The story of the man whose wife died was very confusing. I think what you meant for the doctor to say was "what if you had died" but he says "what if your wife died?" which was already the premise of the scene. The man's only realistic response is "wait, I thought she had died. She's alive?"
But ayyy isn't it strange that we have this intense desire and need for meaningfulness unlike animals? Do you ever wonder if maybe we have that desire for a reason? That maybe it's a clue to something out there meant to fill the void like a key fitting a lock? And imagine what it might open up to! (Spoiler alert: it's a w e s o m e ) sadly people try to fill it with, like you said, meaning they made up themselves... spoiler alert: wrong key...
@@EcheveriaStorm yes maybe you need to belive in higher power and that gives you a peace and meaning (religion is evil) but I don't feel empty or meaningless. What ever you convince yourself will give you a meaning, whatever you was indoctrinated when you was a chield will give you a comfort, dozen mean it's have purpose or meaning, for you yes not for me or Bob.
@@EcheveriaStorm don't misconsture the message here. Frankl himself was a man of faith and believed in God. Both ideas can be present at the same time, and I'd argue that each of which are better for it. I hope you find peace in our Lord.
I’ve found that Frankl’s quote is really meaningful to someone like me with severe anxiety problems. I worry about literally everything not being “perfect.” And I bully myself when it’s not. Using his quote “when we are no longer able to change our situation, we are challenged to change our ourselves” helps tremendously. Instead of bullying myself for not being able to make something “perfect,” I now look to change my approach and attitude to the situation to feel better. And I realize that a useful modification, for anyone with anxiety, to the quote is that we can choose when we want to change our situation, if possible, or when we rather change our approach. It’s okay not to be perfect.
Hey noodle- that is so true. I suffer from the same as you. I need to read this book. Sometime I have to do something imperfectly just to try to break the cycle of trying to make everything I do perfect. That only works for a short time. Then back to being upset with myself when I don't do something as perfectly as I want. But I keep working on it everyday. With there was some sort of club for people like us. Maybe like an AA meeting. Perfectionists Anonymous.
I read this book the midst of a horrible divorce. It literally changed my life. The point we all suffer and by fighting thru we get to better place. I still forget this book’s main from time to time. Keep the faith…
It’s must have been hard for you that the caregivers in your life held you to such high standards and showed you love when you did “perfect”.... therapy teaches techniques to reprogram your brain, it’s essentially what you are doing now! You must be so proud of yourself!!
I suffered a chronic anxiety,/panic disorder morphed into crippling agoraphobia for 10 years. Those 10 years were of unemployment too..the last 4 years i didn't go more than 20 minutes from my home in Dublin Ireland. I overcame this in 2019. Got a small job and ended up getting on a plane to Paris my first flight ✈️ in ten years. Now i live here and have my own anxiety Business coaching people from all over the World. I just ordered this book yesterday I can't wait to read it 🧠🙏🏽 i really found meaning in my suffering. Always so grateful
That's awesome! Thanks for sharing your story. . I've had some really terrible panic attacks/anxiety throughout my life and always try to see the meaning in it. Meditation helps too :). Anxiety was the catalyst that got me to where I am today (introspection, etc.).. It's really not a curse (although people feel like it is). I'm glad you overcame yours and are now helping others. Very good to hear. Your comment and timing struck me - I'm mostly Irish (originally from the UK) and I'm visiting Paris with my wife this summer! I hope you enjoy the book - there is a PDF copy on the internet archive for free as well. I believe there is a link in the description of the video. Thanks again for your nice comment.
1. find your purpose 2. you have the freedom to choose your reaction to any situation 3. don't aim at success or happiness but the real aim for the success are by-products of the result you achieve your aim
kahlen ng so the child who is abused is responsible for how they react to that abuse??!! It’s too simplistic and shifts the blame away from the shitty world and onto the poor individual who suffers. More psycho clap trap
@@joannaoconnor9418 I m just trying to summarize what the book says..... Also the book is written for adult, not children. If an adult who was abused in the past, he or she should seek for therapy instead of neglecting the negative impact. An adult can choose what to do for the right thing
kahlen ng oh gosh it wasn’t directed at you, sorry, it was a rant about Psychology as I find most of it is pretentious clap trap. Snake oil merchants most of em.
The point starting at 3:10 is one of the best points I try and live my life by. Effectively I have control of my responses. No one can make me feel good or bad without me allowing it. Quite an empowering statement
Nice summary. Thank you. I am 50 years old and my "WHY?" has changed over time so if you are searching for your purpose/meaning keep in mind that your Why today may be a different why tomorrow. So don't spend years contemplating ONE meaning or purpose. "Sleeping on it" has always yielded results for me. Before bed say "thank you God/Source/Universe for helping me find my purpose" and see what happens. Be ultra receptive to everything.
My purpose was born out of my suffering too. I suffered from thanataphobia (extreme fear of death) for half my life. I now spend my life helping others recover. My purpose found me, not the other way round. even now, at times, i suffer from catastrophic thinking, and in those moments, turning that panic into an opportunity to learn and get through it so i can help others to do the same, is what helps me get through it
I think what's easier and more powerful is determining what is NOT your purpose and what truly does NOT matter, such as others opinions and expectations. Bc it can be difficult to know your purpose. Eliminating things that truly do not make you happy leaves what does.
The only thing that cannot be snatched away while you're alive is the freedom to choose the way you think and the attitude toward your circumstances. That's true but also very difficult to do it, perhaps the reason that people come to this world is to learn this ultimate lesson.
@@wisdom-for-life one of those nutjobs who are suffering from schizophrenia and other illnesses, believing theyre so important that the government in a huge conspiracy is after them with radiation weapons and all that nonsese. keep in mind both how "targeted individual" is in caps as in "look how special i am" and how at the same time theres the urge that nobody controls them and theyre sooo in possession of their own mind or feelings. when theyre actually are paranoid schizophrenic and simply need clinical help.
