I’m in the 4th year of caring for my wife with dementia. The only acceptable way out is staying the course. I’m here because I promised to be here, for better or for worse.
Stay strong bro, took care of my mom when she was diagnosed with dementia. It was rough trying to care for her and hold on to my job. But I refused to put her in a home, even when she went into hospice she was home with me. It got to a point I was ready to leave my job, cause help was scarce held on till the end. It ain't much I've done right in life, except not giving up on her. Before she passed I told her, " I'm your son." She replied "I know." Made it all worth it
@@AlexMakesGames80 people can only fail if they doing a serious try,! A loser doesnt try a thing at all! You could roll your ankle, walking from taxi to his appartement!
@@guillaumekeulen219 failure is quite the spectrum in my experience. I’ve wasted opportunities because I was good enough at something to earn them, but too lazy and doubtful to purse them to the fullest. My opinion, someone who tries nothing isn’t even worth thinking about
I just got out of detox from methadone. BELIEVE ME I did NOT want to get out of bed..but here I am at work, feeling like shit and going thru the motions. Stay strong y’all ✊
"There's a way to win, and sometimes you have to take a loss to win." This has been true across so many contexts in my life, between interpersonal relationships, escaping at 17 to survive, and in business. A tactical loss led to a strategic win, and I got to fight another day. And thankfully, I'm still standing today.
Sometimes you need to do the right thing, even you know things could turn ugly ( from getting fired to homeless, Jail or getting to be killed) You lose the battle, but not your Soul!
I’ve found action cures anxiety which then reveals answers you can’t think of pre-action. Also, I wasn’t in the military, but my Vietnam veteran father taught me how to do an L shaped ambush in my sand box as a kid. He said the important thing was letting the first vehicles/people through before you open up. I used it years later in a paintball match in college when we were defending a path in a forest. Placed my guys in front and along the left side. Wiped out the other team in seconds.
1:59 'The primary thing to do is to pay attention to your surroundings _____ ' Being present, takes practice; especially if one has built habits of escape and distraction; sometimes because of unresolved guilt, shame, trauma etc. There is an inward heart and spirit journey with God that brings healing & hope and helps one face the outer things through the dynamic of coming into unity with Him.
I’ve been working on my business for 25 years, no loan, & I have a handicap, (No SSI.)lots of suffering. I even lost my Son & daughter through the crooked family court system. I recently have made some serious advancements and the years of doing the work behind the scenes is starting to pay off. The Most High formed me to be a man built for these last days. Constant improvement, & never give up, no surrender.
It's called "iterative decision making" Keep making small steps, gather intel to make an informed decision, make the next small step. Don't marry ideas, plans, or schedules Be ok with setbacks and failures along the way This is how you learn what to do over time "Plans are useless, but planning is everything" "Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing"
I like how Gen. Norman Schwartzkopf said it, "planning is invaluable, but the plans are worthless." He said it while explaining his "hail Mary" decision during the Gulf War. He saw an opportunity and went with his instincts.
Thank You, Jocko. Going into battle later this week.... Divorce Court... 41 years to end like this?? I'm being told it's going in my favor, but nobody wins this. I am and have been looking to God, he has sustained me; but i wasn't raised for this. Your words give me last- minute positive thoughts. I will survive. Thank you 👍
You will. You can “win” in a way by being kind and gracious regardless. It can be done through divorce. Then your character wins. You will always know you acted honorably. We both ultimately did it through our divorce.
It is these situations that reveal (or expose?) one's true character. You have to respond authentically... Almost like a reflex of your soul. Any hesitation or reluctancy towards your "core truth" = failure.
I've been thought many fire fights in the last five years with life. I've won every last one of them with ease. Every time i get nervous, i hear Jocko say "relax, formulate a plan". Works every time!
Great insights on turning a bad day around. Mishaps can be a source of innovation. A 'bad' day can reveal gaps in your processes, which, when addressed, can improve you.
to quote the cheshire cat. alice: which way is it? cat: that depends very much on which way you want to go. alice: i don't know where I'm going. cat: then it doesn't really matter which way you pick! but, if i were you, I'd visit the mad hatter. alice: oh, i don't know.. cat: you could also consider the march hare? of course, he's mad too. alice: i don't want to go among mad people! cat: oh you can't help that... most everyone around here's mad. you might notice, I'm not all there myself...
