I haven’t cried in sixteen years, but for some reason this just broke all the barriers and precautions I put in place to keep myself from crying in thirteen minutes.
This hit hard and hurt, grew up hearing men dont cry, never allowed to show pain or emotional hurt, until now at my age, 61 facing PTSD, Anxiety and deep depression alone and numb, you had me crying so hard I sobbed, want to so bad to yell I AM NOT MADE OF STONE! Thank You! Please forgive this old fool.
Maybe one day, you might come across a young man, and you can use your terrible experience into something good. There are young men who still believe that they can’t afford to be human. A man that locks away his emotions is like a man that drinks poison. You are no fool for being human.
My father, uncles, cousins, and grandfather: "Of course it's okay for men to cry." My mother: "You can take it!" Guess who I don't talk to anymore?" This was very accurate and full of things I need to hear more often than I do. Thanks for the audio, Michelle.
To make a very long story short, no. No I do not. And because she is fundamentally incapable of accepting responsibility for her abusive behavior, I probably never will.
This shit hit HARD. I've never actually felt the build-up of tears in my eye lids before. I've always wanted to be an emotional person, but never knew how exactly to let go of keeping it all boxed in. Great audio. Perfect voice. Ty
As someone who's been dealing with crippling loneliness and possibly depression for the past couple years (possibly longer), this really hit me. I don't even know how to tell anyone I desperately need help, and I'm so introverted that I can't even confide in the few friends that I do have. I know that men having to hide their tears is bullshit and yet I feel like I can't be properly sad
I sometimes find that when I don't have anyone I feel I can talk to I either free-write (set a timer for 10 minutes and just write continuously even if it doesn't' make sense) or record myself saying everything I wish I could and listening back. Hope that helps 💙
Not sure if you’re against therapy or have a bad experience with it but know that therapy isn’t for the weak, but for the strong willing to reach out of their comfort zone and receive help.
@@tuggnuggets130 I'm sorry, but did you seriously just tell a guy with a fragile mental state to suck it up on an audio that's all about breaking down the stereotype of "men always need to be strong"? Because if so, fuck you.
That made me shed a single tear, which in all honesty is huge seeing as I can’t remember the last time I cried beyond my eyes flushing some foreign contaminant out of them. The part from 8:10-9:10 hit me like a truck.
Tgis is literally me. I watch more videos like this sometimes where the comments are full of people saying they cried (also non asmr but always something that makes a lot of other people cry). And I'm just sitting there having at most wet eyes with maybe a tear running down my face. Thinking that something must be very wrong with me...
8:11 Honestly, this one got to me the most. I don’t remember who, if anyone, told me that “men don’t cry” and other crap like that, but I do actually remember me telling myself “you have to be strong” and “you can’t be seen crying” back when my dad died. I haven’t been the same since all that. I want to talk about how I feel, but it is too hard for me to do by myself. Some people need a push to talk about what they want to, and that’s ok. Having someone there that makes you want to talk about how you feel makes dealing with negative emotions easier than just bottling them all up. Idk who is going to read this, but I just want to say that even if you can’t see it, you are loved and cared for by someone. That someone might change over time, whether it be old friends changing or you getting new friends, but I can guarantee that there’s someone out there who wants only the best for you.
This audio is very important to hear. I know I tried to lock away my emotions for too long. Hell, I can’t even cry unless I'm in a full breakdown. And I'll still usually hurt myself first. Locking up emotions causes too damn many problems. Especially if you're unlucky enough to be bipolar like I am. So many unbridled emotions jammed into that box. The pressure is enough to turn pencil lead into diamond. Makes me feel like a shambling husk. I like audios like this that remind me I can still be human if I unlatch that fateful box.
Unfortunately like many men who’ve found this video it hit me hard. At a young age my family went through hardships and being the first born son I was told I needed to be strong and always wear a smile but as I got older my smile became fake I started to laugh instead of cry I smiled when I wanted to frown and soon even when I would just sit there silently I was told it was wrong so now I smile cause from a boy to man I was told I can’t feel sad
After my dad suddenly passed away five years ago. These are emotions that I deal with often. But I surround myself with hobbies I enjoyed doing with my dad to help fight it.
She doesn't know or care, at least not the extent. This is for views like any RUclips video. We're all just suckers who need it like a smoker needs cigarettes.
@@ggggg77273 That's pretty pessimistic of you. I think she knows damn well about what she is talking about because, as a man, I couldn't help but realize that the harsh truths which she speaks are super true.
Emotions for me can be a pandora's box sometimes. I know this comes from my father, and from his father. You speak a lot of truth. Thank you for this audio.
Honestly this audio was extremely accurate maybe even painfully. For people who would be willing to read this, the scariest part for me was when she talked about that little ball of anger hiding under the surface. I’ve had problems with managing my anger ever since I was a kid and through a large part of my teenage years I ended lashing out on other people and hurting them on accident. And ever since I’ve always been terrified that this ball of anger will surface once more and I can’t control it.
I have several mental health issues, and recently I've begun to realize that a lot of my childhood was composed of toxic and damaging scenarios and mindsets, even from my parents, who think they're just pushing me to do my best. I've never been able to help getting emotional (regulating my emotions is very hard) but I get attached to people easily, yet at the same time worry about opening up and overwhelming people. I needed to hear some of these things. Thank you 💙
Very good presentation! On the flipside, it can be difficult to find the woman who excepts the emotions of a man. Even when the man wants, needs to show that vulnerability. Well done Michele!
Recently I’ve been trying to get into my emotions more, listening to sad audios like this or stuff that is just brings those emotions back. I guess it’s been working, tears come a little more easily
This audio hit me dead on the entire time, not only am I afraid of opening my "box". When I do want to open it... it stays sealed shut and has been for over 3 years now. I'm a senior in high school and I remember crying all the time before I was in 4th/5th grade in elementary school. But now. I've had so many incidents in my life in the last few years where I've wanted to cry super badly, but never have been able to. Not many audios call this topic out and I'm glad to find this one when I first discovered your channel. Thank you.
