... so, AITA? 👀 Full Story ( Details + UPDATES ) 👇 I (29F) am currently living at my parents' place (66M/59F) along with my sister (34F) and her kids (16F, 14F, 10M, and 11 months). I moved in to help care for my mother, who has cancer, and to drive her around. My father can't drive due to a stroke, and my sister lost her driver's license. Since I work from home and have a flexible schedule, I am the best option for assisting my parents. The kids were a mess. My sister essentially has her own apartment in the house, so my parents never really checked in on her or the kids. One day, I noticed my 10-year-old nephew’s hair was matted. I took him to a hairstylist, who told me his hair was molding. My sister works during the day but often doesn’t come home until midnight and goes straight to sleep. I found this out because my niece asked me to show her how to cook, as her sister was getting physically sick from the ready meals in the fridge. One day, I heard the baby crying and realized my sister was leaving the baby at home. The 16-year-old believes it's her responsibility to take care of all the kids. She is burnt out and is failing many of her classes. When she found out she had to redo her grade, her mother screamed at her. I stepped in and told my niece it’s okay and that I will help her get her grades up next year. I tried to talk to my sister, but she always ended up crying and saying how hard it is to be a single mom. However, I found out that her ex-boyfriends are sending her money for the kids, but she chooses to work part-time while trying to become a beauty influencer. Meanwhile, I have been taking care of the kids. They have become very attached to me and spend all their time in my part of the house. My sister hasn't seemed to care much. The main issue came when my 14-year-old niece won a prize for young storytellers. She wrote a story clearly coping with her home life and her abusive mother. Her story was published in a magazine, she received $500, and won a one-week summer camp. At the ceremony, my niece thanked her siblings, my mother, and me, saying, "Thank you for being the mom I never had." My sister left abruptly and reappeared yesterday. She repeatedly asked if I was saying she was a bad mother. I tried to stay calm, but she kept pushing until I finally exploded and unloaded everything: the neglect, the lack of supervision, the emotional abandonment. I told her she was not fulfilling her responsibilities as a mother and that her kids deserved better. My sister, still furious, refused to listen and continued yelling, saying she was doing her best and I had no right to interfere. I told her that her "best" was not good enough and that her children were suffering because of her actions. I reiterated that the kids deserved a stable, nurturing environment, and that I couldn't stand by and watch them be neglected. My sister ran away and told her daughter that if they hated her so much, then they were dead to her. My parents are confused and hurt that they didn't see what was going on. My mother has been crying since she found out, and my father, who has a temper problem, screamed some very threatening things at my sister. My niblings are distraught. The 10-year-old is furious at the 14-year-old for saying what she did because he thinks their mother is going to take them away, and the 16-year-old had a huge panic attack and fell down. I haven't properly slept, and my sister is sending me messages every 10 minutes telling me their life was good before me. I am at the end of my rope. Did I do something wrong? Should I have just kept my mouth shut? ... so, AITA?
@@BloxyFruitYTyour kinda just looked at this to get the whole story so idk if your stupid or stupid ofc it’s gonna be long just look at the video and they didn’t finish it within 60 seconds
Your sister is not a mother. She was someone who had children. Please continue to b a mother for these kids.. I'm surprised that CPS is not involved . Praying for you and the kids. There are many single parents who are true mothers. .
Cps when neither parent is present in any of their children’s lives and/or physically and mentally abuses their kids: I sleep. Cps when a family is 0.01 dollars below the poverty line: sorry I diagnose you with FELONY!
How do you fail to realize that this is a person copy pasting Reddit post into an AI speech generator? You’re not responding to the person in this story, your providing engagement that some guy halfway across the world is farming
She works part time, gets Child Support and still allowed her own child to have such poor condition that he had Mold in his Hair. I wouldn't even call her Human.
Nta. Some people need a reality check. She is providing them with child support, nothing else. It is normal for a 16 year old to know how to cook. The moldy hair takes so long to actually develop to that stage. She should be glad her sister is helping her
The mother only works part time and is trying to become a beauty influencer and the dads do send money to support the children. So most likely she isn’t really providing any child support.
As someone who have a single mother, this is half right a child won't be able to cook if not being teach on how to, and their mother won't be able to because of Work. It is hard to be a single mother because a family need someone who work for money and one to take care of the child. And I totally don't blame anyone in this story
@michaelrogers9720 the full story was that she didn't need to be working, and was neglecting her kids. Her kid had mold in their hair. She was making her oldest kid raise her other kids. And then she left
F that. I was a single mom, in recovery for m*th and her*in addiction. I worked 40-50 hours a week, got my kids back from DFS, went through college, and now I have a degree, a good job, own a home, and most importantly a great relationship w my daughters who I have full custody of. Life is hard. Find your strength.
@@CrunchySlice156doesn’t matter. She’s still not their real mother. A real mother would care about them and take care of them and raise them. She did none of those things.
@@WhatEvenThat I’m talking about blood, not how helpful she is or something. Still biologically her mother. Even if op is better than her by a long shot.
I know, right? It's so difficult to be a single mom yet she got pregnant over and over again. She acts as if someone forced her into all those pregnancies.
@99Em07 sure, but abortions are an options. Adopting them out is an option. And that's not an excuse for anything that happened. And kids don't have to be babies to be put up for adoption. Obviously she's not in those relationships anymore so it's not like anyone is forcing her to keep her children
@SuperCoolPersonCalledLillith in many parts of the USA, yes. But them being illegal doesn't stop them from happening, and there are ways to obtain them still, but options are getting more and more limited. But in some states, including mine, abortions are protected under state law.