I believe there's a term called "rim rocked". In rock climbing it's a situation where you're stuck and can't go up or down. A situation to obviously avoid. I think it's a good metaphor to apply to life. Always keep options open.
I just stumbled upon this and it reminded me of what I just went through in my personal life... it became a war of attrition, taking hits on every side, internally going beyond the boundaries of winning and losing, not seeing any light, relying on my imagination just to find reasons to keep going, inch by inch I realized the best way to for me was to aim high, because the only other option was suicide.. 😢 but some fucking how I found inspiration and just put grip on every detail I could muster... after several months I started gaining traction again.. I made it through, I now know I'm much more focused on the battles ahead.. its fight or die at rare times in life. Always choose to fight!
Touch grass homie. Go for a walk around the block and leave the phone at home. Then go to a park and just lay in the grass, no phone. Find a hobby that is cheap and easy to start…wood working, painting, a random musical instrument…you got this 😅
Zugzwang in chess is basically: You're FORCED to make a move, but every move you make worsens your position even more. In essence, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Good & bad are opposing points of view. Intent, is the line that divides the two,.. what someone perceives as bad, may well be goodness in its purest form to another. Good quality vid (applause)
2:342:523:28 Look for opportunities 4:00Benefits 4:20 Think strategically 5:12 Do something unexpected 7:158:40 sub 9:00 Assault 9:45 How much risk is there? 10:30 Theres ways to win 11:20 If you sometimes accept offers unknowingly, you accidentaly put yourself in bad positions
It always made me laugh when we'd be in a situation at work and it's picking the lesser of two bad options and my bosses would go "Is there a risk?" I'd be like "yeah, there's a risk going to the john in the morning." Some days you get not great options. Just the way it goes. Some times that's your doing, some times it's not. You have to be pragmatic about the lemons you're given, and if you're given turds instead of lemons you'd better plant a lemon tree.
"Positive sacrifice" at 3:40. "Make sure you are thinking from a strategic perspective:.... at 4:30 "Look to do something unexpected." at 5::39 "There are ways to win; find a way." at 10:37.
Step 0- be aware and work to avoid losing situations Step 1- accept reality Step 2- reframe the situation and find the positive and challenging Step 3- always think long term Step 4- expand your thinking and try to do something unexpected Step 5- don't give up
Yes, I did this once to win a chess game. A small Indian boy was crushing me in an end game and there was a group of people around us watching, I prayed 'Please don't let me loose to a small boy in front of all these people', and then a strange choice seemed to present itself, and I did it, not knowing where it was going, then played the game with the seemingly inevitable ending, but then not even realizing it, I check mated him. It was brilliant, not consciously, it was subconscious and everyone clapped and started shaking my hand. The organizer came up and told me it was a good game. My best game coming out of inevitable failure.
Another concept i heard you talk about that comes from chess is desperado say your piece is traped well you can at least go out with taking a pawn not just give it away for free
Sounds like an Anthony B song. Zug Zwang, zugga zugga zang, Rasta. A canonical Dancehall beat. Like the Smokey tea. It’s got this swinging beat. Nice high hat punctuation.
I'm thinking of firefighting in a mayday situation. Options will vanish fast. Going out a window on the second floor or higher in a flashover situation. I've trained for it but man I don't want to find myself there.
Loss can be turning point to the big win. The win will lead to loss. Play the infinite game. Play the long game. This makes the short game loss a stepping stone to the victory in the bigger game. Edit. The strangest loss is the loss thats actually a victory because it ends conflict and adversarial positioning creating strong alliances with understanding. Often pride and misunderstanding prevents this victory because the idiots who made the plan created a mess of mistakes for whatever reason and people are unable to recognize their sunk costs are sunk costs. But the moment that they discard the written script for the factual reality... there is no loss. Only confirmation of the situation made by confirmed testing and then recognizing the true situation. Which then makes the sunk costs a investment which tested the value of opposition and alteration of positioning allowing for correct outcomes creates value. Confirmed value as shown by testing and statistics. Self deception and propaganda are powerful determinants. Reality and adaptation to reality are even more powerful and useful.