Just found Viktor Frankl today for the first time in my life!!!! I don’t know where he was hiding, but as often happens, when find something when we are ready to resonate with it. I look forward to dealving into the depths of his teachings ❤️. Thank you for your fantastic creation and story telling of this man - for which I have subscribed to your channel 🤗
Years ago, I dated a girl whose father was an Auschwitz survivor. The girl would complain about her life: she didn't like her boss, or she lost her car keys, or she forgot to file her income tax and had to pay a penalty. The dad had a great sense of humor. When she'd complain -- once that the chicken dinner had gone cold -- he'd turn to me and say: "I survived the Holocaust for two long years, and she had a bad day. Glass of wine?"
Beautiful sentences from the video: 1. He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how 2. Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning. 3. Everything can be taken from a man but one - The last of the human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstance. 4. Listen what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge.
If she lived and he died, she would have suffered because he was dead. Because he is alive, He is taking the burden of being alone. So, in a way, there is meaning to his suffering. Would you rather have your wife suffer or yourself?
Hey man, love the animation. I do feel like you missed a few key points in the book regarding transcendence (you called it 'The last of the human freedom' then continue to quote a bit of the book) but he also talks about transcending above being human, I believe it's the part where he's walking towards a work place in the bitter snow and sees his wife? Other than that good job :)
the problem is survival is not a good thing to strive towards, being a good person and being a part of the change towards a better society is the main things that comes first.
I've been thinking about and quoting Victor Frankls words lately. It's been several years since I read the . . . search for meaning, and did not realize just how much impact they had on me until I saw your video this morning. Thank-you for posting this video on one of the greatest minds and heart that has ever set foot on this earth. It has helped me to rethink my purpose.
Think I found this book on day in an old apartment. The title stood out to me so I kept it. Soon after I read it, it was a profound experience. I remember thinking afterwards that every human should read it. Been around a decade and details have faded, so I'm planning to reread it soon. But I like to think that things such as books, music, even inspiration or ideas, they can find you, and this book found me.
@@harishthethird No, it means if you suffer without a meaning attached to it, you will find despair. Meaning in suffering turns the suffering into something you can transcend, even find useful. Do you agree?
A difficult lesson is that "Men who suffer not, attain no perfection." "The more a man is chastened, the greater is the harvest of spiritual virtues shown forth by him." ~ Baha'i Faith
@@themacocko6311 The Major Source of Spirituality in the last 6000 years has been Messengers of God: Krishna, Zoroaster, Buddha, Abraham, Moses, Christ, Muhammad and Baha'u'llah... "Clearly they are recognized as superior above all men." ~ Abdul-Baha, Baha'i Faith
To think about that why deeply is in essence the core of philosophy. For someone to have seen and experienced that level of suffering and still hold such strong ideals and seek to educate is an incredible feat of strength
After reading the book, I was no longer immersed in suffering, I accepted it and considered it something that helped me become stronger and more mature.
Yes, the book is iconic, conceived and written by a master. But you, in your creative way, are equally masterful in presenting and teaching this to us. Thank you
Being free from the desire to have meaning in life is much simpler than trying to find meaning. Pursuing meaning seems just like pursuing any other goal😢
Comfort zone has not been a way of my life, every given day in my life has been a challenge to make me strong in my mind to deal with any unbearable circumstances. Let me carry the torch of uncertainty and marching in. . . . . .
Good video! I like "Don't aim at success, money, fame. Aim at your greater cause, your purpose. Find your greater cause." I never thought of it that way. Also, the cat with the slice of bread around his head is super cute!
Pen Student fame, power, money will die.. Humans always change. all possession will burned. but the good values in u will live forever.. Plus the greatest is to have Jesus, and the Roman Catholic church, for over all protection, for this worldly world will kill the good.
that a huge question to answer. Just waiting for it will cause frustration until it happens. Avoid that by asking yourself, what's the purpose of my life "right now" for my purpose is constantly changing. As you fulfill your "right now" goals you then get a feeling of constant fulfillment. Then do it over and over and feel fulfillment over and over.
I am thankful I found Viktor Frankl. If i might add to his theory, from my own studies , we all have a life contract we agree to when we enter this Earth 🌎. Some of us suffer more than others. Tragedies are still unthinkable nonetheless to me...😭
That need for meaningfulness is definitely something I believe God set in our hearts as one of the many voids he placed for himself to fill in a loving relationship with him. While animals seem to find satisfaction in simple survival, reproduction, and passing empty pleasure, we where made for so much more. Ever sense I came into a close relationship with God, I don't know how to express how much meaning and hope and peace he poured into my life! Before him, sure, I had obsessions to live for and I got excited over them and they comforted me and REALLY meant a lot to me...but my heart was not made for any counterfeit. Those things are nothing in comparison to the one true God I was born to live for. 💙☀️
Your explanation really helped me understand. I went through online to read about the ideas Dr.Frankl taught, but could not be sure if I got it. But with your video, I am confident that I did understand. THANK YOU!!
It's important to note that Frankl did not believe that happiness and satisfaction were guaranteed in life even if one lived for meaning, causes, or others. He felt that living this way was the only way to achieve genuine happiness and satisfaction but not that it necessarily follows.
I agree with that. Living for something more is definitely the general path we where meant for; there's a compass placed in our heart...but that compass was meant to lead us somewhere a bit more spacific...💙 ....so going in that general direction won't necessarily fill the void...
Victor Frankel was and is an icon. He not only survived the holocost but was able to invent the logo therapy. An alternate to Sigmund Freud' s psycho therapy which then popular at that time. Also his Stimulus and Resolve theory is good.
This exactly what St Paul says in his letters, and this is also what the Christianity's answer to the suffering.... 2000 years, passed still many missed to see this ...
