No Religiously you get heritage because you are their child. But also you have to treat them right. You have rights over them(heritage) and the parents have rights over you (you take care of them).
- "You can't reap the benefits of a relationship you did not sow into." Girl, say it louder for the people in the back that missed it. Adrienne was on point with this statement.
Sounds fantastic indeed BUT.... what if your parents were abusive or evil alcoholics that never wanted to sow that relationship back and you want to do good with that $$. These girls do a disservice to topics by ever only discussing one side
YAAS Adrienne, FACTS. And as the youngest member of my family, my main goal is to be independent and have a happy life earned on my own without having to depend on my parents or their inheritance.
The thought of my parents not being here makes me tear up. No amount of money would fill the hole I would have in my SOUL if my parents died. OMG I'm about to cry now
Queen Butterfly. Girl, same. My Dad be pissing me off on the phone talking about he’s close to passing. I’m like, no Dad lol. If you’re dying I’m dying too 😂 I know this isn’t something to joke about, but I try to be positive when thinking about death.
I disagree. I think many people sow into a relationship specifically because they have a sense of entitlement and the only reason they're sowing into the relationship is to reap the benefits. Money should be split equally between kids as to not encourage resentment between them.
@@MiamiPush2theLimit So they should feel entitled to that? You shouldn't sow into a relationship just to expect to get lonely after death. And I don't think splitting it equally will do any good anyway. Chances are there may be an irresponsible child and one that is more responsible that can help the other one or ones. It shouldn't automatically be equal just because of resentment.
I understand Adrienne's point but unfortunately there are a lot of crappy parents that play favorites and don't give credit to the kids of theirs that are actually the ones looking out for them. We all see those parents enabling good for nothing children that don't care about them while the responsible ones pick up the slack and then get crapped on. I personally am glad I am an only child and that I am always the favorite!!!
yup this is true. my husband actually does everythinggggggg for his parents, but when we got married, his whole family got upset because they lost their driver, their carpenter and their cook. the other two sons don't work, use their parents' credit card on their random girlfriends that they bring home and then their parents are stressed and ask us for help. lol. i already know he won't get anything if anything happens to his parents in the future, even though he's the one that's been there for them the most, but i'm honestly okay with that. i don't want toxic money with his brothers making us feel guilty in the future. nopeee they can keep it alll
And This is why “ Money is the root of all evil “ money really can change people !!! It doesn’t matter if it’s family , people will change in a heart beat to get something they want dearly
Money is a piece of paper. The Bible actually says the Love of $ is the root of all evil. There is a difference. And if u really read the Bible it says that money is the answer to all things. Thats the only way we can survive. No shade. Its just a pet peeve when people misquote this scripture💋 besos
I don't have any children. So I am in the process of setting up an inheritance for some of my Niece great nephews and one great niece. This is only because of the relationship that I have with them.
I had a professor set a fund for his pets at a shelter and the rest he gave as scholarships. Not sure if he had some left for his neices and nephews (he was a bachelor) but I am thinking about doing this if I don't have kids.
Can we be real an admit that all parents are not good parents ? Idc how much your parent provided monetary value for you if there wasn’t any love you still felt abdonded etc etccc then that doesn’t qualify them automatically for “i put a roof over your head so you must treat me well
@Dezy blue Baby God has a funny way of working things out for you. The people that throw you away are the same ones that will desperately need you later on. God Bless You!
COSMIC SOLIDER 144,000 if we wanna be real no matter how cold some parents may seem you can never give back to them as much as you should because just the fact that they brought you here is a miracle
Please give me a break. It’s not a miracle some parents literally sign soul contracts just to bring souls into this world but not be the best parents. Miracle what ??? Miracle how it’s just the cycle of life
My parents are horrible people...still I used to beg to bond with them, would be by their side, drive to visit, help when mom had surgery , yet they treated my brother [who ignores them, never would go to see either of them, bad mouths them, etc. like the messiah. He'salso head of their estates, gets help/money from them, visits, etc...but not me, the doormat. NOW they're salty bc I said f'k it and have moved on; I am no contact with mom & barely contact with dad and brother-bc of his kids. When I decided enough was enough, I also said f'k your inheritance. I rather make my own way with peace of mind, than endure abuse and neglect for MAYBE some crumbs dropped underneath the table. Adrianne is right, if your parents are good to you be good to them, but if they're shitty F'k them and their inheritance.
tyilee good for u.it is neccesary to be independent although it hurts when the situation is like that.go forward one day they will end up needing your help and when that happen.be there show them what they should have done to their child😍
Girl those aunts can change too, all I am saying is that you cannot trust everybody even your own family. So lets be very careful to whom we trust. just saying!!!!
@@brittanypino2282 I saw that in my fam. But it was a family friend who was left in charge of the money. Both parents died within a year of each other and their kids $100+K &that family friend packed up and is no where to be found
Heck no! I helped take care of my grandparents in their last years, all my summers and breaks in college I was with them 24/7 and I DIDN’T EXPECT A DIME! They weren’t the best grandparents ever but they were mine and god help me I did what I could. Then my aunts and uncles tried “reap the benefits” by try to take my grandmother’s wedding rings. She gave them to ME before she died even though they think I stole them. I’m gonna mess around and cry. Love people and please don’t expect anything in return ❤️
You go girl! Keep that spirit in your soul!🙌💕 you will teach them through the good person you are. They will be jealous dear, but you continue on with what your doing to set an example.
SAHM LIFE my question is were your aunts and sisters out of the picture and didn’t help or be there at all? I always wonder about that when someone inherits and the other sibling doesn’t. No shad or anything negative just wondering why you didn’t decide to share? If that’s not getting too personal
@@nicolenunya984 aunts were out. Sis didn't come around til 6mo before she passed. I've been taking care of the property and all Bills, Attorney, tax,legal and maintenance and cared for grandparents. Beyond that family members have been mia and no contact.
my dad left us equal amount .. BUT it caNOT be Split individualy *unless* we ALL Agree .on *how* its goin be used for but im a say one time my brother TRIED threating me that he will make sure i get LESS All cause he got Mad 😒 in my mind .im like yea ok and you r NO one to talk .. still got Mines
Adrienne is on point. I personally think that sadly times have changed and a lot of children feel entitled without truly doing much for their parents or taking them for granted. In some cultures the inheritance isnt split equally, instead the eldest child is entitled to more than their younger once however in such cultures it is also a "religion" to make sure that, once you can, you care and support your parents lmao those cultures also mostly tend to look down at the idea of sending their parents to a care home.I think with how things are changing and children are becoming more selfish or self entitled than before, i think its fair to give more to the child that cared and looked after you. i dont see why a child who may not have treated their parents well or didnt even care to look after them should have a problem with not receiving as much inheritance. I am sorry but its heartbreaking hearing how many parents are in a care home and barely get any visits or care from loved ones.