I would say that the OP needs to report the sister for child neglect, and if she can and wants to adopt the children because they clearly love the OP and don’t want to be taken away from her. The the sister to call herself a mother is offensive to actual mother.
People are forgetting the part where she is a single mother I'm sure she cones home late at night from working, she could have helped her sister out but it's like the her kids grown attached to the sister making her look like a bad guy, I'm sure the mom wasn't even abusing them.....(My opinion)
@@Hnxzs Maybe not physically abusing them, but you probably didn't read the full thing. She works days and comes back at midnight. MIDNIGHT. SHE WORKS DAYS. Also, they didn't grow attach to OP for no reason. OP was someone who cared for them and taught the children stuff. That's a reason to like someone more than your mother who never sees you and lets bad stuff happen in your life with no care at all.
@@therealLuckyviolet I never knew she worked multiple days without being home, sorry I never got to see the original post, but I never said that they've grown attached to OP for no reason too. I still feel the daughter overdid it with saying she is abusive tho....
@@Hnxzs it is called parentification and it is a form of abuse, as is neglect. I am deeply sorry fir whatever makes you think otherwise and I hope things are alright for you
That’s when You get a lawyer, also get statements from everyone that has witnessed those babies neglect. All that gaslighting should warrant You a restraining order. To the trash with that looser. Thank You for protecting those children. GOD will reward You handsomely.
Well if the mom is neglectful, I'm sure she didn't teach her daughter a lot of things. I can speak from experience, I had to learn everything on my own cause my mom sure as fuck wasn't helping or doing it.
She sound like the person who still wants to have fun at her children’s expense and when she is confronted she’d says something like “well I didn’t know becoming a mother would mean not having fun”
My mom is just like this woman. It's pretty much that and everything is so hard. Yet when I was struggling in school cause I was taking care of her elderly mother & my little brother, she always threw that in my face that life is tough and I need to stop acting like I have the worst life ever. They love to throw reality in people's faces but don't live it.
I would keep the medical report from that check up you took the 10 yo to, so that you can prove her neglect just in case. If you think it's the right call, involve CPS and gather proof of your sisters neglect and abuse so that you can provide those kids with the love they deserve.
True being a single mom is hard . But she chose to keep having kids. U can't be mad cause u messed up. Being a parent is hard bur being a mom is a blessing do better
My mom was a single mom of 2 - my younger sister and I. She never got a dime of child support from our father, and ended up bedbound when I was in 2nd grade, but she never stopped loving us and caring for us. Single moms can be loving mothers. This woman is actively choosing not to.
Yknow honestly at this point the fight for custody could start… it would make such an impact on the children’s life to be in a household where they are being taken care of.
First I feel the sister/mother needs to be directly addressed. The sister has shown herself incapable of care for the children and not interested in improving their lives. I Agree CPS needs to be called. In a perfect world the mother would be arrested and all of the harshest punishments brought against her....NTAH
this is what family is for. this is how you are supposed to care for eachother, not how that mother did but how the aunt, the kid’s true mom, cared for them.
My eldest sibling, my sister learned to cook and care for us because my father was busy with work and my mother looking for a job, both just out of the military when I was born. My sister has been taking care of us before she was 10, and graduated with all As never repeating a grade. Proud of her.
My mom was a single mother most of her entire life and she has 4 kids and she’s still pulling through without any help from a man so stay strong ladies 💪
That 16 year old is going through what I went through only my father was a good dad working a lot to support us and my mom was off partying and doing dr*gs all the time. Leaving me to take care of the house and siblings. When dad got sick and had to do chemo, she left. I had to give up college for 10 years because I would not let my father for one go through his illness alone like that, and two because my siblings were scared and confused and needed me to be strong and there for them as well. I love my dad and siblings very much. I would do again too, sometimes I'm angry though because my mom shouldn't have been such a horrible person.
Condoms nor birth control are 100% effective, I get your point but it does make that much sense since plenty of people use protection & still end up pregnant.
If you'd "stayed out of it" the way your sister suggested, the kids would have eventually been separated from their mother anyway. You did well. Report the entire mess to CPS and let them know you're prepared to take custody.
Has the sister never heard of condoms, birth control pills/implants/shots, or keeping her legs closed?🤷🏼♀️🤯 I’ll never understand women not using protection to prevent unwanted pregnancy!🤨 If you don’t want kiddo’s, don’t have adult tickle time.🤦🏼♀️😂
Call CPS and take the kids under your wing because I can tell they’re already attached to you just the 10 year old doesn’t know what’s going on so he’s just upset you’re doing perfectly fine. You just need to get CPS involved in this. You need to gather information and you need to get all abuse the neglect you’re gonna save the kids from future disasters and you’re gonna give them a life they deserve, instead of having neglectful and abusive mother
I'm a single dad of 4 kids and it's the easiest job in the world to stay at home and look after the kids, I often feel lazy for not working 😅 I always laugh when mothers try say it's hard or a full time job. 😂😂😂
Ima need more context if she has to work until 12 I could understand a little bit but if she’s just staying out all day then no she doesn’t need to be a mother
@classicvr2167 the sister "works" during the day but doesn't come home till 12 am and goes right to bed. I have a feeling that job is not actually a job but her partying all the time with most of the money she gets from the children's fathers to take care of the children needs. She is not buying any healthy food and only buying cheap food that is making her youngest sick. Which is how OP found out what was going on. The 16 year old is more responsible than her own mother is who doesn't want to take care of the children at all.