3:33 One thing deeper in to consider about this is how we have data associated with things, ideas, people, situations, everything, and that data determines our automatic response to them. Fear when you see a bear in the woods. Even if the bear is a man in a costume, but you believe it to be real. Your interpretation/belief of what you are experiencing is what determines your response, not the truth. Such as fear when faced with potential judgement from another person. You associate the person with judgement, and judgment with fear, so your brain reacts as if a threat is present even if it's irrational. But If we can change that data, we can change our natural, automatic response. Discussed heavily in the amazing book Psycho cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Victor Frankl's view on controlling internal forces is encapsulated in his logotherapy philosophy. He believed that individuals have the power to choose their attitude and response to challenging situations, even in the midst of suffering. Frankl argued that we can control our internal forces by: - Focusing on meaning and purpose - Exercising self-transcendence (looking beyond oneself) - Cultivating a sense of responsibility - Practicing self-reflection and awareness - Embracing suffering as a catalyst for growth Frankl's perspective emphasizes the human capacity for resilience, hope, and personal growth, even in the face of adversity. His work inspires individuals to take ownership of their thoughts, feelings, and actions, and to find meaning and purpose in life. Reference: Frankl, V. E. (1985). Man's Search for Meaning. Simon & Schuster. (Originally published in 1946)
Yea I’ve never been a huge fan of CBT. It works very little and it’s a long, tough process. This book also helps me a bit more too. Hope you’re doing well Muse!
Thank you for sharing this significant information of Viktor Frankl's life and wisdom as he wrote in his books. I read 2 of his books in the early 1980s.
The book shows that he had favor because he was a doctor. He mentioned several times in the book that it’s unpredictable who’s going to get killed. He held onto principles like fate as one of his options. But the meaning that you are sayingthat we're to get out of this is somehow him finding meaning in his suffering is what spared him. He had people who favored him, he had choices that others didn’t have, and he could’ve been killed long before he thought about taking notes. He’s not smarter than everyone who died. Wed he did offer us is INSIGHT to what people become in this circumstance and the different ways that they see the world and themselves.
Just my 2 cents on finding your purpose - you won't find it by sitting back and thinking about it, you have to take action, do new things you think might align with your values or purpose. That's not to say don't reflect on it, but also dont expect to find your meaning by doing so
Interesting. Reminds me of Budhist teaching or the writings of Marcus Aurelius. This is good for building emotional control, but remember we have feelings for a reason, it's okay to feel disappointed, angry, sad, joyful, happy, ecstatic, but not to get dependent on our feelings.
Thanks for this great video! I read and loved this book and I love your succinct takeaways. Frankl calls the lack of meaning the "existential vacuum" and bemoans therapists treating these symptoms with pills instead of the underlying root cause, a lack of purpose in life.
"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl is a powerful and profound book that explores the author's experiences as a Holocaust survivor and a psychiatrist. In the book, Frankl argues that life's ultimate purpose is to find meaning, and he outlines his theory of logotherapy, a form of existential psychotherapy. The book is divided into two parts: the first details his personal experiences in Nazi concentration camps and how he observed that those who found meaning and a sense of purpose were more likely to survive. The second part focuses on the principles of logotherapy, emphasizing the importance of finding meaning in suffering, love, and work. Frankl's core message is that even in the most dire and challenging circumstances, individuals can find meaning and purpose in their lives. He advocates that we have the freedom to choose our attitudes and responses to life's difficulties, and through this choice, we can find the strength to overcome adversity and live a fulfilling life. Ultimately, "Man's Search for Meaning" is a philosophical and psychological exploration of the human condition, resilience, and the pursuit of a meaningful life, using Frankl's own experiences as a poignant backdrop.
Thanks. Read this book several years ago. Pain is our greatest teacher. The meaning of life can never be fathom without real pain or suffering. It is our human nature that if life is too good or luxurious we will never wait up to realize the meaning of life. It is unfortunate that such lesson cannot be learn from class intellectually or reading some books. You must face the real suffering in order to wake up your unconscious characteristics. Until such time you will realize your conscious choice to generate the right response everytime at every moment of your life is most crucial for your happiness. Learn how to live in the NOW.
Wah! This is a really good video!Thank you for making this video. Among other so called 'motivational videos' yours stands out. It deals with real life, real situational problem and how we can choose to deal with those and find happiness in the end. Attitude matters. This simply solves so many problems of life! Thanks a lot again for making this video. Thank you!
Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm glad you enjoyed it along with everyone else who has watched it... Never expected over 90,000 views! And yes, you're right - attitude matters!
I noticed @ 4:24 you have it backwards. The Doctor asked him to imagine "What if it were YOU that died instead of your wife, wouldn't she suffer" NOT "what if it was your wife that died, wouldn't she suffer" (Because she actually did die). It's an important clarification otherwise there is no lesson there. Great overview none the less. I just finished the book myself and am about to making a video about searching for meaning and your video was a great little summary/refreshed as I outline for my video. Thanks!
How can people be this deep? Like Frankl. I mean, do you really have to experience something that is so life changing to define and describe a subject matter this deep and meaningful?
To some degree we all have the capacity to reach this sort of depth. We don’t necessarily have to experience such severe suffering but there is indeed something about pain & suffering that forces us to dig deep, which may lead to the sort of insights that few will ever understand on their own. However, even through suffering, not everyone has the innate capacity to turn their suffering on its head all on their own. It is possible to reach this level of wisdom & depth through long-term meditation practice. This is because while meditating you’re essentially doing the same thing we might instinctively start to do when suffering, it’s about learning to look inward, find our own inner wisdom, & learning to sit with our experiences, stop struggling with ourselves, our suffering, & life itself. The sort of meditation practice we’re familiar with today came about as a pursuit to understand human suffering in the first place & how to overcome the experience. The added benefit of a meditation practice is that it gives us one of the greatest tools to live with any suffering that comes our way when it inevitably occurs. Even though we won’t all suffer to the same degree as Frankl survived, experiencing some suffering is a natural component of the human experience - e.g. we all suffer grief at some point, experience sadness, anger, fear, etc.
