I so appreciate this video! Kids are waiting for us to help them. I think you nailed it with that. It’s not a child’s fault their brain works differently. It is our responsibility as both the parent and educator to learn how to best meet them where they’re at. There’s no magic fix it. It requires time, effort and a lot of reading! There’s a lot of negativity surrounding ADHD. It’s perceived as a deficiency. A child with ADHD can absolutely achieve the same things a neurotypical child can, they just may need some additional support and scaffolding to get there. They don’t need dumb downed or oversimplified work. They need to be seen for who they are and how they best learn.
Its nice to put a face with the voice. :) My son has not been officially diagnosed with adhd but we are pretty sure he does have adhd and you are so right. As parents we need research and do the best to help our kiddos so they can learn well and in a way that works for them! My son is 7 and starting 2nd grade this year.
I deeply appreciate you opening the door on this conversation and sharing your thoughts. I have realized through my own child that I too likely have ADHD and you’re so right, sometimes it is the parent who isn’t able to be as effective as they’d like. I’m absolutely in the “getting my $h!+ together” phase, but am struggling to figure out how to do so, though I know it’s a huge piece to a more successful homeschool. I hope you’ll consider sharing more about homeschooling ADHD children as an ADHD adult, as I don’t see much currently, but think it would be incredibly helpful and valuable to this community. Also, the part about picking curriculum for the homeschool teacher you are vs. the one you wish you were, snaps to that! I wish I could have learned that lesson YEARS ago. 😅
I was diagnosed as an adult. I’ve just learned to deal with it. I stopped taking my med when I got pregnant and haven’t taken it since. I see it in my daughter that is 8 and I’m trying to figure out how to best help her. I’ve had to change her math. Making lists helps.
100% yes. My ADHD kids are so challenging - the struggle is real. BUT, when it comes to homeschooling issues, I'm usually the problem. 95% of our less-than-ideal school days are because I'm not prepared, or not able to regulate myself after a morning full of kid meltdowns. We are 5 years and 3 years post diagnoses for my older kids, so none of this is new to us. We've tried lots of things and I really haven't felt that most of the common "how to homeschool ADHD kids" suggestions were helpful (at all).
Hi! Nice to finally see you. What a great change of video. I too am more confidant showing books and things and not my own face. I too, after doing some research on ADHD have seen myself in what I was reading. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It IS hard to be both mom and educator and finding that balance between what works best for your child and also is doable for yourself. Hope to see you again soon 👍
I agree with the point; I'm part of the problem. Once I realized I was part of the problem, I began researching and changing things around in our homeschool. Whether it means shortening the lessons, taking a break, coming back later, or changing the curriculum. My neurodivergent child, with these newly implemented changes and medication, things have noticeably improved. Thank you for sharing this information; very thoughtful and insightful.
Yes! I feel like some of it is FOMO for the parent, maybe? It’s hard to realize you or your kids aren’t like “everyone else” in your friend circle. Sometimes we see videos of neurotypical families like you mentioned and the parent is able to just assign things and they actually get results from their NT child. Yay for them! It’s hard when your family is ND and it doesn’t work like that for us. BUT we need to be able to do some self reflection and realize we aren’t typical and make some curriculum adjustments. There isn’t an adhd curriculum. There isn’t one size fits all. So to up and change everything simply because you just joined the adhd club officially is really a waste of your time and money. I have to adjust curriculum and scaffold everything we use…. Which I’d be doing even if we didn’t have a dx. No intended shade at anyone. But parenting and homeschooling ND kids, for me at least is all about scaffolding and being selective of people and events/experiences as I know we don’t fit into the typical world sometimes. And that’s ok. It’s a mindset adjustment! I think sometimes the parents who change all the things maybe do need to do that just to go through the motions, and they’ll come around eventually. I think it’s the newness of the dx maybe that makes them panic. But like you said… we’ve been doing it for years and the dx is the only thing new here. None of it should be a surprise.
