My parents don’t want me to marry the man I’ve chosen because I’ve chosen according to deen and character. They don’t like him because he doesn’t have an amazing career. Please keep me in your duaas, brothers and sisters. Please.
Just look at the timing as I am extremely thinking about it you have sent me such a fantastic video. May Allah bless me and all sisters and brothers with such a spouse who might be the coolness of our eyes, Ameen .
Never underestimate your Dua. Your dua can move mountains. Miracles happen everyday. You never know when a miracle will happen for you. Whenever I’m making a Dua and I feel like “I can’t get it. I’m asking too much. This is impossible” I just remind myself that nothing is impossible for allah and miracles happen everyday and for all I know tomorrow could be the day a miracle happens for me.
I'm in tye same boat. Right now what I'm asking for feels so impossible. Everyone around me is telling me it's time to settle. But I will not give up. For Allah nothing is impossible. May Allah give us sabr while we wait for His 'kun' and thus it will Be
@@a.iqubal4351 Assalamu alaikum, keep praying especially tahajjud Insha'Allah Allah will grant you the very best. Lā ilāha illallāh Anta subhaanaka innee kuntu minadh-dhaalimeen, recite this dua 100 Times or more energy and while reciting this dua bee asking Allah what you want in your heart, be in ablution and total concentration with no distractions. May Allah grant you ease and grant you your desires. Aameen
Subhanallah praying for those unmarried man & woman Allah will send the right one to care and supports warmth & comport, love and respect no matter how big differences in between the two of us, acceptance more important to atchieve happiness, work together and no secret behind, bind together, enjoy and spends time together, care each other, subhanallah couple deffinitely will atchieve full of blessing from the lord, full of majesty, Bounty and Honour.
I am a revert, but was pressured into marriage (and the shahadah) by my soon to be ex wife. I had failed my physician certification exam while I was dating her (as a non Muslim). I understand the concept of "dating" is frowned upon in Islam, but at the time, I was unaware of this. I was also set to travel to another state to obtain extra training in my specialty. Her exact words to me were: "Marry me or we break up, I'm not flying out there to see a guy I am not invested in." Our soon to be ending marriage of 4 years was marred by arguments over just about everything, and with the arrival of our son, things got a whole lot worse. I'm pretty sure giving a marriage ultimatum is the worst way to start off a marriage as it implies a lack of trust in the partner. She, a 33-yo woman at the time we were dating, threw a temper tantrum when I couldn't take a picture of her properly. That was a red flag. The marriage ultimatum should have been another red flag. Pushing to have our son when I was not board certified and with no stable job prospect? Should have been another. Getting mad about me spending on my own toys when she wanted a big screen TV and a big expensive wedding? Hmmmm...the signs were all there. Rocky relationship with a family with allegations of psychological and physical abuse, but somehow wants to be near them for the nieces and nephews? And yet she wants to rely on THEM for child care? BIG RED FLAG. Talk about willingly walking back into the lion's den! I understand the idea of "opportunity only knocks once" - and I understand the idea that one is supposed to grow together with their spouse. That is in a moral, just world, not here in the decadent West. However, at the time in my gut I did not feel I was ready for marriage (and she wanted kids real quick because of some genetic condition), because I did not feel like I was financially stable enough at the time to be ready to provide and protect my family. WIthout the critical physician certification your job opportunities are limited. I did not want to let her, or my children, or anyone else, see me suffer tremendously if my job fell through. I already had one family member waste his opportunity at a good life by failing out of a prestigious medical training program. Who knows, the punishment from Allah may be a blessing, because he is an awesome stay at home dad. I did not want to end up like him though. In this modern world skewed by social media and material wants, people want their significant others pre-assembled as the entire package. Otherwise, to get married while still trying to achieve stability is like trying to fly a plane while it is being built. It's a really terrible idea. I saw others have families during medical residency but they also came from strong, upright moral families - and I did not come from one. I fell for the simplistic trap that "love conquers all." Not so much. All I wanted to do was the right thing, which was to actually BE ready and stable. I had no faith, no deen, no imaan. I was a terrified man worried about his own future and nothing else. when we eloped (and me with still no physician certification), the days afterwards, I questioned what I had done deep down. If marriage was to be so celebrated across any culture, why did I feel this way? No one was at the nikkah, just two witnesses from the community. None of our families or friends. Apparently the body has a way of telling you that you made the wrong decision even if you can somehow rationalize it, much like a chemical addiction messes with your body. And I rationalized all of the bad behaviours as a way to cope, and now I see everything brought to light with this ultimate test (although probably not the last )from Allah. Yes, I started wasting time on useless things. I spent recklessly. I gained weight and exercised less. Bedroom fun was always an issue from the beginning, as I was partially freaked out about my certification status. Porn became an issue because I thought I had no idea what I was doing so I wanted examples to look at. Yeah, that's one hell of a rationalization if I ever knew one. I was told that God protects those in subtle ways, for when our Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) had encountered gamblers, he suddenly fell asleep. The psychological ED and PE should have been warning signs and they did carry over from a previous relationship from what I now knew as someone only interested in me for money. Then again, for my current soon to be ex wife, asking for what was essentially a $40,000 3 karat engagement ring when she tried to tell me about humility and grace seems hypocritical. The ring looks like one of those absurd ring pop candies the kids get in the store! Even my parents who I am estranged from said that the money from the ring and wedding reception (held last year due to covid) would be better spent towards a college fund for our son. And I am not one for pomp or ceremony, I don't wear outrageous clothes nor flex fancy cars, I'm no Andrew Tate. In short, I no longer recognized myself, and I became the worst version of myself I never thought I was capable of becoming. Now, as I begin to pick up the pieces of my shattered life, I find more comfort in the Quran and its simple message. I may stumble here and there to repent for all of my sins. I may be broken but unbowed, and I seek forgiveness from God Almighty.