Every year I will have my own personal retreat for a week - alone. But this year I’m going with a team to Ba’kalalan, the Lun Bawang settlements in the northern highlands of Sarawak. I’m at the crossroad of my life-vocation now, so I choose Frankl’s "Man Search for Meaning" (formerly known as From Death-Camp to Existentialism) as my reflection book together with selected Scripture verses. Why I choose the book title is obvious but why I choose to read memoir-history on holocaust I’m not so sure. Maybe I was influenced by another Holocaust survivor memoir Ellis Weasel’s "Night," or maybe by "The Diary of a Young Girl"’s Anne Frank, or perhaps it was Corrie Ten Boom’s "The Hiding Place," maybe it was by the fact that I’m interested in real-life stories. Whatever influenced me, I’m glad and happy with my choice. To read my review of this book and 5 Lessons that I learned from Victor E. Frankl's Man’s Search for Meaning (2014, first published 1946), CLICK HERE: www.richardangelus.me/2018/07/book-review-mans-search-for-meaning-by.html?m=1
To sum up the thinking of Jean-Paul Sartre and Albert Camus, Sartre saw no point to life, whereas Camus wrote, “Although life is incomprehensible, it is not without meaning.”
Free will is actually the biggest lie that humans have ever come up with but it also the most useful one because convincing ourselves that we have control of how we react to things can really make us withstand much more than we would have if we didn't hold this belief.
I really think you're on to something. I've been questioning free will lately. Is it "me/my ego" doing this and that or is it "me/my ego" thinking I'm doing them but I'm more of an observer of my actions? Sometimes I think that my ego is tricking itself into thinking that it's actually controlling things when it literally has no control over anything.
I am probably the only person in the world that was disappointed in this book. My whole life I have been searching for meaning in my life... And I was hoping the book would help steer me in the right direction. I've been sitting back and thinking about it for over 20 years. I have no idea why I'm here, I don't think I'm needed even though I try so hard.
This book is one aspect but it doesn’t always resonate. Everyone has a purpose. I actually felt this book to be true for a while but I shifted gears as I started getting more into my own life. Searching within myself. Search within yourself. Self inquiry is very powerful (google it). For me, the power of now (I made a summary for that) helped point me in the right direction. Let me now what you think about the power of now by Eckhart Tolle
If you like this, you would probably like Victor Herman as well, I watched his movie on RUclips but also listened to his audiobook. Very inspiring book/movie.
I like this quote: "Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning."
Something about seeing the words helped me, thanks for commenting. I felt compelled to comment and share.
Yes. Seeing it... its a powerful sentance. There is power in words.
Who said it?
Yeah that’s not the correct quote: Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and concise picture of it
Similar but different
The story of the man whose wife died was very confusing. I think what you meant for the doctor to say was "what if you had died" but he says "what if your wife died?" which was already the premise of the scene. The man's only realistic response is "wait, I thought she had died. She's alive?"
I came here to point this out as well. Clearly a mistake.
I came here for the same reason. It was confusing.
I had the same confusion, and agreed with your analysis. Thanks.
Yes! I was also like, wait a minute...what? Great video otherwise!
I was wondering the same holy shit!!!
Basically Life has no meaning, but we create one for ourselves and that gives us strength and courage to keep going and don't give up.
Life does have a meaning (Jesus aka love)
But ayyy isn't it strange that we have this intense desire and need for meaningfulness unlike animals? Do you ever wonder if maybe we have that desire for a reason? That maybe it's a clue to something out there meant to fill the void like a key fitting a lock? And imagine what it might open up to! (Spoiler alert: it's a w e s o m e ) sadly people try to fill it with, like you said, meaning they made up themselves... spoiler alert: wrong key...
@@EcheveriaStorm yes maybe you need to belive in higher power and that gives you a peace and meaning (religion is evil) but I don't feel empty or meaningless. What ever you convince yourself will give you a meaning, whatever you was indoctrinated when you was a chield will give you a comfort, dozen mean it's have purpose or meaning, for you yes not for me or Bob.
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@@EcheveriaStorm don't misconsture the message here. Frankl himself was a man of faith and believed in God. Both ideas can be present at the same time, and I'd argue that each of which are better for it. I hope you find peace in our Lord.
I’ve found that Frankl’s quote is really meaningful to someone like me with severe anxiety problems. I worry about literally everything not being “perfect.” And I bully myself when it’s not. Using his quote “when we are no longer able to change our situation, we are challenged to change our ourselves” helps tremendously. Instead of bullying myself for not being able to make something “perfect,” I now look to change my approach and attitude to the situation to feel better. And I realize that a useful modification, for anyone with anxiety, to the quote is that we can choose when we want to change our situation, if possible, or when we rather change our approach. It’s okay not to be perfect.
Hey noodle- that is so true. I suffer from the same as you. I need to read this book. Sometime I have to do something imperfectly just to try to break the cycle of trying to make everything I do perfect. That only works for a short time. Then back to being upset with myself when I don't do something as perfectly as I want. But I keep working on it everyday. With there was some sort of club for people like us. Maybe like an AA meeting. Perfectionists Anonymous.
Well said Noodle. I also have a lot of anxiety, so that's why this book is so important to me.
It's something I always knew deep inside but didn't put in words or never met anyone who could explain until now.
I read this book the midst of a horrible divorce. It literally changed my life. The point we all suffer and by fighting thru we get to better place. I still forget this book’s main from time to time. Keep the faith…
It’s must have been hard for you that the caregivers in your life held you to such high standards and showed you love when you did “perfect”.... therapy teaches techniques to reprogram your brain, it’s essentially what you are doing now! You must be so proud of yourself!!
