I sent him old letters of 1,5 year ago. He was heartbroken, eventhough i didnt expect that he really cared. We are back together. We are at the best point of our relationship now.
g jfmd hey, just wanted to ask how you handled his positive response? I sent him a letter a he responded positively. But I’m not sure what I should do now. Did your ex come back right after or?
@@TandakutipKesambet _"I sent him old letters of 1,5 year ago."_ I took this to mean that she sent back some (physical?) letters that he had written during the relationship. I really don't know what she meant.
I also wrote him a letter before, and he loved it said it was beautiful. He also said that writing letter shows work and that you put time into writing the letter.
I finally wrote and sent that handwritten letter. I did not tell him how I felt about him be I think it’s irrelevant at this point. I simply accepted my part in the break up, acknowledging my issues and acknowledge that I hurt him. I apologized and told him I have closed the chapter. Not expecting a response; but I needed to take accountability for destroying our relationship. I can move forward in peace. I feel much better since I sent it.
I wrote a letter to my ex after 4 months and she sent back the letter unopened lmao, showed how much she cared. She moved on a week after the break up, pretty sad!
this was the response I got from the accountability letter I sent (i ended it but want to get back with her, she's started seeing somone) ''I have just opened the box and read your letter, Thankyou so much, that was really lovely to read. I'm so glad you've become this new you who can now handle and manage your feelings, that's amazing. I really do hope you look after yourself Jamie, you know I'm always here x'' Where to go from here?
Im a guy. I was the dumper. She was crazy jealous and controlling. But I loved her. It broke my heart to end the relationship. And it didnt end on friendly terms. After a year she doesn't even reply to my texts. I will just write a letter saying that I'm sorry for everything. I need it to move on.
Wrote a letter last thursday, no respond as yet. I know you guys might be in pain and afraid to lose the person you love. One key thing that keeps me going is that i need to work on myself and what i personally did to push my ex away. But at the same time you must be realistic, they might come back and they might not. If they do at the end, guess what? You have mentally prepared yourself to be better, more mature and more confident in the way you move and the words you say. It's going to be your choice if you want to accept them back or not. This channel gave me hope and guidance when i was lost, wished i had found this channel earlier.
In my case it wasn’t a mistake per say. I introduced a new thing to him that he could not handle. I told him before we tried it was 90% important now I wish I wouldn’t have told him that, and I can live with out it. I wrote a 4 page letter still holding to the letter. Best, Amy
Really Thanks for giving 2 key points for writing the letter. What I have learned and I won't do then again. However, my letter had been dumped right away. So I will abandon there. And live a better life with myself! Move on mates!! 😁
I have a letter to my Ex (we were together for eight years broke up on the 9th of this month.) I have it saved on my phone. I don't know if I will ever send it to him but It was therapeutic to get out my feelings.
The letter I sent is waiting in his mailbox right now *gulp* fingers crossed! I decided on this method after a comment he had made a few months back. He lost a sister, and someone had sent him a card via snail mail, and he found it very special that someone had actually taken the time to put something in the mail. Hopefully the time I took to hand write to him will impress him to some degree. No begging, no pleading, I kept it very low key, passed along some information on how I have improved myself, and planted some pretty good seeds...I hope! Wish me luck!
I wrote a letter months after the breakup. The relationship lasted a few years & I think now she is seeing someone else, I feel it's a rebound. Anyway the letter was my only way of communicating with her. I wrote everything on how when we first met, what I learned from the relationship & where I was wrong, and memories of places we went together that stood out in my head. The next day she called me late at night from a private number, but I was asleep & missed her calls. In her voicemail she told me she's happy & at peace, kind of telling me she wishes me the best. A week & a half goes by and she called late at night, but I missed her call again. Another week & a half goes by, she called & this time I was able to answer. We talked for over 35 minutes & she was a little emotional. She never spoke about getting back together and I didn't either. I mainly spoke about what I learned & where I was wrong in the relationship & how my feelings have grown for her. On her part she said looking back the relationship was bad & as much as it hurts to say it, I need to be able to move on & meet other people. It makes me feel she has moved on, but I dont see how she can so soon, especially after living with me for over 4 years. It's been a week since she called & I haven't heard from her. I feel like if she called she has to miss me. I'm not sure what to do next if anything
If anyone can give me some advice please do. With this time apart I've realized how much I love her. I'm going to continue to just work & focus on self improvement, but should I do anything else on my part? Should I reach out to her more or just let it be?
Steven L I wish I could give you some advice. I’m currently working on myself and will eventually write her a letter. I expect a similar response and your ex gave you. How are you doing now?
I just broke up with my ex due to the start of long d (6000miles) that wouldnt be solved in short term. Our daily interaction and conversation turned from all variety of meaningful, light, and romantic things into complains, frustration and sadness because of the lack of physical companion. I was panicing to fix the problem but she said shes done. I felt betrayed and upset so I overracted during the breakup, begging her, telling her I love her, and insulting her for leaving me. She said she was disappointed to see me like this and deleted me all the way on social media. I m on NC rn but I feel that I have been reflecting myself, my insecurity, and my lack of confidence and selfesteem in this relationship and I plan to write her a letter someday.
He broke up with me two days ago now and I’m heart broken I don’t know why it happened but I wrote him a 12 page letter and bought him a birthday present I just hope he reads it and realises that we need to fight for what we have
I'm sorry but this is the worst advice for getting an ex back. Most people here have been dumped for being too needy. The last thing you want to do is send a letter that is essentially pleading for them back and giving the ex all the power and validation. Never ever do this, this only works if you were the dumper or you fucked up bad which led to the breakup. What you need to do is give space and then get back in contact, try to keep the mood light and casual, have fun and flirt, all while avoiding giving her needless validation. The needless validation you gave and the attempts of asking for their validation is what got you dumped in the first place.
Hello, it depend what kind of letter. Because giving space without actions will not help you make him/her understand your attitude and mistakes. Thinking just about radio silence and not communication is a HUGE mistake my friend. The letter that I use is powerful and every word is important. Being distant is ok for 5% of all the breakups but not all of them... Best
Is sending the letter a bad idea if shes seeing someone new? I feel the no contact has lead her to think I dont want her anymore which lead her to finding someone new. . when i really do care and love her
I don't know Alexandre, the people on this channel give mixed advise, some advocate no contact 100%, others say it depends, and everything in between. Now you say in only 5% of the cases it is a good idea. This is very confusing, to be honest!
Hey Pat, Thanks for your insights. Although all of our coaches have their own unique style and approach, our message and our philosophy is always consistent. From experience we know that each breakup is unique and deserves a tailored road map and plan, and the truth is that private coaching sessions is always the best investment you can make when looking for answers based on what you are going through. However we also recognize that not everyone can afford private coaching sessions, and so we've set out to give a maximum amount of content free of charge on Love Advice TV in order to help a max amount of people all over the world find answers by providing general tools and perspective that individuals face in your day to day based on different types of breakups and relationships. The advice has to be general in that sense as we are addressing a large audience, and that's why you may feel at times that the advice that you are hearing isn't consistent or somewhat confusing. But if you take the time to study our videos, you can in fact understand our philosophy quickly, develop your own road map and coach yourself through the breakup recovery process. Either way we are pulling for you, and we will continue to do our utmost to provide you with tools and perspective based on the different cases and success stories from our coaching sessions that occur every single day. Hope this helps and best of luck! Sincerely, Adrian
I think if writing is one of your talents, and you take the time to word it right, then writing a letter to an ex-lover can be a secret weapon FOR A GUY. I feel women can actually fall in love with you thru your words and the thoughts those words put into the woman's head. I know because I've actually been the guy that had a woman fall for me just from letters I wrote to her. When we actually did see each other she was 100% ready to get into a relationship with me. But I feel the way men work, a woman writing us a letter isn't REALLY gonna change how we feel about them. We're more about physical presence.
Well said!! It happened to me too. She and I developed very strong feelings for each other before we even met. It was a long distance relationship. We live just a few hours drive away from each other and had plans to meet very soon but then the coronavirus thing popped up and she got very depressed and we broke up. Of course there's more to it but I'm hoping we eventually get back together.
My Ex blocked me so writing a letter was my only option, but I made sure it was not a mushy love letter and I also did not act needy. She just wants to be friends so I didn't push a relationship in the letter. I just simply said being friends is fine. This way I'm keeping our communication open in case things do develop into a relationship again. Best thing I can do at this point is not push anything and just let her come to me if she wants to. It also leaves the door open if we want to date other people. Right now I don't want to but as time goes by and she doesn't show any interest but friendship then you never know I might meet another special person and want to move on with them.
I followed the guidelines and wrote him a letter. No begging, no pleading, no telling him how much I love him and want him back. I put myself in his shoes and focus on what I’ve learnt after the split. For now he has no response. What should I do?
Hi Emily, you need to be patient. Letter take time to get delivered, read, and digested. You can't expect immediate results. Things take time - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Ugggg I wrote 8t expressing how we were both under stress,Life changes etc. I learned to listen better. He replied. "Thank you it meant so much, I feel were tried and it has not worked more than once, Not sure why, but It doesn't work. Thank U" 😔 now what
This really works. Me and my ex gf were together for only three months. She broke up with me for being insecure and controlling. I wrote her a letter 17 days after our break up . She texted me the day she got the letter telling me she was a mistake.
I wrote a closure letter (2 weeks after begging) not with the hope of winning her back but to state my feelings for her, writing that I did do some mistakes but also to tell her goodbye. She hasnt replied to me. This was 40 days ago.
Okay, what if one of the issues was that your ex couldn’t stand when you expressed yourself through written words, like would actually get mad at that even if they were heartfelt and positive? Then what’s the alternative to writing them a letter that they don’t want to read anyway?
