a lot of time alone or with my partner. My wife sometimes struggles to get me out of the house but we compromise so we are both satisfied. I'm discovering new hobbies I couldn't explore when I was in Uni, and it has made me like my job better and my free time better. Hermits unite!
I've alway been an introvert but drinking got me out of my shell. Ever since I quit drinking in January of this year, I've become a hermit. I've been kicking myself for being so reclusive. I also have on my "to do" list to socialize in person at least 3 days a week. But I find myself not enjoying the social things like going to a bar or dance club like I used to. I prefer working out at the gym, alone of course.
Relatable! Part of this phenomenon is that we are used to seeing people drinking and they "warm up" socially within minutes but without alcohol, this just takes longer and we might assume we just aren't social anymore when really we just need a little more time. You are making an excellent choice for yourself. No one ever said "wow, my life really became amazing when I started drinking alcohol!"
I'm a hermit as well. I talk to one close friend (who is also my 1st cousin) and my boyfriend. I spend all my time doing genealogy and weightlifting and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Thanks, Scooby. Recently having this personal conflict myself after a failed relationship. Now re-pursuing hobbies and getting back into fitness and a more healthy lifestyle. I've neglected myself for too long. Have loved your content for a long time, wish I was stronger minded earlier in life so I could follow some of your advice sooner.
I love you, man, and I'm a hermit, like yourself. Although, unlike yourself, I despise mankind and the society we live in today, and for the sake of my own sanity and mental health, I avoid the outside world as much as possible, but still remaining productive, as long as I have the motivation to do so, which fluctuates just as my depression fluctuates. Last year, I got back in to gardening again and I've finally found it in myself to start tending to my mum's garden again, seven years after I lost her. Which means there's a lot of work to do and it'll take me years to really turn it around, but that's okay, as long as I get the peace and solitude I crave whilst doing it.
100% agree! My 3 favourite places are the studio, workshop and garage where I can paint, make things or repairing rather than sitting on a crowded passenger plane listing to noisy kid or complaining tourists!
Scooby, among all the people giving advice on RUclips, and I’m sure you’ve seen a few, your advice is applicable and rings true. So many people are preying on viewers who want advice and they take crazy sponsors and say stuff about being “alpha” or tough, but your brand of toughness and wisdom is far superior, and it’s great for me.
What a coincidence, I was discussing this very topic with my dearest yesterday and arrived at the same conclusion as you, Scooby. Good to see it confirmed by you.
I have had similar thought patterns recently. Why I do most things on my own and not with other people. I workout on my own, cardio and chores. Came across an article on introvert and extrovert which explains a lot of myself.
You know what, I think it's better to be a hermit - to be different and unapologetically live life on your best terms, loving others and embracing the truth. 😊 for this, Scooby.
So well said Scooby. I agree very much with your well reasoned points. I've been a subscriber and Fan since the mid 00's and very much more than likely Always will be. All the best friend.
I’ve noticed the same thing… Anytime you run into an extrovert who hasn’t talked to someone all day, they just start talking about nothing. It’s like they need to hear themselves speak, not communicate something important to you. I have my own neurotic tics, so I don’t judge. But I have come to see my introversion as a strength (except in large groups, which do make me feel overwhelmed). Also, it is good to have friends that you have a genuine connection with, even if they’re just online friends. I can go months without talking to some of my introverted friends, but having them in my life still makes me feel like a stronger person. That’s something I think men in particular sometimes neglect.
Scooby you can’t understand how much this video means to us. I’ve been isolating myself as of the past 10 months, with little contact involving anyone but family and my significant other. I’ve ditched all forms of social media, and focused on intellectual pursuits and I’ve never been happier! I face judgement from those around me in regards to my habits of isolationism quite often, though it doesn’t bother me. I know who I am now, something which I would’ve never figured out if my mind was clouded with worrying about other people or their opinions of me all day.
I can really relate to this. I like to build motorcycles in my garage, go to gym or outdoors by myself. Party's and people there drinking alcohol is very tiring and I try to avoid those kind of situations.