This one hit hard. I've been going through a lot, for as long as I can remember. I'm afraid I'm going numb to somethings. I'd always hear growing up, "quit bitching" "man up" "life sucks, get over it". I've been told "be a man" "ba an alpha" "alpha's don't cry". I've been told constantly that if I show emotion, people will take advantage of me. Think I'm weak. Well to be more specific, I've been told women will use, abuse and manipilate me. I hear depressing things on the daily and I don't mean on the internet, I'm talking about my family bringing up how screwed up everything in the world is. I'm never really allowed to voice my thoughts, so all I can do is listen. I don't mean to type a whole speech here but like I said, this video hit hard. You did AMAZING!!! Loved this.
Thanks for this. I spent 24 years in the military and have been dealing with chronic severe pain for at least 15 years. I can't remember the last time I cried. I just can't. My box is so full, I'm afraid to open it.
I'm going to get philosophical for a second so forgive me. I believe anyone who says to suppress your emotions is a fool. Even the strongest people are told to lock it down but it doesn't mean they don't carry it. They use it to make them stronger. Because now you have that much more momentum to push through your struggles and power if you allow it to. We all have our ways of dealing with it and having someone there that's willing to hear you said to be the best. Okay I'm done rambling Great video
@@theaweissinger Well by according to that logic I'm probably one of the biggest fools, because I haven't cried in over a year and don't worry you haven't offended anyone.
Mom raised me. She'll regularly say I need to "act like a man", or "not be a sissy". Christ, I feel so fucking useless, at 43 years old I feel like a total fuck up, not a man. I can't even support for my girlfriend, who really loves me, let alone myself. Fuck, I hate myself so much sometimes.... Your videos are fantastic by the way. Only discovered them recently.
Michelle, the light from your hilltop shines upon everyone who sees your work here. I've listened to a lot of ASMR/roleplay videos. The best ones excel for various reasons; one has deep lore, another unique, we'll thought out characters. Still another an engaging and dynamic adventure. But after the hundreds of ASMR I've heard, this stands out as truly unique. Why? So, we have our simple premise; girl finds boy trying to hide his grief. Yeah, I've seen it before. Generic person addressing faceless character about how he can show her his feelings. But that's not what we came for today. About a minute in, before you even know it, the facade drops. Michelle, you were no longer addressing us character to character. Today, we spoke person to person. You shared freely from your heart and mind about the burden we create for men through stigmatizing the expression of male emotions. The mind's eye can still see the girl in the room, gazing upon her boyfriend with concern, but from the moment your appeal begins, it is your voice, not hers, I'm hearing. From your solid, fact-based points about male depression and suicide to your beautiful parallels about leaking boxes and bending willows, your heart was open, and your case compelling. I also appreciated that you were not afraid or ashamed to list Jesus among the great men of history. You spoke life to thousands of people who hear your voice. People who now have more hope for their future. Because of you. As one who has been involved in ministry to men in the past, I cannot thank you enough. God bless you, Michelle, keep speaking life. 💙
I wasn’t born a guy but I constantly feel scared to show my emotions, I haven’t cried in god knows how long. I’m broken and I don’t know if I can get better.
One of my favorite quotes is: "We are all broken. That's how the light gets in." by Ernest Hemingway. In Japan, they have a process, called Kintsugi, of repairing cracks or breaks in pottery with gold to honor the journey the item has gone through. Feeling broken isn't the end and it doesn't mean you're worth less. I know you can move forward better than before. 💙
I was there but Jesus soften my heart. There is nothing wrong with crying. Please cry and let it all out, that will help you heal. Let Jesus heal your heart, he healed my heart
Of all the Asmr roleplays that i've seen, this is one I definitely relate to the most. Hits super close to home. Although I don't have someone to tell me these things/affirmations, I've gotten by, by just closing up my walls and not showing any major emotion. Writing this random comment on youtube at 1 am really makes this whole situation sadder IMO. Didn't think a youtube video could make me tear up but it really was what I needed to hear. Like myself this comment will probably fly under the radar but I just need to say this. Thanks for the very thoughtful video and words Michelle.
Emotional numbness REALLY screws with you because as you grow up, it grows with you, when you try to act against it will make you feel worse, and if you can't find an outlet for your emotions it will tear you to pieces.
Interesting to hear all of this from you, it's a really good audio. Personally, I've known that there's been something wrong with me emotionally, of course there has been. And that directionless anger does really build in a person. And many days I often lean back in my chair or I will lay in bed and feel this overwhelming sense of dread weighing on the back of my neck. My friends and I all know that we're not alright - that's where the meme "guys saying 'it is what it is' on the worst day of their lives" came from. We joke and laugh, but it's a true horror. As friends we all joke and laugh together, that's the only solace we have, our only way to cope. In many instances, we tell ourselves that we don't deserve to cry rather than we shouldn't. Because I haven't gone through enough pain in my life, I don't deserve to express what I bottle up. Not a way to live, but it's the kind of existence I lead. If you ended up finishing this novel I just wrote, I hope you have a good day. Maybe I'll pass you by in the future.
This is strange to say but I am a really tall guy, and because of that I have had a lot of tree nicknames with my friends. That tree analogy you had at the end really hit home because of that, pure luck really. But it really helped by catching me off guard. I often feel I want to cry or an on the verge of crying but I cannot, the last time I did when when my dad pass away so at least I know it can still happen, I just wish it didn't take something that extreme.
Well never thought I'd be here but yet here I am. Slightly onto something here. In the Marine Corps you're drilled into "Suck it up and press forward" mindset and kicking that is the hardest thing to do. Burying friends and family you feel it but you don't show it to others. People need you so you backpack it for later but the later doesn't come for awhile. Coming back from deployments you'd get the Grunt mindset. Seeing stuff over there and people stateside just won't be able to understand and can't relate so you just don't talk about it. After everything you suck it up and press forward because it's what you CAN do. You have to relearn some things that have been drilled out of you. They are there but been put so far back in the room you have to move boxes to get there.
I really relate to having a box that eventually bursts open, I'd say my box is leaking bcuz every now and then I'll be just sitting down watching RUclips and then I slowly cry a bit n then continue my day
For me its not that i am holding it in or locking it down, i just instinctively and unconsciously keep the tears in for whatever reason. The last 2 times i ever cried was because of passings in my family but before and after i don't think i have ever cried, not counting when i was a little kid, but i do get teary-eyed, it just don't flow out, i can sometimes even feel the emotions building up inside, its kind of like a choked up feeling you get when really sad or wanna cry but hold it in.
