The Big Surgery Question
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2023
- The question of the big surgery aka. bottom surgery, is one that almost all trans people have to confront one day. That day was about a month ago for me, when I received some bad news and a lot of complicated emotions. So let's talk about it.
Hello everyone ^^' Again, really sorry for the silence. I never expected that this experience, would be the most confidence robbing thing I've gone through in a long time. It's just one of those crappy, leg sweeping experiences that can hit out of nowhere and hurt a lot, no matter which stage of life you're in. But I'm hopefully back now and while I might not have many ideas, then I'm excited to talk to you guys a lot more again. Hope life's treated you all well
we love to see you back!
After watching some of your postings my conclusion is that I’m scaringly similar to you - I just arrived in this world four decades before you, so I had to cope with my problems on my own. Including the stupidities of the Danish “healthcare” system, that is slightly more hostile to older trans people.
LGBT+ Denmark arranges a trans group meeting Fridays on odd weeks. I found out about this in February, but it took me three months to get the nerve to actually go. I thought my autism was the reason, but after your explanation of agoraphobia, I now see that it was the main reason. Your explanation was a big help. Thanks.
Hey, found your channel last night when I got recommended your coming out video and I was stunned when I checked out your name change video! The glow up is real! lol
As a pre-everything trans woman, I just wanted to say that it's inspiring seeing your progress and that it's really cool that your channel has so clearly documented the journey. Best of luck with everything! 💚
The fact that its so systemstically and in some places socially difficult for trans folk to be able to achieve who they want to be is so upsetting. I sincerely hope that in the future we'll see things change for the better. And even when things look bleak, there will always be people who love, understand and support your true self ❤
I hate people who even try to say that bottom surgery is somehow controversial because I remember once reading it was one of the least regretted surgeries anyone can get (which makes sense because you know, surprise, getting surgery for an important part of your body to match who you are as a person *might* just make a person more happy despite any complications or difficulties having it!)
Yes it's a complicated and invasive surgery and the decision to get it shouldn't be taken lightly, but so many other surgeries are exactly the same way. And I know transphobes like to make a thing out of it being "gross" or weird or anything, but ALL surgeries are literally cutting open into the human body, that's how surgeries work. The end result can be indistinguishable from the real thing, especially to a partner who would be intimate with those parts up close, which is what matters most isn't it?
As for me, god, I'm still unsure if I wanna get it, because I have a fear of any kind of surgeries and I fear pain and discomfort and idk how well I'd deal with it not going completely 100% great from the start. If magic was real and I could wish to have the right bits down there, I would take it in a heartbeat. But actual surgery? I'm not sure. It's one of those things I think I will revisit once more of my body is in congruence with my internal identity and maybe by that point I'll be okay with not getting it, or everything matching BUT that will make me want to get it *right* away.
Tho I admit, dying without ever having the right bits between my legs sounds awful to me. Being too scared to ever get the surgery would be one of my biggest regrets on my deathbed...
Thanks for the update. Can't wait to watch your next big project.
After watching some of your postings my conclusion is that I’m scaringly similar to you - I just arrived in this world four decades before you, so I had to cope with my problems on my own. Including the stupidities of the Danish “healthcare” system, that is slightly more hostile to older trans people.
LGBT+ Denmark arranges a trans group meeting Fridays on odd weeks. I found out about this in February, but it took me three months to get the nerve to actually go. I thought my autism was the reason, but after your explanation of agoraphobia, I now see that it was the main reason. Your explanation was a big help. Thanks.
seeing how great your transition has come along and how much happier you seem made me feel motivated to come out to my girlfriend, i really hope everything sorts itself for you
I'm highly sorry for what happened, I truly feel you. Something similar happened to me witg getting hrt, had it delayed many years and it hurts bad.
On a positive note, I've been now 2years on it, and everything is a little bit brighter. While I regret not bding able to start early, starting at all is much more important for me.
ALSO, HELLO, hope you're doing well after uploading again, it's always awesome to watch your videos ❤
It really sucks that this happened and the things getting in your way aren't even your own fault. But honestly its a good thing there are so many blocks in the way because it protects people from making a choice they aren't fully committed to. The road blocks are why the regret level is so low because it ensures that it really is what the person wants and needs. For someone like myself who is tall and big, wide shoulders and so on. I could never pass, and I want kids some day. I had to find a way to look at myself and be happy with being me. No amount of surgery or hormones could ever give me what I wanted and what I learned from that is being happy with who you are is the most important thing. It can seem impossible at times, but its worth the hard work in the end.