I suffered a chronic anxiety,/panic disorder morphed into crippling agoraphobia for 10 years. Those 10 years were of unemployment too..the last 4 years i didn't go more than 20 minutes from my home in Dublin Ireland. I overcame this in 2019. Got a small job and ended up getting on a plane to Paris my first flight ✈️ in ten years. Now i live here and have my own anxiety Business coaching people from all over the World. I just ordered this book yesterday I can't wait to read it 🧠🙏🏽 i really found meaning in my suffering. Always so grateful
That's awesome! Thanks for sharing your story. . I've had some really terrible panic attacks/anxiety throughout my life and always try to see the meaning in it. Meditation helps too :). Anxiety was the catalyst that got me to where I am today (introspection, etc.).. It's really not a curse (although people feel like it is). I'm glad you overcame yours and are now helping others. Very good to hear. Your comment and timing struck me - I'm mostly Irish (originally from the UK) and I'm visiting Paris with my wife this summer! I hope you enjoy the book - there is a PDF copy on the internet archive for free as well. I believe there is a link in the description of the video. Thanks again for your nice comment.
One of my favorite sayings is “my response is my responsibility”.
1. find your purpose
2. you have the freedom to choose your reaction to any situation
3. don't aim at success or happiness but the real aim for the success are by-products of the result you achieve your aim
kahlen ng
Existinialism.
I crashed at step one.
kahlen ng so the child who is abused is responsible for how they react to that abuse??!! It’s too simplistic and shifts the blame away from the shitty world and onto the poor individual who suffers. More psycho clap trap
@@joannaoconnor9418 I m just trying to summarize what the book says..... Also the book is written for adult, not children. If an adult who was abused in the past, he or she should seek for therapy instead of neglecting the negative impact. An adult can choose what to do for the right thing
kahlen ng oh gosh it wasn’t directed at you, sorry, it was a rant about Psychology as I find most of it is pretentious clap trap. Snake oil merchants most of em.
The point starting at 3:10 is one of the best points I try and live my life by. Effectively I have control of my responses. No one can make me feel good or bad without me allowing it. Quite an empowering statement
What if someone calls you a weak faggot and shoves you? Are you like my old guidance counselor: "thanks for noticing!"
I read his book back in college around 1973. I remember it just blowing me away! So inspiring!
me too, it was about 1973.
What s the name? Which of his book would you suggest?
@@clareprv8878 Your answer is the title of the video you watched.
Man's Search for Meaning
by Victor Frankl
wow Who had suggested it for you?
Old wine, New bottle
Nice summary. Thank you. I am 50 years old and my "WHY?" has changed over time so if you are searching for your purpose/meaning keep in mind that your Why today may be a different why tomorrow. So don't spend years contemplating ONE meaning or purpose. "Sleeping on it" has always yielded results for me. Before bed say "thank you God/Source/Universe for helping me find my purpose" and see what happens. Be ultra receptive to everything.
Thanks aaaaaaa. Yea, you nailed it - your purpose changes over time... and being ultra receptive - very important! :)
So very true .. thank you for a lovely explanation.
you are a beautiful soul
My purpose was born out of my suffering too. I suffered from thanataphobia (extreme fear of death) for half my life. I now spend my life helping others recover.
My purpose found me, not the other way round. even now, at times, i suffer from catastrophic thinking, and in those moments, turning that panic into an opportunity to learn and get through it so i can help others to do the same, is what helps me get through it
"Its not about the situation... Its about our willingness to change our response to the situation"
I think what's easier and more powerful is determining what is NOT your purpose and what truly does NOT matter, such as others opinions and expectations. Bc it can be difficult to know your purpose. Eliminating things that truly do not make you happy leaves what does.
Great point!!
The only thing that cannot be snatched away while you're alive is the freedom to choose the way you think and the attitude toward your circumstances. That's true but also very difficult to do it, perhaps the reason that people come to this world is to learn this ultimate lesson.
Well done. I thought this a long time myself, I have the choice to decide how I think for myself too.
So much wisdom in this book -- a mental health classic.
I am a TARGETED INDIVIDUAL and I have to remember Victor frankl every day it keeps me sane. no one owns my mind or my feelings they don't control me
What do you mean by targeted individual?
@@wisdom-for-life one of those nutjobs who are suffering from schizophrenia and other illnesses, believing theyre so important that the government in a huge conspiracy is after them with radiation weapons and all that nonsese. keep in mind both how "targeted individual" is in caps as in "look how special i am" and how at the same time theres the urge that nobody controls them and theyre sooo in possession of their own mind or feelings.
when theyre actually are paranoid schizophrenic and simply need clinical help.
@@dirtyunclehubert Damn your a piece of shit.
@@dirtyunclehubert lol
Just found Viktor Frankl today for the first time in my life!!!! I don’t know where he was hiding, but as often happens, when find something when we are ready to resonate with it. I look forward to dealving into the depths of his teachings ❤️. Thank you for your fantastic creation and story telling of this man - for which I have subscribed to your channel 🤗
Years ago, I dated a girl whose father was an Auschwitz survivor. The girl would complain about her life: she didn't like her boss, or she lost her car keys, or she forgot to file her income tax and had to pay a penalty. The dad had a great sense of humor. When she'd complain -- once that the chicken dinner had gone cold -- he'd turn to me and say: "I survived the Holocaust for two long years, and she had a bad day. Glass of wine?"
Haha. That’s hilarious!
"Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning."
Great quote!
These "victories" are perceived only. The only meaning you will ever find is in loving and serving one another, especially those who are downtrodden.
Wholeheartedly agree!
This book changed my lifestyle & perspective. As long as food shelter clothing is there am simply at peace & happiness. No complaining.
Beautiful sentences from the video:
1. He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how
2. Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.
3. Everything can be taken from a man but one - The last of the human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstance.
4. Listen what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge.
This book saved my life! Thank you Mr. Viktor Frankl!
It got me through a very difficult time as well. Thanks for stopping by!
Sorry guys... at 4:20 should have said, "what if it was you that died?".. "your wife would be the one to suffer, right?
at death you either go to heaven or hell based on how you lived your life. if you go to hell, it will have been your choice.
in the video it said that if the wife dies she suffers. suffers what?
If she lived and he died, she would have suffered because he was dead. Because he is alive, He is taking the burden of being alone. So, in a way, there is meaning to his suffering. Would you rather have your wife suffer or yourself?
