I just turned 42 last month and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s not to over-think things. Let life happen naturally and gradually day by day. This universe is MASSIVE, much bigger than anything we’re capable of imagining and each one of us is so tiny, we literally mean nothing. We’re not significant. So don’t stress, don’t over-think things and just let each day happen.
Yup! I am 42 also, gotta achieve more goals, take care or ur mental/physical health. Save more money for retirement keep up with inflation. Life is non stop:) keep ur hobbies and do nothing days🫶🏽
Oh and don’t feel bad if u don’t use ur degree in the long term. Just get creative with what you do and want. Keep rolling with life, learned the hard way!
Love this new style of vlog ❤ As a woman who’s just entered half a century my advice is walk slower and look up, treat your daily life the same way you do when you’re on holiday, pick foods you have never tried, walk down the street you never choose, life has no end goal, school teaches you that there’s a right and a wrong way of doing things, it teaches you that there’s an end point you’re working towards and when you get there, there’s a sense of relief and time off to follow it. That’s school, that’s not how life is, you will often find that when you get to point of reaching your goals, you have already moved the goal post. Today is the most important day of your life, the things you’re worried about won’t matter in a years time. Wear the pretty dress, burn the candles and enjoy your journey x
recently, a huge door in terms of my theatre life closed for me. i've been dealing with a lot of grief for what that held and uncertainty for how i'm going to move on, but at the end of the day you're right. choices are hard but they're important and i don't want to live my life in fear of losing those figs- so thank you.
I’ll be 42 in August and what I want now is not what I wanted in my 20’s or even my 30’s. So, regarding the quote, it IS important to just make a choice but it’s also important to know that you’re still growing and can (and likely will) change course. It’s why people have “mid life crisis’.” You wake up one day and think of all the paths you could’ve taken and start freaking out because the fig you chose was not the fig you’d choose now. I know I have. lol. The crazy part is how sure you can be that you want something particular in your life and then in 10 years it’s “what was I thinking?”.
Alexis that was a great vlog, thank you. I'm an overthinker too, and my mom taught me early, to get your money right first (consistent ), then start living out your aspirations. The second thing was having time for family, and friends. I'm 65 now, and life was/is good. This is my favorite youtube channel, thank you for being you.😊
What an amazing video... your most thoughtful, insightful and personal yet. Besides the video and sound quality being exceptional, I feel like you really "let us in". Bravo, my dear.
This was one of your best vlogs so far this year. Loved it! I am turning 40 this year and I just made a video about doing 40 things before turning 40. Some of them are simple acts of kindness while others are little dares to stretch my comfort levels. I think goals are important and they give us a direction to set our days to. But it’s the daily decisions that matter the most. My advice is to follow your heart at least 80% of the time. Life is too short for most of us. It deserves to be lived even if we think we made a mistake. We learn and grow and time keeps moving.
Wow, that really hit hard. After turning 30 this year I realized that I was just going on autopilot, overthinking every decision, afraid that I would make the wrong choice. What I didn’t realize was that by “not making a choice”, the choices were still being made around me but I had no say over the outcome. Waiting for life to eventually happen without doing anything to get there will just leave you with the life you didn’t want. Thank you so much for this video!! Great work, and I hope this can be a new chapter of intentional living for all of us!!! ♥️
life changed for me when i turned 27… i suddenly had so much clarity into who i am and what i want and what i can do every day to make myself happy. i just turned 30 this year and i still feel the same. getting older is the best ❤ you become more sure of yourself with every year 😊 great video!!!
I love this style of video from you ! It's raw and relatable to me as a 26 year old. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. No matter which path we take, we'll all be alright ❤
Omg the fig tree excerpt completely resonated with me too! I have been struggling with all of the possible future paths, or even mourning past paths lately, but all that overthinking does is just keep me from choosing one and going full steam ahead with it. Love the idea of intentionality and also just trying to be present on the current path. awesome video, thanks for sharing! 😊
As I said before, I love your voiceovers. They're so good! I'm turning 28 next week, and I have so many similar questions, doubts, etc. Sometimes I feel too overwhelmed with everything going on in my head haha. Overthinking is such a horrible thing. I mean it can ruin so many plans and goals. Also catastrophizing. Thankfully, it's not very present in my life, but when those ugly thoughts happen in some stressful situations it just adds unnecessary drama. Working on it to change my life for the better. Tired of being scared and uncertain. Too much time was wasted.
