Do when I pick at my skin I feel satisfied that it’s gone like what ever I was picking out I feel like anything that isnt smooth I pick and I can’t stop my self I’m not satisfied that I did it or how much skin I get. Would you classify this as dermatilmania
I scratch my scalp I think about everyday that I have noticed it but I have pretty bad dandruff and every time I do it I end up hurting my scalp causing scabs all over my scalp because I do it alot. And the a part Im mostly embarrassed about is I guess the best way I could explain it is that I feel like I space out a bit and scratch my scalp and I will eat the scabs or dandruff under my nails after or during and I feel bed that I do it and idk if it's a bad habbit or dermatillomania and I have noticed I do it mostly when I'm bored or going to sleep. But I only scratch and pick at scabs. And I'm trying to stop doing it
For me skin picking and biting my fingers are definitely a form of stimming. It is only thing I always carry with me, so it's my go-to. Interestingly, the only times in my life that my fingers were not ruined (that I did not have the urge to bite/chew) were the first few months after moving to another country, and the weeks after (top) surgery. Trying to hang onto that now! (4.5 week post op)
I have this weird obsession that I'll focus on a certain point on something (say inside part of a handle on a cup) and I have to scratch it. like I'll start getting really anxious if I don't. it's like as if I have an itch except it's almost always focused on something that isn't me. and sometimes I need to scratch it so hard to stop the feeling that it breaks whatever it is. and sometimes it happens on other people so I have to use all my will power to not touch them. does anyone know what this is or has a name for it? It's really annoying and right now I'm doing it to a massage thing and it's making a lot of noise which is annoying people around me.
BFRB's are such stigmatized things, even by people with other mental illnesses. People just think that you're wierd, and that you're freaky, if they even know what you're talking about at all. We need more people like you that can reasonably explain it :))
I pick at my skin too, but I'm not sure if its BFRB. I will get to the point of me bleeding because I'm picking too much, and it does hurt but it's satisfying to get that chunk of skin off?
If I don't pick my fingers for like a week (surprisingly i think they heal fast) and my fingers look decent the red 'scars'? Left behind demotivate me and I'm like "it's no use they'll look ugly anyway I might aswell just pick", is there a way to get rid of the red left behind
So you mentioned that the difference between a BFRB and a habit is satisfaction. I have derma and trich but I always feel satisfied after (not that I want to be doing this because once I'm done I'm dissapointed, but in the moment if I get a dark eyelash hair, or make a scab area smooth, I feel satisfied). Would this mean I don't have trich/ derma? My mum is always giving the whole "everyone has bad habits, just stop it!!" thing and now I'm doubting if this is false if that makes sense??
Cecil Ross Nah, satisfaction from pulling or picking totally still is a bfrb. Especially when the bfrb is linked with ocd. BFRBs are often accompanied with a feeling or release or satisfaction, it all differs from person to person. With my trich I would always feel itching to pull, and would feel a pop then release then satisfaction when I pulled a hair
Thank uuu! Your videos are always so helpful and informational. Do you find anxiety affects your derma? I've definitely noticed the more anxiety i have, the more i pick at my skin/pull my hair. I got a fidget cube and i love to play with it while i'm watching films. Wish you're having a good day, Ashton!
Thanks Ashton. I love how you always say something sweet at the end. I have this along with OCD and autism spd, etc. I have my autism assessment consultation this coming week so im stressed and just found out im going to have to move so now I'm freaking the f out. Stress makes me compulsively pick and pluck Etc. I can go in a bathroom and pop a bunch of pores on my face or arms without knowing I have done it. Then im embarrassed to come out because im covered in spots and its obvious that I've been doing it. Its hard because you can also do it with no mirror at all because you can feel things to pick at. I used to also do it with plucking. Well I gues I still do. It does feel good to me. I go long periods avoiding it but then have relapses. Great explanation. Haha I have the cards and pencils thing too. Things have to be in color orders for me. Do you think masterbation can fall into this category of bfrd? As a kid I used to rip up grass or pluck leaves or flower petels. I never associated that as an activity sort of simulates plucking or picking. I also used to count rocks or other endless things but that does not relate.