Hey man, love the animation. I do feel like you missed a few key points in the book regarding transcendence (you called it 'The last of the human freedom' then continue to quote a bit of the book) but he also talks about transcending above being human, I believe it's the part where he's walking towards a work place in the bitter snow and sees his wife? Other than that good job :)
Might want to take in consideration that not everyone accepts hell and heaven and that suffering is not only in hell.
To live is to suffer, and to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.
the problem is survival is not a good thing to strive towards, being a good person and being a part of the change towards a better society is the main things that comes first.
Just finished reading this book. The connection of state of mind with state of immunity explained in the book is amazing. Good read.
I've been thinking about and quoting Victor Frankls words lately. It's been several years since I read the . . . search for meaning, and did not realize just how much impact they had on me until I saw your video this morning. Thank-you for posting this video on one of the greatest minds and heart that has ever set foot on this earth. It has helped me to rethink my purpose.
Thank you Anahuac! Agreed... this book had a great impact on my life as well. Still does
Think I found this book on day in an old apartment. The title stood out to me so I kept it. Soon after I read it, it was a profound experience. I remember thinking afterwards that every human should read it. Been around a decade and details have faded, so I'm planning to reread it soon. But I like to think that things such as books, music, even inspiration or ideas, they can find you, and this book found me.
I believe books find the reader 😀
How are you? Sorry there is another great book of Franklin Viktor called "Say Yes To life In spite if Everything". Do you have a copy?
Suffering - Meaning = Despair. By far one of the most powerful pieces of literature I have ever come across. Second only to "The Gulag Archipelago."
so suffering = despair+meaning? lol great comment tho
@@harishthethird No, it means if you suffer without a meaning attached to it, you will find despair. Meaning in suffering turns the suffering into something you can transcend, even find useful. Do you agree?
this book changed my life.
@@shellybellydancer huh?
How did it change your life?
@@ikkarezlet1922 I begun to see my destiny with other eyes.
I will definitely read it
@@engrumarkhan wonderful. This book is essencial
I generally don’t comment on videos but oh my god... The illustrations and the way that they appear are awesome.
Thanks Ayesha!
one of the top 5 most useful books in my life. excellent read on many levels.
A difficult lesson is that "Men who suffer not, attain no perfection." "The more a man is chastened, the greater is the harvest of spiritual virtues shown forth by him." ~ Baha'i Faith
Problem being, religion is full of horse shit.
A wise man once said, "Science is good, philosophy is great, spiritually is Devine. Religion is for the idiots who can't find their ass in the dark"
@@themacocko6311 The Major Source of Spirituality in the last 6000 years has been Messengers of God: Krishna, Zoroaster, Buddha, Abraham, Moses, Christ, Muhammad and Baha'u'llah... "Clearly they are recognized as superior above all men." ~ Abdul-Baha, Baha'i Faith
My fathers all time favorite book outside of the scriptures.
To think about that why deeply is in essence the core of philosophy. For someone to have seen and experienced that level of suffering and still hold such strong ideals and seek to educate is an incredible feat of strength
Agreed. Way stronger than I could ever imagine
After reading the book, I was no longer immersed in suffering, I accepted it and considered it something that helped me become stronger and more mature.
Yes, the book is iconic, conceived and written by a master. But you, in your creative way, are equally masterful in presenting and teaching this to us. Thank you
Thanks Paul! I’m just regurgitating his wisdom. Lol
Being free from the desire to have meaning in life is much simpler than trying to find meaning.
Pursuing meaning seems just like pursuing any other goal😢
He who has a why to live can almost bear any how. Some I knew but didn't know.
Comfort zone has not been a way of my life, every given day in my life has been a challenge to make me strong in my mind to deal with any unbearable circumstances. Let me carry the torch of uncertainty and marching in. . . . . .
Good video! I like "Don't aim at success, money, fame. Aim at your greater cause, your purpose. Find your greater cause." I never thought of it that way. Also, the cat with the slice of bread around his head is super cute!
Pen Student fame, power, money will die.. Humans always change. all possession will burned. but the good values in u will live forever.. Plus the greatest is to have Jesus, and the Roman Catholic church, for over all protection, for this worldly world will kill the good.
Life is ultimately finding yourself and how you respond. Everything is a choice but either you find a meaning in it, is ultimately up to you.
Salvation comes through love and in love.
that a huge question to answer. Just waiting for it will cause frustration until it happens. Avoid that by asking yourself, what's the purpose of my life "right now" for my purpose is constantly changing. As you fulfill your "right now" goals you then get a feeling of constant fulfillment. Then do it over and over and feel fulfillment over and over.
True, your purpose is constantly changing to some degree! Fulfill your goal right now - Good point Vibes!
I am thankful I found Viktor Frankl. If i might add to his theory, from my own studies , we all have a life contract we agree to when we enter this Earth 🌎. Some of us suffer more than others. Tragedies are still unthinkable nonetheless to me...😭
That need for meaningfulness is definitely something I believe God set in our hearts as one of the many voids he placed for himself to fill in a loving relationship with him. While animals seem to find satisfaction in simple survival, reproduction, and passing empty pleasure, we where made for so much more. Ever sense I came into a close relationship with God, I don't know how to express how much meaning and hope and peace he poured into my life! Before him, sure, I had obsessions to live for and I got excited over them and they comforted me and REALLY meant a lot to me...but my heart was not made for any counterfeit. Those things are nothing in comparison to the one true God I was born to live for. 💙☀️
Your explanation really helped me understand. I went through online to read about the ideas Dr.Frankl taught, but could not be sure if I got it. But with your video, I am confident that I did understand. THANK YOU!!
It's important to note that Frankl did not believe that happiness and satisfaction were guaranteed in life even if one lived for meaning, causes, or others. He felt that living this way was the only way to achieve genuine happiness and satisfaction but not that it necessarily follows.