I think one of the worst aspects of society is forcing people to be around other people they don't want to be around. K-12 school was like a prison sentence for me, I seldom enjoyed it and I'm sure many people would agree. Work is the same way. Having to "get along with people" is the employers way of saying, "we don't care how you feel, go make us some money." I'm very easy to get along with people, but we all know what it's like to be in a toxic environment.
You're preaching to the choir! As a teen, I spent most of my time in my room playing video games. I could have went out with friends (this was the 90s), parties (with alcohol), and many other outdoor activities, but I wanted to be left alone. However, I don't do well with large, and unorganized crowds like concerts. Air Force basic training and working at a prison has helped with the crowd situation. However, I still prefer a day at home with the wife and son, but going out every once in a while. I have a 1985 Chrysler LaBaron I work on as a project car. It runs great and with only 68K miles (~109K kilometers). Scooby has his plane, I have my car, and that's OK. TL;DR: Nothing wrong with being introverted. As long as it doesn't hurt your mental health.
I've always been a lone wolf and have enjoyed it. I've been in the house since COVID and didn't feel I was missing anything. I read, watch old movies, workout, work on my house, and I've been gay all my life and I just accepted it. I feel guilty that I didn't go through anything and just accepted who I was.
This man dont even need protection, if i see a dude like this running at me full speed screaming in some Aussie aboriginal language in downtown at night i think i would learn how to fly at hypersonic Mach 11.0 in less than 10 seconds
Wise words indeed, There is a saying in the UK and probably elsewhere that makes me chuckle, That is "If you don't know who`s the pub bore in your local is, it`s you".
Feel the same scooby. I do worry about when im like 80+ years old, if my spouse is gone before myself. I got a small family. Not sure what i'll do. Other than that, no problems!
Thanks scoob, this was nice to hear. I was just thinking today about how little time I've had lately because of work and how I my whole day after doing hobbies alone.
I agree but also to add. I believe it's important to get out of your comfort zone once in a while and challenge yourself. Something like the 80/20 principle works for me. Thanks for the vid
Hermit life! I really feel this message im a textbook hermit. I live out of town and spend my time tinkering, making noise, art and kissing little dogs.i just don't need to see anyone except my dear wife.
I have acquaintances but few friends and yet they're good friends. I like to met up with them on occasions for a mountain bike ride that is fun or a meal sometimes. In all honesty though I prefer my own company and pursuing hobby's or interests that I enjoy. People may assume I'm shy or lack confidence or what ever but tbh that's just the way I am. I'm at a time in my life where what others think is less relevant.
Hello Scooby, It is not about the topic you discuss in this video but I personally wanted to thank you for another video and advices you gave a few months back. It is about the video tht you gave a tour of your house that you were selling a few months back. I live in Turkey and used to be on rent. You said the real estate market is increasing in the US and it is an increase akin to the housing crisis back in 1970's. I knew if you guys catch cold in America we catch cancer in Turkey. After that video there was lightining and thunder in my brain then I made my mind took some bank loan and put together my saving and bought my current house. Boy the house went double in 6 months! If I didn't take your advice I would have been struggling to pay my rent today. You truely are a great role model and I wanted to personally thank you for this
Scooby, thank you for this, hermit pride indeed. I've been getting advice from your channel off and on since I graduated High School. You are appreciated!
precisely. The trouble is that a lot of employers dont know how to handle people with aspergers who make awesome employees BUT need to be communicated with a bit differently.
"i say you're much better off spending those hours MASTER...ing those you're good at" i thought you were gonna say something different there scoob LOL, anyways awesome video and underrated topic, society really needs to accept this is just how some people feel rather than push them to do something they dont enjoy. Rejoice my introverted friends
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You’re not missing out on society these days there, Scooby. I’d say you’re what society should be. Fit,smart,accomplished and you making your own airplane is totally on another level that those people in society could never comprehend
I am very mechanical. Most peoples genius lies in other areas but that does not make them either inferior or superior. I have always said that everyone has the same amount of genius, its just that most people never discover what their genius is because its not measured by the very biased IQ test. Genius artists and musicians are not recognized. If these people realized their genius and fostered it rather than banging their head against the wall trying to get better at stupid things they cant change, the world would be a marvelous place.