It all feels so important and big when you are young, because you can’t see your future. But the truth is that life, accomplishments and happiness are not in the end goal, but in the everyday, the simple things. I’m 42 and still trying to figure out what I want to be when “I grow up”. I’ve been many things already, but you are always learning, always looking (at least me) and so it’s been really important to me to enjoy the simple things because the goals and plans are not always achievable or enjoyable!
Great questions, thoughts and info to dwell on. I too always feel guilty over decisions - relaxing days are very difficult for me because I always think of things that need to be done. Thanks for the reminders!
Love the message of your video! The guilt is so hard to let go of; I personally need to work on this more especially the guilt of being a super busy working mom. Not enough time for everyone and everything in my life.
These style videos are my absolute favorite! Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I am in such a similar headspace right now and this came at a perfect time!! Every year when it's halfway through the year I get so introspective and reflective - I check-in with myself to see how I'm going/re-evaluate my goals etc. I feel sooo much of what you shared! Loved that fig tree analogy
These are so inspiring -- I love seeing you be able to lean into these more in addition to your other work. There are so many *sit down* motivation videos that explain as if like an outline how to change your life (like a textbook -- and there is NOTHING wrong with textbooks they are actually my traditional preferred method of learning the majority of the time) BUT I feel your videos are filling a void in the youtube/ self improvement (read: self alignment) community -- and that is learning through art. You can learn just as much from watching a play as you can by reading a textbook -- they are just presented differently. One presents concepts logically and step by step as if in an ideal form -- art presents it in the same way life manifests itself - paradoxical, complex, subliminal, messy and yet still *true.
Hi from someone that's watched a few vlogs and found it to be comfort viewing! Cheers! I feel like I constantly worry about the things in the future because I’m worried (based on experiences) that there’s always something that’s going to happen or something unexpected would dawn on me. But also, sometimes I’m so tired of these worries that I just fully check out and start pushing things off. I have heard the Bell Jar fig tree quote, and it was also from a friend that read it to me as a bit of wisdom at a moment of branching paths in me finding myself both academically and socially. The more I think back at it the more I start to pull myself from that. I’m so often in that things I could be doing mindset that I feel that very much. Sometimes I really just wish choosing to spend more time with people around me does not weigh on me as much. Like you said in the video, hindsight is always the 20/20 and making a present choice is an important learning but also ongoing progress. And yes, I should definitely read The Bell Jar.
very well said!! you summed it up so well- the choices we make are what we think is best in that moment. it can be easy to regret a decision, but we learn from everything!
Great vlog today , your twenties are truly just to figure things out, you’re doing great and starting to think more intentionally about future goals will help you settle in. Take care and be kind to yourself
Well that was beautiful! And I so resonate with all of it and I’m 61! Ive been wrestling with the same thoughts only it’s like I’m living for retirement. I’m retiring soon in 2025. But I need to cherish the now! I’m a little burned out working FT, taking care of Mom and doing a weekly YT channel.
Love the Bell Jar feature! I also often wonder about the life I could have lived but I think it helps to remind myself that every path will have pitfalls and unexpected twists and turns. But there will also be moments where things will make sense. Thank you for sharing, love these types of videos!
My friends and I relate to the Fig Tree analogy 100%, we always take a least 20 mins to decide where to go to eat. By the time we've decided we're all starving! Lol
Being in the moment and not overthinking is key :) enjoy every second. It took me a long while to get this- to just be grateful to be alive and enjoy! I once spent a year in France and ate from a local fig tree and somehow that taught me to enjoy "the sweetness of life" :) Beautiful video, well done you! I love these essays and I truly feel you are coming into your artistry ! When I was living in NYC- around this same age range- that was when I really came into myself and got clarity. I "do" a lot less now and am so much happier being in simplicity and love being alone with myself too :) New camera is amazing too! Have you ever thought if using some of your own music in your videos in the edit ? Could be special !
Wait untill you get over 50 as I am 53 years young and you only looking into the future with the time you still are able to have. I think I liked this kind of filming you do. It is so much better and you reflecting on your stuggles and explaining how you really feel will resonate with a lot of ladies in there twenties. I believe this also a vlog you did around New Year?
Get into the basics and the foundations. Who am I? Why am I here? Where am I going? God is the center we should be revolving around. God the Creator from everlasting to everlasting, Jesus Christ the Son of God and the son of man, the Lord of all. When we read the Bible, our minds and hearts are enlightened with truth and the love of God reaches our soul.