I agree with that. Living for something more is definitely the general path we where meant for; there's a compass placed in our heart...but that compass was meant to lead us somewhere a bit more spacific...💙 ....so going in that general direction won't necessarily fill the void...
Victor Frankel was and is an icon. He not only survived the holocost but was able to invent the logo therapy. An alternate to Sigmund Freud' s psycho therapy which then popular at that time. Also his Stimulus and Resolve theory is good.
This exactly what St Paul says in his letters, and this is also what the Christianity's answer to the suffering....
2000 years, passed still many missed to see this ...
3:33 One thing deeper in to consider about this is how we have data associated with things, ideas, people, situations, everything, and that data determines our automatic response to them. Fear when you see a bear in the woods. Even if the bear is a man in a costume, but you believe it to be real. Your interpretation/belief of what you are experiencing is what determines your response, not the truth. Such as fear when faced with potential judgement from another person. You associate the person with judgement, and judgment with fear, so your brain reacts as if a threat is present even if it's irrational. But If we can change that data, we can change our natural, automatic response.
Discussed heavily in the amazing book Psycho cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
Interesting. I’ll have to check out that book
I think this is an excellent summary of the book and very hpful. I'm going to recommend it to others.
Read it last month. BRILLIANT!
This is a book everyone should ready.
I made the summary, but I think everyone should read it simply because the summary doesn't do it justice.
Victor Frankl's view on controlling internal forces is encapsulated in his logotherapy philosophy. He believed that individuals have the power to choose their attitude and response to challenging situations, even in the midst of suffering. Frankl argued that we can control our internal forces by:
- Focusing on meaning and purpose
- Exercising self-transcendence (looking beyond oneself)
- Cultivating a sense of responsibility
- Practicing self-reflection and awareness
- Embracing suffering as a catalyst for growth
Frankl's perspective emphasizes the human capacity for resilience, hope, and personal growth, even in the face of adversity. His work inspires individuals to take ownership of their thoughts, feelings, and actions, and to find meaning and purpose in life.
Reference: Frankl, V. E. (1985). Man's Search for Meaning. Simon & Schuster. (Originally published in 1946)
Good book in offering perspective to navigate life. The young man summary was on point.
Very in line with stoicism, great book, great man
One of the greatest books ever.
Reading this book gave me hope and opened options to me that no amount of CBT did.
Yea I’ve never been a huge fan of CBT. It works very little and it’s a long, tough process. This book also helps me a bit more too. Hope you’re doing well Muse!
You're awesome. Thanks for summarising a great book in such a short and sweet way for us all to learn in a different way!
Thank you for sharing this significant information of Viktor Frankl's life and wisdom as he wrote in his books. I read 2 of his books in the early 1980s.
Thank you. Brilliant book and a brilliant man!
During the war in Ukraine and ongoing war in EU (people there don’t realize it) this video is really related. Stay safe, peace from Ukraine.
Wow! What an amazing man he turned out to be!
This video and presentation are outstanding - it’s rare I find wisdom this directly communicated. 10/10 ❤️
The book shows that he had favor because he was a doctor. He mentioned several times in the book that it’s unpredictable who’s going to get killed. He held onto principles like fate as one of his options. But the meaning that you are sayingthat we're to get out of this is somehow him finding meaning in his suffering is what spared him. He had people who favored him, he had choices that others didn’t have, and he could’ve been killed long before he thought about taking notes. He’s not smarter than everyone who died. Wed he did offer us is INSIGHT to what people become in this circumstance and the different ways that they see the world and themselves.
Just my 2 cents on finding your purpose - you won't find it by sitting back and thinking about it, you have to take action, do new things you think might align with your values or purpose. That's not to say don't reflect on it, but also dont expect to find your meaning by doing so
Interesting. Reminds me of Budhist teaching or the writings of Marcus Aurelius. This is good for building emotional control, but remember we have feelings for a reason, it's okay to feel disappointed, angry, sad, joyful, happy, ecstatic, but not to get dependent on our feelings.
Frankl says that the prisoners did not feel happiness when they were liberated. Why weren’t they immediately happy upon being freed?
They had to learn it again.
When you get used to suffering it eventually becomes your comfort zone
My favorite book. Thank you for this wonderful video. You're an excellent teacher.
Thank you C Astor! Yea, this is a great book!
My experience with this book is different than most. Some find it uplifting. To me it is a testament to the inhumanity of mankind.
Thanks for this great video! I read and loved this book and I love your succinct takeaways. Frankl calls the lack of meaning the "existential vacuum" and bemoans therapists treating these symptoms with pills instead of the underlying root cause, a lack of purpose in life.
Just got done reading this. One of the best reads I’ve ever read. Highly recommend.
"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl is a powerful and profound book that explores the author's experiences as a Holocaust survivor and a psychiatrist. In the book, Frankl argues that life's ultimate purpose is to find meaning, and he outlines his theory of logotherapy, a form of existential psychotherapy.
The book is divided into two parts: the first details his personal experiences in Nazi concentration camps and how he observed that those who found meaning and a sense of purpose were more likely to survive. The second part focuses on the principles of logotherapy, emphasizing the importance of finding meaning in suffering, love, and work.
Frankl's core message is that even in the most dire and challenging circumstances, individuals can find meaning and purpose in their lives. He advocates that we have the freedom to choose our attitudes and responses to life's difficulties, and through this choice, we can find the strength to overcome adversity and live a fulfilling life.
Ultimately, "Man's Search for Meaning" is a philosophical and psychological exploration of the human condition, resilience, and the pursuit of a meaningful life, using Frankl's own experiences as a poignant backdrop.
Goalcast brought me here. God knows how much I needed this right now.
Thanks. Read this book several years ago. Pain is our greatest teacher. The meaning of life can never be fathom without real pain or suffering. It is our human nature that if life is too good or luxurious we will never wait up to realize the meaning of life.