I love when Adrienne gets real and i love her mindset. i do think that her coming from a latin background also means that she is raised with the culture were the child should care for their parents later. i also agree with Tamera. E.g if a father had a business it would make more since giving a bigger share to the child who is more responsible or already knows how to handle the business
So true. I know someone who was very Ill, almost died. He gave his kids everything they asked for , raised their kids ,etc. In his sickness, His daughters chose not to help him , told him they didnt feel sorry for him , they would still drop their kids off to him even though he wasn't physically able to take care of them. He ended up in the hospital, they were there planning his funeral while he sleptSMG. Through it all his "adopted"daughter took up the slack driving him and his wife to appointments, taking care of his biological daughters kids etc. Needless to say after a 10% chance to live he didnt die and tremendously blessed the adopted daughter while the biological daughters were very upset and still upset til this day. Sad they cant see themselves smh
Putting parents in a home care shouldn’t be looked at as a negative thing. Elderly folks might have a better medical care there than what they would have at home... nowadays people will continue to work for longer years or even have disabilities of their own at a younger age that would make caring from an elderly impossible and even dangerous.
Not all parents are good parents. I love my son and it is the 2 of us. I have been mom and dad for him he is an awesome 14 year old now. But I have chosen to not be like my mother. I am going to love my child, respect my child so he does the same.
Same i am not a mother yet but when I am I will be nothing my mother and do and make sure my kids don’t go through the same pain I went through as a child
Yes my mom was so mean and hateful and i was never a rebellious kid. I always helped her out and started working at 13. It was a mentally abusive relationship that I am still struggling through. Especially since the only person who understood past 8 months ago. I stay away and was about to do a restraining order because she stalks me. Everyone thinks it is wrong if i get a restraining order on her but i am afraid at times. They excuse her because her kidney problems but dont realize she has mental problems. I am not worried honestly about inheritance. I am pondering if she was to die would i go to her funeral. I could careless about her stuff i work for my own. I wished i could have her love that is the best inheritance you can give your child. Sad thing is i had that discussion with my aunt before she suddenly and unexpectedly past.
I think everyone should adopt this especially those parents who have kids right now, in the present. Everyone from all over the world. This generation has more awareness, which truly we owe to the internet. Our parents were from a different generation. Things were more traditional before and less awareness. So glad you are on the right pathway!
I agree with most of the things Adrienne said but not about not about her putting your mother in a home comment. Some adult children have no choice but to put their parents in a home especially in cases where that parent need 24/7 supervision due to their health. And that child can't be there because they have to making a living or have children of their own to take care. I just had to put that out there because i used judge people who put their parents in homes, especially being African, we're taught that that's disrespectful but when my mother worked at a nursing home and I used to go there, I saw the conditions of the people in there and how much care they needed and realized that some people do need to be put in homes.
Dana Sow well she followed it up with “not visiting your mother”. Clearly we all know ppl are put into homes it’s just some don’t have family that visit which I’m sure is what she means. Duh
Her point was that if you don't cultivate a relationship with your parents growing up and then put them in a home but expect them to leave you something, that it is entitlement.
Dana Sow I have this coworker that has her mother suffering from Alzheimer’s in a home. The thing that I have really tried to understand is why her mother. She clearly loves her mother and misses her being the matriarch of the family, but she is very well off and can afford to have a nurse at one of her many homes.
Nicole Nunya maybe because nurses are expensive and she wants continue to be rich... I used to work for an agency that hires caregivers and OMG, rich people don’t wanna spend their money like that. 🤭 unfortunately true. There r very few people that would be willing to spend 20k on a monthly basis for the care of a loved one and even though they would spend that much money, they would rarely spend any (if at all) quality time with with them.
Adrienne is thinking very selfish like most people some siblings have influenced the parent to only love an trust them an push the other away that would love to be there in the name of greed
I honestly cannot believe that this is a genuine thing that people do! I know I’m not the only one when I say that I would much rather gain no monetary value when my parents pass but instead be enriched with the memories of them enjoying their lives and doing as they please. My parents worked very hard to get to their position today- they didn’t do it to give a load of money to their kids when they’re gone, they did it so that they could enjoy what life has to offer them
I’m with Tamera. It’s great how Adrienne expressed herself about her relationship with her parents, but everyone has different experiences with their parents. I wish I felt that way about both my parents, but I don’t.
My thing is like this! Give ALL of your children something to inherit! Don't play favorites, don't hold something against your children! Children can tell when a parent has a favorite or holds grudges
Why is it always discussed that parents are alwayssss good and nurturing? But yea I agree with the ladies that in such case you cant treat all your kids the same after they have developed different characters.
I agree with Adrienne, and I also believe I think it should be a conversation. Once my sister and I were 14 and 18 our parents sat us down and talked they started to put things in place. It was a Trust/Responsible element, Once we each got our first job also, we were authorized to manage the Family's Account. So we've actually inherit things as they live, a transfer of power.
I agree with Adrienne. I don't care about the money from my parents, I care about the relationship with my parents. They are truly my best friends and I don't even want to think about them dying.
We have four children. They will equally receive all we have. Which is nothing. We will be lucky to go to the grave with no debts. Memories are what we pass on. Make them great.
When my grandmother died both my dad and uncle agreed that my aunt should get my grandmas will because she "need"/"deserved" it the most. And that's just a testimony to the way that my grandma raised her children, that the sibling can all come together and work out a plan for the greater good of their family. I hope that one day i can be as a parent.
PREACH IT ADRIENNE 🙌🏽 I will NEVER put my parents in a home. They looked after me, Bathed me, Dressed me, Wiped my ass. Better believe imma do the same for them.
I was super close to my mom for the 20 years i had with her before she passed away. I'm 22 now. My dad and i have gotten closer since we lost my mom and knowing that my dad is getting close to turning 70 soon i have come to understand that i need to have a solid relationship with him and my brothers understand that too so the four of us try to spend as much time as we can together. The inheritance thing will be something i hope my brothers and i won't have to argue about and will be able to divide my dad's things amicably
Just because they birthed you doesn’t mean they need to be honored unless they deserve. Parents beating or abusing their kid both physically and verbally and emotionally... don’t deserve the honor.
It must be nice to have parents who love you and care for you. I never think about these things because I don’t have a relationship with me parents not because of me because I’ve tried but I just think they never really wanted me. I🤷🏾♀️ It’s life, parent always love nurture and get to know your child. I always push for my friends and cousins who have parents that love them to be there for them I really can’t wait to be a parent!
I honestly respect what Adrienne said. I just didn't know the words to use to be able to say that. I'm in the crappy situation at the moment which has been going on for 23 years which is my whole life. My uncles never cared for my granparents infact wanted to pawn them off to a care home. My uncles have vast amount of properties and yet they schemed and fraudently took my father's house which was shared with my granma. When my granma passed away my grandfather used to tell them to give it back to us and in his will my grandfather left his property to my father because he knew any opportunuty my uncles would get to make us homeless they would do so. After nearly 500 thousand pounds of debt me and my family are still together living in health and we continue to fight in the extremely expensive and lengthy jurdicial system. I just pray one day justice is done and my parents can live a peaceful life. Sorry for ranting on.