I just turned 42 last month and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s not to over-think things. Let life happen naturally and gradually day by day. This universe is MASSIVE, much bigger than anything we’re capable of imagining and each one of us is so tiny, we literally mean nothing. We’re not significant. So don’t stress, don’t over-think things and just let each day happen.
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I agree totally!
was going to say the same haha! turning 42 next month.
Yup! I am 42 also, gotta achieve more goals, take care or ur mental/physical health. Save more money for retirement keep up with inflation. Life is non stop:) keep ur hobbies and do nothing days🫶🏽
Oh and don’t feel bad if u don’t use ur degree in the long term. Just get creative with what you do and want. Keep rolling with life, learned the hard way!
Love this new style of vlog ❤
As a woman who’s just entered half a century my advice is walk slower and look up, treat your daily life the same way you do when you’re on holiday, pick foods you have never tried, walk down the street you never choose, life has no end goal, school teaches you that there’s a right and a wrong way of doing things, it teaches you that there’s an end point you’re working towards and when you get there, there’s a sense of relief and time off to follow it. That’s school, that’s not how life is, you will often find that when you get to point of reaching your goals, you have already moved the goal post.
Today is the most important day of your life, the things you’re worried about won’t matter in a years time.
Wear the pretty dress, burn the candles and enjoy your journey x
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals”.
"trying to unlearn the guilt of making a decision," WHEW that hits close to home
recently, a huge door in terms of my theatre life closed for me. i've been dealing with a lot of grief for what that held and uncertainty for how i'm going to move on, but at the end of the day you're right. choices are hard but they're important and i don't want to live my life in fear of losing those figs- so thank you.
I’ll be 42 in August and what I want now is not what I wanted in my 20’s or even my 30’s. So, regarding the quote, it IS important to just make a choice but it’s also important to know that you’re still growing and can (and likely will) change course. It’s why people have “mid life crisis’.” You wake up one day and think of all the paths you could’ve taken and start freaking out because the fig you chose was not the fig you’d choose now. I know I have. lol. The crazy part is how sure you can be that you want something particular in your life and then in 10 years it’s “what was I thinking?”.
Alexis that was a great vlog, thank you. I'm an overthinker too, and my mom taught me early, to get your money right first (consistent ), then start living out your aspirations. The second thing was having time for family, and friends. I'm 65 now, and life was/is good. This is my favorite youtube channel, thank you for being you.😊
What an amazing video... your most thoughtful, insightful and personal yet. Besides the video and sound quality being exceptional, I feel like you really "let us in". Bravo, my dear.
This was one of your best vlogs so far this year. Loved it! I am turning 40 this year and I just made a video about doing 40 things before turning 40. Some of them are simple acts of kindness while others are little dares to stretch my comfort levels. I think goals are important and they give us a direction to set our days to. But it’s the daily decisions that matter the most.
My advice is to follow your heart at least 80% of the time. Life is too short for most of us. It deserves to be lived even if we think we made a mistake. We learn and grow and time keeps moving.
Wow, that really hit hard. After turning 30 this year I realized that I was just going on autopilot, overthinking every decision, afraid that I would make the wrong choice. What I didn’t realize was that by “not making a choice”, the choices were still being made around me but I had no say over the outcome. Waiting for life to eventually happen without doing anything to get there will just leave you with the life you didn’t want. Thank you so much for this video!! Great work, and I hope this can be a new chapter of intentional living for all of us!!! ♥️
life changed for me when i turned 27… i suddenly had so much clarity into who i am and what i want and what i can do every day to make myself happy. i just turned 30 this year and i still feel the same. getting older is the best ❤ you become more sure of yourself with every year 😊 great video!!!
This!! I am about to turn 27 and I started feeling that way when I turned 26! ❤ wishing you the best
you had your Saturn return! happens to everyone around the age of 27
Love the new artistic videos. That intro was GOLD! ❤
I love this style of video from you ! It's raw and relatable to me as a 26 year old. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. No matter which path we take, we'll all be alright ❤
Loved this! I just did a podcast on the fig tree analogy and we really should’ve mentioned the “go feed yourself” part 😅
Omg the fig tree excerpt completely resonated with me too! I have been struggling with all of the possible future paths, or even mourning past paths lately, but all that overthinking does is just keep me from choosing one and going full steam ahead with it. Love the idea of intentionality and also just trying to be present on the current path. awesome video, thanks for sharing! 😊
Trust your gut and live your life! We can’t choose all the options, so savor the ones you choose!! Great video! 💕
As I said before, I love your voiceovers. They're so good! I'm turning 28 next week, and I have so many similar questions, doubts, etc. Sometimes I feel too overwhelmed with everything going on in my head haha. Overthinking is such a horrible thing. I mean it can ruin so many plans and goals. Also catastrophizing. Thankfully, it's not very present in my life, but when those ugly thoughts happen in some stressful situations it just adds unnecessary drama. Working on it to change my life for the better. Tired of being scared and uncertain. Too much time was wasted.