Gonna just throw my own hat into the ring i guess....As a man my life has been rough (not to say life is easy for woman by any stretch) but i rarely felt safe,been bullied,humilated,mistreated,abused and abandoned and had to bury it all cause im a man..i should be strong and face it all head on and shake it all off so with the growing awareness to peel back that armour and want men to exress the emotions and...be loved is truely wonderful.This audio just hit me like a sledgehammer...but a nice one ofcourse.
Well, look at my concious choice of locking up emotions coming back at me at full force. Yep, doin fine here. Thanks for the audio michelle, gave me a reality check there
Wasn't told not to cry as a kid, but I did grow up in pervasive danger. I used emotion, esp negative emotional expression, to manipulate people. Now, when people say men dont cry, it sounds like a better alternative. I don't know how to express anything without at least thinking I'm manipulating people. I don't know anything else, so I can't show
I really feel like I can understand this! I grew up in a situation where I couldn’t show much emotion, especially negative, and thus, for a long time I thought I was being manipulative whenever I expressed sadness or anger! So sad how that happens :(
I’ve had many a bad night where I just sat there numb. Fortunately I got to a point where I could afford a therapist to work through some issues. Probably the best choice I could’ve made.
Listening to this was... Weird to say the least because on the one hand i agree with it but on the other hand the two women i know who were the most vocal about "its okay for men to cry/show emotions" are also two of the biggest reasons for my box so hearing a woman say those things made me want to cry but my body was on edge thinking it was a trap :/ anyway great audio
the problem today is not that guy’s have no one to turn to, it’s that they have so many places to turn to that might not listen. dying from starvation is one thing, but dying from starvation in a fully stocked kitchen is torture. guys need someone to turn to and a lot of us don’t have that. even our closest friends might not seem like a safe enough place to talk about how we really feel, like how we talk to ourselves when no one is around. dealing with it on your own gets old. i’m getting to that point again where staring at the bedroom ceiling or locking myself in the bathroom isn’t cutting it anymore. these walls don’t listen, this couch doesn’t respond. these sheets don’t affirm, this pillow doesn’t sympathize. only people can do those things. and to know there’s billions of people out there and not one pair of ears to hear you for even just a minute so you can give your shoulders a rest is a dreadful thought that won’t leave us alone.
I honestly want to cry now. My family has always been open to me being emotional. I am an emotional person. I've always hated that about myself. I often don't want to talk about things but then I do and feel guilty for a long time. I think society is why I try to hide it.
I'm 17 currently and am a junior in highschool who's already been through two relationships that have ended either because of my stupidity or I was afraid of what would happen, i have several forms of ptsd and anxiety. I've almost died twice already in my life both cause of lack of oxygen, was almost drowned by my cousins at a birthday party at a pool when I was abt 8 or 9, and I was almost choked to death in kindergarten by a classmate. And the only thing that I've been told, Is to suck it up, stop being a pussy ass bitch your fine, your a male & cause of that your feelings don't matter. I wanted to cry during this audio so fucking bad but I couldn't not matter how hard the words hit me not a single tear was shed. I've had my heart broken & torn to shreds by one of my ex's and to be completely honest I'm afraid of getting into another relationship because of the trust issues that I already have at 17.... I'm FUCKING 17 and I'm already fucking broken.... I hate my life with a burning passion.... the affirmations from your videos and the other asmr audio youtubers I watch help me alot... so thank you
I appreciate this. I'm not much of a crier and don't feel the need to be (often). There are other avenues of expression that men often feel walled off from expressing. Over-the-top joy, laughter, playfulness, silliness? Must be gay! Doesn't want to straight to bonerville with a new girlfriend? Must be gay! Likes to eat vegetables? Must be... I'm glad audios like this exist. Just taking out the garbage, one bag at a time.
Thank you, actually I am at the 3:13 min and I stopped to write this. I was here searching for emotional numbness relation to trauma. I had a alchocolic father which I lived until I was 10, when I was 2 they divorced and my bigger sisters went with mum , I stayed with grandma and him. As I grew , like 5 , 6 years and had more awareness about things, I wanted to know about mum, and he was telling me that I dont have a mum, that she is a whore, not letting me express myself , to the level putting a stick with we mix the clothes also a stick to punish kids , and he was putting that in my mouth. Soo its a lot, when I was around 10 mum got me back and now I am 24 , actually my birthday was on 17 dec. I am a male just you know...Soo I have problems with addiction like porn, sex also phone addiction, problem with sleeping at night, i dont work in the last years, soo I go to sleep sometimes even when the Sun rises. And I have problems with my mum as she also was a victim of him, and other traumas... She didnt had money for abortion with me, otherwise i wouldnt be here. Yes I could go more and more ...I dont know I am on this healing path and learning why I am like this, feeling like I have no purpose, dont know what to do in Life, confusion. And this subconcsious stuff that I was programmed by my father about my mother, that fear which I was feeling then...I have problems with trusting people, problems with intimacy. If you are into astrology I have Chiron in Scorpio in 10 house this deals with what I said. I just need someone that she says I love you from the deep core. And yes as you say - men need to cry, even that I understood as a little kid too seriously, being ashamed if you are emotional, not being safe to express my emotions, and now in me is a big ragee like Hulk or King Kong. And you know who calmed them ?... compassion, Love. Thank you I will continue feeling you....and sorry if made a mistake in writting, I am not from USA, or England...born in Macedonia, living in Slovenia. Thank you once again. 🙏❤️🌈😇🤗
I don't even know what to say... honestly, just thank you for this, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for this! Plus, using examples of me in the Bible, and me being a Christian... this audio hit me like a truck, in a good way! Really!
There are those who gaze into the abyss for too long and meet it's gaze. And there are those who willingly jump into it, becoming one with its ugliness until your very reflection becomes distorted along with reality.
It wasn't predominantly men to tell me to man-up, to be a man, gaslight my frustrations, question my manhood, question my attraction to women whenever I refused them, get my attempts at expressing my emotions trampled over by or my experiences minimized by. One day we will have that conversation in our society, hopefully.