If I were to give you advice while you wait I would say find parts of yourself you love, or that you can work on now in the moment. Don't focus on the surgery and the time its going to be until you get it. At least, try not too.
I love your vrchat content, thanks for the vids, best of luck.
We are Watching!!
Girl, I want to fight the system with you! You deserve better
It would be an honor to fight alongside you
i forget if i said this already but congrats on voice training :3
Thank you!
8:45 yep
I'm so sorry to hear about the waitlist. it's not fair for you to wait that long just to be the best version of yourself. I hope it doesn't discourage you from doing what you can to feel at ease. Your community cares
I remember you from 2020 so i came back wow you changed
Same, she has a beautiful voice now 😊
Hey Scribbs, I can't imagine what you have been going true, its okayto take breaks and feel I guess not comfortable. This video brought me back to reality as a trans ally, that it isn't all gud in the hud. You have my full support whatever you do (except become a roblox creator, 3am creator, or pstar lol). By 1 fan
@@ScribblyHoots you don't want to know
we are always here for you Nora :3 ! 3 steps forward 1 step back. it'll be okay bc you'll be taking steps forward again soon.
post however frequently you're comfortable with
Hi Scribbs, welcome back!! ♥️♥️
:3
Haven't watched the video yet but ugh it's been difficult recently. Had plans for the surgery for about half a year now, I'd have it by the end of this year and due to sudden financial struggles it looks like I'm gonna have to cancel that which is also difficult cuz we paid the deposit already
Heya Scribbs! Its so good to see you again ❤. Disphoria fucking sucks. Take it easy, we are here to support you, always.
And a message to you, and everyone here:
Things will get better. They always do. There is no other option.
Take care ❤
I got a transphobic advertisement giving false info before watching this, oml i wasn't expecting that
Bruh
RUclips wtf
Wait what the heck really? Gosh RUclips really do take their ad-money from anyone I guess -.-
100%, really, i was confused at first cause the ad mentioned lgbt people then it turned south lmao
I forgot what they said tbh lol, i wasnt paying full attention but it was mainly false information with the process of getting into tranaition treatment, and exaggerating regret rates making it seem like a bigger problem 💀
the ironyyyyy
first this i noticed after 3 years of not watching(AKA funk hole vid)
the first thing i noticed is a girl voice
MIND:WTF DO WE DO
HEART:YOUR THE SMART ONE
(note:this is a joke please do not take this like i do not support anything)
PLAY PA THERE IS A NEW SERIS (RHYMIC WORLD OR SMT :) )
Hi Skribblio
I am trans as well, just in the other direction. I am afab, but Nonbinary/Transmasc. It helped me a lot to cut off my hair, but it’s not enough. All I really desire right now is to get rid of my chest. It‘s the only thing I am 100% sure about in the way I wanna go with my transition and I am afraid that it‘s going to be hard as well
I do have a nonbinary friend who wants to get rid of their uterus, but they do not allow them to have the surgery until they are like 30 years old, because „they maybe change their mind and want to have children“ Like nah… they are 25 and pretty sure that they don’t want to have kids.
And I am afraid that they will have some of these annoying restrictions for my top surgery as well. I am not sure about taking hormones yet, but I don’t want my top surgery to depend on this decision. I haven’t been able to look at naked body for over two years now and all I want is to feel comfortable in my skin again, but this is impossible for me, if I don’t have a flat chest.
I hope that everything is going to work out well for you and that you are able to have the big surgery sooner 🫶
It's really frustrating how healthcare can just be so easily denied or delayed because of things outside of your control. It just shouldn't have to be this hard. I'm inspired by your courage to keep moving forward in spite of the circumstances. I hope that this step back is bearable and that the next steps forward are all the more joyous.
After watching some of your postings my conclusion is that I’m scaringly similar to you - I just arrived in this world four decades before you, so I had to cope with my problems on my own. Including the stupidities of the Danish “healthcare” system, that is slightly more hostile to older trans people.
LGBT+ Denmark arranges a trans group meeting Fridays on odd weeks. I found out about this in February, but it took me three months to get the nerve to actually go. I thought my autism was the reason, but after your explanation of agoraphobia, I now see that it was the main reason. Your explanation was a big help. Thanks.
7:58 yep