No clarification necessary Mufti Menk. You are one of the few people on the planet that is pure like the driven snow. You make sense. Your honest is so pure. Fantastic video.
Yesterday I was just crying to Allah to plz show me the as 1 proposal was going to come today thnkey so much may Allah bless uh & plz pray for me the guy I love his parents aren't rdy for his marriage
People mostly want good looks , nobody asks how many times do u pray ..do u read quran or not ..they do not see whether the person is pious or not...instead they need a showpiece to show off! Sad Reality! May Allah swt make it easy for our parents to take right decisions for us ameen !
I wish you could give this advice to every couple before they marry and if neccessary during their hard times. May Allah bless you Mufti Menk. I appreciate the wise counsel Allah has given you to share with us.
I was recently in a relationship with someone who i said No to because I had just lost my father and I was hurting. My relatives were happy with it but I said no anyways due to my situation and mental state at the time. I now realise that I lost someone special and I really want them back but it’s too late unfortunately. May Allah have mercy on me for taking him for granted. My advice is to always exhaust all possibilities when you are told to consider someone by the people who are close to you and those who love you. It really hurts my heart to see them move on but alhamdulillah that’s what Allah decreed.
May Allah send you a righteous, pious and sweet husband. Obviously, you were not in the right state of mind to go through a wedding. Loosing a father is very hard, I know. And Allah knows that this man was not the one for you. inshaAllah, your future husband is getting ready now to meet you. Have trust in the Qadr of Allah. I wish you all the best, sister.
Yes and NO. Why? Because WHEN ONE is grieving and emotional you must NEVER make important desicions at that time/ in that state- the time was not right for you. As for him - he should of been a bit more patient. But we all are different and have different levels of Torrance and patience.
The timing is perfect subhanallah, as I just did salât istikharah to get a clear decision a man I'm currently speaking to, this video Comes up first on my feed, subhanallah wa alhamdulillah 💓🙏
Mufti Menk I'm soo impressed and moved with your words (in your tone😊). The way you sound in this shows how sensitive the topic is. Baraka llahu fikum. I hope my dad watch this and I'm sharing the link right away!
Masha Allah that's true message for everyone parents should take a right decision for their children according to the principle of Islam and Sunnah May Allah grant us guidance and blessed all of us ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊
Allah always guides us. Subhanallah. I was in dilemma whether I should say yes or no to a proposal my parents want me to consider I was contemplating because I haven't completed my studies I am not financially settled. & Suddenly this video comes infront of me.. But Masha Allah what are the ways Allah guides us. alhamdulillah
It is so hard trying to find someone whose level of deen is at least close to mine. Everyone is so much into haram things, I feel like an alien. Many times I am told to leave some of my own restrictions so that I may find someone suitable. But this video has cleared some of the ambiguities. jazakAllah!
May Allah Forgive all of us and shower his Rahamah Over The Believing Peoples.. May Allah protect us from All evils and Make it ease for all of us...ameen❤️❤️❤️🤲
Please pray for me as well...I'm glad to see this video ,I myself am confused as I want to marry someone I know or I should continue my studies but I really feel like I should get married as soon as I can before it's too late
Love comes from Allah, we do not worship love, we worship Allah. Wa leikum Salam wa rahmat Allah hiwa barakatoho. Sobhanak Allah homma wa bi hamdika la hi la ha illa ant staghfiroka wa taobaileik ⚖️
Assalamu alaykum, please make dua that all of us that have watched this video & are in such a situation to be granted success, if we ever feel overwhelmed by anxiousness, just say, "hasbun Allah wa n3imal wakil" it's the dua of Ibrahim AS
You're just the best....every time i watch your videos and ask Allah genuinely to bless you and give you jannah....you are giving peace and showing the right path to so many broken hearts by the will of Allah I'm suffering from anxiety and depression...because of the guy i was going to marry..yes ofcourse it was a love marriage just based upon outward apperances without knowing depth of when and how we become eligible for marriage We used fights on materialistic things,he was rude,i had foolish bollywood expectations and we both eventually just lost respect for each other because we lacked patience,respect and discipline....and soon after we started abusing each other...he started threatening me that he will break the marriage and tell this and that to his parents...which he eventually did ......we were fools to think only looks and good career and a house and car make good marriages and makes you straightaway eligible for someone Only after i watched your video i realised good marriage it actually about discipline,respect,patience and most importantly being islamically sound so that you can handle the situaltions accordingly and help each other dunya and akhirah too Had we been a bit conscious about pillars of marriage in islam we would have handled the situation but now i don't know about him But my world has fallen apart I'm taking pills I'm just lost and crying everyday since a month But still i thank Allah...because may be its just a part of my worldly journey I cry every day.. I wish a can go in past and undo all the wrongs i did and handle the situation in the most patient way the way islam teaches us to But life dosen't gives us second chance its the sad truth So everyone who's reading this please be very careful while finding your partner Don't fall in the trap of wordly life...focus on your akhirah Don't let anyone break your heart....it really messes up your life ...i know how messed up and hard this situation is Shaytan tries even harder to pull me down by giving me thoughts that Allah is upset with you,he is punishing you...you should rather jump off your terrace and die you jerk...Allah hates you...you'll never be happy in yout life ever again Only i know how i battle with these thoughts May Allah protect me..Ameen But then i come back to my senses that no Allah is the most merciful...its just part of my journey in this world...is a part of my test....and it has made me closer to Allah than ever before so it cannot be a punishment.. That's it!! Assamualaikum♥️
Allah says in the Quran - And do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah, for no one loses hope in Allah’s mercy except those with no faith. (12:87) May Allah grant you ease and bring peace and happiness for you in this life and reward you for your sabr in the hereafter.