Funny enough I wrote a letter that met exactly all the criteria on this video, which kind of relives me right now. My ex broke up with me 3 1/2 weeks ago and I didn't have complete no contact, but some kind of half way, just asking if he would meet up which we did 2 1/2 weeks into the break up. I already had the letter written there and I read it out loud to him, crying like crazy actually but kind of reading wit determination because everything I wrote in this letter is true. The meeting was too early for him. He loved the letter but he kind of rejected me again. He basically told me how he doesn't know if he'll ever be able to love me again and that he won't tell me to wait for him too since he can't guaranty me anything. We actually had some weird half date kind of situation on that meet up, talking about each other (new thoughts and things that happened, not old stuff) for 4 hours which was nice but hurtful at the same time. After that I kind of broke down emotionally. I told him I was not able to go to his place to get my stuff after all, which I asked him about on the meet up and he actually reacted with compassion telling me not to do anything that I don't want and that he completely understands. And that meeting me also didn't just went by without emotions for him. And saying again how he thought the letter was the most beautiful thing he was ever allowed to listen to. I then wrote him I'll leave the letter in his mail box because I didn't give him the letter on the meet up. And when I did the day before yesterday, he actually took his time to thank me for giving him the letter because it is very important to him and the letter means a lot to him. Now, I'm a highly sensitiv person. On one hand I love the way I'm changing, the way I'm thinking about myself and I'm enjoying the way I'm treating myself now. But when ever I have just one thought in the wrong direction I'm breaking apart. And I have compassion for myself and I can get myself out of these situations after some hours most of the time but the hope is killing me. I can't properly deal with it because I also feel like it's always hitting form another angle which makes it hard to prepare for it and to shield myself from it. I know I should let go of him to be able to properly heal but I also don't want to force me into anything because that is what I am used to doing to myself and it not only never works properly, I also don't want to treat myself that way anymore. What I'm feeling is real and it's ok. I just don't know if I am able to deal with the hope, with this rollercoaster, these aftershocks. These type of feelings really stress me out a lot.
HELP!!! she's a hard working single mum. I'm unemployed with an anxiety condition. we've been friends for 9 years and last year we got together with me writing her a letter and winning her heart. we saw each other 3 times in 3 months because she's so busy. I've been needy and wanting to see her a lot. she'd cancelled on me 5 times in a row. I have been smothering with gifts, calling her and texting to much now ive pushed her away. she's said our lives don't match and that she feels suffocated with my need to see her. I do not want to lose her from my life. I love her (never expected to). what should I do? HELP!!
Oh damn 😳 when I looked this up, I was thinking more of writing a letter of what you want to say to be healing/cathartic not an actual letter to send. Yeah this was not what I was trying to find 😂😂
What if she thought I had been manipulative and that had been a misunderstanding because I had not ben manipulative or controlling at all. Should I still say why I would not make that mistake again?
Wrote her a letter, following your advice. She replied right after, saying she recognized her mistakes as well and agreed separating was the best decision for both of us. She also said there were many reasons for breaking up and some of them I was mentioning in my letter, but now we had to move on. On suggesting I would bring her stuff back when I am in her area, she said that if she couldn't meet me she will send some other family member to pick it up. She ended by saying thank you for everything. I was happy she replied, but I was disappointed about what she replied to somebody she said repeatedly to be the love of her life, even more when I didn't make any big mistakes. I put so much into that letter and put my pants down in an un-needy way about recognizing my mistakes and how I changed,, and now she reacts quite cold. She doesn't seem to feel a vacuum, now sign of appreciation, and doesn't even seem to want to see me again? Pretty strange... What do you suggest?
Hi Pat, At least now you've reset your relationship! I would try to establish a face to face meeting for the future (but there's no need to rush in doing this!) and then use that momentum to spark the flame. If you'd like guidance, I invite you to schedule a session with me. I'd love to help! www.withmyexagain.com/coaching I hope this helps! Natalie
She doesn’t want to see you because it would be emotionally hard on her, which might give you some comfort, because it shows she cared. What you had was real when you had it, but people fall out of love. She does not want to be with you, but that means you are now open to the right woman who will be thrilled you’re single. I’m going through this myself and it is absolute misery...four months of torment. I get it. You have to move on to the next stage of life. There is so much great content on RUclips to help with that. Good luck to you!
I mean all this is great. But what do you do when you don't even know what it was that you did for your ex to have left you? I mean when they leave without telling you why. How do you tell them then what you've learnt, and what mistakes do you promise to not repeat if you don't even know your own mistakes??! I'm so confused.
HI Aratrika De, thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, there are certain things that men are just unwilling to say/admit/talk about. You can usually pinpoint the reason they left you based on what you usually argued about or what caused tension between you two www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ - Coach Steven
I agree with what your saying. If there is no truth be told conversation, then they took an easy way out. If someone can't even break up with you with at least that respect enough to have that conversation then they don't deserve you. You care way more for them then they do about you. It's just makes it impossible to try to move on because you care more than they do or Love them more when there is no true goodbye, a reason why. Being true to yourself knowing you deserve to be around a person who can't imagine not being near you, with you, always is something real and it will show in the way that person treats you, respects you, and pays mind to what your heart cares about in this world.
Aratrika, just move on. I was in 3y relationship LDR and when hes gone i post a letter. And totally gone. He found me on facebook 7-8years after and want me back to see him (i didnt see his effort). I wont. i was in 5y relationship and just broke up again few months ago. Tough year
You should know what happened. If he really loved you and you loved him. I didn't try hard enough with my wife when she broke up with me. We were seperated a month and she started seeing a guy she used to make fun of. We still lived together. Im stronger because of videos like these. I made every mistake they talk about. Multiple times before i found these videos. They have been in this new relationship close to 4 months now. I just moved out of our place 3weeks ago. i paid the last months rent 2 days ago. We have 2 kids. We were together 13 years, married 9. I know what i did wrong. Im changing for her and myself. I still love her so much. She said there's no chance of us getting back together again. Watching these videos gave me a goal. I know it may never happen. And I'll be happy again someday if not but. Im gonna work my ass off to get her to fall for me again. Even if i only have a 1% chance... Shes my love! I dont give up on the ones i love... Even if i re-marry. I will always love her.
hi! thanks for the inspiration and the hard work. if you are in the middle of the process, isn't the hand written letter putting your ex on a pedestal? i ve done some mistakes so far (4 months pursuing her, being emotional, put her on a pedestal) and she is with someone else. my chances are low but i am confident. can the letter change the dynamics?
Ive been debating on whether I should write a letter or not. Its been a year since it happened. Even though we were good friends and she told me before that she wasn't interested in a relationship, I always had feelings for her. I keep thinking the "what ifs". What if she doesn't read it ?, what if she tears it up?, what if she met someone else?, what if she forgot about me by now ? I tend to overthink a lot. It's just that she meant a lot to me and I know for sure that I will never meet anyone like her again. I just wished I could have told her sooner.
This was my letter to her and she still has it on her night stand. I have many regrets in my life. Choices I've made. Those choices though, lead me on a path. I would not have the beautiful children if my choices would have been different. Now my choices, actions, and words have lead me where I am now. I was blind and stumbled through life, I tripped and fell on my face. I spent too many years chasing a dream. This dream caused me to pass up opportunities. When we first met I did like you, but I didn't think you would wanna to be with someone my age. You were a beautiful, smart, sassy, and caring person. You took me by surprise and I feel in love. Then came bad choices and habits. I had the typical man syndrome. (I'm the man I'll do what I want). This was wrong. It should have been I'm the man I'll do what needs to be done. I'll do what it takes. I was so caught up in myself that I didn't allow a place for you and the kids. You tried to make me see things I was doing and was confronted by opposition. You had personal goals and because of me you did not get to obtain those goals. You also had expectations of me and I fell short. I'm sorry I let you down. I'm sorry I put you down. I understand how hard it must have been for you to keep it together. I understand how hard it must be on you now not knowing what direction you want to go. You feel lost in your on world. This is your life and you deserve to be happy. You deserve appreciated, inspired, and loved and feel that your loved. You need a man you can believe in. A man who believes in you. I know now I can be that man. I also know if you don't want me that I will have to accept and respect your decision. You are an individual with hopes, dreams, fears, goals, feelings and personal morals. I still love you and always will no matter what. Thank you for all your love and patience you have given me. I will never forget all you have done. Harmony may have not been born from you, but she is a sweet girl because she had a mother like you. I appreciate the love and care you have given her. I do still hope that you can forgive me and allow me to give you the life you dreamed of. Either way my life will never be the same with or without you.
Hey Josh Jones, thank you for sharing. Your letter is very heartfelt. But I think we can make it better, if its not too late that is :) www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ - Coach Steven
Love Advice TV she has it and we had a great night last night and she is telling her friends about it. Positive things are happening she has already see the changes I've made we live together and have two kids weve be apart for a month but some days it feel like we are still together. I'm doing good and connecting with her like never before.
I wrote a letter before seeing this. I wrote about a lot of things. My goal wasn’t to make an impact now. She saves everything. It’s 2-3 months down the road when she re-treads the letter after her emotions die down. That’s what I intended by the letter. She got a man after 3 weeks already after 6 years together. I’ll let the rebound play out. And hope she realizes what we had was indeed special.
Hey Adrian! Thank you for your awesome work! I would like some help writing this letter. Which one of your private coaching sessions should I sign up for?
Dating this guy for almost 3 years. It was long distance most of the year but I came home in the summer to be near him. He broke up with me a few weeks before our third anniversary. I have been devastated and It’s been a little over two months. I wrote the letter and it was more of an explaination of how I felt and how upset I was that he had treated me so badly. He had promised to marry me and his family and my family both believed he would and then he just gave up. So I wrote the letter to say goodbye to him. And i don’t know if that was a mistake. He wrote back and said that he broke up with me because he wants what’s best for me and he knows it isn’t him. I don’t believe him because he originally told me he knows breaking up with me was a completely selfish choice. At the end of his response, he told me that he would miss me. I haven’t talked to him since. I think I messed up with what I said in the letter.
I know what I did wrong and how I got on him for small things And let jealousy and life get in the way, so i didn’t do as much as was in the beginning supporting him praising him or inspiring him. It may have seemed to him that I didn’t love him or something or didn’t care or that he couldn’t still come to me or to talk to me. But I still had all those feelings I still wanted to do all those things and he could come to me that I wanted him for me to be that person for him.
My ex keeps blocking me, not because I have been needy or clingy. She said once she loved me bot long ago(2-3 weeks give or take) and i strongly believe she still does, she is just too afraid and with this other guy... I know that she loves me more, we spended 5 years toghether! They have some months. Last time we talked we spend 3 hours on the fone(it was... 2 days ago) laughed a lot... I love her, she just doesn't know I do. I don't wanna give her this much power, not yet. I never contact her when she blocks me, i just wait and then she does the same thing we talk, laugh even when I spicy It up a little bit, she fells good and then... She fades, i believe not that good. I'm tired of this! I want her back but when i broke up with her, i broke her heart and lost her trust in me, when i tried to get her back in the past, i left her on a pedestal. It has been months of me working on myself, lost 15kg, started pre-med school and I don't ever want to feel like I'm stalking her, will this letter make her feel more easy and make me trustworthy depending on what I do write to her? Or should i just let it be, and keep waiting that she comes back again?