I agree with Adrienne, the child who helps the parent the most should get the most. This happened to my friend where one of the brother had the mother change the will, so that it’s divided equally, but she was the one that had the mother live with her for more than 10 years while her mother was sick, taking her to all her appts out of town and in town etc. I felt she should have gotten the most.
I took care of my mom for 13 years my brother for 7 and he took out policies on her totalling over a million leaving himself sole benefactor, I don't want any of that money but I don't believe he should be entitled to it either, she has alzheimers there is no way she would agree he gets everything, he either forged her signature but more than likely lied and asked her to sign knowing she wouldn't remember what she signed...he has since put her on welfare and shoved her into a care home, no plans to take her out and holding tight to his POA knowing I don't have the resources to take him to court...it's sick
I only met my father when I was 20 years old. We ran away when I was just over 12 months old as he was physically abusive. When we reconnected I told him that the past was the past but in order to build a relationship he needed to be honest with me and he continued to say he never laid a finger on me or my mother so I knew the relationship was stunted. For a Christmas present he called me and said he took out a life insurance policy for myself and his son from another relationship and that it was his way of apologising for not being in my life and trying to make amends. He passed away just over a year ago and that life insurance policy was paid out entirely to his son. There was no mention of me in his will apart from if his son died within 30 days of his death, i would become the sole beneficiary. It was the biggest slap in the face and broke my heart that something that I thought was a kind gesture yet again was all just words with no action. I could have fought for the money but his son has a young son and I would never take that away. It just wouldnt feel right. So instead I have reverted to not having my dads side of the family in my life because it always just opens old wounds and memories Id rather forget.
I say make it equal. At the point of death, you have done all the parenting that you can, your parenting time is over. These children are adults at this point and have to live out their lives. Not making it equal is a recipe for problems in my opinion. You can't use the money when your dead so, pass it on to your offspring EQUALLY.
Renny Vargas yes I would. I gave birth to them. They were an addict when I was alive. Not giving them part of their inheritance isn’t going to make them stop doing drugs. A drug addict will be an addict with or without money.
Renny Vargas I see where you coming from BUT not giving one child anything will bring drama and confusion within that family. I would try to do my best to help my child if he were to be a drug addict. God forbid. While I’m still alive and well and split it equally to each of my children.
I agree with Tamera on this, it would be ideal for the inheritance to be split and distributed equally. However, it would depend on the financial state and the maturity level of each child involved.
One thing they need to talk about is people who have been screwed over by their parents. I love my parents so much. But my cousin doesn’t even speak to his mom because of the things she’s done to him and his siblings. So now when his so called “‘mother” dies and he doesn’t get anything it’s another screwover (even though he wouldn’t accept it probably). You guys gotta understand not everyone has this amazing relationship with their mother that you have, and the reason you guys have that relationship is because of the way she raised you (and myself) as wonderful people. That’s not the case for everyone. I’m talking abuse, verbal and physical, drugs, you name it.
I already know that I will be getting more than my brothers. Only because I am more responsible and will do right by what my mother has worked for. And I completely agree with Adrienne. You get out what you put in.
My sister has helped my mom soooo much, more than me (I need to fix that). I even told my sis that if my mom leaves everything under her name I won’t be mad because she has done so much for her.
Edlyn_Lopez ... with that viewpoint ... I would say you are very sane and ethical. Unfortunately most family members don’t think like you and are very ugly to others
Lets be clear that its not always so simple. Personally i have a toxic , yet well off mother. Ive tried to "be that good daughter" up untill i realized i wasnt honoroing my well being by maintaining the relationship. I love my mother deeply but theres no talking it out with her right now. Im sure she makes me out to be the bad daughter, because narcissist love to play victim, and god forbid if we cant find peaceful ground before that times comes, im not sure what decision shell make with the inheritance, im an only child.
The real test is when your parents are old and in need of care. My mother and her sister have agreed that my mom should get a bigger percentage of the inheritance because she takes care of my grandmother here in Cali, while my aunt lives in New York and can't be here as much to care for my grandmother. Mind you, my aunt in nearly 10 years older than my mother and she agrees that my mom has done more for my grandmother.
I have a horrible story to tell about siblings fighting over will money. My aunt (she's my great aunt through, so distant but we're very close) her father owned a successful store. He was a wealthy man. But he wasn't doing well, actually was waiting to get a heart, or kidney surgery.... I don't quite remember but I know it was a big surgery. In January my aunt was staying at my grandma's house for a few days when she got a call that her father was found unconscious and not really breathing. So my aunt rushes over to his house. Paramedics all over the place. Her dad was laying in the middle of the living room dead. A few minutes later my aunt's brother shows up. Sees his dad dead and says "okay where's all his money. I want his truck. Mom I'm moving into this house you can stay some where else. Where does he have his money hidden" and than he's running around the house looking for hidden money. As his father is dead on the living room floor, trying to take all his money. Death does some crazy stuff to people and money definetly is the root of all evil.
Yea.. wen my aunt died st home.. her nephew jumped over her body.. and took all her documents.. Thank God... our family have a lawyer.. so they got zip..
when my Mom died ... my cousins made a Trip dwn here . talkin bout , visiting to see my aunt that i Love and care .. bla blah (not in those wrds but) -maaaan- smh THEY would *NEVER* came dwn here . SHE wuld fly *there* to Visit stayin at OTHER relatives houses . • my uncle is succesful but he one greedy moFo .. they TRIED friendRequest on fb . ideclined *never have Spoken to them* _since childhood Actualy
I came in this world with nothing. I am leaving out of this world with a hope in my heart and soul that l made Heaven. Natural inheritance don't mean nothing to me. Inheriting Jesus Christ and Heaven is everything.
Siblings who inherits money from their folks without a specific amount per person should be mature enough to realize that the person who needs it more (not financially stable) should have the bigger/biggest portion.
I get everything, my siblings know that as well. My parents chose me because I will alway divide and give based on how my parents would. I honor my parents and I will after they’re gone.
I disagree. It's not okay to play favoritism towards your kids. God willing if I'm blessed to have assets when I pass away it's going to be divided equally to my children. I would hate for my kids to rezent for the rest of there lives when I'm gone. I would never want them to think that I cared for there older or younger sister more than them.
I feel strange every time someone says that they parents are their friends. I can't imagine that because since I was little my mom let me know that she's not my friend, she's my mother so I cannot threat her like an equal...
Tamera looks absolutely beautiful!..I love this look on her!..she looks her age ,even younger, it embraces her youth more than her usual outfits and hairstyles..good job to her stylist on this one 👍!
Amen Adrienne! I agree ! But this also should be thought about with relatives or people in your life in general. All of us won’t have kids or a significant other so it’s important to think about who would be responsible enough to handle your estate
My older sister was the favorite of 3 siblings--no question. But, my dad; God rest his soul 🙏 🌹; left his life-savings equally split into thirds for each of us. 💙
I agree with Anderson Coppers mom. She gave him ZIP and told him when she dies she will donate all her money to charity! And what did he do? He worked his ass off to make his own money, rather than waiting for his mom to bail him out and living off of her.
right! I hate those kinds of people who will shout from the rooftops about how hard they have worked to get to where they are-yet conveniently forget to mention in the same breath all the help they got.