Your pain is hard for me to imagine.. but going through tough time has also brought me closer to Allah.. thats true its not the punishment its just a trial .. seek help through patience and salah.. after the trial passes, you will be rewarded in the best ways possible.. In sha Allah .. just stay strong .. Allah tests those whom he loves the most🤍
I got a proposal from a fine man, but my father is afraid of me not finishing my studies (which is not true). My mother always says that it is all Naseeb, so no matter what they say, if it is destined it will happen. I told her then why are you making things harder than they should be?
Proposals come my way but every single time I get confused if I should marry or not even after praying istikarah. How do i know who to choose? I loved someone in college but I left because it wasn’t a halal manner. Now that I’m trying to find in a halal way I’m struggling to marry. I’ve been trying to get married for years now. Please pray for me dear brothers and sisters 🙏🏼
When matters become easy after making istikhara, then you know to go forward. Things you'd think would be difficult are made easy and you don't find so much resistance Allah bless you and everyone of us with spouses who're coolness to the eyes and vice versa, and we are a means for each other to gain Allah's pleasure.. Aameen ya Rabb Ala'alameen 🤲
we should not forsake the concept of truly get to knowing the person we may marry; unfortunately this days it might take years to really get to know someone. it’s easy to put on a front, pretend to be someone you’re not and fool others, we shouldn’t jump into marriage without truly knowing the character of our future spouse. specially when it comes to women I say: finish your studies. get a job and become capable of providing for yourself... in the meanwhile you can talk, get to know the person and if it’s meant to be, Insha’Allah you’ll get married.
I am in a process of finding a spouse. I am 27. What I have seen so far that the guys mother is so evil and asks so many questions regarding my religion that it makes me feel like that I am not Muslim. I had so many good proposals and guys were interested but their mothers omg evil is the small word for them they are satan. I pray 5 times ALHUMDULILAH. Never been In any haram relationship. I don’t judge people and fear Allah in ever step of my life. May Allah guide the people who are rejecting girls only because they don’t seem too religious to you.
Asalamualaikum Mufti menk and my brothers and sisters. Thank you for mufti menk for your beautifully inspired speeches. So pure lectures.Thank youLove from INDIA 🇮🇳
Salam mufti, Unfortunately this is my case aswell. I am a man who got rejected from a girls family whereas the girl did not want a bf gf relationship but a married. Unfortunately I don’t have the residency, house or money and the job maybe they want but I have had enough to provide for their daughter I believe. Life is too tough mufti menk. My heart is broken. I hope Allah SWT heals my heart soon. 🙂
What about when your a female and you’ve been proposed too more then 10 times in the past 7 years but you wouldn’t accept because none of the men fear Allah? That’s why I don’t accept. Inshallah someone will come soon that fears Allah before anything 🤲🏻
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said: “There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: 1. A just ruler; 2. A youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; 3. A man whose heart is attached to the masjids; 4. Two men who love each other for Allah’s sake meeting for that and parting upon that; *5. A man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’;* 6. A man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; 7. A man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.” *(Narrated by Abu Hurairah and collected in Sahih al-Bukhari)*
@@nailakamana763 *This is generally for all.* If a woman did the same then insha Allah by the mercy of Allah on the day of judgement she will be under the shade of Allah
I wanted to marry someone, I was informed I needed Mehr/dowry to show responsibility. Went to the mosque to speak with an imam regarding this. He explained it's a cultural thing and if she actually wanted to make it halal, finances shouldn't suppress this. There is baraka in nikkah and personal rizq is Qadr. I can only assume this difference, was prevention from Allah SWT.
Salam Alaikum dear brother. What if no proposal is coming and life is passing me by ? 41 and still waiting. I've given up on the idea of kids now , just want a loving husband. Please make dua for me and my sisters.jzk
I needed this so bad !! I’m studying and have 1 year left Upon on that want get married , but realised you can study and be finished whenever in ur life but for girls specially marriage is something beautiful that has a expire date .. ☺️
I can start to say thank you so much for the beautiful lecture sheikh mufti menk course I come across the situation that you're spoking about I'm 24 year's old some 2 weeks I completed 25 an I want get marriage in 25 of my age but I can convince my parents to allow me to marriage so I will like dua from everyone to make it for everyone that's suffering in this kind of situation 💓😘🤲🤲
Asalaamu alaikum please make dua for me to get married in sha Allah. Everything I have tried and everything I am trying isn’t resulting in marriage. I understand this is my test but please pray that I get married soon in sha Allah. JazakAllahu khair May Allah accept your duas. Ameen
Thank you for guiding us in the right path. May Allah SWT bless you with His blessings. You are an amazing contributor to the welfare of Muslim ummah. Take care! Wassalaam!