I would like to know the most important points to put on the letter because, for example, I need to show her that I understood the problems but I was not supposed to talk about the break up right? It’s making me a little confused
Hello, could you please make a video on writing a message to an ex, to tell your thoughts after a few weeks of break up, and for closure and to say goodbye? Thanks
So my situation is different, a year ago I cheated on my girlfriend, I went on a dating app, met up and drank and kissed one girl, and I thought our relationship was going to end but I was too scared to break her heart by telling her, but after using the app for about a month or two I fell back in love with her, we were long distance due to me being in the army but the first half of our relationship was not long distance. Well about 3 weeks ago she found out about what I did and she broke up with me, we were about to get married in August after my deployment, had the wedding planned, everything. Now she's just gone I have no contact with her and I'm on the other side of the world, all her friends are convincing her to move on. I've told her every emotion over text and I thought about writing a letter but she simply told me she never wants to talk to me or see me again or anything so now I really don't know what to do.
Does this still apply if you and your ex didn’t love each other yet. It was a short term dating but i feel it had so much potential. I realized now what I’ve done and want to share that with him in a letter
I wrote my ex an letter over a week ago, telling him good memories and how it all started en that I'm sorry for not giving him my 100% and that I grow from being in a relationship with him and that I've changed but that I'll understand that we can't be together now (because he has a new gf) and I also said that if he's happy that I'm happy and that he always will have a special place in my heart. After receiving the letter he send a message saying 'it so fucking sweet...' 'maybe ever' ' I never said we will never be together again, just give me time and space"... Is that a good response and what should I do now ;)
Jj Stars He wants time and space to explore the rebound relationship. He is basically telling you if shit doesn’t work out with his current girl you will be his go to. Don’t be a doormat. You want him back? Be the best and hottest version of you, get your self another man and make sure its posted on social media.. watch him squirm like a little bitch.
I just saw this video and was contemplating on sending a letter myself but a few of my friends laughed at this idea. Of course since I live in a foreign country it was seen as something odd. I guess I would have to separate this into 2 small questions. First being, taken into account that he may not come back. What kind of an effect would it have on his end? He ended the relationship (2.5 years) and even admitted to his family that he won't find another girl like me and that I am his soulmate. Even made a comment about not going into another serious relationship. He was asking around about me until one of our mutual friends and family argued with him since he has been telling everyone he doesn't love me anymore and didn't want the relationship. This argument just occurred last Friday in case you may be wondering. The main reason why I though about writing was in a way a sort of closure and kind of forgiveness as he had mentioned to a friend of our when he saw me on one of the main streets in our city only the bad things came to mind. Most of what I have done were unaware and noticed while doing self-reflection after our break up almost a month ago. Second is I have done radio silence but the main problem is that mutual friends and his family had been on him. So even though I wasn't talking with him, he was still hearing about me and not being able to really forget about our break up. If I do write a letter, when would be the best time to send it? I was thinking before I go back to the states in a week. But after evaluating how things are on his end ( to the point that assuming he is trying to prove to everyone he is fine and happy while trying to not ask about me anymore to others while talking and dating other girls recently.) Would it be better to send him a letter after I come back from the states? As I will be out of distance and communication with everyone for about 1.5-2 months. This way an actual radio silence would take effect and he would be able to cool-off entirely to think things off. Any sort of input would be great. As I said before it was something that made sense to me to do but to others more or less something they viewed as silly. I guess the timing part is what is conflicting, as originally before I go I wanted to do it. But then looking over the "radio silence" now. More or less he may not take it seriously or even care about the letter. The main reason why I thought about it before was because there wouldn't be any contact unless he wanted to or until I came back most likely. At least he would've been able to have an idea of what all I have thought about. But remembering how he keeps hearing about me I know he makes comments like " oh I made the right decision to break up with her because of this reason or that reason." etcetc. Assuming that before I go isn't the best time to send it. What kind of booking would I need to make in the next couple of weeks or a month about letter writing/ letter review? Thanks for all of this videos. They are all reassuring one way or another. There are times where it does get hard and I come to watch a few videos I haven't before to encourage myself. At least regardless of the outcome, I won't be too discouraged and keep my positivity.
I have been thinking of writing a letter but my only purpose is writing for closure , for me . And not for the purpose of getting him to stay in contact with me . Given that the last time we talked was six months ago , i still think about him , but not as much as i used to , but my heart feels like it didn’t get the closure it needed when i ended it months ago it ended with a bunch of arguments and i ignored them and never contacted him , in fact i blocked him . And now i am having a lot of thoughts and feelings and i am not sure what to do . I don’t have the intentions to rekindle with him i just want to be reassured that this is over and that he’ll not seek to reconnect with me like the last time
Hello, I wrote a letter to my ex, where I told him what changed in my life and that Im thankful for everything like it was, even when there were harder times, cause I could grow through them. It was a letter saying thank you for the good moments and I put some memories inside of beautiful moments we had. He only answered, that he appcreciates the letter and said thank you for everything too. (Some days ago he told me, he wants to see me again, I said that I dont think we will see each other.) After I received only this few words I said "Goodbye" to him and deleted his number. I dont wanna waste my time anymore, cause after 5 months I feel like he is still not ready for anything, but doesnt wants to lose the contact. (We already had the no contact period too). After I wrote him "goodbye" today and deleted his number, he said "oh this was your way to say goodbye forever. ok I got it" nothing else anymore. It feels like he doesnt care, that I said goodbye, but in the same way I think he is maybe hurted now of my goodbye letter, which wasnt in the first place a letter for saying goodbye. Is he really not carring about my goodbye or is he just hurted now, cause he didnt say goodbye to me too...
Hi Coaches, I sent a French method letter to my ex hoping to change his perspective on me and he replied after one day telling me “thank you for the msg and I know you will understand things on you own too (for the part I told him what I’ve learnt after the break up). Of course there’s nothing unfixable but now it’s not the time. Better stick to the decisions we’ve taken” I understand he still doesn’t want me back at this point but what can I do now to make him chase me?
I did this. I have yet to get a response. I believe however, if the person is an adult and mature , they will not see it that way and recognize that everything is public. Um hello! If they dont want anyone knowing it, they should so their best to not have it as public info.
Because my ex moved, the only way was for me to send an email. I started off by saying that although I could reached out by instagram or message, i preferred keeping it low-key (email). I stated on how this relationship was a wake up call for me and also owned up on my own mistakes. I wrote on how this relationship had changed my perspective of love and that I understood it was too late. At the end of the email, I wished her happiness that I couldn't give. I asked her if it was possible, to invite me to her wedding. After 1 day, she blocked me on instagram. ?
Hey Samuel Tan, thank you for your story. However, it probably made her very uncomfortable for you to ask her to invite you to her wedding. That is a bit too much. It's ok though! Don't beat yourself up about that. If she's getting married, I suggest yo move on as well - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
ok, thx ma'am..Natalie... Have done 45 days of no contact.. am trying to establish contact.he isn't always at home, spends most of his time at work... Just wanna do it right, make sure he gets it
It’s hard..my ex blocked me and won’t answer after I called him from several different numbers..made me feel crazy..so I just had to accept it and stop..and it’s been about a month..since we stopped talking..it’s rough but I guess if you keep busy..it will get better
It's my Ex's birthday tomorrow, i haven't talked to her in months, and me forcing myself to see her i bet she would see as stalking... What do i do? Just wait it out until i actually randomly run into her? With both live on the same college campus.
I already wrote a very personal and powerful letter to my ex a couple of months ago. Via other people I learned that she appreciated it and it made her think about me again for a while. But after a text with christmas greets weeks later, she responded she doesn't want to hear from me again or receive a letter... I don't think sending a second letter will be appreciated again. How can I turn the tide?
Hi kylian272, Without knowing context, it's going to be hard for us to determine whether or not the second letter will be effective. We invite you to consider scheduling a session with us, so we can help. Best, Natalie
My breakup was long distance but he lived here when we met. He moved in January and the plan was for me to move in april to continue our relationship. I went to visit him and 3 days after I came back Home, he broke up with me. I've blown up his phone and recently started no contact. Should I write him a letter during no contact or after?
Wrote her a letter, following your advice. She replied right after, saying she recognized her mistakes as well and agreed separating was the best decision for both of us. She also said there were many reasons for breaking up and some of them I was mentioning in my letter, but now we had to move on. On suggesting I would bring her stuff back when I am in her area, she said that if she couldn't meet me she will send some other family member to pick it up. She ended by saying thank you for everything. I was happy she replied, but I was disappointed about what she replied to somebody she said repeatedly to be the love of her life, even more when I didn't make any big mistakes. I put so much into that letter and put my pants down and un-needy way about recognizing my mistakes and how I changed,, and now she reacts quite cold. She doesn't seem to feel a vacuum and doesn't even seem to want to see me again? Pretty strange... What do you suggest?
I sent my ex an apology text because I had no way of getting him a letter without showing up at his apartment, I didn’t actually know his address just knew where he lived and would have to show up there just to get the apartment number. He responded a little over a month later saying “I’m sorry for everything too and i don’t hold any hate or bitterness in my heart toward you. Hope everything is going well. “ we both did wrong but he was definitely the more messed up one in the relationship, did a lot of wrong to me but I felt it necessary to apologize for my healing. He said this yesterday and I don’t know what to make of it. Is he sorry? Was he thinking of me? Or just finally over it enough to respond, I am confused.
As much as that would be a great idea since, she does live in another state, She is currently in another relationship and she has moved. She's told me about both so yea......Idk
Hi Jaralle! If you're wondering whether or not to send a letter, I would encourage you to schedule a session with Alex or myself. The more context we have, the more we're able to help! Best, Natalie
Haa haa I wrote him letter when I was in 12th std and he was in Indian military academy ....It took years to get over ....M happy for everything that happened....😂😂😂he was friend of my brother...3 mistakes of my life....lol
Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago now i tried nc for the first month and tried to contact her afterwards but things weren’t going that good so i gave time and tried again earlier the 2nd month and wasn’t getting that good of a result our contact was initiated by bumping into each other since we go to the same uni and kept the contact light 2 days ago i bumped into her and gave her the letter she took it, she was kinda closed up to me but she took the letter and all i rly wanna know if im on the good path
But it seems you want the one dumped to admit fault and change? My fiancé broke up with me in a text, 2 days prior discussing ring band size..no sign of if any issues. The ceremony was booked. What exactly do I have to apologize for when he got cold feet. (We were long distance, he said he feared relocating countries too)
Hi, my name is Robert and I would like to ask you a question... The question I would like to ask is when is the appropriate time to write a letter to your ex. We have been broken up for 1 month and I have made changes in my life that I believe we're a real problem in our relationship. We have been together off and on for 4 years and I do not know what to do at this point to get her back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you...