@@sadiekincaid5310she only works part time and the rest of it she tries to become a beauty influencer. She's literally a dead beat who only cares about herself.
That sister is the sole reason why her family fell apart not the OP. She's lucky she had a sibling willing to help raise her 4 total kids rather than have said kids be taken away by federal peoples and put into foster care.
Tbf me and my siblings learned how to make eggs at like 10 and knew how to read and follow a cool book before 16. It’s something that’s really good to know for life. I’m not saying the mom in the story is doing a good job but a 16 year old being responsible isn’t child abuse in my opinion
you’re kinda missing the point that she was left alone to raise 3 kids including a literal baby and also had to do school..?? she was parentification which many consider abuse
@@totitelevisionshow I'm sure the mom didn't fully abandon them, she abandoned them alot and come home late at night, yeah but maybe she was working? Many children have to do those kinds of stuff especially if their parents are going through something, and she is a single mom. I know somebody who goes through that and does fine in school, not saying it's okay but still... The mom was a single mom and probably needed her daughter help, The daughter not knowing how to cook is one thing, but calling her abusive is just the other.
Many people say "every kid deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a kid" this shows a true meaning for that and that is just terrible that that mother decides to blame someone for what she didn't do
Yes, being a single parent is hard but as soon as you decide to have/ keep those children they become life long responsibilities. Children need their parents or even care givers who can give them time. Neglect is one of the most difficult traumas a child could face. Its not the worst by far but its still so damaging. If a parent wants to stay important to their child, they need to make the time to show their child they are important to them. 😔
I dont exactly think the grandparents are entirely blameless either. In the full post, op says that her sister essentially has her own “apartment” in her parents house yet the grandparents didn’t notice what was going on. Their grandchildren live under their roof and they never thought to check in/spend time with their grandkids? They never noticed that their daughter was out till midnight every night, leaving her kids “alone” in their house. I’m sorry but the grandparents are almost as bad as the daughter I think since they never saw the neglect of their grandkids in their own house
@eligbell3542 the grandparents both have medical problems. The grandpa had a stork and was because taken care of by his wife till she was diagnosed with cancer. OP moved in to take care of her parents and drive her mom to her cancer treatments. OP only found out because the 16 year old asked for help learning to cook and because her nephew had matted hair so bad that it started to grow mold. When OP found out what was going on she tried to help as much as she could. The sister needs to grow up and take responsibility for her children herself and not leave it all to her 16 year old daughter. I have a feeling that part-time job is not actually a job but the sister acting like she doesn't have children and just partying all day and night with most of the money to raise her children with that comes from their fathers. OP really needs to get cps involved at this point because it is a matter of time till something happens that can't be done by the 16 year old.
I relate so much to this 16 year old tbh. When I was only 11 my mom or dad always forced me to watch my younger sister, which then turned into a younger brother. And due to all the stress as an 11/12 year old of watching two kids (a 2 year old and a 1 month old) my hair began to fall out and I began to develop anger issues that I simply can't control anymore.
We need more context here. Is the mother working her ass off and providing for the fam and not have enough time to be a mom? Is she hooking up with someone else?
@LNC4P the mom is only getting really cheap food for her children and not actually parenting them at all. The sister only works part-time and gets money from the fathers of the children to cover the needs of the children. In fact the sister doesn't need to work at all because the fathers spend enough money to cover all of the expenses. The sister just doesn't want to parent her own children and leaves it all to her 16 year old daughter who is now failing school and now has to repeat her junior year of school all because she doesn't have time to do her homework and is burned out. The mom is most likely out acting like a teenager herself instead of working to help provide for her children. The sister wants to be a beauty influencer instead of taking care of her own children. At this point the fathers need to be told what is going on as well as cps so that way the children can get the help they need as well.
As a person who has single mother please future parents never treat your kids like this be like my mom and treat your kids with so much love put your time effort into them❤
As someone who had a sick single mother and had to take care of her siblings since they were babies... this op is a godsend. It is so hard raising kids when you should be learning how to be a kid yourself...especially when you slip at school and teachers are nothing but unkind, you feel like youre failing no matter what you do.
As someone who was raised by a single mom, who parentified me until date, which am now an adult and in university it's better today but still sucks going back home. Because I became my siblings mom. This sounds awful and still hurts that my mom will never see me as her daughter but someone who is responsible for everyone. 😓
Call child services and report how the mom is neglecting and forcing her child to look after three other kids all by themselves. They will be put under your or your parents care.
My brothers 16 turning 17,I’m 14 turning 15 and my younger sister is 8. My parents vape,party, go on business trips, etc. my brother had to take care of me and my sister at the simple age of 7, me being 5 and my sister about to be born. My brother was very talented and knew every thing, even knowing how to cook. I’m stunned that it was a big thing not knowing it wasn’t normal for this to happen.
don't want people to know you're a terrible mother, don't be a terrible mother. imagine telling people "If my sister hadn't taught her how to write, you'd never have known."
