Monica Lewinsky and Jon Ronson on How Social-Media Shaming Turns Us All into Bullies

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  • Опубликовано: 30 мар 2015
  • Our contributing editor sits down with the author of "So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed" to discuss Twitter, TED, and how all of us can help make social media less of a snake pit.
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    Monica Lewinsky and Jon Ronson on How Social-Media Shaming Turns Us All into Bullies

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  • @ILotheSchmidt
    @ILotheSchmidt 9 лет назад +194

    I like you Monica. You got a raw deal and not only have you survived it you seem to be thriving now. Good for you.

    • @ILotheSchmidt
      @ILotheSchmidt 9 лет назад +2

      *****
      Well, that is your opinion.

    • @ddstarr439
      @ddstarr439 7 лет назад

      democrat ho named Monica Lewinsky

    • @meio4744
      @meio4744 6 лет назад

      Melmano And you're a credit to humanity I think NOT.

  • @rtc1964rc
    @rtc1964rc 7 лет назад +63

    it would be so hard to sit across from Monica, she is such a smart lady and so beautiful...her warmth and intelligence are so obvious as you watch her talk. what an amazing survivor and inspiration ..

  • @weasleynmunatoti
    @weasleynmunatoti 4 года назад +27

    These two being friends is such a weird and unexpected thing but I love it

  • @australiainfo
    @australiainfo 2 года назад +22

    Monica, you are strong person and role model...you are simply amazing

  • @elizabethgiliberto8932
    @elizabethgiliberto8932 6 лет назад +39

    She is so well spoken.

    • @LuzdoSol00
      @LuzdoSol00 2 года назад +5

      She studied at LSE here in London. Only the brightest went there.

  • @surferlightspeed1298
    @surferlightspeed1298 8 лет назад +18

    Dear Monica Lewinsky
    I am the lightspeedsurfer.
    I cried when I watched your TED talk,you are lovely and I hate bullys cause I have been bullied but not on your scale. I am ashamed of ever saying anything wrong or derogatory about you. Stand proud You are lovely beautiful inside and almost every mans desire but also for love.
    With Love Sincerley the Lightspeedsurfer

  • @KellyK387
    @KellyK387 6 лет назад +29

    She's so pretty, smart, and friendly . I was slandered and lied on by my in laws so I know this subject all too well.

  • @cynthiahawkins2389
    @cynthiahawkins2389 7 лет назад +26

    Hold firmly, Monica to what you believe. To your experiences; to what you have learned. For the gruesome, can become..the awesome. You have walked through fire. And hey..you're now on the other side. You can create such value in the world. In fact, you already have!!

  • @samreilly780
    @samreilly780 6 лет назад +22

    She has aged really well

  • @visnjaav
    @visnjaav 7 лет назад +80

    Wow she is beautiful.

  • @etuberretubetarru
    @etuberretubetarru 9 лет назад +50

    I was very touched with Monica's TED tlk and she is quite brave to stand up for herself and for this noble cause. Social-Media Shaming is ridiculous and should be banished.

    • @_Majoras
      @_Majoras 8 лет назад +1

      yea, free speech is ridiculous

    • @joetrent9070
      @joetrent9070 8 лет назад +3

      +Majoras There's a difference between free speech and joining onto a bandwagon to witch hunt people. These anonymous mobs never have to look a person in the eyes and say this hateful shit and watch as someone's life falls apart.

    • @gyroball2464
      @gyroball2464 6 лет назад

      Soooooo brave omg stfu

    • @javiercontreras2358
      @javiercontreras2358 6 лет назад

      Ridiculous.... dangerous!

  • @spiderjump
    @spiderjump 7 лет назад +14

    I have never participated in online shaming.

  • @Mrsbeatle1968
    @Mrsbeatle1968 9 лет назад +16

    To everyone ( presumably males) calling her a whore. What would you like to call Bill Clinton? It takes two to tango I believe. Move on please !
    This is a terrific interview. Two intelligent people.