Do I need to go to a doctor or therapist or somewhere with this? (Doing this over 5yrs and its starting Its getting difficult now). I'm from uk btw and I'm rlly confused idk how this works, do I ask the doctor place thingy that I just want a diagnosis or
Wow! Ashton! So many things to say! First, I love your shirt! It has a little bat friend on it! Awesome Second, your septum piercing looks rad it really suits you I have BFRBs as well. I have trichotillomania and trichophagia and dermatillomania and dermaphagia. I have mainly managed to get my trich under control, I haven’t pulled since late 2015 and I am very proud of myself. With my trich, I used to have long hair and it was very very curly and I would search through my hair for hours finding hairs that were unusual in any way, being too curly or too straight or too dark or too light and pull them out then I would put the follicle between my teeth and nibble tiny bits off it at a time until it was all gone. But that’s mostly under control now, having short hair that I can’t search through and covering mirrors so I can’t search through my hair using them and dyeing my hair fun colours so they are all the same shade have all helped me a lot. Also to comment on what you were talking about BFRBs and satisfaction; it actually is fairly common for them to be accompanied with a sense of satisfaction. With my BFRBs I have a craving, a yearning to complete the compulsion and feel a great sense of relief and satisfaction when I do. That’s what made it so hard for me to stop my trich, it just would feel so good to pull. Of course when I’d pull heaps of hairs and my scalp was raw and bloody it was painful but I’d still crave the feeling. I guess I can liken it to a mosquito bite that feels infinitely more itchy than a normal mozzie bite. All you want to do is scratch it so you do scratch it and it feels so so good so you keep scratching it more and more until you realise that you’ve scratched so much that it’s all raw and sore. That’s sort of what my trich is like and that’s how satisfaction can come into play with BFRBs. I guess I get less of a sense of satisfaction with my derma but I still so feel a wave of release when I pull off a bit of skin that’s ‘out of place’. Anyway, thanks heaps for the video Ashton, I watched it after getting home from camping for the weekend and it was a great way to relax. Lots of good vibes being sent your way -Eli
I’ve been picking my scabs and picking at my lips since I was 5 and I picked at lips so bad that they were swollen at the moment I’m trying not to pick my lips look good but my finger has raw skin and my parents tell me to stop picking and my lips look like a gravel road
Nice video! Do you struggle with travel sickness? Bit of a random question but I’m autistic and I think it could be related....I had to drive through rural wales (hilly and full of corners and turns) for an hour 2 days ago. I took a travel sickness pill which gave me intense anxiety, like I have never felt anything like it (I have anxiety aswell) so I’ll be finding a new travel pill to take because I can’t do that again 😕 but my sensory issues means I can’t have a flavoured one or a dissolvable one. HELP MEEEEEEEE
could dermatillomania be stim related for you, do you think? i have asd and i'm not sure if i have it exactly, but i definitely have picked all my life as a stim.
Hey ashton! Great video, as always. Unrelated topic; but i would love to know your views on feminism, specially interseccional and radical feminism (the great ones in my opinión) and also feminism inside a capitalist world, etc. Keep doing what you are doing, love you and ur videos.
watching this is making me vry aware of my hand that wanders and picks without noticing. Having to basically sit on my hand
I think I have it. I always bite my lips, peel the skin on my fingers, etc. and normally I don't realize what I'm doing until it hurts.
Watches this while picking my skin🙃
Do when I pick at my skin I feel satisfied that it’s gone like what ever I was picking out I feel like anything that isnt smooth I pick and I can’t stop my self I’m not satisfied that I did it or how much skin I get. Would you classify this as dermatilmania
Yes (I have it as well)
Yes.