It's true mainstream society these days sucks. I love being a hermit.
I said “Hermits unite!” - lol! Didnt sound funny when I said it but when I listened to the video I laughed hysterically. Lets unite … but without talking, communicating or seeing anyone else :) ESP perhaps?
Respect.
I looove hermit crabs. I looove tickling folks. I looove Hans. I looove my hats.
I love you Scooby :)
I consider being a hermit being humble.
No need to try being the center of attention like some people spend all their lives trying to do.
✊✊🐚
Hermits unite! -- separately. Please.
This is great Scooby, being a hermit doesn’t mean you don’t have any social skills whatsoever or hate people, just means that the majority of your hobbies you do on your own. A few good friends are better then 100 acquaintances.
I have Arzbergers and have delt with doubts about myself because I was such an introvert. I agree that time with yourself and family is the best. I would rather have true friends that I know will stay around and enjoy each other's company rather than sitting on our phones. You have inspired me over the years to focus on my own goals.
This is why you're my RUclips dad. My own folks don't understand why I prefer my own company than "going out and making friends" -- as if there is some social failing on my part. I have my own power rack and cardio machine at home, and I doing video editing on the computer. Gym and work. My life is mostly inside, and it's all I need. And I find I have little spare time left, even being inside (food prep takes longer than you think). Shoutout to scoobs for representing this segment of us lonewolf types!
:)
I really needed this advice. 21 now, with very clear goals and interests. No one my age is interested in ultramarathons nor philosophy, so why bother giving those up. I was really scared of this realization, but I feel like you saved many years of my life in a 5' long video. Thank you very much Scooby, you're a legend
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100%
The world could use less empty chatter.
Be honest with yourself is the best advise . When you take that deep honest inventory of your self , suddenly the need for out side approval or acceptance vanishes.
Allowing exponential self growth.
Making time alone or with a very select few much more valuable.
Too painful for 90%
I came out as a hermit 2 years ago. I've never been happier. 😆 I agree about being productive. That's why I'm never lonely. I'm simply content.
It's a life of peace, quiet, calmness and relaxation.
Absolutely great points in this video, that realization just comes later in life.
Took me 28 years
Thanks for being you Scooby. Been watching you since I was starting in highschool and now I'm 26. you've been a powerful role model and positive wellspring of information and advice in my adult life. Health and happiness to you and yours always.
Thanks!
I have always been like this. I used to be a distance runner...now walking long distance. I like riding my bicycle alone too. I am proud of being a Hermit! I spend enough time with my Wife and Daughters and with co workers...that's enough for me.
Love that!
'i dont hate people, i just like being by myself' as someone who gets stressed out talking to strangers.... yes totally relatable
I have high functioning autism. People skills have been a lifelong issue I have worked hard to improve on, and of course I still enjoy the solitude and introversion. You summed up everything I wish more people understood and accepted. Thank you for that, and for teaching me to take care of myself better.
Precisely. Embrace individuality. We dont all have to be the center of the attention at parties with crowds hanging on to every word of our “exciting stories”.
Ok, so I read Kermit Pride at first, but this makes more sense.
Lol! That too!
I'm a proud Loner. Not everyone can handle this lifestyle and not everyone should. I may be alone, but I'm never bored and never lonely. Music, thinking, reading, learning, writing, laughing, working on home repairs, listening to the world - our source of happiness is closer than most people realize. Those of you who understand this know the joy of spending time alone, getting to know yourself, and becoming a well-adjusted person.
I'm the same way. That's why I love my home gym so much and have really started to love road side walking and biking for cardio. I even saved a turtle today been a good day.
:) people who rescue animals are the best! You rock!!
Words of wisdom! Im also quite a hermit and I love being by myself.
Thanks!!!
I talk to enough people at work, when I get home, I just want peace and quiet, doing my painting or reading a good book. I try to socialize once a month with my hubby when we go out and have dinner, or maybe have people over for a meal. That is enough for me 😁😁
I feel the same, thanks for this video scooby... sometimes i think that i should be spending time with others, like it's an obligation since i sincerely don't feel like spending too much time doing "nothing"
Blah, blah, blah … now can I go home and work in the shop?