It is unfortunate that such lesson cannot be learn from class intellectually or reading some books. You must face the real suffering in order to wake up your unconscious characteristics. Until such time you will realize your conscious choice to generate the right response everytime at every moment of your life is most crucial for your happiness. Learn how to live in the NOW.
Wah! This is a really good video!Thank you for making this video. Among other so called 'motivational videos' yours stands out. It deals with real life, real situational problem and how we can choose to deal with those and find happiness in the end. Attitude matters. This simply solves so many problems of life! Thanks a lot again for making this video. Thank you!
Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm glad you enjoyed it along with everyone else who has watched it... Never expected over 90,000 views!
And yes, you're right - attitude matters!
I noticed @ 4:24 you have it backwards. The Doctor asked him to imagine "What if it were YOU that died instead of your wife, wouldn't she suffer" NOT "what if it was your wife that died, wouldn't she suffer" (Because she actually did die). It's an important clarification otherwise there is no lesson there.
Great overview none the less. I just finished the book myself and am about to making a video about searching for meaning and your video was a great little summary/refreshed as I outline for my video. Thanks!
How can people be this deep? Like Frankl. I mean, do you really have to experience something that is so life changing to define and describe a subject matter this deep and meaningful?
To some degree we all have the capacity to reach this sort of depth.
We don’t necessarily have to experience such severe suffering but there is indeed something about pain & suffering that forces us to dig deep, which may lead to the sort of insights that few will ever understand on their own.
However, even through suffering, not everyone has the innate capacity to turn their suffering on its head all on their own.
It is possible to reach this level of wisdom & depth through long-term meditation practice. This is because while meditating you’re essentially doing the same thing we might instinctively start to do when suffering, it’s about learning to look inward, find our own inner wisdom, & learning to sit with our experiences, stop struggling with ourselves, our suffering, & life itself.
The sort of meditation practice we’re familiar with today came about as a pursuit to understand human suffering in the first place & how to overcome the experience.
The added benefit of a meditation practice is that it gives us one of the greatest tools to live with any suffering that comes our way when it inevitably occurs. Even though we won’t all suffer to the same degree as Frankl survived, experiencing some suffering is a natural component of the human experience - e.g. we all suffer grief at some point, experience sadness, anger, fear, etc.
When life is good, it's good. When not, it's still good.
True that Roger!
Thank you brother
Glad you enjoyed it! :)
I came here to see if it's a good book to read during the COVID-19 outbreak. Turns out it is!
A great book. Especially now
Your video is an excellent summary of the key points. I'm currently reading the book and I find it quite profound.
Thank you very much
Every year I will have my own personal retreat for a week - alone. But this year I’m going with a team to Ba’kalalan, the Lun Bawang settlements in the northern highlands of Sarawak. I’m at the crossroad of my life-vocation now, so I choose Frankl’s "Man Search for Meaning" (formerly known as From Death-Camp to Existentialism) as my reflection book together with selected Scripture verses.
Why I choose the book title is obvious but why I choose to read memoir-history on holocaust I’m not so sure. Maybe I was influenced by another Holocaust survivor memoir Ellis Weasel’s "Night," or maybe by "The Diary of a Young Girl"’s Anne Frank, or perhaps it was Corrie Ten Boom’s "The Hiding Place," maybe it was by the fact that I’m interested in real-life stories. Whatever influenced me, I’m glad and happy with my choice.
To read my review of this book and 5 Lessons that I learned from Victor E. Frankl's Man’s Search for Meaning (2014, first published 1946), CLICK HERE: www.richardangelus.me/2018/07/book-review-mans-search-for-meaning-by.html?m=1
I didn’t know the original title was different. Enjoy your trip this year. Sounds like it’ll be impactful.
@@wisdom-for-life thanks for your insights and lessons from the book :)
So clear and makes me reflect about my life thank you 👌
Thanks Black Diamond!
This is one of my fave books 👍🏽
To sum up the thinking of Jean-Paul Sartre and Albert Camus, Sartre saw no point to life, whereas Camus wrote, “Although life is incomprehensible, it is not without meaning.”
Great quote!
Eh, I don't like either of those two, especially Camus. Myth of Sisyphus just exacerbated my nihilism at the time.
Thank you so much!
Great video and summary. Thank you for taking the time to share with us. I really enjoyed it.
Free will is actually the biggest lie that humans have ever come up with but it also the most useful one because convincing ourselves that we have control of how we react to things can really make us withstand much more than we would have if we didn't hold this belief.
I really think you're on to something. I've been questioning free will lately. Is it "me/my ego" doing this and that or is it "me/my ego" thinking I'm doing them but I'm more of an observer of my actions? Sometimes I think that my ego is tricking itself into thinking that it's actually controlling things when it literally has no control over anything.
@@wisdom-for-life thanks for your comment ! Check out Dr. Robert Sapolsky on free will!
The freedom to choose your next choice no one can take away from you
I am probably the only person in the world that was disappointed in this book. My whole life I have been searching for meaning in my life... And I was hoping the book would help steer me in the right direction. I've been sitting back and thinking about it for over 20 years. I have no idea why I'm here, I don't think I'm needed even though I try so hard.
This book is one aspect but it doesn’t always resonate. Everyone has a purpose. I actually felt this book to be true for a while but I shifted gears as I started getting more into my own life. Searching within myself. Search within yourself. Self inquiry is very powerful (google it). For me, the power of now (I made a summary for that) helped point me in the right direction. Let me now what you think about the power of now by Eckhart Tolle
I just started reading this book...incredible
It's a terrific book! I hope you finished it!
If you like this, you would probably like Victor Herman as well, I watched his movie on RUclips but also listened to his audiobook. Very inspiring book/movie.
the meaning is giving the finger to everybody and doing your own thing
Very strange timing, finding your video. Thanks.
An excellent summary to this audio book I've just finished listening to. Thanks for this.
Thanks for the support Joe!
Great summary and refresher of book
the one thing i appreciate in america is the freedom of speech - man or woman is capable of changing the world with their voice