Sabotage yourself so you can take a step back. Pause for a moment, and them take a good look around and get a better vantage point of what is going on.
I recently got blindsided at work with the information that my supervisor is moving to a new position and my coworker and I will have to run the office. It's a customer service type atmosphere so we can't just get up and go to the bathroom. We have to ask someone to watch our front desk. Someone who won't be able to help anyone. They will just sit here to tell people that someone that can help them will be back
I missed the first 2 minutes of this thinking about the pants shitting comment. I don't know what I would do in that situation. Been there though. It's a character builder for sure. I hope it worked out for you brother.
G'day Mr. Jocko, I'd appreciate your opinions on the current trend in b j.j. on butt skooting around trying to get the other to buy into their strategy.
make a move even you didn't think about 😅 sounds funny but I believe it is a very valid solution for situations when you are psychologically zugzwanged, so you can move yourself out from a thought pattern or environment that became comfortable.
I totally agree about being unpredictable. That's what my boxing trainer taught me as a kid. I use that strategy in life. Where I am from the rivers are filled with man eating crocodiles. So you never want to go wash at the same time because crocodiles are good at studying the timing of things they want to kill. If you go down to the river to wash every day at the same time one day that crocodile is going to time you and be right there to eat you. So I never feel comfortable being predictable. One way to do that is to make your adversary believe you are weaker than you are until the right moment when you surprise them with your strength and defeat them. But as for me I don't like fighting with my adversaries. Instead what I do is convince them to destroy themselves. How I do that is make them be blinded by their own pride. This works very well with people that have inferiority complexes. Say and do things that will motivate them to prove to you how great they are and eventually they will destroy themselves in the process. In any case, I'm a big believer in the style of fighting without fighting. I like to use this example. If you're surrounded on all sides by people that are moving in to kill you what do you do? You have no one to help you. How do you survive in a situation like that? Well, the only way that I know of is that you got to start talking to them all and you want to try and convince as many of them as you can that it's not a good idea to kill you because in doing so they'll end up killing themselves. You don't have to convince them all but if you can convince at least some of them than maybe you can get them to start fighting against themselves. This leads me to my belief when it comes to warfare in general. I don't need to put a bullet in his head. Instead all I need to do is convince the enemy that it is in their best interest to become my friend. I grew up in an all white community with some very dangerous people. I'm not all white as you can see from my photo. How did I survive? Well, I became friends with those dangerous people. They accepted me as one of them. On the other hand I've lived for twenty years in one of the most dangerous countries in the World. I live in population. How do I do that? In the same way. The interesting thing about the country I'm in now is that I live in an all black community and as you can see from my photo I'm not all black. How do I survive? Well, I become accepted as one of them.
I’m in the 4th year of caring for my wife with dementia. The only acceptable way out is staying the course. I’m here because I promised to be here, for better or for worse.
🫡🫡🫡🫡🫡🙏🏾
@donkemp8151 - You are a noble man. I hope you have some good support🙏
God bless you.
Stay strong bro, took care of my mom when she was diagnosed with dementia. It was rough trying to care for her and hold on to my job. But I refused to put her in a home, even when she went into hospice she was home with me. It got to a point I was ready to leave my job, cause help was scarce held on till the end. It ain't much I've done right in life, except not giving up on her. Before she passed I told her, " I'm your son." She replied "I know." Made it all worth it
Honour. Integrity. These are very rare traits these days. You are a diamond in the rough
Stay strong my brother. And she would have done the same..... Peace and love
"Failure when you are ALL IN, is not the same as the Failure of not Trying".
True
Too true, failing knowing you could have done more is infinitely worse
@@AlexMakesGames80 people can only fail if they doing a serious try,!
A loser doesnt try a thing at all!
You could roll your ankle, walking from taxi to his appartement!
@@guillaumekeulen219 failure is quite the spectrum in my experience. I’ve wasted opportunities because I was good enough at something to earn them, but too lazy and doubtful to purse them to the fullest. My opinion, someone who tries nothing isn’t even worth thinking about
I just got out of detox from methadone. BELIEVE ME I did NOT want to get out of bed..but here I am at work, feeling like shit and going thru the motions. Stay strong y’all ✊
I dont know you, but im fucking proud of you.