Unfortunately, know a women who treated her daughter like a friend started drinking with her at 14. The daughter is now over 40 and her mom is will be 70 soon. They still party. Even though the daughter has to small children. They go on Vacation and leaves the babies with the in-laws. Why do women have kids and then seem to leave them every chance they get. I have 8 kids 32 to 4. It has been the best life and all I ever wanted was children. I have a lot of amazing memories with my kids and they make me happy. We do things together a lot. Vacations, we have horses and the two youngest and my 23 year old love the horses. I also take guitar lessons together. I take art class with two of my son's and I can't see my life without doing things with them. ❤
My old friend had the same problem here is the story: So she had like 7 or 8 siblings, her parents worked till 10(pm) she had to make money,take care of them, cook for them etc² she slept at 12:30 I only remember 2 of her siblings age 2 &5 she was really tired at school, she failed in 2 subjects I still feel sorry for her
I understand your pain. My wife had a similar issue growing up. Her "mother" used to disappear for long periods of time , leaving her to raise her siblings. They woman is pure evil. Ruined the credit of all of her children, by using their SSN's to get utilities turned on, or rent houses, then move after non payment. I saw this coming and informed her that if she even attempted any that with my family...well I am sure you can imagine. To this day, on the very rare occasion we come into contact, she goes out of her way to be nice to us.
I did this my mom was horrible as would always leave the room with me and my 4 siblings. She expect me to clean and cook and do my grades all at the same time and if I didn't I'd get my a* beaten. God this brings so many bad memories.
🎵🎵You let him hit raw, didn't have a second thought, now you're a single mom,now you're a single mom🎵🎵 No 1 ever said raising children was a 1 person job. That is why it takes 2 people to make 1 person. The sister drank all the corporate kool-aid.
Be proud that your abusive sister blames you instead of liking you more than her kids. It means not only that you've proven to her that she's wrong but how she should have been acting & that she doesn't feel like her actions are supported by you. I always take it as a point of pride when a trash person doesn't like me.
My parents are never with us physically and especially mentally to this day. When I got a younger sibling at the age of 5, I tried my best to be there for her, help her in everything, support her and protect her from the outside and toxic environment we were living at that moment. I never had to cook cause my parents hired nanny to cook and clean but they don't pay that much attention to the baby's emotional wellbeing as they aren't the parents so I was the one who took all the parents responsibilities with all of my siblings. I think children know who pay attention to them even if they are only months old. They were always clingy to me whenever I went out or whenever we went to visit somewhere. They refused to stay with my parents and cried when I am not near with them. Now my younger siblings see me and thank me for being an adult figure for them even though I was a child at the same time and my parents are furious about that and blame me for being a bad example for their children.
My mother raised the five of us while working two jobs, all in a foreign country with no family around to lean on. I believe single parents that are REAL parents can do whatever they think of, they are superheroes.
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... so, AITA?
👀 Full Story ( Details + UPDATES ) 👇
I (29F) am currently living at my parents' place (66M/59F) along with my sister (34F) and her kids (16F, 14F, 10M, and 11 months).
I moved in to help care for my mother, who has cancer, and to drive her around. My father can't drive due to a stroke, and my sister lost her driver's license. Since I work from home and have a flexible schedule, I am the best option for assisting my parents.
The kids were a mess. My sister essentially has her own apartment in the house, so my parents never really checked in on her or the kids.
One day, I noticed my 10-year-old nephew’s hair was matted. I took him to a hairstylist, who told me his hair was molding. My sister works during the day but often doesn’t come home until midnight and goes straight to sleep. I found this out because my niece asked me to show her how to cook, as her sister was getting physically sick from the ready meals in the fridge.
One day, I heard the baby crying and realized my sister was leaving the baby at home. The 16-year-old believes it's her responsibility to take care of all the kids. She is burnt out and is failing many of her classes. When she found out she had to redo her grade, her mother screamed at her. I stepped in and told my niece it’s okay and that I will help her get her grades up next year.
I tried to talk to my sister, but she always ended up crying and saying how hard it is to be a single mom. However, I found out that her ex-boyfriends are sending her money for the kids, but she chooses to work part-time while trying to become a beauty influencer.
Meanwhile, I have been taking care of the kids. They have become very attached to me and spend all their time in my part of the house. My sister hasn't seemed to care much.
The main issue came when my 14-year-old niece won a prize for young storytellers. She wrote a story clearly coping with her home life and her abusive mother. Her story was published in a magazine, she received $500, and won a one-week summer camp. At the ceremony, my niece thanked her siblings, my mother, and me, saying, "Thank you for being the mom I never had."
My sister left abruptly and reappeared yesterday. She repeatedly asked if I was saying she was a bad mother. I tried to stay calm, but she kept pushing until I finally exploded and unloaded everything: the neglect, the lack of supervision, the emotional abandonment. I told her she was not fulfilling her responsibilities as a mother and that her kids deserved better.
My sister, still furious, refused to listen and continued yelling, saying she was doing her best and I had no right to interfere. I told her that her "best" was not good enough and that her children were suffering because of her actions. I reiterated that the kids deserved a stable, nurturing environment, and that I couldn't stand by and watch them be neglected.
My sister ran away and told her daughter that if they hated her so much, then they were dead to her.
My parents are confused and hurt that they didn't see what was going on. My mother has been crying since she found out, and my father, who has a temper problem, screamed some very threatening things at my sister. My niblings are distraught. The 10-year-old is furious at the 14-year-old for saying what she did because he thinks their mother is going to take them away, and the 16-year-old had a huge panic attack and fell down.
I haven't properly slept, and my sister is sending me messages every 10 minutes telling me their life was good before me.
I am at the end of my rope. Did I do something wrong? Should I have just kept my mouth shut?
... so, AITA?
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@@BloxyFruitYTyour kinda just looked at this to get the whole story so idk if your stupid or stupid ofc it’s gonna be long just look at the video and they didn’t finish it within 60 seconds
So, instead of fixing it, she ran from it? Good. Makes it easier for the kids to forget her.
No op should not have kept it to themselves. They should have called cps.