Ah, Mr. Scooby, it seems you've become my spirit animal.
LOL!
At 2:01 when he said “mast” I thought he was going to say something else 😂 great video Scooby ❤️
LOL
A bit of a personal story about myself. My entire adult life I thought I was on the hermit side. I preferred doing my own thing, on my own. Add on top loads self consciousness, I just thought I was kinda awkward and different. Add on top of that a long-term relationship that I was continually told I was awkward and couldn't talk to people. So I assumed I was a hermit, I'm unable to connect with people and that's that.
But then I moved on from the relationship and found ways to work on me and my self consciousness. Building confidence lead me to not worry so much about how people perceive me and to just be myself. Which, over time, I've learned I'm not actually that awkward or shy, that I do find great enjoyment in connecting with people. I'm still different, but me being my different self and openly pursuing my interests and hobbies that make me different has lead me to build a great number of new friendships.
Sometimes people enjoy the hermit lifestyle. Sometimes people are put into a box and through their own self doubts or the words of other people, they stay in that box and accept it as their true identity.
I've found that most of the time when a person is telling you that "you need to be more social" or "you're a selfish person, you need to give more" etc etc, that they have an ulterior morive for you being that way. They have something to gain from you being more social or whatever it is. Also, it's them just highlighting their insecurities. There's very few people we meet in our life who genuinely want us to do better in our lives. Once I disconnected myself from everyone else's perception of what I should be doing with my life, I became much happier.
Been watching you since I was 19, I'm 36 now. I've always been a hermit, and have found out that it's nice being a hermit with another hermit 😊
... birds of a feather :)
I am the same, I enjoy very much minding my own business alone, but I also enjoy a good conversation when the opportunity arises.
Awesome video. Love these stories of figuring things out at a younger age - hope there are more to come!
If I think of them, I will do them!
Vulnerability is such a strength in story telling thank you for sharing your insights with us.
People need to hear that last part more than anything. Get happy with YOURSELF first, THEN go look for a relationship. I feel like a lot of chaos could be averted worldwide if people follow that advice.
Yes. It would also prevent those dramatic 1 year divorces.
Sometimes I wish I was a hermit because it would make things easier, but I love spending time around people.
I'm so glad for the internet because it revealed to me that I wasn't so weird after all. I accepted my tendency towards hermitism maybe 8 years ago. I had spent a long time self-punishing because of my 'hermit' ways; thinking I was a 'bad' person for being this way. Family used to call me secretive, Secret Squirrel, Mystery Man, dishonest, and all sorts of less than complimentary names because I wasn't social enough. Then maybe 10 years ago I had a conversation with my mother where she told me that I had ALWAYS been like that; when I was very small and my older siblings were living in Guyana, South America, I was still in the UK with my parents, she used to take me out for walks, and remembers that, while she kept an eye on me, I used to run off at a distance and be completely in my own world and forget about her for ages.
Then once I was taken to Guyana to be with the siblings, distinctly remember being alone a lot, especially when they went off to school and I was too young to go yet. I got over that pain and learned to entertain myself and I guess that's why I can spend an inordinate amount of time alone (inordinate to other people I guess) without feeling lonely or uncomfortable. I feel a big contributing factor was the age gap between my siblings and I. It's not that big, but 5 years and up difference when you're very young is significant; especially when they want to be with friends of their age, so I just sucked it up because I had no other choice and then got used to it.
But, yes, I was self-critical for years about this until one day I just decided to try and accept it after a few months of introspection and really trying to find out what I enjoy and don't enjoy about life. Ended up (to my surprise) dropping not a few social activities. One of the best moves I ever made. I still get funny looks from people when I tell them I'm not that social; but now I'm unapologetic about it. Some people are confused if you're not willing to be the life of the party; I have my very small circle of friends and enjoy my hobbies (sometimes with them) and interests FULLY, without having to force myself into social activities which I don't particularly relish. Call me selfish? I accept that 100 percent.
well said!
*Body builders are the true alternative community*
NO ONE understands us and gets us but each other. "Nice triceps bro whats your routine" to a perfect stranger? NO ONE gets that but us hahaha
Preach Scoob! Wish I heard this message even just a few years younger but I 100% agree
Thanks!