You are right. There are many others, women included, who have such high expectations, who project an almost desperate need for the men around them to "fit a role" and be something for them so they don't have to recognize a lack within themselves. I really hope that quickly our world turns to look at those things that make them uncomfortable. Everyone deserves to heal themselves.
I came across this one at random, and no disrespect meant, to use as conversational noise to quiet the conversation I didn’t want to have… hahaha irony at its finest… It was amazing and I appreciate it.. but just one thought… it’s not always bitterness or anger that says “lock it up” … it’s fear that they will feel the pain of it… and not knowing it’s making worse when it does because they were never taught how either… I could be wrong…. but I have seen it in those before me
Like when I heard the rage part, directionless anger. That hit hard, and than her talking about me hurting me. A wound that cut deep enough to make ask myself, why just why
Sadly I still feel numb but all you said in that asmr is true and I do feel that frustration always appearing If I was to start crying I don't think I would ever stop so I think it's better that way...
Thank you. I feel like not enough people realizes how deadly of a burden the people of old are putting on this generation by saying those things. There's a very good reason why male suicide is higher than female. Female are encouraged to cry and be emotional, while men are taught not to, and that isn't good, everyone has a breaking point..
Probably no one will see this so may as well. My girlfriend broke up with me some time ago because i got another girs number. I told my gf because i thought being honest in a relationship was I'm but my relationship with my gf crumbled instantly befor my eyes. We officially cut it off a day or two later i lost all control of my porn addiction and haven't been able to maintain a streaks longer that 3 days for what feels like months today is actually my first 10 day streak since we broke up. But im terrified ill never get into another romantic relationship again at the same time im terrified to do so i worry if any girl just gives me a ounce of touch ill fall in love but i shouldn't worry because none of them want me anyway. I cant help but think when i listen to asmrs like this come back, dont go but theres never anyone there to begin with I also really want to be a firefighter but i dont know if i have what it takes to pay the mental, physical, and emotional cost not to mention the stress it puts on relationships i just cant see myself doing any others job its probably why im still trying anymore if i can just were the bunker gear ill be invincible i wont have to think about being weak or alone
I lost two friends to suicide and every day I think of them and the things they would’ve done but it keeps getting harder to keep going because of the uncertainty that I will see them again
Why? One word: austerity. People need a good excuse to clean their hands off and justify not giving attention to someone. And to be fair, I am guilty of it at some extent with my cat at home. Coming home burnt out, he begs for cuddles and scritches, and I just often push him away, especially when cooking my dinner. Long live being a working/middle class person. And I gotta find a way to walk my way around this lifestyle
I have a LOT of rage inside that I can't express, particularly these days. I feel myself being mistreated by the officials who I honestly now believe are only elected by cheating and then covering it up. I hate them for how they tax and inflate us into poverty and make themselves rich while they ruin the land that I love. I used to want to be a soldier and serve my country, but I'm medically deficient. I wanted to be a police officer but I was talked out of it because I'm white. I used to be so sure of my government and its laws, but I am being driven to the point of hating everything to do with authority and wishing they would just start putting people like me in cages so we'd be justified in fighting back and ending their grip on our lives for good. But it never happens, and it never gets any better. I just keep steadily losing my pride and sense of self as it's robbed from me along with everything I used to believe in. I feel like I'm hollowing out and just being left with nothing but bitterness and rage inside.
I do think these troubling times give us a great opportunity to invest in ourselves and our mental health instead rather than focusing on external factors like nationality or current events. I wish you the best on your personal path!
It.s nice to believe that a man can lay down their sword and armour with a woman. Make no mistake, no matter what they say, they,ll never see you the same again if you do.i I'm sure there are some unicorns out there, but i never bet the house on a longshot. Trust no one. Michelle is great, but essentially I think ishe"s voicing an idealized fictional character. Ienjoy her content and it"s very comforting, but there"s a reason why these kind of videos are gaining so much traction.
I hope someday you find a person you can trust, someone who doesn't demand it, but earns it at your pace. Please give them a chance if they come along.
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I haven’t cried in sixteen years, but for some reason this just broke all the barriers and precautions I put in place to keep myself from crying in thirteen minutes.
This hit hard and hurt, grew up hearing men dont cry, never allowed to show pain or emotional hurt, until now at my age, 61 facing PTSD, Anxiety and deep depression alone and numb, you had me crying so hard I sobbed, want to so bad to yell I AM NOT MADE OF STONE! Thank You! Please forgive this old fool.
Hey i hope you are okay! Remember its okay to cry and i hope things get better for you. (Sorry for my english im still learning)
Stay strong brother mend your wounds and release yourself
Maybe one day, you might come across a young man, and you can use your terrible experience into something good. There are young men who still believe that they can’t afford to be human.
A man that locks away his emotions is like a man that drinks poison.
You are no fool for being human.
My father, uncles, cousins, and grandfather: "Of course it's okay for men to cry."
My mother: "You can take it!"
Guess who I don't talk to anymore?"
This was very accurate and full of things I need to hear more often than I do. Thanks for the audio, Michelle.
yourself ?
Hah! No, I will always talk to myself.
You don't talk to your mother?
To make a very long story short, no. No I do not. And because she is fundamentally incapable of accepting responsibility for her abusive behavior, I probably never will.
This shit hit HARD. I've never actually felt the build-up of tears in my eye lids before. I've always wanted to be an emotional person, but never knew how exactly to let go of keeping it all boxed in. Great audio. Perfect voice. Ty
As someone who's been dealing with crippling loneliness and possibly depression for the past couple years (possibly longer), this really hit me. I don't even know how to tell anyone I desperately need help, and I'm so introverted that I can't even confide in the few friends that I do have. I know that men having to hide their tears is bullshit and yet I feel like I can't be properly sad
I sometimes find that when I don't have anyone I feel I can talk to I either free-write (set a timer for 10 minutes and just write continuously even if it doesn't' make sense) or record myself saying everything I wish I could and listening back. Hope that helps 💙
Not sure if you’re against therapy or have a bad experience with it but know that therapy isn’t for the weak, but for the strong willing to reach out of their comfort zone and receive help.