MASHAALLAH tabarakallah 💞this a beautiful vedeo that evryone should know, specially parents 💞Shiek Mufti Menk is amazing 💞May Allah Give him a Long healthy and wealthy long life and protect him and keep him safe all the time... Allahhumma Amen 🤲
Im almost done with a higher university degree and have met an amazing woman, we met a few times, everything fits perfectly and subsequently developed strong feelings for one another. Her dad didn’t even meet me but instead flicked me off because i am not from the middle east, im Caucasian/Arab. I practice my religion, am very responsible, take care of my character but he didn’t even give me a chance … so we had to split, its all very painful, i hope this video reaches the right people.
i needed to watch this. no matter how many times i pray istikhara i still have 2nd thoughts abt whether i should get married but since mufti menk said if there good dont let them good, im just putting my decision in allahs hands bc ik hes the only one that knows whats best for me no matter how bad i dont wanna get married. iA khair
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd] Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit. May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen Love from Mauritius 🇲🇺
May Allah make easy for those looking to get married. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala open doors of marriage for those who are really looking forward to commitment. Aameen. May Allah also make it easy for our parents so that they make all decisions based on Quran and Sunnah. Aameen Ya Rabb!
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My parents don’t want me to marry the man I’ve chosen because I’ve chosen according to deen and character. They don’t like him because he doesn’t have an amazing career. Please keep me in your duaas, brothers and sisters. Please.
Insyallah u can get married to whom you want my sister 🥺🥺 if he is the right for you
May Allah make it easy for you and the rest of us Inshaa Allah
@@fardowsaahmed9188 Insyallah
Insyallah you will get the right one
As long as he treats you well and he's not lazy. It's your life. Tell your parents to trust Allah
"Stop saying that you want a man who will take you to jannah if you are a materialistic person” well said 👌
Just look at the timing as I am extremely thinking about it you have sent me such a fantastic video. May Allah bless me and all sisters and brothers with such a spouse who might be the coolness of our eyes, Ameen .
I was also thinking of same
Mufti menk is a man with a beautiful heart
I post Islamic videos 🌷
Btw ameenn
I too thinking the same.
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Never underestimate your Dua. Your dua can move mountains. Miracles happen everyday. You never know when a miracle will happen for you. Whenever I’m making a Dua and I feel like “I can’t get it. I’m asking too much. This is impossible” I just remind myself that nothing is impossible for allah and miracles happen everyday and for all I know tomorrow could be the day a miracle happens for me.
I'm in tye same boat. Right now what I'm asking for feels so impossible. Everyone around me is telling me it's time to settle. But I will not give up. For Allah nothing is impossible. May Allah give us sabr while we wait for His 'kun' and thus it will Be
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Assalamu alaikum, keep praying especially tahajjud Insha'Allah Allah will grant you the very best.
Lā ilāha illallāh Anta subhaanaka innee kuntu minadh-dhaalimeen, recite this dua 100 Times or more energy and while reciting this dua bee asking Allah what you want in your heart, be in ablution and total concentration with no distractions.
May Allah grant you ease and grant you your desires. Aameen
@@sadeeqsefinat5923 waalaikumassalam pyar i get what i want by allah tala raza and rehma
Allah ooooh Allah takabali duaaaah Kwa huyu mwenye hitaji mola ulie mtukufu
"...You marry people in the early times of their life because u should grow together..."
Ma sha Allah
SubhanAllah🤲🏽💍
People get sick of each other by midlife.
Subhanallah praying for those unmarried man & woman Allah will send the right one to care and supports warmth & comport, love and respect no matter how big differences in between the two of us, acceptance more important to atchieve happiness, work together and no secret behind, bind together, enjoy and spends time together, care each other, subhanallah couple deffinitely will atchieve full of blessing from the lord, full of majesty, Bounty and Honour.
Ameen Summa Ameen ❤️
Ameen
Beshak
Amin Ecmain♥️🤲🏻🌟🥺
Amen 🙏🤲
I am a revert, but was pressured into marriage (and the shahadah) by my soon to be ex wife. I had failed my physician certification exam while I was dating her (as a non Muslim). I understand the concept of "dating" is frowned upon in Islam, but at the time, I was unaware of this. I was also set to travel to another state to obtain extra training in my specialty. Her exact words to me were: "Marry me or we break up, I'm not flying out there to see a guy I am not invested in." Our soon to be ending marriage of 4 years was marred by arguments over just about everything, and with the arrival of our son, things got a whole lot worse. I'm pretty sure giving a marriage ultimatum is the worst way to start off a marriage as it implies a lack of trust in the partner. She, a 33-yo woman at the time we were dating, threw a temper tantrum when I couldn't take a picture of her properly. That was a red flag. The marriage ultimatum should have been another red flag. Pushing to have our son when I was not board certified and with no stable job prospect? Should have been another. Getting mad about me spending on my own toys when she wanted a big screen TV and a big expensive wedding? Hmmmm...the signs were all there. Rocky relationship with a family with allegations of psychological and physical abuse, but somehow wants to be near them for the nieces and nephews? And yet she wants to rely on THEM for child care? BIG RED FLAG. Talk about willingly walking back into the lion's den!
I understand the idea of "opportunity only knocks once" - and I understand the idea that one is supposed to grow together with their spouse. That is in a moral, just world, not here in the decadent West. However, at the time in my gut I did not feel I was ready for marriage (and she wanted kids real quick because of some genetic condition), because I did not feel like I was financially stable enough at the time to be ready to provide and protect my family. WIthout the critical physician certification your job opportunities are limited. I did not want to let her, or my children, or anyone else, see me suffer tremendously if my job fell through. I already had one family member waste his opportunity at a good life by failing out of a prestigious medical training program. Who knows, the punishment from Allah may be a blessing, because he is an awesome stay at home dad. I did not want to end up like him though. In this modern world skewed by social media and material wants, people want their significant others pre-assembled as the entire package. Otherwise, to get married while still trying to achieve stability is like trying to fly a plane while it is being built. It's a really terrible idea. I saw others have families during medical residency but they also came from strong, upright moral families - and I did not come from one. I fell for the simplistic trap that "love conquers all." Not so much.