I felt called out when you mentioned adding "make new friend" to your to do list 😂
LOL!
Seriously, I did that.
when I was younger I read a book called "getting things done" all about to do lists, and organization, and all sorts of lists, breaking things down into smaller steps
I probably had a to do list with make new friends on it before reading the book and after
your words are so refreshing, love this!!
Glad you think so!
Being with others is good for our well-being. What is most important is that it’s people we love and care about not just being with people for the sake of it.
Based, this is the type of content young people need.
thats why youtube doesnt recommend it to them :)
Same thing here!
I gave up trying to be a perfect individual and I started to embrace my flaws! I make dumb questions in class about things I don't understand and I constantly make fan of my memory.
Embracing one's flaws can be a very good step towards our own realization.
Well said!
Thank u so much scooby! U saved my life a thousand times! ❤️❤️❤️
Welcome!
Absolutely correct Scooby, I discovered at 15 or 16 that I really didn't like talking to people that much, and I preferred a lot of time alone or with my partner. My wife sometimes struggles to get me out of the house but we compromise so we are both satisfied. I'm discovering new hobbies I couldn't explore when I was in Uni, and it has made me like my job better and my free time better. Hermits unite!
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lmao I haven't left my house in 4 years. It sucks cause when you don't leave your house you can't meet girls, thus no PP touch.
This video is so relatable, thanks again Scoob. Love your videos !
Thanks!!!
I've alway been an introvert but drinking got me out of my shell. Ever since I quit drinking in January of this year, I've become a hermit. I've been kicking myself for being so reclusive. I also have on my "to do" list to socialize in person at least 3 days a week. But I find myself not enjoying the social things like going to a bar or dance club like I used to. I prefer working out at the gym, alone of course.
Been there, done that
Relatable! Part of this phenomenon is that we are used to seeing people drinking and they "warm up" socially within minutes but without alcohol, this just takes longer and we might assume we just aren't social anymore when really we just need a little more time. You are making an excellent choice for yourself. No one ever said "wow, my life really became amazing when I started drinking alcohol!"
I'm a hermit as well. I talk to one close friend (who is also my 1st cousin) and my boyfriend. I spend all my time doing genealogy and weightlifting and I wouldn't have it any other way.
:)
Thanks, Scooby. Recently having this personal conflict myself after a failed relationship. Now re-pursuing hobbies and getting back into fitness and a more healthy lifestyle. I've neglected myself for too long. Have loved your content for a long time, wish I was stronger minded earlier in life so I could follow some of your advice sooner.
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I love you, man, and I'm a hermit, like yourself. Although, unlike yourself, I despise mankind and the society we live in today, and for the sake of my own sanity and mental health, I avoid the outside world as much as possible, but still remaining productive, as long as I have the motivation to do so, which fluctuates just as my depression fluctuates. Last year, I got back in to gardening again and I've finally found it in myself to start tending to my mum's garden again, seven years after I lost her. Which means there's a lot of work to do and it'll take me years to really turn it around, but that's okay, as long as I get the peace and solitude I crave whilst doing it.
Always respected your authenticity. Thanks for the video, Scooby!
Welcome!
We need to acknowledge who we are and what energizes us. As long as it doesn't hurt anyone, then we can be creative and find our way.
Yup
100% agree! My 3 favourite places are the studio, workshop and garage where I can paint, make things or repairing rather than sitting on a crowded passenger plane listing to noisy kid or complaining tourists!
Great points. Alone time is a must when kept in balance with getting things done. It recharges the mind and spirit of us introverts.
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Thanks scooby, always making us feel good about being ourselves
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Scooby, among all the people giving advice on RUclips, and I’m sure you’ve seen a few, your advice is applicable and rings true. So many people are preying on viewers who want advice and they take crazy sponsors and say stuff about being “alpha” or tough, but your brand of toughness and wisdom is far superior, and it’s great for me.
You're a lovely type of different. I dig it 🤜🏽💥🤛🏽
I am!
What a coincidence, I was discussing this very topic with my dearest yesterday and arrived at the same conclusion as you, Scooby. Good to see it confirmed by you.