Hey hi Actually I have been relationship with almost 2 years and but from last 3 months we are having lots of arguments, I was already deppresed just get irritated over everything as my partner does not seem happy I try to ask many times but she reply always as you are over thinking everything is good just be Happy but her behaviour was changed alot.. I was totally helpless what to do or not I was trying to support her or make her feel comfortable so one she can feel free to tell her problem but after every 2 or 3 days I lost my patience and there was a lot of arguments.. that was totally pointless and one day she decided to break up and she is now saying she suffering and getting hurt from last 3 months and I had done lot of begging and pleading as I was totally in shock and now she saying she give up on me.. I am having no contact from last 15 days Can You help me ?
Hi my ex broke up with me after 4 years. I cheated on her and on three occaions a girl ended up pregnant. The first two women decided not to keep the baby and i was able to talk my way out of the situation and start to heal things between us. This time the woman i cheated with is not only keeping the child but has been messy about it and i lost the woman i love because of it please help me on what you think i should do to win her back. Im writing a letter to her in hopes to plant a seed to win her back im not giving up without a fight.
We were engaged to be married and was ready to marry sometime this year. The me she broke up with is not the me that i am. I want her to see the new me and fall back in love with me again. i know this takes time and i know my chances are slim but i believe in our relationship. I love her so much and i want her back.
What if your boyfriend doesnt aprreciate you at all and is not afraid of losing you or even not worried if you back out from your conversation and is not afraid of hearing breaking up from you?
could you please tell me ⚠what if an ex just kept quiet and did not tell you the reason , if you have done something wrong??? ⚠what can you do and it has been like a longtime no contact , what can u suggest to do?? Thx!
My husband has a girlfriend he is staying with. I want to write him an accountability letter, but would it be okay for me to just read it to him in person? I'm afraid to physically give him the letter in that he may let her or others read it.
well i wrote my letter to my ex with the format that was said in your step by step and the reply i got from the letter was one two sentences. it was i received your letter. Im really proud of you. and thats it. i didnt reply to that text what should i do?
i Sent a letter too soon. We hadn't had any period of no contact. it was about 3 weeks after breaking up. Hes said there will never ever be another chance for us as he doesn't believe things will change and if they do he sees it slipping back into how it was.. I am taking steps to change myself for the better in more ways than one and this is what my letter was explaining. I didnt beg, i just offered up different scenarios of maybe taking things slow, and then saw this video :(. We've now had a week of no contact after i sent a clean slate email (just a short one). The week before this he came to see me and we had a talk, we were both emotional and said goodbye with a long hug. I know he still loves me (well i think he does) and his friends have said that he is struggling too...Can i send another letter? I dont know what to do now :'( Please help coaches..x
Hello Coach Adrian/Coach Alex. I broke up with my ex husband 4 years ago when we were stuck in friends with benefits mode for 2 years after divorce. I remained faithful throughout marriage and friend zone periods. Two weeks after last breakup, someone reached out to me on Facebook as a suggestion from mutual friend. After a couple weeks of chatting we met for drinks and hit it off. When my ex learned I was seeing someone else, he proposed. By the way, this seemed a pattern as he proposed the first time for the same reason -- failure to commit, I leave, someone steps in unexpectedly, he takes notice and proposes, however of course I said yes. We married and he allowed 1st wife, who left him for another man after 20 years of marriage, and His 2 adult daughters, manipulated by their mom, to make our lives miserable. At the same time my 2 teenage daughters decide to rebel. All these outside forces were testing our relationship and we failed. I caught him reaching out to an ex girlfriend for emotional support at the same time refusing to communicate with me. I divorced him even though I loved him deeply. Months later we came to a truce. He acknowledged his failures and mistakes. I acknowledged mine. We began dating, but he had the best of both worlds and I didn't like feeling devalued. Downgraded from wife to lifelong gf. I communicated my feelings multiple times to him and he was content the way things were. I didn't so I left. When he proposed the 2nd time it was beautiful but my battered pride got the best of me and I sent him on his way. He was devastated. Stays in close touch with certain family members to this day. Makes periodic visits to my Mom's taking flowers to her on holidays. I dated this Facebook person off and on for 3 years. But I never stopped loving my ex. After about 1 year after breakup he began dating and would take her around my family and introduce her to my cousin who attends the same church. I was happy he found someone to make him happy. He had someone new and so did I. My FB boyfriend proposed and I had to do some serious introspection. Were my feelings in line with his. He was a great guy. Educated. Spontaneous. Romantic. Caring. Committed. But something was missing. He wasn't the one who had my heart. So, I confessed my true feelings. He left. I was actually relieved and at peace. All throughout this period my ex remained close to Mom and sister and brother-n-law who we were closest to while married. I would stay away out of respect for his new relationship. Recently Mom came down with cancer and has begun home hospice care. We siblings take turns keeping a 24/7 around-the-clock vigil. My ex has been by several times to visit Mom while I was watching Mom. There is still a strong vibe when I see him. But I keep it respectful. I send thank you texts and he responds. Last Sunday he stopped by after Church in his Sunday best baring bakery goods. I offered coffee. He accepted. Me. Mom, sister close to him and he had a nice visit. He handed me his phone to show me recent photos of his twin granddaughters. As I was gushing over them, he was receiving an incoming call from his new gf. I politely handed him back his phone and excused myself to check on mom's pets. When I returned he was done and remained for a good 20 minutes or so. I mentioned I needed to get going and he was parked behind me so he said his goodbyes. I smiled and told him not to be a stranger. The next day I sent a thank you for the baked goods text. He replied you're welcome. My mom suffered a bad fall on my watch and after she checked out all right by doctor, I vented to him by text as I was with him throughout his Mom's hospice care until her ultimate demise. I was there for him. I felt he could relate to the emotional rollercoaster I had gone through. Maybe I was reaching out to see if he'd be there for me. No reply. I started to ponder and realised that I never apologized for how I ended it after his proposal and immediately dating someone else. So I wrote a poem entitled PRIDE'S TRAGEDY. It sets out my humility and respect for him and eliminates our past problems. Acknowledged this time it was me and recognize he pain and humiliation I caused him. That my biggest mistake was enabling my battered pride and blindly sought revenge. That I was in denial until push came to shove. I left what was real for something fake. That I am content to walk solo but that I'm paying a price for the deep loss. Asked his forgiveness and that if it was too much to ask, that he not forget the deep love we once shared. That at least I could move forward with my soul being cleansed and that his complete happiness was more important to me. That I would be eternally greatful we were once one. I had actually been working on this poem for 5 months. I finally mailed it yesterday. Afterwards, I shared what I did with my sister who he stays in touch with and she said he told my brother-n-law his gf's dad had recently passed away. Coincidence. I fear my timing for sending the letter was way off. He may think I was panicking in fear his gf's bereavement may bring them closer. I a knowledge here that this could happen and I am secure enough in myself to accept it. I even said a prayer for gf, deceased Dad, Mom and family. Side note. Sitting in my car in the post office parking lot, I agonized and prayed about whether to go through with sending the letter. I Went for it. After 3 tries at addressing the envelope correctly due to nerves, I finally made it up to the postal clerk. I asked to purchase 1 postage stamp and the clerk courteously affixed it to the envelope. To my astonishment it read "LOVE". How fittingly obvious. Your thoughts please.
@@angelinamixdiaz6638 any updates? I would bet that if you never sent that letter, or waited longer for the "right" time, that you might regret it. Wishing you the best.
I purchased your 70 Tip Ebook to use your letter structure. But just to clarify, how specific should I be in describing my mistakes and more so the reasons why that would have upset her (bad experiences with ex’s etx. Should I mention those specific things even if I think that’s what could have but don’t know that’s what could have upset her about my behaviour)? Also do I apologise? Thanks guys. Your videos have helped me so much
How to make sure the ex would open the letter and read it? How would you know what emotions or reaction the ex have after reading the letter? It was odd enough to get a hand written letter in the mail box, it was odder if they saw that the letter is from an ex.
I sent him old letters of 1,5 year ago. He was heartbroken, eventhough i didnt expect that he really cared. We are back together. We are at the best point of our relationship now.
g jfmd hey, just wanted to ask how you handled his positive response? I sent him a letter a he responded positively. But I’m not sure what I should do now. Did your ex come back right after or?
What did you say in your letter?
Hi G jfmd, So in 1,5 years wait, did you move on or had rebound relationship in between?
Omg girl you are giving me so much hope rn im literally crying
@@TandakutipKesambet _"I sent him old letters of 1,5 year ago."_ I took this to mean that she sent back some (physical?) letters that he had written during the relationship. I really don't know what she meant.
I also wrote him a letter before, and he loved it said it was beautiful. He also said that writing letter shows work and that you put time into writing the letter.
Can u help me with it??
I finally wrote and sent that handwritten letter. I did not tell him how I felt about him be I think it’s irrelevant at this point.
I simply accepted my part in the break up, acknowledging my issues and acknowledge that I hurt him. I apologized and told him I have closed the chapter. Not expecting a response; but I needed to take accountability for destroying our relationship. I can move forward in peace. I feel much better since I sent it.
Any update? Lol
@tanesha4917 I gotta ask did you get a response back at all from your ex?
1. What you've learned
2. You never do the same mistakes
I sent it 8 months later after a ROUGH breakup. I mean it was bad y’all. It really changed everything and he apologized. I sent it on insta
Are you in contact now?
I wrote a letter to my ex after 4 months and she sent back the letter unopened lmao, showed how much she cared. She moved on a week after the break up, pretty sad!
LoL my ex had someone in our bed the day I left 😂
this was the response I got from the accountability letter I sent (i ended it but want to get back with her, she's started seeing somone)
''I have just opened the box and read your letter, Thankyou so much, that was really lovely to read. I'm so glad you've become this new you who can now handle and manage your feelings, that's amazing. I really do hope you look after yourself Jamie, you know I'm always here x''
Where to go from here?
What happened
Updates please
Update?
You are right! I wrote a letter to my ex and got him back. We are now broken up again. I was not prepared for the shift of power once we reconciled.
What do you mean shift of power?
I understand what you mean,you have exposed yourself and put your hart on the line.Thay have done nothing.
Im a guy. I was the dumper. She was crazy jealous and controlling. But I loved her. It broke my heart to end the relationship. And it didnt end on friendly terms. After a year she doesn't even reply to my texts. I will just write a letter saying that I'm sorry for everything. I need it to move on.
Wrote a letter last thursday, no respond as yet. I know you guys might be in pain and afraid to lose the person you love. One key thing that keeps me going is that i need to work on myself and what i personally did to push my ex away. But at the same time you must be realistic, they might come back and they might not. If they do at the end, guess what? You have mentally prepared yourself to be better, more mature and more confident in the way you move and the words you say. It's going to be your choice if you want to accept them back or not. This channel gave me hope and guidance when i was lost, wished i had found this channel earlier.