All I wanted to do was the right thing, which was to actually BE ready and stable. I had no faith, no deen, no imaan. I was a terrified man worried about his own future and nothing else. when we eloped (and me with still no physician certification), the days afterwards, I questioned what I had done deep down. If marriage was to be so celebrated across any culture, why did I feel this way? No one was at the nikkah, just two witnesses from the community. None of our families or friends. Apparently the body has a way of telling you that you made the wrong decision even if you can somehow rationalize it, much like a chemical addiction messes with your body. And I rationalized all of the bad behaviours as a way to cope, and now I see everything brought to light with this ultimate test (although probably not the last )from Allah. Yes, I started wasting time on useless things. I spent recklessly. I gained weight and exercised less. Bedroom fun was always an issue from the beginning, as I was partially freaked out about my certification status. Porn became an issue because I thought I had no idea what I was doing so I wanted examples to look at. Yeah, that's one hell of a rationalization if I ever knew one. I was told that God protects those in subtle ways, for when our Prophet Muhammed (PBUH) had encountered gamblers, he suddenly fell asleep. The psychological ED and PE should have been warning signs and they did carry over from a previous relationship from what I now knew as someone only interested in me for money. Then again, for my current soon to be ex wife, asking for what was essentially a $40,000 3 karat engagement ring when she tried to tell me about humility and grace seems hypocritical. The ring looks like one of those absurd ring pop candies the kids get in the store! Even my parents who I am estranged from said that the money from the ring and wedding reception (held last year due to covid) would be better spent towards a college fund for our son. And I am not one for pomp or ceremony, I don't wear outrageous clothes nor flex fancy cars, I'm no Andrew Tate.
In short, I no longer recognized myself, and I became the worst version of myself I never thought I was capable of becoming.
Now, as I begin to pick up the pieces of my shattered life, I find more comfort in the Quran and its simple message. I may stumble here and there to repent for all of my sins. I may be broken but unbowed, and I seek forgiveness from God Almighty.
No clarification necessary Mufti Menk. You are one of the few people on the planet that is pure like the driven snow. You make sense. Your honest is so pure. Fantastic video.
Masha Allah. What a time for this video to be uploaded. Such a kind and soft spoken person you are. May allah grant you the highest paradise,Ameen.
Yesterday I was just crying to Allah to plz show me the as 1 proposal was going to come today thnkey so much may Allah bless uh & plz pray for me the guy I love his parents aren't rdy for his marriage
May Allah ease your path in marriage....en please pray for me to be proposed soon🥺may Allah SW answers our prayers...Amiiin
@@mwanamisikibwana1893 summa ameen may Allah grant all your prayers ameen
Allah creates a noor in their faces whom Allah loves most... I can see that Noor in Mufti Menks face, Alhamdulillah... 💖💖❤❤❤❤❤❤💖💖
I'm a Hungarian from Serbia! Greetings for everyone!
Assalamu alaykum 🙌
Greetings !
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People mostly want good looks , nobody asks how many times do u pray ..do u read quran or not ..they do not see whether the person is pious or not...instead they need a showpiece to show off! Sad Reality! May Allah swt make it easy for our parents to take right decisions for us ameen !
true that . and when the Showpiece gets old , they divorce for silly reasons
Syeda Naba....well I think mostly people want financial stability....from a girls perspective that is...now I am a male and I've seen this a lot....
Yes that’s all these men want is good looks
@@ye23. I'm not referring to the men...I'm referring to the females
@@Prince_Unknown1 wasnt talking to you mate. Was responding to the original commenter
I wish you could give this advice to every couple before they marry and if neccessary during their hard times.
May Allah bless you Mufti Menk. I appreciate the wise counsel Allah has given you to share with us.
Subhanallah! Is this a sign?..this message is timely. May Allah Grant us the best
Im also thinking like that coz im in that situation right now
I am also thinking that
Will you pray for my marriage, please, I've been waiting for 2 years to be married. My one true love is in Egypt. His name is Ahmed
That is true. A great man has been placed in my life. We are happily married for 30 years.
BINGO I can relate- I believe in miracles.
A.o.A Mufti Menk... I need humble prayers as i lost opportunities 🥺🥺 that makes me quite upset 🥺
May Allah make it easy for you and everyone who struggling to get married aamiin
I also lost many opportunities😔
I also lost opportunities... 😔,... maybe allah has greater plans...
In-sha-ALLAH ALLAH will ease your hardships...
Aameen
Sis I just lost an opportunity it makes me sick 😩 but I’m gonna hold on to Allahs mercy and wisdom.
I was recently in a relationship with someone who i said No to because I had just lost my father and I was hurting. My relatives were happy with it but I said no anyways due to my situation and mental state at the time. I now realise that I lost someone special and I really want them back but it’s too late unfortunately. May Allah have mercy on me for taking him for granted. My advice is to always exhaust all possibilities when you are told to consider someone by the people who are close to you and those who love you. It really hurts my heart to see them move on but alhamdulillah that’s what Allah decreed.
May Allah send you a righteous, pious and sweet husband. Obviously, you were not in the right state of mind to go through a wedding. Loosing a father is very hard, I know. And Allah knows that this man was not the one for you. inshaAllah, your future husband is getting ready now to meet you. Have trust in the Qadr of Allah. I wish you all the best, sister.