Wow the Asian girl definitely had the most practical reply in my opinion. Inheritance isn't about who did the most for you while you lived but whose heart is the purest and who will honor your legacy. You never know ppl truest intentions...many ppl do for others out of expectations....but the heart never lies.
I don't have kids but i don't think i would even divide it up based on who i like more or who helped me more but based on their level of financial maturity and responsibility
This segment spoke to me. I'm the youngest sibling and some of but not all of My Brothers and Sisters are acting in different ways individually during the time of my Mother's Alzheimer's. Some distant, doing their own thing, and I often ask questions unto myself about everything said here when that day comes. I hate to even think about money like that but this is a phase of life that will happen but I'm uncertain how it will play out...I'm just glad that I'm self-sufficient and earned my own savings to understand that this situation should not be about getting money. It should be about her legacy that she will leave behind. Her Children and Grand Kids she invested in. 😢
And I believe its the same for parents. Alot of parents expect to reap the benefits of their children's hard earned assets without sowing into the relationship with their children. #YepISaidIt 🤷♀️
My mom passed away and I couldn’t care any lesser about the money. I am blessed to still have my dad, and I all I want for him is to live forever!!!!!!! No money, just live !!!
My in laws died two months apart and never had a Will. Both separate for more than 10 years but never divorce. They had three adults children. My husband the middle child, one older brother and one younger sister who are both severely intellectually disabled. My mother in law was a full time carer for her two kids until her death and the family home when straight to my father in law who hasn’t lived in the house for over 10 years. He had two boys through a martial affair. Not sure if he was the biological father to those boys, but father in law was a real prick. Never looked after his two intellectually disabled children. My husband applied for letter of administrator for both his parents. He was able to sell the house and split the inheritance between him and his two siblings. He left nothing to the other two boys. My brother in law lives in residential care in Auckland and we brought his sister to Australia to look after her. We had to go through Qld Civil and Tribunal for legal guardianship on behalf of his sister as she can not look after herself. We did more for his siblings than their father did in his lifetime.
I don't have children, but I know enough ungrateful ones. Who like Adrienne said won't be around to care for the parents but will make a big stink when parents die and it's time for the division of assets. I know people who have multiple children and only left something to one of them, the one who was responsible and took care of them and their finances when they were old and sick. The other ingrates got mad after the parents died and decided to contest the will. There are parents who have multiple kids who are on drugs or unstable and leave whatever they have to the grandchildren via trust fund. I say it is the parents decision who gets what or who doesn't. I don't know why people are so worried about who is going to get money or property that ain't even theirs, nor did they work for it, but will lose their minds if they are not in the running for it. Work, make and save your own money, and you won't worried about after death handouts.
narcissistic parents make their children's lives hell. Have one golden child who is completely dependent on them and doesn't have a life outside of being attached to the parents. Sickening.
I agree with you Adrienne...Some people don't sew into the relationships with their parents and expect that they deserve to inherit whatever their parents have.
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Adrienne spoke nothing but the truth.
right!
Amen
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Religiously you get heritage because you are their child.
But also you have to treat them right. You have rights over them(heritage) and the parents have rights over you (you take care of them).
- "You can't reap the benefits of a relationship you did not sow into." Girl, say it louder for the people in the back that missed it. Adrienne was on point with this statement.
Sounds fantastic indeed BUT.... what if your parents were abusive or evil alcoholics that never wanted to sow that relationship back and you want to do good with that $$. These girls do a disservice to topics by ever only discussing one side
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Damn......Addrienne is killing it.....she's on point. Good job Addrienne!
I totally agree.
Totally agree
Yes like finally!! I like this Adrianne
YAAS Adrienne, FACTS. And as the youngest member of my family, my main goal is to be independent and have a happy life earned on my own without having to depend on my parents or their inheritance.
Well-said! 🙌👏👏 😁
YESS RAVENCLAW REPRESENT 🦅🦅
I totally agree. When a parent pass oway. In real life things can get nasty over money. That's the sad truth.😮
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I hate thinking bout my parents dying. I don't care bout the money.
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Exactly how I feel , I prefer my parents over all the money in the world
The thought of my parents not being here makes me tear up. No amount of money would fill the hole I would have in my SOUL if my parents died. OMG I'm about to cry now
Queen Butterfly. Girl, same. My Dad be pissing me off on the phone talking about he’s close to passing. I’m like, no Dad lol. If you’re dying I’m dying too 😂
I know this isn’t something to joke about, but I try to be positive when thinking about death.
Queen Butterfly I know!! Idk what I would do, I would feel so empty
That part, that part, that part Addrienne, I completely agree!!!❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾🙏🏾
I disagree. I think many people sow into a relationship specifically because they have a sense of entitlement and the only reason they're sowing into the relationship is to reap the benefits. Money should be split equally between kids as to not encourage resentment between them.
I agree too
MiamiPush2theLimit I respect your opinion... An I simply say okay
@@MiamiPush2theLimit So they should feel entitled to that? You shouldn't sow into a relationship just to expect to get lonely after death. And I don't think splitting it equally will do any good anyway. Chances are there may be an irresponsible child and one that is more responsible that can help the other one or ones. It shouldn't automatically be equal just because of resentment.
Tamera's style team are doing the Lord's work. 😍
Amen
Ikr, she's always flawless!!
Josie Amen 🙏🏾
So beautiful!
I MEAN! She looks amazing.
I understand Adrienne's point but unfortunately there are a lot of crappy parents that play favorites and don't give credit to the kids of theirs that are actually the ones looking out for them. We all see those parents enabling good for nothing children that don't care about them while the responsible ones pick up the slack and then get crapped on. I personally am glad I am an only child and that I am always the favorite!!!
Agreed
yup this is true. my husband actually does everythinggggggg for his parents, but when we got married, his whole family got upset because they lost their driver, their carpenter and their cook. the other two sons don't work, use their parents' credit card on their random girlfriends that they bring home and then their parents are stressed and ask us for help. lol. i already know he won't get anything if anything happens to his parents in the future, even though he's the one that's been there for them the most, but i'm honestly okay with that. i don't want toxic money with his brothers making us feel guilty in the future. nopeee they can keep it alll
This is true.
Well I'm an only child and I'm not even the favorite 😆
I agree with you that not all parents are good parents.
“You cannot reap the benefits of a relationship that you did not sew into.” I love this.
Tameras whole outfit and hair is really nice!
I love her natural hair!!
so beautiful!
Wow. Looks like the older Tamara gets finer. She is really gorgeous
Twin looking exquisite
Kenneth Rodgers she really is
I think her beauty blossomed even more after having children
Kenneth Rodgers I clicked the video becuz of how amazing she looks
Yesss
This is why I'm working to build my own life and legacy. Whatever my parents leave for me will be bonus.