Same
Lmao, suck it up
@@tuggnuggets130 I'm sorry, but did you seriously just tell a guy with a fragile mental state to suck it up on an audio that's all about breaking down the stereotype of "men always need to be strong"? Because if so, fuck you.
That made me shed a single tear, which in all honesty is huge seeing as I can’t remember the last time I cried beyond my eyes flushing some foreign contaminant out of them. The part from 8:10-9:10 hit me like a truck.
Tgis is literally me. I watch more videos like this sometimes where the comments are full of people saying they cried (also non asmr but always something that makes a lot of other people cry). And I'm just sitting there having at most wet eyes with maybe a tear running down my face.
Thinking that something must be very wrong with me...
8:11 Honestly, this one got to me the most. I don’t remember who, if anyone, told me that “men don’t cry” and other crap like that, but I do actually remember me telling myself “you have to be strong” and “you can’t be seen crying” back when my dad died. I haven’t been the same since all that. I want to talk about how I feel, but it is too hard for me to do by myself. Some people need a push to talk about what they want to, and that’s ok. Having someone there that makes you want to talk about how you feel makes dealing with negative emotions easier than just bottling them all up.
Idk who is going to read this, but I just want to say that even if you can’t see it, you are loved and cared for by someone. That someone might change over time, whether it be old friends changing or you getting new friends, but I can guarantee that there’s someone out there who wants only the best for you.
Thanks just wanted you to know your comment wasn’t in vain 😊
This audio is very important to hear. I know I tried to lock away my emotions for too long. Hell, I can’t even cry unless I'm in a full breakdown. And I'll still usually hurt myself first. Locking up emotions causes too damn many problems. Especially if you're unlucky enough to be bipolar like I am. So many unbridled emotions jammed into that box. The pressure is enough to turn pencil lead into diamond. Makes me feel like a shambling husk. I like audios like this that remind me I can still be human if I unlatch that fateful box.
Unfortunately like many men who’ve found this video it hit me hard. At a young age my family went through hardships and being the first born son I was told I needed to be strong and always wear a smile but as I got older my smile became fake I started to laugh instead of cry I smiled when I wanted to frown and soon even when I would just sit there silently I was told it was wrong so now I smile cause from a boy to man I was told I can’t feel sad
After my dad suddenly passed away five years ago. These are emotions that I deal with often. But I surround myself with hobbies I enjoyed doing with my dad to help fight it.
I'm astonished how much you know about male struggles.
She doesn't know or care, at least not the extent. This is for views like any RUclips video. We're all just suckers who need it like a smoker needs cigarettes.
@@ggggg77273 That's pretty pessimistic of you. I think she knows damn well about what she is talking about because, as a man, I couldn't help but realize that the harsh truths which she speaks are super true.
I know you don't know my personal life but its pretty funny how this one hits SUPER close to home. Thankyou for your calm kind words. I needed this.
Emotions for me can be a pandora's box sometimes. I know this comes from my father, and from his father. You speak a lot of truth. Thank you for this audio.
Honestly this audio was extremely accurate maybe even painfully.
For people who would be willing to read this, the scariest part for me was when she talked about that little ball of anger hiding under the surface. I’ve had problems with managing my anger ever since I was a kid and through a large part of my teenage years I ended lashing out on other people and hurting them on accident. And ever since I’ve always been terrified that this ball of anger will surface once more and I can’t control it.
I have several mental health issues, and recently I've begun to realize that a lot of my childhood was composed of toxic and damaging scenarios and mindsets, even from my parents, who think they're just pushing me to do my best. I've never been able to help getting emotional (regulating my emotions is very hard) but I get attached to people easily, yet at the same time worry about opening up and overwhelming people. I needed to hear some of these things. Thank you 💙
Very good presentation! On the flipside, it can be difficult to find the woman who excepts the emotions of a man. Even when the man wants, needs to show that vulnerability. Well done Michele!
Sometimes I don't even think that might even have the ability to cry this one hit way closer to home then I was expecting
Recently I’ve been trying to get into my emotions more, listening to sad audios like this or stuff that is just brings those emotions back. I guess it’s been working, tears come a little more easily
Just thank you so much
I listen to asmr rp for 5 years now and this is clearly the one that's help me the most to feel better thank
This audio hit me dead on the entire time, not only am I afraid of opening my "box". When I do want to open it... it stays sealed shut and has been for over 3 years now. I'm a senior in high school and I remember crying all the time before I was in 4th/5th grade in elementary school. But now. I've had so many incidents in my life in the last few years where I've wanted to cry super badly, but never have been able to.
Not many audios call this topic out and I'm glad to find this one when I first discovered your channel. Thank you.
Seriusly needed this in a way i didn't even know i did. Being in the military changed me in a way i never understood till now.
This one hit hard. I've been going through a lot, for as long as I can remember. I'm afraid I'm going numb to somethings. I'd always hear growing up, "quit bitching" "man up" "life sucks, get over it". I've been told "be a man" "ba an alpha" "alpha's don't cry". I've been told constantly that if I show emotion, people will take advantage of me. Think I'm weak. Well to be more specific, I've been told women will use, abuse and manipilate me. I hear depressing things on the daily and I don't mean on the internet, I'm talking about my family bringing up how screwed up everything in the world is. I'm never really allowed to voice my thoughts, so all I can do is listen. I don't mean to type a whole speech here but like I said, this video hit hard. You did AMAZING!!! Loved this.
“You wouldn’t even know how to cry”
Damn that line hits different
Thanks for this. I spent 24 years in the military and have been dealing with chronic severe pain for at least 15 years. I can't remember the last time I cried. I just can't. My box is so full, I'm afraid to open it.
I'm going to get philosophical for a second so forgive me. I believe anyone who says to suppress your emotions is a fool. Even the strongest people are told to lock it down but it doesn't mean they don't carry it. They use it to make them stronger. Because now you have that much more momentum to push through your struggles and power if you allow it to. We all have our ways of dealing with it and having someone there that's willing to hear you said to be the best. Okay I'm done rambling Great video
Excellent point, thank you
I suppose I'm a fool then
@@dreamlessking9 what makes you say that and I hope I didn’t come off as rude to you
@@theaweissingerit's fine it wasn't rude at all. And what I meant was that I'm not the most emotionally healthy person
@@theaweissinger Well by according to that logic I'm probably one of the biggest fools, because I haven't cried in over a year and don't worry you haven't offended anyone.