Also to add that adhd is hard and parenting/teaching someone with it is hard. I feel like that’s not acknowledged enough. Solidarity to the adhd club 😅. I had a hard time in the beginning (before dx) because it seemed like we were the only family struggling. It felt like people just didn’t want to talk about it. Years later, most of my friend circle is now realizing they’re part of the club now, too. lol. So just know you’re not alone out there 🤗 some people are slower to pick up on things 😂
I'm sorry, I had no idea your name was Kara or Cara or x, sorry for the misspelling. It's so nice to put a face and a name with your channel because I do love your content. One of the things that has been bothering me in the homeschool community lately is the mass pop up of adhd diagnoses and everyone making an almost daily video on it. I'm not dismissing your children, you, or others, but within the past few days, it's been like wow. I think back to the mid 90s when adhd was overdiagnosed and the mass medicating of children with Ritalin and Adderall. But I also know that over time we "now" know more about adhd than we ever have in the past and that there is more statistical reporting and studies being done on it. It's interesting to me though that the recent studies have been more on adhd versus add and we're not seeing as many add diagnoses. I've lived with adhd for years medicated and unmedicated, but I applaud you for having this candid discussion about adhd and for taking the time to share your thoughts and ideas.
Thanks for watching and commenting! I made this video in part because I’ve seen a lot of ADHD vids pop up lately that I think might give misinformation. My understanding on ADD vs ADHD is that they are one in the same now. Like instead of ADD it is now ADHD with an inattentive subtype or a combined subtype.
@@TheMommaLibrarian Yikes, I did not realize they had combined. I'm showing my age with outdated terms. I appreciate you informing me of the update. We must be watching some of the same channels.
No worries! I feel like this article does a good job of explaining the name change: childmind.org/article/what-is-the-difference-between-add-and-adhd/#:~:text=ADD%20(attention%2Ddeficit%20disorder)%20is%20an%20outdated%20term%20for,attention%2Ddeficit%20hyperactivity%20disorder).
I just googled ADHD in Adults and read the symptoms on the Mayo Clinic website and I have every single one. I don't know what that means for me since it changes nothing and it seems like the symptoms would apply to the majority of people.
Not everyone has ADHD but many people may experience some similar symptoms at some point in their lives. I think it becomes an issue when symptoms are severe enough to cause ongoing problems in more than one area of someone’s life.
I so appreciate this video! Kids are waiting for us to help them. I think you nailed it with that. It’s not a child’s fault their brain works differently. It is our responsibility as both the parent and educator to learn how to best meet them where they’re at. There’s no magic fix it. It requires time, effort and a lot of reading! There’s a lot of negativity surrounding ADHD. It’s perceived as a deficiency. A child with ADHD can absolutely achieve the same things a neurotypical child can, they just may need some additional support and scaffolding to get there. They don’t need dumb downed or oversimplified work. They need to be seen for who they are and how they best learn.
Thank you! I appreciate your comment!
Its nice to put a face with the voice. :) My son has not been officially diagnosed with adhd but we are pretty sure he does have adhd and you are so right. As parents we need research and do the best to help our kiddos so they can learn well and in a way that works for them! My son is 7 and starting 2nd grade this year.
Thank you! I hope you have a great 2nd grade year!
As a mama with ADHD teaching a kiddo with ADHD I really struggle with consistency and routines. Any tips?
I am still trying to figure some if this out myself but will try to share more in a future video!
I deeply appreciate you opening the door on this conversation and sharing your thoughts. I have realized through my own child that I too likely have ADHD and you’re so right, sometimes it is the parent who isn’t able to be as effective as they’d like. I’m absolutely in the “getting my $h!+ together” phase, but am struggling to figure out how to do so, though I know it’s a huge piece to a more successful homeschool. I hope you’ll consider sharing more about homeschooling ADHD children as an ADHD adult, as I don’t see much currently, but think it would be incredibly helpful and valuable to this community.
Also, the part about picking curriculum for the homeschool teacher you are vs. the one you wish you were, snaps to that! I wish I could have learned that lesson YEARS ago. 😅
Thank you for your comment! I will definitely try to share more!
I was diagnosed as an adult. I’ve just learned to deal with it. I stopped taking my med when I got pregnant and haven’t taken it since. I see it in my daughter that is 8 and I’m trying to figure out how to best help her. I’ve had to change her math. Making lists helps.
Math can be such a difficult one!
100% yes. My ADHD kids are so challenging - the struggle is real. BUT, when it comes to homeschooling issues, I'm usually the problem. 95% of our less-than-ideal school days are because I'm not prepared, or not able to regulate myself after a morning full of kid meltdowns. We are 5 years and 3 years post diagnoses for my older kids, so none of this is new to us. We've tried lots of things and I really haven't felt that most of the common "how to homeschool ADHD kids" suggestions were helpful (at all).
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing!
Yessss to all of this!! I agree wholeheartedly. It was lovely to put a face with your voice ❤.
Aww thank you so much!
Hi! Nice to finally see you. What a great change of video. I too am more confidant showing books and things and not my own face. I too, after doing some research on ADHD have seen myself in what I was reading. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It IS hard to be both mom and educator and finding that balance between what works best for your child and also is doable for yourself. Hope to see you again soon 👍
Thank you so much!