And This is why “ Money is the root of all evil “ money really can change people !!! It doesn’t matter if it’s family , people will change in a heart beat to get something they want dearly
Money is a piece of paper. The Bible actually says the Love of $ is the root of all evil. There is a difference. And if u really read the Bible it says that money is the answer to all things. Thats the only way we can survive. No shade. Its just a pet peeve when people misquote this scripture💋 besos
Myronn Coleman *the LOVE of money is the root of all evil 🙌🏾
Myronn Coleman The love of money is the root of all evil. Money is neither good or bad, it all depends on how it’s used.
It's the love of money that is the root of evil. Money itself can only demonstrate what the recipient already has in their soul/hearts.
No. Its The love of money
I don't have any children. So I am in the process of setting up an inheritance for some of my Niece great nephews and one great niece. This is only because of the relationship that I have with them.
sassyasme 123 I don't have kids but that is what I would do , my niece and nephew are like my kids
I had a professor set a fund for his pets at a shelter and the rest he gave as scholarships. Not sure if he had some left for his neices and nephews (he was a bachelor) but I am thinking about doing this if I don't have kids.
@@1goddessy193 mine really are. I love to hear stories abt auntsband uncle's leaving inheritance to their nieces and nephews. One of Lifes goals
Nice!!
Adopt me please!
Can we be real an admit that all parents are not good parents ? Idc how much your parent provided monetary value for you if there wasn’t any love you still felt abdonded etc etccc then that doesn’t qualify them automatically for “i put a roof over your head so you must treat me well
Yes true not all parents are good and not all of them DESERVE to be parents but we’re talking if they’re good to you
I Agree so much with what you said!
@Dezy blue
Baby God has a funny way of working things out for you. The people that throw you away are the same ones that will desperately need you later on. God Bless You!
COSMIC SOLIDER 144,000 if we wanna be real no matter how cold some parents may seem you can never give back to them as much as you should because just the fact that they brought you here is a miracle
Please give me a break. It’s not a miracle some parents literally sign soul contracts just to bring souls into this world but not be the best parents. Miracle what ??? Miracle how it’s just the cycle of life
Tamera's stylist is doing a great job this season! I love her outfits and the colors really complement her.
True
Except the other day, it wasnt evenly distributed on her head. I hate when they dress her like an old lady, IJS!
I love Adrienne's blouse omg 😍😍
Enny Owl I think I’ve seen that on fashion nova.
It really is very pretty.....
I am loving Tamera's hair!!!! Werk girl!
N C Yesss! This look is amazing on her!
It's very pretty on her!
My parents are horrible people...still I used to beg to bond with them, would be by their side, drive to visit, help when mom had surgery , yet they treated my brother [who ignores them, never would go to see either of them, bad mouths them, etc. like the messiah. He'salso head of their estates, gets help/money from them, visits, etc...but not me, the doormat. NOW they're salty bc I said f'k it and have moved on; I am no contact with mom & barely contact with dad and brother-bc of his kids. When I decided enough was enough, I also said f'k your inheritance. I rather make my own way with peace of mind, than endure abuse and neglect for MAYBE some crumbs dropped underneath the table. Adrianne is right, if your parents are good to you be good to them, but if they're shitty F'k them and their inheritance.
tyilee good for u.it is neccesary to be independent although it hurts when the situation is like that.go forward one day they will end up needing your help and when that happen.be there show them what they should have done to their child😍
Pray for them and love them from a far. Remember, God knows the Good that you do and I believe you will be blessed for your goodness.
Jewel tones suit Tamera! She’s stunning, specially with this hairstyle
Hanna H so true, loving the autumnal looks in this
How about when the money is left to the aunts to pass out to the kids and they end up keeping it. People change when people pass away. Smh.
Girl those aunts can change too, all I am saying is that you cannot trust everybody even your own family. So lets be very careful to whom we trust. just saying!!!!
Yes very heart breaking. Never would wish that pain on anyone.
@@brittanypino2282 I saw that in my fam. But it was a family friend who was left in charge of the money. Both parents died within a year of each other and their kids $100+K &that family friend packed up and is no where to be found
CcoronaS wow that’s so sad. It sucks so bad. You’re already mourning a parent and now you have to deal with the betrayal. I hope Karma gets them.
African families smh
Heck no! I helped take care of my grandparents in their last years, all my summers and breaks in college I was with them 24/7 and I DIDN’T EXPECT A DIME! They weren’t the best grandparents ever but they were mine and god help me I did what I could. Then my aunts and uncles tried “reap the benefits” by try to take my grandmother’s wedding rings. She gave them to ME before she died even though they think I stole them. I’m gonna mess around and cry. Love people and please don’t expect anything in return ❤️
Be strong, same situation. My sister is mad i got Everything and her and my aunts been talking trash. F them and live on!!
You go girl! Keep that spirit in your soul!🙌💕 you will teach them through the good person you are. They will be jealous dear, but you continue on with what your doing to set an example.
SAHM LIFE my question is were your aunts and sisters out of the picture and didn’t help or be there at all? I always wonder about that when someone inherits and the other sibling doesn’t. No shad or anything negative just wondering why you didn’t decide to share? If that’s not getting too personal
@@nicolenunya984 aunts were out. Sis didn't come around til 6mo before she passed. I've been taking care of the property and all Bills, Attorney, tax,legal and maintenance and cared for grandparents. Beyond that family members have been mia and no contact.
my dad left us equal amount .. BUT it caNOT be Split individualy *unless* we ALL Agree .on *how* its goin be used for
but im a say one time my brother TRIED threating me that he will make sure i get LESS
All cause he got Mad 😒
in my mind .im like yea ok
and
you r NO one to talk ..
still got Mines
I would want my parent back , forget the money .
🙏🏼
Facts. No amount of money can bring back my father period...
Adrienne is on point. I personally think that sadly times have changed and a lot of children feel entitled without truly doing much for their parents or taking them for granted. In some cultures the inheritance isnt split equally, instead the eldest child is entitled to more than their younger once however in such cultures it is also a "religion" to make sure that, once you can, you care and support your parents lmao those cultures also mostly tend to look down at the idea of sending their parents to a care home.I think with how things are changing and children are becoming more selfish or self entitled than before, i think its fair to give more to the child that cared and looked after you. i dont see why a child who may not have treated their parents well or didnt even care to look after them should have a problem with not receiving as much inheritance. I am sorry but its heartbreaking hearing how many parents are in a care home and barely get any visits or care from loved ones.
I love when Adrienne gets real and i love her mindset. i do think that her coming from a latin background also means that she is raised with the culture were the child should care for their parents later. i also agree with Tamera. E.g if a father had a business it would make more since giving a bigger share to the child who is more responsible or already knows how to handle the business
Yeah, but what if the parents treats the children horribly?