I scratch my scalp I think about everyday that I have noticed it but I have pretty bad dandruff and every time I do it I end up hurting my scalp causing scabs all over my scalp because I do it alot. And the a part Im mostly embarrassed about is I guess the best way I could explain it is that I feel like I space out a bit and scratch my scalp and I will eat the scabs or dandruff under my nails after or during and I feel bed that I do it and idk if it's a bad habbit or dermatillomania and I have noticed I do it mostly when I'm bored or going to sleep. But I only scratch and pick at scabs. And I'm trying to stop doing it
For me skin picking and biting my fingers are definitely a form of stimming. It is only thing I always carry with me, so it's my go-to. Interestingly, the only times in my life that my fingers were not ruined (that I did not have the urge to bite/chew) were the first few months after moving to another country, and the weeks after (top) surgery. Trying to hang onto that now! (4.5 week post op)
They’re all Greek derivatives! Trich-hair, till-pull, mania-frenzy for example, so it literally means hair-pull-frenzy!
I have this weird obsession that I'll focus on a certain point on something (say inside part of a handle on a cup) and I have to scratch it. like I'll start getting really anxious if I don't. it's like as if I have an itch except it's almost always focused on something that isn't me. and sometimes I need to scratch it so hard to stop the feeling that it breaks whatever it is. and sometimes it happens on other people so I have to use all my will power to not touch them. does anyone know what this is or has a name for it? It's really annoying and right now I'm doing it to a massage thing and it's making a lot of noise which is annoying people around me.
Oh my gosh this opened my eyes. Now I know why I've always had to pick my skin. Thank you for this video!!
BFRB's are such stigmatized things, even by people with other mental illnesses. People just think that you're wierd, and that you're freaky, if they even know what you're talking about at all. We need more people like you that can reasonably explain it :))
I pick at my skin too, but I'm not sure if its BFRB. I will get to the point of me bleeding because I'm picking too much, and it does hurt but it's satisfying to get that chunk of skin off?
If I don't pick my fingers for like a week (surprisingly i think they heal fast) and my fingers look decent the red 'scars'? Left behind demotivate me and I'm like "it's no use they'll look ugly anyway I might aswell just pick", is there a way to get rid of the red left behind
So you mentioned that the difference between a BFRB and a habit is satisfaction. I have derma and trich but I always feel satisfied after (not that I want to be doing this because once I'm done I'm dissapointed, but in the moment if I get a dark eyelash hair, or make a scab area smooth, I feel satisfied). Would this mean I don't have trich/ derma? My mum is always giving the whole "everyone has bad habits, just stop it!!" thing and now I'm doubting if this is false if that makes sense??
Cecil Ross Nah, satisfaction from pulling or picking totally still is a bfrb. Especially when the bfrb is linked with ocd. BFRBs are often accompanied with a feeling or release or satisfaction, it all differs from person to person. With my trich I would always feel itching to pull, and would feel a pop then release then satisfaction when I pulled a hair
i have trichotillomania, also a bfrb
Thank uuu! Your videos are always so helpful and informational. Do you find anxiety affects your derma? I've definitely noticed the more anxiety i have, the more i pick at my skin/pull my hair. I got a fidget cube and i love to play with it while i'm watching films. Wish you're having a good day, Ashton!
Thanks Ashton. I love how you always say something sweet at the end. I have this along with OCD and autism spd, etc. I have my autism assessment consultation this coming week so im stressed and just found out im going to have to move so now I'm freaking the f out. Stress makes me compulsively pick and pluck Etc. I can go in a bathroom and pop a bunch of pores on my face or arms without knowing I have done it. Then im embarrassed to come out because im covered in spots and its obvious that I've been doing it. Its hard because you can also do it with no mirror at all because you can feel things to pick at. I used to also do it with plucking. Well I gues I still do. It does feel good to me. I go long periods avoiding it but then have relapses. Great explanation. Haha I have the cards and pencils thing too. Things have to be in color orders for me. Do you think masterbation can fall into this category of bfrd? As a kid I used to rip up grass or pluck leaves or flower petels. I never associated that as an activity sort of simulates plucking or picking. I also used to count rocks or other endless things but that does not relate.