In my case it wasn’t a mistake per say. I introduced a new thing to him that he could not handle. I told him before we tried it was 90% important now I wish I wouldn’t have told him that, and I can live with out it. I wrote a 4 page letter still holding to the letter.
Best,
Amy
Really Thanks for giving 2 key points for writing the letter.
What I have learned and I won't do then again.
However, my letter had been dumped right away. So I will abandon there. And live a better life with myself! Move on mates!! 😁
I did this and I got a restraining order filed against me
Will Ward lmao 😂 😂 tooo funny
Will Ward oh honey I am so sorry
Damn 😂🤣😂🤣
You were probably harassing her prior to the letter or she’s just the crazy one
Oh damn I'm so sorry
I have a letter to my Ex (we were together for eight years broke up on the 9th of this month.) I have it saved on my phone. I don't know if I will ever send it to him but It was therapeutic to get out my feelings.
The letter I sent is waiting in his mailbox right now *gulp* fingers crossed! I decided on this method after a comment he had made a few months back. He lost a sister, and someone had sent him a card via snail mail, and he found it very special that someone had actually taken the time to put something in the mail. Hopefully the time I took to hand write to him will impress him to some degree. No begging, no pleading, I kept it very low key, passed along some information on how I have improved myself, and planted some pretty good seeds...I hope! Wish me luck!
Aliacoo wish you luck! Would like to know how the seeds are going now?
How did the letter go for you?
I wrote a letter months after the breakup. The relationship lasted a few years & I think now she is seeing someone else, I feel it's a rebound. Anyway the letter was my only way of communicating with her. I wrote everything on how when we first met, what I learned from the relationship & where I was wrong, and memories of places we went together that stood out in my head. The next day she called me late at night from a private number, but I was asleep & missed her calls. In her voicemail she told me she's happy & at peace, kind of telling me she wishes me the best. A week & a half goes by and she called late at night, but I missed her call again. Another week & a half goes by, she called & this time I was able to answer. We talked for over 35 minutes & she was a little emotional. She never spoke about getting back together and I didn't either. I mainly spoke about what I learned & where I was wrong in the relationship & how my feelings have grown for her. On her part she said looking back the relationship was bad & as much as it hurts to say it, I need to be able to move on & meet other people. It makes me feel she has moved on, but I dont see how she can so soon, especially after living with me for over 4 years. It's been a week since she called & I haven't heard from her. I feel like if she called she has to miss me. I'm not sure what to do next if anything
If anyone can give me some advice please do. With this time apart I've realized how much I love her. I'm going to continue to just work & focus on self improvement, but should I do anything else on my part? Should I reach out to her more or just let it be?
Steven L I wish I could give you some advice. I’m currently working on myself and will eventually write her a letter. I expect a similar response and your ex gave you. How are you doing now?
I wrote a letter and put it in her mail box she replied today and said Thank you for The letter and for everything. Hope you Will be Happy
I just broke up with my ex due to the start of long d (6000miles) that wouldnt be solved in short term. Our daily interaction and conversation turned from all variety of meaningful, light, and romantic things into complains, frustration and sadness because of the lack of physical companion. I was panicing to fix the problem but she said shes done. I felt betrayed and upset so I overracted during the breakup, begging her, telling her I love her, and insulting her for leaving me. She said she was disappointed to see me like this and deleted me all the way on social media. I m on NC rn but I feel that I have been reflecting myself, my insecurity, and my lack of confidence and selfesteem in this relationship and I plan to write her a letter someday.
He broke up with me two days ago now and I’m heart broken I don’t know why it happened but I wrote him a 12 page letter and bought him a birthday present I just hope he reads it and realises that we need to fight for what we have
I guess you missed the no contact part
I'm sorry but this is the worst advice for getting an ex back. Most people here have been dumped for being too needy. The last thing you want to do is send a letter that is essentially pleading for them back and giving the ex all the power and validation. Never ever do this, this only works if you were the dumper or you fucked up bad which led to the breakup. What you need to do is give space and then get back in contact, try to keep the mood light and casual, have fun and flirt, all while avoiding giving her needless validation. The needless validation you gave and the attempts of asking for their validation is what got you dumped in the first place.
MoviesForLife yea it shows her that ur weak or too needy , if she was the one to breakup then this letter is useless she already moved on.
Hello, it depend what kind of letter. Because giving space without actions will not help you make him/her understand your attitude and mistakes. Thinking just about radio silence and not communication is a HUGE mistake my friend. The letter that I use is powerful and every word is important. Being distant is ok for 5% of all the breakups but not all of them... Best
Is sending the letter a bad idea if shes seeing someone new? I feel the no contact has lead her to think I dont want her anymore which lead her to finding someone new. . when i really do care and love her
I don't know Alexandre, the people on this channel give mixed advise, some advocate no contact 100%, others say it depends, and everything in between. Now you say in only 5% of the cases it is a good idea. This is very confusing, to be honest!
Hey Pat,
Thanks for your insights.
Although all of our coaches have their own unique style and approach, our message and our philosophy is always consistent. From experience we know that each breakup is unique and deserves a tailored road map and plan, and the truth is that private coaching sessions is always the best investment you can make when looking for answers based on what you are going through. However we also recognize that not everyone can afford private coaching sessions, and so we've set out to give a maximum amount of content free of charge on Love Advice TV in order to help a max amount of people all over the world find answers by providing general tools and perspective that individuals face in your day to day based on different types of breakups and relationships. The advice has to be general in that sense as we are addressing a large audience, and that's why you may feel at times that the advice that you are hearing isn't consistent or somewhat confusing. But if you take the time to study our videos, you can in fact understand our philosophy quickly, develop your own road map and coach yourself through the breakup recovery process.
Either way we are pulling for you, and we will continue to do our utmost to provide you with tools and perspective based on the different cases and success stories from our coaching sessions that occur every single day.
Hope this helps and best of luck!
Sincerely,
Adrian
I think if writing is one of your talents, and you take the time to word it right, then writing a letter to an ex-lover can be a secret weapon FOR A GUY. I feel women can actually fall in love with you thru your words and the thoughts those words put into the woman's head. I know because I've actually been the guy that had a woman fall for me just from letters I wrote to her. When we actually did see each other she was 100% ready to get into a relationship with me. But I feel the way men work, a woman writing us a letter isn't REALLY gonna change how we feel about them. We're more about physical presence.
Well said!! It happened to me too. She and I developed very strong feelings for each other before we even met. It was a long distance relationship. We live just a few hours drive away from each other and had plans to meet very soon but then the coronavirus thing popped up and she got very depressed and we broke up. Of course there's more to it but I'm hoping we eventually get back together.
My Ex blocked me so writing a letter was my only option, but I made sure it was not a mushy love letter and I also did not act needy. She just wants to be friends so I didn't push a relationship in the letter. I just simply said being friends is fine. This way I'm keeping our communication open in case things do develop into a relationship again. Best thing I can do at this point is not push anything and just let her come to me if she wants to. It also leaves the door open if we want to date other people. Right now I don't want to but as time goes by and she doesn't show any interest but friendship then you never know I might meet another special person and want to move on with them.
Did it work?
I wrote a letter to my ex a few months ago and never showed her. I felt happy that I didn’t.
How come? Did you look back on it and realize you weren't detached enough and that the letter was too emotional? - Coach Steven
Amazing advices guys,
Thanks a lot , I will follows your tips and hopefully see improvments !
I followed the guidelines and wrote him a letter. No begging, no pleading, no telling him how much I love him and want him back. I put myself in his shoes and focus on what I’ve learnt after the split. For now he has no response. What should I do?
Hi Emily, you need to be patient. Letter take time to get delivered, read, and digested. You can't expect immediate results. Things take time - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Love Advice TV I sent him via text instead as I don’t know where he is rn. The msg was sent last night and he’s not reading my msg.
Ugggg I wrote 8t expressing how we were both under stress,Life changes etc. I learned to listen better. He replied. "Thank you it meant so much, I feel were tried and it has not worked more than once, Not sure why, but It doesn't work. Thank U" 😔 now what
This really works. Me and my ex gf were together for only three months. She broke up with me for being insecure and controlling. I wrote her a letter 17 days after our break up . She texted me the day she got the letter telling me she was a mistake.
Thank you for the vote of confidence! - The WMEA Team
Update she is now not talking to me so I’m gonna play it cool. And move on for now
That's exactly why my girlfriend broke up with me. What made her realise it was a mistake?
Milan Vujcich the letter I apologized for my ways and I didn’t ask for a second chance but I just owned up my mistakes and apologized like a man
I wrote a closure letter (2 weeks after begging) not with the hope of winning her back but to state my feelings for her, writing that I did do some mistakes but also to tell her goodbye. She hasnt replied to me. This was 40 days ago.
Okay, what if one of the issues was that your ex couldn’t stand when you expressed yourself through written words, like would actually get mad at that even if they were heartfelt and positive? Then what’s the alternative to writing them a letter that they don’t want to read anyway?
Funny enough I wrote a letter that met exactly all the criteria on this video, which kind of relives me right now.
My ex broke up with me 3 1/2 weeks ago and I didn't have complete no contact, but some kind of half way, just asking if he would meet up which we did 2 1/2 weeks into the break up. I already had the letter written there and I read it out loud to him, crying like crazy actually but kind of reading wit determination because everything I wrote in this letter is true.
The meeting was too early for him.
He loved the letter but he kind of rejected me again. He basically told me how he doesn't know if he'll ever be able to love me again and that he won't tell me to wait for him too since he can't guaranty me anything. We actually had some weird half date kind of situation on that meet up, talking about each other (new thoughts and things that happened, not old stuff) for 4 hours which was nice but hurtful at the same time.
After that I kind of broke down emotionally.
I told him I was not able to go to his place to get my stuff after all, which I asked him about on the meet up and he actually reacted with compassion telling me not to do anything that I don't want and that he completely understands. And that meeting me also didn't just went by without emotions for him. And saying again how he thought the letter was the most beautiful thing he was ever allowed to listen to. I then wrote him I'll leave the letter in his mail box because I didn't give him the letter on the meet up. And when I did the day before yesterday, he actually took his time to thank me for giving him the letter because it is very important to him and the letter means a lot to him.