+Ana xo They would be entitled to it no question. Wether their parents would be fair to give it to them is another story
So true. I know someone who was very Ill, almost died. He gave his kids everything they asked for , raised their kids ,etc. In his sickness, His daughters chose not to help him , told him they didnt feel sorry for him , they would still drop their kids off to him even though he wasn't physically able to take care of them. He ended up in the hospital, they were there planning his funeral while he sleptSMG. Through it all his "adopted"daughter took up the slack driving him and his wife to appointments, taking care of his biological daughters kids etc. Needless to say after a 10% chance to live he didnt die and tremendously blessed the adopted daughter while the biological daughters were very upset and still upset til this day. Sad they cant see themselves smh
Putting parents in a home care shouldn’t be looked at as a negative thing. Elderly folks might have a better medical care there than what they would have at home... nowadays people will continue to work for longer years or even have disabilities of their own at a younger age that would make caring from an elderly impossible and even dangerous.
Adrienne spoke nothing but facts‼️💯 I’m loving her this season man
Alright Evangelist Houghton
FAKE
Omg right! She was speaking truth!
@@rachellinaaa Right
Adrienne is absolutely correct. There isn't any space for entitl ement...especially if you carry
a caring spirit in your soul.💕
Not all parents are good parents. I love my son and it is the 2 of us. I have been mom and dad for him he is an awesome 14 year old now. But I have chosen to not be like my mother. I am going to love my child, respect my child so he does the same.
Thank you for saying this & thank you for choosing to be a loving mother ❤
Amen to this!
Same i am not a mother yet but when I am I will be nothing my mother and do and make sure my kids don’t go through the same pain I went through as a child
Yes my mom was so mean and hateful and i was never a rebellious kid. I always helped her out and started working at 13. It was a mentally abusive relationship that I am still struggling through. Especially since the only person who understood past 8 months ago. I stay away and was about to do a restraining order because she stalks me. Everyone thinks it is wrong if i get a restraining order on her but i am afraid at times. They excuse her because her kidney problems but dont realize she has mental problems. I am not worried honestly about inheritance. I am pondering if she was to die would i go to her funeral. I could careless about her stuff i work for my own. I wished i could have her love that is the best inheritance you can give your child. Sad thing is i had that discussion with my aunt before she suddenly and unexpectedly past.
I think everyone should adopt this especially those parents who have kids right now, in the present. Everyone from all over the world. This generation has more awareness, which truly we owe to the internet. Our parents were from a different generation. Things were more traditional before and less awareness. So glad you are on the right pathway!
I agree with most of the things Adrienne said but not about not about her putting your mother in a home comment. Some adult children have no choice but to put their parents in a home especially in cases where that parent need 24/7 supervision due to their health. And that child can't be there because they have to making a living or have children of their own to take care. I just had to put that out there because i used judge people who put their parents in homes, especially being African, we're taught that that's disrespectful but when my mother worked at a nursing home and I used to go there, I saw the conditions of the people in there and how much care they needed and realized that some people do need to be put in homes.
Dana Sow well she followed it up with “not visiting your mother”. Clearly we all know ppl are put into homes it’s just some don’t have family that visit which I’m sure is what she means. Duh
She was most likely speaking from her cultural. Latinos as well as Blacks arent fans of putting their parents n nursing homes.
Her point was that if you don't cultivate a relationship with your parents growing up and then put them in a home but expect them to leave you something, that it is entitlement.
Dana Sow I have this coworker that has her mother suffering from Alzheimer’s in a home. The thing that I have really tried to understand is why her mother. She clearly loves her mother and misses her being the matriarch of the family, but she is very well off and can afford to have a nurse at one of her many homes.
Nicole Nunya maybe because nurses are expensive and she wants continue to be rich... I used to work for an agency that hires caregivers and OMG, rich people don’t wanna spend their money like that. 🤭 unfortunately true. There r very few people that would be willing to spend 20k on a monthly basis for the care of a loved one and even though they would spend that much money, they would rarely spend any (if at all) quality time with with them.
Did Tamera get a new glam squad cuz she’s been killing it this season!
Adrienne is
thinking very selfish like most people some siblings have influenced the parent to only love an trust them an push the other away that would love to be there in the name of greed
I honestly cannot believe that this is a genuine thing that people do! I know I’m not the only one when I say that I would much rather gain no monetary value when my parents pass but instead be enriched with the memories of them enjoying their lives and doing as they please. My parents worked very hard to get to their position today- they didn’t do it to give a load of money to their kids when they’re gone, they did it so that they could enjoy what life has to offer them
I said this once and I will say it again. I miss the “We Read You” segment.
Same
I’m with Tamera. It’s great how Adrienne expressed herself about her relationship with her parents, but everyone has different experiences with their parents. I wish I felt that way about both my parents, but I don’t.
So true Adrienne, I'm not gonna give my money or property to a disrespectful and irresponsible child or relative of mine.
My thing is like this! Give ALL of your children something to inherit! Don't play favorites, don't hold something against your children! Children can tell when a parent has a favorite or holds grudges
Why is it always discussed that parents are alwayssss good and nurturing? But yea I agree with the ladies that in such case you cant treat all your kids the same after they have developed different characters.
I think it’s more so because that’s how their parents treated them and they all might have great relationships with them
I agree with Adrienne, and I also believe I think it should be a conversation. Once my sister and I were 14 and 18 our parents sat us down and talked they started to put things in place. It was a Trust/Responsible element, Once we each got our first job also, we were authorized to manage the Family's Account. So we've actually inherit things as they live, a transfer of power.
I agree with Adrienne. I don't care about the money from my parents, I care about the relationship with my parents. They are truly my best friends and I don't even want to think about them dying.
We have four children. They will equally receive all we have. Which is nothing. We will be lucky to go to the grave with no debts. Memories are what we pass on. Make them great.
I love Adrienne blouse.. Loves her style and choice of clothing :)
When my grandmother died both my dad and uncle agreed that my aunt should get my grandmas will because she "need"/"deserved" it the most. And that's just a testimony to the way that my grandma raised her children, that the sibling can all come together and work out a plan for the greater good of their family. I hope that one day i can be as a parent.
PREACH IT ADRIENNE 🙌🏽
I will NEVER put my parents in a home.
They looked after me,
Bathed me,
Dressed me,
Wiped my ass.
Better believe imma do the same for them.
They always cut the clip when Loni finally gives her 2 cents to the topic 🤣 petty.
Gio Ruiz half the time she’s either disinterested or she talks about something completely idiotic to the topic.
Gio Ruiz, Loni likes giving others ladies a chance to talk , when her chance comes, time is out
Right she ain't got no kids tamera has 2 kids kids
I was super close to my mom for the 20 years i had with her before she passed away. I'm 22 now. My dad and i have gotten closer since we lost my mom and knowing that my dad is getting close to turning 70 soon i have come to understand that i need to have a solid relationship with him and my brothers understand that too so the four of us try to spend as much time as we can together. The inheritance thing will be something i hope my brothers and i won't have to argue about and will be able to divide my dad's things amicably
I wish you all the best and success.
Just because they birthed you doesn’t mean they need to be honored unless they deserve. Parents beating or abusing their kid both physically and verbally and emotionally... don’t deserve the honor.