💪🏻👊🏻
Keep fighting brother, keep fuggin going forward . We need you. 👊🏻
There's always a way to win brother! You got this! From a cancer survivor in Brasil 🙏
Keep going!
Everyone have a great work week! God bless all of Ya's ✌️
May He bless you too.
You too!
"There's a way to win, and sometimes you have to take a loss to win."
This has been true across so many contexts in my life, between interpersonal relationships, escaping at 17 to survive, and in business. A tactical loss led to a strategic win, and I got to fight another day.
And thankfully, I'm still standing today.
Sometimes you need to do the right thing, even you know things could turn ugly ( from getting fired to homeless, Jail or getting to be killed)
You lose the battle, but not your Soul!
Sometimes success isn't a blast, it's just a pop, lol.
I’ve found action cures anxiety which then reveals answers you can’t think of pre-action. Also, I wasn’t in the military, but my Vietnam veteran father taught me how to do an L shaped ambush in my sand box as a kid. He said the important thing was letting the first vehicles/people through before you open up. I used it years later in a paintball match in college when we were defending a path in a forest. Placed my guys in front and along the left side. Wiped out the other team in seconds.
1:59 'The primary thing to do is to pay attention to your surroundings _____ '
Being present, takes practice; especially if one has built habits of escape and distraction; sometimes because of unresolved guilt, shame, trauma etc. There is an inward heart and spirit journey with God that brings healing & hope and helps one face the outer things through the dynamic of coming into unity with Him.
A phrase that's always stuck with me is "learn to recognize when the only way out is through".
I learned this early on in the army. Ain't no use in looking down, there's no discharge on the ground
This video was recommended to me as i was shitting my pants on the subway
Hey, atleast the subway already smelled similar. You gotta think positive. Lol.
At least you had pants to shit.
why are you on your phone while shitting your pants?
Good.
Good.
I’ve been working on my business for 25 years, no loan, & I have a handicap, (No SSI.)lots of suffering. I even lost my Son & daughter through the crooked family court system. I recently have made some serious advancements and the years of doing the work behind the scenes is starting to pay off. The Most High formed me to be a man built for these last days. Constant improvement, & never give up, no surrender.
It's called "iterative decision making"
Keep making small steps, gather intel to make an informed decision, make the next small step. Don't marry ideas, plans, or schedules
Be ok with setbacks and failures along the way
This is how you learn what to do over time
"Plans are useless, but planning is everything"
"Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing"
I like how Gen. Norman Schwartzkopf said it, "planning is invaluable, but the plans are worthless." He said it while explaining his "hail Mary" decision during the Gulf War. He saw an opportunity and went with his instincts.
Dude where’s your podcast?
Hey Jocko, thanks for all the encouragement and positivity. And for your service. We benefit from experience we would never want to live.
Thank You, Jocko. Going into battle later this week.... Divorce Court... 41 years to end like this?? I'm being told it's going in my favor, but nobody wins this. I am and have been looking to God, he has sustained me; but i wasn't raised for this. Your words give me last- minute positive thoughts. I will survive. Thank you 👍
You will. You can “win” in a way by being kind and gracious regardless. It can be done through divorce. Then your character wins. You will always know you acted honorably. We both ultimately did it through our divorce.
Damn bro you been married 41 years?!?! How's it going for you now? I'm sorry you have to go heads up like that
It is these situations that reveal (or expose?) one's true character. You have to respond authentically... Almost like a reflex of your soul.
Any hesitation or reluctancy towards your "core truth" = failure.
‘Do something, even if it is wrong’. -Army adage
Acceptance and have peace with your choices regardless of what it ends up to be.
I've been thought many fire fights in the last five years with life. I've won every last one of them with ease. Every time i get nervous, i hear Jocko say "relax, formulate a plan". Works every time!