    • @Mrsbeatle1968
      @Mrsbeatle1968 8 лет назад +2

      +DrNordo absolutely thrilled honey. Don't you worry princess !

  • @Heres_Johnny.
    @Heres_Johnny. 6 лет назад +20

    She’s looking fantastic.

  • @oliviagiles
    @oliviagiles 7 лет назад +29

    She is such a lovely person

  • @sonamtobgye3534
    @sonamtobgye3534 5 лет назад +5

    Intelligent, honest and open

  • @Cheezfuz92
    @Cheezfuz92 9 лет назад +38

    She's beautiful

    • @janelleetsitty36
      @janelleetsitty36 6 лет назад +5

      Yes. Monica has age very well.... Pretty girl.

    • @warbler1984
      @warbler1984 4 года назад

      @Darlene Freeman Jon Ronson

  • @rtc1964rc
    @rtc1964rc 7 лет назад +9

    those eyes and her smile,... stunning...

  • @demianhaki7598
    @demianhaki7598 9 лет назад +7

    Regarding the point of how people feel the need to comment negatively on others to boost their self-esteem, it should be pointed out that it is our actions that matter, more than our thoughts. Even people who want to be empathetic will sometimes catch themselves thinking or feeling negatively about another person, e.g. you might watch a talkshow and think about person XYZ "my god, how stupid can a person be?!", especially if one is feeling low that day. The crucial thing is that these initial reactions are involuntary, so we can't blame ourselves for our initial impulses, but we can choose how and if to express them publically or even adress the person directly.

  • @meganeff
    @meganeff 5 лет назад +6

    Ah, two of my favorite people talking about a topic that I find very intriguing!! Of course this exists, I should have looked for this sooner!

  • @DaveCullen
    @DaveCullen 9 лет назад +11

    Really wonderful interview. It delves into relatively new terrain, we're just starting to grasp as a society. (Witness the latest round with Trevor Noah this week: 6 ugly tweets discovered out of thousands, over six years: Off with his head!)
    Really nice to hear such a thoughtful take on this. Monica turns out to have a real talent for interviewing, too.

  • @glitchynikki
    @glitchynikki 5 лет назад +17

    Wow Monica is gorgeous, I'm glad she's seems to be doing well!!

  • @suechen5732
    @suechen5732 9 лет назад +33

    She look so beautiful

  • @gnozza8683
    @gnozza8683 6 лет назад +15

    MONICA, you are so beautiful and so bright.

  • @serenafanlife4226
    @serenafanlife4226 7 лет назад +18

    Monica looks beautiful. 💃🏻👏💃🏻

  • @judamsaki5609
    @judamsaki5609 3 года назад +5

    I LIKE MONICA...SHE IS REAL

  • @DMan-G
    @DMan-G 6 лет назад +3

    VF is one of the most enlightened magazines out. Monica, I grew up with you and am almost the same age, you’ve done so much for women in general and I hope you can... idk I think you’ve done enough! Good in ya, lady!
    I can imagine being in that situation and after the windfall I think you handled yourself with integrity and that seems like a difficult situation to me.

    • @shashiram9889
      @shashiram9889 6 лет назад +1

      D Man-G seriously usa is a strange place where people sympathise someone who tried to find their way up using intimacy and intimidating a married man with a child ... shameless

  • @hypnodelica
    @hypnodelica 7 лет назад +29

    Damn she's looking good for 43...

  • @JordanjamesX
    @JordanjamesX 7 лет назад +26

    Monica Lewinsky is a beautiful and gorgeous young woman and she is smart too.

    • @louise-yo7kz
      @louise-yo7kz 5 лет назад +1

      She is☺

    • @WilliamViets
      @WilliamViets 4 года назад

      I’m horrific how first Bill and then Hilary abused her.

    • @bslomof-1901
      @bslomof-1901 2 года назад

      And super strong. I admire her. She was young, naive and likely, somewhat vulnerable but a lot of us have been there. It's a learning curve. Get over it and move on. And she came through it, fantastically well, for she looks great and she's got a lot going for her. Good for her! Enjoy your life, Monica!