Now, I'm a highly sensitiv person. On one hand I love the way I'm changing, the way I'm thinking about myself and I'm enjoying the way I'm treating myself now. But when ever I have just one thought in the wrong direction I'm breaking apart. And I have compassion for myself and I can get myself out of these situations after some hours most of the time but the hope is killing me. I can't properly deal with it because I also feel like it's always hitting form another angle which makes it hard to prepare for it and to shield myself from it. I know I should let go of him to be able to properly heal but I also don't want to force me into anything because that is what I am used to doing to myself and it not only never works properly, I also don't want to treat myself that way anymore. What I'm feeling is real and it's ok. I just don't know if I am able to deal with the hope, with this rollercoaster, these aftershocks. These type of feelings really stress me out a lot.
patty pat I read your whole comment and I want to say I’m feeling exactly the same right now
I wrote him a poem but haven't sent it jet, could u maybe take a look at it? I'm scared I mess it up😱 please let me know
HELP!!! she's a hard working single mum. I'm unemployed with an anxiety condition. we've been friends for 9 years and last year we got together with me writing her a letter and winning her heart. we saw each other 3 times in 3 months because she's so busy. I've been needy and wanting to see her a lot. she'd cancelled on me 5 times in a row. I have been smothering with gifts, calling her and texting to much now ive pushed her away. she's said our lives don't match and that she feels suffocated with my need to see her. I do not want to lose her from my life. I love her (never expected to). what should I do? HELP!!
Oh damn 😳 when I looked this up, I was thinking more of writing a letter of what you want to say to be healing/cathartic not an actual letter to send. Yeah this was not what I was trying to find 😂😂
What if she thought I had been manipulative and that had been a misunderstanding because I had not ben manipulative or controlling at all. Should I still say why I would not make that mistake again?
Wrote her a letter, following your advice. She replied right after, saying she recognized her mistakes as well and agreed separating was the best decision for both of us. She also said there were many reasons for breaking up and some of them I was mentioning in my letter, but now we had to move on. On suggesting I would bring her stuff back when I am in her area, she said that if she couldn't meet me she will send some other family member to pick it up. She ended by saying thank you for everything. I was happy she replied, but I was disappointed about what she replied to somebody she said repeatedly to be the love of her life, even more when I didn't make any big mistakes. I put so much into that letter and put my pants down in an un-needy way about recognizing my mistakes and how I changed,, and now she reacts quite cold. She doesn't seem to feel a vacuum, now sign of appreciation, and doesn't even seem to want to see me again? Pretty strange... What do you suggest?
Hi Pat,
At least now you've reset your relationship! I would try to establish a face to face meeting for the future (but there's no need to rush in doing this!) and then use that momentum to spark the flame. If you'd like guidance, I invite you to schedule a session with me. I'd love to help! www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
I hope this helps!
Natalie
i've had the exact same situation and it sucks, but your ex will never come back. Trust me...
what was the outcome came to be ??
bump
She doesn’t want to see you because it would be emotionally hard on her, which might give you some comfort, because it shows she cared. What you had was real when you had it, but people fall out of love. She does not want to be with you, but that means you are now open to the right woman who will be thrilled you’re single. I’m going through this myself and it is absolute misery...four months of torment. I get it. You have to move on to the next stage of life. There is so much great content on RUclips to help with that. Good luck to you!
I mean all this is great. But what do you do when you don't even know what it was that you did for your ex to have left you?
I mean when they leave without telling you why. How do you tell them then what you've learnt, and what mistakes do you promise to not repeat if you don't even know your own mistakes??!
I'm so confused.
HI Aratrika De, thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, there are certain things that men are just unwilling to say/admit/talk about. You can usually pinpoint the reason they left you based on what you usually argued about or what caused tension between you two www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ - Coach Steven
I agree with what your saying.
If there is no truth be told conversation, then they took an easy way out. If someone can't even break up with you with at least that respect enough to have that conversation then they don't deserve you. You care way more for them then they do about you. It's just makes it impossible to try to move on because you care more than they do or Love them more when there is no true goodbye, a reason why. Being true to yourself knowing you deserve to be around a person who can't imagine not being near you, with you, always is something real and it will show in the way that person treats you, respects you, and pays mind to what your heart cares about in this world.
Aratrika, just move on. I was in 3y relationship LDR and when hes gone i post a letter. And totally gone. He found me on facebook 7-8years after and want me back to see him (i didnt see his effort). I wont. i was in 5y relationship and just broke up again few months ago. Tough year
You should know what happened. If he really loved you and you loved him. I didn't try hard enough with my wife when she broke up with me. We were seperated a month and she started seeing a guy she used to make fun of. We still lived together. Im stronger because of videos like these. I made every mistake they talk about. Multiple times before i found these videos. They have been in this new relationship close to 4 months now. I just moved out of our place 3weeks ago. i paid the last months rent 2 days ago. We have 2 kids. We were together 13 years, married 9. I know what i did wrong. Im changing for her and myself. I still love her so much. She said there's no chance of us getting back together again. Watching these videos gave me a goal. I know it may never happen. And I'll be happy again someday if not but. Im gonna work my ass off to get her to fall for me again. Even if i only have a 1% chance... Shes my love! I dont give up on the ones i love... Even if i re-marry. I will always love her.
My Opinion this is how I feel brother it sucks so much. Any updates?
hi! thanks for the inspiration and the hard work. if you are in the middle of the process, isn't the hand written letter putting your ex on a pedestal? i ve done some mistakes so far (4 months pursuing her, being emotional, put her on a pedestal) and she is with someone else. my chances are low but i am confident. can the letter change the dynamics?
I am in no contact situation since 2 weeks so is it right time to write the letter to let her know what went wrong with my side with her??
Ive been debating on whether I should write a letter or not. Its been a year since it happened. Even though we were good friends and she told me before that she wasn't interested in a relationship, I always had feelings for her. I keep thinking the "what ifs". What if she doesn't read it ?, what if she tears it up?, what if she met someone else?, what if she forgot about me by now ? I tend to overthink a lot. It's just that she meant a lot to me and I know for sure that I will never meet anyone like her again. I just wished I could have told her sooner.
I-You were in a relationship with her or she was just a friend?
This was my letter to her and she still has it on her night stand. I have many regrets in my life. Choices I've made. Those choices though, lead me on a path. I would not have the beautiful children if my choices would have been different. Now my choices, actions, and words have lead me where I am now. I was blind and stumbled through life, I tripped and fell on my face. I spent too many years chasing a dream. This dream caused me to pass up opportunities. When we first met I did like you, but I didn't think you would wanna to be with someone my age. You were a beautiful, smart, sassy, and caring person. You took me by surprise and I feel in love. Then came bad choices and habits. I had the typical man syndrome. (I'm the man I'll do what I want). This was wrong. It should have been I'm the man I'll do what needs to be done. I'll do what it takes. I was so caught up in myself that I didn't allow a place for you and the kids. You tried to make me see things I was doing and was confronted by opposition. You had personal goals and because of me you did not get to obtain those goals. You also had expectations of me and I fell short. I'm sorry I let you down. I'm sorry I put you down. I understand how hard it must have been for you to keep it together. I understand how hard it must be on you now not knowing what direction you want to go. You feel lost in your on world. This is your life and you deserve to be happy. You deserve appreciated, inspired, and loved and feel that your loved. You need a man you can believe in. A man who believes in you. I know now I can be that man. I also know if you don't want me that I will have to accept and respect your decision. You are an individual with hopes, dreams, fears, goals, feelings and personal morals. I still love you and always will no matter what. Thank you for all your love and patience you have given me. I will never forget all you have done. Harmony may have not been born from you, but she is a sweet girl because she had a mother like you. I appreciate the love and care you have given her. I do still hope that you can forgive me and allow me to give you the life you dreamed of. Either way my life will never be the same with or without you.
Hey Josh Jones, thank you for sharing. Your letter is very heartfelt. But I think we can make it better, if its not too late that is :) www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ - Coach Steven
Love Advice TV she has it and we had a great night last night and she is telling her friends about it. Positive things are happening she has already see the changes I've made we live together and have two kids weve be apart for a month but some days it feel like we are still together. I'm doing good and connecting with her like never before.
I wrote a letter before seeing this. I wrote about a lot of things. My goal wasn’t to make an impact now. She saves everything. It’s 2-3 months down the road when she re-treads the letter after her emotions die down. That’s what I intended by the letter. She got a man after 3 weeks already after 6 years together. I’ll let the rebound play out. And hope she realizes what we had was indeed special.
KDAWG1287 Howd it go?
Hey Adrian! Thank you for your awesome work! I would like some help writing this letter.
Which one of your private coaching sessions should I sign up for?
Dating this guy for almost 3 years. It was long distance most of the year but I came home in the summer to be near him. He broke up with me a few weeks before our third anniversary. I have been devastated and It’s been a little over two months. I wrote the letter and it was more of an explaination of how I felt and how upset I was that he had treated me so badly. He had promised to marry me and his family and my family both believed he would and then he just gave up. So I wrote the letter to say goodbye to him. And i don’t know if that was a mistake. He wrote back and said that he broke up with me because he wants what’s best for me and he knows it isn’t him. I don’t believe him because he originally told me he knows breaking up with me was a completely selfish choice. At the end of his response, he told me that he would miss me. I haven’t talked to him since. I think I messed up with what I said in the letter.
I think you send the correct letter.
I know what I did wrong and how I got on him for small things
And let jealousy and life get in the way, so i didn’t do as much as was in the beginning supporting him praising him or inspiring him. It may have seemed to him that I didn’t love him or something or didn’t care or that he couldn’t still come to me or to talk to me. But I still had all those feelings I still wanted to do all those things and he could come to me that I wanted him for me to be that person for him.
How do I tell him that.
I literally love Coach Adrian !!! Amazing kind soul !! and Alex with your amazing nuggets of knowledge, WOW! You guys make a great team. thank you.
Thank you for your kind words!
Coach Alex
My ex keeps blocking me, not because I have been needy or clingy. She said once she loved me bot long ago(2-3 weeks give or take) and i strongly believe she still does, she is just too afraid and with this other guy... I know that she loves me more, we spended 5 years toghether! They have some months. Last time we talked we spend 3 hours on the fone(it was... 2 days ago) laughed a lot... I love her, she just doesn't know I do. I don't wanna give her this much power, not yet. I never contact her when she blocks me, i just wait and then she does the same thing we talk, laugh even when I spicy It up a little bit, she fells good and then... She fades, i believe not that good. I'm tired of this! I want her back but when i broke up with her, i broke her heart and lost her trust in me, when i tried to get her back in the past, i left her on a pedestal. It has been months of me working on myself, lost 15kg, started pre-med school and I don't ever want to feel like I'm stalking her, will this letter make her feel more easy and make me trustworthy depending on what I do write to her? Or should i just let it be, and keep waiting that she comes back again?
I would like to know the most important points to put on the letter because, for example, I need to show her that I understood the problems but I was not supposed to talk about the break up right? It’s making me a little confused
What were the things that did go wrong? Where did you improve yourself in? Explain that.
Did you write the letter
How did it go?