@BloxyFruitYT their giving us the full story so we dont have to go to a part 2, so dont be so mean
Your sister is not a mother. She was someone who had children. Please continue to b a mother for these kids.. I'm surprised that CPS is not involved . Praying for you and the kids. There are many single parents who are true mothers.
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Yeah, CPS don't Get involved when they should. Even of they Do, foster system is Fucked up with a Capital F
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Cps when neither parent is present in any of their children’s lives and/or physically and mentally abuses their kids: I sleep.
Cps when a family is 0.01 dollars below the poverty line: sorry I diagnose you with FELONY!
How do you fail to realize that this is a person copy pasting Reddit post into an AI speech generator? You’re not responding to the person in this story, your providing engagement that some guy halfway across the world is farming
She works part time, gets Child Support and still allowed her own child to have such poor condition that he had Mold in his Hair.
I wouldn't even call her Human.
She isnt blaming you for ruining her family she is blaming you for opening her eyes to it
Yeah. She's pretty much regretting her choices and taking it out on her sister.
Nta. Some people need a reality check. She is providing them with child support, nothing else. It is normal for a 16 year old to know how to cook. The moldy hair takes so long to actually develop to that stage. She should be glad her sister is helping her
The mother only works part time and is trying to become a beauty influencer and the dads do send money to support the children. So most likely she isn’t really providing any child support.
It’s hard to know how to cook if you don’t see an example. Or maybe even don’t have some tools
It might be normal for a 16 year old to know how to cook but it is absolutely not her responsibility to care for her younger siblings.
Parentification of any teen is child abuse.
As someone who have a single mother, this is half right
a child won't be able to cook if not being teach on how to, and their mother won't be able to because of Work.
It is hard to be a single mother because a family need someone who work for money and one to take care of the child. And I totally don't blame anyone in this story
Every child deserves a mother, but not every mother deserves a child
Wise man.
a comment made by Truley stupid people
Why if the mom was out late working ?
@michaelrogers9720 the full story was that she didn't need to be working, and was neglecting her kids. Her kid had mold in their hair. She was making her oldest kid raise her other kids. And then she left
F that. I was a single mom, in recovery for m*th and her*in addiction. I worked 40-50 hours a week, got my kids back from DFS, went through college, and now I have a degree, a good job, own a home, and most importantly a great relationship w my daughters who I have full custody of. Life is hard. Find your strength.
Good on you momma! You are an amazing person and I am truly so happy that you managed to find the strength!
You own your house?! Girlie, that's one heck of a recovery! Congrats on your journey 😊
@whyareyouhere3698 thank you so much 💗
@PaulinaGnecco it's FAR from paid off lol and not a palace by any means. But it's our lil spot filled with peace and love 😊
@irism4021 thank you for the love ❤️
Your sister needs to relies that she is not mother! Thank you for stepping up for those children!
She’s still biologically their mother.
@@CrunchySlice156doesn’t matter. She’s still not their real mother. A real mother would care about them and take care of them and raise them. She did none of those things.
@@WhatEvenThat I’m talking about blood, not how helpful she is or something. Still biologically her mother. Even if op is better than her by a long shot.
@@CrunchySlice156mother. Not mom
@@somanymodsithurts8637 That’s what I said??
Her: it's so hard to be a single mom
Also her: gets pregnant many times
Also
Her: it's so ard to be a single mom
also her: leaves it to her oldest daughter instead
I know, right? It's so difficult to be a single mom yet she got pregnant over and over again. She acts as if someone forced her into all those pregnancies.
Well it could've been the case sadly not that unlikely still not an excuse to treat the kids like that though @@24wallachian
@99Em07 sure, but abortions are an options. Adopting them out is an option. And that's not an excuse for anything that happened. And kids don't have to be babies to be put up for adoption. Obviously she's not in those relationships anymore so it's not like anyone is forcing her to keep her children
@SuperCoolPersonCalledLillith in many parts of the USA, yes. But them being illegal doesn't stop them from happening, and there are ways to obtain them still, but options are getting more and more limited.
But in some states, including mine, abortions are protected under state law.
I would say that the OP needs to report the sister for child neglect, and if she can and wants to adopt the children because they clearly love the OP and don’t want to be taken away from her.
The the sister to call herself a mother is offensive to actual mother.
Yes! God bless 🥰
People are forgetting the part where she is a single mother I'm sure she cones home late at night from working, she could have helped her sister out but it's like the her kids grown attached to the sister making her look like a bad guy, I'm sure the mom wasn't even abusing them.....(My opinion)
@@Hnxzs Maybe not physically abusing them, but you probably didn't read the full thing. She works days and comes back at midnight. MIDNIGHT. SHE WORKS DAYS. Also, they didn't grow attach to OP for no reason. OP was someone who cared for them and taught the children stuff. That's a reason to like someone more than your mother who never sees you and lets bad stuff happen in your life with no care at all.
@@therealLuckyviolet I never knew she worked multiple days without being home, sorry I never got to see the original post, but I never said that they've grown attached to OP for no reason too. I still feel the daughter overdid it with saying she is abusive tho....
@@Hnxzs it is called parentification and it is a form of abuse, as is neglect. I am deeply sorry fir whatever makes you think otherwise and I hope things are alright for you
That’s when You get a lawyer, also get statements from everyone that has witnessed those babies neglect. All that gaslighting should warrant You a restraining order. To the trash with that looser. Thank You for protecting those children. GOD will reward You handsomely.
get the sisters side before you condemn her? or would that be to intelligent for your dumb ass brain
“Every Child Deserves A Parent, But Not Every Parent Deserves A Child.”