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I have had similar thought patterns recently. Why I do most things on my own and not with other people. I workout on my own, cardio and chores. Came across an article on introvert and extrovert which explains a lot of myself.
You know what, I think it's better to be a hermit - to be different and unapologetically live life on your best terms, loving others and embracing the truth. 😊 for this, Scooby.
Thanks!
It’s just such a shame that the realisation that we can be perfectly fine alone sometimes takes decades . Excellent advice Scooby 👍
Took me 28 yrs to figure it out
So well said Scooby. I agree very much with your well reasoned points. I've been a subscriber and Fan since the mid 00's and very much more than likely Always will be. All the best friend.
Thank you!
Very wise, very kind , powerful words.
Thanks!!
I’ve noticed the same thing… Anytime you run into an extrovert who hasn’t talked to someone all day, they just start talking about nothing. It’s like they need to hear themselves speak, not communicate something important to you. I have my own neurotic tics, so I don’t judge. But I have come to see my introversion as a strength (except in large groups, which do make me feel overwhelmed). Also, it is good to have friends that you have a genuine connection with, even if they’re just online friends. I can go months without talking to some of my introverted friends, but having them in my life still makes me feel like a stronger person. That’s something I think men in particular sometimes neglect.
Right. Glad you became comfortable in your skin like I did!!!
This really hits home. Thanks for sharing
You are very welcome!
Another epic gem of Scooby wisdom. Wish I'd seen this so many years ago. Thank you.
Thanks!!!
“Living up to an image that you have of yourself or that other people have of you is inauthentic living.” ― Eckhart Tolle.
Yep
I remember reading a book with a couple that said they were ok going entire hours at each end of the house and not talking to each other hah
Scooby you can’t understand how much this video means to us. I’ve been isolating myself as of the past 10 months, with little contact involving anyone but family and my significant other. I’ve ditched all forms of social media, and focused on intellectual pursuits and I’ve never been happier! I face judgement from those around me in regards to my habits of isolationism quite often, though it doesn’t bother me. I know who I am now, something which I would’ve never figured out if my mind was clouded with worrying about other people or their opinions of me all day.
I can really relate to this. I like to build motorcycles in my garage, go to gym or outdoors by myself. Party's and people there drinking alcohol is very tiring and I try to avoid those kind of situations.
You get it!
@@scooby1961 Yeah, you are your own best friend 👍
Same, once you are comfortable with the way you are the better your qulity of life become :D
I think one of the worst aspects of society is forcing people to be around other people they don't want to be around. K-12 school was like a prison sentence for me, I seldom enjoyed it and I'm sure many people would agree. Work is the same way. Having to "get along with people" is the employers way of saying, "we don't care how you feel, go make us some money." I'm very easy to get along with people, but we all know what it's like to be in a toxic environment.
Scooby makes me feel a lot better about myself
good!
I use to be a hermit when I was a kid and teenager. Now I’m in my 20s and love hanging out with friends and socializing. Idk what went wrong with me 😂
its all good.
You're preaching to the choir! As a teen, I spent most of my time in my room playing video games. I could have went out with friends (this was the 90s), parties (with alcohol), and many other outdoor activities, but I wanted to be left alone. However, I don't do well with large, and unorganized crowds like concerts.
Air Force basic training and working at a prison has helped with the crowd situation. However, I still prefer a day at home with the wife and son, but going out every once in a while. I have a 1985 Chrysler LaBaron I work on as a project car. It runs great and with only 68K miles (~109K kilometers). Scooby has his plane, I have my car, and that's OK.
TL;DR: Nothing wrong with being introverted. As long as it doesn't hurt your mental health.
Yes!
I've always been a lone wolf and have enjoyed it. I've been in the house since COVID and didn't feel I was missing anything. I read, watch old movies, workout, work on my house, and I've been gay all my life and I just accepted it. I feel guilty that I didn't go through anything and just accepted who I was.
This man dont even need protection, if i see a dude like this running at me full speed screaming in some Aussie aboriginal language in downtown at night i think i would learn how to fly at hypersonic Mach 11.0 in less than 10 seconds
Damn I needed this. Thanks scoob
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Wise words indeed, There is a saying in the UK and probably elsewhere that makes me chuckle, That is "If you don't know who`s the pub bore in your local is, it`s you".