Mom raised me. She'll regularly say I need to "act like a man", or "not be a sissy". Christ, I feel so fucking useless, at 43 years old I feel like a total fuck up, not a man. I can't even support for my girlfriend, who really loves me, let alone myself. Fuck, I hate myself so much sometimes....
Your videos are fantastic by the way. Only discovered them recently.
Michelle, the light from your hilltop shines upon everyone who sees your work here. I've listened to a lot of ASMR/roleplay videos. The best ones excel for various reasons; one has deep lore, another unique, we'll thought out characters. Still another an engaging and dynamic adventure. But after the hundreds of ASMR I've heard, this stands out as truly unique. Why?
So, we have our simple premise; girl finds boy trying to hide his grief. Yeah, I've seen it before. Generic person addressing faceless character about how he can show her his feelings. But that's not what we came for today. About a minute in, before you even know it, the facade drops. Michelle, you were no longer addressing us character to character. Today, we spoke person to person. You shared freely from your heart and mind about the burden we create for men through stigmatizing the expression of male emotions. The mind's eye can still see the girl in the room, gazing upon her boyfriend with concern, but from the moment your appeal begins, it is your voice, not hers, I'm hearing. From your solid, fact-based points about male depression and suicide to your beautiful parallels about leaking boxes and bending willows, your heart was open, and your case compelling. I also appreciated that you were not afraid or ashamed to list Jesus among the great men of history.
You spoke life to thousands of people who hear your voice. People who now have more hope for their future. Because of you. As one who has been involved in ministry to men in the past, I cannot thank you enough.
God bless you, Michelle, keep speaking life. 💙
I wasn’t born a guy but I constantly feel scared to show my emotions, I haven’t cried in god knows how long. I’m broken and I don’t know if I can get better.
One of my favorite quotes is: "We are all broken. That's how the light gets in." by Ernest Hemingway. In Japan, they have a process, called Kintsugi, of repairing cracks or breaks in pottery with gold to honor the journey the item has gone through. Feeling broken isn't the end and it doesn't mean you're worth less. I know you can move forward better than before. 💙
Same
I'm broken was abused by my father and nowadays people say your lying for them to feel bad but it's true I have the marks and whales on my skin
I was there but Jesus soften my heart. There is nothing wrong with crying. Please cry and let it all out, that will help you heal. Let Jesus heal your heart, he healed my heart
Of all the Asmr roleplays that i've seen, this is one I definitely relate to the most. Hits super close to home. Although I don't have someone to tell me these things/affirmations, I've gotten by, by just closing up my walls and not showing any major emotion. Writing this random comment on youtube at 1 am really makes this whole situation sadder IMO. Didn't think a youtube video could make me tear up but it really was what I needed to hear. Like myself this comment will probably fly under the radar but I just need to say this. Thanks for the very thoughtful video and words Michelle.
And thank you for your words. Your comment is important and I'm so glad you shared. 💙
This was actually so comforting ngl. Thanks a lot for the audio
Emotional numbness REALLY screws with you because as you grow up, it grows with you, when you try to act against it will make you feel worse, and if you can't find an outlet for your emotions it will tear you to pieces.
Interesting to hear all of this from you, it's a really good audio. Personally, I've known that there's been something wrong with me emotionally, of course there has been. And that directionless anger does really build in a person. And many days I often lean back in my chair or I will lay in bed and feel this overwhelming sense of dread weighing on the back of my neck.
My friends and I all know that we're not alright - that's where the meme "guys saying 'it is what it is' on the worst day of their lives" came from. We joke and laugh, but it's a true horror. As friends we all joke and laugh together, that's the only solace we have, our only way to cope.
In many instances, we tell ourselves that we don't deserve to cry rather than we shouldn't. Because I haven't gone through enough pain in my life, I don't deserve to express what I bottle up. Not a way to live, but it's the kind of existence I lead.
If you ended up finishing this novel I just wrote, I hope you have a good day. Maybe I'll pass you by in the future.
This is strange to say but I am a really tall guy, and because of that I have had a lot of tree nicknames with my friends. That tree analogy you had at the end really hit home because of that, pure luck really. But it really helped by catching me off guard.
I often feel I want to cry or an on the verge of crying but I cannot, the last time I did when when my dad pass away so at least I know it can still happen, I just wish it didn't take something that extreme.
Well never thought I'd be here but yet here I am. Slightly onto something here. In the Marine Corps you're drilled into "Suck it up and press forward" mindset and kicking that is the hardest thing to do. Burying friends and family you feel it but you don't show it to others. People need you so you backpack it for later but the later doesn't come for awhile.
Coming back from deployments you'd get the Grunt mindset. Seeing stuff over there and people stateside just won't be able to understand and can't relate so you just don't talk about it.
After everything you suck it up and press forward because it's what you CAN do. You have to relearn some things that have been drilled out of you. They are there but been put so far back in the room you have to move boxes to get there.
I really relate to having a box that eventually bursts open, I'd say my box is leaking bcuz every now and then I'll be just sitting down watching RUclips and then I slowly cry a bit n then continue my day
For me its not that i am holding it in or locking it down, i just instinctively and unconsciously keep the tears in for whatever reason. The last 2 times i ever cried was because of passings in my family but before and after i don't think i have ever cried, not counting when i was a little kid, but i do get teary-eyed, it just don't flow out, i can sometimes even feel the emotions building up inside, its kind of like a choked up feeling you get when really sad or wanna cry but hold it in.
Thanks, i was looking for a video like this and its exactly what i needed right now. Bless your heart
Gonna just throw my own hat into the ring i guess....As a man my life has been rough (not to say life is easy for woman by any stretch) but i rarely felt safe,been bullied,humilated,mistreated,abused and abandoned and had to bury it all cause im a man..i should be strong and face it all head on and shake it all off so with the growing awareness to peel back that armour and want men to exress the emotions and...be loved is truely wonderful.This audio just hit me like a sledgehammer...but a nice one ofcourse.