This is true. Whoever wrote this quote, is someone of truth.
Don't have a kid if you can't take care of them. They aren't dolls.
Exactly 💯
Take your sister to court. Gain custody of those kids.
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God bless you for helping nieces.. Continue to do your best..
Nta. Although the 16 year old should know how to cook. I applaud her for reaching out to learn. The mother of these kids shouldn't have custody.
Well if the mom is neglectful, I'm sure she didn't teach her daughter a lot of things. I can speak from experience, I had to learn everything on my own cause my mom sure as fuck wasn't helping or doing it.
She sound like the person who still wants to have fun at her children’s expense and when she is confronted she’d says something like “well I didn’t know becoming a mother would mean not having fun”
My mom is just like this woman. It's pretty much that and everything is so hard. Yet when I was struggling in school cause I was taking care of her elderly mother & my little brother, she always threw that in my face that life is tough and I need to stop acting like I have the worst life ever. They love to throw reality in people's faces but don't live it.
I would keep the medical report from that check up you took the 10 yo to, so that you can prove her neglect just in case. If you think it's the right call, involve CPS and gather proof of your sisters neglect and abuse so that you can provide those kids with the love they deserve.
holy no replies?
nah bro wrote like 10000 word essay
and no replies and only 112 like?
not that badon the likes but dang replies naaaahhh
True being a single mom is hard . But she chose to keep having kids. U can't be mad cause u messed up. Being a parent is hard bur being a mom is a blessing do better
Thank you for doing what needs to be done in society
'Grrrr how dare you help the child I abuse🤡'
My mom was a single mom of 2 - my younger sister and I. She never got a dime of child support from our father, and ended up bedbound when I was in 2nd grade, but she never stopped loving us and caring for us.
Single moms can be loving mothers. This woman is actively choosing not to.
A Certified “you turned her against me!”
“You have done that yourself” moment.
Really reminds me of my mom and the situation im in.. i hope the niece gets help with her siblings
I would call CPS and report her for child abuse
Yknow honestly at this point the fight for custody could start… it would make such an impact on the children’s life to be in a household where they are being taken care of.
"Read a parenting book and then talk" is the perfect reply
Maybe this girl…
now hear me out here guys…
Just like hear me out
Maybe she shouldn’t have had 4 kids.
Mom destroyed her own family all on her own.
She's a dead beat mother and as for this sister I respect u for helping your necie
First I feel the sister/mother needs to be directly addressed. The sister has shown herself incapable of care for the children and not interested in improving their lives. I Agree CPS needs to be called. In a perfect world the mother would be arrested and all of the harshest punishments brought against her....NTAH
this is what family is for. this is how you are supposed to care for eachother, not how that mother did but how the aunt, the kid’s true mom, cared for them.
NTA. Don't act like a mother, you arent one, act like a mother, you are one.
My eldest sibling, my sister learned to cook and care for us because my father was busy with work and my mother looking for a job, both just out of the military when I was born. My sister has been taking care of us before she was 10, and graduated with all As never repeating a grade. Proud of her.
My mom was a single mother most of her entire life and she has 4 kids and she’s still pulling through without any help from a man so stay strong ladies 💪
That 16 year old is going through what I went through only my father was a good dad working a lot to support us and my mom was off partying and doing dr*gs all the time. Leaving me to take care of the house and siblings. When dad got sick and had to do chemo, she left. I had to give up college for 10 years because I would not let my father for one go through his illness alone like that, and two because my siblings were scared and confused and needed me to be strong and there for them as well. I love my dad and siblings very much. I would do again too, sometimes I'm angry though because my mom shouldn't have been such a horrible person.
I feel you. My mom left me to care for my grandma(her mother) for drugs & men. Neither of us deserved that
You should've taken custody of them all girl...
🎶You let hit it raw
🎶 You didn't have second thoughts
🎶 Now you're single mom
Condoms nor birth control are 100% effective, I get your point but it does make that much sense since plenty of people use protection & still end up pregnant.
NTA. Get CPS involved ASAP. Those kids need to be removed from that horrible mom.
I just would laughe in her face "Honey ,you destroyed it all by yourself, No worries."
"Tears for the writer, tears for the reader."
-my 8th grade English teacher
this happens more often than you’d think it’s rlly upsettingn
The fact that she did ALL of that to her kids and when she was asked about it she played the victim. That woman is SICK
She should do them a favor and just never come back.
You should do everyone a favour and never come back to the comment section
@@SabaRangipour-lk9eethey meant the mother should never come back, not OP. You’d think that’d be obvious, but apparently not.
I rlly hope my sister doesn’t turn out like this but sometimes I fear that she might
Sooner or later the sister will realise she's the one who ruined the family by not being there for her own children
It’s sad that the quote that says “all children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children” is true. 😢
"YOU DESTORYED MY FAMI-"
**Slapss across face**
If you'd "stayed out of it" the way your sister suggested, the kids would have eventually been separated from their mother anyway. You did well. Report the entire mess to CPS and let them know you're prepared to take custody.
Has the sister never heard of condoms, birth control pills/implants/shots, or keeping her legs closed?🤷🏼♀️🤯
I’ll never understand women not using protection to prevent unwanted pregnancy!🤨
If you don’t want kiddo’s, don’t have adult tickle time.🤦🏼♀️😂
Apparently not even the ex bfs were able to be responsible with their sex life
Or maybe abortions.