"Take one on the chin and prove as an example of how you are going take one on the chin" YOU HAVE NO IDEA how hard is that. But man I felt that
As someone with their testicles on their chin, I felt that
@@TheGhjgjgjgjgjg LMFAO XD
Jocko is always on putting great energy in the air. #GetBackUpMotivation
echo immediately remembering the arm lock, both amusing and a great emphasis to his point
Great insights on turning a bad day around. Mishaps can be a source of innovation. A 'bad' day can reveal gaps in your processes, which, when addressed, can improve you.
This is such a LinkedIn comment
Listening to these warriors is very educating.
to quote the cheshire cat.
alice: which way is it?
cat: that depends very much on which way you want to go.
alice: i don't know where I'm going.
cat: then it doesn't really matter which way you pick! but, if i were you, I'd visit the mad hatter.
alice: oh, i don't know..
cat: you could also consider the march hare? of course, he's mad too.
alice: i don't want to go among mad people!
cat: oh you can't help that... most everyone around here's mad. you might notice, I'm not all there myself...
One of the very few podcasts that actually helps people . Great job guys
I believe there's a term called "rim rocked". In rock climbing it's a situation where you're stuck and can't go up or down. A situation to obviously avoid. I think it's a good metaphor to apply to life. Always keep options open.
It’s not a climbing term. Rimrock is a place in Arizona. Also the name of various hotels/casinos/etc.
@@Tightshipskipski actually it is. It's not really part of rock climbing vernacular but the term does refer to rock climbing.
I just stumbled upon this and it reminded me of what I just went through in my personal life... it became a war of attrition, taking hits on every side, internally going beyond the boundaries of winning and losing, not seeing any light, relying on my imagination just to find reasons to keep going, inch by inch I realized the best way to for me was to aim high, because the only other option was suicide.. 😢 but some fucking how I found inspiration and just put grip on every detail I could muster... after several months I started gaining traction again.. I made it through, I now know I'm much more focused on the battles ahead.. its fight or die at rare times in life. Always choose to fight!
I needed this..he is right sometimes all of the moves available might be horrendous regardless
I’ve reach my breaking point. I don’t want to do live this life endlessly chasing dopamine anymore. It’s time to change.
@zk_filthwrong. Nothing changes until you make a change. Talking about it achieves nothing
Corny ass people but I agree with the sentiment lol
Sounds like you're quite frustrated. What's up?
Touch grass homie. Go for a walk around the block and leave the phone at home. Then go to a park and just lay in the grass, no phone. Find a hobby that is cheap and easy to start…wood working, painting, a random musical instrument…you got this 😅
Do it. Embrace the suck and get good.
yes! not giving up is a win
I NEEDED to hear this. Thank you!
Zugzwang in chess is basically: You're FORCED to make a move, but every move you make worsens your position even more. In essence, you're stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Or a rook and a hard place...
sigh@@jasonbushell7080
@@jasonbushell7080 I like your style.
Zugzwang in German means "tight spot."
i am at that spot right now and have no clue what to do....and i hate it with every fiber of my being! I am tired of upheaval i want stability please!
Good & bad are opposing points of view. Intent, is the line that divides the two,.. what someone perceives as bad, may well be goodness in its purest form to another. Good quality vid (applause)
2:34 2:52 3:28 Look for opportunities 4:00Benefits 4:20 Think strategically 5:12 Do something unexpected 7:15 8:40 sub
9:00 Assault 9:45 How much risk is there? 10:30 Theres ways to win 11:20
If you sometimes accept offers unknowingly, you accidentaly put yourself in bad positions
Zugzwang...your pronunciation is so funny. 🙂 greetings from germany
It always made me laugh when we'd be in a situation at work and it's picking the lesser of two bad options and my bosses would go "Is there a risk?" I'd be like "yeah, there's a risk going to the john in the morning."
Some days you get not great options. Just the way it goes. Some times that's your doing, some times it's not. You have to be pragmatic about the lemons you're given, and if you're given turds instead of lemons you'd better plant a lemon tree.
These videos always seem to be relevant. Thankyou
Thank You Jocko 🥋
There’s always a way to win👊
needed this today
Thank you sir!!!
Exactly what i needed to hear
"Positive sacrifice" at 3:40. "Make sure you are thinking from a strategic perspective:.... at 4:30 "Look to do something unexpected." at 5::39 "There are ways to win; find a way." at 10:37.