It must be nice to have parents who love you and care for you. I never think about these things because I don’t have a relationship with me parents not because of me because I’ve tried but I just think they never really wanted me. I🤷🏾♀️ It’s life, parent always love nurture and get to know your child. I always push for my friends and cousins who have parents that love them to be there for them I really can’t wait to be a parent!
I honestly respect what Adrienne said. I just didn't know the words to use to be able to say that. I'm in the crappy situation at the moment which has been going on for 23 years which is my whole life. My uncles never cared for my granparents infact wanted to pawn them off to a care home. My uncles have vast amount of properties and yet they schemed and fraudently took my father's house which was shared with my granma. When my granma passed away my grandfather used to tell them to give it back to us and in his will my grandfather left his property to my father because he knew any opportunuty my uncles would get to make us homeless they would do so. After nearly 500 thousand pounds of debt me and my family are still together living in health and we continue to fight in the extremely expensive and lengthy jurdicial system. I just pray one day justice is done and my parents can live a peaceful life. Sorry for ranting on.
Adrienne, you are so wise beyond your years. Your opinion on this topic is pure. Love you.
I agree with Adrienne, the child who helps the parent the most should get the most. This happened to my friend where one of the brother had the mother change the will, so that it’s divided equally, but she was the one that had the mother live with her for more than 10 years while her mother was sick, taking her to all her appts out of town and in town etc. I felt she should have gotten the most.
Sophi3_82 .... I wonder if the mom did an irrevocable trust it would have prevented this equal stuff
I took care of my mom for 13 years my brother for 7 and he took out policies on her totalling over a million leaving himself sole benefactor, I don't want any of that money but I don't believe he should be entitled to it either, she has alzheimers there is no way she would agree he gets everything, he either forged her signature but more than likely lied and asked her to sign knowing she wouldn't remember what she signed...he has since put her on welfare and shoved her into a care home, no plans to take her out and holding tight to his POA knowing I don't have the resources to take him to court...it's sick
I only met my father when I was 20 years old. We ran away when I was just over 12 months old as he was physically abusive. When we reconnected I told him that the past was the past but in order to build a relationship he needed to be honest with me and he continued to say he never laid a finger on me or my mother so I knew the relationship was stunted. For a Christmas present he called me and said he took out a life insurance policy for myself and his son from another relationship and that it was his way of apologising for not being in my life and trying to make amends. He passed away just over a year ago and that life insurance policy was paid out entirely to his son. There was no mention of me in his will apart from if his son died within 30 days of his death, i would become the sole beneficiary. It was the biggest slap in the face and broke my heart that something that I thought was a kind gesture yet again was all just words with no action. I could have fought for the money but his son has a young son and I would never take that away. It just wouldnt feel right. So instead I have reverted to not having my dads side of the family in my life because it always just opens old wounds and memories Id rather forget.
I say make it equal. At the point of death, you have done all the parenting that you can, your parenting time is over. These children are adults at this point and have to live out their lives. Not making it equal is a recipe for problems in my opinion. You can't use the money when your dead so, pass it on to your offspring EQUALLY.
So if your kid is a drug addict you are gonna give them all the money. Cause that makes sense
Renny Vargas yes I would. I gave birth to them. They were an addict when I was alive. Not giving them part of their inheritance isn’t going to make them stop doing drugs. A drug addict will be an addict with or without money.
Renny Vargas I see where you coming from BUT not giving one child anything will bring drama and confusion within that family. I would try to do my best to help my child if he were to be a drug addict. God forbid. While I’m still alive and well and split it equally to each of my children.
money is one thing, but it is nearly impossible to spilt assets equally. sorry.
@@JenJHaydenassets that are not money are appraised/given a monetary value and then any differences in monetary value is made up with cash.
I loved Adriennes statement! Completely agree!
I agree with Tamera on this, it would be ideal for the inheritance to be split and distributed equally. However, it would depend on the financial state and the maturity level of each child involved.
Adrienne is so funny... The way she picked up that coffee mug after saying, you ain't gone bad mouth me and get money..lol.
One thing they need to talk about is people who have been screwed over by their parents. I love my parents so much. But my cousin doesn’t even speak to his mom because of the things she’s done to him and his siblings. So now when his so called “‘mother” dies and he doesn’t get anything it’s another screwover (even though he wouldn’t accept it probably). You guys gotta understand not everyone has this amazing relationship with their mother that you have, and the reason you guys have that relationship is because of the way she raised you (and myself) as wonderful people. That’s not the case for everyone.
I’m talking abuse, verbal and physical, drugs, you name it.
I already know that I will be getting more than my brothers. Only because I am more responsible and will do right by what my mother has worked for. And I completely agree with Adrienne. You get out what you put in.
Back at saying it again, these topics are very interesting.
Sad but true, lots of families are destroyed over this. Show love, not greed.
Everything was well said. But can we talk about how good Adrienne's makeup looks😍😍😍
Adrienne, wooooooooo😍😍 that BLOUSE!!!! I am in love, you look beautiful, as always!
Good job Ade I'm seeing growth in your life the way u speak u go girl
My sister has helped my mom soooo much, more than me (I need to fix that). I even told my sis that if my mom leaves everything under her name I won’t be mad because she has done so much for her.
Edlyn_Lopez ... with that viewpoint ... I would say you are very sane and ethical. Unfortunately most family members don’t think like you and are very ugly to others
Lets be clear that its not always so simple. Personally i have a toxic , yet well off mother. Ive tried to "be that good daughter" up untill i realized i wasnt honoroing my well being by maintaining the relationship. I love my mother deeply but theres no talking it out with her right now. Im sure she makes me out to be the bad daughter, because narcissist love to play victim, and god forbid if we cant find peaceful ground before that times comes, im not sure what decision shell make with the inheritance, im an only child.
Agree 100% I have a narcissistic mother as well. She is emotionally abusive, wicked and cruel. I don't want nor do I expect anything from her.
@@MiamiPush2theLimit Its a difficult reality sometimes. All the peace and healing!
Pray for her and love her anyways. We are all here to honor an serve God. He knows all of our hearts and souls.
I agree with all of their perspectives. However, Adrienne is mostly, me 😂😂🙌🏽
The real test is when your parents are old and in need of care. My mother and her sister have agreed that my mom should get a bigger percentage of the inheritance because she takes care of my grandmother here in Cali, while my aunt lives in New York and can't be here as much to care for my grandmother. Mind you, my aunt in nearly 10 years older than my mother and she agrees that my mom has done more for my grandmother.
That’s very true I agree with A on this 100%
ADRIENNE....... Your 1st response is 💯 💯.... I totally agree.... You Rock..
🥰 I absolutely love Tamera’s peekaboo greys!