Bro stop being so real right now this shit hits home
P.s. this kinda reminds me of the halo legends episode “Be Human”
Well, look at my concious choice of locking up emotions coming back at me at full force. Yep, doin fine here.
Thanks for the audio michelle, gave me a reality check there
Wasn't told not to cry as a kid, but I did grow up in pervasive danger. I used emotion, esp negative emotional expression, to manipulate people. Now, when people say men dont cry, it sounds like a better alternative. I don't know how to express anything without at least thinking I'm manipulating people. I don't know anything else, so I can't show
I really feel like I can understand this! I grew up in a situation where I couldn’t show much emotion, especially negative, and thus, for a long time I thought I was being manipulative whenever I expressed sadness or anger! So sad how that happens :(
Hope this story continues 😸
Allright lets start the list of "Why men dont cry":
1. She's gonna leave me if I show any emotions
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A woman who leaves their partner for showing emotion is not a woman worth knowing.
@@justmichelleASMR 😥
To all Males Listening there are Females like this out there and we are here for you its ok to be Human💕
I’ve had many a bad night where I just sat there numb. Fortunately I got to a point where I could afford a therapist to work through some issues. Probably the best choice I could’ve made.
"You're not the problem. You're the result."
Now imagine if the media and all that wouldnt try to tell us the opposite...
Listening to this was... Weird to say the least because on the one hand i agree with it but on the other hand the two women i know who were the most vocal about "its okay for men to cry/show emotions" are also two of the biggest reasons for my box so hearing a woman say those things made me want to cry but my body was on edge thinking it was a trap :/ anyway great audio
This was really, REALLY good.
Thank you.
Good shit this actually made me cry thank you for the video.
...Damn. This one hit real close to home
Thank you, Michelle.
this is *cry's* beautiful 😍😂
Thank you, I needed this
Thank you
the problem today is not that guy’s have no one to turn to, it’s that they have so many places to turn to that might not listen. dying from starvation is one thing, but dying from starvation in a fully stocked kitchen is torture. guys need someone to turn to and a lot of us don’t have that. even our closest friends might not seem like a safe enough place to talk about how we really feel, like how we talk to ourselves when no one is around. dealing with it on your own gets old. i’m getting to that point again where staring at the bedroom ceiling or locking myself in the bathroom isn’t cutting it anymore. these walls don’t listen, this couch doesn’t respond. these sheets don’t affirm, this pillow doesn’t sympathize. only people can do those things. and to know there’s billions of people out there and not one pair of ears to hear you for even just a minute so you can give your shoulders a rest is a dreadful thought that won’t leave us alone.
I honestly want to cry now. My family has always been open to me being emotional. I am an emotional person. I've always hated that about myself. I often don't want to talk about things but then I do and feel guilty for a long time. I think society is why I try to hide it.
You're doing god's work here
I'm 17 currently and am a junior in highschool who's already been through two relationships that have ended either because of my stupidity or I was afraid of what would happen, i have several forms of ptsd and anxiety. I've almost died twice already in my life both cause of lack of oxygen, was almost drowned by my cousins at a birthday party at a pool when I was abt 8 or 9, and I was almost choked to death in kindergarten by a classmate. And the only thing that I've been told, Is to suck it up, stop being a pussy ass bitch your fine, your a male & cause of that your feelings don't matter. I wanted to cry during this audio so fucking bad but I couldn't not matter how hard the words hit me not a single tear was shed. I've had my heart broken & torn to shreds by one of my ex's and to be completely honest I'm afraid of getting into another relationship because of the trust issues that I already have at 17.... I'm FUCKING 17 and I'm already fucking broken.... I hate my life with a burning passion.... the affirmations from your videos and the other asmr audio youtubers I watch help me alot... so thank you
I think I threw away the key to the thing holding my emotions after I lost my best friend. Haha but it's the way it is. Awesome video.
I appreciate this. I'm not much of a crier and don't feel the need to be (often). There are other avenues of expression that men often feel walled off from expressing. Over-the-top joy, laughter, playfulness, silliness? Must be gay! Doesn't want to straight to bonerville with a new girlfriend? Must be gay! Likes to eat vegetables? Must be...
I'm glad audios like this exist. Just taking out the garbage, one bag at a time.
Thank you.
I mean this in the best way, your voice kind of reminds me of Rapunzel from Nikke Goddess of Victory.
Thank you, actually I am at the 3:13 min and I stopped to write this. I was here searching for emotional numbness relation to trauma. I had a alchocolic father which I lived until I was 10, when I was 2 they divorced and my bigger sisters went with mum , I stayed with grandma and him. As I grew , like 5 , 6 years and had more awareness about things, I wanted to know about mum, and he was telling me that I dont have a mum, that she is a whore, not letting me express myself , to the level putting a stick with we mix the clothes also a stick to punish kids , and he was putting that in my mouth. Soo its a lot, when I was around 10 mum got me back and now I am 24 , actually my birthday was on 17 dec. I am a male just you know...Soo I have problems with addiction like porn, sex also phone addiction, problem with sleeping at night, i dont work in the last years, soo I go to sleep sometimes even when the Sun rises. And I have problems with my mum as she also was a victim of him, and other traumas... She didnt had money for abortion with me, otherwise i wouldnt be here. Yes I could go more and more ...I dont know I am on this healing path and learning why I am like this, feeling like I have no purpose, dont know what to do in Life, confusion. And this subconcsious stuff that I was programmed by my father about my mother, that fear which I was feeling then...I have problems with trusting people, problems with intimacy. If you are into astrology I have Chiron in Scorpio in 10 house this deals with what I said. I just need someone that she says I love you from the deep core. And yes as you say - men need to cry, even that I understood as a little kid too seriously, being ashamed if you are emotional, not being safe to express my emotions, and now in me is a big ragee like Hulk or King Kong. And you know who calmed them ?... compassion, Love. Thank you I will continue feeling you....and sorry if made a mistake in writting, I am not from USA, or England...born in Macedonia, living in Slovenia. Thank you once again. 🙏❤️🌈😇🤗
I don't even know what to say... honestly, just thank you for this, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for this!
Plus, using examples of me in the Bible, and me being a Christian... this audio hit me like a truck, in a good way! Really!