I would like to do the same
Pls let me know if u dot mind
Hello, could you please make a video on writing a message to an ex, to tell your thoughts after a few weeks of break up, and for closure and to say goodbye? Thanks
When is it a good time to give the letter?
never
Is it too late to send this letter after 1 year break up ??
So my situation is different, a year ago I cheated on my girlfriend, I went on a dating app, met up and drank and kissed one girl, and I thought our relationship was going to end but I was too scared to break her heart by telling her, but after using the app for about a month or two I fell back in love with her, we were long distance due to me being in the army but the first half of our relationship was not long distance. Well about 3 weeks ago she found out about what I did and she broke up with me, we were about to get married in August after my deployment, had the wedding planned, everything. Now she's just gone I have no contact with her and I'm on the other side of the world, all her friends are convincing her to move on. I've told her every emotion over text and I thought about writing a letter but she simply told me she never wants to talk to me or see me again or anything so now I really don't know what to do.
May I ask for a status update? How has your situation developed?
Does this still apply if you and your ex didn’t love each other yet. It was a short term dating but i feel it had so much potential. I realized now what I’ve done and want to share that with him in a letter
I wrote my ex an letter over a week ago, telling him good memories and how it all started en that I'm sorry for not giving him my 100% and that I grow from being in a relationship with him and that I've changed but that I'll understand that we can't be together now (because he has a new gf) and I also said that if he's happy that I'm happy and that he always will have a special place in my heart. After receiving the letter he send a message saying 'it so fucking sweet...' 'maybe ever' ' I never said we will never be together again, just give me time and space"... Is that a good response and what should I do now ;)
Jj Stars He wants time and space to explore the rebound relationship. He is basically telling you if shit doesn’t work out with his current girl you will be his go to. Don’t be a doormat. You want him back? Be the best and hottest version of you, get your self another man and make sure its posted on social media.. watch him squirm like a little bitch.
My problem is often tht I subconscious wanna make him think like I think or see things.. N tht pushes away or is to deep.. For him
Does writing a letter help after multiple break-ups?
I just saw this video and was contemplating on sending a letter myself but a few of my friends laughed at this idea. Of course since I live in a foreign country it was seen as something odd. I guess I would have to separate this into 2 small questions.
First being, taken into account that he may not come back. What kind of an effect would it have on his end? He ended the relationship (2.5 years) and even admitted to his family that he won't find another girl like me and that I am his soulmate. Even made a comment about not going into another serious relationship. He was asking around about me until one of our mutual friends and family argued with him since he has been telling everyone he doesn't love me anymore and didn't want the relationship. This argument just occurred last Friday in case you may be wondering. The main reason why I though about writing was in a way a sort of closure and kind of forgiveness as he had mentioned to a friend of our when he saw me on one of the main streets in our city only the bad things came to mind. Most of what I have done were unaware and noticed while doing self-reflection after our break up almost a month ago.
Second is I have done radio silence but the main problem is that mutual friends and his family had been on him. So even though I wasn't talking with him, he was still hearing about me and not being able to really forget about our break up. If I do write a letter, when would be the best time to send it? I was thinking before I go back to the states in a week. But after evaluating how things are on his end ( to the point that assuming he is trying to prove to everyone he is fine and happy while trying to not ask about me anymore to others while talking and dating other girls recently.) Would it be better to send him a letter after I come back from the states? As I will be out of distance and communication with everyone for about 1.5-2 months. This way an actual radio silence would take effect and he would be able to cool-off entirely to think things off.
Any sort of input would be great. As I said before it was something that made sense to me to do but to others more or less something they viewed as silly. I guess the timing part is what is conflicting, as originally before I go I wanted to do it. But then looking over the "radio silence" now. More or less he may not take it seriously or even care about the letter. The main reason why I thought about it before was because there wouldn't be any contact unless he wanted to or until I came back most likely. At least he would've been able to have an idea of what all I have thought about. But remembering how he keeps hearing about me I know he makes comments like " oh I made the right decision to break up with her because of this reason or that reason." etcetc.
Assuming that before I go isn't the best time to send it. What kind of booking would I need to make in the next couple of weeks or a month about letter writing/ letter review?
Thanks for all of this videos. They are all reassuring one way or another. There are times where it does get hard and I come to watch a few videos I haven't before to encourage myself. At least regardless of the outcome, I won't be too discouraged and keep my positivity.
I have been thinking of writing a letter but my only purpose is writing for closure , for me . And not for the purpose of getting him to stay in contact with me . Given that the last time we talked was six months ago , i still think about him , but not as much as i used to , but my heart feels like it didn’t get the closure it needed when i ended it months ago it ended with a bunch of arguments and i ignored them and never contacted him , in fact i blocked him . And now i am having a lot of thoughts and feelings and i am not sure what to do . I don’t have the intentions to rekindle with him i just want to be reassured that this is over and that he’ll not seek to reconnect with me like the last time
Hello, I wrote a letter to my ex, where I told him what changed in my life and that Im thankful for everything like it was, even when there were harder times, cause I could grow through them. It was a letter saying thank you for the good moments and I put some memories inside of beautiful moments we had. He only answered, that he appcreciates the letter and said thank you for everything too. (Some days ago he told me, he wants to see me again, I said that I dont think we will see each other.) After I received only this few words I said "Goodbye" to him and deleted his number. I dont wanna waste my time anymore, cause after 5 months I feel like he is still not ready for anything, but doesnt wants to lose the contact. (We already had the no contact period too). After I wrote him "goodbye" today and deleted his number, he said "oh this was your way to say goodbye forever. ok I got it" nothing else anymore. It feels like he doesnt care, that I said goodbye, but in the same way I think he is maybe hurted now of my goodbye letter, which wasnt in the first place a letter for saying goodbye. Is he really not carring about my goodbye or is he just hurted now, cause he didnt say goodbye to me too...
How long should you wait to send a letter?
3-7 days is important time window to get an ex back, so id say this is ideal before they forget you.
Hi Coaches, I sent a French method letter to my ex hoping to change his perspective on me and he replied after one day telling me “thank you for the msg and I know you will understand things on you own too (for the part I told him what I’ve learnt after the break up). Of course there’s nothing unfixable but now it’s not the time. Better stick to the decisions we’ve taken” I understand he still doesn’t want me back at this point but what can I do now to make him chase me?
What do I do after I have sent off the letter? Will I reach out at some point if they don't? Will I Have to wait forever until they get back to me?
If you guys could give advice on long distance break ups in college (with a college athlete to be specific) that would be awesome!!!!!
My friend last option was to write a letter to his ex girlfriend and she unblocked him to text him she ripped the letter sad but true story
Here’s the problem with a letter. The ex may kinda freak when they know you’ve Googled their address; now they think your a stalker.
I did this. I have yet to get a response. I believe however, if the person is an adult and mature , they will not see it that way and recognize that everything is public. Um hello! If they dont want anyone knowing it, they should so their best to not have it as public info.
Because my ex moved, the only way was for me to send an email. I started off by saying that although I could reached out by instagram or message, i preferred keeping it low-key (email). I stated on how this relationship was a wake up call for me and also owned up on my own mistakes. I wrote on how this relationship had changed my perspective of love and that I understood it was too late. At the end of the email, I wished her happiness that I couldn't give. I asked her if it was possible, to invite me to her wedding. After 1 day, she blocked me on instagram. ?
Hey Samuel Tan, thank you for your story. However, it probably made her very uncomfortable for you to ask her to invite you to her wedding. That is a bit too much. It's ok though! Don't beat yourself up about that. If she's getting married, I suggest yo move on as well - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
ok, thx ma'am..Natalie... Have done 45 days of no contact.. am trying to establish contact.he isn't always at home, spends most of his time at work... Just wanna do it right, make sure he gets it
I tried so much for 5 months and today I’m giving up😢
I feel your pain. Did u write him a letter?
Awww yea get Darla back on track.. enjoy life don’t let anyone have you waiting on them
It’s hard..my ex blocked me and won’t answer after I called him from several different numbers..made me feel crazy..so I just had to accept it and stop..and it’s been about a month..since we stopped talking..it’s rough but I guess if you keep busy..it will get better
I would like to find out information about a 101 in person with Coach’s a Alex in Miami. Please kindly advise. Thanks
i cant afford to get coaching but i wanted to know if u guys can judge my letter and say what u think :)
It's my Ex's birthday tomorrow, i haven't talked to her in months, and me forcing myself to see her i bet she would see as stalking... What do i do? Just wait it out until i actually randomly run into her? With both live on the same college campus.
McKaos hope you didn’t go
Don't do it.
Wow coach Alex is a gorgeous man 😊
I already wrote a very personal and powerful letter to my ex a couple of months ago.
Via other people I learned that she appreciated it and it made her think about me again for a while.
But after a text with christmas greets weeks later,
she responded she doesn't want to hear from me again or receive a letter...
I don't think sending a second letter will be appreciated again.
How can I turn the tide?
Hi kylian272,
Without knowing context, it's going to be hard for us to determine whether or not the second letter will be effective. We invite you to consider scheduling a session with us, so we can help.
Best,
Natalie
He's so amazing and knowledgeable
Thank you :-)
My breakup was long distance but he lived here when we met. He moved in January and the plan was for me to move in april to continue our relationship. I went to visit him and 3 days after I came back Home, he broke up with me. I've blown up his phone and recently started no contact. Should I write him a letter during no contact or after?
how did it work out? mine is long distance too we were together for 5.5 years
Me too i d like to know about how things turned out for you guys
Wrote her a letter, following your advice. She replied right after, saying she recognized her mistakes as well and agreed separating was the best decision for both of us. She also said there were many reasons for breaking up and some of them I was mentioning in my letter, but now we had to move on. On suggesting I would bring her stuff back when I am in her area, she said that if she couldn't meet me she will send some other family member to pick it up. She ended by saying thank you for everything. I was happy she replied, but I was disappointed about what she replied to somebody she said repeatedly to be the love of her life, even more when I didn't make any big mistakes. I put so much into that letter and put my pants down and un-needy way about recognizing my mistakes and how I changed,, and now she reacts quite cold. She doesn't seem to feel a vacuum and doesn't even seem to want to see me again? Pretty strange... What do you suggest?
So after writing a letter, what’s my next course of action?
Thank you guys so much!
how if writing about all happy memories and maybe her feeling and thoughts ?
