"The Fastest Way To Build Self-Confidence"
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- fastconfidence.com In her video "The Fastest Way to Build Self-Confidence", Dr.Sharon Melnick shares the secrets of her research at Harvard Medical School as to why people get in their own way.
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This does help... but another way, is just spend time around others. Honestly, I used to be the shyest person in the world but the more and more I was around other people, I just blossomed.
All useful points, good video. Would add 2 points.
1. Don't procrastinate. Just go and do the thing. The more you think you think things over in your head, the more you open your mind to doubt. Take action and EXPECT the outcome you desire.
2. Keep forcing yourself to do the things that make you feel afraid. Of course, this should be relevant to what you want to achieve but facing fear builds confidence.
Confidence is a good feeling on the inside about a situation and confidence comes from having a positive impression of a situation. Confidence comes from positive thinking, positive affirmations, and positive experiences that make an impression on your emotions. Also, like fear is the survival instinct, confidence is the success instinct. You are afraid when you expect negative things to happen and confident when you expect good things to happen. When you expect good things to happen you a positive impression of a situation. And you expect things to happen from consistent positive experience. Since confidence is a good feeling on the inside you can create confidence by getting into a good mood and the mood replaces your doubts and fears. Perfect love casts out fear, love makes you confident because it make you feel good about all the things you are afraid of, stressed by, or hurt by. It is important to surround yourself with people that respect you, because disrespect from others can leave you with lasting negative feelings like fear, doubt, and shame.
This video is really short yet details a huge amount on how to build confidence. If your very busy daily and need just a simple guide to build your confidence, this is it!
With confidence and self-discipline you really become unstoppable and you deliver a terrific message with passion. Loved it!
I totally agree with you. I think some of these videos can be detrimental to ones confidence.
There's this idea circulating that to become confident there are some magic steps one must take, and there are secrets to attaining self confidence.
If you're content with who you are, disregard what anybody else thinks, and are able to laugh at your mistakes.... you're there.
Thanks dude! I'm doing OK right now. I feel that way during my period.
I like it very much and felt that the indirect way of cultivating confidence is the way how we people suffer a lot through the life. This video is eye openers for many people not to be suffered by praise, blames,etc. yet can have all qualities that we like to have.
that's how you grow asholes & egoistic beings. the key is to think that at it's core EVERY person is alright and so deeply you and others are both fine and that's why you don't need to care about others opinions. you have to realize that you can't control other persons acts becoz u dont know what's the reason for them. so just think of reasons that doesn't offend you if they do sth that harms you.
Thank you! I thought I was confident before...but now I realize I am not. This is my first step of realizing who I really am.
i can see the confidence in her speaking skills
so basically do what your thinking?
all true with an exception...it's not in a short time, it takes some time. but i agree with everyting
This was awesome, summed me up pretty well the past me. I am now in the present and know the facts in achiving confidence and my goals. Its amazing how it all comes together, confidence and dreams! Thank you Sharon Melnick
This is so true, I learned this valuable advice of cultivating real confidence. This kind of confidence I wish more people will discover.
@War4Gore I am the same way. I have no friends now. It is honestly better to have few or no friends rather than ones that walk over you. When time comes you will make friends that are worth having.
It's not about what others tell you, it's about what you do. Of course someone can tell you to do something a million times, but if you're not willing or feel unable to do anything about it then them telling you is a complete waste of time. But if you're willing to actually do something about it then you CAN become confident. It's a lot easier said than done, and it WON'T happen over night. It will be very difficult, but it CAN happen.
Building self confidence came up as THE major need for coaches of young athltes on a sruvey I conducted recently ... I shared this video with them because it was a great throughtful starting point. THANKS!
I am sure your confidence is the measure of your success. If you want to be successful in your life and business, it is your responsibility to know how to be confident and determined in your actions that bring you nearer to achieving your goals.
Couldn't agree with your first two points more. I run to build confidence and practice my breathing regularly. Good points!!
Direct Confidence is the way to go, Thanks for the reminder - a lot of indirect behaviors for confidence also stem from a lack of self love and who you really are. Great vid. HR
Yeah i fully agree, I think smart people think and reflect too much so they become self conscience leading to low confidence
The essence of being cool is not giving a damn what anyone else thinks!! But then again, my motto is: dare to be WARM when everyone else is cool!! :) hahaha!!
A voice of maturity. We need more of you on RUclips. Feel free to clone yourself.
Not me watching this late at the office doing exactly as she described!
Sharon you never explained what the direct path is !
Very good point. I do depend on other peoples approval to stay confidence... I SAY NO MORE TO ALL MY HATERS
I'm doing the two indirect behaviours! I didn't really have a reason to do them, I just felt the need to, now I realize, damn.
Stil don't know how to gain confidence but thanks for the help, now I understand why I was behaving like that and why I still do.
Thanks u...really this video has changed my mind and my life...really thanks from bottom of my heart...thank now i will surly change....
great. I loved what you said. would be grateful to you if you elaborate a lil more. thanks
If you were familiar with visioning you would know she does give something of substance. Visionins is a process by which we train ourselves to be able to hear, feel, see, and catch God's plan for our life or any particular project we're working on....
This is the best ever!
@stebiu That's the thing about self-confidence. It's not giving a shit about what others think about you!
vraiment excellent !
i would have given "6 stars" to this video
thanx
I'm applying your method FROM NOW ON.