I needed to hear this right now at this moment!
needed to hear this today!
Step 0- be aware and work to avoid losing situations
Step 1- accept reality
Step 2- reframe the situation and find the positive and challenging
Step 3- always think long term
Step 4- expand your thinking and try to do something unexpected
Step 5- don't give up
Thanks man
isnt echo just the sweetest?
If there are ways to win then you must know what winning entails.
Mr. Jocko, Mr. Echo sirs, on the RNC thing, Jon Fitch was a master of getting out of locked in rear naked chokes ... if i remember correctly
Yes, I did this once to win a chess game. A small Indian boy was crushing me in an end game and there was a group of people around us watching, I prayed 'Please don't let me loose to a small boy in front of all these people', and then a strange choice seemed to present itself, and I did it, not knowing where it was going, then played the game with the seemingly inevitable ending, but then not even realizing it, I check mated him. It was brilliant, not consciously, it was subconscious and everyone clapped and started shaking my hand. The organizer came up and told me it was a good game. My best game coming out of inevitable failure.
I wonder if the small Indian boy knew the difference between "lose" and "loose".🙄
@@jonsmith20766 Cheeky.
The same thing basically happened to me and my friend. I didnt even know i won until he told me lol
Sit back and look at your position and pay attention don't blunder hope for the best and capitalize on any mistakes you can exploit
Thank you!
Needed this 👐
00:50 👌👌👌
3:30 Opportunities
4:20 Strategy vs Tactical
5:20 The Unexpected
10:45 Take Ls to Win
11:30 Summary
I love words. Thanks for "zugzwang."
Yeah you'll b fine, don't worry about it, just do your work treat people good, all will work out
The whole movie called Mr. Nobody with Jared Leto is about Zugzwang.VERY GOOD movie!!! Must watch
"Better to win a hundred battles with the mind than one by attrition" - Me probably.
That's a money quote. What do you mean by "probably?"
Compound word.
Perspective change.
i am german but i had to read the comments to understand "Zugzwang" 🤣🤣🤣
Zugzwang in translation means Turn Pressure you have to make a turn/move
Tks jocko.
Always 04 choices, but in a short or lacking situation... what is the limit between "lesser of evils" and "preemptive attack"?
Godspeed.
dude this video helps a lot
Just make a decision at that point because no matter your in the same situation to where even no decision is a decision
Can anyone please share the link to the “contrarian podcast” mentioned? Tks
Thanks
Another concept i heard you talk about that comes from chess is desperado say your piece is traped well you can at least go out with taking a pawn not just give it away for free
Did they change the colouring or lighting? It looks great.
This mindset or way of thinking is very relevant when investing your money.
Absolutely priceless.
0:50 Camera angle almost made me drop my phone in the toilet.
Took me a bit to figure out he is saying "Zugzwang" in the beginning :D As a native German speaker...
Sounds like an Anthony B song. Zug Zwang, zugga zugga zang, Rasta. A canonical Dancehall beat. Like the Smokey tea.
It’s got this swinging beat. Nice high hat punctuation.
😂 Zugzwang, dude that pronounciation 😂
as a german I had a good laugh :D
hahahah hab auch erstmal gebraucht, bis ich das Wort identifiziert hab :D
Didn't recognize the word at all until explanation was made.
Zugzwang bedeutet wie Engpass oder in der Klemme.
I'm thinking of firefighting in a mayday situation. Options will vanish fast. Going out a window on the second floor or higher in a flashover situation. I've trained for it but man I don't want to find myself there.
Loss can be turning point to the big win.
The win will lead to loss.
Play the infinite game.
Play the long game.
This makes the short game loss a stepping stone to the victory in the bigger game.
Edit.
The strangest loss is the loss thats actually a victory because it ends conflict and adversarial positioning creating strong alliances with understanding.
Often pride and misunderstanding prevents this victory because the idiots who made the plan created a mess of mistakes for whatever reason and people are unable to recognize their sunk costs are sunk costs.
But the moment that they discard the written script for the factual reality... there is no loss. Only confirmation of the situation made by confirmed testing and then recognizing the true situation.