@@miriamllamas224 Allahumaameen sister. Indeed sister, I just have to accept Allahs qadr.
Yes and NO. Why? Because WHEN ONE is grieving and emotional you must NEVER make important desicions at that time/ in that state- the time was not right for you. As for him - he should of been a bit more patient. But we all are different and have different levels of Torrance and patience.
@@miriamllamas224 MashaAllah what a lovely comment- may you get a huge reward your way Ameen
Don’t put your fault on Allahs decree
The timing is perfect subhanallah, as I just did salât istikharah to get a clear decision a man I'm currently speaking to, this video Comes up first on my feed, subhanallah wa alhamdulillah 💓🙏
Mufti Menk I'm soo impressed and moved with your words (in your tone😊). The way you sound in this shows how sensitive the topic is. Baraka llahu fikum. I hope my dad watch this and I'm sharing the link right away!
Masha Allah that's true message for everyone parents should take a right decision for their children according to the principle of Islam and Sunnah May Allah grant us guidance and blessed all of us ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊
Write
MA sha Allah
Allah always guides us.
Subhanallah.
I was in dilemma whether I should say yes or no to a proposal my parents want me to consider I was contemplating because I haven't completed my studies I am not financially settled. & Suddenly this video comes infront of me..
But Masha Allah what are the ways Allah guides us.
alhamdulillah
Are u married ryt now?
We need one speaker like you who can speak with such sweetness in all major languages :)
It is so hard trying to find someone whose level of deen is at least close to mine. Everyone is so much into haram things, I feel like an alien. Many times I am told to leave some of my own restrictions so that I may find someone suitable. But this video has cleared some of the ambiguities. jazakAllah!
Facing this same issue 😅
If you brave enough, go outside of your country, maybe. There's someone for you out there. In Sha Allah
The same,where r u from?
Correction! It is NOT hard at all. Look after yourself it will come to you noneed to find. I am living proof.
Trust INSTINCS they are from our Guardians. Becareful aswell as u are vunerable broke people can take advantage of that. TRUST YOUR INSTINCS PLEASE
May Allah Forgive all of us and shower his Rahamah Over The Believing Peoples.. May Allah protect us from All evils and Make it ease for all of us...ameen❤️❤️❤️🤲
🙏Ameen 🙏🥰
Ameen Ya Rabb
I post Islamic videos 🌹
Btw ameen
May Allah grant us good spouses in our lives Amen
Ameen
Please pray for me as well...I'm glad to see this video ,I myself am confused as I want to marry someone I know or I should continue my studies but I really feel like I should get married as soon as I can before it's too late
Yes Allah is LOVE ❤️
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️‼️
ASSALAMU ALAIKUM
my Brothers & Sisters
Peace ☮️
Wa Alaikum Assalam.
I post Islamic videos 🌹
Btw walaikum salam
Love comes from Allah, we do not worship love, we worship Allah. Wa leikum Salam wa rahmat Allah hiwa barakatoho. Sobhanak Allah homma wa bi hamdika la hi la ha illa ant staghfiroka wa taobaileik ⚖️
Assalamu alaykum, please make dua that all of us that have watched this video & are in such a situation to be granted success, if we ever feel overwhelmed by anxiousness, just say, "hasbun Allah wa n3imal wakil" it's the dua of Ibrahim AS
You're just the best....every time i watch your videos and ask Allah genuinely to bless you and give you jannah....you are giving peace and showing the right path to so many broken hearts by the will of Allah
I'm suffering from anxiety and depression...because of the guy i was going to marry..yes ofcourse it was a love marriage just based upon outward apperances without knowing depth of when and how we become eligible for marriage
We used fights on materialistic things,he was rude,i had foolish bollywood expectations and we both eventually just lost respect for each other because we lacked patience,respect and discipline....and soon after we started abusing each other...he started threatening me that he will break the marriage and tell this and that to his parents...which he eventually did ......we were fools to think only looks and good career and a house and car make good marriages and makes you straightaway eligible for someone
Only after i watched your video i realised good marriage it actually about discipline,respect,patience and most importantly being islamically sound so that you can handle the situaltions accordingly and help each other dunya and akhirah too
Had we been a bit conscious about pillars of marriage in islam we would have handled the situation but now i don't know about him
But my world has fallen apart
I'm taking pills
I'm just lost and crying everyday since a month
But still i thank Allah...because may be its just a part of my worldly journey
I cry every day..
I wish a can go in past and undo all the wrongs i did and handle the situation in the most patient way the way islam teaches us to
But life dosen't gives us second chance its the sad truth
So everyone who's reading this please be very careful while finding your partner
Don't fall in the trap of wordly life...focus on your akhirah
Don't let anyone break your heart....it really messes up your life ...i know how messed up and hard this situation is
Shaytan tries even harder to pull me down by giving me thoughts that Allah is upset with you,he is punishing you...you should rather jump off your terrace and die you jerk...Allah hates you...you'll never be happy in yout life ever again
Only i know how i battle with these thoughts
May Allah protect me..Ameen
But then i come back to my senses that no Allah is the most merciful...its just part of my journey in this world...is a part of my test....and it has made me closer to Allah than ever before so it cannot be a punishment..
That's it!!
Assamualaikum♥️
Allah says in the Quran -
And do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah, for no one loses hope in Allah’s mercy except those with no faith. (12:87)
May Allah grant you ease and bring peace and happiness for you in this life and reward you for your sabr in the hereafter.
@@reazulislamopu551 Jazakallah
May Allah grant you ease and sakoon I can understand your pain and Jazak Allah for sharing with us!