  • @MrHokeykokey
    @MrHokeykokey 9 лет назад +9

    Fuck me, the irony of some of the vile insults being hurled at her on a video regarding online shaming! Okay, so she was wrong to screw around with Big Willy, but she was an intern in her early twenties. Who hasn't fucked up and made dumb choices in their twenties? She still looks scarred by it, she's seems to almost be welling up when talking here, and apparently she's never been able to form a long term relationship because of her infamy. I hope she's getting a bit more happiness in her life nowadays.

    • @anonb4632
      @anonb4632 6 лет назад

      MrHokeykokey I never got to shag any of my bosses but never wanted to!

  • @sam7748
    @sam7748 8 лет назад +53

    Monica, you are not to blame. Yes, you did something foolish, but the fault lies with the one who should have known better.

    • @DrNordo
      @DrNordo 8 лет назад +15

      they both should have known better.

    • @bobbymkd457
      @bobbymkd457 7 лет назад +4

      DrNordo She was single!

    • @DrNordo
      @DrNordo 7 лет назад

      Bojan MKD your point?

    • @bobbymkd457
      @bobbymkd457 7 лет назад +5

      Single and free to do whatever she wanted. He should have respected his wows she had taken no wows so she could sleep with anyone.

    • @vincelam1998
      @vincelam1998 7 лет назад +11

      She knew that he was a married man. She should've known that it was wrong to do what she did. Anyone with good morals would know that.

  • @brendanlorenzo7298
    @brendanlorenzo7298 6 лет назад +7

    his voice is like honey

    • @anonb4632
      @anonb4632 6 лет назад

      Brendan Perez-Compton Not really...

  • @dsflixfan1
    @dsflixfan1 7 лет назад +3

    Monica is Beautiful and a beautiful person. Great turn around.

  • @hayrayna1314
    @hayrayna1314 5 лет назад +1

    yep.
    public appeal to our sense's,
    our humanities.
    thank you.

  • @Mikeyzom
    @Mikeyzom 3 года назад +1

    I'm so happy she is still alive and didn't kill herself like she had contemplated... She's so strong. She made a horrible mistake but that douchebag was the one in the marriage.

  • @Govanmauler
    @Govanmauler 3 года назад +3

    Only now do I realise how young she must have been when she first became well known

  • @iloveyoumadhuri
    @iloveyoumadhuri 7 лет назад +5

    She is gorgeous.

  • @cynthiahawkins2389
    @cynthiahawkins2389 7 лет назад +3

    One thing I have noticed: when I sometimes will post a comment, and mine are pretty positive - I may receive out of nowhere (from strangers)...a response like "you're nothing but a *&^%$$#!!". Often to something I said that was originally... really non controversial! Now, after recovering from such breathtaking, pointless cruelty from Net users I do not even know -- what does this hair trigger hate-spew actually say about our own feelings of presumed entitlement, to reply like that in the first place? Why is it assumed you can call someone names, and intentionally use the Net as a conduit for such purposes? Monica Lewinsky, Internet's 'Sista Courage' got it right. Nowadays, I rarely go on RUclips anymore, I am so saddened by what I read in comment sections. Racial slurs, woman hating, wide spread homophobia, Islamo/xenophobia natch..and what I term a 'gun rack of the mind" mentality..Whoa, not just a compassion defecit. How about an intelligence defecit??

  • @simetry6477
    @simetry6477 6 лет назад +6

    I think she knew the affair was wrong. But the way the republicans attempted to use the affair and her as means for impeachment and politics was far worse. Media didn't used to be such scandal chasing tabloid idiots. There was a time of well reasoned respectable journalism. It seems to have only gotten worse with the internet. Journalists have the responsibility to elevate the questions and information important to the public.

    • @veronicamitchell9378
      @veronicamitchell9378 2 года назад +1

      I see an absence of journalism and a flood of opinion programming.