Thank you Very much miss.
she has very good hand gestures.
very nice video; concise an put in right way
What if i go direct and everyone in the world hates me?
i like her hand motions!!
Awesome! Thank you.
proof is in the numbers..I thank you!
I use to have alot of confidence as kid but then my siblings put me down saying how I'm. Always dumb and shit.I looked up them they were my role models because I was the youngest I did everything to change myself to be like them but I forgot how to be myself anymore and started to think of how people think about me but now I realise my true self how I realy act I'm not dumb it's just others perspective of how they see me like I shouldn't have to be someone who I'm not.
very nice..
others will be comfortable with you only once you are comfortable with them.
Best thing for my social life was to start thinking, whenever thought I was doing something 'wrong': "let them hate me. infact, I will MAKE them hate me". and somehow this blocked the sissy internal voice that 'advised' me on how to behave around people, based on fear- which was making me over react to things, try to0 hard and come off as a sissy.
I'm the second type of the indirect. I like her tip though! Just think about your goal, one that you won't allow anybody to stand in your way of.
she's right
this is so damn true. she save my life thank God
This is weird, but definetly true, thanks
Hahaha I love your comment! I was idling and reading other stuff while waves of coolness rose and disappeared in the background, just had to check out this video and found your very spot on comment. Cheers!
Sharon you rock!
That's where your problem is,"The Computer." How I know this? because it happened to me. Growing up I didn't have too much trouble making friends. I noticed the second I bought my first computer that's where my problems began. If you think about it you actually made friends,the one's you have now. So you do know how to make friends but you lack practice at it. The more you spend on the computer the more you will lose your communication skills.Been constantly on the computer creates "isolation."
thank you so much for the nice advice! will help me lots to make my self confedence.god bless you.
Really helpful.
@teutonicpenguin
you nailed it right on the head. very true.
You are awesome Sharon
what a great speech!! thanks!!
ooo hooo, self confidence. I love this video.
This is a very interesting video. It takes a different perspective on self-confidence that others don't. Nice work!
Going direct when it comes to approaching women is more difficult for men when it comes to having confidence with women. Although this is great video and and excellent advice to use at work or your everyday affairs.
tank you soooooooooooooooooooooooo much no jokes thuis shit brightens u up
This is great!
WOW!
a really good video.
Thank you very much.
if you stop caring that you're liked, you can become real and stop interacting in a state of worry. also try view audio or video recordings of yourself socializing. stop tiptoeing around others feelings, feelings are silly, temporary, disposable. and they're harder to hurt than an un confident person thinks..
just my 2 sense
I like the video it's very practical and informative. She has GREAT energy and the diagram was very helpful. Definitely, I am going to use it in the working world when I teach langauages.
As for all the other stupid comments (stebiu), why can't you just be nice? Is it perhaps you are lacking in confidence and self esteem yourself that you have to stoop so low and put others down?
I really don't understand why people put energy into putting others down when they don't really merit it.
perfect words..
Brilliant advice! Thanks
that was very helpfull :) when i was younger i could talk to anyone and make friends with people ive never seen before, i didnt care what they thought so i was confident and able to talk to people. but now i cant barely talk to new people i struggle to get in with a everybody and talk. this is the thing what is really holding my life back, i dunno how but i lost my confidence somewhere down the line :/ and i want it back. i want to be the real me again
Omg she is so on point. This dark cougar is a beast.
well said!
Thanks a lot ma'am. Your advice was good.
let´s take look this video. I confirme 100% you if you take this kind of tips you can feel your brain moving up
I am very happy for shear & wachaing the vidio
i feel confident already!! =D
This is true, yet a little pitchy and salesy. I have found that nearly every thing out there that has to do with confidence and finding a better self image is spawned from Dr. William Wolcotts book, Psycho-Cybernetics. Its all about understand that a neg. self image is a false one. You have to look inside of yourself and find the root cause or causes of this falicy, truly realize it is false and then set out to correct it. What she speaks of is directly from this concept. best book ever.
i know exactly how y'all feel, especially when it comes to getting a specific person's attention...
thank!!!
Very helpful
great...
Thank you, very helpful. :)
Love it
People who are self-confident, of course, don't require someone else telling how to be that way; people who are not self-confident will more than likely remain that way, no matter what anyone else may tell them. So, what could you possibly hope to accomplish with this?
GO DIRECT!!!!
@deuceownzu AGREED!
Nice video; great messaging!
YOU cant find confidence anywhere, its already in you.
i feel like im going to be a failure at my sports career down the road and i have no clue how to overcome that. im working hard but i feel like its not enough.
Same here...i'm a guy though.
If you need someone to talk to, im here.
Confidence without power = retaliation from others.
good advice
TO UNDERSTAND BETTER THIS VIDEO SHOULD BE IN SLOW MOTION BECAUSE IT IS DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND IN FAST SPEED
I bet she follows her promptings. (Gosh, I should call my friend Jim..)... She seems to be a doer..
We all should do then talk about what we did vs. talking and never doing.
intro looks like that soap opera my grandma watches.."Days of Our Lives." LOLOL she uses a LOT of hand motions...c;
makes sense
@LaContessaPoetessa well said
this lady is badass
she needs to give Ricky Bobby lessons on what to do with your hands when you are in an interview
Go Direct!!!!!!
How many times are you going to show the triangle?