Which then makes the sunk costs a investment which tested the value of opposition and alteration of positioning allowing for correct outcomes creates value.
Confirmed value as shown by testing and statistics.
Self deception and propaganda are powerful determinants.
Reality and adaptation to reality are even more powerful and useful.
Yep.
Jocko helped me get outta bed 😅
Good Words
Sabotage yourself so you can take a step back. Pause for a moment, and them take a good look around and get a better vantage point of what is going on.
2 out of the 12 minutes were worth it
Which of these two minutes were useful
@@YABUKIJOE2077 the ones where I wasn't sleeping
I recently got blindsided at work with the information that my supervisor is moving to a new position and my coworker and I will have to run the office. It's a customer service type atmosphere so we can't just get up and go to the bathroom. We have to ask someone to watch our front desk. Someone who won't be able to help anyone. They will just sit here to tell people that someone that can help them will be back
I missed the first 2 minutes of this thinking about the pants shitting comment. I don't know what I would do in that situation. Been there though. It's a character builder for sure. I hope it worked out for you brother.
Jocko knows, I am stucked at too many careers entry points and jocko saved me.
Pretty cool to see you using chess terminology
G'day Mr. Jocko, I'd appreciate your opinions on the current trend in b j.j. on butt skooting around trying to get the other to buy into their strategy.
Forced to make a bad move? Good!
"Zugzwang" in German means more like "tight spot" or like being "in a pinch", not necessarily a "compulsion" to move.
make a move even you didn't think about 😅
sounds funny but I believe it is a very valid solution for situations when you are psychologically zugzwanged, so you can move yourself out from a thought pattern or environment that became comfortable.
"How do we go to mars?"
"Its like jiujitsu, you remember that time i did a headlock"
Minimize risk, or maximize opportunities
If you don't know what to do next, just charge forward and cry "Leeerooy Jenkinss...!!"
Perspective!
It's also a chess term and it means no matter what move you make its the same outcome
What should Haiti do?
I'm so clueless.
And I'm worried about our southern insular buddies.
if i ever roll with jocko im going straight for the heel hook
I totally agree about being unpredictable. That's what my boxing trainer taught me as a kid. I use that strategy in life.
Where I am from the rivers are filled with man eating crocodiles. So you never want to go wash at the same time because crocodiles are good at studying the timing of things they want to kill. If you go down to the river to wash every day at the same time one day that crocodile is going to time you and be right there to eat you. So I never feel comfortable being predictable.
One way to do that is to make your adversary believe you are weaker than you are until the right moment when you surprise them with your strength and defeat them.
But as for me I don't like fighting with my adversaries. Instead what I do is convince them to destroy themselves. How I do that is make them be blinded by their own pride. This works very well with people that have inferiority complexes. Say and do things that will motivate them to prove to you how great they are and eventually they will destroy themselves in the process. In any case, I'm a big believer in the style of fighting without fighting.
I like to use this example. If you're surrounded on all sides by people that are moving in to kill you what do you do? You have no one to help you. How do you survive in a situation like that? Well, the only way that I know of is that you got to start talking to them all and you want to try and convince as many of them as you can that it's not a good idea to kill you because in doing so they'll end up killing themselves. You don't have to convince them all but if you can convince at least some of them than maybe you can get them to start fighting against themselves.
This leads me to my belief when it comes to warfare in general. I don't need to put a bullet in his head. Instead all I need to do is convince the enemy that it is in their best interest to become my friend.
I grew up in an all white community with some very dangerous people. I'm not all white as you can see from my photo. How did I survive? Well, I became friends with those dangerous people. They accepted me as one of them. On the other hand I've lived for twenty years in one of the most dangerous countries in the World. I live in population. How do I do that? In the same way. The interesting thing about the country I'm in now is that I live in an all black community and as you can see from my photo I'm not all black. How do I survive? Well, I become accepted as one of them.
iam german and i was like "what word" ? dont worry, i know its a tough language. its ZUGZWANG. took me a while but i found out to jockos description.
I'm still on plan A.
I never have no moves left.
How does it feeel 2 b uh Seal?