  • @johnholeman2966
    @johnholeman2966 Год назад

    Slander confuses this issue, making it difficult at best, to resolve innocence and/or guilt, when necessary.

  • @muthubhargavi
    @muthubhargavi 3 года назад +3

    She is beautiful...u have come long way..

  • @mybobalu2
    @mybobalu2 8 лет назад +1

    The only way to solve this problem is to raise peoples consciousness about stereotypes and shaming and make it "not okay" socially to do it. To a certain extent it's human nature but our society makes it SO much worse. We are all Jon Ronson and Monica Lewinsky.

  • @cynthianichole2732
    @cynthianichole2732 2 года назад +2

    Justine Sacco's tweet wasn't "badly worded". It was wrong and she did that to herself, otherwise a good interview.

  • @yumadapaka
    @yumadapaka 7 лет назад +5

    She's pretty

  • @anicetotraspaderme9696
    @anicetotraspaderme9696 4 года назад +3

    Monica , no matter the Passed its not your fault , You are still beautiful

  • @jjaninelove
    @jjaninelove 9 лет назад +3

    He reminds me of Ben Linus haha. But don't worry I like this guy

  • @pedinurse1
    @pedinurse1 2 года назад

    In her interview way back she said she hoped she would marry and have kids, and giggled, it never happened for her. She made very bad choices with Willy, he was a viper.

  • @archilesdemesa4535
    @archilesdemesa4535 8 лет назад

    I apologize if my learning is wrong. but we need to give it a better understanding, people are not perfect but there still a chance to make it better and we have to be happy if we know their pursuing to be better, because these people need help if we have a lot of experience were the one who make them better by providing solution. instead to put a shame on their face we make them back not for good this way.. if ever i got wrong just tell and suggest a better action because by revealing they past were the one put them in ungreat action. now lets stop the bad changing thought sometime when we realize they have a point , just accept it because you and i can be also the one who make it better,,

  • @heresjohnny5307
    @heresjohnny5307 6 лет назад +4

    Gorgeous woman

  • @Calicokit101
    @Calicokit101 2 года назад +1

    She looks so much younger than her years.

  • @JLamstudio
    @JLamstudio 7 лет назад +1

    She seems like she's on the verge of tears. Or just had a good long cry.

  • @suechen5732
    @suechen5732 9 лет назад

    Looks *

  • @bergied60
    @bergied60 9 лет назад +5

    ...I've known some very attractive people, Then they destroy that illusion, spewing verbal diarrhea. Normally, with age comes wisdom, but, beauty is a personal decision and is portrayed more from the inside than out.
    Ms. Lewinsky, you have found the path of the true human being. Good travels to you...

  • @ipKonfig
    @ipKonfig 6 лет назад +13

    My GOD she is so beautiful. What a hot women!
    She has brains - regardless of what people say/think. I would be honored to be married to such a woman as her.

    • @gehilitashernandez3095
      @gehilitashernandez3095 2 года назад

      she also has a lot of dead brain cells in that brain she thought Bill was going to leave Hilary, message her she’s still single at almost 50 you guys can make kids too lol 😂

    • @ipKonfig
      @ipKonfig 2 года назад +1

      @@gehilitashernandez3095 most women do, so what's the difference ?

    • @bslomof-1901
      @bslomof-1901 2 года назад +1

      @@gehilitashernandez3095 No. 1, she's not nearly 50; No. 2 she's not entirely blameless but she was young, niave, and vulnerable; No. 3 she is an intelligent, beautiful woman.

    • @vinista256
      @vinista256 2 года назад

      @@gehilitashernandez3095 I don’t think she had any illusions about his leaving Hillary. Desire is a strange thing.

    • @gehilitashernandez3095
      @gehilitashernandez3095 2 года назад

      @@vinista256 pretty wierd huh because i would never desire a married man even around his wife or believe his lies a desire my own man my own husband. I think she was proud of being with the president i don’t care if he was the fucken king of world

  • @aaronsamuel2823
    @aaronsamuel2823 2 года назад

    Obviously their was always bullies even before social media existed.