happy early birthday! i hope 28 is your best year yet- here's to not overthinking!!
@@alexiseldredgethank you so much!!
It all feels so important and big when you are young, because you can’t see your future. But the truth is that life, accomplishments and happiness are not in the end goal, but in the everyday, the simple things. I’m 42 and still trying to figure out what I want to be when “I grow up”. I’ve been many things already, but you are always learning, always looking (at least me) and so it’s been really important to me to enjoy the simple things because the goals and plans are not always achievable or enjoyable!
100% Take things easy, do things with care, focus and move
I am only 27 seconds in and had to stop and tell you the cinematography is next level good!
thank you!!
Thank you for this video. I so needed to hear this. I’m one month from turning 35 and I have a millions thought in my head and I need to slow down.
Great questions, thoughts and info to dwell on. I too always feel guilty over decisions - relaxing days are very difficult for me because I always think of things that need to be done. Thanks for the reminders!
Love the message of your video! The guilt is so hard to let go of; I personally need to work on this more especially the guilt of being a super busy working mom. Not enough time for everyone and everything in my life.
This fig analogy was SO good and so inspiring ❤ love this video.
These style videos are my absolute favorite! Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I am in such a similar headspace right now and this came at a perfect time!! Every year when it's halfway through the year I get so introspective and reflective - I check-in with myself to see how I'm going/re-evaluate my goals etc. I feel sooo much of what you shared! Loved that fig tree analogy
Thank you for this! ❤
These are so inspiring -- I love seeing you be able to lean into these more in addition to your other work. There are so many *sit down* motivation videos that explain as if like an outline how to change your life (like a textbook -- and there is NOTHING wrong with textbooks they are actually my traditional preferred method of learning the majority of the time) BUT I feel your videos are filling a void in the youtube/ self improvement (read: self alignment) community -- and that is learning through art. You can learn just as much from watching a play as you can by reading a textbook -- they are just presented differently. One presents concepts logically and step by step as if in an ideal form -- art presents it in the same way life manifests itself - paradoxical, complex, subliminal, messy and yet still *true.
awesome job, loving this narration & your editing/filming ❤
Hi from someone that's watched a few vlogs and found it to be comfort viewing! Cheers!
I feel like I constantly worry about the things in the future because I’m worried (based on experiences) that there’s always something that’s going to happen or something unexpected would dawn on me. But also, sometimes I’m so tired of these worries that I just fully check out and start pushing things off.
I have heard the Bell Jar fig tree quote, and it was also from a friend that read it to me as a bit of wisdom at a moment of branching paths in me finding myself both academically and socially. The more I think back at it the more I start to pull myself from that.
I’m so often in that things I could be doing mindset that I feel that very much. Sometimes I really just wish choosing to spend more time with people around me does not weigh on me as much.
Like you said in the video, hindsight is always the 20/20 and making a present choice is an important learning but also ongoing progress.
And yes, I should definitely read The Bell Jar.
Wow! At the beginning I wasn't sure I'd enjoy this kind of content, but wow! This resonated with me so much. Very inspiring. Thank you
Okurrrrr your editing skills are always 10/10 💅🏼 be proud of yourself ✨🩷
thank you!
very well said!! you summed it up so well- the choices we make are what we think is best in that moment. it can be easy to regret a decision, but we learn from everything!
I’m currently reading the bell jar!! Also I needed this video!!
I love this new style of videos so much ! It felt so personal ❤keep up the good work Alexis 🫶
Great vlog today , your twenties are truly just to figure things out, you’re doing great and starting to think more intentionally about future goals will help you settle in. Take care and be kind to yourself
I’m about to turn 33 next month and I feel this so much. Thank you. ❤❤❤
That was like a cool, laid back, short movie.🍿
Well that was beautiful! And I so resonate with all of it and I’m 61! Ive been wrestling with the same thoughts only it’s like I’m living for retirement. I’m retiring soon in 2025. But I need to cherish the now! I’m a little burned out working FT, taking care of Mom and doing a weekly YT channel.