Do I need to go to a doctor or therapist or somewhere with this? (Doing this over 5yrs and its starting Its getting difficult now). I'm from uk btw and I'm rlly confused idk how this works, do I ask the doctor place thingy that I just want a diagnosis or
That would be great if you did a video on how you found your therapist!
I just cut my hair short not long ago! I love it so much! Best thing I’ve done in my life so far! :D
Wow! Ashton! So many things to say!
First, I love your shirt! It has a little bat friend on it! Awesome
Second, your septum piercing looks rad it really suits you
I have BFRBs as well. I have trichotillomania and trichophagia and dermatillomania and dermaphagia. I have mainly managed to get my trich under control, I haven’t pulled since late 2015 and I am very proud of myself. With my trich, I used to have long hair and it was very very curly and I would search through my hair for hours finding hairs that were unusual in any way, being too curly or too straight or too dark or too light and pull them out then I would put the follicle between my teeth and nibble tiny bits off it at a time until it was all gone. But that’s mostly under control now, having short hair that I can’t search through and covering mirrors so I can’t search through my hair using them and dyeing my hair fun colours so they are all the same shade have all helped me a lot.
Also to comment on what you were talking about BFRBs and satisfaction; it actually is fairly common for them to be accompanied with a sense of satisfaction. With my BFRBs I have a craving, a yearning to complete the compulsion and feel a great sense of relief and satisfaction when I do. That’s what made it so hard for me to stop my trich, it just would feel so good to pull. Of course when I’d pull heaps of hairs and my scalp was raw and bloody it was painful but I’d still crave the feeling.
I guess I can liken it to a mosquito bite that feels infinitely more itchy than a normal mozzie bite. All you want to do is scratch it so you do scratch it and it feels so so good so you keep scratching it more and more until you realise that you’ve scratched so much that it’s all raw and sore. That’s sort of what my trich is like and that’s how satisfaction can come into play with BFRBs.
I guess I get less of a sense of satisfaction with my derma but I still so feel a wave of release when I pull off a bit of skin that’s ‘out of place’.
Anyway, thanks heaps for the video Ashton, I watched it after getting home from camping for the weekend and it was a great way to relax. Lots of good vibes being sent your way
-Eli
i have dermatillomania too!
Nathan I also do
I do wolf biting when anxious or extremely hyper andi 'm not aware I'm doing it
Thx for helping me for coming out of bieng trans I love u
I’ve been picking my scabs and picking at my lips since I was 5 and I picked at lips so bad that they were swollen at the moment I’m trying not to pick my lips look good but my finger has raw skin and my parents tell me to stop picking and my lips look like a gravel road
I have derma and trich heh. It's sucks...
Pash aski oh man trich sucks I have it
Nice video! Do you struggle with travel sickness? Bit of a random question but I’m autistic and I think it could be related....I had to drive through rural wales (hilly and full of corners and turns) for an hour 2 days ago. I took a travel sickness pill which gave me intense anxiety, like I have never felt anything like it (I have anxiety aswell) so I’ll be finding a new travel pill to take because I can’t do that again 😕 but my sensory issues means I can’t have a flavoured one or a dissolvable one. HELP MEEEEEEEE
been peeling my lips since i was 9 it’s gotten slightly better though
I have dermatillomania
could dermatillomania be stim related for you, do you think? i have asd and i'm not sure if i have it exactly, but i definitely have picked all my life as a stim.
What are those cool necklaces you always wear? I’ve been wondering for a while. Also, where can i get one?
dermatillomania is another thing that is not pleasant.
Hey ashton! Great video, as always. Unrelated topic; but i would love to know your views on feminism, specially interseccional and radical feminism (the great ones in my opinión) and also feminism inside a capitalist world, etc. Keep doing what you are doing, love you and ur videos.
I love your septum!