I loved seeing your face for a change! I also love seeing all your books too haha but this was a fun change up! Great content :)
😊 thank you
I agree with the point; I'm part of the problem. Once I realized I was part of the problem, I began researching and changing things around in our homeschool. Whether it means shortening the lessons, taking a break, coming back later, or changing the curriculum. My neurodivergent child, with these newly implemented changes and medication, things have noticeably improved. Thank you for sharing this information; very thoughtful and insightful.
Thank you for watching and sharing!
Great info about homeschooling. I come from a neurodiverse household and really appreciate the stories and info.
I’m glad it was helpful! Thank you for watching!
Thank you for making this video! Can’t wait to see how you tweak the curriculum to work better for your daughter.
Thank you!!
I can SO relate to figuring out I had adhd after someone suggested I do some research in regards to my son.
Thank you for watching!
Yes! I feel like some of it is FOMO for the parent, maybe? It’s hard to realize you or your kids aren’t like “everyone else” in your friend circle. Sometimes we see videos of neurotypical families like you mentioned and the parent is able to just assign things and they actually get results from their NT child. Yay for them!
It’s hard when your family is ND and it doesn’t work like that for us. BUT we need to be able to do some self reflection and realize we aren’t typical and make some curriculum adjustments. There isn’t an adhd curriculum. There isn’t one size fits all.
So to up and change everything simply because you just joined the adhd club officially is really a waste of your time and money. I have to adjust curriculum and scaffold everything we use…. Which I’d be doing even if we didn’t have a dx. No intended shade at anyone. But parenting and homeschooling ND kids, for me at least is all about scaffolding and being selective of people and events/experiences as I know we don’t fit into the typical world sometimes. And that’s ok. It’s a mindset adjustment!
I think sometimes the parents who change all the things maybe do need to do that just to go through the motions, and they’ll come around eventually. I think it’s the newness of the dx maybe that makes them panic. But like you said… we’ve been doing it for years and the dx is the only thing new here. None of it should be a surprise.
Also to add that adhd is hard and parenting/teaching someone with it is hard. I feel like that’s not acknowledged enough. Solidarity to the adhd club 😅.
I had a hard time in the beginning (before dx) because it seemed like we were the only family struggling. It felt like people just didn’t want to talk about it. Years later, most of my friend circle is now realizing they’re part of the club now, too. lol. So just know you’re not alone out there 🤗 some people are slower to pick up on things 😂
Thank you for watching and sharing!
Great comment! Thank you for sharing!
I'm sorry, I had no idea your name was Kara or Cara or x, sorry for the misspelling. It's so nice to put a face and a name with your channel because I do love your content. One of the things that has been bothering me in the homeschool community lately is the mass pop up of adhd diagnoses and everyone making an almost daily video on it. I'm not dismissing your children, you, or others, but within the past few days, it's been like wow. I think back to the mid 90s when adhd was overdiagnosed and the mass medicating of children with Ritalin and Adderall. But I also know that over time we "now" know more about adhd than we ever have in the past and that there is more statistical reporting and studies being done on it. It's interesting to me though that the recent studies have been more on adhd versus add and we're not seeing as many add diagnoses. I've lived with adhd for years medicated and unmedicated, but I applaud you for having this candid discussion about adhd and for taking the time to share your thoughts and ideas.
Thanks for watching and commenting! I made this video in part because I’ve seen a lot of ADHD vids pop up lately that I think might give misinformation. My understanding on ADD vs ADHD is that they are one in the same now. Like instead of ADD it is now ADHD with an inattentive subtype or a combined subtype.
@@TheMommaLibrarian Yikes, I did not realize they had combined. I'm showing my age with outdated terms. I appreciate you informing me of the update. We must be watching some of the same channels.
No worries! I feel like this article does a good job of explaining the name change: childmind.org/article/what-is-the-difference-between-add-and-adhd/#:~:text=ADD%20(attention%2Ddeficit%20disorder)%20is%20an%20outdated%20term%20for,attention%2Ddeficit%20hyperactivity%20disorder).
I just googled ADHD in Adults and read the symptoms on the Mayo Clinic website and I have every single one. I don't know what that means for me since it changes nothing and it seems like the symptoms would apply to the majority of people.
Not everyone has ADHD but many people may experience some similar symptoms at some point in their lives. I think it becomes an issue when symptoms are severe enough to cause ongoing problems in more than one area of someone’s life.