Love the Bell Jar feature! I also often wonder about the life I could have lived but I think it helps to remind myself that every path will have pitfalls and unexpected twists and turns. But there will also be moments where things will make sense. Thank you for sharing, love these types of videos!
your thoughts on this resonated a lot to 30 year old me. love this style of video!
This is the talk I needed. Thank you Alexis 🥺💓
Loved this video Alexis! Thanks for sharing and for the reminders. I love The Bell Jar reference it really puts things into perspective!
Life is to short to stand stil and wait. Do what feels good to you and enjoy what you do.
Love from Leonie (53) the Netherlands
An eternal message, expertly said. great video!
Love how this vlog is edited oh my gosh I had a shit day at work but this is inspiring me you go girl ❤❤❤
You should definitely read the bell jar! I've read it countless times just for the passage you quoted haha
My friends and I relate to the Fig Tree analogy 100%, we always take a least 20 mins to decide where to go to eat. By the time we've decided we're all starving! Lol
The „what am I doing“ reminded me of Carrie in SATC
I’m soooo proud of you. This is my favorite video of yours.
thank you!!
We really hang out and vlog in the same places we might as well be friends
Thanks for this ❤
Being in the moment and not overthinking is key :) enjoy every second. It took me a long while to get this- to just be grateful to be alive and enjoy! I once spent a year in France and ate from a local fig tree and somehow that taught me to enjoy "the sweetness of life" :)
Beautiful video, well done you! I love these essays and I truly feel you are coming into your artistry !
When I was living in NYC- around this same age range- that was when I really came into myself and got clarity. I "do" a lot less now and am so much happier being in simplicity and love being alone with myself too :) New camera is amazing too! Have you ever thought if using some of your own music in your videos in the edit ? Could be special !
I'm in LOVE with The Bell Jar! I have the "I am I am I am" from the quote you put at the beginning tatooed on my arm!
i need to read it fully!
So well said, I totally agree❤
Love your new camera and openings better
Loved this blog. I am going to go check out the book The Bell Jar. Thank You.
love your energy ❤❤❤❤❤
I totally agree....😊👍
Okay come through with the cinematic shots 👏🏼🎬
I love this!
Loved this video so much ❤
This was EXCELLENT!!!
This was so wholesome Alexis 💖
I think my next life I will choose to be a cat. Just to nap all day and get up to eat dinner. Sounds good.
That was beautiful ♡
I loved this so much!! 🥰
Hi Alexis happy Tuesday afternoon to you and I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter happy summer day
I can’t agree more! Thanks for sharing
Love this one, Alexis!❤
Love this.
Very profound. 👏
Wait untill you get over 50 as I am 53 years young and you only looking into the future with the time you still are able to have. I think I liked this kind of filming you do. It is so much better and you reflecting on your stuggles and explaining how you really feel will resonate with a lot of ladies in there twenties. I believe this also a vlog you did around New Year?
yes! i did another reflective video like this at the beginning of the year!
Great video🎉
Really beautiful vlog❤
Beautiful!
I love the volg today .❤️
My beautiful Alexis ❤
Don't tell me what to do
It's like hunting for sustenance
There is guilt
Though humbleness removes
When a choice
Becomes a prolific steadiness
Like Herman Melville
Great vlog
What is going to make you feel good just for the next few years? Each decade creates a new person and goals.
nice informative vlog
Hi ⛅
the adorable cutie pie fur baby kitty smooches and kisses and lots of love and snuggles.
Not to point out the obvious, but can you invite your friends to dance class? Win-win!
You turning 27 and you have 27 likes as the time im watching
Great video Alex.
Is this really you or is it your management team telling you how to boost your viewers?
...Anyways you're great !
This is her, not her management. She said in a previous vlog that she wanted to do more artistic videos.
my management didn't even know i was posting this lol
I stand corrected! Well done ! Keep up the honest work Alexis!
Get into the basics and the foundations. Who am I? Why am I here? Where am I going? God is the center we should be revolving around.
God the Creator from everlasting to everlasting, Jesus Christ the Son of God and the son of man, the Lord of all. When we read the Bible, our minds and hearts are enlightened with truth and the love of God reaches our soul.
Malingsia