  • @anonb4632
    @anonb4632 6 лет назад

    Stop nodding Jon! ps Enjoyed this book by the way.

  • @LG-33
    @LG-33 Год назад

    She’s very pretty and so smart.

  • @jackieiserman3456
    @jackieiserman3456 5 лет назад +3

    Naturally beautifull woman

  • @maddalonefarms
    @maddalonefarms 6 лет назад

    What does she mean prison system

  • @iseeolly9959
    @iseeolly9959 4 года назад +2

    I really love Jon Ronson, a credit to the UK. I dunno quite how to express this but I'm not surprised that Bill made a huge mistake with Monica. I have never been unfaithful....no excuse....but I'm a single man and Oh my goodness, what a beautiful and intelligent woman! WOW!.....yum yum.

  • @skellvarnsen23
    @skellvarnsen23 2 года назад

    rad

  • @Epiousios18
    @Epiousios18 4 года назад

    I really don't mean to be brash, but is it just me or is she prettier now? Happy for her.

  • @kurttorfin4061
    @kurttorfin4061 4 года назад +1

    Good night beauty!!!

  • @mdmahafuz5060
    @mdmahafuz5060 5 лет назад

    I honestly say intreviewers why do you tell me bad?Do you see me face to face and do talk with me what am I.I request you and all please,do not tell me bad without watching me.I hope if any one meet with he must be understand my real word.I never dynamic people.I only see every channel As I am human being, love,peace and prosper supporter man that's for I want to look for a good and right person.Ever before I never say I love you directly.I am looking for a similar person who is really good.who really honour to me and all over the people's around the world.

  • @ICEMAN3rdID
    @ICEMAN3rdID 2 года назад

    No

  • @CarlosBacardi
    @CarlosBacardi 2 года назад

    She seems to have become a very attractive and intelligent woman with age.

  • @juliansmith4987
    @juliansmith4987 2 года назад +1

    This guy is cute

  • @Katwoman4318
    @Katwoman4318 4 года назад

    Slick Willy.

  • @Em99957
    @Em99957 3 года назад

    Is them wearing the exact same outfit done on purpose?

  • @surferlightspeed1298
    @surferlightspeed1298 8 лет назад +1

    Lightspeedser, I am sorry monica for ever hurting you baby

  • @vallejo9039
    @vallejo9039 7 лет назад +1

    te amo hermosa

  • @zigzagwanderer9531
    @zigzagwanderer9531 4 года назад +1

    She shore has some pretty lips...

    • @roadracer1158
      @roadracer1158 3 года назад

      Those lips were wrapped around Bill Clinton's crank nine times.

    • @zigzagwanderer9531
      @zigzagwanderer9531 3 года назад

      @@roadracer1158 Yep....Ol' Way Out Willie certainly enjoyed a spirited game of Swallow The Leader with his subordinates!

  • @hailiemai7213
    @hailiemai7213 4 года назад

    How come she sounds a bit British?

  • @rockman469
    @rockman469 3 года назад

    I'm Surprised She's not Dating

  • @ylekiote99999
    @ylekiote99999 5 лет назад

    Much prettier now than she was some 25 years ago. Can't say that about many women. I can't think of one!

  • @Szarko32c
    @Szarko32c 8 лет назад +1

    Oh, that some good plastic job. No men could refuse, even mr president.

    • @_JellyDonut_
      @_JellyDonut_ 8 лет назад +1

      +Szarko She does look pretty good

  • @Xaeravoq
    @Xaeravoq 8 лет назад +3

    after all these years, i can still see it dripping off of her chin

    • @bslomof-1901
      @bslomof-1901 2 года назад

      Whereas that has never entered my head once. Grow up!

  • @limeglasses
    @limeglasses 8 лет назад +6

    please, report those below who have disregarded themessage of this video in its entirety. it's the best thing we can do.