I have a horrible story to tell about siblings fighting over will money. My aunt (she's my great aunt through, so distant but we're very close) her father owned a successful store. He was a wealthy man. But he wasn't doing well, actually was waiting to get a heart, or kidney surgery.... I don't quite remember but I know it was a big surgery. In January my aunt was staying at my grandma's house for a few days when she got a call that her father was found unconscious and not really breathing. So my aunt rushes over to his house. Paramedics all over the place. Her dad was laying in the middle of the living room dead. A few minutes later my aunt's brother shows up. Sees his dad dead and says "okay where's all his money. I want his truck. Mom I'm moving into this house you can stay some where else. Where does he have his money hidden" and than he's running around the house looking for hidden money. As his father is dead on the living room floor, trying to take all his money.
Death does some crazy stuff to people and money definetly is the root of all evil.
Yea.. wen my aunt died st home.. her nephew jumped over her body.. and took all her documents.. Thank God... our family have a lawyer.. so they got zip..
They should have kicked him where the sun dont shine
when my Mom died ... my cousins made a Trip dwn here . talkin bout ,
visiting to see my aunt that i Love and care .. bla blah (not in those wrds but)
-maaaan- smh
THEY would *NEVER* came dwn here . SHE wuld fly *there* to Visit stayin at OTHER relatives houses . •
my uncle is succesful but he one greedy moFo ..
they TRIED friendRequest on fb . ideclined *never have Spoken to them* _since childhood Actualy
People can be so heartless smh. Have some cases where people actually kill their own family members for inheritence.
Maybe his dad abused him or something
I came in this world with nothing. I am leaving out of this world with a hope in my heart and soul that l made Heaven. Natural inheritance don't mean nothing to me. Inheriting Jesus Christ and Heaven is everything.
SAY THAT!!!
That's why there's a will. No need to fight about it. Just follow the will.
Tamera your hair looks amazing! You are so beautiful!
yeessss!
Siblings who inherits money from their folks without a specific amount per person should be mature enough to realize that the person who needs it more (not financially stable) should have the bigger/biggest portion.
You cannot reap what you do not sow into - A💯
I get everything, my siblings know that as well. My parents chose me because I will alway divide and give based on how my parents would. I honor my parents and I will after they’re gone.
I think sometimes parents give more to whoever they think will be more responsible.
I disagree. It's not okay to play favoritism towards your kids. God willing if I'm blessed to have assets when I pass away it's going to be divided equally to my children.
I would hate for my kids to rezent for the rest of there lives when I'm gone. I would never want them to think that I cared for there older or younger sister more than them.
I feel strange every time someone says that they parents are their friends. I can't imagine that because since I was little my mom let me know that she's not my friend, she's my mother so I cannot threat her like an equal...
Tamera looks absolutely beautiful!..I love this look on her!..she looks her age ,even younger, it embraces her youth more than her usual outfits and hairstyles..good job to her stylist on this one 👍!
Amen Adrienne! I agree ! But this also should be thought about with relatives or people in your life in general. All of us won’t have kids or a significant other so it’s important to think about who would be responsible enough to handle your estate
I L💘VE Tamera's hair. God, she looks BEAUTIFUL!
My older sister was the favorite of 3 siblings--no question. But, my dad; God rest his soul 🙏 🌹; left his life-savings equally split into thirds for each of us. 💙
I agree with Anderson Coppers mom. She gave him ZIP and told him when she dies she will donate all her money to charity! And what did he do? He worked his ass off to make his own money, rather than waiting for his mom to bail him out and living off of her.
I will never do dis to my kids.. They are my legacy...
You don't think he got all his jobs from her connections? Give me a break.
right! I hate those kinds of people who will shout from the rooftops about how hard they have worked to get to where they are-yet conveniently forget to mention in the same breath all the help they got.
His mother was trash
Does his mom have something against him? Why would she do that?
Preach A!!
Wow the Asian girl definitely had the most practical reply in my opinion. Inheritance isn't about who did the most for you while you lived but whose heart is the purest and who will honor your legacy. You never know ppl truest intentions...many ppl do for others out of expectations....but the heart never lies.
I don't have kids but i don't think i would even divide it up based on who i like more or who helped me more but based on their level of financial maturity and responsibility
I love the medium brown hair color on Jeanie Mae
Adrienne Was ON POINT!!!
Tamera You're Looking Slick...
Adrienne you said it all! Can't reap what you did not sow!
This segment spoke to me. I'm the youngest sibling and some of but not all of My Brothers and Sisters are acting in different ways individually during the time of my Mother's Alzheimer's. Some distant, doing their own thing, and I often ask questions unto myself about everything said here when that day comes. I hate to even think about money like that but this is a phase of life that will happen but I'm uncertain how it will play out...I'm just glad that I'm self-sufficient and earned my own savings to understand that this situation should not be about getting money. It should be about her legacy that she will leave behind. Her Children and Grand Kids she invested in. 😢
And I believe its the same for parents. Alot of parents expect to reap the benefits of their children's hard earned assets without sowing into the relationship with their children. #YepISaidIt 🤷♀️
She said I ain't got to worry I ain't got no kids
most say I ain't got to worry I ain't got no money lol
My mom passed away and I couldn’t care any lesser about the money. I am blessed to still have my dad, and I all I want for him is to live forever!!!!!!! No money, just live !!!
Jeannie’s hair is laid!👏🏽🙌🏽
My in laws died two months apart and never had a Will. Both separate for more than 10 years but never divorce. They had three adults children. My husband the middle child, one older brother and one younger sister who are both severely intellectually disabled. My mother in law was a full time carer for her two kids until her death and the family home when straight to my father in law who hasn’t lived in the house for over 10 years. He had two boys through a martial affair. Not sure if he was the biological father to those boys, but father in law was a real prick. Never looked after his two intellectually disabled children. My husband applied for letter of administrator for both his parents. He was able to sell the house and split the inheritance between him and his two siblings. He left nothing to the other two boys. My brother in law lives in residential care in Auckland and we brought his sister to Australia to look after her. We had to go through Qld Civil and Tribunal for legal guardianship on behalf of his sister as she can not look after herself. We did more for his siblings than their father did in his lifetime.
I don't have children, but I know enough ungrateful ones. Who like Adrienne said won't be around to care for the parents but will make a big stink when parents die and it's time for the division of assets. I know people who have multiple children and only left something to one of them, the one who was responsible and took care of them and their finances when they were old and sick. The other ingrates got mad after the parents died and decided to contest the will. There are parents who have multiple kids who are on drugs or unstable and leave whatever they have to the grandchildren via trust fund. I say it is the parents decision who gets what or who doesn't. I don't know why people are so worried about who is going to get money or property that ain't even theirs, nor did they work for it, but will lose their minds if they are not in the running for it. Work, make and save your own money, and you won't worried about after death handouts.
narcissistic parents make their children's lives hell. Have one golden child who is completely dependent on them and doesn't have a life outside of being attached to the parents. Sickening.
I am just LOVING Tamera hair 😍😍
I came here for the thumbnail. Ik im not the only one. Tam, girl ur hair is everything ✊🏿
I agree with you Adrienne...Some people don't sew into the relationships with their parents and expect that they deserve to inherit whatever their parents have.
Damn!Tam looks goooooood!Go girl!