Thank you🌹
🤙🏻💯💚. I swear I saw your doppelganger today wow
Maybe it *was* me!
@@justmichelleASMR it would've made my day of lucky!!!🤙🏻😄
There are those who gaze into the abyss for too long and meet it's gaze.
And there are those who willingly jump into it, becoming one with its ugliness until your very reflection becomes distorted along with reality.
It wasn't predominantly men to tell me to man-up, to be a man, gaslight my frustrations, question my manhood, question my attraction to women whenever I refused them, get my attempts at expressing my emotions trampled over by or my experiences minimized by. One day we will have that conversation in our society, hopefully.
You are right. There are many others, women included, who have such high expectations, who project an almost desperate need for the men around them to "fit a role" and be something for them so they don't have to recognize a lack within themselves. I really hope that quickly our world turns to look at those things that make them uncomfortable. Everyone deserves to heal themselves.
man's Broken Heart💔😭 pain
Thank You....
I came across this one at random, and no disrespect meant, to use as conversational noise to quiet the conversation I didn’t want to have… hahaha irony at its finest…
It was amazing and I appreciate it.. but just one thought… it’s not always bitterness or anger that says “lock it up” … it’s fear that they will feel the pain of it… and not knowing it’s making worse when it does because they were never taught how either… I could be wrong…. but I have seen it in those before me
"Boys don't cry"
Based
This hurt, a lot
Like when I heard the rage part, directionless anger. That hit hard, and than her talking about me hurting me. A wound that cut deep enough to make ask myself, why just why
Sadly I still feel numb but all you said in that asmr is true and I do feel that frustration always appearing
If I was to start crying I don't think I would ever stop so I think it's better that way...
Well this hit way too close too home
Don't... Don't give me Hope
-Hawkeye
Directionless anger... Is just normal.
Very nice
Thank you. I feel like not enough people realizes how deadly of a burden the people of old are putting on this generation by saying those things. There's a very good reason why male suicide is higher than female.
Female are encouraged to cry and be emotional, while men are taught not to, and that isn't good, everyone has a breaking point..
Probably no one will see this so may as well. My girlfriend broke up with me some time ago because i got another girs number. I told my gf because i thought being honest in a relationship was I'm but my relationship with my gf crumbled instantly befor my eyes. We officially cut it off a day or two later i lost all control of my porn addiction and haven't been able to maintain a streaks longer that 3 days for what feels like months today is actually my first 10 day streak since we broke up. But im terrified ill never get into another romantic relationship again at the same time im terrified to do so i worry if any girl just gives me a ounce of touch ill fall in love but i shouldn't worry because none of them want me anyway. I cant help but think when i listen to asmrs like this come back, dont go but theres never anyone there to begin with
I also really want to be a firefighter but i dont know if i have what it takes to pay the mental, physical, and emotional cost not to mention the stress it puts on relationships i just cant see myself doing any others job its probably why im still trying anymore if i can just were the bunker gear ill be invincible i wont have to think about being weak or alone
I lost two friends to suicide and every day I think of them and the things they would’ve done but it keeps getting harder to keep going because of the uncertainty that I will see them again
I'm proud that you keep going and growing for them 💙
Personally the reason y I lock my emotions is because when I show them, no one really cares and people tend to stop talking to me afterward
I feel like every man can relate to this
0:59 no, I promise.
Why? One word: austerity. People need a good excuse to clean their hands off and justify not giving attention to someone.
And to be fair, I am guilty of it at some extent with my cat at home. Coming home burnt out, he begs for cuddles and scritches, and I just often push him away, especially when cooking my dinner. Long live being a working/middle class person. And I gotta find a way to walk my way around this lifestyle
I have a LOT of rage inside that I can't express, particularly these days. I feel myself being mistreated by the officials who I honestly now believe are only elected by cheating and then covering it up. I hate them for how they tax and inflate us into poverty and make themselves rich while they ruin the land that I love.
I used to want to be a soldier and serve my country, but I'm medically deficient. I wanted to be a police officer but I was talked out of it because I'm white. I used to be so sure of my government and its laws, but I am being driven to the point of hating everything to do with authority and wishing they would just start putting people like me in cages so we'd be justified in fighting back and ending their grip on our lives for good.
But it never happens, and it never gets any better. I just keep steadily losing my pride and sense of self as it's robbed from me along with everything I used to believe in. I feel like I'm hollowing out and just being left with nothing but bitterness and rage inside.
I do think these troubling times give us a great opportunity to invest in ourselves and our mental health instead rather than focusing on external factors like nationality or current events. I wish you the best on your personal path!
I feel the same way. Our society depresses me right now and It makes me upset how powerless I feel to do anything about it.
Shit I don't even know how to convey an emotion that is extreme ___
Funny how It's hard to feel much anymore
I don't have emotionals or feelings i am a super original tribrid God with 💯 immortality i am unstoppable and unbeatable and unkillable
im...... so scared
Epic 👍
Man idk this kinda made me open up a little bit but instinctively just went numb 😅
Fuck man...why do you have me crying in bed after a 2-3 year numbness of crying mannn why I was doing so well with my streak...thats mot a good streak
I’m bout to die from a lack of Tammy and daphne
Das Thumbnail ist doch Anni the duck oder? 😂😂
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Didn't watch all the way. Its a cool message but i feel like she's begging me to cry and its getting annoying. Glad it helped everyone else though.
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I'm just gonna suck it up and move on
Emotions deteriorates logical reasoning. It always make people make the wrong decisions.
It.s nice to believe that a man can lay down their sword and armour with a woman. Make no mistake, no matter what they say, they,ll never see you the same again if you do.i I'm sure there are some unicorns out there, but i never bet the house on a longshot.
Trust no one.
Michelle is great, but essentially I think ishe"s voicing an idealized fictional character. Ienjoy her content and it"s very comforting, but there"s a reason why these kind of videos are gaining so much traction.
I hope someday you find a person you can trust, someone who doesn't demand it, but earns it at your pace. Please give them a chance if they come along.
@@justmichelleASMR That’s kind of you. I appreciate the sentiment . Your content is lively and inspired. Thank you.
@@justmichelleASMR I’m curious what made you decide to start making character audio content.