@@pokemonsonicgirl123That’s murder, so hell no. Just keep your damn legs closed, it’s not that hard.
@@BPJD2004 No it's not. Is it really hard to not get raped?
I know being a single mother is hard, but why on earth would you have so many kids? Wild.
should get full custody of them and use the published story as evidence and take care of them right
"All children deserves parents, but not every parent deserves children"
NTA - Your sister needs CPS called on her.
Call CPS and take the kids under your wing because I can tell they’re already attached to you just the 10 year old doesn’t know what’s going on so he’s just upset you’re doing perfectly fine. You just need to get CPS involved in this. You need to gather information and you need to get all abuse the neglect you’re gonna save the kids from future disasters and you’re gonna give them a life they deserve, instead of having neglectful and abusive mother
I'm a single dad of 4 kids and it's the easiest job in the world to stay at home and look after the kids, I often feel lazy for not working 😅 I always laugh when mothers try say it's hard or a full time job. 😂😂😂
Ima need more context if she has to work until 12 I could understand a little bit but if she’s just staying out all day then no she doesn’t need to be a mother
@classicvr2167 the sister "works" during the day but doesn't come home till 12 am and goes right to bed. I have a feeling that job is not actually a job but her partying all the time with most of the money she gets from the children's fathers to take care of the children needs. She is not buying any healthy food and only buying cheap food that is making her youngest sick. Which is how OP found out what was going on. The 16 year old is more responsible than her own mother is who doesn't want to take care of the children at all.
@@sadiekincaid5310she only works part time and the rest of it she tries to become a beauty influencer. She's literally a dead beat who only cares about herself.
The quote "Every child needs a parent but not every parent deserves a child" fit's perfectly
Poor girl I think she’s just trying her best as a single mother
No.
That sister is the sole reason why her family fell apart not the OP. She's lucky she had a sibling willing to help raise her 4 total kids rather than have said kids be taken away by federal peoples and put into foster care.
Tbf me and my siblings learned how to make eggs at like 10 and knew how to read and follow a cool book before 16. It’s something that’s really good to know for life. I’m not saying the mom in the story is doing a good job but a 16 year old being responsible isn’t child abuse in my opinion
you’re kinda missing the point that she was left alone to raise 3 kids including a literal baby and also had to do school..?? she was parentification which many consider abuse
Eggs are a pretty good start to learn from cooking, but I have no idea why you said tbf
@@totitelevisionshow I'm sure the mom didn't fully abandon them, she abandoned them alot and come home late at night, yeah but maybe she was working? Many children have to do those kinds of stuff especially if their parents are going through something, and she is a single mom. I know somebody who goes through that and does fine in school, not saying it's okay but still... The mom was a single mom and probably needed her daughter help, The daughter not knowing how to cook is one thing, but calling her abusive is just the other.
@@Hnxzsthat's literally neglect, which can be considered abusive
@@tyutyururu I don't really think so, but okay I mean not all parents are perfect but then again, okay
Many people say "every kid deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a kid" this shows a true meaning for that and that is just terrible that that mother decides to blame someone for what she didn't do
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Yes, being a single parent is hard but as soon as you decide to have/ keep those children they become life long responsibilities. Children need their parents or even care givers who can give them time. Neglect is one of the most difficult traumas a child could face. Its not the worst by far but its still so damaging. If a parent wants to stay important to their child, they need to make the time to show their child they are important to them. 😔
I dont exactly think the grandparents are entirely blameless either. In the full post, op says that her sister essentially has her own “apartment” in her parents house yet the grandparents didn’t notice what was going on. Their grandchildren live under their roof and they never thought to check in/spend time with their grandkids? They never noticed that their daughter was out till midnight every night, leaving her kids “alone” in their house. I’m sorry but the grandparents are almost as bad as the daughter I think since they never saw the neglect of their grandkids in their own house
@eligbell3542 the grandparents both have medical problems. The grandpa had a stork and was because taken care of by his wife till she was diagnosed with cancer. OP moved in to take care of her parents and drive her mom to her cancer treatments. OP only found out because the 16 year old asked for help learning to cook and because her nephew had matted hair so bad that it started to grow mold. When OP found out what was going on she tried to help as much as she could. The sister needs to grow up and take responsibility for her children herself and not leave it all to her 16 year old daughter. I have a feeling that part-time job is not actually a job but the sister acting like she doesn't have children and just partying all day and night with most of the money to raise her children with that comes from their fathers. OP really needs to get cps involved at this point because it is a matter of time till something happens that can't be done by the 16 year old.
I relate so much to this 16 year old tbh. When I was only 11 my mom or dad always forced me to watch my younger sister, which then turned into a younger brother. And due to all the stress as an 11/12 year old of watching two kids (a 2 year old and a 1 month old) my hair began to fall out and I began to develop anger issues that I simply can't control anymore.
We need more context here. Is the mother working her ass off and providing for the fam and not have enough time to be a mom? Is she hooking up with someone else?
@LNC4P the mom is only getting really cheap food for her children and not actually parenting them at all. The sister only works part-time and gets money from the fathers of the children to cover the needs of the children. In fact the sister doesn't need to work at all because the fathers spend enough money to cover all of the expenses. The sister just doesn't want to parent her own children and leaves it all to her 16 year old daughter who is now failing school and now has to repeat her junior year of school all because she doesn't have time to do her homework and is burned out. The mom is most likely out acting like a teenager herself instead of working to help provide for her children. The sister wants to be a beauty influencer instead of taking care of her own children. At this point the fathers need to be told what is going on as well as cps so that way the children can get the help they need as well.