LOL! I had to read that three times :)
@@scooby1961 bit of a keyboard malfunction. :)
Feel the same scooby. I do worry about when im like 80+ years old, if my spouse is gone before myself. I got a small family. Not sure what i'll do. Other than that, no problems!
Thanks scoob, this was nice to hear. I was just thinking today about how little time I've had lately because of work and how I my whole day after doing hobbies alone.
You are very welcome!
Scoob's a classic introvert. :)
I'm real glad you brought up the shut-in vs hermits. A lot of people mix up introvert with social anxiety.
Thanks Sean! Things calming down now, you will see me at aperfecttribe.comnthis week :)
Or the Autism spectrum perhaps?
@@tmaeer5446 I embarrassingly don't know enough about that to have a good opinion on that.
Sometimes you can feel more alone being around other people than being by yourself.
VERY true!
I'm exactly the same scooby, nowadays they call it being a 'sigma male' look it up !
Thanks Scooby, you made me feel a little bit better.....
Glad I could help
I agree but also to add. I believe it's important to get out of your comfort zone once in a while and challenge yourself. Something like the 80/20 principle works for me. Thanks for the vid
Nah. Im good in my comfort zone :)
When I saw the tumbnail, I thought it was Greg Doucette
I support this message. Thanks, Scooby!
Hermit life! I really feel this message im a textbook hermit. I live out of town and spend my time tinkering, making noise, art and kissing little dogs.i just don't need to see anyone except my dear wife.
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I have acquaintances but few friends and yet they're good friends. I like to met up with them on occasions for a mountain bike ride that is fun or a meal sometimes. In all honesty though I prefer my own company and pursuing hobby's or interests that I enjoy. People may assume I'm shy or lack confidence or what ever but tbh that's just the way I am. I'm at a time in my life where what others think is less relevant.
Like me!
Hello Scooby,
It is not about the topic you discuss in this video but I personally wanted to thank you for another video and advices you gave a few months back.
It is about the video tht you gave a tour of your house that you were selling a few months back. I live in Turkey and used to be on rent. You said the real estate market is increasing in the US and it is an increase akin to the housing crisis back in 1970's. I knew if you guys catch cold in America we catch cancer in Turkey. After that video there was lightining and thunder in my brain then I made my mind took some bank loan and put together my saving and bought my current house. Boy the house went double in 6 months! If I didn't take your advice I would have been struggling to pay my rent today. You truely are a great role model and I wanted to personally thank you for this
That is awesome to hear! I think you are the only person who took my advice on that. Our house has gone up about 50%
Hermit checking in.
Master-hermit checking in! :)
You’re the man Scooby.
Thanks!!
Very interesting, and I'm pleasantly surprised to hear many of these things.
good!
"In the garage
I feel safe
No one cares about my ways
In the garage
Where I belong
No one hears me sing this song
In the garage"
- Weezer
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@@scooby1961 Thanks Uncle Scooby.
Brilliant.
Thank you!
I call myself a running hermit and guitar hermit all the time. I also prefer to be by myself or with my wife.
:) a functional hermit! :)
You've got 602k friends now, buddy.
eeeekkkk! :)
Scooby, thank you for this, hermit pride indeed. I've been getting advice from your channel off and on since I graduated High School. You are appreciated!
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I have aspergers and it took me years to accept what I was and stop trying to fit in.
precisely. The trouble is that a lot of employers dont know how to handle people with aspergers who make awesome employees BUT need to be communicated with a bit differently.
Spot on.
Thanks!
"i say you're much better off spending those hours MASTER...ing those you're good at" i thought you were gonna say something different there scoob LOL, anyways awesome video and underrated topic, society really needs to accept this is just how some people feel rather than push them to do something they dont enjoy. Rejoice my introverted friends
Lol!!
Ocular acupuncture...🤣🤣🤣
Cool man. I didn't know I needed to hear this
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Hermits unite by being apart!
Precisely!
I refer to my house as The Hermitage.
Lol