I wrote a letter and ripped it I poured my heart out to him enough if he doesn’t get it by now forget it I’m hurting enough
Its is good to send a voice message to an ex
I sent my ex an apology text because I had no way of getting him a letter without showing up at his apartment, I didn’t actually know his address just knew where he lived and would have to show up there just to get the apartment number. He responded a little over a month later saying “I’m sorry for everything too and i don’t hold any hate or bitterness in my heart toward you. Hope everything is going well. “ we both did wrong but he was definitely the more messed up one in the relationship, did a lot of wrong to me but I felt it necessary to apologize for my healing. He said this yesterday and I don’t know what to make of it. Is he sorry? Was he thinking of me? Or just finally over it enough to respond, I am confused.
As much as that would be a great idea since, she does live in another state, She is currently in another relationship and she has moved. She's told me about both so yea......Idk
Hi Jaralle!
If you're wondering whether or not to send a letter, I would encourage you to schedule a session with Alex or myself. The more context we have, the more we're able to help!
Best,
Natalie
This is for like bf / gf relationships only lasted 3-4 years the most. What about marriages 15 plus years?
What if I already sent a letter about how much I learned after the breakup? And can I ask her to meet up at the end of the letter?
Haa haa I wrote him letter when I was in 12th std and he was in Indian military academy ....It took years to get over ....M happy for everything that happened....😂😂😂he was friend of my brother...3 mistakes of my life....lol
Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago now i tried nc for the first month and tried to contact her afterwards but things weren’t going that good so i gave time and tried again earlier the 2nd month and wasn’t getting that good of a result our contact was initiated by bumping into each other since we go to the same uni and kept the contact light 2 days ago i bumped into her and gave her the letter she took it, she was kinda closed up to me but she took the letter and all i rly wanna know if im on the good path
But it seems you want the one dumped to admit fault and change? My fiancé broke up with me in a text, 2 days prior discussing ring band size..no sign of if any issues. The ceremony was booked. What exactly do I have to apologize for when he got cold feet. (We were long distance, he said he feared relocating countries too)
I wrote that letter and she told me never to contact her again
He doesnt love me anymore and hes with my friend now, what should i do..😢
Move the fuck on,join a gym ,make new friends,change ya number ect.
friendships can grow into relationships. the strongest ones.
Hi, my name is Robert and I would like to ask you a question...
The question I would like to ask is when is the appropriate time to write a letter to your ex. We have been broken up for 1 month and I have made changes in my life that I believe we're a real problem in our relationship. We have been together off and on for 4 years and I do not know what to do at this point to get her back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you...
Man keep strong always think about yourself first remember
Hey hi
Actually I have been relationship with almost 2 years and but from last 3 months we are having lots of arguments, I was already deppresed just get irritated over everything as my partner does not seem happy I try to ask many times but she reply always as you are over thinking everything is good just be Happy but her behaviour was changed alot.. I was totally helpless what to do or not I was trying to support her or make her feel comfortable so one she can feel free to tell her problem but after every 2 or 3 days I lost my patience and there was a lot of arguments.. that was totally pointless and one day she decided to break up and she is now saying she suffering and getting hurt from last 3 months and I had done lot of begging and pleading as I was totally in shock and now she saying she give up on me.. I am having no contact from last 15 days
Can You help me ?
Hi my ex broke up with me after 4 years. I cheated on her and on three occaions a girl ended up pregnant. The first two women decided not to keep the baby and i was able to talk my way out of the situation and start to heal things between us. This time the woman i cheated with is not only keeping the child but has been messy about it and i lost the woman i love because of it please help me on what you think i should do to win her back. Im writing a letter to her in hopes to plant a seed to win her back im not giving up without a fight.
We were engaged to be married and was ready to marry sometime this year. The me she broke up with is not the me that i am. I want her to see the new me and fall back in love with me again. i know this takes time and i know my chances are slim but i believe in our relationship. I love her so much and i want her back.
Leave the poor woman alone...in fact...leave all women alone. It's dudes like you that give the rest of us a bad name!
What if your boyfriend doesnt aprreciate you at all and is not afraid of losing you or even not worried if you back out from your conversation and is not afraid of hearing breaking up from you?
could you please tell me
⚠what if an ex just kept quiet and did not tell you the reason , if you have done something wrong???
⚠what can you do and it has been like a longtime no contact , what can u suggest to do??
Thx!
My husband has a girlfriend he is staying with. I want to write him an accountability letter, but would it be okay for me to just read it to him in person? I'm afraid to physically give him the letter in that he may let her or others read it.
well i wrote my letter to my ex with the format that was said in your step by step and the reply i got from the letter was one two sentences. it was i received your letter. Im really proud of you. and thats it. i didnt reply to that text what should i do?
is it ok to write a letter for an ex who cheated on you and left for another girl just to win him back?
i Sent a letter too soon. We hadn't had any period of no contact. it was about 3 weeks after breaking up. Hes said there will never ever be another chance for us as he doesn't believe things will change and if they do he sees it slipping back into how it was.. I am taking steps to change myself for the better in more ways than one and this is what my letter was explaining. I didnt beg, i just offered up different scenarios of maybe taking things slow, and then saw this video :(. We've now had a week of no contact after i sent a clean slate email (just a short one). The week before this he came to see me and we had a talk, we were both emotional and said goodbye with a long hug. I know he still loves me (well i think he does) and his friends have said that he is struggling too...Can i send another letter? I dont know what to do now :'( Please help coaches..x
either you wrote a book, if she doesnt love you she will not come back :(((
The "words selection" is really important. If you use Humain mind tools, you can help her understand your behavior. Good luck
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Hello Coach Adrian/Coach Alex. I broke up with my ex husband 4 years ago when we were stuck in friends with benefits mode for 2 years after divorce. I remained faithful throughout marriage and friend zone periods. Two weeks after last breakup, someone reached out to me on Facebook as a suggestion from mutual friend. After a couple weeks of chatting we met for drinks and hit it off. When my ex learned I was seeing someone else, he proposed. By the way, this seemed a pattern as he proposed the first time for the same reason -- failure to commit, I leave, someone steps in unexpectedly, he takes notice and proposes, however of course I said yes. We married and he allowed 1st wife, who left him for another man after 20 years of marriage, and His 2 adult daughters, manipulated by their mom, to make our lives miserable. At the same time my 2 teenage daughters decide to rebel. All these outside forces were testing our relationship and we failed. I caught him reaching out to an ex girlfriend for emotional support at the same time refusing to communicate with me. I divorced him even though I loved him deeply. Months later we came to a truce. He acknowledged his failures and mistakes. I acknowledged mine. We began dating, but he had the best of both worlds and I didn't like feeling devalued. Downgraded from wife to lifelong gf. I communicated my feelings multiple times to him and he was content the way things were. I didn't so I left.
When he proposed the 2nd time it was beautiful but my battered pride got the best of me and I sent him on his way. He was devastated. Stays in close touch with certain family members to this day. Makes periodic visits to my Mom's taking flowers to her on holidays.
I dated this Facebook person off and on for 3 years. But I never stopped loving my ex. After about 1 year after breakup he began dating and would take her around my family and introduce her to my cousin who attends the same church. I was happy he found someone to make him happy. He had someone new and so did I.
My FB boyfriend proposed and I had to do some serious introspection. Were my feelings in line with his. He was a great guy. Educated. Spontaneous. Romantic. Caring. Committed. But something was missing. He wasn't the one who had my heart. So, I confessed my true feelings. He left. I was actually relieved and at peace.
All throughout this period my ex remained close to Mom and sister and brother-n-law who we were closest to while married. I would stay away out of respect for his new relationship.
Recently Mom came down with cancer and has begun home hospice care. We siblings take turns keeping a 24/7 around-the-clock vigil. My ex has been by several times to visit Mom while I was watching Mom. There is still a strong vibe when I see him. But I keep it respectful. I send thank you texts and he responds. Last Sunday he stopped by after Church in his Sunday best baring bakery goods. I offered coffee. He accepted. Me. Mom, sister close to him and he had a nice visit. He handed me his phone to show me recent photos of his twin granddaughters. As I was gushing over them, he was receiving an incoming call from his new gf. I politely handed him back his phone and excused myself to check on mom's pets. When I returned he was done and remained for a good 20 minutes or so. I mentioned I needed to get going and he was parked behind me so he said his goodbyes. I smiled and told him not to be a stranger.
The next day I sent a thank you for the baked goods text. He replied you're welcome.
My mom suffered a bad fall on my watch and after she checked out all right by doctor, I vented to him by text as I was with him throughout his Mom's hospice care until her ultimate demise. I was there for him. I felt he could relate to the emotional rollercoaster I had gone through. Maybe I was reaching out to see if he'd be there for me. No reply.
I started to ponder and realised that I never apologized for how I ended it after his proposal and immediately dating someone else. So I wrote a poem entitled PRIDE'S TRAGEDY. It sets out my humility and respect for him and eliminates our past problems. Acknowledged this time it was me and recognize he pain and humiliation I caused him. That my biggest mistake was enabling my battered pride and blindly sought revenge. That I was in denial until push came to shove. I left what was real for something fake. That I am content to walk solo but that I'm paying a price for the deep loss. Asked his forgiveness and that if it was too much to ask, that he not forget the deep love we once shared. That at least I could move forward with my soul being cleansed and that his complete happiness was more important to me. That I would be eternally greatful we were once one.
I had actually been working on this poem for 5 months. I finally mailed it yesterday.
Afterwards, I shared what I did with my sister who he stays in touch with and she said he told my brother-n-law his gf's dad had recently passed away. Coincidence. I fear my timing for sending the letter was way off. He may think I was panicking in fear his gf's bereavement may bring them closer. I a knowledge here that this could happen and I am secure enough in myself to accept it. I even said a prayer for gf, deceased Dad, Mom and family.
Side note. Sitting in my car in the post office parking lot, I agonized and prayed about whether to go through with sending the letter. I Went for it. After 3 tries at addressing the envelope correctly due to nerves, I finally made it up to the postal clerk. I asked to purchase 1 postage stamp and the clerk courteously affixed it to the envelope. To my astonishment it read "LOVE". How fittingly obvious.
Your thoughts please.
@@angelinamixdiaz6638 any updates? I would bet that if you never sent that letter, or waited longer for the "right" time, that you might regret it. Wishing you the best.
I purchased your 70 Tip Ebook to use your letter structure. But just to clarify, how specific should I be in describing my mistakes and more so the reasons why that would have upset her (bad experiences with ex’s etx. Should I mention those specific things even if I think that’s what could have but don’t know that’s what could have upset her about my behaviour)?
Also do I apologise?
Thanks guys. Your videos have helped me so much
Also.. should I say something short in there like “I’m so sad it’s over”? Or is that making myself too needy/my feelings too clear?
How to make sure the ex would open the letter and read it? How would you know what emotions or reaction the ex have after reading the letter? It was odd enough to get a hand written letter in the mail box, it was odder if they saw that the letter is from an ex.