She’s not being a good mother! What the hell extra context would excuse this behavior??
"Every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid."
No wonder they got attached to you. You were the only thing they had.
I was a mother someone never had as well. My parents were neglecting us so I had to take care of my sister. She told me I was better than mum.
As a person who has single mother please future parents never treat your kids like this be like my mom and treat your kids with so much love put your time effort into them❤
As someone who had a sick single mother and had to take care of her siblings since they were babies... this op is a godsend. It is so hard raising kids when you should be learning how to be a kid yourself...especially when you slip at school and teachers are nothing but unkind, you feel like youre failing no matter what you do.
You're never the bad one for helping a child.
I like how it wasn't told why she comes so late
As someone who was raised by a single mom, who parentified me until date, which am now an adult and in university it's better today but still sucks going back home. Because I became my siblings mom. This sounds awful and still hurts that my mom will never see me as her daughter but someone who is responsible for everyone. 😓
No good deed goes unpunished 😆
If her kids hate her soooo much and HER OWN SISTER then they should try to put themes in the mother’s shoes 😡
An absent mother who barely does anything, the only income she has is from a part time job, and her ex boyfriend all while living with her parents?
my mother was 8 when she needed to take care of her brother so yeah 16 is like nothing
Call child services and report how the mom is neglecting and forcing her child to look after three other kids all by themselves. They will be put under your or your parents care.
My brothers 16 turning 17,I’m 14 turning 15 and my younger sister is 8. My parents vape,party, go on business trips, etc. my brother had to take care of me and my sister at the simple age of 7, me being 5 and my sister about to be born. My brother was very talented and knew every thing, even knowing how to cook. I’m stunned that it was a big thing not knowing it wasn’t normal for this to happen.
that's parentification, sue her parents and report it all to the police.
don't want people to know you're a terrible mother, don't be a terrible mother.
imagine telling people "If my sister hadn't taught her how to write, you'd never have known."
Unfortunately, know a women who treated her daughter like a friend started drinking with her at 14. The daughter is now over 40 and her mom is will be 70 soon. They still party. Even though the daughter has to small children. They go on Vacation and leaves the babies with the in-laws. Why do women have kids and then seem to leave them every chance they get. I have 8 kids 32 to 4. It has been the best life and all I ever wanted was children. I have a lot of amazing memories with my kids and they make me happy. We do things together a lot. Vacations, we have horses and the two youngest and my 23 year old love the horses. I also take guitar lessons together. I take art class with two of my son's and I can't see my life without doing things with them. ❤
You did the right thing helping your neice
My old friend had the same problem here is the story:
So she had like 7 or 8 siblings, her parents worked till 10(pm) she had to make money,take care of them, cook for them etc² she slept at 12:30 I only remember 2 of her siblings age 2 &5 she was really tired at school, she failed in 2 subjects I still feel sorry for her
op needs to call CPS like yesterday!
I understand your pain. My wife had a similar issue growing up. Her "mother" used to disappear for long periods of time , leaving her to raise her siblings. They woman is pure evil. Ruined the credit of all of her children, by using their SSN's to get utilities turned on, or rent houses, then move after non payment. I saw this coming and informed her that if she even attempted any that with my family...well I am sure you can imagine. To this day, on the very rare occasion we come into contact, she goes out of her way to be nice to us.
Destroy is an understatement. He broke it down and built it up from ground zero
mother is a title, but it MUST be earned like father
My mom's a single mother. So are many others.
I have a friend who was a single mom to SIX kids.
She took care of them and loved them
Why does she keep having kids if being a single parent is so hard.
it could have been an accident
Call CPS and get those kids away from her!!!!
That "I'm a single Mom" is just a crutch for her. Make sure she stays away from her
I did this my mom was horrible as would always leave the room with me and my 4 siblings. She expect me to clean and cook and do my grades all at the same time and if I didn't I'd get my a* beaten. God this brings so many bad memories.
I'm sorry the moment the fish clip played I lost it 😂
Every child deserves a parent. Not every parent deserves a child.
🎵🎵You let him hit raw, didn't have a second thought, now you're a single mom,now you're a single mom🎵🎵
No 1 ever said raising children was a 1 person job. That is why it takes 2 people to make 1 person. The sister drank all the corporate kool-aid.
You saved her family may God bless if this is real but even if it isn't may God bless you
The audacity of her to blame op when she destroyed the family herself 💀 narcissists are horrible people
How can u destroy a family she never had?
Be proud that your abusive sister blames you instead of liking you more than her kids. It means not only that you've proven to her that she's wrong but how she should have been acting & that she doesn't feel like her actions are supported by you. I always take it as a point of pride when a trash person doesn't like me.
My parents are never with us physically and especially mentally to this day. When I got a younger sibling at the age of 5, I tried my best to be there for her, help her in everything, support her and protect her from the outside and toxic environment we were living at that moment. I never had to cook cause my parents hired nanny to cook and clean but they don't pay that much attention to the baby's emotional wellbeing as they aren't the parents so I was the one who took all the parents responsibilities with all of my siblings. I think children know who pay attention to them even if they are only months old. They were always clingy to me whenever I went out or whenever we went to visit somewhere. They refused to stay with my parents and cried when I am not near with them. Now my younger siblings see me and thank me for being an adult figure for them even though I was a child at the same time and my parents are furious about that and blame me for being a bad example for their children.
My mother raised the five of us while working two jobs, all in a foreign country with no family around to lean on. I believe single parents that are REAL parents can do whatever they think of, they are superheroes.