@@shamahussain3933 ❤️❤️❤️
Your pain is hard for me to imagine.. but going through tough time has also brought me closer to Allah.. thats true its not the punishment its just a trial .. seek help through patience and salah.. after the trial passes, you will be rewarded in the best ways possible.. In sha Allah .. just stay strong .. Allah tests those whom he loves the most🤍
I got a proposal from a fine man, but my father is afraid of me not finishing my studies (which is not true). My mother always says that it is all Naseeb, so no matter what they say, if it is destined it will happen. I told her then why are you making things harder than they should be?
What does that man do? Are you meeting him?
Proposals come my way but every single time I get confused if I should marry or not even after praying istikarah. How do i know who to choose? I loved someone in college but I left because it wasn’t a halal manner. Now that I’m trying to find in a halal way I’m struggling to marry. I’ve been trying to get married for years now. Please pray for me dear brothers and sisters 🙏🏼
When matters become easy after making istikhara, then you know to go forward. Things you'd think would be difficult are made easy and you don't find so much resistance
Allah bless you and everyone of us with spouses who're coolness to the eyes and vice versa, and we are a means for each other to gain Allah's pleasure..
Aameen ya Rabb Ala'alameen 🤲
اللّه ہمیں اتنی پاکیزگی عطاء کر دے
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کہ ہمارے نبی *حضرت محمد ﷺ* کے سامنے ہم شرمندہ نہ ہوں...,,.
Beshaq Bade bhai
May Allah protect us from evil people and Give us more wisdom to prsoper 🙏🙌
Aameen
What a timing! 🥰❤️ I'm just planning something regarding this
May Allah bless us & save us from the Attachment of Materialistic thing's . Ameen ❤️
A capital for the word Allah
Alhamdullillah this is very nice and fact true!May Allah make it easy for us 🤲Ameen 🙏
we should not forsake the concept of truly get to knowing the person we may marry; unfortunately this days it might take years to really get to know someone. it’s easy to put on a front, pretend to be someone you’re not and fool others, we shouldn’t jump into marriage without truly knowing the character of our future spouse. specially when it comes to women I say: finish your studies. get a job and become capable of providing for yourself... in the meanwhile you can talk, get to know the person and if it’s meant to be, Insha’Allah you’ll get married.
Done... Remember me in your duas Mufti... It seriously requires courage to tell directly...
Thank you so much. I was in a moment of questionnements in my relationship with my fiance and your video really opened my eyes. Alhamdulillah!
So how did it turn out?
i really wish our parents could listen to that, and Understand the real islam
Bismillah
Alhamdulillah❤
Yes...Accepted
May Allah make it happen
May Allah make it easy
Aamiin
I mean.. it couldn’t be more on time !! Jazzakum Allah khayran🤲🏻
I am in a process of finding a spouse. I am 27. What I have seen so far that the guys mother is so evil and asks so many questions regarding my religion that it makes me feel like that I am not Muslim. I had so many good proposals and guys were interested but their mothers omg evil is the small word for them they are satan. I pray 5 times ALHUMDULILAH. Never been In any haram relationship. I don’t judge people and fear Allah in ever step of my life. May Allah guide the people who are rejecting girls only because they don’t seem too religious to you.
Asalamualaikum Mufti menk and my brothers and sisters. Thank you for mufti menk for your beautifully inspired speeches. So pure lectures.Thank youLove from INDIA 🇮🇳
Subhanallah may Allah grant you jana ya Shaikh. You always give us the right message whenever we really need it I really appreciate you.
Aameen.. I also want a person who will take me to jannah plz keep me in your dua's.
Salam mufti,
Unfortunately this is my case aswell. I am a man who got rejected from a girls family whereas the girl did not want a bf gf relationship but a married. Unfortunately I don’t have the residency, house or money and the job maybe they want but I have had enough to provide for their daughter I believe. Life is too tough mufti menk. My heart is broken. I hope Allah SWT heals my heart soon.
🙂
What about when your a female and you’ve been proposed too more then 10 times in the past 7 years but you wouldn’t accept because none of the men fear Allah? That’s why I don’t accept. Inshallah someone will come soon that fears Allah before anything 🤲🏻
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, said:
“There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade:
1. A just ruler;
2. A youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic;
3. A man whose heart is attached to the masjids;
4. Two men who love each other for Allah’s sake meeting for that and parting upon that;
*5. A man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: ‘I fear Allah’;*
6. A man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity;
7. A man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.”
*(Narrated by Abu Hurairah and collected in Sahih al-Bukhari)*
@@Muhammad_Uvais No woman?
@@nailakamana763
*This is generally for all.*
If a woman did the same then insha Allah by the mercy of Allah on the day of judgement she will be under the shade of Allah
I Love this amazing guys demeanor in Life Mashalla
Maa shaa Allah, I can listen to him a hours and hours without being bothered
Allah has the best plan for us.
I’m a Hungary from England bismillahir
May we all understand and may Allah grant our parents the strength to accept suitors we bring home 🏡
I'd be thankful for dua to make the marriage possible. my parents are against the marriage since he's from a different race and nationality.
May Allah grant u to get permission of ur parents to get marry to ur loved one May Allah bless you with happiness
May Allah make it easy for you sis and for all those young Muslims with the same issue.
I wanted to marry someone, I was informed I needed Mehr/dowry to show responsibility. Went to the mosque to speak with an imam regarding this. He explained it's a cultural thing and if she actually wanted to make it halal, finances shouldn't suppress this. There is baraka in nikkah and personal rizq is Qadr. I can only assume this difference, was prevention from Allah SWT.
I wanna now the country you are living.
@@adiannan796 u.k
Brothers and sisters please make dua for me ! I am getting married November 14th insha Allah.
In Sha Allah... Make dua for us too
sending this to my parents ASAP
Bismillah
May Allah make everything easy for us... Aamiin
We just want someone to take us to Jannah..
May Allah solve my problem and show me right path
Assalam walaikum
Your videos inspire me alot.
May ALLAH grant you jannah and all of us.
Make dua her family accepts us in sha allah
Mashallah Allah pak give us courage to act upon what we heard and which is good for us.
Maa shaa Allah...
It really changed my mind set...with a apt timing.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Bismillah
May Allah grant us a good spouse....precious one that would take us to Jannah ....aamiin
Salam Alaikum dear brother. What if no proposal is coming and life is passing me by ? 41 and still waiting. I've given up on the idea of kids now , just want a loving husband. Please make dua for me and my sisters.jzk
May Allah grant you a good pious husband with aafiya Ameen
There is no age specific for the marriage remember that.. May Allah grant you a good spouse soon Ameen
@@fatimahafzal4321 jzk I appreciate your duas thank you.
@@shameemaisgaq Ameen. JZK Sister
Subahanallah may Almighty Allah give you the best of your choice and Grant you ease
May Allah make it easy to us ameen
I needed this so bad !! I’m studying and have 1 year left Upon on that want get married , but realised you can study and be finished whenever in ur life but for girls specially marriage is something beautiful that has a expire date .. ☺️
Bismillah
Alhamdulillah
Wanting someone to take to Jannah
Assalamu alaikum mufti Menk, thank you for recording such an important speech for us not married yet, may Allah bless us!
Mashallah May Allah help us all to do the right thing ameen
Jazakallah khairan Mufti for this much needed reminder.
Masha Allah Sheikh Barakallahu laka
I can start to say thank you so much for the beautiful lecture sheikh mufti menk course I come across the situation that you're spoking about I'm 24 year's old some 2 weeks I completed 25 an I want get marriage in 25 of my age but I can convince my parents to allow me to marriage so I will like dua from everyone to make it for everyone that's suffering in this kind of situation 💓😘🤲🤲
... "Jennat starts in this world" 🌹Masha-Allah sheikr. Allah hu akkbar.
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Bismillah
May Allah let it happen ..
May Allah make everything easy for us
Aamiin
Asalaamu alaikum please make dua for me to get married in sha Allah. Everything I have tried and everything I am trying isn’t resulting in marriage. I understand this is my test but please pray that I get married soon in sha Allah.
JazakAllahu khair May Allah accept your duas. Ameen
Aamiin
Jazakhallah. May Allah grant best parners for each of us all for brothers and sisters of umah. Ameen. Allah is best of planners.
: Can't be a better timing! May Allah (SWT) grant us spouse that will be benificial for this life and the hereafter! Ameen :) 🤍
Bismillah
Insya Allah..
One with deen and character and responsible would be accepted by the father
Thank you for guiding us in the right path. May Allah SWT bless you with His blessings. You are an amazing contributor to the welfare of Muslim ummah.
Take care!
Wassalaam!
"Jannah starts in this world" 😂 This sister is very funny. BarakAllah fik Mufti
The woman I love just got married to her cousin :( she is doing this to make her family happy! and now I’m just here praying if she comes back.
She an ahmiddiya and I’m a Sunni. idk what to say been sad for more than 2 months now.
Alhamdullilah for everything.
I was 14 when I wanted to get married but the Indian law doesn’t allow for women to get married before 18. So many things need to change insha Allah
Alhamdulillah. Jazakallahu hayran.
Assalamu'alaikum warohmatulohi
wabarakatuh
Bismillah
May Allah make everything easy for us
May Allah facilitate things
Aamiin
I wish your this video was in Urdu language too... so that I could show it to my parents 🙂🙂🙂🙄
may allah swt send The Khayer for all muslims Ameen ❤
MASHAALLAH tabarakallah 💞this a beautiful vedeo that evryone should know, specially parents 💞Shiek Mufti Menk is amazing 💞May Allah Give him a Long healthy and wealthy long life and protect him and keep him safe all the time... Allahhumma Amen 🤲
Im almost done with a higher university degree and have met an amazing woman, we met a few times, everything fits perfectly and subsequently developed strong feelings for one another. Her dad didn’t even meet me but instead flicked me off because i am not from the middle east, im Caucasian/Arab. I practice my religion, am very responsible, take care of my character but he didn’t even give me a chance … so we had to split, its all very painful, i hope this video reaches the right people.
But Arabs are from the Middle East, confused here.
*"Don't think we don't send you someone, you decline*"* ahhh
MashaAllah beautiful words. Like everytime!
Salam dear brothers and sisters in Islam please make dua for me to get a righteous husband
Close call. Allah saved me from getting married to a gold digger.
Jazaakallah khair Sheikh May Allah Bless you
i needed to watch this. no matter how many times i pray istikhara i still have 2nd thoughts abt whether i should get married but since mufti menk said if there good dont let them good, im just putting my decision in allahs hands bc ik hes the only one that knows whats best for me no matter how bad i dont wanna get married. iA khair
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd]
Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit.
May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen
Love from Mauritius 🇲🇺
May Allah make easy for those looking to get married. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala open doors of marriage for those who are really looking forward to commitment. Aameen. May Allah also make it easy for our parents so that they make all decisions based on Quran and Sunnah. Aameen Ya Rabb!
Allahummah Amiin
Aameen 🤲🏽